My long-term partner’s side piece showed up at my door with their baby. AITAH for kicking her out?
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My long-term partner’s side piece showed up at my door with their baby. AITAH for kicking her out even though she is basically homeless? + UPDATE!
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Absolutely NTA. His mom can take care of them.
Partner didn't want to be with OP, but he DID want the benefit of the lifestyle that she provided. This has to hurt, but I'm sitting here applauding OP for everything that she has done, both early in the relationship, and now. Partner thought he could have his cake and eat it, too, but now he gets to live on his salary WHILE ALSO supporting his very expensive baby mama and child. He's getting EXACTLY what he deserves, the sniveling coward that he is. And while the side chick has got a pair of COHONES on her to just stop paying for her apartment since she figured she'd be moving into his house any way, AND THEN SHOWING UP TO TAKE UP RESIDENCE before the "divorce" was finalized, a part of me feels bad for her because it's pretty clear the lies he's been spoon feeding. But sloppy seconds is what you get for taking up with someone before they actually leave their partner. It's a tough lesson to learn, but she's in the FO stage of FAFO.
Absolutely NTA. OP is handling things like a boss. Good riddance.
Amen, Dusty! I adore my guy & we’ve been together going on 15 years. I’ve never been a jealous person or understood the jealousy angle.
He knows my stance has always been “if you can take him, you can have him”. I will never fight to have someone be with me if they don’t want to.
If we’re invested in each other, we can work through almost anything. But I won’t accept cheating. If you’re unhappy or have fallen out of love, let’s have a conversation and make whatever decisions are necessary. And while it would likely be painful, there wouldn’t be resentment or vindictiveness.
But if you betray the trust, it’s over immediately & any civility or fairness goes out the window. I’m out for blood. 🤷🏻♀️
I wholeheartedly agree! I’ve always said that I don’t share; if you wanna be with someone else, have the decency to tell me and we can part ways.
The absolute GALL of not only the GF, but the MIL. They're AC1, for sure, right up there with XH2B. I wanna see furniture that earns you $1 mil/yr, though. Wow.
Custom made wood furniture is expensive... the wood itself is expensive. I can see her selling her furniture for hundreds of pounds each... or thousands of pounds for larger, more intricate pieces.
This sounds like a her problem. Sucks to suck, I suppose. NTA
NTA. It's not up to OP to take care of her. Let partner's mom take take of her then.
Stories like this always make me wonder how the cheater expected it to end. Did he expect his side piece to never find out he had no ownership over the house? Was the (inevitably fleeting) time he spent with this woman really worth throwing away his relationship with OP and the free ride that apparently came with it? I just don't understand how someone can act like that without some bizarre mental defect that makes them incapable of thinking about the future.
Been married for 17 years. My husband had been married twice before me. Both of them cheated on him. First one while he was overseas serving in the military. Second one when he was working 18 or more hours a day building his own company that allowed her to live a very lavish lifestyle.
When he asked me to marry him he also asked me not to do to him what the other two did. I told him first off I don't cheat. Second I work on my relationships and since we are saying till death, it's just that till death. Third if for some reason I don't want to be with you I will divorce then find someone else. Fourth the only reason I will want or get a divorce is if you cheat or lay a hand on me or our child.
IMO if you're gonna cheat just leave them first. The grass isn't greener on the other side.
OP is definitely NTA!
Girlfriend is basically saying "MINE!" Over and over again. It reminds me of those creatures in Ice Age that say nothing but "MINE!"
(Seagulls, Finding Nemo)😊
It was Finding Nemo... the Sea Gulls.
NTA. Poor baby & the side chick is crazy
OP is a boss! Couldn’t have handled that any better. And as for the mom she can take in the gf and baby.
I love OP taking him for everything she can. You get him! Ex is probably going to be really mad at his side piece for ruining his free ride 😂
Had the gf and her child shown up with a completely different attitude, the outcome might have been temporarily different. If she showed up believing the bf (OP's husband) was divorced and she believed all his lies about owning everything himself and explained her predicament, OP might have had compassion enough to at least call a local hotel/motel for her and pay for a few nights until cheating hubby returned from Dubai and was made to answer questions from them both. But her attitude warranted nothing from OP - no mercy, no compassion, no care. That his mother sided with the mistress after OP spent a decade with her son as his 'common law wife' is ludicrous. Let mommy take care of side chick, baby and son: OP owes them nothing: no attention, no conversation, no explanations, no reasons. All communication from them to OP should, at this point, be funneled through her legal team. I feel for the child: didn't ask for a loser for a father (potentially), and sure didn't ask for a gullible, nasty, entitled woman for a mother, nor a 'grandmother' who doesn't know her place. And if the hubby gets the paternity test and he is not the child's biological father, then he now realizes what it is like to be betrayed, lied to, cheated on, used for money, etc. You reap what you sow.
100% NTA.
I do feel really bad for the child; obviously he/she is innocent. Not sure what kind of life they are going to have as a product of this dumpster fire.
NTA! OP, you had a complete stranger show up with her child essentially demanding you pack up and move into a hotel since "you can afford it". NOPE! You did right by calling the police. If your MIL is so worried about it, she can take the side piece and her grandchild into HER HOME. And no, she didn't put any money aside as your husband is "rich". OP, I hope you have a solid pre-nup.
Well, not married so no pre-nup, but an agreement that amounts to something very similar. But wow, did your ex ever screw the pooch big time. But once you divide the joint assets you're done with him unless he tries to play stupid games, which he will lose. Good luck OP. Go forth and live your best life.
Ya have to think what lies he told to the gf for her to grow the balls to rock up to that house tho 😮😮 well done OP glad she’s get it down and won’t give that piece of shit ex nothing
For those asking why cheaters gamble their relationships, I think it's due to "Duper's Delight." They've gotten away with this much so far, and it was fun. So, upping the anty is just too tantalizing to ignore.
Much like any other chronic gambler, sooner or later, the boom becomes a bust.
GF waited until he was gone to do it because he told her no lol
So, BF lied to affair partner, so AP got pregnant, most likely on purpose, so that she could live the lavish lifestyle that BF had with OP, not realizing that OP had all her ducks in a row, carrying their own receipts. 😂😂😂
First, good job OP, on making sure your financial situation was always secure. More women are realizing that is necessary these days. Always protect your assets.
Second, I would love to be a fly on the wall when the delusions that he has fed AP for over a year, come crashing down. Now AP will be stuck with a man who makes only a comfortable living instead of the lavish one OP has. Serves BF and AP right.
FAFO... 😂
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It's pronounced R pel
"Where's the proof you aren't married!"
Um... she can't provide evidence of a negative here... its on the person who claims to be married to provide evidence for the marriage (marriage license/certificate). Though, they have been living together for 10 years, they are married as per common law. So, he's still entitled to a lot of things; like 50% of the house's value.
Sounds as though she's a bit vindictive so she's not going to give him everything he legally is obligated to... What cohabitation agreement? Did they really have such an agreement? *Shakes Head* Still, I think he will attempt to claim half the value of the house when she sells it. Whether he's successful or not... I'll leave that to the UK Lawyers.
The GF is an idiot. She shows up when her lover is not even in the country to back her up, to face off with OP on her own. You would have to be delusional to believe that the "wife" would just pack a bag and leave when faced with the new girl and her love child. Even if there truly was a divorce in progress, the existing resident of the property is not likely going to turn tail and leave just because some stranger tells her to.
However, to other notes in your comment, OP used "pounds" as a monetary term in the original story but, in the update, it was made clear that this couple does not live in an English-speaking country. A quick google search shows there are several countries in the world that refer to their currency as a pound so who knows where they actually reside but it is likely someplace closer to Dubai, where dude was on vacation. I have heard this story before and the vacation location stuck many commenters as a weirdly expensive place for a teacher to go, especially on his own.
I had to listen to the update again and, yes, the couple DID have a cohabitation agreement which is why he does not get any money from the house or the art work. OP said these agreements are hard to fight in court.
Unfortunately, it's almost always the woman who drives the man to cheat, almost always because she is not satisfying her man or doing things in the bedroom that he enjoys. He could absolutely love her, but it's because he's not physically satisfied with her, that he is driven to cheat. When guys cheat, it's not emotional, just physical because they aren't satisfied. If anything, the boyfriend is the real victim in all of this.
Let it hereby be known that the poster of the above comment does not speak for all men.
Is this real?💀he’s definitely speaking for himself
💀💀💀 That's the most bs I've read online for a while 😂😂
Oh goody, looks like trolling Animorph's new handle dropped
Yeah...You don't know what you're talking about...like at ALL.