The parents don't have a single drop of tear while talking about the death of their son. Their voices don't shake while talking about that devastating incident.
If the father has guts to offer the option to marry her off to his second son on national TV without feeling any guilt or shame, imagine what all they must have said to her in private! It is natural for any woman to run away from such in-laws. If "communication" was the only pain point, they would not have riased so much commotion in media.
What if the situation was reversed? The bahu dies and the son is the next of kin and gets everything. Nobody in society would expect him to stay with in laws and take care of them or give all the benefits to girls parents. They are also parents of deceased right? That sums up indian society who just can’t see a women happy in life. In laws and society are with women only if she constantly suffers.
If girl dislikes the setup of the society why move to Boy's house why , better take him to girls house or stay in separate house where girl and boy contribute equally.
@@ritakujur6073 Bahu can stand on her own, why she needs anyone else? Money should be equally divided between Bahu ha parents, unless boy has declared differently.
I lost my father at 15 years. I remember the environment at that time. Mere to Dada dadi bhi nahi the. Do bade papa aur unki bachhe. Jo government se documentation hone aayi thi puri family ka naam upar likhwaya gaya tha aur mera aur mummy niche the. Ek pe ek puri family mere papa pe dependent ho gayi. It's easier to bash the widow but the ground reality is puri family becomes the gold digger.
your situations were different bro . atleast you born at that time but she is alone ,she grabbed all the money and get marry to another person and will roast her future husband because she is now financially strong and she will eventually become narcissistic. Jai hind jai jawan
His parents are not only disrespectful for their son untimely death but also towards love of his life. Why father is giving choices as he does not have any right to impose choices on widow and being a part of family..as they are well to do..they can give property share of Late Anshuman to his wife and set a good social example n that would be justice n honour to the late Anshuman. Let her live peacefully and grief too as she has lost her better half n need a peaceful life without any social dramas
Bete ka balidaan itna bada aur parents ka dil itna chhota ki bahu ko hi zaleel kar daala. Parents ne bete ke itne bade balidaan ka meaning hi Zero kar diya. Kuch problem thi bhi family mei but fir bhi wo national issue nhi ban na chahiye tha. Social media unko wo chakra laakr nhi dega. They spoiled their relationship with bahu forever. 😢
@@vijaygovind2134भाई its not easy! प्यार को खोना और पति को खाना , इससे बड़ा कोई दर्द नहीं है भाई ! मत करो तुलना किसी के प्यार की किसी के दर्द की ! जिस पर बीती होती है उसे ही पता होता है ! दोबारा शादी करना इतना आसान नहीं जैसा आप बोल रहे हैं , पूरे जीवन लोग दर्द में जीते हैं 🙏🏼
Army gives NOK to wife after marriage reason being so that if something unfortunate occurs the dependent on deceased can live independently. Especially if you take example of someone residing in village and or belonging to non officer rank , sometimes the woman has no awareness about being the NOK and is dependent on others for her livelihood , NOK enables her to live with dignity
@@AshimaArora_ This was made decades ago Now it needs change Because thousands of wife left old age parents alone & had taken all the money + Pension Kargil has dozens Even Phulwama 2019 Attack had one & thousands in other security forces Ask from Millitary they don't speak about it because not much freedom is allowed due to Security Reasons But those who are Retired can tell about this Retd. Wing Commander - Pushkal Dwivedi Thats why Madhya Pradesh Government has different Pension rules for State Government Employees
Let me share my story, my father died in 1995, after his death, my grandfather and his sons became like devil for my mother and me, they treated us like a outsider and fought almost every night . They secretly put name of dada, dadi in money of my father which was just 4 lakh. Dada was headmaster retired and his other two sons were employed, they don’t want my mother to get job offered by government on compensatory ground after father death, instead wanted to make career of his unemployed son by giving job to him.Dada also put his name in land bought by my father so after dada death, land distributed to his other sons and daughter . So huge injustice was done. I think wife sd be given all money if father is getting pension and if money is too less even to support wife , and if wife stayed unmarried with kids then all money sd go to wife becz she has all responsibility of her kids on her shoulders in this nasty world … Generally father of demise wants to distribute money of demised son in to other siblings which is wrong morally and ethically, unfortunately me and many like me had suffered becz of poor vision of policy maker …
Policies are clear, since his perents drawing army pesion they are not dependent on his son secondly they got share of amount been paid by state govt + Army group of insurance. Pesion will go to her wife full. Widow is not claiming any property but the greedy In laws wants to marry her to their yonger son just to keep all the benefits with them. Thia case shows even for parents money matters most. 😢
Her father said about daughter marriage to there in laws After that in laws presented 3 options Do not marry Marry to younger brother Marry with someone else How can it be a forced decision when her parents talked about marriage + in laws gave option choices to them They said if she wants to marry again then wherever she wants to marry we will get married her from this house
@@Priyaykanth2her father said that she is too small for these things, does not mean marriage only, may be they wanted her to pursue studies. Neither her parent not the in laws have right to take such decisions on her behalf.
This is one of the Sensible interview after so many medias were throwing dirt on Daughter in law & supporting this greedy parents with low mentality, no morality & ethics
Thank you sir. Finally somebody had to speak this out. Father in law publicly discussing marrying off his daughter in law to another son is so disgusting. Smriti is such a brave and courageous lady. How can she live with such sick mentality people? She had to leave that house eventually.
Yes, absolutely. And they want her to marry their younger son cos of all the money that she is getting as a widow ghar ka paisa ghar me reh jaye. I have seen a similar case happening with one of my distant relatives fam so that widow lady ka paisa n ghar jo gov ne diya wo usi ghar me reh jaye. It’s all about money.
Aajkal greedy and coward person ko couragious kaha jata hai. Ek bahu parents ki seva se bachne ke liye bhag gayi. Ye couragious hai. Kya hoga desh ka bhavishya.
Mai khud army wale ki wife hu 4saal ki shadi me unki death ho gae us time me 3 month pregant thi pr mere in laws mujhe ghr se nikal diya aur department nd samaj me ye bola gya ki paisa le k bhag gae dusri shadi kr legi... Aj meri beti 3saal ki h wo log ajtk ise dekhne nii aaye na mujhe lene.. To aise saas sasur ka kya bole..
Thank you for concluding this session with the statement..."Maa apne bacho ka khilona bhi sambhal ke rakhti hai...yeh to insaan hai". I think it sums up everything!
One thing that has come out is not a single person cares about "love" in this country. Had it been any where else we would never had this discussion about parents. What the wife deserved, she got.
@@shazyyadav abhi I think last year or may be last to last year eak girl shaheed hui shaadi ko 2 saal hi hue tahi bacche nahi thai paise pati ko mile ladki je maa baap ko nahi …..wha tho koi nahi bola ki ladki ke maa baap ko bhi milna chaahiye jabki in this case the boys parents also get 75 lakhs and the have one more young boy and girl…..bhai shadi ke baad ldki ladke ki hui ladka lakdi ka baaki sab baad ki baat hai ye baat ladki ke maa baap tho samjhte hai lakin kuch ladko ke maa baap ko ye baat samjh nahi aati
In one interview maine suna sasu mom said humare culture ki hoti to aisa nahi krti 😊it means shadi ko lekar hi pehle se issue tha but beta k marji k aage nahi chali ,now its not about respect ,its about ego that n baccha tha aur five months ki marriage thi just ,how can she walk like this ,we should decide her future 😮
It’s not about how she walk out, it’s about kirti chakra not been seen or held by parents, any parent would want to have last remnants of their child and frankly their demand was majorly to govt with respect to nok in cases like theirs, both parents and wife are in grief and both should be able to respect and resolve this issue as sensibly as can. But this whole issue has blown out of proportion and unnecessary and disrespectful talk now is making highlight for news.
It’s true that in laws bought this issue in media, but then question is Why?, what i can recall from the first interview of in laws is that there was some inauguration of their sons statue and they wanted to have Kirti chakra for that event and also wanted to have conversation with DIL, so they made a call to DIL house and family of DIL said ki dehkte hai or something like that, and then there was no reply. What i will say in this is After marriage Two families get involved and one cannot ghost the whole family of their spouse, especially in a situation like this, it is worst way to handle a critical situation, family of DIL should have been considerate to resolve matters in best way possible, they were not strangers, they were their daughters husband’s parents. So this led to what we are now watching a full blown out situation. Both parties should have been considerate towards eachothers grief, it’s unfortunate not families or media or people are able to treat this issue in considerate and respectful manner.
the father in law is the most shameless man I've ever seen in my life, suggesting that his other son should marry the widowed dil. Like who is he to decide who the two people should marry or not marry? Most pathetic parents
@@nothanks0009 But I have normally seen such selfish and cruel wives who leave the house the moment they get money. Father in laws are not like that everywhere
Yesterday,His mother said in an interview that if the girl belonged to our community from either bihar or UP ,then she would have stayed with us n wouldn't have behaved like the way smriti did . How cheap of her to say such thing about her daughter in law 😖😖😖😖
Mera bhi gao UP Mei h and I swear budhiya ki galat femi h .....atleast woh ladki toh shant h kamse kam .....warna UP wali bahu hoti na danda dash Mei ghusa deti 🤣🤣 . 😂UP wali bahu Iss zamane ki specially 😂bilkul nhi sehti.
To glt kya kaha h? Kashtrani Or shudra mein frk h, kshtrania johar krne baali aurate h Or shudro ki to baat hi kya krni, jmin asman ka frk h , chanakya ne shi kaha h shadi brabr balo mein hi honi chahiye, aesi lomdio ki koi kmi nhi h kshtriye officers k liye
@@saynomore3029 Firstly I'm from brahmin family....aur tum kshatriyo kis baat ka ghamand h bhai akele brahman Parashuram ne nipta diya tha teri jati ko. Kam ghamand rakho aur baat krne ki tameez seekho . tu dekh samjha apne ghar sambhal apni behen beti ka dekh dusro ko baad Mei gyaan dena . Kshatriy raja striyo ka apman krte the kya ?? Tum toh naam ke kshatriya nikle 🤣.
@@ankitamishra0405 parshuram kehi behi to nhi na jinki mata kashtrani thi? Or ja bo hmare purvaj shree laxman g ne sita swyambar mein jinka ghamnd tod tha Ja kehi bo to nhi jo mre purvaj ganga putra bhishm g k age tik nhi paye the?
The greed of the parents is very clearly visible!! What is this stupidity of getting the daughter in law married off to their second son? Is the woman an emotionless object that these people will decide her future? How regressive their thoughts are! Their sons death is just a financial deal for the parents
@@vingelinatanwar7269why not when parents are not behaving in a dignified way this is how they should be talked about just reproducing a person is not enough reason to deserve respect from someone
Not only this, I have seen another video where his mother says that if she would have been from our culture she wouldn't have run away and would have served us. That means they hold a personal grudge against her and have a typical mentality.
Such shameful behavior from parents. Why would she live with her in laws, especially after her husband is no more? What kind of wrong societal expectation is this? What do they want; the Medal of Honor or the pension money? They already got Rs. 65 lakhs and they have their own pension and two children who are doctors. How greedy they are to want what little the poor girl got. They were offering their second son to this girl for marriage to keep the money. No wonder the girl wants nothing to do with them.
Some one like me finally, v unki property ka haq le kr gai no , v bas apna haq le kr gai to so but , bhag gai agar media mn tum asse hi to off media kitne egoistic hoge aap or kon bahu rahegi aapke sath mn , ek girl or woman pr sirf uske father ya husband hi decision le sakte h aap nhi , v bhagi nhi v bas aap logon s dur rehna chati h , aapka Paisa le kr bhagi no jewellery no , bahu beti k maa baap n bhi to usko pala h v bas Pani pe kr badi nhi hui h jo usko koi jarurat nhi h pension ki ,aajkl k educated log asse h to oron s kya expections ho , women are not just toys kisi k sath jod lo tid lo , she need control on her life as well like others
@@ritvivashist5538believe me, it’s a story of every woman who looses her husband. In Laws play dirty game immediately without fail & then label girl as a gold digger because only money matters to them. But how do they accept that they are after money, so play the game, flip it on the girl & play the victim card as they are aged. Sympathy will come to them easily. So smart I must say.
@@pallavisingh6283 seriously….i was also felling bad about it from last to days …kitne cheap parents hai beti ki widow se jo sirf 26 saal ki hai internet per aaker paiso ke liye lad rahe hai jabki khud ko bhi 75 lakh mile hai aur eak aur Javaan beta hai
Parents are right here yrr tum log kya kar rahe ho ye smriti tumhare bhai ki wife hoti aur tumhare parents ke saath aise hi karti and unko itnaaa pain and aansuuuu deke jaati Fir kya aap loggg us ladki ke liye yhi sympathy dikhaate ? thinnkkkkkk Usne pyar nhi sauda Kiya tha ab vo Australia's mei aish kar rahi and what about her husband parents??? @ venuvarma @ pallavi singh
Horrible thing to call a young widow a gold digger! Her husband had nominated her as Next of Kin. Media and family is making it ugly. The father is an ex fauji himself and should be a pensioner too ... they are not left on the streets. I understand that the parents are hurt but we do not know why she left the family.
At the funeral itself her father in-law told her to get married to his doctor son who would then use her pension and arrears throughout his life. They were out right greedy and manipulative with the media and the world 😊
Up government give 15 lakh to parents and 35 lakh to wife and according to ashuman will 50 lakh goes to parents and 50 lakh to wife. But they want all money which is belog to martyr’s wife that why there were trying to so hard to make her as gold digger They such manipulated parents Good for her leave such toxic and narcissist inlaws
I really don't understand the point of saying she can have another man in life..then parents also have other two children and both are doctors in Noida. She does not have any child so obviously parents wealth and property will go to their 2 other children...also parents have received a handsome amount from different funds...they also get their pension...both are physically fit and available to support each other...help uski kari jati hai jo lachar ho...but inko sab kuch milne k bad bhi bahu ka hissa chahiye..when indian parents will stop using their kids as future investment? Everything was fair enough said by parents if Anshumsn was a single child but it seems they are just becoming greedy... Nothing more than that...a marriage is a marriage whether it is for 5 days or 5 years!
@@richanegi2804 now imagine your sister marrying in a family were she becomes a widow and now her inlaws suggests her to marry their younger son, will you be happy with that decision for your sister?
@@Dumplin-1 it is just a suggestion that too he said to media . Now you imagine you brother is dies in line of action and his wife of 5 months takes off to her family on after your brothers 13vi and doesn’t even communicate to you parents and she gets her share of insurance money +life long pension where as your parents after raising a kid are called greedy ? There is another single mother of a Navy officer who is left with no relationship from her son’s widow and grandkid with again no pension only 35 lac and the lady is in 60’s and had only single son . Do you think she should be working in this age ?? Or do you think that money is enough for her life time ???
@@Sumanjoshii 5months ? They were in relationship if 8 years and only for their son did they accept her, and who even suggests their daughter in law to marry their younger son ? And the topic is about this family don't bring others in this mud , Mr anshuvarm parents are heartbroken too but they are still well off, father too has pension , their younger son a doctor , they have a big house , they got compensation for the army, and it's in the nok who gets the officers inheritance now you want to change the very constitution for a minority of family ? That what's the use of keeping that constitution if it can be changed with small matters
I just don't get the 5 months thing. They were in relationship for 8 longggggg yearsssss before marriage. People are saying she'll marry again but what if she doesn't. And she is not with her in-laws because they wanted her to remarry her Devar(younger brother of Mr. Anshuman) They wanted it so that they can control all the benefits that are given only to the spouse. Whether she will remarry or not, it's up to her. Maybe, she can't even think of replacing Anshuman even with his brother. Getting daughter in law remarried to another son in family is what parents wanted which Smriti denied. She's not saying anything that doesn't mean she's wrong.
I don't understand how could they even think of getting her married to her Devar. Custom or not, I'm sorry it's gross. I would be pretty offended if someone suggested this to me on my partner's untimely- God forbid- death.
@@shazyyadavI can only say what I noticed, the father wants to wear the Kirti chakra when the statue of his son is unveiled, I don’t think he can do that as he has not earned it. Second, marry the second son. To me, it just sounded to keep the money in the family. Imagine, I have not heard the mother has said anything. I understand parents do a lot for kids. However, when the kids are married, allow them some breathing room. Unfortunately, many parents have not learned it and want to be in controlling position always.
@@mad_in_2020 mera b Bhai chala gya bt humne uski biwi ko sabkuch with makan de diya jbki usne kbi humari care nhi ki...bt humne yahi socha ki bhai ki wish kya hoti???bs sb easy ho gya
Media and her inlaws has done injustice to the wife of late capt Anshuman singh . She didn't deserve this insensitive treatment snd brutal judgments from our biased uninformed society.
Greedy parents...no sadness seen in the parents...kya karega iss umar mei paisa lekar... And this parent has sent the child to mil school in such a tender age and now trying to claim all these shit....disgusting greedy parents
@@charusaurabh8605 and the reason is they are the equal beneficiary of the amount given by the government and she the gold digger couldn't give them a single penny.
such pathetic parents. omg what is he talking marrying her to the younger son. Treating both deceased son and daughter in law as a commodity. greedy pathetic parents.
Not so. Amongst the Jats and Rajpoots specially, it is the expected behaviour that the deceased boy's parents offer to marry the unfortunate widow to their younger son. It is a chivalrous offer by the parents in terms of custom.
@@vijaygovind2134its not chivalry it’s patriarchy, everyone deciding or advising what a woman should do. if this is happening and is considered chivalrous its a shame.
@@vidhisharma3911 It is chivalry. It is practiced all over country and girls' families are grateful for the same. Please check out your own village. You'll find many such cases.
Indian parents hamesha kahte h aajkl ki" hamne kitni mushkil se paala h bachho ko".Apne bachhe ko paalna to ek happy experience hona chahiye, bachha to bhagwaan ka roop hota h aur apne maa baap ko khushi deta h. Agar bachhe paalna itna kasht ka kaam lagta h inhe to ye bachhe paida hi kyu karte h. Hindu shastra k anusar apne bachhe paalne se pitr rin (ancestral debt) utarta h, iske liye parents ki sewa nhi karni hoti. Bhartiya sanskriti m parents ki sewa karne ko kahi nhi kaha gaya, pahle to log 50yrs ki age k baad jungle chale jaate the vaanprastha and sanyaas ashram m jeene k liye. Pahle log apne bachho par nhi latakte the, balki isko bahut kharab maana jaata tha. Agar parents-child rishta bhi equal give and take ho jaayega to is rishte aur doosre rishton m fark kya rah jaayega. Bhagwaan aur parents kewal dete h, lete nhi h. Isiliye parents ko bhagwaan tulya maana jaata h. Mahabharat yudh k baad paandav raaja ban gaye hastinapur k lekin fir bhi unki maa kunti raajmahal m nhi rahi apne beto k paas, balki wo gaandhari aur dhritrashtr k saath jungle chali gayi sadhna karne.. Kunti n yahi kaha tha ki m apne beto k diye tukdo p kaise pal sakti hu. Aaj indian parents bht laalchi ho gaye h, apne bachho ki khushiyon se inhe lena dena ni h, apne bachho ko insurance policy ki tarah treat karte h. Ye sasur to poora asur hi h, jab ise apni bahu se itni dikkat h to apne doosre bete ki shaadi kyu karna chahta h aisi bahu se? Is umar m itne paise ka kya karega? Ise to already ek pension mil rahi h.
Bs passe ke liye sb log itna gir jata hai ladki ka 8 saal ka love rha aur vo hamesha ke liye chale gaye kis halaat mvo hogi isska koi nai soch raha koi bhi competition passa rupees isska bharpaai nai kar sakta
Aap smaj ni rahe ho, yha khel emotion and insaniyat ka hai, asche log parent kya sobhiko respect karte hei, parent ko to respect koregi, as pas ki logo ko bhi khayal rakhegi
@@ayadavstory9258number of years spent together doesn't matter. Parents were born earlier and the son will get married after attaining certain age so parents will always have more years spent with the son. Thinking this if you prioritize your parents all the time then you should not get married. Live with your parents, do their seva and live alone when they leave this world. If your parents also thought the same, did seva of your grandparents, you wouldn't have been born. You become parent later, first you become husband and wife. It is the institution of marriage that produces children. Respect that.
Hats off to you sir for being so transparent & truthful on such harsh reality of India. True, it’s a suffering a widow undergoes if the husband is not from army background. In laws are so awful & believe me, they literally don’t even accept that the daughter in law has lost her husband, they even taunt, what did you loose? What could be more painful. My heart goes out for all the woman who are undergoing such pain. Lost her husband, being judged with no empathy by her in laws. What a victim phase she has to overcome. How strong she has to become to breathe & strive to live as she can’t end up her own life. So shameful that in laws are labelling her as a gold digger, her most precious thing has been lost, what will be the value of money which she will be after. Show some respect to your son by atleast not talking ill about your his wife. You create an environment where the girl can’t survive with you anymore & now you alleged her of leaving you. Son has left you, this toxicity will kill her too & think if she has a child, then who will look after the kid. Show some humanity if you can’t show love.
Very true. Aaj ke date me koi bhi unke heroism ki baat nhi kr raha. Sab sirf unke parents k interviews ki baate kr rahe hai. And parents thode politically influenced bhi lag rahe hai. Jiss tarah unki maa Rahul Gandhi se milne k baad agniveer ki baate aur NOK me changes ki baate kr rahe hai. As per Indian in laws, bahu ko ek rupaya bhi na mile, sab parents ko mile kyuki bahu ka contribution hi kya hai.
Anshuman Singh's parents are absolutely shameless. They seen to want media attention only. And are treating their son like a commodity. I dont understand how the father can say that I will have my other son married to my bahu . what about her wishes ? This is not stone age.
All these cases show the universal hatred that inlaws have for the Daughters in law. Pls advise Sango Sir, Can a wife legally claim her right in her living husband's income?
Watching this from Canada, this problem only happens in India. Western world marriage creates a separate family (Husband, wife and kids) and parents are your extended family. For the last 20 years, I have only used my parent's information for emergency contacts (they also live here in Canada separately). The government doesn't bother who is your parents once you are 18 (adult).
Yeah, that's a great culture in Canada and virus spreading in India. The parents sacrificed their whole life for you and you have now left them to die alone. If one of them passes away the other will enjoy the loneliness. How come someone treat their parents as extended-family?
Parents had said.. Hum ne to shadi me spoon bhi nahi liya tha..... They expect.. Smriti to take care them.. Whole heartily.. After death of anshuman.. They cant imagine how could she be free.. With compensation.. Amount.. She should be bound to them
@@Jyoti-f9u Then who is she accountable too If not her in laws why is she taking money + pension + kirti chakra In laws demanding kirti chakra & change in Pension Rules for other Parents who are neglected by this System Remeber Kargil War, Pulwama Attack 30 years ago many kargil hero's wife left home after taking All the money & Pension In Pulwama also this happened Thousands of cases which are those Casualties which most People don't know Thats why Madhya Pradesh Government changed Pension Rules for State Government Employees
How can widow be a goldigger? She married a normal guy going as a military doc who dont earn as much as doctors in pvt practice shame on everyone who is calling her that
so sorry to say that every girl is a goldigger. girl never loves a boy/husband... she just select best option among so many options(this happens on full scale if girl is beautiful) films like pyar ka punch nama has not a fictional story... it is so visible in society. This girl's 8 years long love story has potential to become the story of "Pyar ka punch nama-3".
@@vikrantmahnarwala9075 If a girl looks only for money, then boys also looks for beautiful girls, fair skin, slim waist girl only. A guy can be darker skintone but always want a wife with fair skintone. If a wife is unable to bear kids then the husband can easily kick her out of his life and marry other woman to have kids. If the wife dies after marraige the next day husband family forms a search party to find a new wife meanwhile when the woman remarries her whole character is judge. People like have enjoy patriarchy so much. Now its is being question so you are having a problem. Have some compassion. You also have a woman ad wife mother or sister in your life. People are evil not the gender.
The parents are financially comfortable and have their other children. Yet, they are crying for loss of money and not so much for their son. This is truly a sad state of parents. Atleast have some respect for your dead son and show some maturity. No wonder in laws are the biggest reason for marital discord and divorce.
Man, his parents aren't asking for money, they are asking for respect. The way their daughter in law left (changing even the permanent address of the captain) was way too disrespectful
It is not about only them imagine parents who have only don smd lost him as soldier what they should do? And who gave her right to change Anshumans sir address? Why she didn't let his parents touch Anshuman sir's medal?
To bring change revolution zarrori hai. Agar unhe apne bete ka medal b dekne na diya jaye tau kya koi bolega b nahi . Jo start karta hai vo hamesha se bura Banta hai but iska fayda aage auro ko milta hai .There is no harm to express their views.. Media galat tarike se headlines bana k dikha rahi...
@@rajivsharma4396 Very shallow,. opportunistic and cruel wife too who stopped talking to dead soldier's parents and left them mysticiously after getting all money and gold 🪙
For parents, loss of their son, should be the biggest cause to talk. Nothing else. Gain to his wife, should not be discussed at all. This shows that for them, their son was a source of money, whether alive or not. They will not have any affinity to his wife. But they should reapect the relation. Even if it was a shorter duration. She was their son's wife. She is not their daughter. They would not have given the kind of love and appreciation to her, that she would have felt happy or comfortable to stay with them. She may take a long time to move on. And if she wants to move on, that does not mean that she should not get compensation. She has lost his husband. (She had longer relation with him from before marriage as well) Money, will not replace that relation.
Don't judge a person by 1-2 statements from any interview. 'Parents are doing all this just for money ' - Is this the center of all the words that his ( Veer Anshuman Sir ) parents said in the interview? He was ready to give away all the ancestral property to make schools. After all this how can you blame his parents that they are doing all this just for money? Remember, his wife can marry another man to begin a new life but the parents can't get their lost son anymore.
@@arghadeepdas2004 the fact that they are talking about the duration of marriage, to compare the compensation she received, shows that they are talking about monetary compensation. Also, they are marring the sanctity of the noble cause that their son died for, with all these comments in public. People are talking and taking sides now. Because they went public with their issue with their DIL. Their son and what he has done, should have been the topic of discussion. But sadly, that is not the case
@@arghadeepdas2004 also, please note. They still have each other (mother and father) and another son and another daughter. DIL, has lost her husband. She may or may not remarry, but it will and can never be the same. Just the fact that she has an option to remarry, does not.mean that she has lost less. Would you say the same, if parents of a married woman would have come out, claiming why husband got compensation? A girl's parents also love and care for.their daughter the same way. But legally, after marriage, they have no right on any of hr income or property or compensation (without a will).
@@aanchalthakur322 I can understand the fact that its was big loss for the woman who lost her husband, It can never be returned to her. It might be true that parents were greedy and talking more about money than their lost child but after great mental breakdown how can a woman block ATM, change phone number, not even a single time she requested to touch the 'Kirti Chakra' to his parents? The greed may be from both the ends. [Ma'am, I'm no one to say what changes should be done in the society but we should think from both the ends] 🙏🙏
Toxic in laws , reason - if they actually are in need of money rather than creating controversy legally step lete , ye sab kya kuch v media mai bole ja rhe hai
I admit I judged harshly by looking at the thumbnail of this video. But I was wrong about this video. I don't understand why are the Parents so mindless that they are vilifying and maligning the memory of their own warrior son. He died for our nation, let him be remembered and revered as a Hero. But No, they have to wash their dirty laundry in the public and now when you search his name, all you get are videos discussing about how his widow is a "gold digger". They could have easily settled this in private but they involved media, who will distort anything for some TRP. These parents did great disservice to the memory of Great Captain Anshuman Singh. And what the f was about getting his widow married to Devar so that she stays in family ?! I lost all respect for them right there. Thank God, she left.
Her father said about daughter marriage to there in laws After that in laws presented 3 options Do not marry Marry to younger brother Marry with someone else How can it be a forced decision when her parents talked about marriage + in laws gave option choices to them They said if she wants to marry again then wherever she wants to marry we will get married her from this house
@@Priyaykanth2 Look Brother, the second option should not even cross his mind in a civilized society. The father is educated, himself has served in Army and seen the world and yet he can't understand that the widow and younger brother are people with their own lives and personalities. Forget the widow, what about the younger brother ? Does he not have a right to choose his own life partner ? How would he look in front of his GF (suppose he has one), colleagues and friends that his father is going around on National TV, presenting him as an option for re-marriage to his sister in law ?
@@Escapist... I agree they should ask from there Son also about Marriage with Smriti It could be they asked from him But main thing here is People are saying on Social Media as first her in laws said about her marriage + with her brother in law They are saying in laws is forcing her for marriage, they were torturing here, etc Thats why I wrote above Comment
@@Priyaykanth2 Even if we assume that the younger son consented to the marriage, do you know what else the father said that no one has picked up on yet ? He also said if Smriti chooses to live as a widow for rest of her life with them, they'll put the first child of their younger son in her "god" as in lap for her to raise. This father is already deciding the fate of a child not even in this world, without even asking the mother of that child. This is sad. I'm sorry but all this shows his extremely controlling nature over deciding the life choices of his family members. Also, I understand where you were coming from. Peace.
@@alkapradhan806 as if daughter in law have sympathy for Parents Parents are demanding Kirti Chakra They raised the Child & make him a Soldier Why she left Parents alone in Old Age Isn't her duty to take care of them Don't say it's not her duty She gets right in Property to Pension
@@Priyaykanth2a couple is not ALONE. Stop calling parents ALONE. They have each other and their created other babies. Its the Girl who is left all ALONE. A hindu marriage is not a small thing, the rituals of all 5 elements are used to anchor in the psychie of the girl that her only family is with the husband. 5 months may be a small time, but that one big event of marriage changes everything for a woman, including her identity and cuts the roots behind. Noone can give her back her identity which she was born with n lived with for 23 24 years . The name of her husband is encrypted in her, n her history for lifetime.. that wouldn't go back to default. Even parents will move on with other children n their children, n go on to grow n die one day.
@@djrowlingable तो फिर अपने पति का घर छोड़ा क्यों अंशुमन के जाने के 2 हफ्ते के अंदर ही फोन उठाने बंद कर दिये स्मृति के पिता WhatsApp message में बात टालते रहे कहीं महीनों तक अभी हम सोचेंगे, अभी हमारे पास समय नहीं है स्मृति ओर उनके मायके से कोई नहीं आया अंशुमन कि पुजा के लिए अंशुमन का पता सरकारी जगहों पर बदलवा दिया अंशुमान का ATM Block करवा दिया शादी कि बात खुद स्मृति के पिता ने कही अंशुमन के पिता से तभी तो उन्होंने 3 चुनाव का प्रस्ताव रखा विधवा का जीवन शादी कहीं ओर जिससे स्मृति कि इच्छा हो या अपने छोटे बेटे से ओर बात सिर्फ अंशुमान के माता-पिता कि नहीं है हजारों - लाखों ऐसे केस है जहा पत्नी सबकुछ लेकर चली गई ओर माता-पिता बेसहारा हो गए एक जवान के पिता लखनऊ में रिक्शा चलाते हैं उन्होंने खेत बेचकर पढ़ाया था अपने बेटे को ओर पुलवामा हमले के जवान के माता-पिता के पास दवाई तक के पैसे नहीं हैं ओर सेना ही नहीं केंद्र ओर राज्य दोनों कि सरकारी संस्थाओं में ये समस्या है मध्यप्रदेश में सरकार ने पेंशन का कानून बदल दिया था वहां थोड़ी राहत मिली लोगों को पर वो सिर्फ मध्यप्रदेश राज्य के कर्मचारी पर ही लागू होता है केन्द्र ओर अन्य राज्यों पर नहीं
Thank you , for supporting the girl...this family has insulted there son,s death ... matter is only of money, they just want pension and all other money for themselves, the father himself said he is doing law and will fight for the pension matter in court , it is clear he is greedy man..Girl should get all support form airforce, and I think they are supporting her after seeing the whole situation.
बिल्कुल सही कहा आपने आप अपने बेटे के प्यार को कैसे इतना बुरा बता सकते हो after death of your son, क्यों कर ले वो आपके दूसरे बेटे से शादी,उसने प्यार किया उस dynamic person से,बहुत पुरानी और बेकार बात,loss दोनों का है पर आप किसी को मजबूर नहीं कर सकते,बात अगर पैसों की है तो खुल कर कहें, मुद्दे से हटे नहीं और culture की बात से दबाने की कोशिश ना करें
@@gauravsinghrajawat9939aur kuch. Maa baap ke ek beta nd beti aur hain. Jo doctor hain . Vo kyu nhi karenge unki seva. Sari baat paise ki hai. Agar Bahu ko paise nhi mile hote to ye maa baap usko khud hi nikal dete. Maine itne case apni close family me dekh liye hain jaha pati ke marne ke baad wife nd bacho ko terahvi ke baad ghar se nikal dete hain. Fer vo apne pote poti ka bhi nhi sochte .
Maine ek case apne known me aisa bhi dekha hai ki jisme shaheed ka paisa maa baap ko mila nd vo log ek dam se bhut rich ho gye nd Aaj ke time me vo pita nd uska dusra beta pure gaon me gundo ki tarah ghumte hain. Kisi ko bhi rok ke Peet dete hain. Dhamkate rahte hain. Sare gaon me aatank macha ke rakha hai ke ham to shaheed ke pita nd bhai hain. Kabhi nhi dekha un logo ko ke vo apne bete ke liye dukhi ho. Hulladbaji karna, girls ko chherna. Sharab ke theko me baith ke aate jate logo ko tang karna. Kahi pe bhi apne logo ko bula ke maar pitai karna. Bas yahi chalta hai unka.
@ninanani4085 unke do bete the, ek jo beta khatm ho gaya uska karz kaun chukayega jiska medal aur paisa utha liya, uska parents ka farz kaun uthayega. Dusra beta apne hisse ka karega. Ayyashi ke liye shadi ki thi kya.
@@gauravsinghrajawat9939parents handicap hai kya???? N itna hi sewa chaiye parents ko apne bete ko palu se.. Chain se band k rakhte... Sewa karte... Paise liye na bete k marne k baad... Woh kuy liye... Woh ladki jawan hai.... Apni khud k life hai uski... Ye parents kya marne pe aaye hai kya😡😡😡😡😡 sewa.. Aisa gussa aata hai na... Itne laalchi parents hai... Apne itne ache bete ki maut ka tamasha kar rahe hai.... Nalayak parents.. Sharm nahi aati inko...social media pe muh utha k bakbak karne aaye hai... Inka muh khuta kaise hai.. Yaha sewa nahi chaiye kya😡😡😡😡
If it was her instead of her husband who died, would her parents be ok to go to media and speak like that about her husband. Disgusting patriarchal Indian society
@@_1345610 crore worth man, but full time be housewife, no outside roaming without husband and listen to mother in law without questioning her, many will accept such deal
This issue has nothing to do with patriarchy. It's all about strong exploiting weak. Women also do exploit whenever they get power. Get out of victim mindset.
How does the fact that other children are doctors change the picture? the question in the parents' minds is the loyalty to the girl and the memory of their son.
@@Ratnakar6486 I have already said "the question in the parents' minds is the loyalty to the girl and the memory of their son". Amongst the Jats and Rajpoots specially, it is the expected behaviour that the deceased boy's parents offer to marry the unfortunate widow to their younger son. It is a chivalrous offer by the parents in terms of custom.
@@vijaygovind2134Haa toh nhi karna usko devar se shadi apna gyaan apne pass rakho woh bechari toh kamse kam shant h .....Agar koi UP wali bahu milti na ram kasam dash Mei danda daalke Marti aur media pe aakar bezzat krke jati . Hats off to smriti anshuman singh ki unhone apne late husband ki respect Mei uske Maa baap ko internet pe kuchh nhi boli. Interview dekhne ke baad mujhe toh ek baar nhi laga ki Maa baap ko beta khone ka dukh h unhe bas ye baat ka dukh h ki kirti Chakra smriti singh ko kyu Kiya. Kalyug ke Maa baap. Dukh Mei woh bechari h jo 8 Saal long distance relationship mein thi phir 5 Mahine baad pati ki death hogyi. Lots of respect 🙏🏻 🫡 for Smriti anshuman singh ❤️
@@vijaygovind2134it's chivalry because of patriarchal society. The girl is well educated and from a more famous family than anshumans she is free to do as she likes
Why would she live with this kind of parents ..they could have solved this issue at home but parents are seeming to be greedy..even they have another son ..they are not alone ..but the girl is all alone
@@AkhilKumarAki in case of vikram batra ,girl being only girlfriend never married ..nobody asked if she got anything ,why in this case .she is the legal wife and has all rights ,if parents got compensation from up gov so no point of media attention..both girl and parents have gone through equal trauma .girl gave 8 years to this relation ..not easy to move on easily sir ..but here both will have to live with the loss and move on
@@AkhilKumarAkishe can have boyfriends and husbans is male thinking and fantasy, there is nongurantee she will be happy with new bf. There ianchnace will be alone also
@@RanjithKumar-fs9gn that guarantee no one can give. and it applies to either sides. But yes one thing is guaranteed i.e. those parents wont get their son back. And this odd response is for people who think oddly that parents will easily get over as of another son is a substitute and not a male fantasy. BTW even if it is, I am pretty sure it applies to both male and female else às well. Someone who is so shallow even after being a Soldier's wife would definitely have some plans
@@satwinder210sk4 I am speaking from.the side where I see Anshhuman' wife left or stopped talking.to.his parents the moment ceremony was.done and dusted. So there is a courtesy and intent that can be seen very.clearly. Honestly if you talk about.this money exchange part I need to check again. so there are two.things legal and moral. If comes from upbringing while no one likes dowry, one.should also focus on not considering what ever gold is given to lady over marriage as stree dhan ;). She took the gold as well I heard. But honestly I need to refer that part again if I want to comment. My concern is being practical and shameful is two different things My another concern is when a man commits suicide due to false cases, I hardly see any girl commenting over it and never talk about it. Dont believe me check such posts and you will come to know the dark reality. And this uncle would be super intelligent in other aspects and yes he is but here I see him as a true opportunist person and a narc We have only handful of girls left in india who want to speak about men. Honestly whenever I had such conversations around with my female friends I never see any curiosity to know more or.feel.bad. There is always an awkward silence and makes me feel only about they are feeling bad since its only about wining or losing the argument :(
Aj kal not only females but ab to males and senior citizens pura time victim card play karte hai Parents accept nahi karte lekin at times apne hi bachho k liye bahut toxic ho jate hai aur bachho ko guilt trip m dal dete hai
These parents will not loose nothing by doing all these but poor girls name is getting deatroyed ...she has a full life ahead ..she is just 26 years old...she has a living
8 साल तक वह रिलेशनशिप में थे इसका मतलब वह एक दूसरे के साथ थे तो अगर पति करने के बाद बहू कीर्ति चक्र दी जाए तो उसे पर बहू का ज्यादा हक है और वह अभी जवान है तो अपनी आगे की जिंदगी कैसे जिए यह वह खुद तय करेगी👍👍👍in support of the bahu here 👍👍
May be he is property dealer, that doesn't take away his feelings for the son and his daughter in law. But what appears here is that he is fighting for the honor of his martyr son. What I feel, is that everyone should work jointly for the honor of the Martyr Capt Ansuman Singh. Here it seems Bahu and his father is interested in monetary aspects only as they haven't attended the last rite of his martyr husband and Son in law. As long as they do not clarify their part, emotions are on parents side. It's totally one sided case
This case no body think about girl's parents. What they do . Only 5 month marriage and so much controversy in media what they do. Please think about them also
Thing is you become a wife as soon as you get married. Even if it is one day old. Apne pati se Chudwane me to tum girls nhi dekhti ho ki abhi hi 1 ghante pehle hi shadi hui hai
Even the law says wife has the first right b core the mother .don't understand where is the issue .It is very bad on the parents part that they r washing dirty linen in public.Parents want the daughter in law to get married to their other son which is obnoxious.
It is better not to marry with armed forces officers. Atleast better than this public humiliation . I will suggest all the girls I know to not to . As after death in this field a lot of money is involved and money bhale bhale ko pagal bana deti hai. That panipat case it really horrible the child is really small . So don't destroy your daughters life on such witch hunt
You are small minded. It's one of the case based on this don't come to wrong judgement where you you don't want girl to marry Indian soldiers. They are protecting you and all of us. If all women don't come forward to marry soldier then soldiers will not go to boarder to fight. Simple as that. If such situation comes then government will then make rule that you women have to marry soldier. Simple as that. Therefore don't hate their are good wifes, husbands and good parents and inlaws too. Where in this case wife should marry again and she has all the right to lead her life.wife and Parents got compensation according to rules.
@@underratedidiot4568Tu krle bachhe paida fir 😂 Tu apne ma baap ki dekhbal nhi kar skta isliye shadi krke naukrani laato honyr 😂 Jara sudhar jao wrna aese hi rote rehna.
Best line.. Ma to apne bavho ka toy b smhal k rakhti h. Ye girl to uska pyar thi. Kyo ni us choti si girl ke sath ham log khade nhi ho rhe jiski life hi palat gyi h. Vo kitna toot gyi hogi khud ko sametne m pta nhi kitna time lagega usko. Uske mata pita siblings use kis tarh samhal rhe honge koe apne bahan beti p ye bat lga k dekhe. Vo kis tarah se apni life dobara normal jiyegi kitna time usko normsl hone m lagega kisi ko andaja b nhi. Pta nhi vo kitni subhe jagne par khud ko samjhayegi ki ab vo akeli h. 8sal ka love tha uska. Areng marriage m girl k lia kitna mushakil hota h face krna ye halat. Uski to love marriage thi plz use jeene do. Army man ki wife ko virangna kahte h. Please respect this lady and dukh m uska sath dena chahiye. Ek beti or ek bahan jb window ho jaye to girl ki family k uske life ko fir sattel krna bhot mushkil hota h. Jis family ka koe member chala gya unko sabr fir b aa jata h. But jiski life hi bikhar jaye unka koe andaja nhi lga sakta
if wife brings dowry its for in laws and husband whatever she earns is for in laws and husband during her stay she works for the household and for the parents in laws, gives up her parents' need. Then why husband's money should go to parents? why people vilifying the wife. The parents are creating drama, they want money in exchange of their son's demise, pathetic! They already get pension have 2 more children working as doctors, life set hai. Indian men especially in army are know to give half or more of their salary to their parents and woman generally never has any rights on money thanks to patriarchy, though i would hope this is changing. Money could've been shared had Capt's parents were struggling but this isn't the case they are well of. A widow's life is full of struggle in indian society money is the bare minimum that is given.
@@vijaygovind2134 so what?? She has right to marry and the money is given to her because she was married to capt. What is the premise of your argument? Will marrying somebody else would disqualify her past of wife of captain>? watch 22:20
As an Indian born/educated woman living in the West. Found this channel with Mr. Amit Sangwan as the guest extremely balanced progressive and hopeful for Indian society in 2024. Valid arguments that children not commodities/parents "sacrifice" when all parents look after their children life goes on/not staying with in laws/materialism with regard to Chakra etc. Very well articulated and many thanks .
What is the point of discussing her personal issues in public on media ? They want money and award for which they want the dil to marry their son so that she stays in their house and the money and honour will also be at her in-laws house and now she took decision against their wish they are creating issues in public to humiliate her and trying to take away her right to live with dignity. In greed of honour they are compelling her dil to live life as they want for her The decision she took is right for her . At such sensitive and tough time instead of supporting her they are humiliating her in public just for their selfish reasons. It's better she move on and live her life on her own terms. "sach me sass Sasur kabhi maata pita nhi bn pate apni bahu ke" they have proved this.
I am a continuous viewer of your videos guru ji,when i came to know about this case ,the first thing came into my mind was a dialogue from your video that-shadi ke baad ladka ek east facing plot bn jata hai,jiski registry har koi apne naam krana chahta hai ,biwi ,bhai -bhehan bhi aur ma-baap bhi.and see es shaheed fauji ki registry to uski shadat ke baad bhi apne naam krane ki jaddo-jehad chl rhi hai.
Parents are toxic! This family is hostile towards her. No doubt the chivalrous, deceased husband made her NoK. He ensured a comfortable life for her in case he was no more...
@reenabansal284 then why do they want the rules about NoK to change? who gets to be the NoK is solely about money. The parents are clearly wrong here & didn't hesitate to go to the media and talking nonsense about their widowed daughter in law. After all, she meant something to their son. In a way, they proved that once the son was no more, they didn't care about her. Selfish people to the core
The widow of Swargiya Anshuman Singh is correct in cutting ties after the parents decided to do politics over their deceased son. The parents are under pappu's influence and want to get more money out of their son's tragedy. It is blatantly out in the open. If the widow was a gold digger then she wouldn't have taken his clothes and personal belongings as they hold no monetary value but emotional ones
Irrespective of who is right or wrong in this matter, Mr. Sangwan is making a lot of valid points and is making solid statements, which might sound bitter since they are true. Indian society has a lot of work to do, especially when it comes to in-laws/bahu situation (some parts of the country are more regressive than the others). Indian parents want to get their sons married off quickly, and then ideally want to have full control of their lives - bachche paida karne chahiye, kitne bachche paida karne chahiye yada yada - this is an area where the western society is really practical - parents and children lead their independent lives, live separately and maintain good relationships, meeting on special occasions. Parents move to be closer to their children too, if the children need help. This whole joint family system is India is the cause of several issues. Husband's parents visiting their married son and staying at his place for months is horrible too! Same applies to girl's parents too. Every couple and every family unit needs their privacy and space. Even though a couple might be in love, it makes sense for boys and girls to wait until age 30 to get married, since that's when maturity begins to kick in and girls are able to take a strong stance on what they want in a relationship. Also, it's high-time that couples have hard-conversations before marriage about having children, family expectations etc, although not all situations can be predicted in advance and every marriage will have some bumps along the way. A lot of Indian girls are choosing to marry non-Indian boys and vice-versa, since family drama is reduced to minimum (hopefully) since boy's parents do not have much expectations from the non-Indian bride. Else in some Indian cultures there is so much drama related to Indian bahu that bahu ne aisa nahi kiya, hume mithai nahi dee, what not - list is endless!
Dude.dont use such word for particular clan.i am from bihar.yaha devar bhabhi ko maa bete k tarah mana jana hai.generalize mat karo.har insaan ki apni apni soch hoti hai
I so much wanted you to put forward your opinion in this case, guruji. And here it comes. Clearly, you are so right. It's a huge disrespect to the late Captain and his beloved wife by the toxic parents.
Hats off to you Amit Sir. This is the first time I am listening to you. I am also a parent of a son. What kind of sacrifice???!!!! Why to give birth if any parent thinks in this way. No one forced us to become parents. Then what kind of sacrifice?????
पहली बार दो लोगों को अवार्ड लेते देखा है । अगर शहीद शादी-शुदा होता है तो अवार्ड पतनी ही रिसीव करती है । एक तरफ विधवा व्याह को encourage करते हैं यहां कयों तकलीफ हो रही है ? लोगों के कमेंट्स पढं के लगता है कि आने वाले वक्त में लोग deand करेंगे कि शहीद की पतनी को शहीद के साथ सती होना चाहिए ।
@@prabhasingh5064 I hv been watching since 1959 when i was just 8 year old .My chachaji awarded Ashok Chakra by pt. Jawahar lal Nehru. Maximum my close family members n extended family members served in defence . I my self is Retired defence officer's wife. So witnessed closely many award functions. I hv seen someone escorts d recipient in some cases, when d person is not able to walk . May b I hv seen this for d first time .
Ye parents apne hisse ka paise lene ke baad bhi Jo kar rhe h...wo betiyon ke maa baap ko itna Dara denge ki army walon ko log betiyan dene se darenge. Pati kitna bhi accha ho, nominee banake gya ho ...maa baap ka bhi hissa de ke gya ho phir bhi unke Shahid ho jaane par in-laws kitna mental torcher kar sakte h isse kon maa baap apni beti ki shaadi kar payenge. Paise kitne bhi mil jaaye koi parents beti ko vidhawa dekhna nhi chahta, but sirf wo ek balidan aur pride hi h jisko lekar sab kuch jhel jaate h. Lekin wife ko defame karke ye pride bhi chhin loge to uske paas kya bachega. Wo to nhi mang rhi property me hissa ya maintanence family se.
Thankyou so much for this video🙏🏻. I have all respect towards captain’s wife and parents. But here I can share my experience as an army wife. Being an army wife entails a level of sacrifice that goes beyond words. In the three years of my marriage, I have come to understand the profound emotional toll it takes. Unlike in civilian life, where couples often have the luxury of regular time together, an army wife must endure long periods of separation and navigate the complexities of a long-distance relationship. We often find ourselves handling everything on our own, from household responsibilities to raising children, without the immediate support of our partners. Every small moment together, like sharing a cup of tea or taking an evening walk, becomes a cherished luxury. These brief times together are rare and precious, and they underscore the deep emotional sacrifices we make. While civilian families can rely on having their spouses around for daily support and companionship, we live with the constant knowledge that our husbands' duties may call them away at any moment. Our lives are defined by this uncertainty and the need to be resilient and self-sufficient. The sacrifices we make are profound and pervasive, affecting every aspect of our lives. It's a reality that can be difficult to fully convey, but it's one that shapes us into strong, resourceful, and deeply appreciative partners.
I'm glad that i watched this video....makes lot of sense! By laid down rules, an army wife stands to some benefits after her husband's demise. In India, the girl is expected to be subservient to her in-laws whatever the case, and even to stay on as a 'widow' ...to continue to 'serve them' (but why?...she has parents...and her life of her own). An educated and independent girl of today will not abide by this 'culture'. Even the suggestion by the 'in-laws' to keep her with them and marry her off (as a daughter) or even to marry her to their second son, is preposterous! They should gracefully let her move on...with their blessings.
@@Sushila-lm7xm जो माता पिता अपने बेटो का गृस्थ जीवन मानसिक रूप से स्वीकार नहीं करते वो ही हमेशा मां बाप होने की दुहाई देके फालतू बचकानी हरकत करते हैं और ड्रामा बनता है
What kind of father or mother wants to claim NOK benefits from his own son's death. He himself must be geting pension still he wants more money, that too out of such a tragedy. And the father in law's proposition of suggestimg her to marry younger brother is so medieval, repulsive and disgusting. They just want to retain the money in family even if it means doing something so repulsive. Which woman would want to live among such regressive people.
Sad that he passed away soo soon. 8yrs long distance love, and few months of marriage. Its a big hit. Whoever knows love, they know the pain. Parents losing chidren big hit too.
Parents are selfless but in this case it is not so. Shaurya Chakra is for the individual's bravery and not for others to take credit. Its an honour to be the family members of bravehearts .
Beautiful line “maa toh apne bete ke khilona ko bhi pyar se rakti hai, toh uske jeevansathi jise woh pyar karta hai… usko kaise izzat de nahi sakte” I have a 10 yr old son and will ensure I will love him and respect his decision and give love and affection to his wife and stay away from their marriage life. Let the current generation take this step and not let our suffering pass on to next generation.
In my opinion the money should be with the wife to continue her life and The Kirti Chakra would be with the martyr's family which is his own house where his parents live wife was married to the Captain and according to Indian Tradition and Culture , the newly wed wife's home is now where her husband's childhood has passed and his parents live so if wife decides to leave it then it is fine but she should not the Kirti Chakra with her because that is the right place for it. Accept it or not. Both parties should compromise their things and live life in the memory of the fallen Captain Anshuman Singh happily and peacefully.
I m really glad someone called it out... Parents and the widow are grieving but it is not right to compare who has faced a bigger loss n neither its right to compare the tenure that both parties have spent with the deceased!
I think the way they blaming her, we can't ignore if they blame her for his death as Indian society, shadi k just baad aise kuch ho jaye toh ,blame girl ko jana normal h. Iss family ki baato k according they r showing such similar characteristics then why any girl should stay thr
The parents don't have a single drop of tear while talking about the death of their son. Their voices don't shake while talking about that devastating incident.
Arey bhai jab pet aur jeb dono bhara ho kaise aawaj kapegi.... Itni gande n ghamdi maa baap nahi dekhe sach mai...
If the father has guts to offer the option to marry her off to his second son on national TV without feeling any guilt or shame, imagine what all they must have said to her in private! It is natural for any woman to run away from such in-laws. If "communication" was the only pain point, they would not have riased so much commotion in media.
What if the situation was reversed? The bahu dies and the son is the next of kin and gets everything. Nobody in society would expect him to stay with in laws and take care of them or give all the benefits to girls parents. They are also parents of deceased right? That sums up indian society who just can’t see a women happy in life. In laws and society are with women only if she constantly suffers.
In laws are never happy if bahu gets what she deserves. Jealousy of in-laws is reflected here. That's our society today. No one will stand with Bahu.
In that case the girl's parents would similarly agitate for the compensation.
If girl dislikes the setup of the society why move to Boy's house why , better take him to girls house or stay in separate house where girl and boy contribute equally.
@@ritakujur6073 Bahu can stand on her own, why she needs anyone else?
Money should be equally divided between Bahu ha parents, unless boy has declared differently.
It's totally correct
I lost my father at 15 years. I remember the environment at that time. Mere to Dada dadi bhi nahi the. Do bade papa aur unki bachhe. Jo government se documentation hone aayi thi puri family ka naam upar likhwaya gaya tha aur mera aur mummy niche the. Ek pe ek puri family mere papa pe dependent ho gayi. It's easier to bash the widow but the ground reality is puri family becomes the gold digger.
There are many cases where the other family members even leave jobs and become the so called " joint family " and dependent on that one pension
@@NandaniKumarie
Paisa to sabko pyara hota hain ,
Bas responsibility or accountability jab ate hai tab bhagta saare..
Sir I agree
your situations were different bro .
atleast you born at that time
but she is alone ,she grabbed all the money and get marry to another person and will roast her future husband because she is now financially strong and she will eventually become narcissistic.
Jai hind jai jawan
Well said 👏
Amit Sangwan has always been very upfront. Whatever he is saying very correct. Parents are doing very wrong thing.
Ye toh hamesha extreme hi bolte hai, see his video on housewives, aisa lagega housewives bas kaam ki nautnki krti hain.
@@malvikasingh3224he already said that his audience is upper middle class jaha naukar chakkar hote .to sari advice usi hisab se hoti hai.
Most Indian middle class parents are kayar and khairati
@@anupamaraianvirai1183 He is the best ! But , Na koi sunta hai , Na koi maanta hai !
Please understand that monetary compensation was distributed as per the will of the late officer. Army has rules in place for this.
In laws should have raised voice against people passing objectionable comments about daughter in law
His parents are not only disrespectful for their son untimely death but also towards love of his life.
Why father is giving choices as he does not have any right to impose choices on widow and being a part of family..as they are well to do..they can give property share of Late Anshuman to his wife and set a good social example n that would be justice n honour to the late Anshuman.
Let her live peacefully and grief too as she has lost her better half n need a peaceful life without any social dramas
Aap logo ko kriti ka parent kesa lga, ascha hi lga hoga na ?
She doesn't need drama, but she is the one creating drama, changing permanent address, not attending Pooja, not sharing kirti chakra
@@aspirant9845 address got changed in Feb 2023, he died in July 2023. She didn’t change the address. It got changed while he was alive.
Bete ka balidaan itna bada aur parents ka dil itna chhota ki bahu ko hi zaleel kar daala. Parents ne bete ke itne bade balidaan ka meaning hi Zero kar diya. Kuch problem thi bhi family mei but fir bhi wo national issue nhi ban na chahiye tha. Social media unko wo chakra laakr nhi dega. They spoiled their relationship with bahu forever. 😢
Parents ne phir bhi utna ghatiya nahi kaha par news channels ka headlines had se jyada ghatiya hai
@@kanamekuran386
Aapki bast theek hai, par media me aise hi hota hai.
If she gets married tomorrow would you call it a balidan? Parents can not replace the son.
Bro problem is no one of us even planning things after death such as wills, policy,succession planning etc
@@vijaygovind2134
@@vijaygovind2134भाई its not easy! प्यार को खोना और पति को खाना , इससे बड़ा कोई दर्द नहीं है भाई ! मत करो तुलना किसी के प्यार की किसी के दर्द की ! जिस पर बीती होती है उसे ही पता होता है ! दोबारा शादी करना इतना आसान नहीं जैसा आप बोल रहे हैं , पूरे जीवन लोग दर्द में जीते हैं 🙏🏼
Army gives NOK to wife after marriage reason being so that if something unfortunate occurs the dependent on deceased can live independently.
Especially if you take example of someone residing in village and or belonging to non officer rank , sometimes the woman has no awareness about being the NOK and is dependent on others for her livelihood , NOK enables her to live with dignity
So basic , exactly, such a crucial step, usko sasural mein husband ki absence mein kyun dependency ke saanth rhe😢
Law cannot be made for village person and city person seperately
@@AshimaArora_
This was made decades ago
Now it needs change
Because thousands of wife left old age parents alone & had taken all the money + Pension
Kargil has dozens
Even Phulwama 2019 Attack had one
& thousands in other security forces
Ask from Millitary they don't speak about it because not much freedom is allowed due to Security Reasons
But those who are Retired can tell about this
Retd. Wing Commander - Pushkal Dwivedi
Thats why Madhya Pradesh Government has different Pension rules for State Government Employees
Let me share my story, my father died in 1995, after his death, my grandfather and his sons became like devil for my mother and me, they treated us like a outsider and fought almost every night . They secretly put name of dada, dadi in money of my father which was just 4 lakh. Dada was headmaster retired and his other two sons were employed, they don’t want my mother to get job offered by government on compensatory ground after father death, instead wanted to make career of his unemployed son by giving job to him.Dada also put his name in land bought by my father so after dada death, land distributed to his other sons and daughter . So huge injustice was done. I think wife sd be given all money if father is getting pension and if money is too less even to support wife , and if wife stayed unmarried with kids then all money sd go to wife becz she has all responsibility of her kids on her shoulders in this nasty world … Generally father of demise wants to distribute money of demised son in to other siblings which is wrong morally and ethically, unfortunately me and many like me had suffered becz of poor vision of policy maker …
Policies are clear, since his perents drawing army pesion they are not dependent on his son secondly they got share of amount been paid by state govt + Army group of insurance.
Pesion will go to her wife full. Widow is not claiming any property but the greedy In laws wants to marry her to their yonger son just to keep all the benefits with them.
Thia case shows even for parents money matters most. 😢
Her father said about daughter marriage to there in laws
After that in laws presented 3 options
Do not marry
Marry to younger brother
Marry with someone else
How can it be a forced decision when her parents talked about marriage + in laws gave option choices to them
They said if she wants to marry again then wherever she wants to marry we will get married her from this house
Bat paise ki ni….Samman ki h
@@anjalikashyap1159madam baat paise ki hi hai
Correct
@@Priyaykanth2her father said that she is too small for these things, does not mean marriage only, may be they wanted her to pursue studies. Neither her parent not the in laws have right to take such decisions on her behalf.
This is one of the Sensible interview after so many medias were throwing dirt on Daughter in law & supporting this greedy parents with low mentality, no morality & ethics
Watched others and agree
Again a wife is vilified today in society for not being enough . Parents look at children as their investment who should yield in future .
Well said
Parents see children as investments, and wives see their husbands as lotteries. Fair game.
Sad children are not investments and should never be. Don't have them if that's how you view them.
@@agnescraig2912 Can you say the same to a wife? Don't use your husband as an ATM machine. Or don't marry.
It's such a shameless act of degrading the grace of a widow.
It's already so sad he died in action serving and in the line of duty.
Thank you sir. Finally somebody had to speak this out. Father in law publicly discussing marrying off his daughter in law to another son is so disgusting. Smriti is such a brave and courageous lady. How can she live with such sick mentality people? She had to leave that house eventually.
She is mature that is why there is silent exit else she had all the chance to come in media and make any story true or false
@@kanamekuran386badiya 👌
Yes, absolutely. And they want her to marry their younger son cos of all the money that she is getting as a widow ghar ka paisa ghar me reh jaye. I have seen a similar case happening with one of my distant relatives fam so that widow lady ka paisa n ghar jo gov ne diya wo usi ghar me reh jaye. It’s all about money.
Aajkal greedy and coward person ko couragious kaha jata hai. Ek bahu parents ki seva se bachne ke liye bhag gayi. Ye couragious hai. Kya hoga desh ka bhavishya.
Wo kisi aur ki sewa kyu kare, sab apni sewa khud karo@@gauravsinghrajawat9939
Mai khud army wale ki wife hu 4saal ki shadi me unki death ho gae us time me 3 month pregant thi pr mere in laws mujhe ghr se nikal diya aur department nd samaj me ye bola gya ki paisa le k bhag gae dusri shadi kr legi... Aj meri beti 3saal ki h wo log ajtk ise dekhne nii aaye na mujhe lene.. To aise saas sasur ka kya bole..
Finally someone shared their real story 👏🏻 🙌🏻
And I'm soo sorry for what you've been through.
May God bless your daughter and you.
All the love to you... media will not show your story....this society likes to blame women. Hats off to your courage.,..stay strong
Thank you🙏🙏
Kuch bte hm kisi se nii bol skte h maam nd jb social media me hm jaise logo k liye bura bola jta h tb dil ki bt ajnabiyo se bol k mn halka kr lete h🙏🙏
Share your story.aankhen khulengi logo ki
Thank you for concluding this session with the statement..."Maa apne bacho ka khilona bhi sambhal ke rakhti hai...yeh to insaan hai".
I think it sums up everything!
Khilona dhoka ni deta, asche insaan bhi dhoka ni deta, lekin maximum insaan asche ni hote, wo dhoka dete, and usko sambhalna muskil ho jate he
One thing that has come out is not a single person cares about "love" in this country. Had it been any where else we would never had this discussion about parents. What the wife deserved, she got.
What about "Love" of parents?
@@shazyyadav After marriage wife is the priority.
@@shazyyadav abhi I think last year or may be last to last year eak girl shaheed hui shaadi ko 2 saal hi hue tahi bacche nahi thai paise pati ko mile ladki je maa baap ko nahi …..wha tho koi nahi bola ki ladki ke maa baap ko bhi milna chaahiye jabki in this case the boys parents also get 75 lakhs and the have one more young boy and girl…..bhai shadi ke baad ldki ladke ki hui ladka lakdi ka baaki sab baad ki baat hai ye baat ladki ke maa baap tho samjhte hai lakin kuch ladko ke maa baap ko ye baat samjh nahi aati
The government gives a lifelong pension to the girl as long she remains unmarried.
@@vijaygovind2134 dad is also having pension his own pension and 75 lakhs from government
I am also with the widow. Why should she stay with the toxic in laws ???
Ban gyi bhn to cool
That's the whole question.
They might have pressurised her to marry their son, so she left
In one interview maine suna sasu mom said humare culture ki hoti to aisa nahi krti 😊it means shadi ko lekar hi pehle se issue tha but beta k marji k aage nahi chali ,now its not about respect ,its about ego that n baccha tha aur five months ki marriage thi just ,how can she walk like this ,we should decide her future 😮
It’s not about how she walk out, it’s about kirti chakra not been seen or held by parents, any parent would want to have last remnants of their child and frankly their demand was majorly to govt with respect to nok in cases like theirs, both parents and wife are in grief and both should be able to respect and resolve this issue as sensibly as can. But this whole issue has blown out of proportion and unnecessary and disrespectful talk now is making highlight for news.
@@Homosapiens0804 arre that's what I want to say ,that pehle se hi issue raha tha but media mein baat to sasural walo ne hi laayi na ,
Parents ego is too big.
It’s true that in laws bought this issue in media, but then question is Why?, what i can recall from the first interview of in laws is that there was some inauguration of their sons statue and they wanted to have Kirti chakra for that event and also wanted to have conversation with DIL, so they made a call to DIL house and family of DIL said ki dehkte hai or something like that, and then there was no reply. What i will say in this is After marriage Two families get involved and one cannot ghost the whole family of their spouse, especially in a situation like this, it is worst way to handle a critical situation, family of DIL should have been considerate to resolve matters in best way possible, they were not strangers, they were their daughters husband’s parents. So this led to what we are now watching a full blown out situation. Both parties should have been considerate towards eachothers grief, it’s unfortunate not families or media or people are able to treat this issue in considerate and respectful manner.
@@Homosapiens0804 start watching latest interview n listen to inlaw sasu mom words ,u will get to know whats the issue ,kirti chakra to bahana hai
the father in law is the most shameless man I've ever seen in my life, suggesting that his other son should marry the widowed dil. Like who is he to decide who the two people should marry or not marry? Most pathetic parents
So that compensation remain with them
Exactly, bas panch mhine ki shadi thi, lekin 8 saal ka sneh prem, kaise wo uske bhai se shadi kr le😢
tumhe lgta hai 75 lakh k lie vo aisa kare gae.... ?
@@saurabhpruthi29yes
@@nothanks0009 But I have normally seen such selfish and cruel wives who leave the house the moment they get money. Father in laws are not like that everywhere
Yesterday,His mother said in an interview that if the girl belonged to our community from either bihar or UP ,then she would have stayed with us n wouldn't have behaved like the way smriti did . How cheap of her to say such thing about her daughter in law 😖😖😖😖
True
Mera bhi gao UP Mei h and I swear budhiya ki galat femi h .....atleast woh ladki toh shant h kamse kam .....warna UP wali bahu hoti na danda dash Mei ghusa deti 🤣🤣 .
😂UP wali bahu Iss zamane ki specially 😂bilkul nhi sehti.
To glt kya kaha h? Kashtrani Or shudra mein frk h, kshtrania johar krne baali aurate h Or shudro ki to baat hi kya krni, jmin asman ka frk h , chanakya ne shi kaha h shadi brabr balo mein hi honi chahiye, aesi lomdio ki koi kmi nhi h kshtriye officers k liye
@@saynomore3029 Firstly I'm from brahmin family....aur tum kshatriyo kis baat ka ghamand h bhai akele brahman Parashuram ne nipta diya tha teri jati ko.
Kam ghamand rakho aur baat krne ki tameez seekho . tu dekh samjha apne ghar sambhal apni behen beti ka dekh dusro ko baad Mei gyaan dena .
Kshatriy raja striyo ka apman krte the kya ??
Tum toh naam ke kshatriya nikle 🤣.
@@ankitamishra0405 parshuram kehi behi to nhi na jinki mata kashtrani thi?
Or ja bo hmare purvaj shree laxman g ne sita swyambar mein jinka ghamnd tod tha
Ja kehi bo to nhi jo mre purvaj ganga putra bhishm g k age tik nhi paye the?
The greed of the parents is very clearly visible!! What is this stupidity of getting the daughter in law married off to their second son? Is the woman an emotionless object that these people will decide her future? How regressive their thoughts are! Their sons death is just a financial deal for the parents
Great thought
How can you say these words for their parents?
Very true ! Getting her married of to the younger son - where is her opinion .
@@vingelinatanwar7269why not when parents are not behaving in a dignified way this is how they should be talked about just reproducing a person is not enough reason to deserve respect from someone
Not only this, I have seen another video where his mother says that if she would have been from our culture she wouldn't have run away and would have served us. That means they hold a personal grudge against her and have a typical mentality.
Such shameful behavior from parents. Why would she live with her in laws, especially after her husband is no more? What kind of wrong societal expectation is this? What do they want; the Medal of Honor or the pension money? They already got Rs. 65 lakhs and they have their own pension and two children who are doctors. How greedy they are to want what little the poor girl got. They were offering their second son to this girl for marriage to keep the money. No wonder the girl wants nothing to do with them.
Dude please correct that the martyrs parents offered their younger son to marry her provided if she agrees,they dint force her.
Its her wish...
Shameful comment, Parents clearly said that they was fine with her leaving.
@@sarvesh704good . But their words speak otherwise. The nonsense the father is digging up.
U r right ..... disgraceful behaviour from parents
@@furkhankhader8875why they offered...is marriage a game ??? May be she is not comfortable with his family...
Finally someone talking sense. For the last two days i was feeling so disgusting.
Regards!
Same here. I was so disturbed by public reaction. Actually parents are playing dirty game for money.
Some one like me finally, v unki property ka haq le kr gai no , v bas apna haq le kr gai to so but , bhag gai agar media mn tum asse hi to off media kitne egoistic hoge aap or kon bahu rahegi aapke sath mn , ek girl or woman pr sirf uske father ya husband hi decision le sakte h aap nhi , v bhagi nhi v bas aap logon s dur rehna chati h , aapka Paisa le kr bhagi no jewellery no , bahu beti k maa baap n bhi to usko pala h v bas Pani pe kr badi nhi hui h jo usko koi jarurat nhi h pension ki ,aajkl k educated log asse h to oron s kya expections ho , women are not just toys kisi k sath jod lo tid lo , she need control on her life as well like others
@@ritvivashist5538believe me, it’s a story of every woman who looses her husband. In Laws play dirty game immediately without fail & then label girl as a gold digger because only money matters to them. But how do they accept that they are after money, so play the game, flip it on the girl & play the victim card as they are aged. Sympathy will come to them easily. So smart I must say.
@@pallavisingh6283 seriously….i was also felling bad about it from last to days …kitne cheap parents hai beti ki widow se jo sirf 26 saal ki hai internet per aaker paiso ke liye lad rahe hai jabki khud ko bhi 75 lakh mile hai aur eak aur Javaan beta hai
Parents are right here yrr tum log kya kar rahe ho ye smriti tumhare bhai ki wife hoti aur tumhare parents ke saath aise hi karti and unko itnaaa pain and aansuuuu deke jaati
Fir kya aap loggg us ladki ke liye yhi sympathy dikhaate ?
thinnkkkkkk
Usne pyar nhi sauda Kiya tha ab vo Australia's mei aish kar rahi and what about her husband parents??? @ venuvarma @ pallavi singh
Horrible thing to call a young widow a gold digger! Her husband had nominated her as Next of Kin. Media and family is making it ugly. The father is an ex fauji himself and should be a pensioner too ... they are not left on the streets. I understand that the parents are hurt but we do not know why she left the family.
At the funeral itself her father in-law told her to get married to his doctor son who would then use her pension and arrears throughout his life. They were out right greedy and manipulative with the media and the world 😊
@@nishimehta234 yes...what a horrifying and regressive idea!
Because they wanted to marry the the girl with their 2nd son it's very disgusting.
Up government give 15 lakh to parents and 35 lakh to wife and according to ashuman will 50 lakh goes to parents and 50 lakh to wife. But they want all money which is belog to martyr’s wife that why there were trying to so hard to make her as gold digger
They such manipulated parents
Good for her leave such toxic and narcissist inlaws
@@vandanashivhare9073 exactly!
I really don't understand the point of saying she can have another man in life..then parents also have other two children and both are doctors in Noida. She does not have any child so obviously parents wealth and property will go to their 2 other children...also parents have received a handsome amount from different funds...they also get their pension...both are physically fit and available to support each other...help uski kari jati hai jo lachar ho...but inko sab kuch milne k bad bhi bahu ka hissa chahiye..when indian parents will stop using their kids as future investment? Everything was fair enough said by parents if Anshumsn was a single child but it seems they are just becoming greedy... Nothing more than that...a marriage is a marriage whether it is for 5 days or 5 years!
Pehley parents ka interview suno tab bolo.
@@richanegi2804 now imagine your sister marrying in a family were she becomes a widow and now her inlaws suggests her to marry their younger son, will you be happy with that decision for your sister?
@@Dumplin-1 it is just a suggestion that too he said to media . Now you imagine you brother is dies in line of action and his wife of 5 months takes off to her family on after your brothers 13vi and doesn’t even communicate to you parents and she gets her share of insurance money +life long pension where as your parents after raising a kid are called greedy ?
There is another single mother of a Navy officer who is left with no relationship from her son’s widow and grandkid with again no pension only 35 lac and the lady is in 60’s and had only single son .
Do you think she should be working in this age ?? Or do you think that money is enough for her life time ???
@@Sumanjoshii 5months ? They were in relationship if 8 years and only for their son did they accept her, and who even suggests their daughter in law to marry their younger son ? And the topic is about this family don't bring others in this mud , Mr anshuvarm parents are heartbroken too but they are still well off, father too has pension , their younger son a doctor , they have a big house , they got compensation for the army, and it's in the nok who gets the officers inheritance now you want to change the very constitution for a minority of family ? That what's the use of keeping that constitution if it can be changed with small matters
I just don't get the 5 months thing.
They were in relationship for 8 longggggg yearsssss before marriage.
People are saying she'll marry again but what if she doesn't.
And she is not with her in-laws because they wanted her to remarry her Devar(younger brother of Mr. Anshuman)
They wanted it so that they can control all the benefits that are given only to the spouse.
Whether she will remarry or not, it's up to her.
Maybe, she can't even think of replacing Anshuman even with his brother.
Getting daughter in law remarried to another son in family is what parents wanted which Smriti denied.
She's not saying anything that doesn't mean she's wrong.
I don't understand how could they even think of getting her married to her Devar. Custom or not, I'm sorry it's gross. I would be pretty offended if someone suggested this to me on my partner's untimely- God forbid- death.
This is not a saas bahu issue but saas sassur vs bahu issue. The sassur is equally selfish.
Dangerous assur! Sorry. Sassur
Sasur is equally selfish... how?
@@shazyyadavI can only say what I noticed, the father wants to wear the Kirti chakra when the statue of his son is unveiled, I don’t think he can do that as he has not earned it. Second, marry the second son. To me, it just sounded to keep the money in the family. Imagine, I have not heard the mother has said anything. I understand parents do a lot for kids. However, when the kids are married, allow them some breathing room. Unfortunately, many parents have not learned it and want to be in controlling position always.
@@Vsantadexactly
@@mad_in_2020 mera b Bhai chala gya bt humne uski biwi ko sabkuch with makan de diya jbki usne kbi humari care nhi ki...bt humne yahi socha ki bhai ki wish kya hoti???bs sb easy ho gya
Media and her inlaws has done injustice to the wife of late capt Anshuman singh . She didn't deserve this insensitive treatment snd brutal judgments from our biased uninformed society.
Greedy parents...no sadness seen in the parents...kya karega iss umar mei paisa lekar...
And this parent has sent the child to mil school in such a tender age and now trying to claim all these shit....disgusting greedy parents
Eisa mat bol...
The marriage proposal is bullshit but they deserve some compensation
In laws are Always pathetic
They hate their daughter in law more than they love their son
Indeed
Their daughter in law hates them more than she loves her husband
@@TheKindheart99 no dear it seems the parents don't hate but the girl hate her in laws, they expressed their love but the girl only expressed hate.
@@deepaksuhag54929there must be a strong reason for her to hate them this much.
@@charusaurabh8605 and the reason is they are the equal beneficiary of the amount given by the government and she the gold digger couldn't give them a single penny.
Log kitni asaani se ek ladki ko galat kehne lag jaati hei
Ladki galat hai to galat ko lagena na.smriti singh is a perfect gold digger
Usne jaise rishta toda vo galat hai
@@malvikasingh3224 but reason bhi raha hoga na . Point yehi h
@@TheDivineLineTarotwo reason btaye na fir.samne aaye
@@sayanprodhan7083brainless guy, what did she do to be called gold digger?.
such pathetic parents. omg what is he talking marrying her to the younger son. Treating both deceased son and daughter in law as a commodity. greedy pathetic parents.
Not so. Amongst the Jats and Rajpoots specially, it is the expected behaviour that the deceased boy's parents offer to marry the unfortunate widow to their younger son. It is a chivalrous offer by the parents in terms of custom.
@@vijaygovind2134its not chivalry it’s patriarchy, everyone deciding or advising what a woman should do. if this is happening and is considered chivalrous its a shame.
@@vidhisharma3911 It is chivalry. It is practiced all over country and girls' families are grateful for the same. Please check out your own village. You'll find many such cases.
Bhai this is 21st century .. stop showering your so called chivalry at the wrong place ..
I so agree! This would ensure the amount she received stays in the same family. Poor girl! 8 years association means nothing!!!...
Conclusion of the whole podcast in two words
Greedy parents 😮💨
Indian parents hamesha kahte h aajkl ki" hamne kitni mushkil se paala h bachho ko".Apne bachhe ko paalna to ek happy experience hona chahiye, bachha to bhagwaan ka roop hota h aur apne maa baap ko khushi deta h. Agar bachhe paalna itna kasht ka kaam lagta h inhe to ye bachhe paida hi kyu karte h. Hindu shastra k anusar apne bachhe paalne se pitr rin (ancestral debt) utarta h, iske liye parents ki sewa nhi karni hoti. Bhartiya sanskriti m parents ki sewa karne ko kahi nhi kaha gaya, pahle to log 50yrs ki age k baad jungle chale jaate the vaanprastha and sanyaas ashram m jeene k liye. Pahle log apne bachho par nhi latakte the, balki isko bahut kharab maana jaata tha. Agar parents-child rishta bhi equal give and take ho jaayega to is rishte aur doosre rishton m fark kya rah jaayega. Bhagwaan aur parents kewal dete h, lete nhi h. Isiliye parents ko bhagwaan tulya maana jaata h. Mahabharat yudh k baad paandav raaja ban gaye hastinapur k lekin fir bhi unki maa kunti raajmahal m nhi rahi apne beto k paas, balki wo gaandhari aur dhritrashtr k saath jungle chali gayi sadhna karne.. Kunti n yahi kaha tha ki m apne beto k diye tukdo p kaise pal sakti hu. Aaj indian parents bht laalchi ho gaye h, apne bachho ki khushiyon se inhe lena dena ni h, apne bachho ko insurance policy ki tarah treat karte h. Ye sasur to poora asur hi h, jab ise apni bahu se itni dikkat h to apne doosre bete ki shaadi kyu karna chahta h aisi bahu se? Is umar m itne paise ka kya karega? Ise to already ek pension mil rahi h.
Bs passe ke liye sb log itna gir jata hai ladki ka 8 saal ka love rha aur vo hamesha ke liye chale gaye kis halaat mvo hogi isska koi nai soch raha koi bhi competition passa rupees isska bharpaai nai kar sakta
Ladki ka 8 sal ka relationship or parents ka 27 years ka
Kitni acchi baat boli aap ne ❤ dhanya hain aap ke maa baap
Aap smaj ni rahe ho, yha khel emotion and insaniyat ka hai, asche log parent kya sobhiko respect karte hei, parent ko to respect koregi, as pas ki logo ko bhi khayal rakhegi
@@ayadavstory9258number of years spent together doesn't matter. Parents were born earlier and the son will get married after attaining certain age so parents will always have more years spent with the son. Thinking this if you prioritize your parents all the time then you should not get married. Live with your parents, do their seva and live alone when they leave this world. If your parents also thought the same, did seva of your grandparents, you wouldn't have been born. You become parent later, first you become husband and wife. It is the institution of marriage that produces children. Respect that.
Ye admi bina dare sach bol raha h ....baap re himmat h ...gaaliyo ka to khauf rakhe aap dono ...but hats off to you both ❤
Its deplorable how the parents are acting they should be ashamed
Hats off to you sir for being so transparent & truthful on such harsh reality of India. True, it’s a suffering a widow undergoes if the husband is not from army background. In laws are so awful & believe me, they literally don’t even accept that the daughter in law has lost her husband, they even taunt, what did you loose? What could be more painful. My heart goes out for all the woman who are undergoing such pain. Lost her husband, being judged with no empathy by her in laws. What a victim phase she has to overcome. How strong she has to become to breathe & strive to live as she can’t end up her own life. So shameful that in laws are labelling her as a gold digger, her most precious thing has been lost, what will be the value of money which she will be after. Show some respect to your son by atleast not talking ill about your his wife. You create an environment where the girl can’t survive with you anymore & now you alleged her of leaving you. Son has left you, this toxicity will kill her too & think if she has a child, then who will look after the kid. Show some humanity if you can’t show love.
As a man I feel sad for the man that even after his death he is being treated as a commodity by his parents and his wife for the money and pride.
Very true. Aaj ke date me koi bhi unke heroism ki baat nhi kr raha. Sab sirf unke parents k interviews ki baate kr rahe hai. And parents thode politically influenced bhi lag rahe hai. Jiss tarah unki maa Rahul Gandhi se milne k baad agniveer ki baate aur NOK me changes ki baate kr rahe hai.
As per Indian in laws, bahu ko ek rupaya bhi na mile, sab parents ko mile kyuki bahu ka contribution hi kya hai.
His wife said NOTHING. Don't malign the poor girl.
The last 2 lines were sarcastic.
Ye logo ki soch hai ki bahu ko kuch nahi milna chahiye kyuki uski shadi bas 5 mahine ki hi thi. @@babyboltbark
That's why the girl did not said a word
@@babyboltbarkkhud kama Shakthi hai vho teri tharh anpadh nahi hai
Anshuman Singh's parents are absolutely shameless. They seen to want media attention only. And are treating their son like a commodity. I dont understand how the father can say that I will have my other son married to my bahu . what about her wishes ? This is not stone age.
Thank you.
Shut up...ideat ..
They are just asking from their right
All these cases show the universal hatred that inlaws have for the Daughters in law.
Pls advise Sango Sir, Can a wife legally claim her right in her living husband's income?
Parents are very greedy
U r emotionless
Watching this from Canada, this problem only happens in India. Western world marriage creates a separate family (Husband, wife and kids) and parents are your extended family. For the last 20 years, I have only used my parent's information for emergency contacts (they also live here in Canada separately). The government doesn't bother who is your parents once you are 18 (adult).
@@anjal3753 We cant leave our parents for money hungry evil and cruel witches
Yeah, that's a great culture in Canada and virus spreading in India. The parents sacrificed their whole life for you and you have now left them to die alone. If one of them passes away the other will enjoy the loneliness. How come someone treat their parents as extended-family?
@@HumaraYeSafarin a same way as a girl treat theirs after marriage
@@HumaraYeSafar parents shouldn't have kids if they can't have unconditional love. No one told parents to have kids.
Please keep your Canada culture to yourself. Indian culture is taking care of one's parents financially or physically until their death.
Parents had said.. Hum ne to shadi me spoon bhi nahi liya tha..... They expect.. Smriti to take care them.. Whole heartily.. After death of anshuman.. They cant imagine how could she be free.. With compensation.. Amount.. She should be bound to them
@@Jyoti-f9u to make such kind of claims is indicative of their greedy nature.
Hmm as if She’s some slave bound to them .. She was only accountable to her husband but unfortunately he left early..
@@Jyoti-f9u
Then who is she accountable too
If not her in laws why is she taking money + pension + kirti chakra
In laws demanding kirti chakra
& change in Pension Rules for other Parents who are neglected by this System
Remeber Kargil War, Pulwama Attack
30 years ago many kargil hero's wife left home after taking All the money & Pension
In Pulwama also this happened
Thousands of cases which are those Casualties which most People don't know
Thats why Madhya Pradesh Government changed Pension Rules for State Government Employees
Parents should get half money
Definitely she is bound to serve them why don't she would do that, Shameless women, doesn't it her responsibility to care her parents
How can widow be a goldigger? She married a normal guy going as a military doc who dont earn as much as doctors in pvt practice shame on everyone who is calling her that
@ZoldicsDiaries when same thing happen with your wife, daughter or sister then say the same words "gold diggers" to them.
so sorry to say that every girl is a goldigger. girl never loves a boy/husband... she just select best option among so many options(this happens on full scale if girl is beautiful)
films like pyar ka punch nama has not a fictional story... it is so visible in society.
This girl's 8 years long love story has potential to become the story of "Pyar ka punch nama-3".
@@vikrantmahnarwala9075 If a girl looks only for money, then boys also looks for beautiful girls, fair skin, slim waist girl only. A guy can be darker skintone but always want a wife with fair skintone. If a wife is unable to bear kids then the husband can easily kick her out of his life and marry other woman to have kids. If the wife dies after marraige the next day husband family forms a search party to find a new wife meanwhile when the woman remarries her whole character is judge. People like have enjoy patriarchy so much. Now its is being question so you are having a problem. Have some compassion. You also have a woman ad wife mother or sister in your life. People are evil not the gender.
Pi pi pi😊@@vikrantmahnarwala9075
u r talking like robot. think wisely.
The parents are financially comfortable and have their other children.
Yet, they are crying for loss of money and not so much for their son.
This is truly a sad state of parents.
Atleast have some respect for your dead son and show some maturity.
No wonder in laws are the biggest reason for marital discord and divorce.
Financially comfortable 😂😂
Man, his parents aren't asking for money, they are asking for respect.
The way their daughter in law left (changing even the permanent address of the captain) was way too disrespectful
Parent is not for asking money. Watch their full interview
It is not about only them imagine parents who have only don smd lost him as soldier what they should do? And who gave her right to change Anshumans sir address? Why she didn't let his parents touch Anshuman sir's medal?
To bring change revolution zarrori hai. Agar unhe apne bete ka medal b dekne na diya jaye tau kya koi bolega b nahi . Jo start karta hai vo hamesha se bura Banta hai but iska fayda aage auro ko milta hai .There is no harm to express their views.. Media galat tarike se headlines bana k dikha rahi...
Very self centred,mean,greedy. Parents
Jo paisa le ke bhaag gyi wo greedy nhi hai ?
@@rajivsharma4396 Very shallow,. opportunistic and cruel wife too who stopped talking to dead soldier's parents and left them mysticiously after getting all money and gold 🪙
For parents, loss of their son, should be the biggest cause to talk. Nothing else. Gain to his wife, should not be discussed at all.
This shows that for them, their son was a source of money, whether alive or not.
They will not have any affinity to his wife. But they should reapect the relation. Even if it was a shorter duration. She was their son's wife.
She is not their daughter. They would not have given the kind of love and appreciation to her, that she would have felt happy or comfortable to stay with them.
She may take a long time to move on. And if she wants to move on, that does not mean that she should not get compensation. She has lost his husband. (She had longer relation with him from before marriage as well) Money, will not replace that relation.
Thank you for putting it out. So right
Don't judge a person by 1-2 statements from any interview. 'Parents are doing all this just for money ' - Is this the center of all the words that his ( Veer Anshuman Sir ) parents said in the interview? He was ready to give away all the ancestral property to make schools. After all this how can you blame his parents that they are doing all this just for money? Remember, his wife can marry another man to begin a new life but the parents can't get their lost son anymore.
@@arghadeepdas2004 the fact that they are talking about the duration of marriage, to compare the compensation she received, shows that they are talking about monetary compensation.
Also, they are marring the sanctity of the noble cause that their son died for, with all these comments in public.
People are talking and taking sides now. Because they went public with their issue with their DIL.
Their son and what he has done, should have been the topic of discussion. But sadly, that is not the case
@@arghadeepdas2004 also, please note. They still have each other (mother and father) and another son and another daughter.
DIL, has lost her husband. She may or may not remarry, but it will and can never be the same.
Just the fact that she has an option to remarry, does not.mean that she has lost less. Would you say the same, if parents of a married woman would have come out, claiming why husband got compensation?
A girl's parents also love and care for.their daughter the same way. But legally, after marriage, they have no right on any of hr income or property or compensation (without a will).
@@aanchalthakur322 I can understand the fact that its was big loss for the woman who lost her husband, It can never be returned to her. It might be true that parents were greedy and talking more about money than their lost child but after great mental breakdown how can a woman block ATM, change phone number, not even a single time she requested to touch the 'Kirti Chakra' to his parents? The greed may be from both the ends. [Ma'am, I'm no one to say what changes should be done in the society but we should think from both the ends] 🙏🙏
Toxic in laws , reason - if they actually are in need of money rather than creating controversy legally step lete , ye sab kya kuch v media mai bole ja rhe hai
I admit I judged harshly by looking at the thumbnail of this video. But I was wrong about this video.
I don't understand why are the Parents so mindless that they are vilifying and maligning the memory of their own warrior son. He died for our nation, let him be remembered and revered as a Hero. But No, they have to wash their dirty laundry in the public and now when you search his name, all you get are videos discussing about how his widow is a "gold digger". They could have easily settled this in private but they involved media, who will distort anything for some TRP. These parents did great disservice to the memory of Great Captain Anshuman Singh.
And what the f was about getting his widow married to Devar so that she stays in family ?! I lost all respect for them right there. Thank God, she left.
Provided the girl was prepared to settle the matter in private. She seems to be evading a discussion with her in-laws.
Her father said about daughter marriage to there in laws
After that in laws presented 3 options
Do not marry
Marry to younger brother
Marry with someone else
How can it be a forced decision when her parents talked about marriage + in laws gave option choices to them
They said if she wants to marry again then wherever she wants to marry we will get married her from this house
@@Priyaykanth2 Look Brother, the second option should not even cross his mind in a civilized society. The father is educated, himself has served in Army and seen the world and yet he can't understand that the widow and younger brother are people with their own lives and personalities. Forget the widow, what about the younger brother ? Does he not have a right to choose his own life partner ? How would he look in front of his GF (suppose he has one), colleagues and friends that his father is going around on National TV, presenting him as an option for re-marriage to his sister in law ?
@@Escapist...
I agree they should ask from there Son also about Marriage with Smriti
It could be they asked from him
But main thing here is
People are saying on Social Media as first her in laws said about her marriage + with her brother in law
They are saying in laws is forcing her for marriage, they were torturing here, etc
Thats why I wrote above Comment
@@Priyaykanth2 Even if we assume that the younger son consented to the marriage, do you know what else the father said that no one has picked up on yet ? He also said if Smriti chooses to live as a widow for rest of her life with them, they'll put the first child of their younger son in her "god" as in lap for her to raise. This father is already deciding the fate of a child not even in this world, without even asking the mother of that child. This is sad. I'm sorry but all this shows his extremely controlling nature over deciding the life choices of his family members.
Also, I understand where you were coming from. Peace.
Parents have no sympathy for their daughter in law, they are after money.
@@alkapradhan806
as if daughter in law have sympathy for Parents
Parents are demanding Kirti Chakra
They raised the Child & make him a Soldier
Why she left Parents alone in Old Age
Isn't her duty to take care of them
Don't say it's not her duty
She gets right in Property to Pension
@@Priyaykanth2a couple is not ALONE. Stop calling parents ALONE. They have each other and their created other babies. Its the Girl who is left all ALONE. A hindu marriage is not a small thing, the rituals of all 5 elements are used to anchor in the psychie of the girl that her only family is with the husband. 5 months may be a small time, but that one big event of marriage changes everything for a woman, including her identity and cuts the roots behind. Noone can give her back her identity which she was born with n lived with for 23 24 years . The name of her husband is encrypted in her, n her history for lifetime.. that wouldn't go back to default. Even parents will move on with other children n their children, n go on to grow n die one day.
@@djrowlingable
तो फिर अपने पति का घर छोड़ा क्यों
अंशुमन के जाने के 2 हफ्ते के अंदर ही
फोन उठाने बंद कर दिये
स्मृति के पिता WhatsApp message में बात टालते रहे कहीं महीनों तक
अभी हम सोचेंगे, अभी हमारे पास समय नहीं है
स्मृति ओर उनके मायके से कोई नहीं आया अंशुमन कि पुजा के लिए
अंशुमन का पता सरकारी जगहों पर बदलवा दिया
अंशुमान का ATM Block करवा दिया
शादी कि बात खुद स्मृति के पिता ने कही अंशुमन के पिता से
तभी तो उन्होंने 3 चुनाव का प्रस्ताव रखा
विधवा का जीवन
शादी कहीं ओर जिससे स्मृति कि इच्छा हो
या अपने छोटे बेटे से
ओर बात सिर्फ अंशुमान के माता-पिता कि नहीं है
हजारों - लाखों
ऐसे केस है जहा पत्नी सबकुछ लेकर चली गई ओर माता-पिता बेसहारा हो गए
एक जवान के पिता लखनऊ में रिक्शा चलाते हैं
उन्होंने खेत बेचकर पढ़ाया था अपने बेटे को
ओर पुलवामा हमले के जवान के माता-पिता के पास दवाई तक के पैसे नहीं हैं
ओर सेना ही नहीं केंद्र ओर राज्य दोनों कि सरकारी संस्थाओं में ये समस्या है
मध्यप्रदेश में सरकार ने पेंशन का कानून बदल दिया था
वहां थोड़ी राहत मिली लोगों को
पर वो सिर्फ मध्यप्रदेश राज्य के कर्मचारी पर ही लागू होता है
केन्द्र ओर अन्य राज्यों पर नहीं
Thank you , for supporting the girl...this family has insulted there son,s death ... matter is only of money, they just want pension and all other money for themselves, the father himself said he is doing law and will fight for the pension matter in court , it is clear he is greedy man..Girl should get all support form airforce, and I think they are supporting her after seeing the whole situation.
I was waiting for sango sir to make video on this issue. Correctly said.
बिल्कुल सही कहा आपने आप अपने बेटे के प्यार को कैसे इतना बुरा बता सकते हो after death of your son, क्यों कर ले वो आपके दूसरे बेटे से शादी,उसने प्यार किया उस dynamic person से,बहुत पुरानी और बेकार बात,loss दोनों का है पर आप किसी को मजबूर नहीं कर सकते,बात अगर पैसों की है तो खुल कर कहें, मुद्दे से हटे नहीं और culture की बात से दबाने की कोशिश ना करें
Main problem parents ki seva hai, jisko dekhkar wo bhag gayi.
@@gauravsinghrajawat9939aur kuch. Maa baap ke ek beta nd beti aur hain. Jo doctor hain . Vo kyu nhi karenge unki seva. Sari baat paise ki hai. Agar Bahu ko paise nhi mile hote to ye maa baap usko khud hi nikal dete. Maine itne case apni close family me dekh liye hain jaha pati ke marne ke baad wife nd bacho ko terahvi ke baad ghar se nikal dete hain. Fer vo apne pote poti ka bhi nhi sochte .
Maine ek case apne known me aisa bhi dekha hai ki jisme shaheed ka paisa maa baap ko mila nd vo log ek dam se bhut rich ho gye nd Aaj ke time me vo pita nd uska dusra beta pure gaon me gundo ki tarah ghumte hain. Kisi ko bhi rok ke Peet dete hain. Dhamkate rahte hain. Sare gaon me aatank macha ke rakha hai ke ham to shaheed ke pita nd bhai hain. Kabhi nhi dekha un logo ko ke vo apne bete ke liye dukhi ho. Hulladbaji karna, girls ko chherna. Sharab ke theko me baith ke aate jate logo ko tang karna. Kahi pe bhi apne logo ko bula ke maar pitai karna. Bas yahi chalta hai unka.
@ninanani4085 unke do bete the, ek jo beta khatm ho gaya uska karz kaun chukayega jiska medal aur paisa utha liya, uska parents ka farz kaun uthayega. Dusra beta apne hisse ka karega. Ayyashi ke liye shadi ki thi kya.
@@gauravsinghrajawat9939parents handicap hai kya???? N itna hi sewa chaiye parents ko apne bete ko palu se.. Chain se band k rakhte... Sewa karte... Paise liye na bete k marne k baad... Woh kuy liye... Woh ladki jawan hai.... Apni khud k life hai uski... Ye parents kya marne pe aaye hai kya😡😡😡😡😡 sewa.. Aisa gussa aata hai na... Itne laalchi parents hai... Apne itne ache bete ki maut ka tamasha kar rahe hai.... Nalayak parents.. Sharm nahi aati inko...social media pe muh utha k bakbak karne aaye hai... Inka muh khuta kaise hai.. Yaha sewa nahi chaiye kya😡😡😡😡
If it was her instead of her husband who died, would her parents be ok to go to media and speak like that about her husband. Disgusting patriarchal Indian society
Accept patriarchy or men moving away from marriage
@@ritammishra2688As if women are dying to marry men, especially the patriarchal ones 😂
@@_1345610 crore worth man, but full time be housewife, no outside roaming without husband and listen to mother in law without questioning her, many will accept such deal
@@_13456🤣🤣🤣🤣
This issue has nothing to do with patriarchy.
It's all about strong exploiting weak.
Women also do exploit whenever they get power.
Get out of victim mindset.
Parents commenting on money shows their attitude ki unka focus kaha hai..relations bhi buisness ho gaye hai
तमाशा बना के रख दीया शहीद की शहादत का ।
True face of our society😑
"Mirror can't take responsibility of how you look"
(3) Teenon bachche doctor hone ke baad bhi maa baap swarthi hi nikle.
How does the fact that other children are doctors change the picture? the question in the parents' minds is the loyalty to the girl and the memory of their son.
@@vijaygovind2134 because they want the money to remain in their family, hence asking their daughter in law to marry their younger son.
@@Ratnakar6486 I have already said "the question in the parents' minds is the loyalty to the girl and the memory of their son". Amongst the Jats and Rajpoots specially, it is the expected behaviour that the deceased boy's parents offer to marry the unfortunate widow to their younger son. It is a chivalrous offer by the parents in terms of custom.
@@vijaygovind2134Haa toh nhi karna usko devar se shadi apna gyaan apne pass rakho woh bechari toh kamse kam shant h .....Agar koi UP wali bahu milti na ram kasam dash Mei danda daalke Marti aur media pe aakar bezzat krke jati .
Hats off to smriti anshuman singh ki unhone apne late husband ki respect Mei uske Maa baap ko internet pe kuchh nhi boli.
Interview dekhne ke baad mujhe toh ek baar nhi laga ki Maa baap ko beta khone ka dukh h unhe bas ye baat ka dukh h ki kirti Chakra smriti singh ko kyu Kiya.
Kalyug ke Maa baap.
Dukh Mei woh bechari h jo 8 Saal long distance relationship mein thi phir 5 Mahine baad pati ki death hogyi.
Lots of respect 🙏🏻 🫡 for Smriti anshuman singh ❤️
@@vijaygovind2134it's chivalry because of patriarchal society. The girl is well educated and from a more famous family than anshumans she is free to do as she likes
Why would she live with this kind of parents ..they could have solved this issue at home but parents are seeming to be greedy..even they have another son ..they are not alone ..but the girl is all alone
girl can have boyfriends husbands very easily so no difference seen. If you find my comment disgraceful check yours about their son.
@@AkhilKumarAki in case of vikram batra ,girl being only girlfriend never married ..nobody asked if she got anything ,why in this case .she is the legal wife and has all rights ,if parents got compensation from up gov so no point of media attention..both girl and parents have gone through equal trauma .girl gave 8 years to this relation ..not easy to move on easily sir ..but here both will have to live with the loss and move on
@@AkhilKumarAkishe can have boyfriends and husbans is male thinking and fantasy, there is nongurantee she will be happy with new bf. There ianchnace will be alone also
@@RanjithKumar-fs9gn that guarantee no one can give. and it applies to either sides. But yes one thing is guaranteed i.e. those parents wont get their son back. And this odd response is for people who think oddly that parents will easily get over as of another son is a substitute and not a male fantasy.
BTW even if it is, I am pretty sure it applies to both male and female else às well. Someone who is so shallow even after being a Soldier's wife would definitely have some plans
@@satwinder210sk4 I am speaking from.the side where I see Anshhuman' wife left or stopped talking.to.his parents the moment ceremony was.done and dusted. So there is a courtesy and intent that can be seen very.clearly. Honestly if you talk about.this money exchange part I need to check again. so there are two.things legal and moral.
If comes from upbringing
while no one likes dowry, one.should also focus on not considering what ever gold is given to lady over marriage as stree dhan ;). She took the gold as well I heard.
But honestly I need to refer that part again if I want to comment. My concern is being practical and shameful is two different things
My another concern is when a man commits suicide due to false cases, I hardly see any girl commenting over it and never talk about it.
Dont believe me check such posts and you will come to know the dark reality.
And this uncle would be super intelligent in other aspects and yes he is but here I see him as a true opportunist person and a narc
We have only handful of girls left in india who want to speak about men. Honestly whenever I had such conversations around with my female friends I never see any curiosity to know more or.feel.bad. There is always an awkward silence and makes me feel only about they are feeling bad since its only about wining or losing the argument :(
Aj kal not only females but ab to males and senior citizens pura time victim card play karte hai
Parents accept nahi karte lekin at times apne hi bachho k liye bahut toxic ho jate hai aur bachho ko guilt trip m dal dete hai
Correction males zaada victim card play krte than females
agree
what if his wife gets remarried to a wealthy family , and still she gets pension. Is it justified?
@@soumit123 abe o tu avi ki baat kr ?? Tumlogo ko bus women ko target krna hai so that a woman never received any rights
@@soumit123 unnecessary in laws are torturing her just coz she is legally receiving pension as a widows avi beta k gye hue 2 saal v nhi hua ,
These parents will not loose nothing by doing all these but poor girls name is getting deatroyed ...she has a full life ahead ..she is just 26 years old...she has a living
8 साल तक वह रिलेशनशिप में थे इसका मतलब वह एक दूसरे के साथ थे तो अगर पति करने के बाद बहू कीर्ति चक्र दी जाए तो उसे पर बहू का ज्यादा हक है और वह अभी जवान है तो अपनी आगे की जिंदगी कैसे जिए यह वह खुद तय करेगी👍👍👍in support of the bahu here 👍👍
Toxic and greedy parents!!
She is not a gold digger
बाप ने बेटे की शहादत का मजाक बना दिया
No..Please understand the case in totality
May be he is property dealer, that doesn't take away his feelings for the son and his daughter in law.
But what appears here is that he is fighting for the honor of his martyr son.
What I feel, is that everyone should work jointly for the honor of the Martyr Capt Ansuman Singh.
Here it seems Bahu and his father is interested in monetary aspects only as they haven't attended the last rite of his martyr husband and Son in law.
As long as they do not clarify their part, emotions are on parents side.
It's totally one sided case
chu... ho ka be😂😂😂😂😂bina jaane kuchbhi mat bola.
This case no body think about girl's parents. What they do . Only 5 month marriage and so much controversy in media what they do. Please think about them also
exactly ..I was thinking about it too...
Thing is you become a wife as soon as you get married. Even if it is one day old. Apne pati se Chudwane me to tum girls nhi dekhti ho ki abhi hi 1 ghante pehle hi shadi hui hai
Even the law says wife has the first right b core the mother .don't understand where is the issue .It is very bad on the parents part that they r washing dirty linen in public.Parents want the daughter in law to get married to their other son which is obnoxious.
For them she is like a used toy for exchanging among kids😅how pathetic it is to live with their in laws 😢
Sach mein yaar .. 21st century mein ye baatein …Hadd hai ..
It is better not to marry with armed forces officers. Atleast better than this public humiliation .
I will suggest all the girls I know to not to . As after death in this field a lot of money is involved and money bhale bhale ko pagal bana deti hai.
That panipat case it really horrible the child is really small .
So don't destroy your daughters life on such witch hunt
This society(largly) has never been good to a widow.
You are small minded. It's one of the case based on this don't come to wrong judgement where you you don't want girl to marry Indian soldiers. They are protecting you and all of us. If all women don't come forward to marry soldier then soldiers will not go to boarder to fight. Simple as that. If such situation comes then government will then make rule that you women have to marry soldier. Simple as that.
Therefore don't hate their are good wifes, husbands and good parents and inlaws too.
Where in this case wife should marry again and she has all the right to lead her life.wife and Parents got compensation according to rules.
Sahi mein … Girls ke liye arrange marriage ho ya love marriage .. aage kuan, peeche khayi..
@arjunsworld205 girls ko shadi ni karni chahiye khud kamaye khud khaye🤪, kamaya bhi kaha jata hai aurato se menstrual leave dedo saar, metarnity leave dedo saar😊
@@underratedidiot4568Tu krle bachhe paida fir 😂 Tu apne ma baap ki dekhbal nhi kar skta isliye shadi krke naukrani laato honyr 😂 Jara sudhar jao wrna aese hi rote rehna.
Best line.. Ma to apne bavho ka toy b smhal k rakhti h. Ye girl to uska pyar thi. Kyo ni us choti si girl ke sath ham log khade nhi ho rhe jiski life hi palat gyi h. Vo kitna toot gyi hogi khud ko sametne m pta nhi kitna time lagega usko. Uske mata pita siblings use kis tarh samhal rhe honge koe apne bahan beti p ye bat lga k dekhe. Vo kis tarah se apni life dobara normal jiyegi kitna time usko normsl hone m lagega kisi ko andaja b nhi. Pta nhi vo kitni subhe jagne par khud ko samjhayegi ki ab vo akeli h. 8sal ka love tha uska. Areng marriage m girl k lia kitna mushakil hota h face krna ye halat. Uski to love marriage thi plz use jeene do. Army man ki wife ko virangna kahte h. Please respect this lady and dukh m uska sath dena chahiye. Ek beti or ek bahan jb window ho jaye to girl ki family k uske life ko fir sattel krna bhot mushkil hota h. Jis family ka koe member chala gya unko sabr fir b aa jata h. But jiski life hi bikhar jaye unka koe andaja nhi lga sakta
if wife brings dowry its for in laws and husband whatever she earns is for in laws and husband during her stay she works for the household and for the parents in laws, gives up her parents' need. Then why husband's money should go to parents?
why people vilifying the wife. The parents are creating drama, they want money in exchange of their son's demise, pathetic! They already get pension have 2 more children working as doctors, life set hai. Indian men especially in army are know to give half or more of their salary to their parents and woman generally never has any rights on money thanks to patriarchy, though i would hope this is changing. Money could've been shared had Capt's parents were struggling but this isn't the case they are well of. A widow's life is full of struggle in indian society money is the bare minimum that is given.
@@Focused76 agreed totally...
She can remarry and move on with the money.
"that point the decision should be brought to the table but not now!" At which point the money is spent and the case time barred.
@@vijaygovind2134 so what?? She has right to marry and the money is given to her because she was married to capt. What is the premise of your argument? Will marrying somebody else would disqualify her past of wife of captain>? watch 22:20
26:19
As an Indian born/educated woman living in the West. Found this channel with Mr. Amit Sangwan as the guest extremely balanced progressive and hopeful for Indian society in 2024. Valid arguments that children not commodities/parents "sacrifice" when all parents look after their children life goes on/not staying with in laws/materialism with regard to Chakra etc. Very well articulated and many thanks .
It's because of free social media , saas bahu issue blown out of proportion 😊
Not saas bahu but sasura issue.
What is the point of discussing her personal issues in public on media ?
They want money and award for which they want the dil to marry their son so that she stays in their house and the money and honour will also be at her in-laws house and now she took decision against their wish they are creating issues in public to humiliate her and trying to take away her right to live with dignity.
In greed of honour they are compelling her dil to live life as they want for her
The decision she took is right for her . At such sensitive and tough time instead of supporting her they are humiliating her in public just for their selfish reasons. It's better she move on and live her life on her own terms.
"sach me sass Sasur kabhi maata pita nhi bn pate apni bahu ke" they have proved this.
I am a continuous viewer of your videos guru ji,when i came to know about this case ,the first thing came into my mind was a dialogue from your video that-shadi ke baad ladka ek east facing plot bn jata hai,jiski registry har koi apne naam krana chahta hai ,biwi ,bhai -bhehan bhi aur ma-baap bhi.and see es shaheed fauji ki registry to uski shadat ke baad bhi apne naam krane ki jaddo-jehad chl rhi hai.
The media and the people calling her gold digger should be ashamed....
Parents are toxic! This family is hostile towards her. No doubt the chivalrous, deceased husband made her NoK. He ensured a comfortable life for her in case he was no more...
@@knotsandbrushesbyvandana the question is about respect .not money.
@reenabansal284 then why do they want the rules about NoK to change? who gets to be the NoK is solely about money. The parents are clearly wrong here & didn't hesitate to go to the media and talking nonsense about their widowed daughter in law. After all, she meant something to their son. In a way, they proved that once the son was no more, they didn't care about her. Selfish people to the core
@@knotsandbrushesbyvandana smriti hasn't prove that husband has no more.she didn't care about in laws?
The widow of Swargiya Anshuman Singh is correct in cutting ties after the parents decided to do politics over their deceased son. The parents are under pappu's influence and want to get more money out of their son's tragedy. It is blatantly out in the open. If the widow was a gold digger then she wouldn't have taken his clothes and personal belongings as they hold no monetary value but emotional ones
Absolutely 💯
@khullaasaand 👍Absolutely
Irrespective of who is right or wrong in this matter, Mr. Sangwan is making a lot of valid points and is making solid statements, which might sound bitter since they are true. Indian society has a lot of work to do, especially when it comes to in-laws/bahu situation (some parts of the country are more regressive than the others). Indian parents want to get their sons married off quickly, and then ideally want to have full control of their lives - bachche paida karne chahiye, kitne bachche paida karne chahiye yada yada - this is an area where the western society is really practical - parents and children lead their independent lives, live separately and maintain good relationships, meeting on special occasions. Parents move to be closer to their children too, if the children need help. This whole joint family system is India is the cause of several issues. Husband's parents visiting their married son and staying at his place for months is horrible too! Same applies to girl's parents too. Every couple and every family unit needs their privacy and space. Even though a couple might be in love, it makes sense for boys and girls to wait until age 30 to get married, since that's when maturity begins to kick in and girls are able to take a strong stance on what they want in a relationship. Also, it's high-time that couples have hard-conversations before marriage about having children, family expectations etc, although not all situations can be predicted in advance and every marriage will have some bumps along the way. A lot of Indian girls are choosing to marry non-Indian boys and vice-versa, since family drama is reduced to minimum (hopefully) since boy's parents do not have much expectations from the non-Indian bride. Else in some Indian cultures there is so much drama related to Indian bahu that bahu ne aisa nahi kiya, hume mithai nahi dee, what not - list is endless!
"DEWAR AUR BHABHI KI SHAADI KI PARAMPARA RAHI HAI HUMARE DESH HAI " dude ye kaunsa bhojpuri movie dekhte hai .
UP wale hain to wahi kachra hi dekhenge na
Dude.dont use such word for particular clan.i am from bihar.yaha devar bhabhi ko maa bete k tarah mana jana hai.generalize mat karo.har insaan ki apni apni soch hoti hai
Koi 19 hAi koi 20.bolne mein saare C hi ho
I so much wanted you to put forward your opinion in this case, guruji. And here it comes. Clearly, you are so right. It's a huge disrespect to the late Captain and his beloved wife by the toxic parents.
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Vice versa, it is disrespect by samriti to Anshuman parents, whom which was his husband a part
No side should be taken..
But yes there seems to be some discord between them & don't know who is who..
It should not be made public the way it came out
Hats off to you Amit Sir. This is the first time I am listening to you. I am also a parent of a son. What kind of sacrifice???!!!! Why to give birth if any parent thinks in this way. No one forced us to become parents. Then what kind of sacrifice?????
पहली बार दो लोगों को अवार्ड लेते देखा है । अगर शहीद शादी-शुदा होता है तो अवार्ड पतनी ही रिसीव करती है ।
एक तरफ विधवा व्याह को encourage करते हैं यहां कयों तकलीफ हो रही है ?
लोगों के कमेंट्स पढं के लगता है कि आने वाले वक्त में लोग deand करेंगे कि शहीद की पतनी को शहीद के साथ सती होना चाहिए ।
Because shayad aapne award function hi pehli baar dekha hai.
@@prabhasingh5064 I hv been watching since 1959 when i was just 8 year old .My chachaji awarded Ashok Chakra by pt. Jawahar lal Nehru. Maximum my close family members n extended family members served in defence . I my self is Retired defence officer's wife. So witnessed closely many award functions. I hv seen someone escorts d recipient in some cases, when d person is not able to walk . May b I hv seen this for d first time .
How true. Sach mein pehli baar do logon ko award lete dekha
Ye parents apne hisse ka paise lene ke baad bhi Jo kar rhe h...wo betiyon ke maa baap ko itna Dara denge ki army walon ko log betiyan dene se darenge.
Pati kitna bhi accha ho, nominee banake gya ho ...maa baap ka bhi hissa de ke gya ho phir bhi unke Shahid ho jaane par in-laws kitna mental torcher kar sakte h isse kon maa baap apni beti ki shaadi kar payenge.
Paise kitne bhi mil jaaye koi parents beti ko vidhawa dekhna nhi chahta, but sirf wo ek balidan aur pride hi h jisko lekar sab kuch jhel jaate h. Lekin wife ko defame karke ye pride bhi chhin loge to uske paas kya bachega.
Wo to nhi mang rhi property me hissa ya maintanence family se.
She has every right on herself not on the honour of her husband who is a son too
Thankyou so much for this video🙏🏻. I have all respect towards captain’s wife and parents.
But here I can share my experience as an army wife.
Being an army wife entails a level of sacrifice that goes beyond words. In the three years of my marriage, I have come to understand the profound emotional toll it takes. Unlike in civilian life, where couples often have the luxury of regular time together, an army wife must endure long periods of separation and navigate the complexities of a long-distance relationship.
We often find ourselves handling everything on our own, from household responsibilities to raising children, without the immediate support of our partners. Every small moment together, like sharing a cup of tea or taking an evening walk, becomes a cherished luxury. These brief times together are rare and precious, and they underscore the deep emotional sacrifices we make.
While civilian families can rely on having their spouses around for daily support and companionship, we live with the constant knowledge that our husbands' duties may call them away at any moment. Our lives are defined by this uncertainty and the need to be resilient and self-sufficient.
The sacrifices we make are profound and pervasive, affecting every aspect of our lives. It's a reality that can be difficult to fully convey, but it's one that shapes us into strong, resourceful, and deeply appreciative partners.
I'm glad that i watched this video....makes lot of sense!
By laid down rules, an army wife stands to some benefits after her husband's demise. In India, the girl is expected to be subservient to her in-laws whatever the case, and even to stay on as a 'widow' ...to continue to 'serve them' (but why?...she has parents...and her life of her own). An educated and independent girl of today will not abide by this 'culture'. Even the suggestion by the 'in-laws' to keep her with them and marry her off (as a daughter) or even to marry her to their second son, is preposterous! They should gracefully let her move on...with their blessings.
सास ससुर बस फायदा उठा रहे हैं मां बाप होने का
बिल्कुल
मां बाप बेटे के हाड का पैसा खाना चाहते हैं
@@Sushila-lm7xm जो माता पिता अपने बेटो का गृस्थ जीवन मानसिक रूप से स्वीकार नहीं करते वो ही हमेशा मां बाप होने की दुहाई देके फालतू बचकानी हरकत करते हैं और ड्रामा बनता है
What kind of father or mother wants to claim NOK benefits from his own son's death.
He himself must be geting pension still he wants more money, that too out of such a tragedy.
And the father in law's proposition of suggestimg her to marry younger brother is so medieval, repulsive and disgusting.
They just want to retain the money in family even if it means doing something so repulsive.
Which woman would want to live among such regressive people.
And what kind of wife is this wants to forget past life not keep in touch with parents but remembers past life to take kirti chakra
And why does wife want money she can work she is young money shd go to old parents your view is dosgusting
Sad that he passed away soo soon. 8yrs long distance love, and few months of marriage. Its a big hit.
Whoever knows love, they know the pain.
Parents losing chidren big hit too.
Vshameful act by parents,apne Shaheed bete ki shhaadat ko sharmsaar Kar diya
Parents are selfless but in this case it is not so. Shaurya Chakra is for the individual's bravery and not for others to take credit. Its an honour to be the family members of bravehearts .
Totally agree with amit sangwaan ,very well said
Beautiful line “maa toh apne bete ke khilona ko bhi pyar se rakti hai, toh uske jeevansathi jise woh pyar karta hai… usko kaise izzat de nahi sakte”
I have a 10 yr old son and will ensure I will love him and respect his decision and give love and affection to his wife and stay away from their marriage life.
Let the current generation take this step and not let our suffering pass on to next generation.
Shame on such parents, parents are not owners, children are not property or investment
In my opinion the money should be with the wife to continue her life and The Kirti Chakra would be with the martyr's family which is his own house where his parents live wife was married to the Captain and according to Indian Tradition and Culture , the newly wed wife's home is now where her husband's childhood has passed and his parents live so if wife decides to leave it then it is fine but she should not the Kirti Chakra with her because that is the right place for it. Accept it or not. Both parties should compromise their things and live life in the memory of the fallen Captain Anshuman Singh happily and peacefully.
I m really glad someone called it out... Parents and the widow are grieving but it is not right to compare who has faced a bigger loss n neither its right to compare the tenure that both parties have spent with the deceased!
Proud of u Sango sir.... outstanding always ❤
Thanks for taking up the issue. Grave injustice done to the memory of a brave son of mother India.
I think the way they blaming her, we can't ignore if they blame her for his death as Indian society, shadi k just baad aise kuch ho jaye toh ,blame girl ko jana normal h. Iss family ki baato k according they r showing such similar characteristics then why any girl should stay thr
Families bachani hai to husband wife k beech m mat ghusooo