I was in a state of confusion , I was considering divorce I cried out to God , and asked Him why He had allowed for me to marry my husband because of the problems we were going through, His response was not what i expected , He said to me , mistake or no mistake do you believe I am the God who raised Lazarus from the dead, do you believe I am the God who said to Jairus daughter little girl arise, i said Yes Lord, He said to me I am the God who raised the dry bones and gave them life. my marriage hasnt been easy but I am hanging onto the word of God and when it gets hard i stand on Him not my feeling. in Jesus name
Ivy Kuda Thank you for saying that!! The encouragement is much needed!! I've been married 10 years and lately I've been wondering if I married the right person. I'm still in my marriage and working on it by the Grace of God.
"Short answer: look at the name on your marriage certificate." So indescribably powerful yet so beautifully simple. 2:15 seconds of my life well spent. Thank you John Piper! I just picked up Don't Waste Your Life this week and can't wait to dive in!
this is almost painful to listen to. I stayed in an incredibly abusive relationship for 7 years, praying and putting trust that it would be okay. it was not. our three children and I had to hide out in a safe house for a week, not allowed to leave until he was found clinically and psychologically stable. before all of this, for the last 3 years of the marriage I prayed every day asking if I should leave and if not help me to find a way to help him. for three years I ignored the 'leave now' and kept trying because I was told God does not do divorce. I also don't think he would want me in a relationship that would end up with me dead and his behavior all out on the children. you should not be encouraging people to stay in abusive relationships, there are exceptions
Katrina N I'm very sorry for what you went through. One option that could be considered in similar situations is separation. Give the person some time to be alone and get help. God isn't for divorce, but He's also not for abuse (including the abuse you experienced). The Bible talks about fasting for some time from eachother. So, it could be done as a fast. But all of this is much easier to say than to accomplish.
Cyrus Speaks Iv been fasting from living together for 28 yrs . ..im a 57 yr old woman & not happy but HE the non christian who CLAIMS to beleive in God but no commitment to christ who is 14 yrs older than me is i think not bothered if hes with a woman or not NOW & has not asked for divorce .I feel in BIG IRON CHAINS & partly because hes not in good health now SO dont want to totally be cut off SO that i can help if needed ...
I am so sorry to hear your painful experience, you can have the assurance that John Piper was not at all talking about abusive relationships. Piper is also friends with known pastor Matt Chandler, who talks a lot about marriage and how he got through the first 5 years of his marriage which were awful years for him, and Matt Chandler said in several sermons that abusive relationships are not acceptable. Matt Chandler got some help from counseling, and eventually he and his wife got through it and are very happy right now. I understand that you would find this message hard to hear, but abusive relationships are another topic and abuse is not acceptable to the Lord.
I'm pretty sure he wasn't talking about abusive or adulterous marriages as those verses are in the Bible as well . He's talking about the ones where one or both parties give up and decide the grass is greener
in other words the "Right person" is a believer in Christ that will share the same values with you which God can use to propel you both towards a fruitful destiny. An unbeliever will always mount spiritual friction in the pattern in which a christian should live.
if u marry wrong person u have to seek deliverance from conflict seek salvation not divorce. GOD can be trusted to fix it if you seek him. but dont marry wrong person
Aman! You are totally right! Here's more from 1 Corinthians: “But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.” 1 Corinthians 7:15 KJV If the unbelieving, or unsaved husband or wife, then becomes unhappy with their saved spouse, he or she is able to divorce the saved spouse without it being a penalty to the saved spouse or his or herself. A lot of times, an unbelieving spouse will no longer be content with the spouse that gets saved, especially in cases where neither were saved when they got married.
I think we can have the assurance that John Piper was not at all talking about abusive relationships. Piper is also friends with known pastor Matt Chandler, who talks a lot about marriage and how he got through the first 5 years of his marriage which were awful years for him, and Matt Chandler said in several sermons that abusive relationships are not acceptable. Matt Chandler got some help from counseling, and eventually he and his wife got through it and are very happy right now. Abusive relationships are another topic and abuse is not acceptable to the Lord.
Beautiful & Powerfully put . But it’s definitely easier said then done . I think as believers in Christ we have to YES stand on Truth but also walk with people that are going through VERY difficult seasons in there marriage . What about the believing spouse that is fighting and standing for their marriage but the “professing believer “ has abandon the covenant? And has tried to divorce attempts….. and is under spiritual blindness … They want HAPPINESS . That’s not what marriage is ultimately about it’s bout holiness and being conform into Christ image
I think in some ways the church today, and christians in general, make a huge deal about being equals in faith and all sorts of qualifications. I do firmly believe that you should marry a fellow believer but that they have to be on an equal faith level seems to be getting a bit too picky. So now, we have generations of super picky Christian women and some men that aren't getting married because they haven't found the 'PERFECT' half.
yes bible says whatever God puts together no man can take away. right what God puts together so if u marry someone outside of biblical instruction then your not doing it by God's will but your own. and if you dont go Gods way then yes you will go the WRONG way. so I think its possible to marry the wrong person.
I ....... very much disagree. And when I say "very much" I mean "wholeheartedly." This actually is quite toxic to people in abusive marriages and the God I worship and serve wouldn't ask someone to stay in a toxic, abusive, poisonous, dangerous, even deadly marriage just because of a piece of paper. God didn't write that paper. Man did. We can argue about this until the cows come home but you will never convince me that "the right person" is the one who abuses and manipulates his or her spouse mentally, emotionally, physically, sexually, and spiritually. Before anyone says, "Well you made your bed, now lie in it; you shouldn't have married someone like that," that is spoken like someone who was privileged enough to marry a good person first try. Actually this whole DOCTRINE is spoken by people who were privileged enough to marry a good person at the outset, and perfect enough never to have made a mistake.
This here is thee TRUE answer to a genuine God established marriage: you both are Christians..male and female" you have been praying for a spouse or husband..you happen to meet a person at church and as you get to know each other.. you ask God for confirmation, if this is the person for you??? God indeed will make it clear..I've seen it happen with my own eyes twice at church,retreat etc..any other way..your on your own!! Divorce rate speaks for itself.
I love that "look at the name in your marriage certificate". Does somebody know? Does he have that from Voddie Baucham or the other way round or did somebody entirely different bring it up first?
Some marriage are not from God. I know someone, the Lord told her five times " no" when she asked God before marrying her husband, but she did it, and now endures an awful life trapped in this marriage God didn't want for her.
I didn't know this before, so what should I do , my marriage( if I can call it that, because he left) because I know the power of words today , I would not dare to right the right adjective ( qualified word) but you all can guess.
This is a simplification of a complex topic, but it's essencialy true. For clarifications on specific situations I recommend to all the people with questions here to read "Love must be tough" by James Dobson. Best effort to give guidance on the matter that I know.
Encouraging but a little confusing. he says if your not both christian then your not right for marriage if you aren't already married, but if u did marry the non christian person you have to now consider them as the right person because now God has put y'all together? Even tho God did not permit y'all to be together b4 the marriage because one was not saved? very confusing
psmith AhatHe is saying in essence is this: A Christian is adviced - perhaps instructed even -to "marry in the Lord" (that is, a fellow Christian). But if some person who is a Christian is married to an unbeliever, then the marriage must continue - because God hates divorce, & except on the case of adultery, divorce is not accepted before Him (also on the ground of if an unbelieving spouse just walks out of the marriage) - Some people who are Christian could have as wife/husband a person who is not a Christian, in instances such as, for example, the person was already married to the unbelieving spouse before becoming a Christian. Also, if the Christian was not aware of the instruction to marry only in the Lord before having married. I hope that helps
Eduardo Melo please disregard the advice above. Do not divorce your wife. Read 1 Corinthians 7. He talks about marriages before you are a Christian. You are permitted to marry. But now that you know the truth, make your marriage work!
Eduardo Mello You're living in sin sad to say but that is the truth. You're only to divorce if adultery was committed by your partner, if you divorce other wise you were not to remarry, but was to reconcile to your wife. I am speaking from what the bible says. You can also remarry if your partner passed to the grave. I pray that God shed light on you that you understand how strict marriage is to God. Kyle
Even though you entered the marriage in sin, when you gave your life to Christ, the blood of Jesus covered that sin and every other sin and now this marriage you currently are in is a legitimate one (that is if you are currently married). So if you are currently married, make peace with your ex-wives and cleave to your present wife in Christ. But if you are single, ask God for wisdom for what to do with your past wives. It is a bit complicated if you are thinking of going back but ask for God’s counsel in all things and over my advice.
What do I do if my husband has thrown our marriage away & has been committing adultery for the past 5 years? HE is the one who filed for divorce. I have prayed till I can’t anymore. He hates the Lord & he hates me. What am I supposed to do?
Pray for his conversion. Read the first 3 chapters of Hosea. God knows your pain and always has. His people(Gomer) are adulterous and never faithful to him(Hosea)
While you hopefully pray for your spouse to return, remember you are married to Christ. He is the friend who sticks closer than a brother and he has promised “never will I forsake you”.
The point is, do you want to follow God right now? If yes, you can't file for divorce. It seems very hard, but if you read your Bible you won't find verses which support to get a divorce, the opposite is the case (Malachi 2:16). Jesus allows only one exception for divorce, for Jews who require a virgin woman as a spouse (Matthew 19:9). This exception has been widened to fit in all the reasons we would like to include. But we Christians forget that marriage is a covenant, not a contract. We should represent our almighty God here on earth, with our marriage. God does not break covenants, neither should we! We shall be holy, for he is holy (1 Peter 1:15). I'm quite sure if you find yourself in the situation thinking seriously about getting a divorce then you did not carefully determine who you marry for a lifetime and you did not listen to God... and I'm very sorry for this! I made the same mistake and me and my boys suffer enormously and have to bear the consequences. My unbelieving husband filed for divorce, and I had to accept it at some point. I hope many (young!) people learn from my bad example and ask God seriously BEFORE they marry someone. Extremely important here is to be able to hear God's voice. Also now in your situation. Blessings to you.
@@Mumzy1234 Pretend he's not, really? Maybe we can pretend the the skies not blue and see what happens ( probably a better chance of that )? false hope , Maybe you can go live with him and see if a miracle happens.
he made it seem like all marriages that ever existed were purposed by god. what about all the kings who had more than one wife. God didn't want for them to marry more than one spouse.
he gave no direct understanding to the question in the title where it did not contradict itself. ok bible says do not unevenly yoke your self with someone. so if you are in a relationship with someone not saved or even same level of salvation as you then your suppose to not marry them right? but if u marry the person you know is not evenly yoke then you break biblical instruction. the unsaved person lifestyle conflicts with your christian values so you notice their giving you the feeling of wrongfulness from there wrong doing so it make sense for you to ask are they wrong for me. the answer seems to be yes bcuz you were never suppose to marry them
what is a non Christian likes to have a relationship and then you as a Christian also likes him. Then? why can't we be together when both have the same level of understanding as well?
it ia the belief system which is coming inbetween? I don't understand this. sometimes I feel I don't understand how to live? yeah that's true that we have to please God. but what about we liking a non Christian?
It's absolutely a sin to marry an unbeliever. However, such a union would still be considered a valid marriage in God's eyes. Moreover, two wrongs don't make a right. Like any other sin, it should be confessed to the Lord. Then, the believer should pray for the Lord's help to make the marriage work (and that the unbelieving spouse will place their faith in Christ as Savior).
God grant divorces when the one of the spouses die pass away or commit adultery I wonder if that's because it wasn't a hesitation nor problem in divorce court because the ex husband committed and didn't comprehend that his tongue I meant his infidelity God's grace and mercy
Marry GOD first , in the sense just seek him .Love for a wife never lasts long , sad but true . A wife who is your best friend lasts forever . Let GOD be your best friend , all of our earthly desires eventually die in AGE. Let GOD be your strength for seeking love and let your wife do the same , thats when GOD brings you closer to him.
this is absolutely and unbelievably the most ridiculous thing I ever heard so you thought you married the right person and after 1w years of marriage my wife has an affair so you telling me I must stay married to her please explain yourself
Philip Robinson I'm in the same boat. But before you let your anger get the better of you, trust me I know the thoughts that have past your mind...consider your worst sins. Do you need Christ to forgive you? Then think to honor Him by offering the same forgiveness. Remember the parable of the unplayable debt Matthew 18:24. If you require forgiveness you should give forgiveness and who better to extend it to than your own flesh...your wife. I know it's scarring, and difficult. I'm in the trenches with you. Please show mercy if you require it as well. I, unfortunately, don't have that option as she has left...but if God were to convict her heart and bring her home I would happily receive her and restore her as my Queen. We sin against God, so don't take things too personally. Her mistakes will have to be answered to the most high my friend
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I was in a state of confusion , I was considering divorce I cried out to God , and asked Him why He had allowed for me to marry my husband because of the problems we were going through, His response was not what i expected , He said to me , mistake or no mistake do you believe I am the God who raised Lazarus from the dead, do you believe I am the God who said to Jairus daughter little girl arise, i said Yes Lord, He said to me I am the God who raised the dry bones and gave them life. my marriage hasnt been easy but I am hanging onto the word of God and when it gets hard i stand on Him not my feeling. in Jesus name
Thank you for this. Such an encouragement.
Ivy Kuda Thank you for saying that!! The encouragement is much needed!! I've been married 10 years and lately I've been wondering if I married the right person. I'm still in my marriage and working on it by the Grace of God.
J Woods He is a faithfull God
Ivy Kuda thank you for this great encouraging word!
Amen.
"Short answer: look at the name on your marriage certificate." So indescribably powerful yet so beautifully simple. 2:15 seconds of my life well spent. Thank you John Piper! I just picked up Don't Waste Your Life this week and can't wait to dive in!
"If you're married, you're married to the right person." -C.S. Lewis
@@ethanh6370 and which book did he write in the bible again? that's right none - just a sinner like the rest of us
this is almost painful to listen to. I stayed in an incredibly abusive relationship for 7 years, praying and putting trust that it would be okay. it was not. our three children and I had to hide out in a safe house for a week, not allowed to leave until he was found clinically and psychologically stable. before all of this, for the last 3 years of the marriage I prayed every day asking if I should leave and if not help me to find a way to help him. for three years I ignored the 'leave now' and kept trying because I was told God does not do divorce. I also don't think he would want me in a relationship that would end up with me dead and his behavior all out on the children. you should not be encouraging people to stay in abusive relationships, there are exceptions
Katrina N I'm very sorry for what you went through. One option that could be considered in similar situations is separation. Give the person some time to be alone and get help. God isn't for divorce, but He's also not for abuse (including the abuse you experienced). The Bible talks about fasting for some time from eachother. So, it could be done as a fast. But all of this is much easier to say than to accomplish.
Cyrus Speaks Iv been fasting from living together for 28 yrs . ..im a 57 yr old woman & not happy but HE the non christian who CLAIMS to beleive in God but no commitment to christ who is 14 yrs older than me is i think not bothered if hes with a woman or not NOW & has not asked for divorce .I feel in BIG IRON CHAINS & partly because hes not in good health now SO dont want to totally be cut off SO that i can help if needed ...
Katrina N Divorce is forgivable he knows your heart you tried to make it work
I am so sorry to hear your painful experience, you can have the assurance that John Piper was not at all talking about abusive relationships. Piper is also friends with known pastor Matt Chandler, who talks a lot about marriage and how he got through the first 5 years of his marriage which were awful years for him, and Matt Chandler said in several sermons that abusive relationships are not acceptable. Matt Chandler got some help from counseling, and eventually he and his wife got through it and are very happy right now. I understand that you would find this message hard to hear, but abusive relationships are another topic and abuse is not acceptable to the Lord.
I'm pretty sure he wasn't talking about abusive or adulterous marriages as those verses are in the Bible as well . He's talking about the ones where one or both parties give up and decide the grass is greener
in other words the "Right person" is a believer in Christ that will share the same values with you which God can use to propel you both towards a fruitful destiny. An unbeliever will always mount spiritual friction in the pattern in which a christian should live.
Amen!!! Well said brother. Thank you, and God bless. I pray all is well with you🙏🏽✝️🛐👑📖🔥🙌🏽
EMEKA MADUSOLUMUO no u missed the message if you married an unbeliever you still stay married because God works
Wow yes
if u marry wrong person u have to seek deliverance from conflict seek salvation not divorce. GOD can be trusted to fix it if you seek him. but dont marry wrong person
That's easy for you to say.
Aman! You are totally right!
Here's more from 1 Corinthians:
“But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.” 1 Corinthians 7:15 KJV
If the unbelieving, or unsaved husband or wife, then becomes unhappy with their saved spouse, he or she is able to divorce the saved spouse without it being a penalty to the saved spouse or his or herself.
A lot of times, an unbelieving spouse will no longer be content with the spouse that gets saved, especially in cases where neither were saved when they got married.
I needed this today in my life as I am srtruggling with my choice. Thanks.
I love this channel! The amount of wisdom is immeasurable!!🥰🥰💃🥰
I think we can have the assurance that John Piper was not at all talking about abusive relationships. Piper is also friends with known pastor Matt Chandler, who talks a lot about marriage and how he got through the first 5 years of his marriage which were awful years for him, and Matt Chandler said in several sermons that abusive relationships are not acceptable. Matt Chandler got some help from counseling, and eventually he and his wife got through it and are very happy right now. Abusive relationships are another topic and abuse is not acceptable to the Lord.
In short, if you’re asking that question after you got married, it’s too late.
Beautiful & Powerfully put . But it’s definitely easier said then done . I think as believers in Christ we have to YES stand on Truth but also walk with people that are going through VERY difficult seasons in there marriage . What about the believing spouse that is fighting and standing for their marriage but the “professing believer “ has abandon the covenant? And has tried to divorce attempts….. and is under spiritual blindness … They want HAPPINESS . That’s not what marriage is ultimately about it’s bout holiness and being conform into Christ image
I think in some ways the church today, and christians in general, make a huge deal about being equals in faith and all sorts of qualifications. I do firmly believe that you should marry a fellow believer but that they have to be on an equal faith level seems to be getting a bit too picky. So now, we have generations of super picky Christian women and some men that aren't getting married because they haven't found the 'PERFECT' half.
Dan L THANK YOU!!!!!! Honest and well said. So many are picky, super spiritual and wonder why they’re still single.
yes bible says whatever God puts together no man can take away. right what God puts together so if u marry someone outside of biblical instruction then your not doing it by God's will but your own. and if you dont go Gods way then yes you will go the WRONG way. so I think its possible to marry the wrong person.
Hate or divorce is a kind of spiritual violation of the other because no one despises their own flesh.
Very well said. Thank you Dr.Piper.
This comment makes me want to drink Dr. Pepper lol
The book - "Decision making and the will of God" by Garry Friesen
Wow, that was simple and awesome!! Thank you Lord Jesus Christ 🙏!
I ....... very much disagree. And when I say "very much" I mean "wholeheartedly."
This actually is quite toxic to people in abusive marriages and the God I worship and serve wouldn't ask someone to stay in a toxic, abusive, poisonous, dangerous, even deadly marriage just because of a piece of paper. God didn't write that paper. Man did. We can argue about this until the cows come home but you will never convince me that "the right person" is the one who abuses and manipulates his or her spouse mentally, emotionally, physically, sexually, and spiritually.
Before anyone says, "Well you made your bed, now lie in it; you shouldn't have married someone like that," that is spoken like someone who was privileged enough to marry a good person first try. Actually this whole DOCTRINE is spoken by people who were privileged enough to marry a good person at the outset, and perfect enough never to have made a mistake.
You're right, but I think what he was sticking to was the scriptural line so people don't take off having affairs and remarrying.
This here is thee TRUE answer to a genuine God established marriage: you both are Christians..male and female" you have been praying for a spouse or husband..you happen to meet a person at church and as you get to know each other.. you ask God for confirmation, if this is the person for you??? God indeed will make it clear..I've seen it happen with my own eyes twice at church,retreat etc..any other way..your on your own!! Divorce rate speaks for itself.
What a word of healing? Good one👍
I love that "look at the name in your marriage certificate". Does somebody know? Does he have that from Voddie Baucham or the other way round or did somebody entirely different bring it up first?
It's " mea culpa " not GOD , I was stuburn, rebellious, doing my will , so got what I deserve, and it's not worse because of His mercy and grace.
Some marriage are not from God. I know someone, the Lord told her five times " no" when she asked God before marrying her husband, but she did it, and now endures an awful life trapped in this marriage God didn't want for her.
Powerful truths from God's Word!
Amen. Unless one is experiencing physical abuse, then leave!
GOD BLESS YOU RICHLY SIR. THIS IS SO APT ❤️🙏
help us Lord to be content and faithful like you taught us to be
I didn't know this before, so what should I do , my marriage( if I can call it that, because he left) because I know the power of words today , I would not dare to right the right adjective ( qualified word) but you all can guess.
That is what I thought you would say. Lol. But we are sooooooooooooo (infinity) different! :)
Thank you Pastor!!!
This is a simplification of a complex topic, but it's essencialy true. For clarifications on specific situations I recommend to all the people with questions here to read "Love must be tough" by James Dobson. Best effort to give guidance on the matter that I know.
Encouraging but a little confusing. he says if your not both christian then your not right for marriage if you aren't already married, but if u did marry the non christian person you have to now consider them as the right person because now God has put y'all together? Even tho God did not permit y'all to be together b4 the marriage because one was not saved? very confusing
psmith AhatHe is saying in essence is this: A Christian is adviced - perhaps instructed even -to "marry in the Lord" (that is, a fellow Christian). But if some person who is a Christian is married to an unbeliever, then the marriage must continue - because God hates divorce, & except on the case of adultery, divorce is not accepted before Him (also on the ground of if an unbelieving spouse just walks out of the marriage) - Some people who are Christian could have as wife/husband a person who is not a Christian, in instances such as, for example, the person was already married to the unbelieving spouse before becoming a Christian. Also, if the Christian was not aware of the instruction to marry only in the Lord before having married.
I hope that helps
In short, open your eyes before you get married. After you get married, half close your eyes
My country the Philippines, I think, is the only nation in the world that doesn't have divorce laws. Annulment - yes we have
Amen brother Piper
Truly blessed
What if I’ve been divorced and remarried. Is that still considered something God joined together.... I didn’t know about not remarrying before.
What if I got divorced twice before I met Christ? Should I do anything to the past?
Eduardo Melo yes like divorce ur present spouse and reconcile to the first
it really depends. I think you should send pastor John your question at askpastorjohn@desiringgod.org
Eduardo Melo please disregard the advice above. Do not divorce your wife. Read 1 Corinthians 7. He talks about marriages before you are a Christian. You are permitted to marry. But now that you know the truth, make your marriage work!
Eduardo Mello You're living in sin sad to say but that is the truth. You're only to divorce if adultery was committed by your partner, if you divorce other wise you were not to remarry, but was to reconcile to your wife. I am speaking from what the bible says. You can also remarry if your partner passed to the grave. I pray that God shed light on you that you understand how strict marriage is to God. Kyle
Even though you entered the marriage in sin, when you gave your life to Christ, the blood of Jesus covered that sin and every other sin and now this marriage you currently are in is a legitimate one (that is if you are currently married). So if you are currently married, make peace with your ex-wives and cleave to your present wife in Christ. But if you are single, ask God for wisdom for what to do with your past wives. It is a bit complicated if you are thinking of going back but ask for God’s counsel in all things and over my advice.
What do I do if my husband has thrown our marriage away & has been committing adultery for the past 5 years? HE is the one who filed for divorce. I have prayed till I can’t anymore. He hates the Lord & he hates me. What am I supposed to do?
Pray for his conversion. Read the first 3 chapters of Hosea. God knows your pain and always has. His people(Gomer) are adulterous and never faithful to him(Hosea)
Let him leave. Why you want to be with a man who filed divorce and already moved on with someone else? You need to work on your self esteem darling.
The handwriting is already on the wall what else do you need God is rescuers you from this man leave him
@@voidedspace5510 that and .99 cent will get you a cup of coffee a kwik trip
Unless they committed adultery.
Amen.
What if your spouse abandons you?
Pray her Back!
While you hopefully pray for your spouse to return, remember you are married to Christ. He is the friend who sticks closer than a brother and he has promised “never will I forsake you”.
Well looks like Me and my wife are going to be doing that from a distance from now on. Different Homes
What if I follow God after I get divorced?
The point is, do you want to follow God right now? If yes, you can't file for divorce. It seems very hard, but if you read your Bible you won't find verses which support to get a divorce, the opposite is the case (Malachi 2:16). Jesus allows only one exception for divorce, for Jews who require a virgin woman as a spouse (Matthew 19:9). This exception has been widened to fit in all the reasons we would like to include. But we Christians forget that marriage is a covenant, not a contract. We should represent our almighty God here on earth, with our marriage. God does not break covenants, neither should we! We shall be holy, for he is holy (1 Peter 1:15). I'm quite sure if you find yourself in the situation thinking seriously about getting a divorce then you did not carefully determine who you marry for a lifetime and you did not listen to God... and I'm very sorry for this! I made the same mistake and me and my boys suffer enormously and have to bear the consequences. My unbelieving husband filed for divorce, and I had to accept it at some point. I hope many (young!) people learn from my bad example and ask God seriously BEFORE they marry someone. Extremely important here is to be able to hear God's voice. Also now in your situation. Blessings to you.
pat PI Sooooo, divorced people are going to hell?
Wow no frills there ha ha yes I agree 100%
what if hes a malignant narcississt?
Pretend he is not and pray like no ones bizness for him. God really does miracles n I have seen some
@@Mumzy1234 Pretend he's not, really? Maybe we can pretend the the skies not blue and see what happens ( probably a better chance of that )? false hope , Maybe you can go live with him and see if a miracle happens.
he made it seem like all marriages that ever existed were purposed by god. what about all the kings who had more than one wife. God didn't want for them to marry more than one spouse.
Exactly meaning they weren't Jehovah's choosing, but man's. Good doesn't cosign choices that go against His will, but we do have free will.
wowww powerful
he gave no direct understanding to the question in the title where it did not contradict itself. ok bible says do not unevenly yoke your self with someone. so if you are in a relationship with someone not saved or even same level of salvation as you then your suppose to not marry them right? but if u marry the person you know is not evenly yoke then you break biblical instruction. the unsaved person lifestyle conflicts with your christian values so you notice their giving you the feeling of wrongfulness from there wrong doing so it make sense for you to ask are they wrong for me. the answer seems to be yes bcuz you were never suppose to marry them
what is a non Christian likes to have a relationship and then you as a Christian also likes him. Then? why can't we be together when both have the same level of understanding as well?
it ia the belief system which is coming inbetween? I don't understand this. sometimes I feel I don't understand how to live? yeah that's true that we have to please God. but what about we liking a non Christian?
It's absolutely a sin to marry an unbeliever. However, such a union would still be considered a valid marriage in God's eyes. Moreover, two wrongs don't make a right. Like any other sin, it should be confessed to the Lord. Then, the believer should pray for the Lord's help to make the marriage work (and that the unbelieving spouse will place their faith in Christ as Savior).
A-men brother.
God grant divorces when the one of the spouses die pass away or commit adultery I wonder if that's because it wasn't a hesitation nor problem in divorce court because the ex husband committed and didn't comprehend that his tongue I meant his infidelity God's grace and mercy
Amen
Not if they are abusive!!!!!!! God also speaks of unequally yoked.
If they are abusive, you live separately.
Marry GOD first , in the sense just seek him .Love for a wife never lasts long , sad but true . A wife who is your best friend lasts forever . Let GOD be your best friend , all of our earthly desires eventually die in AGE. Let GOD be your strength for seeking love and let your wife do the same , thats when GOD brings you closer to him.
Marriage is going fast out of fashion jus like men have been made cheap and expendable
this is absolutely and unbelievably the most ridiculous thing I ever heard so you thought you married the right person and after 1w years of marriage my wife has an affair so you telling me I must stay married to her please explain yourself
12 years
it's very misleading he needs to be more clear about what he is saying
Philip Robinson
I'm in the same boat. But before you let your anger get the better of you, trust me I know the thoughts that have past your mind...consider your worst sins.
Do you need Christ to forgive you? Then think to honor Him by offering the same forgiveness. Remember the parable of the unplayable debt Matthew 18:24. If you require forgiveness you should give forgiveness and who better to extend it to than your own flesh...your wife.
I know it's scarring, and difficult. I'm in the trenches with you. Please show mercy if you require it as well. I, unfortunately, don't have that option as she has left...but if God were to convict her heart and bring her home I would happily receive her and restore her as my Queen. We sin against God, so don't take things too personally. Her mistakes will have to be answered to the most high my friend
Well not in my situation!
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Its amazing how terrible this advise is.