If you clicked on this video because u feel like u are betraying people if you arent actually a real infj and you can never double check enough, then you are probably an infj😅
The reason they're so many infj in one place... Is they're so freaking obsessed and they must think, analyze and comfirm they are a infj. Tbh being an infj always gives me an existential crisis like why? What does this mean? Why im here? I gotta think through this *sips coffee inside of a cave*
I would say if they have to keep reaffirming that they are, chances are they are not a P-lead like an INFJ. Perhaps a J-lead instead, since INFJs rely on a probabilistic model, while J-leads (EJs and IPs) rely on a deterministic model.
If an INFJ went to a boxing match, they would feel every punch thrown and at the end of the fight the INFJ would be more beaten up than the loser! Truer words were never spoken.
As an INFJ, I love people, they are amazing, i want to know how complex they are how the feel and why they're them. But I also hate them with a passion, they make me sick when they do stupid dumb shit or evil in this wicked world. And yes, for the question "how you feel?" i'd say "i'm fine", unless I'm 100% confident with who ask me that and then i'll FLOOD them with how I feel :)
Superficial relationships exhaust me. I want to KNOW people...to have meaningful conversations...things that get to the heart of people. I hate trying to understand why people do what they do-especially if they are not open to talking.
@@maureenseel118 Sadly we have to lower our expectations. I trust you're well aware of the fact that not everybody is as in tune with their emotions and themselves as we are, therefore we do the double work of threading carefully in social relationships. But if we can't run away from these boring people, then for my own sake, I use the chamaleonic part of ourselves, fully aware I'll be drained badly after. But I survive at least.
I love them and that's why I can't stand the stupid and evil things done. I saved a man's life once because I barely knew him as the drummer in my friend's band and I knew that he was a junkie. I was out walking and happened to see him heading into an obviously abandoned building and my thought, much more apparent to me than such thoughts usually are was, "I think I'll go yell at that man." but in a good way. Only, by the time I walked back to where he had gone in and navigated things until I found where people had gathered, he was layed out and not breathing and a bunch of junkies were sitting mostly on the other side of a fire from him. So, I yelled at them instead unti they gave me back his coat and also all of theirs (cold, Alaska, wintertime) and I worked really hard at getting his blood moving and him breathing again. Because I believe in God, I believe I heard my inner dalogue more outwardly so that I would find him and save his life. I know no further information on why that was important in the larger scheme of life, though. I just know I loved him, without knowing him really, and that really made me want to yell at him.
also about im fine part. exactly. i always flood my besties with how i feel lol and never feel like doing that to someone frim the outside of this circle. If i do i feel incredibly guilty, self-centred and like I'm annoying people
Would tend to say INFPs are more guilty of that but the funniest is INFJs generally absolutely don't care about feeling special. Fi users tend to have a cult of their personality. That's how you can identify the difference.
With all the awkward situations and conversations I find myself in, I have finally decided to challenge myself to not feel uncomfortable but to lean in and see where it goes. I'm going to be all by myself to process it later, and I might enjoy it all more knowing it was at least somewhat intentional by the end. 😂😂😂
An INFJ has the potential to create their heaven or hell on Earth. Being basically the type that can become the most balanced. Most INFJs never attempt to tap into their full potential due to unresolved trauma from the nature/nurture aspects of their environment. Using that potential to work with the underlying aspects of reality makes them the perfect manifestors. It was said in the movie, "Life is tough, that's the default setting." If we're mot here leveling up, then what are we doing? ❤
Well... I related to everything about being INFJ, except about the criticism. I like to be criticized because then I can know the other's point of view and with that improve on myself. I want to become a better person and appreciate to know when I am wrong to fix it!
Same here, but for me it depends very much on how and from whom I get it. I think it's something that changes as you develop more, knowing your weaknesses is a huge strength!
Me neither. Actually I think I solved why people think we're sensitive to criticizms. It's just because we already put a lot of pressure on ourselves so when someone criticizes us about something, we already kinda guessed it through intuition most of the time but it can just be assumptions. So it's like a double criticizm every time from us and from others. It's one of the mechanisms of dominant Introverted Intuition I guess, being worried about everything that could happen. Also I think hearing the same criticizm we made about ourselves in our head from someone else is terrible because it pretty much confirms our negative assumptions and makes it true. Another point is I think we're just very skilled when it comes to hiding things about ourselves so even if we're not actually particularly sensitive to criticizms, if we can avoid receiving it and want to, we'll do it cause criticizms in general aren't necessarely very enjoyable (especially when it's just personal judgement). But sometimes we would even ask for it to improve cause you can't improve if you don't know your weak points right? I noticed this trait of personality doesn't fit us when I realized if it's a criticizm I never thought about before, I'll be surprisingly chill about it, even curious. But sometimes I think there is also times when we know some criticizms made about us are objectively wrong or simply don't fit our mindset or people misinterpreted the intentions behind our actions. And in all honesty, I think it's one of these cases. People just don't get us on that, it's a misinterpretation that makes it look like we're particularly sensitive to criticizms but it's just A LOT of accumulated pressure. No matter who you are, if you're very stressed you'll appear more sensitive than usual because you're mentally tired. That's what constantly happens to us. That's why being around more carefree people or people who don't put pressure on themselves can be very enjoyable for us (even if it can be worrying as well because of our profound nature), such as ESTPs, ENFPs and so on.
@@kyurei4478 sometimes you can't dismiss who is doing the criticizing. I would give him/her a good once-over in grand Sigma INFJ style. Than ask that person to qualify his criticism while promising to return a rebuttal.
@@lorentaidhg8534 I think I would just ask this person to qualify their criticizm and then judge later if it deserves an approval or a rebuttal the next time this topic comes up.
As an Infj I have to tell you , that everything you have said is very unprecise but I get your points. For example to say we don't like drama is true but I think we will easily spot drama and create drama because we are very sensitive. It's true we are interested in people and wish them the best , I guess it's love but it's very draining to interact with them , also we don't need to like someone to help them. Also it's true many of us are sensitive to criticism due to our perfectionism , but not necessarily and I guess only in things that r important to us , we also think and reflect a lot so it's not easy to change our mind with an argument we have already thought about 100x. And yes we r insane and we r suffering!😂 Our interests are not random, true. Mostly our interests are related to psychology. Yes we r slow learners (we take our time by choice to make sure we understood it on a deep lvl) and yes we like chill things and need time to reflect alone! We are very emphatic so much that it hurts, that's why we need time alone, to form new connections is not really that easy not because we r not emphatic but because people r mentally draining to us, so we prefer to be alone most of the time or in my case with other people who r highly emotionaly intelligent with time to recharge.
I wore a Motley Crue t-shirt and got a Motley Crue folder for my math papers, because, I was told I shouldn't listen to them. I don't believe in advertising for bands. Let them pay for it, like everyone else. But, I was totally rebelling againt such uptight desires to oppress me and them.
😂😂😂 how to know if you are INFJ, you can't watch this post past 51 seconds because the sound of his voice echo pounds the inside of your brain and reminds you of childhood nightmares of Kermit the frog interviewing you, probing you, and treating you like a freakazoid. Then you pause to write a comment and then your mind wanders to a Mashco Piro tribe in the Peruvian Amazon, discovered just miles from a number of logging concessions, untouched by human contact and then wish longingly that you were there... 😂😂
@@Chifuyaaaa yes, I forgot to add, can't stand being defined and a little shit to boot! It is time for the world to swallow an INFJ red pill. But I am inventing the purple pill, because INFJs were born with both blue and red pills already swallowed. It is the rest of em that swallow the 💩💌💌
Good video. Here are some more: you are not an infj if you secretly like it to be a rare personality type. And to be special. Its because of infjs Fe and the need to be understood, that they would like it more to be more like other people. Infp for example on the other hand like it a lot to be special. You are also not an infj if you dont have performance anxiety to some degree. Thats because of Se. It makes infj a bit or a lot anxious about their performance. This can be at school or at work and even the performance as a friend or as a partner. Did I do enough to be a good friend? The part with critisissm is connected to this. You are not an infj if you have the best ideas under stress. Thats because of Ne in the shadow. Infj can have good and creative ideas almost like enfp, but only if they are not stressed.
Reallly!! Exactly!! I haven't told anyone I'm an infj due to this very reason.... in fact i am kind of distressed over it being the 'rarest '🤣 But so glad to finally find content and comments that feel relatable💕
I just don't believe that it's the rarest, I think there are several types at the same level and it's too difficult to actually calculate the numbers (I want the data for how it was measured to know more)
@agrillhasnoname Then why don't you try to enlighten us instead of just stating that you are much smarter in a rude attempt to place your intelligence above others instead of actually showing it? Because now you just sound like an immature bully, and that's something insecure people do (mostly kids) because they are afraid that others will see their true self and not like them for who they really are. If you are more intelligent, you should know that sharing your wisdom will help others, so help us understand why we are wrong.
1. I hate drama! 2. I still talk to people who i absolutely dislike. Just for the sake of analysing them and who they really are. I talk to this mysogynist jerk for month because he thought he was philosophical and i wanted to manipulate him into showing his stupid side and i did. I like people and love helping them. 3. When i get a criticism, i destroy myself and doubt my abilities. 4. I want my environment to be super chill because im already very in trouble with myself. I like situation which make me feel at ease. 5. I dont know about this one but most of my interests ARE related to one thing, and thats ART. 6. I am a fast learner but when i find a new thing to know about i get totally consumed in that. The videos about that specific topic are gonna be all over my phone. 7. Im anything but detached. 8. I am never sure but what i really like but when i do, i will be ordering the same icecream everyday. 9. The most rebel i was but to break the uniform code in my school and did not follow it until i was told by a nice teacher i really liked lol. Im not sure about who i am.. But can you tell me if i am an infj or not. God its killing me.
god i've felt this comment! i am infj, i've been working in mcdonalds as a teenager and god i felt so awful when i did smth wrong. it's literally STILL haunts me, every moment, 6 years passed and i ma still there can't do the fucking cone ice cream
@@sophycharming9971 At our place the ice cream mashine was, thank God, out of order. The people were still disappointed and making remarks how "we" still didn't repair it (it was broken since I was hired) and I had to act sorry for things I had zero influence on. Terrible flashbacks. The constant pressure from "those above" that you didn't manipulate enough clients to buy something they didn't intent to buy when coming there... It taught me that the feeling of meaning/rightness in what you do is the most important thing in a workplace
@@sophycharming9971 I worked at McDonald's for a while as a young adult. I still wake up thinking what an idiot I was for some stupid mistake I made there. Mostly about the ice cream. There is so much to screw up when it comes to ice cream. Ialso used to electrocute myself on the Big Mac toaster fairly regularly while working grill, though.
My sister is an INFJ and you’re so right about the empathy thing. She’s telling me about her husband’s health issues and I’m starting to tear up. “What’s wrong?” She asks. 😂 “Um… I feel bad for him…” blank stares at me and says, “Oh”.
i have become avoidant because seeing people hurt/suffering or going through something is heavy as hek. it drains me so i often isolate myself and avoid others
The forced detachment is real. Trying to occupy your mind and hands, reading, playing games with others, worst of all with yourself. You start doing that for long enough and become twisted. Fuuuuuck.
@@ThePhoenixElite Yeah, I'm INFJ too but I'm still questioning whether it's accurate or not years after. I think it's actually very easy to explain with the cognitive functions. As people with Ti we want to solve the mysteries of the universe and particularly about personnalities in our case. But the problem with MBTI is that most things in psychology can hardly be proven for now cause it's incredibly personal. And since it's particularly hard for us to know ourselves, we're never totally sure something corresponds to us so we're searching for who we are in a loop because of it and constantly unsure. But I think this unassertiveness is paradoxically what makes an INFJ behavior very identifiable even if in actuality INxJs are so rare that "luckily", we appear very different from many. But the fact that the Ni cognitive function is so unclear for most makes it even harder to be sure of who we are cause nobody can really tell with much certainty what personality traits fit us without a doubt. So we're kind of helpless in that regard 😅. That's why I said that being rare can be a great help in this case. But of course I think the fact that INxJs are rare is the same reason why the Ni cognitive function is so obscure. I got INFP once but I already knew the test and was in a different state so I guess it gave a wrong result. My first result was INFJ and I've done the test numerous times anyway and on numerous sites so I guess I have to come to the conclusion that it's accurate (but of course I'll never be 100% sure and nobody can).
@@kyurei4478 If you are an INFJ you just know it from most experiences in your life, always the weird/put aside kid in school. Always saying stuff that doesn't connect with 98% of people but totally makes sense objectively. Feeling superior but feeling sad about it. I could go on and on. Wenzes is a great channel for INFJs, maybe you know about it.
@@GreenWizardPTR Yes, that's basically what I said. But what I was explaining is it's not an identification method based on personality traits but solely on the fact that INxJs are very rare. So it doesn't give you a sense of identity. I wouldn't really say superior just because we identity things most don't, it's just a matter of being common or not to me. If INxJs were common it would have nothing "special". But for sure we feel depressed about being misunderstood. Many people might think it's so "cool" to be rare because you feel special. I couldn't care less. I think it's more important for INFJs to feel normal and relate to others because then they don't feel lonely. Feeling special is actually rather depressing. But what I meant is even then, despite the fact I came to the conclusion long ago, there is still this questioning inside that will never totally disappear because there is no 100% sure answer with MBTI.
Being a INFJ is though most of the times worrying about a lot of random things. Sometimes I feel that if I was the common personality things maybe would be more smooth sailing in my life.
once when i was a kid my mother and i were watching some nature/animal show on PBS. i got very upset when a lion caught an antelope. in response, my mother said, "but the lion has to eat, too!" and then my little INFJ heart imploded.
See, when I hear things like this, I feel like I couldn't possibly be an INFJ. However, I grew up killing chickens and knowing that meat comes from death. So ...
I'm going to invite everyone in this comment section to a party, so you'll all be within kicking distance! Which is to say, I was feeling settled after watching the video, but now ...
this one is the most relieving video among other thousands of are you an infj videos lol this will keep me grounded for a while then i start to randomly suspect from myself again
i thought i was infj for a while.. im actually istp.. same functions.. different order.. like i care about peoples feelings, but theyre not a priority.. not even mine.. feelings should have nothing to do with decisions MOST of the time.. there is a time and place where emotions should play a part in decision making..
Look, you! I was all settled into INFJ instead of ISFP or ISTP or anything else that seems to fit, and then you had to go say things that make sense and I'm back to questioning. (sigh) lol
@@arlettasloan6453 well ask yourself.. how much is group harmony and social norms a priority to you? as an istp. it makes me anxious but I try to avoid them. are you more uncomfortable with your performance? or are you more socially uncomfortable. you can tell your type by guessing your inferior function too..
My Dad is INFJ. All of his interests connect back to machinery and how it works in some way. Planes, trains, and guns, kind of like an ISTP. Oh, and tarantulas, for some reason.
INFJs and ISTPs are very similar at their core. I am INFJ and my brother is ISTP and though we live totally different, we always enjoy a exchange of thoughts. I know he thinks I might be a little too lazy or impractical and he knows I think he's a little too much of a conspiracy theorist and that he's afraid of asking people for help or saying "thank you". But it always makes me laugh how he (he's a mechanic) tells his "mechanic helper" friends that they're dumb and that his younger sister does it better (he would never say it to me) 😂 Because I like to hear his lectures on how to do something by yourself.
3:47 the less than a five star review is so real like I need people to be EXTRA precise when they explain their opinion to me like "I guess…" NO I NEED YOU TO BE 100% SURE…If it,s not perfection I'll be SO upset
A teacher told me Metal Health is my song I didnt know it that well so wasn't sure what to think. I told my friends. They analyzed it with me and it really fit. The way the lyrics actually are, not how they are found on most sites now. This one lady who was listening in objected, But, of course, no one really wants to be overrated." because in the song he says "i really wanna be overrated" and I was like "I do!" Not to be contrary, as she assumed, but because when people think I am doing a job well, looking good, keeping a clean house, organizing their pantry effectively, it amps me up to want to do as well and better if I can. Even if they think it more than I actually earned that reputation.
@@arlettasloan6453 this feeling is so real but then the better you are doing the higher their assumptions about you gets and then it gets hard to keep up with those expectations
I gasped so many times while watching this because a lot of the things that relate to infj's that we're mentioned in this video, resonate with me so hard 😂 Having a lot of interests that are related to eachother one way or the other. Understanding and not wanting to hurt other people's feelings, but not being a complete people pleaser. Dislikes drama. Listen if I see someone with a cut on their finger, I'd start holding my finger for dear life. 😭 And last month my 2 friends got in a major fight and they blocked eachother, but they both still talk to me on a weekly basis, and I can't choose one over the other 🥲 Edit: oh yeah. And I'm learning how to program a visual novel, but I watched like 20 videos on it before writing my very first line of code 😃 I have only done 1 line... Give me 60 more tutorials and maybe I'll be half done 😄
1.I so-o hate drama. (saw lots of drama from many alleged INFJ and that sent me on this hunt for what I really am and now I am back to probaby INFJ) 2. I do figure out way too much time to find out if people like me. 3. I hate criticism. I like constructive criticism. (Ie: "You are stupid" vs. "I think you miscalculated there because you didn't learn new math." ) 4. I like to think slow and be 3%-25% in the moment uness its dancing, prayer or sex. 5. I have many interests but they are all related to artwork or cooking/health. 6. I watch a lot of tutorials and read DIY/self help books. 7. I do love to savor things. in all sorts of ways. 8. I do care a lot about other people. But, I don't want to have dialogue about it more than necessary. 9. I can be a people pleaser, up to a point. 10. Don't ask me how I''m feeling. How I'm doing. What I want out of our relationshp. Ask me somethign more real. 11. I have recently been annoyed at the Empire for calling tthe Death Star that, and specifically because it looks more like a moon. Guess I really am an INFJ.
Thank you for the video. I cracked up 😂. Yes INFJs love and are fascinated with ppl and aren't really detached (as much as I wanted to!) Even as an 5w4 infj as I am.
Here's an easy way to know if you're INFJ... if you were invited to a local INFJ support group, would you go? If you answer Yes, you're not INFJ. Getting a group of INFJs together would be like herding cats and it would be mighty quiet if you did happen to pull it off.
Even the hyperbole is fairly accurate lolol... Thank you! I'm fairly certain there's a few INFJ creators that are actually infp... If they appeared ENFP that's completely understandable as enfp is our shadow.
I am an INFJ, and I have experienced this sentiment, and most of the confirmed INFJ's I know have also shared this sentiment: "How you know someone is not an INFJ, they want to be an INFJ. How do you know someone is an INFJ, they wish they weren't one." Admittedly as I have matured and become more comfortable in myself I don't feel this as much anymore, but there are still many days were I think "man, it would be so much easier to be any of the S types!"
I thought this would be a troll video! Im glad this is ringing true. It really is helpful to clear up these misconceptions because as a true infj who has enough trouble explaining it to those who have never heard of Carl Jung..if you are and you have tested and done your research then you are safe in the knowledge that you cant fake it..its impossible to wear this skin unless it fits!
I’m an ENFP and one of my main friends is a INTP. Both of us are -T’s. It’s interesting cause my friend group Im a part of is mostly Introverted and I’m one of the few Extroverts of the group yet everyone’s coming to me to hang out. Actually kind of fits with what is generally said about the campaigner type. I’m in this kind of psuedo leader position of the friend group. And I tend to mix well with a wide variety of personality types just because of how I am.
I was in a training with my coworkers......50 of us......we took the test and I was the only infj in the room. Then again with another group of 20, we took it and I was the only one who got infj again
Me too! So the next time we took the test I answered all the questions differently to make it look like I was an extrovert, like everybody else at that company. 😂
Well... I guess I'm an infj. I don't like conflict because I can feel it. The friends and potato chip analogies were especially spot on. Amazing video! 😄
This is very accurate. I think that the MBTI tests do tend to give out the INFJ results a bit too easily, however the reason why you see so many people online claiming to be INFJ, is probably do to the fact that they’re actively trying to find others like them, without going out & dealing with people. So yes, there would be a high representation of our type online, most others are out touching grass. I’m an INFJ who is AUDHD, & one of the biggest “symptoms” of ADHD is LOVING drama, I have to say I never resonated with that one. I avoid drama at all costs, it makes me deeply uncomfortable. UNLESS, I am watching the drama from afar & am listening completely undetected. I enjoy watching people work through things & their different styles of handling high emotional situations, but that does not mean I want to be a part of it.
The only thing that I've been able to realize through this video is that I have no freaking clue if I am a INJTPQLBS or whatever but god dammit the empathy thing is super relatable, like to the point when I get called to help people with their emotions I have to rest because my body hurts due to helping someone with emotional output, and if I see someone get punched in the middle of drama, I have that ridiculous and scary sensation on the back of my spine that something bad is gonna happen and I'm gonna puke later as if I got punched in the gut myself... I honestly don't think I'm that type of personality, but I'm constantly telling my mother to STOP calling me to read medical results or help people at the hospital because I can SEE the pain and SMEEL the fear, it's strange, it's gotten to the point I need medication to keep myself functional, I didn't became a doctor because I don't have the nerves for it, I'm scared of feeling other people's pain, and not sympathy like, like ACTUALLY sharing the pain... It really sucks... I just want to be left alone sometimes, but as an artist I have to put on a brave face because if I'm good at reading emotions I might as well use it to make my clients happy with their visions and extract info on their emotions to make the perfect work for them... that's the only use I can see myself having.
This video soothed my doubts of being an infj. Lately i have also been mistyped an an infp as well, which made me doubt even more, but i still did research between infp's and infj's (i still have my doubts😭)
I do have a favorite color ! But it depends on what i want for my mood, what feeling i want to feel in a room, basically my favorite color depends on a lot. But usually its orange or yellow. Lately its been green. And its definitely pink !!! I love pink and orange. And green. Oh and gold.
You know when you're walking through your day hours after getting more information on INFJs, not realizing you've been cooking the whole time, and realize 'holy f***. That issue I had 10 years ago that keeps popping in my head makes sense now!' Also, I suspect some personalities are more prone to go looking for these quizzes, and certainly more prone to accidentally finding a single RUclips video about it, and then fling themselves down the rabbit hole
I took one meyers briggs test and it said I was an ENFJ. I took another and it said I was an INFJ. I took another and got INFJ again. I asked myself if by the 3rd try I was catching on to how to manipulate my answers to get a matching result, but the more I learn about INFJ traits the more I think they apply to me very well. I'm not incapable of socializing and I either don't talk, or I talk way too much, but I don't think that disqualifies me. I read Carl Jungs Personality Typology ( I think that's the tiltle:/) before i discovered silly youtube videos on the subject. Its a pretty quick read and entertaining. And so are RUclips videos. It's a fun and fascinating subject for me, but I kinda feel an astrology projection vibe around it. People cherry pick what they want to think about themselves.
Thank you for this. I have watch so many things on what an INFJ is and agreed with it all. It still didn't take away the feeling that this is all like horoscopes and could apply to anyone. So, a thing on why I am not an INFJ and disagreeing with it all is perfect. The fact that I have watched endless videos on this subject and still have questions should probably give it away, but not believing the same positive answer multiple times is what makes us INFJ's. No proof is real proof without a false negative 🤣 But here's a thing. When I was young my parents would despair with me at Christmas because I would open one present and play with it, learn all about it, before opening the next. It would take me half the day to open them all. My parents had no patience 🤣 For me, the opening of the gift was superficial. Knowing what you had been given was important. Living in the moment 🤷♂ That's gotta be INFJ, right?
I'm definitely an INFJ, I definitely can feel 95% of what my mom does and can guess what she's thinking and will be right. I've also looked at the personality hunt INFJ 4w3 article, and it's a perfect match. Also, which enneagram you are adds and subtracts personality traits. I'm heavily Ni but am more Fe than your typical INFJ because of being a 4w3.
I'm sure I was an Infp but recently I've been taking the test and I'm being 100% serious and I keep getting INFJ, I'm now here to know what I am. Edit: I can't belive ive been living my life identifying myself with a type that it isn't even mine, all the time I saw infp characters I always thought on how I would look for a solution, how I wouldn't just live crying without taking action, Im sure now, Im an INFJ but still I can't be it because despite having all the traits you described... im pretty messy T_T
This video it's soo good xd "But they aren't ENFJs. While ENFJs would give you one kidney, AND the other as a backup. INFJs would give you just one". HAHAHHAHA TRUE OMG
everything in this video says i am an infj… except one but it’s maybe just my misinterpretation 😅 i am a fast learner and that’s why i hate school… cause what i hate is having to repeat over and over something i already know instead of experimenting what i want to experiment with it 😅 i got lots of problems from experimenting something about what i know about it, and refusing to make the same and boring thing just to « memorise » it… (sorry if my english is awful, i try to improve it my own way 😅 and i’m french so that’s pretty self explanatory « croissant 😅 »)
Lol The irony of being :38 seconds in and I'm already called out lmao Formerly ENFP but once I found out I have AuDHD and masked a majority of my outward behaviors, I had to retest. When I went to retest 3 years after the initial test I found out a few things: 1. I took the initial test with an absolute bias towards who I WANTED to be vs recognizing the truth about my preferences. 2. I realized it was a LOT easier to take the test honestly after unmasking 3. I can't honestly take a single MBTI test without getting the INFJ result every time now lol So that's validating. Ok, now that I'm all figured out in my comment, I can resume the rest of the 9 minutes actually paying attention instead of hyperfocusing on the first 38 seconds lol
Hi it's me again 😅 lol So I made it to 3:23 before needing to pause again because YES! I constantly concern myself with whether or not I upset anyone or to what end they do or don't like me and it's never because I NEED them too. It's because I just need to know if I understand them correctly so I can better understand everyone correctly!
You got us on everything related. My love of finding family / research, reading about their lives, wondering cemeteries to taking photos ( love photography) of gravestones to also matching those to family , to DNA matches / stuff to looking for matches to unidentified people & researching missing people to reading & watching crime & mystery stuff . It all connects somewhere .
I think I relate to 90% of this... I feel like I can learn things 'quickly' but- I guess maybe it can just appear quick because I isolate myself in a room for 3 days watching every single video and experimenting like crazy until I get it figured out lol. So maybe that is still INFJ. I also think I understand my feelings- but maybe because I make a lot of effort of trying to figure it out haha. Like 3 years of therapy later- and I think I finally have a good system for figuring out why I'm feeling what I'm feeling.
So all but like maybe one of the points entirely described me so I might be an INFJ (like I’ve half-assumed for like the past year) but I’m still going to watch every RUclips video on it cuz people keep saying I’m not. 😔
when u feel more intj than infj, but all your test results is infj.... and that's it I really had an identity crisis.... and sometimes i feel like all that mbti is me ....
I wouldn't lie and say im color blind. Something so dumb and insignificant, but still wouldn't lie. Just say i like several and name off like 3-4 colors that i love. Lying makes problems down the road and i dont want to create more drama, especially over something so little.
I actually took the official Myers-Briggs test from a psychiatrist about 25-30 yrs ago, and it was determined I was an INFJ. It explained a lot. It's always good to know that you're not alone... even if you are the rarest personality type.
INFJ is basically Kim Dokja of Omniscient Reader Viewpoint. We felt like the world was made for us to read. We are part of this world yet apart from it, like a reader of book, watchers of films, we are not the protagonist, nor antagonist, not even the side kicks of any stories, they say people are like books, but we INFJ are the READER, COMMENTER, & REVIEWER of life, we chose & pick which story we want to read, sometimes we stick longer, sometime we left, that is why we always felt alone, even in the middle of crowds, full of life.
I find Infjs very sensitive to criticism. Unlike the opposites like entp entjs that wouldn’t take jokes and criticism soooo personally like infjs would. Learned this from experience after years of hanging out with infjs
Not even the jump rope thing. Why so specific?! But we can know ourselves, we just need to spend a lot of time mapping our whole personality, or whatever is there instead of one. Also we are rebelous, but on greater matters we know are horribly wrong. We won't risk bringing drama to a family gathering bc of some outdated beliefs. But we absolutely will go overthrow the government if we think that's what the world needs.
I got an ISFP-T because I misunderstood a lot, hated the result, found out about INFJs (I am -T) and now I finally get the appreciation for MBTI. Though, I still chameleon my behavior into all other 15 types.
I was just thinking to myself how "One second I can feel everything is so detached and nothing makes sense and then in the other I can make sense of it and make it familiar" it's like my Fe just puts a leash on my Ti Makes me wonder for an ENTP who has Ti first and then Fe it must be opposite? Like everything seems familiar and one second I'm so happy to be in this world and then suddenly I want to just get away with it all coz it all seems detached
I tried to avoid being infj but somehow i kept being wrong,.all my hobbies are related to creativity, i have been able to actually be friends with people who hate everyone.
First point: I hate drama. Ok, well thanks for reaffirming my INFJ-ness, let's still watch the entire video. Edit: ok, the slow-learner part was wrong, I just love learning random stuff so much. The rest is spot-on. I've been working on identifying my feelings in the past years which led to the discovery that I'm a lesbian at the age of 24.
As for favorites, I could tell you my favorite color and ice cream flavor, but not my favorite movie, song or food. I dislike those type of questions. As a middle aged INFJ, my Fi use has gotten a little better. I can tell you how I generally feel, but not in a detailed immediate way like an INFP. Once you hit age 40, you get a little more access to your inferior and shadow functions.
You could possibly be a different personality I also thought I was intj as mbti test gave me it. But soon I realised infj and I match all the traits of infj
1. No. The reasons behind why are different though. 2. No. People annoy me a lot, but I also like them more than a lot of other people I encounter, I'm also not in the mindset that everyone is terrible because of all the bad things happening in the world. Bad things have always happened, but so have good things, I don't get how people can have friends, or family who care about them, who have seen people do good deeds, and still think humanity is horrible. Not to mention if we didn't have people, we wouldn't be nearly as advanced as we are, actually, we wouldn't even be here. To answer the question of why I usually don't like INFJs: They're hard for me to read and figure out, we're never on the same page, it's almost like they're from a different world compared to me, and it's not because they're the mysterious and unique type, I feel this sort of "I can't read you as well" block with all the NJs but INFJs are the hardest for me to understand. 3. It depends, if it is useful and not just someone being rude, and they actually know what they're talking about and have stuff to back up what they're saying, then I don't mind criticism and I'd prefer it to someone just letting things slide until they can't take it anymore and they explode because they were too worried about hurting someone's feelings, so they didn't tell them what the problem was. This happens to me all the time, people will get mad at me out of nowhere when they should have just spoken up a long time ago so we could sort things out then and there, I'm not a mind reader, if I was I'd be taking that on the road and monetizing my talents. I don't feel guilty at all that I upset them, in fact, it actually lowered my opinion of them and unlike them, I'm not afraid to let my opinion about someone be known to their face. 4. Yessss. Thinking on my feet let's my show off my skills. 5. Yes. It's not to this extreme, but I have a fairly broad range of interests and I'm always looking to pick up new skills. You said WHAT about ISFJs?! Tsk tsk tsk, this SJ slander has gone too far, it's going down now, the SJs vs the NPs, we fight at 2:30 PM on the third Wednesday in June 2026 behind a hospital, that way, if someone gets injured we won't have to go too far to get medical attention. I bet the schedule is making the NPs shake in their mismatched socks hahahahaha. I think we should start things off with a cheer competition, and the NPs can pick what's next. 6. Yes. I pick up things quicker than most people I know, and I have a really good memory too which helps out a lot with that. 7. Yes. 8. I usually don't give my feelings enough attention to understand them. 9. Most of the time absolutely not. Not only am I rule follower, but I'm a rule enforcer. When I see someone doing something they're not supposed to be doing, I don't even think about it, it's like autopilot for me correcting them. When it comes to following the rules, I'll follow them as long as the person giving them has the authority to tell me what to do, and they know what they're talking about. Otherwise, I will question them and suggest a better way if I see it, and if they're not willing to listen, I tell them to get bent and and I leave, which probably isn't something an INFJ would do lmao.
I took the test years ago and was an infj, took it again recently and was still an infj, and took it again with two close friends who gave me their opinion of me while I was taking the test because they thought I would get something other than Infj. and I still got infj after that I became obsessed with reading about it because I've never felt so understood. I started asking people to take this test, read about their personality types, and found out that my two closest friends are both Enfjs. I found out that my own sister is also an infj, which shocked me, but is still so obvious when I think about it. We have a love-hate relationship because we understand eachother so much that it hurts. When I realized that none of the people I spoke to about this test were really interested in reading about themselves, I wondered why only infjs have such an interest in MBTI? From this I came to the conclusion that only an infj could have created this test. I googled it, and yes, Katharine Briggs was an infj, her daughter was an infp, they created this test together.
Me trying to figure out if im infj by watching 50+ Videos
Only 50?
That’s the funniest thing I heard all day 😂.
Yep 👍🏼🫶🏽I took the test a lot of times by a lot of different sites, results: infj (INFP in a couple of them)
Litteraly😂
Me fr
If you clicked on this video because u feel like u are betraying people if you arent actually a real infj and you can never double check enough, then you are probably an infj😅
☝🏻 This. 👍🏻
If you worry about being a (blank) You are probably are one?
omg yes haha
I was thinking "they would be thinking I'm fake"
Fact: no one cares
@@Lena-L33 no one cares if you are fake or no one cares about my comment😢
@@nikolinelund4866 about me being fake or not xD I'm overthinking but no one cares haha
The reason they're so many infj in one place... Is they're so freaking obsessed and they must think, analyze and comfirm they are a infj. Tbh being an infj always gives me an existential crisis like why? What does this mean? Why im here? I gotta think through this *sips coffee inside of a cave*
That's why I went into cybersecurity, it's a profession based in paranoia.
Existential crisis resonates with me. Searching for meaning...
I usually don't comment but (sips coffee inside of a cave) made my laugh of the day.
I would say if they have to keep reaffirming that they are, chances are they are not a P-lead like an INFJ. Perhaps a J-lead instead, since INFJs rely on a probabilistic model, while J-leads (EJs and IPs) rely on a deterministic model.
I instantly doubt the legitimacy of the test and think everyone got infj. Also the rarity of infj are just a lie.
If an INFJ went to a boxing match, they would feel every punch thrown and at the end of the fight the INFJ would be more beaten up than the loser! Truer words were never spoken.
Emotional damage!
😂 hasha true
@@kyurei4478so true 😂😅
Time to become a manlier version of an infj fellas. Just saying
@@Karim-dh3sz wdym?
Define manly and how it is relevant first.
I am most definitely an INFJ. I have never enjoyed a video more because I felt incredibly understood 😂
Glad to help!
Exactly .....i was giggling the entire time. 😂
yeah same 😅
@@radianceray3034I laughed til I cried. 😂😂😂
@@radianceray3034 real
As an INFJ, I love people, they are amazing, i want to know how complex they are how the feel and why they're them. But I also hate them with a passion, they make me sick when they do stupid dumb shit or evil in this wicked world. And yes, for the question "how you feel?" i'd say "i'm fine", unless I'm 100% confident with who ask me that and then i'll FLOOD them with how I feel :)
Superficial relationships exhaust me. I want to KNOW people...to have meaningful conversations...things that get to the heart of people. I hate trying to understand why people do what they do-especially if they are not open to talking.
@@maureenseel118 Sadly we have to lower our expectations. I trust you're well aware of the fact that not everybody is as in tune with their emotions and themselves as we are, therefore we do the double work of threading carefully in social relationships. But if we can't run away from these boring people, then for my own sake, I use the chamaleonic part of ourselves, fully aware I'll be drained badly after. But I survive at least.
I love them and that's why I can't stand the stupid and evil things done. I saved a man's life once because I barely knew him as the drummer in my friend's band and I knew that he was a junkie. I was out walking and happened to see him heading into an obviously abandoned building and my thought, much more apparent to me than such thoughts usually are was, "I think I'll go yell at that man." but in a good way. Only, by the time I walked back to where he had gone in and navigated things until I found where people had gathered, he was layed out and not breathing and a bunch of junkies were sitting mostly on the other side of a fire from him. So, I yelled at them instead unti they gave me back his coat and also all of theirs (cold, Alaska, wintertime) and I worked really hard at getting his blood moving and him breathing again. Because I believe in God, I believe I heard my inner dalogue more outwardly so that I would find him and save his life. I know no further information on why that was important in the larger scheme of life, though. I just know I loved him, without knowing him really, and that really made me want to yell at him.
exactly how i d feel if i wasnt constantly burned out from life
also about im fine part. exactly. i always flood my besties with how i feel lol and never feel like doing that to someone frim the outside of this circle. If i do i feel incredibly guilty, self-centred and like I'm annoying people
You just confirmed to me yet again that I was an INFJ. Of course, I will still ask myself that question again soon enough, but for today, thanks ;)/.
Glad to help, just watch the video again later lol
@@TrebleKnightlmfao
@TrebleKnight too bad the like button can't get hit every time right lol
I'm an INTP, but I also heavily relate to this comment when watching INTP videos. Apparently, INTPs also constantly wonder what type they are
They confirmed it for me, too. Not about you, of course, but I do believe you.
ENFP catfishing as an INFJ to feel a bit less basic😂😂😂
ENFPs are basic? 😲
Would tend to say INFPs are more guilty of that but the funniest is INFJs generally absolutely don't care about feeling special. Fi users tend to have a cult of their personality. That's how you can identify the difference.
@@ZuerstJesuswe are so chaotic that we think we are basic!
I am a 50 year old INFJ and years 1-49 were hell on earth.
Yes. I always hated being myself as well.
Truth!
With all the awkward situations and conversations I find myself in, I have finally decided to challenge myself to not feel uncomfortable but to lean in and see where it goes. I'm going to be all by myself to process it later, and I might enjoy it all more knowing it was at least somewhat intentional by the end. 😂😂😂
I found out at 50 too....
My whole life made sense.
An INFJ has the potential to create their heaven or hell on Earth. Being basically the type that can become the most balanced. Most INFJs never attempt to tap into their full potential due to unresolved trauma from the nature/nurture aspects of their environment. Using that potential to work with the underlying aspects of reality makes them the perfect manifestors. It was said in the movie, "Life is tough, that's the default setting." If we're mot here leveling up, then what are we doing? ❤
Well... I related to everything about being INFJ, except about the criticism. I like to be criticized because then I can know the other's point of view and with that improve on myself. I want to become a better person and appreciate to know when I am wrong to fix it!
Same here, but for me it depends very much on how and from whom I get it. I think it's something that changes as you develop more, knowing your weaknesses is a huge strength!
Me neither. Actually I think I solved why people think we're sensitive to criticizms. It's just because we already put a lot of pressure on ourselves so when someone criticizes us about something, we already kinda guessed it through intuition most of the time but it can just be assumptions.
So it's like a double criticizm every time from us and from others. It's one of the mechanisms of dominant Introverted Intuition I guess, being worried about everything that could happen.
Also I think hearing the same criticizm we made about ourselves in our head from someone else is terrible because it pretty much confirms our negative assumptions and makes it true.
Another point is I think we're just very skilled when it comes to hiding things about ourselves so even if we're not actually particularly sensitive to criticizms, if we can avoid receiving it and want to, we'll do it cause criticizms in general aren't necessarely very enjoyable (especially when it's just personal judgement). But sometimes we would even ask for it to improve cause you can't improve if you don't know your weak points right?
I noticed this trait of personality doesn't fit us when I realized if it's a criticizm I never thought about before, I'll be surprisingly chill about it, even curious.
But sometimes I think there is also times when we know some criticizms made about us are objectively wrong or simply don't fit our mindset or people misinterpreted the intentions behind our actions.
And in all honesty, I think it's one of these cases. People just don't get us on that, it's a misinterpretation that makes it look like we're particularly sensitive to criticizms but it's just A LOT of accumulated pressure.
No matter who you are, if you're very stressed you'll appear more sensitive than usual because you're mentally tired. That's what constantly happens to us. That's why being around more carefree people or people who don't put pressure on themselves can be very enjoyable for us (even if it can be worrying as well because of our profound nature), such as ESTPs, ENFPs and so on.
Okay that's true
@@kyurei4478 sometimes you can't dismiss who is doing the criticizing. I would give him/her a good once-over in grand Sigma INFJ style. Than ask that person to qualify his criticism while promising to return a rebuttal.
@@lorentaidhg8534 I think I would just ask this person to qualify their criticizm and then judge later if it deserves an approval or a rebuttal the next time this topic comes up.
As an Infj I have to tell you , that everything you have said is very unprecise but I get your points.
For example to say we don't like drama is true but I think we will easily spot drama and create drama because we are very sensitive.
It's true we are interested in people and wish them the best , I guess it's love but it's very draining to interact with them , also we don't need to like someone to help them.
Also it's true many of us are sensitive to criticism due to our perfectionism , but not necessarily and I guess only in things that r important to us , we also think and reflect a lot so it's not easy to change our mind with an argument we have already thought about 100x.
And yes we r insane and we r suffering!😂
Our interests are not random, true.
Mostly our interests are related to psychology.
Yes we r slow learners (we take our time by choice to make sure we understood it on a deep lvl) and yes we like chill things and need time to reflect alone!
We are very emphatic so much that it hurts, that's why we need time alone, to form new connections is not really that easy not because we r not emphatic but because people r mentally draining to us, so we prefer to be alone most of the time or in my case with other people who r highly emotionaly intelligent with time to recharge.
Agreed
EXACTLY EXACTLY
but idk if im that empathic anymore. with how i feel burned out all the time from feelings and life in general.....
The wearing graphic tee instead of a solid shirt to school to be rebellious is so real
Ikr 😂😂😂😂
I wore a Motley Crue t-shirt and got a Motley Crue folder for my math papers, because, I was told I shouldn't listen to them. I don't believe in advertising for bands. Let them pay for it, like everyone else. But, I was totally rebelling againt such uptight desires to oppress me and them.
😂😂😂 how to know if you are INFJ, you can't watch this post past 51 seconds because the sound of his voice echo pounds the inside of your brain and reminds you of childhood nightmares of Kermit the frog interviewing you, probing you, and treating you like a freakazoid. Then you pause to write a comment and then your mind wanders to a Mashco Piro tribe in the Peruvian Amazon, discovered just miles from a number of logging concessions, untouched by human contact and then wish longingly that you were there... 😂😂
True. Also this video is not even made by an infj. So who cares anyway. 😏
😂😂❤
@@Chifuyaaaa yes, I forgot to add, can't stand being defined and a little shit to boot! It is time for the world to swallow an INFJ red pill. But I am inventing the purple pill, because INFJs were born with both blue and red pills already swallowed. It is the rest of em that swallow the 💩💌💌
Good video. Here are some more: you are not an infj if you secretly like it to be a rare personality type. And to be special. Its because of infjs Fe and the need to be understood, that they would like it more to be more like other people. Infp for example on the other hand like it a lot to be special.
You are also not an infj if you dont have performance anxiety to some degree. Thats because of Se. It makes infj a bit or a lot anxious about their performance. This can be at school or at work and even the performance as a friend or as a partner. Did I do enough to be a good friend? The part with critisissm is connected to this.
You are not an infj if you have the best ideas under stress. Thats because of Ne in the shadow. Infj can have good and creative ideas almost like enfp, but only if they are not stressed.
wow, thanks for the insights!
Reallly!! Exactly!! I haven't told anyone I'm an infj due to this very reason.... in fact i am kind of distressed over it being the 'rarest '🤣
But so glad to finally find content and comments that feel relatable💕
I just don't believe that it's the rarest, I think there are several types at the same level and it's too difficult to actually calculate the numbers (I want the data for how it was measured to know more)
Wow you guys have no clue what you are talking about lol but try to sound smart by putting stuff out there.
@agrillhasnoname Then why don't you try to enlighten us instead of just stating that you are much smarter in a rude attempt to place your intelligence above others instead of actually showing it?
Because now you just sound like an immature bully, and that's something insecure people do (mostly kids) because they are afraid that others will see their true self and not like them for who they really are. If you are more intelligent, you should know that sharing your wisdom will help others, so help us understand why we are wrong.
I watched this video and discovered I am an INFJ. I think that I really am rare because I rarely find people like me.
We're hiding out in our homes alone. Livin' the dream!
Well, you'll probably find them here.
yep
1. I hate drama!
2. I still talk to people who i absolutely dislike. Just for the sake of analysing them and who they really are. I talk to this mysogynist jerk for month because he thought he was philosophical and i wanted to manipulate him into showing his stupid side and i did.
I like people and love helping them.
3. When i get a criticism, i destroy myself and doubt my abilities.
4. I want my environment to be super chill because im already very in trouble with myself. I like situation which make me feel at ease.
5. I dont know about this one but most of my interests ARE related to one thing, and thats ART.
6. I am a fast learner but when i find a new thing to know about i get totally consumed in that. The videos about that specific topic are gonna be all over my phone.
7. Im anything but detached.
8. I am never sure but what i really like but when i do, i will be ordering the same icecream everyday.
9. The most rebel i was but to break the uniform code in my school and did not follow it until i was told by a nice teacher i really liked lol.
Im not sure about who i am..
But can you tell me if i am an infj or not. God its killing me.
I don't think I'm an INFJ, BUT I do think I know someone in my life that is an INFJ, and I just want to make sure they really are.
As and INFJ who worked at KFC for some time, you just make me more sure that it was one of the worst decisions of my life
Yeah, I can't imagine it was easy being in Colonel Sanders's Army
god i've felt this comment! i am infj, i've been working in mcdonalds as a teenager and god i felt so awful when i did smth wrong. it's literally STILL haunts me, every moment, 6 years passed and i ma still there can't do the fucking cone ice cream
@@sophycharming9971 At our place the ice cream mashine was, thank God, out of order. The people were still disappointed and making remarks how "we" still didn't repair it (it was broken since I was hired) and I had to act sorry for things I had zero influence on. Terrible flashbacks. The constant pressure from "those above" that you didn't manipulate enough clients to buy something they didn't intent to buy when coming there...
It taught me that the feeling of meaning/rightness in what you do is the most important thing in a workplace
Thank god I, for one, managed to find a job related to my studies before I was accepted in one of these KFC/McDonalds jobs
@@sophycharming9971 I worked at McDonald's for a while as a young adult. I still wake up thinking what an idiot I was for some stupid mistake I made there. Mostly about the ice cream. There is so much to screw up when it comes to ice cream. Ialso used to electrocute myself on the Big Mac toaster fairly regularly while working grill, though.
The INFJ is likely the only type to do this test on their own free time hahaha
My sister is an INFJ and you’re so right about the empathy thing. She’s telling me about her husband’s health issues and I’m starting to tear up. “What’s wrong?” She asks. 😂
“Um… I feel bad for him…” blank stares at me and says, “Oh”.
So truuuu
i have become avoidant because seeing people hurt/suffering or going through something is heavy as hek. it drains me so i often isolate myself and avoid others
The forced detachment is real. Trying to occupy your mind and hands, reading, playing games with others, worst of all with yourself. You start doing that for long enough and become twisted. Fuuuuuck.
I've taken the personality test 6 times now and got INFJ every time, but I still doubt if I'm really INFJ. Why am I like this?!
Because you're INFJ lol.
My God! You may be on to something! 😂
@@ThePhoenixElite Yeah, I'm INFJ too but I'm still questioning whether it's accurate or not years after. I think it's actually very easy to explain with the cognitive functions. As people with Ti we want to solve the mysteries of the universe and particularly about personnalities in our case. But the problem with MBTI is that most things in psychology can hardly be proven for now cause it's incredibly personal. And since it's particularly hard for us to know ourselves, we're never totally sure something corresponds to us so we're searching for who we are in a loop because of it and constantly unsure. But I think this unassertiveness is paradoxically what makes an INFJ behavior very identifiable even if in actuality INxJs are so rare that "luckily", we appear very different from many. But the fact that the Ni cognitive function is so unclear for most makes it even harder to be sure of who we are cause nobody can really tell with much certainty what personality traits fit us without a doubt. So we're kind of helpless in that regard 😅. That's why I said that being rare can be a great help in this case. But of course I think the fact that INxJs are rare is the same reason why the Ni cognitive function is so obscure.
I got INFP once but I already knew the test and was in a different state so I guess it gave a wrong result. My first result was INFJ and I've done the test numerous times anyway and on numerous sites so I guess I have to come to the conclusion that it's accurate (but of course I'll never be 100% sure and nobody can).
@@kyurei4478 If you are an INFJ you just know it from most experiences in your life, always the weird/put aside kid in school. Always saying stuff that doesn't connect with 98% of people but totally makes sense objectively. Feeling superior but feeling sad about it.
I could go on and on.
Wenzes is a great channel for INFJs, maybe you know about it.
@@GreenWizardPTR Yes, that's basically what I said. But what I was explaining is it's not an identification method based on personality traits but solely on the fact that INxJs are very rare. So it doesn't give you a sense of identity. I wouldn't really say superior just because we identity things most don't, it's just a matter of being common or not to me. If INxJs were common it would have nothing "special". But for sure we feel depressed about being misunderstood. Many people might think it's so "cool" to be rare because you feel special. I couldn't care less. I think it's more important for INFJs to feel normal and relate to others because then they don't feel lonely. Feeling special is actually rather depressing.
But what I meant is even then, despite the fact I came to the conclusion long ago, there is still this questioning inside that will never totally disappear because there is no 100% sure answer with MBTI.
Being a INFJ is though most of the times worrying about a lot of random things. Sometimes I feel that if I was the common personality things maybe would be more smooth sailing in my life.
i agree...
Why was that the most accurate description of any personality that I've ever heard being described
I am clearly an INFJ, because I have read, discovered, analyzed, compared everything about the INFJ with myself. And the result was just right 🙂
once when i was a kid my mother and i were watching some nature/animal show on PBS. i got very upset when a lion caught an antelope. in response, my mother said, "but the lion has to eat, too!" and then my little INFJ heart imploded.
See, when I hear things like this, I feel like I couldn't possibly be an INFJ. However, I grew up killing chickens and knowing that meat comes from death. So ...
I heard someone say that you'll know a true INFJ because they wish they never were one...I felt that
I'm going to invite everyone in this comment section to a party, so you'll all be within kicking distance! Which is to say, I was feeling settled after watching the video, but now ...
this one is the most relieving video among other thousands of are you an infj videos lol this will keep me grounded for a while then i start to randomly suspect from myself again
lmao relatable
i thought i was infj for a while.. im actually istp.. same functions.. different order.. like i care about peoples feelings, but theyre not a priority.. not even mine.. feelings should have nothing to do with decisions MOST of the time.. there is a time and place where emotions should play a part in decision making..
Look, you! I was all settled into INFJ instead of ISFP or ISTP or anything else that seems to fit, and then you had to go say things that make sense and I'm back to questioning. (sigh) lol
@@arlettasloan6453 well ask yourself.. how much is group harmony and social norms a priority to you? as an istp. it makes me anxious but I try to avoid them. are you more uncomfortable with your performance? or are you more socially uncomfortable. you can tell your type by guessing your inferior function too..
6:12 INFJ watching ISTP work and learning vicariously haha so wholesome
Ngl, I learned graphic design by watching graphic designers work 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Definitely not an infj 😮💨
I'm sorry, and, congratulations!
My Dad is INFJ. All of his interests connect back to machinery and how it works in some way. Planes, trains, and guns, kind of like an ISTP. Oh, and tarantulas, for some reason.
INFJs and ISTPs are very similar at their core. I am INFJ and my brother is ISTP and though we live totally different, we always enjoy a exchange of thoughts. I know he thinks I might be a little too lazy or impractical and he knows I think he's a little too much of a conspiracy theorist and that he's afraid of asking people for help or saying "thank you".
But it always makes me laugh how he (he's a mechanic) tells his "mechanic helper" friends that they're dumb and that his younger sister does it better (he would never say it to me) 😂 Because I like to hear his lectures on how to do something by yourself.
we suck at mechanics, due to out thinking.@@askarufus7939
Infjs are interested in philosophy and psychology
Oh. If it is supposed to be THAT connecte, maybe I can't check that one off.
3:47 the less than a five star review is so real like I need people to be EXTRA precise when they explain their opinion to me like "I guess…" NO I NEED YOU TO BE 100% SURE…If it,s not perfection I'll be SO upset
A teacher told me Metal Health is my song I didnt know it that well so wasn't sure what to think. I told my friends. They analyzed it with me and it really fit. The way the lyrics actually are, not how they are found on most sites now. This one lady who was listening in objected, But, of course, no one really wants to be overrated." because in the song he says "i really wanna be overrated" and I was like "I do!" Not to be contrary, as she assumed, but because when people think I am doing a job well, looking good, keeping a clean house, organizing their pantry effectively, it amps me up to want to do as well and better if I can. Even if they think it more than I actually earned that reputation.
@@arlettasloan6453 this feeling is so real but then the better you are doing the higher their assumptions about you gets and then it gets hard to keep up with those expectations
My friend, believe me, if I had a choice between being an INFJ or not being an INFJ, I would choose not to be one.
I gasped so many times while watching this because a lot of the things that relate to infj's that we're mentioned in this video, resonate with me so hard 😂
Having a lot of interests that are related to eachother one way or the other.
Understanding and not wanting to hurt other people's feelings, but not being a complete people pleaser.
Dislikes drama.
Listen if I see someone with a cut on their finger, I'd start holding my finger for dear life. 😭
And last month my 2 friends got in a major fight and they blocked eachother, but they both still talk to me on a weekly basis, and I can't choose one over the other 🥲
Edit: oh yeah. And I'm learning how to program a visual novel, but I watched like 20 videos on it before writing my very first line of code 😃 I have only done 1 line... Give me 60 more tutorials and maybe I'll be half done 😄
oooof, hate inner friend drama like that. Good luck on the visual novel though :D
@@TrebleKnight thank you
Ahahahah the enfp room sounds like my room but im an entp
could be either
It's the Ne room
If I weren't an ENFJ, I'd be so surprised why this vid made me feel like an INFJ.
1.I so-o hate drama.
(saw lots of drama from many alleged INFJ and that sent me on this hunt for what I really am and now I am back to probaby INFJ)
2. I do figure out way too much time to find out if people like me.
3. I hate criticism. I like constructive criticism.
(Ie: "You are stupid" vs. "I think you miscalculated there because you didn't learn new math." )
4. I like to think slow and be 3%-25% in the moment uness its dancing, prayer or sex.
5. I have many interests but they are all related to artwork or cooking/health.
6. I watch a lot of tutorials and read DIY/self help books.
7. I do love to savor things. in all sorts of ways.
8. I do care a lot about other people. But, I don't want to have dialogue about it more than necessary.
9. I can be a people pleaser, up to a point.
10. Don't ask me how I''m feeling. How I'm doing. What I want out of our relationshp. Ask me somethign more real.
11. I have recently been annoyed at the Empire for calling tthe Death Star that, and specifically because it looks more like a moon.
Guess I really am an INFJ.
Thank you for the video. I cracked up 😂. Yes INFJs love and are fascinated with ppl and aren't really detached (as much as I wanted to!) Even as an 5w4 infj as I am.
I used to have that traits but i managed to control what i need to feel and don't get burnt out, thank you i like this channel and how funny it is.
Here's an easy way to know if you're INFJ... if you were invited to a local INFJ support group, would you go? If you answer Yes, you're not INFJ. Getting a group of INFJs together would be like herding cats and it would be mighty quiet if you did happen to pull it off.
Even the hyperbole is fairly accurate lolol... Thank you!
I'm fairly certain there's a few INFJ creators that are actually infp... If they appeared ENFP that's completely understandable as enfp is our shadow.
I am an INFJ, and I have experienced this sentiment, and most of the confirmed INFJ's I know have also shared this sentiment: "How you know someone is not an INFJ, they want to be an INFJ. How do you know someone is an INFJ, they wish they weren't one." Admittedly as I have matured and become more comfortable in myself I don't feel this as much anymore, but there are still many days were I think "man, it would be so much easier to be any of the S types!"
It's a sensing world I'm afraid, but from what I've seen INFJs seem to be one of the more self loathing types.
I thought this would be a troll video! Im glad this is ringing true. It really is helpful to clear up these misconceptions because as a true infj who has enough trouble explaining it to those who have never heard of Carl Jung..if you are and you have tested and done your research then you are safe in the knowledge that you cant fake it..its impossible to wear this skin unless it fits!
I’m an ENFP and one of my main friends is a INTP. Both of us are -T’s. It’s interesting cause my friend group Im a part of is mostly Introverted and I’m one of the few Extroverts of the group yet everyone’s coming to me to hang out. Actually kind of fits with what is generally said about the campaigner type. I’m in this kind of psuedo leader position of the friend group. And I tend to mix well with a wide variety of personality types just because of how I am.
5:19 accurate description of my room …. did you sneak in?
But who even wants to be an infj. I'm an entp and imo infjs have plenty of downsides and sounds like hell if I was one....
im an infj and i cant agree more😭
Infjs are way cooler than entps
@@cutekoala5492 ESTPs are way cooler then INFJs and ENTPs now go cry in your room or whatever INFJs do-ESTP
I was in a training with my coworkers......50 of us......we took the test and I was the only infj in the room. Then again with another group of 20, we took it and I was the only one who got infj again
Me too! So the next time we took the test I answered all the questions differently to make it look like I was an extrovert, like everybody else at that company. 😂
Well... I guess I'm an infj. I don't like conflict because I can feel it. The friends and potato chip analogies were especially spot on. Amazing video! 😄
Glad you liked it!
An INFP perfectly describing an INFJ. I couldn't have done this. Your perception is amazing!!!!
This is very accurate. I think that the MBTI tests do tend to give out the INFJ results a bit too easily, however the reason why you see so many people online claiming to be INFJ, is probably do to the fact that they’re actively trying to find others like them, without going out & dealing with people. So yes, there would be a high representation of our type online, most others are out touching grass.
I’m an INFJ who is AUDHD, & one of the biggest “symptoms” of ADHD is LOVING drama, I have to say I never resonated with that one. I avoid drama at all costs, it makes me deeply uncomfortable. UNLESS, I am watching the drama from afar & am listening completely undetected. I enjoy watching people work through things & their different styles of handling high emotional situations, but that does not mean I want to be a part of it.
Tearing up at the comment section i can feel the positive energy it’s so overwhelming it’s beautiful I’ve never seen a happier comment section
Yeah, my comment section is great lol :D
I never felt so called out by a video in my life….. Im an INFJ and you make very good points here 😂
I did the online test and watched videos and i can confirm i am one.
I'm glad to have helped you figure it out :D
The only thing that I've been able to realize through this video is that I have no freaking clue if I am a INJTPQLBS or whatever but god dammit the empathy thing is super relatable, like to the point when I get called to help people with their emotions I have to rest because my body hurts due to helping someone with emotional output, and if I see someone get punched in the middle of drama, I have that ridiculous and scary sensation on the back of my spine that something bad is gonna happen and I'm gonna puke later as if I got punched in the gut myself...
I honestly don't think I'm that type of personality, but I'm constantly telling my mother to STOP calling me to read medical results or help people at the hospital because I can SEE the pain and SMEEL the fear, it's strange, it's gotten to the point I need medication to keep myself functional, I didn't became a doctor because I don't have the nerves for it, I'm scared of feeling other people's pain, and not sympathy like, like ACTUALLY sharing the pain...
It really sucks... I just want to be left alone sometimes, but as an artist I have to put on a brave face because if I'm good at reading emotions I might as well use it to make my clients happy with their visions and extract info on their emotions to make the perfect work for them... that's the only use I can see myself having.
This video soothed my doubts of being an infj. Lately i have also been mistyped an an infp as well, which made me doubt even more, but i still did research between infp's and infj's
(i still have my doubts😭)
I do have a favorite color ! But it depends on what i want for my mood, what feeling i want to feel in a room, basically my favorite color depends on a lot. But usually its orange or yellow. Lately its been green. And its definitely pink !!! I love pink and orange. And green. Oh and gold.
You know when you're walking through your day hours after getting more information on INFJs, not realizing you've been cooking the whole time, and realize 'holy f***. That issue I had 10 years ago that keeps popping in my head makes sense now!'
Also, I suspect some personalities are more prone to go looking for these quizzes, and certainly more prone to accidentally finding a single RUclips video about it, and then fling themselves down the rabbit hole
I'm yet again being ensured that I'm the most strong INFJ ever 😅
I felt so seen with this video 😆
2:17 EXACTLY !! But I am working towards not absorbing peoples emotions anymore because it’s not good for my health 😢
I thought I was an INFJ but I took the test a few more times and I’m an ENFP 😭
Tests arent accurate dude.
this is such a great video that it made me even more confused
thats just what I was about to comment, now I dont even know which mbti I am
I took one meyers briggs test and it said I was an ENFJ. I took another and it said I was an INFJ. I took another and got INFJ again. I asked myself if by the 3rd try I was catching on to how to manipulate my answers to get a matching result, but the more I learn about INFJ traits the more I think they apply to me very well. I'm not incapable of socializing and I either don't talk, or I talk way too much, but I don't think that disqualifies me. I read Carl Jungs Personality Typology ( I think that's the tiltle:/) before i discovered silly youtube videos on the subject. Its a pretty quick read and entertaining. And so are RUclips videos. It's a fun and fascinating subject for me, but I kinda feel an astrology projection vibe around it. People cherry pick what they want to think about themselves.
I think this means I am an INFJ, and it hits me that we are like hobbits
Thank you for this. I have watch so many things on what an INFJ is and agreed with it all. It still didn't take away the feeling that this is all like horoscopes and could apply to anyone.
So, a thing on why I am not an INFJ and disagreeing with it all is perfect.
The fact that I have watched endless videos on this subject and still have questions should probably give it away, but not believing the same positive answer multiple times is what makes us INFJ's. No proof is real proof without a false negative 🤣
But here's a thing. When I was young my parents would despair with me at Christmas because I would open one present and play with it, learn all about it, before opening the next. It would take me half the day to open them all. My parents had no patience 🤣 For me, the opening of the gift was superficial. Knowing what you had been given was important. Living in the moment 🤷♂ That's gotta be INFJ, right?
Came here doubting my INFJness. Had it confirmed on all accounts. Also the rebellious graphic tee part was wayyy too relatable.
Wow, now I understand my life
I'm definitely an INFJ, I definitely can feel 95% of what my mom does and can guess what she's thinking and will be right. I've also looked at the personality hunt INFJ 4w3 article, and it's a perfect match.
Also, which enneagram you are adds and subtracts personality traits. I'm heavily Ni but am more Fe than your typical INFJ because of being a 4w3.
I'm sure I was an Infp but recently I've been taking the test and I'm being 100% serious and I keep getting INFJ, I'm now here to know what I am.
Edit: I can't belive ive been living my life identifying myself with a type that it isn't even mine, all the time I saw infp characters I always thought on how I would look for a solution, how I wouldn't just live crying without taking action, Im sure now, Im an INFJ but still I can't be it because despite having all the traits you described... im pretty messy T_T
This video it's soo good xd
"But they aren't ENFJs. While ENFJs would give you one kidney, AND the other as a backup. INFJs would give you just one". HAHAHHAHA TRUE OMG
everything in this video says i am an infj… except one but it’s maybe just my misinterpretation 😅 i am a fast learner and that’s why i hate school… cause what i hate is having to repeat over and over something i already know instead of experimenting what i want to experiment with it 😅
i got lots of problems from experimenting something about what i know about it, and refusing to make the same and boring thing just to « memorise » it… (sorry if my english is awful, i try to improve it my own way 😅 and i’m french so that’s pretty self explanatory « croissant 😅 »)
Lol The irony of being :38 seconds in and I'm already called out lmao
Formerly ENFP but once I found out I have AuDHD and masked a majority of my outward behaviors, I had to retest.
When I went to retest 3 years after the initial test I found out a few things:
1. I took the initial test with an absolute bias towards who I WANTED to be vs recognizing the truth about my preferences.
2. I realized it was a LOT easier to take the test honestly after unmasking
3. I can't honestly take a single MBTI test without getting the INFJ result every time now lol So that's validating.
Ok, now that I'm all figured out in my comment, I can resume the rest of the 9 minutes actually paying attention instead of hyperfocusing on the first 38 seconds lol
Hi it's me again 😅 lol
So I made it to 3:23 before needing to pause again because YES!
I constantly concern myself with whether or not I upset anyone or to what end they do or don't like me and it's never because I NEED them too.
It's because I just need to know if I understand them correctly so I can better understand everyone correctly!
You got us on everything related. My love of finding family / research, reading about their lives, wondering cemeteries to taking photos ( love photography) of gravestones to also matching those to family , to DNA matches / stuff to looking for matches to unidentified people & researching missing people to reading & watching crime & mystery stuff . It all connects somewhere .
I think I relate to 90% of this... I feel like I can learn things 'quickly' but- I guess maybe it can just appear quick because I isolate myself in a room for 3 days watching every single video and experimenting like crazy until I get it figured out lol. So maybe that is still INFJ. I also think I understand my feelings- but maybe because I make a lot of effort of trying to figure it out haha. Like 3 years of therapy later- and I think I finally have a good system for figuring out why I'm feeling what I'm feeling.
So all but like maybe one of the points entirely described me so I might be an INFJ (like I’ve half-assumed for like the past year) but I’m still going to watch every RUclips video on it cuz people keep saying I’m not. 😔
Sure we can think on our feet, we just cannot translate it to a human language off the hammock or before having an espresso!
I get INFJ and INFP on 16 personalities. So I've researched sooooo much. And unfortunatley im an INFJ lol .
5:57 😂😂😂😂😂😂 please stop exposing me .. yes I mean keep going because you are right ..
when u feel more intj than infj, but all your test results is infj.... and that's it I really had an identity crisis.... and sometimes i feel like all that mbti is me ....
I wouldn't lie and say im color blind. Something so dumb and insignificant, but still wouldn't lie. Just say i like several and name off like 3-4 colors that i love. Lying makes problems down the road and i dont want to create more drama, especially over something so little.
I actually took the official Myers-Briggs test from a psychiatrist about 25-30 yrs ago, and it was determined I was an INFJ. It explained a lot. It's always good to know that you're not alone... even if you are the rarest personality type.
INFJ is basically Kim Dokja of Omniscient Reader Viewpoint. We felt like the world was made for us to read. We are part of this world yet apart from it, like a reader of book, watchers of films, we are not the protagonist, nor antagonist, not even the side kicks of any stories, they say people are like books, but we INFJ are the READER, COMMENTER, & REVIEWER of life, we chose & pick which story we want to read, sometimes we stick longer, sometime we left, that is why we always felt alone, even in the middle of crowds, full of life.
Interesting
I find Infjs very sensitive to criticism. Unlike the opposites like entp entjs that wouldn’t take jokes and criticism soooo personally like infjs would. Learned this from experience after years of hanging out with infjs
Not even the jump rope thing. Why so specific?!
But we can know ourselves, we just need to spend a lot of time mapping our whole personality, or whatever is there instead of one.
Also we are rebelous, but on greater matters we know are horribly wrong.
We won't risk bringing drama to a family gathering bc of some outdated beliefs. But we absolutely will go overthrow the government if we think that's what the world needs.
Now I am sure I am an infj
glad to help
.... I thought I was INFP and now I wonder if I'm not INFJ. I was just here to understand my INFJ friend better and now I'm lost 😭
I got an ISFP-T because I misunderstood a lot, hated the result, found out about INFJs (I am -T) and now I finally get the appreciation for MBTI. Though, I still chameleon my behavior into all other 15 types.
Also, I appreciate INFPs, including men like you, you make me feel more positive :)
I agree about people showing up as INFJ's & It not being true. This video was hysterical! Thank you for confirming that I still am an INFJ. 😅
It is absurd how many Infjs felt the need to watch this video (and comment). The video was to prove to others they AREN'T Infjs. WHY ARE WE ALL HERE?!
Yeah I’m 100 % an INFJ
Never felt more glad I'm not one of these feebleminded INFJ
so then what type are you?
One of my favorite sayings is “Don’t bring me agita.” 😂
I was just thinking to myself how
"One second I can feel everything is so detached and nothing makes sense and then in the other I can make sense of it and make it familiar" it's like my Fe just puts a leash on my Ti
Makes me wonder for an ENTP who has Ti first and then Fe it must be opposite?
Like everything seems familiar and one second I'm so happy to be in this world and then suddenly I want to just get away with it all coz it all seems detached
Well that was scary. How on earth did you get into my house and into my head? 🤯 Spot on.
I tried to avoid being infj but somehow i kept being wrong,.all my hobbies are related to creativity, i have been able to actually be friends with people who hate everyone.
First point: I hate drama. Ok, well thanks for reaffirming my INFJ-ness, let's still watch the entire video.
Edit: ok, the slow-learner part was wrong, I just love learning random stuff so much. The rest is spot-on. I've been working on identifying my feelings in the past years which led to the discovery that I'm a lesbian at the age of 24.
As for favorites, I could tell you my favorite color and ice cream flavor, but not my favorite movie, song or food. I dislike those type of questions. As a middle aged INFJ, my Fi use has gotten a little better. I can tell you how I generally feel, but not in a detailed immediate way like an INFP. Once you hit age 40, you get a little more access to your inferior and shadow functions.
I don't have any of these traits. Do more, please.
You could possibly be a different personality
I also thought I was intj as mbti test gave me it. But soon I realised infj and I match all the traits of infj
As an infj, I love certain people and I want to study them but I hate people aswell for being cruel beings and just stupid af. It's rather split
1. No. The reasons behind why are different though.
2. No. People annoy me a lot, but I also like them more than a lot of other people I encounter, I'm also not in the mindset that everyone is terrible because of all the bad things happening in the world.
Bad things have always happened, but so have good things, I don't get how people can have friends, or family who care about them, who have seen people do good deeds, and still think humanity is horrible.
Not to mention if we didn't have people, we wouldn't be nearly as advanced as we are, actually, we wouldn't even be here.
To answer the question of why I usually don't like INFJs: They're hard for me to read and figure out, we're never on the same page, it's almost like they're from a different world compared to me, and it's not because they're the mysterious and unique type, I feel this sort of "I can't read you as well" block with all the NJs but INFJs are the hardest for me to understand.
3. It depends, if it is useful and not just someone being rude, and they actually know what they're talking about and have stuff to back up what they're saying, then I don't mind criticism and I'd prefer it to someone just letting things slide until they can't take it anymore and they explode because they were too worried about hurting someone's feelings, so they didn't tell them what the problem was.
This happens to me all the time, people will get mad at me out of nowhere when they should have just spoken up a long time ago so we could sort things out then and there, I'm not a mind reader, if I was I'd be taking that on the road and monetizing my talents.
I don't feel guilty at all that I upset them, in fact, it actually lowered my opinion of them and unlike them, I'm not afraid to let my opinion about someone be known to their face.
4. Yessss. Thinking on my feet let's my show off my skills.
5. Yes. It's not to this extreme, but I have a fairly broad range of interests and I'm always looking to pick up new skills.
You said WHAT about ISFJs?! Tsk tsk tsk, this SJ slander has gone too far, it's going down now, the SJs vs the NPs, we fight at 2:30 PM on the third Wednesday in June 2026 behind a hospital, that way, if someone gets injured we won't have to go too far to get medical attention.
I bet the schedule is making the NPs shake in their mismatched socks hahahahaha.
I think we should start things off with a cheer competition, and the NPs can pick what's next.
6. Yes. I pick up things quicker than most people I know, and I have a really good memory too which helps out a lot with that.
7. Yes.
8. I usually don't give my feelings enough attention to understand them.
9. Most of the time absolutely not. Not only am I rule follower, but I'm a rule enforcer. When I see someone doing something they're not supposed to be doing, I don't even think about it, it's like autopilot for me correcting them.
When it comes to following the rules, I'll follow them as long as the person giving them has the authority to tell me what to do, and they know what they're talking about.
Otherwise, I will question them and suggest a better way if I see it, and if they're not willing to listen, I tell them to get bent and and I leave, which probably isn't something an INFJ would do lmao.
I took the test years ago and was an infj, took it again recently and was still an infj, and took it again with two close friends who gave me their opinion of me while I was taking the test because they thought I would get something other than Infj. and I still got infj after that I became obsessed with reading about it because I've never felt so understood. I started asking people to take this test, read about their personality types, and found out that my two closest friends are both Enfjs. I found out that my own sister is also an infj, which shocked me, but is still so obvious when I think about it. We have a love-hate relationship because we understand eachother so much that it hurts. When I realized that none of the people I spoke to about this test were really interested in reading about themselves, I wondered why only infjs have such an interest in MBTI? From this I came to the conclusion that only an infj could have created this test. I googled it, and yes, Katharine Briggs was an infj, her daughter was an infp, they created this test together.