To Stop Pleasing & Appeasing Others, Focus On These 3 Things

To Stop Pleasing & Appeasing Others, Focus On These 3 Things
Wonder why you automatically people-please, rush to fix things when there's a problem, panic at the idea of someone being upset with you, or feel an internal pressure to avoid disappointing others?
This is the fawn response in action, and it is happening because your body is perceiving a threat or anticipating a threat.
The body will react to the present based on your past, re-living that past experience through the feelings, sensations, reactions, and thoughts that flood you. When you've been threatened or harmed and your body has used the fawn response to survive it, it will do that again in the future because it worked.
Disengaging this response involves:
1) Restoring a sense of safety by nurturing capacity for those reactions, connecting with safe community and persons, and learning to regulate back into a window of tolerance through titrated experiencing of the sensations that show up
2) Processing the pain, fear, and hurt that is stuck in a loop that was created in the previous threatening events. This will involve feeling the sensations in short, bit-by-bit moments over time.
As the body begins to experience a reduction in the intensity, duration, and frequency of the intense sensations that come with fawning, it will start engaging in other responses to it, including inquiry, indifference, advocacy, and even fight or flight.
3) Discovering safety and who you are without the fawning response. This will likely feel uncomfortable, confusing, liberating, and even empowering. You'll find yourself experiencing more rest, more confidence, more peace, and more clarity about what you want, what you feel, and your intuitive senses will arise.
This is a core feature of the Codependency Healing System. Over 35 live-taught classes, you are nurtured through each of these phases of healing through live support, effective tools, and community.
Your codependency developed in relationship. Your healing and freedom develops in relationship.
We heal together. We thrive together.
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This is an invitation to codependents, people-pleasers, and perfectionists who've been doing therapy or self-help, are struggling to get lasting, consistent results, and are seeking greater self-worth, peace, and freedom in being who they are without trying to figure it all out or do it on their own.
You will work along with me and 74 other students over a gentle 9 months as we increase your sense of safety, connection, and self-worth through:
1) Increasing your emotional safety.
2) Connecting with reality and using it to build real connection.
3) Taking back and becoming your power.
4) Discovering and embodying who you really are through knowing your innate worth.
5) Reclaim your natural ability to create connection with others and build healthy, safe, playful bonds with your fellow humans.
This is achieved through The Codependency Healing System 9-month, 36-module journey.
This program is a best fit for codependents:
Seeking more in-depth support in their healing and growth efforts
Ready to add structure and guidance in their healing efforts
Seeking consistency and to build real results and change in their daily life
Willing to invest 2 - 3 hours a week in their healing work to see big results, often starting within a few weeks of beginning the course
I offer various enrollment options:
Lifetime Access with 6 months of Marshall's Personal Support via the Voxer app: $2000 (this option gives you access to Marshall via the Voxer app to ask questions and get coaching anytime during the week, Monday through Friday). This includes the Quarterly Breakthrough Sessions, the 12-week Self-Trust Course and The Indomitable Worth System as bonuses.
Lifetime Access: $1500. This includes the Quarterly Breakthrough Sessions, the 12-week Self-Trust Course and The Indomitable Worth System as bonuses
Payment Plans: 3, 6, and 12-month payment plans are available. These do not include the bonuses outlined above.
I'm accepting 75 people this year. Class starts August 14, 2023. Enrollment closes August 12, 2023.
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