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AITA for asking my friends what flavor their wedding cake is?
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For those saying the bridge and groom reacted badly, turns out that in the comments of that post, the groom laid everything out. How O.P is passive aggressive, she spoiled the surprise party of her best friend (Em) by telling her and she talked smack about the wedding party, the groom's suit, the bridesmaids dresses and everything else. Em didn't tell her to shove it and approved the message that the groom left. O.P whose name is Izzy, told the groom, Marcus, to "get a life."
Me watching this from the sidelines:
Gotta love it. Context is everything. It's not about the cake. It's never about the cake. 😄
There was more context. Oop has a long history of complaining about food.
I really hope you read the update to the story where the bride comes in and tells her side. It's really interesting 😶😶😶😶
Ehhh they don’t usually do that (sometimes they will do updates but I’ve forgotten the stories by then). They keep it simple, no comments or replies either, which can change the entire story but … it’s a choice. 😊
Just went looking for the update. The original post has been removed by Reddit. Now we'll never know!!!
@LLynneM Dusty does updates. I told him awhile back about an update about a story and he did the update
Sounds to me like bride and groom are projecting some things onto OP. They knew she didn't like chocolate. She wanted to know whether to look forward to cake or not. How is that not a legit question? How is it loaded? It's a cake.
@jambalie: To an extent, it's about much more than the wedding cake. The whole tradjectory of the story makes a massive left turn with the groom's entry into the comments section of the original post. Won't say much more about it, but the groom and OP end up chuckin' syllables at each other with the kind of vitriol that I've not seen in a while.
I think if OP had simply asked the flavor and not put the extra “ mentally prepare myself “ silliness it would have been fine. Mentally preparing yourself would suggest something was repulsive and no bride or groom wants someone to suggest that their choice is repulsive after accommodating so many other tastes and allergies. That was when OP was rude.
Please dig into the comments! There is a whole fight between OOP and Roe about what's really going on. It's insane!!
Whoa!!!!! OP is *in* the wedding party of her two *best friends* who are offering an assortment of food at their wedding reception in order to accommodate carnivores, vegans, vegetarians, gluten free and other preferences so they've taken all of their guests' food allergies, preferences into account, but chose a wedding cake flavor OP dislikes. No, they chose a wedding cake flavor THEY like because they probably felt they catered to everyone else for the meal and they really want a chocolate wedding cake. This close to the wedding, brides get jittery, things have already started going wrong, keeping track of such an expansive menu to keep everyone else happy takes a lot of work, a lot of planning and a ton of checking and rechecking so to choose to ask a question about their personal wedding cake of all things, for your own selfish reasons, might be construed as criticism or disapproval. If the 3 of them are BFFs, they probably expected OP to know better, to have a little restraint, or a little common sense that if, when it came to the cake, OP received a slice and realized it was chocolate, she simply could have set it aside without eating it. OP isn't allergic to chocolate, she just has a preference of not caring for it, so to use a public forum created to share wedding plans for others to enjoy with them, but then send a private message on that public forum just to ask about cake flavor seems self serving and calculating. Having said that, she's apologized and neither bride nor groom want to discuss their wedding cake choice with OP another second. While the bride had a rather overly dramatic reaction to the question makes me wonder if OP has a habit of questioning the friend's choices in other things and the wedding cake flavor was the hill the bride finally chose to conquer. Not sure we're getting the entire story here. If the bride also told her fiancé to stop communicating with OP, there is more going on here than we're being told. This goes beyond pre-wedding jitters. There is a skunk in the woodpile and we're not being told the entire truth.
Who says you have to have a piece of cake at a wedding?
Yes, she is the astronaut because she's trying to make herself the main character and somebody else's story
Edit:
After reading the back-and-forth between OP and the groom, she is totally the asshole. And then some.
It was a simple question so OP knew if they were going to have cake. It wasn't loaded, the response was foul. Bride could have simply said chocolate. The rest was catty and uncalled for. Real friends don't jump down your throat for asking something after they created a group chat specifically for questions about food.
No, You're ignoring important facts. Op has a record of being a pain Just because ""I don't like chocolate. If op didn't just aske. Op added the passive aggressive BS at the end. i can see two very good reasons #1 Op" I'm not like other people. I'm special because i don't like chocolate( pls don't pick chocolate.". Making it her personally and every has to constantly hear( op admits she always tells them).Proof They told Op to "shup up" from the start. A chat about food allegers and lifestyle choices, is not about food you don't like. It's to proved a different option, so no one DIES, get sick, or eat something they shouldn't. Op " i meant it as a remember I don't like chocolate"' People trying to keep their lifestyle and trying not to get sick or DIE. Proof - Op 'it's their wedding but op needs to remind them in that are making special requests on the food (NOT THE WEDDING CAKE). Bride and groom Translation " We know . We just don't care because it's not about you. we like it ".
@@k70freeman wow your arms are mightly long because that is a lot of reaching.
If she has a history of complaining telling her to shove it would make things better.
@@testaccount01336#1 sometimes people just want to go " you're pain in the ass" ,when the person is being a pain in the ass. #2 you can't change other people. You going " instead of getting mad, you should get them to change". No. Op just when , ME, ME ,ME ,ME. " people have real issues that effects the wedding. So I'm going to make it about myself. op delusion- them going " we sorry op, we are going to chose a cake that you like". or" Op we're going to make a cake just for you". Not' is cake chocolate, I don't like chocolate". That's how people ask for money with out asking for money directly. "I really need money but I'm asking you for it" I just need you as a good friend to listen ,how much in need money.".
@@testaccount01336 in the original post the groom wrote in the comments about the passive aggressive wayf th oop to make everything about her.
@tatyanicktheone7387 I would genuinely like to see that post because the way it was presented here was obviously different. I want to read his side to be more fair-minded. I will try to find it. Thank you for letting me know there was a response.
They only had to reply to OP with, "Chocolate."... There was no need to jump into a DM and hit her with a spicy message like that. I don't give a fluff if it's close to the wedding, or if they know my aversion to chocolate, or if I sucked my thumb until I was 10, or if they're stressing the F out. Do not come for me like a C You Next Tuesday, or you will have a whole new set of problems, such as getting yourself put back together because I broke your rude ass into 5 easy pieces.
Calm down Bruce lee 😂
Reminds me of that Key & Peele sketch
Op doesn’t have an allergy. She can be an adult and don’t mention anything. She needs to get over herself
discord group was where the question was asked?
It sounds like "lost in text" sort of thing.
A general question of "what flavor is the cake" ... can sound MULTIPLE ways... expecially depending on the mood of who is reading it.
same as "it's fine" ... depending how its even SAID verbally, means different things.
Drop it OP ... i get you're over thinking it... but you're beating the dead horse so to say... keep beating it... gonna beat life into it, and it's gonna flip out Zombie Horse style lol.
Just let it go... let it goooo
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The groom replied in the comments. OP was being absolutely obnoxious in complaining about everything else about the wedding and the cake was the last straw. OP intentionally left out vital info for a more favorable response. OP is the AH.
You guys should get into the comments it seems there was more context
I feel like there's context here we're not getting
I get the feeling things happend OP does not know and or OP has been complaining about other things 🤷♀️
In that original post, the groom Marcus reveled that O.P had been complaining about A LOT of stuff and how certain things were tacky and also acting really shitty to the groom. She doesn't like him because he doesn't stand for the shit she does to the bride and he's sticking up for the bride and saying, "Stop."
I'd say ascon 4. She could have done it differently.
So like, she's not an asshole. But intention isn't everything. Perception is huge too. Even if we don't mean to hurt someone we gotta acknowledge it and take the blow to the ego 😢
Hot Take... OP is tiptoeing towards AH territory.
Text messages can't properly convey tone, so maybe it was a miscommunication. Maybe the bride did snap about wedding stress, but then was trying to walk it back.
Either way, the bride is trying to drop the issue and OP seemingly needs validation that their apology is accepted and won't drop it until they get it despite being told twice that it isn't really an issue.
At some point, take people at face value. If the bride says she's not upset and doesn't want an apology just let it be what it is. If it comes back up later address it then. But don't keep badgering them; especially if they think it's a possibility that this was a burst of frustration caused by unrelated stress.