Constant Conflict: is there hope? | Dr. John Gottman | Relationship Advice
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- Опубликовано: 19 авг 2024
- All couples have conflicts, but what does it mean when you can't come to a compromise? Dr. Gottman sees possibilities within the seeming dead-end of gridlock.
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Sometimes change comes from the outside. An encounter, an experience, a conversation... I call it G'ds Hand. Everything is possible, anytime ✨.
"Open up the fist (gridlock) and let something beautiful happen inside." Good one.
Love and security are top priority
Compromise is the hardest thing to do because while you both win you also both lose in a sense if that's what you actually care about.
Being right, proving your actions were worth the effort, whatever it is, if that is really more important than the person you're with, than it's time to step back and question your relationship values.
If you're with someone because you're always right, that isn't really love. If being right means you turn into something besides your normal self, that also isn't love, that's manipulation.
We have strange ways of getting what we want or our way, at times it occurs without us even noticing us doing the things we do to make it happen for us. This does not mean that it goes unnoticed by others, nor should you negate the possibility of doing it when confronted about it. Just focus on your actions/reactions a bit more, don't just let the autopilot take over, it's not trained to be emotionally sensitive to it's actions/reactions.
"would i rather be happy or 'right'?"
i love askin this question when i need to reset my mindset
Is their hope?.... This snippet reflected none of its title.
I don't know.....respect and acceptance? That's a tough question. Gotta find the answer.
Coercive Control & Power and Control Wheel dynamic are gitting in the way of this going from gridlock to dialogue. I hope this information helps 😃
Interesting perspective
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So how to resolve?
The Gottman’s say 69% of conflicts are unresolvable!
Pack your stuff and go for some time.
It heals the majority of the female problems 😂
A woman when not afraid of being left starts to care more about what her friends think than about her spouse.
They can leave 😂
If you cannot leave they don't respect you. Simple
Meh.