Experiencing Guilt or Shame
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- Опубликовано: 15 апр 2019
- Everyone has felt guilt and shame at some point and they are common reactions. However, those feelings of guilt and shame can be a part of a mental health problem.
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"I don't think anyone should look at me i'm disgusting" hit me hard failling in relationship push me back
My ex is disgusting he cheated and lied to me
it feels like i lost my soul when i did those things
Thank you I’ve been trying to get rid of the guilt in my head and be a happier person and this video helped a lot
I was being a fake/bad friend (basically outgrew my friends and still tried to hold on and knew I didn’t wanna be around like that) and didn’t realize til it blew up in my face and got cut off. Feeling fake/phony is one of the worst things you can feel as a man.
How do you feel now
@@Jay-rb6er not as bad, I rekindled and fell out again lol
You are strong enough to accept it
I feel guilty because I lied to someone and though they found out I didn’t tell them the whole story- and now I can’t tell them. This video helped but I still haven’t told them yet…
When i amberesed my sister in front of her friends and when we get home she always tells me that she'll not bring me anywhere with her i'll stay home only and i believe it and once she said if i wasn't stupid enough to go outside by myself i wouldn't have to bring her outside so i couldn't get hurt she said that kids at 11 went outside by themselves and i am the only stupid child that can't even do stuff by myself cause of my dad and when she got first time engagement she clearly abandoned me and i felt it was all my that i exist and then i thought it was all that stupid short spoiled brats fault that took my sister from me and all i want is to take revenge and when he got to my house he took advantage of me like that ordering me to buy bread and he had my room my bed and my stuff only i felt hate pride and thirst for revenge i wanted to take advantage of him but i couldn't cause he was my sister's man i should not disrespect him cause she will hate me forever that's why i started to bully him a little bit so he will get depressed but he played those crocodile tears to my sister and she asked why i was bullying him and i explained why then she said that and he was a grown ass man on his 30's had no job and did nothing but to sit and play playstation 4 he only let my brother play it and my sister was the one who paid for it and he thinks he has rights to do whatever he likes in my motherfucking house and finally they broke up and i was excited and then i felt a bit guilty because my sister has no happiness and i thought it was my fault cause people then looking at him i thought it was all his fault and he stole anything from me my sister my room and my life when got away from my life all i want is to break his skull but looking back then it was my fault that's why i avoid my sister when she ask me to go outside with her friends i don't wanna amberesing her
For years as a Jehovah Witness I always felt unworthy of God's love and the love of those around me for the actions I took when I was younger. The shame I felt of my self was intoxicating and self debilitating. I've learned after leaving the religion, that normally people don't hold you to such high standard and that it is okay to make mistakes. Thanks for the video.
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I developed a crush on one of my long time freind then we get to be closer. I thought things were going well so I confess and got rejected. I blamed her for playing with my feeling went on a social media rant and see nothing wrong with what I did until I learned that I was being creepy and breaking personal space the whole time, she always felt awful but say nothing because she care about my feeling as a friend I was also very rude and disgusting in manyways espacialy with inappropriate adult joke and language and when she saw my social media rants she was so upset and distrubed that she had to seek therapy and I would not know any of my wrong doing if she didn't comeback and gave me a reality cheack. Now I realize what I have done It was teribly selfish and disgusting and I can't ever see her agian.
I hope you get to see her so you can apologize one day. I find that’s a very important step Of Letting go of guilt and taking responsibility and apologizing to them. It’s very important that you don’t define yourself by what you did. Yes what you did was bad but that doesn’t mean you’re whole personality is shit. I hope you’re doing well
Same with me man. Nothing hurts more than being aware of how trash and embarrassing you are. Makes me feel like utter dogshit i dont know what to do
What's most important now is what you learn from this experience, don't let this happen again so you don't lose any more friends, good luck.
Actually I'm in your place . Can you tell me how she made you realise?
If everyone I have offended forgave me, then I’d forgive myself. However, they all hate me so I won’t ever forgive myself.
So go to whoever it is you feel guilty about, and tell them what you think, after a certain time if they still hold a grudge against you it will only hurt them eventually, and your biggest gift to them is to show them you are different and to say sorry wholeheartedly, ONLY if you really mean it.
God forgives us and so we can forgive other people... that's what we were taught recently...
✝️☮️🙂🙏♾️
Oh don’t be so hard on yourself..mistakes happen..we shouldn’t ruin a whole beautiful life thinking abt past..maybe try talking to those people if you can..find peace with urself
Realistically, you know what you did, and I don't.
How many months, or years, would a reasonable "sentence" be for doing what you did?
Was it minor, or major?
Have you felt guilty for that "sentence" of time already?
If so, your "sentence" is up.
If not, tell yourself when you will have served that "sentence."
Chances are, your "time" should work out to under two years.
Thinking about it, you can probably determine a fair date for when you will have reasonably suffered a proper amount of guilt?
Just an idea.
Thank u I feel the same way it was super nice to know that I am not the only one feeling this way thanks a lot this vid really helped
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Thanks for making me trying to feel better now.
thank you for making this video. ❤️
Guilt and shame are so overwhelming. I'm determined to do better. The anxiety isn't worth it.
I've done fkt up stuff I regret in the past and I can't tell anyone about it. My mom knows but it's not doing anything. I feel guilt every fucking day about it-
You're not alone.
I feel guilt and shame about my past, I just pray to God that one day I be free from my problems, it's so hard to live with guilt and shame but when we trust God everything is going to be fine it may be too long to heal your problems, all we need to do is be patience and trust God, I pray that all of people has mental illness will be heal and has peaceful life
Thank you for taking the first step and expressing your struggle. We want you to know you are not alone in how you feel. We hope you will check out the links to the resources in the description box for where to learn more and where to get treatment and support.
Ameen insha Allah
"Anyway"
The word "Anyway", is the pathway, to master guilt. Use it as a bridge, to become what you want to overcome.
Because when you become, what you want to overcome, you overcome what you want to become. "Anyway" begins as being consciously unconscious and being unconsciously conscious.
The simple, hard truth is that it's often difficult to integrate, when you have to carry the heavy burden of it. That's why it's good to go slowly with it. How to slowly go into cold water. You can even expand your comfort zone.
Enter suffering willingly.
If you willingly enter into suffering, you purify yourself of it. Because only if you can face the suffering, you can change it.
The courage to be strong is the shield against the manipulative fears that attack you. Nevertheless, being strong and not letting yourself be manipulated, is the courage to be strong.
A sacrifice for love, is a sacrifice worth dying for. We don't have to undo the things we do wrong or have done wrong in life. We die for it and thus sacrifice ourselves for love. Die for your negative qualities and live for your positive qualities. This is the sacrifice and salvation of the human spirit.
Positive and negative imprints in the early days largely determine who we are. Some are positive and some are negative. However, the negative imprints can be overwritten.
And how something begins only determines one's own end, the old experience and not the next new beginning of the new experience. We find new ways to leave old ways. This is how we find salvation.
The guilt we feel is the one that enslaves us. Only when we also remember our innocence, are we free at the same time.
I'm Sorry
For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow.
Master the guilt and regret by becoming one with it in a way that all resistance to it is accepted and integrated. Because guilt and regret are qualities of a good heart. To finally be free, apologize to yourself and so integrate the guilt and regret.
The solution to every problem is the problem itself. It came into existence and it will not leave you. However, the point of view changes, from a different perspective. This is how problems, become solutions.
No bad deed will ever be forgotten by the conscience. Treasure those bad deeds. They remind you, that you have not forsaken your humanity.
The patterns within us lead us like marionettes, on threads. Patterns are stuck resistances that can bring you a lot of suffering. Because if we fight them, we fight ourselves. The way out of the pattern, is therefore not possible, as a marionette in resistance. We can only become one with the patterns and resistances as a marionette and thus pull ourselves, by the strings.
Because in order to overcome something, you have to become one with it. It is the shift from the receiver within, to the creator within. Therefore I am not afraid. I am fear. I'm not in the dark, I am the dark. I don't project evil. I am evil. I am not suffering. I am the suffering. I don't feel guilty. I am guilt. This is the way of overcoming. Become it, overcome it.
At the same time, the patterns still exist. We have evil in us, that accuses the other evil in us. Evil accuses the other evil, as evil. And evil, that evil, accused of being evil, does not itself believe to be evil? Isn't the evil that accuses other evils of being evil, not evil in itself? If you really seek good, you will not find it in condemnation. When you realize that the condemned in you, is also the judge, then you can choose to drop the judgement.
The important thing is to look within yourself, for if you had the intention to harm someone, before you start blaming yourself, for creating something, that was not even in your control. And you will see that there is nothing to regret. Because the intention counts.
To get out of something, you have to go in. This is how you free yourself and at the same time, consciously, keep yourself captive. Because the paradoxical opposites, carry the respective opposites within themselves. This is the way out and the way in.
Pain is strength in disguise waiting, to be revealed.
The reaction determines the content. Whether something is good or bad is ultimately decided in your own mind. It doesn't live in anything or anywhere, but in your own mind's response to something. When you shift your perception of something in a more lovable way, even the worst on earth can become the best on earth.
I came here because yesterday i asked my friends to come with me to visit the girl i like, the girl lives with her uncle and aunt as neighbors then her cousins saw me on my bike otw to their house and they greeted me, it just sucked because they were in a car and i greeted them with a middle finger because that's how i'm used to with my friends. Then suddenly the car kept on chasing us idk why then i came to check my friends and then the dad of the cousin of the girl i liked approached me and if i did the middle finger thingy, i sad yes and then things heated up, the parents got angry at me, the dad wanted to punch me but ended up only slapping my head, i was wearing a bike helmet and it slipped in my eye, but after that, the guilt, shame, and self disappointment never went away. I was so mad at myself and kept blaming myself because why didn't I even think of the parents? then i reached out an apology message to theur daughter (cousin of the girl i like) their daughter then told me that they forgave me and told me not to do it again. Even though they said that, I haven't seen them or talked to them yet. I'm just nervous that if we see each other again idk how they would react. I'm just wishing that it doesn't affect my relationship with the girl I like since she likes me too.
Are u 5?
@@chrisawesome3091 Have some respect for people. We all mess up. He is nice enough to share his story.
@@robloxegy2565 I’m not being rude. His grammar makes him sound quite young and like he could seriously pull it off as a mistake
@@chrisawesome3091 maybe his first language isn't english. Don't judge so quickly.
@@dargoestofar9056 Nah. This is a 5 year old story
Thanks... this helped! It’s just I still remember that one thing that happened years ago I feel so bad... but this helped tho I don’t know if I can really forgive myself completely...
Same, I've been holding onto a thing for years and I haven't told a single person
It doesn't always stay in my mind but every now and then I think of it and it's hard to forgive myself
*I have a lack of guilt*
*My advantage and also my disadvantage.*
I thought I was getting along REALLY well with a girl I met and her friends told me “you should back off, what you’ve been doing is not cool”.
Not only do I feel rejected but I also feel incredibly ashamed.
In my case too, i wished i never treated my wife the way i treated her but im trying to move forward now. I love her and her happiness is the only thing i want now. So i can live again
I did a big bad thing that I caught by someone while stealing and I am feeling like dead .
How to come out from this situation
I just broke my sisters laptop and I feel so guilty about it the laptop does work bit its a little slow what should I do
Thank you
(FACTS OVA FEELINGS)-. Shame is Worse than Guilt Guilt is Be-lie-ving tha One has Done Bad where az Shame is Be-lie-ving tha One is Bad. Those of Us who is Conscious of watt hOUR Own Childhood did to Us r well Aware just how Damaging tha Be-lie-f can bee wen it is Control on to Adulthood
I feel guilty 24/7 for 2 years straight. I am 20 but in my teenage years I was a racist. I am extremely ashamed of myself and even have some self-hatred. It was let out at school once too 💀
She came to me in the sleeping hours
And she sang to me in the moonlight:
"Where did you dance when you baffled our chance,
And when did the motley bells chime?"
I summoned a verse from a chorus of blame,
But it drowned in the ghost of her song.
He came to me in the sleeping hours
And he called to me in the moonlight:
"Why does the fold now weep to behold,
And how does it feel to be free?"
I tendered the words from the tears of the same,
But they dried as the dawn came upon.
They came to me in the sleeping hours
And they whispered to me in the moonlight:
"What did you reap when you floated the keep,
And whom did you trust with the key?"
I buried my head in a cushion of shame -
And I woke to find them all gone.
Nice write
@@MichelleTorez Thank you. 😆
I black mailed someone after they stole $100 from me. He was a 12yr old child that was being raised by a disgusting family, and me black mailing him definitely made things worst for him.. I hate myself for threatening him over money. I know he's just a child, and I hate myself for doing it. I hope he forgives me in the future.. please forgive me Adrian
Thats the thing though, i CAN still do something about it. But i just wont.
Sit alone and face what's blocking you from doing something.
Assess what you can deal with and don't try to take too much at once and more than you can handle, it will only backfire and will burn you out, start small and reflect back on how much more you'll be able to face as time passes.
I’m here because I accidentally broke my friends computer and he started crying and I felt sooooo bad about it
My ex cheated on me with a girl he Saif was his cousin and when I found out the truth....so yeah I'm glad he is feeling guilt and I'd unforgivable. That was a vile hurtful thing he did to me....as I said glad he is experiencing that
What is your ex experiencing by the way?
What he did was bad but never wish bad energy on to someone .
let me tell yall something
today was Jin (frm BTS) birthday. I thought of uploading it to my insta story. BUT MY STUPID AUTOCORRECT MADE THE WORD JIN AS JIMIN. I then saw some messages in my freinds group. THEY WERE MAKING FUN OF ME THAT I WAS SOO DUMB. :( AND SADDEST OF ALL MY CRUSH WAS IN THAT GROUP.
How is that a guilt or shame 😭?
Guilt or shame
Teach your family first about this with Neighbours freinds are there or not with mother s and fathers
this video helped alot.
Thank you for the positive feedback! We're glad to hear this.
captions please 😏
Depression is synonymous with guilt.
Thank you for taking the first step and expressing your struggle. We want you to know you are not alone in how you feel. We hope you will check out the links to the resources in the description box for where to learn more and where to get treatment and support.
@@PsychHub Thank you.
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Shame and guilt are basically the same as embarrassment right?
Public speaking is evil!
guilt is more like regret,
So not pushing people out of the way to get the last candy bar is evil
I insulted my ex who has cancer, Now i can only die to make it right, apologies won't fix this
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first 30 seconds are NOT very helpful
Guilt can never be healthy
Guilt shows that you have realized you did something wrong, so that's a good thing, it allows you to think about the reasons causing your guilt, work on them and not repeat the behaviour.