How to Talk to People When You Have No Common Interests
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- Опубликовано: 22 авг 2024
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I have no common interests with anyone I meet so it's hard for me to even make friends
Michael Lowder Same Here Dude, Its hard to find people who can have the same interest as you
Same.. people hate my interests
At this point you will have to accept that this just how things are.
Same
Yeah as a person interested in physics
My favorite icebreaker question:
"What are you looking forward to, lately?"
Gonna add this to my vocab
Nothing
What do you think someone's grandmother or a little child is looking forward to 🥲 yeah,these are the difficulties we r talking about
Then they hit u with: “nothing” :/
I used to struggle with this a lot when I was a bit younger, but later as I grew older I realized that I simply don't need to try or do anything, and since then I no longer worry about it. Now whenever I'm with relatives or any group of people where I find that we seem to have no common interests, I have no problem sitting silent through the event - much more pleasant and easier than awkwardly trying to mingle.
Wish other people I'm with share this. Usually I'm asked why I'm so quiet and if I'm ok. In their defense, I ask the quiet person for his/her opinion and ensure s/he's ok.
When I'm quiet, most people think I'm angry, sad, or bored when I'm really just watching or observing, interested in what's happening in front of me without the need to participate. Interestingly enough, when I'm actually A, S, or B, nobody seems to care then someone gets upset when I tune out into my phone in order to keep the peace.
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that is you on the events
Yea team.
Im a weirdo and I find it hard to connect with others, let alone speak in a concise way to them. Life is hell and Im ready to go
Same
this subject hurts me to the soul because i am very passionate about what im interested in..people always seem like they wanna either 1up you or just show no general interest at all with things you love
I agree in my case this guy I been buying him food and alcohol trying to know each other to see if we could enjoy each other's company but he tells me " your a psycho, your crazy, your weird, that's because someone else pissed you off you blaming me?, I am tired of being labeled if we friend's we accept each other not put each other down clearly if there was a real issue look into it in. A positive way I would be open to that but please I am done spending money on him
Update: this guy is in jail looking at 9 years he attacked his roommate who been letting him live rent free 3 years, such an ungrateful being he deserves prison.
i like these highlight videos!
How would you start a conversation with someone you’ve known for a long time like in school and have nothing in common? Please answer I can’t handle the awkwardness anymore...
I think talking with someone with no common interest with you is really fun and challenging. You'll really know more stuffs about his interests and he'll really know many stuffs about you if both of you are keep asking a question.
The best advice I herd was to pretend that your a celebrity and when ever you go outside and people are walking around and you want to approach and start a conversation, then every one around you is outside to meet you cause your the very reason they have come out to walk around, like a abundance mindset
With someone face to face, it is easy. But when i face it in a group with no common interest.. this is feel so hard to me like i got nothing to talk, just quiet and be kinda weird to the others :(
Here is another tip! It is sometimes fun to not have common interests because then you have more debate in your conversations with opinions!
How would you start a conversation with someone you’ve known for a long time like in school and have nothing in common? Please answer I can’t handle the awkwardness anymore...
They don't care about ur intrest because they don't have it and don't know.abt it
Most people aren’t really open to debates most of the time challenging their opinion and view point is mistaken as you attacking them depending on the person. If they are open to debate and remain within reason keep them around because it’s rare
@@NotTheFBl so you love arguing, but what if the person who you thought was Rare one-day hates arguing and avoids it altogether ?
has anyone had those moments where someone is talking to you and no matter how hard you try to listen to their speech of passion. You find yourself not retaining what they said because you couldnt find a hooking point. also when i try to focus more on something im not intrested in im finding myself missing everything because im telling myself to listen.
Lol bruh I know exactly what you're talking about. Had an old co-worker who would go on and on about building motorcycles from random parts and pieces..... at the time my mechanical interest was pretty much zero so id try to keep interested while pretty much falling asleep... everything was going over my head and the more I focused on the topic the more I'd completely miss everything....
How would you start a conversation with someone you’ve known for a long time like in school and have nothing in common? Please answer I can’t handle the awkwardness anymore...
You can talk about memories from your old school? Even if you weren't in the same friend groups or class, you can still talk about teachers, classmates, share different memories about all the stuff happening in class and laugh about that together. Share old interests like "I used to be so interested in xxx because xxx classmate got me into it, now I'm like "eww what is this"" or smth
Most of all my cousins and uncles are big football fans/ soccer but i am never shure on what to talk about with them because i ha 0 intrest in that but i am the only metalhead in my entire family both on my mums and also my dads side, so i tend to just got to the default weather conversation, this video is very Insightful and interesting given me some things to think about
Awesome really like how it goes right to the point and also have great information :)
How would you start a conversation with someone you’ve known for a long time like in school and have nothing in common? Please answer I can’t handle the awkwardness anymore...
Tasty Toast i don’t think I am the right person to ask. But maybe just be open minded for things to talk about. You don’t have to have them in common to talk about them.
Awesome awesome tips! Great mindset.. thank you for sharing
How would you start a conversation with someone you’ve known for a long time like in school and have nothing in common? Please answer I can’t handle the awkwardness anymore...
the hardest part for me is when the other person talks to passionate about something and all I can think of is "sorry, I don't care" but I don't want to be rude so I just say whatever
I have something to add: Try finding out why they are passionate or so interested by this topic, without trying to change them in any way. Just hearing why they might find something meaningful can make you resonate with them more. If you have something to add, first compliment them, regardless what their plan is, then ask a critical question, rather than expressing your opinion about it. A question should be as objective as you can make it. Practice facial expression if you have a hard time making and reading expressions that fit the situation.
Thank you so much. This is truly helpful. I have social anxiety and consistently overthink social situations. Hearing this is some of the best advice I have heard.
Thanks again. xo
Hello, I tried to to summarize the video
Here are the 4 points he talked about.
1 ) You wouldn't know the things you have in common. " ask more questions "
2 ) Connect not based on similar interests but rather on the similar situation " event, weather, travelling same place "
3 ) Connect on shared values " Business, life, mindset "
4 ) Invest in them, be excited about the things the person in front you interested in.
0:36 Family reunion hits home 😂😂😂😂. For all the talk about how family is more important than anyone lots of us know more of (and like) "outsiders" than them.
I’m watching this during covid and no one in my house watches anime and it’s really is lonely Bc usually talk about that subject and they don’t understand anything ->-
How would you start a conversation with someone you’ve known for a long time like in school and have nothing in common? Please answer I can’t handle the awkwardness anymore...
Imagine how that feels when it's western cartoons...why
I know how that feel
However what bugs me os that sometimes o meet with people who love anime too but i am excited to talk aboit it with them they don't seem too interested and think that i am childish, why😭😭
Martin's eyebrows are fascinating. He could be in a commercial for eyebrow products. 🤨
How would you start a conversation with someone you’ve known for a long time like in school and have nothing in common? Please answer I can’t handle the awkwardness anymore...
What if you just don't want to talk to person's interest, because you might think that it's stupid and you start not liking the person themself for the same reason?
How would you start a conversation with someone you’ve known for a long time like in school and have nothing in common? Please answer I can’t handle the awkwardness anymore...
Did you figure this out?
Can you make a podcast about this book ''how to read a book".
but isn't it subjective? trying out different styles and methods and tailoring it according to your personal liking.
Just keep it basic with small talk because people get offended easily haha
Well, what im saying is that you might not know if something you say can trigger them. Has happened many times to me 😂
How would you start a conversation with someone you’ve known for a long time like in school and have nothing in common? Please answer I can’t handle the awkwardness anymore...
Lol
Just yell out part of a vine and see if anyone finishes it
But if they don’t finish it then you just look stupid
@@SB-dh9sb worth it
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I always thought that being intrested in a person is not genuine if you are not caring about their interest because that doesnt interest you. So i always thought i was a bad and egoistic person. But hearing what your take was on what it means to be intrested in a person with no common grounds and adding the fact that commication is a way to connect and connections are build on understanding. And understanding is mostly of all being able to relate in a way. I see now that i am intrested in a person when i try to connect tho we have no common grounds but i do connect with how they feel about a certain interest of theirs that i dont have to care about. And if i do than thats even better.
I'm from the UK & Recently got Talking to this other Guy was into Wrestling (especially American Wrestling!) & talked non-stop about it for what seemed an Eternity!,
He asked Me if I would Like to do Wrestling & when I replied "It hasn't made My Bucket List Dude!", He seemed genuinely shocked that I had no Ambition to be Body Slammed by some Big Sweaty Geezer with a Mullet!.
THIS.. THIS WAS EXACTLY WHAT I WAS LOOKING FOR😭😭
This solution sounds like torture. "Motivate them to keep talking at you" does not equal a conversation.
what if you have tragic memory problems so you barely have anything to say?
Therapy they can help you
My ex told the judge that we have nothing in common. He thinks that is weird. Ummm, it’s very typical for men and women to have things not in common. We actually do have stuff in common, but he choose to look past them all. When he asked me to list things that we have in common, and I did, he would make excuses like, “22 million other people do that or feel that way.”
There's something specific or a specific level that he wants to connect. He wants "special" connection especially with someone he's married to. "Common", or "Ordinary" is disregarded as inconsequential, and boring. It's not really connection at all. "We both walk, and talk, and go to work, and like to watch a movie sometimes" is very basic. There are 100 girls a day that can give me a boner, and how many of them do I want to marry? Nearly zero. Anyhow, I find his comment funny, and relatable. I am sorry you are divorced though.
Thanks. This was as useful as blowing my nose with a withered leaf..........
LMFAO. This is the main competition these days with dating, just like how life is a competition.
I usually think people are just beneath me .. and I have skills set which takes years to master and I am pretty good at it since I am monetising from every avenue so I don’t give an effort of striking a conversation with anyone which I think is bad and I can feel it now but I can’t change .. I have 2-3 close friends .. and I am close to my parents .. that’s about it ..
We can always learn something from everyone. We never know when our lives will turn upside down and knowing people around you will be worth it in those situations
I really appreciated this
Love pharah in the background😂
How would you start a conversation with someone you’ve known for a long time like in school and have nothing in common? Please answer I can’t handle the awkwardness anymore...
@@Fleetstreetbestone yeah i wish I knew. Just say f it and go up and say something small to them in passing I guess. Not having anything in common could make for a very interesting conversation bc u can both learn something new. Just be friendly in the first place so they don't think its weird if you soeak to them later
I hate being blank, uurrrrgh!!
The cave johnson portrait tho… he just in the back observing xD
amazing vid!
Since the time I was in high school, which literally a quarter century ago, I've had friends that don't necessarily resonate with me. LOL! Years later, I remain to question WHY we're still friends.
We share very little in common. This especially applies to my friend, Breanna.
I don't necessarily want to burn bridges with her, especially since she latched onto me as a friend, 20 years ago.
Breanna's intentions are good. She buys me presents and I reciprocate for birthdays and holidays. However, it's unnecessary because it feels like I'm obligated to do it.
Now that she has my cell phone number, she randomly texts me about the dumbest things.
Considering that we're in our early 40's, Breanna acts like the stereotypical Incel. There's nothing wrong with her being a fan of Marvel Superhero characters.
I love watching Anime, Horror, especially since I'm a Horror author, listening to music, etc. At the same time, I know how to assimilate with OLDER and more mature adults.
BTW: Breanna has a Masters in English and knows how to clean up in sells.
Yesterday, I suggested that she try joining Writing groups and even watch parties near her neighborhood or something.
It sounds like I'm being mean to Breanna, but we don't live in the same state anymore and our hobbies, interests, views, and LIFESTYLES are polar opposites.
Also, she needs to grow up and realize that I have a busy life playing caregiver to sick and disabled family members, including my own mother.
Even though Breanna has a good-paying job, she's careless and immature, especially when she wastes my time texting me about how she lost the mates to her gloves and that she's eating ice cream. LOL!
Those are childish traits for a 41-year-woman with a Masters in English. LOL! Just saying.
Makes me think of a History Prof I once had
nice, i will update here after tonight
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what about when having to talk to someone who is not intrested in anything and doesnt help the conversation at all as well but you haaaave to talk to them ??? all they do is agree with whatever you say but no input and always one word answers to my questions
and no the do not dislike me
somebody please help
Hey, I wanted some advice I’ve been seeing someone for almost 3 months it’s felt like cloud 9 I’ve had obstacles cause of my commitment issues considering my past and anxiety around letting people in. It was going well and last we we had a moment where we were talking about our draining careers and this week my partner tells me that he felt that we were distant and fun had gonna cause he started to overthink and realised we don’t have anything in common- I was really hurt by this considering he told me few weeks ago he saw future with me and wanted me to meet his friends and family soon. He concluded that we need to see how we get on even as friends romantically l, cause he feels that romantically and physically personality were compatible but similar things were very different. He said that it’s become a bit intense cause we’re upset over something like this. He said we’re young and we should be doing fun things like going to arcade and enjoying ourselves. I don’t know what to do but I don’t know if this means what he actually means or if he changed his mind about having a commitment and got bored of how stagnant it got (which is normal and couple go through, even my parents have nothing in common) I really don’t know
he basically said I’d we didn’t have all those other things and we were just friends would we be friends …
Scott pilgrim 😭😭😭
Anyone has interests in physics, cosmos?
Two years late but me. In fact I'm a double majoring in Astrophysics and physics and will be graduating next semester.
W-w-what are You DOiNg... *Uncle* 😏?
I’m an introvert.
your cave johnson picture caught me so off guard, it's framed like he's your relative lmao
Not a big deal. Talk to God
this is irritating as hell. why try to make a person interested in THINGS PEOPLES PLACES or EVENT'S that NEVER LIKED, NEVER SHOWED INTERESTS, DID NOT ASK ABOUT AT ALL.. SHRUGGING Having NOTHING IN COMMON FEELS LIKE THIS. WHEN THE PEOPLE CONTINUE TO TRY TO MENTION THE SAME THINGS OVER AND OVER AGAIN....., EVEN THOUGH KNOW, THERE ABSOLUTELY WAS NO SHOWED NONE, NO INTERESTS AT ALL..... THE LACK OF COMMON INTERESTS IS LIKE A UNBEARABLE TENSE SITUATIONS EVERY TIME THEY SPEAK. THE LACK OF COMMON INTERESTS IS PAINFULLY TENSE. ESPECIALLY WHEN TELL A PEOPLE REPEATEDLY NEVER WAS INTO THAT. THEN IT JUST BECOMES IS THIS PERSON TRYING TO BE FUNNY, RUDE WHAT.......THATS WHEN KNOW HAVE NOTHING IN COMMON AT ALL. ITS NO FUN AT ALL TO BE WITH SOMEONE THAT HAVE NO COMMON INTERESTS NONE. ITS A TORTURE.....
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Was easier before looked into research and all weird stuff
memes
Im not interest in it but i interest in you interest in it 😵
"do you come from poverty" just lost me a friend. Can't say i recommend that strategy.
I’m a Dumbass