This man is a elder , but he is not wise. if he knew any better he would have corrected you when you said the polygamy is an arab's custom . It not originally their custom. The origin is a Hebrew Israelites custom. All you have to do is your biblical research. Which came first the Torah or the Quran ¿He should know better than that.
I’m Muslim and this individual’s understanding of polygamy is “midget thinking” If he thinks that Allah (s.w.t) would reveal revelation to Muhammad the Prophet (s.a.w.s) to only address sex then he’s horribly mistaken Yes, the verse was revealed during the time of battle when men was being killed however this verse has universal application. Meaning, it will stand both past, present, & future tense Sex, is not the standard exigency for (providing) for more than one wife & nor should it be however creating “social ties” is. Further more, “widow” doesn’t necessarily have to mean a woman who’s lost her husband by death for this word has several definitions. If she’s left alone physically, mentally & spiritually then she’s widowed because men should be cultivating their wives Lastly, he is correct when he says, some brothers don’t qualify to take on a second wife however it doesn’t negate the fact that it’s still permissible to address a “social epidemic” that has taken place especially inside the African American community. His, misguided concept surrounding this verse of the Holy Quran sounds personal and leave at that
Correct. It's a family structure alternative for a specific purpose to suit a specific need or deficit in the society to prevent something worse from occurring. He's absolutely correct and it was eloquent.
It goes beyond . It was the wealthy trying to save the lesser in their society. No african nation or kingdom used it for nation builder yet only for necessity. It has been corrupted and exploited as a concept since then.
Wisdom??? Professor talked a lot of nonsense. African tradition says the number of children a man has is directly proprotional to his wealth. A guy that could only grow two rows of beans marries more than one wife gets more children, more children means more hands to till the land, make the tools, etc, which translates to more wealth
I got married in Tanzania. They ask the man and the man only, what type of marriage does he want. My answer was 1 wife. My reasons are that I would never share my wife, so she doesnt have to share me. My second reason is that my marriage would not be considered legal in countries that dont recognize polygamy.
Bismillah, This man is clearly ignorant. The Qur’ān clearly allows a Muslim man to have more than one wife. In actuality, it could be looked at it from an alternative point of view also, such as, Islam allows a Woman to marry a man who has more than one wife. The Qur’ān and Sunnah of the Prophet Muhammad SAW are clear on the rights of a man and a woman to be in a polygamous relationship. This man is the typical example of someone who thinks with his own personal "logic" and emotions. You have to understand Islam based on the Qur’ān and Sunnah and the way that the Prophet Muhammad's companions understood it. Also, we have to study and listen to real scholars of the religion. This man is not qualified to speak about Islam and nor is he knowledgeable about the religion of Islam. He allows his emotional attachment to race and racism to cloud his thinking. I suggest that he submits to Allah and follow his last Prophet Muhammad SAW and stop fooling himself into thinking that he knows better than all the great scholars that came before him. Also, stop misquoting the Quran. You don't speak Arabic, nor do you understand it. You are purposely mis-translating verses. Here is is what the Quran says about the permissability of polygamy: وَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلَّا تُقْسِطُوا۟ فِى ٱلْيَتَـٰمَىٰ فَٱنكِحُوا۟ مَا طَابَ لَكُم مِّنَ ٱلنِّسَآءِ مَثْنَىٰ وَثُلَـٰثَ وَرُبَـٰعَ ۖ فَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلَّا تَعْدِلُوا۟ فَوَٰحِدَةً أَوْ مَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَـٰنُكُمْ ۚ ذَٰلِكَ أَدْنَىٰٓ أَلَّا تَعُولُوا۟ ٣ And if you fear that you will not deal justly with the orphan girls, then marry those that please you of [other] women, two or three or four. But if you fear that you will not be just, then [marry only] one or those your right hands possess [i.e., slaves]. That is more suitable that you may not incline [to injustice]. - Saheeh International I'm not sure if you are Muslim or not, I don't think you are. If you are Muslim fear Allah and stop talking about Islam because you lack understanding and definitely you lack knowledge. If you are not Muslim then leave Islam to the Muslims. Islam has allowed a man to marry up to 4 wives, period. The man should be able to provide for all of his wives equally. It has nothing to do with Arabs teaching Africans about polygamy. Polygamy has been around since the Prophets Abraham, Sulaiman etc. It is nothing new, Islam as taught by the last and final Messenger who came over 1400 years ago, limited it to up to 4 wives. Notice the ayat in the Qur’ān starts off by saying marry 2, 3, or 4 wives. May Allah guide us all. Ameen And whoever seeks a religion other than Islam, it will never be accepted of him, and in the Hereafter he will be one of the losers.” [Aal 'Imran 3:85]
This is pure Facts 💯 I'm from Africa and can confirm that the information about what polygamy in Africa is, and how it was done here in Africa is absolutely correct and accurate. Including the part where Women took centre stage in the execution and management of polygamy. Much Respect to Prof.James Small for giving us the absolute Truth. God Bless him and his work!
@@ghaaziabujunayd2078 brother when I first learned about multiple wives in Islam, was explained the same way, in a masjid in Chicago, 1993. The African part I know nothing about. I was taught a scholar, that teaches Quran and the history of the Prophet (and the Sahaba), is the scholar to listen too. Prof. Smalls is not of the Ulama. But, he said it the way I’ve learned it.
@@amrikiaswad4263 Whoever told you that told you something that wasn’t taught by the Prophet Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم or his Companions. Allah says, (4:3) “If you fear that you might not treat the orphans justly, then marry the women that seem good to you: two, or three, or four”. THE WOMEN THAT SEEM GOOD TO YOU. As for the orphan “Al-Bukhari recorded that `A'ishah said, "A man was taking care of a female orphan and he married her, although he did not desire to marry her. That girl's money was mixed with his, and he was keeping her portion from her. Afterwards, this Ayah was revealed about his case.”
@@amrikiaswad4263 As for 2,3,or 4 then that’s the limit of wives you can have at ANY TIME. The proof: “Imam Ahmad recorded that Salim said that his father said that Ghilan bin Salamah Ath-Thaqafi had ten wives when he became Muslim, and the Prophet said to him, "Choose any four of them (and divorce the rest).'' Nothing about war or any special circumstances. Muslim man can marry 2.3 or 4 if he chooses to do so.
I say this all the time polygyny is about responsibility not sex.. and people who come at it from the angle of being able to just have multiple sex partners with no resources are just living foul. The reality is we need more men to step up to fulfill these roles because as he said women out number men..hence the high stripper/prostitute/promiscuous pedestrian population
It’s getting so out of hand us women don’t even date no more but we get looked at funny like we wrong when in all actuality the dating scene is not safe and full of disease both physically and spiritually
I explain this to people all the time. Polygamy was necessary at CERTAIN times to correct situations that happened in society..a surplus of Women that needed protection and to be taken care of etc.
@@j.d.walker5678 absolutely! I think polygamy could pull black people out of the situation we're in, or at least help it out a lot. Dr. Umar talks about this a lot
I know I have made multiple responses here but, this is the Most blacktiful, historical, perfectly stated answer that puts an end & fully addresses the question at hand, & then some. Thank you Baba Small-as always. May the Grandcestors & Ancestors provide you and your family with Oceans of blessings of protection, blackcellent health, Wealth & Longevity❤🖤💚
All of Prof. Small's views concerning the subject matter discussed were concise, sober, and verifiably fact based positions. i appreciate his discipline, and scholarship.
In my teens I had a discussion with a young bosnian muslim guy and his interpretation was, that since man cannot love two women equally, he should abstain from the desire or idea of having multiple wives. That if he was to be honest with himself he'd know that he would never be able to love them and treat them equally. I admired his insight because I could tell that he wasn't just parroting phrases but that he'd actually came to the conclusion himself. His discourse after that on love was so profound and honorable for someone so young but I remember how his wisdom impacted me. I have observed this trend and have realized that most narcisstic men advocate for it. It's about having their ego's stroked at all times and It's about sex. That's why the new fresh addition recieves more attention and affection while the old partner has to compete to still be seen. And then another one is added for the thrill and so on.
well unfortunately most black men and women nowadays are equally lustful.. the men want multiple women and the women want multiple "hoes" its easy to point the finger at black men until your cornered by black women that support polygamy and polyandry and nobody is forcing them into it because they are at most times "bisexual" and get to have a boyfriend and a girlfriend but we can play naive and act like children and pretend its all the black man but so far that weak ass ideal hasnt helped anything in the black community because year after year we keep letting the black woman off the hook and using victim mentality to scapegoat the black man as the problem and pretend like black women are not participating in it.. its the same reason so many black women get away with pedophilia because almost every black person has some sick reason as to pretend its not happening like that or why its not as bad if its happening to little boys as it is to little girls.. like bruh.. the black community is so lopsided and the villain is always the black man and the black woman is never left to be held accountable.. how can a woman call herself a strong woman but cant even muster up the strength to take blame for that which she partakes in? all i see all day everyday is hella contradictions and everyone pretending to be so rigtheous and justly but the black man is the problem.. ALL THE TIME.. its equally both and black women have been practicing polygamy and polyandry WILLINGLY.. why arent they labeled narrsacistic? because its normal and somehow we gotta victimized her even if she tells you its her choice its in one ear and out the other because somehow she is innocent and that man is manipulating her, even if he is 17 and she is 33.. somehow its still the mans fault.. even if she been grooming him since he was 15.. its his fault.. and its ALWAYS been this way.. thats why it will NEVER get better EVER!! in 20 years you'll see my comment is gold because nobody will be able to prove it wrong.. black people are not capable of progression anymore.. its over! we got way too many egotistical narrative pushers..
Bismillah, This man is clearly ignorant. The Qur’ān clearly allows a Muslim man to have more than one wife. In actuality, it could be looked at it from an alternative point of view also, such as, Islam allows a Woman to marry a man who has more than one wife. The Qur’ān and Sunnah of the Prophet Muhammad SAW are clear on the rights of a man and a woman to be in a polygamous relationship. This man is the typical example of someone who thinks with his own personal "logic" and emotions. You have to understand Islam based on the Qur’ān and Sunnah and the way that the Prophet Muhammad's companions understood it. Also, we have to study and listen to real scholars of the religion. This man is not qualified to speak about Islam and nor is he knowledgeable about the religion of Islam. He allows his emotional attachment to race and racism to cloud his thinking. I suggest that he submits to Allah and follow his last Prophet Muhammad SAW and stop fooling himself into thinking that he knows better than all the great scholars that came before him. Also, stop misquoting the Quran. You don't speak Arabic, nor do you understand it. You are purposely mis-translating verses. Here is is what the Quran says about the permissability of polygamy: وَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلَّا تُقْسِطُوا۟ فِى ٱلْيَتَـٰمَىٰ فَٱنكِحُوا۟ مَا طَابَ لَكُم مِّنَ ٱلنِّسَآءِ مَثْنَىٰ وَثُلَـٰثَ وَرُبَـٰعَ ۖ فَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلَّا تَعْدِلُوا۟ فَوَٰحِدَةً أَوْ مَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَـٰنُكُمْ ۚ ذَٰلِكَ أَدْنَىٰٓ أَلَّا تَعُولُوا۟ ٣ And if you fear that you will not deal justly with the orphan girls, then marry those that please you of [other] women, two or three or four. But if you fear that you will not be just, then [marry only] one or those your right hands possess [i.e., slaves]. That is more suitable that you may not incline [to injustice]. - Saheeh International I'm not sure if you are Muslim or not, I don't think you are. If you are Muslim fear Allah and stop talking about Islam because you lack understanding and definitely you lack knowledge. If you are not Muslim then leave Islam to the Muslims. Islam has allowed a man to marry up to 4 wives, period. The man should be able to provide for all of his wives equally. It has nothing to do with Arabs teaching Africans about polygamy. Polygamy has been around since the Prophets Abraham, Sulaiman etc. It is nothing new, Islam as taught by the last and final Messenger who came over 1400 years ago, limited it to up to 4 wives. Notice the ayat in the Qur’ān starts off by saying marry 2, 3, or 4 wives. May Allah guide us all. Ameen And whoever seeks a religion other than Islam, it will never be accepted of him, and in the Hereafter he will be one of the losers.” [Aal 'Imran 3:85]
While that sounds good, that logic is both flawed and not in line with the Quran. Allah’s Hukm (legislation) is set forth for men and women to do justice to one another and to also do it to ourselves, and it’s in a man’s nature to love, lust after, and want more than one woman. The verse the man you spoke to alluded to was, “You will never be able to do perfect justice between wives even if it is your ardent desire” [al-Nisa’ 4:129] And that speaks to loving and tending to his wives (hugging, hand holding, kissing, etc), but it’s not in any way reprehensible to pursue polygyny, nor to endorse it, and anyone that claims to be a Muslim, to look at it from a perspective of negativity b/c Allahprefaces this verse (and concept) up by saying, “If you fear you might fail to give orphan women their ˹due˺ rights ˹if you were to marry them˺, then marry other women of your choice-two, three, or four.” As THIS is the standard and a man must grapple with the reality and weight of the situation and is therefore given the option to choose based on what he sees fit for himself. The way you’ve phrased it and speak about it is both one dimensional archaic, but it’s much more valuable to individuals and the society as a whole than you’ve given it credit for. There’s more than plenty of loved filled polygynous marriages built on strong faith and values that aren’t revolved around sex or the stroking of a man’s ego. What you and most women fail to conceptualize is that life doesn’t revolve around you and all that you want and desire. Men have just as much of a right to want his cake and have it too, and it’s through a Halal union (marriage) where he’s taking care of his responsibilities and women in his life, you’d be foolish to try and judge, look down upon, or talk down about a relationship that you’re not in, and that Allah Azza wa Jal himself gave the ummah through His divine grace, glory, and wisdom.
@@abzal-falaz6813 I respect your religious views but since it's below spiritual knowingness I cannot entertain it. Respectfully. I have yet to observe a prosperous relationship of multitudes. Lets forget about the adults and focus on the children for a moment, that alone would have to be a segment of it's own. Where reality is far different from the selfish desires of the adults. I have yet to observe women in those kind of relationships without severe mental anguish and in states of depression. Keep in mind it's easy to put a front on, a mask on in support of illusory ideas. The Ego has an expertise of doing so. Relationship is a closed concept unless it entails constant discovery of self and ones partner, which should be obvious. As conscious alive evolving beings there is always something new to explore about one another. Intimacy actually means being intimate on every level, the physical aspect is small and for ordinary people. Being able to stimulate one another takes alertness, awareness, attention, focus, time. You cannot give fully without fully being present. You constantly build together. Most relationships lack aliveness hence why people are quick to be attracted to new energetic individuals,because it brings in a fresh excitement but that goes for both genders. Rarely if ever do women find a man who ticks all the boxes or have the characteristics that we look for within a man. It may happen every blue moon. We know and understand progress and evolution beyond man's control. The question then is, do most males fall short in terms of being the right partners? A lot of men cannot take a blow to their ego's. How would I know? Because they tell me. They cannot accept the truth about themselves,it cuts too deep or blow out the inflated bubble of the Ego metaphorically speaking. So we get the common phrase of we deserve or want to have the cake and eat it too. Does that make them feel more of a man if they have multiple women putting them up on a pedestal? If their idea of a perfect happy life means to fill the void they have within with "love" or affection from multiple people does that not show how fragile they truly are. There is a severe lack of honesty and man needs to be honest with himself first and foremost.
One of my favorite teachers....Dr. Kamene, Professor James Smalls and Dr. Valentine as males, and for female...Dr. Welsing, Sharazad Ali and Dr. Degruy...MR. SMALLS thank you again
This was enlightening. Thank you for sharing this. It's not something that modern black men want to hear, but we need to hear this. Our role is to provide and protect. That is why we are here. Not to satiated our lusts and worldly desires. If we want to lead we have to be men worth following.
He said it best 💯I’m not Muslim but I know some people who ran to the trend to do just that. Not even knowing the real reason why it was done. Like he said they used their own reasoning, for sexual purposes. Great video
My studies lead me to information that it was done in Africa to prevent extinction of a tribe. And women practice it as well if there were more men then women. It went both ways to prevent extinction.
Thank you Elder! Most melanated women understand this on an emotional level, not always stemming from possessiveness or jealousy. On another note, is there a video of professor small talking about how melanated men and women should make love? I believe in ancient teachings of Taoism, Tantra, Kama sutra, etc. I think this is a conversation worth having as we work toward decolonizing every facet of our lives. It’s one thing to master the physical (anatomy), it’s another to master the breath work, energy, and magical properties of sexual portals achieved through orgasm….we need elders to teach us, or atleast supplement our own curious exploration….
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Love him! I hope he has written many books to leave as part of the great global Afrikan library legacy. It's critically important to have people willing to discuss BOTH the strengths and weaknesses of our practices, as it is the only way to know what to and what not to do as we move ahead.
Shared! This is prime! So needed and well done in production. I can easily share because of this clarity. Baba Smalls is on point. We so appreciate you!💥
Wow!! Very interesting… some guy tried to suggest to me yesterday that polygamy was valid and in that same conversation tried to argue me down about accepting a more “traditional” role in the home, even tho he lacked the resources
@@manospherehalloffame1682 explain why he’s wrong. I didn’t think no 1st wife was going to choose the other wives, but what do I know. Unless your girl like girls you’re not gonna like the girl she chooses for you. Common sense.
@Nkosi766 It was not originally about the man liking the 2nd and 3rd wives...it was a situation that was created to be more beneficial to wives than for husbands.
He is correct about the history of polygamy in African civilizations. But practically speaking, what is the African world to do about its excess female population inside of a monogamous matrimonial framework?
@@fromYAHUSHAreborn91 black women outnumber black men about 2 to 1 in the world. So what will become of the rest of the black female population who cannot find husbands.
First time on your channel and if you keep having interviews like this, it won't be my last. I've never heard of this professor but will watch the full video and look for more information on him.
Baba always come through with those facts its about providing resources not sex that’s why in a lot of those poly groups now you see so much chaos in dysfunction
And God wants two parents household and one man to one wife ❤️🙌🏾 polygamy was not the standard. In the Bible polygamy always ended in destruction and chaos anyway. Ppl just need to end this discussion!
Where at? I haven't been able to find a single source that proves there is a significant surplus of women in Africa. Either at birth. There's a surplus of boys and men.
Wow....somebody finally said it. Once again this scholar has spoke more truth bombs....men take heed and women wake up and stop taking the stupid pill.
The history of this is in the Old Testament as well. We as a whole just don’t read or study. When men had hundreds of wives they all were provided for at the same level.
I have had a personal conversation with Professor Smalls and his exact words to me is polygamy cant work in THIS environment. I also heard him say we need to go back to arranged marriages. He may have change his position but he definitely said these things.
I read this some time ago. It didn't give me the chills, but articulated something I've always intuited; that most women don't know what making love should be like.
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This man is a elder , but he is not wise. if he knew any better he would have corrected you when you said the polygamy is an arab's custom . It not originally their custom. The origin is a Hebrew Israelites custom. All you have to do is your biblical research. Which came first the Torah or the Quran ¿He should know better than that.
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I’m Muslim and this individual’s understanding of polygamy is “midget thinking” If he thinks that Allah (s.w.t) would reveal revelation to Muhammad the Prophet (s.a.w.s) to only address sex then he’s horribly mistaken
Yes, the verse was revealed during the time of battle when men was being killed however this verse has universal application. Meaning, it will stand both past, present, & future tense
Sex, is not the standard exigency for (providing) for more than one wife & nor should it be however creating “social ties” is.
Further more, “widow” doesn’t necessarily have to mean a woman who’s lost her husband by death for this word has several definitions. If she’s left alone physically, mentally & spiritually then she’s widowed because men should be cultivating their wives
Lastly, he is correct when he says, some brothers don’t qualify to take on a second wife however it doesn’t negate the fact that it’s still permissible to address a “social epidemic” that has taken place especially inside the African American community.
His, misguided concept surrounding this verse of the Holy Quran sounds personal and leave at that
Very educational. I'm so proud to hear a black man explain it so eloquently. The purpose of polygamy is nation-building not lust.
Correct. It's a family structure alternative for a specific purpose to suit a specific need or deficit in the society to prevent something worse from occurring. He's absolutely correct and it was eloquent.
It goes beyond . It was the wealthy trying to save the lesser in their society. No african nation or kingdom used it for nation builder yet only for necessity. It has been corrupted and exploited as a concept since then.
He is not "a black man"
Try explaining that to “Christian-minded” Black women in America. It’ll NEEEEEVER happen. White Gezus won’t allow it.
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Professor James Small is a living encyclopedia that needs to be protected at all cost.
He needs to stop talking about Islam. Because he doesn't know what he's talking about
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Who CARES about your so-called Islam?
Then I hope you are actively protecting him, not just saying/typing it.
@@clbo9878 the good doctor and you obviously...
@@freedomtv6213 he's been a muslim b4 you were. Respect the elders.
This is why I encourage people to read. Thanks for sharing the wisdom.
People need to put down the books and travel to Africa...I dont know what is prof smalls agenda.
@@tchrisbass5650 What you see in modern Africa isn’t a representation of the origin of polygamy, so what are you saying?
Women started polygamy talking from my tribal ancient teachings
It was for the society’s equilibrium
Not for sexual and financial aims
Wisdom??? Professor talked a lot of nonsense. African tradition says the number of children a man has is directly proprotional to his wealth.
A guy that could only grow two rows of beans marries more than one wife gets more children, more children means more hands to till the land, make the tools, etc, which translates to more wealth
@@tchrisbass5650 right he's probably just sucking up to the failures of females they have over there
I got married in Tanzania. They ask the man and the man only, what type of marriage does he want. My answer was 1 wife. My reasons are that I would never share my wife, so she doesnt have to share me. My second reason is that my marriage would not be considered legal in countries that dont recognize polygamy.
Those same countries that do not recognize polygamy recognize homosexual marriages
Bismillah,
This man is clearly ignorant. The Qur’ān clearly allows a Muslim man to have more than one wife. In actuality, it could be looked at it from an alternative point of view also, such as, Islam allows a Woman to marry a man who has more than one wife. The Qur’ān and Sunnah of the Prophet Muhammad SAW are clear on the rights of a man and a woman to be in a polygamous relationship. This man is the typical example of someone who thinks with his own personal "logic" and emotions. You have to understand Islam based on the Qur’ān and Sunnah and the way that the Prophet Muhammad's companions understood it. Also, we have to study and listen to real scholars of the religion. This man is not qualified to speak about Islam and nor is he knowledgeable about the religion of Islam. He allows his emotional attachment to race and racism to cloud his thinking. I suggest that he submits to Allah and follow his last Prophet Muhammad SAW and stop fooling himself into thinking that he knows better than all the great scholars that came before him. Also, stop misquoting the Quran. You don't speak Arabic, nor do you understand it. You are purposely mis-translating verses.
Here is is what the Quran says about the permissability of polygamy:
وَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلَّا تُقْسِطُوا۟ فِى ٱلْيَتَـٰمَىٰ فَٱنكِحُوا۟ مَا طَابَ لَكُم مِّنَ ٱلنِّسَآءِ مَثْنَىٰ وَثُلَـٰثَ وَرُبَـٰعَ ۖ فَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلَّا تَعْدِلُوا۟ فَوَٰحِدَةً أَوْ مَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَـٰنُكُمْ ۚ ذَٰلِكَ أَدْنَىٰٓ أَلَّا تَعُولُوا۟ ٣
And if you fear that you will not deal justly with the orphan girls, then marry those that please you of [other] women, two or three or four. But if you fear that you will not be just, then [marry only] one or those your right hands possess [i.e., slaves]. That is more suitable that you may not incline [to injustice].
- Saheeh International
I'm not sure if you are Muslim or not, I don't think you are. If you are Muslim fear Allah and stop talking about Islam because you lack understanding and definitely you lack knowledge. If you are not Muslim then leave Islam to the Muslims. Islam has allowed a man to marry up to 4 wives, period. The man should be able to provide for all of his wives equally. It has nothing to do with Arabs teaching Africans about polygamy. Polygamy has been around since the Prophets Abraham, Sulaiman etc. It is nothing new, Islam as taught by the last and final Messenger who came over 1400 years ago, limited it to up to 4 wives. Notice the ayat in the Qur’ān starts off by saying marry 2, 3, or 4 wives. May Allah guide us all. Ameen
And whoever seeks a religion other than Islam, it will never be accepted of him, and in the Hereafter he will be one of the losers.” [Aal 'Imran 3:85]
I have to listen to this multiple times…The ease of Wisdom and Knowledge that flows from My dear Professor Small is just Blacktastic
OMG!! I never heard a black man or any man for the most part set the record straight about polygamy!💛
Professor Smalls is wealth of Truth and Enlightment. He spoke nothing but facts.
unless youve ever read a book a traveled overseas :D
This is pure Facts 💯 I'm from Africa and can confirm that the information about what polygamy in Africa is, and how it was done here in Africa is absolutely correct and accurate. Including the part where Women took centre stage in the execution and management of polygamy. Much Respect to Prof.James Small for giving us the absolute Truth. God Bless him and his work!
I am Muslim and say this all the time. Thank you Professor Smalls.
Proof in Islam is what Allah say and what the Messenger of Allahصلى الله عليه وسلم said. Not what James Small think.
@@ghaaziabujunayd2078 brother when I first learned about multiple wives in Islam, was explained the same way, in a masjid in Chicago, 1993. The African part I know nothing about.
I was taught a scholar, that teaches Quran and the history of the Prophet (and the Sahaba), is the scholar to listen too.
Prof. Smalls is not of the Ulama. But, he said it the way I’ve learned it.
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Whoever told you that told you something that wasn’t taught by the Prophet Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم or his Companions. Allah says, (4:3) “If you fear that you might not treat the orphans justly, then marry the women that seem good to you: two, or three, or four”. THE WOMEN THAT SEEM GOOD TO YOU. As for the orphan “Al-Bukhari recorded that `A'ishah said, "A man was taking care of a female orphan and he married her, although he did not desire to marry her. That girl's money was mixed with his, and he was keeping her portion from her. Afterwards, this Ayah was revealed about his case.”
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As for 2,3,or 4 then that’s the limit of wives you can have at ANY TIME. The proof: “Imam Ahmad recorded that Salim said that his father said that Ghilan bin Salamah Ath-Thaqafi had ten wives when he became Muslim, and the Prophet said to him, "Choose any four of them (and divorce the rest).'' Nothing about war or any special circumstances. Muslim man can marry 2.3 or 4 if he chooses to do so.
@@ghaaziabujunayd2078he’s literally quoting the Quran it’s not what he thinks but what Quran says.
Glad to see the man still going on..Learnt a lot from him over the years
BIG UP to you Professor Small. You are a man with great wisdom, knowledge and understanding. Thanks for sharing.
Wowwwww.......!
This just kept getting deeper and deeper!
Professor Small REALLY laid-out what needed to be!
I say this all the time polygyny is about responsibility not sex.. and people who come at it from the angle of being able to just have multiple sex partners with no resources are just living foul. The reality is we need more men to step up to fulfill these roles because as he said women out number men..hence the high stripper/prostitute/promiscuous pedestrian population
Carnal men lust after multiple women, people forget back then there were stipulations if you wasn’t noble, king or of government status.
It’s getting so out of hand us women don’t even date no more but we get looked at funny like we wrong when in all actuality the dating scene is not safe and full of disease both physically and spiritually
@@lefthandedmystic777y'all just dating each other now though.
Stripper and prostitutes have nothing to do with the ratio of Men and women but morality
@@marcusbowman3619More like dating ourselves. But go off 😏
I explain this to people all the time. Polygamy was necessary at CERTAIN times to correct situations that happened in society..a surplus of Women that needed protection and to be taken care of etc.
Yea, like RIGHT NOW
@@j.d.walker5678 absolutely! I think polygamy could pull black people out of the situation we're in, or at least help it out a lot. Dr. Umar talks about this a lot
Blacks in America already practice polygamy. Pookies are having multiple children with the multitude of women that choose them.
@@j.d.walker5678 Doesn’t matter because the collective of black men lack the correct mindset to properly execute polygamy.
@@seldomsceenhe saids anything to make bw feel good
I am thankful to hear his humble and honest opinion on this. I also agree with him. ❤
I love this man. Can't wait to watch the full video. I resonated with everything that came out of his mouth.
Brotha Small❤❤❤ Asante Sana for breaking this down from an Afrikan perspective. Nothing but straight Facts flowing here.
I know I have made multiple responses here but, this is the Most blacktiful, historical, perfectly stated answer that puts an end & fully addresses the question at hand, & then some. Thank you Baba Small-as always. May the Grandcestors & Ancestors provide you and your family with Oceans of blessings of protection, blackcellent health, Wealth & Longevity❤🖤💚
The words you used to express your message are so Beautiful. I have added some of them to my New Language Blacktionary! PEACE!!!
@@khalilahragin9865 ☺️ ThANKS
whoa! now im watching this, prof James Small is a living legend
All of Prof. Small's views concerning the subject matter discussed were concise, sober, and verifiably fact based positions. i appreciate his discipline, and scholarship.
Nothing he said in this video was fact based. Smh. Y'all sound like fanatics... Smh
@@freedomtv6213 Good Luck on your journey my friend
SAY THAT AGAIN !! 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽 FOLKS TRYING TO LIVE LIVES THERE NOT MENTALLY OR FINANCIALLY QUALIFIED FOR !🙏🏽🙏🏽
PLEASE, say that again. Many of these clowns want a polygamist lifestyle in a total misconstrued lens.
IT’S ABOUT TIME SOMEBODY AGREE WIT ME!!!!!!!!!!
In my teens I had a discussion with a young bosnian muslim guy and his interpretation was, that since man cannot love two women equally, he should abstain from the desire or idea of having multiple wives.
That if he was to be honest with himself he'd know that he would never be able to love them and treat them equally. I admired his insight because I could tell that he wasn't just parroting phrases but that he'd actually came to the conclusion himself. His discourse after that on love was so profound and honorable for someone so young but I remember how his wisdom impacted me. I have observed this trend and have realized that most narcisstic men advocate for it. It's about having their ego's stroked at all times and It's about sex. That's why the new fresh addition recieves more attention and affection while the old partner has to compete to still be seen. And then another one is added for the thrill and so on.
Wisdom 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
well unfortunately most black men and women nowadays are equally lustful.. the men want multiple women and the women want multiple "hoes" its easy to point the finger at black men until your cornered by black women that support polygamy and polyandry and nobody is forcing them into it because they are at most times "bisexual" and get to have a boyfriend and a girlfriend but we can play naive and act like children and pretend its all the black man but so far that weak ass ideal hasnt helped anything in the black community because year after year we keep letting the black woman off the hook and using victim mentality to scapegoat the black man as the problem and pretend like black women are not participating in it.. its the same reason so many black women get away with pedophilia because almost every black person has some sick reason as to pretend its not happening like that or why its not as bad if its happening to little boys as it is to little girls.. like bruh.. the black community is so lopsided and the villain is always the black man and the black woman is never left to be held accountable.. how can a woman call herself a strong woman but cant even muster up the strength to take blame for that which she partakes in? all i see all day everyday is hella contradictions and everyone pretending to be so rigtheous and justly but the black man is the problem.. ALL THE TIME.. its equally both and black women have been practicing polygamy and polyandry WILLINGLY.. why arent they labeled narrsacistic? because its normal and somehow we gotta victimized her even if she tells you its her choice its in one ear and out the other because somehow she is innocent and that man is manipulating her, even if he is 17 and she is 33.. somehow its still the mans fault.. even if she been grooming him since he was 15.. its his fault.. and its ALWAYS been this way.. thats why it will NEVER get better EVER!! in 20 years you'll see my comment is gold because nobody will be able to prove it wrong.. black people are not capable of progression anymore.. its over! we got way too many egotistical narrative pushers..
Bismillah,
This man is clearly ignorant. The Qur’ān clearly allows a Muslim man to have more than one wife. In actuality, it could be looked at it from an alternative point of view also, such as, Islam allows a Woman to marry a man who has more than one wife. The Qur’ān and Sunnah of the Prophet Muhammad SAW are clear on the rights of a man and a woman to be in a polygamous relationship. This man is the typical example of someone who thinks with his own personal "logic" and emotions. You have to understand Islam based on the Qur’ān and Sunnah and the way that the Prophet Muhammad's companions understood it. Also, we have to study and listen to real scholars of the religion. This man is not qualified to speak about Islam and nor is he knowledgeable about the religion of Islam. He allows his emotional attachment to race and racism to cloud his thinking. I suggest that he submits to Allah and follow his last Prophet Muhammad SAW and stop fooling himself into thinking that he knows better than all the great scholars that came before him. Also, stop misquoting the Quran. You don't speak Arabic, nor do you understand it. You are purposely mis-translating verses.
Here is is what the Quran says about the permissability of polygamy:
وَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلَّا تُقْسِطُوا۟ فِى ٱلْيَتَـٰمَىٰ فَٱنكِحُوا۟ مَا طَابَ لَكُم مِّنَ ٱلنِّسَآءِ مَثْنَىٰ وَثُلَـٰثَ وَرُبَـٰعَ ۖ فَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلَّا تَعْدِلُوا۟ فَوَٰحِدَةً أَوْ مَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَـٰنُكُمْ ۚ ذَٰلِكَ أَدْنَىٰٓ أَلَّا تَعُولُوا۟ ٣
And if you fear that you will not deal justly with the orphan girls, then marry those that please you of [other] women, two or three or four. But if you fear that you will not be just, then [marry only] one or those your right hands possess [i.e., slaves]. That is more suitable that you may not incline [to injustice].
- Saheeh International
I'm not sure if you are Muslim or not, I don't think you are. If you are Muslim fear Allah and stop talking about Islam because you lack understanding and definitely you lack knowledge. If you are not Muslim then leave Islam to the Muslims. Islam has allowed a man to marry up to 4 wives, period. The man should be able to provide for all of his wives equally. It has nothing to do with Arabs teaching Africans about polygamy. Polygamy has been around since the Prophets Abraham, Sulaiman etc. It is nothing new, Islam as taught by the last and final Messenger who came over 1400 years ago, limited it to up to 4 wives. Notice the ayat in the Qur’ān starts off by saying marry 2, 3, or 4 wives. May Allah guide us all. Ameen
And whoever seeks a religion other than Islam, it will never be accepted of him, and in the Hereafter he will be one of the losers.” [Aal 'Imran 3:85]
While that sounds good, that logic is both flawed and not in line with the Quran. Allah’s Hukm (legislation) is set forth for men and women to do justice to one another and to also do it to ourselves, and it’s in a man’s nature to love, lust after, and want more than one woman.
The verse the man you spoke to alluded to was, “You will never be able to do perfect justice between wives even if it is your ardent desire”
[al-Nisa’ 4:129]
And that speaks to loving and tending to his wives (hugging, hand holding, kissing, etc), but it’s not in any way reprehensible to pursue polygyny, nor to endorse it, and anyone that claims to be a Muslim, to look at it from a perspective of negativity b/c Allahprefaces this verse (and concept) up by saying, “If you fear you might fail to give orphan women their ˹due˺ rights ˹if you were to marry them˺, then marry other women of your choice-two, three, or four.” As THIS is the standard and a man must grapple with the reality and weight of the situation and is therefore given the option to choose based on what he sees fit for himself.
The way you’ve phrased it and speak about it is both one dimensional archaic, but it’s much more valuable to individuals and the society as a whole than you’ve given it credit for. There’s more than plenty of loved filled polygynous marriages built on strong faith and values that aren’t revolved around sex or the stroking of a man’s ego. What you and most women fail to conceptualize is that life doesn’t revolve around you and all that you want and desire. Men have just as much of a right to want his cake and have it too, and it’s through a Halal union (marriage) where he’s taking care of his responsibilities and women in his life, you’d be foolish to try and judge, look down upon, or talk down about a relationship that you’re not in, and that Allah Azza wa Jal himself gave the ummah through His divine grace, glory, and wisdom.
@@abzal-falaz6813 I respect your religious views but since it's below spiritual knowingness I cannot entertain it. Respectfully.
I have yet to observe a prosperous relationship of multitudes. Lets forget about the adults and focus on the children for a moment, that alone would have to be a segment of it's own. Where reality is far different from the selfish desires of the adults.
I have yet to observe women in those kind of relationships without severe mental anguish and in states of depression. Keep in mind it's easy to put a front on, a mask on in support of illusory ideas. The Ego has an expertise of doing so.
Relationship is a closed concept unless it entails constant discovery of self and ones partner, which should be obvious. As conscious alive evolving beings there is always something new to explore about one another. Intimacy actually means being intimate on every level, the physical aspect is small and for ordinary people. Being able to stimulate one another takes alertness, awareness, attention, focus, time. You cannot give fully without fully being present. You constantly build together.
Most relationships lack aliveness hence why people are quick to be attracted to new energetic individuals,because it brings in a fresh excitement but that goes for both genders.
Rarely if ever do women find a man who ticks all the boxes or have the characteristics that we look for within a man. It may happen every blue moon. We know and understand progress and evolution beyond man's control.
The question then is, do most males fall short in terms of being the right partners? A lot of men cannot take a blow to their ego's. How would I know? Because they tell me. They cannot accept the truth about themselves,it cuts too deep or blow out the inflated bubble of the Ego metaphorically speaking. So we get the common phrase of we deserve or want to have the cake and eat it too. Does that make them feel more of a man if they have multiple women putting them up on a pedestal? If their idea of a perfect happy life means to fill the void they have within with "love" or affection from multiple people does that not show how fragile they truly are. There is a severe lack of honesty and man needs to be honest with himself first and foremost.
WOW! I love this. So informative. 👏👏🔥🔥
I am grateful thank you for your wisdom.
One of my favorite teachers....Dr. Kamene, Professor James Smalls and Dr. Valentine as males, and for female...Dr. Welsing, Sharazad Ali and Dr. Degruy...MR. SMALLS thank you again
Factz this brother is speaking!!!! Eye salute 🫡 👏🏾
Very much appreciated and respected video!
❤ Professor Smalls you never miss a beat. May your life be long, healthy and prosperous.
Professor James Small 🙌🏾🙌🏾✊🏾✊🏾
🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 Thank you for the clarification King 🤴🏾 ❤❤❤❤
It's good to see and hear you... :)
Thank you Mr. James Smalls for your much needed wisdom.♥️
Go get one more for your sustainability
I agree 💯. MASTER TEACHER
As always, thanks for sharing Prof. Small.
The Elder is preaching facts!
The professor Brother Smalls is a deep knowledgeable soul brother. Respect and appreciate he bringing it 💯
Excellent analysis and excellent rendition of facts and historical information
Love this and been saying it for years. I'm glad this good brother spoke on it.
This was enlightening. Thank you for sharing this. It's not something that modern black men want to hear, but we need to hear this.
Our role is to provide and protect. That is why we are here. Not to satiated our lusts and worldly desires.
If we want to lead we have to be men worth following.
Thank You Dr. James Small for clarifying this mishap among men. Prayerfully they will listen.
He said it best 💯I’m not Muslim but I know some people who ran to the trend to do just that. Not even knowing the real reason why it was done. Like he said they used their own reasoning, for sexual purposes. Great video
Awesome stuff
He preach a word thank goodness....
My studies lead me to information that it was done in Africa to prevent extinction of a tribe. And women practice it as well if there were more men then women. It went both ways to prevent extinction.
Thank you Elder! Most melanated women understand this on an emotional level, not always stemming from possessiveness or jealousy. On another note, is there a video of professor small talking about how melanated men and women should make love? I believe in ancient teachings of Taoism, Tantra, Kama sutra, etc. I think this is a conversation worth having as we work toward decolonizing every facet of our lives. It’s one thing to master the physical (anatomy), it’s another to master the breath work, energy, and magical properties of sexual portals achieved through orgasm….we need elders to teach us, or atleast supplement our own curious exploration….
Let's talk Madam I need to know you I'm in Tanzania
It just Makes Perfect Sense from an Afrikan Centered point of View….Thank you Baba Small❤🖤💚
Truth Professor Small always come with divine great truth!!! Give thanks
Makes so much sense.
WE NEED THE FULL INTERVIEW FROM Brother Smalls !
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Love him! I hope he has written many books to leave as part of the great global Afrikan library legacy. It's critically important to have people willing to discuss BOTH the strengths and weaknesses of our practices, as it is the only way to know what to and what not to do as we move ahead.
Thank you for sharing Professor
Thank you teach Professor.. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Shared! This is prime! So needed and well done in production. I can easily share because of this clarity. Baba Smalls is on point. We so appreciate you!💥
Good to know. Never knew the originality of this.
Prof Small is spot on!
No he wasn't
Love this Elder King . Peace & blessings Prof. Small
Wow this was extremely informative 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Wow!! Very interesting… some guy tried to suggest to me yesterday that polygamy was valid and in that same conversation tried to argue me down about accepting a more “traditional” role in the home, even tho he lacked the resources
This makes so much sense.
Finally!! Someone who other the truth… thank you king for your accuracy 🫶🏽
He's wrong...he's ignorant of African polygamy, which was created by women
@@manospherehalloffame1682 explain why he’s wrong. I didn’t think no 1st wife was going to choose the other wives, but what do I know.
Unless your girl like girls you’re not gonna like the girl she chooses for you. Common sense.
@Nkosi766 It was not originally about the man liking the 2nd and 3rd wives...it was a situation that was created to be more beneficial to wives than for husbands.
@@manospherehalloffame1682 why is he wrong?
@@Nkosi766 He ignores female nature, which is to congregate around the top quality males.
Standing ovation!
Hi thank you for your good inside, and good seeing you.
He is correct about the history of polygamy in African civilizations. But practically speaking, what is the African world to do about its excess female population inside of a monogamous matrimonial framework?
.. because women are so helpless right
He literally answered. Only a small percentage of well to do men should engage in that.
@@fromYAHUSHAreborn91 black women outnumber black men about 2 to 1 in the world. So what will become of the rest of the black female population who cannot find husbands.
Let them be. God will handle them. Black ppl need to parent household not Mimi old wives or husbands.
@@fromYAHUSHAreborn91that does NOT take care of the societal problem 😂. It’s a band aid to a gun shot wound. Islam provides the answer.
I like that explanation. It makes sense and I believe it to be factual. Great video.
Well Put… Also very well explained
First time on your channel and if you keep having interviews like this, it won't be my last. I've never heard of this professor but will watch the full video and look for more information on him.
Baba always come through with those facts its about providing resources not sex that’s why in a lot of those poly groups now you see so much chaos in dysfunction
Very enlightening thank you for sharing this
Why is baby mama and daddy culture celebrated in our community but polygamy is shamed and looked down on?
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Polygamy is for men who have the power and the resources to take care of Multiple women
Thank you for sharing
Legendary speaker grand master teacher James smalls 🔥🔥🔥
And absolutely brilliant man, connected.❤️🖤💚👏🏿👍🏿👌🏿✌🏿✌🏿
Professor Small is brilliant.
Dr small is the best . Love the brother . He speaks truth
Loved this.
The great professor Smalls❤❤❤
Everything is so out of order so far from God! Everybody want to practice polygamy but don’t even know the half. Loved this video very interesting ❤️
And God wants two parents household and one man to one wife ❤️🙌🏾 polygamy was not the standard. In the Bible polygamy always ended in destruction and chaos anyway. Ppl just need to end this discussion!
This is right Brother. As salaam alaikum.
Wowwww… clarity !
Living legend. The Mccormick family sends our love and blessings to you and your family.
Excellent!
Thank u my OG 🟥⬛🟩
That's RIGHT, thank you.
I love this video he just told the truth❤
Where at? I haven't been able to find a single source that proves there is a significant surplus of women in Africa. Either at birth. There's a surplus of boys and men.
Asante Sana brotha Small❤🖤💚
please release his WHOLE video!
Deep explanation!
We love you Prof Small! Thank you for your Light.
Worship the TRUTH of the Message, not the Messenger.
All of it 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
My 5th great grandfather practiced polygyny with two sisters, my 5th great grandmother and my 5th great grandaunt!
Wow....somebody finally said it. Once again this scholar has spoke more truth bombs....men take heed and women wake up and stop taking the stupid pill.
The history of this is in the Old Testament as well. We as a whole just don’t read or study. When men had hundreds of wives they all were provided for at the same level.
Love this man. Always the truth
I have had a personal conversation with Professor Smalls and his exact words to me is polygamy cant work in THIS environment. I also heard him say we need to go back to arranged marriages. He may have change his position but he definitely said these things.
The last thing professor said gave me chills.
I read this some time ago. It didn't give me the chills, but articulated something I've always intuited; that most women don't know what making love should be like.
@@toomuchinformation I see but we are waking up and realizing that what’s being handed to us ain’t it. Lol
this man is a saint speaking truth