Hearing that out loud gave me some fresh perspective. It is both humbling and inspiring to think of learning the primary love languages of not only myself, but others, too, with the goal of finding ways to express love for someone in the way THEY love to be loved most 🥰 Thank you for sharing!
I really like the idea of thinking about how we like to express love and how we tend to understand that others love us, and I think it's interesting and helpful too to think of how others express love and how they can understand that someone loves them. I'm wondering if I should read the book, as I find a lot of the commentary around it tends to feel quite simplistic and reductive. I find it hard to believe that we all have a single love language. I feel like people often like and expect to give and receive differently, for example a wealthier person might demonstrate their love with gifts but might prefer to hear verbal gratitude rather than expecting gifts of a similar calibre... I find this whole idea really interesting and maybe even a useful framework for figuring out why someone doesn't notice or doubts your expressions of love (like how some people find "acts of service" to feel like interfering or trying to ingratiate) but I feel like we don't just have a single way that we like to be loved, especially when you consider the variety of loving relationships we can have in our lives.
So is it normal to like to give in one language, but not receive the same? Like I like to give gifts to people, but I do not want stuff myself, I just want quality time. Very interesting video though, I can absolutely see my two strongest on this, and the weakest, I absolutely hate being touched, if I let you touch me and don't cringe or give you the death stare, that is rare.
I've noticed I'm a somewhat more emotional person but physical touch can make me feel suffocated or trapped. Maybe it's with certain people. With gifts I feel like a bad guy if it does nothing for me. Idk I just really enjoy giving and recieving acts of service. Then words of affirmation. Quality time is middle of the road cause I was the introvert only child and entertain myself alright. Plus I need more decompression time than others. Physical touch is nice if someone doesn't expect me to sit still long. Gifts I figure I can just go get the thing myself. Although with being an acts of service type if someone fills in a basic I do enjoy that. This type of stuff is why it's so important to find your tribe lol
We all normally like all but in this sense there is always those 2 or 3 that speak to you better ... A natural preference something that you prefer much more than the others ... So ask yourself which one for the 5 is your natural preference
That’s what I though, so try to study yourself cause you’ll always have a hierarchy that’s in you about personality and feelings. So maybe you like all but one or two it’s the most important and it’s the way that even you treat the other person.
This material is a fountain of inspiration and fresh perspectives. A book I read with comparable themes guided my evolution. "The Art of Meaningful Relationships in the 21st Century" by Leo Flint
I do have a visceral aversion towards codifying human interactions in this way - as it seems akin to "paint by number" approach to relationships: while I understand that these books are an attempt to tease out and extract intelligence out of observations made of healthy couples, the application of the conclusions/advice derived from it however feels synthetic and absent of the purity of "naturalness". What muddies this even further is that, such "paint by number" approaches are then cloaked in a mantle of "openness" or "communication", or that "relationships require work/effort/compromise" which is hard to disagree with. But I do still feel that there is "something" that is missing - and perhaps the conclusions we drew prior to the application of these habits needs to be revisited, as the methods of analysis might be flawed, and that hidden "something" might still be out there ... undiscovered.
Agreed, and I think it's important that it's clarified that Chapman's education and counseling is largely within Southern Baptist doctrine and those from the same communities have spoken out at how this codification has been weaponized in domestic violence situations which the SB tend to ignore when not actively promote it. It can be an interesting tool in discussing how we experience and consider love, but only among many others and with its background in mind.
I teach similar things so I wouldn't necessarily be purchasing or subscribing, but you have a great warmth and presence - I would like to support you. Can you add a section for one time donations or "sponsorship" for another member?
what do you do when you want to tell your friends your love languages bc they don't show you love through them but you're scared or think it's embarrassing?
Hearing that out loud gave me some fresh perspective. It is both humbling and inspiring to think of learning the primary love languages of not only myself, but others, too, with the goal of finding ways to express love for someone in the way THEY love to be loved most 🥰 Thank you for sharing!
Your husband is my cousin! haha
Very very very good lecture given by you
My love language is Murica!❤
I really like the idea of thinking about how we like to express love and how we tend to understand that others love us, and I think it's interesting and helpful too to think of how others express love and how they can understand that someone loves them.
I'm wondering if I should read the book, as I find a lot of the commentary around it tends to feel quite simplistic and reductive. I find it hard to believe that we all have a single love language. I feel like people often like and expect to give and receive differently, for example a wealthier person might demonstrate their love with gifts but might prefer to hear verbal gratitude rather than expecting gifts of a similar calibre... I find this whole idea really interesting and maybe even a useful framework for figuring out why someone doesn't notice or doubts your expressions of love (like how some people find "acts of service" to feel like interfering or trying to ingratiate) but I feel like we don't just have a single way that we like to be loved, especially when you consider the variety of loving relationships we can have in our lives.
I think mine is touch. All are great but definitely touch.
Thanks for sharing these important concepts that help us all navigate the crazy experience of living and loving. xxx
❤ from Africa.
Best explanation 😂
So is it normal to like to give in one language, but not receive the same? Like I like to give gifts to people, but I do not want stuff myself, I just want quality time.
Very interesting video though, I can absolutely see my two strongest on this, and the weakest, I absolutely hate being touched, if I let you touch me and don't cringe or give you the death stare, that is rare.
Love your channel ❤
I've noticed I'm a somewhat more emotional person but physical touch can make me feel suffocated or trapped. Maybe it's with certain people. With gifts I feel like a bad guy if it does nothing for me. Idk I just really enjoy giving and recieving acts of service. Then words of affirmation. Quality time is middle of the road cause I was the introvert only child and entertain myself alright. Plus I need more decompression time than others. Physical touch is nice if someone doesn't expect me to sit still long. Gifts I figure I can just go get the thing myself. Although with being an acts of service type if someone fills in a basic I do enjoy that. This type of stuff is why it's so important to find your tribe lol
Is your lamp shade dirty? It is a distraction. However, your video is informative & I have shared it with my family. Keep up the good work.
I listened to the audiobook and it’s very legit
Awesome book! I learn so much from your channel! It is so helpful to me! Thank you so much
Thank you! God bless you!
What if I like it all? I have no clue what my love language is
We all normally like all but in this sense there is always those 2 or 3 that speak to you better ... A natural preference something that you prefer much more than the others ... So ask yourself which one for the 5 is your natural preference
This theory sukcs in my opinion
Its more about habits and speak to another person rather only habit thing
@@archniki_Thanks for saying that all good thoughts that matters. 5 sounds good he could've did this in 3
That’s what I though, so try to study yourself cause you’ll always have a hierarchy that’s in you about personality and feelings. So maybe you like all but one or two it’s the most important and it’s the way that even you treat the other person.
Mine is a combination of a one-trick Pony very complex in a good way
I'm interested in the course you developed. Many thanks 🙏
I think I have all the love languages as primary 😂
This material is a fountain of inspiration and fresh perspectives. A book I read with comparable themes guided my evolution. "The Art of Meaningful Relationships in the 21st Century" by Leo Flint
I do have a visceral aversion towards codifying human interactions in this way - as it seems akin to "paint by number" approach to relationships: while I understand that these books are an attempt to tease out and extract intelligence out of observations made of healthy couples, the application of the conclusions/advice derived from it however feels synthetic and absent of the purity of "naturalness". What muddies this even further is that, such "paint by number" approaches are then cloaked in a mantle of "openness" or "communication", or that "relationships require work/effort/compromise" which is hard to disagree with. But I do still feel that there is "something" that is missing - and perhaps the conclusions we drew prior to the application of these habits needs to be revisited, as the methods of analysis might be flawed, and that hidden "something" might still be out there ... undiscovered.
Agreed, and I think it's important that it's clarified that Chapman's education and counseling is largely within Southern Baptist doctrine and those from the same communities have spoken out at how this codification has been weaponized in domestic violence situations which the SB tend to ignore when not actively promote it. It can be an interesting tool in discussing how we experience and consider love, but only among many others and with its background in mind.
Love language implies how you like to give and receive love.
My love language is food.
Is that a lamp shade from Ed Gien’s estate?
It really helps .Thank you😊
Love your videos!!
Nicely explained . Thank you #instawise
Thanks!
I teach similar things so I wouldn't necessarily be purchasing or subscribing, but you have a great warmth and presence - I would like to support you. Can you add a section for one time donations or "sponsorship" for another member?
where is the link?
Can I get the code to take your class for free?
Hello I am very interested in your work
hi , I cna't seem to find the code could you please help me ?
My mom said to watch this
What if i fall into all of them?
The quality time love language is more in-depth than that and was pretty much glossed over in this video. I recommend you watch others.
Dust your lamp shade
what's all the black spots? Did find myself staring at it..
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What the heck jeez, WHAT IS YOUR PROBLEM?
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The Christian Churches Need to Learn and Adopt this to Save Marriages! God Bless you Sister, in the Name of Jesus Christ, Amen!
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Find out their Primary love language 1. words of affirmation, 2. physical touch, 3. gifts, 4. acts of service, 5. quality time
Gary Chapmen. What is your primary love language?
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what do you do when you want to tell your friends your love languages bc they don't show you love through them but you're scared or think it's embarrassing?