First off, the husband is cheating. Second off, OP brother is awesome but I agree: That text message was the wrong play but it is fantastic that he protects his sister like he does and sister better not go no contact with him. He and the sister-in-law will clearly protect her and her daughter if she gets away from the husband. And I hope they do. Let's talk about the type of abuse that it was to make her go through that birth like that. When your wife who is very pregnant is calling you repeatedly.... You answer the phone.
NTA Your husband wasn’t there for you. Your brother was. At this point your husband is trying to isolate you from the people who will be there for you. You should move in with your brother and sil for a little while and leave husband. He left you in the most vulnerable time of your life and came back fighting
Isolation is a common power play by abusers. They cut off their victim from their support network so they have no one to turn to. It’s something my aunt’s ex did to her.
In my opinion, most cheaters accuse their partner of cheating. Had an old boyfriend who always accused me of cheating. I would always find out he was cheating.
I mean, I can be a very mean person, if I were OP I wouldn't even be mad if my brother told someome I died during something like this and my husband refused to answer the phone and show up. Because she could have died, and if her brother hadn't been there she WOULD have died. So while it is cruel, I feel like brother is a justified AH. The husband brought this on himself.
He wanted a big family but acts like a POS as soon as it's real? Where do women find these scumbags? There is no way there wasn't a thousand red flags before now. This type of assholery doesn't just appear out of the blue
Once again spreading the word that, no they don't have a long list of red flags prior. Lots of these assholes don't show how awful they are until they think the woman is "trapped" by marriage or children. Then they start the abuse and terrible behavior because she's too "weak" and "dependent" to leave.
They aren't like that. They are great when there are no stressful obligations. Kids make abusers less important, and that can't ever happen. So, they triple down.
I think we all know why MIL wanted OP to go NC with her brother. She didn't want her bebe to face consequences for his garbage behavior (and, honestly, the prank might have been too far, but it was after TEN HOURS. Someone who blows off 16 calls from his pregnant wife and ignores her for 10 hours doesn't deserve peace. Ever.). Plus, if she stands by her son that much, why would she want OP to have someone who actually supports her?
OP's brother just allowed her to see her husband for what he is: a self-absorbed asshole. If he had actually been broken up about her "death" then his focus would have been sheer relief over her being alive. But it wasn’t. He was just mad. Probably because he thought he'd gotten an easier way out of his marriage and it turned out not to be true.
Well, she did not make it to the hospital, she had the baby in the brother's vehicle, so in a way he did not lie. I am glad she decided to get a divorce. Would love to get an update on how things are now.
WOW! Husband is #1 AH💯😡🤬. Brother did the right thing. 👍🏆. Husband wasn't worried about wife so kudos to brother. Another update would be great to hear. OP rock on girlfriend. ❤❤❤. We support your decision whatever it is. 🎉🎉🎉
A friend of mine got her ex to sign off all rights to her baby in exchange for not paying child support. Years later her husband legally adopted her daughter.
Hubby doesn't feel guilty, and he deserved that "prank." Why does he want a big family if this is how he plans to support his wife and child (meaning that he won't support them at all)?
I don't think the brother went too far. The husband doesn't love OP. He loves himself. It makes no difference to the husband that OP is alive or dead, he only rushed to the hospital when he realized that he had damaged his own self image by ignoring her calls and she "died" from it making it his fault. He is an awful person. He will damage OPs relationship with her child if he thinks it will benefit him.
If I have been in a fight with my spouse and I just need space I might ignore his call twice. If he calls a 3rd I answer, period. More than twice is some kind of urgency that overrides whatever personal issues are going on at the moment. 3 missed calls no text could be urgent or poor cell service. Anything more is an emergency.
I wouldn’t even care about the joke at that point. Those are divorce actions, i couldn’t work through that. NTA for you or your brother. Thank goodness for your brother!!
Husband is cheating, that's easy to see. He's a total AH. Brother probably shouldn't have said what he said, but I get it. My late brother would have done the same thing and more probably. I'm so glad she made the choice to leave him. She deserves better and so does her daughter.
Even though the brother shouldn’t have done it I can understand why he was so angry that he did. There is no reason to ignore multiple calls from family members when your wife could give birth at any time and you KNOW your wife is with her brother. That many calls says it was an emergency. He was probably shacked up with whatever mistress he found and is projecting his infidelity onto his wife. His wife could have passed away and even after the wife goes home he’s asking about paternity. I bet he wants out of this marriage is is hoping that he can somehow make a clean break and since he’s cheating he is hoping his wife did too.
It’s even worse cause she wasn’t even sure she wanted children but hubby wanted a big family so she at least partially had her child to make him happy and he couldn’t be bothered to be there for her or his child…. Awful human being
I'm with a lot of people on this. He's mirroring his guilt he's making a bunch of noise to cover up the fact that he has an side piece.... The brother is awesome. And I like his level of getting even . Someone had to light a spark under hubby's ass
I try to make going nuclear a good fifth option. But hubby ignoring his wife for 10+ hours when she’s having his baby is inexcusable. If I were OP and it was my brother who played this prank, the husband wouldn’t be alive to tell the tale.
I don’t trust OP’s husband either. Your brother went way overboard, but I think out of love and protection. OP’s husband is probably having an affair, and wasn’t a partner in any part of this story.
Could be important for custody too. He showed blatant disregard for the health and safety of the baby as well as OP. A judge isn’t going to look kindly on a ‘father’ who missed a major medical emergency because he was too busy cheating
One thing I learned when I divorced- and laws might be different in different areas... But custody and access are two different things. Having full custody is more of who has rights to legally make decisions for the child. You can have full custody but the other parent has 50/50 access in visitation rights.
The husband is a child: he wants the world but doesn't want to participate in the work that goes into having that 'world' he envies and desires: let everyone else do the work and he'll just skate along and enjoy what they've accomplished claiming it all as his own achievements. The paternity test nonsense would have infuriated me, esp. when that far along in a pregnancy and while she should have tossed hubby out rather than leave herself, at least at her brother/sister-in-law's house, if something went awry, she wasn't alone (as it ironically happened that way). My guess is that hubby has a side chick who put the bug in his ear the child might not be his: after all, if hubby is cheating, laying the blame on his wife for cheating is his perfect cover: keep her on the defensive so she doesn't discover his filthyt behavior; if wife cheated and he can prove the child is not his child, it gives him reason to dump his wife and be with side chick full time. That he knows she's at the end of her pregnancy and ignores her frequent calls for that long a period, and her brother's calls as well, is telling: he's preoccupied with things/persons he deems more important in his life than his wife and his brother-in-law. The brother's reaction to hubby's call didn't appall me: I cheered because the first thing I thought of is that the brother has most likely seen how useless, reckless and ignorant hubby is over the years of his marriage to brother's sister and this was probably the final straw where he had the perfect opportunity to say something that would shake the husband's fantasy world he lives in, if just for a few minutes. Brother has probably been wanting to confront this scumbag of a brother-in-law for some time over other behaviors in the way his sister is treated by her husband and kept quiet all those times for his sister's sake. I don't blame the brother at all: I actually want to hug him for loving and protecting his sister to this degree. There isn't any reason on the face of this earth that the husband ignored 16 calls from his very pregnant wife that close to her due date other than cheating, being selfish, immature, petty, arrogantly vindictive and completely emotionally and intellectually disconnected, by choice, to his wife about to give birth. Their future together raising a child is going to be a living hell: wife will remember this pregnancy and birth as a regret for the rest of her life (not regretting her daughter, but regretting the horror show that should have been warm, delicious memories of pregnancy and birth experience, especially now knowing it would be her only one because of the necessary hysterectomy) and husband has probably already put it behind him as having done nothing wrong; he's oompah-lamoompahing along in his daily life as if nothing happened and nothing changed. The guy is problematic and wife should seriously considering ending their marriage. That her difficult birth resulted in a hysterectomy will be her husband's weapon of choice for the rest of their relationship: he'll blame her for doing it 'on purpose' as retaliation for him not answering his phone and demanding a paternity test. This marriage, this relationship, I just don't see it persevering much longer without some serious counseling together and separately. Personally speaking, the paternity test dictate would have had my first foot out the door: the ignored calls would have had me and my newborn daughter never setting foot in that house again. IMO, the brother is the hero, the husband is the villain; the brother deserves every accolade, every respect and everyone's gratitude that he was a real man and stepped up when needed whereas the husband is pond scum and, like pond scum, pretty ugly and useless. Family members and friends thinking brother went too far - well, they weren't there during that frightening, emotional time when OP might have died and they didn't feel what brother was feeling. They should shut the heck up as brother reacted with full heart and all the resentment he was feeling in that moment when indifferent hubby finally called. Husband owes wife and her brother a sincere, full apology and then needs to back those apologies up by his behavior, but my guess is that he's not man enough to apologize sincerely, and he couldn't care less about altering his behavior to prove his sincerity in knowing how badly he messed up. I pity how he'll be raising his daughter.
Husband is absolutely ASCON1, but OP's brother doesn't get to skate because he should have handled that differently. Husband needs to be told to go kick rocks. The AUDACITY to ask your wife, who is that close to giving birth, for a paternity test... And for his mother to want brother (who was there for EVERYTHING) cut out? Nah. OP deserves better.
Hubby wasnt relieved to see his wife was alive? He did not go hug her, and apologize right away. He Got angry that he was pranked🤯 Yea, there is no love for her or concern for her well being.
Agree with everyone else on this - he is definitely cheating. Poor OP is going to carryvthe trauma from this experience for a long time, I'm so glad she sought help straight away to stary processing. She sounds like an amazing individual with a great family. Good luck to her
He demands a paternity test, is MIA during the birth, and does not try to bond with his child afterwards. Yeah, he has a new woman and wants a clean break from not only his wife but his child as well. If his family suspects that's not his child then they won't be bothered if he abandons her. There is no love here. Even when the brother said she died, he rushed to clear his name not to check on her. What an awful man, an awful husband, an awful father, and an all around awful human being. Lets hope the daughter takes after the mother.
There should be a paternity test done on every kid born, far to many men have supported children only to find out later they were someone else's. That being said, the husband is a massive asshole, she needs a divorce. The brother went too far, but I understand his justifiable anger so he gets a pass.
@@aralornwolf3140 Chimerism that would lead to a false paternity is extremely low, while 30% of DNA paternity tests done in the United States come back negative.
So they want her to cut off the one person in this story who has her back. Ye gods, what is wrong with people? EDIT: Man, the more I think about this, the worse it gets. If Dusty is right and he was looking for a way out when he brought up paternity, what does that say about his motive for not answering her call when he knew she was due?
Go with yoor gut he frepeatedly brought up a paternity test with zero evedence and when confronted got mad and ran away like a coward He neglected endless phone calls knowing you were close to labor and upon coming back accused you again Ew Tell him to screw off
While I can understand EVERYBODY being upset, YOU ABSOLUTELY NEVER TELL SOMEONE THIER SPOUSE/FAMILY MEMBER HAS DIED IF IT ISN'T TRUE!!!!! That being said OP, what even makes your idiot of a husband consider your daughter isn't his as well? Is he just that generally untrusting of you? I'd wait to make any decisions until you're recovered, but I'd be looking at your relationship with your husband long and hard. I know it had to be a hard decision to leave your husband, but it sounds like you had very good reasons to do so. If your reaction to HIM being the one to make medical decisions for you if incapacitated was that bad, your decision was correct. You can have a living will/medical directive made that specifically names a person(s) other than your husband to be the person to make those decisions, cutting him out of that loop. Agree with commenters, getting a PI depends on many different things. You do need to speak with your lawyer about this OP. Best wishes.
As a mom of three. I have two boys. I do not understand women’s hesitation or getting paternity testing done. Over third of our children being born in the US have the incorrect father on the birth certificate and father paying for them. Now I am not saying she is a cheater. I don’t believe that. But it will be better for you as the mom in the long run. If you do the paternity test. You have done everything in your power to, make him happy. I would also request if the test is going to be done, that the people who were pushing it hard might not have contact with us with us for the rest of our lives, if other than the father himself. And that he requires therapy after the testing is done. This will benefit the mom and gives her good footing for the future ( whatever it brings). He is not necessarily saying you’re cheating. He is saying he has problems. This might not be about you. This might be about his insecurities, his cheating, or other things going on in his life that you’re unaware of and he might not be able to express or communicate with you. But it benefits you to have it done in the long run.
@@Spearsy1995 not at all, but when you go the court they will see you have done everything asked of you and more. Who do you think the judge will look at favorably? I bend down that road be for, not for DNA but still.
Honestly I would have said go ahead get a test. Her saying f u and taking off is making him feel like whoever put a bug in his ear is correct. Husband was an asshole for ignoring all calls, brother is asshole for saying that, you’re an a hole for not trying to truly discuss why he felt that way. I almost died giving birth it was traumatic. However I am a female who believes paternity test should be mandatory married or not. So guess I am an a hole too.
Paternity tests should be mandatory so that men don’t get trapped. She had no reason to say no. Everyone’s saying he’s cheating because he was a paternity test. Maybe SHES cheating and that’s why she’s refusing. He should have a test done anyways. And the prank was not a prank. He lied and said his wife died.
Where was hubby for 10 hours while her or her brother could not get a hold of him while she’s going through labor and life-saving surgery?
His head was too far up his rear to hear the ringer.
Probably with his mistress
@@mangamegbedefinitely!
Probably the e stress he caused made her go j ti labour early
Sucking at his Mommy's teat.
First off, the husband is cheating. Second off, OP brother is awesome but I agree: That text message was the wrong play but it is fantastic that he protects his sister like he does and sister better not go no contact with him. He and the sister-in-law will clearly protect her and her daughter if she gets away from the husband. And I hope they do. Let's talk about the type of abuse that it was to make her go through that birth like that. When your wife who is very pregnant is calling you repeatedly.... You answer the phone.
NTA
Your husband wasn’t there for you. Your brother was. At this point your husband is trying to isolate you from the people who will be there for you. You should move in with your brother and sil for a little while and leave husband. He left you in the most vulnerable time of your life and came back fighting
The isolation is a great point.
Isolation is a common power play by abusers. They cut off their victim from their support network so they have no one to turn to. It’s something my aunt’s ex did to her.
In my opinion, most cheaters accuse their partner of cheating. Had an old boyfriend who always accused me of cheating. I would always find out he was cheating.
I mean, I can be a very mean person, if I were OP I wouldn't even be mad if my brother told someome I died during something like this and my husband refused to answer the phone and show up. Because she could have died, and if her brother hadn't been there she WOULD have died. So while it is cruel, I feel like brother is a justified AH. The husband brought this on himself.
He wanted a big family but acts like a POS as soon as it's real? Where do women find these scumbags? There is no way there wasn't a thousand red flags before now. This type of assholery doesn't just appear out of the blue
Once again spreading the word that, no they don't have a long list of red flags prior. Lots of these assholes don't show how awful they are until they think the woman is "trapped" by marriage or children. Then they start the abuse and terrible behavior because she's too "weak" and "dependent" to leave.
They aren't like that. They are great when there are no stressful obligations. Kids make abusers less important, and that can't ever happen. So, they triple down.
I feel you’re probably right.
I think we all know why MIL wanted OP to go NC with her brother. She didn't want her bebe to face consequences for his garbage behavior (and, honestly, the prank might have been too far, but it was after TEN HOURS. Someone who blows off 16 calls from his pregnant wife and ignores her for 10 hours doesn't deserve peace. Ever.). Plus, if she stands by her son that much, why would she want OP to have someone who actually supports her?
4:33 I think he's cheating...
OP's brother just allowed her to see her husband for what he is: a self-absorbed asshole. If he had actually been broken up about her "death" then his focus would have been sheer relief over her being alive. But it wasn’t. He was just mad. Probably because he thought he'd gotten an easier way out of his marriage and it turned out not to be true.
This! I could understand relief that she was alive and anger at the brother but he was yelling as soon as he saw her. There’s no love there at all.
YESSSSS!!! Live call-ins would be awesome!!!
Absolutely agree 😊
Well, she did not make it to the hospital, she had the baby in the brother's vehicle, so in a way he did not lie. I am glad she decided to get a divorce. Would love to get an update on how things are now.
WOW! Husband is #1 AH💯😡🤬. Brother did the right thing. 👍🏆. Husband wasn't worried about wife so kudos to brother. Another update would be great to hear. OP rock on girlfriend. ❤❤❤. We support your decision whatever it is. 🎉🎉🎉
A friend of mine got her ex to sign off all rights to her baby in exchange for not paying child support. Years later her husband legally adopted her daughter.
Yeah, if it’s financially feasible, I think that’s the right call in cases like this where you can’t trust the ex to actually prioritize the kid
Hubby doesn't feel guilty, and he deserved that "prank." Why does he want a big family if this is how he plans to support his wife and child (meaning that he won't support them at all)?
I don't think the brother went too far. The husband doesn't love OP. He loves himself. It makes no difference to the husband that OP is alive or dead, he only rushed to the hospital when he realized that he had damaged his own self image by ignoring her calls and she "died" from it making it his fault. He is an awful person. He will damage OPs relationship with her child if he thinks it will benefit him.
If I have been in a fight with my spouse and I just need space I might ignore his call twice. If he calls a 3rd I answer, period. More than twice is some kind of urgency that overrides whatever personal issues are going on at the moment. 3 missed calls no text could be urgent or poor cell service. Anything more is an emergency.
I wouldn’t even care about the joke at that point. Those are divorce actions, i couldn’t work through that. NTA for you or your brother. Thank goodness for your brother!!
Husband is cheating, that's easy to see. He's a total AH. Brother probably shouldn't have said what he said, but I get it. My late brother would have done the same thing and more probably. I'm so glad she made the choice to leave him. She deserves better and so does her daughter.
Less than two minutes in and Dusty Thunder is already PISSED!
He wants out and was with another woman. So he was acting out. Divorce even when it turn positive. One and done! Gone.
Pretty sure I remember this story from a while back and he was cheating. Honestly though, cheating or no, that’s a marriage ender.
I would have liked to hear Candy's opinion on this one
Even though the brother shouldn’t have done it I can understand why he was so angry that he did. There is no reason to ignore multiple calls from family members when your wife could give birth at any time and you KNOW your wife is with her brother. That many calls says it was an emergency. He was probably shacked up with whatever mistress he found and is projecting his infidelity onto his wife. His wife could have passed away and even after the wife goes home he’s asking about paternity. I bet he wants out of this marriage is is hoping that he can somehow make a clean break and since he’s cheating he is hoping his wife did too.
It’s even worse cause she wasn’t even sure she wanted children but hubby wanted a big family so she at least partially had her child to make him happy and he couldn’t be bothered to be there for her or his child…. Awful human being
Yes! I don't watch lives but I would totally watch you talking with the person.
I’m glad OP has a wonderful brother and SIL who have her back and her daughter’s back.
As a fire sign, I probably would have done something similar to hubby. Brother just gave him the pain that he might not have had otherwise.
I mean he didn't say she passed just that she didn't make it.. to the delivery room..
Hubby was probably with an affair partner.
DIVORCE, JUST DIVORCE
Live calling would be wonderful.
Yaaaassssss! Live call in shows!! 🤩🤩🤩
Don’t think the brother is wrong. Not sure about saying that, but agree that the hubby deserved to have the fear of God put into him.
And yes it be cool to see these live Dusty.
I'm with a lot of people on this. He's mirroring his guilt he's making a bunch of noise to cover up the fact that he has an side piece....
The brother is awesome. And I like his level of getting even . Someone had to light a spark under hubby's ass
That’s one good brother ! OP and Brother NTA ! Hubby is YTA !!!
I try to make going nuclear a good fifth option. But hubby ignoring his wife for 10+ hours when she’s having his baby is inexcusable. If I were OP and it was my brother who played this prank, the husband wouldn’t be alive to tell the tale.
I'd so love the live call in!!!! Would love to hear some of these excuses
I don’t trust OP’s husband either. Your brother went way overboard, but I think out of love and protection. OP’s husband is probably having an affair, and wasn’t a partner in any part of this story.
Husband isn't owed, Jack.
13:48 Not necessarily. If the payout is now due to an infidelity clause, a lawyer will snatch that opportunity up, and investigate
Could be important for custody too. He showed blatant disregard for the health and safety of the baby as well as OP. A judge isn’t going to look kindly on a ‘father’ who missed a major medical emergency because he was too busy cheating
One thing I learned when I divorced- and laws might be different in different areas... But custody and access are two different things. Having full custody is more of who has rights to legally make decisions for the child. You can have full custody but the other parent has 50/50 access in visitation rights.
The husband is a child: he wants the world but doesn't want to participate in the work that goes into having that 'world' he envies and desires: let everyone else do the work and he'll just skate along and enjoy what they've accomplished claiming it all as his own achievements. The paternity test nonsense would have infuriated me, esp. when that far along in a pregnancy and while she should have tossed hubby out rather than leave herself, at least at her brother/sister-in-law's house, if something went awry, she wasn't alone (as it ironically happened that way). My guess is that hubby has a side chick who put the bug in his ear the child might not be his: after all, if hubby is cheating, laying the blame on his wife for cheating is his perfect cover: keep her on the defensive so she doesn't discover his filthyt behavior; if wife cheated and he can prove the child is not his child, it gives him reason to dump his wife and be with side chick full time. That he knows she's at the end of her pregnancy and ignores her frequent calls for that long a period, and her brother's calls as well, is telling: he's preoccupied with things/persons he deems more important in his life than his wife and his brother-in-law. The brother's reaction to hubby's call didn't appall me: I cheered because the first thing I thought of is that the brother has most likely seen how useless, reckless and ignorant hubby is over the years of his marriage to brother's sister and this was probably the final straw where he had the perfect opportunity to say something that would shake the husband's fantasy world he lives in, if just for a few minutes. Brother has probably been wanting to confront this scumbag of a brother-in-law for some time over other behaviors in the way his sister is treated by her husband and kept quiet all those times for his sister's sake. I don't blame the brother at all: I actually want to hug him for loving and protecting his sister to this degree. There isn't any reason on the face of this earth that the husband ignored 16 calls from his very pregnant wife that close to her due date other than cheating, being selfish, immature, petty, arrogantly vindictive and completely emotionally and intellectually disconnected, by choice, to his wife about to give birth. Their future together raising a child is going to be a living hell: wife will remember this pregnancy and birth as a regret for the rest of her life (not regretting her daughter, but regretting the horror show that should have been warm, delicious memories of pregnancy and birth experience, especially now knowing it would be her only one because of the necessary hysterectomy) and husband has probably already put it behind him as having done nothing wrong; he's oompah-lamoompahing along in his daily life as if nothing happened and nothing changed. The guy is problematic and wife should seriously considering ending their marriage. That her difficult birth resulted in a hysterectomy will be her husband's weapon of choice for the rest of their relationship: he'll blame her for doing it 'on purpose' as retaliation for him not answering his phone and demanding a paternity test. This marriage, this relationship, I just don't see it persevering much longer without some serious counseling together and separately. Personally speaking, the paternity test dictate would have had my first foot out the door: the ignored calls would have had me and my newborn daughter never setting foot in that house again. IMO, the brother is the hero, the husband is the villain; the brother deserves every accolade, every respect and everyone's gratitude that he was a real man and stepped up when needed whereas the husband is pond scum and, like pond scum, pretty ugly and useless. Family members and friends thinking brother went too far - well, they weren't there during that frightening, emotional time when OP might have died and they didn't feel what brother was feeling. They should shut the heck up as brother reacted with full heart and all the resentment he was feeling in that moment when indifferent hubby finally called. Husband owes wife and her brother a sincere, full apology and then needs to back those apologies up by his behavior, but my guess is that he's not man enough to apologize sincerely, and he couldn't care less about altering his behavior to prove his sincerity in knowing how badly he messed up. I pity how he'll be raising his daughter.
Husbands that ask for paternity tests are ALWAYS cheating. He’s cheating on her and wants a way out.
Husband is absolutely ASCON1, but OP's brother doesn't get to skate because he should have handled that differently.
Husband needs to be told to go kick rocks. The AUDACITY to ask your wife, who is that close to giving birth, for a paternity test... And for his mother to want brother (who was there for EVERYTHING) cut out? Nah. OP deserves better.
Havnt even listened to half and hubby is for sure cheating 😮😮
Hubby wasnt relieved to see his wife was alive? He did not go hug her, and apologize right away. He Got angry that he was pranked🤯 Yea, there is no love for her or concern for her well being.
Agree with everyone else on this - he is definitely cheating. Poor OP is going to carryvthe trauma from this experience for a long time, I'm so glad she sought help straight away to stary processing. She sounds like an amazing individual with a great family. Good luck to her
I love the updates
He demands a paternity test, is MIA during the birth, and does not try to bond with his child afterwards.
Yeah, he has a new woman and wants a clean break from not only his wife but his child as well. If his family suspects that's not his child then they won't be bothered if he abandons her.
There is no love here. Even when the brother said she died, he rushed to clear his name not to check on her.
What an awful man, an awful husband, an awful father, and an all around awful human being. Lets hope the daughter takes after the mother.
Asked for a paternity test. Didn't answer the phone dozens of times while shes in labor. He's cheating.
There should be a paternity test done on every kid born, far to many men have supported children only to find out later they were someone else's. That being said, the husband is a massive asshole, she needs a divorce. The brother went too far, but I understand his justifiable anger so he gets a pass.
There are times when the paternity tests show that the mother wasn't the mother, despite just giving birth to the baby...
@@aralornwolf3140 Chimerism that would lead to a false paternity is extremely low, while 30% of DNA paternity tests done in the United States come back negative.
Live call in please!
So they want her to cut off the one person in this story who has her back. Ye gods, what is wrong with people?
EDIT: Man, the more I think about this, the worse it gets. If Dusty is right and he was looking for a way out when he brought up paternity, what does that say about his motive for not answering her call when he knew she was due?
Hell yes to live❤
From all these stories I’ve heard. I wonder if it’s not the MIL is behind the test.
You still brought up paternity after she had already given birth
So he should feel guilty! None of your bunny or I laws helped you. Who was there when you needed it?
Go with yoor gut he frepeatedly brought up a paternity test with zero evedence and when confronted got mad and ran away like a coward He neglected endless phone calls knowing you were close to labor and upon coming back accused you again Ew Tell him to screw off
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While I can understand EVERYBODY being upset, YOU ABSOLUTELY NEVER TELL SOMEONE THIER SPOUSE/FAMILY MEMBER HAS DIED IF IT ISN'T TRUE!!!!! That being said OP, what even makes your idiot of a husband consider your daughter isn't his as well? Is he just that generally untrusting of you? I'd wait to make any decisions until you're recovered, but I'd be looking at your relationship with your husband long and hard.
I know it had to be a hard decision to leave your husband, but it sounds like you had very good reasons to do so. If your reaction to HIM being the one to make medical decisions for you if incapacitated was that bad, your decision was correct. You can have a living will/medical directive made that specifically names a person(s) other than your husband to be the person to make those decisions, cutting him out of that loop.
Agree with commenters, getting a PI depends on many different things. You do need to speak with your lawyer about this OP. Best wishes.
As a mom of three. I have two boys. I do not understand women’s hesitation or getting paternity testing done. Over third of our children being born in the US have the incorrect father on the birth certificate and father paying for them. Now I am not saying she is a cheater. I don’t believe that. But it will be better for you as the mom in the long run. If you do the paternity test. You have done everything in your power to, make him happy. I would also request if the test is going to be done, that the people who were pushing it hard might not have contact with us with us for the rest of our lives, if other than the father himself. And that he requires therapy after the testing is done. This will benefit the mom and gives her good footing for the future ( whatever it brings). He is not necessarily saying you’re cheating. He is saying he has problems. This might not be about you. This might be about his insecurities, his cheating, or other things going on in his life that you’re unaware of and he might not be able to express or communicate with you. But it benefits you to have it done in the long run.
Ok, this guy is the a-hole. And I hope she getting everything she needs and wants from him in the divorce.
Youre much kinder than me - if I ever have a baby and the father asks me for a paternity test I’d seriously consider divorce 😂🤦♀️
@@Spearsy1995 not at all, but when you go the court they will see you have done everything asked of you and more. Who do you think the judge will look at favorably? I bend down that road be for, not for DNA but still.
Honestly I would have said go ahead get a test. Her saying f u and taking off is making him feel like whoever put a bug in his ear is correct. Husband was an asshole for ignoring all calls, brother is asshole for saying that, you’re an a hole for not trying to truly discuss why he felt that way.
I almost died giving birth it was traumatic. However I am a female who believes paternity test should be mandatory married or not. So guess I am an a hole too.
Paternity tests should be mandatory so that men don’t get trapped. She had no reason to say no. Everyone’s saying he’s cheating because he was a paternity test. Maybe SHES cheating and that’s why she’s refusing. He should have a test done anyways. And the prank was not a prank. He lied and said his wife died.