You truly have THE worlds most soothing voice. I have secure attachment (even you said so one time!) but I watch your videos to better understand and show up for the people that I love and also to better understand my students, (I'm a college professor) but your voice honestly so soothing and calming. It creates peace. ❤
Hi all! I hope you find this helpful and that the new mic is much better! I have a dream of doing interviews with more humans around their trauma stories on youtube (but i know there are too many podcasts lol!) so i am still figuring it out - but is part of why I ordered the mic and then realized it would be better no matter what!! xo
The new mic is great. Also, I'm sure the podcast would be a great addition. It'll have your own perspective which is priceless. Not many podcasts out there C-PTSD focused. I know of zero, haha.
I didn't have an issue with your previous mic but this one is amazing!!! I feel like I am listening to a podcast! The gentle nature of your voice is more pronounced and makes me feel safe. This video was much needed. As someone who has a disorganized attachment style (leaning avoidant), the tips you gave really opened my eyes to some behaviours that I engage in. It's not easy, but these steps will help a whole lot! Thank you for everything that you do 💛
Really resonated with the idea of never getting out of survival mode or knowing there was any other way. I remember being depressed at just the age of 7 looking at the misery and chaos of my family and thinking that was how life worked.
I just turned 30 years old and I have never had a name for what my Mom has until now. Before cutting her off a few weeks ago, she told me she was diagnosed with BPD years ago. Everything makes so much sense now. It worsened as I grew with age and became independent. She started repeating the same patterns with my own daughter too. I just found your channel and your videos have been so helpful to me during this painful time in my life. So much information, I'm grateful to have resources to educate myself. And to have greater awareness of my own triggers, reactions, things I may have picked up from the conditioning of my childhood. Finally, someone who understands!
Thank you Kim. Your videos are the ones that speak to me most on RUclips. I've shed a few tears too watching. Life has been so difficult for me. Trying to be normal to the rest of the world.
This mic 🎤 sounds amazing. I have just ordered a new one and am excited to receive it soon... your video gives me hope for my new mic. And it seems that the closer it is to your mouth, the better the quality. I honestly didn't have an issue with your last mic, but if you're happy, then I am happy. Thank you, Dr. Kim.
I really agree to all of this!! BUT I also (as you yourself said) would appreciate to be able to have it slowed down a bit! ( I think you could do that technically, non?)
Thank you Dr Kim, after all the counseling I've been through your the only one that explains what I am going through. I have been and still am avoiding people, sometimes its too hard to be around what I call drama. I even avoid the "friends" because I start feeling guilty when or if they try to help. Your mic works just fine. 😊
Thank you for sharing this valuable content with us dear dr. Kim! I’m the same age as you and very much aware of my disorganised attachement slyle of a mix of nurturing axcious and ethical avoidant. I’m also aware of the fact how it has developed from very early age. I grew up with an epileptic mother and a kind of invisible father. What I would like to share is, that being brought up by a mother who felt on the one hand loving and on the other hand also like an unsafe monster, there are also other components that were added on my list of disorganised attachement. Like feeling quilty about my unexpressed anger around her. Because she couldn’t do anything about her condition. Still burdened me with a huge pile of responsibility I couldn’t carry as a child.
Thank you for your help. I just realized that I allow my kids to come to me to help soothe themselves but I don't allow myself to go to others for comfort because I've always been taught I need to be doing that on my own.
Ok, wow, this video was SUPER helpful. I have a Fearful Avoidant Relationship Attachment Style. I am so grateful for all of the information here. And for how you present it. Sharing your own struggles and how you have healed is really helpful, Dr. Kim. Thank you!
Sound is great! I love the new mic! I guess, for me, the new mic is kind of not knowing what I didn't know lol. I have never thought there was a problem w/sound on this channel lol but now I realize the sound is a lot better! Sounds more clear & smooth & I think the new mic is much better than the last one. Ty for all you do! I love this channel, & needed this content today! Ty!❤❤❤
Your voice is a lot more sound with this mic. Love it! And the Christmas setup looks amazing, love your style. Thank you so much for your overall investment in this channel, I'm so grateful to have found you.
Hi Kim, the sound was great and the video is awesome....thanks SO much, this was extremely helpful and useful, since you covered my 2 attachment styles. Take care and be well 💞
Amazing video. Thank you so much. I enjoy your videos and advice and teaching because I feel so validated, that im not broken, that there is hope to have healthier responses to things. ❤
Hey again Doc, just know you are amazing thanks again for sharing all these fruitful contents and helping the community… oh by the way your new microphone works great👍 have an awesome day you did good by controlling the speed of your speech 🤞
Loving the new mic and sounds! Although always found it just fine before. I often feel I'm pretty rigid in my ways and routines, as a bit of a safety mechanism and I just love how you model adapting and growing to us through the way you evolve your videos and content over the years ❤
🤗 you have very helpful & informative videos, thank you for that. I hope you manage to see this comment! You mention calling it wounding, instead of something else. And that you would mention in the comments why that is. I may have just missed it, but could you please explain why that is & if the other word is trauma??
Thank you for sharing all of this helpful info 🙏🙏 Just wondering if you and/or another viewer has words of encouragement to help motivate someone on continuing the process of self parenting. I’ve been inconsistent for sure. Always forget about self parenting. Are there any words or phrases that have helped you the most? Thank you 🙏
Since you are holding the mic in your hands, volume is not constant. And, i felt your voice is low, since you might have thought about people sleeping in the room. So, can't comment on mic for now, kim😅
Idk why I feel a little triggered by this video. I feel anxious just listening to it. I definitely have an anxious or anxious/avoidant attachment style. I’ve started learning self mothering, but this is the first time I’ve heard of self fathering. But for SO many years, I’ve been an emotional hypocrite. I work with 2-3 year olds, I validate and teach them their emotions and work with them to manage their emotions, but until the last 2-3 weeks, I’ve been critical and harsh…honestly verbally abusive to myself. I’m 33 and JUST now learning to live on my own and how to care for and love myself.
That is some crisp audio. Can definitely now hear the therapist tone in your gentle speech.
You truly have THE worlds most soothing voice. I have secure attachment (even you said so one time!) but I watch your videos to better understand and show up for the people that I love and also to better understand my students, (I'm a college professor) but your voice honestly so soothing and calming. It creates peace. ❤
Hi all! I hope you find this helpful and that the new mic is much better! I have a dream of doing interviews with more humans around their trauma stories on youtube (but i know there are too many podcasts lol!) so i am still figuring it out - but is part of why I ordered the mic and then realized it would be better no matter what!! xo
Good sound
I just love your explanations. If you want to do interviews - ok. But I think you are really helpful.
Mike sounds awesome but I always thought it sounded good
The new mic is great. Also, I'm sure the podcast would be a great addition. It'll have your own perspective which is priceless. Not many podcasts out there C-PTSD focused. I know of zero, haha.
Your message definitely comes across better with this new mic & camera setup!🙂👍
Dr Kim, the new mic is good, and you look relaxed and healthy. You are very good at this and should do a podcast! Go for it!
I didn't have an issue with your previous mic but this one is amazing!!! I feel like I am listening to a podcast! The gentle nature of your voice is more pronounced and makes me feel safe.
This video was much needed. As someone who has a disorganized attachment style (leaning avoidant), the tips you gave really opened my eyes to some behaviours that I engage in. It's not easy, but these steps will help a whole lot! Thank you for everything that you do 💛
Really resonated with the idea of never getting out of survival mode or knowing there was any other way. I remember being depressed at just the age of 7 looking at the misery and chaos of my family and thinking that was how life worked.
New mic + speaking quietly = premium unintentional ASMR content. 😌
sound is excellent. content is excellent.
I just turned 30 years old and I have never had a name for what my Mom has until now. Before cutting her off a few weeks ago, she told me she was diagnosed with BPD years ago. Everything makes so much sense now. It worsened as I grew with age and became independent. She started repeating the same patterns with my own daughter too. I just found your channel and your videos have been so helpful to me during this painful time in my life. So much information, I'm grateful to have resources to educate myself. And to have greater awareness of my own triggers, reactions, things I may have picked up from the conditioning of my childhood. Finally, someone who understands!
"...safe and well." I like this blessing, thank you Doc!
Hello Dr. Kim Sage, with the new mic held closely, the sound has an ASMR quality.
Firstly, what a gorgeous tree and background! Secondly, thank you for the video ❤
Aaah I'm so happy. 30 minutes, that made my day. Always the content and topic that I need on the day you release a video.
Thank you Kim. Your videos are the ones that speak to me most on RUclips. I've shed a few tears too watching. Life has been so difficult for me. Trying to be normal to the rest of the world.
I don’t talk slowly you sound great! You speak with passion and are very eloquent! Xxx❤❤❤thanks for all your wisdom love your videos xx
I love the sound ❤
👀I never clicked faster to a notification 😅😂
Deadass
❤🙏
The sound is so much better and your voice has a soothing presence. Thank you
Wow! I didn’t think there was anything wrong with the sound, but the mic is a welcome improvement! Thanks Dr. Kim!
This mic 🎤 sounds amazing. I have just ordered a new one and am excited to receive it soon... your video gives me hope for my new mic. And it seems that the closer it is to your mouth, the better the quality.
I honestly didn't have an issue with your last mic, but if you're happy, then I am happy.
Thank you, Dr. Kim.
Your best video so far; I got SO much out of this! Thanks a zillion
I really agree to all of this!! BUT I also (as you yourself said) would appreciate to be able to have it slowed down a bit! ( I think you could do that technically, non?)
Excuse me - just found the button! 😅
Thank you Dr Kim, after all the counseling I've been through your the only one that explains what I am going through. I have been and still am avoiding people, sometimes its too hard to be around what I call drama. I even avoid the "friends" because I start feeling guilty when or if they try to help. Your mic works just fine. 😊
Beautiful, Dr. Kim. Thank you.
Thank you for sharing this valuable content with us dear dr. Kim! I’m the same age as you and very much aware of my disorganised attachement slyle of a mix of nurturing axcious and ethical avoidant. I’m also aware of the fact how it has developed from very early age. I grew up with an epileptic mother and a kind of invisible father. What I would like to share is, that being brought up by a mother who felt on the one hand loving and on the other hand also like an unsafe monster, there are also other components that were added on my list of disorganised attachement. Like feeling quilty about my unexpressed anger around her. Because she couldn’t do anything about her condition. Still burdened me with a huge pile of responsibility I couldn’t carry as a child.
Thank you for your help. I just realized that I allow my kids to come to me to help soothe themselves but I don't allow myself to go to others for comfort because I've always been taught I need to be doing that on my own.
@Dr.KimSage,pls provide signs of healing from avoidant attachment style ,if you get time to make one.
Your voice is kind of calming *ASMR style 🤗
You sound as fantastic as you look now Doc ❤.
Thank you!! I haven’t felt well and I know it showed…but feeling better each day thank goodness ❤❤❤
@@DrKimSage You’re welcome , thank you for sharing your positive energy and RUclips content with the world .
Get well ❤️🩹 soon.
Ok, wow, this video was SUPER helpful. I have a Fearful Avoidant Relationship Attachment Style. I am so grateful for all of the information here. And for how you present it. Sharing your own struggles and how you have healed is really helpful, Dr. Kim.
Thank you!
Thank you for a wonderful video. I cannot wait to learn more.
❤️ the new 🎤 ☺️
We love you so much Dr.Kim
Sound is great! I love the new mic! I guess, for me, the new mic is kind of not knowing what I didn't know lol. I have never thought there was a problem w/sound on this channel lol but now I realize the sound is a lot better! Sounds more clear & smooth & I think the new mic is much better than the last one. Ty for all you do! I love this channel, & needed this content today! Ty!❤❤❤
It was never bad before, but its perfect now. 👌🏻👍🏻
🎉you are amazing🎉God bless you🎉you are that kind of therapist we all is looking for🎉cause you cure people🎉
Great message and sound!
What a good video! Thank you!💜
Your voice is a lot more sound with this mic. Love it! And the Christmas setup looks amazing, love your style. Thank you so much for your overall investment in this channel, I'm so grateful to have found you.
Thank you Dr. Kim Sage, this really helped me to shed some light into some areas that I’ve been struggling with. Balance. 🙏🏽🙂
Hi Kim, the sound was great and the video is awesome....thanks SO much, this was extremely helpful and useful, since you covered my 2 attachment styles. Take care and be well 💞
You are truly helping me….thank you! The new mic is amazing!
I loved this. Thank you for talking about this topic
Amazing video. Thank you so much. I enjoy your videos and advice and teaching because I feel so validated, that im not broken, that there is hope to have healthier responses to things. ❤
sound is good. you might not need to be so close. very nice message and I will listen again. Thank you KS
Love the tree
Dr. Kim you’re a queen!! Mic is great
You're so kind!! Thank you so much!🙏❤
Hi
The mic is good
Can’t thank you enough!
Sound quality is perfect to be able to listen as a podcast. Appreciate your content x
Hey again Doc, just know you are amazing thanks again for sharing all these fruitful contents and helping the community… oh by the way your new microphone works great👍 have an awesome day you did good by controlling the speed of your speech 🤞
Hi Dr Kim! The new microphone is awesome, thank you for everything you do! It have been very helpful listening to your videos, take care!
the new mic is great!
Sound's amazing babe
Very helpful! Thank you so much ❤
Loving the new mic and sounds! Although always found it just fine before. I often feel I'm pretty rigid in my ways and routines, as a bit of a safety mechanism and I just love how you model adapting and growing to us through the way you evolve your videos and content over the years ❤
Amidst of all the heaviness of this and the personal work involved - ca I ask the make and name of your lipstick please - it looks great, I 💗 it xx
Thank you so much for your work
Thank you for sharing your work with us on RUclips! ❤❤❤
New mic, same great content. Thanks for all your videos Kim!
This is all so articulately and elaborately expressed ❤ you make it all seem so easily digestible to understand 😌❣️Thank you ☺️
Mike sounds great
Mic sounds great and love the tree. Happy Holidays!
🤗 you have very helpful & informative videos, thank you for that.
I hope you manage to see this comment! You mention calling it wounding, instead of something else. And that you would mention in the comments why that is. I may have just missed it, but could you please explain why that is & if the other word is trauma??
Sound was amazing!
Excellent, helpful vid. Thank you!
You're coming through loud and clear, a great mic. 🙂
LOVE the new mic! ❤
Thank you for sharing all of this helpful info 🙏🙏
Just wondering if you and/or another viewer has words of encouragement to help motivate someone on continuing the process of self parenting. I’ve been inconsistent for sure. Always forget about self parenting.
Are there any words or phrases that have helped you the most? Thank you 🙏
Hi. The sound is much better!! 👍🏻
Sounds great!
The mic is better than the previous.
Sounds great
Great stuff! The mic is an improvement!
Thank you , mic 🎤 drop 😁
What if all 3 styles are merged into on parent? Does this change how the healing process works or does it add more steps?
Since you are holding the mic in your hands, volume is not constant. And, i felt your voice is low, since you might have thought about people sleeping in the room. So, can't comment on mic for now, kim😅
What's the book's title and author please? I listened to the video twice and can't find it
🙋🏻♀️Hi there.
Is there a relationship between a person's MBTI personality with the person's attachment style?
Thank you ❤
Idk why I feel a little triggered by this video. I feel anxious just listening to it. I definitely have an anxious or anxious/avoidant attachment style. I’ve started learning self mothering, but this is the first time I’ve heard of self fathering. But for SO many years, I’ve been an emotional hypocrite. I work with 2-3 year olds, I validate and teach them their emotions and work with them to manage their emotions, but until the last 2-3 weeks, I’ve been critical and harsh…honestly verbally abusive to myself. I’m 33 and JUST now learning to live on my own and how to care for and love myself.
Sounded fine before. Now sounds forced and like you're whispering
Thank you for your service to humanity, you’re very helpful 🫶
Sound is great! ❤