How to Deal with Toxic Coworkers

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  • Опубликовано: 26 дек 2024

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  • @AdrianaGirdler
    @AdrianaGirdler  3 года назад +4

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  • @bluejay6184
    @bluejay6184 3 года назад +32

    Workplace bullies are at another level of toxicity - whatever you say or do will be held against you. If managers are not willing to put a stop to it, the suffering will go on forever.

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  3 года назад +3

      Hi, Joan. I completely agree that bullying has no place in the workplace or anywhere for that matter. I hope this video was helpful. Thank you for watching and commenting. Cheers!

    • @Henryz90
      @Henryz90 Месяц назад

      Person just has really bad psychological problems if you need to bully someone 😢😢

  • @kvs7876
    @kvs7876 Год назад +13

    I have no compassion for a toxic coworker. They know what they’re doing.

  • @twylakayrizaldo3275
    @twylakayrizaldo3275 3 года назад +11

    Very informative. 👍🏻
    1. Set border;
    2. Avoidance at all cost;
    3. Don’t share personal information;
    4. Have a conversation; &
    5. Avoid complaining.

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  3 года назад

      Thanks for watching, Twyla. Do you have any other tips that would help deal with a toxic coworker, would love to hear them if you do! Cheers!

  • @RachelSmets
    @RachelSmets 3 года назад +10

    Such an important topic and luckily I don't deal with this, but I work with people who want to quit their job because of the toxic people around them.

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  3 года назад +1

      Hi Rachel. It really is terrible when it gets so bad that people want to quit their job due to toxic people. Wish those that you know the best of luck. Thanks for watching, and glad you don't need to deal with this. As always thank you for your continued support. Cheers!

    • @rachelgalvan7646
      @rachelgalvan7646 3 года назад

      Lucky you! Seriously

  • @laurenbelayneh
    @laurenbelayneh 3 года назад +8

    Amazing tips. Dealing with toxic coworkers is never fun. I've definitely had some of these issues at past workplaces and I wish I'd had these tips to help me know how to deal with difficult people at work!

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  3 года назад

      Hopefully you were able to handle those past issues with toxic coworkers. It never is fun that’s for sure. Hopefully you never have to deal with that again but if you do then I hope these tips help. Thanks for watching, cheers!

  • @NadalieBardo
    @NadalieBardo 3 года назад +7

    Ugh, toxic coworkers (and people) are the worst! This is why I am so happy I am self-employed. But, when you need to work with them, your tips are honestly mind-saving!

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  3 года назад +1

      Hi Nadalie. It can definitely make the days at work difficult when you have to deal with toxic coworkers. I know you are self-employed but has there ever been a time that you have worked at a company and have had to deal with toxic situations? Thanks for watching, cheers!

    • @NadalieBardo
      @NadalieBardo 3 года назад

      @@AdrianaGirdler thankfully, I've avoided this since I spent a lot of time in grad school, then only worked maybe 2 years before realizing it wasn't for me. Toxic professors? Oh wow, we could talk about that for days.

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  3 года назад

      I am so glad that you were able to avoid toxic people in the work place, but toxic profs is a completely different ball game I’m sure!

  • @CliffordStarks1
    @CliffordStarks1 3 года назад +3

    Amen to boundaries, no point in bringing unnecessary toxicity in your life. Blessings and keep being great 🙏

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  3 года назад

      Hi Clifford, hope you are keeping well! Sometimes it can be hard to set those boundaries but worth it to keep toxic coworkers at bay. Thanks for watching, cheers!

  • @theleadershipgardener
    @theleadershipgardener 3 года назад +3

    I really appreciate how thorough you are, a joy to watch!

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  3 года назад +1

      Hi Ted. Thanks for watching and stopping by. Comments like yours really put a smile on my face knowing that I am helping others! Hope you have a wonderful day, cheers!

  • @rachelgalvan7646
    @rachelgalvan7646 3 года назад +3

    As an office manager I asked the coworker/employe if we needed to talk. She responded that it had to do with personal at home. I then said leave home at home. She was being very rude and short. The next day she walks in as if her behavior was ok. She acts as if every one owes her and the more you tell her not to do something the more she does it. Not to mention always late. 🤷🏼‍♀️

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  3 года назад +2

      As a manager I am sure this is difficult for you to deal with, including the impact it has on the rest of the staff. At my office I have a sign on the door that reminds all of us to leave issues at the door before entering the office that will have a negative impact on the rest of the team. It’s something we all respect, because we all respect each other. I hope that at some point this employee changes her tune. Thanks for watching and for sharing. Cheers!

    • @rachelgalvan7646
      @rachelgalvan7646 3 года назад

      @@AdrianaGirdler Thank you for the positive response.

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  3 года назад

      You’re most welcome. Wishing you all the best, cheers!

    • @JustMe-ob3nw
      @JustMe-ob3nw 3 года назад +1

      @@rachelgalvan7646 why don’t you escalate the situation and get this person fired? You are acting as the manager in my work place who is terrified of a bully in our team 🤷🏻‍♀️ dont do that - you might have the power to make lots of other people’s lives and your own easier by just eliminating this person

    • @rachelgalvan7646
      @rachelgalvan7646 3 года назад +1

      @@JustMe-ob3nw Believe me if it was up to me, she would’ve been gone along time ago. It may have to be me that has to move on, it’s just a toxic environment all the way around. I have gone to the main boss several times, she just has an excuse for the bad behavior every time I go to her. 🤷🏼‍♀️

  • @simonaco1446
    @simonaco1446 3 года назад +3

    Fantastic tips, Adriana! I've definitely struggled with that in the past, especially in one of my corporate jobs.

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  3 года назад

      Thanks, Simona. Sorry to hear that you have had to deal with this in the past. How did you handle the situation? As always, thanks for watching. Cheers!

  • @paranormalchannelkarinamar7000
    @paranormalchannelkarinamar7000 Год назад +1

    I am going back to work next week wish me luck

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Год назад

      You've got this! Wishing you all the best on your return to work. Hope your first day and those to follow are amazing. Cheers!

  • @juneflowers5056
    @juneflowers5056 Месяц назад

    It's happened to me in several workplaces and it has mainly taken the form of female coworkers/ work 'friends' trying to isolate me or try and embarrass me in front of others. I now realise that yes, these are hurt people who are miserable but being an empathetic people pleaser hasn't helped so I know I need to work on myself too, on my confidence (what has been left of it) after someone who I thought was a workplace 'friend' could finally act on her feelings of resentment towards me when she became my manager. I now know after all these years, I need to stay away from miserable gossipy people and choose the coworkers I want to be around wisely and move on if I have manager like that.

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Месяц назад +1

      Thank you for watching and taking the time to share your experiences. Wishing you all the best as you more forward. Cheers!

    • @juneflowers5056
      @juneflowers5056 Месяц назад

      @AdrianaGirdler Could you please suggest advice if it's your manager who is behaving like this, it's harder to avoid a manager who insists on venting to you, gossiping and complaining about colleagues to you and as I couldn't find another job for 6 months, I felt I had no choice but to put up with it and it seriously dented my confidence and self esteem.

  • @jwhite5396
    @jwhite5396 2 года назад +2

    I work with a toxic insulting nurse. She let her house go into foreclosure, so I think she feels powerless. She can turn anything into a power struggle. We work in silence so we don’t have to deal with her comments. The doctors quietly agree with us and thank us for dealing with her, but do nothing to hasten her retirement.

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  2 года назад

      I’m sorry to hear this. Wishing you all the best and thanks for watching. Cheers.

  • @heathercunningham4824
    @heathercunningham4824 3 года назад +1

    Great advice and tips on dealing with toxic co-workers.

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  3 года назад

      Thanks so much, Heather. Do you have any other tips or advice to share on dealing with toxic co-workers? Would love to hear. Cheers!

    • @tammydunnettleadership
      @tammydunnettleadership 3 года назад +1

      toxic coworkers are draining and they consume a lot of time if we don't set boundaries around them - and even then, it is not always easy to keep those boundaries.

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  3 года назад

      I agree, it's not always easy to keep those boundaries, but important to do you best so that your time is not consumed by toxic coworkers.

  • @tammydunnettleadership
    @tammydunnettleadership 3 года назад +1

    Ha! I used to hang a sign on the back of my seat because we worked in a cubicle office - no official walls - and it worked really well as people would see it and just keep moving! So for those who don't have an office with a door - put a sign on your chair that you are doing focused work :)

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  3 года назад

      Hi Tammy! Thanks for sharing that great idea! Doing things like these is a not only a great way to stay focused since there are fewer interruptions but helps to deter a toxic coworker from striking up an unfavorable conversation. Thanks for watching, cheers!

  • @careerlifecoachskillsfacil4535
    @careerlifecoachskillsfacil4535 8 месяцев назад +1

    The problem here is that you didn't define (Toxic co workers) Unfortunately the internet is flooded with this word and the results are that employees and social media is tagging people with labels without even truly knowing the definition or true characteristic of a Toxic person. It's very sad to see that coaches are also to blame for this phenomenon.

  • @curlyju
    @curlyju Год назад

    Amazing tips! Thank you!

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Год назад

      You're so welcome! Thanks for watching, cheers!

  • @taylorbrown7625
    @taylorbrown7625 2 месяца назад

    The toxic coworker I have, if I explain to her what is bothering me, she says I'm attacking her. Then repeats what I have shared back at me to gaslight me into thinking she's not being toxic.
    So I'm going to not have any conversation with her about what I notice she's doing. I just pretend like I have no idea what she's talking about.
    I also when she says I know you said you wanted x
    I turn it back on her.
    I don't care. If you want to do x, then go ahead and do it. If you want me to do x, then I'll do it.
    Then she said, well I don't want to do x, because of y.
    But in the future I think I'll just shrug and walk away.

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  Месяц назад

      Sometimes walking away is the best way to deal with people like this. Hope things get better for you.

  • @JakeWilson-w7m
    @JakeWilson-w7m 5 месяцев назад

    I'm dealing with some toxic co-workers and staff at work and they're not doing what they're supposed to do. Not all of them but some of them, I'm dealing with.

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  5 месяцев назад

      I'm sorry to hear this. I hope this video will help you to navigate these people. Thanks for watching and wishing you all the best. Cheers!

  • @jeffknowlton5200
    @jeffknowlton5200 4 дня назад

    I might use gray rock method. My response would either be short or vague or I may not make a response at all

  • @jamesriepe
    @jamesriepe 3 года назад +1

    I am having a problem with a toxic project manager.

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  3 года назад +1

      Hi, James. I am sorry to hear you are having a problem with a toxic project manager. Not knowing the extent of the toxicity it's hard for me to give you concrete advice, however if it's a case of annoyance, having a calm professional conversation with the individual may help to solve your frustrations. If the behavior is having a negative impact on your mental well being then a conversation with someone higher up may be needed. Wishing you all the best, cheers.

  • @karinakeith7799
    @karinakeith7799 3 года назад

    Perfect tips to deal with toxic coworkers! Thanks!!

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  3 года назад

      Thanks for watching and commenting, Karina! Have you ever been in a situation where you have had to deal with a toxic coworker?

    • @tammydunnettleadership
      @tammydunnettleadership 3 года назад +1

      I am curious what you see in the workplace? What toxic behaviors are keeping you from getting your work done? I loved her suggestion to thank people for noticing a bad day and then setting a boundary to request that you just have time to work through it alone

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  3 года назад

      Thanks so much Tammy! I am happy to hear that tip resonated with you, cheers!

  • @RemainForeverHealthy
    @RemainForeverHealthy 3 года назад +1

    Great advice

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  3 года назад

      Thanks so much and thank you for watching, cheers!

  • @tiffanyharris3048
    @tiffanyharris3048 3 года назад

    These are amazing tips to deal with a toxic coworker. Also love the power hour door hanger. Where do I get one of those?

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  3 года назад +1

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    • @tiffanyharris3048
      @tiffanyharris3048 3 года назад

      @@AdrianaGirdler thank you!

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  3 года назад

      You're most welcome.

  • @Luciferslittlespace
    @Luciferslittlespace Год назад

    Thank you

  • @MixSonaProductions
    @MixSonaProductions 3 года назад +1

    I have problem with people who whispers. It sickens me
    Sorry but circle of trust will just create another internal groups of gossipers. Sometimes it might be the only way if they gang up, then you gang up as well

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  3 года назад

      Whispering is never a good behaviour in the workplace or in personal circles.
      Hope you have not dealt with a situation like that. Thanks for watching and for your comment. Cheers.

  • @Rulative
    @Rulative 3 года назад

    Thank you for this existing 👌
    It not always clear or I may not realised that a coworker is a toxic person; how do I know if my coworker is a toxic person??

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  3 года назад +1

      Hi Ru, great question. Sometimes it can be hard to come to this realization right out of the gate. Being aware and perceptive is a good place to start and if you do find yourself in a situation with a toxic coworker, then use some of the tips I shared in my video. Thanks for watching, cheers!

  • @shashankkulkarni993
    @shashankkulkarni993 2 года назад

    Yes many bosses / coworkers / clients
    are full.of sacristic talks and fully of toxicity inside them..
    Which makes people go away from them...
    Don't be sacristic to people based on there past life
    It show the person cheap characters if some one always sacristic to other person bullying him or her based on past.

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  2 года назад

      Thanks for commenting and watching, cheers!

  • @kobe51
    @kobe51 4 месяца назад

    Compassion for a toxic coworker is like saying I feel sorry for Lucifer

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  4 месяца назад

      LOL yes it can probably feel like that sometimes. Thanks for watching and taking the time to comment. Cheers!

  • @makoy2984
    @makoy2984 3 года назад +1

    Thanks for this😄 I know how it feels having a rude co-workers behind you. There's level of toxicity and I have to deal with that because I need a job. Sometimes you need to avoid them. Sometimes you need to talk and speak out yourself. But the thing is you have to think outside the box and consider what they going through. In my case, nature of work causes my co-worker to act toxic. It's very hard to be treated rudely but you have to understand them also.

    • @AdrianaGirdler
      @AdrianaGirdler  3 года назад +1

      First I would like to thank you for watching! It's not easy working with toxic coworkers and I am sorry that you need to deal with this. However, you have such a wonderful, positive attitude, and outlook and that will definitely take you places. Thank you for sharing and I wish you all the best. Cheers!

  • @Msdarlow
    @Msdarlow Год назад +1

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