Do You Need Dysphoria To Be Trans?
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CNN article on Japanese gender marker changes: www.cnn.com/20...
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I'm indigenous and trans. As I've reconnected with my tribe and their teachings, I've found my physical dysphoria alleviating because the western concepts of gender/transgender were really what was fueling that physical dysphoria. It frustrates me to see how many people believe the western conception of gender/sex is the only conception. It's erasure/colonialism at its finest to be honest. But I definitely agree that I don't want trans as an identity to mean: being in pain for your whole life. That seems. garbage. Also let's stop letting cis people define us. Just. Generally a good rule of thumb to not let your oppressor define you
@@Kimmaline You're more than welcome to reference it! I would also encourage you to look into the continued trend of white folks adopting indigenous children in America because it's an angle not looked into often.
So you don't like gender roles?
@@laneatkinson6441 correct, I do not like gender roles
I'm the same!! Thank you for speaking about this Shawn U. Learning about the indigenous cultures in my ancestry has really helped me expand my idea of gender and how I see myself.
@@usskren I don't respect transmeds or terfs, now run along
Thank you so much for this. This is something that has actually caused me a great measure of distress. I have some dysphoria, but not much and it certainly isn't soul crushing amounts by any means, and I always felt insecure that that meant that my identity wasn't valid or was less valid? Either way I really needed to hear this and always appreciate your content.
*offers internet hugs should you want one* I hope you have a good support system. If not I hope you can find one!
skyephoneix. I see you in there. 😍🧙🏾♂️
I feel the same way. I was actually putting off watching this video as I was afraid of what it would say. I really needed to see this, so thanks for sharing your experience.
Hope you have a wonderful day.
homework jesus same tho
I feel the same East I dislike the female parts I have right not but I am not in distress because of it . And it hurts to see people say you can’t be trans unless you have gender dysphorea
Hey Luxander, I effing love you so much and I learned a lot from this video! You’re amazing! ❤️❤️❤️
Mr. Athiest I love your vids, bro! And I love it when legends support legends 🤘🏼😤
Omg, hey dude! I wasn’t expecting to see you here! I’m a big fan and I just want to say that you’re a great ally to the trans community and that I really appreciate your support and inclusive language ❤️
Thank you for your videos. I am a cisgendered woman and mother of two kiddos. I consider myself an open minded person but I always have more to learn.
Glad to have people like you in this world, never let that curiosity and knowledge-seeking part of you go 💕
I love people like you, but cisgender is an adjective, not a verb.
My social dysphoria is always present. I have dysphoria about my voice. My chest dysphoria comes and goes, and I have dysphoria about my genitalia all of the time. The issue with having dysphoria come and go is that getting surgery/going on hormones seems out of my grasp. I had a chest surgery (reduction and lift) and it made dysphoria worse, not better. I'm still glad I had it because I'm more physically comfortable with my chest now, but the social dysphoria is worse. Ugh. Thank you for making this.
I have no idea what your feeling, experience, life, is like. I can't feel what you feel, but I hope you'll find a way to feel good about yourself & feel you ARE WORTHWHILE & lovable, long-term.
This is excellent! I really appreciate your inclusion of clinical definitions. It’s too easy for me to forget that clinical definitions exist when most youtubers only offer their opinions.
As someone who couldn't really see past needing dysphoria in order to be trans for the basic reason of 'why need to transition/identify as trans without it', but at the same time not being a shitposter and waiting to hear the other side of the discussion, you've enlightened me. (Certainly in a way no one else has been able to.)
I've understood the distinction between social and body dysphoria for a very long time, so it's not like I was confused by those terms or conflating one with anything else. However, thanks to the research you did it is easier to understand the distinction between transgender and dysphoria. (Even though I have been trans since forever ago.)
I am not sure I can say I had dysphoria before I finally accepted who I was. Maybe anxiety during puberty and a general feeling I was terrible at being a guy. After I accepted it I then had bad dysphoria until I got far enough along in transitioning
I was watching an online chat with people acting the part of Star Trek characters and were fielding questions. One question was "How are transgender people viewed by you and your peers?" the 'Star Trek' characters response was "Uhh, just like everyone else. Gender reassignment has been normal for over a century."
We're making that dream a reality, maybe even in our lifetime.
I have a very similar experience. Looking back I had a disconnect with myself that kind of buffered away obvious dysphoria.
@@ThAlEdison Yeah I agree. Now looking back at it, it is obvious what I was but at the time I don't think I could have called it dysphoria (Even if somehow I had been taught that term and been allowed to know about tran people.)
@@BuildHerGender unlike most late life transitioners, I don't have the excuse that I didn't know about it. I ran across the topic sometime around my late teens, and did some research in college. I didn't think I was trans enough, I didn't think transitioning would be easy enough or thorough enough, and got through almost 20 years with a thin veneer of excuses.
@@ThAlEdison I had heard of trans people but my church had told me trans women were men who liked men so much they became women for them, so despite at times thinking I should be a girl i thought I couldn't be trans because I liked girls. It seems like you are blaming yourself for taking a while to transition, but you shouldn't. We are just now getting to a point where children are told that being trans is okay, and even then it isn't universal. To live with being told it is wrong or a joke most of your life means it takes time and courage to do it. Glad you made it. BTW if you need to talk my twitter is atheist_t_girl with the @ in front.
is there a way to say 'thank you' 2 million times in one word?? cause i wish there was
theres always the argument of dysphoria but never euphoria, so its always like....i dont feel horrible like that, am i just being stupid?
im not outright trans, but definitely somewhere on the nonbinary spectrum, though im still figuring it out. but ive been doubting and confused for years now trying to figure it out. videos like this definitely help me so much, and honestly i was almost at tears at one point ^^;
also another thing thats kept me away was things like the term 'transtrender' because as much as i dont fear what people think about me as much anymore, it still hurts to think that not even my own community would accept me like id hope they would all because i dont experience the same as they do.
theres also just so many other things i want to say but i dont want to make this comment super long and my mind is blanking
ill just leave it with a general HOLY FUCK THANK YOU FOR MAKING THIS VIDEO you blessed bean of a human
i think gender euphoria is a much better approach to defining transness. for me my discomfort with being perceived as a woman (im nb) comes second to how good it feels to feel like myself and present how i want
I am so grateful that you are here making such amazing and positive content Luxander! Thank you so much!
I am a 30 year old trans man who is still not fully 'out' and has yet to start any medical transitioning (though i personally want to). While I do feel dysphoria in the more widely accepted sense, I also have a tendency to dissociate. I had a really hard time coming to terms with being trans and coming out to my family partially because when I was a teenager and realizing my feelings I had people from with in the LGBTQ+ community tell me I wasn't. Gatekeeping is so incredibly damaging to individuals as well as a community. In my personal experience it has delayed me being able to accept and be myself for years and is still ingrained in why im hesitant to seek help or join actual in person communities.
I am so glad that I have been at least able to find people online I feel safe and comfortable talking to and I am so grateful for your role in that!
Thank you for this comment; very relatable.
I know this video is supposed to be informative and not political. But in my opinion the biggest issue with linking being transgender (an identity) directly to dysphoria (a medical condition) is that it is then used as an argument against transitioning (or against none-conformaty). Like I've seen things be said in the vein of: "Instead of letting people mutalate themselves we should be looking for a cure (alternative therapies)". Which is a totally gross argument if you ask me. It is fake concern under the guise of pushing heteronormativity.
This is a really interesting comment. As someone who cannot medically transition, I've been working with my therapist on ways to alleviate dysphoria outside of that. It's frustrating because people hear that and are like: OH so you're not really trans then cuz you can figure out how to feel good without HRT
and it's like. no? I just want to not be Sad and Dysphoric for the rest of my life because something is no longer attainable to me. But that being said, I wouldn't want to push that like: oh no more transitioning medically, just do lots of therapy instead cuz. People are different and if you want and can medically transition I absolutely think that would be the path a person should take over just therapy. I hope all this made sense haha
@@shawnupchurch7775 Thank you for your perspective. It definitely makes sense. For sure, I'm not against looking into different ways of alleviating dysphoria. But I don't think that the way a person deals with their dysphoria makes them any less or any more trans. Every trans person has their own set of circumctanses that dictate how much they can or want to transition. And as such my opinion is that neither your dysphoria (whether physical, social, severe or minimal) nor the way you choose to treat it defines your trans identity.
So to clarify my original point I don't like people using these arguments to dictate who someone else is. But that doesn't mean I think that medical transition is the only way to alleviate dysphoria or be trans.
Wow haha such a long post on just my opinion. Not sure if it matters since it is just an opinion but it feels nice to express it anyway :D
I'm bad at writing comments, but thanks for making this.
oh my, what an interesting time we're living in. I'm so encouraged with this video's content. We're entering a time when gender dysphoria may become rare. Good job Lux, I can tell you did a lot of work here.
Thank you I’m a 60 YO trans. Just realized this in the last three years. Keep up the hard work 💋
I have depersonalization and disassociation issues and honestly I never thought that it could be considered dysphoria??? I honestly just chocked it up to my general anxiety. I'll have to look into it more but I'm definitely not distressing over my identity.
This comment made me feel a lot better lmfao
I have PDD (persistent depressive disorder) and my psychologist also think that depersonalization is something I can fall into. Looking backward I think I pretty much have PDD as long as I can remember thinking (4yo) I firstly blamed it on kids being mean to me but honestly my psychologist said that my PDD can partly be caused by my gender identity. I do would say I had signs for being trans as early as 6 but I just didn't understood it (signs like wishing to be afab, daydreaming about being a girl, being envy towards girls as they are afab and I'm not, (I don't really experienced envy at all so that's kind of special) wanting to wear girl clothing or just wondering how I would be like if I'm born as a girl and later on avoiding to look at certain body part mirror not identifying with a picture of it (i known its me but it feels wrong) and more identifying with classmates from the opposite sex etc were added). I would say i don't really experience any gender dysphoria like i still avoid some things or find annoyance in other things/dislike other things but its never something seriously just very minor. Well he also said that I can just convince myself that I'm trans as PDD let me questioning about everything so there's still a chance for him that I will end up as cis what does terrifies me. But well only therapy can tell that.
PS: I'm also struggling with doubting my gender identity over not experience dysphoria so I obsessively try to convince myself that I'm trans but it never is going anywhere. Basically my mind playing games with me. I also thought here and there that that can be a part of mind dysphoria as mind dysphoria either deals with misgendering yourself, trying to convince yourself that you are cis but fails to do so or thinking you act to feminine/masculine because of x.
Thank you for being you and working so hard to educate people.
While looking at comments on both this video and many others, I always see the same thing: "I think you need dysphoria to be trans, because I can't understand how someone could be if they don't have it." And like... do you seriously need to have an in-depth understanding of how something you don't experience works for an entire group of people, in order to respect them, and believe them on a basic level? Do you really need these people to "convince" you that their own gender is real?
You don't have to completely understand someone, especially in terms of their own personal identity, in order to treat them like people and respect them. I have a ton of dysphoria, and no, I seriously do not understand what it's like to be a transgender person who doesn't experience gender dysphoria.. but why would I try to force it down people's throats that my experience is the ONLY experience? Why would I hurt people, misgender them, call them cis, and try to invalidate their own identity, just because I don't know how it feels for them? What could I possibly gain from that, considering I don't even know these people personally?
I can assure anyone who asks that the only people who know their own gender are themselves; whining in a comment section about how you don't understand non-dysphoric trans people, and don't accept them, isn't going to make them go away, isn't going to stop them from transitioning, and isn't going to stop them from doing what they know is right for themselves.
If you can't at the very least be decent, and instead insist that other trans people are cis based on your own understanding and experience, despite there being actual sources that back up the existence of these people already... that says a lot more about you than it ever could about them.
You act as though people literally don't think this group of people exists. That has become such a common and ridiculous argument. I think we all know that various individuals with various lived experiences exist. Also just because you personally don't believe the labels matter doesn't mean other trans people don't. It's like telling a gay man to accept that bisexual men are the same. Just because some elements are the same doesn't mean they don't have dramatically different lived experiences. It has nothing to do with convincing someone that a gender is real or understanding their experience, as you claim. It has to do with labels and medical/psychological factors. You are completely straw-manning the argument. And lastly just because I disagree with you doesn't mean I don't respect you. Like how the hell is anyone supposed to have an opinion and real open conversation when they are immediately met with "why don't you just believe and accept me".
As someone who’s been questioning my own gender for a while but always held back from calling myself trans because I don’t experience dysphoria (or if I do it’s not something I’ve recognized as dysphoria), this video is a huge help.
Thank you so fucking much I've been trying but struggling to grasp this concept, and I finally understand it now.
I hate youtube. I didn't get any notifications for this.
This was really well articulated and you've given me something to think about - always a plus. I've heard of this debate but never fully understood it so thank you for making a video on it. Great work.❤️
Thank you for putting this in a way I could never articulate properly. I get so upset seeing others insist you need a diagnosis to be trans, and bandy about "trans-trenders" like there's some way of being "truly trans". Thank you for citing sources, as well. This is a very helpful video.
No one needs a diagnosis to be trans. However, most trans people would need a diagnosis of gender dysphoria to receive a prescription for HRT
Thank you for this. I am very early in my public transition to non-binary, and though I've always felt little allegiance to my gender I've never been dysphoric about the gendered parts of my body. Because of this I kept this part of my life more quiet, but I feel responsible now to show my community that you can be non binary without dysphoria and being happy and successful as I strive to be. Again thank you for this video. People like you have opened my eyes to the trans community and my part in it. ❤❤
@@sandygonsalves4646 It's different for everyone. I said public transition as mine is mostly being out to friends family and coworkers with an ongoing mental transition of better understanding and living my identity and expression. Some enbys undergo surgery or use hormones to reach the body that best fits them, but not everyone. That is an interesting topic as it is so varied :)
@@sandygonsalves4646 like that was just such an easy thing to do
i feel like in the recent months youtube has become oversaturated by the loud individuals on the opposing side of the discourse and their content full of anger, hate, ridicule and gatekeeping. i'm really glad this video exists, good job!
So great to come across another trans RUclipsr talking about this! Feels like so much of trans RUclips wants to go on a witch hunt on those without dysphoria and it's just not helpful. Great vid!
Its almost as if you prepped for gatekeepers.
I think that people do need dysphoria to be trans because being more comfortable identifying as a gender other than the one they were assigned at birth is a form of dysphoria. I do not think that people need to hate their bodies or hate themselves to be trans. Just to be clear, if someone tells me that they are trans, I will take their word for it. If people disagree with me, I am open for discussion.
I think the problem is: does someone have to be diagnosed with gender dysphoria to be transgender, by your definition they don’t have to be. Overall I agree with your position though.
If someone feels basically nothing about their assigned gender, but euphoria about being another gender, I think that would qualify as not having dysphoria but still being trans. I've talked to people with that experience, dysphoria is marked discomfort by definition
Yeah, exactly, although I do experience dysphoria sometimes when my fluidity decides to be annoying, I generally experience much more pronounced gender euphoria
I have a question, is it possible that the discomfort is a form of dysphoria but just a much less extreme version? Perhaps we are looking at it the wrong way? We are going by medical terms in some cases. (I don't mean you are exactly I meant more that in most cases dysphoria is used to explain a very certain kind of thing like Luxander explained in the video.)
So my thought process, and I could so be wrong on this. So please if I am let me know but my thought process is that perhaps the person isn't having extreme dysphoria but that the feeling more comfortable with a different gender is a form of mild dysphoria but it isn't something people would normally consider it as dysphoria since it is so mild?
Does that make sense? I hope it does. I also hope this isn't offensive I am just very intrigued by your comment and it brought up this line of thought in my head.
But “being more comfortable identifying as a gender other than the one assigned at birth” is defined as a *gender incongruence* , not gender dysphoria. Gender dysphoria is a clinical level of distress that a person may have over their gender incongruence... but not all people are distressed by it. The medical literature makes a distinction between only having a gender incongruence and having gender dysphoria due to the incongruence for a reason.
Thanks for sharing this @luxander. Just came out to some close family as non-binary and it’s been a weird journey. Im pretty good at playing the part of a woman, but I’m a pretty adaptable person. I functioned well enough because I had to. My best self is non-binary and is where I find the most healing and authenticity. While I personally felt some dysphoria, I would encourage others to find their best, true self whether or not dysphoria is part of their experience.
The answer is yes. There is no debate. If you don't, why are you transitioning? What's the point? To feel more comfortable? That means you have some sort of dysphoria whether that be social of physical.
Jam Jam i want to point out that you don’t have to transition in order to be transgender, some people can’t, others would just feel other types of dysphoria come up by transitioning (usually only the case with non-binary people)
i do totally agree that you need dysphoria to be trans though!
This world view definitely requires the erasure of trans coded people in ancient and modern societies. You can recognize that your gender isn't that of what society thinks it is and not experience discomfort to the extreme required to be diagnosed as dysphoric.
@@shawnupchurch7775 There are two genders in our society though... You either present femininely or masculinely but that doesn't make you have a different gender. The point of being trans gender, the reason it exists, is because of dysphoria. That is why cis people aren't just like "oh these people just do it for attention." That's why people recognize it when they are young, old, what ever it may be. It can be social dysphoria too, it doesn't just have to be a discomfort of the body.
Edit: don't come for me with the two genders thing, non-binary exists. But it is the absence of gender, so it is not a gender.
Absence of gender would be agender. I'm nonbinary and have a plethora of gendered feelings, so please don't act like an authority on that thanks
@@sawyerjones5563 you do realize that you are preaching about our modern society to someone representing the society that was brutally displaced and genocided in order to make way for this modern society you're lauding as the penultimate example of how to be, right?
Erasure and gatekeeping aren't pretty on anyone. Just stop. I get that it takes maturity and empathy to believe that people can have a different reality than you and yet still have an experience which is valid - maybe those are skills worth developing since they can serve us in many facets of life? It is something I would encourage you to try.
Heya Luxander!!! I remember coming to you with this question in a Discord server (I'm Casey) & commenting on other videos of yours with my personal YT account... I'm glad I had my own doubts about hearing that trans people must have dysphoria, but it was from a trans person, so at first I did believe them!! You helped me see that being trans is so much more than having or not having body dysphoria & that others should never determine someone else's identity!!! Thank you for another wonderful video that educates us all more on these topics!!! I know as a cis-gendered female, I can never truly understand what trans people go through, but these videos help with basic empathy & being able to see things from your point of view & try to understand more...
❤️🖤❤️
~Casey
An excellent video! Hi, I found you though Mr Atheist~ I struggled with thoughts on whether I felt dysphoria at all when I was doing my serious questioning. I ultimately figured enough out to push forward and it's been *worthwhile*. I'm glad to have educators like you out here. :)
Thank you for making this. I'm usually terrified of checking trans/NB/GQ youtubers because they are often exclusionary and transmedicalists or other bigots, but I'm relieved about this video so I might check the other stuff~
And thank you for listening to the voices/comments of POC who are not cis, as a person who isn't white and is trans/NB/GQ it makes me happy.
My youngest sister has dysphoria for two specific things and if she can get top surgery and stop her period because both of those things do set off dysphoria for her. However she really honestly doesn't care about her pronouns. I have asked and I have told her that I would call her whatever she needs to be called. For her though, while she doesn't feel as if she is male or female. It is those two things that bother her and not language used. I know some people who would say well then that means she isn't.. And I would like to stop that right there. She is my baby sister. I have helped raise her. She is 20 years younger than me) and I realized she was non-binary long before she said anything specifically about it. I also knew that she was asexual and aromantic. Luckily my family is very accepting so my parents understand why she wants top surgery and their acceptance allows her to come to them or my other sister or me to talk about anything she is feeling or going through.
I am a cisgendered female I am so not going to tell someone how they should feel or what they should have to feel in order to be what feels right to them. My goal is literally to learn what I can to make sure my sister has as much support as I can literally get for her. Also I want to be supportive to other people I know. My best friend of 15+ years is trans and all I care about is him and others having the support they need. I also try to educate myself so I don't fuck up and accidentally hurt someone.
Thanks, I really appreciate all the reference links and the presentation.
THANK YOU! I've just come out as transgender late in life. This "dysphoria qualification" was the primary reason I had so many doubts in my mind. Since I don't experience dysphoria, I must not be transgender, right. So what am I? Ultimately I came out as transgender without resolving this fully, because my gender identity became more and more clear over time. I don't hate the body I was born with, but my desire to change my gender is too powerful to ignore.
I don't quite understand the difference between wanting to change the way people see your gender and having dysphoria. When you say you need to change your gender you were talking about other people's perception of your gender right? Sorry I'm probably just confused, can someone explain?
Well, it is my understanding that dysphoria involves psychological pain related to a feeling of being in the wrong body, or that the body does not accurately reflect how a person feels or identifies. I may not be getting that completely right, so apologies in advance if my description is missing something. So, what I was saying is that I don't experience any pain. For me it is not a matter of changing to remove pain, but rather a strong pull towards, in my case, a positive experience when presenting as a woman and experiencing the world as a woman. You are somewhat correct about other people's perception of my gender, but this is true of ANY gender presentation. Yes, I want others to see me as a woman, I want to see a woman in the mirror, I want to experience all the things that have been off limits to me as a cismale, including both outward appearance, but also inward experiences such as a wider emotional range and in my relationships with other people. Hope that makes sense!
i hate how theres so much strict rules on whay dysphorea is ive been told sevrel times i dont have it just becuse im not thinking of transitaning in anyway but i do have it it just hits me diffrently and its not as bad as othere wich often makes me feel invalid and has stopped me from exepting im nonbianery sooner. im so tired of these boxes people put people in
also ive noticed after having euphoria about some things i get dysphoric about others
luna wolf I love your username. Ravenclaw? I am.
Lupin Love! 💙
Euphoria is a great thing that not a lot of people in the community talk about. I had a kid at daycare say that I "looked more like a daddy than a mommy." It was an amazing moment, and it happened without surgery or hormones.
Thank you, I always felt like I had to force myself to hate my body just to be allowed to be the gender I really wanna be:/
I think people should use the word gender incongruence more because it is very useful in these kinds of discussions.
Interesting and very well-researched. Keep up the good work!
thank you so much for making this video!!! being a trans person that does not experience dysphoria i often feel like i am not trans enough to use said label. i have never liked being reffered to as a girl for varios reasons yet i dont feel repulsed or "wrong" when i look in the mirror and see my body. i absolutely love my chest but i sometimes feel like it would just be easier if i didnt have one. i dont think i would be happy living as a boy so thats of the table. i have always been one of the girls and i do think i have a more feminine (god i hate that word) brain rather than a masculine one. but i do not like being seen as a girl as an individual. i dont want people to assosiate any gender with me and treat me as such. being someone that has been assigned female at birth, is "one of the girls" and not having dysphoria i am often getting gate-kept and i sometimes think "am i faking everything?" . it is hard. my parents dont believe me when i tell them i am non-binary and my sister doesnt quite understand my feelings. so not having that safe space irl and then going online hoping to connect with other people just to be called a trans-trender is really frustrating. so thank you! i feel a lot better hearing i am valid from medical proffesionals (although ppl always tell me i am). it just makes makes the whole "you are valid" seem more valid iif you know what i mean? if you have read this far, wow. thank you!
Thank you so much for this. And thank you to fellow commentors for being nice, so far. I hope that continues.
Thank you for sharing this. I thought you had to have Gender Dysphoria to be Transgender, but you have opened my eyes. This was a very good video
Hi Luxander, I have some friends who is transgender people and they say to me that is not a
requirement have dysphoria to be trans. Some of they have dysphoria and others don't, but all they indentify as trans.
I think that, if you identify as trans person and don't have dysphoria, you're still a trans person and if you have dysphoria, you are a trans person too. Have or not dysphoria don't should be some kind of
requirement to be reconized as a trans person.
If I can, I wanna say something a part of the video subject.
Here in my country sexual education and education about gender are not a issue, they don't talk about it on the schools or with the teenagers/young adults, so I decided to do a kind of podcast (to be released in June/July) to talk about it, especially about sexuality and gender identity and health romantic relationships (and about toxic relationships). It's really sad that these two subjects keep being a taboo and I hope to can change this even just a little bit. Like you do here in your channel.
So thanks to talk about this subject and congrats for your channel. :)
Oh, and Hello from Brazil. ^^
Good luck with your podcast! I'm glad you're making a difference, we need that all over the world
This really challenges my views. Thank you for that. 🤗💕
I'm a bit worried this might lead to a point were transitioning is optional and not identified as anything but cosmetics.
@@Alexa-Raine the thing is that trans people shouldn't be obligated to transition in a certain way in the first place. Like obviously being trans isn't a choice but the way we go about our transition should be
@@spirithawk6580 what, no? I mean, sure, you can do what you want, but transition has a very definite meaning. A very particular goal in mind. To be the other gender, outside and socially accepted.
People can transition into whatever they want. But if they're transitioning their gender, it is predefined.
As an example, transitioning into a boy that doesn't look masculine will not have the same effect, and they might not be identified as a male in society.
Would it be bad if people were accepted for who they are to a degree that they didn't want to transition? That's not necessarily a belief I hold, just wondering what makes that a worry
@@LuxanderReal I feel like that's possible.
I want to feel like that could be okay for me, but it doesn't.
I have pretty bad dysphoria and it feels like blending in and conforming helps.
I think it's the current society.
In the future, maybe..
You real make me think, Luxander.
Thank you for that.
I used to think that dysphoria is required to be trans, until my own experiences started misaligning with my views. I have dysphoria, I do, and I'm happily transitioned, but... I identify as the gender corresponding with my biological sex. I could consider myself - half in jest, half in sheer frustration with the complete lack of labels suitable for me - as a "dysphoric cis person" which is indeed the inverse of a "non-dysphoric trans person." If I exist like that, then why can't they?
I simply don't think that dysphoria and gender identity always go hand in hand, even if they most often do. However, calling myself a "dysphoric cis" feels a bit untrue, because I do actually see myself as trans, on the basis of my dysphoria and my transitioned body. My situation is complicated, but basically: I love seeing myself entirely as a woman, I love being treated as a woman by others, etc, while being afab - *but* I get dysphoric looking like a woman, as well as looking totally like a man. Thus I see that my dysphoria is more in the nonbinary kinda range. I have body dysphoria, but no social dysphoria. I don't want to socially transition at all, but I needed, absolutely had to, medically transition.
Which I did, and it made me feel a lot more comfortable with my body and the way I look and sound. Testosterone absolutely blessed me. I took it in full dose for 6 years, for a complete male puberty experience. My T traits feel essential to my body, as if they were always there, and I feel very emotionally connected to them. As if they were always supposed to have been there. And I would be extremely distressed without them. Like clawing out of my skin, kinda distressed. So my wish to have male secondary sex characteristics is not just an aesthetic, okay. Let's just put that there.
I could have lived as a traditionally feminine cis woman, if only it wasn't for my dysphoria. I could also have lived as a feminine, transitioned trans man, if only it wasn't for my female gender and that I regret my top surgery. I actually tried both. Thus, I had to bite the very sour apple and start living as a feminine male-passing woman. Since having done so, I finally, fucking finally, feel entirely at peace with myself. Both with my gender and with my body. This is what home feels like to me. This is my gender euphoria. That apple is sour because as you can probably imagine, most people don't exactly gender me correctly. Some tell me I can't even be a woman because of my dysphoria, or say that if I'm really a woman then my dysphoria does not exist. That is an impossible ultimatum for me. It's upsetting and frustrating. Plus I get treated kinda badly by strangers for looking like a poorly passing trans woman. I've become every transphobe's punching bag, in my area, which is very yikes. I keep asking myself if I chose this. But I didn't. No more than anyone chooses to have dysphoria. I believe I was born with it. I've had it for as long as I can remember, but I'm only starting to make sense of it now, at age 30.
The thing is though, that I no longer feel any animosity towards trans people who don't have dysphoria - but I struggle real hard to figure out if I myself count as trans or not, even though I've literally transitioned! Because I'm bio female and identify as a woman, and that's the definition of a cis woman, right? But in an inverse kinda sense, I can actually relate to trans people without dysphoria: Do they not have a gender that mismatches their sex, but are ultimately fine with that? Just like I have a gender that matches my sex, but for unknown reasons I needed for it not to? If so, then those two opposite situations are not so different from each other in practice.
Some of us have unusual trans experiences, but I think we all (and not only me) really just wanna make sense of ourselves and how we wish to live our lives. Dysphoria can be a good way to help figure out if you're trans or not, as you're likely not cis if you do have dysphoria. So it is a clear indicator, but ultimately there is far more to being trans than just that.
I’ve been reconsidering gender recently and it’s all really confusing me. I don’t think I have gender dysphoria, but I’ve also been feeling like “woman” doesn’t really fit me anymore. You’re videos have been so helpful in processing my relationship with gender. Thank you
I am extremely pleased that you exist and make videos.
Thanks for this. I work with young children and I believe one of the best things we can do for children is create a safe, secure, supportive, loving, and challenging environment in which they can discover who they are in this world for themselves.
Also, know that we care about you. I have your back. 💙💂🏽🎂
Gender Dysphoria in Adolescents and Adults
A. A marked incongruence between one’s experienced/expressed gender and assigned gender, of at least 6 months’ duration, as manifested by at least two of the following:
1. A marked incongruence between one’s experienced/expressed gender and primary and/or secondary sex characteristics (or in young adolescents, the anticipated secondary sex characteristics). 513
2. A strong desire to be rid of one’s primary and/or secondary sex characteristics because of a marked incongruence with one’s experienced/expressed gender (or in young adolescents, a desire to prevent the development of the anticipated secondary sex characteristics).
3. A strong desire for the primary and/or secondary sex characteristics of the other gender
4. A strong desire to be of the other gender (or some alternative gender different from one’s assigned gender).
5. A strong desire to be treated as the other gender (or some alternative gender different from one’s assigned gender).
6. A strong conviction that one has the typical feelings and reactions of the other gender (or some alternative gender different from one’s assigned gender).
B. The condition is associated with clinically significant distress or impairment in social, occupational, or other important areas of functioning.
Specify if: With a disorder/difference of sex development (e.g., a congenital adrenogenital disorder such as E25.0 congenital adrenal hyperplasia or E34.50 androgen insensitivity syndrome). Coding note: Code the disorder/difference of sex development as well as gender dysphoria. Specify if: Posttransition: The individual has transitioned to full-time living in the experienced gender (with or without legalization of gender change) and has undergone (or is preparing to have) at least one gender-affirming medical procedure or treatment regimen-namely, regular gender-affirming hormone treatment or gender reassignment surgery confirming the experienced gender (e.g., breast augmentation surgery and/or vulvovaginoplasty in an individual assigned male at birth; transmasculine chest surgery and/or phalloplasty or metoidioplasty in an individual assigned female at birth).
Wow that was very convincing
@@LuxanderReal thats coppied and pasted from the DSM 5TR
Yeah I know, cis people made up a diagnosis for trans people so that they can decide if we're suffering adequately to deserve bodily autonomy
I liked the video for the most part. You relayed the information well to support yourself. The only thing I took issue with was your proposal of a future where trans people don't need to experience dysphoria. While I understand what you mean and that hormone blocking is part of that process, it implies that puberty is the cause/start of dysphoria when there's plenty of cases of young children expressing extreme dysphoria through self-harm and things of that nature before they even reach double digit ages, much less puberty. Otherwise this was a great video and a good way of addressing the gate keeping.
After reading your comment I get your point and you are right there are kids pre-puberty that do experience dysphoria. Hopefully we can get to a place within the world where we as parents, as adults, as people can start helping children figure things out in a way that doesn't leave them self harming. I have literally no idea how to do that but I think working together with those who are trans or in the LGBTQA+ community and those who aren't. (hopefully this makes sense, if not I am so sorry I am often tired and not feeling well)
Also sorry if this sounds preachy or anything cause I that is soo my not my intention at all. I am just thinking of people I know and people I care about and trying to make their lives easier. You know? Hopefully as our world starts to understand things more then we will have the tools to help children before it gets to the points you brought up like self-harm and extreme dsyphoria.
@@burningshadows01 Yeah, just something I wanted to highlight. I know a lot of people who developed or realized their dysphoria in their teens, but there have been a lot of documentaries centering around kids who are clearly socially dysphoric and do in some cases do some unfortunate things in an attempt to understand their brain. I'm hoping for a day when we can forget this was ever a problem too, but it's important to recognize that there are more than just puberty-centric cases of dysphoria. Not that Luxander doesn't realize that, just that the wording implied that was the only answer to a much wider problem.
@@souleaterevans4589 That makes a lot of sense and I agree with you that we do need to help children. I am a mom of a 9 year old little boy and it hurts my heart to hear of children his age or even younger going through forms of dysphoria. I totally understand what you meant. Thank you for commenting back!
Yeah, I was focusing on body dysphoria in this video, I've known people who had the social dysphoria early on. The idea would be that they start experiencing the social dysphoria and have it addressed before the body stuff starts. I'm more extolling a hopeful future and attempting to use an emotional appeal to people who think you need to suffer to be trans
@@LuxanderReal Yeah, I figured as much. It certainly is a nice idea. Hopefully we can get there at some point in our lives.
Like this video, still think dsyphoria is part of being trans but not ... every one trans has it , it’s just only trans ppl have dsyphoria but not all trans ppl have it.... this has kind of helped me understand. It’s been difficult to understand everything but the resources used helped and I think I get it better
this is an amazing resource as someone’s who’s questioning if their non-binary, thank you so so much 🥺🥺
Why would you want to change your gender if you don't have dysphoria?
Thankyou so much for this i was freaking out so much that if i came out as trans people would say im not because i have little to no dysphoria, and i felt like i would be invalidating other trans people. I literally cried watching this because i was so relieved
Through my transition out of religion I think I experienced some form of dysphoria because I went from a very controlled environment where the roles and expectations of who I was supposed to be were forced onto me. It took time to be able to feel more comfortable in my own skin (which continually working on) after a lot of introspection. Now I'm at the point where my gender identity isn't something I feel the need to constantly justify to myself or strictly define. At one point I was very adamant about not identifying as a woman because of all the stereotypes ingrained into me from childhood. I view gender in a completely different, more nuanced way rather than in black and white. Anyway, this was a great video! I find it's important to include both clinical definitions and research alongside personal experiences which will hopefully help a wide range of people to be more empathetic toward the trans community which is so needed
I have your back as well t-people
This is just the answer to my question in your previous video. Thank you, Luxander! I love how open-minded you are to different ideas.
Thank you for having my back.
Not having intense dysphoria made me question whether I was trans or not for a while. I used to think that transitioning was a huge deal, a cumbersome process that requires years of dedication to medical procedures and hormone treatments that all culminated in one finally being able to just live their lives peacefully. Now I don't feel like all that is really required, and it doesn't feel like a big deal to me because it isn't a big deal in my life. Your appearance and identity are just the frame of your life, and they tell very little about the big picture of who you really are. Of course, the frame is what holds it all together, and so it's essential to make it sturdy and well kept.
Thank you❤
I really like the everyday feminism article. I was actually ready to send it to you if you hadn't read it yet 😁
I know I'm a bit late to the party but I just want to say this.
Thank you,
Thank you so much for this video as I feel 10 times more validated and like my experiences are not fake or selfish. My mother has these views that if you do not have visible levels of dysphoria from a young age then you can not be trans. I am going to show this video to her and have the conversation I was too scared and anxious to have before. You have helped me and I thank you from the bottom of my heart.
Thank you,
Sincerely an awkward nonbinary just trying to find their place in the world
I cannot thank you enough for this video. I discovered your videos last night through the ones on ContraPoints and can't stop watching. You have such a wonderful manner and your approach to discussing and expressing things is truly wonderful. I'm an AMAB Non-binary person (they/ them), who only discovered that non-binary existed a few years ago, but it was such a dawning realisation of gender euphoria. I hadn't really experienced social dysphoria until after my understanding of myself as non-binary and generally feel physically nonchalant. Anyway, I'm rambling, but I just wanted to send you so much love and positive vibes and to thank you for helping me feel more comfortable and secure in myself.
I hope you have a wonderful day 💛🐻
The problem is the APA uses being trans and not conforming to traditional gender roles interchangebly. IMO I think that's literally the only reason they said you don't need GD to be trans, because they're accounting for the cis people whose "gender expression" is non-traditional, their own words.
I've had this weird sense my entire life whenever I looked in the mirror. Like the body I was seeing, wasn't really mine.
I've labelled myself as non-binary about a year and a half ago. Ever since then, looking at myself in the mirror has gotten easier. I narrate myself with a new name and pronouns, and it's just made me feel a lot more in control.
Thank you. I'm going back through your videos as topics I am interested in come forward in my feed.
I appreciate your way of talking us through complex issues.
I liked what you said about the comments, it is very healthy minded to state that you will delete negative comments that may be harmful to your own mental health. That took a lot of guts to create that boundary.
Have a nice day today too. 💕💕💕
Realizing that I am trans was scary at first, because of the stigma, but I also feel more free. It is a relief to finally understand who I really am. Allowing myself to seek the procedures that would have labeled me as a freak, by those most of the people in the community that I grew up in. I am a non binary person who was given the label of female at birth. I have always had dysphoria, when it came to body. I couldn't understand why I could find any fault with my body. For most of my life, it was an almost perfect female body. I was very pretty and looked good to other people in feminine clothing, but it wasn't me. It felt like cross dressing. My mother had my older sister restrain me while my mother would force a dress over me, while I struggled and screamed. It wasn't natural for me. My last husband told me that it was his right as my husband to see me in form fitting feminine clothing.
I am glad that the way that I transition will be my choice and no one else's. At this time, I only feel the need for top surgery and a more masculine style. I am so relieved that I now live in a place where people like me are accepted and have left behind the people who pushed conformity on me to the point of abuse. For the first time in my life, I am pursuing what is best for and it feels very free.
This was really, really helpful for me personally with trying to figure out if I have dysphoria and what kinds of dysphoria I might have. I've had a really hard time as I've been questioning my gender, as I don't have physical dysphoria and I haven't felt like I've experienced acute social dysphoria. Honestly just hearing someone nonbinary tell me I don't need to experience dysphoria to be trans in some way got me kind of emotional.
As a cis woman, I appreciate your lessons on this. It is great hearing a perspective on life that is so different from my own. I hope that more cis people will hear this and it will help them reevaluate the way they think about other people and their experiences.
Luxander, I'm writing this comment after watching a good number of your videos from start to finish and also being relatively knowledged on the subject. I am a cis woman (because I know it will be asked if I don't state it) who is trying to decide if they have dysphoria or dysmorphia. I wanna actually talk about the different points you make and maybe have a conversation to better understand what you're saying.
What do you need to be transgender then? It is understandable for transgender men, women, and non-binary people not to want dysphoria, but there has to be something mentally wrong for you to want to change, right? What reason would someone desire to socially or physically transition if they didn't have some sort of mental or physical anxiety towards the thought of remaining in the gender assigned at birth?
Additionally, being transgender (from everything I read and personally experienced) is painful! It's very stressful and debilitating not to be in the body you want to be in (which would be dysphoria). It is important to recognize that the mental aspect of it can be really bad, but not everyone goes through the same kind of dysphoria. No one has said "everyone has to hate themselves to be trans", but it is important to note you have to have a problem with something in order to want to make a change. Otherwise, there is no reason to make a transition.
It is also important to note that referencing CNN and other more biased news networks and authors can take away from your great argument. This video has become one of my favourite on this side of the argument. Keep making great content :] SORRY THIS IS LONG XD
so I can really only look at one part of this as far as like. No you don't have to 'want to make a change' to be trans. and so what I mean by this is like. With certain cultures, third genders aren't a matter of: Oh I feel at odds with what is expected of me! It's simply. BEING something else. In some cultures this was celebrated and in others shunned. How SOCIETY sees your existence is what causes dysphoria (in my experience). But in a society where you are not shunned for Being, the experience of 'being trans/third gender/whatever cultural term used to describe this' isn't rooted in a desire to 'make a change'. It is simply an act of Being. This got really philosophical sorry.
You need a gender incongruence to be transgender. It’s definitely possible to have a gender incongruence without experiencing significant, clinical levels of distress over it. Gender dysphoria is a harmful medical condition that is debilitating and it impedes daily functioning. The state of being transgender is not a medical condition and trans people can live happy, comfortable lives. Being trans isn’t defined by having dysphoria, it’s defined by having a gender incongruence.
Ive been looking hard to find this kind of video by a nonbinary creator! Thanks for all the infos
I liked your video and it is definitely well done per usual. It definitely is a change to what I thought and its hard to be convinced. I think overall trans people need kindness more than policing. I just can't wrap my mind around the thought that someone would be trans without some driving feeling (dysphoria). I think what you brought up about social dysphoria is a good point. I just wonder how a trans person without dysphoria would know the difference because having social anxiety in general or whether its due to gender. If someone calles me "he" I would definitely not like it. But that's because I know that im biologically female, and my mind and being is female. I think in the social aspect there would still naturally be some amount of physical dysphoria because you have an adverse reaction to appearing as whatever gender you do not align with? As I said, I totally enjoy your videos as well as this one. I'm interested on others views on it and hope no one sees healthy discourse as attacking :))
So, the video already goes through this. How are you supposed to know that you have dysphoria if you're not allowed to shift yourself to feeling better until you know you have dysphoria in a world who is at the point of thinking you NEED dysphoria to be trans?
What if you got called he one time, and you felt really, really happy? Like something clicked with you that your original gender didn't? It's known as gender euphoria. When something is finally right.
For me, THAT is my goal. Because if I'm happier as something else, staying what I have been will never be quite right. I'm always in pain, always nor noticing things about myself, always wanting to stay in, etc etc. For 3 years I told myself I needed to have a distinct feeling of dysphoria, and then someone accidentally called me he. It was _better_, but honestly, self Iding myself with it/itself pronouns came with a feeling that I finally wasn't faking to everyone around me about who I was at first glance. A feeling I felt so often I didn't have the words till I tried to think about it.
Now, those are just anecdotes, but if you put them in context for what you said, you don't need suffering to be a drive. Happiness is just a good a reason to change yourself for yourself, if not better because you avoid the pain. Once you start hurting for a while and forgetting about it, you forget yourself and have to re-find yourself. For me, The feeling of faking is an "eh" feeling at best. I actually have a whole life of doing it from bad parents, a trait that's often shared by trans people and literally anyone who does it long enough because they need to survive. In that way, I'm still not so sure I have dysphoria. But I still am happier being known as someone else, and that related to my gender, so I don't need it.
I hope any of that helped! x.x
@@Littleredrosecross dysphoria
is an extremely scientific thing. Facts beat feelings, and being trans is both.
@@Littleredrosecross and I'm curious, why neoprounouns? I see it as disrespectful and very objectifying. Would you explain it to me? I'm an open minded person and would like to understand.
Someone is trans if they feel that there is a gender expression which fits them better than the one identified for them at birth. My ex had no real feelings on being AMAB, but once she started to consider what life would be like as a woman she found that resonated deeply with her. She had no negative feelings about being seen as and living as "male", she didn't hate it or want to die or think of self harm. But she is far happier as a woman, it feels authentic and wonderful to her in a way she never even considered was a possibility.
As a cis woman, I can only try to understand, but it makes great sense to me.
shr ek Quite simply put, Because he/she/they don't work all that well for me.
In a more eloquent fashion, Weirdly enough-- Why I prefer it/itself is the same reason why I said in my original post. With it comes a feeling that I'm actually being... Myself. 'It' is something that personally fits to me. Internally, I call myself it because it's just that-- proper, and when someone else uses it, for me it feels like they actually see me as the person I am, not as someone who can be whatever they want me to be so long as they put in the word.
Why I chose 'it' is because of how it makes me feel.
I'm aware that 'it' has a history of being misused and used to objectify someone, but I've always seen the difference being a combination of factors; Intent and how it's received. If someone uses it to demean me, even if it is the correct pronoun, I will absolutely hate it(tone of voice having to do with discerning intent, as well as context). As long as someone understands that calling me "it" is not calling me "an it", and how it's received is the main(only) reason why it's okay to call me that, we're good.
Never use it for someone if they don't specifically ask for it, btw. I try to employ that for any and all pronouns and stick with. I use They as a true neutral, since asides from they being registered as use for it's singular form in 1800, They doesn't have a history, and so there's not much to hurt people with.
Thank you so much for such a well sourced video! It's greatly needed❤️
This is so well done on a touchy (for some) topic! Excellent job!
This was eye opening, thank you very much for making this video!
I highly related to the story of the woman who didn't think she had disphoria. I have known I am very dissociated from my body for years and not understood why. I live my life almost from a third person perspective, it has created a lot of difficulties. And I have been identifying as NB for a few months now and can now recognize a lot of things as disphoria inducing, but my reaction to that is to dissociate, rather than feel intense emotional pain.
It has been a strange realization.
Thank you so much. I'm a Transgender Male that doesn't expression gender dysphoria. And that help me a lot. I thought I had to expression it to be Transgender
Thank you, this was pretty thorough! But I don’t entirely get the point about medicalizing being trans. I’m European so I think healthcare is a right and whatever procedure a trans person wants and can have, should be paid for (even conservatives per here agree, this is no extreme statement). However, if dysphoria isn’t necessary, so being trans isn’t a medical issue, how do you get the healthcare system to pay for hormones and surgery? I see in the US where the healthcare system is somewhat nonexistent this isn’t really an issue but most European countries use the dsm as well. Please anyone explain how that would work if trans identities are considered only sociological and not medical.
You need to be able to demonstrate that being trans causes you distress, which is the gender dysphoria diagnosis, in order to get medical transition. You don't have to need medical treatment in order to identify as trans though, and the thing that sucks is that lots of people take that medical diagnosis and say that's what you have to have in order to identify as trans whatsoever
@@LuxanderReal Thanks for taking the time to reply. But doesn't that still mean that medical professionals are gatekeepers? If you are dependent on them to transition (medically)? I don't see how that could be avoided within a public healthcare system, but that is a compromise in a way, isn't it? How would that work for the person in the video you mentioned, who had no dysphoria but felt immensely better after transitioning? Would they have to start paying from their own pocket and then proof that the treatment is beneficial and then later be financed by the system? That sounds a bit messy to me. I'm sorry for ranting, i realize this is more bureacracy than identity, which was the topic of your vid, but whenever I hear or read that you dont need dysphoria to be trans I'm wondering how that would work for the trans people who want to transition medically. And your reply already made a lot of sense, so thank you again.
I disagree, honestly. An emphasis on dysphoria does not “frame transness as something painful, shameful, and to be resented”-if anything, it is the signal that transness itself is the cure. We wouldn’t prescribe anti-depressants to someone unless they were diagnosed with depression, but that person doesn’t consider it shameful to be depression-free simply because the “rite of passage” of depression necessitated the treatment.
This doesn’t mean self-hatred and a DSM-V gender dysphoria diagnosis should gatekeep a transition, but every trans person I’ve gotten to know speaks of a profound sense of missing something, exhausting other options, and then euphoria kicking in when they began their gender-affirming care. Life still sucked, but a lot less, because they could navigate it better when they felt themselves in their own skin. I appreciate your input, tho, and I’m always open to perspective that’ll change my mind
Thanks for this bc I thought I was faking it bc I only have chest dysphoria and I’m ok w the rest of my body including my voice bc I’m nonbinary and trans and this has helped learn a lot
Thanks for fighting the good fight and posting this!
I became extremely violent during puberty. It is at that point that I knew that continuing the course with male puberty was not a valid option for me.
Thank you for being understanding. I'm just beginning to understand what it means to be trans, but it's difficult to tell the difference between trans and gender non conforming. I'm still not sure what to label what, but I know I'm not the only one. This is still all so new. So many people need to discover who they are. Anger serves no one. There is such a spectrum. Maybe someday, we can all discover what we are without such rigid labels.
I am 16 almost 17 years old and have been feeling alone in my transgender journey because it is obviously not one that many would think a transgender journey was like. I was very content in my childhood as a female and grew closely with my brothers and their gender roles. I never though for once that I might be a boy instead of a girl until I was 16. I started researching what trans ment after my friend came out, to try to help and understand. Soon, I realized I felt these feelings of misalignment with my gender and soon felt that I had found myself feeling like i was ment to be in the trans community. I often felt that i didn't have dysphoria and told that I wasn't "trans enough". But I knew who I was and fought for it. I socially transitioned and loved every bit of it, the good parts and the bad. I often contemplate the option of going on HRT because I know that it would make me happier and more in tune with myself, but spent nights crying because I was told that I would never qualify because I didn't feel dysphoric. I now know that I have resources that would allow me to go on HRT, even if I don't seem to have dysphoria and that makes me so happy. You really brought hope and joy in my life because I know that I have a friend out there who believes me. Thank you, and I hope that you are having an awesome day ❤
Thanks for putting all the resources.
I am saying this as a cis person, and am no means an expert. While I never denied a person’s truth or identity, and have whole heartily accepted people for who they are. I never understood being trans and not having dysphoria to someone degree either physically or socially. I never said anyone was wrong but I always thought that would be the driving force to want to transition. This video was very educational and eye opening and I realize my ignorance
Thank you so much for this video. I needed to hear this
Im a cis female but I've always felt more masculine in my brain. I love my outward appearance but as of lately I do enjoy an occasional day where I like to dress more "manly" to fit my insides better. 👍
Loving your content so far
I love the way you explain things!
I never knew this was a thing until now. Ty for bringing it to my attention
I get that one can be transgender without being gender disphoric, but isn't disphoric the catalyst that causes someone to make changes?
So dysphoria has to be accompanied by some level of internal strife? I was under the impression that just believing you are not what you actually are is dysphoria at some level whether it bothers you internally or not. What would the word for that instead be? Pain and inner-turmoil are completely subjective so I would assume everybody perceives their experience with dysphoria differently in which case it would bother some but not others.
Thank you for making this video! Although I do have dysphoria it isn’t what I define my transness with and many other trans people don’t define theirs by dysphoria
Why would you transition if you don't have gender dysphoria?
You can find joy in a new thing without finding distress in the old thing, ya know?
@@LuxanderReal thank you for the reply!
I had to hear this message over and over again before I could comfortably self-identify as trans. And, big surprise: In the end it turned out that I actually had dysphoria all along, just not in the "I hate my body"-way. I hope our understanding of trans people with and without dysphoria continues to broaden. Thank you for doing so much for this process. Gate-keeping sucks.
Thank you for making this
I guess my stance on this is that you don’t need dysphoria to be trans and having dysphoria doesn’t automatically make you trans, you’re trans if you identify as being a different gender than the one you were assigned... there shouldn’t be any gatekeeping when it comes to gender identity, I’m cis and when I look at what happens in the trans community, I just don’t understand why some trans people (ehem, Blaire, ehem, Kalvin, eheeemm, Rooosee) feel the need to invalidate other trans people if they don’t have dysphoria, they don’t want to transition for whatever reason, or they are nb, I’m also gay and I’ve never said that people who don’t listen to Gaga aren’t really gay, cuz that’s just ridiculous, why can’t the “true transgenders” understand that they’re just being ridiculous...
Please I don't want to be rude, but can I ask the trans people who don't experience gender dysphoria how they found out that they are trans.
If I sound rude please forgive me.
I just want to understand and respect everyone in trans community.