"Civilizations die of narcissism." That's a deep insight, and a scary statement. It really seems that we're living through the end phases of Civilization, and we're about to start a new iteration of this never ending cycle.
@@d.d.4306 How is severely anti social hyper individualism not a death sentence? Even if you take out the human aspect, these are all bad traits for a system to have 😂
I was suicidal for 40yrs until my narcissistic family of origin discarded me. Now that I'm healing everything makes sense. Thank you Professor Vaknin for sharing your knowledge. They were a death cult for sure✌️
Hello l was also disgarded in my family , easy to blame the scapegoat. Triangulation , it was hell. My brother is a psychopath, father passive aggressive , my mum passed was a Narcissistic...and my marriage was f******.
Mr, Vaknin, thank you for speaking truths that people don’t want to hear or speak about. If we can’t face where we are in truth there is no chance for change. I can’t believe the level of apathy and acceptance of this horrid way of life we are currently living. It really as if a death wish is seizing people in the most bizarre ways and the passivity and acceptance of it is the most frightening part. We need medicine and an antidote fast! I think they are wisdom and love. Thank you for opening the door to that.
I just experienced an epiphany! My narcissistic "fake spouse" took on so much of my persona. He "stole" my identity. When he gets mad at ME for disagreeing with him, he's actually mad at the "part of himself" (me) that disagreed with him. One time I said to him, "I just can't remember which coworker you're talking about. Ugh!" He yelled, "Da*n! Don't worry about it!" He took what I said WAY too literally as though I was trying to hurt him. It was awkward.
WOW one of your best videos. Amazing video. With compairing the culture to disney. so true. and the rise of women Narcs. They grow up watching disney movies and are looking for their prince with a kingdom.
I have 9 cats, they are more demanding than dogs. Want to be carried around on my hip like a baby, very needy. I have a big house but they only want to hang out the room I’m in lol. They are very protective and loving.
Sounds like you have a special breed! The cats I’ve known aren’t like that. In fact when I got entangled with a narcissist I kept having visions of a cat playing games with a mouse. It’s exactly how I felt. Cats definitely have very narcissistic traits. They play with mice and kill them for sport.
@krisymar1 When cats 'play' with their prey it's intended to tire them out for an easier kill, it's not for pleasure. It's strange to assign that kind of motive to an animals natural instincts to feed itself. Domestic cats may not need to eat the mouse to survive but they still have instincts.
Wow, when i asked my toxic daughter if she would text me instead of her husband as I'd like to hear from her directly, she told me her and her husband are one, if I talk to one it's the same as talking to both. 😮 she is as mean as a hungry rattlesnake. I suspected she was malignant narcissist for a long time.
@canesugar911 she decided not long after that day that I was no longer allowed to see my only grandchild. We were very close, and she hated it, so I was "banished" from her life. That was the breaking point for me. I told her that if she wants me to be a part of their lives in the future, let me know. From that day on, I removed myself from them. The toxicity had to stop and i was the scapegoat.
@@Studio-ch3qc Well, you're wrong. She has been removed from the lives of many in the family due to abuse by her. Jumping to conclusions of which you know nothing about makes you toxic.
@@pjmreesmy ex-daughter-in-law would do similar. She said I couldn’t come see MY granddaughter (her stepchild) or my grandson (her bio child) unless I texted or phoned first. However, she would never answer therefore the only way I ever saw them was if I drove there. She was constantly putting my granddaughter in ‘timeout’, meaning shut in her room for hours. My grandson was really excited when he’d see me and I don’t think she liked that. When my son and she split, she left the state without letting me say goodbye to them. Now she has completely alienated my grandson from me and my son AND my granddaughter. Something she said she would never do. It is the worst grief to be torn out of the life of a grandchild you love and for that same grandchild not to have half of their family kept from them and the love they have for the child.
This format, conversation, is very engaging. It anchors the more abstract ideas into the quotidian in a wider variety of ways and it helps illustrate them. They're always enjoyable.
That's why I luv music my rock bands the words in the songs etc the lights everybody jumping up and down all happy..and there's so many different types of music..it has saved me from the NARCS...😮😅🎉🎉
It's pretty nice to here someone say out loud in words the way I have definitely been feeling for a long time. I'm not sure if I feel more crazy or less crazy... thanks sam
One destabilizing force that leads to the unraveling of empires is imperial overreach. The compulsion to conquer more peoples, to acquire more territory, outstrips the ability to maintain a healthy society within its ever-expanding borders. Empires rise and fall, but the one in which I live, the United States, is competing to become the most short-lived empire in history. Conquests have become wars of attrition, and an obscene amount of this country’s wealth goes to maintain these conflicts, as they enrich the defense contractors. Not only do we see imperial overreach. We also see the engines of capitalism devour any notion of governance for the good of the people. We now have governance for the benefit of a very few, whose narcissism, greed, and entitlement are bottomless.
This is the 1st time in history that men have to be actually liked to be in a relationship. Relationships are not necessary for women's survival anymore
LIFE is about contact, about reality, about exceed fear and change, tramsform, enabling eachother to grow. Mobiles metaverse cats dogs netflix ... they are all substitues of LIFE.
Megan Fox always talked about how Machine Gun Kelly was her twin flame. She always reminded me of the classic Hollywood Narcissist Personality Disorder
Hearing the talk about Asian alternative civilizations I wondered about Japan, probably not a candidate given it also struggles with population shrinkage, and I'm happy to see that searching the channel brings up a few videos. This will be interesting, I'm quite intrigued by their culture.
some of us have to be there to feed the multitudes of cats and all the other animals of nature that are hungry. we have taken up so much of their land. I for one feel I owe these animals recompense. and if this is narcissistic of me, then I'll gladly accept that judgment. I've become a person, whose idea of practicality is to feed, and tend to all creatures who hunger or need shelter. immediately around me are far more animals in dire need than there are human beings. I don't care if these creatures are cats, dogs, mice, raccoons, squirrels, chipmunks, or even skunks. all I know is that they hunger. and so, I respond. All the human wastrels I know, with their smartphones, selfies, and god knows what awful else mean nothing to me. Especially about what other creatures of nature there are of importance. a neighbour of mine seems to proudly admit he poisons and drowns any animal that dares much on his precious flowers. what am I to think of him? Is this a narcissist? a psychopath? truthfully, I don't give a good damn. I'll just continue to feed the animals around me, and can only hope, that by doing this, they'll not be desperate to go on to his yard to find Death and deliver them sustenance. Am I wrong in doing what I do? it matters little to me. My only concern is that starving bellies are filled for as long as I can fill them. What else does one, pressured by a moral compass do?
@@janetlist4237 I thank you with the whole of my heart! Pain experienced by such innocents at the hands of humans is abominable. I find it very hard to live knowing their pain. And so, I try to help as much as I can. And always will. Thank you, my dear!
Cats are like people some of the are psychopaths, some have incredible emphatic qualities. It depends. "Psychopathic" cats or dogs are traumatized animals. I would call for sure spiders being psychopaths and mosquitoes -- all of them, there where all species traumatized or not do the same..
Wow! Death-drive/death cult. That sharpens someone's perspective. Now that I think about it, when I can tell when someone approaches me with the vibe that they have plans for me, I must be feeling the vibe of a death-drive. I would agree that the capitalist economy (at least here in the states) makes it hard to attain the upper levels of the hierarchy of needs, nor the moral development that comes with security (not saying this is 100% the case, but it affects everyone).
@@abhilash7510no only unhealthy people believe in the concept of soul mates. There's no such thing. There are MANY people in the world that are a suitable match. There's not only ONE person
He's right. Woman should stay in feminine energy, let the masculine man provide and protect. The role has changed and woman are in the masculine competing with men. My man shall be paying all the way, il have my buisness on the side. Men have lost there role today. I can then be there spiritually and give my man the best of me❤️
@@KarenKeating-t2p and the pressure of the the ladies. It's why women shouldn't be married, because living with the "blokes" definitely does a number on women.
"Civilizations die of narcissism." That's a deep insight, and a scary statement. It really seems that we're living through the end phases of Civilization, and we're about to start a new iteration of this never ending cycle.
And I thought Jehovah witnesses were spreading BS 🤦♀️
@@d.d.4306
How is severely anti social hyper individualism not a death sentence?
Even if you take out the human aspect, these are all bad traits for a system to have 😂
I was suicidal for 40yrs until my narcissistic family of origin discarded me. Now that I'm healing everything makes sense. Thank you Professor Vaknin for sharing your knowledge. They were a death cult for sure✌️
Hello l was also disgarded in my family , easy to blame the scapegoat.
Triangulation , it was hell.
My brother is a psychopath, father passive aggressive , my mum passed was a Narcissistic...and my marriage was f******.
❤❤❤ keep strong
I’m from narc family too.
I discarded them at my age of 50
The definition of death cult is a useful observation on our current state of affairs.
So many youtube and social media gurus, experts and influencers are in this category.
Yes and ALL politicians. Most actors and singers too
Why people still believe in "soulmate" myth ... in reality it could be a horror
There are no soul mates, unless you believe in santa 👀
bad soulmate create a bad soultie. It is extremely difficult to break a soultie
@@Vfrets Look up trauma bonding 😐 that's the real issue...
This was a excellent subject! Thank🙏 you Prof. Sam
Sad thing is I prefer to opt out than to be with a narcissist
That’s not sad, that’s wise
How is that Sad?
Mr, Vaknin, thank you for speaking truths that people don’t want to hear or speak about.
If we can’t face where we are in truth there is no chance for change.
I can’t believe the level of apathy and acceptance of this horrid way of life we are currently living.
It really as if a death wish is seizing people in the most bizarre ways and the passivity and acceptance of it is the most frightening part.
We need medicine and an antidote fast! I think they are wisdom and love. Thank you for opening the door to that.
Classic Vaknin
I just experienced an epiphany! My narcissistic "fake spouse" took on so much of my persona. He "stole" my identity. When he gets mad at ME for disagreeing with him, he's actually mad at the "part of himself" (me) that disagreed with him. One time I said to him, "I just can't remember which coworker you're talking about. Ugh!" He yelled, "Da*n! Don't worry about it!" He took what I said WAY too literally as though I was trying to hurt him. It was awkward.
They are a void, need to mimic.
No real self...
Yes they are just an empty shell
WOW one of your best videos. Amazing video. With compairing the culture to disney. so true. and the rise of women Narcs. They grow up watching disney movies and are looking for their prince with a kingdom.
Thank you for this talk. I have recently broken up from a long distance hurtful relationship when I realized I would never be enough.
I have 9 cats, they are more demanding than dogs. Want to be carried around on my hip like a baby, very needy. I have a big house but they only want to hang out the room I’m in lol. They are very protective and loving.
Sounds like you have a special breed! The cats I’ve known aren’t like that. In fact when I got entangled with a narcissist I kept having visions of a cat playing games with a mouse. It’s exactly how I felt. Cats definitely have very narcissistic traits. They play with mice and kill them for sport.
@krisymar1 When cats 'play' with their prey it's intended to tire them out for an easier kill, it's not for pleasure. It's strange to assign that kind of motive to an animals natural instincts to feed itself. Domestic cats may not need to eat the mouse to survive but they still have instincts.
@@katrionalaurenm they don't kill to feed themselves because they are not hungry. They just kill.
Dogs don't do that
Cats are better than people. Cats actually miss you when you're gone.
@@AudioMayhem100 such a statement says more about your own beliefs than the actual world.
Creepy my ex used to say 'we are one' 😱
Wow, when i asked my toxic daughter if she would text me instead of her husband as I'd like to hear from her directly, she told me her and her husband are one, if I talk to one it's the same as talking to both. 😮 she is as mean as a hungry rattlesnake. I suspected she was malignant narcissist for a long time.
What did you do?
@canesugar911 she decided not long after that day that I was no longer allowed to see my only grandchild. We were very close, and she hated it, so I was "banished" from her life. That was the breaking point for me. I told her that if she wants me to be a part of their lives in the future, let me know. From that day on, I removed myself from them. The toxicity had to stop and i was the scapegoat.
@@Studio-ch3qc Well, you're wrong. She has been removed from the lives of many in the family due to abuse by her. Jumping to conclusions of which you know nothing about makes you toxic.
@@pjmreesmy ex-daughter-in-law would do similar. She said I couldn’t come see MY granddaughter (her stepchild) or my grandson (her bio child) unless I texted or phoned first. However, she would never answer therefore the only way I ever saw them was if I drove there. She was constantly putting my granddaughter in ‘timeout’, meaning shut in her room for hours. My grandson was really excited when he’d see me and I don’t think she liked that. When my son and she split, she left the state without letting me say goodbye to them. Now she has completely alienated my grandson from me and my son AND my granddaughter. Something she said she would never do. It is the worst grief to be torn out of the life of a grandchild you love and for that same grandchild not to have half of their family kept from them and the love they have for the child.
@sweetafton5655 I'm so sorry. I cry every time a see a child about the same age. My heart goes out to you.
This is Canada. People are exhausting, emotional vampires without a bottom. This country is on a death spiral without doubt.
This format, conversation, is very engaging. It anchors the more abstract ideas into the quotidian in a wider variety of ways and it helps illustrate them. They're always enjoyable.
That's why I luv music my rock bands the words in the songs etc the lights everybody jumping up and down all happy..and there's so many different types of music..it has saved me from the NARCS...😮😅🎉🎉
This explains alot. I often described by relationship as being wiped out
Enlightenment is the road to life those who seek it won't perish - to BE 😉Life is indeed constant change
Great video. Thank you.
It's pretty nice to here someone say out loud in words the way I have definitely been feeling for a long time. I'm not sure if I feel more crazy or less crazy... thanks sam
One destabilizing force that leads to the unraveling of empires is imperial overreach. The compulsion to conquer more peoples, to acquire more territory, outstrips the ability to maintain a healthy society within its ever-expanding borders.
Empires rise and fall, but the one in which I live, the United States, is competing to become the most short-lived empire in history. Conquests have become wars of attrition, and an obscene amount of this country’s wealth goes to maintain these conflicts, as they enrich the defense contractors. Not only do we see imperial overreach. We also see the engines of capitalism devour any notion of governance for the good of the people. We now have governance for the benefit of a very few, whose narcissism, greed, and entitlement are bottomless.
Yes…and I want to move there! Why? Omg…I like to come when it’s too late 😅
YESS so many Disney Princesses out there.
This is so interesting, thank you prof. Sam
Thank you 💖
Brilliant video ❤
Thank you for this dialogue.
This is the 1st time in history that men have to be actually liked to be in a relationship.
Relationships are not necessary for women's survival anymore
LIFE is about contact, about reality, about exceed fear and change, tramsform, enabling eachother to grow. Mobiles metaverse cats dogs netflix ... they are all substitues of LIFE.
"didn't you have children to pick up?" .....BRILLIANT!!! 🤣🤣🤣
Very interesting insights thank you for sharing
Vaknin does it again. Wormbrand, " You do not test a new bridge with a cat, you test with a train"
Don't you have kids to pick up?
Oops! I got distracted from reality.◀️▶️
🤣🤣🤣 And then quickly finishes her beer before picking them up by car
Megan Fox always talked about how Machine Gun Kelly was her twin flame. She always reminded me of the classic Hollywood Narcissist Personality Disorder
Hearing the talk about Asian alternative civilizations I wondered about Japan, probably not a candidate given it also struggles with population shrinkage, and I'm happy to see that searching the channel brings up a few videos. This will be interesting, I'm quite intrigued by their culture.
Drugs, alcohol, netflix, or cats 🐈 😂❤
Ask a mouse - nice joke
She even had to pick what I’m eating for dinner if we went to a restaurant.
This video has awaken me wow😮thank you.
some of us have to be there to feed the multitudes of cats and all the other animals of nature that are hungry. we have taken up so much of their land. I for one feel I owe these animals recompense. and if this is narcissistic of me, then I'll gladly accept that judgment. I've become a person, whose idea of practicality is to feed, and tend to all creatures who hunger or need shelter. immediately around me are far more animals in dire need than there are human beings. I don't care if these creatures are cats, dogs, mice, raccoons, squirrels, chipmunks, or even skunks. all I know is that they hunger. and so, I respond. All the human wastrels I know, with their smartphones, selfies, and god knows what awful else mean nothing to me. Especially about what other creatures of nature there are of importance. a neighbour of mine seems to proudly admit he poisons and drowns any animal that dares much on his precious flowers. what am I to think of him? Is this a narcissist? a psychopath? truthfully, I don't give a good damn. I'll just continue to feed the animals around me, and can only hope, that by doing this, they'll not be desperate to go on to his yard to find Death and deliver them sustenance. Am I wrong in doing what I do? it matters little to me. My only concern is that starving bellies are filled for as long as I can fill them. What else does one, pressured by a moral compass do?
Some of us have been created to help the suffering animal kingdom ❤
@@janetlist4237 I thank you with the whole of my heart! Pain experienced by such innocents at the hands of humans is abominable. I find it very hard to live knowing their pain. And so, I try to help as much as I can. And always will. Thank you, my dear!
Great!👍
Hello Sam, you Charlie Sheen of souls!
Does a psychopathic narcissist exist?
Search the channel for "malignant" narcissist.
Sam I love you ❤
Yes, it’s one subdivision of psychopathy
Yes. It's a comorbidity.
Family court has a lot to do with reaching the point of "what's the point".
"Disney approach" to dating
Cats are like people some of the are psychopaths, some have incredible emphatic qualities. It depends. "Psychopathic" cats or dogs are traumatized animals.
I would call for sure spiders being psychopaths and mosquitoes -- all of them, there where all species traumatized or not do the same..
Wow! Death-drive/death cult. That sharpens someone's perspective. Now that I think about it, when I can tell when someone approaches me with the vibe that they have plans for me, I must be feeling the vibe of a death-drive.
I would agree that the capitalist economy (at least here in the states) makes it hard to attain the upper levels of the hierarchy of needs, nor the moral development that comes with security (not saying this is 100% the case, but it affects everyone).
are you saying healthy people don't have soulmates?
Yes.
Who is healthy and what is healthy?
But Y , that means the soulmate are only for dysfunctional person or mentally ill person ??
@@abhilash7510no only unhealthy people believe in the concept of soul mates.
There's no such thing. There are MANY people in the world that are a suitable match. There's not only ONE person
42% singel for life, loosing population, decline of birth rate
He's right. Woman should stay in feminine energy, let the masculine man provide and protect. The role has changed and woman are in the masculine competing with men. My man shall be paying all the way, il have my buisness on the side. Men have lost there role today. I can then be there spiritually and give my man the best of me❤️
What is your business on the side? Laying on the sofa eating choclate and getting fat?
Get with the 21st century. Take that pressure off the blokes✌️
@@KarenKeating-t2p and the pressure of the the ladies. It's why women shouldn't be married, because living with the "blokes" definitely does a number on women.
Women should be smart. Subscribing the fact that women having a sense of self awareness and self preservation is a bad thing is.... interesting
@@canesugar911an independent woman is a threat to a man who wants a dependent woman so he can treat her any way he wants, which is narcissistic.
Eye C U 😮
Then I self diagnose as psychopump! I challenge you try and change my mind 😂