Join the 15k heretics on my email list: andrewgoldheretics.com. Here are your timestamps: 0:00 Charlie Bentley-Astor Highlights 1:00 Cancel Culture at Cambridge University 2:00 What Detransition Things Charlie Did 4:45 Teenagers Make Mistakes 6:15 What It’s Like to Feel Like A Boy 9:00 Wolf Whistled at as a Girl 13:00 Puberty Used to be MUCH Older 16:00 The Queer Destiny 19:00 Detrans 21:00 Other Similar Disorders 23:25 Exorcism vs the Gendered Soul vs OCD 25:50 The Irreversible Thing Charlie Did 29:00 Puberty Blockers 32:00 What Do Puberty Blockers FEEL Like 35:00 What Charlie Lost Forever 39:00 The Cult of Wokeness 40:45 Who are the Cult Leaders of Trans 43:00 The Return of Jordan Peterson the “Nazi” 46:00 The Truth & Jordan Peterson 48:00 Trans Joy & Feeling Let Down By It 50:00 Why No One Cares About Detransitioners 53:00 How Charlie Detransitioned 56:30 What Would Charlie Have Done Next in Trans? 59:45 Female Autogynephilia 1:01:00 Trans Athletes 1:04:00 Cutting Away the Touch of Abuser 1:05:50 A Heretic Charlie Admires
you gotta not release these 6 hours after the clips come out... There's no way in heck I'm gonna remember to watch this, and I really had motivation because it was an interesting clip, hopefully I'll find this again in a couple months and watch It.. Take care
@@andrewgoldheretics Oh I totally did hit notify, i just do not have any faith that it will not get buried, but I'm sure it'll pop-up eventually, i have watched most of your videos.. Might just leave the video open, So it will at least be in my history, to check later. RUclips has just not been recommending your stuff as much as it used to... I'm about ready to make my own subscription list on pen and paper, and manually check those channels
@@andrewgoldheretics Do you use any of the following (rather euphemistic) terms? • gay • homophobia/homophobe • transphobia/transphobe • trans-sexual • transgender • • Intersex • cis gender • sex worker • African-American • capitalism/capitalist • any gender-specific pronoun other than he/she, him/her or his/her Then CONGRATULATIONS - you are (either knowingly or unwittingly) a silly stooge for the loony left!
That's the problem and I've been warning of this for YEARS. Just because someone is a feminine boy or a masculine girl doesn't mean they need to transition. Tomboys exist people. I've been one my entire life and yet, I've never felt the need to change my gender and I'm also straight. However, that's the message to young people out there today. If you don't ascribe to the traditional gender stereotypes you must be trans. It's utterly ridiculous and I feel bad for the youth of today getting hit with these messages.
yes, it's been a bad trend for a while now... in the U.S. it seems to me it started happening after 9/11 --- the 90s were very feminist (too much so for the macho higher-ups) and the media began to focus on the phallic. (our 'twin towers' had been destroyed after all, emasculating the entire country one would think, if you judge by how quickly the feminist-style films, songs, tv shows etc got rejected. And out came the Macho stuff, like the 1950s all over again...
I'm quite troubled by the fact that this isn't just about 'youth' - it's also about children and what they are being taught in school. Via the stories of two of my neighbours whose 10yr old daughters were completely confused and upset by a sex-ed lesson, I'm of the view that these lessons are not necessarily age appropriate. With 30+ children in their class, teachers cannot assess each child for their maturity and readiness to understand the one-size-fits-all information they are required to impart. Nor can they know how each has understood it. They've no idea if a child has left the classroom upset, confused, or with completely the wrong idea. The advice parents used to be given was to answer a child's questions as and when they arose. They were also advised not to go any further than the questions their child was asking - there is just no need to go into a big lecture on sexuality until or unless your child is ready to hear it. Society seems not to be letting children be children any more. A certain ideology seems hell bent on rushing them into the world of straight, gay, lesbian, trans and - heaven help us - drag queens.
@@pennylando3145 FYI: the trans ideology seems hell-bent on erasing biological sex period. That includes same-sex attracted people. the LGBs have been invaded & taken over by the TQAI+++ Please don't be hating on the Gays, we don't like this either! People are simply not 'thinking it through' is what is happening.
It’s interesting that some trans activists kept telling her that if she didn’t go 100% trans that she would never be happy. That is a real manipulation!
I have read that some indigenous societies used to group pre-adults/pre-teens into same age groups which over a period of years would learn and grown into adults of their society. There would be leader/teacher. Maybe something like this needs to be started. But first and foremost young teens should NOT HAVE SMART PHONES. They should not be able to use the internet without supervision. That access is the starting point of all these issues. Of course, now some American schools actually promote these issues now…
Life at 10 and who you think you are, is different at 13 and is different at 17 and is different at 21 and is different at 30 and is different at 40, 50, 60, 70, 80. Your body is always changing, your interests are always changing, your circumstances are always changing, your roles are always changing. You are not a label. You are not a stereotype. ❤ Your sex does not change.
And be happy to be alive and healthy. Now, she damaged her body with puberty blockers. I hope she can live with that decision and forgive herself. I'm glad I grew up in an era where kids were just kids and teens just teens. None of these gender nonsense and pronouns that don't match your gender.
Yet another tomboy (53yo) here, but one who was never conventionally attractive as a kid. I was overweight, clumsy (turns out a rare neurological disorder was behind what my father declared were attempts to gain attention) and had a large head. My beautiful mother was horrified by my tomboy ways and disappointing looks, and said as much ad nauseum. When puberty struck I was the only fat kid at my school who didn’t grow boobs. I would have happily put my hand up for transitioning in those days: a tomboy with an active dislike for any “girly” things (boys have more fun), an upbringing based on 1950s gender roles (1970 in Tasmania was like 1950 anywhere else), a failed daughter who was the ugly duckling in a good-looking family where my brothers were worshipped … rather than fail as a woman, why not become a man? At least men don’t get bullied for being ugly. That was me. I “got used to myself” in my 20s and just learned to accept that I was always going to be one of those chicks who wanted to be part of the mosh pit in my jeans, t-shirt and Converse, and that was OK. Imagine my surprise when in my early 40s I turned into a stereotypical girl and decided I liked floral dresses and cute handbags! Just not in the mosh pit. 😂 All of life is a journey, and not an autobahn one either. More like a dirt road with poor lighting at dusk.
Much of your story sounds like mine (mosh pits to dresses). The part that boys have more fun! That's why I so desperately wanted to be a boy. Girls were boring and petty and as someone with low neuroticism, I couldn't identify with most girls emotional fragility and insecurities. I'm not ugly but also definitely not perfect and none of my flaws bothered me even when people made fun of me. I definitely felt more at home with dudes. But yes, now growing up I do see a completely dysfunctional family setting as perhaps a reason why I had to dress like a boy. My mom drew the line when I wanted to changemy name and wear gonch. Anyway I just went to France with my kids and spent a lot of that time really appreciating the fact that women there wear dresses. I loved their style. Since about 2 years I wear makeup every day and I'm 46. And it feels great. Every time I go into town (BC Canada) I see that most little girls are dressing like boys. I wasn't a princess but after having a daughter who is, I find it sad that these little girls are basocally being robbed of being themselves. I've homeschooled since 2020. My 12 year old won't budge. She's still into glitter and pink and in this society that makes her basically a rebel and I'm proud of her.
So she has osteoporosis in her spine from the puberty blockers. I've actually heard the pro-transing-kids people say "that might happen, but it's a small price to pay!" Well, I too developed spinal osteoporosis when I was 16 as a rare complication of celiac disease. It destroyed my life. I'm now 39 and still can't work, living in poverty, have no friends or relationships, and right now I'm having the best kind of day I can ever experience: I'm only in moderate pain ATM. Half the time I'm in unbearable pain (and holy sh** do I mean unbearable). These people are such blind fanatics that they will not even consider the possibility that anything could be worse than not affirming trans identity. Tell me an 8 year old child is actually qualified to accept that risk with informed consent.
I work at a psychiatric ward, and there was this very troubled patient who found Jordan Petersons book Twelve Rules for Life, and totally transformed from suicidal to hungry for life - the man is a healer for human kind!
i've never understood why transpeople jump straight to the opposite of the gender binary, going excessively feminine or masculine. I'm exhibit gender variance apparently because I like video games, don't want to get married and don't wear skirts or makeup. I'm 50 next year - if I was born now, would they be telling my parents i was trans? It worries me. I'm lucky, my parents just encouraged me to be independent and equal and to follow my own path as a person. I'm a cis woman, and I am so glad my parents celebrated who I am and not what I "should" be.
It is unlikely that the mothers and grandmothers of young trans curious females all looked like Barbies or the like. Doesn't seem vitally plausible. I am 56 and apart from my mother's 2 girlfriends, all the women I knew in my childhood had short hair and no makeup. In the old days, nobody wore make-up, dresses or long hair in the countryside. Not practical. So strange how these things are relevant nowadays.
Pressure has intensified on children/tweens because they are seeing what social "demands" are going to be placed on them the more physically mature they become. Society strikes me as pretty predatory to anyone who is physically or mentally vulnerable, with quite a strong focus on young women in particular. I recently heard someone, l think it was another detransitioner, that males want to be women to get away (in their perception) from the adult male role of protectiveness, and females want to become males because they are experiencing intense vulnerability (or worse) and either want to become male to be able to be more self-protective or to be able to protect others (or both.) This is not saying that anyone can't fulfill those roles, or have those qualities. I wish l could remember who said it, however that was the gist of it. It almost seems like a self-protection reflex to me, and that's why it has gained ground so quickly. There are additional explanations of course. But this is an observation.
I hate the word paedophilia, it has nothing to do with the "love" of children, it is an intense hatred of children and families we should call it all what it is "child hatred" and that term now covers a wide range of activities from the people bitching about how "awful" children are online to those creating nasty and frightening content for children to see to those who neglect them and then those who hurt and abuse them. Child hatred has become more and more acceptable because the energy behind this whole movement has always been anti children and anti-families.
When I comment or simply ask the question " Has there been any studies to explore if there's a corrulation between trans people and sa, my comment gets deleted or I get hateful and threatening replies. I ask in a compassionate, caring way.
She looks like the girl with a pearl earring. Honestly what a terrible story. Beautiful, intelligent woman, manipulated and convinced of a life of denial. Glad she’s broken through, she’s clearly beautiful inside and out.
Saying she listened to a Jordan Petersen lecture hits very close to home. His lectures got me through the deepest darkest depression, and I think he's done so much good for so many, many women, not just men.
"Sacrificing your own flesh to the queer god in order to obtain a different body " never thought of it this way before, but its so obvious now! Absolutely!
@@1SpicyMeataball JL and that pod are absolute nonsense. You're being hoodwinked there. He has no clue about gnosticism and he's fully aware of that fact.
Stop transitioning our youth - I was a tomboy most of my younger years, ( I’m a girl) but about 17/18 slowly and naturally started to like being a girl, eventually discovering men and becoming a woman. Some females just take longer to get there - doesn’t mean we are boys trapped in girls boys, it just means we are late bloomers, or tomboys, or disinterested in sex or on our own path. Calm down society!
Exactly! I didn’t feel feminine till 20yrs old. And I didn’t want children till I was almost 30. I am so glad nobody was pushing me to mutilate my body because I didn’t fit the perfect mould or else I wouldn’t be happily married with a perfect newborn baby girl. I worry about her future- not because of traditional lifestyle pressures but because of all of this alt-lifestyle brainwashing.
Well said. The body and mind aren't always on par. One may race ahead of the other for a time but it's a transition from childhood to adulthood over years and we get there in the end. Unless sidetracked by gender ideology. It usually becomes all encompassing, one's entire identity. If that happens I'd question if one is trying to convince themselves, not truly accepting it's a reality. I'm getting on. We were taught we are our sex but how we express it is neither here nor there, it just is so is always 'right'.
Especially us autistic people are at risk to be lead to the slaughter!!! We often have gender dysphoria. I did and had I been born 20 years later I would probably be mutilated now! They need to leave the kids and youth alone!
My own Grandma who was born in 1917 talked about wanting to be a boy so badly. She prayed every night to be a boy. She was a very late bloomer and went topless for most of her childhood and even teen years. She bound her breasts when she started developing. She was shattered at 17 when she got her cycle because she knew there was no going back. She became interested in boys and then everything changed. She was always a tomboy, even in her old age, but she was the most loving mother and grandmother anyone could ask for.
As an acquaintance of Tammy Peterson, wife of Dr. P, I sent her a link to this interview. They're always glad to hear about someone like Charlie who was helped.
I was so happy to read this. As soon as she brought him up i wished i had a way to get it to him. I know it means the world to after what he has been through.
You are doing so much good by having these guests on . Doctors who do this surgery must be held accountable ! They know this is not reversible , but aren't forthcoming with their mostly very young patients. You may not believe in God, but that doesn't mean He isn't using you for his purposes.
@@CharlieBentley-AstorI’m only two minutes in, but already you’re lovely, thank you for sharing your story, it’s valuable beyond measure for someone to be this vulnerable and help the rest of us understand
Up to age 12, I was wild! Played outside, got dirty, climbed trees, loved being outside, liked adventure, played sports, had fun! At 13, I saw a cute guy and my heart went crazy. Suddenly, I wanted to look cute, so he’d notice me. Thank God the LGBTQXYZ didn’t exist, or they’d have tried to destroy me and mutilate me.
I was & will die wild... I can relate to her quite a lot, I used to hated my body changes when they happened but there's really no way to be some sort of neuter. I never thought of harming my body to become what I can't be. Imagine me going to a doctor's office with something like "I'm just a child trapped in an adult body" & demanding some sort of weird body replacement, it's just laughable!
This statement shows me that you don’t know what gender dysphoria is actually like- bc you aren’t transsexual. Transsexuals do exist, I’m an older transsexual that transitioned much later in life years ago and can tell you I know I can never be a biological male but I am finally happy within myself, body and mind- and Now I’m 60 without regret-and I too do not care for the alphabet mafia, and I wish authentically transsexuals would separate from the alphabet mafia as we are about gender, not about whom we choose to have sex with-
No it won't She'll be called a bigot like all the people she called. She's not the first testimony and won't be the last. Why didn't the previous ones work?
@@TheTacticalHaggisit WILL help because if someone who is feeling like she was at that time watches this, it may give them hope that things COULD change.
Wolf-whistling men sounds quite anodyne but I remember having such anxiety walking home from school as being catcalled was very common (to be fair it was often teenage boys not men). I remember I even started to almost lean forward when walking to hide the shape of my figure, luckily for me I didn’t grow up at a time when gender ideology was being spread.
I (thankfully) grew up where catcalling was a very rare occurrence, definitely not an everyday thing (a town in Eastern Eu). I remember being shocked while visiting US (NYC, to be more exact) and the catcalling was there literally at every corner if there were workers/construction, etc. Very strange experience. Never felt threatened or unsafe or anything like that. Just a bit annoyed. I found it strange that it's so common.
Same. I was embarrassed by my breasts. I was disgusted when I started my periods. I grew up in a faux Christian household where sex was viewed as bad and wicked, and periods were not discussed so I absolutely hated what was happening to my body. I never had a bra fitting but was given my sisters bras, which were far too big. I started getting interest from boys at school, including those who had bullied me and there was apparently complimentary graffiti about my body is the boys toilets. I rejected everyone and was socially awkward (I think I’m a bit autistic) and so rumour got round that I was a lesbian. Had I grown up in the current day, I possibly would have believe there was something different about me and that maybe I wasn’t straight or maybe that I was trans. I likely would have enjoyed hiding behind a label. Grateful this was 20 years ago and I’m now very comfortable in myself and love my body.
When my daughter was 12 y.o I started noticing grown men staring at her and looking her up and down in a creepy way when we went to the mall/shopping. Disgusting!
it is unforgivable. you can't erase it. not my society tho as I'm East European and apparently lived in a cave while this madness was going on unquestioned.
I am 59 years old. Did I grew up in a bottle? I don’t remember my generation so confused about their sexual identity. Nowadays, it seems, so many are confused about it. It just blows my mind.
It wasn't a option, maybe they kept quiet, maybe moved when they got old enough to New Orleans, etc. Nothing new except the option/pushing of drugs and surgery.
It's another angle at showing that children should have their own consent rights rather than listening to their parents... and as sick as it is.. it all boils down to one thing... and it will be the acceptance of child - adult relationships... "childrens choice"
I'm 67 and we were ALL extremely clear about our authentic gender. 😊 It has been a social engineering propaganda machine that grew this crazy movement. 😢
46:14 "I love myself now" wonderful to hear this young woman say this. This in the end is what it boils down to. If you love yourself you are not going to cause harm to yourself. She is a beautiful intelligent young woman and i wish her every success and happiness in the future.
Great interview. I was sexualised very early as girl and totally relate to how she ezplains it. Its a nightmare as a girl as she says everyone obsessed with yr looks and not interested in you as a person. Grown men perv at u from age 10 up n its very unnerving. Was a tomboy in the 70 s . Would definitely have fallen for this ideology if it had been around then. Thank god it wasnt. I loved motherhood and now grand mothering.
I only hit puberty at 17, highly athletic and fit, and I felt out from a lot of the girls at school some who had started at 11. Honestly, I wasn't mentally prepared at 17, even though I technically knew everything, there is no preparing you for these changes. I started getting noticed by 19/20 by boys and I still hadn't a clue what to do with that attention. I cannot fathom how all of that must feel for young girls. And it is heartbreaking that we are supplying solutions to further hurt them and their futures instead of building and supporting them. This hasn't been a ground breaking conversation, this has been a really incredible human conversation. Thank you both.
I was 16 before menarche & was the absolute last girl I knew to get it. Our pediatrician said it was bc I was thin from gymnastics, but who knows. I can’t imagine having to deal with that at 10 or 11yo!
Andrew, I was touched when you said theists ought to pray for you. I pray every morning for people who value truth and try to do right. I'll start mentioning you by name along with that.
When Charlie said "I won't do it (imitate J. Peterson), because I love him and myself... Because I love myself now", I lost it!!!! Thank you Andrew for such an amazing guest and thank you Charlie for your courage to share! We can't hear from real people from all the noise the fake ones (ideologists) make Love from Dublin ❤
I completely agree with her! Going through puberty sucks. Being sexualized at a young age is horrifying. I didn't want to be a girl when I was younger, but then I grew into myself. Also.... Whenever I intensely dislike my body, I look at the calendar and sure enough my period's about to begin.
THIS!! I've had my first menstruation at 10 yo. Men started looking at me with disgusting eyes even sooner than that, but it was like my "flowering womanhood" was exciting to them, they felt justified almost, because of MY looks. Sure enough, I've never liked being a woman. I like myself and I like being in my body - it's the rest of the world (=men) that has a problem with it, and makes it my problem to deal with.
@@BereniceAllanPoe Of course it's exciting to them.. Being attracted to womanhood is normal. I don't understand why you say they "have a problem with it"? And you say you like being in your body, but you don't like being a woman - which is it? You need to seek help.
@@keepingitreal618 shut tf up, this is not your space and not your experience, you have nothing useful to contribute. Also, children being disgusted by adult males' attention is normal. Maybe men should learn to not be d1sgust1ng p1gs.
I don't understand what's so hard to grasp in this - if children can't consent until 18, that should apply to other life-altering decisions as well. This is more evil than pedophilia, as it sterns from political propaganda.
Fascinating conversation, Charlie is incredibly articulate and insightful, how different the world would be for young girls if mainstream media gave a platform to voices like Charlie’s instead of the vapid narcissism they endlessly hear from monosyllabic celebrities. And being from Tooting it’s great to hear a South London accent 👍
I've never heard someone so eloquently explain the emotional, psychological impact that puberty has on girls. Our physique is scrutinised publicly from a young age. In this age, it is a thousand percent harder.
I come from a time in the 70s when it was considered normal for men to leer at you, flash you, grope you, whistle at you and all we were told was "Men are beasts, don't meet their eye or they will think that you are asking for it". Predators on trains, predators on building sites, road works, shops, predators in schools, there was no escape. It was absolutely terrifying and I used to so wish I was a boy or invisible to escape from it.
Well when I was a girl we all looked forward to becoming womanly, we talked about it all the time. I didn't know anyone who was devastated by cat calls from boys either. All I hear about these days is how difficult puberty is but that was an unknown concept in my day, it is society that has planted this right of passage as some awful thing to young girls today. I am certain there were exceptions of course but I think that was rooted in childhood trauma and still do.
@@GusMac-kv7zi Cat calls from boys was one thing. When they were from groups of adult men it was terrifying. I was at an all-girls boarding school and we weren't looking forward to periods and bras at all! Perhaps that was because the place was run by catholic nuns. I agree that childhood trauma seems to be a common denominator, as with morbid obesity seems to often stem from some kind of abuse
Somehow what is called proper support has turned to encouraging the irreversible tampering with normal development. The medical profession has a lot to answer for, specially lately. And yes, I have seen both fathers and mothers online proudly displaying what can only be described as a version of Munchousen by proxy syndrome.
What a joy Charlie is. She was saved by her own intelligence, self awareness and curiosity. She's aces and an example of how to approach this very real problem.
So grateful for smart young women. Charli is a treasure. Love the way Gold interviews folks. As an old woman I can only imagine what young girls think about their bodies, but I knew I did not want to be like Marilyn Monroe. Today with all the implants, face lifts, Botox (erasure of emotions), the end of Sin, normalized Porn & trans indoctrination - it must feel messy. I always wanted to learn & write. This seems like manufactured despair.
I remember i started developing when i was about 8yrs old, it freaked me out so i stopped eating thinking that my body would just eat my boobs and it did for a while. When i was about 9 and a half i started eating normally again and just before my 10th birthday i got my first period. If someone would've asked me back then if i felt like i was a body i would've said not at all. But with this new 'society' of adults manipulating children into thinking that they are trans with all of this like, girl saying 'i don't want boobs' to the teacher having a paranoid lightbulb moment and calling the kid to a quieter(one-on-one is always uncomfy for a kid) place to ask all sorts of leading questions about trans-ness, and the kid would know that society and this teacher seems to expect that from you to give-into that ideology, and all because you were afraid of growing breasts. Like why can't the adults just teach these girls that life is ever changing, and it can be scary, but you can't control everything and you just have to move forward and go with the flow sometimes, that it's not actually that bad. It's just such a shame.
True. I can’t imagine what that must’ve been like at age 9 & 10. I was 16 & the latest girl of everyone I knew. I never “felt like a girl” either & tbh I’m not sure if I do now. I loved playing video games with my brothers, went into STEM field, etc. I would’ve been quite confused if anyone had asked me if I wanted to be a woman or a man 😂
I like your comment especially the part about "leading questions" that really puts a spot light on teacher/activist over stepping the line "conversations".
As a middle age woman, I haven’t been wolf-whistled at in a while… Is it wrong to say that sometime I miss it? A woman become invisible on the other side on menopause.
I think there are pros to every time of life. Having endometriosis & so much pain with menstruation, I often find myself thinking “I hope I live long enough to have menopause & full months where I can work on a project without losing days to this malady”
I remember feeling quite flattered when being wolf-whistled at by passers-by. Quite often, one reacts to a situation depending upon your outlook - in all aspects & circumstances. We no longer (it seems) teach our children to be robust & whilst feelings are very important - I'm a very emotional woman myself - one must manage those feelings too. Exposing children (which is what introducing them to trans ideology is doing) before they are ready is only confusing them.
I was 11 yrs old when men started looking at me in a sexualising manner. I was size 14 and the attention l received was inappropriate and unwanted. I was scared these teenagers/men.l believed they were going to hurt me. Infact l was sexually assaulted, groped..it was not nice @clairegresswell
As a girl in the 1970s, I started puberty at 8-9 years old. (I wasn't especially overweight but I was very stressed with very stressed parents.) I was also in very religious schools, being indoctrinated at what being a woman meant, at an age when I wasn't done being a girl. I didn't want to be a woman, or a boy, either. I just wanted out of my body and surroundings. So I gave myself puberty blockers the old-fashioned way, anorexia and then bulimia. It worked for me and became a lifelong temptation when under major stress. I've never wanted children so infertility was never a motivator. Hormone replacement and birth control pills gave me mood swings so I stopped. I've adopted a healthy food plan and mental / emotional / spiritual health tools that have gotten me out from under early abuse and neglect (some self-induced). But I have an abnormally low heart rate and blood pressure, bone thinning and low grade depression. These are signs of low or deficient hormones. Still, I am grateful that I wasn't a child now, being fast-tracked to surgery and unhelpful 'gender affirming care'. I don't know if I'd have made it to age 59.
What a seriously interesting young woman. Obviously very intelligent, still showing her youth but on the other hand mature for her years. Very brave to expose her honesty. I applaud her.
You’re an inspiration Charlie. Thanks for speaking out, you will hopefully prevent others from getting caught up in the ferveur of thinking that transitioning is the answer to their problems.
This young lady was a pleasure to listen to. She's very intelligent with such an interesting perspective but she explains it in a way that's very easy to understand. She's not putting on a show, she's not arrogant, she's just recounting a very genuine experience that she learned a lot from
Charlie's cheeks are part of what makes her look beautiful. We really don't have the maturity until our mid 20's to make such life changing choices or even to know who we are. Thank you for coming forward and sharing your experience Charlie and hopefully save some young peoples future lives.
I was born in the early sixties and started puberty at 12. I was extremely shy and remember being so uncomfortable and self conscious with the changes to my body. I also remember being whistled at which I found so embarrassing BUT I truly believe that along with growing up and life experience it actually made me more resilient and eventually it no longer bothered me. I think nowadays there is so much influence from social media and also by I think, an obsession to try and prove that men and women are equal! We are not we are DIFFERENT, neither being better than the other. This trans movement is not only ‘cancelling’ women’s voices but also the voices of ‘LGB’ and it needs to stop!
I went through a "crisis " at 15 I found out through a full body X-ray that I wasn't going to get taller. I was so upset because I wanted to be tall and I had curves (not the modern version) but having a flat bum was in style. I was pale and being tan was considered beautiful. There was no surgery to change my body into what I wanted. I had to learn to love myself for who I was. That's what we need more of. People are way more accepting of body types now.
Isn’t it interesting that both the male side of transition and the female side both agree on a shared hatred of what is actually and really female? I find that darkly fascinating
Its almost like misogyny is real and historical... I think it's deeper (darker) and plenty, of people know this and refuse, to change because it upsets the things they build, upon that paradigm, to cope. To say, it's real and exists gets you a label and dismissal. Wild work and world.
What an intelligent and articulate young woman. The headband makes her look like the girl with the pearl ear-ring. Fab cheekbones. I'm glad she's worked it out and become so rational and happy enough. ❤
I agree. Just because I climbed trees, road bikes really hard and beat the boys at leadership things did not make me a boy. I do not get it. Why are stronger robust woman actually boys?? No way. I am a woman and I went out into the world and lived! As a woman! Who decides that “this” makes a boy a girl?? Or That “this” makes a girl a boy?? Who decides that?? Why are “they” correct??
What a beautiful wonderful strong expressive person Charlie is. So young to have endured so much mental and physical struggle but her soul and intelligence overflows with light and genius. Sending YOU so much love dear Charlie and respect for sharing so much of yourself. Your brilliant brain, soul, heart and communication skills are deeply appreciated. Wishing you the best life you can create and I know that you will have helped SO MANY OTHERS who have and are going through the journey you have shared here. Thank you oxxo Wish I could hug you in gratitude for your strength and grace xo
Thank you so much Andrew Gold and Charlie Bentley Astor. I really enjoyed your interview. I loved your connection with each other which expanded the information I received. It is so nice to learn without all the hype and defensiveness that usually happens with this topic. Thank you and I really look forward to hearing more. 🙏🥰🇦🇺
It would appear that this lovely girl was heavily influenced by, predominantly Hollywood inspired, gender stereotypes. Men also feel fear and are not always brave. In fact, these characteristics are held by both men and women. They manifest, often at different times in a person's life and at varying intensity. You are allowed to be interested in sports and traditionally male interests as a woman. Also, not all women are obsessed with having a baby. This message needs to be given to girls more robustly. Being heterosexual is predominant but, attraction to the same sex as yourself is also okay. The decision to have medical intervention, is the last avenue to explore. This is because of the many problems that come with that territory. Fully interrogate all the feelings the person has, before deciding on so radical a course of action. That applies to professionals involved as well as the individual.
It took me many years before I could identify as my gender on tv or anywhere, due to them portraying stereotypes. 37 yrs tomboy here. What they portray has never been me. This has led to many problems. Hence we need diversity but not like the w0k3 are doing.
This WAS common knowledge even 10 years ago. Unfortunately in the last decade everything had changed where young people now think they have to ascribe to gender stereotypes or they are trans. All because of the dogma surrounding trans rights and supporting trans. This messaging has gone way too far now. We will get a lot more cases like this in later years.
It’s interesting when I think of my own life, I felt very comfortable to be a female. But I was forced to cut my beautiful golden blonde hair to a pixie cut which I found very distressing. But yet I wasn’t allowed to wear jeans like my girlfriends, but I played sports because it was a cheap form of entertainment? For my parents. So I was getting all kinds of mixed messages from my mother. I wasn’t allowed to discuss my period. It was “dirty” yet it made me feel proud to be a women. I was bullied that I was gay but I wasn’t. I worked 3 jobs to be able to look and feel feminine, but my mother was always thwarting my attempts to so. I was a girly girl but my mum didn’t see it. I made my own dresses because she wouldn’t purchase them. I really don’t know what was in this Scottish born woman’s mind. So I became disillusioned with my looks and never considered myself pretty. She was always berating me, close your mouth, it’s hanging open, stop slouching, on and on. I’m still a girly girl but I’ve had depression and anxiety since I was 17. And I’m 67 now. She destroyed my sense of self and confidence. Interestingly enough my brother the middle child, was the golden boy, and could do no wrong. Even through all her threats, yelling and non encouragement I still felt I was a woman. If she was trying to take that away from me she was unable. I find it fascinating that our upbringings can be so varied but so are the outcomes. Thank you Andrew, you guest is a sweet beautiful person!
I am sorry that you endured that awful, confusing, psychologically tormenting abuse from your mother. Perhaps she viewed you as "competition" and hated you for your feminine charms and beauty. I hope life has been amazing for you.
That’s a great point I never in a million years thought that I the ugly duckling, in my mind, would ever be competition to my mum. Thinking back she would beat us with a belt or wooden spoon. She didn’t need much reason to see us in pain. Also if we were “bad” she would phone our Dad and make each of us talk to him. He was a shift worker. We would have to wait until he got home could be up to 10 12 hours, then he would come home and we would get a lickin from him. The wait was tortuous. I know he hated it because more than once I saw him cry. She must have gotten complete satisfaction from this threat. Thank you for opening my eyes. Yes I was a Daddy’s girl. I cannot think of one time my mother held me and kissed me and said everything will be ok. But my dad did.
Thank you Charlie for sharing your story. There are so many young people caught up in this who really need to hear it. I wish you all the best in your future!
For me "not wanting to be the sex you are" is very different from "wanting to be the opposite sex" and I believe transitioning is a bad choice if you belong in the former category.
What @terri639 says & I agree: Unfortunately in the last decade everything had changed where young people now think they have to ascribe to gender stereotypes or they are trans. All because of the dogma surrounding trans rights and supporting trans. This messaging has gone way too far now. We will get a lot more cases like this in later years.
I have heard this bizarre statement many times from girls who say, I knew nothing about periods blah blah, where does this come from? We had no internet we were not focused on celebrity and how they looked. We had health class for God's sake. I did not know one girl who was totally blindsided by periods, none. In fact we constantly asked each did you get yours yet and we wanted it to come on. I think people were more of a healthy mind in my days as a girl. We didn't talk much about having children either that came at a much later stage. I grew up in a house full of brothers and wore hand me downs from them and often played boys games just as much as girls activities.
Just amazing to hear her speaking. Terribly sad but uplifting also. Think of all the young people going thought this now. May they find hope and direction through people who truly move and care for them
She’s articulate! She’s intelligent! She’s beautiful! She is blessed that her brain, and organs were pretty much developed by the time she began taking the puberty blockers. However, it is devastating that she has osteoporosis, and that even with estrodial patches, her body is not responding. Hopefully, she can continue to research, and find a physician that has knowledge of hormones, and the endocrine system, and help her.
One last thing, this girl is beautiful inside and out, and so bright and intelligent, it’s so sad that she’s been lead astray by damaged and confused people and so-called “experts” who are following a sick and sordid agenda. May she develop into the fullness of who she is at her core, learn to love herself for her unique beauty and continue to be a beacon of light and hope to others.
I liked this guest very much. It seems her experiences have given her a very balanced and realistic world view and a humane & humorous approach to life.
I can’t with this pretend “you only see my body and not my achievements” it’s not that. It’s the sudden awakening to your attractiveness to others and feeling like you’ll never be beautiful enough or sexually attractive enough compared to the fake bodies of celebrities. It’s the pressure of feeling like your body will fail you and so instead of being an ugly woman, they opt to be a fake man - if they fail at being a man it’s less painful because their natural body wasn’t meant to be one and so they don’t feel burdened by the pressure of being the perfect male.
It's not. *Many* people are more than displeased with this habit of only seeing a body, men & women. Your brain _is_ conditioned by the body it's placed in, but it's a lot more than that. Some people are shallow, some are not.
Thank you for sharing your story Charlie! Your strength, courage and wisdom are key in making positive changes to this serious issue that is hurting and mutilating people when they are most vulnerable. THANK YOU! I have so much gratitude and respect for you. May God bless your life all of your days!!! Andrew Gold - thank YOU for going out there to help individuals like Charlie, have a voice and be heard; individuals who have suffered greatly at the hands of a society who doesn't seem to give a shit. I pray for you to continue to do this amazing work and that God may bless your life abundantly.
Another factor in early puberty is endocrine-disrupting chemicals (paint, plastic, electronics, etc.) and air pollution. Obviously we're all exposed to massive amounts of toxic pollution now that no one in the Renaissance would have been.
I'm not trans but puberty was absolute body horror for me. I still miss my girl chest and figure. As soon as I started developing I got really fat and had extremely painful cramps/bloating every month with my period and people started telling me not to run because my boobs would bounce and I couldn't take off my shirt in hot weather anymore. It sucked!
Her point at around @15:50 is so true, something I experienced acutely but have never heard anyone else speak about. I would come home and lie on my bed and spend hours thinking "god, what did I do, what did I say, for that person to say that to me? 😢 I took that new attention to be "all my fault"
I hear myself in her voice minus the transition. I remember hating the attention of being a girl. My sister dressed me up nicely for the first time (was always a tomboy) and the very first time a bloke watched she and I exit a store servicing himself. I never wanted to dress up unless for major events. I wasn’t a boy but I didn’t feel stereotypically girlish. Someone told me when I said that it sounds like I have a bad perspective of what girls are supposed to be. I thought of my love of Greek mythology. Most of the goddesses weren’t as beautiful as Aphrodite. Artemis, Athena, the muses are not the most beautiful. There is more to being a woman than looks. Thankfully I lived in the era of Buffy, Xenia and charmed. Kick as but still cute.
Buffy - a cheerleader - and Xena, were beautiful. Being a badass doesn't exclude being beautiful and yes, you did have an (understandably) skewed view, of the array that womanhood, could present as. I hope your mind has changed because it lays foundation, to judge women you'd perceive as exceedingly beautiful, as something that couldnt include things like fierceness. Also, the Greeks were not known, for allowing full human agency, in their imaginings and much less, so to girls/women. I love myth and folklore, too🤷🏾♀️. I remember the first time I was catcalled, about 13 and I've always looked younger- first, time I ever flipped, the bird.. and AGGRESSIVELY, at that.
I was absolutely appalled when I started that change to women hood I didn't feel ready for it .I ended up with an eating disorder. It can be such a hard time.
Join the 15k heretics on my email list: andrewgoldheretics.com. Here are your timestamps:
0:00 Charlie Bentley-Astor Highlights
1:00 Cancel Culture at Cambridge University
2:00 What Detransition Things Charlie Did
4:45 Teenagers Make Mistakes
6:15 What It’s Like to Feel Like A Boy
9:00 Wolf Whistled at as a Girl
13:00 Puberty Used to be MUCH Older
16:00 The Queer Destiny
19:00 Detrans
21:00 Other Similar Disorders
23:25 Exorcism vs the Gendered Soul vs OCD
25:50 The Irreversible Thing Charlie Did
29:00 Puberty Blockers
32:00 What Do Puberty Blockers FEEL Like
35:00 What Charlie Lost Forever
39:00 The Cult of Wokeness
40:45 Who are the Cult Leaders of Trans
43:00 The Return of Jordan Peterson the “Nazi”
46:00 The Truth & Jordan Peterson
48:00 Trans Joy & Feeling Let Down By It
50:00 Why No One Cares About Detransitioners
53:00 How Charlie Detransitioned
56:30 What Would Charlie Have Done Next in Trans?
59:45 Female Autogynephilia
1:01:00 Trans Athletes
1:04:00 Cutting Away the Touch of Abuser
1:05:50 A Heretic Charlie Admires
you gotta not release these 6 hours after the clips come out... There's no way in heck I'm gonna remember to watch this, and I really had motivation because it was an interesting clip, hopefully I'll find this again in a couple months and watch It.. Take care
@@claudeyaz You can hit 'notify'!
@@andrewgoldheretics Oh I totally did hit notify, i just do not have any faith that it will not get buried, but I'm sure it'll pop-up eventually, i have watched most of your videos.. Might just leave the video open, So it will at least be in my history, to check later.
RUclips has just not been recommending your stuff as much as it used to... I'm about ready to make my own subscription list on pen and paper, and manually check those channels
@@andrewgoldheretics
Do you use any of the following (rather euphemistic) terms?
• gay
• homophobia/homophobe
• transphobia/transphobe
• trans-sexual
• transgender
• • Intersex
• cis gender
• sex worker
• African-American
• capitalism/capitalist
• any gender-specific pronoun other than he/she, him/her or his/her
Then CONGRATULATIONS - you are (either knowingly or unwittingly) a silly stooge for the loony left!
@@andrewgoldhereticsplease bring the plight of Enoch Burke in Ireland 🇮🇪 to the light. A teacher arrested for not supporting gender ideology.
That's the problem and I've been warning of this for YEARS. Just because someone is a feminine boy or a masculine girl doesn't mean they need to transition. Tomboys exist people. I've been one my entire life and yet, I've never felt the need to change my gender and I'm also straight. However, that's the message to young people out there today. If you don't ascribe to the traditional gender stereotypes you must be trans. It's utterly ridiculous and I feel bad for the youth of today getting hit with these messages.
Best comment here. I agree with your observations and assessment. I relate completely.
yes, it's been a bad trend for a while now... in the U.S. it seems to me it started happening after 9/11 --- the 90s were very feminist (too much so for the macho higher-ups) and the media began to focus on the phallic. (our 'twin towers' had been destroyed after all, emasculating the entire country one would think, if you judge by how quickly the feminist-style films, songs, tv shows etc got rejected. And out came the Macho stuff, like the 1950s all over again...
Totally, it's regressive not progressive.
I'm quite troubled by the fact that this isn't just about 'youth' - it's also about children and what they are being taught in school. Via the stories of two of my neighbours whose 10yr old daughters were completely confused and upset by a sex-ed lesson, I'm of the view that these lessons are not necessarily age appropriate.
With 30+ children in their class, teachers cannot assess each child for their maturity and readiness to understand the one-size-fits-all information they are required to impart. Nor can they know how each has understood it. They've no idea if a child has left the classroom upset, confused, or with completely the wrong idea.
The advice parents used to be given was to answer a child's questions as and when they arose. They were also advised not to go any further than the questions their child was asking - there is just no need to go into a big lecture on sexuality until or unless your child is ready to hear it.
Society seems not to be letting children be children any more. A certain ideology seems hell bent on rushing them into the world of straight, gay, lesbian, trans and - heaven help us - drag queens.
@@pennylando3145 FYI: the trans ideology seems hell-bent on erasing biological sex period. That includes same-sex attracted people. the LGBs have been invaded & taken over by the TQAI+++ Please don't be hating on the Gays, we don't like this either! People are simply not 'thinking it through' is what is happening.
It’s interesting that some trans activists kept telling her that if she didn’t go 100% trans that she would never be happy. That is a real manipulation!
No shit sherlock
They are the vilest people on the internet.
At some day their heart will no longer be silent to their ego.
misery loves company
Playing God is cruel.
Puberty is a right of passage into adulthood, not a medical condition to $in on.
Agreed 👍
I have read that some indigenous societies used to group pre-adults/pre-teens into same age groups which over a period of years would learn and grown into adults of their society. There would be leader/teacher. Maybe something like this needs to be started.
But first and foremost young teens should NOT HAVE SMART PHONES. They should not be able to use the internet without supervision. That access is the starting point of all these issues.
Of course, now some American schools actually promote these issues now…
@@beverlyfleming6352 puberty is what can create predators.
Well said.
@@Sherlock245 For thousands of years, got it.
Life at 10 and who you think you are, is different at 13 and is different at 17 and is different at 21 and is different at 30 and is different at 40, 50, 60, 70, 80.
Your body is always changing, your interests are always changing, your circumstances are always changing, your roles are always changing.
You are not a label.
You are not a stereotype. ❤
Your sex does not change.
Precisely. ❤😊🙆🏻♀️
And be happy to be alive and healthy. Now, she damaged her body with puberty blockers. I hope she can live with that decision and forgive herself. I'm glad I grew up in an era where kids were just kids and teens just teens. None of these gender nonsense and pronouns that don't match your gender.
Yet another tomboy (53yo) here, but one who was never conventionally attractive as a kid. I was overweight, clumsy (turns out a rare neurological disorder was behind what my father declared were attempts to gain attention) and had a large head. My beautiful mother was horrified by my tomboy ways and disappointing looks, and said as much ad nauseum. When puberty struck I was the only fat kid at my school who didn’t grow boobs. I would have happily put my hand up for transitioning in those days: a tomboy with an active dislike for any “girly” things (boys have more fun), an upbringing based on 1950s gender roles (1970 in Tasmania was like 1950 anywhere else), a failed daughter who was the ugly duckling in a good-looking family where my brothers were worshipped … rather than fail as a woman, why not become a man? At least men don’t get bullied for being ugly. That was me.
I “got used to myself” in my 20s and just learned to accept that I was always going to be one of those chicks who wanted to be part of the mosh pit in my jeans, t-shirt and Converse, and that was OK. Imagine my surprise when in my early 40s I turned into a stereotypical girl and decided I liked floral dresses and cute handbags! Just not in the mosh pit. 😂 All of life is a journey, and not an autobahn one either. More like a dirt road with poor lighting at dusk.
…and there is a alligator in the road.
My only hope for you is that you are happy, and live yourself. You deserve that.
Thanks for posting this. What wisdom!
This is the kind of experience that ought to be widely shared.
I wish you all the very best.
Much of your story sounds like mine (mosh pits to dresses). The part that boys have more fun! That's why I so desperately wanted to be a boy. Girls were boring and petty and as someone with low neuroticism, I couldn't identify with most girls emotional fragility and insecurities. I'm not ugly but also definitely not perfect and none of my flaws bothered me even when people made fun of me. I definitely felt more at home with dudes. But yes, now growing up I do see a completely dysfunctional family setting as perhaps a reason why I had to dress like a boy. My mom drew the line when I wanted to changemy name and wear gonch. Anyway I just went to France with my kids and spent a lot of that time really appreciating the fact that women there wear dresses. I loved their style. Since about 2 years I wear makeup every day and I'm 46. And it feels great. Every time I go into town (BC Canada) I see that most little girls are dressing like boys. I wasn't a princess but after having a daughter who is, I find it sad that these little girls are basocally being robbed of being themselves. I've homeschooled since 2020. My 12 year old won't budge. She's still into glitter and pink and in this society that makes her basically a rebel and I'm proud of her.
❤
So she has osteoporosis in her spine from the puberty blockers. I've actually heard the pro-transing-kids people say "that might happen, but it's a small price to pay!"
Well, I too developed spinal osteoporosis when I was 16 as a rare complication of celiac disease. It destroyed my life. I'm now 39 and still can't work, living in poverty, have no friends or relationships, and right now I'm having the best kind of day I can ever experience: I'm only in moderate pain ATM. Half the time I'm in unbearable pain (and holy sh** do I mean unbearable).
These people are such blind fanatics that they will not even consider the possibility that anything could be worse than not affirming trans identity. Tell me an 8 year old child is actually qualified to accept that risk with informed consent.
Real problems. Whereas these people just want to create them. ❤
They aren't. Sending you peace.
I'm sorry for your pain
I hope you feel better.
I'm sorry you're going through this.
hey, hope your doing well.
I work at a psychiatric ward, and there was this very troubled patient who found Jordan Petersons book Twelve Rules for Life, and totally transformed from suicidal to hungry for life - the man is a healer for human kind!
.... uhhh😅
Wow what an amazing story. Jordan Peterson is a highly influential person and a brave leader for our times.
no wonder they tried to cancel him!
@@AJA-ie5uuHe is a confident white man. The left with its goal of American subversion and population replacement hates confident white males
Same - Now I am addicted to Peterson lol
as Bill Maher said, perhaps young females just need to understand that being a female doesn't mean you have to act like a Kardashian....
i've never understood why transpeople jump straight to the opposite of the gender binary, going excessively feminine or masculine. I'm exhibit gender variance apparently because I like video games, don't want to get married and don't wear skirts or makeup. I'm 50 next year - if I was born now, would they be telling my parents i was trans? It worries me.
I'm lucky, my parents just encouraged me to be independent and equal and to follow my own path as a person. I'm a cis woman, and I am so glad my parents celebrated who I am and not what I "should" be.
Why don't they get angry about the infantilization of women? When I was a teen I was disdainful of dumbing down and becoming what the boys wanted.
It is unlikely that the mothers and grandmothers of young trans curious females all looked like Barbies or the like. Doesn't seem vitally plausible. I am 56 and apart from my mother's 2 girlfriends, all the women I knew in my childhood had short hair and no makeup. In the old days, nobody wore make-up, dresses or long hair in the countryside. Not practical. So strange how these things are relevant nowadays.
Pressure has intensified on children/tweens because they are seeing what social "demands" are going to be placed on them the more physically mature they become. Society strikes me as pretty predatory to anyone who is physically or mentally vulnerable, with quite a strong focus on young women in particular. I recently heard someone, l think it was another detransitioner, that males want to be women to get away (in their perception) from the adult male role of protectiveness, and females want to become males because they are experiencing intense vulnerability (or worse) and either want to become male to be able to be more self-protective or to be able to protect others (or both.) This is not saying that anyone can't fulfill those roles, or have those qualities. I wish l could remember who said it, however that was the gist of it. It almost seems like a self-protection reflex to me, and that's why it has gained ground so quickly. There are additional explanations of course. But this is an observation.
Good point.
Cutting up children is easier than talking about pedophilia
They will go to great lengths to not talk about it.
@@JF-cd5hcI wonder why …
I hate the word paedophilia, it has nothing to do with the "love" of children, it is an intense hatred of children and families we should call it all what it is "child hatred" and that term now covers a wide range of activities from the people bitching about how "awful" children are online to those creating nasty and frightening content for children to see to those who neglect them and then those who hurt and abuse them. Child hatred has become more and more acceptable because the energy behind this whole movement has always been anti children and anti-families.
@@eliausi9696 do none of you think? The human race is fucking done.
When I comment or simply ask the question " Has there been any studies to explore if there's a corrulation between trans people and sa, my comment gets deleted or I get hateful and threatening replies. I ask in a compassionate, caring way.
She looks like the girl with a pearl earring. Honestly what a terrible story. Beautiful, intelligent woman, manipulated and convinced of a life of denial. Glad she’s broken through, she’s clearly beautiful inside and out.
i though so too 😊
Me too! My favourite painting of all time
She does!
She does! I knew she looked familiar, but I couldn’t put my finger on it.
Really? She's pretty unwell.
Two sexes. Zero genders. Infinite personalities.
Yes! ☀️
remember when gender was a synonym of sex?
@Schnirt 'intersex' are still either male or female.
Yes 👍🏽
@@rongike"gender" here used as gender stereotypes
This is what happens when you're parented by the internet. So sad. 😞
TV and internet and theatre for me. Any story or life than my own!
Or a narcissist parent.
Who knew that though?
This is what educational system put in there mind, and teachers are punished for not wanting to teach about wokenes
Hell, I was raised almost entirely by The Simpsons in the 90’s and I turned out TV.
Saying she listened to a Jordan Petersen lecture hits very close to home. His lectures got me through the deepest darkest depression, and I think he's done so much good for so many, many women, not just men.
Of course he does a lot of good to women. He forces men to be their providers.
@@ouwebrood497 eww
@@ouwebrood497 He forces them to do what they were meant to do.
Hes for people
Me too.
"Sacrificing your own flesh to the queer god in order to obtain a different body " never thought of it this way before, but its so obvious now! Absolutely!
When you believe your body isn’t real, nothing you can do to it is real.
People have plastic surgery all the time to change their bodies
NO, that's completely insane - on a number of levels. Stop it.
@@1SpicyMeataball hmm
@@1SpicyMeataball JL and that pod are absolute nonsense. You're being hoodwinked there. He has no clue about gnosticism and he's fully aware of that fact.
It makes me so sad that women, especially young women hate themselves so intensely.
It’s extremely sad.
Why?
@@cristina8868 ............... I don't think I need to say anything here. Go back to your hovel nasty troll.
@@cristina8868it’s called empathy.
@@cristina8868 because of the pornification of society
Stop transitioning our youth - I was a tomboy most of my younger years, ( I’m a girl) but about 17/18 slowly and naturally started to like being a girl, eventually discovering men and becoming a woman. Some females just take longer to get there - doesn’t mean we are boys trapped in girls boys, it just means we are late bloomers, or tomboys, or disinterested in sex or on our own path. Calm down society!
Exactly! I didn’t feel feminine till 20yrs old. And I didn’t want children till I was almost 30. I am so glad nobody was pushing me to mutilate my body because I didn’t fit the perfect mould or else I wouldn’t be happily married with a perfect newborn baby girl. I worry about her future- not because of traditional lifestyle pressures but because of all of this alt-lifestyle brainwashing.
Well said. The body and mind aren't always on par. One may race ahead of the other for a time but it's a transition from childhood to adulthood over years and we get there in the end. Unless sidetracked by gender ideology. It usually becomes all encompassing, one's entire identity. If that happens I'd question if one is trying to convince themselves, not truly accepting it's a reality. I'm getting on. We were taught we are our sex but how we express it is neither here nor there, it just is so is always 'right'.
Especially us autistic people are at risk to be lead to the slaughter!!! We often have gender dysphoria. I did and had I been born 20 years later I would probably be mutilated now! They need to leave the kids and youth alone!
agree, except i think adult women can act like tomboys too, it can be a personality trait and not always something to outgrow
My own Grandma who was born in 1917 talked about wanting to be a boy so badly. She prayed every night to be a boy. She was a very late bloomer and went topless for most of her childhood and even teen years. She bound her breasts when she started developing. She was shattered at 17 when she got her cycle because she knew there was no going back. She became interested in boys and then everything changed. She was always a tomboy, even in her old age, but she was the most loving mother and grandmother anyone could ask for.
As an acquaintance of Tammy Peterson, wife of Dr. P, I sent her a link to this interview. They're always glad to hear about someone like Charlie who was helped.
I was so happy to read this. As soon as she brought him up i wished i had a way to get it to him. I know it means the world to after what he has been through.
You are doing so much good by having these guests on . Doctors who do
this surgery must be held accountable ! They know this is not reversible ,
but aren't forthcoming with their mostly very young patients. You may not
believe in God, but that doesn't mean He isn't using you for his purposes.
Totally agree, no child should be allowed to transition or go on puberty blockers. And transitions should only be made on adults with gender dysphoria
So true. Cults don’t need a central person but definitely a central unquestioning dogma
Yep. We've entered the era of crowd-sourced totalitarian cults. No charismatic leader necessary.
All she needs is a pearl earring.
@@harrying882So true! 😄Put this in the main comment thread!
Egregore
@@harrying882 I thought the same thing! Vermeer’s model could have been an ancestress.
Andrew, what a lovely lovely guest. I really like what she's saying and how she tells her story!! Thank you for having her on❤
at least she's still got her female voice
Unlike some women in strength sports.
I must say I'm pretty pleased myself.
@@CharlieBentley-AstorI’m only two minutes in, but already you’re lovely, thank you for sharing your story, it’s valuable beyond measure for someone to be this vulnerable and help the rest of us understand
@@CharlieBentley-Astorthanks for speaking up ❤
That’s no mean thing. She’s so fortunate not to have lost that.
Up to age 12, I was wild! Played outside, got dirty, climbed trees, loved being outside, liked adventure, played sports, had fun! At 13, I saw a cute guy and my heart went crazy. Suddenly, I wanted to look cute, so he’d notice me. Thank God the LGBTQXYZ didn’t exist, or they’d have tried to destroy me and mutilate me.
Feminine boys and strong girls are something to treasure as who we are.
I was & will die wild... I can relate to her quite a lot, I used to hated my body changes when they happened but there's really no way to be some sort of neuter. I never thought of harming my body to become what I can't be. Imagine me going to a doctor's office with something like "I'm just a child trapped in an adult body" & demanding some sort of weird body replacement, it's just laughable!
This statement shows me that you don’t know what gender dysphoria is actually like- bc you aren’t transsexual. Transsexuals do exist, I’m an older transsexual that transitioned much later in life years ago and can tell you I know I can never be a biological male but I am finally happy within myself, body and mind- and Now I’m 60 without regret-and I too do not care for the alphabet mafia, and I wish authentically transsexuals would separate from the alphabet mafia as we are about gender, not about whom we choose to have sex with-
Her testimony will help others.
trully
I hope so
Lol 😂 humans are so thick. Everything she said is just obvious. Spoken like it is revolutionary.. It ain't. You're all just dumb as posts.
No it won't She'll be called a bigot like all the people she called.
She's not the first testimony and won't be the last. Why didn't the previous ones work?
@@TheTacticalHaggisit WILL help because if someone who is feeling like she was at that time watches this, it may give them hope that things COULD change.
So the cycle is 1. Get indoctrinated 2. Become an activist 3. About to get surgery 3. Watch Jordan Peterson video 4. De-transition. Nice!
Wolf-whistling men sounds quite anodyne but I remember having such anxiety walking home from school as being catcalled was very common (to be fair it was often teenage boys not men). I remember I even started to almost lean forward when walking to hide the shape of my figure, luckily for me I didn’t grow up at a time when gender ideology was being spread.
I (thankfully) grew up where catcalling was a very rare occurrence, definitely not an everyday thing (a town in Eastern Eu). I remember being shocked while visiting US (NYC, to be more exact) and the catcalling was there literally at every corner if there were workers/construction, etc. Very strange experience. Never felt threatened or unsafe or anything like that. Just a bit annoyed. I found it strange that it's so common.
@@joane24And then one day no one cat calls you . I always smirked as I realized how ephemeral it all was in my youth .
Same. I was embarrassed by my breasts. I was disgusted when I started my periods. I grew up in a faux Christian household where sex was viewed as bad and wicked, and periods were not discussed so I absolutely hated what was happening to my body. I never had a bra fitting but was given my sisters bras, which were far too big.
I started getting interest from boys at school, including those who had bullied me and there was apparently complimentary graffiti about my body is the boys toilets. I rejected everyone and was socially awkward (I think I’m a bit autistic) and so rumour got round that I was a lesbian.
Had I grown up in the current day, I possibly would have believe there was something different about me and that maybe I wasn’t straight or maybe that I was trans. I likely would have enjoyed hiding behind a label. Grateful this was 20 years ago and I’m now very comfortable in myself and love my body.
@@jennyadee913I’m relieved I don’t get cat called anymore, nor approached by random men in the street.
When my daughter was 12 y.o I started noticing grown men staring at her and looking her up and down in a creepy way when we went to the mall/shopping. Disgusting!
What our society has done to these kids is borderline unforgivable. We must do everything we can to atone for this.
Borderline?
We?
it is unforgivable. you can't erase it. not my society tho as I'm East European and apparently lived in a cave while this madness was going on unquestioned.
Nothing borderline about it. This is criminal, and people need to be brought up on charges. Just follow the money, as usual.
No... The parents will pay when their kids grow up and realise the truth
😂 Andrew, I am a Christian and I will happily pray for you without judgement. You do a great job with interviews.
Same here!❤️🙏🏻
I am 59 years old. Did I grew up in a bottle? I don’t remember my generation so confused about their sexual identity. Nowadays, it seems, so many are confused about it. It just blows my mind.
It wasn't a option, maybe they kept quiet, maybe moved when they got old enough to New Orleans, etc. Nothing new except the option/pushing of drugs and surgery.
It's another angle at showing that children should have their own consent rights rather than listening to their parents... and as sick as it is.. it all boils down to one thing... and it will be the acceptance of child - adult relationships... "childrens choice"
Food is different. Water is different. Advertising is different. Social acceptance is different. My daughter is 12 and thinks these people are nuts.
I 100% agree, children need protecting from these perverse I individuals pushing this agenda to make peodofillia normal!!!
I'm 67 and we were ALL extremely clear about our authentic gender. 😊
It has been a social engineering propaganda machine that grew this crazy movement. 😢
I know Charlie, we talk often, she's a great person, it's very sad she went through this and more. Please pray for her
46:14 "I love myself now" wonderful to hear this young woman say this. This in the end is what it boils down to. If you love yourself you are not going to cause harm to yourself. She is a beautiful intelligent young woman and i wish her every success and happiness in the future.
Great interview. I was sexualised very early as girl and totally relate to how she ezplains it. Its a nightmare as a girl as she says everyone obsessed with yr looks and not interested in you as a person. Grown men perv at u from age 10 up n its very unnerving. Was a tomboy in the 70 s . Would definitely have fallen for this ideology if it had been around then. Thank god it wasnt. I loved motherhood and now grand mothering.
I only hit puberty at 17, highly athletic and fit, and I felt out from a lot of the girls at school some who had started at 11. Honestly, I wasn't mentally prepared at 17, even though I technically knew everything, there is no preparing you for these changes. I started getting noticed by 19/20 by boys and I still hadn't a clue what to do with that attention. I cannot fathom how all of that must feel for young girls. And it is heartbreaking that we are supplying solutions to further hurt them and their futures instead of building and supporting them. This hasn't been a ground breaking conversation, this has been a really incredible human conversation. Thank you both.
I'm wondering if the decreasing age at which puberty starts, which has been going down the past century, is contributing to this movement.
@@j.t.1086 Sadly I think it probably is a contributing factor. Another could also be lack of a common community to enjoy and be enriched by.
I was 16 before menarche & was the absolute last girl I knew to get it. Our pediatrician said it was bc I was thin from gymnastics, but who knows. I can’t imagine having to deal with that at 10 or 11yo!
Same. Didn't have boobs at all until college. But was also an athlete my whole life up until then and am very small genetically all over
My daughter is 11 and its starting. I still can't believe it.
Andrew, I was touched when you said theists ought to pray for you. I pray every morning for people who value truth and try to do right. I'll start mentioning you by name along with that.
When Charlie said "I won't do it (imitate J. Peterson), because I love him and myself... Because I love myself now", I lost it!!!!
Thank you Andrew for such an amazing guest and thank you Charlie for your courage to share! We can't hear from real people from all the noise the fake ones (ideologists) make
Love from Dublin ❤
Thank you so much❤
@@CharlieBentley-Astorlesson learned
I completely agree with her! Going through puberty sucks. Being sexualized at a young age is horrifying. I didn't want to be a girl when I was younger, but then I grew into myself.
Also.... Whenever I intensely dislike my body, I look at the calendar and sure enough my period's about to begin.
No, it doesn't. Unless you're mentally ill.
THIS!! I've had my first menstruation at 10 yo. Men started looking at me with disgusting eyes even sooner than that, but it was like my "flowering womanhood" was exciting to them, they felt justified almost, because of MY looks. Sure enough, I've never liked being a woman. I like myself and I like being in my body - it's the rest of the world (=men) that has a problem with it, and makes it my problem to deal with.
@@BereniceAllanPoe Of course it's exciting to them.. Being attracted to womanhood is normal. I don't understand why you say they "have a problem with it"? And you say you like being in your body, but you don't like being a woman - which is it? You need to seek help.
Harden up ffs
@@keepingitreal618 shut tf up, this is not your space and not your experience, you have nothing useful to contribute. Also, children being disgusted by adult males' attention is normal. Maybe men should learn to not be d1sgust1ng p1gs.
Really interesting. I think by her speaking out , many kids will spare themselves a lot of trauma
I don't understand what's so hard to grasp in this - if children can't consent until 18, that should apply to other life-altering decisions as well.
This is more evil than pedophilia, as it sterns from political propaganda.
Fascinating conversation, Charlie is incredibly articulate and insightful, how different the world would be for young girls if mainstream media gave a platform to voices like Charlie’s instead of the vapid narcissism they endlessly hear from monosyllabic celebrities. And being from Tooting it’s great to hear a South London accent 👍
Thank you - not sure how I'd cope with a platform much bigger than this though!
I've never heard someone so eloquently explain the emotional, psychological impact that puberty has on girls. Our physique is scrutinised publicly from a young age. In this age, it is a thousand percent harder.
I come from a time in the 70s when it was considered normal for men to leer at you, flash you, grope you, whistle at you and all we were told was "Men are beasts, don't meet their eye or they will think that you are asking for it". Predators on trains, predators on building sites, road works, shops, predators in schools, there was no escape. It was absolutely terrifying and I used to so wish I was a boy or invisible to escape from it.
It didn't have any impact on me. It was just part of growing up. I don't know why people.are so.desperate to make everything a problem.
Well when I was a girl we all looked forward to becoming womanly, we talked about it all the time. I didn't know anyone who was devastated by cat calls from boys either. All I hear about these days is how difficult puberty is but that was an unknown concept in my day, it is society that has planted this right of passage as some awful thing to young girls today. I am certain there were exceptions of course but I think that was rooted in childhood trauma and still do.
@@GusMac-kv7zi Cat calls from boys was one thing. When they were from groups of adult men it was terrifying. I was at an all-girls boarding school and we weren't looking forward to periods and bras at all! Perhaps that was because the place was run by catholic nuns. I agree that childhood trauma seems to be a common denominator, as with morbid obesity seems to often stem from some kind of abuse
It's really not that deep.
Somehow what is called proper support has turned to encouraging the irreversible tampering with normal development. The medical profession has a lot to answer for, specially lately.
And yes, I have seen both fathers and mothers online proudly displaying what can only be described as a version of Munchousen by proxy syndrome.
What a joy Charlie is. She was saved by her own intelligence, self awareness and curiosity. She's aces and an example of how to approach this very real problem.
She is new to me as a writer. Absolutely delightful and brilliant.
Great interview Andrew, thank you for continuing to give people the opportunity to be open and speak out.
Girl with the Pearl Earring. And in this case, pearls of wisdom.
Yes! I thought of that painting, too!
She does look like her.
exactly what i was thinking
An amazing person - thanks to both of you for the conversation.
Really enjoyed this thoughtful conversation with Charlie
What a lovely, likeable, funny, engaging, intelligent interviewee.
So grateful for smart young women. Charli is a treasure. Love the way Gold interviews folks.
As an old woman I can only imagine what young girls think about their bodies, but I knew I did not want to be like Marilyn Monroe. Today with all the implants, face lifts, Botox (erasure of emotions), the end of Sin, normalized Porn & trans indoctrination - it must feel messy. I always wanted to learn & write. This seems like manufactured despair.
You have something there about manufactured despair
I remember i started developing when i was about 8yrs old, it freaked me out so i stopped eating thinking that my body would just eat my boobs and it did for a while. When i was about 9 and a half i started eating normally again and just before my 10th birthday i got my first period. If someone would've asked me back then if i felt like i was a body i would've said not at all. But with this new 'society' of adults manipulating children into thinking that they are trans with all of this like, girl saying 'i don't want boobs' to the teacher having a paranoid lightbulb moment and calling the kid to a quieter(one-on-one is always uncomfy for a kid) place to ask all sorts of leading questions about trans-ness, and the kid would know that society and this teacher seems to expect that from you to give-into that ideology, and all because you were afraid of growing breasts. Like why can't the adults just teach these girls that life is ever changing, and it can be scary, but you can't control everything and you just have to move forward and go with the flow sometimes, that it's not actually that bad. It's just such a shame.
So true.
True. I can’t imagine what that must’ve been like at age 9 & 10. I was 16 & the latest girl of everyone I knew. I never “felt like a girl” either & tbh I’m not sure if I do now. I loved playing video games with my brothers, went into STEM field, etc. I would’ve been quite confused if anyone had asked me if I wanted to be a woman or a man 😂
Tragedy. We used to use phrases like "blossoming into a young woman."
Some us never really "blossum", well I didn't imo.
I like your comment especially the part about "leading questions" that really puts a spot light on teacher/activist over stepping the line "conversations".
As a middle age woman, I haven’t been wolf-whistled at in a while… Is it wrong to say that sometime I miss it? A woman become invisible on the other side on menopause.
I think there are pros to every time of life. Having endometriosis & so much pain with menstruation, I often find myself thinking “I hope I live long enough to have menopause & full months where I can work on a project without losing days to this malady”
I don't look back fondly on being wolf whistled as a child...
I remember feeling quite flattered when being wolf-whistled at by passers-by.
Quite often, one reacts to a situation depending upon your outlook - in all aspects & circumstances. We no longer (it seems) teach our children to be robust & whilst feelings are very important - I'm a very emotional woman myself - one must manage those feelings too. Exposing children (which is what introducing them to trans ideology is doing) before they are ready is only confusing them.
I was 11 yrs old when men started looking at me in a sexualising manner. I was size 14 and the attention l received was inappropriate and unwanted. I was scared these teenagers/men.l believed they were going to hurt me. Infact l was sexually assaulted, groped..it was not nice @clairegresswell
I find it odd to find out women are complaining they are too privileged having the appearance they have.
I really hope Prof Peterson sees this!
A wonderfully open &well spoken guest. Thank you both for the interview. 🙏
He retweeted her.
As a girl in the 1970s, I started puberty at 8-9 years old. (I wasn't especially overweight but I was very stressed with very stressed parents.) I was also in very religious schools, being indoctrinated at what being a woman meant, at an age when I wasn't done being a girl. I didn't want to be a woman, or a boy, either. I just wanted out of my body and surroundings.
So I gave myself puberty blockers the old-fashioned way, anorexia and then bulimia. It worked for me and became a lifelong temptation when under major stress. I've never wanted children so infertility was never a motivator. Hormone replacement and birth control pills gave me mood swings so I stopped.
I've adopted a healthy food plan and mental / emotional / spiritual health tools that have gotten me out from under early abuse and neglect (some self-induced). But I have an abnormally low heart rate and blood pressure, bone thinning and low grade depression. These are signs of low or deficient hormones.
Still, I am grateful that I wasn't a child now, being fast-tracked to surgery and unhelpful 'gender affirming care'. I don't know if I'd have made it to age 59.
Life is tough! Age 9 in the 70’s is the usual. Hairy was frowned upon. Worse now.
I’m so glad people are able to get to speak of their experience! Kudos to her for sharing, I’m sorry it’s been difficult!
Thank you both for the open, factual discussion we have shared for better understanding.
What a seriously interesting young woman. Obviously very intelligent, still showing her youth but on the other hand mature for her years. Very brave to expose her honesty. I applaud her.
What an amazing interview .. hope huge number of those who are „lost” will watch it and wake up
You’re an inspiration Charlie. Thanks for speaking out, you will hopefully prevent others from getting caught up in the ferveur of thinking that transitioning is the answer to their problems.
This young lady was a pleasure to listen to. She's very intelligent with such an interesting perspective but she explains it in a way that's very easy to understand. She's not putting on a show, she's not arrogant, she's just recounting a very genuine experience that she learned a lot from
Charlie's cheeks are part of what makes her look beautiful. We really don't have the maturity until our mid 20's to make such life changing choices or even to know who we are. Thank you for coming forward and sharing your experience Charlie and hopefully save some young peoples future lives.
I would LOVE her cheeks
Andrew is such a wonderful host. He listens so well. Great job Andrew!
I was born in the early sixties and started puberty at 12. I was extremely shy and remember being so uncomfortable and self conscious with the changes to my body. I also remember being whistled at which I found so embarrassing BUT I truly believe that along with growing up and life experience it actually made me more resilient and eventually it no longer bothered me. I think nowadays there is so much influence from social media and also by I think, an obsession to try and prove that men and women are equal! We are not we are DIFFERENT, neither being better than the other. This trans movement is not only ‘cancelling’ women’s voices but also the voices of ‘LGB’ and it needs to stop!
Its really sad how this cult like ideology is pulling in kids, and frustrating that there are adults encouraging it unquestioningly...
Excellent guest! She has a clear perspective and the experience has given her a voice that should be heard!
Thank you for having her as a guest.
I went through a "crisis " at 15 I found out through a full body X-ray that I wasn't going to get taller. I was so upset because I wanted to be tall and I had curves (not the modern version) but having a flat bum was in style. I was pale and being tan was considered beautiful. There was no surgery to change my body into what I wanted. I had to learn to love myself for who I was. That's what we need more of. People are way more accepting of body types now.
Isn’t it interesting that both the male side of transition and the female side both agree on a shared hatred of what is actually and really female?
I find that darkly fascinating
Its almost like misogyny is real and historical... I think it's deeper (darker) and plenty, of people know this and refuse, to change because it upsets the things they build, upon that paradigm, to cope.
To say, it's real and exists gets you a label and dismissal. Wild work and world.
Misogyny. That is pretty 'dark', but not fascinating - more like depressing I would say...
It’s called misogyny!
Misogyny is sinister, dangerous and growing. Dark indeed.
@@cube_republic It has always existed, never gone away entirely, & lately the Right Wing has made it their mission to disempower women entirely...
20:10 this definition of the “right help” (NOT surgery) is perfect 👌
What an intelligent and articulate young woman. The headband makes her look like the girl with the pearl ear-ring. Fab cheekbones.
I'm glad she's worked it out and become so rational and happy enough. ❤
Cmon this just a tomboy. I was hardcore tomboy. Nothing wrong with it. I still have masc traits but very fem now. 😊 SAVE THE TOMBOYS!
I agree.
Just because I climbed trees, road bikes really hard and beat the boys at leadership things did not make me a boy. I do not get it. Why are stronger robust woman actually boys?? No way. I am a woman and I went out into the world and lived! As a woman!
Who decides that “this” makes a boy a girl??
Or
That “this” makes a girl a boy??
Who decides that?? Why are “they” correct??
As a younger male, I had a few tomboy friends - I just considered them as girls who liked to do the things boys did - so we had stuff in common!
No. She's just a girl/woman. Nothing boy about them. You're talking about stereotypes
What a beautiful wonderful strong expressive person Charlie is. So young to have endured so much mental and physical struggle but her soul and intelligence overflows with light and genius. Sending YOU so much love dear Charlie and respect for sharing so much of yourself. Your brilliant brain, soul, heart and communication skills are deeply appreciated. Wishing you the best life you can create and I know that you will have helped SO MANY OTHERS who have and are going through the journey you have shared here. Thank you oxxo Wish I could hug you in gratitude for your strength and grace xo
Thank you so much Andrew Gold and Charlie Bentley Astor. I really enjoyed your interview. I loved your connection with each other which expanded the information I received. It is so nice to learn without all the hype and defensiveness that usually happens with this topic. Thank you and I really look forward to hearing more. 🙏🥰🇦🇺
It would appear that this lovely girl was heavily influenced by, predominantly Hollywood inspired, gender stereotypes.
Men also feel fear and are not always brave. In fact, these characteristics are held by both men and women. They manifest, often at different times in a person's life and at varying intensity.
You are allowed to be interested in sports and traditionally male interests as a woman. Also, not all women are obsessed with having a baby. This message needs to be given to girls more robustly.
Being heterosexual is predominant but, attraction to the same sex as yourself is also okay.
The decision to have medical intervention, is the last avenue to explore. This is because of the many problems that come with that territory.
Fully interrogate all the feelings the person has, before deciding on so radical a course of action.
That applies to professionals involved as well as the individual.
It took me many years before I could identify as my gender on tv or anywhere, due to them portraying stereotypes.
37 yrs tomboy here.
What they portray has never been me. This has led to many problems.
Hence we need diversity but not like the w0k3 are doing.
This WAS common knowledge even 10 years ago. Unfortunately in the last decade everything had changed where young people now think they have to ascribe to gender stereotypes or they are trans. All because of the dogma surrounding trans rights and supporting trans. This messaging has gone way too far now. We will get a lot more cases like this in later years.
@@terri639 I concur. There will be more confusion on this very complex issue. That is sad for those involved.
Her words are so powerful. As a former and somewhat current tomboy, I relate so very much❤
NO,NO,NO!!
This ended too soon! Why can't you do more than an hour with incredible guests like this??
She is beautiful! Praise GOD that it didn't go further! I will pray that she can have her own (large) family soon.
Thank you so much
It’s interesting when I think of my own life, I felt very comfortable to be a female. But I was forced to cut my beautiful golden blonde hair to a pixie cut which I found very distressing. But yet I wasn’t allowed to wear jeans like my girlfriends, but I played sports because it was a cheap form of entertainment? For my parents. So I was getting all kinds of mixed messages from my mother. I wasn’t allowed to discuss my period. It was “dirty” yet it made me feel proud to be a women. I was bullied that I was gay but I wasn’t. I worked 3 jobs to be able to look and feel feminine, but my mother was always thwarting my attempts to so. I was a girly girl but my mum didn’t see it. I made my own dresses because she wouldn’t purchase them. I really don’t know what was in this Scottish born woman’s mind. So I became disillusioned with my looks and never considered myself pretty. She was always berating me, close your mouth, it’s hanging open, stop slouching, on and on. I’m still a girly girl but I’ve had depression and anxiety since I was 17. And I’m 67 now. She destroyed my sense of self and confidence. Interestingly enough my brother the middle child, was the golden boy, and could do no wrong. Even through all her threats, yelling and non encouragement I still felt I was a woman. If she was trying to take that away from me she was unable. I find it fascinating that our upbringings can be so varied but so are the outcomes. Thank you Andrew, you guest is a sweet beautiful person!
Thank you for sharing. I had excess protection to be feminine with 4 brothers.
I am sorry that you endured that awful, confusing, psychologically tormenting abuse from your mother. Perhaps she viewed you as "competition" and hated you for your feminine charms and beauty. I hope life has been amazing for you.
@@proudatheist2042 That’s so kind no one has ever said anything like that to me! God Bless you for helping others!❤️
That’s a great point I never in a million years thought that I the ugly duckling, in my mind, would ever be competition to my mum. Thinking back she would beat us with a belt or wooden spoon. She didn’t need much reason to see us in pain. Also if we were “bad” she would phone our Dad and make each of us talk to him. He was a shift worker. We would have to wait until he got home could be up to 10 12 hours, then he would come home and we would get a lickin from him. The wait was tortuous. I know he hated it because more than once I saw him cry. She must have gotten complete satisfaction from this threat. Thank you for opening my eyes. Yes I was a Daddy’s girl. I cannot think of one time my mother held me and kissed me and said everything will be ok. But my dad did.
Thank you Charlie for sharing your story. There are so many young people caught up in this who really need to hear it. I wish you all the best in your future!
For me "not wanting to be the sex you are" is very different from "wanting to be the opposite sex" and I believe transitioning is a bad choice if you belong in the former category.
This discussion was weard. I was never told about period, female things as a child. I was a tomboy...but always knew I am a girl, later woman.
What @terri639 says & I agree: Unfortunately in the last decade everything had changed where young people now think they have to ascribe to gender stereotypes or they are trans. All because of the dogma surrounding trans rights and supporting trans. This messaging has gone way too far now. We will get a lot more cases like this in later years.
*weird*
I agree!!! I never ever ever questioned it
@@baronesswithabrush1991they don’t though.
I have heard this bizarre statement many times from girls who say, I knew nothing about periods blah blah, where does this come from? We had no internet we were not focused on celebrity and how they looked. We had health class for God's sake. I did not know one girl who was totally blindsided by periods, none. In fact we constantly asked each did you get yours yet and we wanted it to come on. I think people were more of a healthy mind in my days as a girl. We didn't talk much about having children either that came at a much later stage. I grew up in a house full of brothers and wore hand me downs from them and often played boys games just as much as girls activities.
Wow. That was a very eye opening interview. It gives me hope thank you.
Don't hate on the apple cheeks, I have been rather jealously admiring them this whole interview!!
Just amazing to hear her speaking. Terribly sad but uplifting also. Think of all the young people going thought this now. May they find hope and direction through people who truly move and care for them
Have to say I found it incredibly, profoundly, depressing
@@JH-kd6hswhy? Please let us know
She’s articulate! She’s intelligent! She’s beautiful! She is blessed that her brain, and organs were pretty much developed by the time she began taking the puberty blockers. However, it is devastating that she has osteoporosis, and that even with estrodial patches, her body is not responding. Hopefully, she can continue to research, and find a physician that has knowledge of hormones, and the endocrine system, and help her.
One last thing, this girl is beautiful inside and out, and so bright and intelligent, it’s so sad that she’s been lead astray by damaged and confused people and so-called “experts” who are following a sick and sordid agenda. May she develop into the fullness of who she is at her core, learn to love herself for her unique beauty and continue to be a beacon of light and hope to others.
You're too sweet - thank you so much!
"I love myself now." good for you girl.
I liked this guest very much. It seems her experiences have given her a very balanced and realistic world view and a humane & humorous approach to life.
Bless you Charlie, this is so brave of you to talk to this incredibly complex matter 💕🌟💕
Thank you. I try to do justice to it but inevitably fall short.
I can’t with this pretend “you only see my body and not my achievements” it’s not that. It’s the sudden awakening to your attractiveness to others and feeling like you’ll never be beautiful enough or sexually attractive enough compared to the fake bodies of celebrities. It’s the pressure of feeling like your body will fail you and so instead of being an ugly woman, they opt to be a fake man - if they fail at being a man it’s less painful because their natural body wasn’t meant to be one and so they don’t feel burdened by the pressure of being the perfect male.
It's not. *Many* people are more than displeased with this habit of only seeing a body, men & women. Your brain _is_ conditioned by the body it's placed in, but it's a lot more than that. Some people are shallow, some are not.
Thank you for sharing your story Charlie! Your strength, courage and wisdom are key in making positive changes to this serious issue that is hurting and mutilating people when they are most vulnerable. THANK YOU! I have so much gratitude and respect for you. May God bless your life all of your days!!!
Andrew Gold - thank YOU for going out there to help individuals like Charlie, have a voice and be heard; individuals who have suffered greatly at the hands of a society who doesn't seem to give a shit. I pray for you to continue to do this amazing work and that God may bless your life abundantly.
One of your best interviews on this channel.
Thank you for shedding so much light on this issue! ❤️
Intriguing person. I appreciate her intelligence and self-awareness.
A really great discussion Andrew and Charlie and I love Charlie's take on heretics xo
Another beautiful intelligent woman damaged by the trans 'Cult'! How many more are there out there suffering alone?
Another factor in early puberty is endocrine-disrupting chemicals (paint, plastic, electronics, etc.) and air pollution. Obviously we're all exposed to massive amounts of toxic pollution now that no one in the Renaissance would have been.
Nail varnish is a big contributor I heard too. 🤯
YES I have been saying for years that these substances are affecting everything, also the amount of pharmaceuticals that are in the water supply.
I'm not trans but puberty was absolute body horror for me. I still miss my girl chest and figure. As soon as I started developing I got really fat and had extremely painful cramps/bloating every month with my period and people started telling me not to run because my boobs would bounce and I couldn't take off my shirt in hot weather anymore. It sucked!
Such a brave girl.we need to heard more people like her❗️
Her point at around @15:50 is so true, something I experienced acutely but have never heard anyone else speak about. I would come home and lie on my bed and spend hours thinking "god, what did I do, what did I say, for that person to say that to me? 😢 I took that new attention to be "all my fault"
I hear myself in her voice minus the transition. I remember hating the attention of being a girl. My sister dressed me up nicely for the first time (was always a tomboy) and the very first time a bloke watched she and I exit a store servicing himself. I never wanted to dress up unless for major events. I wasn’t a boy but I didn’t feel stereotypically girlish. Someone told me when I said that it sounds like I have a bad perspective of what girls are supposed to be. I thought of my love of Greek mythology. Most of the goddesses weren’t as beautiful as Aphrodite. Artemis, Athena, the muses are not the most beautiful. There is more to being a woman than looks. Thankfully I lived in the era of Buffy, Xenia and charmed. Kick as but still cute.
Buffy - a cheerleader - and Xena, were beautiful. Being a badass doesn't exclude being beautiful and yes, you did have an (understandably) skewed view, of the array that womanhood, could present as.
I hope your mind has changed because it lays foundation, to judge women you'd perceive as exceedingly beautiful, as something that couldnt include things like fierceness.
Also, the Greeks were not known, for allowing full human agency, in their imaginings and much less, so to girls/women.
I love myth and folklore, too🤷🏾♀️.
I remember the first time I was catcalled, about 13 and I've always looked younger- first, time I ever flipped, the bird.. and AGGRESSIVELY, at that.
@@8thhousemoonrabbit205 thanks for chatting. I’m an old bitty now. Embracing my inner feminine in my 20’s and 30’s.
All the power to you for getting through ❤
@@CharlieBentley-Astor same to you, love.
I was absolutely appalled when I started that change to women hood I didn't feel ready for it .I ended up with an eating disorder. It can be such a hard time.