👋🏻Hey y'all! Hope you enjoyed the vid! What do you think about the 5 Love Languages?!❓ 🚨Come join my NEW Relationship Bootcamp! be.ultranormal.co/relationship-bootcamp?YTE107& - Chris
Yeah, stopping to think by a moment, it seems pretty odd the idea that love between two people will be strengthened exclusively by demonstrating it (e.g., they could try to love themselves more by trying to be better people, like more compassionated or more truthful). Until where I know, creating reasons and bonds for each one in the couple to admire each other is a better solution. But actually I don't know if the book try to sell himself as a holy problem-solver in relationships. It seemed to be only a categorization of main possibilities of demonstrating love (which not necessarily would remain the same forever to a single person).
Well balanced meal satiates. You have the favorite, the thing that stands out. And then you have all the others that are still good. Gottmans empirical count pf genuine postive encounters vs neg. Appreciation. Acceptance of appreciation. Little connectice "gifts" ("Its the thought that count".) There is no magic goju antioxidant berry. There is no magic LL. (And goin ghard on the "good spot" also isnt practical, haaaar)
Exactly this! 👆🏻 great point here. I love ice cream, but if I only ate ice cream day after day, and was only offered ice cream, I'd end up hating it. Or worse, I'd end up ONLY being able to appreciate ice cream and reject all other food. Getting what we *want* is nice, getting what we *need* may not feel as good in the moment, but is better in the long term. If someone wants words of affirmation and it's constantly given, then they can develop a habit of not being able to self-validate, etc...
👋🏻Hey y'all! Hope you enjoyed the vid! What do you think about the 5 Love Languages?!❓
🚨Come join my NEW Relationship Bootcamp! be.ultranormal.co/relationship-bootcamp?YTE107&
- Chris
Yeah, stopping to think by a moment, it seems pretty odd the idea that love between two people will be strengthened exclusively by demonstrating it (e.g., they could try to love themselves more by trying to be better people, like more compassionated or more truthful).
Until where I know, creating reasons and bonds for each one in the couple to admire each other is a better solution.
But actually I don't know if the book try to sell himself as a holy problem-solver in relationships. It seemed to be only a categorization of main possibilities of demonstrating love (which not necessarily would remain the same forever to a single person).
Absolutely, I think the current adoption of the Love Languages has drifted towards that, rather than it being the intent of the author.
Well balanced meal satiates.
You have the favorite, the thing that stands out.
And then you have all the others that are still good.
Gottmans empirical count pf genuine postive encounters vs neg.
Appreciation.
Acceptance of appreciation.
Little connectice "gifts" ("Its the thought that count".)
There is no magic goju antioxidant berry.
There is no magic LL.
(And goin ghard on the "good spot" also isnt practical, haaaar)
Exactly this! 👆🏻 great point here.
I love ice cream, but if I only ate ice cream day after day, and was only offered ice cream, I'd end up hating it. Or worse, I'd end up ONLY being able to appreciate ice cream and reject all other food.
Getting what we *want* is nice, getting what we *need* may not feel as good in the moment, but is better in the long term. If someone wants words of affirmation and it's constantly given, then they can develop a habit of not being able to self-validate, etc...