You should retake the test. You were still young back then. Just to make sure. And the best way to identify your type is to do your own research and be honest with yourself which one that fits the most on how u perceive the world and your decision making
"For some INFJ's, confilct is distressing" That hit home. I do everything I can to avoid fighting or arguing, but I procrastinate a lot and tend to bottle up emotions, which at times lead to unwanted conflict, haha.
I was in therapy in my early twenties and my therapist gave me a personality test to take. He didn't say who created the test. He told me what my personality type was by giving me an example of what I might do in a certain situation. Just a few years ago I came across the Briggs/Myers personality test and took it out of curiosity. I recognized it as the exact same test my therapist had given me years before. The results said I'm an INFJ. My therapist's explanation for my personality type was this: He said if I was standing in line for movie tickets and someone cut in front of me, I likely wouldn't say anything, but if there was a child in front of me and someone cut in front of him, I would immediately confront the one who cut and literally make him go to the back of the line. My family has always said, "You favor the underdog". I wasn't sure what that meant. I just always hated seeing someone weaker being picked on. It made me furious. The first ten years of my life were filled with trauma and uncertainty, a lot of conflict and anger. I hate the yelling and fighting, and used to go off by myself with a book just to get away from it. I always just thought it was because I'm a pacifist, but I realize now there is more to it than that. My therapist showed me how to defend and take up for myself without losing the natural empathy I have, and I will always be grateful for that. Before I learned how to do that, I was pretty much a target for anyone to take advantage of.
@@jaggedlittlepill100 YES. It's all about supporting others, helping the underdogs, at the expense of our empathy being abused or unnoticed. Really glad you took great steps to realizing your strengths, mah dude.
INTJ's hate conflict just as much... Conflict is awful, non-productive, and a waste of valuable time. As for the underdogs (although I certainly can't speak for all INTJ's) I've noticed this trend with myself also. I can't seem to speak up for me, but when it comes to someone I perceive has a lesser capability of standing up for themselves I feel a need to intervene on their behalf. I know the INTJ type is largely seen as a bad guy or behind the scenes, but I just wanted to throw that out there since I can't seem to clarify my type. - Sincerely, someone who types both INFJ and INTJ consistently and apologizes to everyone at the grocery store lol.
me, an infj: I just need someone to talk to... someone: I'm right here for you, do you wanna get something out of your chest? me: *shakes head* i got nothing wrong, how about you? are you alright-
Being an INFJ, in my opinion, is absolute hell. I always felt completely isolated from others, especially in my childhood to the point I started to believe I was just "weird." I fell into deep depression early into my teenage years with frequent bouts of anxiety. Now, as an adult, things have definitely become easier, but the depression lingers on.
Totally agree. It's horrible being an INFJ, you always put the others in front of yourself and you get hurt multiple times and can't stand up for yourself properly
I agree! being infj is tiring. The part I hate about INFJ is when I understand everyone but no one understands me, it's really suck. But sometimes I think being INFJ isn't bad. whatever it is there must be some benefit from infj. either good for oneself or for others.
Me, and INFJ who has taken the test multiple times with the same result but still watching the video: *interesting* Edit: I know some tests are inaccurate, you can stop telling me now lol. Edit again: Guys, it's a test to learn something more about yourself for fun. Let people enjoy things. It's not that deep.
The first 2 times I took it, I was INFJ, but the third time, I was INTP. I will just assume that I'm INFJ most of the time. Both personalities are very rare and similar anyway.
1. You make decisions easily 2. You do not shy away from a challenge 3. You love being surrounded by people 4. You are not super attracted to humanitarian acts 5. You love testing theories in real life 6. You are in tune with your emotions and have no trouble voicing your emotions
@@salshabillah29 well online is not your true identity. It is who you want to be. You feel more connected to the people online because you don't have to share your face. That can make a vast difference in how many people you talk to.
Literally all the INFJs came here because they were overthinking "wait what if I'm not an INFJ?!" Edit: suddenly I got like 3k likes(? 😂😂😂 thnx, I was honestly talking about myself but I guess I really exposed y'all In conclusion, INFJs world domination ✋
I wish they explained what a matured INFJ looks like in all the other contexts. I’m definitely an INFJ, but therapy has helped me learn boundaries that may “take away” from my people pleasing.
exactly, helping people in the way of shining a light in their darkness for them to see hope again is always gonna be what I want to do but I'm not gonna abandon myself to help, I've kinda emotionally distanced myself with people
Yes, I thought the same thing. I'm still on my way to become a mature person, I think, but still I believe I'm making a lot of progress in putting myself first. I've set some boundaries with my parents and chose to take to my needs and feelings first rather than to theirs. You know what? It worked, they changed and we're in a better place because of that. Also, regarding the criticism, of course it's still hard to get it considering how deeply personal any of the work you do is. I mean, you take this part of your soul and get it in a broad light for someone else to see. And it's so easy to get offended, but criticism from a person you like and admire actually will probably make your work even better. And being an INFJ most certainly helps you to choose someone great to actually show your work to or ask for a personal advice.
INFJs are social chameleons. As they grow older the social cues they pick up from people will help them navigate just about any situation. Kind of like a personality “mystique”. A young INFJ is often quirky, awkward and often say weird things that people misunderstand or cannot relate at all. This isolates them and often make them feel like an oddball. Age and experience will teach them not only to hide these quirky bits well, but to use their empathic skills practically. At work they are either often seen as calm, cautious, pleasant and someone you are drawn to trust. Or they may successfully take on a seemingly extroverted and assertive personality (but this drains them a lot) Things to take to heart. Only your inner circle and family can be trusted with the “real you”. If you are fragile, handle yourself with care. Famous INFJs include Oprah, Martin Luther King, Adolf Hitler
I'm an INFJ, but I have been trying to push myself to not shy away from challenges. Mostly because I know that doing the same thing over and over isn't going to get me anywhere in life anymore. I'm not as attracted to humanitarian jobs because I like peace and quiet and really enjoy the weather so I want to be a meteorologist. I'm still in the emotional support part for my friends and random other people but it's not something I'd do professionally. Partially because I don't like the thought of charging people money for emotional support, or just to have someone to go to.
This is the only thing I've ever tested as. However, I prefer to be extremely loud, brash, vindictive and aim to over-achieve. Likely due to unique circumstance and trauma. So I guess the only advice I can give? It has to be fun. Or important. Now, just follow me here. I was volunteered very young for a 'running club', got taken to a public event without prior knowledge, and _still_ remember realizing there were cameras going off in the bleachers. The anxiety hindered my performance when I was _told_ I was participating. I did not take this well. Hundreds of people saw/recorded me both fail, and let down my peers. Before I was ten. Within a year, I'd eclipsed everyone in my new school. The humiliation I felt at such a young age, forced me to redouble my efforts. For that first year, I kicked up clumps of dirt like I was swinging a golf club as I ran. This stuck for years, and I, honestly, was able to run short-distance at sub-olympic speeds. Hell, I had to chase a _bus_ for like three blocks three years after I _quit running._ It went from a source of frustration, to a point of pride. I learned to TRY to achieve, because _I could._ I have other examples, but that may be the most prudent. Besides that, I was regarded extremely highly in my youth, and while I take challenges seriously, there is NOTHING I enjoy more than being rivaled. Not beaten. Not lorded over. Equal. Because I know, no matter the outcome, it will make ME better. Plus it's going to be fun as all hell. It's a mindset that... I guess, I organically grew into. Because I took the idea seriously. Because through introspection, I was able to change. Rise to the challenge. _Because I can._ (Infact, that might be part of it. There hasn't been and will NEVER be a situation, where I _won't_ tell myself, implicitly, that _"I_ am Enough. I am sufficient."- and I _have_ been. Learn to love testing yourself. I guess you could say I became addicted to that first time I did, and _surprised_ myself.)
@@magne7771 That’s a lovely story! I’m proud of you man. I’ve always been the top of my class. I could never run very fast, but my arm strength is kind of weirdly out of proportion. I have maybe 200 kids in my entire school. Everyone knows everyone. Everyone knows I’m the top of my class. Everyone hates me for it. I’ve been bullied and teased and pranked for anything I succeed at. Whenever I try to let myself out of the imaginary box of anxiety, my classmates shove me right back in. I bet there’s enough crazy rumor about me to right a book. Trust no one, speak only if you know their intentions, always be on high guard. It exhausts me. Terrifies me. I’m their favorite target, not that they have many, there being only 30 kids in my class. I want to get courage, but it’s so hard, knowing that they’ll hate me for every success.
What Psych has done here are the stereotypes of INFJ, which are close but also far cry from the usual and typical INFJs you see in real life. I am an INFJ with 6w7 SX/SP in Enneagram. That 6w7 you see there? That means I am more outgoing than the usual core 4 or 5 INFJs. You see that Sx for instinct? That means I am not comfortable with challenge but I will do it if it makes me be the better person. That sx means my reactions to things are completely different from the typical INFJ. :)
Despite all the attention infjs get about being rare and whatever their emotional hardships seem so overlooked. To all the infjs you've been working hard for others its okay to rest and take breaks :) -infp
Maybe thats a sign that you are starting to grow as an infj... Getting to maturity? Idk I am also an Infj and I can relate to your comment💟 trust your intuition when it tells you that you are a true Infj... Dont get into confusion😘
@@grachiamoina5517 bruuh knowing whether you're an INFJ or not isn't just a matter of intuition and can even be the result of a mistype after rationalization (especially based on Fi which desperately wants to be unique). If you're INFJ you have Ni-Fe-Ti-Se, you dont just "know"
I'm so proud of u,,i don't know where to take the test but i can't open up,when i want to open up if i suspect i have anything or i want to share things,my brain tells me "It will go wrong" "what if you were wrong? Attention seeker" or "you will harm them" and i get pushed back into my room T.T
@@Miimiiplayzbrawlstars honestly, it really comes down to what exactly you intend to say. It will actually really impact your relationship if you are careless. That is something to really remind yourself. Make sure that you tune in to the recipient's emotions; think through if what you are going to say will negatively impact you, them or both and then follow up from there. But for me, I just voice out anything and apologise directly to the person if I've hurt their feelings. It's better to hurt them right there and then than to drag the situation on until they find out themselves. That level of pain is terrible and would destroy a relationship. Temporary breaks are better than permanent separation imo
As an INFJ, I feel like in all my relationships other people benefit so much and I get nothing out of it. It doesn't feel unfair to me though. It just feels like my entire reason for existence is to help others, even if I get nothing back. It's to the point were I feel selfish if I want something back for the good stuff I've done. I feel so unappreciated all the time, but then I immediately feel selfish just for thinking that.
Don't... Giving urself some love .n taking a step back, occasionally saying No...it's not selfish... It's self love..n it's important for taking care of others around u too.. I realised this in past 2. Years..n still unable to practice it perfectly...like today I wanted to say No to a friend for something..but ended up following her...no regrets though
We are interest based after all :T it’s a little hard to shake off that habit, butttt it does mean we need to work on our boundaries AND our communication though. Can’t expect others to read our mind or know how we feel especially when we ourselves keep acting like all is fine until it’s clearly not. Then we just look like we blew up out of no where to them, trust me, they probably don’t know how you feel :/ It’s not selfish even though it seriously does feel like it sometimes, but it’s not. We have needs just like everyone else and to have a harmonious relationship with others we need to treat ourselves as equals too and voice our needs. Most of the time honestly, people are okay to help and in cases are happy about us speaking up
see..this is how I know this isnt my category (i fit well) After some time, i start feeling used/ignored for my efforts. literall other side of the coin.
I would also like to add, that it is very important for an INFJ to love themselves, to understand and respect themselves, cos chances are thin that we would physically meet someone quite like us in our lives, n so very few people will understand all the feelings n related thoughts we have... So we need to give that love and comfort to ourselves, simply cos maybe no one else will.
Remember that knowing your personality type is a way that you can use to improve yourself and grow! If you're a INFJ and relate to any trait of this video, remember that you don't have to take it for granted if you don't want to! Everyone have strengths and weakness (like said on the video) and it's in your own power to make the difference that you really want in your live. Every personality type is amazing in it own way, but sometimes the INFJ personality can be misunderstood for being the most "rare" personality type (it isn't anymore), always remember that rare doesn't mean being special or better than anyone else. The MBTI theory is more about preferences than strict behaviors, so don't stick yourself to just one pattern if you're not comfortable with that.
1- You make decisions using impersonal choices 2- You do not shy away from a challenge 3- You love being surrounded by people 4- You’re not super attracted to humanitarian jobs 5- You love to test theories in real life 6- You’re in tune with your emotions and have no trouble voicing your emotional needs
Was tested as an INFJ. Before testing, my friends would always wondered why my thought process were different and it always has to do with making sure every parties are not harmed when we do something. I'm always the only one out of the group who did not have conflict with anyone and would be the middle person they go to, in case there's conflicts. I do not like being in crowded places and would find ways to help someone in need, whenever I heard bout them... This also meant that, I'm often taken advantage of. Because I felt sorry for people too easily.. I just can't help it..
I don't want to go around just _spreading opinions,_ but... The only people I've ever felt sorry for were _innocent victims._ People without a trail of ruined lives, picked functionally at random. I'll admit, I have a very persecutory mindset because of it. However, I can confidently say, I've _protected_ more people, than have taken advantage of me, by being this way. I will also admit, that it made me proactive. The type to intervene when someone _were_ to take advantage of _you._ To take what they did a step further _on them._ To hope the flashbacks are enough to stop them from _doing it again, to someone else._ It led to me being confident in the fact, that in _my_ trail of victims, so to speak, none are innocent. I won't say that's a good thing. I won't even promote it. But I'll say this much. It shows me with surprising clarity, who is _worth_ your sorrow. I wouldn't recommend it. It's dehumanizing. It puts you _above_ them on a clear hierarchy. But it IS a solution.
INFJs use logic to make decisions. It's not their primary function, but they can and do cycle through analytical thought processes to 'check' their intuitions. Intuition actually tells you to check your work with logic. Often times intuition is just subconscious pattern recognition that requires rational organizing and construction. Most times when I get a feeling or intuition, logic then processes that feeling into an argument. Logic then presents the argument and intuition checks that, and the process continues. With practice you get really good at it-with very hard to beat rationales because they are a balance of thinking and feeling. This is a perfect example, my intuition told me that INFJs do use logic and that to claim they don't is not only inaccurate, but unfair. Then the rational mind put together the arguments, and the illustrations kicked in to illustrate the point.
I actually believe you're right. I kinda think I'm an INFJ because it's traits hit me like perfectly for most of the parts, except the logic and I kinda learned when to have empathy and when not in specific instances, let's say for example a competition. So I'm definitely with you there 😊
Is it possible that our way of thinking is different then what could be considered purely logical thought? That the fact that we string together past life experiences into an answer in the face of reality isn't actually purely logical? Despite how accurate it can be, it's less like we are examining things purely case to case, but rather everything as a whole with huge bias. I've never realized that before, perhaps I've been wrong about what being logical means this whole time.
@@TheGlader2 Actually stringing past life experiences and observations together into a cohesive hypothesis is pattern recognition and it IS logical thinking. It's just been given a bad rap by dishonest actors who use 'lived experience' to push a self-serving agenda. Just because there is no broad-based, years-long clinical study proving the INFJ's observation doesn't mean they aren't correct. Usually INFJs make the kind of observations that would lead to conclusions that would never be funded for research. Just exact like that conclusion I just drew, that the people that fund big research would never research why they only research (and publish) stuff that leads to them to making money. That's a long-term pattern recognition that I've drawn into a hypothesis, long before it was widely discussed.
@@cynthiajohnson9412 I used to think the same way yesterday, but there's more to it than that. I think it's not what people would consider to be typical logical thinking; rather, it's our version of logical thought and it's special. If you are an INFJ like me you probably don't go spouting all of your logical conclusions whenever you feel like it because you know that people probably wouldn't understand or would be opposed, if it were regular logic, why wouldn't they?
Me: *loves debating ideas and philosophies* Also me: *hates arguing, gets stressed out over the possibility of arguing, internalizes criticism for the rest of my life*
Infj be like at every sentence : "Well, that is me and not me at the same time..." => wants critisms but takes it personally => wants to go out with some friends and ends up exhausted at the end of the day =>wants to test their ideas in the real life but too busy in their own world to do it Etc
I’m a definite INFJ. I tested twice not knowing anything about these types. Both times I tested INFJ. I feel like I’m a mature INFJ. At 65 I’m not so into people pleasing as I used to be. I was a teacher for 36 years, guiding and directing children. It was such a pleasure to me, other than dealing with parent conflicts. 😅
The most frustrating thing is seeing every comment being “Me, being an INFJ” but in real life I don’t know any INFJ’s. It’s just “Me, being a lonely alien to the world and trying to connect with people who are not my kind”.
try looking into the cognitive functions, infj uses Ni-Fe-Ti-Se while intj uses Ni-Te-Fi-Se so they're still very different. there's some videos on youtube that can help you out so i suggest looking at those
@@sbn6340 I've taken many different personality tests and have gotten either INFJ or INTJ. More detailed tests has shown that I have no preference over thinking or feeling. So, whether I get INFJ or INTJ is entirely up to what questions are asked and how the questions are formatted.
@@darkjedi261 maybe its better to find out which functions you use by researching instead of tests(?) Because tests aren't very reliable since every time you take a new one, your answer is going to be affected because you already know what 'kind' of questions are coming, and what can lead to a certain results, etc. etc. whether you intended to or not. (sorry if this is worded weirdly)
Yeah, the only one I did not totally relate to as an infj was the serving others one-as an infj with social anxiety, my anxiety often prevents me from stepping up and actively helping others. However, I do often help those I care about, and I am always there for others if they want to vent or talk.
@@AsianEspionage i remember helping some new player find chest meanwhile the other player just left after asking "so it just finding chest?" It just felt so good helping someone cus I can't do it irl for same reason :')
I tested as an INFJ twice in college, and fit all the descriptions. I’m 50 now, have had LOTS of therapy and have learned how to express my emotions more effectively, but it’s still difficult. I’m not sure why the INFJ personality would be something anyone would want, honestly. My therapist calls me a “super feeler”, and having such deep emotional reactions has even led me to restrict the shows I watch. I can’t stand Facebook, I can’t deal with how awful people are to each other. My feeling things much more deeply than others has been useful in helping other women in recovery programs and church, and for that I’m thankful, but I would never ask for this personality type. It’s too hard.
For the record, I'm content with my non-INFJ personality type. I've only seen one comment saying they wish they were an INFJ. I'm sure there would be things you'd miss about it though. I'm ESTJ and sometimes feel like I lack depth or feeling for others (can't speak for all ESTJs) and though I did well in school I'm slow to pick up on things. So trust me, every personality type has its drawbacks.
Sometimes I wonder if I'm an INFJ or a different INFJ from people like you?🤔 I worry a lot about people even people I'm not close to but I struggle to understand them sometimes or do I just overthink? I also love helping people but it's gotten to the point where I created boundaries so as not to get drain because I get drained way too easily. Am I still an INFJ? 🤔
How I react to sappy films, usually bawling out crying at the sad parts, doesn't stop me from watching great movies. However, I do have to hide the tears, because it's not really manly enough for other people around, but I sometimes get to miss scenes because of it. oh well.
@Ony DupuyCommented on the fact i was curious and trying to learn about myself which happens to be INFJ on the MBTI. On the other hand, you can see the video in the opposite prospect if it doesn't apply to you as an INFJ and that exactly occurred to me, thus the comment. Idk if u understood that but i do hope i'm making sense.
1. you make decisions using impersonal logic 0:40 2. you do not shy away from a challenge 1:28 3. you love being surrounded by people 1:53 4. you are not super attracted to humanitarian jobs 2:35 5. you love to test theories in real life 3:19 6. you are in tune with your own emotions and have no trouble voicing your emotional needs 3:49 I hope I could help! :)
I bet most INFJ's would find it difficult to understand why everyone wants to be as rare as them. It's hard enough trying to find your place in the world as an INFP. It's not easy trying to help everyone around you when you know they will probably never understand the real you❤️
I recently took a test and I was an INFJ-T. I found out that it was a rare personality to have, so I have been watching videos over it ever since. I was so scared i wouldn't find anyone like me. Thanks to y'all for sharing you experiences in the comment section😭
As an INFJ it's causes me so much frustration when I am sick and people just treat me casually even the ones I am very close with... As an INFJ I am very leftout when this happens cause I put everyone's need before me and have a high sense of what the other person wants... But doing this everyday 24/7 exhausts me alot I need some of this attention as well from specific peoples, I am totally drained out :'(
ditto. same in my life. about to door slam some users. unfortunatly i can't seperate from the world. but i do go be alone on my motorcycle or in woods or just walk away from the house to clear my head. i can never get to any projects around here because my family is constantly braking everything and im the only one that fixes anything. im one guy being 3 guys and none of it for me. i feel you.
*sees title of video* “oh god, you’re right, I’ve been an imposter all along.” *actually watches video* “no no...this just confirms further that I’m an INFJ 😂”
Same! My twin sister is an Intj 😂😂 ( and I am an infj). She can be pretty stressing some times (she is a perfectionist and takes her perfecctionism ON ME), but I love her, she is my favourite person in the whole world! We do weird stuff together and we also have the same humor xd
Literally we infjs should make a community I hardly have anyone to share my thoughts and I have soo much to tell but idk why I never feel like sharing with others and just keep it to myself.
"I have soo much to tell but idk why I never feel like sharing with others and just keep it to myself" ^ironically why INFJ communities are rarely active - a fellow INFJ
I didn't know being an INFJ was coveted until I watched this. Tbh theres a lot I dont like about being an INFJ. Especially not being able to express my emotions or taking too much on from other people and suffering from burn out because of it. Its not that great of a personality to have. But I do love how much I care and how much I feel I want to change things to make the world better.
Take heart , e mbrace your sensitivity & kindness, without which the world would be worse , As Eleanor Roosevelt said, " the most important thing in any relationship is not what you get but what you give "
The reason why you see a lot of infjs under so many mbti videos/related posts its because we are trying to know ourselves better, cuz we literally dont so-
Dude I’m so lucky I’m only 17 and I’ve met this other amazing dude (im a guy too) who is also INFJ and holy shit we literally converse and debate for hours over text and even when we disagree over controversial stuff we try to understand each other’s perspective and actually never end up arguing even if we disagree (which we rarely do) it’s honestly so nice tbh I wish more people were like us instead of the other way around like many INFJs seem to wish they were like others but nah if everyone was like us there would probably be so much less conflict in this world 😭
You are lucky! He’s definitely a keeper. Never let him go. Sometimes INFJs don’t keep in contact with friends as time goes on. Don’t let that happen. I know life happens but try to keep in contact weekly or monthly.
omg im 16 i would love to meet someone else whose an infj i literally keep saying i just want someone to talk to and debate about things for hours, and i feel selfish when i like my personality theres not even a lot i like about myself , and i just re-took the personality test and both times i was infj but the first time i was infj-a and the second infj-t dude do you have and instagram
Does anyone have like all of the characteristics of INFJ but just refuse to believe that they are just because they don't want to feel different or special? Edit:I literally posted this comment for other INFJ just to prove me wrong, but nope
Same. I fit INFJ so well and I took the mtbi test multiple timeeeees to make sure. I love being an infj but at the same time,I truly don't see the hype with our type.
Lmao I hate being an infj. I’m always the odd one out of everything and call myself weird anddd sometimes I can be really nice to people and make the effort to help or listen to them yet I don’t get a similar treatment back :)
It sucks, but sadly, it's a vibe we live through. You can try to grow out of it, which I'm sure you can do, or you can stay as a piece of it. But I get you though. I'm a male INFJ and it has frickin been ToUGh trying to assimilate into high school friend groups that literally have nothing in common with me outside sports and frickin common stuff. But thinking differently doesn't make you weird, it makes you different but not weird because a lot of what you think of is true.
I don’t understand why the INFJ is a “coveted personality type.” I once told someone that I am an INFJ (& yes. I really am. I read that it’s the most mistyped personality type, so I took the test on 3 separate occasions just to make sure) & they asked me if that was a mental illness. I was like, “It might as well be.” 😆
@@etruscanetwork i'm unsure if this was a joke or not but esfj is probably the human's most common type. most of them just aren't interested in mbti yk :)
But does it really matter which personality is the rarest or the most common? I used to obsess (is that how you spell it?) over being unique and like different from others until I realised life would probably be better If I just be myself
Because probably INFJs are very curious with psychology and personality that's why we are here... Do you think an extroverted person will find time staying at home studying personality? of course they are not here. LOL
1. You make decisions using impersonal logic 2. You do not shy away from a challenge 3. You love being surrounded by people 4. You are not super attracted to humanitarian jobs 5. You love to test theories in real life 6. You are in tune with your own emotions and have no trouble voicing your emotional needs
No matter how much I want to think through my decision making, I can't. I was raised by my father, a Us Marine. As a child I tested into INTJ. When I let go of my past I've tested twice into INFJ. I'm not willing to let go of my peace to be with people anymore. I've learned to be at peace with myself. It's not easy. But it's not hard either. I'm loving being me, now
Yh and it's more like is this personality type really covers all the complexities I have,... It's like I relate heavily to it but still doubt if it's something I belong to
Hey, sakinorva or keys2cognition provide pretty accurate tests. If you're still doubting after the results, then learn about cognitive functions and see what you identify with.
me an infj:*watches carefully* edit:im still an infj yay lolol have a great day everyone! OH and reminder - you’re amazing. - you’re loved. - you’re talented. - you’re strong. - you can do anything. - you are worth it....
As someone who tested as an INFJ for years in high school but has since tested as an INTJ, this video made some great points. I also suggest INFJs to look into the INFP type. Many INFPs mistype themselves as INFJ.
Me, who took the test three times and still get INFJ but doubt because yes I'm emphatetic but not good at comforting people cause i'm not good at words: *_clicks_*
Have you read up on the INFP personality type? Here's a Psycho2Go video that will hopefully help you figure yourself out: ruclips.net/video/9-TepZ0WVKQ/видео.html 🤗 If you don't identify with either of these completely, then maybe you're something else altogether. I had an acquaintance who took the test twice and got INFJ as well, but they admittedly didn't identify with it, and I didn't see them as such either. I believed that they were an ISFJ instead. 👍🏻
@@Arlovebird89 thanks, I've seen that and I relate more to INFJ. I guess I'm just scared talking to people and worried that I might say something they wouldn't like.
Nope.... those numbers are STILL low. as of typing this, there's about only 176,896 views on this video. FIRST off... that number of views is STILL NO WHERE near as a high likely hood factoring in the ENTIRE PLANET! and secondly... not even EVERYONE(AND still counting)of those 176,896 are even commenting. in fact... its probably only a somewhat(to roughly)low percent of those people who find themselfs commenting at all. THEN you can factor in that maybe... yea there probably ARE(a FEW)people falsely claiming to be an infj. though... even if everybody else here WERE falsely claiming to be one, it would HARDLY dent those numbers on a planetary scale. and so infj's ARE in fact still very, VERY rare(well apparently. at least according to statistics). although... in my opinion? IF this comment section WERE in fact riddled with many liars... then THOSE numbers would probably be more telling of just how dishonest and insincere MOST people would generally be rather than anything contrary to the infj's statistics. . .
Honestly I feel like it's old news that INFJ is the rarest. Almost everyone I know are INFJs xD. I am one too but honestly, I don't think I'm all that sacrifice-yourself-to-help-others type of person. After watching the video it kinda made me realize that I might be more of an INTJ
because INFJ are usually the ones who even care about stuff like this. my ENFP sister could careless about it. she only took the test because i bribed her too. so its not as surprising as u think
I’ve consistently tested as an INFJ, but I happen to work in engineering which is typically filled with other personality types. I always wondered about that, but then a few years ago I was discussing assigning tasks with another engineer. I mentioned that I try to assign tasks to folks based on whether I think it’ll give them some job satisfaction, recognition, or try to distribute the “fun” tasks among people. (I mean, let’s face it, it’s still work so you can’t do that all the time hehe) The other engineer was very surprised and said they just assign tasks based on who can do it best. That was eye-opening to me.
"What if I've been lying to myself and others all along and I'm not really an INFJ?" *checks that I don't relate to any of these* *doesn't relate* "Okay, it's all good"
The feeling of being scared that you are not infj and you were just delusional all the time thinking wow I am so this and so that and thinking it will all come to and end lol
Me: Tries to avoid conversations because they drain my energy Also Me: Has at least a thousand conversations in my mind so I won't hurt others, but end up hurting my own feelings in the process, have an internal emotional breakdown and keep draining my energy so much that I'm barely a functional human being. Also Also Me: Somehow finds enough energy to turn into a ferocious beast because someone dared to hurt the defenseless weakling
Ughh... You are being way too relatable just that... I avoid conversations THAT drains my energy... If it is something I am interested in I can talk and talk but that also has a condition... I can talk when the other person is either understanding me well enough and is interested... And if I am lucky enough to get a convo partner that would love to have a healthy discussion (in thus again the thing is they will just understand like 25% of my thoughts in my minds so you see cannot share everything)
i- man, i make whole ass convos to use them the other days but most of the times the talk doesn't stay the same and i'm like 'wait, that's not what i practiced last night' then the whole day i feel down and just mentally fight with myself to stop talking to myself but i never stop talking to myself-
@@carat_horanghaedabs9214 That's so relatable. When I'm planning to discuss a certain topic with someone, I already have at least 3 different entire convos planned in my head to be prepared for all potential scenarios. But then the person says something completely different and I'm like "Hey, who allowed you to go off script? What the heck do I do now? I have no idea what to say now."
I’ve taken the test three times. INFJ twice, and ENFJ once. I’m an UBER/LYFT driver, and those short interactions with people tricked me into thinking I was good at socializing. I’ve gone back to college, and I’ve been in a lot of unrelated social situations since I took that test. I know better now. I like to think I’m logical, and in many ways, I am. But I couldn’t even imagine not considering other people’s feelings in being logical. I CAN think objectively, but mostly when I’m alone. I’m not sure I’d want to be an activist. I feel like nobody would listen to me, and for good reason. There are a hundred million voices all claiming to know better than other people, and the only thing they can agree in is that the world sucks. The people speaking the loudest tend to be inconsiderate of opinions that differ from their own. Lastly, I am not sure I’d trust the people who would listen to me. I’m not an expert, and it’s not easy to convince people with logic…but it’s very easy to indoctrinate them, and that’s the last thing I would want. I like taboo subjects, and wish they could be talked about more freely, and with more maturity. I love to learn, and always try to recognize what I don’t know. I feel like there’s more to say, but for the life of me, I can’t think of anything. Edit: I want to be intellectually honest, so after posting this comment, I went back and took the test a fourth time. I am still an INFJ-T
1. you make decisions using impersonal logic 0:40 2. you do not shy away from a challenge 1:28 3. you love being surrounded by people 1:53 4. you are not super attracted to humanitarian jobs 2:35 5. you love to test theories in real life 3:19 6. you are in tune with your own emotions and have no trouble voicing your emotional needs 3:49
@@bimothydilc7604 Hello there! Sorry it is little irrelevant but i don't relate 4 of these and 2 doubtful... So what do i stand? I saw Love Who's one and i relate with none. Thank you and have a great day ahead!
I am definitely an INFJ I am a helper, I take things personally too much, I base my decisions on my feelings, I get overwhelmed by being around alot of people, very difficult to express my own emotional needs. I am also extremely empathetic and cannot stand social injustice, however at times I don't say anything because I avoid conflict. The only thing I do relate to is that I am inspired by the world around me. (more like an enfj)
Me, an INFJ: *clears steps 1 - 5, watches step 6* ... I think therapy has helped me explore this more, because I don't do this by nature. I was TAUGHT to express my emotional needs and stick up for myself, it wasn't something I did before on my own volition. Sooo... still an INFJ, I think xD
Me too. I'm definitely INFJ, but I have worked on myself to get to where I can stand up for myself. I still secretly feel guilty about it sometimes and occasionally backpeddle into sacrificing what I want to help someone else. But I am learning to love myself first, and actually focusing my intuition purposely on myself has helped me to be more confident about my right to go for what I want. It also helps to think of myself (sometimes) as if I were another person who I love that I need to take care of.
Me, an INFJ-T: what if I’m not an INFJ? *watches video*: I still don’t know *Takes test for the 4th year in a row*: you are INFJ-T Me: okay, i still don’t believe you though
T? honey you actually aren't an INFJ, you did the 16 personalities test and that test it's so inaccurate :( 16 personalities doesn't follow cognitive functions it just go with the letters. I recommend you sakinorva or keys2cognition, if you still undecided you should investigate about cognitive functions
I second the keys2cognition. I took 16 personalities and got INFJ-T. I started watching INFJ videos and everything clicked. I was reading comments and looked up keys2cognition. According to that site, I am INFJ with possibly equal chances of being 2 other IN types if the description of INFJ didn't exactly resonate with me. I read the other 2 and related the most to INFJ.
Just so you all know, I have taken many of these tests and they all say INFJ. These tests are all new to me and the start of discovering these deep feelings and emotions that none of my friends are able to experience. Give me a break for once😪
1) you make decisions using impersonal logic 0:40 2) you do not shy away from a challenge 1:28 3) you love being surrounded by people 1:53 4) you are not super attracted to humanitarian jobs 2:35 5) you love to test theories in real life 3:19 6) you are in tune with your own emotions and have no trouble voicing your emotional needs 3:49 Have a nice day/night (:
I've been an INFJ for most of my 74 years, unless the first couple of years or so don't count! lol I'm only more aware of it now! "Unto thine own self be true", written on the Gates of Delphi in ancient Greece and per the late great William Shakespeare! "know thyself"....Socrates, so I do! Thanks for the info, "knowledge is power"....self-empowerment!!♥♥📚
As an INFJ I had some of my close friends tell me they “don’t know me at all” that was 2 years ago and I’ve done the work to try and be more open and talkative about myself but I just can’t seem to feel comfortable with the idea. I think things like I’m not so important to think people want to know me like that. Most people only care about what you have to offer. I’m not saying that is what it’s like for me since they reassure me. It’s just sadly a bad habit. Also never letting the comment go 🥲😭 had me in tears for a few days.
Every of my friends have said that to me....even saying I scare them or surprise them sometimes.... Even if I still worry that I'm too talkative sometimes.... They say I barely speak
That sounds more like INFP lol. Extroverted feeling wants to help others after your Ni has done all the mental work. INFP consider their own feelings first, are you sure you aren't that?
@@skireplay1776 I mean, we can never be too sure if we rely solely on 16personalities or, hell, any online personality test. Consult a psychiatrist for a proper test and I can almost guarantee you won't get INFJ
@@altx1 WTF bro you did not know me at all and typing i'm for sure no INFJ, I spend a lot of time finding my personality type I dont rely on this test bro
@2021 S2G2 13 LEE MELISSA PUI YING read about this a lot for 99,99999999999999999999999% Im Ni cognitive function and Fe match for me more than Te. And a lots of thing for INFJ just seem very accurate for me. Which is not happening with every other type
Actually I don't feel like helping people is my goal in life or anything like that. But whenever I see someone sad I run to them and try my best to make them feel fine. Some times I get tired by solving everyone's problem and all their emotions make me over whelmed and I say forget people just focus on work but then again I see someone in problem and I try to help them..
the fact that i will “seek constructive criticism” but only really do it make sure i’m still perfect and immediately defend myself or feel awful if i wasn’t perfect
I was always directly on the border with F and T, so I’ve always easily related to both INFJ and INTJ personality types. The only one on this list that was a little wobbly is acceptance to criticism. I’ve built up a wall from… other issues. So that’s why I’m tolerant of criticism. In fact, sometimes I beg for it when it comes to my art.
Because it's not based on functions at all. There are loops and grips in all Personality types and INFJ is the most logical feeling type overall. They say INFPs are more into logical things while their inferior function is extroverted thinking??? Which is not even developed completely till they are elderly people. But for infjs thinking functions is in their 3th function which is very very active. And also it's introverted thinking function. Which means. Actually INFJs take A LOT OF LOGICAL decisions only for themselves rather than people. The overall video does not make sense.
because they simplify something that has way more depth and it makes a mockery of it. i want them to keep making these types of videos if theyre helpful but so far theyre no more helpful then lumping everything into 2 categories
Every time I'm confused I'm really infj or not, I'll watch your video, and every time I finished watching it, I was sure that I'm really an infj. Thank you so much for your videos.
i have this weird thing where i feel like im invalid if im not rare (i have no clue where it came from but its really toxic) so i am like ":D" but inside im like dying partially because being infj sucks, big lonely moment
From a fellow INFJ to others, I get you. Your hardships and the constant need to be the shoulder to cry on and if you try to lean on others you feel like you're being a burden to them so you avoid that a lot. I just want to say I get our problems and we don't owe anyone anything in terms of being their personal therapist okay? It's hard to swallow even when we know it's the truth. We'll find someone who's going to understand us at the end of the road, I'm sure! :)))
Still an INFJ... I wish I could be more interpersonally social. Because I absolutely love my alone time after giving so much of my energy to those who are in need; I’m completely drained and need to recharge. It’s weird because I love people but I also don’t want to be bothered with the whole of people’s nuances and everyday activities. 🤦🏽♀️😩
my infj ass: "I'm really thickening my skin, I can take it criticism!" someone: **gives constructive criticism or makes a passing comment on something I'm passionate about** me: 🙂 **//and i took that personally//**
I tested ENTJ in high school but 10 years ago (and last week) I tested INFJ. My I/E and F/T were pretty close to 50/50. The description still matches me so well, except I'm a bit more comfortable in social settings. Probably has to do with having a big family, the right friends in middle/highschool, and a job where I have to interact with a hundred plus people a day. I really wish I knew about these traits sooner because I could have protected myself better. I got taken advantage of a lot.
I'd recommend researching the cognitive functions! It's pretty hard for someone to be between ENTJ and INFJ because they have different decision making functions (Fe and Ti for INFJ and Te and Fi for ENTJ) Believe me I thought I was INFP because I tested so but when I looked in the functions I realized I'm ESFJ which is a HUGE difference
Me, an INFJ, reading how others INFJ’S have been feeling mistreated, used, and abandoned: i really feel dat *sobs* (actually was abt to cry reading the comments;((( )
Everyone thinks they’re infj bc they’re reading about overhyped personalities traits. They take tests and never dig deeper, ending in a mistype. Then people begin to “act” like their type bc it seem to make sense to them. The Myers Briggs is supposed to identify your cognition. Cognition influences personality and not vice versa. Personality isn’t set in stone, it’s shaped by many factors other than cognition. Being infj has its advantages but it’s not as fun as everyone hyped it to be. Always question yourself, self study, and learn.
I've probably been one my whole life looking back but the past year has changed me to probably 20 different personality types, I have become numb to nearly all emotion and I want to feel but can't
Well, I often get INFJ-T or INTJ-T. Just one more test for the heck of it put me in INFJ-T again. It is always by a thin margin though. Sometimes as low as 1%, but this time 3%. Every other aspect of the test is always clear, but not between Feeling and Thinking.
@@mpmedia6735 What means nothing? The MBTI as a whole? The very small difference I get between T and F? If you mean the MBTI then I have two responses. 1. I was responding to "yeah ok" who told people to take the test rather than rely on their own views of what they are. 2. The MBTI doesn't mean that much in the grand scheme of things. It does seem to be a decent way to explain some basic personality tendencies, but no more than that.
me : "no one cares about me, why do I help them though?" someone : "hey, can you do my homework? I don't even understand it." me : "sure!" another person comes at me : "hey can you help me, please accompany me to the bathroom? please .." me : "sure, let's go!" *5 minutes later* me : *just want to go to my seat* someone else : "pretty girl, can you help me?" me : "sure!" my mind : *can't control 😂*
I am an INFJ and I do share a couple of the traits pointed out in this video as for my test, I was listed as an INFJ-T. I know it's a different version of the same test but it's still valid. ^.^ Thanks for posting these videos they do a lot to help so many.
When I was a kid my teacher gave me criticism on an essay and I literally got UNDER THE DESK and cried. We working on it tho ive gotten much better since then
I tested INFJ and resonate with most of the qualities in there, although I am also neurodivergent (BPD for sure and possible autism/ADHD) which kinda skews some of the points, such as opening up to people. I value honest relationships with folks who value me for who I am and are not looking to change me (because that criticism messes with my self-esteem), and I offer them safe space to be themselves as well. :) As an introvert (more ambivert because I do enjoy small social gatherings, but then need a lot of time to recharge) I don't really have the energy to be everyone's friend, despite that I still enjoy helping folks.
A world has opened up to me since I took this test and I'm an INFJ but throughout life experience I've overcome a lot but there is like still this drive to help people, be there for people, overthink people's acts and interactions and reactions, analyzing it. Knowing from the instant tone of how they say hello that something is already wrong and I'm always dead on point with it too, yet than it becomes a bit frustrating of being unable to help them because they don't wanna talk about it for example and I've learned that you can't and shouldn't help everyone, that some need to fall down hard on their face in a deep hole before they realise shit. Not to mention a lot more can influence a person but a lot of the INFJ stuff in previous videos resonate a lot with me and made it easier for me to identify myself because it makes me understand that I am just different and I work different and that not a lot of people will be like me. It also still instills me to overexplain myself to others as well
as an INFJ,I constantly need to be reminded to put myself first rather than getting hurt trying to solve other people's life problems Edit:Dear future me and other INFJ's, please stop trying to set other people’s lives right losing sense of yourself. You are all emotinally rational,kind,big hearted human beings but please just don't hurt yourself in the process. Please do take care of yourself. Thank you :)
I'm ashamed to admit I'm secretly proud of being an INFJ. It's like, I dunno, I thought a ton more people were like me and all of a sudden I hear that I'm in the extreme minority. Kinda cool in a stupid way I guess.
Leo's are said to be born as angels but they can also be some kind of dark demons and they betray the worst when they do. Also, my best friend was an Aries and Aries are demons, me the leo, but I still liked him, so fool of me he literally fought on my back and thought girls are weak and I hate abuse words which had already taken over his language.
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Thank you
Guess im Still rare :)
Yes and thank you!
I first tested as an INFJ in middle school. My mom told me that it meant i was going to cry a lot as I got older. She wasnt wrong.
Lmao
Me too hahhaah
Same lol 😂. I thought i was gonna be like a pregnant hormonal woman
You should retake the test. You were still young back then. Just to make sure. And the best way to identify your type is to do your own research and be honest with yourself which one that fits the most on how u perceive the world and your decision making
@@masteroogway6339 I'm actually an INTJ now which is just as cool and also full of tears 😂
"For some INFJ's, confilct is distressing"
That hit home. I do everything I can to avoid fighting or arguing, but I procrastinate a lot and tend to bottle up emotions, which at times lead to unwanted conflict, haha.
Yeah :(
Spoken like a true INFJ
I was in therapy in my early twenties and my therapist gave me a personality test to take. He didn't say who created the test. He told me what my personality type was by giving me an example of what I might do in a certain situation. Just a few years ago I came across the Briggs/Myers personality test and took it out of curiosity. I recognized it as the exact same test my therapist had given me years before. The results said I'm an INFJ. My therapist's explanation for my personality type was this: He said if I was standing in line for movie tickets and someone cut in front of me, I likely wouldn't say anything, but if there was a child in front of me and someone cut in front of him, I would immediately confront the one who cut and literally make him go to the back of the line. My family has always said, "You favor the underdog". I wasn't sure what that meant. I just always hated seeing someone weaker being picked on. It made me furious. The first ten years of my life were filled with trauma and uncertainty, a lot of conflict and anger. I hate the yelling and fighting, and used to go off by myself with a book just to get away from it. I always just thought it was because I'm a pacifist, but I realize now there is more to it than that. My therapist showed me how to defend and take up for myself without losing the natural empathy I have, and I will always be grateful for that. Before I learned how to do that, I was pretty much a target for anyone to take advantage of.
@@jaggedlittlepill100 YES. It's all about supporting others, helping the underdogs, at the expense of our empathy being abused or unnoticed. Really glad you took great steps to realizing your strengths, mah dude.
INTJ's hate conflict just as much... Conflict is awful, non-productive, and a waste of valuable time.
As for the underdogs (although I certainly can't speak for all INTJ's) I've noticed this trend with myself also. I can't seem to speak up for me, but when it comes to someone I perceive has a lesser capability of standing up for themselves I feel a need to intervene on their behalf. I know the INTJ type is largely seen as a bad guy or behind the scenes, but I just wanted to throw that out there since I can't seem to clarify my type.
- Sincerely, someone who types both INFJ and INTJ consistently and apologizes to everyone at the grocery store lol.
me, an infj: I just need someone to talk to...
someone: I'm right here for you, do you wanna get something out of your chest?
me: *shakes head* i got nothing wrong, how about you? are you alright-
LMAOO TRUE
Truee
Lmfao fr, talking about myself to others feels weird. I'm the one who should listen to their story (idk if it sounds a bit sad)💀
@@sweetbean4302 yeah same I guess thats just us infjs being more comfortable with listening than speaking ;^;
And if they have problem starts giving them advice and tries as much as possible to help them.
“As a child they might’ve felt different or like they didn’t fit in.”
YES EXACTLY HOW I FEEL 90% OF THE TIME
Same here I didnt feel like I would fit in and they didnt disappointment me they started to bully me for 4 years
@@cherryjuice4866 I’m sorry to hear that
@@Bookwormtalksabout I don't know if am I supposed to say 'Thank you ' but thank you :3
And it continues into adulthood too….
You're forgetting there's also a 2nd rarest type
Being an INFJ, in my opinion, is absolute hell. I always felt completely isolated from others, especially in my childhood to the point I started to believe I was just "weird." I fell into deep depression early into my teenage years with frequent bouts of anxiety. Now, as an adult, things have definitely become easier, but the depression lingers on.
yeah as INFP I can relate as well
Totally agree. It's horrible being an INFJ, you always put the others in front of yourself and you get hurt multiple times and can't stand up for yourself properly
@@totor0 ig. I do feel weird at times but then again I feel so drained when I try to fit in by being fake.
I agree! being infj is tiring. The part I hate about INFJ is when I understand everyone but no one understands me, it's really suck. But sometimes I think being INFJ isn't bad. whatever it is there must be some benefit from infj. either good for oneself or for others.
As a fellow infj... yup, I feel you ❤️
Me, and INFJ who has taken the test multiple times with the same result but still watching the video: *interesting*
Edit: I know some tests are inaccurate, you can stop telling me now lol.
Edit again: Guys, it's a test to learn something more about yourself for fun. Let people enjoy things. It's not that deep.
I also have taken the test several times and got INFJ again and again 😂
same and i still question it
Which test? 16 personality test is not accurate. (I suggest function test)
Same 💀💀
The first 2 times I took it, I was INFJ, but the third time, I was INTP. I will just assume that I'm INFJ most of the time. Both personalities are very rare and similar anyway.
me: you can say anything to me, i’m open to criticism
someone: * gives criticism *
me: * starts overthinking it for a few days *
LITERALLY
Same as me
exactly! and then there are random times where it just pops up
Same
YES
1. You make decisions easily
2. You do not shy away from a challenge
3. You love being surrounded by people
4. You are not super attracted to humanitarian acts
5. You love testing theories in real life
6. You are in tune with your emotions and have no trouble voicing your emotions
I love being surrounded by people, but online😅😅
@@salshabillah29 well online is not your true identity. It is who you want to be. You feel more connected to the people online because you don't have to share your face. That can make a vast difference in how many people you talk to.
fucking stereotypes, the creator of the vid needs to study cognitive functions.
2,3,5 sometimes 6 so am I still considered an INFJ
This is definately not me... So I am 100% and INFJ!!!
I TICK NONE OF THE BOXES!!!
Literally all the INFJs came here because they were overthinking "wait what if I'm not an INFJ?!"
Edit: suddenly I got like 3k likes(? 😂😂😂 thnx, I was honestly talking about myself but I guess I really exposed y'all
In conclusion, INFJs world domination ✋
Calling us out 😩
You see, I’ve taken tests and I usually get INFP or INFJ, I’ve noticed I’m a mix of the two yet a little more on the J side.
@@shayleightsosie7314 yup, I think INFPs and INFJs are really similar, I can really relate to both as well
@@andremoseley2362 😂😂😂
Yes!
Okay but this art in this video is so cute
Ikr
IKR?! (≧▽≦)
Ikr
Jisung-
Ikr
I wish they explained what a matured INFJ looks like in all the other contexts. I’m definitely an INFJ, but therapy has helped me learn boundaries that may “take away” from my people pleasing.
exactly, helping people in the way of shining a light in their darkness for them to see hope again is always gonna be what I want to do but I'm not gonna abandon myself to help, I've kinda emotionally distanced myself with people
Yes, I thought the same thing. I'm still on my way to become a mature person, I think, but still I believe I'm making a lot of progress in putting myself first. I've set some boundaries with my parents and chose to take to my needs and feelings first rather than to theirs. You know what? It worked, they changed and we're in a better place because of that.
Also, regarding the criticism, of course it's still hard to get it considering how deeply personal any of the work you do is. I mean, you take this part of your soul and get it in a broad light for someone else to see. And it's so easy to get offended, but criticism from a person you like and admire actually will probably make your work even better. And being an INFJ most certainly helps you to choose someone great to actually show your work to or ask for a personal advice.
Same here! Lots of therapy and reflecting has helped me overcome some of these so what negative traits
Same I feel like my spiritual awakening helped me become a super-INFJ, can't wait to get in therapy tho
INFJs are social chameleons. As they grow older the social cues they pick up from people will help them navigate just about any situation. Kind of like a personality “mystique”. A young INFJ is often quirky, awkward and often say weird things that people misunderstand or cannot relate at all. This isolates them and often make them feel like an oddball. Age and experience will teach them not only to hide these quirky bits well, but to use their empathic skills practically. At work they are either often seen as calm, cautious, pleasant and someone you are drawn to trust. Or they may successfully take on a seemingly extroverted and assertive personality (but this drains them a lot)
Things to take to heart. Only your inner circle and family can be trusted with the “real you”. If you are fragile, handle yourself with care.
Famous INFJs include Oprah, Martin Luther King, Adolf Hitler
I'm an INFJ, but I have been trying to push myself to not shy away from challenges. Mostly because I know that doing the same thing over and over isn't going to get me anywhere in life anymore.
I'm not as attracted to humanitarian jobs because I like peace and quiet and really enjoy the weather so I want to be a meteorologist. I'm still in the emotional support part for my friends and random other people but it's not something I'd do professionally. Partially because I don't like the thought of charging people money for emotional support, or just to have someone to go to.
This is the only thing I've ever tested as. However, I prefer to be extremely loud, brash, vindictive and aim to over-achieve. Likely due to unique circumstance and trauma. So I guess the only advice I can give?
It has to be fun. Or important. Now, just follow me here.
I was volunteered very young for a 'running club', got taken to a public event without prior knowledge, and _still_ remember realizing there were cameras going off in the bleachers. The anxiety hindered my performance when I was _told_ I was participating. I did not take this well. Hundreds of people saw/recorded me both fail, and let down my peers. Before I was ten. Within a year, I'd eclipsed everyone in my new school. The humiliation I felt at such a young age, forced me to redouble my efforts. For that first year, I kicked up clumps of dirt like I was swinging a golf club as I ran. This stuck for years, and I, honestly, was able to run short-distance at sub-olympic speeds. Hell, I had to chase a _bus_ for like three blocks three years after I _quit running._ It went from a source of frustration, to a point of pride. I learned to TRY to achieve, because _I could._ I have other examples, but that may be the most prudent.
Besides that, I was regarded extremely highly in my youth, and while I take challenges seriously, there is NOTHING I enjoy more than being rivaled. Not beaten. Not lorded over. Equal. Because I know, no matter the outcome, it will make ME better. Plus it's going to be fun as all hell.
It's a mindset that... I guess, I organically grew into. Because I took the idea seriously. Because through introspection, I was able to change. Rise to the challenge. _Because I can._
(Infact, that might be part of it. There hasn't been and will NEVER be a situation, where I _won't_ tell myself, implicitly, that _"I_ am Enough. I am sufficient."- and I _have_ been. Learn to love testing yourself. I guess you could say I became addicted to that first time I did, and _surprised_ myself.)
@@magne7771 That’s a lovely story! I’m proud of you man.
I’ve always been the top of my class. I could never run very fast, but my arm strength is kind of weirdly out of proportion. I have maybe 200 kids in my entire school. Everyone knows everyone. Everyone knows I’m the top of my class. Everyone hates me for it. I’ve been bullied and teased and pranked for anything I succeed at. Whenever I try to let myself out of the imaginary box of anxiety, my classmates shove me right back in. I bet there’s enough crazy rumor about me to right a book. Trust no one, speak only if you know their intentions, always be on high guard. It exhausts me. Terrifies me. I’m their favorite target, not that they have many, there being only 30 kids in my class. I want to get courage, but it’s so hard, knowing that they’ll hate me for every success.
What Psych has done here are the stereotypes of INFJ, which are close but also far cry from the usual and typical INFJs you see in real life.
I am an INFJ with 6w7 SX/SP in Enneagram.
That 6w7 you see there? That means I am more outgoing than the usual core 4 or 5 INFJs.
You see that Sx for instinct? That means I am not comfortable with challenge but I will do it if it makes me be the better person. That sx means my reactions to things are completely different from the typical INFJ. :)
Despite all the attention infjs get about being rare and whatever their emotional hardships seem so overlooked. To all the infjs you've been working hard for others its okay to rest and take breaks :) -infp
thank youuu. :)
Awwww Tysm T^T
And I'd never thought that I'd see you here cha 0.0
that's so sweet
They are not rare, they are like the 7%
I am an INFJ who taught myself to voice out my concerns because I realised that keeping/bottling on too much affects the people around me :
Maybe thats a sign that you are starting to grow as an infj... Getting to maturity? Idk I am also an Infj and I can relate to your comment💟 trust your intuition when it tells you that you are a true Infj... Dont get into confusion😘
And you
@@grachiamoina5517 bruuh knowing whether you're an INFJ or not isn't just a matter of intuition and can even be the result of a mistype after rationalization (especially based on Fi which desperately wants to be unique). If you're INFJ you have Ni-Fe-Ti-Se, you dont just "know"
I'm so proud of u,,i don't know where to take the test but i can't open up,when i want to open up if i suspect i have anything or i want to share things,my brain tells me "It will go wrong" "what if you were wrong? Attention seeker" or "you will harm them" and i get pushed back into my room T.T
@@Miimiiplayzbrawlstars honestly, it really comes down to what exactly you intend to say. It will actually really impact your relationship if you are careless. That is something to really remind yourself. Make sure that you tune in to the recipient's emotions; think through if what you are going to say will negatively impact you, them or both and then follow up from there. But for me, I just voice out anything and apologise directly to the person if I've hurt their feelings. It's better to hurt them right there and then than to drag the situation on until they find out themselves. That level of pain is terrible and would destroy a relationship. Temporary breaks are better than permanent separation imo
As an INFJ, I feel like in all my relationships other people benefit so much and I get nothing out of it. It doesn't feel unfair to me though. It just feels like my entire reason for existence is to help others, even if I get nothing back. It's to the point were I feel selfish if I want something back for the good stuff I've done. I feel so unappreciated all the time, but then I immediately feel selfish just for thinking that.
same here and i know nothing will change, it feels worse when people leave you although you gave your all...
Don't... Giving urself some love .n taking a step back, occasionally saying No...it's not selfish... It's self love..n it's important for taking care of others around u too.. I realised this in past 2. Years..n still unable to practice it perfectly...like today I wanted to say No to a friend for something..but ended up following her...no regrets though
We are interest based after all :T it’s a little hard to shake off that habit, butttt it does mean we need to work on our boundaries AND our communication though. Can’t expect others to read our mind or know how we feel especially when we ourselves keep acting like all is fine until it’s clearly not. Then we just look like we blew up out of no where to them, trust me, they probably don’t know how you feel :/
It’s not selfish even though it seriously does feel like it sometimes, but it’s not. We have needs just like everyone else and to have a harmonious relationship with others we need to treat ourselves as equals too and voice our needs. Most of the time honestly, people are okay to help and in cases are happy about us speaking up
see..this is how I know this isnt my category (i fit well)
After some time, i start feeling used/ignored for my efforts. literall other side of the coin.
I would also like to add, that it is very important for an INFJ to love themselves, to understand and respect themselves, cos chances are thin that we would physically meet someone quite like us in our lives, n so very few people will understand all the feelings n related thoughts we have... So we need to give that love and comfort to ourselves, simply cos maybe no one else will.
Remember that knowing your personality type is a way that you can use to improve yourself and grow! If you're a INFJ and relate to any trait of this video, remember that you don't have to take it for granted if you don't want to! Everyone have strengths and weakness (like said on the video) and it's in your own power to make the difference that you really want in your live.
Every personality type is amazing in it own way, but sometimes the INFJ personality can be misunderstood for being the most "rare" personality type (it isn't anymore), always remember that rare doesn't mean being special or better than anyone else.
The MBTI theory is more about preferences than strict behaviors, so don't stick yourself to just one pattern if you're not comfortable with that.
Great words of wisdom 👍🏾
Most infj thing said on this comment section
I dont want to be INFJ
I want to be extrovert
They look like having fun
Same
We are!
@@ShrillPixels y’all extroverts can do so well in life bc you socialise so well, I wish I was like you guys
I’m enfp!
I thought that infj were extroverted introverts (Seems like an awkward extrovert but is actually a social introvert
Me who uses both logic & feelings once in a while.
Yes
Same lol
I do that
@Pia Charlotte I think it means using 50% emotion and 50% logic. Not just being more emotional with a smidge of logic or vice verse.
me too
1- You make decisions using impersonal choices
2- You do not shy away from a challenge
3- You love being surrounded by people
4- You’re not super attracted to humanitarian jobs
5- You love to test theories in real life
6- You’re in tune with your emotions and have no trouble voicing your emotional needs
@The Emo Trans Bimbo 😳
You might wanna watch the video, the explanation isn't as literal as the first sentence
@The Emo Trans Bimbo oh nothing bad! I just thought it was a little entertaining to find an ISTP in this comment section :))
Yeah this is not me .
@The Emo Trans Bimbo not entirely sure, probably because it's about the INFJ :) i'm sorry for confusing you!!
Was tested as an INFJ. Before testing, my friends would always wondered why my thought process were different and it always has to do with making sure every parties are not harmed when we do something. I'm always the only one out of the group who did not have conflict with anyone and would be the middle person they go to, in case there's conflicts.
I do not like being in crowded places and would find ways to help someone in need, whenever I heard bout them... This also meant that, I'm often taken advantage of. Because I felt sorry for people too easily.. I just can't help it..
God bless your soul 💚
I don't want to go around just _spreading opinions,_ but...
The only people I've ever felt sorry for were _innocent victims._ People without a trail of ruined lives, picked functionally at random. I'll admit, I have a very persecutory mindset because of it. However, I can confidently say, I've _protected_ more people, than have taken advantage of me, by being this way.
I will also admit, that it made me proactive. The type to intervene when someone _were_ to take advantage of _you._ To take what they did a step further _on them._ To hope the flashbacks are enough to stop them from _doing it again, to someone else._ It led to me being confident in the fact, that in _my_ trail of victims, so to speak, none are innocent. I won't say that's a good thing. I won't even promote it. But I'll say this much. It shows me with surprising clarity, who is _worth_ your sorrow.
I wouldn't recommend it. It's dehumanizing. It puts you _above_ them on a clear hierarchy. But it IS a solution.
Same here
yep . you just told my life story.
INFJs use logic to make decisions. It's not their primary function, but they can and do cycle through analytical thought processes to 'check' their intuitions. Intuition actually tells you to check your work with logic. Often times intuition is just subconscious pattern recognition that requires rational organizing and construction. Most times when I get a feeling or intuition, logic then processes that feeling into an argument. Logic then presents the argument and intuition checks that, and the process continues. With practice you get really good at it-with very hard to beat rationales because they are a balance of thinking and feeling. This is a perfect example, my intuition told me that INFJs do use logic and that to claim they don't is not only inaccurate, but unfair. Then the rational mind put together the arguments, and the illustrations kicked in to illustrate the point.
I actually believe you're right. I kinda think I'm an INFJ because it's traits hit me like perfectly for most of the parts, except the logic and I kinda learned when to have empathy and when not in specific instances, let's say for example a competition. So I'm definitely with you there 😊
This is the most specific trait of INFJ
Is it possible that our way of thinking is different then what could be considered purely logical thought? That the fact that we string together past life experiences into an answer in the face of reality isn't actually purely logical? Despite how accurate it can be, it's less like we are examining things purely case to case, but rather everything as a whole with huge bias. I've never realized that before, perhaps I've been wrong about what being logical means this whole time.
@@TheGlader2 Actually stringing past life experiences and observations together into a cohesive hypothesis is pattern recognition and it IS logical thinking. It's just been given a bad rap by dishonest actors who use 'lived experience' to push a self-serving agenda. Just because there is no broad-based, years-long clinical study proving the INFJ's observation doesn't mean they aren't correct. Usually INFJs make the kind of observations that would lead to conclusions that would never be funded for research. Just exact like that conclusion I just drew, that the people that fund big research would never research why they only research (and publish) stuff that leads to them to making money. That's a long-term pattern recognition that I've drawn into a hypothesis, long before it was widely discussed.
@@cynthiajohnson9412 I used to think the same way yesterday, but there's more to it than that. I think it's not what people would consider to be typical logical thinking; rather, it's our version of logical thought and it's special. If you are an INFJ like me you probably don't go spouting all of your logical conclusions whenever you feel like it because you know that people probably wouldn't understand or would be opposed, if it were regular logic, why wouldn't they?
Me: *loves debating ideas and philosophies*
Also me: *hates arguing, gets stressed out over the possibility of arguing, internalizes criticism for the rest of my life*
omg same. i usually have a lot to say but i never really say anything lol
Same
AAAA YES
Same
Same lol 😂🤣
Infj be like at every sentence :
"Well, that is me and not me at the same time..."
=> wants critisms but takes it personally
=> wants to go out with some friends and ends up exhausted at the end of the day
=>wants to test their ideas in the real life but too busy in their own world to do it
Etc
Aka a walking contradiction... 😭
OMG this is so accurate XD
This is me. THIS IS ACTUALLY ME-
This is too accurate stop-
Relate 😭😭😭
I’m a definite INFJ. I tested twice not knowing anything about these types. Both times I tested INFJ. I feel like I’m a mature INFJ. At 65 I’m not so into people pleasing as I used to be. I was a teacher for 36 years, guiding and directing children. It was such a pleasure to me, other than dealing with parent conflicts. 😅
the parent conflict is the hardest part. It's hard to confront them.
Same. First tested in middle school back in 1997 and them as an middle aged adult: same result.
The most frustrating thing is seeing every comment being “Me, being an INFJ” but in real life I don’t know any INFJ’s.
It’s just “Me, being a lonely alien to the world and trying to connect with people who are not my kind”.
I think they're are a bunch of mistypes as INFP's and ISFP's here.
same , people just see me as an outcast:/
yup. im a real alien. i also want to make friends but keep pushing everyone away - i'm never satisfied with interactions or feel im not worthy enough
@@dartagnan553 yep yep I feel that - but never confuse your thoughts for facts, you are worthy and you deserve love
@@xxsophxx999 thank you for the kind words. You deserve love too.
Psych2go: The INFJ and INTJ are the most commonly mistyped.
Me, who has only gotten INFJ and INTJ on personality tests: I don't even know who I am
try looking into the cognitive functions, infj uses Ni-Fe-Ti-Se while intj uses Ni-Te-Fi-Se so they're still very different. there's some videos on youtube that can help you out so i suggest looking at those
@@sbn6340 I've taken many different personality tests and have gotten either INFJ or INTJ. More detailed tests has shown that I have no preference over thinking or feeling. So, whether I get INFJ or INTJ is entirely up to what questions are asked and how the questions are formatted.
Same
@@darkjedi261 maybe its better to find out which functions you use by researching instead of tests(?) Because tests aren't very reliable since every time you take a new one, your answer is going to be affected because you already know what 'kind' of questions are coming, and what can lead to a certain results, etc. etc. whether you intended to or not. (sorry if this is worded weirdly)
Me too.i have taken many personality tests but I get either INFJ or INTJ and iam so confused about it.i posses both types I don't know who iam .
Yeah, the only one I did not totally relate to as an infj was the serving others one-as an infj with social anxiety, my anxiety often prevents me from stepping up and actively helping others. However, I do often help those I care about, and I am always there for others if they want to vent or talk.
Same. I always want to help, but something always holds me back…that something is anxiety and overthinking. It can get and has been crippling at times
You know how to fix this problem? You can please people in online games. If i fear doing it irl. Why not do it online.
@@AsianEspionage i remember helping some new player find chest meanwhile the other player just left after asking "so it just finding chest?" It just felt so good helping someone cus I can't do it irl for same reason :')
I help by making donations.
@@jer_bear_stare1643 im not even gonna question that. Rich INFJs really likes throwing money into helping people
I tested as an INFJ twice in college, and fit all the descriptions. I’m 50 now, have had LOTS of therapy and have learned how to express my emotions more effectively, but it’s still difficult. I’m not sure why the INFJ personality would be something anyone would want, honestly. My therapist calls me a “super feeler”, and having such deep emotional reactions has even led me to restrict the shows I watch. I can’t stand Facebook, I can’t deal with how awful people are to each other. My feeling things much more deeply than others has been useful in helping other women in recovery programs and church, and for that I’m thankful, but I would never ask for this personality type. It’s too hard.
Absolutely, I do the same and restrict alot of what I view for the same reason.
For the record, I'm content with my non-INFJ personality type. I've only seen one comment saying they wish they were an INFJ. I'm sure there would be things you'd miss about it though.
I'm ESTJ and sometimes feel like I lack depth or feeling for others (can't speak for all ESTJs) and though I did well in school I'm slow to pick up on things. So trust me, every personality type has its drawbacks.
Sometimes I wonder if I'm an INFJ or a different INFJ from people like you?🤔 I worry a lot about people even people I'm not close to but I struggle to understand them sometimes or do I just overthink? I also love helping people but it's gotten to the point where I created boundaries so as not to get drain because I get drained way too easily. Am I still an INFJ? 🤔
How I react to sappy films, usually bawling out crying at the sad parts, doesn't stop me from watching great movies. However, I do have to hide the tears, because it's not really manly enough for other people around, but I sometimes get to miss scenes because of it. oh well.
Seeing this makes me realize how much of an INFJ i am
knowing cognitive functions also helps,
@Ony DupuyCommented on the fact i was curious and trying to learn about myself which happens to be INFJ on the MBTI. On the other hand, you can see the video in the opposite prospect if it doesn't apply to you as an INFJ and that exactly occurred to me, thus the comment. Idk if u understood that but i do hope i'm making sense.
@@thesevenkingswelove9554 now that u mentioned, it happened to be the Ni function trying to connect dots opposition to the video.
Same
Same
1. you make decisions using impersonal logic 0:40
2. you do not shy away from a challenge 1:28
3. you love being surrounded by people 1:53
4. you are not super attracted to humanitarian jobs 2:35
5. you love to test theories in real life 3:19
6. you are in tune with your own emotions and have no trouble voicing your emotional needs 3:49
I hope I could help! :)
Thank you!
How is your comment five days ago?
How you wrote it 5 days ago-
@@MukeshKumar-kv1wk yeah wtf lol
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I bet most INFJ's would find it difficult to understand why everyone wants to be as rare as them. It's hard enough trying to find your place in the world as an INFP. It's not easy trying to help everyone around you when you know they will probably never understand the real you❤️
So true ...
This is so true. But the good news is, MBTI is not a cookie cutter.
Wow, function vise I think I am an INFP. But I can never understand this ,,none understands me" thingy. I guess I am a mistyped ISFP.
Exactly
I recently took a test and I was an INFJ-T. I found out that it was a rare personality to have, so I have been watching videos over it ever since. I was so scared i wouldn't find anyone like me. Thanks to y'all for sharing you experiences in the comment section😭
No bt we're just same....i also tested infj t and I've never seen such person....i was feeling like a weirdo so i started watching videos lol
Also an INFJ-T and I’ve been watching a heck ton of videos to feel… less like a weirdo?
I am also INFJ-T
As an INFJ it's causes me so much frustration when I am sick and people just treat me casually even the ones I am very close with... As an INFJ I am very leftout when this happens cause I put everyone's need before me and have a high sense of what the other person wants... But doing this everyday 24/7 exhausts me alot I need some of this attention as well from specific peoples, I am totally drained out :'(
I feel you
ditto. same in my life. about to door slam some users. unfortunatly i can't seperate from the world. but i do go be alone on my motorcycle or in woods or just walk away from the house to clear my head. i can never get to any projects around here because my family is constantly braking everything and im the only one that fixes anything. im one guy being 3 guys and none of it for me. i feel you.
*sees title of video* “oh god, you’re right, I’ve been an imposter all along.”
*actually watches video* “no no...this just confirms further that I’m an INFJ 😂”
I was scared to click on the video lol😭
Omg, same!!!
Sameee
LITERALLY ME THO-
I'm an infj and my best friend is an intj. I guess this might be a reason we're such good friends.
I never want to be around intj they will judge me
@@sililtatchu intj's aren't necessarily judgemental. They can be really nice people.
@@sililtatchu why would they judge you when they use Ni as their function which is same for INFJ?
Same! My twin sister is an Intj 😂😂 ( and I am an infj). She can be pretty stressing some times (she is a perfectionist and takes her perfecctionism ON ME), but I love her, she is my favourite person in the whole world! We do weird stuff together and we also have the same humor xd
my bestie is an intj too (i’m the infj!) and we get along very very well and are pretty similar
I really hate the idea of being like everyone else, but I so desperately want to fit in somewhere.
Literally we infjs should make a community I hardly have anyone to share my thoughts and I have soo much to tell but idk why I never feel like sharing with others and just keep it to myself.
"I have soo much to tell but idk why I never feel like sharing with others and just keep it to myself"
^ironically why INFJ communities are rarely active
- a fellow INFJ
@@driftingdruid i've seen it in INFP communities too, if you want to keep the community active you have to open it to more than just INFXs
If you decide to start one let me know and i'll join :)
My bestfriend and boyfriend and cousin, including myself are infj's
@@soya4778 I am so jelly... I don't have any INFJ friends not even colleagues
I didn't know being an INFJ was coveted until I watched this. Tbh theres a lot I dont like about being an INFJ. Especially not being able to express my emotions or taking too much on from other people and suffering from burn out because of it. Its not that great of a personality to have. But I do love how much I care and how much I feel I want to change things to make the world better.
Take heart , e mbrace your sensitivity & kindness, without which the world would be worse , As Eleanor Roosevelt said, " the most important thing in any relationship is not what you get but what you give "
The reason why you see a lot of infjs under so many mbti videos/related posts its because we are trying to know ourselves better, cuz we literally dont so-
yes
Dude I’m so lucky I’m only 17 and I’ve met this other amazing dude (im a guy too) who is also INFJ and holy shit we literally converse and debate for hours over text and even when we disagree over controversial stuff we try to understand each other’s perspective and actually never end up arguing even if we disagree (which we rarely do) it’s honestly so nice tbh I wish more people were like us instead of the other way around like many INFJs seem to wish they were like others but nah if everyone was like us there would probably be so much less conflict in this world 😭
You are lucky! He’s definitely a keeper. Never let him go. Sometimes INFJs don’t keep in contact with friends as time goes on. Don’t let that happen. I know life happens but try to keep in contact weekly or monthly.
omg im 16 i would love to meet someone else whose an infj i literally keep saying i just want someone to talk to and debate about things for hours, and i feel selfish when i like my personality theres not even a lot i like about myself , and i just re-took the personality test and both times i was infj but the first time i was infj-a and the second infj-t dude do you have and instagram
Does anyone have like all of the characteristics of INFJ but just refuse to believe that they are just because they don't want to feel different or special?
Edit:I literally posted this comment for other INFJ just to prove me wrong, but nope
that feeling is the sign that you indeed, are an INFJ 😂
@@jellyfishi_ ?? im confused lol is what i said bad?
nah deadass like the whole personality fits me so well but i keep thinking _well dont be so s u r e ._
I spent hours into reading about INFJs to persuade myself I am not one only to realize that I... truly am one of them.
Same. I fit INFJ so well and I took the mtbi test multiple timeeeees to make sure.
I love being an infj but at the same time,I truly don't see the hype with our type.
Hello to the person reading this remember you are valid . So please take care of yourself and stay healthy and drink plenty of water 💗
🤗
Why don't people like this exist in my age?
You too hun!!!
@@SoMooLand1nine7 Thank you 😄
Thank you you too 😊
Lmao I hate being an infj. I’m always the odd one out of everything and call myself weird anddd sometimes I can be really nice to people and make the effort to help or listen to them yet I don’t get a similar treatment back :)
It sucks, but sadly, it's a vibe we live through. You can try to grow out of it, which I'm sure you can do, or you can stay as a piece of it. But I get you though. I'm a male INFJ and it has frickin been ToUGh trying to assimilate into high school friend groups that literally have nothing in common with me outside sports and frickin common stuff. But thinking differently doesn't make you weird, it makes you different but not weird because a lot of what you think of is true.
Ikr, it's s living hell
Feel ya, but try to love the fact that you are special :) it’s not such a bad thing being different (but it hurts tho)
I don’t understand why the INFJ is a “coveted personality type.” I once told someone that I am an INFJ (& yes. I really am. I read that it’s the most mistyped personality type, so I took the test on 3 separate occasions just to make sure) & they asked me if that was a mental illness. I was like, “It might as well be.” 😆
Sometimes, it definitely feels like a mental illness
@@gektoast4968 Yes. It really does.
I hear ya.
In the real world, it might just be the most resented personality type. But maybe I'm just special.
"INFJ is the rarest personality type"
The entire comment section: "I'm An InFj aNd As aN InFj I Am-"
Stop replying to this comment
@@etruscanetwork i'm unsure if this was a joke or not but esfj is probably the human's most common type. most of them just aren't interested in mbti yk :)
@@etruscanetwork oh i see, indeed es*j's are the rarest in the mbti comunity
But does it really matter which personality is the rarest or the most common? I used to obsess (is that how you spell it?) over being unique and like different from others until I realised life would probably be better If I just be myself
Because probably INFJs are very curious with psychology and personality that's why we are here... Do you think an extroverted person will find time staying at home studying personality? of course they are not here. LOL
1. You make decisions using impersonal logic
2. You do not shy away from a challenge
3. You love being surrounded by people
4. You are not super attracted to humanitarian jobs
5. You love to test theories in real life
6. You are in tune with your own emotions and have no trouble voicing your emotional needs
No matter how much I want to think through my decision making, I can't. I was raised by my father, a Us Marine. As a child I tested into INTJ. When I let go of my past I've tested twice into INFJ. I'm not willing to let go of my peace to be with people anymore. I've learned to be at peace with myself. It's not easy. But it's not hard either. I'm loving being me, now
hiiiii btw, your mbti cannot change, your personality will, but your mbti is always innate since you were born
When you have self doubts about being an INFJ
Yh and it's more like is this personality type really covers all the complexities I have,... It's like I relate heavily to it but still doubt if it's something I belong to
Hey, sakinorva or keys2cognition provide pretty accurate tests. If you're still doubting after the results, then learn about cognitive functions and see what you identify with.
So, true..
All of the INFJs here tryin to find a reason to why they're called weird. You guys we aren't weird, we're RARE.
Rare? INFJs are like the 7% of the population
Not if you do the sample in a burn-out clinic 😜
Lol, you're definitely INJF because you could tell people were beating themselves up unreasonably and wanted to help them feel better.
We’re not rare lmao
OFCOURSE U gotta bring up that ur also an infj 😒
me an infj:*watches carefully*
edit:im still an infj yay lolol
have a great day everyone! OH and reminder
- you’re amazing.
- you’re loved.
- you’re talented.
- you’re strong.
- you can do anything.
- you are worth it....
thanks queen
Thank youuuu💟
Lol I felt the same way, also thank you!
@@SuperstarYT ♥
@@sabihak9730 :]
As someone who tested as an INFJ for years in high school but has since tested as an INTJ, this video made some great points.
I also suggest INFJs to look into the INFP type. Many INFPs mistype themselves as INFJ.
Me, who took the test three times and still get INFJ but doubt because yes I'm emphatetic but not good at comforting people cause i'm not good at words: *_clicks_*
me too :(
I feel you
Have you read up on the INFP personality type? Here's a Psycho2Go video that will hopefully help you figure yourself out: ruclips.net/video/9-TepZ0WVKQ/видео.html 🤗
If you don't identify with either of these completely, then maybe you're something else altogether. I had an acquaintance who took the test twice and got INFJ as well, but they admittedly didn't identify with it, and I didn't see them as such either. I believed that they were an ISFJ instead. 👍🏻
@@Arlovebird89 thanks, I've seen that and I relate more to INFJ. I guess I'm just scared talking to people and worried that I might say something they wouldn't like.
"INFJ is the rarest personality type"
The entire comment section: *aS AN InFJ-*
Nope.... those numbers are STILL low. as of typing this, there's about only 176,896 views on this video. FIRST off... that number of views is STILL NO WHERE near as a high likely hood factoring in the ENTIRE PLANET! and secondly... not even EVERYONE(AND still counting)of those 176,896 are even commenting. in fact... its probably only a somewhat(to roughly)low percent of those people who find themselfs commenting at all. THEN you can factor in that maybe... yea there probably ARE(a FEW)people falsely claiming to be an infj. though... even if everybody else here WERE falsely claiming to be one, it would HARDLY dent those numbers on a planetary scale. and so infj's ARE in fact still very, VERY rare(well apparently. at least according to statistics).
although... in my opinion? IF this comment section WERE in fact riddled with many liars... then THOSE numbers would probably be more telling of just how dishonest and insincere MOST people would generally be rather than anything contrary to the infj's statistics. . .
@@TheDeepThinker-sq3iy uh 5Head
as an infj i feel special now, thank you**
@@wattlebottle4078 Pardon?
Hahahha true
*INFJ= rarest personality type*
*everyone in comments = "i aM an iNfJ"*
Honestly I feel like it's old news that INFJ is the rarest. Almost everyone I know are INFJs xD. I am one too but honestly, I don't think I'm all that sacrifice-yourself-to-help-others type of person. After watching the video it kinda made me realize that I might be more of an INTJ
because INFJ are usually the ones who even care about stuff like this. my ENFP sister could careless about it. she only took the test because i bribed her too. so its not as surprising as u think
@@rremi9808 i agree. it kinda make sense
well i personally don't even care whether me as an infj considered as a rare person or not, afterall every MBTIs type has their own role.
Ah also it’s a video about INFJs obviously mostly INFJs are the ones watching....??
I’ve consistently tested as an INFJ, but I happen to work in engineering which is typically filled with other personality types. I always wondered about that, but then a few years ago I was discussing assigning tasks with another engineer. I mentioned that I try to assign tasks to folks based on whether I think it’ll give them some job satisfaction, recognition, or try to distribute the “fun” tasks among people. (I mean, let’s face it, it’s still work so you can’t do that all the time hehe) The other engineer was very surprised and said they just assign tasks based on who can do it best. That was eye-opening to me.
I got told infj’s are a walking contradiction, they’re not wrong 😀
😂😭
its constant war inside my mind😭
And that contradictions make us hard to explain something.
I’ve never felt more strongly aligned to a sentence before 😂
This is so true😅
"What if I've been lying to myself and others all along and I'm not really an INFJ?"
*checks that I don't relate to any of these*
*doesn't relate*
"Okay, it's all good"
The feeling of being scared that you are not infj and you were just delusional all the time thinking wow I am so this and so that and thinking it will all come to and end lol
SAME
Same🤣
Ahh u got me 😭🤣
Me: Tries to avoid conversations because they drain my energy
Also Me: Has at least a thousand conversations in my mind so I won't hurt others, but end up hurting my own feelings in the process, have an internal emotional breakdown and keep draining my energy so much that I'm barely a functional human being.
Also Also Me: Somehow finds enough energy to turn into a ferocious beast because someone dared to hurt the defenseless weakling
welcome to the club
Ughh... You are being way too relatable just that... I avoid conversations THAT drains my energy... If it is something I am interested in I can talk and talk but that also has a condition... I can talk when the other person is either understanding me well enough and is interested... And if I am lucky enough to get a convo partner that would love to have a healthy discussion (in thus again the thing is they will just understand like 25% of my thoughts in my minds so you see cannot share everything)
Lol!!! 😆😂🤣 So true!!!
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man, i make whole ass convos to use them the other days but most of the times the talk doesn't stay the same and i'm like 'wait, that's not what i practiced last night'
then the whole day i feel down and just mentally fight with myself to stop talking to myself but i never stop talking to myself-
@@carat_horanghaedabs9214 That's so relatable. When I'm planning to discuss a certain topic with someone, I already have at least 3 different entire convos planned in my head to be prepared for all potential scenarios. But then the person says something completely different and I'm like "Hey, who allowed you to go off script? What the heck do I do now? I have no idea what to say now."
I’ve taken the test three times. INFJ twice, and ENFJ once. I’m an UBER/LYFT driver, and those short interactions with people tricked me into thinking I was good at socializing. I’ve gone back to college, and I’ve been in a lot of unrelated social situations since I took that test. I know better now.
I like to think I’m logical, and in many ways, I am. But I couldn’t even imagine not considering other people’s feelings in being logical.
I CAN think objectively, but mostly when I’m alone.
I’m not sure I’d want to be an activist. I feel like nobody would listen to me, and for good reason. There are a hundred million voices all claiming to know better than other people, and the only thing they can agree in is that the world sucks. The people speaking the loudest tend to be inconsiderate of opinions that differ from their own. Lastly, I am not sure I’d trust the people who would listen to me. I’m not an expert, and it’s not easy to convince people with logic…but it’s very easy to indoctrinate them, and that’s the last thing I would want.
I like taboo subjects, and wish they could be talked about more freely, and with more maturity.
I love to learn, and always try to recognize what I don’t know.
I feel like there’s more to say, but for the life of me, I can’t think of anything.
Edit: I want to be intellectually honest, so after posting this comment, I went back and took the test a fourth time. I am still an INFJ-T
1. you make decisions using impersonal logic 0:40
2. you do not shy away from a challenge
1:28
3. you love being surrounded by people 1:53
4. you are not super attracted to humanitarian jobs 2:35
5. you love to test theories in real life 3:19
6. you are in tune with your own emotions and have no trouble voicing your emotional needs 3:49
Thank you so much, I've been looking for this comment!
aaaa thank you!! this confirms that im an infj,, hehe
That last one screams Fi tho
hero behaviour
@@bimothydilc7604 Hello there! Sorry it is little irrelevant but i don't relate 4 of these and 2 doubtful... So what do i stand? I saw Love Who's one and i relate with none. Thank you and have a great day ahead!
I’m definitely an INFJ but I think I’ve just learned to open up more because I subconsciously know how hard it is to allow others to help me.
Well, that's good. I know that. It's easier to stay on my own. But sometimes it's good to let someone in for a while.
I am definitely an INFJ I am a helper, I take things personally too much, I base my decisions on my feelings, I get overwhelmed by being around alot of people, very difficult to express my own emotional needs. I am also extremely empathetic and cannot stand social injustice, however at times I don't say anything because I avoid conflict. The only thing I do relate to is that I am inspired by the world around me. (more like an enfj)
Same
You are more okay than you think. Courage, Infjs!!!! I’m an Intj married(and in love) with an Intfj. You are amazing and wonderful people.
Me, an INFJ: *clears steps 1 - 5, watches step 6* ... I think therapy has helped me explore this more, because I don't do this by nature. I was TAUGHT to express my emotional needs and stick up for myself, it wasn't something I did before on my own volition. Sooo... still an INFJ, I think xD
Me too. I'm definitely INFJ, but I have worked on myself to get to where I can stand up for myself. I still secretly feel guilty about it sometimes and occasionally backpeddle into sacrificing what I want to help someone else. But I am learning to love myself first, and actually focusing my intuition purposely on myself has helped me to be more confident about my right to go for what I want. It also helps to think of myself (sometimes) as if I were another person who I love that I need to take care of.
@@bekster081305 That's a beautiful mentality that I'm yet to reach. I commend you for getting there :)
Me, an INFJ-T: what if I’m not an INFJ?
*watches video*: I still don’t know
*Takes test for the 4th year in a row*: you are INFJ-T
Me: okay, i still don’t believe you though
T? honey you actually aren't an INFJ, you did the 16 personalities test and that test it's so inaccurate :( 16 personalities doesn't follow cognitive functions it just go with the letters. I recommend you sakinorva or keys2cognition, if you still undecided you should investigate about cognitive functions
youre not INFJ cuz youre typed by 16personalities. go through cognitive functions and type yourself
there's no such thing as an infj-t
I second the keys2cognition.
I took 16 personalities and got INFJ-T. I started watching INFJ videos and everything clicked. I was reading comments and looked up keys2cognition. According to that site, I am INFJ with possibly equal chances of being 2 other IN types if the description of INFJ didn't exactly resonate with me. I read the other 2 and related the most to INFJ.
Just so you all know, I have taken many of these tests and they all say INFJ. These tests are all new to me and the start of discovering these deep feelings and emotions that none of my friends are able to experience. Give me a break for once😪
1) you make decisions using impersonal logic 0:40
2) you do not shy away from a challenge 1:28
3) you love being surrounded by people 1:53
4) you are not super attracted to humanitarian jobs 2:35
5) you love to test theories in real life 3:19
6) you are in tune with your own emotions and have no trouble voicing your emotional needs 3:49
Have a nice day/night (:
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@@yoondlesnoodles2887 wtf lol
thank you
Time traveller :D
Thank you for this.
Btw I fall in number 5 only
I've been an INFJ for most of my 74 years, unless the first couple of years or so don't count! lol I'm only more aware of it now! "Unto thine own self be true", written on the Gates of Delphi in ancient Greece and per the late great William Shakespeare! "know thyself"....Socrates, so I do! Thanks for the info, "knowledge is power"....self-empowerment!!♥♥📚
As an INFJ I had some of my close friends tell me they “don’t know me at all” that was 2 years ago and I’ve done the work to try and be more open and talkative about myself but I just can’t seem to feel comfortable with the idea. I think things like I’m not so important to think people want to know me like that. Most people only care about what you have to offer. I’m not saying that is what it’s like for me since they reassure me. It’s just sadly a bad habit. Also never letting the comment go 🥲😭 had me in tears for a few days.
I feel you im a infj too and I feel you.
Every of my friends have said that to me....even saying I scare them or surprise them sometimes.... Even if I still worry that I'm too talkative sometimes.... They say I barely speak
Same here I'm an infj too. I feel like taking a deep breath before opening up really helps.
@@bridgetnelson6733 any progress?
hows it going now?
I'm INFJ and Im not supper atrracted to humanitary jobs cause I have to talk to people then i prefer helping on my own
That sounds more like INFP lol. Extroverted feeling wants to help others after your Ni has done all the mental work.
INFP consider their own feelings first, are you sure you aren't that?
@@Joshy2-SF im sure
@@skireplay1776 I mean, we can never be too sure if we rely solely on 16personalities or, hell, any online personality test. Consult a psychiatrist for a proper test and I can almost guarantee you won't get INFJ
@@altx1 WTF bro you did not know me at all and typing i'm for sure no INFJ, I spend a lot of time finding my personality type I dont rely on this test bro
@2021 S2G2 13 LEE MELISSA PUI YING read about this a lot for 99,99999999999999999999999% Im Ni cognitive function and Fe match for me more than Te. And a lots of thing for INFJ just seem very accurate for me. Which is not happening with every other type
Actually I don't feel like helping people is my goal in life or anything like that. But whenever I see someone sad I run to them and try my best to make them feel fine. Some times I get tired by solving everyone's problem and all their emotions make me over whelmed and I say forget people just focus on work but then again I see someone in problem and I try to help them..
Honestly this video was so comforting to me. I was worried I may be a mistyped infj. I feel a little better now! 😇
the fact that i will “seek constructive criticism” but only really do it make sure i’m still perfect and immediately defend myself or feel awful if i wasn’t perfect
I was always directly on the border with F and T, so I’ve always easily related to both INFJ and INTJ personality types.
The only one on this list that was a little wobbly is acceptance to criticism. I’ve built up a wall from… other issues. So that’s why I’m tolerant of criticism. In fact, sometimes I beg for it when it comes to my art.
51% feeling type here as well. I feel you man
Learn cognitive functions
@@knuthatsgut123 LOL
Relate to this 100%
Me too, 52% feeling, 48% thinking. Although this constantly changes, rotating the two.
Lmao why did people even dislike this 💀 are they mad that they are/arent an infj?? 😭😭✋🏻
Lol maybe
Because it's not based on functions at all. There are loops and grips in all Personality types and INFJ is the most logical feeling type overall. They say INFPs are more into logical things while their inferior function is extroverted thinking??? Which is not even developed completely till they are elderly people. But for infjs thinking functions is in their 3th function which is very very active. And also it's introverted thinking function. Which means. Actually INFJs take A LOT OF LOGICAL decisions only for themselves rather than people. The overall video does not make sense.
It’s not like there’s one “best personality”!
because they simplify something that has way more depth and it makes a mockery of it. i want them to keep making these types of videos if theyre helpful but so far theyre no more helpful then lumping everything into 2 categories
@@aeneanmorgenstern1612 THANK YOU omg i was waiting for someone to say it.
Every time I'm confused I'm really infj or not, I'll watch your video, and every time I finished watching it, I was sure that I'm really an infj. Thank you so much for your videos.
As an INFJ, i hate it when people are like "Oh so youre the most rarest personality type! :o"
i have this weird thing where i feel like im invalid if im not rare (i have no clue where it came from but its really toxic) so i am like ":D" but inside im like dying partially because being infj sucks, big lonely moment
Me (an infj) : I swear if I have any of these traits I'm gonna question my whole identity 👁👄👁
same
Don´t you dare to tie your mbti type to your identity xD You´re gonna regret it.
From a fellow INFJ to others,
I get you. Your hardships and the constant need to be the shoulder to cry on and if you try to lean on others you feel like you're being a burden to them so you avoid that a lot. I just want to say I get our problems and we don't owe anyone anything in terms of being their personal therapist okay? It's hard to swallow even when we know it's the truth. We'll find someone who's going to understand us at the end of the road, I'm sure! :)))
This confirmed that I am definitely an INFJ! I totally relate with all the strengths and weaknesses.
Still an INFJ... I wish I could be more interpersonally social. Because I absolutely love my alone time after giving so much of my energy to those who are in need; I’m completely drained and need to recharge. It’s weird because I love people but I also don’t want to be bothered with the whole of people’s nuances and everyday activities. 🤦🏽♀️😩
The animation and design on this is so aesthetically pleasing 🥺🤎
my infj ass: "I'm really thickening my skin, I can take it criticism!"
someone: **gives constructive criticism or makes a passing comment on something I'm passionate about**
me: 🙂 **//and i took that personally//**
For real, “It’s not personal, it’s just criticism”
Also me: “Well they didn’t need to put it that way..”
I tested ENTJ in high school but 10 years ago (and last week) I tested INFJ. My I/E and F/T were pretty close to 50/50. The description still matches me so well, except I'm a bit more comfortable in social settings. Probably has to do with having a big family, the right friends in middle/highschool, and a job where I have to interact with a hundred plus people a day.
I really wish I knew about these traits sooner because I could have protected myself better. I got taken advantage of a lot.
Nah man test again. I heard personalities don’t changes, you maybe ENTJ. Just be yourself 👊🏻🔥
I'd recommend researching the cognitive functions! It's pretty hard for someone to be between ENTJ and INFJ because they have different decision making functions (Fe and Ti for INFJ and Te and Fi for ENTJ)
Believe me I thought I was INFP because I tested so but when I looked in the functions I realized I'm ESFJ which is a HUGE difference
@@justalittlepeach6060 Thanks!
@@lkf8799 No problem!! :D
Me, an INFJ, reading how others INFJ’S have been feeling mistreated, used, and abandoned: i really feel dat *sobs* (actually was abt to cry reading the comments;((( )
Me reading comments make me feel stalked- because THEY ARE TRUE AS HELL
i know
I'm finally sure that I'm an infj cause of this video. Thanks
Everyone thinks they’re infj bc they’re reading about overhyped personalities traits. They take tests and never dig deeper, ending in a mistype. Then people begin to “act” like their type bc it seem to make sense to them. The Myers Briggs is supposed to identify your cognition. Cognition influences personality and not vice versa. Personality isn’t set in stone, it’s shaped by many factors other than cognition. Being infj has its advantages but it’s not as fun as everyone hyped it to be. Always question yourself, self study, and learn.
I've probably been one my whole life looking back but the past year has changed me to probably 20 different personality types, I have become numb to nearly all emotion and I want to feel but can't
Are you a Shaniac?
yall take the actual MBTI test, its literally SO unlikely everyone here is coincidentally an INFJ
Well, I often get INFJ-T or INTJ-T. Just one more test for the heck of it put me in INFJ-T again. It is always by a thin margin though. Sometimes as low as 1%, but this time 3%. Every other aspect of the test is always clear, but not between Feeling and Thinking.
@@Cerebrum123 this means nothing
@@mpmedia6735 What means nothing? The MBTI as a whole? The very small difference I get between T and F?
If you mean the MBTI then I have two responses. 1. I was responding to "yeah ok" who told people to take the test rather than rely on their own views of what they are. 2. The MBTI doesn't mean that much in the grand scheme of things. It does seem to be a decent way to explain some basic personality tendencies, but no more than that.
@@Cerebrum123 no. you're 16 personalities results mean nothing.
@@mpmedia6735 Then what would be the way to test if you are INFJ? Other MBTI sites seem to use the same basic types of questions and criteria.
me : "no one cares about me, why do I help them though?"
someone : "hey, can you do my homework? I don't even understand it."
me : "sure!"
another person comes at me : "hey can you help me, please accompany me to the bathroom? please .."
me : "sure, let's go!"
*5 minutes later*
me : *just want to go to my seat*
someone else : "pretty girl, can you help me?"
me : "sure!"
my mind : *can't control 😂*
Haha yes
Wahhh I can relate
That's literally me because I don't know how to reject people's requests without being hated by them
i dont wanna help them but i gues i dont know how to reject them
I am an INFJ and I do share a couple of the traits pointed out in this video as for my test, I was listed as an INFJ-T. I know it's a different version of the same test but it's still valid. ^.^
Thanks for posting these videos they do a lot to help so many.
Good morning guys! Have a great day stay safe! Be kind to yourself, you are loved by many❤️
When I was a kid my teacher gave me criticism on an essay and I literally got UNDER THE DESK and cried. We working on it tho ive gotten much better since then
I tested INFJ and resonate with most of the qualities in there, although I am also neurodivergent (BPD for sure and possible autism/ADHD) which kinda skews some of the points, such as opening up to people. I value honest relationships with folks who value me for who I am and are not looking to change me (because that criticism messes with my self-esteem), and I offer them safe space to be themselves as well. :) As an introvert (more ambivert because I do enjoy small social gatherings, but then need a lot of time to recharge) I don't really have the energy to be everyone's friend, despite that I still enjoy helping folks.
A world has opened up to me since I took this test and I'm an INFJ but throughout life experience I've overcome a lot but there is like still this drive to help people, be there for people, overthink people's acts and interactions and reactions, analyzing it. Knowing from the instant tone of how they say hello that something is already wrong and I'm always dead on point with it too, yet than it becomes a bit frustrating of being unable to help them because they don't wanna talk about it for example and I've learned that you can't and shouldn't help everyone, that some need to fall down hard on their face in a deep hole before they realise shit. Not to mention a lot more can influence a person but a lot of the INFJ stuff in previous videos resonate a lot with me and made it easier for me to identify myself because it makes me understand that I am just different and I work different and that not a lot of people will be like me. It also still instills me to overexplain myself to others as well
as an INFJ,I constantly need to be reminded to put myself first rather than getting hurt trying to solve other people's life problems
Edit:Dear future me and other INFJ's, please stop trying to set other people’s lives right losing sense of yourself. You are all emotinally rational,kind,big hearted human beings but please just don't hurt yourself in the process. Please do take care of yourself. Thank you :)
Same here but guess what? I never ever do it :' .
@@lazistonec5114 *cries in INFJ*
@@akiranora11 i just re took the test and uh Turns out I'm still a INFJ 🙂
@@lazistonec5114 it's not like you can change your personality type tho. Kinda sad but true
@@akiranora11 lmao but I'm still doubting myself bruh
I'm ashamed to admit I'm secretly proud of being an INFJ. It's like, I dunno, I thought a ton more people were like me and all of a sudden I hear that I'm in the extreme minority. Kinda cool in a stupid way I guess.
its a terrible personality type so its nothing to be proud of bro
@@hwi680 Thanks for making me feel worse about myself, hope you're having a nice day
@@benbovard9579 don't let him get you down, i don't know his personality type but he seems to have a bad personality in general.
It is not bad beeing proud about beeing an INFJ especially whenn you geel like matching most of its positive traits without beeing an unhealthy one :)
Leo's are said to be born as angels but they can also be some kind of dark demons and they betray the worst when they do.
Also, my best friend was an Aries and Aries are demons, me the leo, but I still liked him, so fool of me he literally fought on my back and thought girls are weak and I hate abuse words which had already taken over his language.
INTJ, borderline INFJ, here! I find INFJs so strange because they're either sometimes completely like me or sometimes completely NOTHING like me.
So from this video I gathered that I'm both INFJ and also every other personality type.
Almost every point resonates with me on some level.
Wishing everyone a happy day. And you matter. You are valid. And you are beautiful. Thank you for coming to my ted talk