If its a woman, you really don't need to focus on being that witty, but more being attentive and making them feel heard. You might find it easier to keep asking them questions about a topic you sense that they enjoy doing or talking about.
Good points here. One thing that also makes conversation difficult is "interest" by the people in the conversation. If one person is less interested in having the conversation, it's not going to go well. If your taking to someone that isn't really "into" taking to you, you are going to get a lot of one word answers and no questions back. If it turns into a straight up bad job interview kind of conversation, then the other person losses interest also. Maybe a video on how to spark "interest" amongst the 2 people would be helpful.
I think if there other person is not interested then u should leave it like that and find someone else. It could something they going through at the moment so we shouldn't force a conversation.
I think if there other person is not interested then u should leave it like that and find someone else. It could something they going through at the moment so we shouldn't force a conversation.
That makes so much sense, I often find it talking one on one, yet when I'm with friends, we stop and look at where a conversation started and where it ended up and you can see the spread from the jump off points.
All people are different, some will just give a cold off answer, not because they don’t care but because they’re like that. Nothing wrong with silence. Had to drive and just asked a couple of questions. Have some friends that just talk a lot and make my life easier since I can listen for hours
My philosophy is the opposite: don't talk unless you have something to say. I am fine with silence. Also, a very important skill to learn is listening skill. In order to be a good listener, last thing you want to do, is think of what you are going to say next while the other person is taking. Instead, try and understand what someone is trying to communicate and why. If someone tells you that Seattle is too crowded because of tech workers, why are they saying that? Maybe, for example, they are under a lot of stress, they ran into heavy traffic on their commute, and they blame it on overcrowding. Or maybe they can't afford the rent. As a listener, you are trying to get to this underlying reason of why someone is telling you something. And people really appreciate good listeners. Everybody wants an audience. Finally, when you listen, you receive information, and when you talk you give away information. Think about that for a second.
Tim Romley yeah so basically the tips in the video here are just guidelines and something you can use for practicing. But after that keep it in your back pocket and when you're already talking to someone, just listen and let your gut/emotions do the responding, the talking. Conversations are just vibing. Contributing to the vibe and expressing you're good vibration. And this naturally happens when you let your gut (our 2nd brain) do the talking. Now if you find yourself in a scenario where the other person said something that you cannot relate to that much, you don't have anything to say about it, that's the time you follow this tips. But actually unconsciously when you let your gut do the talking, you're actually doing all these tips here in the video. So the shortcut is really just to listen 👂 and then take any avenue where you would like to direct the conversation to. You're welcome 😊
This is great information. But, some people also don’t want to keep coming up with things to say. Some people want people to be the wheel to the spokes in a conversation. I have a CEO that guides the table through a variety of topics. Your comment is still very helpful.
I take what's mentioned in the video as a tool for people like me who are introverts and don't quite easily carry on a conversation. A tool for practicing elongating a conversation and then when that is mastered, being able to deliberately balance between listening and talking.
This was one of the most helpful and underrated videos ive ever seen. I just talked to my co-worker and “practiced” on him, it went really smooth. Thank you! Im curious to see how it goes with people i dont or barely know.
That's helpful ! But I don't enjoy endless conversations either, it's tiring for an introvert. Let's talk and then let me enjoy the silence or let's hang out comfortable in silence together. Doesn't have to be a 24h talk
Best video about ‘never running out of things to say’ I’ve seen so far. This is a quick hack to get us more confident until we can do it without thinking. Thanks!!!
I spend 99% of the time listening to other people do all of the talking and I want to actually learn how to dominate a conversation and for a change, subject people to my incessant chatter for once. Being an introvert has its disadvantages.
TYSM, you can't even believe how much this video helped me, I have so much more self confidence now and talking to girls really people in general has become a lot easier. I glad you could explain this and break it down so even someone as acoustic as me can understand it.
Really helpful made me think I have been in a room with twelve strangers and no one was talking it was so awkward. I tried a few conversation but didn't get much response from anyone I wish I hadn't bothered.
Hi Clark! Just came across your channel today and I have enjoyed watching several of your videos while I work. Looking forward to seeing more! Thanks for the motivation! --K
Two options: 1. If you suddenly feel like an interviewee: Give your answer and add a "what about you?" That way you get the control back and get new jump off points from the upcoming answer. 2. If you suddenly feel like an interviewer: Wait for them to finish their answer and then add a statement of your own like you were asked a "what about you?" If they don't pick up your answer, ask another question jumping off your statement Should give you two ways to balance out conversations if they get too one-sided while staying in control.
If you feel like you're interviewing someone, then use questions only rarely. Use statements more often in response Example : You ask : "what did u do, this summer." They say : "(their favourite thing to do)" You say "Well I can't help it but I just kept playing games at home" maybe you'll find someone who relates (and you can say in a playful tone "Oh, you're the same as me??" And high five them or whatever and then ask them what game they play) (If no one related) Then you can make a cold read about the thing they did in summer like "I bet it was fun" And so on and so forth
I looked at the title of this video and thought: "There are two types of people in this world. One of those types already now how to talk forever since birth. We don't like those people. The other type are those that stay at home and go out every week or so. We stan those people."
Idk what i was expecting but these are for like totally socially challenged people or maybe someone with autism/aspergers. Otherwise they just sound goofy and simple. Qhat it does do for me though is to remember that there are people out there that may struggle really hard to find acceptance and are very critical of themselves, and so if I find myself in a situation where I get a vibe of this sort from a person, I find a way to disarm the person, giving them the possibility to speak without feeling judged. Hopefully we can all do this, as we never know how someone else may feel, or how we may be able to help them grow and/or feel more comfortable as themselves.
Good tips, it'll sure help me improve my communication. What do you think about young entrepreneur and relationship? Because having a girlfriend takes too much time on your life and entrepreneurship = working on every free time.
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THANK YOU FOR THIS! I'M AN INTROVERT AND THIS IS PURE GOLD FOR ME!!
BRO WTF I WAS COMPLETELY BLOWN AWAY BY THE SIMPLICITY OF IT
I think you are not introvert you are shy
How you doing now?
@@mubtasim278 same thing
@@781rcacwow man we are LATE
I'm fine with coming up with questions, it's just difficult when I'm supposed to say something interesting without turning it back on them.
I heard to be interesting, talk about something they are interested in or talk about something they don't know about with enthusiasm and excitement.
If its a woman, you really don't need to focus on being that witty, but more being attentive and making them feel heard. You might find it easier to keep asking them questions about a topic you sense that they enjoy doing or talking about.
Collect some stories of your daily life and relate to those stories.
The best thing I like in this video is you're giving real-world examples
Yea you dont get those too much anymore.
Good points here. One thing that also makes conversation difficult is "interest" by the people in the conversation. If one person is less interested in having the conversation, it's not going to go well. If your taking to someone that isn't really "into" taking to you, you are going to get a lot of one word answers and no questions back. If it turns into a straight up bad job interview kind of conversation, then the other person losses interest also. Maybe a video on how to spark "interest" amongst the 2 people would be helpful.
Agreed❤💯
I think if there other person is not interested then u should leave it like that and find someone else. It could something they going through at the moment so we shouldn't force a conversation.
I think if there other person is not interested then u should leave it like that and find someone else. It could something they going through at the moment so we shouldn't force a conversation.
That makes so much sense, I often find it talking one on one, yet when I'm with friends, we stop and look at where a conversation started and where it ended up and you can see the spread from the jump off points.
did you find how to solve this problem?
All people are different, some will just give a cold off answer, not because they don’t care but because they’re like that. Nothing wrong with silence. Had to drive and just asked a couple of questions. Have some friends that just talk a lot and make my life easier since I can listen for hours
Thank you, this helps a lot for an introvert like myself who is frustrated when conversations seem to just stop.
did you find how to solve this problem?
love this series helps my anxiety over public events thanks clark
My philosophy is the opposite: don't talk unless you have something to say. I am fine with silence.
Also, a very important skill to learn is listening skill. In order to be a good listener, last thing you want to do, is think of what you are going to say next while the other person is taking. Instead, try and understand what someone is trying to communicate and why. If someone tells you that Seattle is too crowded because of tech workers, why are they saying that? Maybe, for example, they are under a lot of stress, they ran into heavy traffic on their commute, and they blame it on overcrowding. Or maybe they can't afford the rent. As a listener, you are trying to get to this underlying reason of why someone is telling you something.
And people really appreciate good listeners. Everybody wants an audience.
Finally, when you listen, you receive information, and when you talk you give away information. Think about that for a second.
Asking questions and 'getting curious' are excellent examples of effective listening
Tim Romley yeah so basically the tips in the video here are just guidelines and something you can use for practicing. But after that keep it in your back pocket and when you're already talking to someone, just listen and let your gut/emotions do the responding, the talking. Conversations are just vibing. Contributing to the vibe and expressing you're good vibration. And this naturally happens when you let your gut (our 2nd brain) do the talking.
Now if you find yourself in a scenario where the other person said something that you cannot relate to that much, you don't have anything to say about it, that's the time you follow this tips. But actually unconsciously when you let your gut do the talking, you're actually doing all these tips here in the video.
So the shortcut is really just to listen 👂 and then take any avenue where you would like to direct the conversation to.
You're welcome 😊
literally thank you
This is great information. But, some people also don’t want to keep coming up with things to say. Some people want people to be the wheel to the spokes in a conversation.
I have a CEO that guides the table through a variety of topics. Your comment is still very helpful.
I take what's mentioned in the video as a tool for people like me who are introverts and don't quite easily carry on a conversation. A tool for practicing elongating a conversation and then when that is mastered, being able to deliberately balance between listening and talking.
❤ love it.
This was one of the most helpful and underrated videos ive ever seen. I just talked to my co-worker and “practiced” on him, it went really smooth. Thank you! Im curious to see how it goes with people i dont or barely know.
That's helpful ! But I don't enjoy endless conversations either, it's tiring for an introvert. Let's talk and then let me enjoy the silence or let's hang out comfortable in silence together. Doesn't have to be a 24h talk
Really interesting way to see a conversation Clark. This is a great tips I really didn't think of that, thanks for sharing!
Best video about ‘never running out of things to say’ I’ve seen so far. This is a quick hack to get us more confident until we can do it without thinking. Thanks!!!
So it helps U?
Me, an autistic introvert, feeling like an alien because i need to research how to talk to people:
1- Get the three main topics and do all over again.
2- Get curious
This is the most brightest video i have ever came across thx for showing us out of all the vdeos i watched yours made me really get it.
Great topic, exactly what I needed. I'll put it to use from now on.
Great to see you as always, Marcel! Thanks for your long time support dude!
Don't mention it. I'm the one who should say thank you, I'm just here learning.
Love you buddy! Stoked for 2017.
I spend 99% of the time listening to other people do all of the talking and I want to actually learn how to dominate a conversation and for a change, subject people to my incessant chatter for once. Being an introvert has its disadvantages.
Me 2. My conversations consist of just asking questions.
TYSM, you can't even believe how much this video helped me, I have so much more self confidence now and talking to girls really people in general has become a lot easier. I glad you could explain this and break it down so even someone as acoustic as me can understand it.
I like the way you break down the sentence and focus/highlight different parts that you could jump off from. Good examples !
Really, really useful perspective. Thanks.
Really helpful made me think I have been in a room with twelve strangers and no one was talking it was so awkward. I tried a few conversation but didn't get much response from anyone I wish I hadn't bothered.
NOW THIS IS WHAT TIPS AREE THANK YOU VERY MUCH
I love you bro, thanks man.
Omg I love Clark these tipps helped SO much!
Bro thank you!
What the videos of 2024 could not do, the 7 year old videos did, thank you *Clark* 💝💗
What an excellent video. Well done!
Hi Clark! Just came across your channel today and I have enjoyed watching several of your videos while I work. Looking forward to seeing more! Thanks for the motivation! --K
thanks man! really helpful!!
thank you so much
Thank you bro
Great video, with a tash like that the convo must never run out! Lol
Thanks!
Wonderful how you provided examples!!
As a guy that's didn't talk friends for 3 years this is going to help xD
Awsome tip bro!! Ive never heard that one before I have to be honest. Great job! keep it up!
great video! thanks
thank you
okay but like i didnt expect this to be that smart lmao
wait wtf this was life changing. i did this technique and i was talking non stop .
Thanks
Thank you my guy, this really helps !
thank you for this! really simple yet really insightful
:-)
Great, simple advice. Really helpful!
Great job Clark I rally liked it
Love the tips yes so very helpful. .
Great tip! Curious to know how you shoot your videos, just your face is visible! Thanks
This is a really good video I'm going to use it!!!!🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥💯💯💯💯💯
The tips is very helpful. I am waiting your next video
Really helpful. Thank you
great video mate! thanks a tonn! :)
i feel like i’m good at talking but it’s just those few moments with people i’ve known for years
again... love you 🙏
That was simple and useful thank you for that ❤
Wow! that's what I needed
what do you do if the convosation turns into an interview
Two options:
1. If you suddenly feel like an interviewee: Give your answer and add a "what about you?" That way you get the control back and get new jump off points from the upcoming answer.
2. If you suddenly feel like an interviewer: Wait for them to finish their answer and then add a statement of your own like you were asked a "what about you?" If they don't pick up your answer, ask another question jumping off your statement
Should give you two ways to balance out conversations if they get too one-sided while staying in control.
If you feel like you're interviewing someone, then use questions only rarely. Use statements more often in response
Example :
You ask : "what did u do, this
summer."
They say : "(their favourite thing to do)"
You say "Well I can't help it but I just kept playing games at home" maybe you'll find someone who relates (and you can say in a playful tone "Oh, you're the same as me??" And high five them or whatever and then ask them what game they play)
(If no one related) Then you can make a cold read about the thing they did in summer like "I bet it was fun"
And so on and so forth
“Why do you want to be healthier?” great jump off point
I can talk a lot in person but it's hard to talk in a call can you make a video about that
Love this!
Did you know your surname means 'beautiful' in danish? ;)
This is actually really nice advice
Thanks bro
I looked at the title of this video and thought: "There are two types of people in this world. One of those types already now how to talk forever since birth. We don't like those people. The other type are those that stay at home and go out every week or so. We stan those people."
I like kids
How do u like kids?
kids are kids
how?
Uhh there childish
Why are they childish?
THERE KIDS
why are they kids?
Bro if they are s aying that th en you shouldn't
thanks for the tips . really open minded 🎨😱💞
I'm like 39% introvert so thanks man
pretty great advice
Idk what i was expecting but these are for like totally socially challenged people or maybe someone with autism/aspergers. Otherwise they just sound goofy and simple. Qhat it does do for me though is to remember that there are people out there that may struggle really hard to find acceptance and are very critical of themselves, and so if I find myself in a situation where I get a vibe of this sort from a person, I find a way to disarm the person, giving them the possibility to speak without feeling judged. Hopefully we can all do this, as we never know how someone else may feel, or how we may be able to help them grow and/or feel more comfortable as themselves.
Just what i needed and thanks man ooh and what do you think of your RUclips Carrer? 😉
Nice job brother.
So listen and dissect the main points they say and branch of that.
I'm a better listener than a speaker, but those tips seem very usufull. I'm gonna get advantage of that, thanks bro.
This is genius
Thanks 👌👌👍👍🙏🙏
You should change the topic to "how to never run out of things to ask"
I work at a local hospital
Me: What do you do there?😃
I feel like trying to be human👍
Thanks m8
basically just make things up if u want it simple
**me with selective mutism** THIS GONNA WORK?
is there a book on this topic? i'd like to read more about this
The lesson was easy, but massively valuable. 😍👌🏻💯
Asking question after question is not good either. You have to be able to make statement after statement
Ok im a really bad listener that proves it thx 4 the tip.
YOOO YOU ARE RONALDOOOO TWIN!!
Good tips, it'll sure help me improve my communication.
What do you think about young entrepreneur and relationship? Because having a girlfriend takes too much time on your life and entrepreneurship = working on every free time.
oh wow
Any advice for brain injured people with very bad memory problems
Reminder for me
1:40
I am your second reminder
❤
What if they said "k"?
hi man, pretty new subscriber.
I would love to have that same video about public speaking.
please tag me on it when you do it 😊
basically, instead of focusing what YOU say, focus on the words of the PERSON that you talk to.
I thought this video will be about how i can talk alot not question a lot beacause all i do is questioning
i fucking love you that helped a lot
Greattttttttttttt
Not selling anything
1 minute later:
Ebook, email list....
@Clarkkegley, what happens if you don't mean listening to someone els Conversation
Often there's no multiple jump off points 🤷 or at least not that many to start with
Ask how