12:01 - hyper vigilance 13:17 - constant scanning 13:56 - change is threatening 15:11 - symptomatic of PTSD 15:35 - overreactions 16:00 - can last decades and lead to avoidance and reclusive behavior
What an intelligent and beautiful man ... ONE OF THE MOST HELPFUL AND PRODUCTIVE MEN IN THE WORLD, working so hard for years and faithfully delivering light and sanity to the most abused people all over the globe. Thank God for this man.
In my opinion, (I am not professional , but managed anxiety for 32 years), anxiety is the result of repressed sadness. When the unconscious represses sadness the result is anxiety. Once the sadness can be brought into consciousness and grieved the anxiety goes away. EMDR therapy is quite good at treating this.
You're the best sam, what a absolute mind blowing personality disorder which I have got to understand because of you. You 100% deserve more recognition. This should be taught at every school in the world it would save so many people for trauma and heartache.
After 35 years of constant anxiety and hypervigilance I am now cured. I realised my mother was a borderline/covert narcissist. My dad abandoned me to her even though we all loved in the same house.
I want to travel abroad to see a woman, my mind though feels like someone poured battery acid on my brain. I've never flown, it also stims from my mother.
I have watched about 4 of your videos today and feel so much better mentally. wow! I would feel horrible around my family member but could not understand why, so I never acted on those feelings. When I began to get some data on narcissism - I then began to observe this person over a coarse of 7 years, comparing their behaviours to others, watching them when they didn't know they were being watched. I then finally made the decision to disconnected. I had too because I had become debilitatingly ill and my health would plummet at their presence. It was a question of survival for me. But yes, I did not simply make the decision based on my gut, I combined gut with knowledge, and when I did go no contact, I felt so much better. I seem to have become hypervigilant which is actually liberating to know, recovering from a man who constantly texted other woman, was never there, gave me no sympathy or emotional support when I was ill for three years, nor help with medical attention or nutrition. Feeling like I am going to die with no one there to help, having to mask my illness was extremely traumatizing. My nervous system finally returned back to normal when I began to get Reiki energy treatments on a daily basis. Before I could not feel normal even when isolated ...now at least I feel calm when isolated so there is an improvement, when I go out sometimes it does retrigger, I then do a Reiki Treatment and feel calm again. I am positive that over time I will heal since this that has been my pattern over the last three years, I struggled to walk at one stage, struggled to breath, emaciated etc etc devastating....but the fact that I have come this far is amazing. This video is actually very very helpful! I do catastrophize especially after my illness and neglect by my ex (yay, he is now my ex) . Just recognizing that I have hypervigilance and that I catastrophize and that I may not be perceiving reality at times is therapeutic.
Mr. Vaknin, I just want to thank you for your channel and your videos. Never have I understood so much of my life until I happened across your channel. I don't know how you seem to connect and understand so much about personality disorders, among other things, but it is a deeper understanding than I have ever seen, and I wish that everyone had the knowledge and understanding that you clearly have.
He himself is a malignant narcissist. That’s where his deep understanding comes from. Same with the women who invented DBT. A therapy method that has high evidence in managing or even curing Borderline personality disorder. It was found that she herself had the disorder.
I am terribly anxious and I can't describe why. It's usually around people lol. I prefer quiet spaces and mornings rather than evenings for getting things done. I'm getting better slowly but this has gone on since 2008. It can be very demoralizing and recently I've been getting rather down. Sucks man and proper annoying because I don't even understand it at all.
In my last 6 months with my narcassist.... i was constantly on edge, to the point that if something fell or there was a loud noise, I'd nearly jump out of my skin! Oh, and my left eye was twitching for nearly 2 months! I used to tell my narc, jokingly, that he was the cause for the twitch. Little did I know... he actually was. 😢😢😢😢😢
Hello Professor Vaknin, this a Revolutionary Approach, mind blowing and eye opening! Thank you for your dedication via this medium! All the Best From Spain
Sitting here with my mind literally on fire and fully aware aware of your arguments. I was infected by my mother, i have bone loss in my jaw bones from gritting teeth, im exhausted and just feel withdrawn constantly because of how she was as a kid. Im almost 39 and rarely see her, im still broken. I been talking to a woman international i rly want to see, im obsessing about the flight im considering taking. Im thinking about telling her i cant come, the stress is so overwhelming of just thinking about the flight id probable end up ruining the experience..
i have severe social anxiety . my mum abused me as a child and i livedin ten foster care homes . I always was preparing myself for either being hit or to be hurt or put down
Usually we say, That's not only a threat, it's a promise! Making the promise worse than just a threat. My hypervigilance includes speech and grammar criticism and self-editing due to my Oxford-edicated mother correcting me.
When I met my ex-husband I felt awful, something was off but having just gotten into the Church of Scientology (CULT - High control group) I was told that it was just my "reactive mind' , that I can't trust my body.
Like oh my god, I was explaining something like that to my much younger sis, who has roughly same problems as I do with anxiety and depression few days before this vid came up in my recommended. Now it actually helped me to explain things better than I could with my own words.
Hello. Question. What about intuition and gut feelings during the time you meet someone when young (teens)? Is intuition and gut feelings still there or do years of experience increase gut feelings? Could this explain why people get stuck in relationships for years only to realize later in years that something is not right through gut feelings and intuition as the first step to analyzing what is wrong with the relationship?
In my demise, I hope the police if they do a proper investigation, find that this is EXACTLY what is happening to me and I was driven further to end my wife’s dog and my own lives because of this, but also believe that something was going on that I could not quite figure out but the signs and gut feelings were too overwhelming to just ignore. I was in some elaborate or planned setup. Just because I am paranoid doesn’t mean they are not someone after me! Or I am more crazy then I thought. They were in my phone and I know it but don’t know if it was police, drug dealers I got mixed up with or both and driven over the edge I have now ended up.
With this point of view, it looks like the concept of a HSP(Highly Sensitive Person) is just an excuse for different forms of anxiety. Is it so or being HSP can be an exception as per the research of Dr Elaine Aron ?
@@samvaknin Thanks for writing ! But how can one absolutely identify being an HSP? Is their any scientifically established diagnosis? If not, what should I choose - to accept various forms of anxiety as an integral inherent part of HSP which one can't overcome due to genetics and try to limit my personality OR to try work towards conquering it with the help of therapy etc ?
Is calmness also contagious? It is probably my fault my son is anxious. If I work on my anxiety and create a calmer home atmosphere will it potentially lessen my son's anxiety.
Is there a known cure for this constant anxiety? Are there any exercises or practices that one can do to lower the severity of it? Or maybe foods that can help?
Exercise: EFT (Emotional Freedon Technique)!!!!!!!..VERY IMPORTANT. Definitely saved me my job. Foods/Herbs: Damiana, Chamomile Thats all you need, also you should create your own EFT
Prof.Vaknin can you please make a video about how to recognise a pedophile? My husband brought a "friend " for a barbecue but my gut feeling was to try to keep him away from my child. How can I know if my gut feeling is right? Thank you.
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“Never ignore a gut feeling, but never believe that it’s enough” - new personal mantra 😇💭💎
12:01 - hyper vigilance
13:17 - constant scanning
13:56 - change is threatening
15:11 - symptomatic of PTSD
15:35 - overreactions
16:00 - can last decades and lead to avoidance and reclusive behavior
What an intelligent and beautiful man ... ONE OF THE MOST HELPFUL AND PRODUCTIVE MEN IN THE WORLD, working so hard for years and faithfully delivering light and sanity to the most abused people all over the globe. Thank God for this man.
In my opinion, (I am not professional , but managed anxiety for 32 years), anxiety is the result of repressed sadness. When the unconscious represses sadness the result is anxiety.
Once the sadness can be brought into consciousness and grieved the anxiety goes away. EMDR therapy is quite good at treating this.
Interesting!
Your 'repressed anxiety' is PTSD \ CPTSD. Good that you 'latched' unto DR EM. PEACE.
Thank you.
@@larryskwarczynski9386 There are different types of anxiety disorders. PTSD/CPTSD is one of them.
mines from abuse not sadness . from actual threat
Hail Vaknin! Best man on this topic, ever. Period.
I am most addicted to watching your content. Your life's work is what I spend my days studying! Thank you!
You're the best sam, what a absolute mind blowing personality disorder which I have got to understand because of you. You 100% deserve more recognition. This should be taught at every school in the world it would save so many people for trauma and heartache.
After 35 years of constant anxiety and hypervigilance I am now cured. I realised my mother was a borderline/covert narcissist. My dad abandoned me to her even though we all loved in the same house.
How were you cured? Mine is driving everyone away from me .
I want to travel abroad to see a woman, my mind though feels like someone poured battery acid on my brain. I've never flown, it also stims from my mother.
I have watched about 4 of your videos today and feel so much better mentally. wow! I would feel horrible around my family member but could not understand why, so I never acted on those feelings. When I began to get some data on narcissism - I then began to observe this person over a coarse of 7 years, comparing their behaviours to others, watching them when they didn't know they were being watched. I then finally made the decision to disconnected. I had too because I had become debilitatingly ill and my health would plummet at their presence. It was a question of survival for me. But yes, I did not simply make the decision based on my gut, I combined gut with knowledge, and when I did go no contact, I felt so much better. I seem to have become hypervigilant which is actually liberating to know, recovering from a man who constantly texted other woman, was never there, gave me no sympathy or emotional support when I was ill for three years, nor help with medical attention or nutrition. Feeling like I am going to die with no one there to help, having to mask my illness was extremely traumatizing. My nervous system finally returned back to normal when I began to get Reiki energy treatments on a daily basis. Before I could not feel normal even when isolated ...now at least I feel calm when isolated so there is an improvement, when I go out sometimes it does retrigger, I then do a Reiki Treatment and feel calm again. I am positive that over time I will heal since this that has been my pattern over the last three years, I struggled to walk at one stage, struggled to breath, emaciated etc etc devastating....but the fact that I have come this far is amazing. This video is actually very very helpful! I do catastrophize especially after my illness and neglect by my ex (yay, he is now my ex) . Just recognizing that I have hypervigilance and that I catastrophize and that I may not be perceiving reality at times is therapeutic.
Mr. Vaknin, I just want to thank you for your channel and your videos. Never have I understood so much of my life until I happened across your channel. I don't know how you seem to connect and understand so much about personality disorders, among other things, but it is a deeper understanding than I have ever seen, and I wish that everyone had the knowledge and understanding that you clearly have.
He himself is a malignant narcissist. That’s where his deep understanding comes from. Same with the women who invented DBT. A therapy method that has high evidence in managing or even curing Borderline personality disorder. It was found that she herself had the disorder.
This man is a balm to the mind and soul. Thank you professor ❤
I can't thank you enough prof Vaknin. You have helped me know myself better, and have a better view of the whole world.
Thanks ❤
I love this guy I can listen to him all day I do listen to him all day he's got a great smooth voice and I love the way he teaches
professor Vaknin, thank you.
I am terribly anxious and I can't describe why. It's usually around people lol. I prefer quiet spaces and mornings rather than evenings for getting things done. I'm getting better slowly but this has gone on since 2008. It can be very demoralizing and recently I've been getting rather down. Sucks man and proper annoying because I don't even understand it at all.
You are definitely not alone...if this helps
EFT........(Emotional Freedom Technique) It helped (past-tense) me. Saved me
In my last 6 months with my narcassist.... i was constantly on edge, to the point that if something fell or there was a loud noise, I'd nearly jump out of my skin! Oh, and my left eye was twitching for nearly 2 months! I used to tell my narc, jokingly, that he was the cause for the twitch. Little did I know... he actually was. 😢😢😢😢😢
+1 for anxiety and intuition as a prompt towards further investigation, stay curious 💯
Amazing knowledge how lucky are we. It’s always a privilege to listen to you 😊
Hello Professor Vaknin, this a Revolutionary Approach, mind blowing and eye opening! Thank you for your dedication via this medium! All the Best From Spain
Wow, I've never thought of my gut feeling as a form of anxiety but it definitely is. Brilliant lecture and hilarious ending 🤩
Sitting here with my mind literally on fire and fully aware aware of your arguments. I was infected by my mother, i have bone loss in my jaw bones from gritting teeth, im exhausted and just feel withdrawn constantly because of how she was as a kid. Im almost 39 and rarely see her, im still broken. I been talking to a woman international i rly want to see, im obsessing about the flight im considering taking. Im thinking about telling her i cant come, the stress is so overwhelming of just thinking about the flight id probable end up ruining the experience..
i have severe social anxiety . my mum abused me as a child and i livedin ten foster care homes . I always was preparing myself for either being hit or to be hurt or put down
This episode hits me hard as hell, and cuts deep. Think that in needed to hear it though.
Thank you.
Usually we say, That's not only a threat, it's a promise! Making the promise worse than just a threat. My hypervigilance includes speech and grammar criticism and self-editing due to my Oxford-edicated mother correcting me.
We 🤍 you Professor!
Wow... This speaks volumes of clarity. Thank you
When I met my ex-husband I felt awful, something was off but having just gotten into the Church of Scientology (CULT - High control group) I was told that it was just my "reactive mind' , that I can't trust my body.
Thank you sam
You are the best.
Hi 👋.
Big like !!!
Like oh my god, I was explaining something like that to my much younger sis, who has roughly same problems as I do with anxiety and depression few days before this vid came up in my recommended. Now it actually helped me to explain things better than I could with my own words.
Some hope for healing???
Class is in. Happy 😊 😃 😀 😄 😁
What can e do about it?
See you later, Dear teacher 🤗😘
Hello. Question. What about intuition and gut feelings during the time you meet someone when young (teens)? Is intuition and gut feelings still there or do years of experience increase gut feelings? Could this explain why people get stuck in relationships for years only to realize later in years that something is not right through gut feelings and intuition as the first step to analyzing what is wrong with the relationship?
Holding my breath .
In my demise, I hope the police if they do a proper investigation, find that this is EXACTLY what is happening to me and I was driven further to end my wife’s dog and my own lives because of this, but also believe that something was going on that I could not quite figure out but the signs and gut feelings were too overwhelming to just ignore. I was in some elaborate or planned setup. Just because I am paranoid doesn’t mean they are not someone after me! Or I am more crazy then I thought. They were in my phone and I know it but don’t know if it was police, drug dealers I got mixed up with or both and driven over the edge I have now ended up.
When I see my X Narricist boyfriend he is so anxious I get nervous around him
With this point of view, it looks like the concept of a HSP(Highly Sensitive Person) is just an excuse for different forms of anxiety.
Is it so or being HSP can be an exception as per the research of Dr Elaine Aron ?
Some people are HSPs, but most definitely not 20% of the population. Not even a tiny fraction of that.
@@samvaknin Thanks for writing !
But how can one absolutely identify being an HSP?
Is their any scientifically established diagnosis?
If not, what should I choose -
to accept various forms of anxiety as an integral inherent part of HSP which one can't overcome due to genetics and try to limit my personality
OR
to try work towards conquering it with the help of therapy etc ?
Is calmness also contagious? It is probably my fault my son is anxious. If I work on my anxiety and create a calmer home atmosphere will it potentially lessen my son's anxiety.
Yes, it will.
@samvaknin thank you.
Hey professor, is the covert borderline"s false self dissolvable with cold therapy?
Yes. But Cold Therapy is counterindicated in all forms of BPD.
Is there a known cure for this constant anxiety? Are there any exercises or practices that one can do to lower the severity of it? Or maybe foods that can help?
Exercise: EFT (Emotional Freedon Technique)!!!!!!!..VERY IMPORTANT. Definitely saved me my job.
Foods/Herbs: Damiana, Chamomile
Thats all you need, also you should create your own EFT
Prof.Vaknin can you please make a video about how to recognise a pedophile? My husband brought a "friend " for a barbecue but my gut feeling was to try to keep him away from my child. How can I know if my gut feeling is right? Thank you.
no to psychopaths and no to shapeshift
Anxiety paralyzes ! SUX
no poison but programming so stop
Any solutions?