Living with Honor with Nina Aouilk: Ep 158 | Win the Day with James Whittaker
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- Опубликовано: 16 окт 2023
- “Nothing strengthens authority so much as silence.” - Leonardo da Vinci
Nina Aouilk, known as London’s Life Coach, has overcome enormous hardship and adversity to become one of the leading activists speaking out about honor killings and human trafficking.
She is the founder of nonprofit End Honor Killings (endhonourkillings.org) that provides welfare and support to the victims of attempted honor killings, gender-based violence, domestic abuse, and trauma.
Nina is also a mindset coach to some of the most recognized boxers, UFC fighters, and entertainment personalities. She has presented in the House of Lords, spoken on stages around the world, and appeared in interviews with some of the world’s leading outlets that have garnered more than 50 million views.
In addition, Nina is a bestselling author, a TEDx speaker, and sits on advisory boards for Scotland Yard and The Home Office.
In this episode:
» Some of the most harrowing moments from Nina’s life and how that shaped the person she is today
» The reality of what’s really going on in the world
» Why you need to speak up and use your voice for good; and
» How to find the courage to rise above your adversity.
Let’s WIN THE DAY with Nina Aouilk!
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Timemarkers:
0:36 Who is Nina Aouilk
1:52 Interview starts
3:41 Nina Aouilk childhood (the power of rejection)
6:41 Extreme domestic violence at 14 years old
11:09 Accepting the false narrative
13:50 Why the children of immigrants suffer
14:17 Pregnancy and abortion at 15 years old
15:31 The enduring power of a single act of kindness
17:13 Violence as a cultural norm
19:54 How to get out of a domestic violence situation
22:08 When Nina Aouilk was sold as a sex slave
25:19 The absence of hope
27:42 Attempting suicide and the importance of continuing on
30:13 Attempted honor killing
35:52 How to end the cycle of abuse (and the importance of recognizing what ‘abuse’ is)
40:25 The power of having the right people around you
41:37 Being pregnant for a third time
43:53 The prompt for Nina Aouilk to keep going
45:12 Why it’s so difficult to leave an abusive relationship (and murder attempt)
49:17 You can either drown in your tears or dance in them
50:33 Falling in love for the first time
52:25 How Nina Aouilk helps professional fighters with mindset
55:18 Non-profit to end honor killings (and the power of divine timing)
58:02 Trying to help every other “Nina” out there
1:01:19 The problem with staying silent
1:02:29 Affirmation
1:03:05 Rocket Round
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Resources / links mentioned:
🆘 End Honor Killings:
endhonourkillings.org
⚡ Nina Aouilk website:
ninaaouilk.com
📷 Nina Aouilk Instagram:
/ londonslifecoach
🎤 TEDx Talk ‘There is no honour in killing’ by Nina Aouilk:
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📲 Nina Aouilk TikTok:
/ londonslifecoach
♾️ Nina Aouilk LinkedIn:
/ nina-aouilk
📚 ‘Master Your Life: Live The Life Of Your Dreams’ by Nina Aouilk:
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About Nina Aouilk:
Nina Aouilk has overcome enormous hardship and adversity to become one of the leading activists speaking out about honor killings and human trafficking. Known as “London’s Life Coach”, Nina is the founder of nonprofit End Honor Killings that provides welfare and support to the victims of attempted honor killings, gender-based violence, domestic abuse, and trauma.
She has presented in the House of Lords, spoken on stages around the world, and appeared in interviews with some of the world’s leading outlets that have garnered more than 50 million views.
Nina is also a mindset coach to some of the most recognized boxers, UFC fighters, and entertainment personalities.
In addition, Nina is a bestselling author, a TEDx speaker, and sits on advisory boards for Scotland Yard and The Home Office.
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It's hard to find words as I sit here crying for you and also happy that you made good choices for yourself after so much abuse. I love you sweet Nina. We all feel for you. #WeAreLove ❤❤❤ #Strong #Female #Love #FightingFemicide #FightHonorKilling #EndHumanTraffic #No2ChldBrides
Hi Nina....I've watched so many of your videos now, and I tell you, so much of what you are saying resonates with me. I'm also from Punjabi Sikh family from Canada, that too from a small town just like you, and although I didn't experience the kinds of horrific things that happened to you, I did experience a very toxic environment growing up. Like your town we had a temple a huge Sikh community for a small town, we were just 45 minutes out from the city of Vancouver. My parents were quite emotionally, mentally abusive, and you said so many things I could still identify with. I was also bullied at school but it didn't have to do with racism rather it was because I didn't follow the rules and alot of the bullying came from other Sikh students, I had two bullies at home. My parents were also very self conscious of their social image, when my sister was around 7 or 8 an old man touched her and her friend inappropriately along with two other girls. The whole thing went to court and the story was printed about in the local town paper, and my dad never once cared or had anything to do with the trial or that a man had touched my sister inappropriately. Back then I would have been about 12 years old myself, and now at 47 when I reflect back on it, I realize how truly messed up my parents were. There was a very famous honor killing case that happened in my province when I was around 21, it was the Jassi Sidhu honor killing, and it made front page of the newspaper in my province, and when I condemned it, my parents got mad at me, and my mom who was cooking dinner that day, was waving a knife angrily at me, not to kill me but express her anger, and they were justifying the killing. There were other things you said that hit home, with me as well, like when your daughter was born, I also have a daughter and it was a chance to turn things around, because you're either part of the problem or the solution. There is not in between. Many families like mine who feel they don't go to the extent yours did, are not "like that", but the truth is, it's not an all or nothing case, it's a spectrum, and sadly most Indian families are on that spectrum. Discriminating against girls, telling them to do housework and letting boys sit around, considering girls to be a liability. Then years ago after I got married in 2000 somewhere in the late 2000's I found out, my sister who use to work late nights, came home extra late one night, and my dad thinking that she was out doing something else, almost killed her, and if my mom hadn't gotten in the way she would have been dead on the spot, because he used some sort of crow bar or rod to hit her. I knew my parents were screwed but they have become worse over the years. Of course I'm married and live thousands of miles away in the US now for the last 23 years, which is why I have peace, but they try to cause problems on the phone, and remain toxic.
Thanks for your comments. The whole thing sounds so messed up and insane I can understand why people won't believe it.
Don't answer the phone. Decline their money and false" family
What a survivor. So glad that she chose to move forward and use her pain to help others. May God bless her always.
I love you Nina Aouilk’s I have listened to your story many times you inspire me to keep going and get through the pain and rejection of my own life ....and help others ....thank you
She is so strong and so wonderful ❤ I can’t believe how many people abused her 💔
Thank you for helping others Nina
Instead of just celebrating yourself and your success
You are one strong person- never doubt that!
Dear Nina, I admire your courage. You went through hell but are giving hope to so many women who are going through this kind of abuse. You are spot on when you say that with internet the world is a much smaller place. Women need to know that it's not normal. I really hope your abusers are sitting in jail. They also need to be exposed and world needs to see the face of evil. I hope after of this horrific ordeal you have found love, peace and happiness.
I wish her good fortune and love and care to heal.❤ She is super strong , I hope she finds her sister and gets to take care of her kids 💫
This is unbelievable....how can one human be abused so many times ...
So sad what happens to some people. A very strong woman.
Thank you for sharing your important story. You matter & you help so many
Amazing we are approaching 2024 old fashion culture and ignorants and bad people live as your family and in the name of parents at that so scary! I watched her part 1 and part 2 podcast on another channel… brave woman.
thank you
She is an absolute inspiration. However I am implored to point out that I regret when she said 'children of immigrants' are at a disadvantage / in more danger. I am indigenous to my country, and similar abuse was happening to me. I was ignored at school too, when the signs were there. I think its really important to raise awareness and education for ALL child abuse, no matter what race the child is.
I'm also surprised she didn't mention in this podcast, as she has done in others, that the only real help and care she ever got was from white people, in the country she immigrated to.
Hello, it’s Nina and I understand your points. I speak from a personal place talking about my culture and my own lived experiences.
I understand that it happens regardless often in most cultures but as I said it’s all a personal experience I’m bringing forward.
I’m sorry you too suffered and wanted to more than anything extend love and offer to help should you need support or anything ❤
Thank you for the reply Nina. As I said you are truly an inspirational, incredible person. Thank you so much for your kind wishes. @@londonslifecoach
Nina I'm so sorry you were treated so horrible by your own family, thank you for telling your story and drawing attention to these honor killings and helping others who have been through similar experiences. May God Bless You for the rest of your days💜🇺🇸💜
Nina , you are courageous and gentle soul who forgives. I wouldn’t forgive easily like you did against the horror your family put your through half your life. It was horrific and inhuman, I cried and felt so sorry for the young girl you were with no help and so much desperation, pain and still had the will to survive. I hope God will punish those people who have hurt you forgiven or whatnot. God bless you and your children and peace be with you.
Just to clarify in response to this comment, Nina was born and raised in the UK and did not "immigrate" here. The cultural emphasis on her story reflects her own story and makes sense to her own experience.
Oh my goodness, I’m so curious in which areas of South America these types of things occur.
Where is the evil father now? Did he get arrested?
In another video she did, I understand that the father did four years in prison at a later date. It was for trafficking Nina's 6-year-old half-sister. He kidnapped the little girl, took her to India and sold her. If this is all true, the guy is one evil man.
@@twovirginiacats3753 His own child he did this to???!!!!!!
@@1funkyflyguyyes. He had left her sister (6 yr old girl) at an organ harvesting centre... They sold her organs in the black market. And I think before that she was also SA and then sold to organ harvesters.
@@twovirginiacats3753 The sad fact is he didn't even do the full 4 years before being set free.
@@qandeeltariqshah6552 i found an article saying she was returned back to the mother
Nina, you're amaaaaazing. I wish I could meet you one day.
Who ruined the video by adding some stock photos?
i cannot beleive what i was hearing
I cried so much reading your story. I am so proud of you. Sorry to ask you and it's ok if you don't want to answer. I do understand. My question is that you ever found your sister or what happened to her for sure? Or you still don't know....I am so grateful that you 😊finally escaped.....❤️
@Enderslayer-dv1er Her step sister was reunited with the mother.
@@kungfu4003 Wheredid you get that from??
@@Catb3333 Leicester crown court. Her father is Amarjit Singh, Gregory St , Loughborough. Polish mistress Beata Agnieszka. You can also just google it for brief info. in 2 seconds because it was in the news extensively in India.
@@Catb3333 So you did n't want to know the answer. Why did you ask the question then?
There’s special place in hell for her parents. I am speechless how can you treat your daughter like that.
They don't believe in Hell
@@julieproctor6039 but hell believes in them
Are these parents not ashamed. So sad that they are still free
Not only free, but literally her dad is seen as a "hero" by his community after serving a small sentence for kidnapping a 6 year old who was never seen again. What a sick community.
Omg heartbreaking I want to hug her and tell her come stay with me 😢😢
There are not enough swear words and curses that could be said about her parents and overall family and even teachers and I am surprised that they didn't do anything or investigate when she had the abortion. How can all these people be sooo fking blind?! And her mother makes me angry the most. How could she let this happen to her. Even if the mum went thru the same things. Why would she ever let her daughter suffer like this?! How can someone be so fking cruel...
Damn😢
This is whats happening in other parts of the world. I have seen most Punjabi and Pakistani here in New Zealand are strict but in order to protect their kids. In terms of illegal, what can they not do?
17:41 It is important to refer to Africa as a continent and not as a country. African culture is not aligned with this kind of behaviour. Some African countries or even areas within African countries are. Apart from that, i would like to congratulate you on overcoming such adversities in life and being able to tell your story while trying to help others. You are trully Special.
Thirty minutes in, and she's said "South Asian" once and "Punjabi" once, but she has mentioned only "my culture" many times. What culture, please?!
Sikh? Muslim? Hindu?
Sikh
I would never have believed this would happen in a Sikh community, how ignorant have I been?
Punjab is the culture, Sikh is the religion, not specifically a culture.
It’s Nina, culture is a community not religion: I’m born and raised in the UK my parents are originally from Punjab India and are Sikhs
@@londonslifecoach
Thank you. It's just that since your "culture" was such a central part of the interview, I felt at sea trying to pinpoint the culture in question.
Forward with strength, dear sister.
I really wanted to hear what this woman had to say. But I'm not willing to tolerate 20 commercials. This channel is going on "Do Not Recommend".
20 commercials is a lot! Sorry to hear that. You can listen to the full length episodes ad free on Spotify, Apple or anywhere else you get podcasts.
Is it permissable to use up four vowels in a row like that? Greedy!