i recently dropped out of medical school. Med school changed me. I wanted to become a doctor since i was 15 and started med school at 17 (its possible in germany). I have never been more sad, more depressed. I started having suicidal thoughts in my third year and failed an important exam for three times. If you fail three times you are not allowed to continue med school anymore. Right now I am kind of feeling the same as you. Identity crisis, what about my future etc. I am so thankful for this videos. As a woman of color i knew that medicine is a safe career for me because doctors are always needed. But putting my mental health first is more important. I am knows as someone who is successfull and this experience in my eyes destroyed that picture of me. But thats all in my head. I am still valueable, worthy and most importantly, alive. Thank you for this video.
Thank you for sharing this, I’m going through some struggles as well currently and your journey has told me to just go on. You’ve helped someone across the globe to get through their life, thank you stranger ❤️
I was preparing for med school entrances and instead of doing it in a healthy way I ended up being overly toxic with myself. I grew distant from my family who matter the most to me in this world. It was almost a wake up call because even if I end up being a doctor I'll have to follow up with this kind of packed lifestyle. Not having time for family and friends, not being able to recharge properly made me realise how much do doctors actually sacrifice for us. I'm still young and immature so I don't actually know if I'm ready for that kind of sacrifice because only preparing for entrances made me clinically depressed. Medicine is cool, but at the present moment I'm not strong enough to handle it. But I have other fields I'm interested in and switching to them! So it isn't all bad 💗 good luck to you, it'll be fine.
No shame in realizing something doesn't make you happy. Being a doctor sounds glamourus but it comes with massive amounts of shit eating. You'll find something you like.
I don't know you, but I'm so proud of you💜 I hope you find peace and purpose in this next chapter of life. You are not alone in this decision -- I chose *not* to pursue medical school because I, too, was worried about my mental health. Sometimes I wonder if I should have forged ahead, but I know in my heart that I don't have the resilience or physical fortitude for the long 36 on-call shifts, high-intensity environment, etc. I'm content with my decision to become an NP and support my team of physicians and NPs.....with more balance in my life ✨
Almost the same story for me. I also have pudendal neuralgia and interstitial cystitis which made medical school really really hard. And my classmates weren't happy at all with some benefits I had because of my condition. Now I'm a medical doctor and I've being practicing for almost 3 years. Pretty miserable though. I think I'm good at it, empathetic and always try to help others. But I'm still deppresed and I know this wasn't what I wanted for myself. I though I wanted this because I was always the best student in school, so the logic way was... Medical school for the top, right? A mentality that has been changing for a while, thanks to the universe. I got to 4th year and decided I hated it. But couldn't quit because of my family and money issues. Now I'm trying to pivot to a career as a concept artist. Elizabeth's videos have been a great discovery for my RUclips never ending research. You should be proud of everything you've tried, that's what I think. I like to phantasize I have to change my identity, change my country and career job. How should I do it? That helps me keep looking ways :3
I got diagnosed with ADHD at 30. That's when I realized why I was so immature. My brain was literally developing, probably never fully develop. After starting meds I finally understand what I want in life. I went back to uni, and finished my degree. No trying to go for md. I started exercising, and meditating and focus on my work life.
You’re pretty much my new golden find. I have never related to nor understood anyone more spiritually like I do with your content. There aren’t a lot of people who embrace and accept their chaotic nature, so this type of content is very rare. Being a chaos driven person myself, it’s so hard to find content that addresses that and provides actually helpful advices to minds like ours and not the conventional and widely accepted way of life. So I really appreciate this. Thank you
@@hsblw_6 easiest way to explain this would be if it's extremely hard for you to stick to discipline, routine, or order. Another word for it would be messy? But not in an irresponsible way. You usually work better with spontaneous and random burst of energy rather than doing something routinely like a fixed schedule. Hopefully that made sense. A lot of folks like this are also with ADHD and that's what makes them this way.
My father passed away a year and a half ago at age 98. He left me with many thoughts, theories, and guidelines. However, one piece of wisdom that he related was that "what you do in life is only overpowered by the regret of what you didn't do or complete". Good luck with your journey Elizabeth - your energy and sincerity to self deserve brilliant and accomplished life whether it be long or short! Enthusiasm is the oxygen of life! So breathe well each and every day! Dr. Elizabeth Filips MD - sounds so cool, accomplished, and attainable.
So recognizable! I’ve turned 60 this year and have had the opportunity to doing many different things throughout my life, somehow always wondering if that new thing would be my life’s purpose. I have come to accept that all of these are a part of that and will continue as such. Life long education keeps you on your toes and I will pursue that till the end of my life. You have such a valuable channel!
I have lately realized that when people come on RUclips, for instance Liz, they discover themselves and come closer to their real self. It's quite fascinating and beautiful in a way. Liz coming closer to her real self. 🐥✌️
That's very relatable for me too, and since I started my channel in 2021 I had many revelations about what I like and don't like to do, what my strong and weak points are. Camera is a great friend because it's completely honest with you. It's difficult to stick to your illusions with such unequivocal evidence.
One of the parts that I liked the most was the moment when you clarify that this is your personal situation and you are not advising other to do certain things, you are honest at sharing that you are financially stable for the moment to give you the time to stop and re consider things. I love that honesty, it is important to mention those kind of things.
I call this my quarter life crisis? It started a few weeks ago; overcoming/healing childhood trauma has opened my mind back up to myself again! This video was helpful as it gave me a direction to go instead of spinning in circles overwhelmed by all of the choices to be made! Thank you 😊
Liz, you are next level - thank you for not only sharing such thoughtful content openly and humbly in the context of your own experience, but going one further by sharing the Notion template so this is easily actionable rather than just a concept 🙌 I’ve already started and know this will be significant. Loving your content as a kindred spirit. Thank you!
I am so appreciative of the disclaimers that you give in between. It's honestly so good that you put it in front of your audience to not take what you say as life advice because we often forget it. Thank you!
Thinking about the me of my 20s and what was important to me then and me now (not in my 20s) and what is important to me now. If someone had have talked to me about what you just talked about Elizabeth, the evolution of me journey would probably not come as such a ‘shock’ but something to expect and really embrace. Took a while to embrace, if you can embrace it now, the journey of wolf evolution will be so awesome. Looking forward to seeing your next one on this topic in a years time. Stay safe. Cheers David
It's truly liberating to be able to discover your true self without the necessity of doing something you don't like because of not being financially secure. Need to try the exercise. Loving the forest 😁
I just went through the same breakthrough personally about the money and stability value! Like you, my upbringing brought me to a point where I felt I NEEDED money and stability. I recently quit my 9-5 job after realizing this was an old value of mine that doesn’t serve me anymore! Great video and amazing insights as always❤️
i realise, on the 5th time or so I'm watching this video, that I had been thinking about my life in the same way. The first 3 times it was such, the 4th time perhaps not as much, and the 5th time my mindset has completely changed and is still changing. Thank you so much for this, I bought your template a bit ago as well
Being a 20 yr old medical student hearing ur perspectives on few things made me a bit less comfortable but in a good way coz now I really want to sit & think as to what & why I'm doing what I'm doing 💯
Oh, I’ll definitely try this exercise! I feel like the time has arrived to face the changes (or lack thereof - hopefully not) that have occurred in the past years. Thank you so much for sharing this!
Thanks for making these videos. They helped me realize why I felt so lost and useless trying to change the way I do things to be more like the "Productive" people in my life. I feel like I'm finally back on the path to being the real me.
Your channel is something different from everything I've seen in RUclips so far. You seem like a person that would be amazing to have a friendship with. I'm 26, almost 27, and I can see myself in 90% of the things you say. Thanks.
This happened to me this year, affected me so much, gone through so much identity crisis. I wanted to take another pathway after I have structured my whole life around Computer Science. I was depressed for months, and I think now I am getting better after some realisations and changes. After seeing your channel I think I have to go back to school, thanks for sharing Liz😊
I'd contend that purpose is fundamental to a positive and sustainable existence. It's not necessarily a goal, but something to orient your behavior around. Given you are so young (me too ftr, 22), your purpose could literally be to find your purpose. Establishing the one or few things that are integrally important to you and will remain so for decades to come.
I will definitely try this exercise. I've been implementing Getting Things Done for a while and I feel it's a great complement for the part of gaining perspective. I also like to approach myself as my own social experiment from time to time 😂. Thank you for sharing!
Sharing your experience about how you figure it out through your twenties is worth gold ... I really feel better when i find more people liberating themselves from the demands of being perfect and better than everyone. These demands were created by the society and were planted in our heads during our childhood but they nothing to do with our vision of happiness and good life. Best wishes for you in the new year
This video is wholesomely honest and is something I can currently relate to. Thank you for your honesty and I hope others in the same boat see this and can reflect on their own values in life!
Thank you for sharing Sansa. I am actually a doctor as well, and I definitely understand how it feels to lose your identity along the way. Because of the stress and hours you put in, you no longer become you and you become the identity of "a doctor" that everyone sees you as. I used to think that was awesome, because it was literally everything I had dreamed in my 20's. As you keep going, you find your identity again. It seems you still carry the traits of a doctor, which is lifelong learning. Thank you Dr. Stark.
Hey you are amazing for sharing this lesson with us, it took me years to take a decision to leave a certain career path and even after that I was so confused. But now I am trying out new stuff and I am open to explore new options. My health is better and now my focus is more on a balanced lifestyle. Hopefully will do better in my career too. Wish me luck. Thanks again 😊
Great video. I did the exercise after seeing it in the newsletter. This video makes me almost see the same exercise in a different light, it's crazy how you can communicate so much in a video that would be missing from just text.
I recently did this values exercise yesterday using Kiana Docherty’s guide and it was truly eye opening and life changing. And what’s interesting is discovering the things I value that I’m mistreating and that’s what is causing me stress. The cool thing is watching you now makes me not question my values but accept that we are different when before I used to compare myself and think I needed to be like everyone else.
I am super late on this video, but I have also been going through different versions of this exercise - getting a little more honest with myself each time. Do you find that your values always mirror things you don't feel you have in full? For example, I also no longer care about success but mostly bc I feel I've checked that box to my own level of satisfaction. I don't worry about finding a job if I lose mine, bc I feel secure in my career and skillset. So mostly my "values" are actually areas that I could use a bit more focus on securing; they're actually aspirations or areas of intention.
They do this exact activity in DBT and it is indeed amazing and surprising how people react and the way they start changing their mindset, decisions, and therefore life.
For a different view, read the short novel, Herman Hesse's book, Siddhartha. A Buddhist theme is that human suffering arises from wanting. The obvious cases is wanting a material item. A deeper insight, is that suffering may arise from wanting something intangible, more abstract and less well known. For example, wanting to be recognized in a certain way by others, wanting a certain paradigm of thinking or wanting constancy and certainty in a changing world. There are many other examples. Overcoming this wanting does not arise from a cognitive process, but a physical process, meditative practice i.e. not necessarily deep breathing with your legs crossed, but training yourself to be more aware of what we do, why we do it and what we feel. This should not be mistaken as being a passive person, but the opposite, active, empowered and without fear or anxiety. Wish you the best!
I like this kind of “philosophical” content, it would be interesting to discover that we’re no longer the person we think we are. Definetely worth trying to do the exercise, simple and straight to the point. Beyond that TOO MANY plants 😂
I have to smile when ever you adding the grains of salt because those advices are "only your experience". Because I totally get where you are coming from and I would probably stress the same in your situation. But let me tell you, that you are very inspiring to me right now! I actually admire what you are dling and strife for doing something similar by entering social work and spreading mental health help insights by becoming a streamer, haha. Much love!
I think your purpose is right here... Think of how your channel grew so fast, this is a platform to reach out to people and change lives using your knowledge and experience. Honestly... That is purpose
I actually subscribe to your channel so I can 'perfect my life' and seeing this is so liberating and I realize that not everyone on RUclips guru is this honest. You are such an inspiration.
I just love your videos 😍🥺 , i finished my dental medical school this year , and i figured out that this isn't the right place or career for me , it' doesn't represent me. So yeah it was hard to admit it and detach from it ,since I was relating my worth to my education , but I made an inner work too and defining my values helped me. I suggest to you to ma make MBTI personality test to know more about yourself .
Good luck on your journey! I'm in a similar spot in terms of feeling like I'm not right for my career. Got five more years in it, so I'm trying to find a way to mix my values and skills into the field anyway.
OMG girl! I just discovered your channel, and we are almost a copy of each other!! Our experiences and insights we came up to are almost identical! That must be a parallel world! However I’m 35 from a Middle Eastern background and a mother of a lovely 8 years old.
Not only the medical school experience btw, the art, philosophy, psychology, ideas of reflection , and even the looks including wearing black and the lipstick 😂 That is blowing my mind!
Hello. I just began taking an Anatomy course from Harvard University. I went, and enrolled with those voices that I heard behind me saying only a few make it, or that I needed to be extra intelligent. I stopped listening to those voices, because if I kept listening I would never had enrolled in Harvard University. I kept going forward.
Such a vulnerable moment and - just like when I try meditating - my mind drifts and all I think about is that I suspect at least 50% of the plants are faux plants. Not judging, it is said that they have a similar effect on the psyche.
Cool video! I like the idea of checking in with values periodically. The movie I think you're talking about at the end is called "Limitless" with Bradley Cooper!
I normally only give a 'thumbs up' to videos, when I think the content is very good (fx. If it's Informative, good quality video etc.). And I must say, I have given a thumbs up to most of your videos that I have watched. I wish you the best of luck and goodness in your life. Your content actually benefits me 😄
Ooo this got me thinking. I would love to do the values exercise but the link on your newsletter doesn't work. Is there an updated version? Great video!
Hi Elizabeth! I can relate to the things you shared in this video. Everytime I go through those fases of feeling "what the hell I am doing with my life", I check in with my present self by reading, and taking the test of the book: The passion Test by Janet and Chris Attwood. A friend recomended it to me in my early twenties and It has helped me to find my own answers everytime. In 10 years I have done it already twice. Soon I will be doing it again. Life is always changing and you included. Be kind to yourself and listen to your present self. Big hug!
Dont turn your back on medicine, youre in such a strong position and have gotten so far. Youre not a feather in wind, youre an arrow to the heart. Get the qual and do as you will after.
I know your not making too much med school contents atm but in your recent Q&A you talked a little bit about clinical medicine with 0 notes. Any plans to make an in-depth video about this? would be so great to see how we can learn without spending time on notes :)
I find it VERY fascinating that I APPARENTLY value safety now? My life was always hectic. I always thought I wanted new things. But I guess living a completely unstructured life, my mom dying, etcetc, lead me to desiring… safety? Absolutely wild. But like you said. This might change in the future. Once safety is procured, who knows, it might get boring again. I guess these values really only matter in the Now.
Excellent video, Liz! v inspiring and thank you for your candour and openess! Way to go! (This is my first ever youtube cmts in so many years of watching - the convo is v good that it deserves more viewership!) : D
What is interesting about reaching 65 this month is that the notion of a purpose or goal is irrelevant to me. I have had what I might say is a very bizarre life, spending for example two years in a book store, three years blowing an inheritance, two years living under the arches of one of the most famous palaces in Europe - outside. As well as collecting four degrees, When one is confronted with survival - living on barely nothing - sleeping outside in the winter - from that perspective one gains a Zen like repose, because it does not matter if you suddenly have nothing again. We do live in a very materialistic and wasteful world. In my case I find great joy in books, music and art, as well as nature. I find many absurdities in those who wish to achieve success in material terms without focusing on the important things. That is exactly what your evaluation test asks and in that it is very commendable.
i recently dropped out of medical school. Med school changed me. I wanted to become a doctor since i was 15 and started med school at 17 (its possible in germany). I have never been more sad, more depressed. I started having suicidal thoughts in my third year and failed an important exam for three times. If you fail three times you are not allowed to continue med school anymore. Right now I am kind of feeling the same as you. Identity crisis, what about my future etc. I am so thankful for this videos. As a woman of color i knew that medicine is a safe career for me because doctors are always needed. But putting my mental health first is more important. I am knows as someone who is successfull and this experience in my eyes destroyed that picture of me. But thats all in my head. I am still valueable, worthy and most importantly, alive. Thank you for this video.
Thank you for sharing this, I’m going through some struggles as well currently and your journey has told me to just go on. You’ve helped someone across the globe to get through their life, thank you stranger ❤️
I was preparing for med school entrances and instead of doing it in a healthy way I ended up being overly toxic with myself. I grew distant from my family who matter the most to me in this world. It was almost a wake up call because even if I end up being a doctor I'll have to follow up with this kind of packed lifestyle. Not having time for family and friends, not being able to recharge properly made me realise how much do doctors actually sacrifice for us. I'm still young and immature so I don't actually know if I'm ready for that kind of sacrifice because only preparing for entrances made me clinically depressed. Medicine is cool, but at the present moment I'm not strong enough to handle it. But I have other fields I'm interested in and switching to them! So it isn't all bad 💗 good luck to you, it'll be fine.
No shame in realizing something doesn't make you happy. Being a doctor sounds glamourus but it comes with massive amounts of shit eating.
You'll find something you like.
I don't know you, but I'm so proud of you💜 I hope you find peace and purpose in this next chapter of life. You are not alone in this decision -- I chose *not* to pursue medical school because I, too, was worried about my mental health. Sometimes I wonder if I should have forged ahead, but I know in my heart that I don't have the resilience or physical fortitude for the long 36 on-call shifts, high-intensity environment, etc. I'm content with my decision to become an NP and support my team of physicians and NPs.....with more balance in my life ✨
Almost the same story for me. I also have pudendal neuralgia and interstitial cystitis which made medical school really really hard. And my classmates weren't happy at all with some benefits I had because of my condition. Now I'm a medical doctor and I've being practicing for almost 3 years. Pretty miserable though. I think I'm good at it, empathetic and always try to help others. But I'm still deppresed and I know this wasn't what I wanted for myself. I though I wanted this because I was always the best student in school, so the logic way was... Medical school for the top, right? A mentality that has been changing for a while, thanks to the universe. I got to 4th year and decided I hated it. But couldn't quit because of my family and money issues. Now I'm trying to pivot to a career as a concept artist. Elizabeth's videos have been a great discovery for my RUclips never ending research. You should be proud of everything you've tried, that's what I think. I like to phantasize I have to change my identity, change my country and career job. How should I do it? That helps me keep looking ways :3
This channel is a holy grail for people in their early or late 20's. Specially this content. Amazing approaches Mam'!
@Wendell Shorteyes can't disagree on that too!
THANK YOU! I appreciate this so much
Agreed.
And 40s..almost 50. Thought provoking!
40 somethings too
Seeing your life as "content" rather than judging it for it´s perfection quite liberates you from depression.
Experience over results
I got diagnosed with ADHD at 30.
That's when I realized why I was so immature. My brain was literally developing, probably never fully develop.
After starting meds I finally understand what I want in life. I went back to uni, and finished my degree. No trying to go for md.
I started exercising, and meditating and focus on my work life.
You’re pretty much my new golden find. I have never related to nor understood anyone more spiritually like I do with your content. There aren’t a lot of people who embrace and accept their chaotic nature, so this type of content is very rare. Being a chaos driven person myself, it’s so hard to find content that addresses that and provides actually helpful advices to minds like ours and not the conventional and widely accepted way of life. So I really appreciate this. Thank you
What would mean to be a chaos driven person?
@@hsblw_6 easiest way to explain this would be if it's extremely hard for you to stick to discipline, routine, or order. Another word for it would be messy? But not in an irresponsible way. You usually work better with spontaneous and random burst of energy rather than doing something routinely like a fixed schedule. Hopefully that made sense.
A lot of folks like this are also with ADHD and that's what makes them this way.
@@nafisachowdhury3687 Thank you! =)
My father passed away a year and a half ago at age 98. He left me with many thoughts, theories, and guidelines. However, one piece of wisdom that he related was that "what you do in life is only overpowered by the regret of what you didn't do or complete". Good luck with your journey Elizabeth - your energy and sincerity to self deserve brilliant and accomplished life whether it be long or short! Enthusiasm is the oxygen of life! So breathe well each and every day! Dr. Elizabeth Filips MD - sounds so cool, accomplished, and attainable.
great quote. I have alotta that going on...
So recognizable! I’ve turned 60 this year and have had the opportunity to doing many different things throughout my life, somehow always wondering if that new thing would be my life’s purpose. I have come to accept that all of these are a part of that and will continue as such. Life long education keeps you on your toes and I will pursue that till the end of my life. You have such a valuable channel!
I have lately realized that when people come on RUclips, for instance Liz, they discover themselves and come closer to their real self. It's quite fascinating and beautiful in a way. Liz coming closer to her real self. 🐥✌️
I LOVE this comment
Prolly, talking to a camera is therapeutic🤔.
That's very relatable for me too, and since I started my channel in 2021 I had many revelations about what I like and don't like to do, what my strong and weak points are.
Camera is a great friend because it's completely honest with you. It's difficult to stick to your illusions with such unequivocal evidence.
@@elizabethfilips 🔱🔱🔱LOTTS OF TIME INVESTED IS. WORTH EverY MINN
One of the parts that I liked the most was the moment when you clarify that this is your personal situation and you are not advising other to do certain things, you are honest at sharing that you are financially stable for the moment to give you the time to stop and re consider things. I love that honesty, it is important to mention those kind of things.
I call this my quarter life crisis? It started a few weeks ago; overcoming/healing childhood trauma has opened my mind back up to myself again! This video was helpful as it gave me a direction to go instead of spinning in circles overwhelmed by all of the choices to be made! Thank you 😊
Liz, you are next level - thank you for not only sharing such thoughtful content openly and humbly in the context of your own experience, but going one further by sharing the Notion template so this is easily actionable rather than just a concept 🙌 I’ve already started and know this will be significant. Loving your content as a kindred spirit. Thank you!
Thank you! So happy you enjoyed it :)
Hi I can't seem to find the notion template anywhere in the description, can you pls share the link for the same
I am so appreciative of the disclaimers that you give in between. It's honestly so good that you put it in front of your audience to not take what you say as life advice because we often forget it. Thank you!
Thinking about the me of my 20s and what was important to me then and me now (not in my 20s) and what is important to me now. If someone had have talked to me about what you just talked about Elizabeth, the evolution of me journey would probably not come as such a ‘shock’ but something to expect and really embrace. Took a while to embrace, if you can embrace it now, the journey of wolf evolution will be so awesome. Looking forward to seeing your next one on this topic in a years time. Stay safe. Cheers David
It's truly liberating to be able to discover your true self without the necessity of doing something you don't like because of not being financially secure. Need to try the exercise. Loving the forest 😁
I just went through the same breakthrough personally about the money and stability value! Like you, my upbringing brought me to a point where I felt I NEEDED money and stability. I recently quit my 9-5 job after realizing this was an old value of mine that doesn’t serve me anymore! Great video and amazing insights as always❤️
Thanks for this, personal stories always help people connect.
I just came across your channel yesterday. I have to say your now my new favourite RUclipsr. Your so honest and I love your personality.
AHH thank you for watching!
Sounds like just the exercise I need to do myself! I'm glad you have been able to find clarity for yourself
i realise, on the 5th time or so I'm watching this video, that I had been thinking about my life in the same way. The first 3 times it was such, the 4th time perhaps not as much, and the 5th time my mindset has completely changed and is still changing. Thank you so much for this, I bought your template a bit ago as well
Being a 20 yr old medical student hearing ur perspectives on few things made me a bit less comfortable but in a good way coz now I really want to sit & think as to what & why I'm doing what I'm doing 💯
Ah sending you the best wishes!!
@@elizabethfilips Thankyou... wishing you the same ❤️
Big fan of how sincere this is.
Oh, I’ll definitely try this exercise! I feel like the time has arrived to face the changes (or lack thereof - hopefully not) that have occurred in the past years. Thank you so much for sharing this!
thank you for watching!
Thanks for making these videos. They helped me realize why I felt so lost and useless trying to change the way I do things to be more like the "Productive" people in my life. I feel like I'm finally back on the path to being the real me.
Your channel is something different from everything I've seen in RUclips so far. You seem like a person that would be amazing to have a friendship with. I'm 26, almost 27, and I can see myself in 90% of the things you say. Thanks.
This happened to me this year, affected me so much, gone through so much identity crisis. I wanted to take another pathway after I have structured my whole life around Computer Science. I was depressed for months, and I think now I am getting better after some realisations and changes. After seeing your channel I think I have to go back to school, thanks for sharing Liz😊
I'd contend that purpose is fundamental to a positive and sustainable existence. It's not necessarily a goal, but something to orient your behavior around. Given you are so young (me too ftr, 22), your purpose could literally be to find your purpose. Establishing the one or few things that are integrally important to you and will remain so for decades to come.
I will definitely try this exercise. I've been implementing Getting Things Done for a while and I feel it's a great complement for the part of gaining perspective. I also like to approach myself as my own social experiment from time to time 😂. Thank you for sharing!
Thanks for watching!
Sharing your experience about how you figure it out through your twenties is worth gold ... I really feel better when i find more people liberating themselves from the demands of being perfect and better than everyone. These demands were created by the society and were planted in our heads during our childhood but they nothing to do with our vision of happiness and good life. Best wishes for you in the new year
This comes at such a timely moment. Thank you Elizabeth for sharing your experiences. What a gift this is.
Thank you for watching!
This video is wholesomely honest and is something I can currently relate to. Thank you for your honesty and I hope others in the same boat see this and can reflect on their own values in life!
Thank you for sharing Sansa. I am actually a doctor as well, and I definitely understand how it feels to lose your identity along the way. Because of the stress and hours you put in, you no longer become you and you become the identity of "a doctor" that everyone sees you as. I used to think that was awesome, because it was literally everything I had dreamed in my 20's. As you keep going, you find your identity again. It seems you still carry the traits of a doctor, which is lifelong learning. Thank you Dr. Stark.
Hey you are amazing for sharing this lesson with us, it took me years to take a decision to leave a certain career path and even after that I was so confused. But now I am trying out new stuff and I am open to explore new options. My health is better and now my focus is more on a balanced lifestyle. Hopefully will do better in my career too. Wish me luck.
Thanks again 😊
I really like your unique take on things and life in general!
Great video. I did the exercise after seeing it in the newsletter. This video makes me almost see the same exercise in a different light, it's crazy how you can communicate so much in a video that would be missing from just text.
Thanks Thomas!
I recently did this values exercise yesterday using Kiana Docherty’s guide and it was truly eye opening and life changing. And what’s interesting is discovering the things I value that I’m mistreating and that’s what is causing me stress. The cool thing is watching you now makes me not question my values but accept that we are different when before I used to compare myself and think I needed to be like everyone else.
hi @obscura x! can you share the link of the exercise you did? thanks!
I am super late on this video, but I have also been going through different versions of this exercise - getting a little more honest with myself each time. Do you find that your values always mirror things you don't feel you have in full? For example, I also no longer care about success but mostly bc I feel I've checked that box to my own level of satisfaction. I don't worry about finding a job if I lose mine, bc I feel secure in my career and skillset. So mostly my "values" are actually areas that I could use a bit more focus on securing; they're actually aspirations or areas of intention.
just the video I needed, every video you make is an eye opener.
The way you speak pleases my soul💕
you seem like a quite humble person, very refreshing :)
This is absolutely brilliant !!
Honestly, you're so inspiring. Just keep doing what you love!
They do this exact activity in DBT and it is indeed amazing and surprising how people react and the way they start changing their mindset, decisions, and therefore life.
I love the vibe and the mindset!
For a different view, read the short novel, Herman Hesse's book, Siddhartha. A Buddhist theme is that human suffering arises from wanting. The obvious cases is wanting a material item. A deeper insight, is that suffering may arise from wanting something intangible, more abstract and less well known. For example, wanting to be recognized in a certain way by others, wanting a certain paradigm of thinking or wanting constancy and certainty in a changing world. There are many other examples. Overcoming this wanting does not arise from a cognitive process, but a physical process, meditative practice i.e. not necessarily deep breathing with your legs crossed, but training yourself to be more aware of what we do, why we do it and what we feel. This should not be mistaken as being a passive person, but the opposite, active, empowered and without fear or anxiety. Wish you the best!
I’m always amazed at how great your content is, thanks so much Elizabeth
I like this kind of “philosophical” content, it would be interesting to discover that we’re no longer the person we think we are. Definetely worth trying to do the exercise, simple and straight to the point. Beyond that TOO MANY plants 😂
There's no such a thing as too many plants.
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I just discovered your channel, and I love listening to you on and on. It’s also at a perfect speed to me. Found my internet best friend
I have to wait years for the 'feeling lost in my 30s' video, which I need!
Same here !!!
My purpose is to experience, take risks, connections, to create and express myself
I have to smile when ever you adding the grains of salt because those advices are "only your experience".
Because I totally get where you are coming from and I would probably stress the same in your situation.
But let me tell you, that you are very inspiring to me right now!
I actually admire what you are dling and strife for doing something similar by entering social work and spreading mental health help insights by becoming a streamer, haha.
Much love!
I don’t see anything wrong about you. You are smart, have values, and loving life. You are a Beautiful mess of a human !! Like all of us.
I think your purpose is right here...
Think of how your channel grew so fast, this is a platform to reach out to people and change lives using your knowledge and experience.
Honestly... That is purpose
This is the kind of video that I'm gonna rewatch a lot!
Love this. Would love to see more videos like this one from you. Super helpful
Liz, I love your content it's very down to earth
Super excited to see this!
i've been watching you since the beginning - so glad to see you start to blow up now :) love all your videos so much!!!
Thanks Remika!
You have been so inspiring to follow during my own personal growth and healing journey 💕
love ur content everyday❤️❤️
The way you speak, gooooood, I myself being a nerd, speak just like you, I don't know why but that gives a different vibe..!
I actually subscribe to your channel so I can 'perfect my life' and seeing this is so liberating and I realize that not everyone on RUclips guru is this honest. You are such an inspiration.
I just love your videos 😍🥺 , i finished my dental medical school this year , and i figured out that this isn't the right place or career for me , it' doesn't represent me. So yeah it was hard to admit it and detach from it ,since I was relating my worth to my education , but I made an inner work too and defining my values helped me.
I suggest to you to ma make MBTI personality test to know more about yourself .
Good luck on your journey! I'm in a similar spot in terms of feeling like I'm not right for my career. Got five more years in it, so I'm trying to find a way to mix my values and skills into the field anyway.
OMG girl! I just discovered your channel, and we are almost a copy of each other!! Our experiences and insights we came up to are almost identical!
That must be a parallel world! However I’m 35 from a Middle Eastern background and a mother of a lovely 8 years old.
Not only the medical school experience btw, the art, philosophy, psychology, ideas of reflection , and even the looks including wearing black and the lipstick 😂 That is blowing my mind!
Hello. I just began taking an Anatomy course from Harvard University. I went, and enrolled with those voices that I heard behind me saying only a few make it, or that I needed to be extra intelligent. I stopped listening to those voices, because if I kept listening I would never had enrolled in Harvard University. I kept going forward.
so authentic lots of love from south africa
10:06 exactly what I needed to hear
Love your content, keep going Elizabeth! :)
Such a vulnerable moment and - just like when I try meditating - my mind drifts and all I think about is that I suspect at least 50% of the plants are faux plants. Not judging, it is said that they have a similar effect on the psyche.
Thanks you so much. Your's exercise make me realize my self-talk & stories.
Happy to see that you're active nowadays 😃
so excited to watch this!!
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Cool video! I like the idea of checking in with values periodically. The movie I think you're talking about at the end is called "Limitless" with Bradley Cooper!
I normally only give a 'thumbs up' to videos, when I think the content is very good (fx. If it's Informative, good quality video etc.). And I must say, I have given a thumbs up to most of your videos that I have watched. I wish you the best of luck and goodness in your life. Your content actually benefits me 😄
thank you for this!
The perfect video ever ❤
3:07 i want to take a moment to appreciate that little elizabeth emoji hahah
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I loved this!! Thank YOU. 🤍🤍🤍
Yeah thinking of alternatives helps a lot it seems is what I’m gleaming.
Absolutely love your content, especially after having a long day, your content gets better every time 🥰
Ahh thank you!
Ooo this got me thinking. I would love to do the values exercise but the link on your newsletter doesn't work. Is there an updated version? Great video!
Yeah I'm too unable to access it :(
That movie was called "Limitless". They made a show out of it too, I believe.
This is gold👍🏻
Thank you, you got me key of myself. Now I feel better
Waiting for the next one 🤝🏻
Hi Elizabeth! I can relate to the things you shared in this video. Everytime I go through those fases of feeling "what the hell I am doing with my life", I check in with my present self by reading, and taking the test of the book: The passion Test by Janet and Chris Attwood. A friend recomended it to me in my early twenties and It has helped me to find my own answers everytime. In 10 years I have done it already twice. Soon I will be doing it again. Life is always changing and you included. Be kind to yourself and listen to your present self. Big hug!
The comment section of this video is heaven.
Recently went through quite a similiar predicament! This video helps a lot!
Dont turn your back on medicine, youre in such a strong position and have gotten so far. Youre not a feather in wind, youre an arrow to the heart. Get the qual and do as you will after.
Having the qual is like being chartered, you can go where you want with who you want when you want.
You sound a bit like hikaru nakamura but look like alex botez, i appreciate the background music.
I LOVE this video, and has helped me as I am at a similar point in my life. Thank you!
Live and let live, nice philosophical lecture. Thanks for sharing.
Old Ron
The part about the unimportance of a 'sole purpose in life' reminded me of the book "L'etranger" (The outsider) by Albert Camus.
LIMITLESS, the movie - that was a series - is called Limitless
i love your videos, i’m always applying something new in my life!!🤍 thank you :)
Thank you for watching! 🙏
Love you Liz!
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It's very easy to fall in serfdom of external expectations
I know your not making too much med school contents atm but in your recent Q&A you talked a little bit about clinical medicine with 0 notes. Any plans to make an in-depth video about this? would be so great to see how we can learn without spending time on notes :)
Ahhh can do!
I find it VERY fascinating that I APPARENTLY value safety now? My life was always hectic. I always thought I wanted new things. But I guess living a completely unstructured life, my mom dying, etcetc, lead me to desiring… safety? Absolutely wild.
But like you said. This might change in the future. Once safety is procured, who knows, it might get boring again. I guess these values really only matter in the Now.
Excellent video, Liz! v inspiring and thank you for your candour and openess! Way to go! (This is my first ever youtube cmts in so many years of watching - the convo is v good that it deserves more viewership!) : D
What is interesting about reaching 65 this month is that the notion of a purpose or goal is irrelevant to me. I have had what I might say is a very bizarre life, spending for example two years in a book store, three years blowing an inheritance, two years living under the arches of one of the most famous palaces in Europe - outside. As well as collecting four degrees, When one is confronted with survival - living on barely nothing - sleeping outside in the winter - from that perspective one gains a Zen like repose, because it does not matter if you suddenly have nothing again. We do live in a very materialistic and wasteful world. In my case I find great joy in books, music and art, as well as nature. I find many absurdities in those who wish to achieve success in material terms without focusing on the important things. That is exactly what your evaluation test asks and in that it is very commendable.
You go Queen 👑