Quitting porn was probably the best thing I have ever done. You really see the world differently. Kind of like when you were a kid. When you weren’t afraid of anything and just went for it not attached to an outcome or just having courage in anything really. Deleting social media also saved me from being depressed. I highly recommend everyone to just try these two things for a few months and see how you feel.
I'd like to know: RUclips is also considered a social medium. Did you start to use YT less or not? I've been having a phone addiction personally, that means YT, porn, anything google, wikipedia etc. Every brainfart I had, I needed to look it up on my phone. Have been using Digital Detox app with some exeptions like my bank app, phone book, etc. It is really great.
I quit dating apps 3 weeks ago. Hinge gave me so much anxiety and made me feel unlovable, yet I checked it every 5 minutes and would be elated whenever I saw a notification. I noticed what it was doing and deleted it and won’t be returning
Same, but with tinder. I'm decent looking and have a good job, but women stop replying whenever I mention I don't have a car. 😖 That's not something I can lie about, either. I've gotten comfortable with just staying single for now tbh, until I find the right person.
F**k dating apps. Sad people have to resort to them. Real life should be your only dating, join a community go to university or something community related.
i started watching porn 20 years ago. 5-6 years ago it started taking a huge toll on my life, i realized it and 4 years ago i decided to stop. for 3 years i would relapse weekly, weekly, weekly then monthly and now i haven't watch a single video in a year. disgusting and awful addiction that took a lot of work to get clean off
@@ManMonkey600changes perception of women and makes them just sex objects. Unrealistic expectations of what interactions are like with the opposite sex, particularly with sex. Blunts the desire to go out and meet females and date
It deteriorates your social connections, especially relationships. it’s an insidious addiction. People spouting how it’s normal and natural are choosing to ignore all data showing its negative effects on the brain.
@@mindykloster3540 You forget to say FOR ME TO HATE ON Love conquers Hate!!! I am Rich, I am Strong!!! Thy will be done! Believe in Jesus Christ for Salvation~!
What people don’t understand is that when it comes to online dating, you not only have to be a good option, you have to be the best option out of potentially thousands.
I think if you approach online dating as just a place to make friends regardless of their attractiveness you can use it as a way to meet more people organically in real life via their friend groups. Everyone's too desperate to get to the punch line.
I've slept with around 315 women (I'm 37yr old) and most of them have been from online dating. If you're in the top 10% of men, it really does make it hard for you to see any benefit in monogamy.
@@JJ-me4yuhard work is organic, meeting women in 2024 is not. most people meet their SO on the dating apps, or at a bar. no one has these organic meet cures that you’re referring to
@@marianpe5773 Bro, have you tried working 100 hours a week, getting facial reconstructive surgery, cold approaching 5 thousand women? Bro if you haven’t bro idk what to say bro, maybe your just lazy
The entire episode was gold. The guest has been doing the circuit appearing on shows with an older audience. He finally got plugged into the one show that might have the largest concentration of his target audience.
Porn always makes you feel meh, like you're a car that is missing 2-3 gears. Once you're off it for many months everything fixes itself and you become much more naturally masculine. Instagram nowadays is soft core porn, almost as bad
Get out of the house for most of the day, leave your phone out of your room at night (Thats when you usually sit with yourself and let the mental demons play with your head). That will help you.
Another problem is even if you manage to pull yourself out of it and go outside, you're now alone outside because these problems affect everyone, not just you. So it's easy to just get pulled back in.
that didn't help me. also, giving "low-tier" guys didn't really help either. you'd be surprised how bitter and crass they can be when you're not their type.
@@holaaamannn yes, even average and slightly above average guys can be mean and bitter because they're not getting the attention of their first choice.
The man hate is real in this comment thread . Low tier ?? Average ?? Are we talking strictly looks ??? Seems that way . Socializing in person is unmatched . The computer will never compare to real life . I hope you ladies will open yourselves to good low tier average men . Happy holidays 😎🎭✌️
@@ericlucci2829if you’re able to get that far. Most of them are scared as hell. For good reason but it still doesn’t help. If you’re not willing to meet within the week of connecting then fuck it we’re robots
Quitting porn saved my life man. You don’t realize what it takes from you until you stop for a while. It really does make you weak, afraid, and lonely. And you’re so clouded when you’re in it that you don’t even remember what you used to be like.
Facts! I graduated in ‘99 also! I’m grateful to have grown up during that time-I can appreciate that I had to make so much more of an effort than is currently present…(effort in making relationships of any kind-friendship or romantic)
I think that's partially due to the average man being disillusioned with how impossible it feels to find love, and thus feeling like there's no point in putting in the effort to be a quality candidate, and the average woman having so many options that they feel no immediate need to be a "quality" partner since they seem to have plenty of opportunities just by existing.
This, right here, its difficult to meet girls who are genuinely good people with good values and attractive. At least in my area… most of the girls on first impression, they aren’t worth a fuck and have issues. Its a immaturity epidemic i feel like. No one wants to work on their inner self to become a good fit for someone else
finding "quality" rapidly declines as you get older, especially once you hit 30....you kind of start to realize most of the good people were snatched up in their 20's
100% spot on. I was just talking to an older, married, female friend about the modern dating market. I was telling her that these apps make every average to moderately good looking girl think she's a celebrity. I'll be sitting there swiping thinking "there's no way THAT girl is too good to date me". But highly unlikely that she'll swipe on me.
doesn't seem to work on my sister... she gets tons of matches but 95% of them put in zero effort and 3% of them get creepy within minutes of starting a conversation.
@@JuanSmithers when 99.8% of the time your efforts doesnt do squat, you go for low/zero effort. Must be one huge jaded wasteland, Im glad I got out quick enough
He is sooo right about the digitizing = monopoly situation. I think about it all the time. If we had an “app” for everything you needed from a plumber to even niche car parts, in the end there will just be a single company per sector. The economy was best when local businesses had the local money. Our society wasn’t built to have this kind of market.
Look up localism. It's pretty much the political response to this. It was developed by Hillaire Belloc and GK Chesterton as a response to unbridled capitalism of the early 20th century and the rise of socialism, both of which didn't work best for the people. It used to be called "distributism" but people though that was adjacent to socialism so modern adherents changed the name to "localism." Anyway, it's really cool.
Same! I had hinge in the bg, but it's better off my phone. Asked a girl out the other week while getting groceries and she said kindly said no because of school, etc. Getting a no is a whole lot better than getting ghosted!
Before, dating was whoever was in your school or town or somewhere you could meet. Most people got setup or met someone going out with a group of friends. The girl/guy would get to know you, your personality, your sense of humor etc.. There is more to attraction and good relationships, than just physical looks. But now with a dating app, all you have to go on is looks and some stats, like height, income etc.. Of course you are just going to try to get your dream person statistically. Problem is they don't exist and if they do, they have so many men/women begging them for dates, no way they are going to try in any relationship. Glad I grew up in the 80's, life was much better lol.
all true. i've done online dating and it was mostly used for quick easy lays. every actual relationship I had was from meeting women in real life naturally.
There's also this cultural trope that whatever you do, don't "settle", i.e. don't stick with anyone that's not the theoretical optimum for your dating potential, just because you've grown attached to them and they're kind and smart and stable. We must continuously be checking if the grass is greener. Of course this doesn't just go for relationships nowadays-it's jobs, houses, friends, etc.
This is one of those things where the more people, both men and women, that delete social media and dating apps the more things will go back to how they used to be in the sense of face to face interactions. Yea, obviously the world has changed but the fact this video is impacting so many to the level of them sharing their successes is proof enough that it will work. Catch is that patience and discipline are required, all of these things take time. Something the world has lost perception of.
Sometimes, I feel like my life is so damn hard. I was neglected and ill prepared for my role as a stay at home dad right now, but this is the best path for the family. I won't write a journal here, but I can say I watch a vid like this and I'm glad I'm in a committed relationship of over a decade where we never cheated and just work hard on our dreams. We got 2 kids. Autism and homeschooling and growing and chasing dreams... There's a lot that weighs on me, but at least I'm in the game of life and not castrated on the sidelines. I try to keep up on how things are for youth because I want my sons to thrive. I'm concerned for them.
I am 40 in a few months. My ex and I broke up just over a year a go. We met a few times this year, we did get intimate. But we closed it out. I joined a dating site around summer, and it was a shit show - I went on dates, but just didn't click. I got the feeling many women came in looking for reasons to reject. Honestly, I am kind of done with it. I have a great job, a healthy bank balance - and once you de-sexualise your brain, I find I am more content. Also doesn't help I had 3 friends going through divorces this year. 2 of them aren't really sure why either :)
They absolutely went out with you just to reject you (and it's nothing personal, it could have been anybody) the "bad date" story is more important to them then actually meeting someone they might actually enjoy spending time with. Women are only happy when they're miserable.
Same here, split from my ex wife of 17yrs/divorced, spent a year alone, got lucky with my first hinge date or my first online dating experience ever. Found the girl of my dreams, we’ve been together coming up to 8months, I’m 39, she’s 45, living together, just got back from a holiday in Ny, every day is special, sex life is best it’s ever been, absolutely crazy about her and having sex more than I did when I was in my 20s. Hang in there, if it happens to me it can happen to others!
Ive been thinking about this we've all pretty much became peeping toms with our phones being our digital window to creep on whatever we desire without getting spotted outside someones house
Theo’s silliness can disguise how smart and thoughtful he can be. He really listens and contemplates. Gotta love it. This vid really talks about some solid stuff that’s going wrong in society. I totally take for granted how much harder it’ll be for people to build strong relationships as they get older. It’s up to us as parents and the older generation to guide and stay as involved as possible and not let influencers/the internet just brainwash our family and those we care about
I deleted all my dating accounts and quit porn. It’s an incredible life hack; I feel so much better about myself which is priming me for a proper relationship.
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Steve_porss1 is the man , I share similar experiences with anxiety, depression, PTSD, and addiction. Psilocybin mushrooms have been a game-changer for me, aiding greatly in my recovery and sobriety.
I wish those were more easily accessible where I live. Microdosing was my next step for my husband. He's 59 & dealing with lots of mental health challenges, possible CTE & a TBI that put him in a coma for 8 days. Unfortunately, I had to get a TPO since he's 6'6, over 300 pounds, and showing violent behavior, constantly talking about harming others. He's aggressive. To anyone reading this, if you're familiar with BPD, is it common to have an obsession with violence?
Dating is going through a reckoning, but I don't know if there's a solution because it's a larger societal problem. The apps have by far become the most popular way to find a date / relationship. But they have become highly dysfunctional for the exact reasons Scott stated. Problem is we can't really go back to the old way of dating because the world has changed. We no longer have the kind of face to face interaction that we used to in a multitude of ways. By and large people don't know how to talk to each other in a random public setting. Also, we have very few "third places" anymore where people can meet where there's no pressure to buy something. It's a bigger problem than we realize, and I think will require long term societal changes to remedy.
As parents of a 17 year old boy this world is so foreign to my husband and I that we are trying hard to understand the current culture of dating and it’s very fraught with so many more pit falls than it was in our day. The apps are hook up culture not for a serious relationship I’m told. I think GenZ is anxious about girls for good reason. They seem very angry and anti male or very demanding. I’ve not ever seen this when I was young and dating.
@@TheLifeLists Its hard but its not impossible. There are still options out there (church, run clubs, hanging out in cafes, work etc). Why not take the initiative and organise something? I meet plenty of girls through these avenues, but I'm overcoming a porn addiction so dont make the most of it lol. The fact is, Gen Z, whether they admit it or not, don't like this reality all that much themselves either. They understand something's wrong with it. So dont be afraid to take the social initiative and start a conversation. If you get 'rejected' you'll survive
It's just gaslighting from emotions and feelings that intentionally aren't being controlled because in 2010 girls realised they get more likes if they put a bottle suggestively in their tummy for likes and advertiser's really fucking like Likes. Men really fucking like sex be ayse you know, driving force of species bla bla. This is just a petty fuck you. Watch them all come back like nothing ever happened. You birthed it,not us. This chicken won't make it or live long enough, but the schism they e intentionally made in the human osyche will not be forgotten. If this doesn't work, or slips further, what protection do we have? As if degeneracy is the worst thing we're facing. A few simple years can fix that. Trauma will never be gotten rid off. You'll see that. But this schism? The chickens will come home to roost, they've learnt more than you expected.
Wow, this is 10x more enlightening than i thought this would be… all too often this topic can get invalidated with the biases of manosphere and religion bias, but this man seems to truly have a broad perspective and facts to back up what he is saying.
Edit, I just saw some comments, and I am saddened that it appears no matter how intelligent and educational a video interview might be… stupid people are going to be stupid… it is not about, quiting porn, and it is not about quitting on life, it is about finding your self, taking risks with girls, with strangers, loving yourself and the people around you. Why does everybody think that life is always a pursuit of some challenge all or nothing movement? NO! Practice moderation, Learn to control yourself and take the time to explore your real world outside your house. Put the phone down. And yes, sometimes it’s also ok to break the rules and watch porn… look back in history, remember when we tried to ban alcohol? It didn’t work.. just learn self control.
Galloway is brilliant and hits the mark with his arguments! Being in the same room with people doesn't mean you're not lonely. Socialibility is crucial. Internet addiction, fantasy addiction and porn addiction are behavioral addictions, which are probably due to the adjustment disorder of many people during Covid who have not mentally overcome the loneliness caused by Covid. The consequences of Covid after the Covid period are far more damaging to society. This goes far beyond the infection.
@@benmudn I saw another video where he said this and laughed.. Wanted to clip it. Although he's right on most of the facts on this matter he still does in fact work for academia.
Dating apps are just so surface level that unless you’re like a 10/10 looks wise, you pretty much have no chance. If you took everyone on there and put them in a room together, the people who choose each other would be completely different
@@thelonercoder5816I mean what do you define success? I used to find like 6s and 7s that were good for dates and hookups but no one worth actually cuffing
Corn is dangerous especially on the male mind. It gets you hooked on instant gratification which can create problems in every day life. You become conditioned to always seek the easy route.
I had dating apps on and off from 2018 to 2022 I think. Once I actually finally decided I was done with them, after a month is when I realized how much they fucked up my self esteem and how I feel about myself in general. Getting off those was one of the best decisions I ever made.
I was 43 when I first attempted to quit pmo. At the end of the first week, I became physically ill from withdrawals. It is because I was using pmo daily since I was 15. Nothing has been harder than quitting pmo, including quitting weed, smoking and drinking.
@ Yeah it's tough, but honestly my friend, I loved it. I loved facing up to the challenge and I loved the enormous number of benefits. It really changed me for the better. I can't recommend it highly enough.
Dating apps are too distracting. Getting 1-2 girls every week started make me feel empty and more lonely than ever. You’re always chasing the next girl, it’s impossible to fall in love when all you see is lust. I’ve been off for two weeks and I feel like I’m getting my life back, actually have time for myself
@ being able to speak to women, and listen to them, along with being in shape and average looking at best does wonders. Especially in a big city. It’s not hard to pull girls with dating apps, just don’t be your own worst enemy and weird them out. The amount of stories/screenshots from girls I’ve seen really shows how a lot of guys just don’t know how to interact with women in the first place.
@@s0nnyburnettif you’re in your 20s in NY, work in finance/tech, decent shape, and went to a good school, very easy as an average guy within that sample, which most of working professional N.Y. is from my experience. Numbers game. The only issue is, have to remember the girls are also doing the same, so if you’re looking for someone “different”, might not be the girl you’re pulling weekly off of apps as you are just another one of their 1-2 guys being pulled weekly. Not really a Chad if everyone is doing it & willing in high density places like NY. Which is why you’re seeing more young people in NY start meeting people through run clubs or other in person social activities (even church) to try to facilitate a feeling of differentiation instead of the apps.
It is not often that I find myself at a loss for words, but in this instance, the only thing I can say is on behalf of women and real mothers who love their daughters and their sons. Thank you. This conversation is important and sometimes our kids need to hear things from outside sources so I’m glad That you exist thank you thank you thank you I said it three times which makes it a spell but it’s just a spell of gratitude that for you all things will go well.
Ha, i was wondering the same. Think he was trying to connect the dots between too much porn kind leading to a blurred line of what's real and not in other areas of life.
Most people are clueless about themselves and about relationships which is why most relationships end. This idea that you need a woman is nonsense. Don't get me wrong, a good woman will bring a lot benefits to your life but it has to be the right woman. If you think you need a woman; I'd suggest what you actually need is to work on yourself. Learn to love being alone; then if you manage to organically bump into someone that you want to pursue something with; you can do so from a place of abundance, not scarcity
Amen. This guy saying that "It's worth it," I think he's just defending his own life choices. You can live without a romantic partner and be perfectly happy--dare I say, sometimes even more happy than you would be with one.
@@jason_v12345 I wish more people would say this. The loneliness epidemic is only worsened from people continuing to push the idea that a romantic relationship is the highest achievement you can reach in life. People are devaluing friendships and personal pursuits
dude wanting companionship, a life partner, is not a sign of weakness or not loving yourself. It's a biological imperative. If anything, genuinely not needing or wanting love in your life is more a sign of being not fully human
Some people like me don't ever feel lonely. I've tried being intimate with people. I don't get it. Some of my friends who don't have girlfriends for a while wilt like flowers. Different people have different levels of need for this.
ln my brief experience with dating apps, men treated me with more antagonism and flagrant disrespect than I have ever experienced in person. I went in open-minded, curious, and excited, and left emotionally drained, stressed, and pretty angry quite frankly. I think these apps not only attract the jaded, desperate, and lazy, but then turn everyone into heartless monsters who ghost- even after having good conversations. That's probably what surprised me the most, the propensity for men to not make a move and ask for my number/ask me out, and instead conversations dragging on day after day, until one or the other stops responding. Society would be much better without social media, porn, and dating apps. I miss those days.
I believe this behavior is also observable on all anonymous social media plattforms and comment sections. Best way is use social interactions as a benchmark and avoid too much online socialization
@@hyperadapted The thing is that this anti social, rude, rough behaviour without any manners and respect has infiltrated the real world, it has gone offline. I speak from daily personal experience for the past ten years. It's a total desaster, it's disgusting and depressing.
@ agreed, it is a noticeable shift in communication and we need to adapt to the new ways of human interaction- maybe real time large language models will act as a universal translator of communication and be able to take the edge out. That would be sad since we humans adapted so long for cooperative communications.
Can you stop this BS I love watching porn I get hard every time and also I’m trying to join the P industry one day soon damn I can’t stand Scott Galloway 🤦🏾♂️
Wow wow wow!!!! Thank you so much for this episode! Truly an inspiration for me to get clean off porn and reset my life Theo! Definitely struggle with it! Thank you for being open and honest and talking about these issues my friend!
I’ve dated girls from the apps, from cold approaches at social events, warm approaches from once friends to more and it always ends the same. I’m exhausted. It sucks getting rejected, I was definitely a late bloomer, but it sucks even more to spend a bunch of time, energy and effort building a connection with someone only for it to blow up or fade away a couple months later wondering wtf happened. Pron is an evil we should all avoid, but I just don’t know how realistic it is to actually find lasting, real love anymore or if it’s even worth trying because the rest of my life is great. I’m happy when I’m unattached just doing my own thing, the only time I’m down and depressed is when I’m dealing with women. Idk man, just throwing some shit out in RUclips comments tonight ig 🤷♂️
Hey i have been there it gets better , Look the best you can and focus onnacheiving your goals. Just be a man and a woman willnfollow , I didnt meet my wife until inwas 28 she was 18 at the time, if youre under 25 most women wont find you attractive
I went on my 9th tinder date with my husband and I wasn’t initially interested but I took a chance. We got engaged 6months later and now 8 years later, one house, twin babies and we’re still standing strong. He’s the best man I’ve ever known.
Great so you obviously married someone who you're not attracted to so how long will this last? Another couple years? And for you to be available to get married means you was not able to lock down Chad Brad or Tyrone are you going to put your husband on alimony and child support and take his house? Almost no women get the man that they want because the man they want can get a 20 year old most marriages last 7 to 9 years
Well, but isn't it a risk? I mean I have a quite, comfortable life. Things are more or less in order. I like my work, I have some fun hobbies. Not everything is perfect, but it works for me. Letting someone into my life feels like a huge risk to me.
I think a bigger problem is viewing all relationships in general as a benefit. A lot of them suck and being single shouldn't be seen as something to feel bad about. Not everyone gets to be in the perfect relationship for them all the time.
@@nightfighter7452 Yeah, and I keep seeing unhappy people in unhappy realtionships. Or in other words: you have to have a really well functioning relationship before it's better than being single. And I feel like (I might be wrong) that many people live in relationships that do not make them happy, and they're just too scared to be alone.
@@AtLeastMyDawgyLovesMeI agree it should be free to look at it shouldn’t be controlled but people should 100% be more aware of the issues it causes. No harm in letting people know the harm it does.
People have never ODed from Porn. People have never died from withdrawal from porn. People don’t go into psychosis permanently from a bad hit of porn. People don’t lose their ability to drive correctly yet get behind the wheel of a car and wipe out a mother and her kids from porn. Please be real.
@@nataliaalfonso2662 well actually on 1000 ways to die there was that one guy who beat off so much he died of dehydration and was crushed by a stack of porn mags
I'll also add that I think a lot of the porn addicts lose motivation because they don't have a natural motivation to begin with. They're boring people with no talent and no passions. The desire for sex does not need to be one's only source of drive.
Galloway's example of 50 men and 50 women on Tinder was a good example (the women all want the same 4 out of 50 guys). However, I'd like to add an important piece of context: There's 3 men to every woman on Tinder. In other words, it would be 50 women and 150 men ratio on Tinder. So if you take both of those things into account, it makes sense why almost all men get nothing and even below average looking women get so many matches.
@@truncatepool5801 - I’m hella sorry to hear that my friend. I was born at the beginning of the 90’s and I’m kinda in the same boat. I don’t really care if I live or die at this point. I’ve had a handful of near death experiences and every time I’ve woken up in the hospital I’ve been bummed I was alive. That being said my family and friends were happy I made it so that’s cool I guess. Silver linings lol
Listen to what he says. A man who is rejected over and over typically turns to content that support misogyny. Women treat a guy bad, the guy turns to material that downplays women. When you view this material, a majority of it downgrade scientific view points and turn more towards conspiracy. There aren’t a lot of macho men out there talking about topics like climate change. Most heavy hitters in the “guy talk” media would say “fuck climate change, that’s just Joe Biden and the democrats being pussies”. That’s his point.
Leftist propaganda. It's somehow always the men's fault. You are a bad person if you don't believe in climate change. And probably that is also the men's fault. And if not, it clearly was Trump...And if it wasn't Trump, it is basically due to climate change, which if of course the men's fault.
You want to see depressed, talk to a guy that got divorced and his ex is trying to keep him from seeing his kids. And he is working his A$$ off to pay the mortgage on a house she lives in while he lives in his car. Scott Galloway is selling a dream that is very rare in todays world.
Scott Galloway has been spot on for years with this stuff. I see the landscape and feel genuine relief that these are not my direct problems. No clue how it gets fixed.
The appeal needs to be normalised again, with limitations on social media access on personal devices. People choose not to go out and face new experiences because they have gotten too comfortable through device interaction, sadly.
I like how this guy can talk about this topic from a scientific standpoint and not a red-pill alpha male andrew tate kind of perspective. This is actually productive and not hateful or anti-women.
Im pretty sure he’s serious. And while it sounds like a ridiculous thing to state, its probably mathematically accurate. It simply has to do with the algorithms and feedback loops. And the type of content that gets feed to you once you skew a certain way. We all think we are smart enough to properly decipher the information presented to us but eventually we are wrong about something. Just replying to your comment has probably ever so slightly altered the type of information I will receive about the environment.
The biggest issue I am seeing with men is they fabricate who they are online or through a safe channel of porn, it's fine to service yourself through porn, but if you don't realize what it is and it's intention then it's a problem, you need to earn your badge with women in the real world first, if you are good with the ladies first in real life, then you can opt to go online, but if you are hiding to try and edit who you are, you will struggle in many aspects. You cannot live in fear of women or pretend to be some ladies man to protect your own issues, you need to set standards as a man, reject women you don't actually want even just for sex. The more you try the worse it gets, you just need to be and improve things you can by experience and being brave and not putting on a persona caring what your peers think.
Retcon your life. Make up a story about how you quit watching p*** 2 years ago. Replay that thought over and over. When you try for it, remind yourself that you stopped 2 years ago. Start living future you's life, in that regard
I'm an old guy, 60 now. I was married 28 years that ended 10 years ago. I've always loved languages. I started learning Spanish on an online language exchange. I talked to many people, men and women it was great for learning. Then I actually travelled to South America and today I'm married to my South American wife....NONE of this was planned, it just happened .....because real life just happens....
Interesting, I've been learning Spanish for 5 years and also plan to visit South America at some point. Any tips on how to meet women and break the ice?
You found a caregiver, congrats but real love is for the young because it's all just hormones. Anyone man or woman interested in a genuine connection should try to find it before 25. After that you're just settling and coping. Yes some can do it until death but it's not ideal.
I was really down and out about 2 weeks ago with my dating apps addiction. So i opened up my bible and read Peter chapter 5. Ever since then Ive been working out a lot. I went hunting and golfing for the first time. And been spending more time with my beautiful 2 yr old daughter.
I don think I fully agree with their porn arguments, but I do 100% agree that online dating is terrible. Online cant replace that feeling you get in real life when you instantly connect with someone. Sadly we just dont have those "third places" anymore where we can meet people. Its been replaced by online world.
Even as a woman, I noticed i was watching porn more than i used to. I struggle with debilitating anxiety, and it was doing something for me. Im trying to be more aware of it. It's not just men.
As a 20 yr old vgin,I watch too much porn, don’t go on dates, gained 70lb, takes meds for ocd and anxiety, stay inside no friends just eat, thc, contemplating my existence. But I don’t want to change cause I don’t believe in myself anymore at all
Dude there’s hope get to the gym and watch Andrew Tate motivational videos get in shape and believe in yourself you’ll get laid and it will change your life!
Quit the meds and get out of the house. Start doing that and the weight will start going down, you'll make friends and it'll all fall in place. You aren't ever going anywhere just sitting inside smoking, eating and sitting around medicated. Save the chilling for after hours.
@@EdwardOberon Not everyone. There are so many women who stay in unhappy marriages but this does nothing to improve the reputation of women in general on the internet.
Thank you for the online dating stats and I’m going to take a wild guess that men that swipe a thousand times to get a coffee date takes then 40,000 swipes to get a relationship. Really it’s sad for both men and women.
Almost 2 hours off porn
Got any tips?
Keep it up 🎉
I think that deserves a badge or something right?
Rudy! Rudy! Rudy!
Hit 3 yet?
Dating apps are terrible for men, get off them.
What should we do?
@Okay182 approach women in real life no matter how daunting it might seem. Try to have an abundance mentality, there are cuties everywhere
@@Okay182Smoke weed, masturbate and eat cheetos.
cap
@@Okay182 Go talk to women?
Quitting porn was probably the best thing I have ever done. You really see the world differently. Kind of like when you were a kid. When you weren’t afraid of anything and just went for it not attached to an outcome or just having courage in anything really. Deleting social media also saved me from being depressed. I highly recommend everyone to just try these two things for a few months and see how you feel.
can you explain in detail what quitting porn did for you? would help me out
It's hard because when you're on instagram reels and you see the half naked girl show up, it pulls you back in
how did you post this with no social media lol
Not watching porn does none of this for me. What are you talking about 💀💀
I'd like to know: RUclips is also considered a social medium. Did you start to use YT less or not?
I've been having a phone addiction personally, that means YT, porn, anything google, wikipedia etc. Every brainfart I had, I needed to look it up on my phone.
Have been using Digital Detox app with some exeptions like my bank app, phone book, etc. It is really great.
The most practical thing that a young man can do to immediately improve his life is to stop watching porn.
But it immediately enhances an old man's life.
More than hitting the gym? Eating super healthy? Reading books? A good wank in a while ain't the end of the world man. Everything in moderation
Wouldn't getting a full time job be a better way to improve his life?
I stopped using porn and started using ai chat. And honestly it's more addictive than porn. It's another level depravity and it's only getting better
@@bigjimslade1968 You'd think working a full-time job would make less addicts but it sadly, it does the reverse
I quit dating apps 3 weeks ago. Hinge gave me so much anxiety and made me feel unlovable, yet I checked it every 5 minutes and would be elated whenever I saw a notification. I noticed what it was doing and deleted it and won’t be returning
So how's real life been?
Same, but with tinder. I'm decent looking and have a good job, but women stop replying whenever I mention I don't have a car. 😖 That's not something I can lie about, either. I've gotten comfortable with just staying single for now tbh, until I find the right person.
F**k dating apps. Sad people have to resort to them. Real life should be your only dating, join a community go to university or something community related.
Screw dating apps!! Join a community, go to university or something. The organic way will always be the best.
@@Kitsuragi556how does that even come up in conversation 💀
i started watching porn 20 years ago. 5-6 years ago it started taking a huge toll on my life, i realized it and 4 years ago i decided to stop. for 3 years i would relapse weekly, weekly, weekly then monthly and now i haven't watch a single video in a year. disgusting and awful addiction that took a lot of work to get clean off
How was it affecting your life, in what ways?
@@ManMonkey600changes perception of women and makes them just sex objects. Unrealistic expectations of what interactions are like with the opposite sex, particularly with sex. Blunts the desire to go out and meet females and date
just drink more water
It deteriorates your social connections, especially relationships. it’s an insidious addiction. People spouting how it’s normal and natural are choosing to ignore all data showing its negative effects on the brain.
@@ManMonkey600dude think about it, goddam
Only theo is bringing his demons and fight them out in the open. love this guy.
Theo is totally AUTHENTIC AND GENUINE! A true heartfelt soul!❤
@@mindykloster3540 You forget to say FOR ME TO HATE ON
Love conquers Hate!!! I am Rich, I am Strong!!! Thy will be done! Believe in Jesus Christ for Salvation~!
plenty of others but sure
Not only Theo thats a silly thing to say
I also like how, when he doesn't know something, he asks for clarification immediately and with humility. Big respect.
What people don’t understand is that when it comes to online dating, you not only have to be a good option, you have to be the best option out of potentially thousands.
I think if you approach online dating as just a place to make friends regardless of their attractiveness you can use it as a way to meet more people organically in real life via their friend groups. Everyone's too desperate to get to the punch line.
Its like a job interview
superficial option too..
I've slept with around 315 women (I'm 37yr old) and most of them have been from online dating. If you're in the top 10% of men, it really does make it hard for you to see any benefit in monogamy.
@@HomicizzleNah bro imma keep it real 315 is actually disgusting.
People are more attractive in person even if they aren’t their type
Some people are, some are much less attractive, when you get to see their personalities lol.
@@micker9830good point
They're not, but I like the way you're thinking. Seeing someone in "motion" is the way to go.
This is underrated, physical attraction only lasts so long. When life gets tough you want a teammate not a window watcher.
I'm almost 70 days off of porn
@400dillon what does it feel like without it?
Congratulations. Keep it up
It's the real thing or nothing for me bro
Way to go buddy, Keep going. I'm going to start tonight.
Go get some pussy u nerd 🤓
“Just work harder bro”
To achieve what used to happen organically
Hard work is organic fool. Unless youre lazy🤣
@@JJ-me4yuhard work is organic, meeting women in 2024 is not. most people meet their SO on the dating apps, or at a bar. no one has these organic meet cures that you’re referring to
"Just get better bro"😅
Yeah, listen to GRANDPA….it’s not as if women today are any different than those of his generation.
@@marianpe5773 Bro, have you tried working 100 hours a week, getting facial reconstructive surgery, cold approaching 5 thousand women?
Bro if you haven’t bro idk what to say bro, maybe your just lazy
"Nothing wonderful is going to happen to you on a screen. Ever." (2:50.) Scott is absolutely right.
The entire episode was gold. The guest has been doing the circuit appearing on shows with an older audience. He finally got plugged into the one show that might have the largest concentration of his target audience.
Whos the guest
What guest
Sorry didnt mean for both of those 2 send
@@LibertyGunsBeerTrump Scott Galloway.
@ thank you!👍
Porn has fucked me up. I am not looking anymore.
tape your hand to your butt
Same
Porn always makes you feel meh, like you're a car that is missing 2-3 gears. Once you're off it for many months everything fixes itself and you become much more naturally masculine. Instagram nowadays is soft core porn, almost as bad
Get out of the house for most of the day, leave your phone out of your room at night (Thats when you usually sit with yourself and let the mental demons play with your head). That will help you.
@@ycc7744totally agree. I am convinced that people don’t know the half of the damage phones do to them.
Another problem is even if you manage to pull yourself out of it and go outside, you're now alone outside because these problems affect everyone, not just you. So it's easy to just get pulled back in.
Exactly my thought....
AND experience!
Fact
My female friends deleted the apps and had a New Year’s resolution to be o outside more and be social and it’s helped them in dating a lot
female friends? women don't need apps to get men lol it is just greed. It is like billionaires who keep buying yachts.
that didn't help me. also, giving "low-tier" guys didn't really help either. you'd be surprised how bitter and crass they can be when you're not their type.
@@jones2277You're not talking about low-tier guys. You're talking about average and slightly above average guys.
@@holaaamannn yes, even average and slightly above average guys can be mean and bitter because they're not getting the attention of their first choice.
The man hate is real in this comment thread . Low tier ?? Average ?? Are we talking strictly looks ??? Seems that way . Socializing in person is unmatched . The computer will never compare to real life . I hope you ladies will open yourselves to good low tier average men . Happy holidays 😎🎭✌️
Dude is spitting wild facts. Great summation of the general problems men face today.
Definitely man!
Galloway is clueless
Just typical boomer advice
@@peterkovic2241 American women are the 12th most overweight women in the world..Thats a fact..Galloways claim men cant get these women is laughable
@@BnibroC69 You nailed it. Its like he is in a time warp...
i feel like a robot looking for another robot on dating apps
Right? It is entirely physical and you dont connect at all.
To be fair half the people you match on dating apps are bots designed to waste your time and keep you on the app
@@Plague_Doc22you’re supposed to go meet them too 😂
I've got a movie idea from this comment
@@ericlucci2829if you’re able to get that far. Most of them are scared as hell. For good reason but it still doesn’t help. If you’re not willing to meet within the week of connecting then fuck it we’re robots
“Larry likes dudes. But only if he’s ok with it”🤣🤣🤣🤣
Quitting porn saved my life man. You don’t realize what it takes from you until you stop for a while. It really does make you weak, afraid, and lonely. And you’re so clouded when you’re in it that you don’t even remember what you used to be like.
Here here brother
I graduated HS in 1999. Glad social media wasn't a thing back then.
Kids born after 2000 don't stand a chance. They have nothing to compare things to before phones
Facts! I graduated in ‘99 also! I’m grateful to have grown up during that time-I can appreciate that I had to make so much more of an effort than is currently present…(effort in making relationships of any kind-friendship or romantic)
I wish I had grown up in the 90s...but I also don't wish I were suddenly 10 years older lol
99 grads are the LUCKIEST generation, we got and get to see History happening. We’re the lucky lab rats
You have no idea. It sucks kids can't go to a festival or party without worrying about going viral.
A huge problem is the quality of partners out there has also decline, which further decreases the desire for effort vs reward.
I think that's partially due to the average man being disillusioned with how impossible it feels to find love, and thus feeling like there's no point in putting in the effort to be a quality candidate, and the average woman having so many options that they feel no immediate need to be a "quality" partner since they seem to have plenty of opportunities just by existing.
This, right here, its difficult to meet girls who are genuinely good people with good values and attractive. At least in my area… most of the girls on first impression, they aren’t worth a fuck and have issues. Its a immaturity epidemic i feel like. No one wants to work on their inner self to become a good fit for someone else
This is seriously overlooked. All the decent people have been scooped up already.
finding "quality" rapidly declines as you get older, especially once you hit 30....you kind of start to realize most of the good people were snatched up in their 20's
100% spot on. I was just talking to an older, married, female friend about the modern dating market. I was telling her that these apps make every average to moderately good looking girl think she's a celebrity. I'll be sitting there swiping thinking "there's no way THAT girl is too good to date me". But highly unlikely that she'll swipe on me.
doesn't seem to work on my sister... she gets tons of matches but 95% of them put in zero effort and 3% of them get creepy within minutes of starting a conversation.
@@JuanSmithersthe exception doesn’t break the rule. The numbers are the numbers.
When i see 'you have a new match'i think please god be a super fatty so i have a slight chance fr
@@JuanSmithers when 99.8% of the time your efforts doesnt do squat, you go for low/zero effort. Must be one huge jaded wasteland, Im glad I got out quick enough
The term is a 49er. W0men who are 4s think they are 9s, because of the constant attention they receive on SM and dating apps..
He is sooo right about the digitizing = monopoly situation.
I think about it all the time.
If we had an “app” for everything you needed from a plumber to even niche car parts, in the end there will just be a single company per sector.
The economy was best when local businesses had the local money.
Our society wasn’t built to have this kind of market.
digital = digit = number = everything reduced to a number, including humans
Look up localism. It's pretty much the political response to this. It was developed by Hillaire Belloc and GK Chesterton as a response to unbridled capitalism of the early 20th century and the rise of socialism, both of which didn't work best for the people. It used to be called "distributism" but people though that was adjacent to socialism so modern adherents changed the name to "localism." Anyway, it's really cool.
@@tc5922 that's awesome thanks for the info
I'm deleting this bumble app right now
Good man. I’ll do the same.
Good for you bro. It's a waste of your time and energy
Same! I had hinge in the bg, but it's better off my phone. Asked a girl out the other week while getting groceries and she said kindly said no because of school, etc. Getting a no is a whole lot better than getting ghosted!
@@lostghoststudios good job man
You won't regret it, that's for sure.
Before, dating was whoever was in your school or town or somewhere you could meet. Most people got setup or met someone going out with a group of friends. The girl/guy would get to know you, your personality, your sense of humor etc.. There is more to attraction and good relationships, than just physical looks. But now with a dating app, all you have to go on is looks and some stats, like height, income etc.. Of course you are just going to try to get your dream person statistically. Problem is they don't exist and if they do, they have so many men/women begging them for dates, no way they are going to try in any relationship. Glad I grew up in the 80's, life was much better lol.
all true. i've done online dating and it was mostly used for quick easy lays. every actual relationship I had was from meeting women in real life naturally.
I miss getting hooked up by a friend I’m 40 I remember that was a thing
exactly.
There's also this cultural trope that whatever you do, don't "settle", i.e. don't stick with anyone that's not the theoretical optimum for your dating potential, just because you've grown attached to them and they're kind and smart and stable. We must continuously be checking if the grass is greener. Of course this doesn't just go for relationships nowadays-it's jobs, houses, friends, etc.
Finding love is like buying a house. Many of us won't be given even the chance.
So true…
This is one of those things where the more people, both men and women, that delete social media and dating apps the more things will go back to how they used to be in the sense of face to face interactions. Yea, obviously the world has changed but the fact this video is impacting so many to the level of them sharing their successes is proof enough that it will work. Catch is that patience and discipline are required, all of these things take time. Something the world has lost perception of.
Sometimes, I feel like my life is so damn hard. I was neglected and ill prepared for my role as a stay at home dad right now, but this is the best path for the family. I won't write a journal here, but I can say I watch a vid like this and I'm glad I'm in a committed relationship of over a decade where we never cheated and just work hard on our dreams. We got 2 kids. Autism and homeschooling and growing and chasing dreams... There's a lot that weighs on me, but at least I'm in the game of life and not castrated on the sidelines. I try to keep up on how things are for youth because I want my sons to thrive. I'm concerned for them.
That caffeine joke towards the end is underrated 😂
I am 40 in a few months. My ex and I broke up just over a year a go. We met a few times this year, we did get intimate. But we closed it out. I joined a dating site around summer, and it was a shit show - I went on dates, but just didn't click. I got the feeling many women came in looking for reasons to reject. Honestly, I am kind of done with it. I have a great job, a healthy bank balance - and once you de-sexualise your brain, I find I am more content.
Also doesn't help I had 3 friends going through divorces this year. 2 of them aren't really sure why either :)
damn thats terrible, no fault divorce is cruel
They absolutely went out with you just to reject you (and it's nothing personal, it could have been anybody) the "bad date" story is more important to them then actually meeting someone they might actually enjoy spending time with. Women are only happy when they're miserable.
@@ThundersMcCoy
Horrible and I feel really really sorry for you...and I say this as a woman. I mean it!
Same here, split from my ex wife of 17yrs/divorced, spent a year alone, got lucky with my first hinge date or my first online dating experience ever.
Found the girl of my dreams, we’ve been together coming up to 8months, I’m 39, she’s 45, living together, just got back from a holiday in Ny, every day is special, sex life is best it’s ever been, absolutely crazy about her and having sex more than I did when I was in my 20s.
Hang in there, if it happens to me it can happen to others!
Ive been thinking about this we've all pretty much became peeping toms with our phones being our digital window to creep on whatever we desire without getting spotted outside someones house
@@trejarvis960 wow, that’s deep, very true.
@max.8063 I can't take all the credit a little weed went a long way haha
Not all of us. Where my in-person peepin’ homies at?
@@GabrielBaconhahahahaha
@@GabrielBacon Takin it back to the old school there Bud
Galloway is a decent dude. Hes trying to spread knowledge for the better
Theo’s silliness can disguise how smart and thoughtful he can be. He really listens and contemplates. Gotta love it. This vid really talks about some solid stuff that’s going wrong in society. I totally take for granted how much harder it’ll be for people to build strong relationships as they get older. It’s up to us as parents and the older generation to guide and stay as involved as possible and not let influencers/the internet just brainwash our family and those we care about
I really like how he asks questions or asks for clarification when he doesn't understand something. Sign of a good and confident man.
You know this guy is serious when he’s pulling YouPorn references
The man's been around the block, we shall hear his wisdom
I deleted all my dating accounts and quit porn. It’s an incredible life hack; I feel so much better about myself which is priming me for a proper relationship.
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Steve_porss1 is the man , I share similar experiences with anxiety, depression, PTSD, and addiction. Psilocybin mushrooms have been a game-changer for me, aiding greatly in my recovery and sobriety.
I wish those were more easily accessible where I live.
Microdosing was my next step for my husband. He's 59 & dealing with lots of mental health challenges, possible CTE & a TBI that put him in a coma for 8 days. Unfortunately, I had to get a TPO since he's 6'6, over 300 pounds, and showing violent behavior, constantly talking about harming others. He's aggressive. To anyone reading this, if you're familiar with BPD, is it common to have an obsession with violence?
Is he on instagram?
Steve_porss1 is the man
The addiction of dating apps is so dangerous and needs to be treated as such.
Dating is going through a reckoning, but I don't know if there's a solution because it's a larger societal problem. The apps have by far become the most popular way to find a date / relationship. But they have become highly dysfunctional for the exact reasons Scott stated. Problem is we can't really go back to the old way of dating because the world has changed. We no longer have the kind of face to face interaction that we used to in a multitude of ways. By and large people don't know how to talk to each other in a random public setting. Also, we have very few "third places" anymore where people can meet where there's no pressure to buy something. It's a bigger problem than we realize, and I think will require long term societal changes to remedy.
As parents of a 17 year old boy this world is so foreign to my husband and I that we are trying hard to understand the current culture of dating and it’s very fraught with so many more pit falls than it was in our day. The apps are hook up culture not for a serious relationship I’m told. I think GenZ is anxious about girls for good reason. They seem very angry and anti male or very demanding.
I’ve not ever seen this when I was young and dating.
@@Carma123yep. Really makes you wonder about the future, and how relationships are going to continue under these conditions
@@TheLifeLists Its hard but its not impossible. There are still options out there (church, run clubs, hanging out in cafes, work etc). Why not take the initiative and organise something? I meet plenty of girls through these avenues, but I'm overcoming a porn addiction so dont make the most of it lol.
The fact is, Gen Z, whether they admit it or not, don't like this reality all that much themselves either. They understand something's wrong with it. So dont be afraid to take the social initiative and start a conversation. If you get 'rejected' you'll survive
The only real problem is women's standards are crazy high
It's just gaslighting from emotions and feelings that intentionally aren't being controlled because in 2010 girls realised they get more likes if they put a bottle suggestively in their tummy for likes and advertiser's really fucking like Likes. Men really fucking like sex be ayse you know, driving force of species bla bla. This is just a petty fuck you. Watch them all come back like nothing ever happened.
You birthed it,not us. This chicken won't make it or live long enough, but the schism they e intentionally made in the human osyche will not be forgotten. If this doesn't work, or slips further, what protection do we have? As if degeneracy is the worst thing we're facing. A few simple years can fix that. Trauma will never be gotten rid off. You'll see that. But this schism? The chickens will come home to roost, they've learnt more than you expected.
Wow, this is 10x more enlightening than i thought this would be… all too often this topic can get invalidated with the biases of manosphere and religion bias, but this man seems to truly have a broad perspective and facts to back up what he is saying.
Edit, I just saw some comments, and I am saddened that it appears no matter how intelligent and educational a video interview might be… stupid people are going to be stupid… it is not about, quiting porn, and it is not about quitting on life, it is about finding your self, taking risks with girls, with strangers, loving yourself and the people around you. Why does everybody think that life is always a pursuit of some challenge all or nothing movement? NO! Practice moderation, Learn to control yourself and take the time to explore your real world outside your house. Put the phone down. And yes, sometimes it’s also ok to break the rules and watch porn… look back in history, remember when we tried to ban alcohol? It didn’t work.. just learn self control.
Aside from the climate change garbage, he's spot on. I just assume he's from CA and disconnected
@@misst9ironic
"You do that for a decade and your mojo is a ghost"
Galloway is brilliant and hits the mark with his arguments! Being in the same room with people doesn't mean you're not lonely. Socialibility is crucial. Internet addiction, fantasy addiction and porn addiction are behavioral addictions, which are probably due to the adjustment disorder of many people during Covid who have not mentally overcome the loneliness caused by Covid. The consequences of Covid after the Covid period are far more damaging to society. This goes far beyond the infection.
"Less likely to believe in climate change" lololol
What a wild comment dude made😂
😂😂😂
Dating app = no climate change?? What the what...
@@benmudn I saw another video where he said this and laughed.. Wanted to clip it. Although he's right on most of the facts on this matter he still does in fact work for academia.
Dating apps are just so surface level that unless you’re like a 10/10 looks wise, you pretty much have no chance. If you took everyone on there and put them in a room together, the people who choose each other would be completely different
Very true
I'm no where near a 10/10 and have tons of success on dating apps lol.
@@thelonercoder5816I mean what do you define success? I used to find like 6s and 7s that were good for dates and hookups but no one worth actually cuffing
@@thelonercoder5816same , wtf I’m 5’8 and decent looking . I just accept getting ghosted at times and that I’m mostly going out with 6-7s lol
Ya because the women on there look very different in person
Corn is dangerous especially on the male mind. It gets you hooked on instant gratification which can create problems in every day life. You become conditioned to always seek the easy route.
Calling porn corn is even more dangerous
I had dating apps on and off from 2018 to 2022 I think. Once I actually finally decided I was done with them, after a month is when I realized how much they fucked up my self esteem and how I feel about myself in general. Getting off those was one of the best decisions I ever made.
I was 43 when I first attempted to quit pmo. At the end of the first week, I became physically ill from withdrawals. It is because I was using pmo daily since I was 15. Nothing has been harder than quitting pmo, including quitting weed, smoking and drinking.
It's such a tremendously difficult challenge... PMO is seen as such a "normal" activity yet stopping is like removing a huge part of your life.
@ Yeah it's tough, but honestly my friend, I loved it. I loved facing up to the challenge and I loved the enormous number of benefits. It really changed me for the better. I can't recommend it highly enough.
Thank you Theo for talking about these things bro. You’re so relatable.
Dating apps are too distracting. Getting 1-2 girls every week started make me feel empty and more lonely than ever. You’re always chasing the next girl, it’s impossible to fall in love when all you see is lust. I’ve been off for two weeks and I feel like I’m getting my life back, actually have time for myself
“Getting 1-2 girls every week started to make me feel empty”
File under Things That Never Happened.
@ being able to speak to women, and listen to them, along with being in shape and average looking at best does wonders. Especially in a big city. It’s not hard to pull girls with dating apps, just don’t be your own worst enemy and weird them out. The amount of stories/screenshots from girls I’ve seen really shows how a lot of guys just don’t know how to interact with women in the first place.
1-2 a WEEK? Like in person meetings? nobody is hitting those numbers, probably not even chad.
@@s0nnyburnett 1-2 matches probably
@@s0nnyburnettif you’re in your 20s in NY, work in finance/tech, decent shape, and went to a good school, very easy as an average guy within that sample, which most of working professional N.Y. is from my experience. Numbers game. The only issue is, have to remember the girls are also doing the same, so if you’re looking for someone “different”, might not be the girl you’re pulling weekly off of apps as you are just another one of their 1-2 guys being pulled weekly. Not really a Chad if everyone is doing it & willing in high density places like NY. Which is why you’re seeing more young people in NY start meeting people through run clubs or other in person social activities (even church) to try to facilitate a feeling of differentiation instead of the apps.
Scott Galloway is terrific and his TED talks are amazing. Hope makes another appearance in the future!
You cant see Galloway is peddling bogus facts
"Do we really love our kids" is a masterpiece.
@@irreversablecontentment4651 troll
“Less likely to not believe in climate change” 😭😭😭 this guy🙄
It is not often that I find myself at a loss for words, but in this instance, the only thing I can say is on behalf of women and real mothers who love their daughters and their sons. Thank you. This conversation is important and sometimes our kids need to hear things from outside sources so I’m glad That you exist thank you thank you thank you I said it three times which makes it a spell but it’s just a spell of gratitude that for you all things will go well.
Feeling more validated in my criticisms of the use of the internet, every day.
Been saying this about social media since Facebook was new.
Thank you Theo for saying porn degrades women.
every onlyfans gal say it's empowering not degrading. so which is it?
I feel like this video needs to be shown in every high school
7:32 "Less likely to believe in climate change"
WTF does that have to do with the topic at hand?
Ha, i was wondering the same. Think he was trying to connect the dots between too much porn kind leading to a blurred line of what's real and not in other areas of life.
Damn conspiracy theorists lol
yeah I thought the same just a stupid correlation
I thought exactly the same. I was fully with him until he said that. Climate change is a lot of nonsense
he has an agenda
Online job searching is just like online dating. Most applicants get filtered out immediately
this guy is spitting truths
Most people are clueless about themselves and about relationships which is why most relationships end. This idea that you need a woman is nonsense. Don't get me wrong, a good woman will bring a lot benefits to your life but it has to be the right woman. If you think you need a woman; I'd suggest what you actually need is to work on yourself. Learn to love being alone; then if you manage to organically bump into someone that you want to pursue something with; you can do so from a place of abundance, not scarcity
Amen. This guy saying that "It's worth it," I think he's just defending his own life choices. You can live without a romantic partner and be perfectly happy--dare I say, sometimes even more happy than you would be with one.
@@jason_v12345 I wish more people would say this. The loneliness epidemic is only worsened from people continuing to push the idea that a romantic relationship is the highest achievement you can reach in life. People are devaluing friendships and personal pursuits
Being alone your entire life sucks. Most people need someone.
dude wanting companionship, a life partner, is not a sign of weakness or not loving yourself. It's a biological imperative. If anything, genuinely not needing or wanting love in your life is more a sign of being not fully human
Some people like me don't ever feel lonely. I've tried being intimate with people. I don't get it. Some of my friends who don't have girlfriends for a while wilt like flowers. Different people have different levels of need for this.
Thanks for adding references and fact-checks. Makes it a lot more transparent 👌
ln my brief experience with dating apps, men treated me with more antagonism and flagrant disrespect than I have ever experienced in person. I went in open-minded, curious, and excited, and left emotionally drained, stressed, and pretty angry quite frankly. I think these apps not only attract the jaded, desperate, and lazy, but then turn everyone into heartless monsters who ghost- even after having good conversations. That's probably what surprised me the most, the propensity for men to not make a move and ask for my number/ask me out, and instead conversations dragging on day after day, until one or the other stops responding. Society would be much better without social media, porn, and dating apps. I miss those days.
I believe this behavior is also observable on all anonymous social media plattforms and comment sections. Best way is use social interactions as a benchmark and avoid too much online socialization
@@hyperadapted
The thing is that this anti social, rude, rough behaviour without any manners and respect has infiltrated the real world, it has gone offline. I speak from daily personal experience for the past ten years. It's a total desaster, it's disgusting and depressing.
@ agreed, it is a noticeable shift in communication and we need to adapt to the new ways of human interaction- maybe real time large language models will act as a universal translator of communication and be able to take the edge out. That would be sad since we humans adapted so long for cooperative communications.
This is interestingly well timed… Algorithm wildin’ today.
Can you stop this BS I love watching porn I get hard every time and also I’m trying to join the P industry one day soon damn I can’t stand Scott Galloway 🤦🏾♂️
DAWG, FR
So you watched a good amount of porn too? lol
DUDE NO SHIT.
algorithm today has been such a fucking flip I think people are fed up with this shit lives we are all living.
And he’s all hopped up on caffeine because he’s been sitting there sippin so long 😂😂😂😂😂😂
I was wondering if anyone else caught that 😂
Wow wow wow!!!! Thank you so much for this episode! Truly an inspiration for me to get clean off porn and reset my life Theo! Definitely struggle with it! Thank you for being open and honest and talking about these issues my friend!
I’ve dated girls from the apps, from cold approaches at social events, warm approaches from once friends to more and it always ends the same. I’m exhausted. It sucks getting rejected, I was definitely a late bloomer, but it sucks even more to spend a bunch of time, energy and effort building a connection with someone only for it to blow up or fade away a couple months later wondering wtf happened. Pron is an evil we should all avoid, but I just don’t know how realistic it is to actually find lasting, real love anymore or if it’s even worth trying because the rest of my life is great. I’m happy when I’m unattached just doing my own thing, the only time I’m down and depressed is when I’m dealing with women. Idk man, just throwing some shit out in RUclips comments tonight ig 🤷♂️
Hey i have been there it gets better , Look the best you can and focus onnacheiving your goals. Just be a man and a woman willnfollow , I didnt meet my wife until inwas 28 she was 18 at the time, if youre under 25 most women wont find you attractive
Exactly.... corn use is a result, not a cause
gotta respect theo for talking about addiction .....it gets you and cant admit its a problem until you try to quit
Theo is definitely the one who graffiti'd "Larry likes dudes but only if he's cool with it" 😂
I went on my 9th tinder date with my husband and I wasn’t initially interested but I took a chance. We got engaged 6months later and now 8 years later, one house, twin babies and we’re still standing strong. He’s the best man I’ve ever known.
Great so you obviously married someone who you're not attracted to so how long will this last? Another couple years? And for you to be available to get married means you was not able to lock down Chad Brad or Tyrone are you going to put your husband on alimony and child support and take his house? Almost no women get the man that they want because the man they want can get a 20 year old most marriages last 7 to 9 years
Facts.
@tonydiesel3444 ikr bro like 9 dates and then she's like "ughhh okay fiiine" like why would the guy even keep trying 😭
Don't show him this comment lol it'll make him feel like ass
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All true but viewing relationships as a risk rather than a benefit is at the core of the issue
Well, but isn't it a risk? I mean I have a quite, comfortable life. Things are more or less in order. I like my work, I have some fun hobbies.
Not everything is perfect, but it works for me. Letting someone into my life feels like a huge risk to me.
@ bc ur scared if someone will finally get to know you they’ll run the other direction cuz ur a mf freak
I think a bigger problem is viewing all relationships in general as a benefit. A lot of them suck and being single shouldn't be seen as something to feel bad about. Not everyone gets to be in the perfect relationship for them all the time.
@@nightfighter7452 Yeah, and I keep seeing unhappy people in unhappy realtionships. Or in other words: you have to have a really well functioning relationship before it's better than being single. And I feel like (I might be wrong) that many people live in relationships that do not make them happy, and they're just too scared to be alone.
"modulate use of porn" how about you quit completely ? Because that thing is no different than drugs
@@AtLeastMyDawgyLovesMeI agree it should be free to look at it shouldn’t be controlled but people should 100% be more aware of the issues it causes. No harm in letting people know the harm it does.
People have never ODed from Porn. People have never died from withdrawal from porn. People don’t go into psychosis permanently from a bad hit of porn. People don’t lose their ability to drive correctly yet get behind the wheel of a car and wipe out a mother and her kids from porn.
Please be real.
@@psilocybinenthusiast5200right. But there’s huge harm in letting people think drugs are only as bad as porn. That’s insane.
@@nataliaalfonso2662 well actually on 1000 ways to die there was that one guy who beat off so much he died of dehydration and was crushed by a stack of porn mags
I'll also add that I think a lot of the porn addicts lose motivation because they don't have a natural motivation to begin with. They're boring people with no talent and no passions. The desire for sex does not need to be one's only source of drive.
Gets rejected by woman and stops believing in climate change😅 7:49
I caught that too . Weird.
The dude pretends to be a moderate but is ultra liberal. Use to follow him but he’s a wolf in sheep’s clothing.
Hilarious sag way! 😂😮😢
That's a far reach at the same time one of the funniest things I've ever heard. Gotta love it😂😂😂
Liberal!
Galloway's example of 50 men and 50 women on Tinder was a good example (the women all want the same 4 out of 50 guys). However, I'd like to add an important piece of context: There's 3 men to every woman on Tinder. In other words, it would be 50 women and 150 men ratio on Tinder. So if you take both of those things into account, it makes sense why almost all men get nothing and even below average looking women get so many matches.
I don’t see what the problem is, it’s literally 3 minutes out of my week.
It’s so interesting to hear Theos take on porn addiction. I just know he’s helping so many ppl.
i havmt had a real social life since the 90s
I was born at the end of the 90s and I’m ready to leave this world
@@truncatepool5801 - I’m hella sorry to hear that my friend. I was born at the beginning of the 90’s and I’m kinda in the same boat. I don’t really care if I live or die at this point. I’ve had a handful of near death experiences and every time I’ve woken up in the hospital I’ve been bummed I was alive. That being said my family and friends were happy I made it so that’s cool I guess. Silver linings lol
@@truncatepool5801Nobody hold you back except yourself
7:35 what does being rejected and not believing in climate change have to do with each other lol
Listen to what he says. A man who is rejected over and over typically turns to content that support misogyny. Women treat a guy bad, the guy turns to material that downplays women. When you view this material, a majority of it downgrade scientific view points and turn more towards conspiracy. There aren’t a lot of macho men out there talking about topics like climate change. Most heavy hitters in the “guy talk” media would say “fuck climate change, that’s just Joe Biden and the democrats being pussies”. That’s his point.
LOL, he brought up climate change again? Dudes a clown.
Exactly my thought🙃
Leftist propaganda. It's somehow always the men's fault. You are a bad person if you don't believe in climate change. And probably that is also the men's fault. And if not, it clearly was Trump...And if it wasn't Trump, it is basically due to climate change, which if of course the men's fault.
He’s trying to get liberals to care about this issue with that
You want to see depressed, talk to a guy that got divorced and his ex is trying to keep him from seeing his kids. And he is working his A$$ off to pay the mortgage on a house she lives in while he lives in his car. Scott Galloway is selling a dream that is very rare in todays world.
Scott Galloway has been spot on for years with this stuff. I see the landscape and feel genuine relief that these are not my direct problems.
No clue how it gets fixed.
The appeal needs to be normalised again, with limitations on social media access on personal devices. People choose not to go out and face new experiences because they have gotten too comfortable through device interaction, sadly.
Nobody is going to take their hand and tell them to go outside.
I like how this guy can talk about this topic from a scientific standpoint and not a red-pill alpha male andrew tate kind of perspective. This is actually productive and not hateful or anti-women.
This guy said “he becomes less likely to believe in climate change”
😂😂😂😂😂😂
Was he joking or serious? I need to know so I can decide whether or not to take him serious.
Im pretty sure he’s serious. And while it sounds like a ridiculous thing to state, its probably mathematically accurate. It simply has to do with the algorithms and feedback loops. And the type of content that gets feed to you once you skew a certain way. We all think we are smart enough to properly decipher the information presented to us but eventually we are wrong about something. Just replying to your comment has probably ever so slightly altered the type of information I will receive about the environment.
and he was serious smfh
Oops, you accidentally proved his point.
Damn this is probably the best description of the harm from social media and current dating standards.
The biggest issue I am seeing with men is they fabricate who they are online or through a safe channel of porn, it's fine to service yourself through porn, but if you don't realize what it is and it's intention then it's a problem, you need to earn your badge with women in the real world first, if you are good with the ladies first in real life, then you can opt to go online, but if you are hiding to try and edit who you are, you will struggle in many aspects.
You cannot live in fear of women or pretend to be some ladies man to protect your own issues, you need to set standards as a man, reject women you don't actually want even just for sex. The more you try the worse it gets, you just need to be and improve things you can by experience and being brave and not putting on a persona caring what your peers think.
Amen brother
Retcon your life. Make up a story about how you quit watching p*** 2 years ago. Replay that thought over and over. When you try for it, remind yourself that you stopped 2 years ago. Start living future you's life, in that regard
I'm an old guy, 60 now. I was married 28 years that ended 10 years ago. I've always loved languages. I started learning Spanish on an online language exchange.
I talked to many people, men and women it was great for learning. Then I actually travelled to South America and today I'm married to my South American wife....NONE of this was planned, it just happened .....because real life just happens....
the green card is a clutch
Interesting, I've been learning Spanish for 5 years and also plan to visit South America at some point. Any tips on how to meet women and break the ice?
@@JehanKateli yeah, that wasn't the point...
Congrats you have one of the most typical stories imaginable.
You found a caregiver, congrats but real love is for the young because it's all just hormones. Anyone man or woman interested in a genuine connection should try to find it before 25. After that you're just settling and coping. Yes some can do it until death but it's not ideal.
I was really down and out about 2 weeks ago with my dating apps addiction. So i opened up my bible and read Peter chapter 5. Ever since then Ive been working out a lot. I went hunting and golfing for the first time. And been spending more time with my beautiful 2 yr old daughter.
I don think I fully agree with their porn arguments, but I do 100% agree that online dating is terrible. Online cant replace that feeling you get in real life when you instantly connect with someone. Sadly we just dont have those "third places" anymore where we can meet people. Its been replaced by online world.
Even as a woman, I noticed i was watching porn more than i used to. I struggle with debilitating anxiety, and it was doing something for me. Im trying to be more aware of it. It's not just men.
Spot on. Drop the porn. Plus, don't drink Celsius. BS on the "climate change and shitty citizen" statement.
whats wrong with celsius
This was a great clip. Very useful and solid information. Scott is very knowledgeable and helpful with his insights.
The music slaps, good pick!
Dating apps were the logical outcome of the intense “me too”. It was basically a mutual consent form.
Elaborate please.
I never experienced the dating apps.. Back when i was dating i just tried to pick up chicks in nightclubs.. Thats also where i met my wife.
You can enjoy anything in moderation. Moderation is key and hard to stick to
no porn is sick and pathetic. its shameful
As a 20 yr old vgin,I watch too much porn, don’t go on dates, gained 70lb, takes meds for ocd and anxiety, stay inside no friends just eat, thc, contemplating my existence. But I don’t want to change cause I don’t believe in myself anymore at all
Dude there’s hope get to the gym and watch Andrew Tate motivational videos get in shape and believe in yourself you’ll get laid and it will change your life!
lose the weight now. it's easy at your age- it gets a lot harder when you're older.
Quit the meds and get out of the house. Start doing that and the weight will start going down, you'll make friends and it'll all fall in place. You aren't ever going anywhere just sitting inside smoking, eating and sitting around medicated. Save the chilling for after hours.
You have your whole life ahead of you. You got this man, I believe in you 💛
Don’t forget that God will always be there for you, like the most perfect loving parent, just wishing that you will come to Him.
As someone who didn’t have a dad, I can’t imagine what it would be like to grow up with this man as your father. Lucky kids.
3:39 It's both hard and not worth it IMO. Relationships with women just end up being 5-15 years then a divorce over money or some dumb shit.
You got it. Or, they don’t divorce and are miserable.
The laws are in their favour, therefore, they feel entitled to the money they didn't work for.
So you should listen to James Sexton and for sure make a prenup...
😳🤔
@@EdwardOberon Not everyone. There are so many women who stay in unhappy marriages but this does nothing to improve the reputation of women in general on the internet.
Things make much more sense when you understand who is behind these products and their motivations.
Thank you for the online dating stats and I’m going to take a wild guess that men that swipe a thousand times to get a coffee date takes then 40,000 swipes to get a relationship.
Really it’s sad for both men and women.
We're so fortunate Theo is famous and bringing his personality to these conversations