@@azumi5459 Yes, very much so.I had to ghost a long time acquaintance last year and it affects me even still. This person spiraled down fast during the pandemic, and just listening to the train wreck was hard on me.
Something I learned in therapy was “do not set yourself on fire to keep others warm.” This helped me realize it’s okay to ignore the demanding nature of people around us whether its friends, family or coworkers. You do not owe anyone your sanity.
Ideally human connection would be fun and reciprocal to the point you barely even notice the relationship. You just let it flow naturally. It's sad how many equate being social with torture. Really don't think it should be that way.
Im so lucky to have a father who always told me you dont need to be with people to be happy, you can be alone and be happy, and that taught me to ignore the many opinions of people
There comes so much peace with ignore stuff. Other peoples drama: ignore. People acting bad towards you: ignore. Give your energy to stuff that actually matter. Not every invite to chaos needs to be accepted.
When you're about to cross beyond the void veil... Reflect carefully. 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ "Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind's journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul's fate revealed. In time, all points converge, hope's strength resteeled. But to earn final peace at the universe's endless refrain, we must see all in nothingness... before we start again." 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ --Diamond Dragons (Armageddon's Ballad)
By ignoring all commercials by ppl trying to sell me something I save a lot of money. By ignoring the daily news I save my sanity. By ignoring/not engaging with toxic ppl I save my energy. By ignoring inane tv shows I save time.
solitude topic videos are my favorite. Embracing solitude throughout the day really helped me. So many external influences are constantly bombarding us.
Me too. I used to think I was lonely. But I’m actually not. I have great thoughtful conversations with myself. I get all my jokes, I know my triggers, I don’t have to ask me to be quiet. My husband is the same. Outsiders find it weird that we live together and have days we don’t talk outside of the necessities. Dinner, dog walks, making sure the silence is choice and not a breakdown. The best advice I got was from an eating disorder book was to give yourself 10 minutes of quiet rest a day. I can’t do quiet so I play a soft white noise. It’s insane how refreshing 10 min alone in a calm space can change you. I’m sending you peace friend.
Solitude breeds intelligence. Not "loneliness" nor desperation in one's isolation... but *solitude*. One day--possibly soon--when you're about to cross beyond the void veil... Reflect carefully. 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ "Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind's journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul's fate revealed. In time, all points converge, hope's strength resteeled. But to earn final peace at the universe's endless refrain, we must see all in nothingness... before we start again." 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ --Diamond Dragons (Armageddon's Ballad)
Sadly to get good at anything you must practice, which would mean there would have to be decent amount of continuous negativity, thats going to hurt lol.
At work, I ignore everyone now, unless they’re contacting me for work related reasons. I used to be the one who initiated a “hello”, but people’s inability to recognize personal boundaries or say things with meaning has completely turned me off. Now there aren’t any “hello’s” or meaningful questions because they don’t do it. Goes to show how one-sided things were and how coworkers took me for granted. Work has actually become more enjoyable now that I’ve eliminated the fakers and ones with alternative motives.
Same. At the beginning, I would greet everyone and make an effort to get to know each person. As the novelty of being the new coworker fell off though, so did the friendliness and warmth. There are a small handful of ppl at my job that have treated me the same since day 1 and I’m extremely grateful to have those ppl. Everyone else seems to get along with each other bc being disingenuous is a common trait they share. I didn’t notice until recently how I would always be the first one to acknowledge people or ask about their day. I decided to do a little experiment and stop greeting ppl to see what would happen. The “cool” coworkers greeted me and engaged in conversation with me without me initiating. The others said nothing. So now, I only engage with my “cool” coworkers and ignore the others. I totally agree with you. Work has become so much better and easier for me now that I know who to acknowledge and who to ignore.
The moment I realized to ignore people/things that burns me out, is also the moment I found peace. Do what you love, don't let other people define who you are😊
@@11_guardian I understand. Sometimes, I do have to ignore my children to avoid nasty conflict. I teach others how I should be treated. In my household, when we are wrong, we promptly admit it and make amends. It took a little while for everyone to learn. But, silence beats yelling and screaming. The way it plays out, they will get over the anger and apologize. Then we all sit down and discuss the behavior and set boundaries for future situations. By the way, this goes for me too. When I am wrong, I promptly admit it and make amends to my children. This models accountability and gives them the chance to practice forgiveness. I try to reward good conduct with attention and significance and toxic behavior with indifference and boundary enforcement. It takes time, but it is better in the end. I’d like to say I thought of all this. But, it comes from AA. I am a recovering alcoholic with four years of sobriety. The principles work in all of my affairs.
I tried Facebook for a short time and quickly realized how shallow and narcissistic it is. I dropped it, and all other social media (except RUclips for learning), and am happier without it.
@@EndlessAmount , I am actually having this conversation with myself. I have wasted hours and even years of my life worrying about international politics and politics in general. I’ve gained nothing from it and lost so much time I could have spent living my kids. Politics is what the elites give us to occupy our time while they take over the world. Televised sports also - e.g. Roman colosseum, football.
@@sleeperno1215 don’t regret it, without doing that u wouldn’t be who u are now , you’d probably be me hating on it 😂 , love ur kids while u still can it’s never too late & sports I kinda agree with because in The Walking Dead both the governor and the dude from commonwealth both had a sport / live event to distract / entertain the people while they were doing the dirty work
October 2023 I celebrated 12 years of not owning a television (telling lies to your vision, they call it programming for a reason). So for over 12 years I have not subjected MYSELF to "mainstream/mockingbird" media. Summer 2020 I did a social media detox and following that detox I deleted ALL my social media accounts. I have no online presence. May 2024 will mark 5 years since I have been in a romantic relationship. I am choosing to be on my own to pursue my Spiritual path. I enjoy the solitude, I welcome the peace it brings to my life. I do not pay a cable bill because I do not own a TV. I do not pay an internet bill because I do not own a computer. And I chose not to have WIFI at my house, I have no need for it. I enjoy living a simple life and I am happy.
njce for you tho', it's a choice, not for the children getting exploded in bread lines or the woman ruled to have no legal control over her body, or the person doing time for something they didn't do. you think you can just opt out of the repercussions of your acceptance of the ststus quo. you can't. this is moral cowardice
Ignoring people can serve as self-care and boundary-setting, particularly in managing negativity. It shields mental well-being and prevents conflicts. Ignoring distractions aids goal focus, yet distinguishing healthy boundaries from avoidance is crucial. Effective communication sustains relationships. Ultimately, ignoring individuals safeguards mental health and prioritizes personal needs with respect for others.
timely relatable video! I'm home alone for three days without my siblings and their children. A few hours ago, I realized that I am best when I'm alone.
I notice that the more happy you are in front of haters the more they hate. So even if I'm having a bad day, I will laugh and smile. "Misery loves Company".
Neibours were always gossiping about me, speeding lies and hate,it upset me so much till one day i just said to hell with them and i just got on with my life, found peace and serenity, they lost there power over me,i just ignore them all🕊️ now,
Society's insistence on seeking external validation can indeed be a heavy burden to bear. But realizing that true validation comes from within, from the depths of one's own spirit and connection to nature, is a journey of self-discovery worth undertaking.
Never inundated with messages, emails at my will, not when notified, YT is my only social media, if even classed and only a few people ever call. Bliss.
Unbelievable coincidence. This week I had a discussion with my wife, she came home yelling at me when I was meditating, initially, I ignored her to finish my mindfulness session properly, but 5-10 minutes later, I fell into her yelling trap and was dragged to discussion with the consequent upset. After things cooled down I reflected and decided to ignore her yelling (trigger) from now on. I already don't pay attention to social media, and what other people say/think but when is about someone I care such as my mother or my wife I find it way more difficult to ignore. I know that won't be an easy task but willing to meet the challenge. This video came just in time with useful tips. Nice work, keep it up. 2 thumbs up from Colombia.
Boy, do I resonate. After 30+ years of dealing with p§¥¢hoti¢, relentlessly toxic, emotionally volatile relationships... I think I've tried WELL more than enough. 🙂 I've been an exemplary, kind, compassionate, emotionally-attuned soul all my life. But I've grown utterly exhausted of how humanity has treated me. It's embarrassing how much white noise, static, and negative non-sequiturs I've had to endure. ENOUGH IS ENOUGH. 💪😎✌️ "I carry MY adornments ONLY on my soul. Decked with deeds in lieu of ribbons." --Cyrano 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨
@JME0676 I can relate to your point. I don't agree necessarily with ignoring your wife but instead sit down together & set boundaries. She should definitely respect your peace & be more conscious/mindful of your meditation times. Explain how her actions make you feel when she does that. If she is an awakened woman who is aware she will & should comply with your boundaries to wait & approach you after she has calmed down & you are finished meditating to tell you how she feels or what has occurred to upset her. But ignoring the ones we love & who are important to us I don't believe is right. That could trigger ppl with past traumas of being ignored. That is not a solution. Ignoring toxic or negative & disruptive ppl or family members yes! Absolutely ignore them if it's not good for your mental health but our close meangful relationships & those ppl should be tended to with compassion, kindness & empathy. In otherwords discern who should truly be ignored because not everyone should be imo.
I saw this at the right time, I had already started to move away from certain people/activities that drain my energy, now it makes more sense. More energy to put into growing my art career
Introverts tends to prefer close meaningful relationships. But I agree that being too close can also be harmful. Everybody has toxic behaviors and shit they're dealing with.
You say "dealing with" but most people aren't. Most people are just coping, which never helps in the long run, yet this is found out when it is too late. But if you ever come across someone who behaves maturely with their emotions, not needy, yet they're relaxed and organized. That is the person who faces or deals with their poor behavior or at least of what is left of it, every single day and you would never know. Those are the people that are actually down to earth. The issue with them is that; they are very rare... at least in younger generations.
@@krissifadwa tru dat 😢 but they try their level best to not get close to any other individual because they don't want to tolerate any 'coping' stuff they do and don't want to be their unpaid therapist
Hate when ppl take it personally when I don’t want to talk to them. Not everyone is a people person and that’s okay, go find someone else to talk to. I like being in my mind and thoughts especially while working. I struggle with this at my workplace. Despite the whole department acknowledging a large portion of us are introverted and like to focus without constantly being spoken to, they still force themselves onto you. I could have both earbuds in (this is allowed in my workplace I work in IT and data analytics) and this one lady (she’s nice and all but this is annoying) would literally stand at my desk til I take them out and acknowledge her. And no they are not looking to talk about work related issues or projects, they’re looking to tell me a story about their kids or something. And while I’m not rude and I respond because I speak when spoken to, it’s annoying how I’m constantly expected to compromise my comfort to cater to someone else’s concept of a comfort workplace. Especially since I’m not given the privilege to work from home to protect my mental state while she gets to work from home every other week and then complains she has no one to talk to. Idk if anyone else in the world feels this way but I sure as heck do.
Maybe do something that offends her? Or grosses her out? Tell her you’re sick? It just flat out be rude to her? Something, get creative if you have to. Like if she’s religious. Tell her you are an atheist. Or that you worship the devil. Just something that won’t get you in trouble at work though obviously. Good luck. ✌️
I have been selectively ignoring people since high school and I really do get flak for it, but I am proud to say that my inner peace is relatively more intact compared to others who are more connected and open. I'm an INFJ and I truly live up to the introvert aspect of it. I cannot stress enough how much ignoring people (selectively of course) has made my life better. Unfortunately though, my current work requires me to be more connected online, and I do feel that decline in my inner peace, but I am holding the line. I will say that whenever I go outdoors, especially on bike rides and hikes, I become thankful whenever we go to a place that has no phone signal reception as it means my friends will not be glued to their phones when we take a break. Nowadays, I truly feel that preserving your inner peace has become a rare commodity that is more valuable than any precious metal or luxury item, and yet, people still love to throw away their time and energy to attention that doesn't do them good. Thanks for the video, I needed this.
Ignoring is a powerful form of communication in itself and controlling people (and definitely bullies) absolutely hate it! I watched how someone at a wedding was essentially putting down another guest at the dinner table. The “target” of the insecure or intimidated person kept quiet. You could tell the bully was screaming inside! It was so effective
Your explanations on living and virtue have always been as meditations to my mind and music to my ears , the harmony that's developed around me when listening to you gives me comfort and your insights awaken my intellect !
It is especially valuable ignoring the culture. Ignore their fads, ignore their politics, ignore their media. You’ll know you’re doing it right when people become angry and aggressive about it.
Excellent. I just subbed. I say, you just don't even need people anymore. It's the 21st Century. We've given up on ideas of owning a house and having a family before we are 30 but still cling to outdated ideas about socialization. In today's day and age, there is no need for people other than for transactional relationships. Loneliness is a social construct. Be happy alone.
You're a bafoon. We do lol. We absolutely need people. Even if youre not interacting with them, you need them around in proximity. Ive tested this over many years. We are evolved to be social creatures. Evolved. Do you know what that means. Yes I'm going to patronize you. We're tribal/communal. Not everythings about practical function. Technically, we could handle all our business alone. Some find relative peace of mind as a monk. But there IS a price, and it will come with tremendous mental cost. We're not designed for it. After trying to go it alone against my nature for many, many years, its caused all kinds of problems. I was hikikomori. Total rejection of society for about a decade, so I know what happens. It exaggerates neuroticism, increases tendencies of self-absorption and inconsideration of others, leads to a more predictable and monotous reality, it enables too much comfort and not enough resistence (which makes you less resillient over time), etc, etc, etc. Also people are like the sun to a solar battery. You gain energy from them. Sometimes even when they anger me, it gives me a sort of energy to channel I wouldnt have gotten in isolation. And I'm saying all this as someone much further on the introversion spectrum.
Solitude is getting better for me. It's also enabled me to make more friends ironically. Because i just go out and enjoy life. I just pop up at the skatepark. At the library. Doing whatever I want. Chasing my solo mission. But it's that contentment in me to go out and be happy. Than I can just hand out a little happiness around town. Not expecting anything back. And bam you suddenly have friends all over.. and yet you still choose to be alone half the time. Its like I spend time alone "growing" than go to my friends to trade and experiance the things we've grown together.
I really needed this today, I thought I'm a strong individual when it comes to ignoring social media hype and other stuff but it turns out it slowly affects my day to day life, I'm glad I stumbled upon this video and rethink my choices. Thank you!
My favorite thing in the world is time with myself. The more time I spend with myself, the stronger I feel. The solitude I cherish is helping me to understand some things I've contended with all my life. I am happy alone. Very happy alone.
These lessons to me feel like a part of growing up. Only through realizing that you have to ignore some people do you truly grow towards becoming who you are. BUT it's a virtue, a middle between two extremes, sometimes you have to listen, to hear others. In this regard, this quote of Nietzsche is such a gem: "In loneliness, the lonely one eats himself; in a crowd, the many eat him."
@@VeganSemihCyprus33 Please take your dogma somewhere else. ❤ Hey meat eaters..... Just ignore these vegan rules. Have a chicken sandwich with a nice cold glass of milk❤.
I always think walking around thinking I want to kick the crap out of other people, but not doing it is the best way to go about living life and getting the best out of yourself.
@@HANZELVANDERLAAY Weren't the Shaolin monks Buddhists? They were trained fighters. I'm a fan of master Shi Heng Yi from the Shaolin temple Europe in Germany. He has a saying "Demon hand, Buddha heart" which is similar to the sentiment I was getting at. You need the force of the demon hand to get you through life. You need the dark energy, but controlled with a moral code.
@@Andygb78 i like it ...well put... .I'm German American btw... .I lived in Amsterdam..and key West Florida.. ...good times in both places....I also have a clothing line called buddhafarian....cheers man
A person who I meet on a daily basis used to say this 'ignore them' on a regular basis but after watching your video it makes me to think about it. Thank you
I miss you. I hope you are well and in good health. I love your videos that talk about solitude. It taught me to walk in my own way and not care much about the nonsense and madness of this world. I have deleted all social media applications and only use RUclips and WhatsApp. I ended my relationship with toxic friends. I do not deny that I still suffer from loneliness a little, but I am still working on it. I have truly realized that being alone is not that bad. I think Being alone is better than being with the wrong people. And also ...Well this may sound a little silly but I don't know why I love every time when you say "thank you for watching" Ok whatever ...just don't be late
Exclusion > Inclusion. That's the way I have been framing this issue. What and who you choose to excude from your life is very important. As society (the powers that be) continue to force acceptance, inclusion, mediocrity and tolerance of All things, it's very important to decide for yourself what you believe and who and what you accept.
I am old and have foregone human company. I am a hermit so I can have peace. I am never alone. Besides me I have animals and nature. I enjoy your thoughts and writing. I don't agree with every thought but can ignore the few to get value out of the many. Thank you.
Used to work with a guy who refused to move on until you acknowledged what he said or did. If you ignored him he would follow you and keep talking at you until you gave in.
I finally got around to watching this episode... Could not ignore it any more 😂. As usual, well written, well delivered, with a healthy dose of pleasant aftertaste. Have a safe journey ✌️
Been doing this for a while already. Life gets better when you practice it. Ignore people who are poisonous to me and give my undivided attention to the ones I care about.
When I played multiplayer games before, I felt that those people who talked in the chat were really affecting me. Muting them helped a lot! I am sure same is applicable in the real life as well! Thanks for the video!
I wish there was block IRL too, I have social anxiety can be hard for me to travel in public places. I had fair experiences with trolls in MMos and gaming Discord servers. I even unsubbed from Gaming RUclips channels because I care not for drama and content creators rants. Best if I focus on my mental health and creative projects.
Its true. I puts a nice bow around it. Its honesty and a clear message. I had to do it to someone who was angry with me for not contacting them, and Id placate them by answering and playing the game. But the stream of criticism and heavy handed comments got to much and I snapped. The peace that flows was heavenly. Im sure there will be a price to be paid in terms of being backstabbed
To me ignoring has became a necessity. as a recovering nice guy this was hard to do, but then when i saw damage it caused in my life it was time to change.This taught me love and that i didn't have to please anyone or give my attention away so cheaply. now i don't feel guilty or lonely. I know the pain and if i'm lonely i know it could be worse.
YOUR CHANNEL IS SO FANTASTIC!!! Your opinion is so valuable to me! I've been listening to your take on stoicism for YEARS NOW!!! plus bought your book for everyone in my family!!! If I'm the only human you have helped!! that is better then one thousand trolls!! Have done!!!
Ignoring people can serve as self-care and boundary-setting, particularly in managing negativity. It shields mental well-being and prevents conflicts. Ignoring distractions aids goal focus, yet distinguishing healthy boundaries from avoidance is crucial. Effective communication sustains relationships. Ultimately, ignoring individuals safeguards mental health and prioritizes personal needs with respect for others.
It's important to have discernment. If it's someone who's abusive or just means you harm or chaos, or is a vampire, yes, ignoring can be paramount for your mental health. But ignoring others can also be abusive, and can disconnect us from our own humanity, and the humanity of others. Community is real. People have always relied on each other for physical and emotional needs. Just because a lot of that has moved to the internet doesn't mean those needs have changed. If everyone ignores each other we're all in a world of hurt. Sociopathy is not the answer.
My Name is Noah. I see corruption and bad things everywhere. Throughout my childhood i was led astray by my mother and perceived best friend both shut down my greatness. I have been having profound ideas of purpose and clarity lately. This video feels too real
I always ignore people who cause me lots of problems. But ignoring doesn't always work. Some people will make your life hell just for ignoring them (narcissists).
6:53 - Roman bath houses & traffic are similar. Ignoring and ceding to those ahead of you, for example, will allow you to live longer and cost you nothing. ❤
I don't use ANY social media ( other than personal e-mails and I have quite a lovely life free from all you mentioned. Thank you for your 'old spirit wisdom'
The longer I am alive , the more I am sure that when someone contacts me ,most of the time they want something from me.
Hmmm so true , some of them don’t even hide it or brush it a little bit . It’s either because they need something or they are just bored hmmm
they want entertainment from you when they're bored. still a form of need. can be mutual, but can also be bothersome and annoying.
@@azumi5459 Yes, very much so.I had to ghost a long time acquaintance last year and it affects me even still. This person spiraled down fast during the pandemic, and just listening to the train wreck was hard on me.
answer the contact with, "what do you want or why have you contacted me" ?
@@servantprince as you get on in age, many of these calls will come from friends and/or family
Getting ignored used to bother me, now I just ignore it
Love it
Now, I like it and remain hidden, like a Ninja or Catwoman!
@@invisableobserverit’s not funny. It’s the truth.
LoL!
Lol I literally had this thought a week or two ago: “the best way to deal with Ignorance, is to ignore it.” 😂 brilliant
" the art of knowing is knowing what to ignore"
-Rumi
This quote hit hard 🔥
What dont men & women ignore? Themselves?
I know that's why I stopped the video when he said they ridiculed Noah.
that is some lode of BS, it's not in the book.
💯🔥
Something I learned in therapy was “do not set yourself on fire to keep others warm.” This helped me realize it’s okay to ignore the demanding nature of people around us whether its friends, family or coworkers. You do not owe anyone your sanity.
Stealing this.
Indeed.
Entering that one in my quote collection.
Thank you!
It's a Buddhist quote - I've heard it RUclips before not sure if was from Buddha directly or a later monk
Yup
Ideally human connection would be fun and reciprocal to the point you barely even notice the relationship. You just let it flow naturally. It's sad how many equate being social with torture. Really don't think it should be that way.
Im so lucky to have a father who always told me you dont need to be with people to be happy, you can be alone and be happy, and that taught me to ignore the many opinions of people
Being selective about choosing friends is possibly the most important thing you can do for yourself.
I’m learning this. If become much more selective over that last couple of years
@@beccafranklin6683 yeah when I was younger I hung out with people who were funny or entertaining. Now I look for people who are kind.
Werd dog.
I will keep this in mind
They are only friends if they make you better!
There comes so much peace with ignore stuff. Other peoples drama: ignore. People acting bad towards you: ignore.
Give your energy to stuff that actually matter. Not every invite to chaos needs to be accepted.
When you're about to cross beyond the void veil... Reflect carefully.
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"Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind's journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul's fate revealed. In time, all points converge, hope's strength resteeled. But to earn final peace at the universe's endless refrain, we must see all in nothingness... before we start again."
🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨
--Diamond Dragons (Armageddon's Ballad)
what a coward
@@PinacoladaMatthew Who is it you're responding to?.
@@keithhawkins7907 @joycedropoog575
Very beautiful stated 👍🏼
By ignoring all commercials by ppl trying to sell me something I save a lot of money.
By ignoring the daily news I save my sanity.
By ignoring/not engaging with toxic ppl I save my energy.
By ignoring inane tv shows I save time.
Yes!!! I was just about to write this, recently I have limited social media and MAN and I've become.a lot happier and positive about my own life.
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the just like heaven, or the end times, your "inner peace" is just a call to inaction and to accept the unacceptable
@@intellectually_lazy that's your opinion
solitude topic videos are my favorite. Embracing solitude throughout the day really helped me. So many external influences are constantly bombarding us.
Thank you for the feedback. There's more coming on that topic :)
Me too. I used to think I was lonely. But I’m actually not. I have great thoughtful conversations with myself. I get all my jokes, I know my triggers, I don’t have to ask me to be quiet. My husband is the same. Outsiders find it weird that we live together and have days we don’t talk outside of the necessities. Dinner, dog walks, making sure the silence is choice and not a breakdown.
The best advice I got was from an eating disorder book was to give yourself 10 minutes of quiet rest a day. I can’t do quiet so I play a soft white noise. It’s insane how refreshing 10 min alone in a calm space can change you.
I’m sending you peace friend.
@@Einzelgänger
Thank you Handsome Dutchman for staying true to yourself.
Much peace & prosperity to you ❤.
Your fan, Johanna
Solitude breeds intelligence. Not "loneliness" nor desperation in one's isolation... but *solitude*. One day--possibly soon--when you're about to cross beyond the void veil... Reflect carefully.
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"Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind's journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul's fate revealed. In time, all points converge, hope's strength resteeled. But to earn final peace at the universe's endless refrain, we must see all in nothingness... before we start again."
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--Diamond Dragons (Armageddon's Ballad)
@@Einzelgänger A video on 'living in your own apartment or space' would be nice lol
"The strong forgive. The weak revenge. The intelligent ignore." --Albert Einstein
People .. are taxing & draining at best. What they fail to get is “ You don’t have to have an opinion about everything - keep it to urself “ ..
Especially on these phones me to me lol
Most folks operate from a very surface level, I feel when you interact with them part of you dies .
what you fail to grasp is people are entitled to an opinion whether you wanna hear it or not, and no one has to shut up because of you
@@capricetony you sound like an elitist swine
@@intellectually_lazy agreed but no one needs to hear every opinion
Ignoring negativity is such a good thing to be good at for your sanity.
We first need to know how to identify negativity, though. Sometimes (often) it pretends to be something else at the start.
Sadly to get good at anything you must practice, which would mean there would have to be decent amount of continuous negativity, thats going to hurt lol.
This lesson I know far too well.
@@batintheattic7293Demons
ignoring the world is opting out of life
At work, I ignore everyone now, unless they’re contacting me for work related reasons. I used to be the one who initiated a “hello”, but people’s inability to recognize personal boundaries or say things with meaning has completely turned me off. Now there aren’t any “hello’s” or meaningful questions because they don’t do it. Goes to show how one-sided things were and how coworkers took me for granted. Work has actually become more enjoyable now that I’ve eliminated the fakers and ones with alternative motives.
Most people are fakers out there.
Vow
Coworkers can't be trusted to be
Friends...😂
It's wild how few people know how to have a real conversation that isn't a chore for both parties.
Same. At the beginning, I would greet everyone and make an effort to get to know each person. As the novelty of being the new coworker fell off though, so did the friendliness and warmth. There are a small handful of ppl at my job that have treated me the same since day 1 and I’m extremely grateful to have those ppl. Everyone else seems to get along with each other bc being disingenuous is a common trait they share. I didn’t notice until recently how I would always be the first one to acknowledge people or ask about their day. I decided to do a little experiment and stop greeting ppl to see what would happen. The “cool” coworkers greeted me and engaged in conversation with me without me initiating. The others said nothing. So now, I only engage with my “cool” coworkers and ignore the others. I totally agree with you. Work has become so much better and easier for me now that I know who to acknowledge and who to ignore.
The moment I realized to ignore people/things that burns me out, is also the moment I found peace. Do what you love, don't let other people define who you are😊
Don’t allow anyone make you feel obliged to give them attention, remember, it’s always your prerogative.
My attention is valuable. I no. Longer cast pearls before swine.
What to do if they are your children 😢
@@11_guardian I don’t understand your point. What does any of this have to do with anybody’s children?
I'm talking about myself here
@@11_guardian I understand. Sometimes, I do have to ignore my children to avoid nasty conflict. I teach others how I should be treated.
In my household, when we are wrong, we promptly admit it and make amends. It took a little while for everyone to learn. But, silence beats yelling and screaming.
The way it plays out, they will get over the anger and apologize. Then we all sit down and discuss the behavior and set boundaries for future situations.
By the way, this goes for me too. When I am wrong, I promptly admit it and make amends to my children. This models accountability and gives them the chance to practice forgiveness.
I try to reward good conduct with attention and significance and toxic behavior with indifference and boundary enforcement. It takes time, but it is better in the end.
I’d like to say I thought of all this. But, it comes from AA. I am a recovering alcoholic with four years of sobriety. The principles work in all of my affairs.
You don't have to be friend with anyone, everybody doesn't have to love or like you learn to be with yourself and love yourself
yeah, but they're all our neighbors, like it or not
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It works until you ignore the ones that give a damn. Descerning who to ignore is paramount.
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Shouldn't ignore someone you care about if you want them to stay around, that's just common sense lol
I’m ignoring this
Me too, grow a personality.
@Maevynn I agree entirely. But some people really take the advice they're given too seriously.
I tried Facebook for a short time and quickly realized how shallow and narcissistic it is. I dropped it, and all other social media (except RUclips for learning), and am happier without it.
That is where I am at right now.
Yup
I have learned to say no and ignore people. Massive life changer.
Good stuff Einzelgänger.
For me, ignoring people started with the process of turning off the “news”
Morrissey recommended to all of his friends that they stop watching the news.
I need to take this very wise advice. Thank you.
I just don’t know how people can find it even interesting man like what about the world going to shit changes anything in ur life , IN ANOTHER COUNTRY
@@EndlessAmount , I am actually having this conversation with myself. I have wasted hours and even years of my life worrying about international politics and politics in general. I’ve gained nothing from it and lost so much time I could have spent living my kids.
Politics is what the elites give us to occupy our time while they take over the world. Televised sports also - e.g. Roman colosseum, football.
@@sleeperno1215 don’t regret it, without doing that u wouldn’t be who u are now , you’d probably be me hating on it 😂 , love ur kids while u still can it’s never too late & sports I kinda agree with because in The Walking Dead both the governor and the dude from commonwealth both had a sport / live event to distract / entertain the people while they were doing the dirty work
I am much happier now that I ignore low vibrational people. Being alone is better than bad company.
October 2023 I celebrated 12 years of not owning a television (telling lies to your vision, they call it programming for a reason). So for over 12 years I have not subjected MYSELF to "mainstream/mockingbird" media.
Summer 2020 I did a social media detox and following that detox I deleted ALL my social media accounts. I have no online presence.
May 2024 will mark 5 years since I have been in a romantic relationship. I am choosing to be on my own to pursue my Spiritual path. I enjoy the solitude, I welcome the peace it brings to my life.
I do not pay a cable bill because I do not own a TV. I do not pay an internet bill because I do not own a computer. And I chose not to have WIFI at my house, I have no need for it.
I enjoy living a simple life and I am happy.
Not to try and debunk this but what did u write this comment on.
@@EndlessAmountProbably a phone. ✌️
if you have no online presence, then i'm not reading this. you call your indifferent attitude peace. it's not. it's denial and submission
njce for you tho', it's a choice, not for the children getting exploded in bread lines or the woman ruled to have no legal control over her body, or the person doing time for something they didn't do. you think you can just opt out of the repercussions of your acceptance of the ststus quo. you can't. this is moral cowardice
I ignored so much that I have No one who could help me in crucial situations but realised those who have more friends too have no one to help them
Great video .. sometimes I feel like I’m the only one left on planet earth that still hits the off button on their cell phone ..
Easy to be a hater online when you're anonymous. It's wonderful to ignore them!
Lol
Whenever I hear anything, the phrase “consider the source” comes into mind.
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ja, but even a broken clock's right twice a day
@@intellectually_lazy- exactly; some sources are worth listening to.
"Why do I care what they think, I see what makes them cheer "
Ignoring people can serve as self-care and boundary-setting, particularly in managing negativity. It shields mental well-being and prevents conflicts. Ignoring distractions aids goal focus, yet distinguishing healthy boundaries from avoidance is crucial. Effective communication sustains relationships. Ultimately, ignoring individuals safeguards mental health and prioritizes personal needs with respect for others.
timely relatable video! I'm home alone for three days without my siblings and their children. A few hours ago, I realized that I am best when I'm alone.
Ignoring the media is a great thing.
I notice that the more happy you are in front of haters the more they hate. So even if I'm having a bad day, I will laugh and smile. "Misery loves Company".
Neibours were always gossiping about me, speeding lies and hate,it upset me so much till one day i just said to hell with them and i just got on with my life, found peace and serenity, they lost there power over me,i just ignore them all🕊️ now,
That’s so powerful from you. Ignoring and/or forgiving removes the power they have over you.
Society's insistence on seeking external validation can indeed be a heavy burden to bear. But realizing that true validation comes from within, from the depths of one's own spirit and connection to nature, is a journey of self-discovery worth undertaking.
Never inundated with messages, emails at my will, not when notified, YT is my only social media, if even classed and only a few people ever call. Bliss.
Thank you for the video. I need to ignore some relatives and this is a reminder.
Unbelievable coincidence. This week I had a discussion with my wife, she came home yelling at me when I was meditating, initially, I ignored her to finish my mindfulness session properly, but 5-10 minutes later, I fell into her yelling trap and was dragged to discussion with the consequent upset. After things cooled down I reflected and decided to ignore her yelling (trigger) from now on. I already don't pay attention to social media, and what other people say/think but when is about someone I care such as my mother or my wife I find it way more difficult to ignore. I know that won't be an easy task but willing to meet the challenge. This video came just in time with useful tips. Nice work, keep it up. 2 thumbs up from Colombia.
Boy, do I resonate. After 30+ years of dealing with p§¥¢hoti¢, relentlessly toxic, emotionally volatile relationships... I think I've tried WELL more than enough. 🙂 I've been an exemplary, kind, compassionate, emotionally-attuned soul all my life. But I've grown utterly exhausted of how humanity has treated me. It's embarrassing how much white noise, static, and negative non-sequiturs I've had to endure. ENOUGH IS ENOUGH. 💪😎✌️
"I carry MY adornments ONLY on my soul. Decked with deeds in lieu of ribbons." --Cyrano
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@JME0676 I can relate to your point. I don't agree necessarily with ignoring your wife but instead sit down together & set boundaries. She should definitely respect your peace & be more conscious/mindful of your meditation times. Explain how her actions make you feel when she does that. If she is an awakened woman who is aware she will & should comply with your boundaries to wait & approach you after she has calmed down & you are finished meditating to tell you how she feels or what has occurred to upset her. But ignoring the ones we love & who are important to us I don't believe is right. That could trigger ppl with past traumas of being ignored. That is not a solution. Ignoring toxic or negative & disruptive ppl or family members yes! Absolutely ignore them if it's not good for your mental health but our close meangful relationships & those ppl should be tended to with compassion, kindness & empathy. In otherwords discern who should truly be ignored because not everyone should be imo.
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The benefits of ignoring talking heads and politicians.. incalculable.
And televisión. 👌🏽
As beings with good heart, we must be vegan. Dominion (2018)
We must address the root issue of human arrogance and everything would get back to harmony 👉The Connections (2021) [short documentary] 🌳
So true!
@@VeganSemihCyprus33 Nah, God gave us animals for food. That being said, they should be treated humanely.
At first I thought your approach to be sinister and rude but I kept watching and noticed your motives are really nice actually.
Same here
sure, my dad's intentions in moving to the suburbs for our education was "nice". look where it got us all
Showing disdain and indifference is the best way to show certain people how toxic they are. I avoid negative energy like the plague.
Watching this after more than a month off social media, and a whole day without switching on my phone. Amazing!
I saw this at the right time, I had already started to move away from certain people/activities that drain my energy, now it makes more sense. More energy to put into growing my art career
Discernment is important.
the lowest level of self esteem is to leave the phone connected to web during sleeptime, and checking upon notification
Introverts tends to prefer close meaningful relationships.
But I agree that being too close can also be harmful. Everybody has toxic behaviors and shit they're dealing with.
As beings with good heart, we must be vegan. Dominion (2018)
Being to close is attachment. Attachment is suffering
You say "dealing with" but most people aren't. Most people are just coping, which never helps in the long run, yet this is found out when it is too late.
But if you ever come across someone who behaves maturely with their emotions, not needy, yet they're relaxed and organized. That is the person who faces or deals with their poor behavior or at least of what is left of it, every single day and you would never know. Those are the people that are actually down to earth. The issue with them is that; they are very rare... at least in younger generations.
@@krissifadwa tru dat 😢 but they try their level best to not get close to any other individual because they don't want to tolerate any 'coping' stuff they do and don't want to be their unpaid therapist
@@TheOldMe-rs1yl Haha everything you said here sounds too familiar. The term "Unpaid Therapist" is a reality for introverts.
Hate when ppl take it personally when I don’t want to talk to them. Not everyone is a people person and that’s okay, go find someone else to talk to. I like being in my mind and thoughts especially while working. I struggle with this at my workplace. Despite the whole department acknowledging a large portion of us are introverted and like to focus without constantly being spoken to, they still force themselves onto you. I could have both earbuds in (this is allowed in my workplace I work in IT and data analytics) and this one lady (she’s nice and all but this is annoying) would literally stand at my desk til I take them out and acknowledge her. And no they are not looking to talk about work related issues or projects, they’re looking to tell me a story about their kids or something. And while I’m not rude and I respond because I speak when spoken to, it’s annoying how I’m constantly expected to compromise my comfort to cater to someone else’s concept of a comfort workplace. Especially since I’m not given the privilege to work from home to protect my mental state while she gets to work from home every other week and then complains she has no one to talk to. Idk if anyone else in the world feels this way but I sure as heck do.
Maybe do something that offends her? Or grosses her out? Tell her you’re sick? It just flat out be rude to her? Something, get creative if you have to.
Like if she’s religious. Tell her you are an atheist. Or that you worship the devil. Just something that won’t get you in trouble at work though obviously. Good luck. ✌️
I have been selectively ignoring people since high school and I really do get flak for it, but I am proud to say that my inner peace is relatively more intact compared to others who are more connected and open. I'm an INFJ and I truly live up to the introvert aspect of it. I cannot stress enough how much ignoring people (selectively of course) has made my life better. Unfortunately though, my current work requires me to be more connected online, and I do feel that decline in my inner peace, but I am holding the line. I will say that whenever I go outdoors, especially on bike rides and hikes, I become thankful whenever we go to a place that has no phone signal reception as it means my friends will not be glued to their phones when we take a break. Nowadays, I truly feel that preserving your inner peace has become a rare commodity that is more valuable than any precious metal or luxury item, and yet, people still love to throw away their time and energy to attention that doesn't do them good. Thanks for the video, I needed this.
I ignore people who ignore me first. Don't let people steal your JOY! 😁
Besides, they know how to find me but I assure you I won't bother them again.
Ignoring is a powerful form of communication in itself and controlling people (and definitely bullies) absolutely hate it! I watched how someone at a wedding was essentially putting down another guest at the dinner table. The “target” of the insecure or intimidated person kept quiet. You could tell the bully was screaming inside! It was so effective
This is not real life. I grew up when people actually talked to each other and wrote letters, read books. Wonderful time.
Your explanations on living and virtue have always been as meditations to my mind and music to my ears , the harmony that's developed around me when listening to you gives me comfort and your insights awaken my intellect !
There’s over 2 million of us who like your content :)
It is especially valuable ignoring the culture. Ignore their fads, ignore their politics, ignore their media. You’ll know you’re doing it right when people become angry and aggressive about it.
Religious too..
Beautifully said. This has been a theme and lesson of life for me lately - one in which I'm gradually learning to become better at harnessing.
Wonderful music in the background
Wonderful indeed - know who the artist/song is?
Excellent. I just subbed. I say, you just don't even need people anymore. It's the 21st Century. We've given up on ideas of owning a house and having a family before we are 30 but still cling to outdated ideas about socialization. In today's day and age, there is no need for people other than for transactional relationships. Loneliness is a social construct. Be happy alone.
All facts. Well done.
Absolute true!
You're a bafoon. We do lol. We absolutely need people. Even if youre not interacting with them, you need them around in proximity. Ive tested this over many years. We are evolved to be social creatures. Evolved. Do you know what that means. Yes I'm going to patronize you. We're tribal/communal. Not everythings about practical function. Technically, we could handle all our business alone. Some find relative peace of mind as a monk. But there IS a price, and it will come with tremendous mental cost. We're not designed for it.
After trying to go it alone against my nature for many, many years, its caused all kinds of problems. I was hikikomori. Total rejection of society for about a decade, so I know what happens. It exaggerates neuroticism, increases tendencies of self-absorption and inconsideration of others, leads to a more predictable and monotous reality, it enables too much comfort and not enough resistence (which makes you less resillient over time), etc, etc, etc. Also people are like the sun to a solar battery. You gain energy from them. Sometimes even when they anger me, it gives me a sort of energy to channel I wouldnt have gotten in isolation. And I'm saying all this as someone much further on the introversion spectrum.
So true.
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Solitude is getting better for me. It's also enabled me to make more friends ironically. Because i just go out and enjoy life. I just pop up at the skatepark. At the library. Doing whatever I want. Chasing my solo mission. But it's that contentment in me to go out and be happy. Than I can just hand out a little happiness around town. Not expecting anything back. And bam you suddenly have friends all over.. and yet you still choose to be alone half the time. Its like I spend time alone "growing" than go to my friends to trade and experiance the things we've grown together.
The most shocking part of this video to me was that people criticize you for your excellent work. I'm glad you can ignore them
I really needed this today, I thought I'm a strong individual when it comes to ignoring social media hype and other stuff but it turns out it slowly affects my day to day life, I'm glad I stumbled upon this video and rethink my choices. Thank you!
My favorite thing in the world is time with myself. The more time I spend with myself, the stronger I feel. The solitude I cherish is helping me to understand some things I've contended with all my life. I am happy alone. Very happy alone.
Powerful story and content! I couldn’t ignore this video. Enjoyed the benefits of this.
These lessons to me feel like a part of growing up. Only through realizing that you have to ignore some people do you truly grow towards becoming who you are. BUT it's a virtue, a middle between two extremes, sometimes you have to listen, to hear others. In this regard, this quote of Nietzsche is such a gem: "In loneliness, the lonely one eats himself; in a crowd, the many eat him."
As beings with good heart, we must be vegan. Dominion (2018)
@@VeganSemihCyprus33
Please take your dogma somewhere else. ❤
Hey meat eaters.....
Just ignore these vegan rules.
Have a chicken sandwich with a nice cold glass of milk❤.
@@VeganSemihCyprus33 If we are not supposed to eat animals, why are they made out of meat.
Ignoring people can give you the opportunity to be more self-aware and giving more priority to yourself more than anything.
I always think walking around thinking I want to kick the crap out of other people, but not doing it is the best way to go about living life and getting the best out of yourself.
Interesting...im a Buddhist..and we claim to be non violent...and well what you describe is non violent..... ultimately....
..very interesting comment
@@HANZELVANDERLAAY Weren't the Shaolin monks Buddhists? They were trained fighters.
I'm a fan of master Shi Heng Yi from the Shaolin temple Europe in Germany. He has a saying "Demon hand, Buddha heart" which is similar to the sentiment I was getting at. You need the force of the demon hand to get you through life. You need the dark energy, but controlled with a moral code.
@@Andygb78 i like it ...well put...
.I'm German American btw...
.I lived in Amsterdam..and key West Florida..
...good times in both places....I also have a clothing line called buddhafarian....cheers man
A person who I meet on a daily basis used to say this 'ignore them' on a regular basis but after watching your video it makes me to think about it. Thank you
You gave a whole new meaning to the pharse Ignorance is bliss🔥🔥🔥
I miss you. I hope you are well and in good health. I love your videos that talk about solitude. It taught me to walk in my own way and not care much about the nonsense and madness of this world. I have deleted all social media applications and only use RUclips and WhatsApp. I ended my relationship with toxic friends. I do not deny that I still suffer from loneliness a little, but I am still working on it. I have truly realized that being alone is not that bad. I think Being alone is better than being with the wrong people. And also ...Well this may sound a little silly but I don't know why I love every time when you say "thank you for watching"
Ok whatever ...just don't be late
I am absolutely amazed at how perfectly this aligns with my current situation! Your exceptional content is sincerely appreciated!
Exclusion > Inclusion. That's the way I have been framing this issue. What and who you choose to excude from your life is very important. As society (the powers that be) continue to force acceptance, inclusion, mediocrity and tolerance of All things, it's very important to decide for yourself what you believe and who and what you accept.
I am old and have foregone human company. I am a hermit so I can have peace. I am never alone. Besides me I have animals and nature. I enjoy your thoughts and writing. I don't agree with every thought but can ignore the few to get value out of the many. Thank you.
Used to work with a guy who refused to move on until you acknowledged what he said or did. If you ignored him he would follow you and keep talking at you until you gave in.
I finally got around to watching this episode... Could not ignore it any more 😂. As usual, well written, well delivered, with a healthy dose of pleasant aftertaste. Have a safe journey ✌️
Have always been fan of your useful content.
Thank you brother
Been doing this for a while already. Life gets better when you practice it. Ignore people who are poisonous to me and give my undivided attention to the ones I care about.
When I played multiplayer games before, I felt that those people who talked in the chat were really affecting me. Muting them helped a lot!
I am sure same is applicable in the real life as well!
Thanks for the video!
Wouldn't it be great to have a person to person remote control to enable one to just mute somebody? ❤
I wish there was block IRL too, I have social anxiety can be hard for me to travel in public places. I had fair experiences with trolls in MMos and gaming Discord servers. I even unsubbed from Gaming RUclips channels because I care not for drama and content creators rants. Best if I focus on my mental health and creative projects.
Yup
Your are doing good job. The content speaks for itself. Thanks to trolls who trolled you. They were part of your journey.
Afterall you know what they say “Ignorance is bliss” . You made my night thank you so much!
Thank you. You just confirmed what I've been trying to tell everyone.
Blocking is even better than ignoring😂
Its true. I puts a nice bow around it. Its honesty and a clear message. I had to do it to someone who was angry with me for not contacting them, and Id placate them by answering and playing the game. But the stream of criticism and heavy handed comments got to much and I snapped. The peace that flows was heavenly. Im sure there will be a price to be paid in terms of being backstabbed
To me ignoring has became a necessity. as a recovering nice guy this was hard to do, but then when i saw damage it caused in my life it was time to change.This taught me love and that i didn't have to please anyone or give my attention away so cheaply. now i don't feel guilty or lonely. I know the pain and if i'm lonely i know it could be worse.
YOUR CHANNEL IS SO FANTASTIC!!! Your opinion is so valuable to me! I've been listening to your take on stoicism for YEARS NOW!!! plus bought your book for everyone in my family!!! If I'm the only human you have helped!! that is better then one thousand trolls!! Have done!!!
Very well put together video. Thank you.
Ignoring people can serve as self-care and boundary-setting, particularly in managing negativity. It shields mental well-being and prevents conflicts. Ignoring distractions aids goal focus, yet distinguishing healthy boundaries from avoidance is crucial. Effective communication sustains relationships. Ultimately, ignoring individuals safeguards mental health and prioritizes personal needs with respect for others.
thank you. this year will be the year of ignorance for me since I was in despair back then. so yeah I want to ignore and focus on myself 😊
Our attention is precious! Thank you for this video.
I found this video so useful, I shared it with all my friends. None of them replied.
It's important to have discernment. If it's someone who's abusive or just means you harm or chaos, or is a vampire, yes, ignoring can be paramount for your mental health. But ignoring others can also be abusive, and can disconnect us from our own humanity, and the humanity of others. Community is real. People have always relied on each other for physical and emotional needs. Just because a lot of that has moved to the internet doesn't mean those needs have changed. If everyone ignores each other we're all in a world of hurt. Sociopathy is not the answer.
I love your writing. Thank you for sharing. Your channel has been a great comfort
This is definitely one of the best channels I am subscribed to.
“ Ignorance is bliss “ will always be Gold to me
I find it quite easy to ignore most people most of the time. My attention will not be diluted by meaningless drivel.
My Name is Noah. I see corruption and bad things everywhere. Throughout my childhood i was led astray by my mother and perceived best friend both shut down my greatness. I have been having profound ideas of purpose and clarity lately. This video feels too real
I always ignore people who cause me lots of problems. But ignoring doesn't always work. Some people will make your life hell just for ignoring them (narcissists).
Still ignore and 🙏
go next level and block !
I’m grateful for your content. Thank you for sharing ideas that help me understand my place in things.
i actually needed this video. TODAY! thank you for being here
How easy it is 2 deny the pain of someone else's suffering.
ignoring is good when people try to insult you and devastate your day
this came just when i NEEDED it
6:53 - Roman bath houses & traffic are similar. Ignoring and ceding to those ahead of you, for example, will allow you to live longer and cost you nothing. ❤
It’s very, very hard ignore social pressure. It’s also the best thing you can ever do.
I don't use ANY social media ( other than personal e-mails and I have quite a lovely life free from all you mentioned. Thank you for your 'old spirit wisdom'
But you just wrote your comment on social media?
@@caldwellfisher5288I don't think most people view youtube as a traditional social media..some do some don't 😊
I’ve learned that ignoring someone who intentionally tries to do you dirty have become a blessing in disguises… mother dearest.