I've been in many uncomfortable situations where they know I know and they know I know they know I know. This happens in a flash when I see right through their fake persona and lies. It's a strange phenomenon, almost telepathic? I get angry that they were trying to deceive me (or others). They get angry because they feel exposed and are afraid I'll expose them to others. Very uncomfortable indeed. It ain't easy being INFJ. 😑
Thoughtful comment. I understand precisely the uncomfortable situation that arises when you know a person is fake, and they know you know. Oftentimes a good smear campaign ensues. It is so easy to spread lies about a person who keeps to him/her self--a person few people ever truly get to know. Hope you have a happy day. Take care.
@@tracyroose750 Thank you for your understanding. The mutual revelation happens without even speaking a word! Smear campaigns have followed. Yup. Typically in workplaces. I would feel a growing animosity towards me without having any idea what I ever did to anybody. Of course, nothing but see through the snake in our midst, who got busy talking bad about me to protect itself. Not surprisingly, most people choose to worship the snake. It was nightmarish, because I cannot prevent this insight nor hide my knowing from the evil one and had to helplessly experience the dynamics as they played out over and over. No surprise, I am old and retired now and live a delightfully secluded life! 😄
@@belle6219 I am retired as well. Never use the word "old"... mature, have a few years behind me...not old! I too live a secluded life and have seriously never been happier or felt more contentment. Love reading, gardening and the companionship of my two best friends. Just finished vacuuming up the floor due to their shedding issue. Oh well. Dogs are great! Life as an INFJ is not an easy row to hoe, but it does have its upside. Good to share with you.
Be confident, INFJs, never apologize for your strengths, or who you are. You are the most altruistic of all the types. Screw those who don’t appreciate your gifts. I mean it. Addition by subtraction. It is their issue, not your issue. -53 year old INFJ
I appreciate knowing things, but not under malicious conditions. I don't want to see a person's problems used against them or anything. I do like to know what's motivating them, though. 😮
This might be your most spot-on video thus far. I'm always perplexed by accusations of intimidation, while being the quietest in the room. This explains so much.
I tend to wait too long to stand up for myself. So when I do I come across real mean, even in my opinion, especially if it was a misunderstanding. But other times I don’t feel sorry. I’m just angry I didn’t do it sooner. Enjoyed this video. It’s so accurate.
As an INFJ I just can't imagine not being solution-oriented. After wallowing, venting and complaining for awhile doesn't it just feel better to try to solve the problem and move forward? I spend way too much time obsessing and thinking about the issue of course, but living in that space without trying to fix something or move past it for too long feels horrible.
@@INFJcircle Stay tuned Jay.. I am about to flip the Poker Table.. It will be epic.. Then we will talk.. I want you to be one of the first of many interviews I will be making.. It will be as Hilarious as it is disturbing.. And you will “Get it”.. BFN 💜🦄💜
It’s so true! I’m always in predicaments, it seems. But they just can’t really get what they’re looking for out of me. I’m really strong emotionally/mentally and that’s what makes them feel so angry towards me. I don’t really even know what I do to make them hate me. But I don’t cave.
I appreciated your use of the term, "group think." I find it amazing that people are stuck in this mindless quagmire. I see so many box tickers that follow corporate think blindly. Now I understand why I see through this corporate manipulation when others can't. I love being an INFJ.
Just found out I am an INFJ about a month ago - kind of blew my mind and explained so much. I intuitively picked the best profession (psychotherapist) for my personality type and it is my life work. The qualities that people may find intimidating socially are highly valued by clients. Even knowing rather esoteric topics helps connect me with clients who are highly intelligent and crave such conversations. This fosters trust, which is essential for clients to make changes.
The big problem with my infj friend is that she would never show or tell me whether or not im doing something that bothers her. So i really have no idea whether or not I’m a good friend. Sometimes i don’t even know whether she says the full truth or how much she keeps to herself just in order to keep the peace. I already have trust issues and having a friend who i can’t estimate is really scary to me.
If you can't tell if your INFJ friend is upset with you, it is very unlikely they are upset with you. An angry or displeased INFJ isn't exactly subtle. They can choose to keep the peace & put on a good poker face, but past a certain point, they will speak their mind. As an INFJ myself, I've noticed other people often find themselves starved of feedback during in progress conversations with me; I'll selfishly choose to re-read their conversations once the conversation is over & I can take my time with it, but unless prompted to give them feedback on it, I likely won't. This habit of mine triggers anxiety in younger people & people with self esteem issues. I can see them worrying in real time if they've done something to upset me, often they feel the need to apologize for their existence; likely because they had a conservative upbringing or them assuming my subtle facial expressions (or lack thereof) & stiff awkwardness actually meant anything. The gap between thinking & action is staggeringly huge for me, it is a monumental task to make myself speak, unless I'm relaying my latest fixation to them in great detail or teaching them something.
A one on one with Jay! What a beautiful offer to give to those of us who are struggling as INFJ. You are so strong for doing something like this. Sometimes when people open up and tell me things, it is so sad that I am drained for days after. Low-key worried about this happening to you but it's most likely just me projecting lol. I truly hope each encounter is filled with growth and a sense of peace that always seems to elude us. You are awesome!
I have really enjoyed these videos, with insights and depth that have escaped me for most of my life. I did not understand that I had an INFJ personality type until late in my life (70 years old), and thus went through most of my life not understanding why I was different from those around me, wondering whether I was the only one who enjoyed 'deep thinking' about the world around us on a daily basis, as I got no traction for exploring these thoughts with people around me, including my spouse and and children. Having been able to, through these videos, to check pretty much every box for my behavior, introspection, and intellectual loneliness being due to being an INFJ, it has been like an epiphany to learn about INFJs through these videos, as has the fact that while 'rare' there world-wide ought to be around 100 million of us with similar personalities and associated benefits and struggles, and thus we are far from being freaks or alone as I feared I was. One thing I have not seen discussed much, probably due to the content providers being on the younger side, or at least of working age, are topics related to aging as an INFJ, as doing so introduces unique challenges for continuing to live a mentally productive introspective 'deep thinking' life. There are 55,000,000 people over the age of 65 in the US alone, making for about 1 million 'elderlies' (over 65) who are INFJs. While the current videos definitely are helpful to us elderly, some features on, and discussion of, the challenges of aging as an INFJ could be helpful for this large group who's age related struggle with mental, cognitive, and physical decline is likely to be more profound than in most other personality types Just some thoughts from a latecomer, with a LOT of experience from being a ''classic' INFJ without knowing this for 60 years!
Thank you so much for your videos about INFJ. ❤ I can relate to so many things you are talking about. In some ways, as an INFJ feel that we are somewhat different than the majority of people. I often feel that there are expectations placed on us and if we choose not to do what is imposed on us, suddenly we are told that something is wrong with us, we are flawed. When I was bending trying to be what was expected of me regardless of my nature, I was feeling terrible about myself. In the world where a group think prevails, ostracism becomes normal. I don't feel that I am a special person. I just know that it is difficult to function in the world that is trying to define who we should be as a person. Therefore, it seems easier not to fully participate, so that some people don't have another reason to gossip. We INFJs are very sensitive to respect for human rights. Conformity is often scary to me because I know the world's history quite well. I prefer to cultivate my personal world where I can be myself without constantly worrying about what impression I gave today. We, INFJ seem to annoy some people and I just don't have any energy to waste while attempting to explain myself. Because I view energy as a precious and limited resource, I have to use it to be able to live, instead of trying to please everybody around me. I am glad there are a few people that may still understand what I am talking about. 😊
📌 We tend towards having a certain amount of energy, leaning towards a lower level than other types. This is why we protect ourselves from energy vampire types and need solitude to recharge. We, however, balance this lower energy level with our superior strengths. We also self ostracize, as we can only suffer the insufferable for so long!
Holy cow, I’m usually pretty reserved about asking for input from others, but there are times I desperately want to have a “meaty” conversation with someone! I don’t have a lot of friends anymore but one friend who’s an INFJ like me lol It’s nice to have someone around who understands how I tick 😊
I am causing havoc atm at my job. Have reported my supervisor and another supervisor from another department for their power trip and retaliation of me for speaking up. They thought they could turn the tables against me by gaslighting and manipulating the situation to make it seem like i was the problem. But being INFJ, we literally see through YOUR SOUL.
You're speaking right to my heart. I had to cut off contact with an INTJ. After 7 months of ghosting, breaking up, getting back together, ghosting again I could'nt bear it anymore. He did (like everybody else) underestimated me. It hurts like hell but he wasn't meant for me...😢 Btw, thank you, you can't imagine how much you're helping me 🫶🏼🫶🏼
I wouldn’t swear off INTJs for life, though. I’ve been married to one for 18 years, and it’s been the most incredible, stable, healthy marriage! I truly believe God gave me the best possible match. Maybe your INTJ was a bad egg 😂, the kind that gives other INTJs a bad name?
Love it... "Looking for distractions and not solutions." This oddity is the very disconnect and cognitive distortion-the 'root shame' for other types (but if they just scratched, just one level down, I'm sure as I'm sitting here, that the light will go on empowering them to adjust their perspective) ✌.
I just did it again lately. Weird thing was, it was a health issue where I almost died. A nurse and I were chatting and I remarked she seemed tired. I could tell right away I should not have said it. She didn't want a patient seeing that she was tired. It made her feel she'd let the side down. Later I apologized, saying I'm just one of those people who "see too much." It seemed to help. Luckily I was discharged soon after, so no one had to feel uncomfortable.
Spot on about all of these! Especially where people who've just met me suddenly open up their lives and share very personal matters. And then they say "I don't know why I'm telling you all this." and then seem embarrassed - that happens to me a lot. It's definitely a thing. Lol
You got it right! I totally think you nailed me. On top of INFJ my rising sign is scorpio, so I know I scare people! I try to keep my smiley face on, so they don't see my intensity.
1. INFJ's knowing themselves & others; It's easy to mistake our 'ramblings' as doubt or uncertainty, as if we don't really know ourselves. But let me assure you, we definitely know exactly who we are. We are deeply introspective and brutally honest about it. Down to the most disturbingly dark obscure details about ourselves-how we can be perceived, the contexts in which we exist, the reasons and motivations behind our actions, the intentions, the consequences, etc --and how all these aspects have an intricate meaning, role and place within the entirety of oneself in any particular moment or situation. In fact, we often understand others to the same depth, sometimes even better than they understand themselves. The perpetual challenge lies in communicating this depth. Most people, regardless of whether they know themselves fully or not at all, tend to operate within a narrow range of self-perception. Many lack the internal drive to grow or expand mentally, remaining cognitively oblivious and, consequently, incapable of comprehending extensive complexities beyond their own experience. - Even those who are highly capable and self-aware, still functioning within their 'limited' combination of traits, preferences, and behaviors-descriptors like generous, aggressive, lazy, or adventurous for example-that's just a specific portion from the full spectrum's scope of being. For us INFJ, it's different. -- We are simultaneously like anyone and everyone else and yet like no one at all... Because we, on the other hand, can naturally access and utilize the entire spectrum's options and possibilities possible. We can swap them in and out at will, deliberately adjust intensity, rearrange them to fit any scenario or influence any person, experiment with new combinations to test resulting reactions or just for fun, and have developed countless situational templates. Yet, no matter how much we adapt or adjust, it’s still always just an expression of who we are fundamentally. This fluidity makes explaining the complexity of our core-especially in relation to that ever-shifting state-nearly impossible in (casual) conversation. - - - Truthfully though, it's not really the challenge that would prevent us from wanting to try, if asked. Outside a particular few that are capable, we've learned very early on, that talking about this crap with basically anyone will almost certainly make you sound/come across as some arrogant douchebag that thinks they're special or something lol. Even knowing exactly what I mean and my intent, I agree that their cringe-fest is valid if they don't get what you're talking about hehe!
All spot - on, Jay, as I have been ghosted on various occasions after helping people and by people who "open up to me" spontaneously. As we are so honest and open ourselves, I think "clearing the air" is great but others often regret it. Yet, it is amazing how many people regard me as their best friend, even people I hardly know. Even at 73, it is so reassuring to hear your videos, after a long, very confused and often difficult life. And yes, I still do have all these traits you list. Another good thing is that I finally accept me for who I am and am delighted that we have so many positives to offer. I truly believe that we are a force for good.
Yep! I'm sick of this shit is my new t shirt. I once answered the question 'is my partner cheating on me with my best friend'? That friend ended my friendship and stayed with her cheating partner and best friend 😢 Being an INFJ is extremely difficult and hurtful. It is a paradigm shift that no one is prepared to accommodate. Cognitive bias, cognitive dissonance mean we are simply outcasts and used. The hardest part is thinking about others all the time when they think about themselves. It leads to self deprecation to tune/mirror them. Life is like screaming in a soundproof room until you get Fd over enough to avoid people who simply see you as in need of therapy and medication/pathologized for being yourself. The real question is WHY is their way the way? Selfish bastards.
@@AHoney-z9c cool thanks. I have huge boobs - like bazookas! And a Master's degree in Social Work that helps. But still, I must confess, I need those fembot automatic fire machine ones to get rid of all the abusive parasites. I do "the decision" where I make a decision I'm done and then silently walk away. The reason this is so successful is that by the time "the decision" is made, it is me trying to carry the relationship... no one has driven over to my house and asked about why... It is telling. No one gives a shit about you unless they want something. Aka bastards.
So good! All of these are true. I really appreciate your content. Feels great to hear someone articulate and understand my infjness and relate so fully. 🏆
Я очень хочу что бы люди не останавливались бы только на банальных вещах и образно говоря не смотрели бы себе под ноги а видели больше, намного больше всё что нас окружает... Мир так прекрасен, глубок, загадочен, непостижим и такое счастье мир открывать.... Но люди почему то не хотят это видеть.. Печально...
The events in one's life are reflections of one's inner universe. If a situation keeps happening, pay attention to the lesson you are refusing to learn. Furthermore, the idea that others are afraid of INFJ personalities is based on an untreated fear of the subconscious mind, it is based on the ego. Be careful about the importance you give to titles. The desire to feel powerful or superior to others can prevent you from seeing the truth. Yes, we humans have much more power than we are taught, but this power does not remain where there is a lack of humility. Know thyself!
I can’t stand gossiping! I feel completely misunderstood & no one gets me, ever. I’m so tired of being blamed for things out my intentions misconstrued. It’s draining, exhausting!
🎉❤ Absolutely 💯 ALWAYS enjoy ur videos. Its so nice to have this kind of understanding, finally!! I had a hard time growing up.i will say my intuition got me out of alot of unsafe situations tho., People definitely thought i was weird,i was me anyway an i knew i was coming from good intentions an if others didn't see that then that wasn't my problem. Self reflection is one of our great qualities to,i didn't realize not everyone does this. I so appreciate ur videos ,thanks Jay XO Jessica
Good morning and thank you for quite an excellent video. I also saw the video you prompted your viewers to see after this video ended and it was also excellent . A bit repetitive but in a good way. I’m writing this with a thought for you to consider regarding, the evolution of a satisfying relationship for INFJ in the world. There are lots of influencers with RUclips channels that will give people information about the status quo. Your video is an excellent example of one of those videos. Might you consider offering some advice to INFJ‘s on how to successfully function with their traits in a world that doesn’t appreciate their traits. One obvious solution is to work on oneself to get very comfortable being alone, which I have done over the years and has served me well at this time of my life . If there are ways you can suggest, not to overcome the INFJ is personality traits, but to use them in order to fit in better and find people to relate to a satisfactory connection. that would be greatly appreciated. As logical as I am, short of subduing, ones basic INFJ’s tendencies I don’t see great avenues for connection with people who don’t like the core values of who you are, as you edified your video. But again, if you have some suggestions, that would be great. I definitely would and I suspect most INFJ’s would appreciate it as well. Again thank you for this video and all your videos. There was a point that you made in the presentation that shined a light on an issue I was dealing with regarding Interpersonal relationships, and I greatly appreciate it. If you’re interested, it was that while I may crave deep meaningful intimate conversations as obvious as it sounds, I wasn’t fully aware that other people crave Lite superficial meaningless conversations with the same intensity as I do deep conversations. Doesn’t change the end results of not connecting with them, but it helps me better understand their rejections. Again, thank you for your content, and I look forward to your future videos. Have a great rest of the day.
This is 100% true people would get baffled with how they’re able to spill their secrets without me trying anything even when meeting them for the first time. They feel freaked out - I’ve had some ask me what I’ve done to them. They’ll end up skirting around me, running away after and the fake people instantly hating me. 😂
Yes, I’ll check it out, ty❣️ Good reminder to resist devolving into the divisive political fray, for instance, when viewing the “types” behavior that is outrageous.
Done at a younger age so that the children can learn their best self for living life successfully according to their natural strengths. Be able to point them in the right education direction.
i personally use my intuition to read people when they come to me and i immediately know who could really benefit from my advice or not. 99% of people dont so i learned to not be there for them even when they suffer, because they are not open to change.
That shift in position because of our fear of conflict is not a good thing LOL. I have seriously freaked some people out. Boundaries need to be strong, when I started setting them I was really surprised by how well they were accepted. I think most people get this naturally, the NARC relies on weak boundaries. I started fighting my natural inclination toward agreeableness by using a 3 second pause. Wanna see intimidation, let me stare at you for 3 seconds after you ask me a question, I mostly use this at work but apply it elsewhere, I have been fitting in with a new work group and applying a compromise trying to fit in organically. There is one guy that has been making this very difficult for me. He is a taker, someone that spreads a lot a little farther than he should and expects all to bend to his desires, I just figured out he is immature and started treating him like a child. I tell him no, that's not how this is going to happen, work, go. Pat him on the head when he is a good boy.
I just recently pulled out of a group chat of women who I was quite frankly just acquaintances with. They had deeper levels of friendship because I knew they were getting together without me. When I left the conversation I had a few reach out wondering if they offended me. I just said that they were all great people and I loved them but I didn’t feel a part of their group. I know they’re perplexed by this but for me to live my authentic life I can’t have these shallow “friendships”. They are draining and make me feel like I’m in pretend mode.
Has anyone else who's an infj been called a hypocrite, I have, 30 yrs ago and it still bothers me and I ponder over that...I think it's because I feel we infjs can understand others so well, which perplexes others, any thoughts?
Sura 5: AL-MAEDA (THE TABLE) - Juz' 7 - Translation Qarib TranslationSearch ReciteRecite SearchSelect Chapter وَإِذْ قَالَ اللَّهُ يَا عِيسَى ابْنَ مَرْيَمَ أَأَنْتَ قُلْتَ لِلنَّاسِ اتَّخِذُونِي وَأُمِّيَ إِلَهَيْنِ مِنْ دُونِ اللَّهِ قَالَ سُبْحَانَكَ مَا يَكُونُ لِي أَنْ أَقُولَ مَا لَيْسَ لِي بِحَقٍّ إِنْ كُنْتُ قُلْتُهُ فَقَدْ عَلِمْتَهُ تَعْلَمُ مَا فِي نَفْسِي وَلَا أَعْلَمُ مَا فِي نَفْسِكَ إِنَّكَ أَنْتَ عَلَّامُ الْغُيُوبِ ﴿۱۱۶﴾And when Allah said: '( Prophet) Jesus, son of Mary, did you ever say to the people: "Take me and my mother for two gods, other than Allah?" 'Exaltations to You, ' he said, 'how could I say that to which I have no right? If I had said that, You would have surely known. You know what is in my self, but I do not know what is in Yours. Indeed, You are the Knowledgeable of the unseen. (116) مَا قُلْتُ لَهُمْ إِلَّا مَا أَمَرْتَنِي بِهِ أَنِ اعْبُدُوا اللَّهَ رَبِّي وَرَبَّكُمْ وَكُنْتُ عَلَيْهِمْ شَهِيدًا مَا دُمْتُ فِيهِمْ فَلَمَّا تَوَفَّيْتَنِي كُنْتَ أَنْتَ الرَّقِيبَ عَلَيْهِمْ وَأَنْتَ عَلَى كُلِّ شَيْءٍ شَهِيدٌ ﴿۱۱۷﴾I spoke to them of nothing except that which You ordered me, that you worship Allah, my Lord and our Lord. I witnessed them whilst living in their midst and ever since You took me to You, You have been the Watcher over them. You are the Witness of everything. (117) إِنْ تُعَذِّبْهُمْ فَإِنَّهُمْ عِبَادُكَ وَإِنْ تَغْفِرْ لَهُمْ فَإِنَّكَ أَنْتَ الْعَزِيزُ الْحَكِيمُ ﴿۱۱۸﴾If You punish them (for their disbelief), they surely are Your subjects; and if You forgive them, surely You are the Almighty, the Wise. ' (118) قَالَ اللَّهُ هَذَا يَوْمُ يَنْفَعُ الصَّادِقِينَ صِدْقُهُمْ لَهُمْ جَنَّاتٌ تَجْرِي مِنْ تَحْتِهَا الْأَنْهَارُ خَالِدِينَ فِيهَا أَبَدًا رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُمْ وَرَضُوا عَنْهُ ذَلِكَ الْفَوْزُ الْعَظِيمُ ﴿۱۱۹﴾Allah will say: 'This is the Day the truthful shall benefit by their truthfulness. They shall live for ever in Gardens underneath which rivers flow. Allah is pleased with them, and they are pleased with Him. That is the great winning. ' (119) لِلَّهِ مُلْكُ السَّمَاوَاتِ وَالْأَرْضِ وَمَا فِيهِنَّ وَهُوَ عَلَى كُلِّ شَيْءٍ قَدِيرٌ ﴿۱۲۰﴾To Allah belongs the Kingdom of the heavens and the earth and what is in them. He has power over all things. (120).
Anyone other INFJ's experience this or something similar? I very clearly remember in highschool, the groups of people would seperate themselves within the school between classes: Nerds and the science types bottom floor by the science labs, Goth's ground floor middle, Jocks upstairs in the middle, stoners by the lunch room. Back to my point, I interacted with everyone, and was alone. Because I would not be tied down to a clique, and when beef started I would not picks sides - so as fools do, "If you're not with us, you're against us." I was always amazed on how people would dig there heels in on their social group identity. Why not talk to everyone it's not that hard?.... For most of the wolrd it is for some reason. Being older I accept that is how things are, but I still don't understand it.
I find that my understanding of emotions and people's intentions can weird people out but I find the distancing happens when they don't want to admit what I observed about them is true. I either get push back or ignored. As for the darker side of me, when I clap back about an issue that has built up, my intuition usually plays into my argument which always baffles the other person. They can't seem to understand how I came to that conclusion even if it's true. I know I'm intimidating but I'm just being honest. So my struggle in finding people I can be real with is real. Hence, I will hold myself back a lot. Solitude has become my friend. LOL
Sometimes I assume everyone feels what we feel and see what we see, sometimes I assume everyone is as intelligent as I am,., I will get anxiety seeing what is going to happen 5 steps into the future, when others don’t see it.
We are living in a time of great deception and lies. Most people have no desire to seek truth in all things. Living your life on a foundation of lies will not end well for you. The only people that can be helped are those who are open minded. We are all here in this time for a purpose. Without Jesus, you will be going around in endless circles. He is our only hope. God bless
We want everyone to get along, except cast out narcissists to their own group. 😅 Think that's the only enemy we have. I currently moved to a new role, to escape a micro-manager. His thirst to catch me out, even for using Google, even if I used Google for work, my explanations for it were cast aside and I'd be reported. My wings were clearly being clipped. Then I was hated for moving on, and not wanting to be a part of group where I'm so isolated and under a microscope. Unfortunately our rebel side tends to help facilitate a narcissists smear campaign. So in my new role I will take no risks, as much as some things seem stupid to me, I will do them to avoid being at the mercy of these people. I will document everything to counteract any gaslighting that comes my way this time.
we definitely do share the same gaze similar eyes , what's your enneagram tritype ? are you familiar with socionics? is this really the stuff you want to talk about do you have esoteric occult or metaphysical videos?
@@Heyokasireniei468sxso Because you're an INFJ, I suspect you went too deep in the rabbit hole, and you do not want to go out because you find the physical world either too uninteresting or intimidating. Like me, you created this imaginational world inside you and you're stuck in this perpetual loop. I'm hoping that I am wrong.
I smile so warm and sweetly but people find me still intimidating. When I start talking, those who aren’t intimidated start being intimidated. Hahahaha oh well at least I tried. 😂
I go to therapy and I feel like I make my therapist uncomfortable 🤷♀️🙃 I am/can be very outspoken and I talk with my feelings which makes some people uncomfortable 😏
I truly hope your conviction is strong enough to tell some, likely most, who you speak to, that they’re living a lie in saying that they are infjs. It will be a test because there’s the financial conflict of interest that would cause. I imagine your conviction supersedes that. The other part is trying to explain that they’re essentially liars. To others and to themselves. Which will destroy their ego. And that would prove your point. They’d never say it though. I know if you said that to me, I would be indifferent to your opinion (in that regard). And I’d be the first to say I doubt my typing first and foremost. Because if nothing else all the cognitive functions would exist on a spectrum. Making the possibilities and amount of personality types infinite. Everyone could find intuition in their lives or believe we have empathy (even if we don’t) Because how would you know if you didn’t know? But you’d almost want to believe, or at least want others to, that you have an identity within something that’s more than the basic numbers we all are in a way. Sorry for the rant. Just wanted to give a friendly reminder that you’ve a responsibility to speak and even stand on the truth. I hope the egos in the comments come at me. I hope they start with “I’m an infj, and…”. Cause existence is super dark when you have to identify as yourself before something that makes you feel like you belong somewhere…which again disproves that typing. So come at me, I’ve got plenty of rope to make your noose. 😮😂😂 You always make good, unique content and you have a meditative voice. I admit there are much worse things going on everywhere. I’m just tired of people, honestly. And to clearly see how many are lying in order to safeguard the trash they are really bringing to the table, is maddening. Especially because I’ve lost so many people in my life when we came to that point that I had to tell them what they were hiding. They went and hid from me, forever. And I will always wish they hadn’t. Not for me. For them and for the world. 😢
I am only able to have any rides with anyone, which somehow, i knew what characters and flaws they are, maybe it is painful to have that ride, the least i could do is to just observe...
Most people learn to doggy paddle, whereas us INFJ are born to dive.
Hells YES
& Don't appreciate p.a.b.s
Preach!
I've been in many uncomfortable situations where they know I know and they know I know they know I know. This happens in a flash when I see right through their fake persona and lies. It's a strange phenomenon, almost telepathic? I get angry that they were trying to deceive me (or others). They get angry because they feel exposed and are afraid I'll expose them to others. Very uncomfortable indeed. It ain't easy being INFJ. 😑
Yes, I understand what you are saying. It's like you've "found them out." Uncovered their agenda. They do not like it!
Thoughtful comment. I understand precisely the uncomfortable situation that arises when you know a person is fake, and they know you know. Oftentimes a good smear campaign ensues. It is so easy to spread lies about a person who keeps to him/her self--a person few people ever truly get to know. Hope you have a happy day. Take care.
Lol...I see you...and I see that you see that I see you.
@@tracyroose750 Thank you for your understanding. The mutual revelation happens without even speaking a word! Smear campaigns have followed. Yup. Typically in workplaces. I would feel a growing animosity towards me without having any idea what I ever did to anybody. Of course, nothing but see through the snake in our midst, who got busy talking bad about me to protect itself. Not surprisingly, most people choose to worship the snake. It was nightmarish, because I cannot prevent this insight nor hide my knowing from the evil one and had to helplessly experience the dynamics as they played out over and over. No surprise, I am old and retired now and live a delightfully secluded life! 😄
@@belle6219 I am retired as well. Never use the word "old"... mature, have a few years behind me...not old! I too live a secluded life and have seriously never been happier or felt more contentment. Love reading, gardening and the companionship of my two best friends. Just finished vacuuming up the floor due to their shedding issue. Oh well. Dogs are great! Life as an INFJ is not an easy row to hoe, but it does have its upside. Good to share with you.
As an INFJ, 1 thing... we don't gossip... We keep sensitive information of others out of respect. And people should trust us...
We do take sh*t to the grave. 🙊
Instead of test😂
Be confident, INFJs, never apologize for your strengths, or who you are. You are the most altruistic of all the types. Screw those who don’t appreciate your gifts. I mean it. Addition by subtraction. It is their issue, not your issue. -53 year old INFJ
The best INFJ quote I've heard is '' never apologize for speaking the truth to a world that worships lies''
People look for distractions and not looking for solutions! - brilliantly simple and so true
Most people don't like who or what they don't understand..
Exactly!
Hate gossip. I like sharing but not gossiping.
I appreciate knowing things, but not under malicious conditions. I don't want to see a person's problems used against them or anything. I do like to know what's motivating them, though. 😮
I get up and walk away, inwardly giggling at the sudden silence left in my wake. The gossip mongers like a rapt audience.
I don't like neither. 😂
This might be your most spot-on video thus far. I'm always perplexed by accusations of intimidation, while being the quietest in the room. This explains so much.
Thanks! Yes, it's quite counterintuitive, but I truly believe we do intimidate other types.
People subconsciously pick up on the fact that infjs know way more than they let on
i can no longer waste my time on people who do not wish to help themselves
I tend to wait too long to stand up for myself. So when I do I come across real mean, even in my opinion, especially if it was a misunderstanding. But other times I don’t feel sorry. I’m just angry I didn’t do it sooner.
Enjoyed this video. It’s so accurate.
Word…
🎯💯
As an INFJ I just can't imagine not being solution-oriented. After wallowing, venting and complaining for awhile doesn't it just feel better to try to solve the problem and move forward? I spend way too much time obsessing and thinking about the issue of course, but living in that space without trying to fix something or move past it for too long feels horrible.
And the solution is available! You can present it on a silver platter and others just won't grab it and run with it! It can be MADDENING.
We are “KRYPTONITE” 😨
for Narcissists..💜🦄
Once we figure out their games, they have no chance.
@@INFJcircle Stay tuned Jay..
I am about to flip the Poker Table..
It will be epic.. Then we will talk..
I want you to be one of the first of many interviews I will be making..
It will be as Hilarious as it is disturbing.. And you will “Get it”..
BFN 💜🦄💜
It’s so true! I’m always in predicaments, it seems. But they just can’t really get what they’re looking for out of me. I’m really strong emotionally/mentally and that’s what makes them feel so angry towards me. I don’t really even know what I do to make them hate me. But I don’t cave.
Narsissies are the balloon 🎈and we are the needle 💉
@@amypetra5021 Amen Soul Sister..🙏🏻💜🦄
So true. Many of these things are why I get depressed over being INFJ.
It can be tough. Stay strong!
It's okay to get depressed sometimes but don't dwell on it for too long. You're better than that.
I feel you
I appreciated your use of the term, "group think." I find it amazing that people are stuck in this mindless quagmire. I see so many box tickers that follow corporate think blindly. Now I understand why I see through this corporate manipulation when others can't. I love being an INFJ.
"they thought you were a push over"... THEY THOUGHT WRONG
We are the genesis of the phrase: “Don’t mistake my kindness for weakness.”
Just read your latest email, was a great affirmation. INFJ affirmations make me feel grounded and knowing I am not losing my mind.
Awesome, glad they are helping!
Just found out I am an INFJ about a month ago - kind of blew my mind and explained so much. I intuitively picked the best profession (psychotherapist) for my personality type and it is my life work. The qualities that people may find intimidating socially are highly valued by clients. Even knowing rather esoteric topics helps connect me with clients who are highly intelligent and crave such conversations. This fosters trust, which is essential for clients to make changes.
This is so very interesting, wish I had thought about that career myself having an interest in spirituality, too. All the best!
Yep, great profession indeed
Really amazing to me how closely I identify with these attributes.
The big problem with my infj friend is that she would never show or tell me whether or not im doing something that bothers her. So i really have no idea whether or not I’m a good friend. Sometimes i don’t even know whether she says the full truth or how much she keeps to herself just in order to keep the peace. I already have trust issues and having a friend who i can’t estimate is really scary to me.
If you can't tell if your INFJ friend is upset with you, it is very unlikely they are upset with you. An angry or displeased INFJ isn't exactly subtle. They can choose to keep the peace & put on a good poker face, but past a certain point, they will speak their mind. As an INFJ myself, I've noticed other people often find themselves starved of feedback during in progress conversations with me; I'll selfishly choose to re-read their conversations once the conversation is over & I can take my time with it, but unless prompted to give them feedback on it, I likely won't. This habit of mine triggers anxiety in younger people & people with self esteem issues. I can see them worrying in real time if they've done something to upset me, often they feel the need to apologize for their existence; likely because they had a conservative upbringing or them assuming my subtle facial expressions (or lack thereof) & stiff awkwardness actually meant anything. The gap between thinking & action is staggeringly huge for me, it is a monumental task to make myself speak, unless I'm relaying my latest fixation to them in great detail or teaching them something.
A one on one with Jay! What a beautiful offer to give to those of us who are struggling as INFJ. You are so strong for doing something like this. Sometimes when people open up and tell me things, it is so sad that I am drained for days after. Low-key worried about this happening to you but it's most likely just me projecting lol. I truly hope each encounter is filled with growth and a sense of peace that always seems to elude us. You are awesome!
I have really enjoyed these videos, with insights and depth that have escaped me for most of my life. I did not understand that I had an INFJ personality type until late in my life (70 years old), and thus went through most of my life not understanding why I was different from those around me, wondering whether I was the only one who enjoyed 'deep thinking' about the world around us on a daily basis, as I got no traction for exploring these thoughts with people around me, including my spouse and and children. Having been able to, through these videos, to check pretty much every box for my behavior, introspection, and intellectual loneliness being due to being an INFJ, it has been like an epiphany to learn about INFJs through these videos, as has the fact that while 'rare' there world-wide ought to be around 100 million of us with similar personalities and associated benefits and struggles, and thus we are far from being freaks or alone as I feared I was.
One thing I have not seen discussed much, probably due to the content providers being on the younger side, or at least of working age, are topics related to aging as an INFJ, as doing so introduces unique challenges for continuing to live a mentally productive introspective 'deep thinking' life. There are 55,000,000 people over the age of 65 in the US alone, making for about 1 million 'elderlies' (over 65) who are INFJs. While the current videos definitely are helpful to us elderly, some features on, and discussion of, the challenges of aging as an INFJ could be helpful for this large group who's age related struggle with mental, cognitive, and physical decline is likely to be more profound than in most other personality types
Just some thoughts from a latecomer, with a LOT of experience from being a ''classic' INFJ without knowing this for 60 years!
Thank you so much for your videos about INFJ. ❤ I can relate to so many things you are talking about. In some ways, as an INFJ feel that we are somewhat different than the majority of people. I often feel that there are expectations placed on us and if we choose not to do what is imposed on us, suddenly we are told that something is wrong with us, we are flawed. When I was bending trying to be what was expected of me regardless of my nature, I was feeling terrible about myself. In the world where a group think prevails, ostracism becomes normal. I don't feel that I am a special person. I just know that it is difficult to function in the world that is trying to define who we should be as a person. Therefore, it seems easier not to fully participate, so that some people don't have another reason to gossip. We INFJs are very sensitive to respect for human rights. Conformity is often scary to me because I know the world's history quite well. I prefer to cultivate my personal world where I can be myself without constantly worrying about what impression I gave today. We, INFJ seem to annoy some people and I just don't have any energy to waste while attempting to explain myself. Because I view energy as a precious and limited resource, I have to use it to be able to live, instead of trying to please everybody around me. I am glad there are a few people that may still understand what I am talking about. 😊
📌 We tend towards having a certain amount of energy, leaning towards a lower level than other types. This is why we protect ourselves from energy vampire types and need solitude to recharge. We, however, balance this lower energy level with our superior strengths. We also self ostracize, as we can only suffer the insufferable for so long!
Holy cow, I’m usually pretty reserved about asking for input from others, but there are times I desperately want to have a “meaty” conversation with someone! I don’t have a lot of friends anymore but one friend who’s an INFJ like me lol It’s nice to have someone around who understands how I tick 😊
I feel so understood watching these videos, very rare for an infj to be understood 😂
Awesome
Thanks Jay.. 😘
Always a pleasure to hear from you…💜
Sad that our Love & Sincerity
just scares people away… 😱
Their loss…. 🤗
Well said
Iam infj and i can predict future events 😅 and also i can feel it
always great to come across your videos, feels like coming home
Happy to hear that!
I am causing havoc atm at my job. Have reported my supervisor and another supervisor from another department for their power trip and retaliation of me for speaking up. They thought they could turn the tables against me by gaslighting and manipulating the situation to make it seem like i was the problem. But being INFJ, we literally see through YOUR SOUL.
You're speaking right to my heart. I had to cut off contact with an INTJ. After 7 months of ghosting, breaking up, getting back together, ghosting again I could'nt bear it anymore. He did (like everybody else) underestimated me. It hurts like hell but he wasn't meant for me...😢
Btw, thank you, you can't imagine how much you're helping me 🫶🏼🫶🏼
Sorry to hear that. This happens to us so often, I'm glad the videos are helping you through a difficult time. Stay strong!
My best friends of 8 years was also an INTJ... I just couldn't bear it anymore and parted ways with him.
Soooo often underestimated, however, we can also utilize this phenomenon to our advantage.
I wouldn’t swear off INTJs for life, though. I’ve been married to one for 18 years, and it’s been the most incredible, stable, healthy marriage! I truly believe God gave me the best possible match. Maybe your INTJ was a bad egg 😂, the kind that gives other INTJs a bad name?
Love it... "Looking for distractions and not solutions." This oddity is the very disconnect and cognitive distortion-the 'root shame' for other types (but if they just scratched, just one level down, I'm sure as I'm sitting here, that the light will go on empowering them to adjust their perspective) ✌.
Once again 'Boom! Hit it out of the park!' you ability to see the big picture and overlay it on the swath of humanity is perfect.
I just did it again lately. Weird thing was, it was a health issue where I almost died. A nurse and I were chatting and I remarked she seemed tired. I could tell right away I should not have said it. She didn't want a patient seeing that she was tired. It made her feel she'd let the side down. Later I apologized, saying I'm just one of those people who "see too much." It seemed to help. Luckily I was discharged soon after, so no one had to feel uncomfortable.
Spot on about all of these! Especially where people who've just met me suddenly open up their lives and share very personal matters. And then they say "I don't know why I'm telling you all this." and then seem embarrassed - that happens to me a lot. It's definitely a thing. Lol
Sure is!
You got it right! I totally think you nailed me. On top of INFJ my rising sign is scorpio, so I know I scare people! I try to keep my smiley face on, so they don't see my intensity.
Wow wow wow! I can’t believe this because no one gets me and you’ve explained it 10 minutes. I don’t know what to even feel about this 🤷🏻♀️
I can relate. Fortunately we can now at least share on the Internet
1. INFJ's knowing themselves & others;
It's easy to mistake our 'ramblings' as doubt or uncertainty, as if we don't really know ourselves. But let me assure you, we definitely know exactly who we are. We are deeply introspective and brutally honest about it. Down to the most disturbingly dark obscure details about ourselves-how we can be perceived, the contexts in which we exist, the reasons and motivations behind our actions, the intentions, the consequences, etc --and how all these aspects have an intricate meaning, role and place within the entirety of oneself in any particular moment or situation.
In fact, we often understand others to the same depth, sometimes even better than they understand themselves.
The perpetual challenge lies in communicating this depth. Most people, regardless of whether they know themselves fully or not at all, tend to operate within a narrow range of self-perception. Many lack the internal drive to grow or expand mentally, remaining cognitively oblivious and, consequently, incapable of comprehending extensive complexities beyond their own experience.
- Even those who are highly capable and self-aware, still functioning within their 'limited' combination of traits, preferences, and behaviors-descriptors like generous, aggressive, lazy, or adventurous for example-that's just a specific portion from the full spectrum's scope of being.
For us INFJ, it's different. -- We are simultaneously like anyone and everyone else and yet like no one at all...
Because we, on the other hand, can naturally access and utilize the entire spectrum's options and possibilities possible. We can swap them in and out at will, deliberately adjust intensity, rearrange them to fit any scenario or influence any person, experiment with new combinations to test resulting reactions or just for fun, and have developed countless situational templates. Yet, no matter how much we adapt or adjust, it’s still always just an expression of who we are fundamentally.
This fluidity makes explaining the complexity of our core-especially in relation to that ever-shifting state-nearly impossible in (casual) conversation.
- - - Truthfully though, it's not really the challenge that would prevent us from wanting to try, if asked. Outside a particular few that are capable, we've learned very early on, that talking about this crap with basically anyone will almost certainly make you sound/come across as some arrogant douchebag that thinks they're special or something lol. Even knowing exactly what I mean and my intent, I agree that their cringe-fest is valid if they don't get what you're talking about hehe!
All spot - on, Jay, as I have been ghosted on various occasions after helping people and by people who "open up to me" spontaneously. As we are so honest and open ourselves, I think "clearing the air" is great but others often regret it. Yet, it is amazing how many people regard me as their best friend, even people I hardly know. Even at 73, it is so reassuring to hear your videos, after a long, very confused and often difficult life. And yes, I still do have all these traits you list. Another good thing is that I finally accept me for who I am and am delighted that we have so many positives to offer. I truly believe that we are a force for good.
🙏 I believe we are a positive force as well!
Being brutally honest with my opinions often intimidates people oh well !
Yep! I'm sick of this shit is my new t shirt. I once answered the question 'is my partner cheating on me with my best friend'? That friend ended my friendship and stayed with her cheating partner and best friend 😢 Being an INFJ is extremely difficult and hurtful. It is a paradigm shift that no one is prepared to accommodate. Cognitive bias, cognitive dissonance mean we are simply outcasts and used. The hardest part is thinking about others all the time when they think about themselves. It leads to self deprecation to tune/mirror them. Life is like screaming in a soundproof room until you get Fd over enough to avoid people who simply see you as in need of therapy and medication/pathologized for being yourself. The real question is WHY is their way the way? Selfish bastards.
learn to set boundaries that you can live with
@@bonnie_gail that is rather a small comment for an INFJ... can you share your life experience around boundaries? It is interesting truly!💚
@@AHoney-z9c cool thanks. I have huge boobs - like bazookas! And a Master's degree in Social Work that helps. But still, I must confess, I need those fembot automatic fire machine ones to get rid of all the abusive parasites. I do "the decision" where I make a decision I'm done and then silently walk away. The reason this is so successful is that by the time "the decision" is made, it is me trying to carry the relationship... no one has driven over to my house and asked about why... It is telling. No one gives a shit about you unless they want something. Aka bastards.
This is OUTSTANDING! My compliments! This is precisely correct! Thank you! Thank you!
Thanks for the offer to talk. My psychotherapist beamed with delight when I informed him of this discovery.
This was so validating ❤
Danke!
Thanks so much for the donation, I truly appreciate it!
Jay
This is the best video on INFJ personality that I have watched. Thank you so much!
You're so welcome!
Good to hear you… 💯
So good! All of these are true. I really appreciate your content. Feels great to hear someone articulate and understand my infjness and relate so fully. 🏆
Я очень хочу что бы люди не останавливались бы только на банальных вещах и образно говоря не смотрели бы себе под ноги а видели больше, намного больше всё что нас окружает... Мир так прекрасен, глубок, загадочен, непостижим и такое счастье мир открывать.... Но люди почему то не хотят это видеть.. Печально...
The events in one's life are reflections of one's inner universe. If a situation keeps happening, pay attention to the lesson you are refusing to learn.
Furthermore, the idea that others are afraid of INFJ personalities is based on an untreated fear of the subconscious mind, it is based on the ego.
Be careful about the importance you give to titles. The desire to feel powerful or superior to others can prevent you from seeing the truth. Yes, we humans have much more power than we are taught, but this power does not remain where there is a lack of humility.
Know thyself!
I can’t stand gossiping! I feel completely misunderstood & no one gets me, ever. I’m so tired of being blamed for things out my intentions misconstrued. It’s draining, exhausting!
Thank you for the new feature "chat with Jay"!
🎉❤ Absolutely 💯 ALWAYS enjoy ur videos. Its so nice to have this kind of understanding, finally!! I had a hard time growing up.i will say my intuition got me out of alot of unsafe situations tho., People definitely thought i was weird,i was me anyway an i knew i was coming from good intentions an if others didn't see that then that wasn't my problem. Self reflection is one of our great qualities to,i didn't realize not everyone does this. I so appreciate ur videos ,thanks Jay
XO Jessica
Good morning and thank you for quite an excellent video. I also saw the video you prompted your viewers to see after this video ended and it was also excellent . A bit repetitive but in a good way. I’m writing this with a thought for you to consider regarding, the evolution of a satisfying relationship for INFJ in the world. There are lots of influencers with RUclips channels that will give people information about the status quo. Your video is an excellent example of one of those videos. Might you consider offering some advice to INFJ‘s on how to successfully function with their traits in a world that doesn’t appreciate their traits. One obvious solution is to work on oneself to get very comfortable being alone, which I have done over the years and has served me well at this time of my life . If there are ways you can suggest, not to overcome the INFJ is personality traits, but to use them in order to fit in better and find people to relate to a satisfactory connection. that would be greatly appreciated. As logical as I am, short of subduing, ones basic INFJ’s tendencies I don’t see great avenues for connection with people who don’t like the core values of who you are, as you edified your video. But again, if you have some suggestions, that would be great. I definitely would and I suspect most INFJ’s would appreciate it as well. Again thank you for this video and all your videos. There was a point that you made in the presentation that shined a light on an issue I was dealing with regarding Interpersonal relationships, and I greatly appreciate it. If you’re interested, it was that while I may crave deep meaningful intimate conversations as obvious as it sounds, I wasn’t fully aware that other people crave Lite superficial meaningless conversations with the same intensity as I do deep conversations. Doesn’t change the end results of not connecting with them, but it helps me better understand their rejections. Again, thank you for your content, and I look forward to your future videos. Have a great rest of the day.
This is 100% true people would get baffled with how they’re able to spill their secrets without me trying anything even when meeting them for the first time. They feel freaked out - I’ve had some ask me what I’ve done to them.
They’ll end up skirting around me, running away after and the fake people instantly hating me. 😂
Wow. You’re right. They don’t want to speak to you after they revealed something very private to you.
Very true... I am often thrown out of classes, being told I intimidate people with my deep and complex logic, too passionate about my moral compass...
I love and accept myself. I didn’t always do that but I do now thanks to videos like this. Thank you for helping me understand myself better xoxo
Thanks for this video! This is exactly what i am experiencing at work right now. Greetings from Denmark!
You’re welcome!
Another simple explenation is related to the I, because introverted people subcosciously but constantly send output that keep people at distance
As usual, accurate, well illustrated, concise and helpful! I'm glad to be INFJ more than ever due to this "club."
number 4 is my big frustration at my work place! But this whole video speaks to me.
let the beard come in but yes to everything you said especially with people who confess their soul then get mad at me
LOL! I may grow a Santa beard for the winter!
@@INFJcircle it looks good on you
Yes, I’ll check it out, ty❣️ Good reminder to resist devolving into the divisive political fray, for instance, when viewing the “types” behavior that is outrageous.
OH THANK GOOODNESS
IM NOT ALONE
I do enjoy your videos the most. ❤
I appreciate that!
The INF[Jay] Godfather 🪄🎅🏼💜
😂
Very refreshing to hear content that resonates 100% with my experience
This is the confirmation video I needed. Ticked all the boxes. It's a wonder this isn't fine at a younger
Done at a younger age so that the children can learn their best self for living life successfully according to their natural strengths. Be able to point them in the right education direction.
We ARE kind of “Magical”! …🤣😊
Thanks you always seem to help me be ok with myself
Glad to hear that
You know what’s really scary?
Supermarket sushi.
Agreed
i personally use my intuition to read people when they come to me and i immediately know who could really benefit from my advice or not. 99% of people dont so i learned to not be there for them even when they suffer, because they are not open to change.
Great video, Salute Salute!
Appreciate that
@@INFJcircle No doubt! Bossman, how are you doing? I'm checking in, gotta make sure we good
That shift in position because of our fear of conflict is not a good thing LOL. I have seriously freaked some people out. Boundaries need to be strong, when I started setting them I was really surprised by how well they were accepted. I think most people get this naturally, the NARC relies on weak boundaries.
I started fighting my natural inclination toward agreeableness by using a 3 second pause. Wanna see intimidation, let me stare at you for 3 seconds after you ask me a question, I mostly use this at work but apply it elsewhere, I have been fitting in with a new work group and applying a compromise trying to fit in organically. There is one guy that has been making this very difficult for me. He is a taker, someone that spreads a lot a little farther than he should and expects all to bend to his desires, I just figured out he is immature and started treating him like a child. I tell him no, that's not how this is going to happen, work, go. Pat him on the head when he is a good boy.
I just recently pulled out of a group chat of women who I was quite frankly just acquaintances with. They had deeper levels of friendship because I knew they were getting together without me. When I left the conversation I had a few reach out wondering if they offended me. I just said that they were all great people and I loved them but I didn’t feel a part of their group. I know they’re perplexed by this but for me to live my authentic life I can’t have these shallow “friendships”. They are draining and make me feel like I’m in pretend mode.
Has anyone else who's an infj been called a hypocrite, I have, 30 yrs ago and it still bothers me and I ponder over that...I think it's because I feel we infjs can understand others so well, which perplexes others, any thoughts?
Good stuff
Appreciate it
Spot on.
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وَإِذْ قَالَ اللَّهُ يَا عِيسَى ابْنَ مَرْيَمَ أَأَنْتَ قُلْتَ لِلنَّاسِ اتَّخِذُونِي وَأُمِّيَ إِلَهَيْنِ مِنْ دُونِ اللَّهِ قَالَ سُبْحَانَكَ مَا يَكُونُ لِي أَنْ أَقُولَ مَا لَيْسَ لِي بِحَقٍّ إِنْ كُنْتُ قُلْتُهُ فَقَدْ عَلِمْتَهُ تَعْلَمُ مَا فِي نَفْسِي وَلَا أَعْلَمُ مَا فِي نَفْسِكَ إِنَّكَ أَنْتَ عَلَّامُ الْغُيُوبِ ﴿۱۱۶﴾And when Allah said: '( Prophet) Jesus, son of Mary, did you ever say to the people: "Take me and my mother for two gods, other than Allah?" 'Exaltations to You, ' he said, 'how could I say that to which I have no right? If I had said that, You would have surely known. You know what is in my self, but I do not know what is in Yours. Indeed, You are the Knowledgeable of the unseen. (116) مَا قُلْتُ لَهُمْ إِلَّا مَا أَمَرْتَنِي بِهِ أَنِ اعْبُدُوا اللَّهَ رَبِّي وَرَبَّكُمْ وَكُنْتُ عَلَيْهِمْ شَهِيدًا مَا دُمْتُ فِيهِمْ فَلَمَّا تَوَفَّيْتَنِي كُنْتَ أَنْتَ الرَّقِيبَ عَلَيْهِمْ وَأَنْتَ عَلَى كُلِّ شَيْءٍ شَهِيدٌ ﴿۱۱۷﴾I spoke to them of nothing except that which You ordered me, that you worship Allah, my Lord and our Lord. I witnessed them whilst living in their midst and ever since You took me to You, You have been the Watcher over them. You are the Witness of everything. (117) إِنْ تُعَذِّبْهُمْ فَإِنَّهُمْ عِبَادُكَ وَإِنْ تَغْفِرْ لَهُمْ فَإِنَّكَ أَنْتَ الْعَزِيزُ الْحَكِيمُ ﴿۱۱۸﴾If You punish them (for their disbelief), they surely are Your subjects; and if You forgive them, surely You are the Almighty, the Wise. ' (118) قَالَ اللَّهُ هَذَا يَوْمُ يَنْفَعُ الصَّادِقِينَ صِدْقُهُمْ لَهُمْ جَنَّاتٌ تَجْرِي مِنْ تَحْتِهَا الْأَنْهَارُ خَالِدِينَ فِيهَا أَبَدًا رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُمْ وَرَضُوا عَنْهُ ذَلِكَ الْفَوْزُ الْعَظِيمُ ﴿۱۱۹﴾Allah will say: 'This is the Day the truthful shall benefit by their truthfulness. They shall live for ever in Gardens underneath which rivers flow. Allah is pleased with them, and they are pleased with Him. That is the great winning. ' (119) لِلَّهِ مُلْكُ السَّمَاوَاتِ وَالْأَرْضِ وَمَا فِيهِنَّ وَهُوَ عَلَى كُلِّ شَيْءٍ قَدِيرٌ ﴿۱۲۰﴾To Allah belongs the Kingdom of the heavens and the earth and what is in them. He has power over all things. (120).
100%! what a ride!
It was perfectly said. I've known this for over fifty years.
I love your videos.
Anyone other INFJ's experience this or something similar? I very clearly remember in highschool, the groups of people would seperate themselves within the school between classes: Nerds and the science types bottom floor by the science labs, Goth's ground floor middle, Jocks upstairs in the middle, stoners by the lunch room. Back to my point, I interacted with everyone, and was alone. Because I would not be tied down to a clique, and when beef started I would not picks sides - so as fools do, "If you're not with us, you're against us."
I was always amazed on how people would dig there heels in on their social group identity. Why not talk to everyone it's not that hard?.... For most of the wolrd it is for some reason. Being older I accept that is how things are, but I still don't understand it.
Could you create a video on how to embrace (acknowledge, accept and integrate) the INFJ shadow? Thanks.
I have the INFJ stare, makes them crumble without a word!
Thank you, that's very generous of you but I am not ready to talk, yet. It's not you, It's me but thank you me dear : )
I find that my understanding of emotions and people's intentions can weird people out but I find the distancing happens when they don't want to admit what I observed about them is true. I either get push back or ignored. As for the darker side of me, when I clap back about an issue that has built up, my intuition usually plays into my argument which always baffles the other person. They can't seem to understand how I came to that conclusion even if it's true. I know I'm intimidating but I'm just being honest. So my struggle in finding people I can be real with is real. Hence, I will hold myself back a lot. Solitude has become my friend. LOL
Sometimes I assume everyone feels what we feel and see what we see, sometimes I assume everyone is as intelligent as I am,., I will get anxiety seeing what is going to happen 5 steps into the future, when others don’t see it.
As a 🌈 INFJ bloke, I wonder what it would be like to meet another 🌈 INFJ bloke?
What would the Conversations be like?
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But we are magical and do cast spells...
We are living in a time of great deception and lies. Most people have no desire to seek truth in all things. Living your life on a foundation of lies will not end well for you. The only people that can be helped are those who are open minded. We are all here in this time for a purpose. Without Jesus, you will be going around in endless circles. He is our only hope. God bless
I've never felt intimidating, just rejected.
We want everyone to get along, except cast out narcissists to their own group. 😅
Think that's the only enemy we have.
I currently moved to a new role, to escape a micro-manager.
His thirst to catch me out, even for using Google, even if I used Google for work, my explanations for it were cast aside and I'd be reported.
My wings were clearly being clipped.
Then I was hated for moving on, and not wanting to be a part of group where I'm so isolated and under a microscope.
Unfortunately our rebel side tends to help facilitate a narcissists smear campaign.
So in my new role I will take no risks, as much as some things seem stupid to me, I will do them to avoid being at the mercy of these people.
I will document everything to counteract any gaslighting that comes my way this time.
It’s a delicate balance but micromanaging can kill our enthusiasm- best of luck!
I just don't get why the guys who show high interest towards me at first suddenly start to avoid me and hide from me
we definitely do share the same gaze similar eyes ,
what's your enneagram tritype ?
are you familiar with socionics?
is this really the stuff you want to talk about do you have esoteric occult or metaphysical videos?
How do you know these stuff?
@@Aun-jq8oi how do you mean ?
@@Heyokasireniei468sxso Because you're an INFJ, I suspect you went too deep in the rabbit hole, and you do not want to go out because you find the physical world either too uninteresting or intimidating. Like me, you created this imaginational world inside you and you're stuck in this perpetual loop. I'm hoping that I am wrong.
I smile so warm and sweetly but people find me still intimidating. When I start talking, those who aren’t intimidated start being intimidated. Hahahaha oh well at least I tried. 😂
I go to therapy and I feel like I make my therapist uncomfortable 🤷♀️🙃 I am/can be very outspoken and I talk with my feelings which makes some people uncomfortable 😏
I truly hope your conviction is strong enough to tell some, likely most, who you speak to, that they’re living a lie in saying that they are infjs. It will be a test because there’s the financial conflict of interest that would cause. I imagine your conviction supersedes that. The other part is trying to explain that they’re essentially liars. To others and to themselves. Which will destroy their ego. And that would prove your point. They’d never say it though. I know if you said that to me, I would be indifferent to your opinion (in that regard). And I’d be the first to say I doubt my typing first and foremost. Because if nothing else all the cognitive functions would exist on a spectrum. Making the possibilities and amount of personality types infinite. Everyone could find intuition in their lives or believe we have empathy (even if we don’t) Because how would you know if you didn’t know? But you’d almost want to believe, or at least want others to, that you have an identity within something that’s more than the basic numbers we all are in a way. Sorry for the rant. Just wanted to give a friendly reminder that you’ve a responsibility to speak and even stand on the truth. I hope the egos in the comments come at me. I hope they start with “I’m an infj, and…”. Cause existence is super dark when you have to identify as yourself before something that makes you feel like you belong somewhere…which again disproves that typing. So come at me, I’ve got plenty of rope to make your noose. 😮😂😂 You always make good, unique content and you have a meditative voice. I admit there are much worse things going on everywhere. I’m just tired of people, honestly. And to clearly see how many are lying in order to safeguard the trash they are really bringing to the table, is maddening. Especially because I’ve lost so many people in my life when we came to that point that I had to tell them what they were hiding. They went and hid from me, forever. And I will always wish they hadn’t. Not for me. For them and for the world. 😢
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Couldn't have worded it better! 👏👏 Welcome to the gang 🔥🔥🔥❤😼
❤😂 2:51 I thought it was just being nice
Do INFJs consider themselves to be late bloomers?
I was!
I am only able to have any rides with anyone, which somehow, i knew what characters and flaws they are, maybe it is painful to have that ride, the least i could do is to just observe...