the wave/universe/atoms metaphor actually made me feel really peaceful, too. And yeah, sometimes feeling that everything matters is as simple as taking a breath and immersing oneself in nature. It's crazy how that works and it definitely makes the ego that was previously taking a kind of satisfaction in, in a way, self-harming with nihilistic thoughts, shrink back for a while. Thanks for the insights, I felt so much less alone, especially as you were talking about emotional/relational starvation. Damn, that stuff is so relatable. I'm gonna have to check out The Sinner.
Hey Clay, I’ve always been skeptical of personality test but took the Mayer Briggs some years ago. Got INFJ. Just recently someone told me it’s the rarest and “weirdest” type. Oh. Ok. Maybe maybe that explains why I’ve always felt different than others. So I took it again. And again. And again. INFJ every time. This time I took the time to read about the type and it’s scary how well it describes me. The good and the bad. The sensitivity to sensory overload, the excessive need for alone time and introspection, the sense of not being understood and me not understanding how people can be content without asking the big questions, without truly knowing themselves or other people, without authentic intimate connection with others. I grew up in a family where no one wanted to get to know each other beyond the superficial. I truly feel like I don’t really know them. I have brought this up so many times and they just don’t get it. I want to share experiences of being a human being with other human beings. Thoughts, emotions, dreams, insights, believes, fears, the tickling in your stomach when you look up into a clear sky or into the eyes of a cat. I can’t take small talk. I don’t give a shit about the Kardashians or the latest coffee trend. I care about you! YOU. I’m 42 and it’s taken me that long to realize that most people just don’t want that. But oh the disappointments before I got there. I can’t honestly say that I’m not still struggling. It’s very painful to not feel that connection with others so I’m protecting myself from that by keeping a distance. Anyway, thank you so for this channel! It’s given me so much hope and a warm feeling of being connected. Ps: I have used the wave analogy for the exact same purpose as you for years.
Hi Kim, not sure you'll read this but as an INTJ I can relate to your experience as well. My personality is also the rarest and when I learned about it, I understood many things in my life and people's behaviour. Knowing about your own personality and others around you is truly a superpower for us Ni doms. I hope you feel better and knowing that INFJ helps a lot. I have some INFJ people in my life and there is truly a special connection with them.
i love the wave and ocean metaphor and it reminds me of one of my favourite quotes: "you are the universe experiencing itself." thank you for the lovely video.
Thank you so much for these videos. It's always a relief to know that I'm not alone with the internal struggles I've always dealt with as an INFJ. I recently uprooted my life and am in the process of starting over. It's been so difficult, but necessary at the same time. I feel like my family and friends really have no idea how navigating through life as an INFJ feels a lot more overwhelming for us. There's always so many thoughts, feelings and emotions to process. It's exhausting. I'm looking forward to your next video.
Yes lately I've been really contemplating if my definition of happiness is really my own or someone else's. I want to figure out what will truly make me happy to core with ego aside.
I read just yesterday- "Be at peace with the things not in your control and in full command of those things that you are" . This steers my focus on whatever baby step is next into the pathless place. ...I like your metaphor of the bridge. At those times of letting go and moving into the unknown, I relate to the image of the trapeze artist having to let go of one swing in order to reach out to catch the next swing. It feels like an act of faith and something to work up to, perhaps....🤗
Clay, your facial features are so ancient, emperor-like, I couldn't help but draw a few portraits. Hooray to the nature and ancestory. Huge eyes, sculpturous lips. Beyond a model and a strong man image. Who are your ancestors, I wonder? Roman gods, Iranians? As an INFP with love for truth-searching, I let go of this MB model due to its determinism but psychology, transactional analysis, gave me more answers and direction where to grow. I admire how exact they are in explaining what is going on. Thanks.
Thanks for this series! I’ve been going through a relationship/connection crisis so much of this is applicable to that and it’s helping me work through some stuff. Grateful 🙏🏾
Wow. What a timely video. I am experiencing an existential crisis RIGHT NOW. To think of it, I’m always questioning everything and on the verge of a crisis 😮😮😮
Same here, take your time, it's always loads of drama in one go!!! & then another wave of shit comes in. It becomes survival before you can consolidate & plan forwards. Good luck 🍀
Awesome video, bro. I’ve noticed this in many people, but yeah it seems especially prevalent in INFJ. And you covered a lot of the reasons I’ve identified this in my clients. I think the solutions you provided are solid, and I think especially once an INFJ sees they have made genuine and deep connection, they really burst out of this and find true beauty in life. The Fe/Se is what counters this existential dread.
Hello :) Wrong video. I just wanted to say your “why I left Christianity” video was so well done. I did leave a comment there but as it is 3 years old I thought I’d have better odds here! It was so well done, and we’ll worded. From following to worshipping, was perfect. I thank you for the time you take to get to people. It was appreciated much past watching the video! Thank you again ❤
I've been scoring INFJ many many years. It's so spot-on. Though these days I'm having a really tough time at the age of 46. I'm feeling as though it's almost like being cursed. I just know about things that I really don't want to know about. I often feel like I've been pulled out of the matrix. Hi therefore very much relate to the character cipher because he wanted back in to the delusion rather illusion so badly he did what he did. I can relate. The world is very loud and intense to. I have trouble in so many relationships because I seem to operate over here and most people operate over there. I don't like this self-pity narrative of being alone because I am that kind of different. Yeah I'm having a really tough time these days. I know I am very blessed and gifted to be an INFJ but I don't know ....
Absolutely with you 💯. Wow, the timing here is phenomenal. Love your content 🇨🇦💚✨ Always notice the missing pieces of the puzzle… gotta stop it now. Oh my 🧘♀️
Meaning is a by-product of purposeful self-expression. The way to stay anchored in a sea of chaos is to behold what you have already created, what it means to you and those around you, and what else it is leading you to accomplish. (ENTJ)
I got The bitter end of the whip a tongue lashing for being honest and speaking my truth which resulted in me having to move and shift my whole dynamic to a place I haven't been in years. The upside is I'm in a better place. But the downside is you can't be honest with someone or at least not that person.
then you explain the analytical self-analysis. You illustrate pretty well the contradiction between intuition and your language and the INFJ's difficulty understanding it. The conclusion is different. You must return your intuition to with a request for explanation. I call it the loop. In principle, all intuition results are without explanations and are often very confusing. I'll refrain from explaining the species now. In short, do a second loop and you will get your answer after 3 or 4 days.
Well i saw this title and i was drawn to it. I've never seen any of your videos but now i know what I'm going through right now. I'm definitely going through an existential crisis and yes i am starting to embrace nihilism. Which i just recently learned about nihilism. I am 38 years old, I'm an INFJ, with Severe ADHD, Complex PTSD, Social and Generalized Anxiety, Paranoid Personality Disorder, Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder, Autism, and early signs of Schizophrenia. So now that i know what I'm going through, I'm going to go now and learn everything i can about this.
It's been a few years since I have watchec one of your videos. An why I choose this particular video idk. I just feel as if I've been confirmation of so much
INFJ: you're confused and afraid because you experience Existential Crisis through life experience. We're confused and afraid because existential crisis was all we ever knew. We are not the same.
In principle you only have two options: deactivate your intuition or give it tasks. I then always read books and send the intuition in loops to solve it. If you want to help society, study technology. So honestly, you get a technological breakthrough every week. But even then, be sure to stick to the second loop. Not every breakthrough can be understood analytically. Do you use your dreams for analytical functions at night?
There *IS* meaning in the unicerse. And we *ARE* all the energy of the universe, literally. That's what everything and everyone is made of. This energy is love, but it's also consciousness, and it's our souls. It's also what religions have called "God", and we are all a part of it. We all have our purpose here, and this physical world is only a very small part of our existence.
Honest question. If each person creates their own meaning, what can be said about people who find murder, destruction, chaos, personal gain at others’ expense, to be meaningful? And if you find those things to be “bad”- what makes a thing “bad”? I’m just curious about your thoughts on this- the difference between bad and good? I am not seeing much of a difference between Nihilism and Existentialism because, when put in its simplest terms- would equate to meaninglessness? How do we measure the value of a thing? If we leave that up to what’s valuable to others or what feels good, I’m afraid that’s highly varied? Again, curious about your thoughts on this. Maybe that could be another video
Why do you (inter)connect existentialism issues with 1) fear of death* or 2) having solid self (i.e. not requiring acceptance & confirmation of reality from others, e.g. parents). I think it is common for a person to be resolving these issues roughly at the same period, but it is not in my opinion always the case. ------ * I would say it's more "conscious mortality" or "mortality anxiety" than "fear of death"
The reason for existential crises has just been explained. We don't understand ourselves and no one helps us and, even better, no one wants to understand us. Do you know the time jumps?
Be happy, sounds al easy blabla...we know. But. It. Just. Doesn't. End. which leaves us no choice, then to be... two days bootcamp with no sleep realized me this. the wave is you, in a world like everybody else, al waves together is the world, is what we are. always have been. life. what a powerfull trait to have, to step in and out of the game, where and when you want, alot others can't do.
Why can't I have it all in one. The depth. Of a man. An a true partner in every sense of word. That I would choose as well some times we meet ppl an have no fucken idea wtf just happened
Great video. I too feel like this. The thing is I'm a Sigma so don't crave socialising. I know if I do people just look confused or try to correct me so I don't bother. Usually I'm in permanent hermit mode & observe. I use social media, A LOT, to get my little social interaction. Safer writing out things than being on calls (which uses a lot of my mental energy). I became selfish, over years of abuse, so (in a way) don't care about people; just my kids & close family. Even friends, I don't do.
Leaving Jesus? You never knew Him. Otherwise, you would never leave Him. Parables of Soils explains. The good shepherd knows his sheep and they know his voice. Turn to Christ and live.
I love that! "You DO belong here." That thought actually helps me settle, into my body." Thank you.
Idealism creates existential dread, because we're such a big picture centric bunch it's impossible not to notice the bad things aswell
the wave/universe/atoms metaphor actually made me feel really peaceful, too. And yeah, sometimes feeling that everything matters is as simple as taking a breath and immersing oneself in nature. It's crazy how that works and it definitely makes the ego that was previously taking a kind of satisfaction in, in a way, self-harming with nihilistic thoughts, shrink back for a while. Thanks for the insights, I felt so much less alone, especially as you were talking about emotional/relational starvation. Damn, that stuff is so relatable. I'm gonna have to check out The Sinner.
I agree about the univers/atoms/waves metaphor. It hit the nail on the head for me. 🙂
Damn, yeah. Thank you 🪴
Clay Arnall videos give my life meaning
hey i've watched your etsy videos man. didn't know you are an INFJ too bro LOL
i have actually never felt so understood as a person, pretty grateful for this specific video.
Hey Clay,
I’ve always been skeptical of personality test but took the Mayer Briggs some years ago. Got INFJ. Just recently someone told me it’s the rarest and “weirdest” type. Oh. Ok. Maybe maybe that explains why I’ve always felt different than others. So I took it again. And again. And again. INFJ every time. This time I took the time to read about the type and it’s scary how well it describes me. The good and the bad. The sensitivity to sensory overload, the excessive need for alone time and introspection, the sense of not being understood and me not understanding how people can be content without asking the big questions, without truly knowing themselves or other people, without authentic intimate connection with others. I grew up in a family where no one wanted to get to know each other beyond the superficial. I truly feel like I don’t really know them. I have brought this up so many times and they just don’t get it. I want to share experiences of being a human being with other human beings. Thoughts, emotions, dreams, insights, believes, fears, the tickling in your stomach when you look up into a clear sky or into the eyes of a cat. I can’t take small talk. I don’t give a shit about the Kardashians or the latest coffee trend. I care about you! YOU. I’m 42 and it’s taken me that long to realize that most people just don’t want that. But oh the disappointments before I got there. I can’t honestly say that I’m not still struggling. It’s very painful to not feel that connection with others so I’m protecting myself from that by keeping a distance. Anyway, thank you so for this channel! It’s given me so much hope and a warm feeling of being connected. Ps: I have used the wave analogy for the exact same purpose as you for years.
Hi Kim, not sure you'll read this but as an INTJ I can relate to your experience as well. My personality is also the rarest and when I learned about it, I understood many things in my life and people's behaviour. Knowing about your own personality and others around you is truly a superpower for us Ni doms. I hope you feel better and knowing that INFJ helps a lot.
I have some INFJ people in my life and there is truly a special connection with them.
I’m glad you could feel some resolve and peace, I have trouble making good connections with people but I encourage both of us to keep trying
i love the wave and ocean metaphor and it reminds me of one of my favourite quotes: "you are the universe experiencing itself."
thank you for the lovely video.
Thank you so much for these videos. It's always a relief to know that I'm not alone with the internal struggles I've always dealt with as an INFJ.
I recently uprooted my life and am in the process of starting over. It's been so difficult, but necessary at the same time. I feel like my family and friends really have no idea how navigating through life as an INFJ feels a lot more overwhelming for us. There's always so many thoughts, feelings and emotions to process. It's exhausting. I'm looking forward to your next video.
Yes lately I've been really contemplating if my definition of happiness is really my own or someone else's. I want to figure out what will truly make me happy to core with ego aside.
I read just yesterday- "Be at peace with the things not in your control and in full command of those things that you are" . This steers my focus on whatever baby step is next into the pathless place. ...I like your metaphor of the bridge. At those times of letting go and moving into the unknown, I relate to the image of the trapeze artist having to let go of one swing in order to reach out to catch the next swing. It feels like an act of faith and something to work up to, perhaps....🤗
Clay, your facial features are so ancient, emperor-like, I couldn't help but draw a few portraits. Hooray to the nature and ancestory. Huge eyes, sculpturous lips. Beyond a model and a strong man image. Who are your ancestors, I wonder? Roman gods, Iranians? As an INFP with love for truth-searching, I let go of this MB model due to its determinism but psychology, transactional analysis, gave me more answers and direction where to grow. I admire how exact they are in explaining what is going on. Thanks.
I loved the show "The Sinner". Not a lot of people talk about it. so excited to hear you have watched and enjoyed
I was sad to hear there would be no more seasons.
Thanks for this series! I’ve been going through a relationship/connection crisis so much of this is applicable to that and it’s helping me work through some stuff. Grateful 🙏🏾
Wow. What a timely video. I am experiencing an existential crisis RIGHT NOW. To think of it, I’m always questioning everything and on the verge of a crisis 😮😮😮
Same here, take your time, it's always loads of drama in one go!!!
& then another wave of shit comes in.
It becomes survival before you can consolidate & plan forwards.
Good luck 🍀
Awesome video, bro. I’ve noticed this in many people, but yeah it seems especially prevalent in INFJ. And you covered a lot of the reasons I’ve identified this in my clients. I think the solutions you provided are solid, and I think especially once an INFJ sees they have made genuine and deep connection, they really burst out of this and find true beauty in life. The Fe/Se is what counters this existential dread.
thank you! Do you see this in INFJs more frequent than other types?
@@ClayArnall absolutely! I’d say INFJ, then INFP, and then INTJ in that order. But INFJ more than any other type I’ve seen so far.
"Sinner" is my favorite series. My partner is an INFP and said the detective reminded him of me.
As an INFJ, I appreciate this a lot. Makes prefect sense to me. 🙂
Hello :)
Wrong video. I just wanted to say your “why I left Christianity” video was so well done. I did leave a comment there but as it is 3 years old I thought I’d have better odds here! It was so well done, and we’ll worded. From following to worshipping, was perfect. I thank you for the time you take to get to people. It was appreciated much past watching the video! Thank you again ❤
I've been scoring INFJ many many years. It's so spot-on. Though these days I'm having a really tough time at the age of 46. I'm feeling as though it's almost like being cursed. I just know about things that I really don't want to know about. I often feel like I've been pulled out of the matrix. Hi therefore very much relate to the character cipher because he wanted back in to the delusion rather illusion so badly he did what he did. I can relate. The world is very loud and intense to. I have trouble in so many relationships because I seem to operate over here and most people operate over there. I don't like this self-pity narrative of being alone because I am that kind of different. Yeah I'm having a really tough time these days. I know I am very blessed and gifted to be an INFJ but I don't know ....
You are here for a reason and you will know what it is when it's time ❣️
Absolutely with you 💯. Wow, the timing here is phenomenal.
Love your content 🇨🇦💚✨
Always notice the missing pieces of the puzzle… gotta stop it now. Oh my 🧘♀️
Meaning is a by-product of purposeful self-expression. The way to stay anchored in a sea of chaos is to behold what you have already created, what it means to you and those around you, and what else it is leading you to accomplish. (ENTJ)
I had a person I thought I’d always be with die in a car accident. Spot on lol.
You look my twin brother INFJ… thank you so much…🙏🙏🙏
I got The bitter end of the whip a tongue lashing for being honest and speaking my truth which resulted in me having to move and shift my whole dynamic to a place I haven't been in years. The upside is I'm in a better place. But the downside is you can't be honest with someone or at least not that person.
Job/Business+Gym+Fruits+Prayer/Meditation = Elevated INFJ ❤
Omg, thank you so much, this is my life right now
Not everytime I can give my opinion or reaction to your videos but always looking forward to another one
Basically, of course, I congratulate you on your higher spirit. You can help the world. You have it in your genes.
then you explain the analytical self-analysis. You illustrate pretty well the contradiction between intuition and your language and the INFJ's difficulty understanding it. The conclusion is different. You must return your intuition to with a request for explanation. I call it the loop. In principle, all intuition results are without explanations and are often very confusing. I'll refrain from explaining the species now. In short, do a second loop and you will get your answer after 3 or 4 days.
Thank you! Looking forward to the next video… 😊
Do another video with Lexi again soon pweaseeee🙏🏾
Love you two!
ha, I will try. She gets a bit insecure about it is the issue, but I just need to think of a good topic to lure her.
@@ClayArnall absolutely understand...🤗 We all hope you find that topic...all the best!🙌🏿
Wonderful video! Thank you ❤
Well i saw this title and i was drawn to it. I've never seen any of your videos but now i know what I'm going through right now. I'm definitely going through an existential crisis and yes i am starting to embrace nihilism. Which i just recently learned about nihilism. I am 38 years old, I'm an INFJ, with Severe ADHD, Complex PTSD, Social and Generalized Anxiety, Paranoid Personality Disorder, Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder, Autism, and early signs of Schizophrenia. So now that i know what I'm going through, I'm going to go now and learn everything i can about this.
1) Intuition asks who am I when it has no task.
It's been a few years since I have watchec one of your videos. An why I choose this particular video idk. I just feel as if I've been confirmation of so much
@clay Have you read the Ecstatic Soul abt infj's? I'm just a few chapters in and it's very enlightening so far
It begins with us being twice removed from the outer world whereas intjs are once removed having Te in second slot
INFJ: you're confused and afraid because you experience Existential Crisis through life experience. We're confused and afraid because existential crisis was all we ever knew. We are not the same.
In principle you only have two options: deactivate your intuition or give it tasks. I then always read books and send the intuition in loops to solve it. If you want to help society, study technology. So honestly, you get a technological breakthrough every week. But even then, be sure to stick to the second loop. Not every breakthrough can be understood analytically. Do you use your dreams for analytical functions at night?
There *IS* meaning in the unicerse. And we *ARE* all the energy of the universe, literally. That's what everything and everyone is made of. This energy is love, but it's also consciousness, and it's our souls. It's also what religions have called "God", and we are all a part of it. We all have our purpose here, and this physical world is only a very small part of our existence.
I needed to hear this 🎉
Honest question. If each person creates their own meaning, what can be said about people who find murder, destruction, chaos, personal gain at others’ expense, to be meaningful? And if you find those things to be “bad”- what makes a thing “bad”? I’m just curious about your thoughts on this- the difference between bad and good? I am not seeing much of a difference between Nihilism and Existentialism because, when put in its simplest terms- would equate to meaninglessness? How do we measure the value of a thing? If we leave that up to what’s valuable to others or what feels good, I’m afraid that’s highly varied? Again, curious about your thoughts on this. Maybe that could be another video
Why do you (inter)connect existentialism issues with 1) fear of death* or 2) having solid self (i.e. not requiring acceptance & confirmation of reality from others, e.g. parents). I think it is common for a person to be resolving these issues roughly at the same period, but it is not in my opinion always the case.
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* I would say it's more "conscious mortality" or "mortality anxiety" than "fear of death"
The reason for existential crises has just been explained. We don't understand ourselves and no one helps us and, even better, no one wants to understand us. Do you know the time jumps?
5:40 did you infj cry at the end of oppenheimer? 😂
Be happy, sounds al easy blabla...we know.
But. It. Just. Doesn't. End.
which leaves us no choice, then to be...
two days bootcamp with no sleep realized me this.
the wave is you, in a world like everybody else, al waves together is the world, is what we are. always have been. life.
what a powerfull trait to have, to step in and out of the game, where and when you want, alot others can't do.
Subscribed!
then you have these . But intuition only wants tasks.
Oh no! I wanted to see the clips of the sinner 😢 anyone has the reference video?
I just added the clip times to the description. Sorry, I forgot when I first posted :)
@@ClayArnall thank you so much! I truly enjoy your take 🥰
When boys reach andropausa they go through it 😐🙄 Don't worry too much about it though, it automatically dissolves when you reach nonno status
Why can't I have it all in one. The depth. Of a man. An a true partner in every sense of word. That I would choose as well some times we meet ppl an have no fucken idea wtf just happened
INFJ need spiritual and future meaning
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Great video. I too feel like this. The thing is I'm a Sigma so don't crave socialising. I know if I do people just look confused or try to correct me so I don't bother. Usually I'm in permanent hermit mode & observe. I use social media, A LOT, to get my little social interaction. Safer writing out things than being on calls (which uses a lot of my mental energy). I became selfish, over years of abuse, so (in a way) don't care about people; just my kids & close family. Even friends, I don't do.
Like alchemy an oh what's other word for holographic some one told it to me best we are all just like Adams
infj. we are rare. this is what it is
I don't think we do belong. we are falling down the mine shaft wishing someone else will understand
how was your mum toward you ? look at that
Leaving Jesus? You never knew Him. Otherwise, you would never leave Him. Parables of Soils explains. The good shepherd knows his sheep and they know his voice. Turn to Christ and live.