Yup, definitely feeling the positivity from this Jack. It's because what you're saying is true.. and scientifically so concerning dopamine and becoming bored. Thank you for the reminder to put down the phone and just live.
I love how this isn’t just a “quick fix” or “try this simple trick” kind of video. It’s great advice, but it’s also life advice: Get good sleep, avoid your phone first thing in the morning, don’t drown yourself in dopamine, be in nature, literally just improve yourself and that will help your interactions with people. Love this!
That "I just met her" shit at the start, was dope. Kudos to you bro. One thing I noticed when it comes to me chatting girls up is the less I'm "goal oriented" as in determined to acquire their for example digits or their fancy no matter what, and figuring out what I have to say in order to get that, the more smooth I am because I genuinely don't care what happens. If I approach the whole situation with "if I get it I got it, if not, fuck it" attitude, the chances of me actually getting what I want skyrocket
Outcome independence, they say it helps because you don't feel the pressure of coming across a certain way. When you care too much, you will feel too anxious to flirt in case it goes wrong.
Yes, this. It helps. My issue is focusing on what I want until the other person says no. I can converse no problem but it gets tiring after an hour. I noticed this happened a few times recently. My go-to is what do you do in your free time? Who do you know here? Comment something they're wearing. I have been lower energy lately which I think could also be throwing convos down. I know I'm confident but yeah, i get tired lol
Great point. I've noticed this personally as well. Just like sports or anything else, if you focus on the process instead of the outcome, you will perform better. In this case, that would mean just enjoying the process of talking to her and not making it feel like life or death. That will lead to being more relaxed and acting like yourself.
I don’t have dating apps, social media, and have all my screens set to black and white. Real life is so fuckin dope boys. Make the metaverse boring because real life rips. Since making everything digital black and white, the only colors i see are real. It’s wild how cool everything becomes, and always has been. Thanks as always Jack.
@@xeno139 not anymore. I don’t need that much enjoyment from actually nothing at the moment. I’ve tried, but it’s seriously not fun while I’ve got something more important goin on.
I don't know why but "You're bored hence the conversation will be boring" is shocking too me, seems a no brainer but can't remember how many times I'm bewildered every time a conversation last for only like 10-15 minutes, definitely taking your tips now. thanks man :)
Have you noticed how much more easy it is to get people to laugh while participating on a boring lecture? It's because the brain is looking for relief. Same is true when you're out and about.
It's not just the dopamine stuff. It's people aren't used to talking irl anymore and only see screen based lives and for anxious people it makes irl socializing scary. A lot of women are also afraid to be approached these days by men . They often associate it with the wrong ideas and being pushed into things they're not comfortable about. And for young guys it's also scary cos then they feel like they shouldn't have tried and should have stayed away
I disagree about women not wanting to be approached - I’ve heard women complain for the past decade or so that guys don’t approach them .. I think for every girl that doesn’t want to be approached there are 10 that do . Just be sensible with how and where you approach - for instance, don’t run up to a woman in a parking lot at night and try to talk to her
The way you broke down the psychology behind the dopamine overload from constant stimulation, as well as its effects on the human psyche was brilliant and immensely valuable. Solid video.
This is a huge problem I struggle with just the other day my older bro introduced me to a girl and tbh it was kind of awkward since I didn't wanted to really talk to her plus she was like shy and stuff this video helped me figure out what I could've done to improve. Thanks Jack.
@@ilyassebenana3824 thing is i approached her at the gym where i am going from a very long time and everyone knows me there and she was looking at me multiple times giving hints n stuff when i approached her she startled and said do i know you? Still i continued doing small talk and left saying see you around.. thing is there is always someone accompanying us the clients as it is like small personal trainer gym for every client.. so what if i approach her again and she say something like that she still looks at me sometimes but i dont want to be embarrased at a gym i go from. Long. Time
I've been talking with a girl on a job who is already have a boyfriend and she always smiles at me and I was thinking she's interested in me or hitting on me but then I saw her doing it with other guys and pretty much with everyone, that's just goes to show that whenever it seems like someone flirting with you you might be wrong cause she was just convincingly nice and benevolent and thank God I did not fall for that, 'cause that trap can catch 99% guys who is thinking that just because she smiled at you doesn't necessarily mean you think it is what you think it is
@@MetalRaydown if I just mentioned her smile doesn't mean I forgot about all the other factors I just decided to point out one of 'em. And your perception is wrong about what I have realized
I used to watch you like 3-4 years ago on your main channel. Back then I had just discovered self improvement, and I was also watching irl pranks and funny pickup stuff from you, thatwasepic, bigdawstv etc, and I would always wonder, "why don't these guys dive into the self improvement niche? They are clearly skilled at least in the social aspect of it" Well, I'm glad to see that you are doing that now
@@tadeob_ I dont know if you still struggle with this but the main reason I was able to overcome my fear of talking to/interaction with females is to truly internalize the abundance mindset. Oh you laid the moves on the cute barista you’ve been hung up on for a while and she said no? Oh well 3,999,999,999 more women to go. It may sound stupid but this mindset helps tremendously with confidence and getting over an ex
“Stuff you missed in history class” is an interesting podcast. Spent 2 days driving from SF to Van without checking the phone, just listening to it… def experienced the conversation boost you mentioned for about a week or so after. Didn’t even realize that was why til now
Jack bro I always love u, i wanna add something here. Dopamine is one of the smallest sideline reason for being not good at talking in my opinion. Mostly it is the energy that we guys carry which hampers the mind. And in my life this social media has very less impact and I am pretty active in real life. But I also felt emptiness while talking to girls. Biggest reason is the fear of reaction and rejection, being desperate give her very exploiting vibe, and trying to be perfect has got all our energy. We can use few emotions, like fun, friendliness, human to human conversation, creating man to woman vibe, or just addressing the girl while expressing the self.. We can use these mindsets to perform better, otherwise we might fall for fear and presumptions and go blank.
yeah this is a good video and i'm sure is helpful for some people, i thought it was great advice, but it's also reductive and not a one-size-fits-all. it won't work for everyone because not everyone's problem is that they're bored (or its only one problem among many). i know that is certainly true for me. still i took something out of this video, so that was still beneficial
This works only as a "First Impression" as a implies not being nervous! But in a years long relationship, it's better to speak less but effective. What y'all think?
Social media and quick online dopamine hits have ruined people's social skills. Just have to force yourself not to go on your phone/computer during the day, then when u go to the mall to approach girls, u will notice interesting things around u that u can talk about. Good tip!
It’s funny how you say this. I was at basic training for 3 months, on a holiday leave now. Being without my phone for so long, coming home it’s crazy how different you feel. I noticed the little things, everywhere I went and it genuinely felt so great. My mood and mindset totally changed, for the better and in a way I never expected.
I feel like this revolves around being present in the moment. Some people don't understand what it mean to be truly present in the real world. Being present isnt when you're conscious of where you are and aren't spacing out per se, its when you notice the things happening around you. I've noticed that when I'm on my phone, or am listening to music in my headphones, these things become irrelevant. Mix that in with the fact I listen to music pretty much 24/7 when i'm in public by myself and I automatically stop being present. I'm trying to become more present, and more in touch with reality. I've been going to the gym, and now I plan to try to slowly cut out social media from my life. I think this video may genuinely affect me, Denmo says this in an unfiltered way which makes you straight up realize that its your own fault that you cant socialise, its time to start experimenting, practising and learning. Sure, its embarrassing, but ts far more embarrassing to stay this way for years and eventually regret it.
On point: Being confident in oneself can be attractive to many people. But also: Having a good sense of humor and being able to make others laugh can be attractive. Being kind, understanding and empathetic can be attractive qualities in a partner. Being intelligent and well-informed can be attractive to some people. Some people may find physical appearance, such as being fit or having a certain style, to be attractive. Being open to new experiences and having a sense of adventure can be attractive to some people. Being able to provide financial stability and security can be attractive to some people. Having ambition and drive to achieve goals can be attractive. Being emotionally mature and able to handle and express emotions in a healthy way can be attractive. Being dependable and trustworthy can be attractive. Attraction is a complex and personal thing and what one person find attractive may differ from another person.
i think you gave a good example of a way to start a natural conversation at the beginning of the video. specifically, just pointing out something in the present moment such as her longboard.. it helped make things flow more easily right off the top instead of "how are you"
This right here! Out of all these videos out there on self improvement and holding a conversation, this is the one which really got to me. Everything makes sense now, all of a sudden Looking at other people talking so effortlessly made me wonder how do they do it and no matter how hard I tried, I just couldn't. But now, after watching this video, I have come to realize that these people are most likely nowhere near as exposed to bad shit as much as I am. Yes, I do go to the gym for a while now, but apart from that, I haven't really made the effort to limit my screen time. My brain needs to make that shift and it won't be an easy task. I really appreciate you making this video, especially because it's not just talking about the topic, but demonstrating it as well. You just earned yourself a new subscriber! I'll definitely look into some more of your content and will be looking forward to see more! Cheers 🙌
When I meet folks, I tend to start the conversation by bringing up something that relates to them (i.e: your longboard example at the beginning), then carry it from there. IF the conversation is slow and boring, then I have concluded that the person I'm talking to isn't providing enough to contain a conversation - a signal that usually means they're not interested. Otherwise, if the conversation just seems to flow, and both parties carry each other's weight, then I definitely try to make that move. Just some of my own personal advice from over the years.
The first person that noticed what i did few months ago when I stopped using social media to talk about the things I like, I found myself talking to random people about even more random topics
in the past I smoked alot of pot and stimulated stimulated myself aot with computer/smartphone and first thing I noticed when I went from time to time sober was that I chat with random people like crazy. This advice is spot on.. Moreover when you stop stimulating yourself, you have alot more od willpower (for fighting porn, woirking out, dieting, acheiving goals,whaever you want), you are more brave (not only in approaching women, just in life, you're not that scared of doing things you really want but are challenging) and have better mood in general. great video man, keep preaching. when i see video like this i have a feeling that internet is going in the right direction
this is probably the greatest video ive ever seen, not jus for talking to girls but jus everybody and enjoying my life everyday instead of dreading it and not understanding why.
I'm finally moving out to a new state and making friends is going to be one of the hardest and the most important thing for me to do and this video gave me a lot of confidence. Thank you and keep making content!
Ok so I used to be super good at talking to people liken this and slowly over time I realized that I lost that mojo. This video was actually a “holy shit” moment when you said I’m bored, it makes so much sense
@@stevendalloesingh1214 ME TOO MAN... god i hope we escape and elevate alot of people never escape this reality and die and oh well such was their life... OH FUCK IM SCARED
I was never really good talking to girls, but my friend is a pick up artist who I went out with who taught me stuff. He showed me it is far better to make up fun b.s. stories talking to girls, then do the serious what do you do for work, where are you from questions. He told the girls he was a painter selling his paintings all over the world and told them I was his manager to include me in the conversation. The girls questioned if if he was for reall or full of it, but ran with it asking us questions so we had to make crazy things up, which you can keep going for a longer period of time. He said beautiful girls are bored during the week going to school or working and love crazy things to happen in the weekend at a bar or club, not the serious what do you do for work questions Also told me that is better to pick up girls during the day when they have their bitch shield down and wear less make up, so you can really see how they look in real life. In my country there is a specific big brand supermarket called Albert Heijn and the girls always say they like to meet their future husband in the freezing section of Albert Heijn, so it seems they think it is more special to to be picked up during the day at a shop then at night at bars, also no competiton from other guys during daytime. Maybe you can talk about that Jack daytime pick up verses in bars and clubs. One girl told me I didnt have the bar pick up talk and would not have kissed me when she would have met me in the bar, because of it. I met her during the day at a group activity and she kissed me after talking about mutual interests, no pick up from my side whatsoever. I didnt even think of picking her up as she looked like the sister of Cameron Diaz and I tought she was way out of my league. She said in a bar without the pickup talk she said I wouldnt have had a chance with her, because the pick up guys make her feel a special way.
@@Charybdis47 Had to look up who Barnie Stinson was. That guy may be succesfull in a comedy series picking up women and now because he is a famous actor, but I dont think he was as good at picking up girls as my friend. When an average looking guy like my friend who is not famous or rich can get a famous hot female tv presenter to go after him he earned my respect.
@@2012inca ahhahahahh bro barnie is a character who always picks up women in the most ridiciouls way possible😂😂. Was just a joke cause you story reminded me of him. You should defintly look up compilations of him picking up women in the show, how I met your mother😂
I try to explain similar shit to my friends all the time. Thanks for the great advice and always keep working on yourself and making others have a better day! For me I love to give people compliments in public and strive to make at least one other person’s day better :)
Something that helps me is knowing lots of random stuff and pulling it from out of nowhere. Connecting two seemingly unrelated things is also good. Like one time I connected nuclear bombs to a piano concert I went to in Chicago. My story made sense and was interesting lol. Having experiences to pull from is invaluable.
I agree I read up on interesting facts to tell people better then what do you do for work or where are you from. Like saying I was in a town where big crocodiles dont eat people and children even sit om them, this is a true and occurs in 2 places in the world, because those wild crocodiles were born where people feed them for centuries so the they dont see people as food, look it up on Google you will see. Doesnt matter if I really was there, can just later say I made it up I was there and it makes for a good story. Better then saying where are you from or what work do you do.
@@rinreborn7364 What feels weird the crocodiles not eating people, you can Google pictures of children sitting on top of and playing with big crocodiles or do you mean it feels weird to make stories up to tell to girls in bars and clubs. In the last case girls who work or go to school all week dont want to have boring conversations at a bar going out. They want have fun and laugh, so if you make up a funny story you can always say later you had to much to drink and was just talking b.s. . My friend is a pick-up artist and would tell hot girls he was a painter selling his paintings all over the world and he told them I was his manager. They didnt know if he was serious or of he was joking, but they called us the craziest guys they met all night and were having a good time talking to us. When you make up a story you can keep it going a lot longer than with what do you do for work and where do you come from as you can keep making up stuff from the initial made up story like saying we travelled to Australia where we had fun adventures
To anyone who's watching this more than casually, if this doesn't come natural or isn't coming at all you probably have an underlying disorder causing anxiety and changing your perception. Girls are just like you, but to understand that you have to know and accept yourself. if you get to the point where you feel like they're something else or scary, fake stuff like this will only create fake awkard relationships at best. To get beyond that you have to address the cause of your issue, why you don't feel confident or comfortable talking to strangers or a girl. Naturally you should have the confidence to talk up any girl that's at least as attractive as you, and talk casually(about something unrelated) to any girl no matter how hot. Having a fear of judgment from girls usually comes from not accepting or being comfortable with yourself. However this is not as simple as how you look or act. A lot of people have literally no idea how they look because we live in such a fake antisocial time, if you have no sense of self you can't interact with other people because you don't see yourself as a person, you don't know how to act twords others, you panic. If you recognize any of this know that it is something you can get over almost instantly, if your brain can be switched from looking outward to inward. You might not know what that feels like but it's how people actually live and love life
wow dude... why do i feel like im stuck in the middle i feel like stumbling upon this vid for me and jefferys like me just broke the space-time continum LOL
I found it really impressive how you approached the girl at the beginning. She seemed really reserved and not super receptive, but you still managed to get her to ask *you* for *your* number.
I kinda give off the vibe in the first example when I'm talking with girls with the intention of getting their number and it's cool to see I'm not the only one. Keep it fresh my man.
Great video man. I'm not so into picking up girls but what you said about being in the moment and letting your brain stimulate itself naturally is golden! Works with friends, family, strangers, and yes girls. Good advice!
The last time I saw you on youtube was like 2 years ago when you were doing zoom pranks. Today after going home from school(alone of course) I was wondering what's wrong with me and that it's just how it is for me. After watching this video I realised I was glued to my phone which made me not even wanting to talk to others and when I did it was just boring. Now I know I have to make myself bored so I will have that drive to talk to others. Thank you!!!
I've experienced that and prove that is 100% legit. I have a friend which I see like once a month, we always have interesting conversations, laugh a little bit at things (on rare occasions laugh a lot). But then I read Digital Minimalism by Cal Newport and he delivers kind of a similar message, with different nuances and all of that, but the premise is the same: "We're overstimulated and in some sense, you don't enjoy daily life as much because of that". I went completely analog mode, not using my phone, not listening to music, not watching tv, etc. And after 4 days of that analog life I see that friend. And we had such an amazing conversation, deeper and we laughed a lot. I also felt a deeper connection. We had a really good time. And everytime I deploy something like that, I get the same results. The goal is to make that lifestyle the norm.
I wish I had the confidence for a girl but unfortunately I don't because I'm way too shy to talk to girls, even approach girls too, why I'm too shy to talk to girls is because I don't have confidence for a girl, I don't drive, I don't have a job, I don't live on my own which most girls like that for guys but I don't want to just do it for girls, I want to do it for myself which don't get me wrong it'll still help you get girls regardless but I'm very insecure in general about my appearances too😥
I quit social media, only allowing RUclips, however if you neglect it, songs and videos from youtube also give you a hit of dopamine, so I would say doing it in the late afternoon sounds cool. I have used this trick that you describe for the last years and I have become from being an introvert to talking to more people and improving my social skills. It's a nice reminder for me, thanks a lot for your content
Something I feel that can help guys approaching girls is to put the idea in your head that they want to talk to you. A lot of the time, myself included, I feel like if I talk to a girl I am just a trouble or bothering them, but when I try to convince myself that they want me to talk to them, it makes the conversation flow so much easier.
What are some reasons to believe a stranger is interested in talking to you? Realistically it's something you need to observe after the conversation starts, so on what grounds can you assume they just are interested? These are annoying questions and they're like excuses in a way, but I for instance can't seem to just lie to myself with no logical backing. Of course my assumption is that they're obviously not interested in talking to me, cause that's just what being an atom of the lonely single young men epidemic does to someone. On the other hand if I found out some "objective truth" that would make it seem like people are a little less uninterested in talking to me, that would help.
Think about this: When someone comes up to you, is your instant thought I want this person to go away I dont want anyone talking to me or is it, I wonder what this person has to say to me? Even if they aren't the most attractive you're still interested in what's going on, because strangers don't come up to you often. Now imagine instead it's a reasonably cute girl. Even if you're on your way to a meeting or something, you'd still probably stop and give her some of your time because this doesn't happen often. I don't think girls get approached by strangers as much as we'd think, so it's interesting for them too.@@mad_scientist5597
@@mad_scientist5597 well if you exchange eye contact and she smiles at you (you might have to smile and nod first), that's a clear sign that she's interested.
Bro you are so spot on. Social media and the net has ruined it for alot of guys. When you are out in the world with no phone it is so much easier to be organically funny with woman I have done it myself and I never knew why. When I am trying to talk to a chick through text it's so boring. It's like there's a block. You are a genius. Some chick customer at my work one day commented on the cool slippers I wear and I thought in my mind it would be cool to tell her it she would look cool wearing them and she could try them and she could try them on..but didn't because I was at work. Point is, for some reason I can't form these cool things to say with someone over the internet lol.
this is a great video and definitely helpful for some people, but i just want to say that it's also definitely not a one-size-fits-all. its great advice, but it won't work for everyone because not everyone's problem is that they're bored from social media (or its one problem among many), so it may not be the magic solution for everyone. still its good advice bc thats definitely some people's problem and i think this has the potential to help, and even if this isn't my only problem i was still able to take away something from this video so thanks anyway. its still worth trying to see if it helps some.
Brother that sly "it's a bit too soon I just met her" was perfect haha. You're confident enough to show you have interest in her while doing it in a hilarious way, girls love that type of confidence.
Omg bro that girl was terrified of u, she just gave u her number 2 get u to leave her alone. She looked way too young for you and was probably waiting for you to stop talking because she was terrified you would kidnap her. I would like 2 c u do the same thing except 2 actual adult women your age, and your bound to get them to tell you f off or straight-up ignore you.. You where just overly confident to that high school girl and it's kinda creepy. I could hear it in her voice that she was nervous and was waiting for you to leave. Not to mention she probably knew she was on camera. She wasn't even registered to vote, there a minor bro wtf. Hit on some actual women your own age and not some high school girl that didn't know how to react to an older man hitting on them you pervert.
def onto something there about life in general about energy depleting being on ur phone for unproductive reasons and even that thing most ppl do is peak for a second at the phones screen, and when u put the phone back in ur pocket you cant even say what the time is... maybe hit up a video where its not directed to getting girls and more directed to having more energy and just having a more free thinking mind by avoiding phones and other things like certain media or news where you check the news feed and then those are ur thoughts for the day, which i think u have added some of this in some other videos... like checking the news each day will make u worry about certain things you cant control and it running in ur head is slowing u down on achieving certain goals or even just being you... like some kind of positive news feed that can help will be great but u want to free think and u are so right saying once ur energy is gone u have no real energy to even just live and appreciate life around u... bec at the end of the day life is all about THE WAY THAT YOU THINK
I was literally thinking “man this dude is giving out hacks rn” and you said “I’m giving god tier advice tell your boys” hahaha you should be at 1 mil changing lives
You are great and you have self-confidence, you are tall and that is the reason why girls engage in conversation with you. When less attractive guys approach a girl, they don't participate in the conversation. That's why this only applies if you're handsome, tall... In any case, I'm glad you're having success in approaching a girl.
Thanks man, I needed to know this, because in general I've been feeling this anxiety in my life, like Im not enjoying talking a few times and I have felt that today, even with my best friends. And this matches up because lately I have been down bad, doing the dopamine filling activities that make life in general less fun and not present. This applies to talking to people in general also. Thanks man!
What I really like about this channel: That's not someone telling me how it's not all about looks and money, while looking like a fitnessmodel and wearing a rolex himself when approaching hot girls in public. That's just some average looking dude, with no ferrari, no magic spell but pure self-esteem and confidence getting those hot babes...and that's real proof that we can all do it as well💪🏼 Thanks buddy✌🏼
You should do a video on hooking up on the first date. It’s one thing to get a phone number through a 5 minute conversation but another lasting a whole date while also being seductive enough for the girl to want to sleep with you. I get that this video applies to that partially but curious to see the legend speak on that separately.
Ahhh, found why you are salty, jealous you haven't made it 🤣 The key to making it is to observe how, then immulate. Find people successful in each aspect of what you want in life, and do what they do, it's that simple
A lot more people should see this, this video actually helps by giving a completely different view from what other people think or say. It has completely opened my eyes on some things instead of “litteraly frying my brain” like Denmo explained
holy shit this actually is life-turning i never realized just how much that affects how i live my life and therefore how i interact with others for the first time i actually hit subscribe on command
Often with this advice i start to think that "this is bad because i shouldn't change my way of being who i am." But i start to notice that's a stupid way to think, im already brave, and if i nail these things i can surely grow bonds, but when i start to know them i can become myself again because now i feel more confident when i have taken the first step into love or friendship with that person! :D And another thing i worry about is that im scared if they think im creepy or annoying if i approach them like this, but if that happens, they can't sue me, what did i do? say hi?
ANOTHER thing if u have any thoughts on how the 369 numbers correspond to life in ur experiences... when i watched ur videos with social stuff i was like this guy seems cool ehh :)... but then hearing the way u speak in other aspects and regarding people and life.. Big respect to you.. you def are one of the people that are on that great path in life and onto that enlightened path... you must have learned many many great things along ur path probably from some really great people too along the way
I can do that talking about random stuff at work very well. It goes down well. But anywhere else with people my age it doesn't work. Before work I never use any electronics... Thanks for this enlightenment
When ever the conversation is starting to go silent or you run out of things to say just make a random assumtions like he goes: "Do you listen to Joe Rogan?" And this makes the girl actually wonder like' "why would he think that I listen to that" and It makes them intrested in you
If you want to be interesting be interested in others. That covers the approach part The second part is being knowledgeable and getting someone interested in the things you like which you think they should also like. So reading everyday is necessary.
thank you, once again we have the same thoughts. I have been thinking about lately that the smartphones and social media makes life boring. You become so tolerant to dopamin from constant dopamin rush from social media that everyday life wont give you enough stimulation anymore.
I think it’s the other way around. I think being bored makes you have better conversations, which is why depriving yourself from this dopamine makes you seek dopamine in conversation. Being satiated with stimulation means your brain doesn’t need good conversation to stimulate itself
Jack Honestly I don’t believe you when you say that you also struggled with carrying a conversation. Have been following you since 2019! Binge watching your videos to analyse what I’m doing wrong and yeah hopefully, I’ll be able to get a girlfriend for cuffing season 😆🤞
I havent gotten that far yet and im not too stressed about not knowing what to say because i am good at talking, the part im having trouble with is not feeling like a complete creep which prevents me from going from "that girl looks cute" to walking to her and getting my mouth open.
this is actually facts, in high school i was so busy that i never really tried dating, like there were girls i liked but i didnt know what to say, and im not saying im the best looking guy or the worst looking guy, im pretty average i guess. But lately ive been hanging with friends in public and doing stuff i enjoy that i never used to do. And lowkey girls be coming to me just to talk to me lmao. I think its because im usually the one influencing the laughter in my friend group and im definitely not the most attractive one so i must be approachable
Also, noticing a change in your mood man. This guy is practicing what he preaches in real time. Gangster proof.
Pain makes you strong
@@Denmosocial damn sure does
Yup, definitely feeling the positivity from this Jack. It's because what you're saying is true.. and scientifically so concerning dopamine and becoming bored.
Thank you for the reminder to put down the phone and just live.
@@Denmosocial pain is just happiness hurting a lot! Loved the video my guy thank you for the tips
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I love how this isn’t just a “quick fix” or “try this simple trick” kind of video. It’s great advice, but it’s also life advice: Get good sleep, avoid your phone first thing in the morning, don’t drown yourself in dopamine, be in nature, literally just improve yourself and that will help your interactions with people. Love this!
Here to help you with the advice you need, not want. No quick fixes
@@Denmosocial Exactly, haven't watched whole video yet. Didn't want or cared about it. But it's nice advices.
Just came to laugh at way guy aproaches girl. What a surprise.
love this comment cuz now i can speed of the video a lil bit ur a G
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That "I just met her" shit at the start, was dope. Kudos to you bro.
One thing I noticed when it comes to me chatting girls up is the less I'm "goal oriented" as in determined to acquire their for example digits or their fancy no matter what, and figuring out what I have to say in order to get that, the more smooth I am because I genuinely don't care what happens. If I approach the whole situation with "if I get it I got it, if not, fuck it" attitude, the chances of me actually getting what I want skyrocket
Interesting perspective- thanks for sharing bro!
Outcome independence, they say it helps because you don't feel the pressure of coming across a certain way. When you care too much, you will feel too anxious to flirt in case it goes wrong.
It's called letting go to achieve what you need🙌. Although I'm happy that you came across it yourself.👍
Yes, this. It helps. My issue is focusing on what I want until the other person says no. I can converse no problem but it gets tiring after an hour. I noticed this happened a few times recently.
My go-to is what do you do in your free time? Who do you know here? Comment something they're wearing. I have been lower energy lately which I think could also be throwing convos down. I know I'm confident but yeah, i get tired lol
Great point. I've noticed this personally as well. Just like sports or anything else, if you focus on the process instead of the outcome, you will perform better. In this case, that would mean just enjoying the process of talking to her and not making it feel like life or death. That will lead to being more relaxed and acting like yourself.
I don’t have dating apps, social media, and have all my screens set to black and white. Real life is so fuckin dope boys. Make the metaverse boring because real life rips. Since making everything digital black and white, the only colors i see are real. It’s wild how cool everything becomes, and always has been. Thanks as always Jack.
How can someone keep his settings all black and white!
@@thebondvillain4920 on both phone and laptop, it’s under color filters.
I'm typing this comment in black and white right now😂
You guys dont play video games?
@@xeno139 not anymore. I don’t need that much enjoyment from actually nothing at the moment. I’ve tried, but it’s seriously not fun while I’ve got something more important goin on.
I don't know why but "You're bored hence the conversation will be boring" is shocking too me, seems a no brainer but can't remember how many times I'm bewildered every time a conversation last for only like 10-15 minutes, definitely taking your tips now. thanks man :)
often times people want the answer to be more complicated. It's actually quite simple
10-15?!
Have you noticed how much more easy it is to get people to laugh while participating on a boring lecture? It's because the brain is looking for relief. Same is true when you're out and about.
@@kebman yeah, that's interesting!
On lectures I’m too anxious to talk…
It's not just the dopamine stuff. It's people aren't used to talking irl anymore and only see screen based lives and for anxious people it makes irl socializing scary. A lot of women are also afraid to be approached these days by men . They often associate it with the wrong ideas and being pushed into things they're not comfortable about. And for young guys it's also scary cos then they feel like they shouldn't have tried and should have stayed away
@@the_foot_2114 WILL TRY
Exactly.
I noticed the fade off age point ... Ill give a dob year... 1989( is someone around 31 now.)...increasing brain washing / brain dead
Yeah, pretty much.
I disagree about women not wanting to be approached - I’ve heard women complain for the past decade or so that guys don’t approach them
.. I think for every girl that doesn’t want to be approached there are 10 that do . Just be sensible with how and where you approach - for instance, don’t run up to a woman in a parking lot at night and try to talk to her
1:25 " It's a bit too soon i've just met her " 😂😂😂what a killer this was soooo smooth
The way you broke down the psychology behind the dopamine overload from constant stimulation, as well as its effects on the human psyche was brilliant and immensely valuable. Solid video.
glad that this example helped you man. Share it with your mates to help them aswell so that we can all win in 2023
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This is a huge problem I struggle with just the other day my older bro introduced me to a girl and tbh it was kind of awkward since I didn't wanted to really talk to her plus she was like shy and stuff this video helped me figure out what I could've done to improve.
Thanks Jack.
boom there you go. Now you know for next time
@@Denmosocial king denmo
What could you have done? If the girl is shy and stuff?
@@ClashwithBuzzif the person you're talking to is shy then you can help then you can talk to them and make them feel more comfortable
@@ilyassebenana3824 thing is i approached her at the gym where i am going from a very long time and everyone knows me there and she was looking at me multiple times giving hints n stuff when i approached her she startled and said do i know you? Still i continued doing small talk and left saying see you around.. thing is there is always someone accompanying us the clients as it is like small personal trainer gym for every client.. so what if i approach her again and she say something like that she still looks at me sometimes but i dont want to be embarrased at a gym i go from. Long. Time
I've been talking with a girl on a job who is already have a boyfriend and she always smiles at me and I was thinking she's interested in me or hitting on me but then I saw her doing it with other guys and pretty much with everyone, that's just goes to show that whenever it seems like someone flirting with you you might be wrong cause she was just convincingly nice and benevolent and thank God I did not fall for that, 'cause that trap can catch 99% guys who is thinking that just because she smiled at you doesn't necessarily mean you think it is what you think it is
interesting perspective thanks for sharing homie!
@@Denmosocial Menso
@@MetalRaydown if I just mentioned her smile doesn't mean I forgot about all the other factors I just decided to point out one of 'em. And your perception is wrong about what I have realized
That's the best girls. They give free lessons on,how to interact with girls.
Keep in mind that some people are just naturally flirty and they will do it without trying at all.
I used to watch you like 3-4 years ago on your main channel. Back then I had just discovered self improvement, and I was also watching irl pranks and funny pickup stuff from you, thatwasepic, bigdawstv etc, and I would always wonder, "why don't these guys dive into the self improvement niche? They are clearly skilled at least in the social aspect of it" Well, I'm glad to see that you are doing that now
glad to hear you enjoy it bro. I agree though, we all have a gift that is necessary to share
You could do a big list of reasons why guys don’t talk to girls.
My main reason was that I cared a lot about what to say instead of just say anything.
Why do you care so much though?
@@Denmosocial I don't wanna answer for the original commenter but I don't want to look stupid.
@@tadeob_ boi
@@tadeob_ I dont know if you still struggle with this but the main reason I was able to overcome my fear of talking to/interaction with females is to truly internalize the abundance mindset. Oh you laid the moves on the cute barista you’ve been hung up on for a while and she said no? Oh well 3,999,999,999 more women to go. It may sound stupid but this mindset helps tremendously with confidence and getting over an ex
“Stuff you missed in history class” is an interesting podcast. Spent 2 days driving from SF to Van without checking the phone, just listening to it… def experienced the conversation boost you mentioned for about a week or so after. Didn’t even realize that was why til now
boom there it is
Where can I find his podcast?
@@willsimpson3783 any podcast platform. I use spotify
Jack bro I always love u, i wanna add something here.
Dopamine is one of the smallest sideline reason for being not good at talking in my opinion.
Mostly it is the energy that we guys carry which hampers the mind.
And in my life this social media has very less impact and I am pretty active in real life. But I also felt emptiness while talking to girls.
Biggest reason is the fear of reaction and rejection, being desperate give her very exploiting vibe, and trying to be perfect has got all our energy.
We can use few emotions, like fun, friendliness, human to human conversation, creating man to woman vibe, or just addressing the girl while expressing the self..
We can use these mindsets to perform better, otherwise we might fall for fear and presumptions and go blank.
Well thought out comment. Thanks for that
its not just boredom... when we are anxious we tend to go on autopilot and therefore ask the same set of easy questions
yeah this is a good video and i'm sure is helpful for some people, i thought it was great advice, but it's also reductive and not a one-size-fits-all. it won't work for everyone because not everyone's problem is that they're bored (or its only one problem among many). i know that is certainly true for me. still i took something out of this video, so that was still beneficial
@@ReporterRed exactly what i thought
This works only as a "First Impression" as a implies not being nervous!
But in a years long relationship, it's better to speak less but effective. What y'all think?
He made practical self help advice disguised as getting girls, genius
glad you understand homie
Social media and quick online dopamine hits have ruined people's social skills. Just have to force yourself not to go on your phone/computer during the day, then when u go to the mall to approach girls, u will notice interesting things around u that u can talk about. Good tip!
big facts. Thanks for the comment mate
It’s funny how you say this. I was at basic training for 3 months, on a holiday leave now. Being without my phone for so long, coming home it’s crazy how different you feel. I noticed the little things, everywhere I went and it genuinely felt so great. My mood and mindset totally changed, for the better and in a way I never expected.
I feel like this revolves around being present in the moment. Some people don't understand what it mean to be truly present in the real world. Being present isnt when you're conscious of where you are and aren't spacing out per se, its when you notice the things happening around you. I've noticed that when I'm on my phone, or am listening to music in my headphones, these things become irrelevant.
Mix that in with the fact I listen to music pretty much 24/7 when i'm in public by myself and I automatically stop being present. I'm trying to become more present, and more in touch with reality. I've been going to the gym, and now I plan to try to slowly cut out social media from my life. I think this video may genuinely affect me, Denmo says this in an unfiltered way which makes you straight up realize that its your own fault that you cant socialise, its time to start experimenting, practising and learning. Sure, its embarrassing, but ts far more embarrassing to stay this way for years and eventually regret it.
On point: Being confident in oneself can be attractive to many people. But also: Having a good sense of humor and being able to make others laugh can be attractive. Being kind, understanding and empathetic can be attractive qualities in a partner. Being intelligent and well-informed can be attractive to some people. Some people may find physical appearance, such as being fit or having a certain style, to be attractive. Being open to new experiences and having a sense of adventure can be attractive to some people. Being able to provide financial stability and security can be attractive to some people. Having ambition and drive to achieve goals can be attractive. Being emotionally mature and able to handle and express emotions in a healthy way can be attractive. Being dependable and trustworthy can be attractive. Attraction is a complex and personal thing and what one person find attractive may differ from another person.
i think you gave a good example of a way to start a natural conversation at the beginning of the video. specifically, just pointing out something in the present moment such as her longboard.. it helped make things flow more easily right off the top instead of "how are you"
This right here! Out of all these videos out there on self improvement and holding a conversation, this is the one which really got to me. Everything makes sense now, all of a sudden
Looking at other people talking so effortlessly made me wonder how do they do it and no matter how hard I tried, I just couldn't. But now, after watching this video, I have come to realize that these people are most likely nowhere near as exposed to bad shit as much as I am. Yes, I do go to the gym for a while now, but apart from that, I haven't really made the effort to limit my screen time.
My brain needs to make that shift and it won't be an easy task.
I really appreciate you making this video, especially because it's not just talking about the topic, but demonstrating it as well. You just earned yourself a new subscriber! I'll definitely look into some more of your content and will be looking forward to see more!
Cheers 🙌
When I meet folks, I tend to start the conversation by bringing up something that relates to them (i.e: your longboard example at the beginning), then carry it from there. IF the conversation is slow and boring, then I have concluded that the person I'm talking to isn't providing enough to contain a conversation - a signal that usually means they're not interested. Otherwise, if the conversation just seems to flow, and both parties carry each other's weight, then I definitely try to make that move.
Just some of my own personal advice from over the years.
The first person that noticed what i did few months ago when I stopped using social media to talk about the things I like, I found myself talking to random people about even more random topics
in the past I smoked alot of pot and stimulated stimulated myself aot with computer/smartphone and first thing I noticed when I went from time to time sober was that I chat with random people like crazy. This advice is spot on.. Moreover when you stop stimulating yourself, you have alot more od willpower (for fighting porn, woirking out, dieting, acheiving goals,whaever you want), you are more brave (not only in approaching women, just in life, you're not that scared of doing things you really want but are challenging) and have better mood in general. great video man, keep preaching. when i see video like this i have a feeling that internet is going in the right direction
Keep up the great work. 🤘🏽
Helping so many young men to be more than what they are today. Without the toxic delivery
"without the toxic delivery" interesting I like that idea! Practical advice for men without the toxic delivery
this is probably the greatest video ive ever seen, not jus for talking to girls but jus everybody and enjoying my life everyday instead of dreading it and not understanding why.
brother if you think so please share it with your friends to help them too
the i just met her bit was too smooth bro there's no way that lady wasn't hired to say that, Denmo you're the man!
This is the kind of content our society needs today.
I think this is the best explanation I've ever heard. I resonate completely.
if this helped you lots then share it with your friends to help them too bro. They'll thank you later
I'm finally moving out to a new state and making friends is going to be one of the hardest and the most important thing for me to do and this video gave me a lot of confidence. Thank you and keep making content!
good man. See you in the discord
Ok so I used to be super good at talking to people liken this and slowly over time I realized that I lost that mojo. This video was actually a “holy shit” moment when you said I’m bored, it makes so much sense
Same, but here I am, almost hermit status, single alone in my room while the birds are chirping outside... anxiety ridden to make a move to go out.
@@stevendalloesingh1214 ME TOO MAN... god i hope we escape and elevate alot of people never escape this reality and die and oh well such was their life... OH FUCK IM SCARED
This dude is the „Bro/Homie“ I always needed, giving me good life advice from his heart
here to help you g
I was never really good talking to girls, but my friend is a pick up artist who I went out with who taught me stuff. He showed me it is far better to make up fun b.s. stories talking to girls, then do the serious what do you do for work, where are you from questions. He told the girls he was a painter selling his paintings all over the world and told them I was his manager to include me in the conversation. The girls questioned if if he was for reall or full of it, but ran with it asking us questions so we had to make crazy things up, which you can keep going for a longer period of time. He said beautiful girls are bored during the week going to school or working and love crazy things to happen in the weekend at a bar or club, not the serious what do you do for work questions Also told me that is better to pick up girls during the day when they have their bitch shield down and wear less make up, so you can really see how they look in real life. In my country there is a specific big brand supermarket called Albert Heijn and the girls always say they like to meet their future husband in the freezing section of Albert Heijn, so it seems they think it is more special to to be picked up during the day at a shop then at night at bars, also no competiton from other guys during daytime. Maybe you can talk about that Jack daytime pick up verses in bars and clubs. One girl told me I didnt have the bar pick up talk and would not have kissed me when she would have met me in the bar, because of it. I met her during the day at a group activity and she kissed me after talking about mutual interests, no pick up from my side whatsoever. I didnt even think of picking her up as she looked like the sister of Cameron Diaz and I tought she was way out of my league. She said in a bar without the pickup talk she said I wouldnt have had a chance with her, because the pick up guys make her feel a special way.
crazy story brother thank you for sharing
Is your friend barnie stinson by any chance?
@@Charybdis47 Had to look up who Barnie Stinson was. That guy may be succesfull in a comedy series picking up women and now because he is a famous actor, but I dont think he was as good at picking up girls as my friend. When an average looking guy like my friend who is not famous or rich can get a famous hot female tv presenter to go after him he earned my respect.
@@2012inca ahhahahahh bro barnie is a character who always picks up women in the most ridiciouls way possible😂😂. Was just a joke cause you story reminded me of him. You should defintly look up compilations of him picking up women in the show, how I met your mother😂
You kissed her the same day?
*I love the idea of being genuinely curious about the other person; it makes talking to girls so much more enjoyable!*
glad it helped man
You're right this is some god tier advice. I love that outro Jack. Great advice like always
thanks Anthony. Go share it with your friends!
@@Denmosocial No problem, i got u. I don't really share with people but you deserve it jack. Shared with my friend jonny
best advice you can get, if you only fix this problem, the rest wil solve automaticly..this is the only advice you need . good video man!!
This video is the truth! I can trust a guy who gives away free wisdom that ultimately leads to less traffic for him. You’re a martyr!
share this with your mates to do me a solid then brother
@1:07 there is always an awkward situation like this when you approach girls.
I try to explain similar shit to my friends all the time. Thanks for the great advice and always keep working on yourself and making others have a better day! For me I love to give people compliments in public and strive to make at least one other person’s day better :)
Man this is an awesome perspective, didn't think of that as a "dopamine diet' issue
Something that helps me is knowing lots of random stuff and pulling it from out of nowhere. Connecting two seemingly unrelated things is also good. Like one time I connected nuclear bombs to a piano concert I went to in Chicago. My story made sense and was interesting lol. Having experiences to pull from is invaluable.
I agree I read up on interesting facts to tell people better then what do you do for work or where are you from. Like saying I was in a town where big crocodiles dont eat people and children even sit om them, this is a true and occurs in 2 places in the world, because those wild crocodiles were born where people feed them for centuries so the they dont see people as food, look it up on Google you will see. Doesnt matter if I really was there, can just later say I made it up I was there and it makes for a good story. Better then saying where are you from or what work do you do.
Share it here
@@2012inca that feels weird 🤓
@@rinreborn7364 What feels weird the crocodiles not eating people, you can Google pictures of children sitting on top of and playing with big crocodiles or do you mean it feels weird to make stories up to tell to girls in bars and clubs. In the last case girls who work or go to school all week dont want to have boring conversations at a bar going out. They want have fun and laugh, so if you make up a funny story you can always say later you had to much to drink and was just talking b.s. . My friend is a pick-up artist and would tell hot girls he was a painter selling his paintings all over the world and he told them I was his manager. They didnt know if he was serious or of he was joking, but they called us the craziest guys they met all night and were having a good time talking to us. When you make up a story you can keep it going a lot longer than with what do you do for work and where do you come from as you can keep making up stuff from the initial made up story like saying we travelled to Australia where we had fun adventures
@@2012inca im saying the nuclear to piani
My man's speaking facts.. I got rid of everything, but RUclips for social media for about 3 years now.
100% factual.
To anyone who's watching this more than casually, if this doesn't come natural or isn't coming at all you probably have an underlying disorder causing anxiety and changing your perception. Girls are just like you, but to understand that you have to know and accept yourself. if you get to the point where you feel like they're something else or scary, fake stuff like this will only create fake awkard relationships at best.
To get beyond that you have to address the cause of your issue, why you don't feel confident or comfortable talking to strangers or a girl.
Naturally you should have the confidence to talk up any girl that's at least as attractive as you, and talk casually(about something unrelated) to any girl no matter how hot.
Having a fear of judgment from girls usually comes from not accepting or being comfortable with yourself. However this is not as simple as how you look or act. A lot of people have literally no idea how they look because we live in such a fake antisocial time, if you have no sense of self you can't interact with other people because you don't see yourself as a person, you don't know how to act twords others, you panic.
If you recognize any of this know that it is something you can get over almost instantly, if your brain can be switched from looking outward to inward. You might not know what that feels like but it's how people actually live and love life
wow dude... why do i feel like im stuck in the middle i feel like stumbling upon this vid for me and jefferys like me just broke the space-time continum LOL
@@michaele4468 wdym?
I found it really impressive how you approached the girl at the beginning. She seemed really reserved and not super receptive, but you still managed to get her to ask *you* for *your* number.
Nice video! I agree with your spreading positive energy. I think that’s why I keep watching and learning from your content. I appreciate you!🤙
Positive energy attracts others
I kinda give off the vibe in the first example when I'm talking with girls with the intention of getting their number and it's cool to see I'm not the only one.
Keep it fresh my man.
glad to hear man. Check out my other content aswell you'll probably agree with lots of other strategies
I like that your videos have turned more to helping people, thank you!
glad to hear it helps you Ethan
I just like how he puts common sense into perspective to where it just clicks, like ah, that makes so much sense!
Great video man. I'm not so into picking up girls but what you said about being in the moment and letting your brain stimulate itself naturally is golden! Works with friends, family, strangers, and yes girls. Good advice!
Bro that's so true...thanks man!I think this just changed my life, starting social media detox now.
The last time I saw you on youtube was like 2 years ago when you were doing zoom pranks. Today after going home from school(alone of course) I was wondering what's wrong with me and that it's just how it is for me. After watching this video I realised I was glued to my phone which made me not even wanting to talk to others and when I did it was just boring. Now I know I have to make myself bored so I will have that drive to talk to others. Thank you!!!
here to help you brother
I've experienced that and prove that is 100% legit. I have a friend which I see like once a month, we always have interesting conversations, laugh a little bit at things (on rare occasions laugh a lot). But then I read Digital Minimalism by Cal Newport and he delivers kind of a similar message, with different nuances and all of that, but the premise is the same: "We're overstimulated and in some sense, you don't enjoy daily life as much because of that". I went completely analog mode, not using my phone, not listening to music, not watching tv, etc. And after 4 days of that analog life I see that friend. And we had such an amazing conversation, deeper and we laughed a lot. I also felt a deeper connection. We had a really good time. And everytime I deploy something like that, I get the same results. The goal is to make that lifestyle the norm.
I wish I had the confidence for a girl but unfortunately I don't because I'm way too shy to talk to girls, even approach girls too, why I'm too shy to talk to girls is because I don't have confidence for a girl, I don't drive, I don't have a job, I don't live on my own which most girls like that for guys but I don't want to just do it for girls, I want to do it for myself which don't get me wrong it'll still help you get girls regardless but I'm very insecure in general about my appearances too😥
I quit social media, only allowing RUclips, however if you neglect it, songs and videos from youtube also give you a hit of dopamine, so I would say doing it in the late afternoon sounds cool. I have used this trick that you describe for the last years and I have become from being an introvert to talking to more people and improving my social skills. It's a nice reminder for me, thanks a lot for your content
Something I feel that can help guys approaching girls is to put the idea in your head that they want to talk to you. A lot of the time, myself included, I feel like if I talk to a girl I am just a trouble or bothering them, but when I try to convince myself that they want me to talk to them, it makes the conversation flow so much easier.
I’ve reached a point where that’s impossible for me to believe
What are some reasons to believe a stranger is interested in talking to you? Realistically it's something you need to observe after the conversation starts, so on what grounds can you assume they just are interested?
These are annoying questions and they're like excuses in a way, but I for instance can't seem to just lie to myself with no logical backing. Of course my assumption is that they're obviously not interested in talking to me, cause that's just what being an atom of the lonely single young men epidemic does to someone. On the other hand if I found out some "objective truth" that would make it seem like people are a little less uninterested in talking to me, that would help.
Think about this: When someone comes up to you, is your instant thought I want this person to go away I dont want anyone talking to me or is it, I wonder what this person has to say to me? Even if they aren't the most attractive you're still interested in what's going on, because strangers don't come up to you often. Now imagine instead it's a reasonably cute girl. Even if you're on your way to a meeting or something, you'd still probably stop and give her some of your time because this doesn't happen often. I don't think girls get approached by strangers as much as we'd think, so it's interesting for them too.@@mad_scientist5597
@@mad_scientist5597 well if you exchange eye contact and she smiles at you (you might have to smile and nod first), that's a clear sign that she's interested.
@@mad_scientist5597i think it comes down to feeling like an interesting person worth being around
Bro you are so spot on. Social media and the net has ruined it for alot of guys. When you are out in the world with no phone it is so much easier to be organically funny with woman I have done it myself and I never knew why. When I am trying to talk to a chick through text it's so boring. It's like there's a block. You are a genius. Some chick customer at my work one day commented on the cool slippers I wear and I thought in my mind it would be cool to tell her it she would look cool wearing them and she could try them and she could try them on..but didn't because I was at work. Point is, for some reason I can't form these cool things to say with someone over the internet lol.
"it's a bit too soon, I just met her" You a slick rick for this one
being witty is a godsend
That was smooth bruv! Ended up with 2 of em
this is a great video and definitely helpful for some people, but i just want to say that it's also definitely not a one-size-fits-all. its great advice, but it won't work for everyone because not everyone's problem is that they're bored from social media (or its one problem among many), so it may not be the magic solution for everyone. still its good advice bc thats definitely some people's problem and i think this has the potential to help, and even if this isn't my only problem i was still able to take away something from this video so thanks anyway. its still worth trying to see if it helps some.
Brother that sly "it's a bit too soon I just met her" was perfect haha. You're confident enough to show you have interest in her while doing it in a hilarious way, girls love that type of confidence.
“ stop wasting time on social media”
“ but make sure to purchase my course on how to talk to women”
Jesus lmao
Be interesting to girls by asking them about podcasts
Yeah, excaclty
that is just your election
Omg bro that girl was terrified of u, she just gave u her number 2 get u to leave her alone. She looked way too young for you and was probably waiting for you to stop talking because she was terrified you would kidnap her. I would like 2 c u do the same thing except 2 actual adult women your age, and your bound to get them to tell you f off or straight-up ignore you.. You where just overly confident to that high school girl and it's kinda creepy. I could hear it in her voice that she was nervous and was waiting for you to leave. Not to mention she probably knew she was on camera. She wasn't even registered to vote, there a minor bro wtf. Hit on some actual women your own age and not some high school girl that didn't know how to react to an older man hitting on them you pervert.
@rayellzappey2014 Okay but who are you writing to in this comment section? Here's not the youtuber's comment.
def onto something there about life in general about energy depleting being on ur phone for unproductive reasons and even that thing most ppl do is peak for a second at the phones screen, and when u put the phone back in ur pocket you cant even say what the time is... maybe hit up a video where its not directed to getting girls and more directed to having more energy and just having a more free thinking mind by avoiding phones and other things like certain media or news where you check the news feed and then those are ur thoughts for the day, which i think u have added some of this in some other videos...
like checking the news each day will make u worry about certain things you cant control and it running in ur head is slowing u down on achieving certain goals or even just being you... like some kind of positive news feed that can help will be great but u want to free think and u are so right saying once ur energy is gone u have no real energy to even just live and appreciate life around u... bec at the end of the day life is all about THE WAY THAT YOU THINK
Thanks for the comment brother
Also, to practice talking to girls you can actually just talk to anyone at all, it legit helps
I was literally thinking “man this dude is giving out hacks rn” and you said “I’m giving god tier advice tell your boys” hahaha you should be at 1 mil changing lives
hell yeah thanks bro, don't have the money for your class but this is helpful for me getting into all this
all good brother you can always expect videos on here every week
You are great and you have self-confidence, you are tall and that is the reason why girls engage in conversation with you. When less attractive guys approach a girl, they don't participate in the conversation. That's why this only applies if you're handsome, tall... In any case, I'm glad you're having success in approaching a girl.
Thanks man, I needed to know this, because in general I've been feeling this anxiety in my life, like Im not enjoying talking a few times and I have felt that today, even with my best friends. And this matches up because lately I have been down bad, doing the dopamine filling activities that make life in general less fun and not present. This applies to talking to people in general also. Thanks man!
What I really like about this channel: That's not someone telling me how it's not all about looks and money, while looking like a fitnessmodel and wearing a rolex himself when approaching hot girls in public.
That's just some average looking dude, with no ferrari, no magic spell but pure self-esteem and confidence getting those hot babes...and that's real proof that we can all do it as well💪🏼
Thanks buddy✌🏼
Hey Jack, would love a video on texting girls especially on dating apps.
I got a video on texting coming soon
I have seen this vid a couple months ago, and I didn’t realize how true it is.
Now I’m back to back having conversations with strangers.
You’re a freakin legend Mr.Denmo 💪🏾😤
so are you valuver
@@Denmosocial thank you sir!
Wow, I knew this all along but hearing it again 🤯. Straight up facts. 💯
share it with your friends
You should do a video on hooking up on the first date. It’s one thing to get a phone number through a 5 minute conversation but another lasting a whole date while also being seductive enough for the girl to want to sleep with you. I get that this video applies to that partially but curious to see the legend speak on that separately.
Ahhh, found why you are salty, jealous you haven't made it 🤣
The key to making it is to observe how, then immulate. Find people successful in each aspect of what you want in life, and do what they do, it's that simple
A lot more people should see this, this video actually helps by giving a completely different view from what other people think or say. It has completely opened my eyes on some things instead of “litteraly frying my brain” like Denmo explained
I don't even care about talking to women or anything but I still love his vids.
check out my last 2 bro you'll dig them
@Denmo life gets better video is amazing I'm watching rn on lunch break in college 😭🤣
holy shit this actually is life-turning
i never realized just how much that affects how i live my life and therefore how i interact with others
for the first time i actually hit subscribe on command
Or delete fcken youtube like me. You already know what to do, get rid of the issue.
Often with this advice i start to think that "this is bad because i shouldn't change my way of being who i am." But i start to notice that's a stupid way to think, im already brave, and if i nail these things i can surely grow bonds, but when i start to know them i can become myself again because now i feel more confident when i have taken the first step into
love or friendship with that person! :D
And another thing i worry about is that im scared if they think im creepy or annoying if i approach them like this, but if that happens, they can't sue me, what did i do? say hi?
Oh my gosh this makes so much sense. I can be pretty introverted and sometimes awkward. I can just tell this advice is gold.
ANOTHER thing if u have any thoughts on how the 369 numbers correspond to life in ur experiences... when i watched ur videos with social stuff i was like this guy seems cool ehh :)... but then hearing the way u speak in other aspects and regarding people and life.. Big respect to you.. you def are one of the people that are on that great path in life and onto that enlightened path... you must have learned many many great things along ur path probably from some really great people too along the way
I can do that talking about random stuff at work very well. It goes down well.
But anywhere else with people my age it doesn't work.
Before work I never use any electronics...
Thanks for this enlightenment
When ever the conversation is starting to go silent or you run out of things to say just make a random assumtions like he goes: "Do you listen to Joe Rogan?" And this makes the girl actually wonder like' "why would he think that I listen to that" and It makes them intrested in you
If you want to be interesting be interested in others.
That covers the approach part
The second part is being knowledgeable and getting someone interested in the things you like which you think they should also like. So reading everyday is necessary.
I read Twitter posts everday, i think that's okay
@@canodepvc2837 I haven’t been on Twitter for over a decade. Is it still the sewer that it was back then?
Great video again man, you're a legend
ayyyyyyyyyyyyy
thank you, once again we have the same thoughts. I have been thinking about lately that the smartphones and social media makes life boring. You become so tolerant to dopamin from constant dopamin rush from social media that everyday life wont give you enough stimulation anymore.
yup well put brother
I can talk with my friends easily but when it’s someone new that I LIKE it’s super difficult.
This!
You have put it in the best way you could have , thank you , it finally makes sense ..
I think this might explain why so many people are saying there introverted lately.
absolutely man. Makes total sense when you think about it
I think it’s the other way around. I think being bored makes you have better conversations, which is why depriving yourself from this dopamine makes you seek dopamine in conversation. Being satiated with stimulation means your brain doesn’t need good conversation to stimulate itself
Based
Jack Honestly I don’t believe you when you say that you also struggled with carrying a conversation. Have been following you since 2019! Binge watching your videos to analyse what I’m doing wrong and yeah hopefully, I’ll be able to get a girlfriend for cuffing season 😆🤞
Definitely did at some point man. But welcome to the channel!
This dude is the hero youtube needed !!!
love your content. Always a help!
glad to hear bro
I havent gotten that far yet and im not too stressed about not knowing what to say because i am good at talking, the part im having trouble with is not feeling like a complete creep which prevents me from going from "that girl looks cute" to walking to her and getting my mouth open.
Thanks for the advice man, keep up the great work!
cheers mate- if it helps share it with your friends
this is actually facts, in high school i was so busy that i never really tried dating, like there were girls i liked but i didnt know what to say, and im not saying im the best looking guy or the worst looking guy, im pretty average i guess. But lately ive been hanging with friends in public and doing stuff i enjoy that i never used to do. And lowkey girls be coming to me just to talk to me lmao. I think its because im usually the one influencing the laughter in my friend group and im definitely not the most attractive one so i must be approachable
Bro glad you did this vid, this is the only way that works in real life, fuck the cheesy ass lines!
absolutely. This guy gets it
fucking incredible fearlessness. literal spectrum levels of fearlessness.
I feel like the fact that you don't have many followers or views is proof that your advice actually works ironically lmao
I agree but.. this is also a new channel 😂
@@Denmosocial haha true, keep it up bro🤣
you are bored, so simple yet so true, thank u
occams razor my man