How To Unstuck Yourself From The Rut
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- Опубликовано: 7 фев 2025
- If you're struggling right now, this video is for you. We recently reached out to our community and know that many are going through tough times. While we can’t fix everything, we hope this video offers you some support and reassurance-you’re not alone.
In this video, we’ll discuss practical ways to break free from a rut, regain momentum, and start feeling like yourself again.
Remember, progress doesn’t have to be big-it just has to be something. Let’s take that first step together!
#selfhelp #personalgrowth
Writer: Sara Del Villar
Script Editor: Isadora Ho
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Voice Over: Amanda Silvera ( / amandasilvera )
Animator: Elijah Octa
RUclips Manager: Cindy Cheong
How are you today?
@@Psych2go tired 🥲
Good!
@@Psych2go eh, fine.
@@Psych2go I’m okay
@@Psych2go hii
1:00 understand and accept yourself
2:25 rest :)
3:25 social connection
4:14 break up with social media
4:50 change your mindset
4:57 focus on one thing at a time
5:57 get out of your head
hope this helps💕
@himachordia it does! Thank you! Totally screenshot it. 😊
Is it just me or the segment around changing mindset doesn't have any narration?
@@erika002you're right! I'm not sure why there isn't tho :0
@@michellegrimm3991glad!! :D
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Hold up, I think Number 5 might've had an editing bug. The rest of the video was super helpful but the dialogue for 5 was almost completely cut out
It's surprising how many didn't notice
@@AlexSWarrior254 yeah I noticed that too that was weird
I thought it was for the emphasis of stillness until it showed the person talking again
I thought it was the weirdest. Weirdest in an off putting sense.
For me, spirituality or prayer ❤
Psycho2go knows what we all are going through so accurately 😭
We’re really glad our content resonates with you. Sometimes, just knowing you’re not alone in what you’re feeling can make a big difference. What’s something you’ve learned about yourself through these experiences?
"Yes! We are all individuals!"
I don't know who needs to hear this, but there are tons of us stuck in the same issue, like in loop of negative self talk leading to nowhere other than yet another unproductive day. So, you are not alone.
Like if it resonates with you.
Its funny because I was on the other side too, and yet... I still felt empty, the only difference is that in society's eyes I was doing good. Without a purpose there is NO point in anything and I have no idea what mine is or wheather or not im ever gong to find it.
same!!! same omg😭 knowing your purpose is so helpful with so many things like everyday motivation and effort, it gives a meaning for it all. but some people just haven't fount it yet and it's sooo frustrating :')
Been trying to find my purpose for years and yet the only thing I found was me being lost. The most heartbreaking part is feeling like it's never going to end. So what's the point?
Been trying to find my purpose for years and yet the only thing I found was me being lost. The most heartbreaking part is feeling like it's never going to end. So what's the point?
Number 5. I used the few moments of silence in the audio to determine myself what I need to consider in order to change my mindset. If I don't change my mindset I may remain stuck walking about in the past
This is so beautiful. Maybe we should have left the silence there…
Timing of this video content is crazy! Even if it's seems 'easily expected' to be able do these naturally, it's not laziness... you can genuinely get lost for motivation etc, for sure.
Reading/hearing some step guidance might clear the mind a little. For me especially as my work environment has become a struggle recently, and with Boss....but I will NEVER give up fighting my corner. Thanks!! Xxxx ❤❤
You can do it!🎉
I can't exaggerate enough how grateful i am to this channel. I have been diagnosed with depression. I blame myself, roll into a ball and cry, and then again pretend to be fine. This place made me feel at home. Thanks a lot Psych2Go. For a person dealing with her demons on a daily basis, you are the candlelight that suddenly pops up in the darkness. I am really really grateful to you. ❤
It means the world to us that we could offer you some comfort and support during a difficult time. You are not alone, and we are here for you. 💙
Caused by burnout, depression, chronic stress.
1. Understand and accept yourself: When you set your expectation so high, you might end up knocking yourself down when you don't achieve them. This affects your self-esteem and can cause you to lose your motivation. Are you eating well, getting enough sleep and doing things you actually wanna do? Adress them, repair the areas you might've ignored. Accept yourself for who you are right now. Try writing down everything you did right.
2. Rest: Treat yourself as if you have a cold. Try meditation and mindfulness. Self-care.
3. Social connection
4. Break up with social media: Be in more present in your own life. There's way too much information online and your brain can't keep up.
5. Change your mindset: Gratitude journal.
6. Focus on one thing at a time: Write morning achievable, small to-do.
7. Get out your head: Stop worry and rumination. A great way is working out.
That's a great breakdown of how to get unstuck-powerful stuff!💪
i've been struggling for a long long time, especially after the covid pandemic :/ always on the edge of explode anytime and after that i cant stop staying up late. It was when i was still in my university, my last year, i stayed up to 3-4am almost everyday. Now i graduated and had a job, so i tried to sleep earlier, but still up to 2am sometimes. I have lots of negative thoughts, bored, doomscrolling, not interested in anything... it's been awhile since i last met your video on facebook, glad to see you guys again and thanks for the comfort
Finding someone to socially connect with is the most difficult thing to me now because of a mix of trauma and overall fatigue from being overlooked in conversations. I'm just so tired of not being listened to or being ignored that I just feel like its so pointless for me to be expressive anymore and I hate it
Thank you.
I'm both a teacher and a practicing fan-fiction writer and I had to delay fanfics just to focus on one-step at the time... Prioritizing being able to tutor kids better before my hobbies, but often times... I'm in a rut and don't know what to write in my stories that I made. The last one is something I need to practice as I get to my head most often than not. Too much ideas, imagination, worries, doubts and fears for life, future, expectation and/or competing to other people's achievements. I guess it's pride that makes me feel more in deep in a rut... Having too unreachable goal rather than attainable, realistic ones.
It’s inspiring to see you prioritize helping others while navigating your own creative journey.
I want to connect with others but it seems most people don’t to want to find any connections and would prefer be stuck in their comfort zones.
That can be really frustrating, especially when you’re genuinely looking for meaningful connections. Some people do prefer their comfort zones, but that doesn’t mean you won’t find others who are also looking for deeper connections. Sometimes, it just takes finding the right environment or people who value the same things as you.
Have you found any spaces-online or offline-where people seem more open to connecting?
@@Psych2goI cant hear 4:50 thru out either
@@Psych2gohello 5th point is gone
This is one of my biggest frustrations in recent years. Between quarantine and approaching our 50s, a lot of my friends have become increasingly stuck in their comfort zones. As one of the more extroverted, even I find it hard to find the energy to get out there.
The video is correct about starting small. I have restarted exercise routines so many times - and they help a lot - but they become harder and harder to stick with as I get older.
Covid was a wake up call that thought a lot of people the true meaning of connections, and thought people How much it truly hurts to be separated from others, Avoid that phones can't feel.
I didn’t realize how stuck I was until I started exploring Nixorus. It’s like finding a map to all the things you didn’t know you were missing.
best book?
@@nexarie what is nixorus?
sounds like a bot promoting...
what is nixorus?
@@littlestarling library
Me, a fanfiction reader: A rut?!
@@EriBastet 😭😭 we know what we are
As a furry degenerate, I had to click on the video to make sure this isn’t what I thought it was
Damn... it's 2am and I've been staring at my homeworks for a while now. I've been in this predicament for 5 years. I've had my ups and downs. And my moment right now is among the deepest down I've had. Then this video popped up...
I'm not saying this video changed my life, but I'm not saying it didn't
There's a ghost in me
@@CasperExtension hi
@@Aipaipaipaip Hi ❤
Just wanted let u know I love your videos. I’ve been going through a lot lately and it’s nice to see someone trying to help. Thanks
That truly means a lot to hear. We're glad to be of help.
I'm still in step one. I think slowly understanding myself is what I need considering the fact that I always overthink. I'll use the steps and try to be better. I think this video passing through my home page is a blessing. Thanks. 😌
You’re on the right track! It’s okay to take things one step at a time.
@Psych2go 😊👍
2:48 As a person who lives in a chaoic household,been isolated from the world for 6 years,suffered many types of trauma (religious trauma is one if the main reasons I don't interact outside to others),struggles with suicidal thoughts and is totally miserable with her life,being on phone gives me an option to not you know what myself. Because I'm distracted by that and it like a VR it's like I'm there and not at my house. The calmest I ever felt was when I was on my phone.
ive been in a rut for 3 years. i want to change things but its so hard, i feel so stuck
It's been so long, do you know what might be keeping you there?
@@Psych2gohad a bad breakup and had to move back home with my parents. lost my friends and my job because of it too. ive been trying to get back on my feet but its so hard when i feel so burnt out and defeated. it also doesn’t feel like theres a point in building a future if it can all be lost in the blink of an eye
same, i just feel like i cant get out of my comfort zone that also is the one that makes me feel so strange and miserable many times almost all days
@@peradolia
I've been stuck in a rut for quite some time now. I really don't want to say too much but I've been feeling stuck too. Like I have no purpose tbh... I don't know what to do.
@@peradolia Because we all need a purpose, To live for no reason is the same as being dead, so we have to find others to care for our and a cause that's worth fighting for, To be selfless enough but don't lose yourself And to be selfish enough to not only care for yourself and be cold and dead inside but to still care for others
One piece of advice I got from a counselor is to live in the moment instead of being anxious about the future or ruminate about the past. It works somewhat, but the present just doesn't seem any brighter for me. It's more than being overstimulated by being online, but unfortunately it's become an adapted status quo after being so on my toes for way too long with studies, living with family during the pandemic, and more. It just seems so alien to even unwind at this point.
I've been Segregated all my life at school Because They called me ADHD and put a label on me, covid Was nothing compared to that I almost felt happy because people knew how I felt
Ok. Perfect timing. I haven't ate anything yesterday and I slept too much that my head started to hurt. I'm still on my bed at 4:45 pm. Now I'm gonna crawl out of my bed and eat something. Thanks for the video.
@@反鳥 i hope you ate well today
this channel is just lovely, helping many or just explaining in such a wonderful way. thank you
Thank you for the kind words!
2:57 that "constant state of panic" is so real for me right now and its even worse when you know where it comes from and have people that just fuel that state, to make it burn even longer
You guys deserve news recognition for what you guys do,THANK YOU
You’re too kind. You guys are already one of our top motivators. Thank you for these endless support!
I live in western Washington…. This time of year we don’t see much sun shine at all. It pops out here and there but it’s cloudy, wet, cold and grey until March-April
I'm checking my room now for camera's, because I've been in a rut for a month now and I really needed this video 😊 I always feel guilty when I stay longer in bed or just don't do anything productive at all. School has been exhausting, life has been exhausting.. Just everything is so exhausting. I've been trouble getting to eat healthy food. I usually just rot in bed, chips and soda on my sides while I binge watch my favorite shows. I always feel guilty right after... Also hygiene. These last few days I find it really hard to just get up and take a shower. So I now take 2 showers a week while I normally do shower 4 days. It also makes me feel...disgusting. Like trash almost.
This video just came in the rightest moment possible. Thank you for uploading this, I was literally under this "rut", I felt like something must've been wrong in me for days. Damn, I must break the relationship with my comfort zone, that explained everything why was I in such a dogshit position...
I've been in a rut for 3 and half years. Which has now turned more into a loop mixed with my perfectionism and OCD. Please make a video on such a loop
I used to always constantly be in a rut, because I didn’t know how to teach myself how to do stuff I was supposed to be doing when I was young, brushing my teeth and showering are the types of stuff I’m talking about, I had a rough time learning to do stuff because I had no idea how to get my brain to remind me to do it naturally, I would always forget and never had any confidence, and because of this my mom would yell at me, trying to teach me by instilling fear into my mind, using negativity to teach me to do stuff on my own because that’s how she learned to get through life, she had no crutch and no support so she used fear to motivate herself and is now trying to use that to teach an autistic kid using that method, quotes like “do you wanna lose your teeth when you’re older?!” and “do you wanna where diapers as an adult?!” ring in my head like tinnitus, but recently, I found someone that I believe taught me a life changing skill, they taught me, positive reinforcement
If you are going through a hard time, I promise you that everything will be okay. Something beautiful is waiting for you. If you want to, cry and scream for a while and then dry your tears. You'll feel a lot better afterwards. And I promise you the time you are in now will not last forever! You can do this and I believe in you! :)
SO GET UP! THIS IS YOUR LIFE, AND YOU LIVE YOUR LIFE THE WAY YOU WANT!!
YOU CAN DO THIS! AND YOU WILL!
I need a friend like you in real life 😢❤
What If I dont wanna get up and want to just sleep? Lets face it, for some people things arent gonna get better....but at the end of the day, it is what it is.
this is the first time i've actually resonated with something clearly...
I forced myself to not watch random videos, mainly in bedtime, the beginning was hard, my anxiety got high, but after my effort one night i couldn't fall asleep so i picked up the phone but didn't want to use it so i turned it off and started remembering important memories for me. Its hard, but not impossible
I lowkey needed to see this video because recently a couple of huge things happened to me one day and it all just got worse and worse. All i did after that was lay in bed, cry and sleep. Sometimes I wouldn't eat. Im currently getting out of that phase, but I'm still not completely 100% but seeing this brightened my day a bit more
The silence is so good
Like unironically good
Sometimes we need a pause during these times
Just the right timing for this video. This is exactly how I'm feeling right now
Glad the video can come at the right now. Hope you're doing okay, and feel free to share a bit of what's going on.
Timestamps
1). Understand and accept yourself 0:59
2). Rest 2:25
3). Social connection 3:24
4). Break up with social media 4:11
5). Change your mindset 4:48
6). Focus on one thing at a time 5:42
7). Get out of your head 6:41
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. Please note there is no audio for number 5. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
Hey, I want to thank you so mich at this point. For many man days I felt that way and today.. it was better but your video is coming at the right point. And I thank you so mich for that. I am looking forward to watch it right now 🙌
I'm so glad! Thank you for letting us know :)
I’ve been in a rut and this helped a lot. I need to refocus my actual rest and connect IRL more. Also, my mind was so busy it thought there was something wrong with the video when there was just a pause between 5 and 6 to help with focus and relaxing. 😮😊
Thank you for helping me!
I love this voice so much. It's so calming & comforting. I feel like watching more of their videos again & again because of this particular voice💛
Thank you! Amanda has a healing voice doesn’t she..
@Psych2go Yes. Absolutely❤
Thank you for this video. I really needed this. 😢
We're glad it helped! 😊
I'm glad that Psych2go shares videos that i certainly need at the time. Thank you, Psych2go! ♡♡
You're helping me more than my therapie at this point ❤
6:57 what was that whisper at the end???!!! "TJ"?
That's what I was thinking
😂 ya some guy named TJ just got scared
Thank you for the encouraging video!
My diet in my view has been the first step to get out of the rut that I was. I still have bottled up things inside, I'm still cold hearted and emotionless and I push people including my family away on purpose because I don't deserve anyone's love. Hence why my diet has been the first step to get out of the rut
@@sandiletwala3001 Don’t eat alone, you need love, and your family needs your love. Eat meals with them, even if you can’t talk about your feelings.
@ayanabeads1614 Nah I push then away because I'm literally a problem
I love this Channel so much, Its hard to even put in words, This Channel feels like a true friend to me , its just heartwarming.
The entire psych2go team has my full respect and admiration.
Thank you so much for the kind words! Glad we can be friends :)
This is insane, how are you guys posting exactly what I need every day
Actually, we are feeling the same way too lately with what’s happening in the world, so this was a good timing for us too. Glad it can be helpful for you!
Thank you, I needed to hear this morning.
You are so welcome! How are you doing today?
@ I'm putting one foot in front of the other. Maintaining with hope and perseverance, I will make it out of this rut. 👊🏾
Wow this came at a perfect time
Edit:Was I the only one who heard someone whispering TJ at the last second of the video? 😥😖
Perfect!
@@AliseBrenae I heard it too.... and I was like "What????" 😳🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔
@ oh thank goodness it wasn’t just me
@@AliseBrenae Do you have any idea what "TJ" might mean???? Or maybe they were just trying to see if we were paying attention and not zoning out at the end of the video??? 🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔
@ Honestly I have no idea,my first thought was that it was a mistake with the audio when they were editing it. 🤔
I just graduated with my bachelor’s degree in psychology, interning at a criminal law office here and there , looking for a new career all while searching for a tutor for the LSAT so I can get to what I really want after this “rut” stage! LAW SCHOOL . Thank you for the insightful video 😊
Congratulations! Looking forward to your journey !:)
The intro explanation literally explained my life...
I needed this video, thank you so much 😊🙏🌹
This drops right on time, i was just recently running into this situation.
It’s hard to live in a small town in Europe there’s little to no opportunity to make connections
i really like your voice, it's soft and comfortable honestly ❤❤❤
Thank you for your kind words!
@Psych2go I'm telling the truth ♥♥♥
It's rough when the rut has been around for 23 years, and you've been so stuck that not only does breaking out of it seem impossible. When a dream shatters and you don't know what to pick up or move on with, it's tough to figure yourself out. Anything that sounds like it would be a good replacement feels surface level, and seeing where that original dream lead to is also disheartening. Granted, these thoughts are also influenced by current seasonal depression (fun Febuary duldrums) which definitely does not help
my omegaverse-infested mind did NOT think this was the kind of video it is...
I once had been stuck , the thing that helped me the most was going out on walking meeting new people and making new friends :D
Thank you for this, I've been in a rut for A few weeks or days now. And the timing was Perfect! Thank you!
Thank you for changing my life video after video. Your voice is so calming
You are so welcome
I needed this video. Perfect timing.
Thank You.
Glad you found it helpful! 🎉
Thank you for this video this is so helpful I been feeling this for too long now like nothing is going well for me right now 😢😢😢
Haha, this description alone describes my life since my early teens.
what if someone is causing your rut or multiple people??
If someone-or multiple people-are the cause of your rut, it can feel even harder to break free because their presence or actions keep reinforcing those negative feelings. The best thing you can do is **set boundaries**-whether that means limiting contact, standing up for yourself, or finding ways to emotionally detach from their influence. Surrounding yourself with supportive people (even if it’s just one person) can also help counteract their negativity.
What’s one small step you could take today to regain some control over your situation?
I felt that, people can be depressing but we should also have compassion sometimes
@@Psych2go I have my fiancé and sometimes my sister, but my parents are reinforcing my rut in different ways. One is trying to tell me I can't do anything and I'll always have to rely on them (to make them feel better/ give them purpose) and the other is telling me that I'm not disabled and that I ought to be doing everything they can, because they are able-bodied. My almost daily migraines are not helping either. I feel like I'm being fed negative soup all day, every day. There's only so much time I can spend with my fiancé and sister to negate that. One of my parents is likely narcissistic, does not understand or respect boundaries, and both of them like to minimize the pain I'm in. Thank you for the timing of this video. I am well and truly lost
I’d love it if you guys made a podcast available so we could listen to your content on a streaming platform
This channel is a freakin machine with videos.
Yeah these tips are going straight into my journal - thank you!!
ur voice is so soothing
Hey the sound cuts out around the 5 min mark, but there is closed captioning. Not sure if you are aware? Also, thank you for this video. Truly puts a word to the feeling. 5:57 sound comes back about 10 seconds before this mark.
Öhm what happend to the sound at 4:50?😅
So It's not just my phone.
muted by accident lmao
crazy how good advice is always found at the wrong place
im not depressed, but i can be happier just by doing a few things?? dont mind if i do
Thank you for helping me. You guys understand hows it feel to be down. You helped me reach out. Ty psycho2. You guys deserve all the love ❤
That truly means a lot. You’re not alone in this, and we’re so glad we could be here for you. Reaching out takes strength, and you deserve support and understanding.
What’s one thing that has helped you the most when you were feeling down?
I'm on this cycle of life, glad to see this video
I‘m enjoying the music so much, I am having a hard time paying attention to what is said - still love it
Perfect timing
You know, youtube is stalking you. When this pop up on the screen, when you are in this situation.
What an important video! Thank you! ❤
Needed this ❤
GOD BE WITH US 🦾🙏✝️🕊️
3:44 That’s something I’d LOVE to have! 4:09 And I am feeling VERY distanced from my own emotions, to the point where I have to say them out loud to clarify…
4:48 Yep. It can’t.
5:59 Yup.
6:12 6:17 Ah. 6:58 7:08 Ah okay. I’ve been doing exercises wrong then. 7:30 yes. Watching it is missing out, or worse, glorifying continued mental illness, for an “entertaining” true-man show to put ourselves or others through for some reason maybe… self-masochism/sadism namely.
Your depression vids helped me
Wow i love you guys for this one great job!
hey psych2go, the thing that comes to mind watching this is TIME. i always feel like time's slipping away(doesn't make me very hard-working or something tho). How true and justifiable is that feeling or the concept? I wish i could understand. pretty sure others relate too. What are your approaches to this situation, everyone?
Loved the video as usual! But besides the lack of audio in the middle, as others have mentioned, the ASMR at the end felt like a jumpscare to me lol
7:42 what's going on with the sound😂
I thought it was just me bc those are my initials
A therapist is still someone, fear's still there.
Wow, this was much needed
Glad so! What's going on for you lately?
@ I’ve been missing my exams and meeting the deadlines real close cause of my routine. Thankyou for the video id definitely try to organise my time better and prioritise myself
Yea I feel it a while now. And no one around to vent or who would understand. IM isolated and hate my life
I think there’s something wrong with the audio. But thank you for all you do.
I havent had real social connections since I was like 12, im 19 now, and I just cant approach people, I can talk fine but I just cant get over the wall of actually starting to converse for different reasons.
Are you spying on me? Because I needed to hear this!
thank you for this💗
You're welcome!
I stopped watching true crime stories concerning children, and once I stopped, I felt so much better, and i released it never ends. See something please say something....
ngl i thought 4:55 onward was a vibe til i realised it was an editing mistake😅
Thank you
Thank you for your amazing 👏 video
4:55
We’re watching a silent movie with this one :)
when i watched this i realized "Oh my god, i am in a rut"
I believe the authors of this vid need to rest and perhaps do a bit of mindfulness, as there is a audio issue starting around minute 5:00 and spans to at least 5:45.
I hope you guys get better at this, and be aware that failing is part of the process. We are all humans and that is part of our nature. So, accept yourselves.
...and remember, YOU MATTER!