This was great. I'm definitely the INFJ. So much on my mind that it's not easy to talk often. I keep my interactions short when overwhelmed to avoid problems or conflict with others.
Asparagus green, a subset of the shade of green often called leaf green. It is said that this color gives the vibe of being quite healthy, too much of it can be considered a minor fashion crime. Automated response to this question is generally just the weather or a dream i had, or if i am quite neutral that day just throw it back at the person to check on them. The problem with the question of "How is it going" is really the difficulty of verbalizing complex internal perceptions(especially of feelings) that often require relevant paragraphs to be in place to be understood. Then there is the issue of communicating it in a way that is witty and short enough for a person to actually listen to. Because if it isn't, you are going to get interrupted 99% of the time and you don't want to get interrupted when you are reaching the vulnerable aspect that is your self evaluation.
See, this is why Fe tends to save the day -- I would allow Fe to override my dominant/support functions because Si-Ti processing (sometimes Ni-Ti oversight) would really get in the way of the moment.
I've tried giving an honest answer to this question every now and then and got very different reactions. In most cases I've found that people really just used this phrase without the intention of learning about the well-being of another person and they mostly felt the need to respond to what I said without any real interest. I think it can be a good way to test how people are, but in general I do not like this question too much. As I've heard it's a lot worse in countries like the USA where even cashiers ask you that question...It's apparently to make you feel more welcome, but when it's clear that it's just a phrase and they are baffled whenever someone actually answers...then it is kind of inappropriate.
I'd add onto that-- it's sort of eye-opening how ingrained this practice is in some countries (though I might add that this would be an easy segue into a more substantial discussion, but even then that's too optimistic). It's even worse when a sincere response has the same demeanor as a generic one, and so it gets thrown in with them, and then you have.... endless spiraling down into the depths of this despair and so I might have to stop myself here lol. At least our mancala marble characters with hats are here to stay 😅
When someone asks this question my immediate impulse is to go into a moderate level of detail about how I have been, but I quickly remind myself that most people aren't really particularly interested. It's just a rhetorical question. It's a greeting like "hello," but even though it's framed as a question it's really not. So, since I've frequently been feeling not that great, but can't really say so, I normally say I "haven't been too bad." I think this is a good compromise between total honesty and an outright lie 🤔
That's an astute deconstruction of one of the most rudimentary exchanges in social interaction. Unfortunately, little white lies like these are one of the things that keep our society duct-taped together. Although I wouldn't question if people legitimately enjoy starting with these small conversations, because I do know they're out there. And we need them.
I also feel the need to still be honest and genuine even in these sort of interactions. Like I personally would love it if someone dropped how they were really doing. When I hear someone say that they’re good, it’s like, are you? What are you holding back? Do you want to say how you really are, but scared? Are you really okay? If you’re really good, tell me your philosophy I guess. Yknow?
The ISFJ is on point as always😂😂, I always just give the automatic "I'm doing well, and you?" answer before my mind starts to wander in the exact same direction as in the video starting with wondering whether or not giving the socially acceptable automated answer was genuine, or if I should have given a more honest answer and so on..😅💔 For the INFJ, why do they always seem like they're going through existensial crisis?😂😂My sister, an INFJ, sometimes does that too, she gets that look on her face, as well.. looks like doomsday is tomorrow and she's the only one who knows it and thereby, is now burdened with finding a way to alert everyone😶😅, our mum once told her the place could go up in flames at that moment and my sister wouldn't notice 😅😂💔
lmao I feel like the "how are you?" exchanges are like little dopamine hits we give to each other.... also referring to INFJs, hmm my best guess is that their dominant function makes it so that they're always focused on the far future. Mix that with the natural truth that **everything** ends, and uhh you see where I'm going with this?😂
@@mystamystic yeah, I get you😂😂😅I honestly used to try to make sense of her thoughts when I'm lucky enough to have her share them with me, but now I'm at a point where if I don't get it when she explains it to me, I just accept it as it is😅😂
Can we talk about how detailed your description box is (some people barely ever drop anything there) ? You not only have the sources ( i watch both channels mentioned they are really good in my opinion) you also have the music too ! GG take care !
OMG thank goodness someone pointed that out!! I try to make it routine to put all the accessible info just in case someone wanted to really look into the functions in more depth...
@@mystamysticoh.my.goodnes...thank youuuuu! I need that. I'm trying to learn more of the lingo so I can better type people and have a better way to communicate what I see to others. Pretty much every letter is easy for me to spot except the differences between S and N, which is what led me to your videos. Btw that's a great and entertaining depiction of INFJs. I find that when people ask me how I'm doing, me answer varies depending on how deep into my thoughts I am. If I'm super deep, I may not even notice that they asked me right away and just say I'm good without thinking and then regret it later cuz I probably wasn't fine and lied which I hate lying. Other times, I may have pre-anticipated the question and already had an answer prepared to avoid lying but not say anything that might make the person worry about me or I will try to divert to something different entirely so that the person won't notice that I didn't answer the question, by talking about something I've been doing or thinking about recently. There are also times I pretend I didn't even hear the question since the other person and myself are both just walking by each other in passing and do not plan to engage in actual conversation anyway. These are a few different scenarios of how I deal with that question. Tbh, I like to ask other people that question because I want to know how they actually are (depending on the context of me asking), but outside of that, I hate that question. It needs to die
Okay, let me ask this: Where are my 2 orders of french toast from denny's... in Japan???? Also I am curious -- what color IS your toothbrush? Mines is orange. And my floss is green😂
@@mystamystic my toothbrush is dark blue and white, while my floss is white and blue…. okay, I sense a pattern here😂😂 And about the two orders of pain perdu from Denny’s in Japan **ahem** BYE :)
Dead on! To stop the spacing out rabbit hole thought process, I set up a hot key in my brain with the macro "haha same as usual! How about you? What are you up to today?" and I can actually focus on what they want to talk about and not worry about coming across as an inattentive jerk.
That's a pretty good conversation starter. A bridge past the rudimentary small-talk and a way for you to really engage with the person without having to talk at all lol
@@mystamystic exactly! I don't mind listening to thier plans at all and I actually feel a bit happy when they seem excited about thier day. An added bonus of me not talking is that there's no chance of them going insane after getting a glimpse of the chaotic abyss which is my brain hole
I can imagine you standing there for a few seconds before you register an answer, not that there's anything wrong with that -- shows you are engaged in the conversation.
@@mystamystic I tend to be contemplative. Of course, given that stereotypes thought process shown in the video, one would not expect me to immediately answer.
“How’s it going?” Is like the worst questions one could ask. First of all, what is “it”? Sure most of the time it’s life in general but could be that last time we spoke, i mentioned the bathroom renovation i was planning to do but never got to it. Is that what’s being asked? And second what’s exactly “going”? My life keeps halting every now and then until i kick myself harshly to push things forward about an inch. And sometimes life just decides that it’s rollercoaster time and i seem to have no control over anything at all at that point. As a generic question of how am i, it’s too poorly formed question and i don’t have the energy nor vocabulary to explain how I’m actually doing, (not that i would actually want to share those inner thoughts and feelings honestly with anyone anyway) and determining from the tone this question is usually asked, the person asking doesn’t actually give a rats ass. So, to conclude, I condemn this question to the deepest parts of the ocean and hope no human or beast ever dwells there. Thank you. On a side note, i do like “how are you?” Way better if it’s said genuinely and I’m actually given time to answer 🤔 I tend to use it rarely and only ask if I actually want to know. Then again most of the time even that is used mostly as hi, hey, sup substitute. 🤦🏼♀️
Unfortunately the fast-paced culture of society (at least in most countries) doesn't allow for discussions to deconstruct said social habits and tendencies. Also add to the conundrum the delivery of how questions like these are said, which add another dimension to these small conversations.
@@desdarde9031 Yes, seldom. And they slowly walk away as if I'm crazy. It's like the funniest thing. It's even funnier when once in a blue moon I somehow do it again in front of the guy behind the cash register and they're forced to stand there and take it all 😂
@@mystamystic oh man! 😂 That’s how memorable moments are made, hehe. When you’re grandpa swinging in your rocking chair and remember those moments, you’ll laugh until teeth fall out. I for sure will 🤣 Oh boy, the expressions people make before they leave. All their thoughts are written plain n clear on their faces. 😌
"how its going ?" uh i mean ive been going through fine and not so fine the same time so why do i exist anyway people just ask it to be nice or whatever they dont really care or whatever life is always like that im thinking theyre selfish but the only one who is selfish is me . Oh yeah i should answer before anything gets awkard. But why do awkwardness even exist anyway . wtf even is the meaning of life . aaaaaaa "oh yeah im doing just fine."
Lmaoo, still both of us don't really say what's on our mind 😂😂 Btw I'm reading " Poor folk" by Dostoevsky and the story is about an old man and a lady and they are an ISFJ and INFJ so i kinda see the deference between those two personalities now ✨
I can definitely relate that happened to me My friends when they ask how is it going or something similar I start to go I think I’m good but how fe lur jkre brain error,then I say something random,my is like I wasn’t expecting that😂 I like the twisting eyes and the voice😂 Nice idea maybe I will start taking these questions on another level.
Omg the life of an introverted irrational function dominant... there's no end to how much we can hide our deeper thoughts. Also the swirly eyes are soooo hard to get right LOL
Here’s a random thought I to think Einstein said this I thing that can’t comprehend Is our ability to actually comprehend the universe Yeah it’s amazing a piece of meat cover in goo protected by bones and skin can do
This was great. I'm definitely the INFJ. So much on my mind that it's not easy to talk often. I keep my interactions short when overwhelmed to avoid problems or conflict with others.
Asparagus green, a subset of the shade of green often called leaf green. It is said that this color gives the vibe of being quite healthy, too much of it can be considered a minor fashion crime.
Automated response to this question is generally just the weather or a dream i had, or if i am quite neutral that day just throw it back at the person to check on them.
The problem with the question of "How is it going" is really the difficulty of verbalizing complex internal perceptions(especially of feelings) that often require relevant paragraphs to be in place to be understood. Then there is the issue of communicating it in a way that is witty and short enough for a person to actually listen to. Because if it isn't, you are going to get interrupted 99% of the time and you don't want to get interrupted when you are reaching the vulnerable aspect that is your self evaluation.
See, this is why Fe tends to save the day -- I would allow Fe to override my dominant/support functions because Si-Ti processing (sometimes Ni-Ti oversight) would really get in the way of the moment.
I've tried giving an honest answer to this question every now and then and got very different reactions. In most cases I've found that people really just used this phrase without the intention of learning about the well-being of another person and they mostly felt the need to respond to what I said without any real interest. I think it can be a good way to test how people are, but in general I do not like this question too much.
As I've heard it's a lot worse in countries like the USA where even cashiers ask you that question...It's apparently to make you feel more welcome, but when it's clear that it's just a phrase and they are baffled whenever someone actually answers...then it is kind of inappropriate.
I'd add onto that-- it's sort of eye-opening how ingrained this practice is in some countries (though I might add that this would be an easy segue into a more substantial discussion, but even then that's too optimistic).
It's even worse when a sincere response has the same demeanor as a generic one, and so it gets thrown in with them, and then you have.... endless spiraling down into the depths of this despair and so I might have to stop myself here lol.
At least our mancala marble characters with hats are here to stay 😅
i was having a really shit day once and only added some hesitation to my tone, even then, it became awkward
When someone asks this question my immediate impulse is to go into a moderate level of detail about how I have been, but I quickly remind myself that most people aren't really particularly interested. It's just a rhetorical question. It's a greeting like "hello," but even though it's framed as a question it's really not.
So, since I've frequently been feeling not that great, but can't really say so, I normally say I "haven't been too bad." I think this is a good compromise between total honesty and an outright lie 🤔
That's an astute deconstruction of one of the most rudimentary exchanges in social interaction.
Unfortunately, little white lies like these are one of the things that keep our society duct-taped together. Although I wouldn't question if people legitimately enjoy starting with these small conversations, because I do know they're out there. And we need them.
I also feel the need to still be honest and genuine even in these sort of interactions. Like I personally would love it if someone dropped how they were really doing. When I hear someone say that they’re good, it’s like, are you? What are you holding back? Do you want to say how you really are, but scared? Are you really okay? If you’re really good, tell me your philosophy I guess. Yknow?
The ISFJ is on point as always😂😂, I always just give the automatic "I'm doing well, and you?" answer before my mind starts to wander in the exact same direction as in the video starting with wondering whether or not giving the socially acceptable automated answer was genuine, or if I should have given a more honest answer and so on..😅💔
For the INFJ, why do they always seem like they're going through existensial crisis?😂😂My sister, an INFJ, sometimes does that too, she gets that look on her face, as well.. looks like doomsday is tomorrow and she's the only one who knows it and thereby, is now burdened with finding a way to alert everyone😶😅, our mum once told her the place could go up in flames at that moment and my sister wouldn't notice 😅😂💔
lmao I feel like the "how are you?" exchanges are like little dopamine hits we give to each other.... also referring to INFJs, hmm my best guess is that their dominant function makes it so that they're always focused on the far future. Mix that with the natural truth that **everything** ends, and uhh you see where I'm going with this?😂
@@mystamystic yeah, I get you😂😂😅I honestly used to try to make sense of her thoughts when I'm lucky enough to have her share them with me, but now I'm at a point where if I don't get it when she explains it to me, I just accept it as it is😅😂
Can we talk about how detailed your description box is (some people barely ever drop anything there) ? You not only have the sources ( i watch both channels mentioned they are really good in my opinion) you also have the music too ! GG take care !
OMG thank goodness someone pointed that out!! I try to make it routine to put all the accessible info just in case someone wanted to really look into the functions in more depth...
@@mystamysticoh.my.goodnes...thank youuuuu! I need that. I'm trying to learn more of the lingo so I can better type people and have a better way to communicate what I see to others. Pretty much every letter is easy for me to spot except the differences between S and N, which is what led me to your videos. Btw that's a great and entertaining depiction of INFJs. I find that when people ask me how I'm doing, me answer varies depending on how deep into my thoughts I am. If I'm super deep, I may not even notice that they asked me right away and just say I'm good without thinking and then regret it later cuz I probably wasn't fine and lied which I hate lying. Other times, I may have pre-anticipated the question and already had an answer prepared to avoid lying but not say anything that might make the person worry about me or I will try to divert to something different entirely so that the person won't notice that I didn't answer the question, by talking about something I've been doing or thinking about recently. There are also times I pretend I didn't even hear the question since the other person and myself are both just walking by each other in passing and do not plan to engage in actual conversation anyway. These are a few different scenarios of how I deal with that question. Tbh, I like to ask other people that question because I want to know how they actually are (depending on the context of me asking), but outside of that, I hate that question. It needs to die
I am getting quite tired of “How are you?” I wish for someone to come up to me and ask something similar to “what colour is your toothbrush?”
Okay, let me ask this:
Where are my 2 orders of french toast from denny's... in Japan????
Also I am curious -- what color IS your toothbrush? Mines is orange. And my floss is green😂
@@mystamystic my toothbrush is dark blue and white, while my floss is white and blue…. okay, I sense a pattern here😂😂
And about the two orders of pain perdu from Denny’s in Japan **ahem** BYE :)
So true!!!
Haha when I get flustered because they really do want an answer and its interrupting my spiral of internal thoughts on the subject😂
Dead on! To stop the spacing out rabbit hole thought process, I set up a hot key in my brain with the macro "haha same as usual! How about you? What are you up to today?" and I can actually focus on what they want to talk about and not worry about coming across as an inattentive jerk.
That's a pretty good conversation starter. A bridge past the rudimentary small-talk and a way for you to really engage with the person without having to talk at all lol
@@mystamystic exactly! I don't mind listening to thier plans at all and I actually feel a bit happy when they seem excited about thier day. An added bonus of me not talking is that there's no chance of them going insane after getting a glimpse of the chaotic abyss which is my brain hole
This made me happy laugh. 🤭
Ah see, I tend to give an actual answer instead of "good" or "okay"...
After that thought process.
I can imagine you standing there for a few seconds before you register an answer, not that there's anything wrong with that -- shows you are engaged in the conversation.
@@mystamystic I tend to be contemplative. Of course, given that stereotypes thought process shown in the video, one would not expect me to immediately answer.
“How’s it going?” Is like the worst questions one could ask. First of all, what is “it”? Sure most of the time it’s life in general but could be that last time we spoke, i mentioned the bathroom renovation i was planning to do but never got to it. Is that what’s being asked? And second what’s exactly “going”? My life keeps halting every now and then until i kick myself harshly to push things forward about an inch. And sometimes life just decides that it’s rollercoaster time and i seem to have no control over anything at all at that point.
As a generic question of how am i, it’s too poorly formed question and i don’t have the energy nor vocabulary to explain how I’m actually doing, (not that i would actually want to share those inner thoughts and feelings honestly with anyone anyway) and determining from the tone this question is usually asked, the person asking doesn’t actually give a rats ass.
So, to conclude, I condemn this question to the deepest parts of the ocean and hope no human or beast ever dwells there. Thank you.
On a side note, i do like “how are you?” Way better if it’s said genuinely and I’m actually given time to answer 🤔
I tend to use it rarely and only ask if I actually want to know.
Then again most of the time even that is used mostly as hi, hey, sup substitute. 🤦🏼♀️
Unfortunately the fast-paced culture of society (at least in most countries) doesn't allow for discussions to deconstruct said social habits and tendencies.
Also add to the conundrum the delivery of how questions like these are said, which add another dimension to these small conversations.
@@mystamystic yes. Indeed.
@@mystamystic by the way, do you ever answer these type of questions with too much detail just to see the other person’s reaction? 😁😈
@@desdarde9031 Yes, seldom. And they slowly walk away as if I'm crazy. It's like the funniest thing. It's even funnier when once in a blue moon I somehow do it again in front of the guy behind the cash register and they're forced to stand there and take it all 😂
@@mystamystic oh man! 😂
That’s how memorable moments are made, hehe. When you’re grandpa swinging in your rocking chair and remember those moments, you’ll laugh until teeth fall out. I for sure will 🤣
Oh boy, the expressions people make before they leave. All their thoughts are written plain n clear on their faces. 😌
"how its going ?"
uh i mean ive been going through fine and not so fine the same time so why do i exist anyway people just ask it to be nice or whatever they dont really care or whatever life is always like that im thinking theyre selfish but the only one who is selfish is me . Oh yeah i should answer before anything gets awkard. But why do awkwardness even exist anyway . wtf even is the meaning of life . aaaaaaa
"oh yeah im doing just fine."
Lmaoo, still both of us don't really say what's on our mind 😂😂
Btw I'm reading " Poor folk" by Dostoevsky and the story is about an old man and a lady and they are an ISFJ and INFJ so i kinda see the deference between those two personalities now ✨
Ohhhh nice nice! I'm currently reading Crime and Punishment. Btw I see you are exercising Si again, that's great to know😊
@@mystamystic Woww what a coincidence!! 🤣✨
Yeah yeah everything is cool 🙃
hehe... cool 😎
I can definitely relate that happened to me
My friends when they ask how is it going or something similar I start to go I think I’m good but how fe lur jkre brain error,then I say something random,my is like I wasn’t expecting that😂
I like the twisting eyes and the voice😂
Nice idea maybe I will start taking these questions on another level.
Omg the life of an introverted irrational function dominant... there's no end to how much we can hide our deeper thoughts. Also the swirly eyes are soooo hard to get right LOL
@@mystamystic 😂
Fairly accurate 🤣
Bro I missed you where are you ?
I'm here, just getting some ideas for a video gathered together. Stay tuned, homie 🙏
@@mystamysticGlad to know you are alive
so relatable it might just be my sibling
if only these marbles with hats turn into plushies, and then maybe you can raise them? haha
@@mystamystic plushies would be so epic! That could be merch! 😎
Here’s a random thought
I to think Einstein said this
I thing that can’t comprehend
Is our ability to actually comprehend the universe
Yeah it’s amazing a piece of meat cover in goo protected by bones and skin can do
oof we cannot fully understand our own inner complexities, let alone the complexity of the universe👀
@@mystamystic that’s very true