Hello Sam. Do you think it would be beneficial for society to make courses related to personality disorders mandatory in high schools and universities? Most people have no knowledge of these topics. Therefore, could such a measure be helpful in protecting themselves from these individuals? What do you think?
So people can weaponized those labels even more? Throwing at each other those terms? (especially teenagers who are so dvmb and even think it’s cool to be a psychopath?). I believe focusing on predatory behavior is wiser than personality disorders. Bc no everybody who has a PD is a predator.
@@AfilhaortodoxaThere is a huge army if armchair psychologists dominating cyberspace. I get close to a headache when my thoughts are interrupted with their ignorance. Education is definitely needed!
I learned from Sam that psychology is theory and not a science. Sam's extensive work in this field has produced an understanding that is not full of holes like all of the others out there. This information would relieve tons of anxiety and avert disastrous, unnecessary abuse. It would cause malignant types also to check their behavior more, to regulate themselves. However this world is driven by a narcissistic force that is naturally compelled to block this information from reaching people. That's why it's so convenient that psychology is not a science but a theory. It allows the education system and the whole world frankly to dismiss it as 'well that's only your take on human behavior'.
The problem would be people falsely labeling others and then that having potential negative impact on peoples lives, unjustly, as a result. It's dangerous for people to think they know too much about these pseudo scientific disorders.
Phenomenal! This tracks incredibly well, Sam, Thank you. You are by far the unchallenged intellect in your fields of expertise, indispensable, a most reliable compass. Always a pleasure to watch & learn, thanks again.
Not really just don't be a smart ass to people you don't know and nothing will happen to you, we don't want trouble with anyone but we wont run from it if we feel you come at us. My mantra is leave me alone and ill leave you alone, don't leave me alone and ill make you regret it or make it so you cant bother me ever again
@@jeskahaley9616 i grew up in foster care since 5-6 years old and was made a ward of the state a 7 my mother was a alco and my dad was a violent career criminal i legit fit every criteria besides hurting animal(I prefer animals over people) not everyone on the internet is lying
@@Kektamusprime Imagine being so pathetic that you feel the need to post unsolicited comments on RUclips telling people how super duper dangerous you are and how nobody better mess with you or else! 🤣🤣🤣 Like come on dude... do you seriously think actual psychopaths go around doing stuff like that? This is just embarrassing. You're a suburbanite shut-in who's so desperately insecure that you literally have to lie yourself about being a psychopath just to make yourself feel a tiny bit better about being an absolute nobody with an uneventful life.
This is a phenomenal video. For me it is not just a textbook description ( don’t even know if there is a book that could do this great of a job as Profesor V. ) but it cements what I already lived with a covert psychopath whom I lived with for 18 years ! For the first 8 years his laziness , parasitic behavior , Superman to other people, altruistic behavior, drove me crazy bc I was trying to figure out what the hell I was dealing with . I deemed him so intelligent- often joke about him having swallowed a dictionary . He knew soooooo much about any subject and his memory was sharp sick !!! I couldn’t understand why he couldn’t get a job. It turned out he preferred to steal / scam people rather than work . Once I figured him out , I couldn’t get rid of him that easily. He had a goal - to USE me for what I could provide; a house to live in , car, tv and everything paid on me. Even though I had no relationship with him for the last ten years he stayed living in my living room and bullied me mentally, emotionally , psychologically, by threatening me with my own personal fears. Things such as he will call the police on me and take me to court if I threw him out or change the lack. It was horrible to feel like I was living with an enemy and I couldn’t escape him.
@@Faberte I never “got away”from him. It was more the other way. He left when I no longer served the purpose of his goal ( to live of me ) and saw that someone else could provide him with sheltering. Parasitic psychopaths have goals too. They are like predators in the jungle searching for a prey that they can suck dry. They will grab you by the neck and won’t let you go until they have accomplished what they want whether that’s to take your money, put you in a position of debt, steal your jewelry, etc, etc. Conclusion, they’ll leave you when they want to ( unless you can make your move quietly, swiftly and with determination, which usually doesn’t happen bc it takes time for the victim to figure out what the hell is happening. In turn the predator has studied you and it’s clear about your fears and your psychological weaknesses which he will use against you. They leave when they are ready- that means when they have secured their next supplier. They are cold and calculated. They are not short tempered as the classic narc. Glad he left, yet looking back I can see how he was using my own fears against me. They are super smart ( at least at catching and securing their victims.)
Right after you were talking about how covert psychopaths would make „wonderful“ gurus an ad for some kind of guru was played. Hilarious. Und ich habe mich über Ihr Deutsch gefreut - „Ersatz“ und „echt“ 😊
Describes a person I knew completely perfectly, If I didn't know any better I would think this is a documentary about his life. The only reason I knew so much about him is because he confessed all of his patterns of action after od'ing and he died soon after. I said it already but this video is unsettlingly accurate.
You are genius. You helped me alot understand what was happening in my relationship. I thank you alot, all my respect. People are you who serve the humanity have to be immortal.
mom was a covert narc and my dad was a overt narc,growing up your a orphan in a insane asylum with a loaded gun at your head,you never knew what was gonna happen.
yeah, those people can be extremely dangerous and toxic for real. They can affect more than you think, it is not only psychological effect but physical. It is because we are affected by our own thoughts and just by thinking such toxic people and behaviors, you can poison yourself in a way. So I would say, clear your thoughts so that your thoughts have no effect from those people (or demon),
This was absolutely pure gold professor Sam Vaknin, Thank you so much for this, Very informative, You're right, Cunning, Scheming, Manipulates, People and group's, Peace, love and respect to you and all, Thank you universe, All glory praise and smiles to the most high :-) :-) :-)
Facade sounds like «fasad» («فساد») in Arabic which essentially means: moral corruption, depravity. So indeed, a covert psychopath is a walking fasad/facade. @synchronis346
That's a great use of the word, but it is a word we took from French; as such, it is one of the stupid spelling English words: facade, or if you want to be proper façade. The thing hanging off of the c is how French indicates it should be pronounced as an s.
Well, as an engineer, I didn't know what hit me with the covert psychopath that hit my life, parading to be a surgeon. I immediately called my niece in college, who is studying sociology, and said to take as many psychology classes in college as you can, focusing on Cluster B!
For me personally this was one of the most informative videos from you ever, Sam. Related to an experience I made. You said that the covert psychopath is not doing well with boredom. Despite him being a slacker. 😂 - My question to that - Would he go into a depressive state under those circumstances? And could you get more information out on that topic in general? It seems the covert psychopath doesn’t find a lot of mentioning in other sources even though I think this is a very interesting personality type to study.
U og on youtube Respect ++ Covert psychopath isn't a real thing Only sam vaknin have that category of a person (wich he seem to base on partially himself and people he knows)
@taqedog3717 *lol thanks. I understand what you mean. Although even if this might just be a concept idea/ theory, I feel its somehow quite an interesting one to explore. I have met people that fulfill the description to a t. I think its important not to stagnate in the exploration of the human psyche. When it comes to that, everything is on a spectrum. Its never just one OR the other. Its always a little bit of this and that.
@@RainCall13 I kno Im pointing out that most of sams videos are yapping bout people he knows or himself (mostly made up characters who are the combination of both) Its not "real"Academic psychology If u searched for research bout covert psychopathy on Google scholar One article shows up Its written by sam vaknin 🤣 I like his vids cause they're personal and non academic
yes! thats my brother! for that i am afraid of him! he has this long term planning and never stops thinking about strategies to earn something. but it helps to understand! thank you!
Professor Vaknin, thank you very much for finding the missing piece of this exacerbating puzzle (my brain also thanks you). I have a fairly extensive background in the mental health field and I can honestly say I have never heard of a “Covert Psychopath”. I appreciate you sharing your knowledge and insight on topics that we are seeing play out in our current society.
I was lost and confused about who I was until I watched this video. It is a perfect model of how I operate; the herculean tasks I lay out for myself, the perpetual depression, the disinterest in others and the world, my sense of isolation and loneliness, shallow relationships and disgraceful inability to achieve financial success. Unfortunately, the only logical conclusion I can reach at this point in time is that I should take my own life.
In reality a psychopath is just a human with higher levels of self control leading 2 inspiring fear in others leading 2 said self isolation stop using your gift for mediocrity and rise 2 the level of maximum operation that your mentality is naturally suited 4
Thanks professor Sam😊 This fits my ex husband. Could you do a video on how to divorce them especially when children are involved Please. Thanks again 👍🏾
You just described me word for word with a couple of exceptions, I don't care about aging or death I think its pathetic how people constantly try to look younger, we are all going to die so deal with it. Also when I do actually work I consider myself a good worker in physical jobs that is like construction for example, but I never actually want to be at any job and if there is nothing to do ill just tell the boss im going where other people will stick around to milk a few more hours of pay or whatever. I also don't really care about belongings but that's probably due to my childhood in foster care(ward of the state at age 7) not owning anything, I'm not a sentimental person. The autism thing is something I've never heard anyone say before but I have said it to myself my two things ive deep dived and committed to are languages and poker. Everything else is spot on. I have zero desire to interact with or be part of the community, doesn't appeal to me in anyway shape or form and the analysis of not being a team player is spot on haha I struggled with it during my time in the military. I would consider myself an extreme Machiavellianism type due to my criminal father purposely shaping me so before I was put in foster care.
The easiest thing to blame the abuser...i never blamed my narcissist parent..i knew i was not triggering this toxic behaviour...i am abused ...should i become toxic to others?no i wouldn't...of course i don't compare myself with my parent who admitted his problem by projecting it to me of course...so i am better than he was ..i dont blame anyone for my struggles to solve my problems..i keep walking
My wordsmith, my contemptuous, moral high ground, paranoid song writer, language learner. Not autistic but had a self described “addictive personality”, who had short bursts of flamboyance but mainly wanted to hide away from social activities. The most intelligent & entitled, the malaligned; he was contemptuous they could not see how special he was. And he kept telling me “I am lazy, I am a lazy person” but I didn’t know what this meant. I sign off, I am one of the many unicorns (there are many more out there than you realise).
Dr Vaknin, I watched countless of your lectures, unfortunately haven't come across an answer to what may look/feel like psychopathy to the bystander but with complete lack of antisocial behaviour and no expression of physical or verbal aggression. Wondering if the dismissive avoidant fit that description and if so would you do a lecture on that, please?
Sounds like the Trinity Killer from Dexter is a covert psychopath. He had that mask of being virtuous through his religion and through helping his community.
Professor... can you please do a (some) target emergency plan advisory video (content) asap PLEASE. I believe im in a spot of bother. Well ive likely been in a unsavoury position for longer than I've cared to admit, for lack of better descriptive... my gut says its getting dire.. ive left 18 yr relationship (14 yrs marriage) sooooo much i cant go into.. im the pinball in pinball wizard. Youve saved lifes... im certain of this. Many thanks 🌷
This sounds most like me. I have always emerged unscathed even from very tense and violent situations. I have been told before that people can sense that I will go further than anyone who messes with me - which is true, if someone harms me I will not hesitate to harm or kill them, or inflict worse psychological punishment on me than they cause. So they stay away from me - even though objectively I am not a hard man (though I look physically fit).
@@theresefleming2054 you have trump derangement syndrome, if you werent so brainwashed by the media you would realize biden is way worse, a career politician
@@samvaknin if you see this as well, I’ve woken up to food in my bed when I know I never had it before or got up out of bed during the night. What would you consider this a sign of? It’s happened more than once
Could you please cover more the topic of romanticizing/faking of mental illness among millennials and gen Z? I've noticed that it has become a source of "attraction" among young people to fake mental illness in order to attract dates/friends and etc, "Hey everyone I'm autistic nice to meet you" type of behavior has become very common especially in social media. It's cringe and sad because it obscures and undermines people with real mental illness who would usually avoid declaring themselves "mentally ill" and instead try to hide their issues.
I believe Sam has covered this, he's said it's become a status symbol. It doesn't make everyone who does it a narcissist, but it certainly correlates to narcissism and the need for attention, acceptance, admiration etc.
This seems to perfectly summarize someone I’m close to couldnt put my finger on it until I heard this but intuitively kept ruminating on psychopath- now it makes sense gosh it’s sad
sir from what you are telling me im also a covert psychopath i realy want some advices from you and ive moved passed the part in my life where i saw the truth with my own eyes.And changed entirely.
I've been married to one 15 years and am trying to get away, what do u suggest i do? He recently held me hostage on a hotel for days because of it. Please, what is the best way to get away from him
It's too bad, because you are not bad and you don't need to blame yourself. This type of mindset is favorite of Narcs so you can easily become their pray as I was.
@@DelphineTheWorstBladeEver I’m almost 50, looking back and n my life now it’s quite obvious to me that I’m different from other ppl, too many fights, I’ve been fired from every job I have, I’ve been single my entire life because I’m scared of my emotions when I’m in love etc etc
@@DelphineTheWorstBladeEver NPD is not something you can ''fix'' during your teenage years. It is a result of severe trauma between the age of 0-3. It is normal to be very narcissistic before age 21-25. It goes away for multiple reasons, part of growing up. You actually just figured that your behavior was shitty and did something to change it. In short you never had NPD.
@@Topsy6892 That sounds more like Borderline. Goes away with age for most. Which would explain why you became self conscious in your late 40s. People with NPD can become self aware too, but its much much rarer and they normally get worst with age.
Thank you Prof. Vaknin so much good information. Can a covert psychopath be also partly covert borderline? What happens when a covert psychopath and a factor one psychopath enter a relationship? Would it be the same dynamics as a covert psychopath and a malignant narcissist? And what about a covert psychopath and another covert psychopath? Thank you very much. I really appreciate all the information you have been giving us on all these wonderful videos.
So, what should someone who suspects that they are psychopathic do? If they've been in treatment for years and still can't trust a single impulse of their own, can't develop or have normal relationships, can't hold down a job or find any medication that seems to help ...what do they do? Can a psycopath ask for help without trying to manipulate another person? I'm serious, is there no intervention?
This might explain alot of these true crime videos especially those may involve spouses that someone can be married to someone for 20 30 40 50 years then suddenly they snap leaving the other spouse usually its the wife to be frank on the receiving end of aggression and/or dead. And the family always say "We never thought him to be that way, I never thought..." 😬
Wow. So would you say that a hypochondriac person who is blackmailing with suicide is not really suicidal? He is taking his health more seriously than his next meal. Could it all be just a blackmail then?
Do you believe BPD can transform to covert psychopathy? Apparently there are lectures that overt psychopathy is inherited or aquired during trauma, damage to the part of brain responsible for empathy. Is that the case with covert one? Or does covert can acquire the possibility through life?
Hello, Professor Vaknin, I am very interested in your insights regarding the profile of the covert psychopath. Could you please share how you developed this profile? Additionally, are there any sources, studies, or literature beyond your videos where I can learn more about this concept? I would appreciate any recommendations you have for deepening my understanding of this topic. Thank you for your time and valuable contributions to this field
Can a covert psychopath become a workaholic small business owner, in the context of having built up the company by himself. Never been to school, but it all being self assigned? Since you say that they are either slackers or that they get to states where they obsess and self study. But are they able to maintain this drive for decades if it works out for them and it get them the status and money they want?
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Hello Sam. Do you think it would be beneficial for society to make courses related to personality disorders mandatory in high schools and universities? Most people have no knowledge of these topics. Therefore, could such a measure be helpful in protecting themselves from these individuals? What do you think?
Yes.
So people can weaponized those labels even more? Throwing at each other those terms? (especially teenagers who are so dvmb and even think it’s cool to be a psychopath?). I believe focusing on predatory behavior is wiser than personality disorders. Bc no everybody who has a PD is a predator.
@@AfilhaortodoxaThere is a huge army if armchair psychologists dominating cyberspace. I get close to a headache when my thoughts are interrupted with their ignorance. Education is definitely needed!
I learned from Sam that psychology is theory and not a science. Sam's extensive work in this field has produced an understanding that is not full of holes like all of the others out there. This information would relieve tons of anxiety and avert disastrous, unnecessary abuse. It would cause malignant types also to check their behavior more, to regulate themselves. However this world is driven by a narcissistic force that is naturally compelled to block this information from reaching people. That's why it's so convenient that psychology is not a science but a theory. It allows the education system and the whole world frankly to dismiss it as 'well that's only your take on human behavior'.
The problem would be people falsely labeling others and then that having potential negative impact on peoples lives, unjustly, as a result. It's dangerous for people to think they know too much about these pseudo scientific disorders.
Phenomenal! This tracks incredibly well, Sam, Thank you. You are by far the unchallenged intellect in your fields of expertise, indispensable, a most reliable compass. Always a pleasure to watch & learn, thanks again.
The portrait of a covert psychopath you’ve described is so accurate it’s horrifying, but very, very helpful. Thank you, Professor.
Not really just don't be a smart ass to people you don't know and nothing will happen to you, we don't want trouble with anyone but we wont run from it if we feel you come at us. My mantra is leave me alone and ill leave you alone, don't leave me alone and ill make you regret it or make it so you cant bother me ever again
@@Kektamusprimeyou’re prob not a psychopath
@@jeskahaley9616 i grew up in foster care since 5-6 years old and was made a ward of the state a 7 my mother was a alco and my dad was a violent career criminal i legit fit every criteria besides hurting animal(I prefer animals over people) not everyone on the internet is lying
@@Kektamusprime Imagine being so pathetic that you feel the need to post unsolicited comments on RUclips telling people how super duper dangerous you are and how nobody better mess with you or else! 🤣🤣🤣 Like come on dude... do you seriously think actual psychopaths go around doing stuff like that? This is just embarrassing. You're a suburbanite shut-in who's so desperately insecure that you literally have to lie yourself about being a psychopath just to make yourself feel a tiny bit better about being an absolute nobody with an uneventful life.
😮
This is a phenomenal video. For me it is not just a textbook description ( don’t even know if there is a book that could do this great of a job as Profesor V. ) but it cements what I already lived with a covert psychopath whom I lived with for 18 years ! For the first 8 years his laziness , parasitic behavior , Superman to other people, altruistic behavior, drove me crazy bc I was trying to figure out what the hell I was dealing with . I deemed him so intelligent- often joke about him having swallowed a dictionary . He knew soooooo much about any subject and his memory was sharp sick !!! I couldn’t understand why he couldn’t get a job. It turned out he preferred to steal / scam people rather than work . Once I figured him out , I couldn’t get rid of him that easily. He had a goal - to USE me for what I could provide; a house to live in , car, tv and everything paid on me. Even though I had no relationship with him for the last ten years he stayed living in my living room and bullied me mentally, emotionally , psychologically, by threatening me with my own personal fears. Things such as he will call the police on me and take me to court if I threw him out or change the lack. It was horrible to feel like I was living with an enemy and I couldn’t escape him.
Dear God. I'm glad it finally came to an end and I pray that you're enjoying life now💖🌱💖
Highly parasitic
How'd you finally get away from him?
@@Faberte I never “got away”from him. It was more the other way. He left when I no longer served the purpose of his goal ( to live of me ) and saw that someone else could provide him with sheltering.
Parasitic psychopaths have goals too. They are like predators in the jungle searching for a prey that they can suck dry. They will grab you by the neck and won’t let you go until they have accomplished what they want whether that’s to take your money, put you in a position of debt, steal your jewelry, etc, etc.
Conclusion, they’ll leave you when they want to ( unless you can make your move quietly, swiftly and with determination, which usually doesn’t happen bc it takes time for the victim to figure out what the hell is happening. In turn the predator has studied you and it’s clear about your fears and your psychological weaknesses which he will use against you.
They leave when they are ready- that means when they have secured their next supplier. They are cold and calculated.
They are not short tempered as the classic narc.
Glad he left, yet looking back I can see how he was using my own fears against me. They are super smart ( at least at catching and securing their victims.)
Bartleby be like
Thank you for all your videos. They're saving my life.🎉❤
more videos please on malignant narcissist/ psycopaths. love this :)
Watch the malignant narcissist playlist.
I read your book, you are a very smart person, amazing writing and amazing vocabulary
Right after you were talking about how covert psychopaths would make „wonderful“ gurus an ad for some kind of guru was played. Hilarious.
Und ich habe mich über Ihr Deutsch gefreut - „Ersatz“ und „echt“ 😊
Describes a person I knew completely perfectly, If I didn't know any better I would think this is a documentary about his life. The only reason I knew so much about him is because he confessed all of his patterns of action after od'ing and he died soon after. I said it already but this video is unsettlingly accurate.
I've been trying to understand my ex fiancé but nothing really totally fit until THIS! Thank you.
Don't diagnose, your diagnosis of him is skewed by emotions
@@NegativeKaball If they know THEY KNOW!!!!
@@rebeccagutierrez8170 that's very scientific of you
@rebeccagutierrez8170 no?
Thank you Prof. Vaknin for the amazing insights you give us.
OMGOODNESS 🙀
You really hit the nail on the head here ... Well Done, you are a pioneer in this field 👌🖤🙏
Ohhhh, love the topic, instant like and watch 🎉🎉🍸🍿
I am a nun and you are perfectly describing someone I know
You are genius. You helped me alot understand what was happening in my relationship. I thank you alot, all my respect. People are you who serve the humanity have to be immortal.
Thank you for the fascinating content and I always enjoy your wicked sense of humor.
Very interesting, thanks Sam. Looking forward to more on this topic.
This was incredible. Great video Sam!
My step-father is just like this. It's chilling.
My mother has NPD and he 'fed' her needs.
Awful behaviour and that's all I grew up with.
mom was a covert narc and my dad was a overt narc,growing up your a orphan in a insane asylum with a loaded gun at your head,you never knew what was gonna happen.
With all the neglect , you raised yourself.
I did. It was dreadful.
yeah, those people can be extremely dangerous and toxic for real. They can affect more than you think, it is not only psychological effect but physical. It is because we are affected by our own thoughts and just by thinking such toxic people and behaviors, you can poison yourself in a way. So I would say, clear your thoughts so that your thoughts have no effect from those people (or demon),
Please more on how covert psychopaths treat their intimate partners!
I highly recommend the book “Woman that love psychopath” from Sandra Brown
This was absolutely pure gold professor Sam Vaknin, Thank you so much for this, Very informative, You're right, Cunning, Scheming, Manipulates, People and group's, Peace, love and respect to you and all, Thank you universe, All glory praise and smiles to the most high :-) :-) :-)
so spot on, I could recognize the psychopath narcissist immediately from your analysis
" A walking , talking , living fasad " .
👆 .
Facade sounds like «fasad» («فساد») in Arabic which essentially means: moral corruption, depravity.
So indeed, a covert psychopath is a walking fasad/facade. @synchronis346
That's a great use of the word, but it is a word we took from French; as such, it is one of the stupid spelling English words: facade, or if you want to be proper façade. The thing hanging off of the c is how French indicates it should be pronounced as an s.
"facade"
facade, also 49:32 lmao
Wonderful lesson, thanks Doc, also, we love to hear your laugh ☺️
Well, as an engineer, I didn't know what hit me with the covert psychopath that hit my life, parading to be a surgeon. I immediately called my niece in college, who is studying sociology, and said to take as many psychology classes in college as you can, focusing on Cluster B!
This description fits me almost perfectly.
😂
For me personally this was one of the most informative videos from you ever, Sam. Related to an experience I made. You said that the covert psychopath is not doing well with boredom. Despite him being a slacker. 😂 - My question to that - Would he go into a depressive state under those circumstances? And could you get more information out on that topic in general? It seems the covert psychopath doesn’t find a lot of mentioning in other sources even though I think this is a very interesting personality type to study.
U og on youtube
Respect ++
Covert psychopath isn't a real thing
Only sam vaknin have that category of a person (wich he seem to base on partially himself and people he knows)
@taqedog3717 *lol thanks.
I understand what you mean. Although even if this might just be a concept idea/ theory, I feel its somehow quite an interesting one to explore.
I have met people that fulfill the description to a t. I think its important not to stagnate in the exploration of the human psyche. When it comes to that, everything is on a spectrum. Its never just one OR the other. Its always a little bit of this and that.
@@RainCall13
I kno
Im pointing out that most of sams videos are yapping bout people he knows or himself (mostly made up characters who are the combination of both)
Its not "real"Academic psychology
If u searched for research bout covert psychopathy on Google scholar
One article shows up
Its written by sam vaknin 🤣
I like his vids cause they're personal and non academic
Thank you for videos, Sam!
yes! thats my brother! for that i am afraid of him! he has this long term planning and never stops thinking about strategies to earn something.
but it helps to understand! thank you!
תודה רבה לך פרופסור🫱🏽🫲🏼🏆 התכנים שאתה דואג להעלות
מאוד מאוד עוזרים ובעלי ידע מוערך ומעניין
first time hearing about alloplastic and autoplastic defense mechanisms. thanks
This is so good and helpful to me in understanding some traumatic experiences. 🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯
I learned soooo much from you. Thank you for your service and help ❤
Great video Sam! It would also be nice to have even more videos on the covert borderline and covert narcissist!
Watch the playlists for both.
This sounds like me, thank you now I understand why I am the way I am.
Professor Vaknin, thank you very much for finding the missing piece of this exacerbating puzzle (my brain also thanks you).
I have a fairly extensive background in the mental health field and I can honestly say I have never heard of a “Covert Psychopath”.
I appreciate you sharing your knowledge and insight on topics that we are seeing play out in our current society.
This was amazing. I dated this person for eight months. This is him to a tea.
Have to admit he fooled me pretty well 😅
Ok this video is so on point I believe I work with one of these humans.
The laugh in the beginning🤣
I was lost and confused about who I was until I watched this video. It is a perfect model of how I operate; the herculean tasks I lay out for myself, the perpetual depression, the disinterest in others and the world, my sense of isolation and loneliness, shallow relationships and disgraceful inability to achieve financial success. Unfortunately, the only logical conclusion I can reach at this point in time is that I should take my own life.
No, don't commit suicide. Call out to God, and He will answer you.
you also wouldnt get lonely
you seem like a fine person.
In reality a psychopath is just a human with higher levels of self control leading 2 inspiring fear in others leading 2 said self isolation stop using your gift for mediocrity and rise 2 the level of maximum operation that your mentality is naturally suited 4
Extremely informative and so helpful- thanks
You caught me. I suspected psychopathy for a month or so but not to this degree of accuracy, amazing!
Thanks professor Sam😊 This fits my ex husband. Could you do a video on how to divorce them especially when children are involved Please. Thanks again 👍🏾
Thank you. You described my father perfectly. Helps me understand what was previously unexplainable.
So helpfull! Thank you, Mr. Vaknin.
Can you have BPD and covert psychopathy?
Yes.
You just described me word for word with a couple of exceptions, I don't care about aging or death I think its pathetic how people constantly try to look younger, we are all going to die so deal with it. Also when I do actually work I consider myself a good worker in physical jobs that is like construction for example, but I never actually want to be at any job and if there is nothing to do ill just tell the boss im going where other people will stick around to milk a few more hours of pay or whatever. I also don't really care about belongings but that's probably due to my childhood in foster care(ward of the state at age 7) not owning anything, I'm not a sentimental person. The autism thing is something I've never heard anyone say before but I have said it to myself my two things ive deep dived and committed to are languages and poker. Everything else is spot on. I have zero desire to interact with or be part of the community, doesn't appeal to me in anyway shape or form and the analysis of not being a team player is spot on haha I struggled with it during my time in the military. I would consider myself an extreme Machiavellianism type due to my criminal father purposely shaping me so before I was put in foster care.
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Thank you Sam for your wisdom 😊❤
Excellent
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More of this please! There are so few videos on covert psychopathy.
None. I am the first to suggest the diagnosis.
I feel he is in our mind and telling us how this thing is working how accurately amazing
Ah, M'Droogs, I recognize the eyes & smile, of that face on the "thumbnail"! 🤗
The easiest thing to blame the abuser...i never blamed my narcissist parent..i knew i was not triggering this toxic behaviour...i am abused ...should i become toxic to others?no i wouldn't...of course i don't compare myself with my parent who admitted his problem by projecting it to me of course...so i am better than he was ..i dont blame anyone for my struggles to solve my problems..i keep walking
My wordsmith, my contemptuous, moral high ground, paranoid song writer, language learner. Not autistic but had a self described “addictive personality”, who had short bursts of flamboyance but mainly wanted to hide away from social activities. The most intelligent & entitled, the malaligned; he was contemptuous they could not see how special he was. And he kept telling me “I am lazy, I am a lazy person” but I didn’t know what this meant. I sign off, I am one of the many unicorns (there are many more out there than you realise).
This sounds like we got to know the same person. *lol
Frustration converts aggression externalized to others.
Not “converts”, but “becomes”, is “converted to”.
Thank You so much for this movie!
Are You planning to do more videos about covert psychopaths?
Yes.
😮 I feel intimately roasted. What do I do if this is me?
Dr Vaknin, I watched countless of your lectures, unfortunately haven't come across an answer to what may look/feel like psychopathy to the bystander but with complete lack of antisocial behaviour and no expression of physical or verbal aggression. Wondering if the dismissive avoidant fit that description and if so would you do a lecture on that, please?
Search the channel.
Sounds like the Trinity Killer from Dexter is a covert psychopath. He had that mask of being virtuous through his religion and through helping his community.
Tks Professor!
Please make more content on this subject. Not enough information out there. Please
I dated this dude...for way too long. It was just like a cult. Also, when police got called, I was the one who got in trouble. 😬
Yep they protect the psychos
I think of Dexter. The textbook covert psychopath
Professor... can you please do a (some) target emergency plan advisory video (content) asap PLEASE.
I believe im in a spot of bother. Well ive likely been in a unsavoury position for longer than I've cared to admit, for lack of better descriptive... my gut says its getting dire.. ive left 18 yr relationship (14 yrs marriage) sooooo much i cant go into.. im the pinball in pinball wizard.
Youve saved lifes... im certain of this.
Many thanks 🌷
Search the abuse playlist.
ive never felt more understood
Brilliant
This sounds most like me. I have always emerged unscathed even from very tense and violent situations. I have been told before that people can sense that I will go further than anyone who messes with me - which is true, if someone harms me I will not hesitate to harm or kill them, or inflict worse psychological punishment on me than they cause. So they stay away from me - even though objectively I am not a hard man (though I look physically fit).
And so be it, im exactly the same, this video describes me perfectly
Sounds like Trump.
@@theresefleming2054 you have trump derangement syndrome, if you werent so brainwashed by the media you would realize biden is way worse, a career politician
Everything you describe is to the T. 100 percent accurate. I just dont understand how they are unaware that they fit the profile.
I gave my soul to dark dispare, to myself became an enemy.
What's the cure for this? Asking for a friend
absolutely terrifying
Is coughing, hacking your lungs, or creating noise for disturbance a sign of psychopathy? The person tends to deliberately do so.
Passive-aggression. Search the comorbidities playlist.
@@samvaknin if you see this as well, I’ve woken up to food in my bed when I know I never had it before or got up out of bed during the night. What would you consider this a sign of? It’s happened more than once
Brilliant👏👏👏
Amazing talk👏
Is it possible to posses traits of this but not full pathology?
Yes.
Could you please cover more the topic of romanticizing/faking of mental illness among millennials and gen Z? I've noticed that it has become a source of "attraction" among young people to fake mental illness in order to attract dates/friends and etc, "Hey everyone I'm autistic nice to meet you" type of behavior has become very common especially in social media.
It's cringe and sad because it obscures and undermines people with real mental illness who would usually avoid declaring themselves "mentally ill" and instead try to hide their issues.
I agree! This has been on the rise for a while now.
I believe Sam has covered this, he's said it's become a status symbol. It doesn't make everyone who does it a narcissist, but it certainly correlates to narcissism and the need for attention, acceptance, admiration etc.
Watch the video on therapy speak.
Yes!!
lmao ur autistic
I am reading about NPD after my ex discarded me 4 years back . Today I found a real knowledge about who he was. 100% accurate.
This seems to perfectly summarize someone I’m close to
couldnt put my finger on it until I heard this but intuitively kept ruminating on psychopath- now it makes sense
gosh it’s sad
sir from what you are telling me im also a covert psychopath i realy want some advices from you and ive moved passed the part in my life where i saw the truth with my own eyes.And changed entirely.
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I've been married to one 15 years and am trying to get away, what do u suggest i do? He recently held me hostage on a hotel for days because of it. Please, what is the best way to get away from him
Where do u live , can't ya call the police
Got borderline personality disorder and i met a phycopath... 😢
But I never blame anyone else but me I say I’m sorry all the time
It's too bad, because you are not bad and you don't need to blame yourself. This type of mindset is favorite of Narcs so you can easily become their pray as I was.
Professor Sam, how will you describe a relationship between a covert psychopath man and a borderline woman
I’m just realizing looking back on my life I had NpD
@@DelphineTheWorstBladeEver I’m almost 50, looking back and n my life now it’s quite obvious to me that I’m different from other ppl, too many fights, I’ve been fired from every job I have, I’ve been single my entire life because I’m scared of my emotions when I’m in love etc etc
I’ve had a tortured heart
I don’t handle pretty privilege for girls either if they abuse their privilege I will make them regret the day
@@DelphineTheWorstBladeEver NPD is not something you can ''fix'' during your teenage years. It is a result of severe trauma between the age of 0-3. It is normal to be very
narcissistic before age 21-25. It goes away for multiple reasons, part of growing up. You actually just figured that your behavior was shitty and did something to change it. In short you never had NPD.
@@Topsy6892 That sounds more like Borderline. Goes away with age for most. Which would explain why you became self conscious in your late 40s. People with NPD can become self aware too, but its much much rarer and they normally get worst with age.
Is there any way to stop a psychopath stalker who is entitled and grandiose?
I used to know one. Fits everything you said!! Seemed normal very flat affect but he finally tried to kill me.
Glad you made it out alive, stay safe
Thank you Prof. Vaknin so much good information.
Can a covert psychopath be also partly covert borderline?
What happens when a covert psychopath and a factor one psychopath enter a relationship?
Would it be the same dynamics as a covert psychopath and a malignant narcissist?
And what about a covert psychopath and another covert psychopath?
Thank you very much. I really appreciate all the information you have been giving us on all these wonderful videos.
My therapist belives my ex has displayed ASPD tendencies. I never hear anyone talk about ASPD. Is this the same as psychopath?
Yes. Psychopath is not a recognized diagnosis. It is simply an extreme form of AsPD. Search the comorbidities playlist.
So, what should someone who suspects that they are psychopathic do? If they've been in treatment for years and still can't trust a single impulse of their own, can't develop or have normal relationships, can't hold down a job or find any medication that seems to help ...what do they do? Can a psycopath ask for help without trying to manipulate another person? I'm serious, is there no intervention?
True psychopathy is untreatable. But make sure that you are diagnosed properly by an experienced, qualified, and trained clinician.
Can primary psychopath become Covert Psychopath over time?
Yes. And back. No type constancy.
This might explain alot of these true crime videos especially those may involve spouses that someone can be married to someone for 20 30 40 50 years then suddenly they snap leaving the other spouse usually its the wife to be frank on the receiving end of aggression and/or dead. And the family always say "We never thought him to be that way, I never thought..." 😬
Would you say that the covert psychopath then lives in an idealistic illusion?..
No. Psychopaths can tell the difference between reality and fantasy.
Wow. So would you say that a hypochondriac person who is blackmailing with suicide is not really suicidal? He is taking his health more seriously than his next meal. Could it all be just a blackmail then?
Do you believe BPD can transform to covert psychopathy? Apparently there are lectures that overt psychopathy is inherited or aquired during trauma, damage to the part of brain responsible for empathy. Is that the case with covert one? Or does covert can acquire the possibility through life?
Watch the antisocial playlist.
Hello, Professor Vaknin,
I am very interested in your insights regarding the profile of the covert psychopath. Could you please share how you developed this profile? Additionally, are there any sources, studies, or literature beyond your videos where I can learn more about this concept? I would appreciate any recommendations you have for deepening my understanding of this topic.
Thank you for your time and valuable contributions to this field
I will be adding info in the future. In the meantime, watch the video about the New Psychopath.
This exactly my ex husband , phenomenal information.
Thanks for the relavant information in this video. Can a patient like this be helped in psychotherapy and if so what would be the basic strategy?
No. Psychopathy of all kinds is untreatable.
Can a covert psychopath become a workaholic small business owner, in the context of having built up the company by himself. Never been to school, but it all being self assigned?
Since you say that they are either slackers or that they get to states where they obsess and self study. But are they able to maintain this drive for decades if it works out for them and it get them the status and money they want?
No.
This helps