I had c section for my child and my husband was doing dishes( in USA) and my mother in law kept telling him that he became a girl. There is no help in USA . She comes to visit us only some time and leaves her stupid mentality behind. Fast forward, 15 years, if I get sick my husband is clueless. I tell my son , if you don’t know how to do basics, no one will marry you.
Completely agree with your views on this.. for me, my mother didnt even allow me to change any arrangement in house even by an inch as per my wish...I was denied simple things and for every thing I was told.. do whatever you want in your in-laws' house after marriage... n obviously no MIL will allow their DIL to take control of a house... 😢
Dear sir,great video ! I have two daughters.i travelled with them all over the world and gave them best dresses and their favourite food everyday .I treated them like my princess ❤️.Now my elder daughter is working in Intel and she has so many stories to share with her colleagues about the fun-filled life I gave them and second one is pursuing chemical engineering.Thanks you sir for such thought provoking videos
Although we didn't do this with our daughter. But I agree this happens most of the times mainly with daughter and with son too saying "ki tum apna kamao phir ghoomna firna maze karna" Very relevant topic🎉🎉
Sir plz ladko k upbringing k lie b kuch video banaiye.. hmare parents ne hmko career oriented bhi banaya..lekin sath hi ghr ka sara kam b sikhaya. Magar on the other hand.. ladko k to maje hogye he.. unko pehle thoda paise kamane ka pressure hua karta tha kuki vo akele financial needs pure kia krte the..or aurate ghr sambhal ti thi.. magar ab aurate ghar b dekh leti he or job bhi..somewhere its guys who r lacking basic skills fir eg apne khud k chije sambhalna. Bura is bat ka lag ta he society ne job vali bahuye na sirf accept ki..magar ab khula khula ladke vale bolte he job vali chaiye ladki magar ladka unka do sal k bcho jese sb chijo k lie aurat pe depend hota he. Women are handling 2 things now..n Men se ek sambhal jae vahi bahut he.. Mard job krte the to unke ready kapde unke jute moje unka breakfast lunch dinnr sb kuch aurat kra krti thi.. aurat k kismat dekhiye aap.. mardo k barabar kamati he or fir b apna dhyan khud rkhti he apna saman khud sambhalti he.. or ladko k maa baap kabhi use ye nahi sikhate k unki bahu agr unk bete ko financial support kr rhi he to ladka b thoda ghr me haat bata dia kre.. tb unhe ye yaad ajata he k ghar sambhalna to aurat ka kaam.he.. us hisab se to financial needs puri karna mard ka kaam he..Aurate job kr hi ku rahi he fir?
Koi nahi bolta ki job waali hi chahiye. Jobless bhi sahi hoti hai agar 18 to 22 ho toh. 10 saal Tak faaltu jobs karke awaragardi karne ka shauk ladkiyon ko hi hai ajkl jyada
ye sirf 1% white collar wali ladkiyon ko face karna pad raha hey. baki ladiyan instead of doing blue collar or majdoori prefer bieng a housewife . aur ladkiyan hamesha apne se ameer ladke se shadi akrti hein to ghar ka kaam kyun ka kare ?
mat karo job. aur kar rahi ho to shaadi mat karo . job karna ladkiyan ki choice hey ladkon ko mandatory , to ekaadh job karke ameer ladke se shadi akrke usse fi 50 50 kaam karwayoge?
Excellent as always. Sir, I have one son + one Daughter. Now she is 24 in a corporate at a high position. Son is elder and just married. I have tried to fulfill all their desires like a foreign trip, india max places tour(for both), solo Goa trip with cousins, all with in reach jayaj gagdets etc . Kal kisney dekha hai . We are totally satisfied that we have done our duties at right time. 👌
The topic was well covered. I would like to add that it is important for parents to tell their daughters that do not be dependent on your partner for money or happiness. Be independent and have confidence in one’s own abilities to raise up in life.
Really true many girls were not allowed to wear or travel saying that this you can do in your husband s house. Here girls are taught that way but in reality nothing such happens. Than bitterness comes. And many more things are taught. Good👍👍
My mother in law is like, humne apni puri jindegi pati parmeswar or saas ki seva karke bitayi to tumhe v wohi karni hogi. Unhe ye ahsaas hi nehi ki hum dono same generation k nehi hai
@@Millions0fDreams yes mai job karti hu, apne husband se jyada kamati hu. Humdonoke future k liye savings karti hu, hum donoke baki expenses ka adha mai kharch karti hu. Fir v unki mentality same hi hai. jab mujhe apne sasural gye hue 2 mahine hi hua tha or neyi job me jyada income nehi ho raha tha tab mere sasurjika ye kahna tha ki mai timepass karne job me jati hu. Mai sirf job hi nehi karti thi, sath me gharke kaamo me sasuma ko help v karti thi kyu ki unko maid rakhna fizool kharcha lagta hai . Kam kamai unke liye kamai na karneki barabar thi to jyada kamaneke liye mai out of state kaam karne lagi hu, to ab unke liye mai ghar samhaal ne wali achi bahu nehi rehi.
@@annipaul91hats off to what you have seen and how you are managing things at your end. Mine just want to do shopping stuff with her money and not take part in house expenses or savings, two maids daily, no in law living together, can't stand if my mother comes foe few days. Her money is her money and my money is our money.
The good memories actually create a balance account on which basis human being can cope up his/her lowest times. Brene Brown, the American author and psychologist who reaserched vulnerability as couragious thing proved it in her research. We Indian actually never try to create account of happy memories and thats why we succumb easily on unhappiness and bitterness.
Don't keep your daughter's wishes/dreams/desire to wait till marriage. Don't teach your daughter to not serve her husband or don't teach your son to not server his wife. Let the couple figure out their terms of relationship.
I am really thankful to my parents who made us travel and have fun and do whatever we wanted to and learn whatever we desired to.... no expectations from the future husband regarding my wishes
I am very grateful to my parents for taking us on tours, feeding us good food and also helping out for upsc exams. After marriage i struggled a lot for basic necessities and was taunted for basic things. So i can understand what he is saying.
Your clarity of mind is epic. People need to think that way. Life is too simple but I don't know why such straight thoughts don't strike people's minds.
Solution centric video on Controlled parenting or toxic parenting... Child's point of view how to get rid of mental stress in this type of situation thankyou for your videos sir
सन eighty ninety तक बोलते रहे थे दो दो महीने की छुट्टी पड़ती थी पैरेंट्स को बोलते थे कहीं तो घुमा फिरा लाओ बोलते थे शादी के बाद घूमना। सन तैयीस आ गया है आज तक नहीं हो पाया चूल्हे चोके में ठूँसे पड़े हैं ग़ुलामी अलग कर रहें हैं(u r true)
No, 1990's married ladies are working. And even my mother was working. Though profession choice given to them was only teaching by her parents.. but still ladies tried to maintain balance between married life and job. They actually handled double burden.
The double burden is insane. Women are still treated the same way as their mom regardless of their financial achievements. Today, the life of a homemaker and her children is better than the life of a working woman and her kids.
@@aishwaryas9229its true, but that needs to change. Being homemaker is not a solution. Be a working mother and keep fighting for your rights at home, and do limited household work. One day things will change for you. If that doesn't happen atleast your daughter/son will know and learn what's right and wrong and will not repeat those things.
Good info. Thanks Girl before marriage: i want this stuff or want to travel. Girl' mom: you dont know how much messy our budget is with all expenses, papa is under stress!😢 Girl after marriage: i want this thing for me or house but hubby keep delaying. Girl's mom: aise thodi hota hai, shaadi ki hai toh zimmedari nibhani padegi. Sab expense kisi bhi nature ke karne padenge. 😅😅
Such a beautiful video....i have grown up watching my sister sacrificing everything to support my family. Love her n now I will give all my time, love, care n happiness to my daughter.
My parents never said this to me but I have heard some people saying this to their daughters. Too many restrictions lead to too many expectations in future.
While you are absolutely right on expectations and experiences of women married in late 80s and nineties or even earlier who have never had any horizon beyond imdt family life and their consequent frustrations- pl also do a video of why even a large proportion of girls who have had best of edn and degrees since 2010, have also not been able to pursue serious careers or even been able to take up appreciable jobs and continue with them for some length of time and prefer to opt for being 'homemakers' only?.Some one needs to do serious research on what has become of all the cl 10/12 topper girls between 2010 to 2015 of whose achievements we read in newspaper headlines May/ Jun every year? Overlap an excellent perspective!!
@@ecocart8836 Guruji has repeatedly said in his numerous videos that being 'homemaker only' can be considered challenging if we are doing the complete span of the job without aid of maids, servants, drivers etc! Are we? And moreover working women are also home makers and therefore an outside job while being a homemaker also definitely ought to be more challenging then being a homemaker only!! What say??
I remember asking my mom that's let's go to kashmir together for a trip this was after my dad passed away and I was in my early 30s, my mothers reply was get married and go with your husband to kashmir, mind you my mother is a educated lady. This statement was so passing off, after that I started backpacking and solo travels because all I wanted to make memories with my mother, while her solution was get married as if it is some golden apple😅 Indian parents can really be regressive at times despite being educated. I am sure she wouldn't say the same if I was her son or a boy!
Main kya likhoo main bhi yahi sochti hoon jee lo simrans hum khud five sis meri bhi beti hamare mummy papa ke vichaar bhi aapki hi Tarah stay blessed sir
Very true..... Housewife's contributes not only to their family but also to the society n their country. But all housewife should be financially independent.
Sir most of the sensible audience fully agrees with you . But I feel women have always been at a disadvantage . GOD has not done justice to women . Today the girl has lots of challenges because building a career takes time and it directly is in conflict with the biological clock . So it is obvious one or the other will suffer either family planning or career . Because it is the woman who only can bear children . So a woman can’t have it all . The biggest advantage men have - they don’t have to bear the consequences of a uterus . So all in all women always are at a disadvantage . A woman’s biggest strength of child bearing is also her biggest weakness
You have no sense . That is biggest advantage for them to live happy . Men never be satisfy by their work but a women is satisfy by born baby . She find a true love called child . That child give infinite happiness to them . A men never satisfy, no one give pay attention to men , no one get sympathy by men , no men do a true love like a mom can do with child .... Carrier is not everything , carrier is something . But happines is everything . It's no disadvantage or no weaknesses . Men and women are for complement each other , not for competition with each other ....
@@NEETJIII hate when men justify what woman feels. Kaun si ladki aapke pass aakar boli ki mujhe labour pain mei maza aarha. Just stfu 🙄 and mind your business. Don't justify what how we feel u don't have same hormone as I have . Rahi baat men ke emotional support ki toh unko hi chul h " mard ko Dard nhi hota" " mard rote nhi h " so onn ladkiyo ko koi farak nhi padta tum roo haso gaaao ya marjao kisi ko farak nhi padta. You men made this standard for yourself then who will suffer. Rahi baat ladkiya toh roo skti h bhai kaunsi duniya Mei jii rhe ho mujhe toh yaad hi nhi last time Kab royi thi Mai apne mummy papa ke samne and hiding tears is common when we grow. Many girls don't cry including me. Aur dosto ke samne toh kabhi bhi nhi royi. Men are emotionally neglected is the biggest false statement. Men are emotionally neglected because of the stupid standards of their community is the true statement.
modern women jst want to be coddled without doing any work . kitna death hota hey child birth me?@@ankitamishra0405 men build the civilization you are living in , you cant have you cake and eat it too . koi jabran to shaadi nahi kar raha an, job karo aur akele raho ya affair karo . kisne roka hey. chalo India ka chodo, west me to ye taboo nahi hey na . wahan ki ladies khus hey ??
Mai kv se padhi hu , mujhe papa ne sare Arman pure karne diye life me , meri behen ke bhi har Arman pure kiye papa ne , shadi ke baad ke liye kuch rakha hi ni , so meri expectations kuch high hai hi ni so life easy ho gai hai
Behen mere father k pas bahot income thi but mujhe poori life 1 rupya spend karne k liye nahi diya, now I am married earning good and spending money on my hobby playing cricket, touring, biking, gym, protein supplement.
I completely agree with you..Mom always push me to study and become independent as she don't want me to housewife. .I am now very happy as I know it is very difficult to manage house and become housewife...it is really difficult job... Also she never allowed me to go outside before marriage much.. but got lucky that my husband loves traveling...
Sir u r amazing i watch all ur videos sir i kindly request u to make videos on 40 plus women who r at the threshold of old age how to keep themselves busy in making acarrer or in short regarding empty nest syndrome .🎉
सच कहा आपने, बिना पैर पर खड़े हुए इस जहां में जिंदा रहना मुमकिन नहीं। एक बार जब उन्हें जो इच्छा हो करने देना चाहिए। मेरी भी एक बेटी है, एक 20का बेटा है। कभी भी सायकल, बाइक, और 18वर्ष तक गाड़ी भी चलाना आ गया था।अब जब कि उनके पास लाइसेंस, आई कार्ड सब कुछ ठीक हो गया तो , उसने इमरजेंसी होने पर हमें आराम देता है। मेरे पति एक अच्छे गार्जियन साबित हुए हैं। मैं बीच-बीच में टोकती भी थी। किन्तु स्कूल के तरफ़ से जब भी इन बच्चों का ट्रिप प्लान होता, हमारे दोनों बच्चे अवश्य जाते। और घर का खाना उन्हें बहुत ही पसंद आता। अभी भी दोनों भाई बहन अच्छे खाने के शौकीन हैं।🙏🤗
I am glad my mother didn't raise me like this...she is working yet runs the household like a superwoman. It should never be a either/or situation. Do you. And let the couple decide the internal arrangements.
In my case it was just opposite , my mother in law was a working woman and I met my wife in my office but the day our relationship became serious she told after marriage I will not work , she wanted to be a housewife
@@as-uv2ik i am comfortable as by god grace I have enough ancestral property to secure mine and my kids future and I am not totally dependent on my salary
Ye bilkul sahi bola parents ne bol dia kya humari tarah chulha choka karogi to aajkal ki ladkia Ghar hi nahi bethna chahti unhe kitchen ya Ghar ki taraf koi responsibility hi nahi reh gayi.. jab ki ladkio ki padhai ka matlab hota hai next generation yani apne bacho ko shikshit karna naki sirf job se paise kamana.. Karo job lekin Ghar ke regular cheezo ko bojh mat samzho na hi chota Ghar ka kaam bhi chota nahi hai logically ye Survival skills hi to hai.. aana to sab chahiye aur waqt aane par Karo bhi baki job Karo na karo tumhari marzi and same goes to men's also unhe bhi Ghar ke kaam sikhao.. aise itne hi cases hai ki Bahu Ghar ka koi kaam hi nahi karna chahti kyunki maa ne bola tha humari tarah chulha choka 😒 thik hai kitchen mei shayad interest na ho lekin Ghar ke aur kamo mei interest to ho lekin nahi kisi b kaam mei interest na hona matlab?
@@kusumrastogi5672 I am also a Bahu not saas but what is correct is correct Ghar chalana is everybody's input na ki sirf saas na ki sirf Bahu na ki sirf beta sabke apne roles hai agar kuch roles change huee hai aajkal ki generation mei to use aaram se bethkar aaram se divide Karo problem 1 hi hai communication gap baki personal nature to matter karta hi hai Jo kaamchor hai wo rahega
@@kusumrastogi5672 does your beta has interest in kitchen work if both are earning then both should cook Your time has gone pls don't expect everything from bahu don't be a toxic sas
@@sapnakalra5150 my son equally does housework, as for myself I have been in govt job but took responsibility of house also....with help of maids though, I just expect her not to just take care of her job but share household responsibility too, 😉
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I had c section for my child and my husband was doing dishes( in USA) and my mother in law kept telling him that he became a girl. There is no help in USA . She comes to visit us only some time and leaves her stupid mentality behind. Fast forward, 15 years, if I get sick my husband is clueless. I tell my son , if you don’t know how to do basics, no one will marry you.
Completely agree with your views on this.. for me, my mother didnt even allow me to change any arrangement in house even by an inch as per my wish...I was denied simple things and for every thing I was told.. do whatever you want in your in-laws' house after marriage... n obviously no MIL will allow their DIL to take control of a house... 😢
Buy your own house.... From your hard earned money money.... that's the only thing I did n feel good
arrangement in house? what do you mean by this?
@@utkarsh_108many parents don’t allow daughters to even move a chair to a different corner of the room
Dear sir,great video ! I have two daughters.i travelled with them all over the world and gave them best dresses and their favourite food everyday .I treated them like my princess ❤️.Now my elder daughter is working in Intel and she has so many stories to share with her colleagues about the fun-filled life I gave them and second one is pursuing chemical engineering.Thanks you sir for such thought provoking videos
Beautiful! Congratulations on being such a good and loving father! Lucky daughters!
Great sir👏
Although we didn't do this with our daughter. But I agree this happens most of the times mainly with daughter and with son too saying "ki tum apna kamao phir ghoomna firna maze karna" Very relevant topic🎉🎉
Every parent is thinking about the best for the child. What ever the way they are following is a different topic.
Sir plz ladko k upbringing k lie b kuch video banaiye.. hmare parents ne hmko career oriented bhi banaya..lekin sath hi ghr ka sara kam b sikhaya. Magar on the other hand.. ladko k to maje hogye he.. unko pehle thoda paise kamane ka pressure hua karta tha kuki vo akele financial needs pure kia krte the..or aurate ghr sambhal ti thi.. magar ab aurate ghar b dekh leti he or job bhi..somewhere its guys who r lacking basic skills fir eg apne khud k chije sambhalna. Bura is bat ka lag ta he society ne job vali bahuye na sirf accept ki..magar ab khula khula ladke vale bolte he job vali chaiye ladki magar ladka unka do sal k bcho jese sb chijo k lie aurat pe depend hota he. Women are handling 2 things now..n Men se ek sambhal jae vahi bahut he..
Mard job krte the to unke ready kapde unke jute moje unka breakfast lunch dinnr sb kuch aurat kra krti thi.. aurat k kismat dekhiye aap.. mardo k barabar kamati he or fir b apna dhyan khud rkhti he apna saman khud sambhalti he.. or ladko k maa baap kabhi use ye nahi sikhate k unki bahu agr unk bete ko financial support kr rhi he to ladka b thoda ghr me haat bata dia kre.. tb unhe ye yaad ajata he k ghar sambhalna to aurat ka kaam.he.. us hisab se to financial needs puri karna mard ka kaam he..Aurate job kr hi ku rahi he fir?
Koi nahi bolta ki job waali hi chahiye. Jobless bhi sahi hoti hai agar 18 to 22 ho toh. 10 saal Tak faaltu jobs karke awaragardi karne ka shauk ladkiyon ko hi hai ajkl jyada
Haan. Ladke Jaise crores mein kamaa rahe.
@@putin3491 ch**t ka khel hai Babu bhaiya
ye sirf 1% white collar wali ladkiyon ko face karna pad raha hey. baki ladiyan instead of doing blue collar or majdoori prefer bieng a housewife . aur ladkiyan hamesha apne se ameer ladke se shadi akrti hein to ghar ka kaam kyun ka kare ?
mat karo job. aur kar rahi ho to shaadi mat karo . job karna ladkiyan ki choice hey ladkon ko mandatory , to ekaadh job karke ameer ladke se shadi akrke usse fi 50 50 kaam karwayoge?
Excellent as always. Sir, I have one son + one Daughter. Now she is 24 in a corporate at a high position. Son is elder and just married. I have tried to fulfill all their desires like a foreign trip, india max places tour(for both), solo Goa trip with cousins, all with in reach jayaj gagdets etc . Kal kisney dekha hai . We are totally satisfied that we have done our duties at right time. 👌
The topic was well covered. I would like to add that it is important for parents to tell their daughters that do not be dependent on your partner for money or happiness. Be independent and have confidence in one’s own abilities to raise up in life.
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Really true many girls were not allowed to wear or travel saying that this you can do in your husband s house. Here girls are taught that way but in reality nothing such happens. Than bitterness comes. And many more things are taught. Good👍👍
My mother in law is like, humne apni puri jindegi pati parmeswar or saas ki seva karke bitayi to tumhe v wohi karni hogi. Unhe ye ahsaas hi nehi ki hum dono same generation k nehi hai
Unki mentality wahi hai jaisi college me senior student junior ki ragging karte hai
Tell her kya unke generation mein mobile nhn tha toh Aaj mobile kyun use kar rahein h
To didi aur karti kya ho tm ghar me? Kahi job krti ho to thik hai
@@Millions0fDreams yes mai job karti hu, apne husband se jyada kamati hu. Humdonoke future k liye savings karti hu, hum donoke baki expenses ka adha mai kharch karti hu. Fir v unki mentality same hi hai. jab mujhe apne sasural gye hue 2 mahine hi hua tha or neyi job me jyada income nehi ho raha tha tab mere sasurjika ye kahna tha ki mai timepass karne job me jati hu. Mai sirf job hi nehi karti thi, sath me gharke kaamo me sasuma ko help v karti thi kyu ki unko maid rakhna fizool kharcha lagta hai . Kam kamai unke liye kamai na karneki barabar thi to jyada kamaneke liye mai out of state kaam karne lagi hu, to ab unke liye mai ghar samhaal ne wali achi bahu nehi rehi.
@@annipaul91hats off to what you have seen and how you are managing things at your end.
Mine just want to do shopping stuff with her money and not take part in house expenses or savings, two maids daily, no in law living together, can't stand if my mother comes foe few days. Her money is her money and my money is our money.
The good memories actually create a balance account on which basis human being can cope up his/her lowest times. Brene Brown, the American author and psychologist who reaserched vulnerability as couragious thing proved it in her research. We Indian actually never try to create account of happy memories and thats why we succumb easily on unhappiness and bitterness.
Don't keep your daughter's wishes/dreams/desire to wait till marriage.
Don't teach your daughter to not serve her husband or don't teach your son to not server his wife. Let the couple figure out their terms of relationship.
I am really thankful to my parents who made us travel and have fun and do whatever we wanted to and learn whatever we desired to.... no expectations from the future husband regarding my wishes
I am very grateful to my parents for taking us on tours, feeding us good food and also helping out for upsc exams. After marriage i struggled a lot for basic necessities and was taunted for basic things. So i can understand what he is saying.
Your clarity of mind is epic. People need to think that way. Life is too simple but I don't know why such straight thoughts don't strike people's minds.
Yes. True sir. Daughters deserve much more in life 🤩🤩👌👌👌
Solution centric video on
Controlled parenting or toxic parenting...
Child's point of view how to get rid of mental stress in this type of situation thankyou for your videos sir
So damn true , and when my parents say ki shadi k baad karne aisa kaam to mujhe lagta hai jaise pati na ho gya bhagwan ho gya 😢
Sahi kaha..husband ke upar bhoj dal dete hai..fir clash hota hai...then ultimate led to divorce...
Whi to..
Completed agree with you .Yes, these scenarios do exist in the middle class families.
सन eighty ninety तक बोलते रहे थे दो दो महीने की छुट्टी पड़ती थी पैरेंट्स को बोलते थे कहीं तो घुमा फिरा लाओ बोलते थे शादी के बाद घूमना। सन तैयीस आ गया है आज तक नहीं हो पाया चूल्हे चोके में ठूँसे पड़े हैं ग़ुलामी अलग कर रहें हैं(u r true)
Beautiful. Thought provoking.Must watch for parents'
Saw full video. Wow what a video. You are playing role of father for us..true guide
Very true sir
We must satisfied our daughters if they are happy they'll keep others happy
No, 1990's married ladies are working. And even my mother was working. Though profession choice given to them was only teaching by her parents.. but still ladies tried to maintain balance between married life and job. They actually handled double burden.
The double burden is insane. Women are still treated the same way as their mom regardless of their financial achievements. Today, the life of a homemaker and her children is better than the life of a working woman and her kids.
Very true..
@@aishwaryas9229its true, but that needs to change. Being homemaker is not a solution. Be a working mother and keep fighting for your rights at home, and do limited household work. One day things will change for you. If that doesn't happen atleast your daughter/son will know and learn what's right and wrong and will not repeat those things.
@@aishwaryas9229again individualistic experience. I have seen examples of children of working women being more better than the non working one's.
Mazze....pathi ko na lene athi he,na karane 😂😂😂😂😂
Your sense of humor🔥
All in all, very wholesome and informative!🙏
You are doing great job. I am sure. You will change our society.
Good info. Thanks
Girl before marriage: i want this stuff or want to travel.
Girl' mom: you dont know how much messy our budget is with all expenses, papa is under stress!😢
Girl after marriage: i want this thing for me or house but hubby keep delaying.
Girl's mom: aise thodi hota hai, shaadi ki hai toh zimmedari nibhani padegi. Sab expense kisi bhi nature ke karne padenge. 😅😅
जय हो बहुत बढ़िया मार्गदर्शन,आपकी कीर्ति जयवंत रहे
Such a beautiful video....i have grown up watching my sister sacrificing everything to support my family. Love her n now I will give all my time, love, care n happiness to my daughter.
Sir kya bat GURUJI In true sense
Thank you sir for practical solutions.
Very interesting..and good advice 👍
Very well exact guidance
Beautiful video...thoughtful
Thank you🙏
Sir !! You are a genius .
Sir u r always absolutely Right
GOOD topic
Amazing video Sir
Very relevant points.
Great 👍
Thank you
Perfect video !
Thanks so much
Good video. More examples can be used. But the idea was conveyed well.
Very good advice ❣️
Good thoughtful content
My parents never said this to me but I have heard some people saying this to their daughters. Too many restrictions lead to too many expectations in future.
Sir, you have highlighted the realities that society is not at all comfortable talking about...leave alone thinking about...
Jai ho GBU take care of yourself 🙏
👏👏👏Every word perfect Sir
I appreciate the video i am throughly convinced with this video
Very true sir, i suffered a lot in my parents house,😢 but luckily my husband is the Gem person ❤😊
Bilkul Sahi kaha Aapne. I agree 👍
Bahut hi badhiya jankari sir ji
I am happy that mere parents ne ye sare cheeze papa ne hi fulfill Kiya hai ,
While you are absolutely right on expectations and experiences of women married in late 80s and nineties or even earlier who have never had any horizon beyond imdt family life and their consequent frustrations- pl also do a video of why even a large proportion of girls who have had best of edn and degrees since 2010, have also not been able to pursue serious careers or even been able to take up appreciable jobs and continue with them for some length of time and prefer to opt for being 'homemakers' only?.Some one needs to do serious research on what has become of all the cl 10/12 topper girls between 2010 to 2015 of whose achievements we read in newspaper headlines May/ Jun every year?
Overlap an excellent perspective!!
very simple..family of that age days..never want to make.
super women to......just simple independent women.
Yeah you are right
Why would you say 'homemakers' only..? You think that's a very easy job..?
Less job more bias in job… until land unless sufficient jobs are created bias will be there
@@ecocart8836
Guruji has repeatedly said in his numerous videos that being 'homemaker only' can be considered challenging if we are doing the complete span of the job without aid of maids, servants, drivers etc! Are we?
And moreover working women are also home makers and therefore an outside job while being a homemaker also definitely ought to be more challenging then being a homemaker only!!
What say??
Love you sir! Your videos on such serious topics are thought provoking as well as leaves the message for society in a funny manner.
Absolutely right 👍
I remember asking my mom that's let's go to kashmir together for a trip this was after my dad passed away and I was in my early 30s, my mothers reply was get married and go with your husband to kashmir, mind you my mother is a educated lady. This statement was so passing off, after that I started backpacking and solo travels because all I wanted to make memories with my mother, while her solution was get married as if it is some golden apple😅 Indian parents can really be regressive at times despite being educated. I am sure she wouldn't say the same if I was her son or a boy!
You r doing wonderful work sir
Badia🎉
Very good point sir
Very good one
thanks sir.
Main kya likhoo main bhi yahi sochti hoon jee lo simrans hum khud five sis meri bhi beti hamare mummy papa ke vichaar bhi aapki hi Tarah stay blessed sir
I have a daughter, now she is at 3 and I'll remember these things.
Sir sach bata rahi hu. Rona aa gaya. 🥲🥹
Yeh dono cheeze mere saath hoti h.
Aur aapne kitna exactly bataya h.
I wish meri mummy papa yeh smj paye. 😅
mere se shadi karogi?
Bilkul sach hai sir esa hi hua hai 🙏
Very nice
Thanks Sir 🙏
👌🏻👌🏻👌🏻 great content sir😊❤
good case study
Very true..... Housewife's contributes not only to their family but also to the society n their country. But all housewife should be financially independent.
Sir most of the sensible audience fully agrees with you . But I feel women have always been at a disadvantage . GOD has not done justice to women .
Today the girl has lots of challenges because building a career takes time and it directly is in conflict with the biological clock .
So it is obvious one or the other will suffer either family planning or career .
Because it is the woman who only can bear children .
So a woman can’t have it all .
The biggest advantage men have - they don’t have to bear the consequences of a uterus .
So all in all women always are at a disadvantage .
A woman’s biggest strength of child bearing is also her biggest weakness
You have no sense . That is biggest advantage for them to live happy . Men never be satisfy by their work but a women is satisfy by born baby . She find a true love called child . That child give infinite happiness to them . A men never satisfy, no one give pay attention to men , no one get sympathy by men , no men do a true love like a mom can do with child ....
Carrier is not everything , carrier is something . But happines is everything .
It's no disadvantage or no weaknesses .
Men and women are for complement each other , not for competition with each other ....
@@NEETJII or whi bachche jab maa ko puchte tak nhi.. Bhul jaate h career shaadi k baad.. Jinke liye mother etni devoted rhi h... Tab kya kre wo...
@@NEETJIII hate when men justify what woman feels. Kaun si ladki aapke pass aakar boli ki mujhe labour pain mei maza aarha. Just stfu 🙄 and mind your business. Don't justify what how we feel u don't have same hormone as I have .
Rahi baat men ke emotional support ki toh unko hi chul h
" mard ko Dard nhi hota"
" mard rote nhi h " so onn ladkiyo ko koi farak nhi padta tum roo haso gaaao ya marjao kisi ko farak nhi padta. You men made this standard for yourself then who will suffer.
Rahi baat ladkiya toh roo skti h bhai kaunsi duniya Mei jii rhe ho mujhe toh yaad hi nhi last time Kab royi thi Mai apne mummy papa ke samne and hiding tears is common when we grow. Many girls don't cry including me. Aur dosto ke samne toh kabhi bhi nhi royi.
Men are emotionally neglected is the biggest false statement.
Men are emotionally neglected because of the stupid standards of their community is the true statement.
modern women jst want to be coddled without doing any work . kitna death hota hey child birth me?@@ankitamishra0405 men build the civilization you are living in , you cant have you cake and eat it too . koi jabran to shaadi nahi kar raha an, job karo aur akele raho ya affair karo . kisne roka hey. chalo India ka chodo, west me to ye taboo nahi hey na . wahan ki ladies khus hey ??
Super Sir ji.
DDLJ
The crown and all....
kyA tareekha apnaaya aapnE!
Kamaal hain Sir ji 😂👏👏👏👏👏
ye khud janta h ki ye chutiya bna ra h... iski hasi bhu chhut gyi. lol.
Nice explanation 👌
Mai kv se padhi hu , mujhe papa ne sare Arman pure karne diye life me , meri behen ke bhi har Arman pure kiye papa ne , shadi ke baad ke liye kuch rakha hi ni , so meri expectations kuch high hai hi ni so life easy ho gai hai
Are u bengali?
@@anirbanghosh1670 r u finding a match for yourself 😂😂
@Tanisha Arora are you married
Lucky you.
Behen mere father k pas bahot income thi but mujhe poori life 1 rupya spend karne k liye nahi diya, now I am married earning good and spending money on my hobby playing cricket, touring, biking, gym, protein supplement.
Kya baat! 👏 👍
Good
Soo true.. 👌👌👌❤❤🙏🙏
I completely agree with you..Mom always push me to study and become independent as she don't want me to housewife. .I am now very happy as I know it is very difficult to manage house and become housewife...it is really difficult job... Also she never allowed me to go outside before marriage much.. but got lucky that my husband loves traveling...
Thanks
Good video❤❤❤
Too good
Brilliant vedio
Very nice 😊
Like it ❤
Sir u r amazing i watch all ur videos sir i kindly request u to make videos on 40 plus women who r at the threshold of old age how to keep themselves busy in making acarrer or in short regarding empty nest syndrome .🎉
Start doing something u like most.
Nice
Bilkul sahi kaha apne
Yeah
Super
Exillant sir
सच कहा आपने, बिना पैर पर खड़े हुए इस जहां में
जिंदा रहना मुमकिन नहीं। एक बार जब उन्हें जो इच्छा हो करने देना चाहिए। मेरी भी एक बेटी है, एक 20का
बेटा है। कभी भी सायकल, बाइक, और 18वर्ष तक गाड़ी भी चलाना आ गया था।अब जब कि उनके पास लाइसेंस, आई कार्ड सब कुछ ठीक हो गया तो , उसने इमरजेंसी होने पर हमें आराम देता है। मेरे पति एक अच्छे गार्जियन साबित हुए हैं। मैं बीच-बीच में टोकती भी थी।
किन्तु स्कूल के तरफ़ से जब भी इन बच्चों का ट्रिप प्लान होता, हमारे दोनों बच्चे अवश्य जाते। और घर का खाना उन्हें बहुत ही पसंद आता। अभी भी दोनों भाई बहन
अच्छे खाने के शौकीन हैं।🙏🤗
Very true
Awsome analysis
True
I am glad my mother didn't raise me like this...she is working yet runs the household like a superwoman. It should never be a either/or situation. Do you. And let the couple decide the internal arrangements.
Are u bengali? Or from odisha?
In my case it was just opposite , my mother in law was a working woman and I met my wife in my office but the day our relationship became serious she told after marriage I will not work , she wanted to be a housewife
@@parth1511 so what's ur opinion u are comfortable with it or not
@@as-uv2ik i am comfortable as by god grace I have enough ancestral property to secure mine and my kids future and I am not totally dependent on my salary
True... this happened with me😢
Sir, I request you to add English subtitles. Please. People like me who don't know HIndi would benefit a lot.
Ye bilkul sahi bola parents ne bol dia kya humari tarah chulha choka karogi to aajkal ki ladkia Ghar hi nahi bethna chahti unhe kitchen ya Ghar ki taraf koi responsibility hi nahi reh gayi.. jab ki ladkio ki padhai ka matlab hota hai next generation yani apne bacho ko shikshit karna naki sirf job se paise kamana.. Karo job lekin Ghar ke regular cheezo ko bojh mat samzho na hi chota Ghar ka kaam bhi chota nahi hai logically ye Survival skills hi to hai.. aana to sab chahiye aur waqt aane par Karo bhi baki job Karo na karo tumhari marzi and same goes to men's also unhe bhi Ghar ke kaam sikhao.. aise itne hi cases hai ki Bahu Ghar ka koi kaam hi nahi karna chahti kyunki maa ne bola tha humari tarah chulha choka 😒 thik hai kitchen mei shayad interest na ho lekin Ghar ke aur kamo mei interest to ho lekin nahi kisi b kaam mei interest na hona matlab?
Boys bhi krste h kaam it's not necessary ki girls hi kre
Same happens in my house bahu has no interest in kitchen work, all maids will do, she only knows earning and taking help of her husband
@@kusumrastogi5672 I am also a Bahu not saas but what is correct is correct Ghar chalana is everybody's input na ki sirf saas na ki sirf Bahu na ki sirf beta sabke apne roles hai agar kuch roles change huee hai aajkal ki generation mei to use aaram se bethkar aaram se divide Karo problem 1 hi hai communication gap baki personal nature to matter karta hi hai Jo kaamchor hai wo rahega
@@kusumrastogi5672 does your beta has interest in kitchen work if both are earning then both should cook
Your time has gone pls don't expect everything from bahu don't be a toxic sas
@@sapnakalra5150 my son equally does housework, as for myself I have been in govt job but took responsibility of house also....with help of maids though, I just expect her not to just take care of her job but share household responsibility too, 😉