The core element of my poly relationship was when my now wife said, "Nobody is going to tell me that I have to dump my friendship or other relationship in order to maintain my relationship with them, and I will not tolerate you telling me that I have to cut anybody out of my life." So that meant that I didn't have to be jealous, because nobody could try to cut me out of her life.
Sorry, Michael, but that is not what it means. It means your wife isn’t satisfied by you alone. It means you-yourself don’t have the stones or self respect to seek a person who’s loyal and committed to you. Finally, it means you let others determine your value rather than valuing yourself enough to walk away from someone who isn’t worth the couch she sits on. Man to man, grow up, kick her to the curb, then go find a partner who’s not going to leave you for the next herpes infested weekend f-buddy.
@@chrismistretta4801 I will pass that on to my wife, and I am sure she will be very happy that her wisdom helped someone else. It was a wisdom borne of pain from past relationships that demanded she cut off contact with other friends. Good luck with poly!
My wife and I have been married for 25 years (together for 29) with 1 teenager and 1 adult child. We've been in an open relationship for 5 years and we really like our life together. I do not advocate on behalf of polyamory or open marriage as its not for everyone and it can fail miserably. We read a lot of information on the topic, watched videos and spoke to couples in open marriage/ relationship before ever attempting it. It's not all dreamy, sunshine and rainbows, but we navigated the waters and we really quite enjoy it. We do not harbour jealousy toward one another but we have both felt feelings of jealousy and or insecurity at one time or another, but once we talked about it and expressed ourselves we came out stronger. We are not property to be possessed or controled, we each have unique needs, and once we came to the realization that one person cannot meet all of our needs, for us, the next logical step was to have interaction with other people. I know many will disagree with me and I'm perfectly ok with that, I respect every persons right to an opinion and freedom of expression. I can't say what's right or wrong for another person nor would I want to, all I can say is to communicate with your partner and hold space for them when they are expressing themselves, approach it with love, patience and understanding. Much love from Canada!
People have the right to decide they don't want to be in a poly relationship. What they don't get to do though is force someone else to be monogamous with them. Monogamy is okay to want but only if your partner consents to it. On the flip side, if you agree to be monogamous with someone but then see other people behind their back, you are crossing a boundary and that isn't okay.
Not trying to judge but I have noticed that most of these relationships tend to be one man and multiple women. What about if a Woman wants two husbands?
Wow, you really expressed all my feelings and concerns in one video being recently introduced to the poly lifestyle thank you tremendously. The love of my life recently expressed this is something they want to do after we met on an monogamous planting field. This video has really made things clear.
The problem is that the poliamour community is very limited because most people haven't actually thought about this. Plus, I always seem to find weirdos in this type of dating pool.
Hey Pats, it’s Edina. I'd have to say that’s because the only people who think polyamory is even possible and something worth pursuing ARE WEIRDOS! If we’re being totally honest with ourselves ............. Polyamory is just a less conspicuous term for someone lacking in personal integrity, with an inability to commit. Usually due to their own insecurities which they DO NOT want to address. So why not be even more toxic, and create even more collateral damage to as many people as humanly possible, and continue to not hold ourselves accountable while we use everyone to get our own selfish wants met. Because that’s not uber sociopathic at all.
@@Moe-os4qr Okay. Tell me about this "vision" this "goal" of yours. Apply a little deductive reasoning and weigh out the benefits and inevitable drawbacks for all involved. Then tell me if you can be honest with yourself about the real reason you thought you'd be progressive and visionary if you could have more than you'd even know what to do with, and see if you can justify everything that's likely to go South faster than you can say, "lickety-split."
@@9fiveb180 my mentor is poly, my fiancée is. Your opinion is only valid to your own imagination. My plan and vision isn’t important here. Thank you for sharing your opinion. It’s incredible how you believe in only 1 negative opinion but nothing positive. You don’t know me or my way of life. Take care
@@Moe-os4qrAs is yours. It's interesting how you show the instant signs of someone who does not want to be accountable for their actions and wants to live unto Allah unto themselves just by what you said that's very cluster B it's very dysfunctional
Be awesome , change their life for the better, let them know that you’re not going anywhere unless they pull the plug, but also will be willing to lose them if they’re not on the program. Be loving
I'm a bit of a crossroads. I was in love with 2 girls when I younger, it took me years to figure the whirlwind of emotions I felt. Now fast forward I'm almost 30, I have a partner abs 2 kids we don't believe in marriage (long talks), but I've expressed my love for her and how I feel in to much for her at times (she has low sex drive and kinda set in her ways about spontaneousness) She is a my life partner, best friend etc. I don't want to cheat on her but I also realize I get attracted to certain woman ( there's probably been 2 in all these years). I never act on anything but ugh the older I get the more I feel I am polyamores
Then its time for you to have a serious talk with your lady. Im in a similar situation. I decided ti have a talk and continued to bring up the topic over the last 12 months. The more we talked, the open she became. Talking is the key.
@@hambone100 yea from thw research I've been doing, COMMUNICATION seems to be the staple point. We have jokingly discussed it before, and she just concludeds she would get jealous that I may feel more for the other.
@@bahamutr4270 thats the one main problem with most women. Jealousy... followed by insecurity. Just keep at it and make her know that you are in fact SERIOUS. I made the mostake of "joking" about it and my gf took it all for a joke. When the conversation got more serious, she didnt know how to take it all in. Stand your ground.
@@hambone100 as joking as we were at the time, she knows that I may in fact be that way, but can't wrap her mind around it. Currently I'm exploring why I really feel this way, is it just for sex? I'm an outrovert in social settings, but then I don't have many friends of my own. Is is loneliness? Why can't my partner fix that? Out of all my questions, I don't question my love for her or my plans with our future. Shit is CONFUSING, but yea conversations need to happen. Definitely not cheating, she is an amazing woman
Two things you need to do. 1.Marry the woman you had kids by and make an honest woman out of her. 2. Control your sexual urges, and commit to the mother of you children like a real MAN.
My wife just used polyamory as an excuse to fuck other people. Basically told me she was poly, we discussed it. Before I could even be ok with the idea she had already started talking with other guys. When I tried to tell her anything about how I was not comfortable with it she would get annoyed with me. Her attitude was basically “this is who I am. You and your feelings need to catch up because I am doing this whether you like it or not” She had sex with a guy at a festival even though we were supposed to discuss boundaries and shit. I found this out during an argument AFTER she started asking me if it was ok to send him provocative photos she was sending me to this guy she was “talking” to and that she felt a connection to him and they were planning to have sex with the guy. Even though that had already had sex by that point. She said we had had a discussion about her having random encounters (which we never did) and when I called her on it she tried to convince me that we did and I agreed to it even getting mad at me because I said we never had that conversation. She was emotionally manipulating me at every turn. There is so much more to the story. But long story short, we are getting a divorce. We no longer live together and I am happier now. There is a difference between ENM and a license to fuck other people. But if you are being manipulated into being ok with it that’s not cool. In the end my wife cheated on me. The best decision I made was walking away from that relationship. I am much happier now.
I am Polyamerous, I have had one short but great relationship with a married couple but it did not work out as I felt like the other woman. The people who I love don't seem to like the idea, maybe they don't understand and think I'm just wanting to sleep around or something. I am struggling to socialise and meet people and dating sites are exhausting because so many people don't understand what this means. Thank you for your video it is very helpful❤
Im going to talk to my partner about opening up our relationship i brought it up a few months ago briefly they seemed open to it but we didn't really have a talk though but this really helped thank you!!
I've always had a kink for this but I've been too afraid to actually act on it. Due to what my family would think or if I was doing something immoral. I think it would be cool to be in a throuple though. Just a peaceful calm relationship with two women who loved me and loved each other. We just hung out, made love, went on adventures and helped each other move towards our dreams and built a family.
2:40 I LOVED that!!!!!, 'cause I think human beings are NOT monogamous. We're conditioned to believe we are monogamous by society but at heart we are non-monogamous or polyamorous.
Comparing Maslow's hierarchy of needs, monogamy would seem to suffer at the self-affirmation to affiliation stage. While individuals that are fairly self confident with their own achievements, exhibit difficulty expanding their social relationships in join manner.
thank you so much for your explanation! now I'm getting more and more understand what Polyamorous is. I think this is a kind of lifestyle I ever wanted.
My only problem I love them both and they don’t want that ,She wants me to only lover and the other wants that too. I seem to be losing them both as there’s constant fights.
I am dating a man and we are both polyamorous. I am fine with him sleeping with other people and he’s fine with me sleeping with other people. But at the end of it all, we seem to come back together. We tell each other about the people we’ve met and the experiences we’ve had and I quite like it. We’re doing it long distance at the moment which has had another layer of risk to this situation, but I’m happy to take the time to perhaps explore what we may ultimately need to… a monogamous polyamorous relationship!? That’s whack.
It's pretty hard funding like minded polyam people in Jamaica. Thanks to social media because I thought I was alone in this. Finding a next partner who's polyamorous is harder than I thought
I honestly couldn't care less what's natural when it comes to what I do and don't do. Polyamorous relationships clearly work for some people, I really want to be in one, and I really want to know how to make sure it can be as healthy and successful as possible. I'm sure some people care if they're natural or not, but I would ask those people if they really care about how naturally they behave or if they just want an excuse to avoid something or think less of it.
Same i really want someone who is poly and willing to just be a triad with my gf but its extremely hard for me cause I can't seem to find anyone who accepts poly or finds it okay. Also you won't fail ignore the stupid hater. I wish you luck btw with that
Same. Sorry found cosmic irony in that my wife's name is Gabby. I recently opened up about being poly and I feel alot of shame and sorrow. I don't understand myself other than that I'm certain this is how I feel and why I am so full of love. But I feel like the extra love I'm carrying is weighing me down mentally and emotionally. I want to take it back and I don't know how to forget....
I could be both because I don't mind the open relationship if everyone knows what it is and I could be with one person if I choose to be. I can go either which way.
my partner wants a poly relationship but i’m too scared to try it... they are really eager for me to try it but i can’t do it... i couldn’t handle it but i don’t wanna let them down... i’m happy with just them... i don’t think i could handle it...
Regarding consistency when it comes to schedule / days. What if lets say, the days are Monday and Thursday.... and my partner falls ill on Monday. Is there a rule for "rescheduling"... idk, stupid question but im just curious.
I would say that we learn to share our priorities together, share each other, trust each other, all give a little, live in radical acceptance and grace.
You should do it it is the best thing you have ever done if everybody is honest with everybody that's the way it works between me my wife and my wife's girlfriend which is my lover too we have a wonderful relationship I should have done this a long time ago
How's this for a good description?We found a pleasure dominant.My wife is the submissive and I am also supposed to be submitted to him.Also how about some feedback on that.
That’s why regular testing of all participants for STIs (sexually transmitted infections) and STDs (sexually transmitted diseases) is incredibly important. That of course stands true for any situation in which you’re having sex with multiple people or are with a new sexual partner. Generally it’s a good idea to talk to the people you want to get intimate with about protection from and testing for STIs or STDs.
what about if you try to start something with two people at once, that would be a third way right ? like if you were talking to two people kind of and they’re talking to each other kind of and you all three have to figure out how to move forward?
i dont want to be poly, i suppose im just too emotionally immature to be comfortable with multiple partners....however the modern world of dating is poly, and quite frankly i'd rather just learn how to deal with it, have a healthy social and sex life, and just keep emotion out of it. Love isnt FOR everyone regardless if its closed or open. But we can still adapt to that fact if faced with it.
Me and my girlfriend are both wanting to try polyamory, but here’s the thing. I’ve found an interest in one of my other friends, (gf knows) but this friend is in a very tough spot right now, and I also don’t want to make our friendship awkward by talking to her about it. I’m scared of ruining the bond we have gained. Can anyone help me with this??
My best relationship was 2 bi sexual men...and me. We all had separate relationships as well as together relationships...there were more "rules" when were were all together, than separate. I'm the female they were 2 men I am not bi at all. Altho I'm very accepting, I am very non judgemental. I personally didn't want to see the top man and.or bottom man altho, we were all sexual together and as partners. During all 3 of us, I was good w everything except penatration of anyone's behind. Everything else was fine. And we al were in agreement w not going out of.our relationship of the 3 of us. It was perfect for me we had me a woman w 2 needing sides. Romantic and sometimes left alone and just be here. A door opener and a let's go open ur own door lol. It was super cool. I would like to have that agian.
My boyfriend wants to add another girl to the relationship but I'm so insecure about myself he keeps talking about it and now I'm curious maybe it would make him happy.
I am asking the person I like if them and their girlfriend want to have a polyamorous relationship where I date the person I like and their girlfriend date them but me and their girlfriend don't date I was going to ask the person who I like to be my girlfriend right after their girlfriend did
@@marjoriemaluca1396 bro the guy is bs. Polygamy is just having 2 wives, being just to both of them and loving them both. Just 2 wives. Nothing more. It’s like having 2 hands, you can manage 1 hand and also manage 2 hands. It’s fine.
No. No i dont think I can be monogamous. I am having such a hard time with the social norm of it. He told me he was talking to another women and I got jealous. Didn't get mad. And I am over it now for the most part. I very much want to be the primary girl but we will see. I just sat there thinking, "why aren't I enough"
*Don’t even try to shame monogamy and make it look like it’s not a natural thing. Yes, there are people who are naturally monogamous and there are people who are naturally polyamorous and then there are aromantic/asexual people who literally have no sex or romantic relationships with people and function just fine. People have different needs.*
I amI am a 29 year old Mormon man I received the testimony of polygamy and it away to become more like Father in heaven but I want multiple wives I do not want them to have multiple partners themselves
Have three imaginary girlfriends Or Get out more, learn to feel rejection, decide who or what you want and go o dates....you can't date if you don't approach the people you want.
I consider myself to be an independent Mormon Fundamentalist how could I have multiple women that will only be faithful to me that also will not sleep with each other they are loyal to me and only me but I will have multiple wives
*The “I’ve been with multiple women (or even more) in my past” is where he just said “I’m a homosexual man that’s lying to you”. You don’t say “or even more (indicating that you lost count)” when it comes to love. You always know the exact number when it comes to relationships. PolyAMORY is polyAMORY. Casual sex is not amorous - I hate to break it to you, but it literally isn’t. Soulmates are real and you can all find each other in polyamory. Real polyamory isn’t this nonsense that people keep trying to promote: “I’m in a monogamous ‘open’ relationship that involves sleeping around with other people while simultaneously excluding my partner”. Real polyamory is a profound, romantic, sexual, highly-intimate, and loving commitment between a group of people that are consistently grouped up. Polyamory isn’t “hey, wife/husband - I’m on a business trip so I’m going to go have casual sex with random people you don’t even know and will never even meet because you’re literally not a bisexual man/woman so that you can spiritually sense them on me when I come back to fuck you.” Polyamory is never between two heterosexuals - there is always some bisexuality or exclusive homosexuality within real polyamorous relationships. It’s impossible for two heterosexuals to include another person of the same or opposite sex into their relationship because it’s incompatible. I’m just not buying this guy’s nonsense. The way his face looks just screams “I love sucking cock and riding cock and actually, I’m in a polyamorous homosexual relationship. I just feel like trolling right now while y’all conspire with me and act like I’m telling the truth. Let’s all act like intuition isn’t real and I’m not see-through”. That’s the thing with gay men: you can always tell who’s gay and who isn’t because their vibe exudes homosexuality. It doesn’t matter how much he says “gays are nasty and I only have sex with women”, it is beyond clear as day that they’re gay. They always end up fucking slipping up and things they say don’t add up (doesn’t matter how well-fabricated the lie is, things eventually don’t add up).*
*Real polyamory is a closed group relationship made up of soulmates. It isn’t “swapping partners” - that implies that God didn’t give a shit about you so didn’t create people that are highly-compatible with you. Orgies are extremely amorous sexual situations and leaving out your soulmates while you’re doing it because you’re “swapping partners from your supposed monogamous relationship” is fucked up. You know what a fucking soulmate is when you have one. That’s why polyamory works. It works just like monogamy. You just KNOW - you just FEEL it. It’s just that instead of finding “the one”, you find “the ones” and they find you. It’s a natural/spiritual process that can only be attributed to God’s design/plan. I know because I’ve been in love with a considerable number of men and our love is telepathic at this point and we’re all in what I would call a “hive mind”. We just know what we want and when we want it and how we want it and our intentions aren’t bad, but amorous. We just want to turn each other on consistently while simultaneously being tender and affectionate in privacy with no intrusions or disruptions. We have to wait to teleport to our home planet, though because this definitely isn’t going to thrive on planet Earth right now given how histrionics reign here. I can see right through the histrionics.*
How to start a polymorous relationship. 1. Grow to despise your partner. 2. Over time, belittle them until they feel unworthy of someone faithful. 3. Propose a polygamous relationship and watch with glee as the spirit drains from their eyes. 4. String them along in this dead relationship as they cry themselves to sleep every night. 5. Hell. Go straight to Hell for even considering this. The deepest, coldest circle is for traitors.
No. It’s more like this 1. Tell your future wife before even getting started if she is ok with polygamy 2. If she is not, find a woman that is 3. You have no done it
*I can’t believe he started it off with “I’ve had more than one girlfriend at a time” like that’s believable. That’s like RuPaul giving a speech on the importance of construction and architecture and how his construction company is behind many skyscraper projects in NYC and he can’t thank anyone more than his support: “his wife, Suzanne and his two kids, Andrew and Connor”. And of course, the audience agrees and nods along while he’s completely dressed in drag and I’m the only one calling all of this bullshit while everyone ignores me as if I’M the one that’s crazy. YOU CAN LOOK AT THIS GUY’S FACE AND TELL THAT HE’S FLAT-OUT LYING BECAUSE HE’S A HOMOSEXUAL. Don’t mess with me. I have intuition just like everyone else and I can tell when people are playing dumb or lying to me. Way too many straight-acting gay guys that are insinuating that they’re profoundly in love with me by spewing the most unbelievable “I fuck women every single day and I’m addicted to it” nonsense. I don’t believe it because your face screams “I naturally take cock in the ass and prefer when a man sits on my face for a few hours.” Too unbelievable. It’s like Elton John showing up and talking about how he’s obsessed with vagina and everyone agrees with him because “duh! He’s so straight!” even though Elton John looks gay - just by fucking looking at him you can tell.*
Actually monogamy is what's considered natural. The only reason you could even live a polyamorous lifestyle is simply because we live in an age where there's 90% more of everything and then there ever has been before and the level of convenience in acquiring are goods no longer takes up the time of our day it used to. Humans became monogamous for really a few reasons- time and resources and paternity. Take away 90% of what you have .. are you still able to be polyamorous? Probably not. You are going to be far far too busy trying to provide for one person or one family to bother.
Nah bro groups make things easier. Could you survive in the wild/world better alone of with the help of others? IMO the only reason monogamy is dominant is because of problems with jealousy due to falling in love. If you think about it every other aspect of life is poly except the “standard relationship”. Multiple streams of income (for the rich), multiple kids that you love equally, multiple friends etc. Idk if it’s because of selfish reproductive reasons (wanting your kids to be yours) or what but it’s like relationships are the one thing in all of life that gets the monogamous pass yet it’s seems the most unstable thing about life at the same time.
polygamy is for guys. girls are not meant to have several men. men are meant to have one or more depending on their status. we evolved in a time where women outnumbered women. so a part of women are ok with bisexual polygamy. but men are not ok raising others kids
Nah. I can’t see myself with multiple women unless I don’t have feelings for them which I did before. Sex is fun but Poly is just another word for being single lol having a few friends with benefits basically
Also I can’t speak for all men but I’d rather not raise someone else’s kid. Idc what society says. I’m sure once I’m older my views will probably change but I’m not raising someone’s child. Keep it and stay with your baby dad
Polyamory- What individuals without a functioning conscience try to convince themselves is somehow acceptable and not just a big old red flag of the Cluster-B Club. The collateral damage that is greater when engaging in this type of activity, proves that you are not someone who should be having any type of romantic or intimate relationship with anyone. Because you’re only thinking of yourself, and don’t want to be held accountable for your choices or suffer any consequences either. FACT
@@koffiecake I think it sets a bad precedent for your relationship but also for society. I mean we've been experimenting for awhile now and marriage/fertility rates are in the toilet so it seems to me like things aren't working. Personally(and this is just me) I would feel insulted if I wasn't enough for my partner.
@@koffiecake well pretty much all of our law is developed for monogamy. I believe it will cause a societal breakdown. The last largely publicized poly couple I saw ended with one of the males hospitalizing the groups baby. Just my opinion but people are free to do as they like(I just think the whole reason we have rules its to keep society cohesive but now a days people wanna throw all that out in the window in the name of being progressive and shocker its not working)
The core element of my poly relationship was when my now wife said, "Nobody is going to tell me that I have to dump my friendship or other relationship in order to maintain my relationship with them, and I will not tolerate you telling me that I have to cut anybody out of my life." So that meant that I didn't have to be jealous, because nobody could try to cut me out of her life.
Sorry, Michael, but that is not what it means. It means your wife isn’t satisfied by you alone. It means you-yourself don’t have the stones or self respect to seek a person who’s loyal and committed to you. Finally, it means you let others determine your value rather than valuing yourself enough to walk away from someone who isn’t worth the couch she sits on. Man to man, grow up, kick her to the curb, then go find a partner who’s not going to leave you for the next herpes infested weekend f-buddy.
Precisely!!
I would definetly not advise anyone to let their spouse talk to them like that
This is my biggest concern with my special guy Josh, and you just helped me feel so much more secure about this. Thank you
@@chrismistretta4801 I will pass that on to my wife, and I am sure she will be very happy that her wisdom helped someone else. It was a wisdom borne of pain from past relationships that demanded she cut off contact with other friends. Good luck with poly!
My wife and I have been married for 25 years (together for 29) with 1 teenager and 1 adult child. We've been in an open relationship for 5 years and we really like our life together. I do not advocate on behalf of polyamory or open marriage as its not for everyone and it can fail miserably. We read a lot of information on the topic, watched videos and spoke to couples in open marriage/ relationship before ever attempting it. It's not all dreamy, sunshine and rainbows, but we navigated the waters and we really quite enjoy it. We do not harbour jealousy toward one another but we have both felt feelings of jealousy and or insecurity at one time or another, but once we talked about it and expressed ourselves we came out stronger. We are not property to be possessed or controled, we each have unique needs, and once we came to the realization that one person cannot meet all of our needs, for us, the next logical step was to have interaction with other people. I know many will disagree with me and I'm perfectly ok with that, I respect every persons right to an opinion and freedom of expression. I can't say what's right or wrong for another person nor would I want to, all I can say is to communicate with your partner and hold space for them when they are expressing themselves, approach it with love, patience and understanding. Much love from Canada!
I told my ex I thought I was poly and she broke up with me 😺
Yup. Same says the rest of us polys lol
It is coming into a whole different part of yourself; I have been set free in love. Ugh. Good luck in your journey. Be as authentic as you can.
That's what's bound to happen to most poliamourous people
@@patsystonejones9555 what? ending up alone?
People have the right to decide they don't want to be in a poly relationship. What they don't get to do though is force someone else to be monogamous with them. Monogamy is okay to want but only if your partner consents to it. On the flip side, if you agree to be monogamous with someone but then see other people behind their back, you are crossing a boundary and that isn't okay.
My girlfriend wants a poly relationship and I've been so afraid of trying it but this video has helped me understand it a little more thank you
Are u a Boy or girl and does she want the third to be boy or girl
Lol nah, this is some weird shit. Go find someone else this ones not for me 😂
Lucky I been trying to find females like that for a very long time. How do you do it.
@Destiney Bailey Maybe you want to know who is going to be your co-father
@@JayJay-gr5rg Don’t hate. You’re monogamous. That’s fine. Let poly people be happy.
Not trying to judge but I have noticed that most of these relationships tend to be one man and multiple women. What about if a Woman wants two husbands?
🙏🏾 starts by believing, knowing what you want. As a man be Inlove with your purpose and Don't be afraid of loss
this is spot on! I've been in a triad family for 5 years. it only gets easier with time and communication. 💕
Yes Id love that! I have a mate but would like another male to join us...my dream I have plenty for two.
Wow, you really expressed all my feelings and concerns in one video being recently introduced to the poly lifestyle thank you tremendously. The love of my life recently expressed this is something they want to do after we met on an monogamous planting field. This video has really made things clear.
The problem is that the poliamour community is very limited because most people haven't actually thought about this. Plus, I always seem to find weirdos in this type of dating pool.
Hey Pats, it’s Edina.
I'd have to say that’s because the only people who think polyamory is even possible and something worth pursuing ARE WEIRDOS!
If we’re being totally honest with ourselves ............. Polyamory is just a less conspicuous term for someone lacking in personal integrity, with an inability to commit. Usually due to their own insecurities which they DO NOT want to address. So why not be even more toxic, and create even more collateral damage to as many people as humanly possible, and continue to not hold ourselves accountable while we use everyone to get our own selfish wants met. Because that’s not uber sociopathic at all.
I we are open, because we have a goal, a plan, a vision, but it is very challenging to find someone else who is willing to see our vision.
@@Moe-os4qr Okay.
Tell me about this "vision" this "goal" of yours. Apply a little deductive reasoning and weigh out the benefits and inevitable drawbacks for all involved. Then tell me if you can be honest with yourself about the real reason you thought you'd be progressive and visionary if you could have more than you'd even know what to do with, and see if you can justify everything that's likely to go South faster than you can say, "lickety-split."
@@9fiveb180 my mentor is poly, my fiancée is. Your opinion is only valid to your own imagination.
My plan and vision isn’t important here. Thank you for sharing your opinion.
It’s incredible how you believe in only 1 negative opinion but nothing positive. You don’t know me or my way of life. Take care
@@Moe-os4qrAs is yours. It's interesting how you show the instant signs of someone who does not want to be accountable for their actions and wants to live unto Allah unto themselves just by what you said that's very cluster B it's very dysfunctional
It’s sad. I’ve always felt this way, but just didn’t have the language to explain it. I didn’t know this world existed before I got narrated.
Be awesome , change their life for the better, let them know that you’re not going anywhere unless they pull the plug, but also will be willing to lose them if they’re not on the program. Be loving
I'm a bit of a crossroads.
I was in love with 2 girls when I younger, it took me years to figure the whirlwind of emotions I felt.
Now fast forward I'm almost 30, I have a partner abs 2 kids we don't believe in marriage (long talks), but I've expressed my love for her and how I feel in to much for her at times (she has low sex drive and kinda set in her ways about spontaneousness)
She is a my life partner, best friend etc. I don't want to cheat on her but I also realize I get attracted to certain woman ( there's probably been 2 in all these years).
I never act on anything but ugh the older I get the more I feel I am polyamores
Then its time for you to have a serious talk with your lady. Im in a similar situation. I decided ti have a talk and continued to bring up the topic over the last 12 months. The more we talked, the open she became. Talking is the key.
@@hambone100 yea from thw research I've been doing, COMMUNICATION seems to be the staple point. We have jokingly discussed it before, and she just concludeds she would get jealous that I may feel more for the other.
@@bahamutr4270 thats the one main problem with most women. Jealousy... followed by insecurity. Just keep at it and make her know that you are in fact SERIOUS. I made the mostake of "joking" about it and my gf took it all for a joke. When the conversation got more serious, she didnt know how to take it all in. Stand your ground.
@@hambone100 as joking as we were at the time, she knows that I may in fact be that way, but can't wrap her mind around it. Currently I'm exploring why I really feel this way, is it just for sex? I'm an outrovert in social settings, but then I don't have many friends of my own. Is is loneliness? Why can't my partner fix that?
Out of all my questions, I don't question my love for her or my plans with our future. Shit is CONFUSING, but yea conversations need to happen. Definitely not cheating, she is an amazing woman
Two things you need to do.
1.Marry the woman you had kids by and make an honest woman out of her.
2. Control your sexual urges, and commit to the mother of you children like a real MAN.
My wife just used polyamory as an excuse to fuck other people. Basically told me she was poly, we discussed it. Before I could even be ok with the idea she had already started talking with other guys. When I tried to tell her anything about how I was not comfortable with it she would get annoyed with me. Her attitude was basically “this is who I am. You and your feelings need to catch up because I am doing this whether you like it or not”
She had sex with a guy at a festival even though we were supposed to discuss boundaries and shit. I found this out during an argument AFTER she started asking me if it was ok to send him provocative photos she was sending me to this guy she was “talking” to and that she felt a connection to him and they were planning to have sex with the guy. Even though that had already had sex by that point. She said we had had a discussion about her having random encounters (which we never did) and when I called her on it she tried to convince me that we did and I agreed to it even getting mad at me because I said we never had that conversation. She was emotionally manipulating me at every turn. There is so much more to the story. But long story short, we are getting a divorce. We no longer live together and I am happier now.
There is a difference between ENM and a license to fuck other people. But if you are being manipulated into being ok with it that’s not cool.
In the end my wife cheated on me. The best decision I made was walking away from that relationship. I am much happier now.
I really enjoyed this video and it gave me a lot of great tips and a lot of great things to think about I learned a little bit as well
I am Polyamerous, I have had one short but great relationship with a married couple but it did not work out as I felt like the other woman.
The people who I love don't seem to like the idea, maybe they don't understand and think I'm just wanting to sleep around or something. I am struggling to socialise and meet people and dating sites are exhausting because so many people don't understand what this means.
Thank you for your video it is very helpful❤
Me not even able to get one woman, let alone two who agree to be with me both at the same time 🤣😭😭
Im going to talk to my partner about opening up our relationship i brought it up a few months ago briefly they seemed open to it but we didn't really have a talk though but this really helped thank you!!
You guys are still together?
@@brahmadathanb7370 no :(
@@the_queer_forest_fairy5170 You broke up because you wanted the open relationship?
@@brahmadathanb7370 no they just didnt want to be with me
Oh they? so you did convince your partner to open up the relationship
Problem is a lot of people don't really know what they want. What sounds good talking about it isn't always the same as doing it.
***watches in single***
I’d like to explore polyamory but making time to date one person is already hard enough, not sure how I’d fit in a second or third..
I've always had a kink for this but I've been too afraid to actually act on it. Due to what my family would think or if I was doing something immoral. I think it would be cool to be in a throuple though. Just a peaceful calm relationship with two women who loved me and loved each other. We just hung out, made love, went on adventures and helped each other move towards our dreams and built a family.
I believe a Throuple is the best lifestyle there is , there are so many benefits to this type of life, all throughout life.
Thank you so much for making this video it has helped me do much! Thank you! :)
"Do you find yourself falling for multiple people at once? Can you love more than one person at a time?" Yes and Yes.
Alex Pomchi I think most of the people (if not all) are polyamorous. We are just conditioned by society that we are monogamous.
I'm interested in this
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Im bisexual polyamorous. My dream relationship is to have a wife and a husband
2:40 I LOVED that!!!!!, 'cause I think human beings are NOT monogamous. We're conditioned to believe we are monogamous by society but at heart we are non-monogamous or polyamorous.
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@@shedrachomon7192 So, what would I do ??
That was an eye opening explanation. Thank you.
Wait...... I was just at an overly sensual asmr. How am I here? Oh well.
Comparing Maslow's hierarchy of needs, monogamy would seem to suffer at the self-affirmation to affiliation stage. While individuals that are fairly self confident with their own achievements, exhibit difficulty expanding their social relationships in join manner.
thank you so much for your explanation! now I'm getting more and more understand what Polyamorous is. I think this is a kind of lifestyle I ever wanted.
I'm wanting to try this out and see how it goes
That's if you're interested in trying it with me
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My only problem I love them both and they don’t want that ,She wants me to only lover and the other wants that too.
I seem to be losing them both as there’s constant fights.
I am dating a man and we are both polyamorous. I am fine with him sleeping with other people and he’s fine with me sleeping with other people. But at the end of it all, we seem to come back together. We tell each other about the people we’ve met and the experiences we’ve had and I quite like it.
We’re doing it long distance at the moment which has had another layer of risk to this situation, but I’m happy to take the time to perhaps explore what we may ultimately need to… a monogamous polyamorous relationship!? That’s whack.
It's pretty hard funding like minded polyam people in Jamaica. Thanks to social media because I thought I was alone in this. Finding a next partner who's polyamorous is harder than I thought
Want to make characters in an AU I’m making be in a polyamorous relationship, and trying to do my research to make it accurate 😊
Same but it's for a book and I think I'm polyamorous
I honestly couldn't care less what's natural when it comes to what I do and don't do. Polyamorous relationships clearly work for some people, I really want to be in one, and I really want to know how to make sure it can be as healthy and successful as possible.
I'm sure some people care if they're natural or not, but I would ask those people if they really care about how naturally they behave or if they just want an excuse to avoid something or think less of it.
You will fail
Same i really want someone who is poly and willing to just be a triad with my gf but its extremely hard for me cause I can't seem to find anyone who accepts poly or finds it okay.
Also you won't fail ignore the stupid hater. I wish you luck btw with that
Same. Sorry found cosmic irony in that my wife's name is Gabby. I recently opened up about being poly and I feel alot of shame and sorrow. I don't understand myself other than that I'm certain this is how I feel and why I am so full of love. But I feel like the extra love I'm carrying is weighing me down mentally and emotionally. I want to take it back and I don't know how to forget....
I could be both because I don't mind the open relationship if everyone knows what it is and I could be with one person if I choose to be. I can go either which way.
Omg you are absolutely brilliant!!👏👏BRAVO!!
I'm interested in this type of relationship
@@marjoriemaluca1396 There’s lots to learn. Make sure u do extensive research
my partner wants a poly relationship but i’m too scared to try it... they are really eager for me to try it but i can’t do it... i couldn’t handle it but i don’t wanna let them down... i’m happy with just them... i don’t think i could handle it...
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So dump her
Regarding consistency when it comes to schedule / days. What if lets say, the days are Monday and Thursday.... and my partner falls ill on Monday. Is there a rule for "rescheduling"... idk, stupid question but im just curious.
I would say that we learn to share our priorities together, share each other, trust each other, all give a little, live in radical acceptance and grace.
How bout you have one partner like a normal human being. then you dont need to worry about stupid schedules
5:20 My favorite is I’m taken. Ladies do you hear yourself’s your not a piece of property!!
Me and my 2 friends all like eachother and want to start ⏃ relationship so we’ve been trying to figure it out first
I wish you luck!
You should do it it is the best thing you have ever done if everybody is honest with everybody that's the way it works between me my wife and my wife's girlfriend which is my lover too we have a wonderful relationship I should have done this a long time ago
How's this for a good description?We found a pleasure dominant.My wife is the submissive and I am also supposed to be submitted to him.Also how about some feedback on that.
Isn't it a risk to have a polyamorous relationship, to have many Gfs with a single man? Or vice versa?
What happens if someone catches the clap?
That’s why regular testing of all participants for STIs (sexually transmitted infections) and STDs (sexually transmitted diseases) is incredibly important. That of course stands true for any situation in which you’re having sex with multiple people or are with a new sexual partner. Generally it’s a good idea to talk to the people you want to get intimate with about protection from and testing for STIs or STDs.
@@aleccheckmate2283 need to write this down for future reference #moreyouknow
No one catches the clap if you’re in a closed poly relationship. Polyamory doesn’t correspond with hookup culture. “Amory” stands for LOVE not sex 💜
@@clairsentientrealm7203 ahhh but open polyamoury IS hookup culture.
what about if you try to start something with two people at once, that would be a third way right ? like if you were talking to two people kind of and they’re talking to each other kind of and you all three have to figure out how to move forward?
oh please ignore, this did NOT work
Me n my boyfriend looking for future wife 🙏🏻🙏🏻 hope someone will help
I'm interested
OMG, I can’t believe this video even exist haha. Honestly we all have our life rules. So I totally get it, but fuck I barely want to keep one…
A lot of women seem to want polyamory yet the advertisements always show one guy with several women. A-HEM! 2022 anyone?
i dont want to be poly, i suppose im just too emotionally immature to be comfortable with multiple partners....however the modern world of dating is poly, and quite frankly i'd rather just learn how to deal with it, have a healthy social and sex life, and just keep emotion out of it. Love isnt FOR everyone regardless if its closed or open. But we can still adapt to that fact if faced with it.
Great vid brother.
Only on this channel only.
Me and my girlfriend are both wanting to try polyamory, but here’s the thing. I’ve found an interest in one of my other friends, (gf knows) but this friend is in a very tough spot right now, and I also don’t want to make our friendship awkward by talking to her about it. I’m scared of ruining the bond we have gained. Can anyone help me with this??
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My best relationship was 2 bi sexual men...and me. We all had separate relationships as well as together relationships...there were more "rules" when were were all together, than separate. I'm the female they were 2 men I am not bi at all. Altho I'm very accepting, I am very non judgemental. I personally didn't want to see the top man and.or bottom man altho, we were all sexual together and as partners. During all 3 of us, I was good w everything except penatration of anyone's behind. Everything else was fine. And we al were in agreement w not going out of.our relationship of the 3 of us. It was perfect for me we had me a woman w 2 needing sides. Romantic and sometimes left alone and just be here. A door opener and a let's go open ur own door lol. It was super cool. I would like to have that agian.
So many rules and regulations…that just seems like too much bullshit to deal with
My boyfriend wants to add another girl to the relationship but I'm so insecure about myself he keeps talking about it and now I'm curious maybe it would make him happy.
Tell him u want a man like me
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He isn't pressuring you into it is he?
Yeah but would you be happy
I am asking the person I like if them and their girlfriend want to have a polyamorous relationship where I date the person I like and their girlfriend date them but me and their girlfriend don't date I was going to ask the person who I like to be my girlfriend right after their girlfriend did
Amazing presentation I'm starting one polyamorus relationship and isn't easy but I feel fine
I'm interested in a polyamorous relationship
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I am polygynious so all of that is good except the part where I tell my partner that they can see other people too. 🤜🏿🤛🏻
I'm wanting to get more info on a polyamorous relationship
I am not Polyamorous. I am Polygynous. Two different things Polygyny and Polyamory.
So what's the difference between the two?
I'm interested in this if you are
@@marjoriemaluca1396 bro the guy is bs. Polygamy is just having 2 wives, being just to both of them and loving them both. Just 2 wives. Nothing more. It’s like having 2 hands, you can manage 1 hand and also manage 2 hands. It’s fine.
To all of the none believers out there he does speak the truth
I wanna try this out
Interested
No. No i dont think I can be monogamous. I am having such a hard time with the social norm of it. He told me he was talking to another women and I got jealous. Didn't get mad. And I am over it now for the most part. I very much want to be the primary girl but we will see. I just sat there thinking, "why aren't I enough"
Ashley Bellerose What do you mean ?
thats alot of words for "I am a whore"
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GOD DAMMIT I'M TRYING TO GET OUT OF A POLY RELATIONSHIP!!! SOMEONE HELP ME FIND A VIDEO I CAN'T!!!! PLEASE!
Just break up...
Good luck
Say u want to get out of relationship because many people actually want to get out/ divorce monogamy 😅😅
I WON’T SETTLE FOR THE WRONG PERSON. I WON’T SETTLE FOR ANYONE WHO ISN’T MY TRUE SOULMATE.
*Don’t even try to shame monogamy and make it look like it’s not a natural thing. Yes, there are people who are naturally monogamous and there are people who are naturally polyamorous and then there are aromantic/asexual people who literally have no sex or romantic relationships with people and function just fine. People have different needs.*
Monogamy is not natural
I told my mom and she told me "perhaps there's a cure for this, you need help" then goes and spoils my gay cousin...
Slap her
I’m so sorry that that happened
I'm interested in a polyamorous relationship....I'd like to experience this
How do you have it where the wives are? More like sister's wives and they do not have relations with each other, just you the man.
Give 30m likes.
Anybody wanna start one ?😂
This world is going to hell in a hand basket.
I amI am a 29 year old Mormon man I received the testimony of polygamy and it away to become more like Father in heaven but I want multiple wives I do not want them to have multiple partners themselves
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Then you are selfish and self centered. Only YOU are allowed to do what you please but your partners can’t? Look at how selfish you are!
I have no girl friend what can I do
First radically love yourself; be your own best lover; teach others how to love you.
Have three imaginary girlfriends
Or
Get out more, learn to feel rejection, decide who or what you want and go o dates....you can't date if you don't approach the people you want.
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I am poly still learning stuff tho finding this video helpful tho
If humans were monogamous we would have gone extinct.
Cope
I consider myself to be an independent Mormon Fundamentalist how could I have multiple women that will only be faithful to me that also will not sleep with each other they are loyal to me and only me but I will have multiple wives
*The “I’ve been with multiple women (or even more) in my past” is where he just said “I’m a homosexual man that’s lying to you”. You don’t say “or even more (indicating that you lost count)” when it comes to love. You always know the exact number when it comes to relationships. PolyAMORY is polyAMORY. Casual sex is not amorous - I hate to break it to you, but it literally isn’t. Soulmates are real and you can all find each other in polyamory. Real polyamory isn’t this nonsense that people keep trying to promote: “I’m in a monogamous ‘open’ relationship that involves sleeping around with other people while simultaneously excluding my partner”. Real polyamory is a profound, romantic, sexual, highly-intimate, and loving commitment between a group of people that are consistently grouped up. Polyamory isn’t “hey, wife/husband - I’m on a business trip so I’m going to go have casual sex with random people you don’t even know and will never even meet because you’re literally not a bisexual man/woman so that you can spiritually sense them on me when I come back to fuck you.” Polyamory is never between two heterosexuals - there is always some bisexuality or exclusive homosexuality within real polyamorous relationships. It’s impossible for two heterosexuals to include another person of the same or opposite sex into their relationship because it’s incompatible. I’m just not buying this guy’s nonsense. The way his face looks just screams “I love sucking cock and riding cock and actually, I’m in a polyamorous homosexual relationship. I just feel like trolling right now while y’all conspire with me and act like I’m telling the truth. Let’s all act like intuition isn’t real and I’m not see-through”. That’s the thing with gay men: you can always tell who’s gay and who isn’t because their vibe exudes homosexuality. It doesn’t matter how much he says “gays are nasty and I only have sex with women”, it is beyond clear as day that they’re gay. They always end up fucking slipping up and things they say don’t add up (doesn’t matter how well-fabricated the lie is, things eventually don’t add up).*
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*Real polyamory is a closed group relationship made up of soulmates. It isn’t “swapping partners” - that implies that God didn’t give a shit about you so didn’t create people that are highly-compatible with you. Orgies are extremely amorous sexual situations and leaving out your soulmates while you’re doing it because you’re “swapping partners from your supposed monogamous relationship” is fucked up. You know what a fucking soulmate is when you have one. That’s why polyamory works. It works just like monogamy. You just KNOW - you just FEEL it. It’s just that instead of finding “the one”, you find “the ones” and they find you. It’s a natural/spiritual process that can only be attributed to God’s design/plan. I know because I’ve been in love with a considerable number of men and our love is telepathic at this point and we’re all in what I would call a “hive mind”. We just know what we want and when we want it and how we want it and our intentions aren’t bad, but amorous. We just want to turn each other on consistently while simultaneously being tender and affectionate in privacy with no intrusions or disruptions. We have to wait to teleport to our home planet, though because this definitely isn’t going to thrive on planet Earth right now given how histrionics reign here. I can see right through the histrionics.*
How to start a polymorous relationship.
1. Grow to despise your partner.
2. Over time, belittle them until they feel unworthy of someone faithful.
3. Propose a polygamous relationship and watch with glee as the spirit drains from their eyes.
4. String them along in this dead relationship as they cry themselves to sleep every night.
5. Hell. Go straight to Hell for even considering this. The deepest, coldest circle is for traitors.
No. It’s more like this
1. Tell your future wife before even getting started if she is ok with polygamy
2. If she is not, find a woman that is
3. You have no done it
sounds like many monogamous relationships????????
*I can’t believe he started it off with “I’ve had more than one girlfriend at a time” like that’s believable. That’s like RuPaul giving a speech on the importance of construction and architecture and how his construction company is behind many skyscraper projects in NYC and he can’t thank anyone more than his support: “his wife, Suzanne and his two kids, Andrew and Connor”. And of course, the audience agrees and nods along while he’s completely dressed in drag and I’m the only one calling all of this bullshit while everyone ignores me as if I’M the one that’s crazy. YOU CAN LOOK AT THIS GUY’S FACE AND TELL THAT HE’S FLAT-OUT LYING BECAUSE HE’S A HOMOSEXUAL. Don’t mess with me. I have intuition just like everyone else and I can tell when people are playing dumb or lying to me. Way too many straight-acting gay guys that are insinuating that they’re profoundly in love with me by spewing the most unbelievable “I fuck women every single day and I’m addicted to it” nonsense. I don’t believe it because your face screams “I naturally take cock in the ass and prefer when a man sits on my face for a few hours.” Too unbelievable. It’s like Elton John showing up and talking about how he’s obsessed with vagina and everyone agrees with him because “duh! He’s so straight!” even though Elton John looks gay - just by fucking looking at him you can tell.*
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Actually monogamy is what's considered natural.
The only reason you could even live a polyamorous lifestyle is simply because we live in an age where there's 90% more of everything and then there ever has been before and the level of convenience in acquiring are goods no longer takes up the time of our day it used to.
Humans became monogamous for really a few reasons- time and resources and paternity.
Take away 90% of what you have .. are you still able to be polyamorous? Probably not.
You are going to be far far too busy trying to provide for one person or one family to bother.
so "natural" that a good percentage of people cheat?????
Nah bro groups make things easier. Could you survive in the wild/world better alone of with the help of others? IMO the only reason monogamy is dominant is because of problems with jealousy due to falling in love. If you think about it every other aspect of life is poly except the “standard relationship”. Multiple streams of income (for the rich), multiple kids that you love equally, multiple friends etc. Idk if it’s because of selfish reproductive reasons (wanting your kids to be yours) or what but it’s like relationships are the one thing in all of life that gets the monogamous pass yet it’s seems the most unstable thing about life at the same time.
I am polygamous and i am still single
I wanna find it
polygamy is for guys. girls are not meant to have several men. men are meant to have one or more depending on their status. we evolved in a time where women outnumbered women. so a part of women are ok with bisexual polygamy. but men are not ok raising others kids
Nah. I can’t see myself with multiple women unless I don’t have feelings for them which I did before. Sex is fun but Poly is just another word for being single lol having a few friends with benefits basically
Also I can’t speak for all men but I’d rather not raise someone else’s kid. Idc what society says. I’m sure once I’m older my views will probably change but I’m not raising someone’s child. Keep it and stay with your baby dad
Speak for yourself. Personally, I’m happiest in relationships with equality and without sexism. To each their own I guess.
You are correct, sir....
Polyamory- What individuals without a functioning conscience try to convince themselves is somehow acceptable and not just a big old red flag of the Cluster-B Club.
The collateral damage that is greater when engaging in this type of activity, proves that you are not someone who should be having any type of romantic or intimate relationship with anyone. Because you’re only thinking of yourself, and don’t want to be held accountable for your choices or suffer any consequences either.
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You're selfish
@@Nokss87 the case could be made that your selfish too, the only difference is the the outcome you want and the reasons you use to justify it.
@@koffiecake I think it sets a bad precedent for your relationship but also for society. I mean we've been experimenting for awhile now and marriage/fertility rates are in the toilet so it seems to me like things aren't working.
Personally(and this is just me) I would feel insulted if I wasn't enough for my partner.
@@koffiecake why?? if its bad for society you should tell people not to do it.
@@koffiecake well pretty much all of our law is developed for monogamy.
I believe it will cause a societal breakdown.
The last largely publicized poly couple I saw ended with one of the males hospitalizing the groups baby.
Just my opinion but people are free to do as they like(I just think the whole reason we have rules its to keep society cohesive but now a days people wanna throw all that out in the window in the name of being progressive and shocker its not working)
Yes thank you, I rlly needed dis