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15:14 #12 - Disagree with the relationship example. Not so black and white and trivial: the legal, financial and social world is stacked against men and they are maybe being careful. The ROI is negative for a lot of men and the risk is through the roof. If was strictly a business risk/reward proposition the result would be a hard pass.
I had two emotionally immature parents. They had me convinced that the whole world was like this - and that I myself was the problem. Eventually I learned the truth, though.
Anytime an adult in my family told me that I would understand when I got older, it meant that they were tripping because of their issues. If I was being subjected to psychological torture by someone with intel on me, and the torturer said "you'll understand when you're older," I would recognize that this person knew they were messed up and that their trauma driven job choice was just driving them into a pit of despair.
Same, only it was the entire family in my case...yes both sides. What was infuriating is that they KNEW I was pointing out obvious problems but they willingly chose ignorance for the sake of saving face and petty pathetic pride. ...so yeah, I'm married now & SO far away from that toxic AF quagmire. Thanks for the reminder that I was the reasonably normal one. Not without my own faults & flaws, mind you, but being used as a living security blanket would've even had Linus questioning himself.
I was raised by an emotionally immature parent. And she is still this way. I am trying to learn how to balance this parent and not letting the toxicity affect me.
I was in my 20s before I discovered that #5 is a huge issue for a *lot* of people - they simply can't stand being alone with their thoughts. I grew up in a large family, so peace and quiet were precious.
To lighten the pt, experiment with volunteers ask to choose betw stay alone (no distractions)in empty room and given self electric shocks, majority?%? of them rather choose the painful choice.🥴🤣
Eat or be eaten, kill or be killed, Break up with her first or she will cheat on you then blame you for it! Don’t marry young wait! Don’t let anyone rush you! Kick your bosses ass they will respect you for it! Never partner with an angry person its bad for business! Take advice give advice fuck it just do what you want to do! Don’t plan strategize! No matter where you go there you are! Don’t end up show up!
EQ. I'm guilty of part of #6, starting at 8:15. I have a hard time accepting praise, and I never feel my accomplishments are good enough. I often think I haven't done enough. Point is however usually my accomplishments *are* good enough, and I've usually done enough. Thanks for this video, Alux!
I am the same, and the opposite is true for me as well! For example, I don't think I've done a lot work when I'm praised for it, and; when I DO feel like I've done a lot of work, it isn't noticed. It's like a constantly want to feel negative about it.
I kinda feel that way. I don't like getting compliments not because I have low self esteem but because it feels belittling. It also shows me that those people don't understand me. A compliment does nothing for me, giving me autonomy is what I'd need to feel "valued".
Not bad however I respectfully disagree with a part of #6 . Having a hard time accepting praise and always wanting to do better is a trait of humility and perfectionism ( self criticism if you will). That should be eliminated from a sign of emotional immaturity.
#EQ Thank you! This has been a great reminder for me to realize that we may grow and become emotionally mature, but, because we are humans, we can from time to time unconsciously fall back in our old ways ... Excellent video to analyze and try a reset...
Maturity is a whole life journey ... every time you think i am fully mature now you will find that you still fall in mistakes ... don't give up keep learning
I'm sure everybody can be immature at certain times, what matters most to me is that it doesn't affect another person when it happens and that I have recognised it, in that order. None of us are perfect but we can all grow.
1. You are emotionally manipulative 2. You refuse to apologize when you screw up 3. You are often the victim 4. You only enjoy talking about your self 5. You never spend time with yourself 6.the world doesn't deserve your potential 7.you have your own truth 8. Other people success annoys you 9. You are always working 10. Black and white mentality 11. You shield your insecurity with humor 12. You break or walk away fast 13. Minor inconveniences screw your day 14. You are jealous of Other people relation to your friends 15. You crumble easily under stress
When I was teen teachers and adults often said to act grown up and mature . But when I was a caddie at premium golf course I witnessed doctors and lawyers act like babies , crying , throwing clubs , rolling on ground in tantrums , abusing us caddies . Me and my fellow caddies laughed our asses off at them swearing to never act like grown ups 😆😆😆😆
..hey in defence of these professionals.Very stressful work situations and responsibilities. Why not let off steam amidst spreading jest,self mockery..
@@tanchingyueen7854 I’m pro business owner with lots of stress . Never take it with me and mutate people don’t . Intelligent people don’t make excuses for being an ass either . I wish I had a phone camera back then cause was hilarious 😆
EQ!!!! Along with this, I do feel that people confuse being empathic with being emotionally intelligent. As much as being an empath is a beautiful gift, the problems may arise when you don't know what to do with them. This was a great video and I will be sharing it with others. Thanks for producing and sharing this topic.
EQ. I have learned a lot from you video. I take responsibilities for my shortcomings. As a man writing this, I have hurt people with my emotional immaturity and I have made amends for it.
EQ I admit, I am almost 34 years of age, and at times this video hit me square in the face, and it’s helped me to go forward and realize what things can be altered, and what things can be changed, to better myself, thank you Alux!!! Your videos show truth and they are well Worth the investment of time to watch.
Day 3: Inputs OVER outcome! I look back on this year and while I enjoyed the first part, then the markets went down at the startof the summer , and most of my net worth took a hit along with it so now i’m seeking to make the rest of this year worth it and me focusing on inputs over outputs is a step to get me there!
#15 is probably a major problem for me; Everytime I see something I’ve never done before like a math problem, I feel inferior & emotionally fall apart on the spot. As soon as I get the concept, I have more confidence. I need to seriously reflect on my insecurity of falling apart emotionally so quickly just because I’m still learning.
Wow thank you for you videos honestly i knew i was a bit emotionally constipated but this video was a real eye opener. We sometimes thing of ourselves as the best person in the world and dont even realize how far from the truth that is. Theses types of videos honestly have helped me grow a lot and keep helping me. Thank you for your videos
EQ, really enjoyed listening to this video. I can understand why some people are the way they are. I'll enjoy listening to it again. Really hits the nail on the head. Thanks Alux
*Think big, work hard, stay focus and succeed.* Keeping funds to invest still remains the best way to prepare for the unexpected. This practice helped me survive what came after my retirement.
@Marco Romeo There are many sectors to engage in and as well get good returns on your capital. Personally, I engage in prolific investments such as:-Launchpad IDOS, Crypto, NFTs and operate with a Financial Consultant.
@Marco Romeo I work with a CFP *(Donald Nathan Scott).* Quickly do an internet research with his full names as mentioned where you can easily get in touch and as well write him.
Great! ❤️ where your heads are!! It’s so lovely reading helpful information here. How sad it is that people would see this information but would wait on friend’s or family’s opinion before the make decisions that will change lives and improve their finances.
EQ. To add to the conversation that this video inspires, you are the sum total of the five people you surround yourself with. Be careful with who is in that circle. My Sister in law is a perfect example of a very emotionally insecure person. For years, it has bothered me. However, as I have continued to move forward with my life, I have learned therein lies the opportunity to guide, teach, and inspire her to be a better person. To whoever is reading this, be a guide for others. Learn from the school of life, in education, the workplace, or in general experiences to help guide those around you to a better place.
Sometimes an apology can be the wrong thing to offer. I've regretted apologising once or twice. If it's genuinely your fault yes, if it's not no. All it does is confirm to the one you're apologizing to your guilt and if in your heart you know you're not this is not good.
Some points can be considered right. Talking about the events with notify you as degraded person can also be sometime considered as a healing to many people and that is okay to take your ego, emotions and respect down in conditions where needed ❤️
00:00 - Intro 01:22 - You’re emotionally manipulative 02:24 - You refuse to apologize when you screw up 03:30 - You are often the victim 04:21 - You only enjoy talking about yourself 05:14 - You never spend time with yourself. 07:28 - The world doesn’t understand your potential 08:32 - You have “your own truth” 09:31 - Other people’s success bothers you 10:19 - You say work life balance is important to you, but you’re always working! 11:21 - Black and white mentality 13:32 - You shield your insecurities in sarcasm and humor 14:31 - You break up or walk away fast 15:31 - Minor inconveniences ruin your day 16:11 - You are jealous of other people’s relations to your friends 17:04 - You crumble easily under stress
If what she's saying is hard to hear, please seek out therapy and do the hardwork. I've been emotionally immature for years as a soldier, law enforcement agent, music teacher, etc. I've suffered tremendous childhood abuse yet decided to take control of myself 3 years ago at age 47. I honestly wasn't aware of my dysfunctional emotional state. You can overcome this!
I have to admit that number 6 suits me 😔😔 Excellent content! Videos like this, that help our society, need to have millions of views! I hope everyone watching this opens their mind to look at themselves and not at others.
EQ. I agree with all of these and I use these in my daily life thanks to my therapist! This helped me realize how toxic my family is! More so than I already did!
This is the best and realest channel ever I love how brutal you tell the truths. I am guilty of over 6 cases ,here I really look forward to making an adjustment on my life and the reflection to others as soon as possible. Thank you alux🙏🏿
Emotionally immature people can't simply decide to act maturely. For the most part they lack the required insight and knowledge to act differently. They don't completely comprehend the folly of their ways. People aren't as free to act in a responsible manner as miss Alux naively imagines.
Eq. Thank you for the phycological point of view on our perception of the world, on the core of people behaviour, reactions. Some of your points were unfamiliar to me. It's better to avoid connections with immature people than try changing their thoughts and lifestyle
EQ! There are a lot of positive thinking and motivational channels out here, but ALUX presents a lot of truthful things that many people are scared of. This is the channel that really gets you to look in the mirror! I would say that it takes a relatively emotionally mature person to enjoy the content that is presented on this channel!
I know someone who is quite like this at work. OMG, she is now in her 70s but has toxic character and overly immature at her age. Who wants to go to work with a colleague like this? 🤗😶🙄😬
Human condition. We all have the choice to evolve and become emotionally conscious, healthy, evolved and heal the mother wound. I’ve been guilty of some before until I commit to looking within. Asking for professional help is always the best investment. I have known a bunch of emotionally immature people and it’s hard to connect with them. Keep doing YOU. You are worthy. Keep betting on yourself. ❤️
Maybe the reason someone painted that 6 on the floor is to watch people argue about it. There were no other numbers to reference and in life we don’t always have all the information to know “right” from “wrong” and do the best we can with the perspective we have. “My truth” lives in the same space as “perspective is reality” and also “nothing is black and white (which you mentioned) it’s also illustrated in the mindset shift you made between being “depressed” and needing “deep rest” because how you look at things will determine you you interact with them and the results you get from your actions
5 plus 5 equals 10, the law of gravity on Earth will pull you down if you jump up, today is September 11th/ 2022, on a whole women are more emotional than men, and etc. In which these are all facts(not opinions, not perspectives, not I have my own truth, and etc.). And with these being all facts it makes it the truth. So any answer given that opposes these facts are false, and a lie, or a misunderstanding. But yet you got people who will argue against the facts of life because they're ignorant, or dumb, or playing a game. And it's these same people who love saying I have my own truth. But the truth of the matter is you can have your own reality of how you see things, but there is only one truth on how things really are.
I Have a car, thats highly coveted for trashing, track & back alley abuse & ppl trying to steal by constantly, following me everywhere I go, befriending & sabotaging. kinda stresses me out, I'm good unless they cross certain boundaries. I also got an ex with rejection & abandonment issues who along with her friends, who are constantly masquerading in get ups, mimicking, the reason & who she thought replaced her, push up bras & all, very toxic & always trying to befriend & poison. so yes I'm emotionally distant & unavailable, funny thing is, I once left somebody for that, or Really she left me & I didn't care,cause we never connect & other than her beautiful voluptuous body, she never shared anything, so barring the stalkers I'm balanced like an EQ
Wow, none of these red flags apply to me. That's such a huge relief. Though I suppose I do act a bit immaturelt with my elder sister. I didn't watch the full video before I posted my other comment so I am gonna put it here. EQ.
I'd send this video to my Ex-husband if I thought he could receive this information. I got rid of all the people in my life that is Emotionally immature. Now I've gotta be open to making new friends.
Hi Alux - I don't know if you can tell but I watch this video almost daily when I'm working out. I've watched your content for a long time and 2 days I was able to test it as I was stranded with 3 colleagues out of town 5 hours from the city. We had 2 failed towing providers after and ended up in a corn field and with 2nd degree burns cos it's summer where I am but I am happy to report that because of you guys I kept my cool, never panicked, I excluded my feelings and looked at things I can contribute instead. I went through it and came out better on the other end cos of you guys. Thank you.
EQ the most important relationship to developing a future is having a mentor but when life fluctuate in opportunities and your mentor isn't reachable what are the alternatives. Concerning you when opportunities are unaccesible and moments are differcult to optain. Why are the negative easier than the positive like for example having hopes of traveling to another country to be financially secured but the ticket for the flights are unreachable. Having a vision financially when chances are given to someone else without a plan because your mentor depends on the interest and visions of another. Having little chances to do almost anything when you are counting on resourceful inputs from people who are trustworthy to others but not the desirable applicant. Who do you turn to when your advisor doesn't see that an emotional problem can lead to anxiety and cause economic deductions regularly because of negligence. When illness is the financial rise for others to gain by solving the problem or trying to find a solution. When your phone doesn't have value because the apps are unusual to another phone that is the same model. Its a total corruption being left out on something you spent your whole life working on. Why a timely chance procrastinates by someone who isn't apart or doesn't add value. When infrastructure has fail because of unnecessary purposes or being forgotten or taken advantage of or being ignored or illness without being heal or doubts or when lies is the step up in life or stealing an occasion from another example premium outcomes or to outsmart someone forcefully. Life and being healthy is the stepping stone to any gain
Just a side note: When you do something wrong, it is important for the people around you to address the problem in a RESPECTFUL manner. We are already down on the floor because of our messed-up upbringing. There is no need to keep kicking and humiliate us any further. Just address the problem without treating us the same way our parents did when we were kids.
As a whole i am sure this is me. I dont split hairs and nitpick what particularly specific quality of said mindset. Its to be a general guide and indeed i will meditate on my character flaws because i and anyone can grow and elevate their level of consciousness. Bless all in the name of Jesus !
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Thank you for these videos
Please I want a summary of this video
I'm guilty of about 4 of these.
15:14
#12 - Disagree with the relationship example. Not so black and white and trivial: the legal, financial and social world is stacked against men and they are maybe being careful. The ROI is negative for a lot of men and the risk is through the roof. If was strictly a business risk/reward proposition the result would be a hard pass.
I had two emotionally immature parents. They had me convinced that the whole world was like this - and that I myself was the problem. Eventually I learned the truth, though.
That's the problem when you're raised by off balanced parents for it does shape your perspective on life.
Anytime an adult in my family told me that I would understand when I got older, it meant that they were tripping because of their issues. If I was being subjected to psychological torture by someone with intel on me, and the torturer said "you'll understand when you're older," I would recognize that this person knew they were messed up and that their trauma driven job choice was just driving them into a pit of despair.
Same, only it was the entire family in my case...yes both sides. What was infuriating is that they KNEW I was pointing out obvious problems but they willingly chose ignorance for the sake of saving face and petty pathetic pride.
...so yeah, I'm married now & SO far away from that toxic AF quagmire. Thanks for the reminder that I was the reasonably normal one. Not without my own faults & flaws, mind you, but being used as a living security blanket would've even had Linus questioning himself.
I was raised by an emotionally immature parent. And she is still this way. I am trying to learn how to balance this parent and not letting the toxicity affect me.
@@naturalhealth284 I know it's hard to do. I wish you the best.
It’s one thing to grow old; it’s another thing to grow up.
Great point.
People who work in retail, hospitality and travel have seen enough emotionally immature people. People over 40 are crying and throwing tantrums.
Definitely!!
I was in my 20s before I discovered that #5 is a huge issue for a *lot* of people - they simply can't stand being alone with their thoughts. I grew up in a large family, so peace and quiet were precious.
To lighten the pt, experiment with volunteers ask to choose betw stay alone (no distractions)in empty room and given self electric shocks, majority?%? of them rather choose the painful choice.🥴🤣
Eat or be eaten, kill or be killed, Break up with her first or she will cheat on you then blame you for it! Don’t marry young wait! Don’t let anyone rush you! Kick your bosses ass they will respect you for it! Never partner with an angry person its bad for business! Take advice give advice fuck it just do what you want to do! Don’t plan strategize! No matter where you go there you are! Don’t end up show up!
Emotional maturity ain't about age at all
At all
EQ. I'm guilty of part of #6, starting at 8:15. I have a hard time accepting praise, and I never feel my accomplishments are good enough. I often think I haven't done enough. Point is however usually my accomplishments *are* good enough, and I've usually done enough. Thanks for this video, Alux!
I am the same, and the opposite is true for me as well!
For example, I don't think I've done a lot work when I'm praised for it, and; when I DO feel like I've done a lot of work, it isn't noticed. It's like a constantly want to feel negative about it.
I kinda feel that way. I don't like getting compliments not because I have low self esteem but because it feels belittling. It also shows me that those people don't understand me. A compliment does nothing for me, giving me autonomy is what I'd need to feel "valued".
Not bad however I respectfully disagree with a part of #6 . Having a hard time accepting praise and always wanting to do better is a trait of humility and perfectionism ( self criticism if you will). That should be eliminated from a sign of emotional immaturity.
Saying that makes emotionally immature 😕
Perfectionism is nothing but insecurity.
Not in medicine or Surgery. You are both wrong!
It could go both ways
It’s true. “The enemy of good is perfect” often quoted by surgeons .
#EQ
Thank you! This has been a great reminder for me to realize that we may grow and become emotionally mature, but, because we are humans, we can from time to time unconsciously fall back in our old ways ... Excellent video to analyze and try a reset...
Maturity is a whole life journey ... every time you think i am fully mature now you will find that you still fall in mistakes ... don't give up keep learning
Yes I totally agree and that why the wise man is a old man or woman
true
My experience exactly
I'm sure everybody can be immature at certain times, what matters most to me is that it doesn't affect another person when it happens and that I have recognised it, in that order. None of us are perfect but we can all grow.
1. You are emotionally manipulative
2. You refuse to apologize when you screw up
3. You are often the victim
4. You only enjoy talking about your self
5. You never spend time with yourself
6.the world doesn't deserve your potential
7.you have your own truth
8. Other people success annoys you
9. You are always working
10. Black and white mentality
11. You shield your insecurity with humor
12. You break or walk away fast
13. Minor inconveniences screw your day
14. You are jealous of Other people relation to your friends
15. You crumble easily under stress
When I was teen teachers and adults often said to act grown up and mature . But when I was a caddie at premium golf course I witnessed doctors and lawyers act like babies , crying , throwing clubs , rolling on ground in tantrums , abusing us caddies . Me and my fellow caddies laughed our asses off at them swearing to never act like grown ups 😆😆😆😆
..hey in defence of these professionals.Very stressful work situations and responsibilities.
Why not let off steam amidst spreading jest,self mockery..
@@tanchingyueen7854 I’m pro business owner with lots of stress . Never take it with me and mutate people don’t . Intelligent people don’t make excuses for being an ass either .
I wish I had a phone camera back then cause was hilarious 😆
@@tanchingyueen7854 People who throw tantrums and have meltdowns cannot handle stress.
I’ve noticed that emotionally immature stay that way because they’re surrounded by enablers who coddle them. And the part on depression is gold! EQ!
EQ!!!! Along with this, I do feel that people confuse being empathic with being emotionally intelligent. As much as being an empath is a beautiful gift, the problems may arise when you don't know what to do with them. This was a great video and I will be sharing it with others. Thanks for producing and sharing this topic.
I feel very secure in myself but watching this video gave me massive awareness that I need to work on my emotional maturity. Thank you, Alux. ⭐ (EQ)
Facts 🦋💜
Well this video doesn't make me feel so bad about myself! Thanks Alux!
EQ. I have learned a lot from you video. I take responsibilities for my shortcomings. As a man writing this, I have hurt people with my emotional immaturity and I have made amends for it.
Amen
EQ I admit, I am almost 34 years of age, and at times this video hit me square in the face, and it’s helped me to go forward and realize what things can be altered, and what things can be changed, to better myself, thank you Alux!!! Your videos show truth and they are well Worth the investment of time to watch.
Day 3: Inputs OVER outcome!
I look back on this year and while I enjoyed the first part, then the markets went down at the startof the summer , and most of my net worth took a hit along with it so now i’m seeking to make the rest of this year worth it and me focusing on inputs over outputs is a step to get me there!
These videos really are getting better. I'd love to meet the team so we know how real yall are too!
I really want to meet the team more so that well spoken lady 🤣🤣🤣
hope I am not considered an emotional immature man, I guess I deal 🤝🤝💯
🤣🤣 also looking forward possibility seeing Alux team in person
What a reality check 💯
#15 is probably a major problem for me; Everytime I see something I’ve never done before like a math problem, I feel inferior & emotionally fall apart on the spot. As soon as I get the concept, I have more confidence. I need to seriously reflect on my insecurity of falling apart emotionally so quickly just because I’m still learning.
Thanks for bringing the familiar/original voice, greatly appreciate your response to this request!
Damn… 😮💨 this video slapped the taste out of my mouth… so much to think about and fix…
Damn Alux…
EQ…
Wow thank you for you videos honestly i knew i was a bit emotionally constipated but this video was a real eye opener. We sometimes thing of ourselves as the best person in the world and dont even realize how far from the truth that is. Theses types of videos honestly have helped me grow a lot and keep helping me. Thank you for your videos
I thought I'm mature enough! Thank you Alux for the gentle reminder. (EQ)
I’m emotionally immature & I want to be better. Thank you Alux.
This video is a real one, this takes guts….thanks Alux 🥂 EQ
You're welcome!
Emotional control - thanks for the Persistence . EQ. great show. some problems I have, but I work on them. Fix my life, and help other friends.
EQ, really enjoyed listening to this video. I can understand why some people are the way they are. I'll enjoy listening to it again. Really hits the nail on the head. Thanks Alux
This is a great video for other people /sarc Happy that Alux is keeping it real, but sometimes it's been getting *TOO* real!
This makes me think of former coworkers. I wish them the best.
Thank you alux lady and alux. You're like a parent who tells the hard truths and gives you a loving hug afterwards. EQ.
Frfr
Sheesh! This is A1!! I appreciate the extra therapy, Alux
This sounds like Borderline Personality Disorder
*Think big, work hard, stay focus and succeed.* Keeping funds to invest still remains the best way to prepare for the unexpected. This practice helped me survive what came after my retirement.
@Marco Romeo There are many sectors to engage in and as well get good returns on your capital. Personally, I engage in prolific investments such as:-Launchpad IDOS, Crypto, NFTs and operate with a Financial Consultant.
@Marco Romeo I work with a CFP *(Donald Nathan Scott).* Quickly do an internet research with his full names as mentioned where you can easily get in touch and as well write him.
Great! ❤️ where your heads are!! It’s so lovely reading helpful information here. How sad it is that people would see this information but would wait on friend’s or family’s opinion before the make decisions that will change lives and improve their finances.
I just found the professional's page online and wrote to him. Thanks for the recommendation 🙌
Alux lady seems to feel better :) thanks for spending some of your valuable time with us 🙏
Well this hit hard Alux, a video I never knew I needed
This video was really helpful even though it hurted a lot.
EQ. To add to the conversation that this video inspires, you are the sum total of the five people you surround yourself with. Be careful with who is in that circle. My Sister in law is a perfect example of a very emotionally insecure person. For years, it has bothered me. However, as I have continued to move forward with my life, I have learned therein lies the opportunity to guide, teach, and inspire her to be a better person.
To whoever is reading this, be a guide for others. Learn from the school of life, in education, the workplace, or in general experiences to help guide those around you to a better place.
EQ. Cause alux is the best teacher. I got 4yrs of MBA for free. Thank you guys.
That's why we built Alux
I've spent my whole life alone, I can't trust anyone. I've never been able to. Loyalty has an expiration date.
One of the best videos, it hit hard but truth always does. Thanks for such a relatable and teachable video Alux team!
Sometimes an apology can be the wrong thing to offer. I've regretted apologising once or twice. If it's genuinely your fault yes, if it's not no. All it does is confirm to the one you're apologizing to your guilt
and if in your heart you know you're not this is not good.
The thumbnail photo is priceless !!! 🤣
Getting caught up with the last four ALUX vids. It's gonna be a good day 😎
Start with this one Alex
EQ 69 balance in life is great 👍🏼
EQ 69 balance in life is great 👍🏼
Oh the original voice is back ! 🤗🤗🤗🤗! Your voice is a part of my family now ! Don’t leave again !
Some points can be considered right. Talking about the events with notify you as degraded person can also be sometime considered as a healing to many people and that is okay to take your ego, emotions and respect down in conditions where needed ❤️
00:00 - Intro
01:22 - You’re emotionally manipulative
02:24 - You refuse to apologize when you screw up
03:30 - You are often the victim
04:21 - You only enjoy talking about yourself
05:14 - You never spend time with yourself.
07:28 - The world doesn’t understand your potential
08:32 - You have “your own truth”
09:31 - Other people’s success bothers you
10:19 - You say work life balance is important to you, but you’re always working!
11:21 - Black and white mentality
13:32 - You shield your insecurities in sarcasm and humor
14:31 - You break up or walk away fast
15:31 - Minor inconveniences ruin your day
16:11 - You are jealous of other people’s relations to your friends
17:04 - You crumble easily under stress
Thank you
EQ.still not at the highest point on my way but accepting all the faults and strategically working on it💪
This is super true!!Thanks for this eye-opening video Alux.
Today Alux is in no a smiling mood... This was so direct😅.. . Thank you
This isn't the first time Alux has been bold & direct. For they were also this way when speaking about low value men.
This is an excellent true video. I suffered years of abuse by a person like this.
I did also...my x was a constant lier, and it seems to be part of the culture..
I'm glad the alux lady is back
If what she's saying is hard to hear, please seek out therapy and do the hardwork. I've been emotionally immature for years as a soldier, law enforcement agent, music teacher, etc. I've suffered tremendous childhood abuse yet decided to take control of myself 3 years ago at age 47. I honestly wasn't aware of my dysfunctional emotional state. You can overcome this!
i was surrounded by immature people i just realized i was always felt something wrong from them but i cant tell what is it now i know
I love the emphasis on learning...
I have to admit that number 6 suits me 😔😔
Excellent content! Videos like this, that help our society, need to have millions of views! I hope everyone watching this opens their mind to look at themselves and not at others.
wow , i just had a reality check with this one.
EQ! Thanks for changing my life Alux!
EQ. I agree with all of these and I use these in my daily life thanks to my therapist! This helped me realize how toxic my family is! More so than I already did!
@Alexander Johnson I am doing good! It’s been hectic but gets better each day! How are you?
@Alexander Johnson sure!
This is the best and realest channel ever
I love how brutal you tell the truths.
I am guilty of over 6 cases ,here I really look forward to making an adjustment on my life and the reflection to others as soon as possible.
Thank you alux🙏🏿
TQ Alux ,for lastest pt abt ..internal self cannot take/accept external self..so very ⚡💥
I like the infomercial BG ahahahha
I am guilty of half of what is said on this video. I am ready for change
You should be ashamed of yourself, but at least you are honest about it, and ready for change.
#6 hits me pretty hard.....
Emotionally immature people can't simply decide to act maturely. For the most part they lack the required insight and knowledge to act differently. They don't completely comprehend the folly of their ways. People aren't as free to act in a responsible manner as miss Alux naively imagines.
Whenever I encountered stress I always pray
Reflecting is the beginning to understanding yourself to change to the better version of yourself.
This is nice to know..I have to work on myself..Thanks for sharing 💕
EQ! Amazing video as usual 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾💯 Thanx Alux Team 💎
i must admit i have low EQ but i am trying to work on myself.
EQ. Although there are always things to brush up on!
Eq. Thank you for the phycological point of view on our perception of the world, on the core of people behaviour, reactions. Some of your points were unfamiliar to me. It's better to avoid connections with immature people than try changing their thoughts and lifestyle
EQ! There are a lot of positive thinking and motivational channels out here, but ALUX presents a lot of truthful things that many people are scared of.
This is the channel that really gets you to look in the mirror! I would say that it takes a relatively emotionally mature person to enjoy the content that is presented on this channel!
I know someone who is quite like this at work. OMG, she is now in her 70s but has toxic character and overly immature at her age. Who wants to go to work with a colleague like this? 🤗😶🙄😬
Human condition.
We all have the choice to evolve and become emotionally conscious, healthy, evolved and heal the mother wound.
I’ve been guilty of some before until I commit to looking within.
Asking for professional help is always the best investment.
I have known a bunch of emotionally immature people and it’s hard to connect with them.
Keep doing YOU.
You are worthy.
Keep betting on yourself. ❤️
E Q
Ahhhh the Alux lady blesses my ears again on a Sunday morning. Nice.
This channel is savage!! I LOVE it!! 🔥🔥
Edit: EQ!
Thank you for this video, now I know what to work on .
Thank you for the reminder to be humble and grow. Appreciate the powerful content. Thank you!
Maybe the reason someone painted that 6 on the floor is to watch people argue about it. There were no other numbers to reference and in life we don’t always have all the information to know “right” from “wrong” and do the best we can with the perspective we have.
“My truth” lives in the same space as “perspective is reality” and also “nothing is black and white (which you mentioned) it’s also illustrated in the mindset shift you made between being “depressed” and needing “deep rest” because how you look at things will determine you you interact with them and the results you get from your actions
5 plus 5 equals 10, the law of gravity on Earth will pull you down if you jump up, today is September 11th/ 2022, on a whole women are more emotional than men, and etc. In which these are all facts(not opinions, not perspectives, not I have my own truth, and etc.). And with these being all facts it makes it the truth. So any answer given that opposes these facts are false, and a lie, or a misunderstanding. But yet you got people who will argue against the facts of life because they're ignorant, or dumb, or playing a game. And it's these same people who love saying I have my own truth. But the truth of the matter is you can have your own reality of how you see things, but there is only one truth on how things really are.
Thanks for this eye-opening. Kindly create another one on how to get out of this. Have a blessed day
I Have a car, thats highly coveted for trashing, track & back alley abuse & ppl trying to steal by constantly, following me everywhere I go, befriending & sabotaging. kinda stresses me out, I'm good unless they cross certain boundaries. I also got an ex with rejection & abandonment issues who along with her friends, who are constantly masquerading in get ups, mimicking, the reason & who she thought replaced her, push up bras & all, very toxic & always trying to befriend & poison. so yes I'm emotionally distant & unavailable, funny thing is, I once left somebody for that, or Really she left me & I didn't care,cause we never connect & other than her beautiful voluptuous body, she never shared anything, so barring the stalkers I'm balanced like an EQ
You said she never shared her body. So does that mean you were not intimate with her?
@@kobiecamp1134 sorry, i meant her body was all she shared, but nothing emotional, no connection
Mind Mastery is awesome!
Yes it is!
This got me thinking deeply about everything
Good video
Thanks
Wow, none of these red flags apply to me. That's such a huge relief. Though I suppose I do act a bit immaturelt with my elder sister.
I didn't watch the full video before I posted my other comment so I am gonna put it here.
EQ.
I'd send this video to my Ex-husband if I thought he could receive this information. I got rid of all the people in my life that is Emotionally immature. Now I've gotta be open to making new friends.
Hi Alux - I don't know if you can tell but I watch this video almost daily when I'm working out.
I've watched your content for a long time and 2 days I was able to test it as I was stranded with 3 colleagues out of town 5 hours from the city. We had 2 failed towing providers after and ended up in a corn field and with 2nd degree burns cos it's summer where I am but I am happy to report that because of you guys I kept my cool, never panicked, I excluded my feelings and looked at things I can contribute instead. I went through it and came out better on the other end cos of you guys. Thank you.
I wish I could share this with as many ppl as I could so it will reveal the truth about them and how they go about treating ppl!
This describes my wife & my mother…
Welcome back Alux narrator!
Glad to be back
But she's been back forever.
I've dealt with quite a few people who confuse effort with results. Hell, I've done it myself occasionally.
Dear lord please keep people like this away from me and out of my life I pray 🙏🏿
EQ the most important relationship to developing a future is having a mentor but when life fluctuate in opportunities and your mentor isn't reachable what are the alternatives. Concerning you when opportunities are unaccesible and moments are differcult to optain. Why are the negative easier than the positive like for example having hopes of traveling to another country to be financially secured but the ticket for the flights are unreachable. Having a vision financially when chances are given to someone else without a plan because your mentor depends on the interest and visions of another. Having little chances to do almost anything when you are counting on resourceful inputs from people who are trustworthy to others but not the desirable applicant. Who do you turn to when your advisor doesn't see that an emotional problem can lead to anxiety and cause economic deductions regularly because of negligence. When illness is the financial rise for others to gain by solving the problem or trying to find a solution. When your phone doesn't have value because the apps are unusual to another phone that is the same model. Its a total corruption being left out on something you spent your whole life working on. Why a timely chance procrastinates by someone who isn't apart or doesn't add value. When infrastructure has fail because of unnecessary purposes or being forgotten or taken advantage of or being ignored or illness without being heal or doubts or when lies is the step up in life or stealing an occasion from another example premium outcomes or to outsmart someone forcefully. Life and being healthy is the stepping stone to any gain
Thanks Alux this is very eye opening
Just a side note:
When you do something wrong, it is important for the people around you to address the problem in a RESPECTFUL manner.
We are already down on the floor because of our messed-up upbringing.
There is no need to keep kicking and humiliate us any further.
Just address the problem without treating us the same way our parents did when we were kids.
This video is eyes opener to me that hi need help with some of this low eq thanks Alux👍
As a whole i am sure this is me. I dont split hairs and nitpick what particularly specific quality of said mindset. Its to be a general guide and indeed i will meditate on my character flaws because i and anyone can grow and elevate their level of consciousness. Bless all in the name of Jesus !