The fact that the layout was bland, homogenous, and confusing really helps to enphasize what people with dementia go through, trying to process everything around them... also Joe popping in and out.
Is this a joke because of how bad the animation is? Because it’s REALLY BAD. When the purse appeared on the other side of the counter and started telekinetically pushing out coins on its own, I couldn’t take it serious anymore💀
@@ThereWasThisBchFromMinnesota Sure, it looks bad, but he has a point. When you are in a situation like this, you get lost in what you need to do or what you have seen. Seeing MILK MILK MILK all over the aisle is a way of saying that it is hard to tell what kind you need.
My grandmother had dementia. It would make me sad that she was forgetting me. Then one day I came to visit her and the nurse said, “look it’s your grand daughter, you don’t remember her?” She looked so distraught and about to cry. I was upset that the doctor and nurse did that. From then on I let her decide whoever she wanted me to be. Turns out I discovered that to her I was one of her best friends from when she was younger and I learned so much about her.
my great grandpa is sort of like this. he thinks me and my dad are siblings when we visited a month ago. i was so sad at first, but i’m okay with it now
I like you're idea of letting her decide whoever she wanted you to be. Not only did it probably make her feel better thinking that she was right, but in addition you got to learn so much more about her. I never thought of that idea. Thank you.
Hello all, hope you all are doing okay. I know it can be tough to see a loved one go through their emotions and also forgetting who you are. Just know that it’s not their wish to forget you but apart of the illness. Remember to take deep breaths and know that no matter what you are loved!
@@dusk5956 My grandmother never got to that stage, and I'm glad for that, if it makes sense. She just forgot things we told her for the last five minutes. But even that made me sad, as young I was. She passed four months after the hospitalization. Looking back on it now, it could've and would've been much worse if death never intervened. I'll miss you, Linnéa.
For the last two years my memory (mostly short term memory ) has been deteriorating ,along with my hands shaking. I'll be talking to people and mid sentence I'll forget wait we were talking about. It scares me because for the last 7 years of my grandpa's life I watched a very strong Man turn into a confused shell of himself. I got to hold him in my arms as his life was snuffed out. I think Cancer and Alzheimer are two of most demeaning and cruel thing that we as people have to deal with. I'm afraid of what the future has in store for me but it will not defy me. Thanks for taking time to read.
That might be Parkinson’s. Don’t be afraid to go to the doctor and seek treatment. Catching something like this early is better than leaving it untreated. Best wishes.
@Proud Zionist awh im so sorry you gave to go through this. Please one thing i recommend that a lot of the clients we have with dementia really appreciated was the stories they wrote down before losing memories in thier own handwriting or thier family member's. If they had pictures to go with it of the people involved too that briefings. This one big book saved one of our client's lives it helped her to see all these stories to recognize her daughter who then helped her to come away from a very dangerous situation. Make sure you write down every little thing you like to do in your day even from the way you like to get dressed if you rub your back edith something if you wear socks or slippers if you have 1 or 2 sugers in your tea if you like a bunch of foods or some you really can't stand or you like listening to some memorable songs those really help if you are religious or you have a favourite hobby that you used to enjoin in with a group of people. Anything in your week that brings you joy try to make notes of these things in a big book from now it will help and i hope anyone who has family going through this at the earlier stages does this. It helps us to care for you and your family knows also.
For real though, everything you do is a memory instantly. As soon as your done with whatever you’re doing, it’s a memory. Scary to think about but so true.
Yeah after having had amnesia it was like being born again and having to relearn everything except it was easier because it’s vaguely there in the back of your mind
My memories are most precious! Objects can stimulate memory as well as things written down. I’m not scared of losing my memories. I am bothered by it because then I’m less than who I was and will be must be can be.
Disconcertingly close to shopping during a dissociative episode "Wait, what am I here for?" "The milk was down that aisle last time, wasn't it? Which store is this?" "I could have sworn I had a twenty this morning"
I first watched this video going through a really bad dissociative episode and got freaked out thinking I had early set dementia because my grandmother does
Import to keep in mind with any mental disorder, and in any setting. psychosis, addiction, disassociation. A little bit of patients, understanding and compassion goes a long way.
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@@katiscools No, not really. Dementia is the term used for an entire group of brain disorders that make it hard to recall a variety of events, think clearly, make decisions, control your emotions, etc. Alzheimer’s disease is just one of those several disorders. Alzheimer's is a type of Dementia, not Dementia itself, hence why the two are related but not the same thing.
Might seem unrelated, but about the cashier's atitude. It reminded me being in high school, when I had to complete some forms at an institute. There was this almost blind lady who went _alone_ for the same sort of form. The woman who received them refused to help her complete the forms, so I wrote the necessary data for the lady. She was almost crying after that and she wanted to *give me money* when I was finished. _For something that was absolutely normal._ Didn't take it, of course. Please be kind with the elderly, at least where it's possible/necessary and they are not aggressive. You never know what is in their heart.
@James bad take. Maybe because I’m a fireman but i definitely would save someone in a burning building, kinda f*cked dude lol. It’s not a zombie apocalypse it’s not like we in a rush to get somewhere
@James why does being a volunteer mean I have no family? It’s not suppose to be a source of income either, it’s helping the community. You come to some odd conclusions
I don't have dementia but I did have brain surgery that leaves me like this. Confused, scared . Shoot, I went into a store that I don't normally go into. I got confused and I just sat down and cried. Trying to tell myself there's a way out. Augh!! It's not a good feeling. Bless the hearts who deal with this daily.
@@garyking4357 thank you. No I still get it occasionally. Bless your heart. I'm sorry. It's frustrating huh? I hope and pray the best for you. The mind is scary at times.
My neighbor when I was a kid was an elderly lady. She was sharp as a tack. As the years passed, dementia destroyed her. I’ll never forget my last encounter with her. She was standing outside of her house with a suitcase while my sister and I were playing. She kept pointing to her house telling my us “your door is open! You need to shut your door! Someone can just walk in!” We told her “No no Anna, that’s YOUR house. You live there.” She looked so troubled and said “No. I’m going home. My mother is picking me up.” She sat outside on her suitcase for hours. My dad came home and tried to talk to her. She panicked not knowing who he was. My dad went down the street to her daughters house and told her what was happening. That made it worse. She refused to believe that was her daughter. She claimed she was 24 and waiting for her mom to pick her up and take her home…as in her childhood home. She still thought she lived in Poland! She had no idea who her kids or grandkids were….and honestly I’ve never seen something so sad. Watching this nice lady just lose herself will forever break my heart.
This is really sad. It reminds me of my grandmother who I live with, thankfully she still remembers all her close family members but sometimes she thinks that she has to go home while being at home and she starts packing suitcases. It's really heartbreaking to see a loved one in this situation
@@gloriaj8254 that’s a pretty common theme with “I want to go home”. My mom fell backwards and woke up with dementia and a ton of new physical issues. She thought my dad was back which to me was the only good thing because she was so sad without him. She never forgot me her youngest child but thought I was 20 or her children or grandchildren but her personality changed. But to me I will always be her youngest and I will never stop missing her. It’s changed everything. The loss of both parents and seeing their decline. Now I’m struggling from stress related issues. One thing is my mom was never left alone. Expect for one day, the day she fell backwards. She was left for literally 2 seconds.
If it is any consolation, not everybody feels angry, scared, or confused. My grandma is experiencing post-stroke dementia and the things she remembers- and doesn't - have become a subject of humor for her and the rest of us. My aunt walked in on her and my grandpa having an argument. She was pointing to their wedding photo. She acknowledged fully that the woman in the photo was her, but kept grilling my grandpa about who the man was. He just kept repeating that it was him and sorry that he didn't age well. She then showed my aunt the photo and asked the same question, my aunt confirmed it was indeed him. They all laughed about it and she still finds it very funny when it happens
My grandma just passed away after having this for years. She would forget what she just did, forget who you were, would see things that weren’t there. I’m happy she’s not suffering any more. Edit: wow 5k likes is crazy. to all the people who commented about their struggles with family members who have dementia, you will get through it, may God give you strength and peace ❤️
Dementia and alzheimers is something that runs in my family. When I was little, my great-grandparents technically never met me because they always forgot who I was. They thought my cousins and I were some random kids from the street playing in their backyard. In reality, we'd been around them since we were born. Dementia terrifies me not because of the possibility of it happening to me, but rather the possibility of it happening to my mom. I don't know how I could ever deal with seeing her deteriorate like that. It's a fate worse than death: losing what makes you, _you._
Me too... my grandpa had it for years before he died and all while I was taking care of him, for the lack of a better phrase, like a 260 pound baby. I was 13 when he started showing signs of dementia and now im 17 and he passed away last year right before covid hit. It was horrifying to watch the person who raised me not know who I was or even my name... I wouldn't wish this upon my worst enemy. Being a primary caregiver to someone with dementia is living heck. I had a legal guardian that did all the adult stuff like bills but I was the one who was homeschooled to take care of my grandpa all day every day with no allowed social interaction since they were a quote bad crowd to be around.
Just put her in a nice retirement home and forget about her if she gets bad dementia. You don't even need to visit because they won't remember you visiting and may not even recognize you.
I hate it, it's just terrifying and unfair. The worst part is when the person starts to forget basic things like when did they eat, and start to get weaker and weaker
@Vegas it’s very cruel to your loved ones to see you painfully slowly wasting away trust me. I never got to know my granddad before he had dementia. All I got were glimpses of his actual personality few and far between. Mostly confusion in his, and sadness in my moms eyes.
The part with the biscuits really hurt me.. The fact that I thought I didn't grab them but, apparently did really made me upset. And when the store "changed" It was so strange and so confusing. My heart broke while watching this.
When the woman said "the shop is different" and i turned the camera to find out the layout of the building had literally changed i started crying. The bit with her counting money was also really sad. Jesus christ i did NOT expect this video to make me so emotional. Very well done
My beloved mother had dementia. One day after I helped her to shower and dress she gently took my hand and told me that I was her best friend. I replied that I was. I was heartbroken but at the same time happy to be whoever she needed me to be.
I know what you went through I took care of my Dad for 10 yrs. we were looking at photos and he got very excited and said ‘look it’s my daughter! Whatever happened to her? Does she ever stop by?’ He was happy when I told him she stopped by to see him every day but it still broke my heart.
Awwhh this what hurts me the most i am sorry you all went through that but it truly is one of my greatest fears and i pray not to have to experience this first hand. I couldn't handle the moments where our dementia patients had family visitors and they experienced the same thing knowing that just an yesterday they were talking tooi them openly with recognition. You all muddy have loved them so much to keep taking so much care of them as it is difficult for carers to know what to do in those uncertain circumstances that they get agitated by something and we can't convince them to have thier medicine or have a wash or change thier clothes even with all our experience sometimes we end up calling family members to help convince them because hearing your voices or you knowing them and what to say is what they need.
@@AmmaraSHAH773377 Thank you to all the caregivers of dementia patients. I’ve been a nurse a long time. Other than my Dad I rarely dealt with dementia pts. Takes a very special person to do this work
I remember when I was much younger, around December we were going to New Mexico to see some family for Christmas. My great grandmother acted very strangely and I remember before getting out of the car my mom said to me "Be patient and helpful with your grandmother, she's got some issues going on." She constantly kept asking what my name was and I kept telling her, some of the things she asked being confusing to me, at dinner she got both of our burgers confused, etc. I was thinking about it recently and it took me this long to put two and two together.
Developing a neurological disease and not having any loved ones around me is literally my greatest fear in life. Not only do you forget who people are, but people also forget who you are. All the special memories and traits that make you special just fade away as you become the "person with dementia". Sad and frightening.
I understand you. i was doing so much speed and coke when i was in my 20s that i feel my chances are almost 100%. I didn't touch for years. But even now while im writing this message its hard to express what i mean though the fog of my thought. There is nothing i can do now . Just live healthy exercise and not to think about it much.
@@Rom2Serge Sometimes the body is surprisingly resilient. No one can guarantee you'll get dementia. You can even get better over time. You're awesome for succeeding in beating your addiction!
Members of my family have a predisposition to dementia/schizophrenia and I'm all alone living in another country. I pray/wish/hope it never occurs to me. I don't wanna burden those around me.
Yep. Had this experience with my grandma. She became a different person. And she had the silent type so she wouldnt communicate at all. She would just give physical cues
@@viralshark I'm pretty familiar with the concept, I think it's probably a bit of that but mostly just that the vid portrays a very real fear of mine which is forgetting significant parts of my life.
Oh my goodness. I just remembered that, when I worked at a grocery store, I had a customer just like this. She struggled so much to write a check and we were all very understanding, but now I have to wonder whether or not she was suffering from dementia and didn't know it.
@@erik-sr9bj That's so weird, because cashiers are always super nice to me, because I'm nice to them. Have you ever wondered if you're the problem? If your personality is as lovely in real life as it in this comments section, I wouldn't be surprised if that were the case.
As a former customer service representative, it's not that difficult to help ppl sort out their money. Cashiers do it for the elderly all the time. I think most cashiers are very trustworthy and want to help.
“The store’s changed,” threw me for a hell of a loop when I turned and saw the shelves in a different layout. How in the hell did I walk straight through the middle of the store when there’s a big old shelf in the way? This is definitely an effective video and I will remember to have more patience and grace for people from now on.
That's the thing, you thought that you walked through the aisles that were arranged parallel to you, but in reality you went through the perpendicular store, your brain just doesn't remember going through like that. That's the trippy part about dementia, it messes with you in the present.
@@dirtytapwater1374 she didn’t get the biscuits, she was having an episode and essentially had a flashback of a time she went to the store with this Joe guy and then she snaps back to reality, but for her it all feels real.
She never got the biscuits. We literally watched the video ourselves and she never got biscuits we saw everything shegot it’s just that at the cash register the biscuits somehow appeared in there.
it hurts my heart that my great grandma had to go through this, i remember visiting her and she kept calling me by a different name and pointing at a picture of my cousin and going "look its you :))) hows your husband??" i was only 13 and wanted to cry because just a year earlier she remembered me. its truly a heartbreaking disease
I've been diagnosed with a brain tumour, and I'm in my early thirties. This is how I'm becoming. I don't recognise my son for hours at a time. I repeat the same thing. I'm forgetting how to cook, how to read. People use yo come to me to write letters for them. Now I need help with my letters lolz. I'm right handed, but my right hand has become weak like my left hand. I can so relate. I remember, when I was younger, I use to find it a bit strange when an elderly person use to stare blankly. I thought they were being nosey with the countless questions. Now I know, they were actually confused, trying to put two and two together to make sense of the person, their surrounding, the next sentence in their mind and how to execute the whole thing coherently and simultaneously in an effective way. Very very challenging.
I’m sorry you are both going through this. I understand how that feels, I lost my grandad a year and a half ago. He barely remembered anything by the end.
So sorry to hear that, Destiny. My father had Alzheimer's, and now a good friend of mine has it. It's terrible. Please give your grandpa a big hug! :-)
Same, my Nan is at stage 5 and parts of stage 6 dementia. She can’t eat, drink, wash, get dressed or walk on her own now. We have to do everything for her. It’s like she has gone back to being a baby. She won’t say any full sentences either. It’s gibberish or only an odd one word. It’s so heartbreaking. So scary how the brain just gives up 😞
I knew something was wrong when the milk wasnt in a refrigerated isle. Edit: Apparently there are heathens out there drinking room temperature rice milk.
Damn, the fact this is extremely familiar for me is quite scary. That's exactly how I function when my schizophrenia gets really bad (the beginning, not so much the end). Of course, I realize this is only one aspect of dementia but I guess there are similaries between those illnesses.
Yeah this feels familiar to me too.. as someone with Dissasocitiave Identity Disorder.. a lot of my day is spent trying to remember what I was doing, or where I'm at, or why anything is where it is. Even rules and tricks that I make to help inform myself, can fade away within days. Notes that I write myself and put on my wall or mirror- days later, I dont even notice or my brain doesn't pick them up as if those physical notes arent even there. Many notebooks filled with the same notes and to do lists. But there are ebbs and flows, and writing this makes me feel really proud about what I can do and have progressed in how well I can manage life amongst this challenge. I hope you feel accomplished and aware of your victories too!
And you’ll probably still get pissed, so will all of us at some point, the important thing is to have patience and be understanding of others situations, we can’t always control feelings, but we can control how we act on them
@@lucianoarebalo41 once it's fully processed within your mind, it doesn't bother you anymore. I can become NUTS when I hear someone chewing with his/her mounth open but I'm not bothered by babies crying in an airlplane or even everyday in my apartment, for me they're babies/toddlers, it's "like this" lol.
I wrote a long comment on this video about my experiences with memory loss. It took 8 hours to write and RUclips deleted it 5 minutes later for some reason. I hate this so much. I just hate this. I hate my mind. I want out.
I worked at a long care facility in the '80s. We had one gentleman named George who had what is coloquially called "sundown syndrome", i.e. he seemed normal during the day but became progressively more confused as evening came on. He had one of two things he would fret about, that either he'd left his truck out in the field or wondering where his (late) wife was. We could relieve his anxiety about the truck fairly easily but the wife always ended up heartbreaking. We'd have to tell him she was dead (and had passed away some 10 years before.) Each time, when he grasped that she was gone he'd break down and sob as if he was hearing the news for the first time. I'm in my early '70s now. I never was any good at remembering names, and I've been a history buff my whole life. Forgetting names bother me, but it bothers me even more when events or historic persons I've known for years won't come to mind.
My 91 year old mother has stage 4 Alzheimer's. Shopping with her is an absolute nightmare. She hangs on to the shopping trolley like a life raft and steers it through the sea of isles. She questions the size, price, colour and look of everything. Mother announces her pin number to all shoppers in the queue behind her before she is hurriedly ushered out. She has no idea where she has been once she is home.
She's suffering. Please don't be angry with her. It's not her fault. I hate when people try to cut their emotions off by allowing their self to feel angry instead
If she hangs on the the trolley like a life raft then what does that tell you about how it makes her feel? Leave her at home then and get someone to watch her while you go alone.
@@joan-lisa-smith My mother is now 92 and has had to remain at home until the lockdown here in the UK is over. She used to go shopping as a sole means of getting her out of her bungalow where she exists in her own daily routine. Mother has stage 4 Alzheimer's which limits her ability to understand these present restrictions. She still wants to go out because her shrinking memory remembers shopping. I think, however, as time progresses that mother will forget and she will remain at home to once again exist in her limited little world.
"The store's changed" and then looking around to see that the layout was different and I didn't see the aisle we just walked down just completely shocked me and gave me chills This video definitely accomplished what it's trying to show us
I KNOW, I was looking at the exit and trying to find Joe because I didn't see him earlier and I just hear "the shop is different" and I look back and it's different and it just made my heart sink.
I'm not sure what to think about myself that I couldn't confirm the shop being different because I didn't remember the original layout. I just assumed it must be because she said so..
@@elizar666 Me too. I have OSDD though, so I've kind of got used to either just not noticing stuff around me in the first place to notice changes afterwards, or briefly not knowing how I got somewhere (and/or where that 'somewhere' is) before it all gradually comes back to me again.
im 20 and not sure if this isnt exactly realistic or my brain well gone, but i wouldnt remember what the shop looked like before let alone notice that its changed
@@Donkaisen HAHA, dude this is hilarious: ''You should read one article it’s terrifying.'' You only need one article to be scared? Man, never ever read the paper that claimed that autism was caused by vaccination, you'll be scared of nurses all your life after readint it.
I have looked after elderly residents with very severe dementia. When some of them speak they sound like they're speaking another language and will start crying but they can't tell you why and all you can do is give them a big cuddle and tell them itll be ok. Sometimes they will get aggressive but it's only a defense mechanism for all the confusion going on in their minds. I can't imagine how traumatic it must be in that situation and whenever one passes away I see it as a blessing as now their mind and soul can be at peace.
I'm a full-on losing it crying mess right now! My Mom died of Alzheimer's. My only comfort about it is that the afternoon before the day she died I held my arms around her in her wheelchair and kept telling her what a wonderful mother she was and that I love her so much.
The clerk was being reasonable, what are you on about. She was being patient when granny was counting the coins, spoke very calmly, and politely asked granny to not hog up the line. What do you expect her to do?
The problem is that this specific scenario may be one where her son never came with her to the shop and she may be misremembering him as being there at all.
Often, people struggling with cognitive issues don't tell anyone the extent of their problems, either because they don't want to acknowledge the situation or because they don't want to worry anyone. Joe may have no idea things have progressed to this degree.
He might not be there, since in her mind, in her basket theres no biscuits, but when the son shows up, theres biscuits, it's most likely misremembering events, since he suddenly disappears then reappears, so it might be that he's either there the whole time, or not there at all, or both
This is so frustrating. And if it's frustrating for me, I can't imagine how frustrating and terrifying it must be for someone actually experiencing the confusion.
As a fellow (ex) cashier here, we HAD to ask every customer. They insisted on it. Besides because you ask it like 500 times a day it becomes something you say automatically..
Lmao there are so many labyrinth changing world crazy plopping games like this. Try prey for example. It's not one where you have a disease or anything but it definitely alters expectations from reality like this.
My grandma is in probably the early stages of dementia and it's been scaring the shit out of my family. It started off with her telling the same few stories over and over again but as of late it's become things like forgetting she was sick earlier in the day or when we lasted visited. It's hard to see someone who's always been mentally sharp go. Be patient with anyone who has dementia or Alzheimer's, its not their fault
I'm 56, but I've had a stroke that severely affected my memory. I've started asking everyone "Did I tell you that..." before I launch into a story. I can't stand the thought of boring people, while they're trying to be polite. Sometimes when I'm with people I trust, I do burst into tears, mourning the memories that I've lost. When you lose your memories, you lose who you are as a human being. I can feel myself slipping away, and it's terrifying. I have a large stash of prescription sleeping pills, and when this gets intolerable I know I will have a way out. I want to make that decision while I can.
@@LuckyBadger So sorry to hear what you’re going through. Please make sure to talk with doctors about your feelings and to see how you can recover. My understanding is that much recovery is possible after a stroke. Have you been able to have any rehab therapy? I have some dementia too, for different reasons, most likely the Alzheimer’s that affected my mother and grandmother, but I have been able to recover a lot of function by changing medications, adding certain supplements, and music therapy. My experience has been that doctors can be clueless and dismiss cognitive health concerns especially if you appear young and seem articulate compared to their other patients. - so we have to push for more info and appropriate care. I have consulted a psychologist who offered specialized rehab therapy; that might be something to consider. Each person’s situation is unique, so idk what would be best for you, but please hang in there.
I keep thinking about how my grandpa's dementia kept getting worse while I still tried to play with him and he was in bed, I remember him laughing and being happy sometimes talking to me often, but after a while he stopped showing much emotion and allot more confusion, then he was put into a nursing home and every time we visited he was either sleeping or making sounds with his eyes open, it was freaky as hell and I can't even imagine how scary it must've been for him until he couldn't feel scared anymore...It really looked like a long agonizing process of a soul leaving his body. I'm very young and I'm having allot of trouble with my memory and I find myself very confused and a little scared sometimes when I forget and don't understand even the simplest things that I learned years ago, thought this is probably something to do with me being on the autism spectrum and having trouble with my mental health, but I still feel scared that the same thing might happen to me one day just like what happened to my grandpa. Scary shit...
Hey bro, that sounds really hard. I can’t imagine what you went through with your g-pa. I know it’s hard to let go of fear, but I just wanted to let you know that Jesus is there for you and He’s there to protect you and you can give those fears and anxieties to him. I got healed of my mental disorders, it was pretty amazing. Now I’m married with two kids of my own. I never thought I’d end up anywhere good, but pretty much in my darkest hour I had an encounter with Jesus and everything changed. I used to be so crazy I’d run around in the streets screaming thinking people were chasing me. Now I have a house and am super happy :) you can even search my name and see that even just 4 years ago I was arrested for felony charges (drugs), but now I’m doing really good. All that to say that God loves you and is good and doesn’t cause the bad things that happens, and He’s here for you.
When I said search, I meant on google :P you can find my arrest records and stuff if you scroll around. Just sharing to let you know I’m not making this stuff up and that I really do believe in you and I do honestly believe you’re gonna have an amazing rest of your life.
@@yeeeeeeeeee3263 Thank you so much for the kind words, it means so allot Q.Q I did look it up and I'm really happy things got better and turned out well for you! :D For my situation, I'm up to trying anything at this point to get rid of all this mess so I'll try my best and see where it gets me. I'll try believing in myself too :) Thank you so much again, and I hope you have a lovely future aswell! (ﾉ^ヮ^)ﾉ*.✧
hey i'm autistic. look up autistic burnout and see if this sounds like you. also, when i smoked weed it really fucked me up muuuuch worse than i thought. we're unusually sensitive to all drugs so if you take any meds or any psychotropic substances in general, consider that. also if you have chronic pain it could be fucking up your REM sleep and affecting you (a lot of us have Ehlers-Danlos)
I mean you should already acknowledge why someone can be slow at the till. They probably have dementia yes, social anxiety, disability or they’re just an elderly.
I go through that. My children are all grown, I am not married and I live (alone) with me faithfully service dog, Bill. I have been told that I have left a full shopping cart at the store and just left dozens of times. I'm just glad that I'm not shoplifting.
@@ladyjane9980 I’m so very sorry to hear that. It must be terribly lonely. Have you considered maybe getting a caretaker? If you are on disability or are past a certain age sometimes it’s paid for. It might be best to make those arrangements before your dementia worsens. Just make sure if you get one assigned and it isn’t someone you know and trust to have your medication, documents, and sentimental/valuable items locked up somewhere safe. And maybe consider a medical bracelet. No judgment here, just some ideas from experience. Try to be safe!
@@ladyjane9980 I'm sorry to hear that, Jennifer. I think it's important that you contact your children and tell them about your fears. Also, please go to have yourself examined by a doctor. The earlier they detect a problem, the better they can help. All my best wishes for you!
As an old person myself what is really wrong is that we are denied THE final decision. We should be able to take a black capsule and end the misery we're inflicting on others we used to love. We want to be remembered as capable and independent, not drooling because doctors want to keep making money keeping us alive long after we should leave. Let us go with dignity and make room for you. Personally I don't fear death - I fear painful, prolonged life.
I assure you, doctors aren't colluding to keep you alive just to make money. Ask any doctor and they'll tell you a DNR and the right to die are the way to go.
@@madman-000 yeah, this is why it's important to have end-of-life discussions before then, so you don't end up being tortured in the ICU because your family is overwhelmed and can't make a decision
Agreed. You should have full control over your body, especially if you don't want to continue. Oregon has assisted suicide but it's almost pointless, as you need a 6 month or less terminal diagnosis by 2 doctors. Getting an appointment can take 2-3 months, and you might end up denied anyways, but now you're even closer to death and have spent your last amount of time and money.
I've tried using the Walk Through Dementia app on VR with my phone, and it was so disorientating - I wholeheartedly recommend the app to anyone who is curious about dementia and its effects, it's an amazing and humbling piece of work.
Right?! I have worked in the hospitality industry for a while, and of course there are rude/annoying customers but I can't imagine being like this woman towards someone who appears to be struggling.
She doesn't seem too rude. Probably only annoyed because the cashier doesn't realize what the elderly woman is going through. We already have background knowledge about the old lady's dementia, but the cashier didn't, and with the time given, most likely didn't think too much about it.
A lot of these underpaid young cashiers have very little people skills. As well so many people lack kindness and compassion. Plus at many a business time is money and cashiers are expected to be fast and productive. Look for an older cashier. They tend to be kinder.
Dementia can mess with your interpretation and make everyone seem hostile and scary, so she potentially was kind to her but the old woman only felt frightened and alone.
My mom has beginnings of dementia. As a human being she deserves all respect in the world. As my mom I will do everything needed to make sure she is safe and respected. Great video, it gives a person a chance to realize what life 24/7 is like for someone who did not choose to have dementia. Compassion is the only way when dealing with someone with special needs!!!!
I think we ought to cut Joe some slack. He is probably a mid teenager and this is still a time where his mother is supposed to care for him. He might not respond well to having the opposite way around this early in life. He's trying to figure out his mother while trying to figure out himself.
@@thesupreme7815 I guess the fact that his mom sounds reasonably young and so does he. And that he is going shopping with her. Not to say that older people don't shop with their parents but this was the most likely scenario that stood out to me.
I've got an elderly friend suffering from early dementia. I remember how sharp he was when we first started hanging out, we'd sit down for drinks and talk about life and I learned a lot from him, but knew something was up when he started forgetting his own daughter's name and locking himself out of his own apartment every other day. It's hard watching the old man fall apart and I'm hoping I can better understand how to be there when he needs help with things
dementia is a horrible thing i had this neighbour he was so generous and kind he would always give me money when it came to my birthday or christmas or whenever i met him really. He lived through ww2 and it hurt me when he would say how he would go to school sometimes and his friends wouldnt be there, he was bright aswell he knew lots of things from the past even though he was almost 90 years old and had a lot of knowledge about everything really. His wife fell over once and because of his dementia he wasn't able to help her as i dont think he even recognised who she was so my dad had to help her up again. Then he started having carers round to check up on him until he was asleep and then one day we never saw him again, his car was gone not on his driveway anymore and we heard him and his wife were staying at a care home that was 3 years ago now and we havent heard anything since..
man having audio processing issues really adds to this I genuinely couldn't understand what the cashier was saying and was mentally fumbling to try and fill in the blanks of what was being said
i sometimes have short audio processing episodes where i struggle to process the meaning of the words being said, like when i’m watching a movie i sometimes have to repeat the sentence in my head a couple of times… i thought i was the only one until now
@@presidentdingus the captions aren't always right, especially if they're automatically generated. I always have cc on but I still can't grasp my head around the words and what is being said
Is everyone really a bitch when they find confused customers?! The granny hawker that I buy from often confuse coins but I always help her whenever I'm paying. Damn people are heartless, i thought that was common courtesy...
@Susel Are you from Germany? Personally I don't mind bagging my own stuff, it would make me feel bad to watch an underpaid employee do it for me like I'm some rich snob even though I'm perfectly able to do it myself, but yeah, it would be nice if they offered help to those who obviously need it.
@@cheekybananaboy3361 it really is confusing. When I worked in retail, we were told to help the customers. But at the same time, got chewed out if we took too long to help a customer.
My sweet momma recently passed from having dementia n Alzheimer's. It was so pitiful and very hard to watch her decline every day. I had one of the best mommas growing up. It really hurt to see her suffer with this disease. The last three years of her life was awful for her. But my mommas not suffering no more. She s safe with JESUS now. I pray for anyone that's going thru this or dealing with a love one that's suffering with this disease.
my grandmother has dementia, she's at the point where she doesn't really recognize anybody, she can't take care of herself, and she's barely responsive to others. the last time i saw her i was saying goodbye on christmas eve getting ready to go home. mostly she'd respond to people very much unaware of what was going on, smiling when it seemed right. i kissed her on the cheek and said bye grandma, merry christmas, love you! and i think she sort of said it back, but mostly I could tell she wasn't really there. before it got QUITE to this point, but still seeming very out of it all the time and not understanding her surroundings, i recall once when she looked at my aunt and said very clearly and with a serious tone, "i understand more than you think." ...i think about it a lot watching it worsen over the years, especially to this state, is really hard, as I'm sure anybody can tell you that's watched a love one go thru it medication helps her be a little more lucid these days now that she and my grandfather are receiving the proper care they need (they are both in their 90s, and while my grandpa doesnt have dementia, he can hardly take care of himself as well. still a stubborn old goat though!!) this scares me on a level i didnt think i could experience, because it almost feels like "this might be what my grandmother feels on a daily basis" hurts a lot. but fascinating and something i always wanted to learn more about.
@@gantmj that's a misconception. Different medications can help certain things, but the results often vary from person to person (as with any medication).
I'm am a grocery store manager. My first day as a cashier I was asked to help a customer who had dementia by his caregiver. This simulation pretty much summed it up. He was asking for the same things over and over and he kept saying he was lost. Afterwards, his caregiver practically cried telling me how patient I am and if I ever wanted to be a manager she'd write me a letter of recommendation. He has since died, but his caregiver and I still see each other sometimes. The first day she saw me in my manager uniform we took a selfie together
@@jacehendrix3194 That these billions of years of stellar nucleosynthesis, paired with multiple millions of years of evolution still produces this? We are stardust. Cosmology is inextricably linked to biology.
@@sakar181 I’m pretty sure that natural human evolution never intended us to live this long. These old age diseases are an unfortunate side effect of us living way longer than before modern medicine and tech
i... i understand so much and yes this is terrifying. p.s I get easily scared by horror movies but this is depressing and scarier than most movies I have seen.
@@whicyc OMG😳 I'd never encountered this feature before and thought this was just a regular video until I saw your comment. Do you know of any other videos with this feature.
This is exactly how my grandmother acts. It’s really sad and almost made me cry because I can only imagine how rough this is and it pains me to think about that the same woman who used to walk me to the park and bring chocolate for me every day has turned into someone going through so much. And we can’t even tell her about the recent death of my grandfather, fearing that it will confuse her. She’s always asking for him. Stay strong Oma I love you
She probably will be confused for minutes and then forget about it and start asking where he is again and repeat the cycle. I'm so sorry, i wish you and your granny best of luck.
Although I certainly would be scared to ever experience a condition like this, imagining having to watch my loved ones go through something like this when I'm older seems so terrifying. I'm a grown 28 year old man, and I feel like a scared child, knowing that this could be a possibility for the people I've always admired and I have always seen as strong and sharp.
Am I the only person who assumed Joe was not the name of her son, but of her husband who died years prior and whom she depended on for a lot of things?
@@flohwalzer Yea maybe but i guess it depends. My grandpa passed away about 3 years ago and my grandma, who has dementia, lives in a care facility and visions him all the time. Sometimes she tells me that she sees him "cheating on her with another girl" and being irresponsible and it is really hard cause its sad to see that she has come to dislike her late husband from this visions she has, which obv arent real I guess what im saying is that dementia widely varies between each person and sometimes people can completely forget their loved ones AND vision them in person in the span of like a minute. its crazy and scary
@@flohwalzer ppl with dementia sometimes remember events or people from really far back. It’s like their mind totally goes back in time. (Nursing home cna)
*When I first heard "Where's Joe?", I thought she was referring to her late husband.* Thankfully it wasn't that macabre, but not by much. _Terrifying!_
I am beginning to think my trying to learn what I have is not a good idea. I'm worried what this will do to my kids and my granddaughter. My dad is in better health than I am. He's 77 and I'm 54.
Matellena I’m so sorry about what you’re going through! I cant imagine getting dementia that you g. I heard of a guy that was diagnosed with dementia at 30! Its just awful! Wishing you the best of luck with everything
@@raphaelneves7666 are you really sure about that? i am currently a 15 year old child and i found out about the disease several months ago by discovering an album that is related to dementia and alzheimers which is named "Everywhere at the end of time", when i listened to it and then also learned about what the disease does... it genuinely broke me. I tried my best to forget about the tunes of the first song by going to sleep to help myself reset my mind (despite me being a big fan of old songs like these) and forget about it while my mind keeps on trying to remember it as hard as it can... it did work and i was happy about it until a few months later when i started remembering it but i was actually somewhat more calm about it... though I really think it is not the best idea to let the younger ones know about this including myself.. in my case it is already too late but that is okay i think!
Hey dont conclude yet. It just may be the menopause. One does tend to be forgetful and confused sometimes. Maybe hormonal imbalance. Check your thyroid gland.
No joke, i always thought my house was haunted by a women... to this day and when my grandmother developed slight dementia at a very high age, shortly before she died, there was a incident, that i will never forget. I came into her room, trying to give her water and she looked at me in shock. Then she said: "Who are you !!! Leave me alone !!!" I was like, "I am your grandaughter, i just want to give you some water". She looked at the cup and went like: "That's not water". She then slapped the cup out of my hand and it fell to the floor. I went outside to tell my mother, what has happened, then i came back in after few minutes and my grandmother recognized me again, as if nothing happened. She asked "Who was that lady Debbie ?" I said "It was me" and she replied: "No Debbie that wasn't you, it was a women with pitch black hair in a bun, she was a evil witch, she starred at me and tried to poison me" I tried to explain her but she insisted it wasn't me. She asked me "Is she gone ?" and i said yes. She then normally took the cup of water and thanked me. To this day, i would like to know, what she actually saw in that moment.
@@deanal-jackson4593 thats a lie bc i lived in a house and it was built on a battle field in the 1800s and we have to live there bc my dad was in the navy and my whole family claimed to see ghoss but i dont remember bc i was little
My mom has Alzheimer’s dementia. I have watched her struggle each day, all the while losing a little more of herself every day. I miss her so much, though she’s still with us. It’s awful, absolutely awful. I do not wish it on anyone.
My grampa passed away when I was at a young age (10 or 11) and he was the first person who saw me and held and he was the first person to leave my life forever my few memories of him are...limited but he was very quiet and loved to listen to me (My last seeing of him was at easter where I showed him the new toy I got.) Aparently he had dementia and the reason he was quiet was because he was afraid of making himself look like a fool. When he passed I didnt think much of it, he didnt affect me in any emotional way and I only knew about him from the stories my parents told me. He was a member of the local church and he was quite the talker and always brought people together. Now as I look back on his death all I feel is pain, sadness that such a brilliant talkative extroverted person was crippled to the point where he could only sit on the couch reading the New york times while drinking coffee and watching tennis while his anxiety stricken wife cared for him. I felt regret for never knowing him and taking the time to listen to him. People often take family for granted yet what are we whithout connection? People with no purpose, lost and confused noone to love to cry on or to laugh with, when someone important in your life leaves you, there is no point in feeling sorry for yourself my advice is to continue to love them and tell their story, preserve the one thing that can make a person immortal: their history. Peace and love
Well that was horrifying. Really. I cannot imagine going through anything like this. Everyone should be given a chance to see this and if they’re not empathetic afterwards there’s something seriously lacking in them. I actually wanted to slap the cashier! Thank you for making this available. 💜💜💜💜💜💜
@@psychicbyinternet you speak with an ignorant mind. Have you watched the video, you stupid dolphin? Cashiers may have it rough, but not any more than people with dementia do. And this cashier happened to be rude as all hell. Cashiers may have it rough, but they may quit if they can. People with dementia can not simply quit, they have to suffer. If you put others bad experiences down because you may have/had it worse, you won’t have anyone by your side when you are dead and dying. Everyone will have left by then.
@Bee Middleton do you also believe this of people with other mental disorders? take it kindly that not only “able-bodied” people are on the internet, friend.
I used to work at a supermarket and this reminds me of one incident on a particularly stressful day when I looked around and literally did not recognize my surroundings; I may as well have been dropped on a different planet and left to fend for myself. I think it was the beginning of a panic attack which was unknowingly eased by my co-worker, who had no idea of the confusion I was experiencing at that moment. Dissociative episodes are not unusual for me in situations with lots of people or bright lights, but that day was on an entirely different level. Dementia does run in my family and I'm terrified of it.
It might have been derealization, it’s this feeling of not recognizing your surroundings and feeling like you’re in a dream like state, even though you technically know where you are. It’s associated with anxiety too
Even if you have considerable risk of dementia progression, you can reduce it by doing some brain exercises. You will live long and sane life. You will be okay! :)
I've only been a cashier with fast food in my late teens and then for a few months at Walmart. I never had a situation like this but I'm happy that I've always been a patient person, even with my line stacking up. It did get irritating if someone had to step to the side to figure out their payment situation, though I kept that to myself, no smacked teeth or rolled eyes. The person is embarrassed enough as-is, they don't need my impatience adding to it. Besides, I've had moments of also needing to step to the side, so some empathy or at least sympathy goes a long way. You never know what someone is going through.
Sometimes the links that connect our chain of memories become weaker and our minds become clouded in darkness. At that point what we need is a connection - a spark of light - to guide us back. Thank you for willing to be that light.
The fact that the layout was bland, homogenous, and confusing really helps to enphasize what people with dementia go through, trying to process everything around them... also Joe popping in and out.
It’s fitting because Joe has dementia too
@@foxysideburns5741 lmao
Is this a joke because of how bad the animation is? Because it’s REALLY BAD. When the purse appeared on the other side of the counter and started telekinetically pushing out coins on its own, I couldn’t take it serious anymore💀
@@ThereWasThisBchFromMinnesota Sure, it looks bad, but he has a point. When you are in a situation like this, you get lost in what you need to do or what you have seen. Seeing MILK MILK MILK all over the aisle is a way of saying that it is hard to tell what kind you need.
Wait who's joe?
My grandmother had dementia. It would make me sad that she was forgetting me. Then one day I came to visit her and the nurse said, “look it’s your grand daughter, you don’t remember her?” She looked so distraught and about to cry. I was upset that the doctor and nurse did that. From then on I let her decide whoever she wanted me to be. Turns out I discovered that to her I was one of her best friends from when she was younger and I learned so much about her.
my great grandpa is sort of like this. he thinks me and my dad are siblings when we visited a month ago. i was so sad at first, but i’m okay with it now
I like you're idea of letting her decide whoever she wanted you to be. Not only did it probably make her feel better thinking that she was right, but in addition you got to learn so much more about her. I never thought of that idea. Thank you.
my grandma on her last days thought i was her son, my dad. she couldn't talk so we didn't have a conversation, she just called me by his name a lot.
Hello all, hope you all are doing okay. I know it can be tough to see a loved one go through their emotions and also forgetting who you are. Just know that it’s not their wish to forget you but apart of the illness. Remember to take deep breaths and know that no matter what you are loved!
@@dusk5956 My grandmother never got to that stage, and I'm glad for that, if it makes sense. She just forgot things we told her for the last five minutes. But even that made me sad, as young I was. She passed four months after the hospitalization. Looking back on it now, it could've and would've been much worse if death never intervened. I'll miss you, Linnéa.
I will start having much more patience with people. This is terrific and terrifying. Thanks for the lesson.
I had an accident four years ago and it resulted in my loss of my short term memory as well as dementia. I'm only 48.
Jennifer Seeley hope you're doing better
@@clementines3322 Unfortunately this condition is progressive and is now beginning to affect my long term memory. Especially when you have children.
Truly terrifying
You should’ve always had patience with elderly people in the first place, just saying.
For the last two years my memory (mostly short term memory ) has been deteriorating ,along with my hands shaking. I'll be talking to people and mid sentence I'll forget wait we were talking about. It scares me because for the last 7 years of my grandpa's life I watched a very strong Man turn into a confused shell of himself. I got to hold him in my arms as his life was snuffed out. I think Cancer and Alzheimer are two of most demeaning and cruel thing that we as people have to deal with. I'm afraid of what the future has in store for me but it will not defy me. Thanks for taking time to read.
That might be Parkinson’s.
Don’t be afraid to go to the doctor and seek treatment. Catching something like this early is better than leaving it untreated.
Best wishes.
@@animecats77 I just wanted to say Thank You for the kind and informative words.
try meditation. It might help
Hookers n drugs. Best luck to u
@Proud Zionist awh im so sorry you gave to go through this. Please one thing i recommend that a lot of the clients we have with dementia really appreciated was the stories they wrote down before losing memories in thier own handwriting or thier family member's. If they had pictures to go with it of the people involved too that briefings. This one big book saved one of our client's lives it helped her to see all these stories to recognize her daughter who then helped her to come away from a very dangerous situation. Make sure you write down every little thing you like to do in your day even from the way you like to get dressed if you rub your back edith something if you wear socks or slippers if you have 1 or 2 sugers in your tea if you like a bunch of foods or some you really can't stand or you like listening to some memorable songs those really help if you are religious or you have a favourite hobby that you used to enjoin in with a group of people. Anything in your week that brings you joy try to make notes of these things in a big book from now it will help and i hope anyone who has family going through this at the earlier stages does this. It helps us to care for you and your family knows also.
At the counter when she asked to pay I just started internally screaming, "Where is Joe! WHERE IS JOE!"
whos joe
@@MarterElectronics Joe Mamma
I know! He just left her...should’ve had them put it to the side. What a dopey kid.
@@momentsformoms9467 i was thinking the same thing! I worked in care for years, you have to be cautious about these things with vulnerable people.
I would have just started screaming. That lady was rude.
Our whole life is memory. Losing that is like losing everything... That scares me
For real though, everything you do is a memory instantly. As soon as your done with whatever you’re doing, it’s a memory. Scary to think about but so true.
This is what happens when I go to the grocery store stoned
Yeah after having had amnesia it was like being born again and having to relearn everything except it was easier because it’s vaguely there in the back of your mind
My memories are most precious! Objects can stimulate memory as well as things written down. I’m not scared of losing my memories. I am bothered by it because then I’m less than who I was and will be must be can be.
Dude just be. Let go dont think just act man
Disconcertingly close to shopping during a dissociative episode
"Wait, what am I here for?"
"The milk was down that aisle last time, wasn't it? Which store is this?"
"I could have sworn I had a twenty this morning"
lol same. it's scary going outside or even being in my own place at those times...but, ultimately...you have to have faith I guess.
I first watched this video going through a really bad dissociative episode and got freaked out thinking I had early set dementia because my grandmother does
I'm trying to beat this game, but I keep grabbing THE BISCUITS
@Mudkip909 in'nit
I kept trying for the sugar.
I thought I was trapped in the library. I spent all my time looking for the exit.
Its because you need to download the cheese and crackers DLC. I stopped playing because this game is pay to win
Less than 60 fps = unplayable
Everyone remember this:
THE PATIENT IS NOT GIVING YOU A HARD TIME, THEY ARE HAVING A HARD TIME.
Most underrated comment right there...
Import to keep in mind with any mental disorder, and in any setting. psychosis, addiction, disassociation. A little bit of patients, understanding and compassion goes a long way.
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Can't it be both? 😏
It's a different story if they're a Facebook dweller Karen
the frustration when saw those biscuits like “I DIDNT PUT THAT THERE I SWEAR I GRABBED THE SUGAR”
Jk 😂😂
that's the thing. you don't know what you did. you have alzheimer's.
@@rachelmenth4677 Dementia?
@@katiscools No, not really. Dementia is the term used for an entire group of brain disorders that make it hard to recall a variety of events, think clearly, make decisions, control your emotions, etc. Alzheimer’s disease is just one of those several disorders. Alzheimer's is a type of Dementia, not Dementia itself, hence why the two are related but not the same thing.
@@Bae_choo Well said!
Might seem unrelated, but about the cashier's atitude. It reminded me being in high school, when I had to complete some forms at an institute. There was this almost blind lady who went _alone_ for the same sort of form. The woman who received them refused to help her complete the forms, so I wrote the necessary data for the lady.
She was almost crying after that and she wanted to *give me money* when I was finished. _For something that was absolutely normal._ Didn't take it, of course.
Please be kind with the elderly, at least where it's possible/necessary and they are not aggressive. You never know what is in their heart.
Honestly she was pretty good, if you spent too much time with a person it can be hard to balance with others in line. Tricky situation
@James bad take. Maybe because I’m a fireman but i definitely would save someone in a burning building, kinda f*cked dude lol. It’s not a zombie apocalypse it’s not like we in a rush to get somewhere
@James just because you're a horrible selfish person doesn't mean everybody else has to be
@James nah volunteer, only 5% of New Zealanders are paid fire fighters (my case so countries differ)
@James why does being a volunteer mean I have no family? It’s not suppose to be a source of income either, it’s helping the community. You come to some odd conclusions
I don't have dementia but I did have brain surgery that leaves me like this. Confused, scared . Shoot, I went into a store that I don't normally go into. I got confused and I just sat down and cried. Trying to tell myself there's a way out. Augh!! It's not a good feeling. Bless the hearts who deal with this daily.
I hope you’re better now!!! :c I understand that feeling too. I have brain damage from schizophrenia and I get lost a lot too.
@@garyking4357 thank you. No I still get it occasionally. Bless your heart. I'm sorry. It's frustrating huh? I hope and pray the best for you. The mind is scary at times.
So you have dementia
I have chronic Lyme Disease and struggle at times. Very frustrating.
Multiple times, once in the supermarket, I was having an anxiety and panic attack...... I cried all the way back home......
My neighbor when I was a kid was an elderly lady. She was sharp as a tack. As the years passed, dementia destroyed her. I’ll never forget my last encounter with her. She was standing outside of her house with a suitcase while my sister and I were playing. She kept pointing to her house telling my us “your door is open! You need to shut your door! Someone can just walk in!” We told her “No no Anna, that’s YOUR house. You live there.” She looked so troubled and said “No. I’m going home. My mother is picking me up.” She sat outside on her suitcase for hours. My dad came home and tried to talk to her. She panicked not knowing who he was. My dad went down the street to her daughters house and told her what was happening. That made it worse. She refused to believe that was her daughter. She claimed she was 24 and waiting for her mom to pick her up and take her home…as in her childhood home. She still thought she lived in Poland! She had no idea who her kids or grandkids were….and honestly I’ve never seen something so sad. Watching this nice lady just lose herself will forever break my heart.
This is really sad. It reminds me of my grandmother who I live with, thankfully she still remembers all her close family members but sometimes she thinks that she has to go home while being at home and she starts packing suitcases. It's really heartbreaking to see a loved one in this situation
@@gloriaj8254 that’s a pretty common theme with “I want to go home”. My mom fell backwards and woke up with dementia and a ton of new physical issues. She thought my dad was back which to me was the only good thing because she was so sad without him. She never forgot me her youngest child but thought I was 20 or her children or grandchildren but her personality changed. But to me I will always be her youngest and I will never stop missing her. It’s changed everything. The loss of both parents and seeing their decline. Now I’m struggling from stress related issues. One thing is my mom was never left alone. Expect for one day, the day she fell backwards. She was left for literally 2 seconds.
That's both terrifying yet sad. Goodness gracious, I hope she's resting in peace now. I'm sorry you had to see that.
If it is any consolation, not everybody feels angry, scared, or confused. My grandma is experiencing post-stroke dementia and the things she remembers- and doesn't - have become a subject of humor for her and the rest of us.
My aunt walked in on her and my grandpa having an argument. She was pointing to their wedding photo. She acknowledged fully that the woman in the photo was her, but kept grilling my grandpa about who the man was. He just kept repeating that it was him and sorry that he didn't age well. She then showed my aunt the photo and asked the same question, my aunt confirmed it was indeed him.
They all laughed about it and she still finds it very funny when it happens
This is exactly what's happening to my dad currently. Every single day, that's the case.
My grandma just passed away after having this for years. She would forget what she just did, forget who you were, would see things that weren’t there. I’m happy she’s not suffering any more.
Edit: wow 5k likes is crazy. to all the people who commented about their struggles with family members who have dementia, you will get through it, may God give you strength and peace ❤️
So sorry to hear that. Much love to you, truly ❤️
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@@blackisraelite9309 umm, i think the laughing emoji is extremely unnecessary when responding to a comment about their relatives died
I am so so sorry for your loss.. Just know that your grandmother is in a better place now, watching over you! May she Rest In Peace ❤️🙏🏻🕊
this video literally destroyed me, along with everywhere at the end of time. dementia is horrifying and so, so cruel
Dementia and alzheimers is something that runs in my family. When I was little, my great-grandparents technically never met me because they always forgot who I was. They thought my cousins and I were some random kids from the street playing in their backyard. In reality, we'd been around them since we were born. Dementia terrifies me not because of the possibility of it happening to me, but rather the possibility of it happening to my mom. I don't know how I could ever deal with seeing her deteriorate like that. It's a fate worse than death: losing what makes you, _you._
Same my grandpa died last month with it and now my grand ma has it 😭😭
Me too... my grandpa had it for years before he died and all while I was taking care of him, for the lack of a better phrase, like a 260 pound baby. I was 13 when he started showing signs of dementia and now im 17 and he passed away last year right before covid hit. It was horrifying to watch the person who raised me not know who I was or even my name... I wouldn't wish this upon my worst enemy. Being a primary caregiver to someone with dementia is living heck. I had a legal guardian that did all the adult stuff like bills but I was the one who was homeschooled to take care of my grandpa all day every day with no allowed social interaction since they were a quote bad crowd to be around.
Just put her in a nice retirement home and forget about her if she gets bad dementia.
You don't even need to visit because they won't remember you visiting and may not even recognize you.
@@buyahondasupercub thats just a sad way to go about one’s family member. Dont think i have the heart for that especially if im close to them
I hate it, it's just terrifying and unfair. The worst part is when the person starts to forget basic things like when did they eat, and start to get weaker and weaker
I’m honestly more scared about getting dementia then I am about dying
technically you die in the later stages of dementia and become an empty shell of yourself
@@dorgonofraudmen6778 What a horrifying thought. Thanks for that.
If I ever get diagnosed with it I want my family to euthanise me, I wouldn’t want them to suffer
Dementia makes dying easier to cope with so there is that.
@@DiscGolfDemon While also filling you with panic as you cant comprehend or remember things. Im good.
Alzheimer’s has got to be one of the cruelest diseases in the world.
@Vegas it’s very cruel to your loved ones to see you painfully slowly wasting away trust me. I never got to know my granddad before he had dementia. All I got were glimpses of his actual personality few and far between. Mostly confusion in his, and sadness in my moms eyes.
Rin Wesley, I agree wholeheartedly with your sentiment. It is truly a travesty.
Dementia isn't Alzheimer's but i must agree with you
@Vegas Imagine being on your death bed. your parents walk in and because of your alzheimers you say, "Who are you"
@@etherium8017 Only one who copped on to this.
The part with the biscuits really hurt me.. The fact that I thought I didn't grab them but, apparently did really made me upset. And when the store "changed" It was so strange and so confusing. My heart broke while watching this.
The voice actor for the woman is INCREDIBLE. That “the store’s changed!” broke my heart into pieces.
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nice
she pronounces sugar like shucker
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how did your heart break when she said that? i found it rather comical
Lol
When the woman said "the shop is different" and i turned the camera to find out the layout of the building had literally changed i started crying. The bit with her counting money was also really sad. Jesus christ i did NOT expect this video to make me so emotional. Very well done
Oh god, you are right! Thats disturbing.
Bruh this is trash
@@xerorgg oh no, I hurt a fanboy’s feelings :’(
@MillieameryXD spennish📈
@@xerorgg You really think you dissed me or sum 🤡
My beloved mother had dementia. One day after I helped her to shower and dress she gently took my hand and told me that I was her best friend. I replied that I was. I was heartbroken but at the same time happy to be whoever she needed me to be.
❤️
I know what you went through I took care of my Dad for 10 yrs. we were looking at photos and he got very excited and said ‘look it’s my daughter! Whatever happened to her? Does she ever stop by?’ He was happy when I told him she stopped by to see him every day but it still broke my heart.
Awwhh this what hurts me the most i am sorry you all went through that but it truly is one of my greatest fears and i pray not to have to experience this first hand. I couldn't handle the moments where our dementia patients had family visitors and they experienced the same thing knowing that just an yesterday they were talking tooi them openly with recognition. You all muddy have loved them so much to keep taking so much care of them as it is difficult for carers to know what to do in those uncertain circumstances that they get agitated by something and we can't convince them to have thier medicine or have a wash or change thier clothes even with all our experience sometimes we end up calling family members to help convince them because hearing your voices or you knowing them and what to say is what they need.
@@AmmaraSHAH773377 Thank you to all the caregivers of dementia patients. I’ve been a nurse a long time. Other than my Dad I rarely dealt with dementia pts. Takes a very special person to do this work
How many times does she vote for Biden
I remember when I was much younger, around December we were going to New Mexico to see some family for Christmas. My great grandmother acted very strangely and I remember before getting out of the car my mom said to me "Be patient and helpful with your grandmother, she's got some issues going on."
She constantly kept asking what my name was and I kept telling her, some of the things she asked being confusing to me, at dinner she got both of our burgers confused, etc. I was thinking about it recently and it took me this long to put two and two together.
Developing a neurological disease and not having any loved ones around me is literally my greatest fear in life. Not only do you forget who people are, but people also forget who you are. All the special memories and traits that make you special just fade away as you become the "person with dementia". Sad and frightening.
so true !
I understand you. i was doing so much speed and coke when i was in my 20s that i feel my chances are almost 100%. I didn't touch for years. But even now while im writing this message its hard to express what i mean though the fog of my thought. There is nothing i can do now . Just live healthy exercise and not to think about it much.
@@Rom2Serge Sometimes the body is surprisingly resilient. No one can guarantee you'll get dementia. You can even get better over time. You're awesome for succeeding in beating your addiction!
Members of my family have a predisposition to dementia/schizophrenia and I'm all alone living in another country.
I pray/wish/hope it never occurs to me. I don't wanna burden those around me.
Yep. Had this experience with my grandma. She became a different person. And she had the silent type so she wouldnt communicate at all. She would just give physical cues
I can't believe that such a corny and poorly animated video instilled so much fear in me
@@viralshark I'm pretty familiar with the concept, I think it's probably a bit of that but mostly just that the vid portrays a very real fear of mine which is forgetting significant parts of my life.
Literally… it’s kinda terrifying
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Yeaa that's so weird
@@viralshark It probably isn't the uncanny valley. More likely the sheer horror of the very fabric of reality being distorted around you.
Everybody gangsta until the speaker starts playing a kinda familiar music...
Oh no
@@tilsgee oh no
It better not be Childishly Fresh Eyes....
@@rvc7468 no, I think he means the music that simulates what it’s like to have dementia
@@rvc7468 it’s “everywhere at the end of time”
Oh my goodness. I just remembered that, when I worked at a grocery store, I had a customer just like this. She struggled so much to write a check and we were all very understanding, but now I have to wonder whether or not she was suffering from dementia and didn't know it.
I doubt you were understanding. Cashiers are some of the most toxic people known to mankind
@@erik-sr9bj Karen is that you?
@@naomi-so5sr candice is that you?
@@erik-sr9bj That's so weird, because cashiers are always super nice to me, because I'm nice to them. Have you ever wondered if you're the problem? If your personality is as lovely in real life as it in this comments section, I wouldn't be surprised if that were the case.
@@laura121684 then you haven’t seen the cashiers here that can’t take the fact that their 800 pound life average is
I didnt even know the layout of the store changed and i was literally paying attention LMAO
„We’re getting busy“
Girl no one is in the line 💀😭
lmaoooo
Hahaha
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
No one is in the store
As a former customer service representative, it's not that difficult to help ppl sort out their money. Cashiers do it for the elderly all the time. I think most cashiers are very trustworthy and want to help.
“The store’s changed,” threw me for a hell of a loop when I turned and saw the shelves in a different layout. How in the hell did I walk straight through the middle of the store when there’s a big old shelf in the way? This is definitely an effective video and I will remember to have more patience and grace for people from now on.
I couldn't tell the store changed lol
@@elissamarcus okay thank god im not the only one who didnt notice that 😭
What time stamp?
I didn't even notice. 😂
That's the thing, you thought that you walked through the aisles that were arranged parallel to you, but in reality you went through the perpendicular store, your brain just doesn't remember going through like that. That's the trippy part about dementia, it messes with you in the present.
The old lady outright had no recollection, can’t even recall, getting those biscuits. That’s worrying how dementia messes with your memory.
@@dirtytapwater1374 she didn’t get the biscuits, she was having an episode and essentially had a flashback of a time she went to the store with this Joe guy and then she snaps back to reality, but for her it all feels real.
She never got the biscuits. We literally watched the video ourselves and she never got biscuits we saw everything shegot it’s just that at the cash register the biscuits somehow appeared in there.
@@Cameron0001 We’re being put in her shoes. What’s presented to us in the video is all she remembers, so it’s all we see.
shit im 20 and this happens literally in every aspect of my life
@@THIRTEENTH13TH you might have adhd my guy…
it hurts my heart that my great grandma had to go through this, i remember visiting her and she kept calling me by a different name and pointing at a picture of my cousin and going "look its you :))) hows your husband??" i was only 13 and wanted to cry because just a year earlier she remembered me. its truly a heartbreaking disease
I've been diagnosed with a brain tumour, and I'm in my early thirties. This is how I'm becoming. I don't recognise my son for hours at a time. I repeat the same thing. I'm forgetting how to cook, how to read. People use yo come to me to write letters for them. Now I need help with my letters lolz. I'm right handed, but my right hand has become weak like my left hand. I can so relate. I remember, when I was younger, I use to find it a bit strange when an elderly person use to stare blankly. I thought they were being nosey with the countless questions. Now I know, they were actually confused, trying to put two and two together to make sense of the person, their surrounding, the next sentence in their mind and how to execute the whole thing coherently and simultaneously in an effective way. Very very challenging.
Youre a warrior man! Ill pray for you❤️
@@jah100_ thank you!
@@rahbid121 I'm not religious but just to be sure I'll pray for you as well
@@grootsChannel thank you!
I'm praying for you too, all the best in the future!
My grandpa has dementia. He's almost becoming like a child now. He doesn't always know who I am. It breaks my heart.
Same, but my dad. He's so different from the strong, confident man he was just a few years ago.
I’m sorry you are both going through this. I understand how that feels, I lost my grandad a year and a half ago. He barely remembered anything by the end.
So sorry to hear that, Destiny. My father had Alzheimer's, and now a good friend of mine has it. It's terrible. Please give your grandpa a big hug! :-)
Same, my Nan is at stage 5 and parts of stage 6 dementia. She can’t eat, drink, wash, get dressed or walk on her own now. We have to do everything for her. It’s like she has gone back to being a baby. She won’t say any full sentences either. It’s gibberish or only an odd one word. It’s so heartbreaking. So scary how the brain just gives up 😞
My grandpa just got diagnosed with dementia recently too. It's very hard..
I knew something was wrong when the milk wasnt in a refrigerated isle.
Edit: Apparently there are heathens out there drinking room temperature rice milk.
@@syaondri Yeah but how often do you see an entire isle of unrefrigerated milk?
@@daviddickey9832 I wanna speak to da manager
@@daviddickey9832 we have that where I live
To be honest where I live barely any of the milk gets refrigerated
@@happychicken4292 So what did you do about it?
Damn, the fact this is extremely familiar for me is quite scary. That's exactly how I function when my schizophrenia gets really bad (the beginning, not so much the end). Of course, I realize this is only one aspect of dementia but I guess there are similaries between those illnesses.
no one cares
@@pichass9337 you really should watch what you say
I hope you’re doing well and staying safe, yurei 🤍
Yeah this feels familiar to me too.. as someone with Dissasocitiave Identity Disorder.. a lot of my day is spent trying to remember what I was doing, or where I'm at, or why anything is where it is. Even rules and tricks that I make to help inform myself, can fade away within days. Notes that I write myself and put on my wall or mirror- days later, I dont even notice or my brain doesn't pick them up as if those physical notes arent even there. Many notebooks filled with the same notes and to do lists. But there are ebbs and flows, and writing this makes me feel really proud about what I can do and have progressed in how well I can manage life amongst this challenge. I hope you feel accomplished and aware of your victories too!
@@pichass9337 I disagree.
I used to get pissed when people took forever like this, but now I just feel guilty
You used to do X, but now you dont. Give yourself a pat in the back. We all need time to grow and learn
Feeling guilt means you took responsibility for your actions subconsciously.
That's called character growth.
Pls feel more guilty.
And you’ll probably still get pissed, so will all of us at some point, the important thing is to have patience and be understanding of others situations, we can’t always control feelings, but we can control how we act on them
@@lucianoarebalo41 once it's fully processed within your mind, it doesn't bother you anymore. I can become NUTS when I hear someone chewing with his/her mounth open but I'm not bothered by babies crying in an airlplane or even everyday in my apartment, for me they're babies/toddlers, it's "like this" lol.
God Joe was a lifesaver, was honestly relieved whenever he showed up 😂
Who's Joe?
Obviously her grandson or her son
@@L16htW4rr10r Woosh
@@newspaperbin6763 Joe mama
@@chaydanmorgan917 lol. X,D
I wrote a long comment on this video about my experiences with memory loss. It took 8 hours to write and RUclips deleted it 5 minutes later for some reason. I hate this so much. I just hate this. I hate my mind. I want out.
I feel ur pain. I’m so sorry
I’m sorry bro
Should have copied and pasted it
@@dubber1416 i mean that would be relevant if they knew it would happen or just preemptively copies everything lol??
Here’s a cookie, 🍪 you deserve it
I worked at a long care facility in the '80s. We had one gentleman named George who had what is coloquially called "sundown syndrome", i.e. he seemed normal during the day but became progressively more confused as evening came on. He had one of two things he would fret about, that either he'd left his truck out in the field or wondering where his (late) wife was. We could relieve his anxiety about the truck fairly easily but the wife always ended up heartbreaking. We'd have to tell him she was dead (and had passed away some 10 years before.) Each time, when he grasped that she was gone he'd break down and sob as if he was hearing the news for the first time.
I'm in my early '70s now. I never was any good at remembering names, and I've been a history buff my whole life. Forgetting names bother me, but it bothers me even more when events or historic persons I've known for years won't come to mind.
Why would you tell him that his wife was dead every time and have him suffer instead of just redirecting him?
"Who's Joe?" and it was all downhill from there...
@A Shitbag69 the good ending
Mama
@@julioreza._7639 the bad ending
Joe Maman't
@@pointlesslylukesplainingpo1200 the neutral ending
My 91 year old mother has stage 4 Alzheimer's. Shopping with her is an absolute nightmare. She hangs on to the shopping trolley like a life raft and steers it through the sea of isles.
She questions the size, price, colour and look of everything. Mother announces her pin number to all shoppers in the queue behind her before she is hurriedly ushered out. She has no idea where she has been once she is home.
She's suffering. Please don't be angry with her. It's not her fault. I hate when people try to cut their emotions off by allowing their self to feel angry instead
If she hangs on the the trolley like a life raft then what does that tell you about how it makes her feel? Leave her at home then and get someone to watch her while you go alone.
@@joan-lisa-smith
My mother is now 92 and has had to remain at home until the lockdown here in the UK is over. She used to go shopping as a sole means of getting her out of her bungalow where she exists in her own daily routine. Mother has stage 4 Alzheimer's which limits her ability to understand these present restrictions. She still wants to go out because her shrinking memory remembers shopping. I think, however, as time progresses that mother will forget and she will remain at home to once again exist in her limited little world.
*Our Mom Alzheimer's disease and dementia story:* *ruclips.net/video/ABoP57zTFCg/видео.html*
@@janetfishwick8887 Who is caring for your mother
"The store's changed" and then looking around to see that the layout was different and I didn't see the aisle we just walked down just completely shocked me and gave me chills
This video definitely accomplished what it's trying to show us
Yy
2:41 exactly
I KNOW, I was looking at the exit and trying to find Joe because I didn't see him earlier and I just hear "the shop is different" and I look back and it's different and it just made my heart sink.
I'm not sure what to think about myself that I couldn't confirm the shop being different because I didn't remember the original layout. I just assumed it must be because she said so..
@@elizar666 Me too. I have OSDD though, so I've kind of got used to either just not noticing stuff around me in the first place to notice changes afterwards, or briefly not knowing how I got somewhere (and/or where that 'somewhere' is) before it all gradually comes back to me again.
Ahh yes, the Joe Biden simulator.
The people saying "but the store is empty" The video has served its purpose. You are now thinking like the lady with dementia.
Jules Echica yes
This!!
@@Hbdjk552 YAY
True! Because dementia makes other people invisible.
@@Thomas-Almanza oh...
This was so terrifying. Like the idea that this could just be somebody’s future and there’s naught to be done about it.
unrelated but we both have a pokemon profile pic!
@@shabby3340 That is indeed unrelated
Do you know youth might have get dementia by using smartphones? It’s called “digital dementia”. You should read one article it’s terrifying.
im 20 and not sure if this isnt exactly realistic or my brain well gone, but i wouldnt remember what the shop looked like before let alone notice that its changed
@@Donkaisen HAHA, dude this is hilarious: ''You should read one article it’s terrifying.'' You only need one article to be scared? Man, never ever read the paper that claimed that autism was caused by vaccination, you'll be scared of nurses all your life after readint it.
I have looked after elderly residents with very severe dementia. When some of them speak they sound like they're speaking another language and will start crying but they can't tell you why and all you can do is give them a big cuddle and tell them itll be ok. Sometimes they will get aggressive but it's only a defense mechanism for all the confusion going on in their minds. I can't imagine how traumatic it must be in that situation and whenever one passes away I see it as a blessing as now their mind and soul can be at peace.
@Aluzky can you shut up for a second please? that person shared their saddening experience and you are acting like a complete pile of garbage.
@Aluzky you’re opinion is fine. you’re statement just ended unnecessarily rude is all🙂
your*
@Aluzky freedom of speech does not mean you can be rude
@Aluzky you're a tool
I'm a full-on losing it crying mess right now! My Mom died of Alzheimer's. My only comfort about it is that the afternoon before the day she died I held my arms around her in her wheelchair and kept telling her what a wonderful mother she was and that I love her so much.
Don't worry clerk has been terminated since the incident for her lack of professionalism with a lady that's obviously in distress.
No in the real world the clerk would be reprimanded for not moving the line along. It's that backward way that capitalism works.
@@calsavestheworld yeah they'd get in trouble for making things take too long or some bullshit
The clerk was being reasonable, what are you on about. She was being patient when granny was counting the coins, spoke very calmly, and politely asked granny to not hog up the line.
What do you expect her to do?
@@weed75black35 r/wooosh
@@Grimmmleigh ????
If that were my mom, I wouldn't leave her for a second. He could have waited until they finished paying to put those things up.
The problem is that this specific scenario may be one where her son never came with her to the shop and she may be misremembering him as being there at all.
Or he could have given them to the cashier
Often, people struggling with cognitive issues don't tell anyone the extent of their problems, either because they don't want to acknowledge the situation or because they don't want to worry anyone. Joe may have no idea things have progressed to this degree.
@@sofyalipkind5610 Or because they don’t even know that there is a problem. They’re in their own mind.
He might not be there, since in her mind, in her basket theres no biscuits, but when the son shows up, theres biscuits, it's most likely misremembering events, since he suddenly disappears then reappears, so it might be that he's either there the whole time, or not there at all, or both
First I was my mother’s daughter, then I became her sister. Loved her just the same.
Wait a minute... you're telling me that you're the product of incest?!
@@ghostlybird327 no. shes saying her mother had dementia and ad it got worse her mother called her sister instead of daughter. don't be rude
@@lindseykay7759 But if her mother is also her sister that would mean that they share the same father??
At least you're not "that sniveling bitch Yolanda"
@@ghostlybird327 Is your IQ actually this low or are you just trolling?
This is so frustrating. And if it's frustrating for me, I can't imagine how frustrating and terrifying it must be for someone actually experiencing the confusion.
as a cashier, the cashier annoyed the hell out of me. offer to help and for god's sake don't ask a visibly confused about bonus cards...
well guess what its not a real cashier
@@THIRTEENTH13TH Your manners are just like those of the cashier in the video.
Hey cashier, you didn't ask that lady about bonus cards, so you are getting docked pay. -The manager, probably
@@ginafromcologne9281 the non existent cashier? gotcha
As a fellow (ex) cashier here, we HAD to ask every customer. They insisted on it. Besides because you ask it like 500 times a day it becomes something you say automatically..
I feel like a horror game with this style would be brilliant.
Lmao there are so many labyrinth changing world crazy plopping games like this. Try prey for example. It's not one where you have a disease or anything but it definitely alters expectations from reality like this.
This kinda is a horror game.
This is the scariest shit ever! No horror movie or game tops this😢
It certainly has the ability to do so, with schizophrenia as an additive
I was thinking the same thing
My grandma is in probably the early stages of dementia and it's been scaring the shit out of my family. It started off with her telling the same few stories over and over again but as of late it's become things like forgetting she was sick earlier in the day or when we lasted visited. It's hard to see someone who's always been mentally sharp go. Be patient with anyone who has dementia or Alzheimer's, its not their fault
I'm 56, but I've had a stroke that severely affected my memory. I've started asking everyone "Did I tell you that..." before I launch into a story. I can't stand the thought of boring people, while they're trying to be polite. Sometimes when I'm with people I trust, I do burst into tears, mourning the memories that I've lost. When you lose your memories, you lose who you are as a human being. I can feel myself slipping away, and it's terrifying. I have a large stash of prescription sleeping pills, and when this gets intolerable I know I will have a way out. I want to make that decision while I can.
@@LuckyBadger So sorry to hear what you’re going through. Please make sure to talk with doctors about your feelings and to see how you can recover. My understanding is that much recovery is possible after a stroke. Have you been able to have any rehab therapy? I have some dementia too, for different reasons, most likely the Alzheimer’s that affected my mother and grandmother, but I have been able to recover a lot of function by changing medications, adding certain supplements, and music therapy. My experience has been that doctors can be clueless and dismiss cognitive health concerns especially if you appear young and seem articulate compared to their other patients. - so we have to push for more info and appropriate care. I have consulted a psychologist who offered specialized rehab therapy; that might be something to consider. Each person’s situation is unique, so idk what would be best for you, but please hang in there.
My grandma had dementia,she died after the effects of a stroke she had about 4 years after we found out
Did you say stories over and over? Oh God. Is it starting in my grandparents?
@@LuckyBadger Call on Jesus Christ.
I'm glad someone finally made this and put it up. I always get stuck on this level.
I keep thinking about how my grandpa's dementia kept getting worse while I still tried to play with him and he was in bed, I remember him laughing and being happy sometimes talking to me often, but after a while he stopped showing much emotion and allot more confusion, then he was put into a nursing home and every time we visited he was either sleeping or making sounds with his eyes open, it was freaky as hell and I can't even imagine how scary it must've been for him until he couldn't feel scared anymore...It really looked like a long agonizing process of a soul leaving his body.
I'm very young and I'm having allot of trouble with my memory and I find myself very confused and a little scared sometimes when I forget and don't understand even the simplest things that I learned years ago, thought this is probably something to do with me being on the autism spectrum and having trouble with my mental health, but I still feel scared that the same thing might happen to me one day just like what happened to my grandpa. Scary shit...
Hey bro, that sounds really hard. I can’t imagine what you went through with your g-pa. I know it’s hard to let go of fear, but I just wanted to let you know that Jesus is there for you and He’s there to protect you and you can give those fears and anxieties to him. I got healed of my mental disorders, it was pretty amazing. Now I’m married with two kids of my own. I never thought I’d end up anywhere good, but pretty much in my darkest hour I had an encounter with Jesus and everything changed. I used to be so crazy I’d run around in the streets screaming thinking people were chasing me. Now I have a house and am super happy :) you can even search my name and see that even just 4 years ago I was arrested for felony charges (drugs), but now I’m doing really good. All that to say that God loves you and is good and doesn’t cause the bad things that happens, and He’s here for you.
When I said search, I meant on google :P you can find my arrest records and stuff if you scroll around. Just sharing to let you know I’m not making this stuff up and that I really do believe in you and I do honestly believe you’re gonna have an amazing rest of your life.
@@yeeeeeeeeee3263 Thank you so much for the kind words, it means so allot Q.Q I did look it up and I'm really happy things got better and turned out well for you! :D For my situation, I'm up to trying anything at this point to get rid of all this mess so I'll try my best and see where it gets me. I'll try believing in myself too :) Thank you so much again, and I hope you have a lovely future aswell! (ﾉ^ヮ^)ﾉ*.✧
hey i'm autistic. look up autistic burnout and see if this sounds like you.
also, when i smoked weed it really fucked me up muuuuch worse than i thought. we're unusually sensitive to all drugs so if you take any meds or any psychotropic substances in general, consider that. also if you have chronic pain it could be fucking up your REM sleep and affecting you (a lot of us have Ehlers-Danlos)
Stress can cause memory loss even if you don't have autism. Take it easy
This was a kick in the right direction telling me I need to be more patient with people
I mean you should already acknowledge why someone can be slow at the till. They probably have dementia yes, social anxiety, disability or they’re just an elderly.
you're telling me you WEREN'T??
Yea me too. I definitely was impatient with customers like this in retail.
Just imagine going through all fo that and being all alone. No kids, no husband, no family.
No wife
Literally my biggest fear
I go through that. My children are all grown, I am not married and I live (alone) with me faithfully service dog, Bill. I have been told that I have left a full shopping cart at the store and just left dozens of times. I'm just glad that I'm not shoplifting.
@@ladyjane9980 I’m so very sorry to hear that. It must be terribly lonely. Have you considered maybe getting a caretaker? If you are on disability or are past a certain age sometimes it’s paid for. It might be best to make those arrangements before your dementia worsens. Just make sure if you get one assigned and it isn’t someone you know and trust to have your medication, documents, and sentimental/valuable items locked up somewhere safe. And maybe consider a medical bracelet. No judgment here, just some ideas from experience. Try to be safe!
@@ladyjane9980 I'm sorry to hear that, Jennifer. I think it's important that you contact your children and tell them about your fears. Also, please go to have yourself examined by a doctor. The earlier they detect a problem, the better they can help. All my best wishes for you!
I'm shocked.
I didn't know that dementia gave you 360° vision...
As an old person myself what is really wrong is that we are denied THE final decision. We should be able to take a black capsule and end the misery we're inflicting on others we used to love. We want to be remembered as capable and independent, not drooling because doctors want to keep making money keeping us alive long after we should leave. Let us go with dignity and make room for you. Personally I don't fear death - I fear painful, prolonged life.
this is why I support Right To Die. nobody should have to suffer at the end. we should get to go as peacefully and cushy as possible. it's only fair
I assure you, doctors aren't colluding to keep you alive just to make money. Ask any doctor and they'll tell you a DNR and the right to die are the way to go.
@@madman-000 yeah, this is why it's important to have end-of-life discussions before then, so you don't end up being tortured in the ICU because your family is overwhelmed and can't make a decision
i feel the same way and im not even old yet
Agreed. You should have full control over your body, especially if you don't want to continue. Oregon has assisted suicide but it's almost pointless, as you need a 6 month or less terminal diagnosis by 2 doctors. Getting an appointment can take 2-3 months, and you might end up denied anyways, but now you're even closer to death and have spent your last amount of time and money.
I've tried using the Walk Through Dementia app on VR with my phone, and it was so disorientating - I wholeheartedly recommend the app to anyone who is curious about dementia and its effects, it's an amazing and humbling piece of work.
which app should i download to see the VR
@@shihuichua5010 it's a free app called
*A WALK THROUGH DEMENTIA*
found on PlayStore
The cashier is kind of a snatch lol, I wouldn't even talk like that to an annoying teenager let alone an elderly woman who is struggling
Right?! I have worked in the hospitality industry for a while, and of course there are rude/annoying customers but I can't imagine being like this woman towards someone who appears to be struggling.
She doesn't seem too rude. Probably only annoyed because the cashier doesn't realize what the elderly woman is going through. We already have background knowledge about the old lady's dementia, but the cashier didn't, and with the time given, most likely didn't think too much about it.
What did she say wrong?
A lot of these underpaid young cashiers have very little people skills.
As well so many people lack kindness and compassion. Plus at many a business time is money and cashiers are expected to be fast and productive.
Look for an older cashier. They tend to be kinder.
Dementia can mess with your interpretation and make everyone seem hostile and scary, so she potentially was kind to her but the old woman only felt frightened and alone.
My mom has beginnings of dementia.
As a human being she deserves all respect in the world. As my mom I will do everything needed to make sure she is safe and respected.
Great video, it gives a person a chance to realize what life 24/7 is like for someone who did not choose to have dementia.
Compassion is the only way when dealing with someone with special needs!!!!
it's all just a burning memory
no. no dont do me like that
Stop please
I’m studying this disease and I can’t stop finding EATEOT references ha
Shut the fuck up. Dementia is a real illness.
@@technerdbird ? who u talking to
I think we ought to cut Joe some slack. He is probably a mid teenager and this is still a time where his mother is supposed to care for him. He might not respond well to having the opposite way around this early in life. He's trying to figure out his mother while trying to figure out himself.
What makes you think he's a teenager
@@thesupreme7815 I guess the fact that his mom sounds reasonably young and so does he. And that he is going shopping with her. Not to say that older people don't shop with their parents but this was the most likely scenario that stood out to me.
He probably didn't even know she has alzheimer's
joe mama
@@cheekybananaboy3361 😭😭😭
I've got an elderly friend suffering from early dementia. I remember how sharp he was when we first started hanging out, we'd sit down for drinks and talk about life and I learned a lot from him, but knew something was up when he started forgetting his own daughter's name and locking himself out of his own apartment every other day. It's hard watching the old man fall apart and I'm hoping I can better understand how to be there when he needs help with things
dementia is a horrible thing i had this neighbour he was so generous and kind he would always give me money when it came to my birthday or christmas or whenever i met him really. He lived through ww2 and it hurt me when he would say how he would go to school sometimes and his friends wouldnt be there, he was bright aswell he knew lots of things from the past even though he was almost 90 years old and had a lot of knowledge about everything really. His wife fell over once and because of his dementia he wasn't able to help her as i dont think he even recognised who she was so my dad had to help her up again. Then he started having carers round to check up on him until he was asleep and then one day we never saw him again, his car was gone not on his driveway anymore and we heard him and his wife were staying at a care home that was 3 years ago now and we havent heard anything since..
We must continue to fight this horrible disease. Prayers for everyone who is affected.
Germany helped a lot of these people in WW2.
@@LucMantique when do edgelords like you start realizing you’re not funny? When you become 14 or smth? Just stfu
@@LucMantique wow who caused you so much hatred towards jews? (Coming from a jew)
@@jakepizura5550 edgelords and the suckers who jump on the bait 🙄
@@bolson42 Nah, that was some funny dark humor actually.
man having audio processing issues really adds to this
I genuinely couldn't understand what the cashier was saying and was mentally fumbling to try and fill in the blanks of what was being said
I did not understand a word of what the old lady were are supposed to be said at the at the check out. Might be my poor English listening skills tho.
i sometimes have short audio processing episodes where i struggle to process the meaning of the words being said, like when i’m watching a movie i sometimes have to repeat the sentence in my head a couple of times… i thought i was the only one until now
Same and add to that I’m American so when she was trying to count the coins I got so stressed
Me too. I'm also not British and not a native English speaker so the coin counting scene was really confusing
@@presidentdingus the captions aren't always right, especially if they're automatically generated. I always have cc on but I still can't grasp my head around the words and what is being said
Is everyone really a bitch when they find confused customers?! The granny hawker that I buy from often confuse coins but I always help her whenever I'm paying. Damn people are heartless, i thought that was common courtesy...
@Susel because theyll probably get reprimanded if they "waste too much time" lol
@Susel Are you from Germany? Personally I don't mind bagging my own stuff, it would make me feel bad to watch an underpaid employee do it for me like I'm some rich snob even though I'm perfectly able to do it myself, but yeah, it would be nice if they offered help to those who obviously need it.
@@DwynTwo I actually enjoy bagging and, since we get paid hourly, it doesn't matter if we take some extra time to bag.
@@thinix396 Personally I'd feel uncomfortable and snobby, but I guess I'm just used to it this way
@@cheekybananaboy3361 it really is confusing. When I worked in retail, we were told to help the customers. But at the same time, got chewed out if we took too long to help a customer.
My sweet momma recently passed from having dementia n Alzheimer's. It was so pitiful and very hard to watch her decline every day. I had one of the best mommas growing up. It really hurt to see her suffer with this disease. The last three years of her life was awful for her. But my mommas not suffering no more. She s safe with JESUS now. I pray for anyone that's going thru this or dealing with a love one that's suffering with this disease.
That was really interesting 🤔
Eh not really.
@@charliekill88 your not very interesting
@@yousuck6869 like the fact he posts his fortnite wins despite the channel being plop
my grandmother has dementia, she's at the point where she doesn't really recognize anybody, she can't take care of herself, and she's barely responsive to others. the last time i saw her i was saying goodbye on christmas eve getting ready to go home. mostly she'd respond to people very much unaware of what was going on, smiling when it seemed right. i kissed her on the cheek and said bye grandma, merry christmas, love you! and i think she sort of said it back, but mostly I could tell she wasn't really there. before it got QUITE to this point, but still seeming very out of it all the time and not understanding her surroundings, i recall once when she looked at my aunt and said very clearly and with a serious tone, "i understand more than you think." ...i think about it a lot
watching it worsen over the years, especially to this state, is really hard, as I'm sure anybody can tell you that's watched a love one go thru it
medication helps her be a little more lucid these days now that she and my grandfather are receiving the proper care they need (they are both in their 90s, and while my grandpa doesnt have dementia, he can hardly take care of himself as well. still a stubborn old goat though!!)
this scares me on a level i didnt think i could experience, because it almost feels like "this might be what my grandmother feels on a daily basis"
hurts a lot. but fascinating and something i always wanted to learn more about.
I've always heard that there is no medication that does anything. What's she taking that's helping?
@@gantmj that's a misconception. Different medications can help certain things, but the results often vary from person to person (as with any medication).
Honestly though, that cashier drove me nuts.
Take a chill pill. Its a simulation.
She probably didn't know any better and may not recognize dementia.
@@wesleyogilvie8105 Ikr.
@@DG-EditsYT fr how tf would she recognize the proper symptoms of dementia without confusing it with something different lmao
Yeah even as a cashier, she was kinda annoying me. I get annoyed at some of my old customers too but I try to be nice anyway,
I'm am a grocery store manager. My first day as a cashier I was asked to help a customer who had dementia by his caregiver. This simulation pretty much summed it up. He was asking for the same things over and over and he kept saying he was lost. Afterwards, his caregiver practically cried telling me how patient I am and if I ever wanted to be a manager she'd write me a letter of recommendation.
He has since died, but his caregiver and I still see each other sometimes. The first day she saw me in my manager uniform we took a selfie together
Dementia is a cruel cosmic joke that nobody deserves.
Saw movies are scary. This is terrifying.
What is the cosmic joke of dementia? I dont want to think about it right now, and am interested what you meant by it.
@@jacehendrix3194 That these billions of years of stellar nucleosynthesis, paired with multiple millions of years of evolution still produces this?
We are stardust. Cosmology is inextricably linked to biology.
@@sakar181 I’m pretty sure that natural human evolution never intended us to live this long. These old age diseases are an unfortunate side effect of us living way longer than before modern medicine and tech
i... i understand so much and yes this is terrifying.
p.s I get easily scared by horror movies but this is depressing and scarier than most movies I have seen.
Alternative title for this video: The supermarket through the lens of Joe Biden.
She said, "the store's changed" & I asked, "oh did it now?" not being able to even orient myself with the directional phone motion thing.
Ok…
You can drag the screen around
I remember that you could move the screen around with WASD. It seems that feature was removed. Typical RUclips...
@@whicyc I'm moving it with WASD
@@whicyc OMG😳 I'd never encountered this feature before and thought this was just a regular video until I saw your comment. Do you know of any other videos with this feature.
This is exactly how my grandmother acts. It’s really sad and almost made me cry because I can only imagine how rough this is and it pains me to think about that the same woman who used to walk me to the park and bring chocolate for me every day has turned into someone going through so much. And we can’t even tell her about the recent death of my grandfather, fearing that it will confuse her. She’s always asking for him. Stay strong Oma I love you
I’m so sorry 🥺 Hugs 🫂❤️
When you said she always asks for him that shattered my heart
@@mays_alpha tysm ❤️
@@zaynebooker223 we always have to tell her that he’s at work, I feel so sorry for her.
She probably will be confused for minutes and then forget about it and start asking where he is again and repeat the cycle. I'm so sorry, i wish you and your granny best of luck.
Although I certainly would be scared to ever experience a condition like this, imagining having to watch my loved ones go through something like this when I'm older seems so terrifying. I'm a grown 28 year old man, and I feel like a scared child, knowing that this could be a possibility for the people I've always admired and I have always seen as strong and sharp.
This makes me so sad. My heart goes out to anyone who is suffering or has family members suffering from dementia.
"What is this"
*me looking at rice
"Sugar"
well, it's white so it works
Lol it was on the other side
This gave me actual anxiety, my failure to count up my $$$ while at the cash register, my heart was racing a thousand miles a minute..
I love your FireDoge
Everyone: Talking about the tragedy of dementia
Me: Impressed that you can move the camera around
Am I the only person who assumed Joe was not the name of her son, but of her husband who died years prior and whom she depended on for a lot of things?
she probably wouldnt remember him, if he died years ago :(
@@flohwalzer Yea maybe but i guess it depends. My grandpa passed away about 3 years ago and my grandma, who has dementia, lives in a care facility and visions him all the time. Sometimes she tells me that she sees him "cheating on her with another girl" and being irresponsible and it is really hard cause its sad to see that she has come to dislike her late husband from this visions she has, which obv arent real
I guess what im saying is that dementia widely varies between each person and sometimes people can completely forget their loved ones AND vision them in person in the span of like a minute. its crazy and scary
@@ryvalry4220 i’m so sorry, but i think traumatic things will still be remembered.
Woah that's dark
@@flohwalzer ppl with dementia sometimes remember events or people from really far back. It’s like their mind totally goes back in time. (Nursing home cna)
I work with patients with dementia and Alzheimer’s and it’s insanely depressing :(
Hey Girl, Thankyou for working with them, thanks to people like you, many can see their grand parents. Thankyouuuuuuuuuuu 😍😍
@@hana-ft6wm don’t just bless her soul bless their souls
I clicked on this video and was immediately like:
dang it's in 360 mode
I kind of felt like this unique experience was hampered by the 3d gimmeck.
It's way better in VR
@@melissamacias3715 no cause it's not stereo
@@knyt0 i meant the view in vr 😏
Lol I didn't realize it at all and I watched the whole thing like what is with that camera angle
Literally Joe biden
*When I first heard "Where's Joe?", I thought she was referring to her late husband.*
Thankfully it wasn't that macabre, but not by much.
_Terrifying!_
I am beginning to think my trying to learn what I have is not a good idea. I'm worried what this will do to my kids and my granddaughter. My dad is in better health than I am. He's 77 and I'm 54.
Matellena I’m so sorry about what you’re going through! I cant imagine getting dementia that you g. I heard of a guy that was diagnosed with dementia at 30! Its just awful! Wishing you the best of luck with everything
It's good to know early...
oh man, its been 2 years, im truly at a loss for words of comfort, im so sorry 😞
@@raphaelneves7666 are you really sure about that? i am currently a 15 year old child and i found out about the disease several months ago by discovering an album that is related to dementia and alzheimers which is named "Everywhere at the end of time", when i listened to it and then also learned about what the disease does... it genuinely broke me. I tried my best to forget about the tunes of the first song by going to sleep to help myself reset my mind (despite me being a big fan of old songs like these) and forget about it while my mind keeps on trying to remember it as hard as it can... it did work and i was happy about it until a few months later when i started remembering it but i was actually somewhat more calm about it... though I really think it is not the best idea to let the younger ones know about this including myself.. in my case it is already too late but that is okay i think!
Hey dont conclude yet. It just may be the menopause. One does tend to be forgetful and confused sometimes. Maybe hormonal imbalance. Check your thyroid gland.
No joke, i always thought my house was haunted by a women... to this day and when my grandmother developed slight dementia at a very high age, shortly before she died, there was a incident, that i will never forget. I came into her room, trying to give her water and she looked at me in shock. Then she said: "Who are you !!! Leave me alone !!!" I was like, "I am your grandaughter, i just want to give you some water". She looked at the cup and went like: "That's not water". She then slapped the cup out of my hand and it fell to the floor. I went outside to tell my mother, what has happened, then i came back in after few minutes and my grandmother recognized me again, as if nothing happened. She asked "Who was that lady Debbie ?" I said "It was me" and she replied: "No Debbie that wasn't you, it was a women with pitch black hair in a bun, she was a evil witch, she starred at me and tried to poison me" I tried to explain her but she insisted it wasn't me. She asked me "Is she gone ?" and i said yes. She then normally took the cup of water and thanked me. To this day, i would like to know, what she actually saw in that moment.
That's exactly how my grandma behaved, she's had a serious brain tumor and passed a few months after. Extremely depressing.
@@yurei8004 Yes it's super sad, only difference for me is, very strange things still happen in my house...
@@soleil7259 don't worry ghosts are not real
or are they ;)
@@deanal-jackson4593 I do believe in them.
@@deanal-jackson4593 thats a lie bc i lived in a house and it was built on a battle field in the 1800s and we have to live there bc my dad was in the navy and my whole family claimed to see ghoss but i dont remember bc i was little
My grandmother passed and I felt fated to experience this video, thankyou im sad now.
Remember, this will most likely be our parents one day, or even ourselves. Remember to take care of and have patience around seniors 😊💜
it won't be my parents thank you
@@nobody-vm2ee you’ll find out sooner or later
@@australium7374 you belong in the garbage
If I ever get to this point I’m just gonna check out.
Agreed. If I remember HOW to.
Right? like if this ever happens to me (which it might, dementia runs in my family), I want to be euthanized. I couldn't live like this.
You might think about it, but then forget about it.
@@lisazoria2709 Good God why am I eating this shotgun barrel!?
You should NOT watch the movie “Still Alice”.
My mom has Alzheimer’s dementia. I have watched her struggle each day, all the while losing a little more of herself every day. I miss her so much, though she’s still with us. It’s awful, absolutely awful. I do not wish it on anyone.
Stay strong
I’m sorry to hear that, keep your chin up, and remember that we will all meet again one day, this can’t be it for us. Have a good day.
My grampa passed away when I was at a young age (10 or 11) and he was the first person who saw me and held and he was the first person to leave my life forever my few memories of him are...limited but he was very quiet and loved to listen to me (My last seeing of him was at easter where I showed him the new toy I got.)
Aparently he had dementia and the reason he was quiet was because he was afraid of making himself look like a fool. When he passed I didnt think much of it, he didnt affect me in any emotional way and I only knew about him from the stories my parents told me. He was a member of the local church and he was quite the talker and always brought people together. Now as I look back on his death all I feel is pain, sadness that such a brilliant talkative extroverted person was crippled to the point where he could only sit on the couch reading the New york times while drinking coffee and watching tennis while his anxiety stricken wife cared for him. I felt regret for never knowing him and taking the time to listen to him.
People often take family for granted yet what are we whithout connection? People with no purpose, lost and confused noone to love to cry on or to laugh with, when someone important in your life leaves you, there is no point in feeling sorry for yourself my advice is to continue to love them and tell their story, preserve the one thing that can make a person immortal: their history. Peace and love
Well that was horrifying. Really. I cannot imagine going through anything like this. Everyone should be given a chance to see this and if they’re not empathetic afterwards there’s something seriously lacking in them. I actually wanted to slap the cashier! Thank you for making this available. 💜💜💜💜💜💜
ironic you talk of empathy yet want to slap the cashier
@@Ryan-op7yd Yeah, what did they do? Cashiers have it pretty rough in general.
@@psychicbyinternet you speak with an ignorant mind. Have you watched the video, you stupid dolphin? Cashiers may have it rough, but not any more than people with dementia do. And this cashier happened to be rude as all hell. Cashiers may have it rough, but they may quit if they can. People with dementia can not simply quit, they have to suffer. If you put others bad experiences down because you may have/had it worse, you won’t have anyone by your side when you are dead and dying. Everyone will have left by then.
@Bee Middleton do you also believe this of people with other mental disorders? take it kindly that not only “able-bodied” people are on the internet, friend.
@Bee Middleton kindly exit. as a person with autism, adhd, and anxiety, thats ableist as shit. no thanks.
I used to work at a supermarket and this reminds me of one incident on a particularly stressful day when I looked around and literally did not recognize my surroundings; I may as well have been dropped on a different planet and left to fend for myself. I think it was the beginning of a panic attack which was unknowingly eased by my co-worker, who had no idea of the confusion I was experiencing at that moment. Dissociative episodes are not unusual for me in situations with lots of people or bright lights, but that day was on an entirely different level. Dementia does run in my family and I'm terrified of it.
It might have been derealization, it’s this feeling of not recognizing your surroundings and feeling like you’re in a dream like state, even though you technically know where you are. It’s associated with anxiety too
Well I guess that's your fate in the future....
@@philgamer5280 I'm secretly hoping to not live long enough to see that future.
Even if you have considerable risk of dementia progression, you can reduce it by doing some brain exercises. You will live long and sane life. You will be okay! :)
@@brahmageos thanks for the encouragement, that was really kind of you to tell me that.
I've only been a cashier with fast food in my late teens and then for a few months at Walmart. I never had a situation like this but I'm happy that I've always been a patient person, even with my line stacking up. It did get irritating if someone had to step to the side to figure out their payment situation, though I kept that to myself, no smacked teeth or rolled eyes. The person is embarrassed enough as-is, they don't need my impatience adding to it. Besides, I've had moments of also needing to step to the side, so some empathy or at least sympathy goes a long way. You never know what someone is going through.
You are a good person
Sometimes the links that connect our chain of memories become weaker and our minds become clouded in darkness. At that point what we need is a connection - a spark of light - to guide us back. Thank you for willing to be that light.
Joe biden simulator