To all the people saying , oh you’re pretty etc, as a certified ugly girl, this has no effect on me. You don’t have to be pretty to be treated like a person, it isn’t compulsory. Some people don’t fit the standards, and that’s okay.
Objectively I can’t believe society made you think that you were ugly. You have a beautiful clean skin, nice coloured eyes and eyebrows, your hair looks healthy your lips are plump you’ve got nice white teeth and a smooth looking nose. You’re literally so pretty, changing glasses that will fit your face shape is gonna help you, I believe that you will look simply gorgeous if you were to part you hair. So pretty
Is this a joke or... she's literally attractive. She's exactly the kind of girl from the movies who ends up being the prettiest girl in school by taking off her glasses and wearing makeup
I can't take any compliments. I'm always looking at my reflection when I'm out in public. When friends take pictures of me I'm always just starring at my face HATING it. Shit sucks. Also, I know this doesn't matter but I think you're very cute. Wishing you the best!
Exactly. I hate myself on pictures and knowing that the way I see myself on the mirror is not the way people see me… oh boy it makes me wanna stay at home for the rest of my life 😀
hearing you refer to yourself as ugly helps me to comprehend I might not be as ugly as I think I am. You seriously are a pretty girl, There are ways women highlight there lovely features you obviously have not been exposed to, plus can tell you feel sad and defeated so harder to see yourself for all you are. This is part of my life long struggle, I learned the beauty tricks and people treated me as if I was beautiful. But reality inside I feel same as you do now. I am still traumatized about my looks I just do all the tricks to look my best than forget about it, basicly put all my attention on others to cope. Thing is both fact I am ageing and sometimes people take pictures of me puts me back into trama response OMG I am so ugly. Hugs, find a trusted friend that help you fine tune your beauty that is clearly there, but hope you get help I wish I had to deal with false inner critic.
I'm going to be honest with you: you're not ugly. You're not a model (which for some reason we all compare ourselves to), you are a normal girl. You're actually pretty cute. Please stop comparing yourself to people who has access to expensive hair stylist and spend who knows how much time putting on makeup just for a video that is going to be further edited.
@iamme25yago her points are right but the thing is she's not ugly , not even the slightest... her face doesn't match with her experiences, that's why most people will not take her seriously, it seems she's just insecure, not ugly, one day she will find happiness
Exactly like I get beauty standards are crazy but people having to console you for not being supermodel hot when most of us aren’t is silly when you think about it!
@@iamme25yagothe reason its annoying is because when you constantly say it to other people you can’t expect them to just agree when they don’t. If you’re not gonna listen then why even say anything at all to other people, especially to the people close to you bc they probably don’t agree and it’s hurtful when you say things like that and then ask them not to disagree.
While there is nothing wrong with being physically ugly, she is objectively NOT ugly. She feels and thinks she is, probably because she was bullied mercilessly. As she ages and matures, I'm hoping she will feel differently. I was bullied mercilessly all through grade school, middle school, and high school. One boy pretended to ask me out and then immediately walked over to his friends and pointed and laughed at me. My freshman year, some of my male bullies tied me to a flagpole after school and ripped my shirt open to "prove" whether or not I was a girl, because I was so flat-chested and "SHE'S SECRETLY A DUDE" was their favorite narrative to bully me with. I not only graduated high school a virgin, but I had never even been kissed. I'm 30 years old, and I still struggle a bit with my confidence. Most days, I feel decent about my looks, with some bad days sprinkled in. I went from thinking I was hideous and unlovable to feeling confident most days. I'm hoping she will go through the same epiphany I did: That she is NOT ugly, she just had ugly PEOPLE in her life who treated her horribly for one stupid reason or another. I also realized that most of the girls I knew who believed they were ugly were NOT, and THAT made me realize that if all these girls who believe they're ugly are actually pretty, then I might be having the same dysmorphia they are. That mindset also helped with my body as well. I would ask myself "does my stomach shape look bad on this woman?" I would realize it doesn't, so why would it look bad on me? It seems like the older I get, the more I realize I don't know anything about myself. A lot of my perceptions of myself were extremely distorted and just ingrained into me by other people or society. Edit: THIS IS ALSO WHY BULLYING SHOULD BE CRIMINALLY CHARGED, DEPENDING ON THE SEVERITY. IT CAN POTENTIALLY DAMAGE PEOPLE LIFELONG AND CAUSES TEEN SUICIDE TOO OFTEN.
Agree. She's not ugly, but pretty. As an older man, her youth is attractive, but so are her facial features and lack of sluttiness and shallowness. She would be marriage or dating material for a man in his 30s or 40s, however, she's probably so damaged by low self-esteem, she'd be a handful.
She is and she knows it. That makes her perceptive, self-aware, and wise. Don't take that away from her. Don't replace her self-knowledge with delusions and lies.
I agree that people in general are often too hard on themselves in terms of looks or other things... Bullying is a very bad thing to do and should be avoided and stopped as much as possible. Some people (mainly girls) sometimes claim that they are ugly to seek attention and acceptance by people telling them otherwise and cheering them up. I think that the girl from the video just has low self-esteem for some reason... That is sad and the best advice I can give is that mental health and being strong mentally is more important than looks. Because even very good looking people struggle with their self worth and perception of themselves... This goes to show that even if you change your face or your looks in general externally, in the long term it might not be enough to satisfy your inner self criticism... So, in my opinion it's better to start with changing the things that we can control more easily, such as good hygiene to look and feel more clean and tidy, etc. All the best to everyone struggling mentally or in any other way... We are all in this together. Let's support one another. 😎😉😇🙏🕯️
Dude I have been exactly where you are and a lot of days I still feel like that, but trust me this is more of a mental issue than anything and I believe if you had regular therapy it would be a lot better for you. I would take so many pictures of myself in jr high and high school and just obsess over how I looked and cry about it so many times, but now at 25 I’m doing a lot better and I’ve realized it’s not really my body I hate, it’s just there are a lot of internal factors that I need to work on in order to feel at peace, and when I’m having a good day I feel absolutely beautiful. You’re a normal girl and you don’t have to be a super model to feel good about yourself! The world’s expectations are weird because we’re so used to seeing people doing the most all the time and yes there are gorgeous people, but trust me your character matters SO MUCH MORE than your looks.
Wow u guys r so cool. SHE doesn’t feel like she’s beautiful. You’re just invalidating how she feels by pitting “how much worse” you are . Let her express her pain without someone comparing
I'm 30 year old woman and I'm even uglier now.... Still single, and I don't have 1 single friend in the whole wide world. I'm completely lonely. I envy you who has at least 1 person to talk to once in every while.
You’re pretty !! I admire your bravery and honesty to share painful experiences, but you look perfect to me. Perhaps you’ve had the misfortune of being surrounded by narcissists. Narcs are attracted to strength, virtue, AND beauty… but their reflections are like funhouse mirrors, distorting our true essence and value. It’s by convincing us we’re worth less than we are that they can gain and maintain control over us. Narcs always choose the worthy to attack and confuse. I used to have body dysmorphic disorder so bad… In high school I felt guilty people had to look at me, and I was treated as less-than, as I perceived myself to be. As I healed on the inside, my outer world started reflecting my status an attractive and valuable woman. May you discover your beauty in spades! You’ve got it.
I relate to you so much. I never really got compliments growing up and when I did it was like "your clothes look pretty", it was never that *I* looked pretty. The awkward silence from friends when I say that I feel ugly hurts. I also wear glasses and sometimes I go without them because my face will look more blurry and it's harder to see the real me. I cried after I saw myself in the mirror with my glasses, it's like I had 100 more imperfections that I hadn't noticed before.
We have same experiences bruh.When I say I'm ugly they're like "well atleast you have a great personality" like bruh they just admit I'm literally ugly lmao but it hurts and unfortunately,my feelings wouldn't matter to them
Tbh if you complain about being ugly around ur friends it sounds like your fishing for compliments which sounds really insecure. So yeah it's reasonable for someone to not say anything in that situation.
This really makes me reflect on how beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and how a person sees themselves could be radically different to how other people see them.
Read the book Psycho-cybernetics. This guy from the 50s coined it and discovered we have 2 images. He discovered the self-image and how you can literally not see what is actually there. LITERALLY.
yeah that is so trippy to think about, the idea of identity. what is your interpretation of self and if it changes when you are around different people vs alone.
I feel so related, i am always THE ugly girl for my whole life with bucket teeth and thick glasses. Totally nerd nerd. My friends always say they like my personality but i have never received a single compliment as "you look beautiful". I want somebody to say this to me at least once. Having a great personality has nothing to do with feeling confident for me. Girl, let's get through this together. Hope we'll be fine someday.
You are absolutely stunning !!!! Perfect in every single way and I swear to the god I know to be real you are gunna find everything you could ever hope to find but much much more ! You won’t even be able to imagine the awesome things god gunna do and you , you ! Young lady will be right in the middle of all of it ! Keep posting videos w whatever is on your mind you are a gift to those around you but to the world and the future you are a treasure we can’t make it with out !!!!!!!❤
The first one is so relatable. "Noooooo... you're not.... ugly😞" like im being honest, i dont want pity. It sucks trying to be honest about my feelings and people just shut it down
then don’t bring it up? You can’t be mad at people for trying to make you feel better. I just wonder what you want them to say. I’ve been put in that situation with my best friend often and I truly believe she’s so beautiful so when she says she’s ugly so often of course I get uncomfortable because she really isn’t to me. Then I’m accused of lying or being fake for not agreeing but I’d be mean if I did anyways??
I’m not trying to invalidate the feelings you have but if you don’t want pity then don’t bring up your insecurities and create that negative atmosphere. Everyone struggles with insecurity but their confidence despite those things is what makes them attractive. Just like the girl in this video is NOT ugly and there’s really no such thing. It’s her attitude about herself and others that is making her less attractive in my eyes. However, I don’t know what she’s been through or the things that have happened to make her feel this way but the moment she learns to stop focusing on her physical appearance her outer appearance will automatically become more attractive.
@@natalienoelle9122 "theres no such thing as being ugly" Goodbye. I don't randomly bring up what I look like anymore like I used to when I was young. I usually just respond honestly if I'm given a fake compliment, and thats where my frustration lies with fake pity and fake compliments given to me when I never asked for it nowadays. Its invalidating
@@raepan2797 okay but are you telling yourself they’re fake...? I mean what makes you so sure. Because you’re insecure and believe you’re ugly? Because if that’s the case then this makes sense. It’s so stupid sounding I know, but I genuinely believe that how you feel about yourself will also be how others see you. If you are comfortable with yourself and have confidence in the things you like about yourself others will too and whatever you’re insecure about is overlooked. If you’re constantly self deprecating wether you’re vocal about it or not those opinions of yourself become the opinions of those around you as well because all they know is what you put out 🤷🏼♀️ when you are genuine and confident you attract genuine and confident people who don’t give you those fake compliments. I’m sorry that you feel this way but your mindset has to change if you want anything else to.
This makes me really sad. I pray one day you’ll feel unconditional self love and see yourself in the true beauty that you are and always have been. I do understand what this is like tho Im technically an “ugly person” too and have had several similar experiences and thoughts. May you find the truth 🩷
I'm not saying it to make you feel better; I think you're objectivelly not ugly. Your face is symmetric (at least in this video it looks like it), you have pretty lips and teeth and overall good facial proportions/harmony. Ugly people usually have bad facial proportions, undeveloped jaw, assymetry etc. I don't have the right to deny your experiences though so I won't do it. I struggle with my own perception of my looks, I grew up bullied and called ugly, and then when I grew up people started calling me attractive, but because of my past experiences I can never 100% believe in what people say and my brain always tells me they're saying things out of pity. I will never know and I will never consider myself attractive, but either ugly or average.
100% what I was thinking. She's not ugly, she's just a little quirky and has odd mannerisms which could put people off. She will grow into her looks, she's young and her features are a little out of proportion. She also purposely doesn't invest anything into her appearance. With a little tweaking she would be just fine.
@@deleted01 That's a pretty ugly statement. She's not ugly at all. Lacks confidence, probably because so many people like yourself have been jerks and telling her she's ugly, and whoever the hairdresser was, they really did a number on her there. A new hairdresser, a few more smiles, and I think she'd be well able to pull any guy she wanted.
@@deleted01beauty or ugliness is always going to be subjective,just as someone loves or hates the taste of certain foods..in my opinion this young lady is certainly not ugly she has unfortunately met some very ugly people
Listen girl I'm not saying this to be nice, you're genuinely gorgeous, you have amazing features very sharp and feminine, just a lil more confidence you'll be a diva .
@@helldoefdewf8959 she really isnt ugly tho. If i'm being honest tho shes talking about her experiences and i see that she has braces so she probably was treated bad bc of her teeth maybe?
@@Marie-lk5xq stop. Please, you are invalidating her experience by telling her this. It’s not about what you think as a woman, it’s about what the men think. And if her experience is that she’s ugly, let it be. You can give her advice to improve, but don’t invalidate
@@Marie-lk5xq but that’s how she sees herself and ho the vast majority of people she interacts with see her. To tell her she isn’t is telling her that her entire life experience is wrong, and everything she’s experienced is in her head. Like I said, it’s not what YOU think as an individual. In terms of what the western world thinks, it’s not that hard to see how she’s been treated so badly for her appearance. Forehead size, recessed jaw, glasses, crooked teeth etc. How are you claiming to not realise these all correlate with being ugly in the world we live in???
Here's my issue: Having a lazy eye is the worst, you can't make eye contact with anyone even if you tried, it makes you look stereotypically dumb or broken, ugh
I know it’s stereotypically viewed as a negative trait because of the set beauty standards of symmetry, but I’ve found lots of women attractive who have unique features. Including people with amblyopia and strabismus. People can be absolute garbage about it, but the right person will cherish your features. Not trying to invalidate your experiences btw! Just sharing my perspective.
@@CrookedLady No, you're so right!! I chose not to get the (stupid, inconvenient) eye surgery for the 3rd time because at this point it's kind of a vibe for me. 👋😗🤳
it’s sad to know that someone this beautiful thinks they’re ugly. i know i wouldn’t be able to change her mind but she genuinely just is pretty. standards are so high at this point, it’s stressful.
This is just so sad. And I can relate so much. I get the blank or condescending response too, it's the most hurtful thing to me. I'll say what I'm seeing in all honesty (I have no reason to lie): you are really beautiful. I hope you believe me. Like REALLY beautiful. Just like you are standing here, I think you are really beautiful. Not average, beautiful beautiful. If I saw you somewhere, I'd envy you and think "oh, that girl is naturally beautiful".
Edit: Folks, this is an old comment of mine, and I've received enough replies saying: "she's not ugly though," to where I want to address it. No, she's not ugly. I never meant to imply she was, but her perception of herself at the time of this video conveyed that she thought she was ugly. The solution to thinking you are ugly isn't to be told that you aren't. It doesn't work. You instead need to find that you should be proud that you are here, breathing, feeling, experiencing. You have a chance to live, and strive, and fall, grip the dirt under your hands and cry loudly. Laugh unconditionally. Live. People can be shitty to other people (especially girls in high school) for no good reason. We grow, we develop, we change, and we realize that all of those people (us included!) will wrinkle and grey. They will be left with nothing but their unkindness, and you can choose what you want to be left with. Your beauty is what is left behind after all else fades, because believe me, it will. She is beautiful, but it's up to her to determine her self-perception and find worth in herself in other ways. People are persecuted for so many things, and it can be hard to find joy in this world. The politics of attraction will always be unfair, so instead of trying to exist within that unfair sphere, why not try to step outside of it and radically accept who you are in the truest sense possible? Old comment begins here: I’m seeing a ton of people being like “no omg you aren’t ugly, you are so pretty!!” You know what? Why can’t we be ugly in peace without people feeling the need to tell a lie to make us feel better. ITS OKAY TO BE UGLY. it’s okay to say “I’m ugly”. Because being ugly does not deprive someone of the right to be loved and accepted just as much as a conventionally attractive person. You deserve love. You deserve people in your life that care about who you are. You don’t need to be pretty to deserve all of that and be completely worthy of it. Yeah, people can be terrible towards you when you aren’t beautiful, but you are so much more than your vessel, them not seeing that is an issue they have, not something you should feel sorry about or shameful for. People saying “oh, wear some makeup and it’ll be better” or “get a haircut” don’t help. You are only perpetuating the idea that someone must be attractive to achieve happiness and satisfaction in life. You don’t need to “glow up”. You are who you are and I know for a fact that as a human being on this earth, you have interests and goals, you laugh and you cry. Those are so much bigger than what you look like. It’s okay to be insecure sometimes, but don’t forget your worth NO MATTER WHAT YOU LOOK LIKE. I wish I could project a hug through the screen or smth, but I can’t, so I’m saying this.
Exactly my thoughts. I hate when people doing this - lying. It's like they do not want hear you out and just shut down by saying "oh you pretty, you just overthinking, so stop complain already". It doesn't help. At all, because we all have mirrors and they show real deal everyday. What people need to hear is that being ugly ISN'T BAD. It does not make you bad person or less worthy of love and happyness. Just dat...not lies.
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3:14 That's highly relatable! "They don't feel like you're really worth their time" That hit me so hard! When I was like...12 Since I'm ugly, I've always wanted to look like my friend 'X', I wanted people to treat me like they treated him : ( Believe me, People react different when you're Ugly! One day in my school, the girls rated all the boys in the class based on appearance. I know I'll be at the bottom, I even joked about it to feel better but it turned out I wasn't even in the list! And the worst part is that no one even noticed. I acted like I didn't care but "that hurt" Don't worry, We'll get through this! Lots of love
It's true though, the way people react to you is very diferent, when you're pretty, they're nice. When you're ugly, they don't care. I'm not trying to sound salty but it's just how the the world is. Like just treat me like a human being. Even my teachers do this, they might not notice but it's so obvious to me. The pitch in their voice is increased, they smile more and yada yada. Why do you have to change your reaction so much. Do my looks really matter that much to you.
Hey mate, I think you are absolutely beautiful. You are absolutely wonderful. I am so crying because I wish I could find someone like you. I am a single father with a child going through cancer. And I just wish I had crutch to leen on. You are so loved lad, never look down on your self. You are loved and I am here if you ever need to talk. Would love to be your friend. Happy new year. Cheers.
You know something. I’ve met a lot of girls who by societal standers, are beautiful on the outside. You need to remember that beauty is always subjective. There are a lot of supermodels out there with nothing on the inside to match their surface. You are beautiful just the way God made you to be! You are unique and special just the way you are. Also, I’m SO happy to see you wear a twenty one pilots shirt! I’ve never met anyone yet who loves them as much as me, and I was so exited when I saw your shirt😂
I find it very sad how society especially in high school really is, people are very rude. Keep your head up, this world going to perish one day. You’re not ugly.
I had a humiliating experience last night at a restaurant. I was with my mom and she's in her 50s, not in great shape and dressed her age. She's attractive and me... Here I am in my 20s trying to look cute of course and the 2 waiters we had were hitting on her. One acted like I didn't exist. He didn't even try to acknowledge me as a customer! I felt embarrassed and horrible. My mom tried to make me feel better by saying that maybe they were hitting on her so they could get with me. Yeah no, I'm not dumb 😞
I'll share a piece of wisdom I have accumulated over my years. I'm 46 now. There's Ugly and then there's Hasn't Fixed Themselves Up. I always thought I was unattractive, but in reality I just hadn't learned what looked good on me or how to do my makeup and hair to best effect. It is perfectly fine to not do any work for your looks! However, it is a form of ignorance to not understand the difference between, for example, being intelligent vs being studious or being talented vs practicing etc.
It's okay to be ugly, it doesn't matter if you're ugly, you deserve to be respected and be happy Having said that, I highly believe attractiveness is subjective, some people will find you ugly and other will find you pretty, me personally, I think you're gorgeous
I disagree. You can’t just say it’s subjective. I believe deep down you know that a lot of it is objective. I’d say most of it is objective and only a portion of it is subjective.
You need a confidence boost. You are definitely not ugly. I can't believe you don't know how cute you are. This is about something else. Confidence!!! Blessings 💞
everyone saying "oh youre so pretty" "i feel uglier compared to you" is not helping 😭 you think you are but it really does NOT help which is the whole point of the video. EMPATHIZE with her do not pity her, and stop missing the point of the video; which is to share her experience
People that are telling her she's pretty do not pity her, they are simply telling their opinion. She is not ugly, that is the reality. For some people she would be average looking, for others she would pe really pretty ( I find her to be very pretty). Why should we validate something that is objectively not true?
@john bonjovie well why are you so unhappy you have to drag others down for being happy???? *They're not stepping on anyone but you clearly are.* Meathead.
Makeup…..the cure to everything 🙄. My mother used to feed me that line, I’d look so much better if only I’d “put on some makeup!” I’m 43 and it still hurts. Pay no attention to that, you don’t need it. You have great skin and lovely eyes! ❤️
Ok You re a honest girl, i m a honest man. You are the kind of woman that like me! Your personality, voice, moves, style, lips...eyes ....tenderly....and strong mind for talk with all of us about Your feellings. My deepest respect pretty girl.
Yall in the comments need to stop telling her she's beautiful and cute. The whole point of the video is that you shouldn't need to tell her she's beautiful when she says she's ugly. Being ugly is ok, and it doesn't determine who you are as a person.
When ppl tryna sideways they responses if I'm ugly or not, it just hurts more lol. Had a friend say I'm unique in features which I understand the sentiments but made me feel like a freak bc unique doesn't equate to pretty.
I started feeling ugly in 4th grade when we had those square dances in gym class. The teacher paired me up with my crush and I remember being so excited to dance with her. Later that day, I overheard her talking to her friend saying "I really didn't want to dance with him, he just so ugly." I was devastated for years after that. But I needed to understand back then was that doesn't make me ugly to everyone. Everyone's going to have their own opinion about you, But you can't let those opinions dictate your own self worth. Did you feel ugly before you heard something from someone else? I was never repulsed by my face when I looked at myself in the mirror until that day. We both made picking out flaws and calling ourselves ugly a habit. But in reality, they are only intrusive thoughts. Seeing those thoughts for what they are is one step closer to self acceptance. ❤️
You have amazing skin pretty hair and a pretty face ❤️ I feel the same way, I think a lot of girls and women have the same feelings. We just don’t admit it
One thing you are absolutely correct about is the hairstylist and or barber's which I did experience the same ,with not give a shit if you look better than how you came in .But don't think of yourself as ugly ,cause ugly is mostly on the inside of an emotion or fealing ,or just someones persona,that sometimes maynot know they have .💯
)): finally a video that truly explains the way it feels in words that aren’t out of pity. I can feel your genuine thoughts, and it’s quite sad I relate so strongly. the point you made about haircuts and makeup though? that hit a little too close to home for comfort. haircuts.. literally they never take time to do anything nice, I’m in for all of five minutes and sent back out. I look worse each time. Makeup.. doesn’t change anything either. Literally compliments what features you already had. So I didn’t bother with it because I feel like makeup will only draw attention to all my flaws. So I get what you mean- it being ‘tedious’. I hope you’re alright though )): you’re a lovely person and your feelings are ofc 100% valid, but I just want you to know that you are beautiful- even if you can’t see that yet. I hope you can find self love because you deserve happiness
It genuinely hurts so bad. Its indescribable pain. To be ugly is like a curse. People dont like you, to be loved is a miracle. I dont know how i will continue in this state. Forever a monster is a fate so unbearable.
You’re still very young, give it time and you may grow into yourself and begin to like who you see in the mirror. I’m still a young adult myself, but I hated every aspect of my appearance when I was younger, so I think part of maturing is accepting who you are, not accepting that you’re “ugly” but seeing the beauty that you do have. Ugly is subjective, everyone is ugly to someone, and everyone is beautiful to someone.
My childhood, adolescence and young adulthood was ruined because of being an unattractive girl. Other kids, particularly boys, just loooved to tell me I was ugly, like all the time. I made terrible life choices because my self esteem was in the gutter. If I could go back in time, I would make it my priority as soon as I was an adult to find a way to get surgery. For what it’s worth, I think you look fine, but equally I wouldn’t blame you for wanting to change your face. We’re conditioned from a very young age to put HUGE value on our physical appearances. If there’s a way of improving it and and gaining value in society, who can blames you
I really think that we are too caught up in ideals of what pretty is and forget that we are all human with flaws but can be pretty despite these. In relationships, I usually find that I love my partner's physical flaws much more so than his perfections and actually even find those flaws attractive because they are so unique and human. Equally, personally I'm not really attracted to stereotypically attractive people at all, because there's just nothing unique or endearing to be attracted to in a way... In fact, I find "flaws" very endearing and I'm sure I'm not the only one! I feel that many of us need to learn to embrace what we look like and to love our appearance for what it is, because there will be a way to see the beauty in your flaws if you can embrace them... and this way, I actually think that we'd naturally become more attractive to other people as they will pick up on how we feel about ourselves. So please don't see yourself as a lost cause and give up on feeling beautiful, because you are beautiful and there will be people who find things like your nose adorable and your forehead endearing (which looks pretty normal btw!)... And I don't think you need to wear make up, I agree and understand your reasoning completely, but I wonder whether there's also part of you that doesn't bother because you've given up on trying to look nice? (I have done this myself)... So there's a viscious cycle of feeling ugly, not making any effort (or potentially even unconsciously doing things that make yourself look worse) and so you feel even uglier and make even less effort. And in the end your attitude to your appearance shines through and conveys to others that you are unattractive, when actually, you are not! It's just the feeling you're sending to people through your own attitude, as well as being exacerbated by lack of effort... I don't know if this is the case for you so I apologise if its not helpful, but I wanted to suggest it in case its a part of what's going on. I just really hope you can learn to love your imperfections and see the beauty in them because I'm convinced that it will make it easier for others to see it too. And for the record, I'm not lying, you're genuinely quite pretty, even with those glasses and braces, but the right colour and shape glasses for your face could look great and once the braces are off I really don't see what the problem would be! You deserve a good haircut too!! Don't give up because of a few shitty hairdressers!
The most important thing we all must learn in life is to learn how to love ourselves. You are beautiful. The problem is low self esteem or no self esteem. God made us in his image you are perfect just the way you are.
yes about the makeup thing. if i feel like my face is already ugly, WHY draw more attention to it with makeup?! if someone had a horrible pimple, they wouldnt dress it up and make it "pretty" they cover the entire thing. You cant do that with your face unless your wear a whole ass mask
you genuinely have such a pretty face and pretty soul. You have full lips, flawless skin, defined jawline, AND you're skinny. You don't need any plastic surgery. You're perfect
@@dubrob210 well I think in the princess diary she was pretty before and after but tbh she looks more like Ellen page from inseption all beautiful women
Girl I relate. I remember a group of old coworkers wanted to go speed dating. I told them I didn't want to go because I didn't want to be rejected. They just stood there and stared at me. Ive learned to not to open up my insecurities in front of other women. It never helped me.
this makes me think of a scene out of shes all that you have the popular sports jerk asking the unpopular girl out to the prom she doesnt feel pretty enough and struggles to fit in he takes her out anyway then she starts getting more comfortable around him then dates him she cracks that shell and becomes more confident and beautiful and shows the bullies shes not scared of them its a good flick👍 she was a shy girl at first but she conquered that in the end.
I'm now 34 but I had similar traits to this girl, except the straight teeth with braces. The paleness, dark straight hair, rectangle face shape...and I was considered ugly through high-school and college. Meanwhile I died my hair red, got a bit of color with lip tint and blush and covered by dark eye circles with foundation, and seems like it improved a bit..i was then considered ok-cute. Now, in my 30s make up tricks don't do it anymore. I totally understand where this girl comes from and here are my tips.
i always feel ugly and i’ve been told that i’m ugly and i know that it’s hard to take compliments when u have really low self esteem. but you are so beautiful. until we ourselves that way we won’t believe it truly. but i hope you get to a place that you can. and i hope that i do too.
I've been told I was ugly ever since I was a little girl. By random strangers, people I thought I was friends with. It's really like they always say, my parents said I was beautiful lol, which is what parents ofcourse will do out of love. Ruined my self esteem for life. I got body dysmorphia because of it which I confused with gender dysphoria (a long with already looking like a butch masculine looking girl which is what I preferred) which led me to transition to male for the wrong reasons. And then I was an ugly dude. You pretty much know you're ugly when people only tell you you're cute once every two years or so. And ofcourse, everyone rejects you and no one wants to date you.
I was enjoying a delicious meal that my wife cooked. When she pointed out that she overcooked or over seasoned something, it put my focus on something I would never have noticed otherwise. You are very brave, now you just need to be confident to complete the package that people find attractive.
Your beautiful features: - your choice of glasses - your big smile - your teeth after your braces are finished - your straight hair - your eyebrows - your honesty - your nose - your symmetry Just because someone doesn’t meet other beauty standards doesn’t mean they miss out on everything, it’s not a black and white thing, it’s a multiple choice thing, pretty much everyone I know meets at least 1. You meet a lot more than you think you do :)
Ur a very very attractive young lady. Sincerely. Don’t let others opinions shape ur opinion. In a time where so many unattractive people overate themselves… ur definitely not one of them. Don’t sell urself short my young sister!
Ugh I feel you girl. I think I am pretty but I guess in societies eyes I am not, which is so annoying. I notice how differently my pretty friends get treated, like people are usually overly nice to them and just ignore me. I wish that people could see past people’s looks and everyone could get treated like an actual person and not just valued based on their looks. It seems like nowadays you can’t win, because if you are ugly you get no respect, and if you are pretty nobody really cares what you have to say or if you are smart at all, because you look good.
Yes girl i feel you! I am the ugly and the "smart" one in our group. I once give advice to my friend abt his boyfriend. Then literally he said you are jealous of your friends happiness so you are trying to make her break up with me. It's tough to be ugly sometimes.
I believe and just know that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Someone can see someone else as ugly and another person can see the same person as pretty or something. This world sucks but I love y’all and I’ve had experiences where people were rude to me and looked at me so weird and it’s so annoying like what’re you looking at, mind your business. I’m still happy I don’t have to focus on peoples shallow opinions and things though even though it’s hard. I’m happy God let me be able to do so many things and that my beauty doesn’t have to do anything with it, people make things about beauty but I can still travel and things and I’m happy. God bless everyone, stay safe🤍🌻
Hey. I started watching your channel because I can relate, especially when u described being asked out as a joke. I used to be hit on as a joke in middle school. I wish I could hug you.
I needed this. I'm having a really hard time. I've considered suicide over my looks. I have a boyfriend who tells me I'm beautiful, luckily. My family picked apart my appearance growing up and I was bullied in school. Now in my mid 20s, all of this has finally caught up to me and I'm severely depressed. Still considering ending my life. Good to know I'm not alone
You may want to consider that your boyfriend is right, you're not ugly, your problem stems from what people have said to you over the years. I won't pretend to know all about you but I can guess that you ruminate on your looks and like a needle on a record, this rumination has worn a groove in your thinking where you cannot change your opinion of yourself.
@@eve9981 bruh she's just telling she's ugly with her pfp that fits the beauty standard so she would gain people to comment "but you're so pretty!" don't fall for this people .She knows she's not ugly but she said she is because,again,that would gain more validation and compliments
What hurts me is the fact some awful person bullied you into believing your ugly and doubting yourself value... You look absolutely nice ain't nothing wrong with you, and most true is that beauty is in the eye of the beholder
To all the people saying , oh you’re pretty etc, as a certified ugly girl, this has no effect on me. You don’t have to be pretty to be treated like a person, it isn’t compulsory. Some people don’t fit the standards, and that’s okay.
yeah but I genuinely dont think she is unattractive at all, she's really cute. Definitely agree with your statement though
That's true and I can relate to it, but I genuinely don't think that she's unattractive
but she isnt ugly
Self asteem is all you need and makeup
Yes, I agree with this so much
When you tell someone they are ugly, you hurt their soul. Some never come out of it. Treat each other well.
@@user-qt4ug5of7f I’m sorry he said that to you, I’m sure you’re not ugly at all
Trust me I had girls say eww to me and it hurts
I don't find anyone ugly . I always compare people to myself then it makes them beautiful in my eyes. I don't know if it's toxic or somethin
Big facts
@@arenaplay8714 if you see me you will die I am ugly as fuck maybe ugliest in entire world
Objectively I can’t believe society made you think that you were ugly. You have a beautiful clean skin, nice coloured eyes and eyebrows, your hair looks healthy your lips are plump you’ve got nice white teeth and a smooth looking nose. You’re literally so pretty, changing glasses that will fit your face shape is gonna help you, I believe that you will look simply gorgeous if you were to part you hair. So pretty
It's how people make you feel.
I’m sorry you feel ugly. No one is perfect but the way you carry your self, your self confidence is what makes the difference.
Is this a joke or... she's literally attractive. She's exactly the kind of girl from the movies who ends up being the prettiest girl in school by taking off her glasses and wearing makeup
Ikr
stop trolling her
She is just crazy! What ugly?
right! lol society sucks lol
She prob did this for attention
I can't take any compliments. I'm always looking at my reflection when I'm out in public. When friends take pictures of me I'm always just starring at my face HATING it. Shit sucks. Also, I know this doesn't matter but I think you're very cute. Wishing you the best!
I can totally relate to everything you just said!
When my friends try to take pictures I hide my face or look away. I hate it.
Exactly. I hate myself on pictures and knowing that the way I see myself on the mirror is not the way people see me… oh boy it makes me wanna stay at home for the rest of my life 😀
Me too. I need to accept the fact im ugly🤷♀️
Me too. I hate looking at my pictures
hearing you refer to yourself as ugly helps me to comprehend I might not be as ugly as I think I am. You seriously are a pretty girl, There are ways women highlight there lovely features you obviously have not been exposed to, plus can tell you feel sad and defeated so harder to see yourself for all you are. This is part of my life long struggle, I learned the beauty tricks and people treated me as if I was beautiful. But reality inside I feel same as you do now. I am still traumatized about my looks I just do all the tricks to look my best than forget about it, basicly put all my attention on others to cope. Thing is both fact I am ageing and sometimes people take pictures of me puts me back into trama response OMG I am so ugly. Hugs, find a trusted friend that help you fine tune your beauty that is clearly there, but hope you get help I wish I had to deal with false inner critic.
You are so far from ugly you are freaking beautiful I cannot stress enough how pretty you are❤
I'm going to be honest with you: you're not ugly. You're not a model (which for some reason we all compare ourselves to), you are a normal girl. You're actually pretty cute. Please stop comparing yourself to people who has access to expensive hair stylist and spend who knows how much time putting on makeup just for a video that is going to be further edited.
wtf is wrong with you@@Erick.02
@@Erick.02 What does that make you?
@iamme25yago her points are right but the thing is she's not ugly , not even the slightest... her face doesn't match with her experiences, that's why most people will not take her seriously, it seems she's just insecure, not ugly, one day she will find happiness
Exactly like I get beauty standards are crazy but people having to console you for not being supermodel hot when most of us aren’t is silly when you think about it!
@@iamme25yagothe reason its annoying is because when you constantly say it to other people you can’t expect them to just agree when they don’t. If you’re not gonna listen then why even say anything at all to other people, especially to the people close to you bc they probably don’t agree and it’s hurtful when you say things like that and then ask them not to disagree.
While there is nothing wrong with being physically ugly, she is objectively NOT ugly. She feels and thinks she is, probably because she was bullied mercilessly. As she ages and matures, I'm hoping she will feel differently.
I was bullied mercilessly all through grade school, middle school, and high school. One boy pretended to ask me out and then immediately walked over to his friends and pointed and laughed at me. My freshman year, some of my male bullies tied me to a flagpole after school and ripped my shirt open to "prove" whether or not I was a girl, because I was so flat-chested and "SHE'S SECRETLY A DUDE" was their favorite narrative to bully me with. I not only graduated high school a virgin, but I had never even been kissed. I'm 30 years old, and I still struggle a bit with my confidence. Most days, I feel decent about my looks, with some bad days sprinkled in. I went from thinking I was hideous and unlovable to feeling confident most days. I'm hoping she will go through the same epiphany I did: That she is NOT ugly, she just had ugly PEOPLE in her life who treated her horribly for one stupid reason or another.
I also realized that most of the girls I knew who believed they were ugly were NOT, and THAT made me realize that if all these girls who believe they're ugly are actually pretty, then I might be having the same dysmorphia they are. That mindset also helped with my body as well. I would ask myself "does my stomach shape look bad on this woman?" I would realize it doesn't, so why would it look bad on me? It seems like the older I get, the more I realize I don't know anything about myself. A lot of my perceptions of myself were extremely distorted and just ingrained into me by other people or society.
Edit: THIS IS ALSO WHY BULLYING SHOULD BE CRIMINALLY CHARGED, DEPENDING ON THE SEVERITY. IT CAN POTENTIALLY DAMAGE PEOPLE LIFELONG AND CAUSES TEEN SUICIDE TOO OFTEN.
Agree. She's not ugly, but pretty. As an older man, her youth is attractive, but so are her facial features and lack of sluttiness and shallowness. She would be marriage or dating material for a man in his 30s or 40s, however, she's probably so damaged by low self-esteem, she'd be a handful.
thats why forced education should be a crime, they send us there to be tortured and to torture others!
She is and she knows it. That makes her perceptive, self-aware, and wise. Don't take that away from her. Don't replace her self-knowledge with delusions and lies.
@deleted01 Bro, I don't think you know the difference between ugly and just average. She's like a 6-7. That's not ugly.
I agree that people in general are often too hard on themselves in terms of looks or other things... Bullying is a very bad thing to do and should be avoided and stopped as much as possible. Some people (mainly girls) sometimes claim that they are ugly to seek attention and acceptance by people telling them otherwise and cheering them up. I think that the girl from the video just has low self-esteem for some reason... That is sad and the best advice I can give is that mental health and being strong mentally is more important than looks. Because even very good looking people struggle with their self worth and perception of themselves... This goes to show that even if you change your face or your looks in general externally, in the long term it might not be enough to satisfy your inner self criticism... So, in my opinion it's better to start with changing the things that we can control more easily, such as good hygiene to look and feel more clean and tidy, etc. All the best to everyone struggling mentally or in any other way... We are all in this together. Let's support one another. 😎😉😇🙏🕯️
Dude I have been exactly where you are and a lot of days I still feel like that, but trust me this is more of a mental issue than anything and I believe if you had regular therapy it would be a lot better for you. I would take so many pictures of myself in jr high and high school and just obsess over how I looked and cry about it so many times, but now at 25 I’m doing a lot better and I’ve realized it’s not really my body I hate, it’s just there are a lot of internal factors that I need to work on in order to feel at peace, and when I’m having a good day I feel absolutely beautiful. You’re a normal girl and you don’t have to be a super model to feel good about yourself! The world’s expectations are weird because we’re so used to seeing people doing the most all the time and yes there are gorgeous people, but trust me your character matters SO MUCH MORE than your looks.
"your character matters SO MUCH MORE than your looks" - is actually what she hates when people say, ans she does not believe it (._. )
Your so pretty ❤ your not ugly you just carry yourself as if you are. You’re so beautiful.
This girl isn’t ugly LMAO, I feel horrendous compared to her
In fact, maybe she would even dump me lol
True if she's ugly then I don't know what the hell am I ? Lmfao
i feel the same
I look like a frying pan with oil lol
Wow u guys r so cool. SHE doesn’t feel like she’s beautiful. You’re just invalidating how she feels by pitting “how much worse” you are . Let her express her pain without someone comparing
I'm 30 year old woman and I'm even uglier now....
Still single, and I don't have 1 single friend in the whole wide world.
I'm completely lonely. I envy you who has at least 1 person to talk to once in every while.
You are not ugly friend
Hey you should do a draw my life I'd be very interested in seeing how you grew up, suscribed!!!
@Natalie Hawks just stfu,if u are not pretty don't shout it out loud.....
I'm ugly too we can be friends
@@DanielCastro-tj3de you have instagram
You’re pretty !! I admire your bravery and honesty to share painful experiences, but you look perfect to me.
Perhaps you’ve had the misfortune of being surrounded by narcissists. Narcs are attracted to strength, virtue, AND beauty… but their reflections are like funhouse mirrors, distorting our true essence and value. It’s by convincing us we’re worth less than we are that they can gain and maintain control over us. Narcs always choose the worthy to attack and confuse.
I used to have body dysmorphic disorder so bad… In high school I felt guilty people had to look at me, and I was treated as less-than, as I perceived myself to be.
As I healed on the inside, my outer world started reflecting my status an attractive and valuable woman.
May you discover your beauty in spades! You’ve got it.
Ooh, I just noticed your more recent video on body dysmorphia! Great work digging into healing!
you are not ugly🤦😮😮😮😮😮 you're a beautiful person inside and out its so sad that people can't see that, shine bright girl👍
I relate to you so much. I never really got compliments growing up and when I did it was like "your clothes look pretty", it was never that *I* looked pretty. The awkward silence from friends when I say that I feel ugly hurts. I also wear glasses and sometimes I go without them because my face will look more blurry and it's harder to see the real me. I cried after I saw myself in the mirror with my glasses, it's like I had 100 more imperfections that I hadn't noticed before.
I just got glasses and I feel the same
Have stylish eyewear
We have same experiences bruh.When I say I'm ugly they're like "well atleast you have a great personality" like bruh they just admit I'm literally ugly lmao but it hurts and unfortunately,my feelings wouldn't matter to them
Tbh if you complain about being ugly around ur friends it sounds like your fishing for compliments which sounds really insecure. So yeah it's reasonable for someone to not say anything in that situation.
Thats so sad! What makes you ugly in your opinion? Have you tried fashionable glasses, lipstick? Wax eyebrows and just practice self care!
not ugly at all. i’m not even saying this to make you feel better, your super cute like deadass
exactly thats what i thought?? shes cute as hell
She has a great voice too
I agree, she's so cute and she is not ugly but in fact, the people like to let her down to feel better. She is beautiful the people are ugly
I think exactly the same!!!!!
She's being rejected by guys she finds attractive so she feels ugly.
I hope you’re doing better now than you were when you posted this. You’re wonderful
You're actually very pretty.
God bless you.
This really makes me reflect on how beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and how a person sees themselves could be radically different to how other people see them.
Read the book Psycho-cybernetics. This guy from the 50s coined it and discovered we have 2 images. He discovered the self-image and how you can literally not see what is actually there. LITERALLY.
yeah that is so trippy to think about, the idea of identity. what is your interpretation of self and if it changes when you are around different people vs alone.
Delusional
@@jude3180thank you
I feel so related, i am always THE ugly girl for my whole life with bucket teeth and thick glasses. Totally nerd nerd. My friends always say they like my personality but i have never received a single compliment as "you look beautiful". I want somebody to say this to me at least once. Having a great personality has nothing to do with feeling confident for me. Girl, let's get through this together. Hope we'll be fine someday.
I tried to make out your picture and from what I could see you look pretty to me.
You have beautiful hair
i can be your friend
Soo true...like when ppl say u r soo kind,talented n stuff I feel like pls for 1 godamn time pls say I am pretty enough
Nerd girls are always the most beautiful
You are not ugly , telling yourself that you are will cause more emotional stress. You are the type of girl i would date . Keep positive. ❤
You are absolutely stunning !!!! Perfect in every single way and I swear to the god I know to be real you are gunna find everything you could ever hope to find but much much more ! You won’t even be able to imagine the awesome things god gunna do and you , you ! Young lady will be right in the middle of all of it ! Keep posting videos w whatever is on your mind you are a gift to those around you but to the world and the future you are a treasure we can’t make it with out !!!!!!!❤
yes this. Also when you talk about your plastic surgery plans they agree sometimes.
Plastic surgery won't fix your shitty genetics
@@lionelronaldo7156 trust me it can. But it depends on what you're getting.
@@queena588 I want plastic surgery but I dont have money Im so saaad
If people like starts getting cosmetic surgery then I'm 100% doomed lol.
this is so true, i have even been told to get a nose job
The first one is so relatable. "Noooooo... you're not.... ugly😞" like im being honest, i dont want pity. It sucks trying to be honest about my feelings and people just shut it down
then don’t bring it up? You can’t be mad at people for trying to make you feel better. I just wonder what you want them to say. I’ve been put in that situation with my best friend often and I truly believe she’s so beautiful so when she says she’s ugly so often of course I get uncomfortable because she really isn’t to me. Then I’m accused of lying or being fake for not agreeing but I’d be mean if I did anyways??
I’m not trying to invalidate the feelings you have but if you don’t want pity then don’t bring up your insecurities and create that negative atmosphere. Everyone struggles with insecurity but their confidence despite those things is what makes them attractive. Just like the girl in this video is NOT ugly and there’s really no such thing. It’s her attitude about herself and others that is making her less attractive in my eyes. However, I don’t know what she’s been through or the things that have happened to make her feel this way but the moment she learns to stop focusing on her physical appearance her outer appearance will automatically become more attractive.
exactly
@@natalienoelle9122 "theres no such thing as being ugly" Goodbye. I don't randomly bring up what I look like anymore like I used to when I was young. I usually just respond honestly if I'm given a fake compliment, and thats where my frustration lies with fake pity and fake compliments given to me when I never asked for it nowadays. Its invalidating
@@raepan2797 okay but are you telling yourself they’re fake...? I mean what makes you so sure. Because you’re insecure and believe you’re ugly? Because if that’s the case then this makes sense. It’s so stupid sounding I know, but I genuinely believe that how you feel about yourself will also be how others see you. If you are comfortable with yourself and have confidence in the things you like about yourself others will too and whatever you’re insecure about is overlooked. If you’re constantly self deprecating wether you’re vocal about it or not those opinions of yourself become the opinions of those around you as well because all they know is what you put out 🤷🏼♀️ when you are genuine and confident you attract genuine and confident people who don’t give you those fake compliments. I’m sorry that you feel this way but your mindset has to change if you want anything else to.
This makes me really sad. I pray one day you’ll feel unconditional self love and see yourself in the true beauty that you are and always have been. I do understand what this is like tho Im technically an “ugly person” too and have had several similar experiences and thoughts. May you find the truth 🩷
how can you possibly be ugly? youre one of the most naturally beautiful women out there.
I'm not saying it to make you feel better; I think you're objectivelly not ugly. Your face is symmetric (at least in this video it looks like it), you have pretty lips and teeth and overall good facial proportions/harmony. Ugly people usually have bad facial proportions, undeveloped jaw, assymetry etc. I don't have the right to deny your experiences though so I won't do it. I struggle with my own perception of my looks, I grew up bullied and called ugly, and then when I grew up people started calling me attractive, but because of my past experiences I can never 100% believe in what people say and my brain always tells me they're saying things out of pity. I will never know and I will never consider myself attractive, but either ugly or average.
100% what I was thinking. She's not ugly, she's just a little quirky and has odd mannerisms which could put people off. She will grow into her looks, she's young and her features are a little out of proportion. She also purposely doesn't invest anything into her appearance. With a little tweaking she would be just fine.
don't lie to her. it's helping no one.
@@deleted01 That's a pretty ugly statement. She's not ugly at all. Lacks confidence, probably because so many people like yourself have been jerks and telling her she's ugly, and whoever the hairdresser was, they really did a number on her there. A new hairdresser, a few more smiles, and I think she'd be well able to pull any guy she wanted.
@@deleted01 Instarius isn't lying, and neither am I. If you think she's physically ugly, that's on you. You have no business invalidating our opinion.
@@deleted01beauty or ugliness is always going to be subjective,just as someone loves or hates the taste of certain foods..in my opinion this young lady is certainly not ugly she has unfortunately met some very ugly people
Listen girl I'm not saying this to be nice, you're genuinely gorgeous, you have amazing features very sharp and feminine, just a lil more confidence you'll be a diva .
I hate people like you, say anything to make people happy so no one knows whats real anymore
@@helldoefdewf8959 she really isnt ugly tho. If i'm being honest tho shes talking about her experiences and i see that she has braces so she probably was treated bad bc of her teeth maybe?
@@Marie-lk5xq stop. Please, you are invalidating her experience by telling her this.
It’s not about what you think as a woman, it’s about what the men think. And if her experience is that she’s ugly, let it be. You can give her advice to improve, but don’t invalidate
@@themarathoncontinues4211 im not invalidating it i just genuinely dont see how shes ugly
@@Marie-lk5xq but that’s how she sees herself and ho the vast majority of people she interacts with see her.
To tell her she isn’t is telling her that her entire life experience is wrong, and everything she’s experienced is in her head.
Like I said, it’s not what YOU think as an individual. In terms of what the western world thinks, it’s not that hard to see how she’s been treated so badly for her appearance.
Forehead size, recessed jaw, glasses, crooked teeth etc. How are you claiming to not realise these all correlate with being ugly in the world we live in???
You are beautiful, don't change the way who you are!
Are you kidding me, you’re very pretty and attractive!
Not gonna work mann
Here's my issue: Having a lazy eye is the worst, you can't make eye contact with anyone even if you tried, it makes you look stereotypically dumb or broken, ugh
If you get to know the person, then I never saw it as a big deal. It's more of a surprise when the person is a stranger
@@cooliest2267 that helps me, thank u :>
I know it’s stereotypically viewed as a negative trait because of the set beauty standards of symmetry, but I’ve found lots of women attractive who have unique features. Including people with amblyopia and strabismus. People can be absolute garbage about it, but the right person will cherish your features.
Not trying to invalidate your experiences btw! Just sharing my perspective.
@@CrookedLady No, you're so right!! I chose not to get the (stupid, inconvenient) eye surgery for the 3rd time because at this point it's kind of a vibe for me. 👋😗🤳
@@CrookedLady I always hate my nose ☹️☹️☹️😔
it’s sad to know that someone this beautiful thinks they’re ugly. i know i wouldn’t be able to change her mind but she genuinely just is pretty. standards are so high at this point, it’s stressful.
This is just so sad. And I can relate so much. I get the blank or condescending response too, it's the most hurtful thing to me.
I'll say what I'm seeing in all honesty (I have no reason to lie): you are really beautiful. I hope you believe me. Like REALLY beautiful. Just like you are standing here, I think you are really beautiful. Not average, beautiful beautiful. If I saw you somewhere, I'd envy you and think "oh, that girl is naturally beautiful".
You're perfect and don't worry about what people say. You look beautiful.
Edit: Folks, this is an old comment of mine, and I've received enough replies saying: "she's not ugly though," to where I want to address it. No, she's not ugly. I never meant to imply she was, but her perception of herself at the time of this video conveyed that she thought she was ugly. The solution to thinking you are ugly isn't to be told that you aren't. It doesn't work. You instead need to find that you should be proud that you are here, breathing, feeling, experiencing. You have a chance to live, and strive, and fall, grip the dirt under your hands and cry loudly. Laugh unconditionally. Live. People can be shitty to other people (especially girls in high school) for no good reason. We grow, we develop, we change, and we realize that all of those people (us included!) will wrinkle and grey. They will be left with nothing but their unkindness, and you can choose what you want to be left with. Your beauty is what is left behind after all else fades, because believe me, it will. She is beautiful, but it's up to her to determine her self-perception and find worth in herself in other ways. People are persecuted for so many things, and it can be hard to find joy in this world. The politics of attraction will always be unfair, so instead of trying to exist within that unfair sphere, why not try to step outside of it and radically accept who you are in the truest sense possible?
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I’m seeing a ton of people being like “no omg you aren’t ugly, you are so pretty!!”
You know what? Why can’t we be ugly in peace without people feeling the need to tell a lie to make us feel better. ITS OKAY TO BE UGLY. it’s okay to say “I’m ugly”. Because being ugly does not deprive someone of the right to be loved and accepted just as much as a conventionally attractive person. You deserve love. You deserve people in your life that care about who you are. You don’t need to be pretty to deserve all of that and be completely worthy of it. Yeah, people can be terrible towards you when you aren’t beautiful, but you are so much more than your vessel, them not seeing that is an issue they have, not something you should feel sorry about or shameful for.
People saying “oh, wear some makeup and it’ll be better” or “get a haircut” don’t help. You are only perpetuating the idea that someone must be attractive to achieve happiness and satisfaction in life. You don’t need to “glow up”. You are who you are and I know for a fact that as a human being on this earth, you have interests and goals, you laugh and you cry. Those are so much bigger than what you look like. It’s okay to be insecure sometimes, but don’t forget your worth NO MATTER WHAT YOU LOOK LIKE. I wish I could project a hug through the screen or smth, but I can’t, so I’m saying this.
Exactly my thoughts. I hate when people doing this - lying. It's like they do not want hear you out and just shut down by saying "oh you pretty, you just overthinking, so stop complain already". It doesn't help. At all, because we all have mirrors and they show real deal everyday. What people need to hear is that being ugly ISN'T BAD. It does not make you bad person or less worthy of love and happyness. Just dat...not lies.
While it's ok to be "ugly", it is not a lie when some people see her as pretty. You think everyone has the same standards?
@@skylitup Good point. Stereotypes of attractiveness are QUITE ARTIFICIAL and Media Money GRUBBING INFLUENCING DRIVES IT HEAVILY. I have seen a COAL BLACK WOMAN BE "THA BOMB!" And SAME, SAME AN ICE WHITE SKIN, OR A BUTTERY BROWN "TONE," ROCKING LIFE. The Inner SPIRIT of some old, humble and SWEET SOUL can INFUSE ONE WITH "RECOGNITION" That YOU have SEEEN "PURE LOVE!" The MOST, BEAUTIFUL THING EVER SEEN.
God said "I WILL BEAUTIFY THE MEEK WITH SALVATION."
EACH PERSON MATTERS TO HIM, INFINITELY...💖✝️💖🙋
Lisa Rae Rousseau 💯 TRUTH
Cope more
i love you so much
3:14 That's highly relatable! "They don't feel like you're really worth their time" That hit me so hard!
When I was like...12 Since I'm ugly, I've always wanted to look like my friend 'X', I wanted people to treat me like they treated him : (
Believe me, People react different when you're Ugly! One day in my school, the girls rated all the boys in the class based on appearance. I know I'll be at the bottom, I even joked about it to feel better but it turned out I wasn't even in the list! And the worst part is that no one even noticed. I acted like I didn't care but "that hurt"
Don't worry, We'll get through this! Lots of love
@chicken barbie Well said! Let's be kind to everyone. If people can hate you for no reason, I can Love!
It's true though, the way people react to you is very diferent, when you're pretty, they're nice. When you're ugly, they don't care. I'm not trying to sound salty but it's just how the the world is. Like just treat me like a human being. Even my teachers do this, they might not notice but it's so obvious to me. The pitch in their voice is increased, they smile more and yada yada. Why do you have to change your reaction so much. Do my looks really matter that much to you.
Hey mate, I think you are absolutely beautiful. You are absolutely wonderful. I am so crying because I wish I could find someone like you. I am a single father with a child going through cancer. And I just wish I had crutch to leen on. You are so loved lad, never look down on your self. You are loved and I am here if you ever need to talk. Would love to be your friend. Happy new year. Cheers.
You know something. I’ve met a lot of girls who by societal standers, are beautiful on the outside. You need to remember that beauty is always subjective. There are a lot of supermodels out there with nothing on the inside to match their surface. You are beautiful just the way God made you to be! You are unique and special just the way you are. Also, I’m SO happy to see you wear a twenty one pilots shirt! I’ve never met anyone yet who loves them as much as me, and I was so exited when I saw your shirt😂
I find it very sad how society especially in high school really is, people are very rude. Keep your head up, this world going to perish one day. You’re not ugly.
I had a humiliating experience last night at a restaurant. I was with my mom and she's in her 50s, not in great shape and dressed her age. She's attractive and me... Here I am in my 20s trying to look cute of course and the 2 waiters we had were hitting on her. One acted like I didn't exist. He didn't even try to acknowledge me as a customer! I felt embarrassed and horrible. My mom tried to make me feel better by saying that maybe they were hitting on her so they could get with me. Yeah no, I'm not dumb 😞
@@MN-so7xr what mean type?
This has happened to me too
Just for a different perspective, maybe the 2 waiters were hitting on your mom hoping for a good tip
Maybe they thought you were underage. Which, in that case, they'd be doing the right thing not hitting on someone who may look like a teenager.
lmao💀💀💀
Thanks for being so vulnerable.
I'll share a piece of wisdom I have accumulated over my years. I'm 46 now. There's Ugly and then there's Hasn't Fixed Themselves Up. I always thought I was unattractive, but in reality I just hadn't learned what looked good on me or how to do my makeup and hair to best effect. It is perfectly fine to not do any work for your looks! However, it is a form of ignorance to not understand the difference between, for example, being intelligent vs being studious or being talented vs practicing etc.
It's okay to be ugly, it doesn't matter if you're ugly, you deserve to be respected and be happy
Having said that, I highly believe attractiveness is subjective, some people will find you ugly and other will find you pretty, me personally, I think you're gorgeous
I disagree. You can’t just say it’s subjective. I believe deep down you know that a lot of it is objective. I’d say most of it is objective and only a portion of it is subjective.
Yeah I disagree... attractiveness is mostly objective. That said, this girl is cute af
It's always attractive people that say this, like rich people saying money isn't so important lol
"If i had money i would fix it, but i dont have money". Well well, thats me
@@haristhebosniaklion8584 you are so beautiful
You need a confidence boost. You are definitely not ugly. I can't believe you don't know how cute you are. This is about something else. Confidence!!!
Blessings 💞
You’re very pretty 🌸
everyone saying "oh youre so pretty" "i feel uglier compared to you" is not helping 😭 you think you are but it really does NOT help which is the whole point of the video. EMPATHIZE with her do not pity her, and stop missing the point of the video; which is to share her experience
They're just saying she's pretty in THEIR opinion. They're not telling her to call herself pretty
People that are telling her she's pretty do not pity her, they are simply telling their opinion. She is not ugly, that is the reality. For some people she would be average looking, for others she would pe really pretty ( I find her to be very pretty). Why should we validate something that is objectively not true?
But she ain’t ugly tho, I’m being dead ass, she looks nice
It’s not pity, pity is telling lies, people are just saying that she’s not ugly compared to them which for them is actually a fact.
We aren't pitying her lol I think she's rlly genuinely pretty. She isn't even wearing makeup or anything- wish I looked like that without makeup
Girl you look soooo much better than me but I've never thought I was ugly 😭
Well I think you look better
Lol
@john bonjovie what u saying? she should think she ugly? get outt mann
@john bonjovie bruh no, that’s not a good way to live tf
@john bonjovie well why are you so unhappy you have to drag others down for being happy???? *They're not stepping on anyone but you clearly are.* Meathead.
You’re adorable. Would like to see you dressed up for different situations like how you would dress for job interviews, church, girls night out etc
this is so honest thank you so much for sharing this
Makeup…..the cure to everything 🙄. My mother used to feed me that line, I’d look so much better if only I’d “put on some makeup!” I’m 43 and it still hurts. Pay no attention to that, you don’t need it. You have great skin and lovely eyes! ❤️
I don’t think you’re ugly at all, on the contrary I think you’re pretty.
me as well
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Thank God she isn't
stop the cap
@@realhades9178 🤣🤣🤣🤣im dead.but she ain't ugly tho .
Ok You re a honest girl, i m a honest man. You are the kind of woman that like me! Your personality, voice, moves, style, lips...eyes ....tenderly....and strong mind for talk with all of us about Your feellings. My deepest respect pretty girl.
i'm sorry you're going through that. it's not your fault, the world and most of the people in it suck.
She seems Very Intelligent and Sweet! Very Soft Spoken and shy. Very attractive woman! Her Qualities and demeanor alone make her appealing.
Yall in the comments need to stop telling her she's beautiful and cute. The whole point of the video is that you shouldn't need to tell her she's beautiful when she says she's ugly. Being ugly is ok, and it doesn't determine who you are as a person.
but its so frustrating to hear when u genuinely think she's pretty
@@damionmarkham9835 she’s gay-
Why ugly ..in first place ..this word dam ...this is just anyone's opinion or gaze ..
@@damionmarkham9835 please jsut shut up!!!!!!
@@darkndark9521 como?
I don’t know why you’d make a video like this. You’re beautiful. ❤️
I think this girl is a doll, she has all the pretty unique features❤❤❤❤
When ppl tryna sideways they responses if I'm ugly or not, it just hurts more lol. Had a friend say I'm unique in features which I understand the sentiments but made me feel like a freak bc unique doesn't equate to pretty.
I started feeling ugly in 4th grade when we had those square dances in gym class. The teacher paired me up with my crush and I remember being so excited to dance with her. Later that day, I overheard her talking to her friend saying "I really didn't want to dance with him, he just so ugly." I was devastated for years after that. But I needed to understand back then was that doesn't make me ugly to everyone. Everyone's going to have their own opinion about you, But you can't let those opinions dictate your own self worth. Did you feel ugly before you heard something from someone else? I was never repulsed by my face when I looked at myself in the mirror until that day. We both made picking out flaws and calling ourselves ugly a habit. But in reality, they are only intrusive thoughts. Seeing those thoughts for what they are is one step closer to self acceptance. ❤️
You have amazing skin pretty hair and a pretty face ❤️ I feel the same way, I think a lot of girls and women have the same feelings. We just don’t admit it
One thing you are absolutely correct about is the hairstylist and or barber's which I did experience the same ,with not give a shit if you look better than how you came in .But don't think of yourself as ugly ,cause ugly is mostly on the inside of an emotion or fealing ,or just someones persona,that sometimes maynot know they have .💯
You have a lovely smile and a warm personality. You are far from ugly and you have more to work with than you realize.
)): finally a video that truly explains the way it feels in words that aren’t out of pity. I can feel your genuine thoughts, and it’s quite sad I relate so strongly. the point you made about haircuts and makeup though? that hit a little too close to home for comfort. haircuts.. literally they never take time to do anything nice, I’m in for all of five minutes and sent back out. I look worse each time. Makeup.. doesn’t change anything either. Literally compliments what features you already had. So I didn’t bother with it because I feel like makeup will only draw attention to all my flaws. So I get what you mean- it being ‘tedious’. I hope you’re alright though )): you’re a lovely person and your feelings are ofc 100% valid, but I just want you to know that you are beautiful- even if you can’t see that yet. I hope you can find self love because you deserve happiness
girl you're literally my type!!!
It genuinely hurts so bad. Its indescribable pain. To be ugly is like a curse. People dont like you, to be loved is a miracle. I dont know how i will continue in this state. Forever a monster is a fate so unbearable.
You’re still very young, give it time and you may grow into yourself and begin to like who you see in the mirror. I’m still a young adult myself, but I hated every aspect of my appearance when I was younger, so I think part of maturing is accepting who you are, not accepting that you’re “ugly” but seeing the beauty that you do have. Ugly is subjective, everyone is ugly to someone, and everyone is beautiful to someone.
My childhood, adolescence and young adulthood was ruined because of being an unattractive girl. Other kids, particularly boys, just loooved to tell me I was ugly, like all the time. I made terrible life choices because my self esteem was in the gutter. If I could go back in time, I would make it my priority as soon as I was an adult to find a way to get surgery. For what it’s worth, I think you look fine, but equally I wouldn’t blame you for wanting to change your face. We’re conditioned from a very young age to put HUGE value on our physical appearances. If there’s a way of improving it and and gaining value in society, who can blames you
I really think that we are too caught up in ideals of what pretty is and forget that we are all human with flaws but can be pretty despite these. In relationships, I usually find that I love my partner's physical flaws much more so than his perfections and actually even find those flaws attractive because they are so unique and human. Equally, personally I'm not really attracted to stereotypically attractive people at all, because there's just nothing unique or endearing to be attracted to in a way... In fact, I find "flaws" very endearing and I'm sure I'm not the only one! I feel that many of us need to learn to embrace what we look like and to love our appearance for what it is, because there will be a way to see the beauty in your flaws if you can embrace them... and this way, I actually think that we'd naturally become more attractive to other people as they will pick up on how we feel about ourselves. So please don't see yourself as a lost cause and give up on feeling beautiful, because you are beautiful and there will be people who find things like your nose adorable and your forehead endearing (which looks pretty normal btw!)...
And I don't think you need to wear make up, I agree and understand your reasoning completely, but I wonder whether there's also part of you that doesn't bother because you've given up on trying to look nice? (I have done this myself)... So there's a viscious cycle of feeling ugly, not making any effort (or potentially even unconsciously doing things that make yourself look worse) and so you feel even uglier and make even less effort. And in the end your attitude to your appearance shines through and conveys to others that you are unattractive, when actually, you are not! It's just the feeling you're sending to people through your own attitude, as well as being exacerbated by lack of effort...
I don't know if this is the case for you so I apologise if its not helpful, but I wanted to suggest it in case its a part of what's going on. I just really hope you can learn to love your imperfections and see the beauty in them because I'm convinced that it will make it easier for others to see it too. And for the record, I'm not lying, you're genuinely quite pretty, even with those glasses and braces, but the right colour and shape glasses for your face could look great and once the braces are off I really don't see what the problem would be! You deserve a good haircut too!! Don't give up because of a few shitty hairdressers!
The most important thing we all must learn in life is to learn how to love ourselves. You are beautiful. The problem is low self esteem or no self esteem. God made us in his image you are perfect just the way you are.
yes about the makeup thing. if i feel like my face is already ugly, WHY draw more attention to it with makeup?! if someone had a horrible pimple, they wouldnt dress it up and make it "pretty" they cover the entire thing. You cant do that with your face unless your wear a whole ass mask
So true
you genuinely have such a pretty face and pretty soul. You have full lips, flawless skin, defined jawline, AND you're skinny. You don't need any plastic surgery. You're perfect
YOU'RE ADORABLE!💖☺️
You're not ugly you're actually really pretty, you remind me of Anne Hathaway😊
Agreed
I was just thinking that!!!
I thought that to
Before her makeover in the princess diaries 😂
@@dubrob210 well I think in the princess diary she was pretty before and after but tbh she looks more like Ellen page from inseption all beautiful women
Girl I relate. I remember a group of old coworkers wanted to go speed dating. I told them I didn't want to go because I didn't want to be rejected. They just stood there and stared at me. Ive learned to not to open up my insecurities in front of other women. It never helped me.
You are a very pretty girl . Value yourself . ❤️
this makes me think of a scene out of shes all that you have the popular sports jerk asking the unpopular girl out to the prom she doesnt feel pretty enough and struggles to fit in he takes her out anyway then she starts getting more comfortable around him then dates him she cracks that shell and becomes more confident and beautiful and shows the bullies shes not scared of them its a good flick👍 she was a shy girl at first but she conquered that in the end.
I'm now 34 but I had similar traits to this girl, except the straight teeth with braces. The paleness, dark straight hair, rectangle face shape...and I was considered ugly through high-school and college.
Meanwhile I died my hair red, got a bit of color with lip tint and blush and covered by dark eye circles with foundation, and seems like it improved a bit..i was then considered ok-cute.
Now, in my 30s make up tricks don't do it anymore.
I totally understand where this girl comes from and here are my tips.
i always feel ugly and i’ve been told that i’m ugly and i know that it’s hard to take compliments when u have really low self esteem. but you are so beautiful. until we ourselves that way we won’t believe it truly. but i hope you get to a place that you can. and i hope that i do too.
NGL, you are very beautiful!
You look like Ann Hathaway before her makeover in the princess diaries. ❤
So! Gorgeous!!!
I've been told I was ugly ever since I was a little girl.
By random strangers, people I thought I was friends with.
It's really like they always say, my parents said I was beautiful lol, which is what parents ofcourse will do out of love.
Ruined my self esteem for life.
I got body dysmorphia because of it which I confused with gender dysphoria (a long with already looking like a butch masculine looking girl which is what I preferred) which led me to transition to male for the wrong reasons.
And then I was an ugly dude.
You pretty much know you're ugly when people only tell you you're cute once every two years or so.
And ofcourse, everyone rejects you and no one wants to date you.
No girl don't feel ugly ,the people who have ugly eyes would find you ugly ...u r gorgeous ❤️❤️
I can completely relate!! Thank you for sharing this experience
You're one of the most beautiful woman I've ever seen.
I hope you're happy and safe. 🍻🍻
I was enjoying a delicious meal that my wife cooked. When she pointed out that she overcooked or over seasoned something, it put my focus on something I would never have noticed otherwise. You are very brave, now you just need to be confident to complete the package that people find attractive.
Your beautiful features:
- your choice of glasses
- your big smile
- your teeth after your braces are finished
- your straight hair
- your eyebrows
- your honesty
- your nose
- your symmetry
Just because someone doesn’t meet other beauty standards doesn’t mean they miss out on everything, it’s not a black and white thing, it’s a multiple choice thing, pretty much everyone I know meets at least 1. You meet a lot more than you think you do :)
The glasses are terrible.
Wtf are you smoking?
🤣
When I talk to my mom about it she offers plastic surgery when it was completely un requested and just makes me feel much worse
That’s really messed up. I’m sorry
IKRR! My dad even pointed out that my nose is masculine 💀
@@me-hk4ro lol what ? 😂😂
That happened to me too😭😭
Mine too, she's poor but she said she's willing to take a loan out just so I can get a nose job
You are not ugly at all girl! You just need a glow up 💗
Ur a very very attractive young lady. Sincerely. Don’t let others opinions shape ur opinion. In a time where so many unattractive people overate themselves… ur definitely not one of them. Don’t sell urself short my young sister!
Ugh I feel you girl. I think I am pretty but I guess in societies eyes I am not, which is so annoying. I notice how differently my pretty friends get treated, like people are usually overly nice to them and just ignore me. I wish that people could see past people’s looks and everyone could get treated like an actual person and not just valued based on their looks. It seems like nowadays you can’t win, because if you are ugly you get no respect, and if you are pretty nobody really cares what you have to say or if you are smart at all, because you look good.
I hope your profile pic isn't you or you said nonsense here. Real ugly people don't like to show their faces or even just to have fotos of themselves.
Yes girl i feel you! I am the ugly and the "smart" one in our group. I once give advice to my friend abt his boyfriend. Then literally he said you are jealous of your friends happiness so you are trying to make her break up with me. It's tough to be ugly sometimes.
I believe and just know that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Someone can see someone else as ugly and another person can see the same person as pretty or something. This world sucks but I love y’all and I’ve had experiences where people were rude to me and looked at me so weird and it’s so annoying like what’re you looking at, mind your business. I’m still happy I don’t have to focus on peoples shallow opinions and things though even though it’s hard. I’m happy God let me be able to do so many things and that my beauty doesn’t have to do anything with it, people make things about beauty but I can still travel and things and I’m happy. God bless everyone, stay safe🤍🌻
You are actually beautiful
Hey. I started watching your channel because I can relate, especially when u described being asked out as a joke. I used to be hit on as a joke in middle school.
I wish I could hug you.
I needed this. I'm having a really hard time. I've considered suicide over my looks. I have a boyfriend who tells me I'm beautiful, luckily. My family picked apart my appearance growing up and I was bullied in school. Now in my mid 20s, all of this has finally caught up to me and I'm severely depressed. Still considering ending my life. Good to know I'm not alone
Oh no looking at your profile picture you are beautiful why would anybody say you are not beautiful 😍 😍😍I’m serious.
@@eve9981 aww you're so sweet. Thank you ♥️
@@IzzyMarie you naturally beautiful girl trust me I see a lot of women they need make up and you don’t need make up at all. Keep being beautiful 😍
You may want to consider that your boyfriend is right, you're not ugly, your problem stems from what people have said to you over the years.
I won't pretend to know all about you but I can guess that you ruminate on your looks and like a needle on a record, this rumination has worn a groove in your thinking where you cannot change your opinion of yourself.
@@eve9981 bruh she's just telling she's ugly with her pfp that fits the beauty standard so she would gain people to comment "but you're so pretty!" don't fall for this people .She knows she's not ugly but she said she is because,again,that would gain more validation and compliments
personally i find her really cute! like da 2015-2019 type look in a good way- ong all my heart.
What hurts me is the fact some awful person bullied you into believing your ugly and doubting yourself value... You look absolutely nice ain't nothing wrong with you, and most true is that beauty is in the eye of the beholder