For real. I clicked on this because of the title; I thought, wait, are you not supposed to do that? I am in my late 50s, and have "left it all behind" several times. Currently I'm in Costa Rica, lol
I somewhat agree but also I regret pretty much everything I've done up to this point in my 32 years...I've done some incredibly stupid life altering things...nothing involves prison or drugs just stupid life decisions and now I have no one around me
@@Gmny1MOA I know what you're saying, but we have to march forward my friend. We've already made past our tumultuous 20s......now it's finally going to smooth out. We made it🎉
@@krisannekey3218 It wasn't easy. Every day was one step closer to the life I deserved and wanted. When you want something bad enough you just push through it. Years later my x wife called me and thanked me for doing what she didnt have the courage to do. Shes has the life she wanted and so do i. Its that old saying that "Nothing worth having comes easy". Its a true story..
Sometimes roots need new soil, new nutrients, so the rest of the organism can flourish again... I've been stuck in this city for so long, where living is becoming too expensive, housing is unaffordable, and i lock myself indoors because of it, too noisy, too dirty... humans can be too toxic to stay put. I long for nature, peace and quiet.
I count my blessings everyday growing up in a small town of 500 people in Utah. I do not envy one bit for people living in city life. They seem to me as if they’re gasping for air with most cities I’ve visited.
I used to live in the city the same exact way and it was killing me. Took a few years, but found a place that clicked with me. The land is beautiful, the population is less, and the laws are great. I fit in better in the new place I found as well. Got a job transfer in the next week and left asap never to look back. Best decision I've ever made for myself.
“When a man is tired of London, he is tired of life; for there is in London all that life can afford.” - Samuel Johnson 😂. I've been in London for 11 years and I love it. Should I move out?
@@mmaidofsteel the modern person's mental health is equivalent to that of someone in an asylum 50 years ago, goes to show how society is setup for the people in it to fail
Our hunter-gatherer and herder ancestors traveled vast distances in their lifetime hunting the caribou and mammoth, before the era of agriculture. Being confined in a small concrete cube is unnatural and sick.
The timing of this video is impeccable. I have been feeling stuck in the minutia of my day to day life. I don’t live anymore, I just exist. I am constantly thinking about ways to leave and never look back. I want to run away from my job, my living situation, and I want to leave behind all the expectations others have set for me. It just feels like I need to leave in order to determine what truly I carry with me and what others gave me to carry for them.
Ahh, others ppl's expectations.... it is what holds you back from truly exploring what brings us happiness. There is nothing worse than others telling you how to be a mature adult, that cog in the machine. Just go to college and get an office job doing paperwork for 12 hrs a day. It truly destroys creativity.
Well said. Affairs are fairly common in relationships because it gives us a chance to start over with someone who doesn’t know our history. We can start with a clean slate. The wish to leave everything behind comes from that, I think.
Whoever is behind this channel is a genius. I mean...when I feel sad,stressed,ignored...I just go to this channel and come back like a fresh new born baby. Thanks Einzalngänger❤
Most people who do leave are the explorative types. They do not leave because of discontent. The people that are discontent and say they will leave, almost never leave. Just my experience. I lived and worked in 7 different countries. Now I'm quite settled, married, but the idea of going somewhere unknown and beginning a new quest still stays with me. A lot of people in the comments talk about travel. But travel is not the same as going somewhere to live and work. Even if you travel a year or so, you always know you will come back to the same situation. If you move somewhere and settle into another country, society, job, you are grounded into another daily reality. All I can say is that this will expand your vision immensely, and this idea of what home is will change with you.
"I never found the companion that was so companionable as solitude." That urge to fly away against the gravitational forces of mechanical existence hits hard !! It's better to be in Solitude than to deal with venomous fake world 🤸💜
I left my hometown 3 years ago. It gave me space to really have introspection without distraction. But I soon noticed that I started creating the same bad habits in my new environment. I followed myself lol. I'm glad I made the move but it also taught me that happiness is created from within🙏🏾❤️ great vid as always
i left my home as a child I walked a thousand sorry miles to wait for my father to gather up his tools. He said " son you gotta run, don't wait for me don't wait for mum. We'll come find you, when it's safe for us to move"
@@Daniel-ef7nkCanada is not a great place but it is a large plate of land That s quite a difference . Canada is predicated on violent extraction of finite resources by small minded boorish patriarchs.😮
I'm going through this at the moment - aged 54 - My life has been turned upside down in the previous 12 months. Some by design, some very much not by design. I've never felt as though I belonged wherever I was. I'm drawn to your channel because, like you, I'm drawn to solitude, I have needed to be alone since childhood. But I struggle with bouts of loneliness and a fundamental need for company and intimacy. It's as though I'm at odds with myself. I find water, sunshine and blue skies and walking therapeutic, calming, healing. I'm about to embark on a series of short trips around the Mediterranean to see if there's somewhere that resonates. A derelict farmhouse that requires renovating, surrounded by a small vinyard or an olive grove maybe. I have no idea of this a fantasy or a calling but I think it's worth taking a look. I know wherever I go I will take my internal struggles. I know that I'm not going to be able to run away from unpleasant feelings or memories. I'm not searching for a new home, a destination, a dream or a fantasy. I'm searching for inner calm. Deep down I know it doesn't matter where I am physically for this to manifest itself, but the journey I hope is the mechanism that creates healing that I require. If I return, I hope to return a more whole, centered person.
Reflection is always both key and lock. 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ "Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind's journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul's fate revealed. In time, all points converge, hope's strength resteeled. But to earn final peace at the universe's endless refrain, we must see all in nothingness... before we start again." 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ --Diamond Dragons
You will return (if you decide to) a more centered person. You are telling my story. I left when I was 56. At 61 I moved to Italy and found that loving another culture validated that love and generosity was always within me. I was just in a place and with people that never appreciated it. "Stay close to your roots"" my buttt..!!
Travel changes the soul in my opinion and experience. Gives new perspectives to the old problems. Makes it easier to put up with and help yourself. And others.
Thank you Mr. Einzelgänger. This hit the spot. I too have the urge to leave everything behind, especially away from toxic environment/people, but than I fear the unknown and I stay and also due to responsibilities. I also wonder: will it really make me more content? Maybe, maybe not. This is why I love to travel, seeing new places is so important to me, but getting back to what I know. And I admire people who are fearless and start a new life. Sometimes a change of place can help and sometimes not. We are all different. Thank you for all your educational videos 👍
If you ever are given the opportunity to travel, take it. Yes, it will be difficult. Feeling like you’re taking newborn steps again outside the comfort of your bubble. It isn’t easy. I get the sense that mentally you’re in a good place for now so there’s no rush even if your present environment is questionable.
We were a nomadic species not that long ago - I definitely believe that we still have that instinct to keep moving forward to new ground. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.
Time is the only resource. All too abruptly, when the 12th hour arrives, most humans will ne unprepared for the journey beyond the void veil. 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ "Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind's journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul's fate revealed. In time, all points converge, hope's strength resteeled. But to earn final peace at the universe's endless refrain, we must see all in nothingness... before we start again." 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ --Diamond Dragons
I’ve been tethered down in a place of general discontent for the past 15 years. Not women, children or anything like that. This January I was able to make the decision to drop everything and pursue my dreams… most importantly- I was able to do this without hurting anyone. I bought a sailboat, moved several hours away and will be learning to sail the great lakes. I’m 35 now and plan to be somewhere on the other side of the world in a few years. A sailboat is very similar to a rocket ship- traveling to far distant lands relying on yourself, your preparedness and knowledge. The world is your oyster 😊
I lef tmy country in 1979 as a crew member in a sailboat. It set me off to a course that would had never reach my current heights and situation, had I never sailed away. Best of luck to you.
Sounds fun, I lived on an uninhabited island of the Columbia River for six months. I dream of going somewhere even more remote. Talked to some sailors who journeyed to the islands of southeast Alaska.
Very cool! My mom’s first husband had a beautiful wooden sailboat with his brother and kept on sailing until his 70’s I believe. Enjoy your adventures!
I left the United States for China. My wife, father, and aunt all passed away within a year of each other, and I was looking to start over since I lost so many. I teach physics here. It would be nigh impossible for a white man like me to get such a job in my homeland. While I am much happier here, I still took myself with me. I still have the same knots in my soul I always did. Great talk
I was eighteen years old sitting on my front porch wrestling with the fact that my dad was not in my life. When I was 24 I flew to another island to spend time with my mom, there I find myself walking to a park at night, looking up to the stars and wondering what’s out there in the universe. Eventually, I travelled to the US, found a job,bought a house, got married, had a child, but guess what, I still wonder if that’s all there is, restless and stuck in my head. Nothing and no one can save me. There is no place to be. Everything is temporary.
Ya know, when me and a ex broke up in 2022, i was more mad at my environment and all the memories i shared in places, the smells etc. i wanted to get away. But i knew that deep down i loved my city, met great people, jobs galore, decent priced living. But i looked for every reason to leave instead of why i came there anyway. So yeah i moved back home with the parents in a shitty town with like 2 jobs. Ive grown so very much like coming to realization of the topic of this video. But its not outside things that make you wanna leave, its a internal conflict you need to address and accept truth on. God bless y'all be safe and stop being so stubborn lol
I’m glad you found out what you really wanted from life. To live in the place that you really loved. That is fantastic and I wish you all the best. But, why do you feel the need to tear others down for making a different choice from you? Yes maybe they’ll realize like you did that staying was what they truly wanted once they try it out somewhere else. Is there anything wrong with needing to experience something you don’t like before you realize what you really want? But then again, maybe their experiences are different than yours. Maybe they realize when they move away that they are genuinely happier and found something in a quieter place that gave them a newfound desire to live? What’s wrong with that? Whether you think a decision someone’s made with their own life is right or wrong, maybe you can respect that you are not living their life and respect that the decisions they make are with years worth of experience from the time they formed memories that you could not come close to understanding as they do? I think that sort of critical thinking could be constructive to people’s lives, including yours, rather than destructive.
As an immigrant and incurable traveller, but also as a homesteader and community-minded person, I can attest to all of these being present in my own life. I think the key to understanding this is that we are not unitary beings with a single purpose. We have within ourselves the explorer, the homesteader, the person who longs for deep and lasting connection, and the person who longs to be completely free and unencumbered by relationships. All these personalities need their time to express themselves. How we integrate them together into a meaningful and satisfying life is the trick.
I left home when I was 17 and never looked back. I went on the adventure of a lifetime and experienced some amazing things. Met some interesting people and saw things few will ever see. I learned quite a bit about myself and others.
omg I did the same. Hi fellow travel nerd. My mind became incredibly expansive. Now I see the bubble everyone clings to incredibly tightly around me whenever I visit home.
Geographical cures rarely work, but provide a temporary rush that can become addictive. Lived like that all through my 20's and 30's. Finally set roots in my 40s. Now an old man in my 70's i can say, for myself, had i remained a nomad would have been true to myself. The life i have lived, while not terrible, brought little joy and excitement. Like i said, the temporary fix is addictive. Honestly, being a responsible adult sucks.
I, on other hand, love to be respondible adult, and providing for kids is what keeps me alive and happy. The responsability is key to happines in my opinion
That's the great thing about severe depression, you truly come to know that wherever you go, there you are, and NOTHING outside of you is going to permanently impact your essence. No scenery, location, group of friends, mate, house, car, or even dogma is going to truly change you. Only after you've stripped EVERYTHING you thought was you and gone into silence with yourself will one start to understand themselves and the rudimentary machinations of reality. Otherwise, like me you just flounder in the illusion until you release it.
Reflection is not only important, it is truly both key and lock. 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ "Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind's journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul's fate revealed. In time, all points converge, hope's strength resteeled. But to earn final peace at the universe's endless refrain, we must see all in nothingness... before we start again." 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ --Diamond Dragons
I have never gone a vacation. I always was moving. From VA to HI many times staying years at a time. In the jungle for a year. Czech to Serbia to Costa Rica. Searching where I fit in. What I learned is, no matter where you go, there YOU are. There is no geographical cure for the void everyone has. I finally live one my little piece of land all alone. I know what's wrong is in me. Here I will face it. 4 years sober.
You may be an introvert (as I am). Growing up, my family moved every 2-3 years due to my dad's job. So I know what it's like to be a stranger in a strange land. Consider Taoism and Zen - they say that life is full of "unsatisfactoriness." Just normal shit. I am so glad you found your little piece of land. I have too, in a sunny place in a condo. I just smile at my neighbors but don't try to meet anyone's expectations except my own.
Hi from Czech Republic Olomouc city. I want to move as well. To be alone on my own. To learn how to make decisions without asking anyone. To create better personality. To increase my circle of comfort zone.. For now it is very small circle.. I mean really very small...
@@jirihutecka9020 I lived in Lipi and České Budějovice. I would have stayed forever and it makes me cry because I felt complete there but had to leave because visa.
This is the best video you made. Exactly my feelings, I did ran away because of my unhappiness. Lived abroad 3 times already and now I'm a digital nomad that can't even go home for a week to visit family and friends. The discontentment is always there, I realised that I couldn't run away from myself many years ago. But still moving around helps a little bit...although I don't think I can be ever really happy or have moments of true happiness. I will just wait for the years to go by and that's it...
I moved away from a place I love and it was the best decision I ever made. My environment, relationships and circumstances was making me depressed. My new environment makes me much happier and my problems didn't follow me.
I became a very protective version of myself when I was chasing a 11 year LDR. I didn't prioritize my desires, happiness and grinded myself to become financially independent to make it work. I put all of my dreams and hopes towards it and kept enduring a lot of hardship just to get together in a different place, different continent. Now that it's gone, I don't feel myself a bit. Now I want to leave everything behind, do all the things I wanted to do, don't care about any risks. Just wanna disappear from the face of the earth and restart everything. But no matter where I go, there I am.
At the age of 39, I emigrated from London to central Europe on Christmas Day 2015. I didn't speak the language, I had no job lined up, no friends, no family, nothing there. Nine years later, I'm self-employed with a higher quality of life than I could have ever dreamt possible. (edited: dreamed-->dreamt) I still don't speak the local language.
On top of the several different angles of perspective you explained, i would like to add, sometimes moving to a faraway place is just a very potent act of healing. Some people travel for wanderlust, some for escape. But sometimes its just straight of healthy to get away from old wounds, influences, or local elements that have become toxic. We are designed to have the instinct to move when things go sour, somewhat. Giving oneself a new life with novel elements all around with a clean slate can be very psychologically healing. Sometimes its just wholistic to start over. A new chapter. A new life. I think it all depends on the individual and how well they know themselves for the reasons they make the decision.
Funny how this video perfectly showed up about the choice i made. 7 months ago I finally made the step to move to Thailand. I was totally fed up with my old life and the country. I do miss my family, but remind myself everytime how much better the life quality is here. Happy with all the lessons i learn here.
May 31st I will be in Thailand permanently. First an education Visa and then a O Visa. In February I visited for 2 weeks and fell in love with the place. Every minute everyday since then I have sold off my stuff that I've accumulated over the years and tomorrow I get on a plane. The only thing I have left to sell is my motorhome and they're going to do it for me. If I get what I'm expecting on it, it will fund my life there for quite some time. Meanwhile, I have A pension. I can live on that.
So it's been 9 months. Now! But the question is will be content in the long run there! As I also moved and changed location and I was happy in the first 3 years and boom it hit me hard .... having said that all the best wishes and happiness for u :)
I think the desire to leave the current life behind Is not necessarily to find happiness, but the feeling of going to explore and experience new things. This feeling must be inate within us, omelet but sometimes the noise of our daily life blurs our inner voice.
Good topic. I had these feelings, and one reason you didn't mention is due to realizing that your past life was living under someone elses life, then you woke up to find who you really are.
@@Littlevillager2004 - he never married and died of cancer in his mid 60s. To his great credit, he spent a large part of his later years nursing a former lover, who had a fatal illness.
Good timing, I just came from hours of internet search for a new flat in a new city. And I love adventures and new surroundings, but I've also learned that relationships are the most valuable thing in life, especially those that you've had for years. The people that know and accept you the way you are should be preserved and cared for with real intention. And that includes seeing each other, which isn't easy if you're living far away. I'm excited, but it also kinda breaks my heart because I know it won't be the same anymore with my friends.
That's a very smart quote. I feel exactly the same. Even about traveling for vacation. There's no point in paying a lot for a vacation, when you can't leave your terrible thoughts at home.
@@jonasbarbosa4410I feel like intelligence and an abundance of common sense lower happiness. Knowing answers that others don’t know can make you jealous of their carefree way.
@@lunareinhold3976 good luck my friend. You will make the change happen and when you look back in some years, you will laugh about your hesitation and be proud that you have had the courage to move on 😉
I’ve just left everything behind and embarked on full time boondocking in an rv with my cats and dogs. It’s been a month and haven’t even had a twinge of longing to return.
I just want to say thank you for making the videos you do. I’ve fundamentally changed as a person and have done a lot of self reflecting due to the knowledge I’ve found thru your channel, and I can not thank you enough. It has improved my life
This entire line of thinking takes the following premise as fact: Staying where you are has inherent merit over moving. This is premise is false. 6:30 “…like with every form of pleasure we obtain from the external world, it's not a permanent cure for unhappiness; the happiness it generates is fleeting.” In my experience this is completely wrong. I’ve moved several times leaving much behind for specific reasons I could clearly identify. Each time I’ve been happier after the move. Gradually the fit with me and the place I now was drifted apart until it was worth relocating again. That’s life. It’s not some profound philosophical dilemma. Consider even the following assertion: If you’re the problem, that problem follows you around. Surely that’s true in some cases, but moving can still alleviate those problems that you’re not creating for yourself. There’s no reason your problems can’t be caused by both you and where you live. To believe otherwise is to embrace a false dichotomy. I have found that most people doing such mental gymnastics about why they shouldn’t move simply have either some hangup about letting go, or don’t want to do the work to move. The specious reasoning in this essay just licenses those dysfunctions to continue unaddressed.
A provocative and balanced discussion. This quest for ... something ... something better, drove our ancient ancestors to explore new places and create new cultures. And yet, on a more mundane note: my husband and I moved and moved and moved, and each move improved our lives. And yet we lost something important along the way. We have no deep friendships now, because friendships take time to deepen. At 70, I understand that one can't have everything in this life. We make our choices and we live with the consequences.
Leavimg everything behind, paying off all debts and being with my lady is the best decisions ever. Be with someone you can cuddle with. I also learned how to go inside myself like Thoth said. Made my life happier.
It is great to see how host shares his growth, and not only quoting existing Stoic understandings. The channel and its content is also a part of our travel. A travel of the host and audience and their ways.
I was very unhappy (born and raised) in Los Angeles. Decided to leave it all behind, except for my clothes, shoes & CDs in 2003 and drive to NYC. Been living in Brooklyn ever since. I am so glad I took a chance and dared to be brave. Best decision I ever made for myself.
Traveling is not a waste of time. It will open you mind to other ways of living and meeting other people with different opinions than what you have and it might change how you look at living. Some times it is great and some times it sucks but it is always a new experience that will help you se what you have and maybe what you can learn from it. Life is a journey not a destination, enjoy the ride.
This video really hit home for me. I have traveled to Europe two times for multiple months in an attempt to escape the mundanity of my life (and depression). Both times I realized that the feeling wore off in a few days, just like you described in your video. I love to travel, but I will no longer do it in order to escape every day life
Travelling can be a good vehicle for changing the way you think. Living in different environments can make it obvious what is actually important in life.
We evolve....we grow.....we elevate.....like purging our closet of old worn out clothing.......new outfits make us feel fresh and renewed....GO FOR IT!!!!
I have just broken up with my long term partner because for a very long time I haven't felt like myself for many of the reasons you've mentioned in this video. I have just finished packing and am moving tomorrow and still have regrets that I have made a really stupid decision. This video calmed me down and made me feel much more positive about the future. Thank you.
This video couldn't have come at a better time....currently in the process of changing my name and then planning on joining the military...leaving everything behind and starting anew.
In 2001 I dropped everything and moved from a beach town in Australia to the USA. I wasn’t running from or to anything, I was just craving a change in circumstance. It was the best decision I ever (hastily) made. The urge is back 25 years later to start again.
Thank you for making this video as I often talk to my therapist about my feelings of being “trapped”, of “living my partner’s dream”. In working through childhood trauma though my therapist made the obvious observation to me that if I were to “escape” my head would come with me. If I don’t work through this trauma all I am changing is location and not healing with a new mindset. This video is a big help alongside that therapy. Thank you.
Leaving it all behind for me comes from the fact that I’ve grown from my mistakes. When you stay in the same place you’re from, you’re constantly reminded of that. It comes from the fact that I’m no longer who I once was but that place and the people still are.
I think the first instance of leaving everything behind is doing something for one's self. I recently realised that I have been living somebody else's life and relocating, without telling anyone, would be the first step.
It is not just running away from something, also towards something. I am a nature lover by nature and could not live contentedly in the Netherlands. So I moved to a small green island and have been living in and of and with nature for 2 decades. It was a hard road but very rewarding.
Great video once again. I am 58, American (not my fault) and I have travelled extensively, Hawaii (twice) Spain, Canary Islands, Mexico, Canada, Philippines, Caribbean, Brazil, Mongolia, Korea, Germany, Austria, Switzerland and In all my travels, all my experiences, the one thing that rings true, for me anyway, is that you cannot run away from yourself. To truly love, respect, trust and be happy externally, one must first find those inside. 💙🙏
I always felt that way, I felt like I didn't belong where I was. Today I understand that it has something to do with my childhood, family beliefs and environmental culture. Before, I wanted to go far away, because as no one knew me, I could be whoever I wanted. But habits and personality don't change that quickly. I'm changing where I am. Helping to change the lives of those close to me, improving my social skills and polishing my ego. Great video!
The thought of starting a new life in another town has been on my mind lately-thanks for this video, but I don't even have a savings or rich parents to easily initiate that.... in general, I think I'm a pretty happy guy, who loves joking around. My bondage comes from two clear sources: That everybody has to earn a living (usually doing work we don't like to make money to do the things we like) and collaborating/cooperating with the enemy. Therein lies the bondage🔱.
I disagree with most of this. I’ve switched environments and love my new place. It’s filled with people that mostly mind their own business. It’s beautiful. It’s vast and expansive. I’m still alone but this move has not only made me a better person but it has made me quite a bit more happy and at peace while still learning and growing.
Interesting meditation throught a very common topic! I've been struggling with this "wanderlust" feeling many years and came across this video to find an opinion about it. We, human being, forgot that we used to be nomads, is natural to move around to find our way to live. It should be in every single heart and soul this need of exploring, moving and finding new things to share. You added new point of view to my urge, which I hope soon be able to satisfy roaming the world.
🙂@JudyButterfield-ed9tu -- This is so perfect. Many years back I had a therapist say the same thing to me when I was doubting my self about moving again. Some people just love change! It has them feeling revived & inspired again! I opened 2 successful businesses after moving to different states. But I was allowing others opinions to determine my decision making. I moved a lot in my life and was always happy I did! But... I'm much older now, and not even sure if I have the energy for one more move anymore. lol So, I'm so happy I moved as often as I did. I believe, I did move for the right reasons. So, if you're really wanting to (I'd say at any age really) & you're sure you are doing it for any of the right reasons--Go for it! These two statements are a treasure....This one too below! There might be a few others in comments also--!! "If moving is an acceptance of who we are and what we value, then it's a running towards ourselves, not away from ourselves." Thanks to both of you! 😍
My wife and I have just been on a recce to France. We intend to move there from the UK in the next year. It’s not dissatisfaction. We are very happy. But life is short and we want to experience a change and a challenge together. We will be happy because we are already happy. We don’t think of it as moving away, - rather we are moving towards.
Funny you mention Interstellar and "existence precedes essence". They've both been influential steps in shaping the backdrop of where I've been going even if I don't realize it now. Seeing and hearing it here and now, and seeing my own mind walk through the conclusions you did as you shift from "leaving as an escape" to "leaving as an assertion" was encouraging. I feel validated. Thanks for sharing!
This might be my favorite youtube video I've ever watched. This feeling has been deep in my soul since I was a kid and to see it so eloquently crystalized in my favorite form of media was so catharthic. Thank you!
Just existing is a terrible feeling! We need to do everything/anything to feel more alive! I find dancing & listening to our preferred music works. Just saying though....For the short period anyway.😍
@@tina74166 yeah i understand you i feel good when i do sports or go for a hiking ! But main problem is to see that my environnement is sick and i having problems finding another niche
@@Khaospice10 So many of us are searching for our 'new' niche, especially through these times of awakening. Meaning, our outer environments looking so bleak, but we can see past that part. If we don't we want to move as far as possible! But the more I stay put, grateful for all experiences (not always easy) but if we can focus as often as possible to creating more of who our 'true' self is now and/or is becoming, and don't give in to any people pleasing, I feel we will be awakened much more to our new purpose/niche. Keep it going with your sports and hiking, it all helps so much. Sometimes, it could be as simple as doing more things that makes us happy. I hope that makes sense? Or something I said brings more peace & contentment. 🙂🙏💙
@@tina74166 Yeah m’y actuall désire is to build the skills for one day i can live “off grid” ! Life on the city on the end of the day just suck your soul ! Of course we have to be grateful for thé experience we have cause our mistakes are the learnings of today ! But yeah I understand you the thing is to find people that are align with your way of thinking! Can be hard going tru life when all your closed ones still living with matrix agenda
I get that you are still you wherever you go, but I hope that moving away from abusive family is liberating because otherwise there is no way out. Surely distance must help. Scars don’t always fade but maybe it could be just a little more bearable to exist.
I cannot speak for others, but for me personally I totally disagree when you say that the urge to leave is irrational, as you will bring your discontent with you. No, not at all! Some countries are in much greater alignment with one's soul-leaving a materialistic, consumer-oriented, car-driven, no universal health care, etc. country to go to a country with free health care, awesome public transport, affordable housing, a vibe and infrastructure for the people, etc. is the difference between day and night when it comes to stressors vs. a peaceful existence...
@@DanErvin That's what I'd like to know too. I've researched & researched and it's so confusing & overwhelming (especially when we watch too many different YT vids) lol @rebeccar4312 --- I know this is from 2 months ago, but if you get this comment, can you please let us know, if you came up with a good place yet??? Thanks so much! 🙂
Since I was a little kid I expressed my desire to move away. I always felt more comfortable in the unfamiliar. Sometimes it has been to run away from something (perhaps myself, perhaps a pain), sometimes it's been because I really long for adventure and experiences, and sometimes it just felt like the only thing I could do because I didn't find anything better to do with my time. Whatever it is the reason, I have enjoyed it, and it really changed me in a good way. I studied international relations to be a diplomat, but as soon as I made my internship in an embassy I de diced it was not for me. But I still wanted to be outside. I made it my way and it was awesome. I was traveling through La Patagonia when I met the love of my life. Also a wandering soul, but with more responsibilities (a daughter hahaha). He works hard, but somehow, it is always away from his home. We have lived in 4 cities in a year. He says he loves it, that way he can see so many new places and people. I do think it's in our nature, this desire to explore.
thank you for this i've stood on the edge of my own demise contemplating the repercussions of such an impulsive journey, ultimately convinced I made the smarter choice I remain in chains perhaps finishing this video will aid me on the path to the enlightenment I seek
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I would rather be a stranger in a strange place than being a stranger in a "familiar" place.
AMEN
Every time I look into the woods, the wilderness, I want to walk into it and never come back.
Yeah, I want to dig an underground house in the forest and go feral 😊
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Lol 😂as a wilderness man, you'll be coming back as soon as you're hungry and thirsty
Bye
I also do it
I left all behind many times. Remember, when you are old, you will regret what you didn't do, rather than all the mistakes done in life.
For real. I clicked on this because of the title; I thought, wait, are you not supposed to do that? I am in my late 50s, and have "left it all behind" several times. Currently I'm in Costa Rica, lol
I somewhat agree but also I regret pretty much everything I've done up to this point in my 32 years...I've done some incredibly stupid life altering things...nothing involves prison or drugs just stupid life decisions and now I have no one around me
@@Gmny1MOA I know what you're saying, but we have to march forward my friend. We've already made past our tumultuous 20s......now it's finally going to smooth out.
We made it🎉
Kinda sorta true but I'm sure not for all
I was your 187th like... feeling like Snoop and Dre rn
In 2008 I dropped everything and left everything behind to move to Alaska. It was the best choice I ever made..
I've visited Alaska and I kinda envy you.
How did you deal emotionally with such big changes?
No wife and kids huh?
@@krisannekey3218 It wasn't easy. Every day was one step closer to the life I deserved and wanted. When you want something bad enough you just push through it. Years later my x wife called me and thanked me for doing what she didnt have the courage to do. Shes has the life she wanted and so do i. Its that old saying that "Nothing worth having comes easy". Its a true story..
@@noseefood1943 You make your own choices.
Sometimes roots need new soil, new nutrients, so the rest of the organism can flourish again...
I've been stuck in this city for so long, where living is becoming too expensive, housing is unaffordable, and i lock myself indoors because of it, too noisy, too dirty... humans can be too toxic to stay put. I long for nature, peace and quiet.
I do feel you tremendously. You will be fine. Just know yourself and what you want. ❤️
Good luck finding it. I wish you well.
I count my blessings everyday growing up in a small town of 500 people in Utah. I do not envy one bit for people living in city life. They seem to me as if they’re gasping for air with most cities I’ve visited.
I used to live in the city the same exact way and it was killing me. Took a few years, but found a place that clicked with me. The land is beautiful, the population is less, and the laws are great. I fit in better in the new place I found as well. Got a job transfer in the next week and left asap never to look back. Best decision I've ever made for myself.
I lived 5-6 cities and change my house over 30+ times in 40 years. Its an addiction to me move on new neighborhood.
“No matter where you go, there you are”
I love this quote. Who's quote is it?
The Adventures of Buckaroo Banzai Across the 8th Dimension
Can't run away from yourself.
I like it
@@riffdealernot in the UK 😂 rain and more rain 😢
3 Years a go left my well paid job in London to settle in a coastal small town in Scotland.
Best decision ever
Ridiculous! The video clearly says you should stay in Khanistan and be happy.
@@andro.5678the video say do whatever you like
“When a man is tired of London, he is tired of life; for there is in London all that life can afford.” - Samuel Johnson 😂.
I've been in London for 11 years and I love it. Should I move out?
Not much of a change
I love that .
No matter what place, I always have the feeling I don't belong there.
I think I agree with this. I have attributed it to a fear of "this can't be it", but I still don't really know how to solve the problem
We dont belong in Hell, we get to experience it awhile then go to our true home.
Earth isn’t your home, never was
@@seraph3761 interesting belief system
That feeling comes from the realization that we don't belong to this unnatural setting 👉The Connections (2021) [short documentary]🙏💖
the need to explore doesn't just come from discontent, it is part of the human nomadic identity. A reflection of our truest selves. Well said!
I agree. We are not meant to be tied to one place, it's not natural and is the cause of all our modern disease.
@@mmaidofsteel the modern person's mental health is equivalent to that of someone in an asylum 50 years ago, goes to show how society is setup for the people in it to fail
The inherent wish for freedom
That feeling comes from the realization that we don't belong to this unnatural setting 👉The Connections (2021) [short documentary]🙏💖
Our hunter-gatherer and herder ancestors traveled vast distances in their lifetime hunting the caribou and mammoth, before the era of agriculture. Being confined in a small concrete cube is unnatural and sick.
If moving is an acceptance of who we are and what we value, then it's a running towards ourselves, not away from ourselves.
Best comment ever 🎉
Bạn nói đúng.
Love that! For sure ~😊
@@customjuices .. I really like that. It feels like what I see
Like in maslows pyramid of needs. If they are not adequately met it is reasonable to move where those needs can be met
The urge to leave is rooted in an inner desire to find yourself.
The timing of this video is impeccable. I have been feeling stuck in the minutia of my day to day life. I don’t live anymore, I just exist. I am constantly thinking about ways to leave and never look back. I want to run away from my job, my living situation, and I want to leave behind all the expectations others have set for me. It just feels like I need to leave in order to determine what truly I carry with me and what others gave me to carry for them.
Well put
Ahh, others ppl's expectations.... it is what holds you back from truly exploring what brings us happiness. There is nothing worse than others telling you how to be a mature adult, that cog in the machine. Just go to college and get an office job doing paperwork for 12 hrs a day. It truly destroys creativity.
That feeling comes from the realization that we don't belong to this unnatural setting 👉The Connections (2021) [short documentary]🙏💖
Well said. Affairs are fairly common in relationships because it gives us a chance to start over with someone who doesn’t know our history. We can start with a clean slate. The wish to leave everything behind comes from that, I think.
What did you do?
I am in same situation now
Beautiful video! Greetings from Mexico City
Whoever is behind this channel is a genius. I mean...when I feel sad,stressed,ignored...I just go to this channel and come back like a fresh new born baby. Thanks Einzalngänger❤
That feeling comes from the realization that we don't belong to this unnatural setting 👉The Connections (2021) [short documentary]🙏💖
Wow, I’m glad I found this encouragement!
You can not take it with you.
I do the same. I feel the same. Cheers
Most people who do leave are the explorative types. They do not leave because of discontent. The people that are discontent and say they will leave, almost never leave.
Just my experience. I lived and worked in 7 different countries. Now I'm quite settled, married, but the idea of going somewhere unknown and beginning a new quest still stays with me.
A lot of people in the comments talk about travel. But travel is not the same as going somewhere to live and work. Even if you travel a year or so, you always know you will come back to the same situation.
If you move somewhere and settle into another country, society, job, you are grounded into another daily reality. All I can say is that this will expand your vision immensely, and this idea of what home is will change with you.
Agreed!
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How is it that you ALWAYS upload a video that matches my situation, like perfectly. Holy shit
I’m going to enjoy watching your videos once again :)
Was going to comment the same thing
@@brandonchdib5380 it might be a coincidence haha, we all live similar situations sometimes
Hope it brings something good to you !
+1
bruh same
Yup same
"I never found the companion that was so companionable as solitude."
That urge to fly away against the gravitational forces of mechanical existence hits hard !! It's better to be in Solitude than to deal with venomous fake world 🤸💜
I feel like you have to keep moving if one is this type of person. Some people just need new.
That feeling comes from the realization that we don't belong to this unnatural setting 👉The Connections (2021) [short documentary]🙏💖
@@WiseandVegan that’s also Marx’s alienation of labor theory
I left my hometown 3 years ago. It gave me space to really have introspection without distraction. But I soon noticed that I started creating the same bad habits in my new environment. I followed myself lol. I'm glad I made the move but it also taught me that happiness is created from within🙏🏾❤️ great vid as always
i left my home as a child I walked a thousand sorry miles to wait for my father to gather up his tools. He said " son you gotta run, don't wait for me don't wait for mum. We'll come find you, when it's safe for us to move"
That feeling comes from the realization that we don't belong to this unnatural setting 👉The Connections (2021) [short documentary]🙏💖
I left the UK 13 years ago and moved to Canada. Now I’m stuck and have endless amounts of debt. Living hell. The grass isn’t always greener.
You came to the wrong place at the wrong time, just before Trudeau started to destroy the economy, Canada is still a great place though.
@@Daniel-ef7nkCanada is not a great place but it is a large plate of land That s quite a difference . Canada is predicated on violent extraction of finite resources by small minded boorish patriarchs.😮
You knew it was expensive there sooooooooooooooooooooooo. Move!
@@SheepSociety It was cheap when I rocked up. Hookers and blow was cheap as chips
Can't you go back? Find a very cheap place? Or is the UK just as expensive? If so, maybe look to somewhere altogether new...
I'm going through this at the moment - aged 54 - My life has been turned upside down in the previous 12 months. Some by design, some very much not by design. I've never felt as though I belonged wherever I was. I'm drawn to your channel because, like you, I'm drawn to solitude, I have needed to be alone since childhood. But I struggle with bouts of loneliness and a fundamental need for company and intimacy. It's as though I'm at odds with myself. I find water, sunshine and blue skies and walking therapeutic, calming, healing. I'm about to embark on a series of short trips around the Mediterranean to see if there's somewhere that resonates. A derelict farmhouse that requires renovating, surrounded by a small vinyard or an olive grove maybe. I have no idea of this a fantasy or a calling but I think it's worth taking a look. I know wherever I go I will take my internal struggles. I know that I'm not going to be able to run away from unpleasant feelings or memories. I'm not searching for a new home, a destination, a dream or a fantasy. I'm searching for inner calm. Deep down I know it doesn't matter where I am physically for this to manifest itself, but the journey I hope is the mechanism that creates healing that I require. If I return, I hope to return a more whole, centered person.
You can legit write travel blogs
Reflection is always both key and lock.
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"Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind's journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul's fate revealed. In time, all points converge, hope's strength resteeled. But to earn final peace at the universe's endless refrain, we must see all in nothingness... before we start again."
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--Diamond Dragons
That feeling comes from the realization that we don't belong to this unnatural setting 👉The Connections (2021) [short documentary]🙏💖
I share these feelings too. All the best, Red.
You will return (if you decide to) a more centered person. You are telling my story. I left when I was 56. At 61 I moved to Italy and found that loving another culture validated that love and generosity was always within me. I was just in a place and with people that never appreciated it. "Stay close to your roots"" my buttt..!!
Travel changes the soul in my opinion and experience. Gives new perspectives to the old problems. Makes it easier to put up with and help yourself. And others.
Thank you Mr. Einzelgänger. This hit the spot. I too have the urge to leave everything behind, especially away from toxic environment/people, but than I fear the unknown and I stay and also due to responsibilities. I also wonder: will it really make me more content? Maybe, maybe not. This is why I love to travel, seeing new places is so important to me, but getting back to what I know. And I admire people who are fearless and start a new life. Sometimes a change of place can help and sometimes not. We are all different. Thank you for all your educational videos 👍
If you ever are given the opportunity to travel, take it. Yes, it will be difficult. Feeling like you’re taking newborn steps again outside the comfort of your bubble. It isn’t easy. I get the sense that mentally you’re in a good place for now so there’s no rush even if your present environment is questionable.
@@seraph3761 👍🖐
We were a nomadic species not that long ago - I definitely believe that we still have that instinct to keep moving forward to new ground. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.
Time is the only resource. All too abruptly, when the 12th hour arrives, most humans will ne unprepared for the journey beyond the void veil.
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"Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind's journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul's fate revealed. In time, all points converge, hope's strength resteeled. But to earn final peace at the universe's endless refrain, we must see all in nothingness... before we start again."
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--Diamond Dragons
That feeling comes from the realization that we don't belong to this unnatural setting 👉The Connections (2021) [short documentary]🙏💖
@@WiseandVeganthanks for your comment
I’ve been tethered down in a place of general discontent for the past 15 years. Not women, children or anything like that. This January I was able to make the decision to drop everything and pursue my dreams… most importantly- I was able to do this without hurting anyone. I bought a sailboat, moved several hours away and will be learning to sail the great lakes. I’m 35 now and plan to be somewhere on the other side of the world in a few years.
A sailboat is very similar to a rocket ship- traveling to far distant lands relying on yourself, your preparedness and knowledge. The world is your oyster 😊
truman show
Beware Pirates..☠️
I lef tmy country in 1979 as a crew member in a sailboat. It set me off to a course that would had never reach my current heights and situation, had I never sailed away. Best of luck to you.
Sounds fun, I lived on an uninhabited island of the Columbia River for six months. I dream of going somewhere even more remote. Talked to some sailors who journeyed to the islands of southeast Alaska.
Very cool! My mom’s first husband had a beautiful wooden sailboat with his brother and kept on sailing until his 70’s I believe. Enjoy your adventures!
I left the United States for China. My wife, father, and aunt all passed away within a year of each other, and I was looking to start over since I lost so many. I teach physics here. It would be nigh impossible for a white man like me to get such a job in my homeland.
While I am much happier here, I still took myself with me. I still have the same knots in my soul I always did.
Great talk
I was eighteen years old sitting on my front porch wrestling with the fact that my dad was not in my life. When I was 24 I flew to another island to spend time with my mom, there I find myself walking to a park at night, looking up to the stars and wondering what’s out there in the universe. Eventually, I travelled to the US, found a job,bought a house, got married, had a child, but guess what, I still wonder if that’s all there is, restless and stuck in my head.
Nothing and no one can save me. There is no place to be. Everything is temporary.
Sending you lots of happiness in the journey ahead teacher 🍀
I'm a white guy in the US and I teach Physics. If I can do it so can you.
Wow, I have seen men working on their teacher's cerification in the States. Sorry, it didn't work out for you.
@freespirit-111 'Like sand through the hourglass, these are the days of our lives.'
Ya know, when me and a ex broke up in 2022, i was more mad at my environment and all the memories i shared in places, the smells etc. i wanted to get away. But i knew that deep down i loved my city, met great people, jobs galore, decent priced living. But i looked for every reason to leave instead of why i came there anyway. So yeah i moved back home with the parents in a shitty town with like 2 jobs. Ive grown so very much like coming to realization of the topic of this video. But its not outside things that make you wanna leave, its a internal conflict you need to address and accept truth on. God bless y'all be safe and stop being so stubborn lol
I am glad it worked out well for you. It could have worked out well for you if you went somewhere else too :) You never know in this life.
I’m glad you found out what you really wanted from life. To live in the place that you really loved. That is fantastic and I wish you all the best.
But, why do you feel the need to tear others down for making a different choice from you? Yes maybe they’ll realize like you did that staying was what they truly wanted once they try it out somewhere else. Is there anything wrong with needing to experience something you don’t like before you realize what you really want?
But then again, maybe their experiences are different than yours. Maybe they realize when they move away that they are genuinely happier and found something in a quieter place that gave them a newfound desire to live? What’s wrong with that?
Whether you think a decision someone’s made with their own life is right or wrong, maybe you can respect that you are not living their life and respect that the decisions they make are with years worth of experience from the time they formed memories that you could not come close to understanding as they do? I think that sort of critical thinking could be constructive to people’s lives, including yours, rather than destructive.
So are you saying you regret moving home? That you could’ve stayed and made the same changes?
@@evanwilliams5420 did we read the same comment?!?
@@evanwilliams5420what are you talking about?
As an immigrant and incurable traveller, but also as a homesteader and community-minded person, I can attest to all of these being present in my own life. I think the key to understanding this is that we are not unitary beings with a single purpose. We have within ourselves the explorer, the homesteader, the person who longs for deep and lasting connection, and the person who longs to be completely free and unencumbered by relationships. All these personalities need their time to express themselves. How we integrate them together into a meaningful and satisfying life is the trick.
I left home when I was 17 and never looked back. I went on the adventure of a lifetime and experienced some amazing things. Met some interesting people and saw things few will ever see. I learned quite a bit about myself and others.
omg I did the same. Hi fellow travel nerd. My mind became incredibly expansive. Now I see the bubble everyone clings to incredibly tightly around me whenever I visit home.
That feeling comes from the realization that we don't belong to this unnatural setting 👉The Connections (2021) [short documentary]🙏💖
I did exactly the same thing. It though then, Let The Adventure Begin. It’s never stopped. Such a freeing feeling.
Geographical cures rarely work, but provide a temporary rush that can become addictive. Lived like that all through my 20's and 30's. Finally set roots in my 40s. Now an old man in my 70's i can say, for myself, had i remained a nomad would have been true to myself. The life i have lived, while not terrible, brought little joy and excitement. Like i said, the temporary fix is addictive. Honestly, being a responsible adult sucks.
Thank you for your honest wisdom.
sounds like you have kids
I, on other hand, love to be respondible adult, and providing for kids is what keeps me alive and happy. The responsability is key to happines in my opinion
That's the great thing about severe depression, you truly come to know that wherever you go, there you are, and NOTHING outside of you is going to permanently impact your essence. No scenery, location, group of friends, mate, house, car, or even dogma is going to truly change you. Only after you've stripped EVERYTHING you thought was you and gone into silence with yourself will one start to understand themselves and the rudimentary machinations of reality. Otherwise, like me you just flounder in the illusion until you release it.
Sometimes in order to starting healing from severe depression or at least getting it under control you have to leave it all behind...
New surroundings = new ideas, i.e. new ideas about how to cope with ourselves.
Huh?
@@boomerang0101 Short answer "Get out of your comfort zone to dicover new things about yourself"
@@rasmuspedersen3563 shutup
Reflection is not only important, it is truly both key and lock.
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"Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind's journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul's fate revealed. In time, all points converge, hope's strength resteeled. But to earn final peace at the universe's endless refrain, we must see all in nothingness... before we start again."
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--Diamond Dragons
That feeling comes from the realization that we don't belong to this unnatural setting 👉The Connections (2021) [short documentary]🙏💖
I live with this feeling every day
That feeling comes from the realization that we don't belong to this unnatural setting 👉The Connections (2021) [short documentary]🙏💖
I have never gone a vacation. I always was moving. From VA to HI many times staying years at a time. In the jungle for a year. Czech to Serbia to Costa Rica. Searching where I fit in. What I learned is, no matter where you go, there YOU are. There is no geographical cure for the void everyone has. I finally live one my little piece of land all alone. I know what's wrong is in me. Here I will face it. 4 years sober.
You may be an introvert (as I am). Growing up, my family moved every 2-3 years due to my dad's job. So I know what it's like to be a stranger in a strange land. Consider Taoism and Zen - they say that life is full of "unsatisfactoriness." Just normal shit. I am so glad you found your little piece of land. I have too, in a sunny place in a condo. I just smile at my neighbors but don't try to meet anyone's expectations except my own.
What was wrong?
Hi from Czech Republic Olomouc city. I want to move as well. To be alone on my own. To learn how to make decisions without asking anyone. To create better personality. To increase my circle of comfort zone.. For now it is very small circle.. I mean really very small...
@@jirihutecka9020 I lived in Lipi and České Budějovice. I would have stayed forever and it makes me cry because I felt complete there but had to leave because visa.
I had a Koza names Roza. lol Best milk!
This is the best video you made. Exactly my feelings, I did ran away because of my unhappiness. Lived abroad 3 times already and now I'm a digital nomad that can't even go home for a week to visit family and friends. The discontentment is always there, I realised that I couldn't run away from myself many years ago. But still moving around helps a little bit...although I don't think I can be ever really happy or have moments of true happiness. I will just wait for the years to go by and that's it...
Thank you :). And thanks for sharing your story. I've done the digital nomad thing as well: it's great. All the best!
I moved away from a place I love and it was the best decision I ever made. My environment, relationships and circumstances was making me depressed. My new environment makes me much happier and my problems didn't follow me.
It costs money to travel and establish yourself in a new place for the vast majority of us out here struggling
Not as much as you think trust yourself..
That's all that is keeping me here
Rubbish. Costs a lot more to stay.
Leave and try new places. Explore the world.
It's okay to keep moving only if you don't have kids.
I became a very protective version of myself when I was chasing a 11 year LDR. I didn't prioritize my desires, happiness and grinded myself to become financially independent to make it work. I put all of my dreams and hopes towards it and kept enduring a lot of hardship just to get together in a different place, different continent. Now that it's gone, I don't feel myself a bit. Now I want to leave everything behind, do all the things I wanted to do, don't care about any risks. Just wanna disappear from the face of the earth and restart everything. But no matter where I go, there I am.
Hm me too, 8 year relationship. 😥
@@anonymousbeeme too!😅it’s been exactly one month since I broke up with them…
@@tiennguyen5918@anonymousbee hope it will get better for both of you!
That feeling comes from the realization that we don't belong to this unnatural setting 👉The Connections (2021) [short documentary]🙏💖
At the age of 39, I emigrated from London to central Europe on Christmas Day 2015.
I didn't speak the language, I had no job lined up, no friends, no family, nothing there.
Nine years later, I'm self-employed with a higher quality of life than I could have ever dreamt possible. (edited: dreamed-->dreamt)
I still don't speak the local language.
What is the local language?
Polish.
@@jdr4674 Czech.
That feeling comes from the realization that we don't belong to this unnatural setting 👉The Connections (2021) [short documentary]🙏💖
Andrew Tate is that you
On top of the several different angles of perspective you explained, i would like to add, sometimes moving to a faraway place is just a very potent act of healing. Some people travel for wanderlust, some for escape. But sometimes its just straight of healthy to get away from old wounds, influences, or local elements that have become toxic. We are designed to have the instinct to move when things go sour, somewhat. Giving oneself a new life with novel elements all around with a clean slate can be very psychologically healing. Sometimes its just wholistic to start over. A new chapter. A new life.
I think it all depends on the individual and how well they know themselves for the reasons they make the decision.
Funny how this video perfectly showed up about the choice i made. 7 months ago I finally made the step to move to Thailand. I was totally fed up with my old life and the country. I do miss my family, but remind myself everytime how much better the life quality is here. Happy with all the lessons i learn here.
That feeling comes from the realization that we don't belong to this unnatural setting 👉The Connections (2021) [short documentary]🙏💖
I’ll be visiting Thailand for a few weeks to take in the country and culture with the intention of eventually
retiring there. What do you do for work?
May 31st I will be in Thailand permanently. First an education Visa and then a O Visa.
In February I visited for 2 weeks and fell in love with the place. Every minute everyday since then I have sold off my stuff that I've accumulated over the years and tomorrow I get on a plane. The only thing I have left to sell is my motorhome and they're going to do it for me. If I get what I'm expecting on it, it will fund my life there for quite some time. Meanwhile, I have A pension. I can live on that.
So it's been 9 months. Now! But the question is will be content in the long run there! As I also moved and changed location and I was happy in the first 3 years and boom it hit me hard .... having said that all the best wishes and happiness for u :)
I think the desire to leave the current life behind Is not necessarily to find happiness, but the feeling of going to explore and experience new things. This feeling must be inate within us, omelet but sometimes the noise of our daily life blurs our inner voice.
Good topic. I had these feelings, and one reason you didn't mention is due to realizing that your past life was living under someone elses life, then you woke up to find who you really are.
“Man hands on misery to man.
It deepens like a coastal shelf.
Get out as early as you can,
And don't have any kids yourself.”
― Philip Larkin
Why not lead with example then?did this phillip man get out as early as he could?
@@Littlevillager2004 - he never married and died of cancer in his mid 60s. To his great credit, he spent a large part of his later years nursing a former lover, who had a fatal illness.
I wouldn't have kids unless you and your spouse are completely solid and can hold yourselves down
@@piglo318 Something tells me that's a later justification to something that already occurred :V
I'm 44 and still no kids. I wouldn't wish the punishment of life on my worst enemy.
This was very well thought out. I love the way you always look at things from a variety of angles - well done.
Spot on! Inner peace is key. We can roam the world, but discontent follows if we don't find it within. Great reminder to focus on internal growth! ❤💛💜
Good timing, I just came from hours of internet search for a new flat in a new city. And I love adventures and new surroundings, but I've also learned that relationships are the most valuable thing in life, especially those that you've had for years. The people that know and accept you the way you are should be preserved and cared for with real intention. And that includes seeing each other, which isn't easy if you're living far away.
I'm excited, but it also kinda breaks my heart because I know it won't be the same anymore with my friends.
Happiness is where you are at the moment.
My mother used to say: there's no point in changing Yonah, where the iron goes, so does the rust...
That's a very smart quote. I feel exactly the same. Even about traveling for vacation. There's no point in paying a lot for a vacation, when you can't leave your terrible thoughts at home.
@@anon9689This is a human dilemma: how much common sense makes a life more pleasurable, meaningful and happy? Take care.
@@jonasbarbosa4410I feel like intelligence and an abundance of common sense lower happiness. Knowing answers that others don’t know can make you jealous of their carefree way.
That feeling comes from the realization that we don't belong to this unnatural setting 👉The Connections (2021) [short documentary]🙏💖
If you insist on sitting in water, you'll always be wet. Sometimes changing your circumstances is the right thing to do.
I just keep wishing I’d fall asleep and never wake up.
Don't give up. Find a way through your present shit. It's temporary.
Ask for help . Giving up is not a option , you will feel love again ❤
There is a way from that dark room. Always. Don't forget that..
Go live a dream instead. What's the worst that could happen? Grab your walking shoes and walk.
first thing is first and that is getting off the medication you are on. it is hindering you emensely much to your doctors chagrin
I have felt at some point that I have grown to the maximum in my current environment, so I had to leave and never regret this step
I have the same 'problem' but i'm to afraid to take this step. Please, dear stranger, wish me luck.
@@lunareinhold3976 good luck my friend. You will make the change happen and when you look back in some years, you will laugh about your hesitation and be proud that you have had the courage to move on 😉
Where did you go?
@@curtsk19 I left my hometown in Germany and moved to another place. Later I moved to Switzerland
That feeling comes from the realization that we don't belong to this unnatural setting 👉The Connections (2021) [short documentary]🙏💖
I’ve just left everything behind and embarked on full time boondocking in an rv with my cats and dogs. It’s been a month and haven’t even had a twinge of longing to return.
I just want to say thank you for making the videos you do. I’ve fundamentally changed as a person and have done a lot of self reflecting due to the knowledge I’ve found thru your channel, and I can not thank you enough. It has improved my life
This entire line of thinking takes the following premise as fact: Staying where you are has inherent merit over moving. This is premise is false.
6:30 “…like with every form of pleasure we obtain from the external world, it's not a permanent cure for unhappiness; the happiness it generates is fleeting.”
In my experience this is completely wrong. I’ve moved several times leaving much behind for specific reasons I could clearly identify. Each time I’ve been happier after the move. Gradually the fit with me and the place I now was drifted apart until it was worth relocating again. That’s life. It’s not some profound philosophical dilemma.
Consider even the following assertion: If you’re the problem, that problem follows you around. Surely that’s true in some cases, but moving can still alleviate those problems that you’re not creating for yourself. There’s no reason your problems can’t be caused by both you and where you live. To believe otherwise is to embrace a false dichotomy.
I have found that most people doing such mental gymnastics about why they shouldn’t move simply have either some hangup about letting go, or don’t want to do the work to move. The specious reasoning in this essay just licenses those dysfunctions to continue unaddressed.
Thank you, I needed to hear this side very much! 🙂
A provocative and balanced discussion. This quest for ... something ... something better, drove our ancient ancestors to explore new places and create new cultures. And yet, on a more mundane note: my husband and I moved and moved and moved, and each move improved our lives. And yet we lost something important along the way. We have no deep friendships now, because friendships take time to deepen. At 70, I understand that one can't have everything in this life. We make our choices and we live with the consequences.
Leavimg everything behind, paying off all debts and being with my lady is the best decisions ever. Be with someone you can cuddle with.
I also learned how to go inside myself like Thoth said. Made my life happier.
It is great to see how host shares his growth, and not only quoting existing Stoic understandings. The channel and its content is also a part of our travel. A travel of the host and audience and their ways.
I was very unhappy (born and raised) in Los Angeles. Decided to leave it all behind, except for my clothes, shoes & CDs in 2003 and drive to NYC. Been living in Brooklyn ever since. I am so glad I took a chance and dared to be brave. Best decision I ever made for myself.
Traveling is not a waste of time. It will open you mind to other ways of living and meeting other people with different opinions than what you have and it might change how you look at living. Some times it is great and some times it sucks but it is always a new experience that will help you se what you have and maybe what you can learn from it. Life is a journey not a destination, enjoy the ride.
This video really hit home for me. I have traveled to Europe two times for multiple months in an attempt to escape the mundanity of my life (and depression). Both times I realized that the feeling wore off in a few days, just like you described in your video. I love to travel, but I will no longer do it in order to escape every day life
Thanks!
Travelling can be a good vehicle for changing the way you think. Living in different environments can make it obvious what is actually important in life.
No matter where you go, there you are.
That feeling comes from the realization that we don't belong to this unnatural setting 👉The Connections (2021) [short documentary]🙏💖
In 2001 l left my hometown of NYC/NJ after 911 for the West Coast. LA, SD, SF, SAC and now Las Vegas! Loving it. 😊
We evolve....we grow.....we elevate.....like purging our closet of old worn out clothing.......new outfits make us feel fresh and renewed....GO FOR IT!!!!
I have just broken up with my long term partner because for a very long time I haven't felt like myself for many of the reasons you've mentioned in this video. I have just finished packing and am moving tomorrow and still have regrets that I have made a really stupid decision. This video calmed me down and made me feel much more positive about the future. Thank you.
6 months later, how are you doing?
This video couldn't have come at a better time....currently in the process of changing my name and then planning on joining the military...leaving everything behind and starting anew.
i had to escape from being around toxic people that would just not stop. I had enough. Liefs uit Nederland
OMG! I’m 54 also, and I’m planning on getting going soon. Let The Adventure Begin. :).
In 2001 I dropped everything and moved from a beach town in Australia to the USA. I wasn’t running from or to anything, I was just craving a change in circumstance. It was the best decision I ever (hastily) made. The urge is back 25 years later to start again.
Thank you for making this video as I often talk to my therapist about my feelings of being “trapped”, of “living my partner’s dream”. In working through childhood trauma though my therapist made the obvious observation to me that if I were to “escape” my head would come with me. If I don’t work through this trauma all I am changing is location and not healing with a new mindset. This video is a big help alongside that therapy. Thank you.
I moved to NYC in 1991 with 400 dollars in my pocket.
Best decision I ever made. The next ten years are something I would never trade anything for.
Leaving it all behind for me comes from the fact that I’ve grown from my mistakes. When you stay in the same place you’re from, you’re constantly reminded of that. It comes from the fact that I’m no longer who I once was but that place and the people still are.
@josephgradojr.597 - Totally Resonate! Past memories of what we want to let go of-- are everywhere~! Thanks for the clarity in your comment~😊
I❤ love this channel ❤
Me too 😊
@@danielnezis1041 Good days to you.
I think the first instance of leaving everything behind is doing something for one's self. I recently realised that I have been living somebody else's life and relocating, without telling anyone, would be the first step.
That was deep, dude. It gives me a lot to think about.
there are thinkers and do'ers
This is very helpful. My wanderlust is strong and I’ve always wondered why.
Ur philosophy about life is great
It is not just running away from something, also towards something.
I am a nature lover by nature and could not live contentedly in the Netherlands. So I moved to a small green island and have been living in and of and with nature for 2 decades. It was a hard road but very rewarding.
Great video once again. I am 58, American (not my fault) and I have travelled extensively, Hawaii (twice) Spain, Canary Islands, Mexico, Canada, Philippines, Caribbean, Brazil, Mongolia, Korea, Germany, Austria, Switzerland and In all my travels, all my experiences, the one thing that rings true, for me anyway, is that you cannot run away from yourself. To truly love, respect, trust and be happy externally, one must first find those inside. 💙🙏
This feeling comes from the realization that we don't belong to this unnatural setting 👉The Connections (2021) [short documentary]🙏💖
I always felt that way, I felt like I didn't belong where I was. Today I understand that it has something to do with my childhood, family beliefs and environmental culture. Before, I wanted to go far away, because as no one knew me, I could be whoever I wanted. But habits and personality don't change that quickly. I'm changing where I am. Helping to change the lives of those close to me, improving my social skills and polishing my ego. Great video!
“To bear children into this world is like carrying wood to a burning house.”
― Peter Wessel Zapffe
😢
@@arisrosario557 ?
Climate Change and or the slow collapse of complex developed countries in the West ?!
Yeah its Hell but at least its just temporary so might as well give it a shot.
That feeling comes from the realization that we don't belong to this unnatural setting 👉The Connections (2021) [short documentary]🙏💖
The thought of starting a new life in another town has been on my mind lately-thanks for this video, but I don't even have a savings or rich parents to easily initiate that.... in general, I think I'm a pretty happy guy, who loves joking around. My bondage comes from two clear sources: That everybody has to earn a living (usually doing work we don't like to make money to do the things we like) and collaborating/cooperating with the enemy. Therein lies the bondage🔱.
I disagree with most of this. I’ve switched environments and love my new place. It’s filled with people that mostly mind their own business. It’s beautiful. It’s vast and expansive. I’m still alone but this move has not only made me a better person but it has made me quite a bit more happy and at peace while still learning and growing.
Sounds nice, where did you go?
@@M.SEK.P I’ll just say the mountains on the west coast in the states. 🙃
Interesting meditation throught a very common topic! I've been struggling with this "wanderlust" feeling many years and came across this video to find an opinion about it.
We, human being, forgot that we used to be nomads, is natural to move around to find our way to live. It should be in every single heart and soul this need of exploring, moving and finding new things to share.
You added new point of view to my urge, which I hope soon be able to satisfy roaming the world.
Are you leaving or going somewhere? Going somewhere is better. A change of environment can be refreshing.
I like that. Are you running away from? or running to something? The difference is important.
@John-PaulHunt-wy7lf expand on this john. did you do wrong
@John-PaulHunt-wy7lf huh
🙂@JudyButterfield-ed9tu -- This is so perfect. Many years back I had a therapist say the same thing to me when I was doubting my self about moving again. Some people just love change! It has them feeling revived & inspired again! I opened 2 successful businesses after moving to different states. But I was allowing others opinions to determine my decision making. I moved a lot in my life and was always happy I did!
But... I'm much older now, and not even sure if I have the energy for one more move anymore. lol So, I'm so happy I moved as often as I did. I believe, I did move for the right reasons. So, if you're really wanting to (I'd say at any age really) & you're sure you are doing it for any of the right reasons--Go for it!
These two statements are a treasure....This one too below! There might be a few others in comments also--!!
"If moving is an acceptance of who we are and what we value, then it's a running towards ourselves, not away from ourselves." Thanks to both of you! 😍
@@quadrasaurus-rex8809 both
My wife and I have just been on a recce to France. We intend to move there from the UK in the next year. It’s not dissatisfaction. We are very happy. But life is short and we want to experience a change and a challenge together. We will be happy because we are already happy. We don’t think of it as moving away, - rather we are moving towards.
I❤ love this channel ❤.
That feeling comes from the realization that we don't belong to this unnatural setting 👉The Connections (2021) [short documentary]🙏💖
Changing the environment/location really makes a different. I would never have believed it until it happened to me.
The most liberating thing about my emigration to Germany 16 years ago was reducing the ballast of my past to a small van.
Funny you mention Interstellar and "existence precedes essence". They've both been influential steps in shaping the backdrop of where I've been going even if I don't realize it now. Seeing and hearing it here and now, and seeing my own mind walk through the conclusions you did as you shift from "leaving as an escape" to "leaving as an assertion" was encouraging. I feel validated. Thanks for sharing!
That's wild. This was me yesterday. I was making a plan. Today is a little better, but I'm not sure I'm totally past it.
This might be my favorite youtube video I've ever watched. This feeling has been deep in my soul since I was a kid and to see it so eloquently crystalized in my favorite form of media was so catharthic. Thank you!
Im feeling this ! I just want so leave to a country and start from zero ! Have that feeling that you are just existing is horrible
Just existing is a terrible feeling! We need to do everything/anything to feel more alive! I find dancing & listening to our preferred music works. Just saying though....For the short period anyway.😍
@@tina74166 yeah i understand you i feel good when i do sports or go for a hiking ! But main problem is to see that my environnement is sick and i having problems finding another niche
@@Khaospice10 So many of us are searching for our 'new' niche, especially through these times of awakening. Meaning, our outer environments looking so bleak, but we can see past that part. If we don't we want to move as far as possible! But the more I stay put, grateful for all experiences (not always easy) but if we can focus as often as possible to creating more of who our 'true' self is now and/or is becoming, and don't give in to any people pleasing, I feel we will be awakened much more to our new purpose/niche.
Keep it going with your sports and hiking, it all helps so much. Sometimes, it could be as simple as doing more things that makes us happy. I hope that makes sense? Or something I said brings more peace & contentment. 🙂🙏💙
@@tina74166 Yeah m’y actuall désire is to build the skills for one day i can live “off grid” ! Life on the city on the end of the day just suck your soul ! Of course we have to be grateful for thé experience we have cause our mistakes are the learnings of today ! But yeah I understand you the thing is to find people that are align with your way of thinking! Can be hard going tru life when all your closed ones still living with matrix agenda
I get that you are still you wherever you go, but I hope that moving away from abusive family is liberating because otherwise there is no way out. Surely distance must help. Scars don’t always fade but maybe it could be just a little more bearable to exist.
Yes, it worked that way for me! Hope you’re doing well with whichever option you went with!
@ thank you. I think it is working out. One small step perhaps isn’t meant just for space exploration. Hope life treats you well too!
Best advice I was given in life....The first thing you unpack is yourself.
I cannot speak for others, but for me personally I totally disagree when you say that the urge to leave is irrational, as you will bring your discontent with you. No, not at all! Some countries are in much greater alignment with one's soul-leaving a materialistic, consumer-oriented, car-driven, no universal health care, etc. country to go to a country with free health care, awesome public transport, affordable housing, a vibe and infrastructure for the people, etc. is the difference between day and night when it comes to stressors vs. a peaceful existence...
countries such as ?
@@DanErvin That's what I'd like to know too. I've researched & researched and it's so confusing & overwhelming (especially when we watch too many different YT vids) lol
@rebeccar4312 --- I know this is from 2 months ago, but if you get this comment, can you please let us know, if you came up with a good place yet??? Thanks so much! 🙂
@@DanErvinCanada or any European nation.
@@1w72st Lol, maybe any (north)WESTERN/Central European nation
France 🇫🇷 I’m glad to live in France :)
Since I was a little kid I expressed my desire to move away. I always felt more comfortable in the unfamiliar. Sometimes it has been to run away from something (perhaps myself, perhaps a pain), sometimes it's been because I really long for adventure and experiences, and sometimes it just felt like the only thing I could do because I didn't find anything better to do with my time. Whatever it is the reason, I have enjoyed it, and it really changed me in a good way. I studied international relations to be a diplomat, but as soon as I made my internship in an embassy I de diced it was not for me. But I still wanted to be outside. I made it my way and it was awesome.
I was traveling through La Patagonia when I met the love of my life. Also a wandering soul, but with more responsibilities (a daughter hahaha). He works hard, but somehow, it is always away from his home. We have lived in 4 cities in a year. He says he loves it, that way he can see so many new places and people.
I do think it's in our nature, this desire to explore.
Collective consciousness. We thank you for posting this
i want to leave everything behind because I’ve changed, and everyone I know will never know the person I am now. There’s just no point in staying.
i understand this deeply
thank you for this i've stood on the edge of my own demise contemplating the repercussions of such an impulsive journey, ultimately convinced I made the smarter choice I remain in chains perhaps finishing this video will aid me on the path to the enlightenment I seek