I stipulated this in my marriage agreement, and after 22 years of marriage, I found that my husband was cheating on me. I forgave him then and he ended that relationship. 5 years later, I found out that again, he is cheating on me, and now he says he wants to take this woman as a second wife. I think my only option now is to divorce him, as he has showed me he can’t fulfill the marriage agreement, nor his commitment to me and our family.
Alhumdullilah, at least as a woman in Islam, now I know that I can put this demand before I get married. Jazakallah Ustad for giving me this knowledge. May Allah bless you. I'm so relieved now.
I asked the sheikh that I wanted to put in my contract for my husband not to take a second wife but the sheikh refused and my husband swore to ALLAH he wouldn’t do that but 2 years later he has a second wife and he banned me from having children but the second one is pregnant
Women can stipulate such a condition. If her husband wants two wives he can simply divorce the first wife and take another who wont stipulate such condition or not marry the first wife with such condition in the first place. I've realised that people- the less knowledgeable they are the more irrational, emotional and unreasonable they are.
No woman would agree that their husband marry another wife unless it would be sinful for them not to. If we say she wouldnt be then the verse about marrying four wives would be pointless. Allah says marry 2 3 4 1. He doesnt say whether we should with their permission.
You shouldnt call people who dont share ur opinions irrational emotional and unreasonable when you havent even read or studied their reasons and arguments.
Eventhough many times I don't agree with Sheikh on certain things, but he really is someone very knowledgeable and aware of what he's doing. I like him for the sake of Allah Swt. May Allah grant him to stay happy and healthy and get a long time to spread his knowledge.
Its really weird how people react wothout knowing fikah. Brothers and sisters. Scholers like sheikh spend their whole life studying and researching. Plz be respectful to them. If woman practices her right it is no sin. If the woman talks or asks her husband for her right it is no sin. And this is coming from a man who wants to lead his life by islamic principles . Don't criticize sheikhs if u dont know about a matter
JazakAllah for speaking on this topic, this just goes to show that islam cares so much about a woman's feelings and her security . There are some things that don't sit well with us but that's the point of islam, to submit and trust Allah with the rules.
SubhanAllah, alhamdulillah....my husband kept telling me I am sinful for saying it is allowed in the marriage contract and I am allowed to take divorce from him if he takes another wife. He makes me feel like I am going to hell for this.
Assalamu alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa barakatahu Cover . First of all there is no need for u to put your pic. U r not covering properly . Fear Allah. Don't cause fitnah.
@@_Hashim_ Brother that is not the way to advise a sister. She is literally wearing a niqab so you should be lowering your gaze in the first place if such a thing is causing you fitnah.
Masha Allah, may Allah grant me a chance to meet you here and here after, I have learnt a lot from you sheikh. One day you were answering a question about beef and you mentioned Uganda . I was so amused and surprised I couldn't imagine that you could be knowing it.
From my own studies on this topic, it's my opinion that a man should seek his wife's permission BEFORE doing nikkah with another woman. And she has the right to say no. However, the man has the right to divorce his wife if she doesn't allow you to marry another woman. I think that's fair, but please correct me if I'm wrong. Allah swt knows best.
He shouldnt need to ask for something he is already given the right for, if the women asks, of course he should reply with what he is thinking, but if she does not, he shouldnt need to say.
Obviously goes without saying if the man still wanted to marry another woman if first wife didn’t agree then he is allowed to divorce first wife and vice verca, but point is he wouldn’t be allowed to do 2nd nikkah and still remain married with first wife as well.
The man must let his wife know he wants to take another wife not ask her permission. But he must not destabilise his family rather he should try to make her understand and comfort her and if she doesn't want that, can seek divorce.
no it's not a womans right to stop her husband from getting married to a 2nd wife if that wasnt stipulated in the marriage contract. rather you should follow a scholar or a madhab and follow the opinion from them. only when you are well grounded and have studied a lot, under qualified scholars, that's when you can take your own studies and have your opinion. even sheikh assim does not give his own opinion, he gives the opinion of the scholars he follows
Sheik Assim May Allah bless you and reward you and preserve you and your family. Don't kisten to ignorant people, many people who are intelligent and sincere know that you give factual answers from Quran and sunnah, and we appreciate you. These people are thoughtless and ignorant. Allah knows your heart and intentions
So let me get it straight. Opting out of marriage, because of something that the wife cannot live with, is being considered as making halal as haram? What happened to the rights of spouses?
I'm guessing whoever wants a second wife will have to divorce the first wife because of a stipulation in the nikkah. Is there a Hadith where the prophet himself said a woman can have a conditional marriage? Because our prophet not wanting his cousin to marry the daughter of his enemy doesn't answer this question.
That was the daughter of abu jahl and it Salaam It is absolutely understandable that the daughter of Prophet a.s. can't accept her. For such a condition I think it would be better if we have some more example from sunnah. Bcoz this example itself became invalid as the issue was not the second wife but the relation with abu jahl. A polite request for reconsideration.
With all due respect, its just an excuse to end the sunnah of polygamy If thats the case then why can't a WOMAN set the condition they her Husband wont go for Jihad after the marriage? Isnt jihad more dangerous than polygamy?
A one more question, that what are permissible condition we as a husband and wife could put in the contract. Because I find such condition as a tool of feminism and at the end of the day we men have to suffer at all. Women have enough right and most of the cases they are fulfilled as well. So can we make condition like you have to stay with our parents, normally in subcontinent this is understood by proxy. And that time no one ask for a seperate house but just afer marriage the bride family start thai is her daughter right to have separate house. Is this fare?
A lot of times Muslim feminists are a byproduct from deceptive men not being overly honest about Islam rights for them. In essence these women don't really have a problem with Islam, rather the incel community that has unfortunately infiltrated Muslims males
Can you clarify how a women can make a divorce by returning khawala? Is there a need for a Muslim judge to orchestrate it? If the man does not want to take the khawala, can a divorce still happen? If the women received many gifts like jewelry, does she need to return the gifts as well? If the women is a housewife, the mahr, usually money, can be gone if marriage lasted for over a year, so the women will not be able to pay anything back, in this situation, can she divorce without giving any mahr? Are there other cases of divorce using khawala? We only know of one, from other videos I watched, but I was wondering if there was other cases. Was the marriage for a short time? If it was short, then the reasoning for divorce can make sense to me, but if the marriage was for a while, then I think the use of khawala is different? Question is, how was women side divorce done in Prophet Muhammad(SAW) time, and the sahaba's time?
Um I don't know about the rest but anything that is gifted is the woman's (she doesn't need to give it back). Search Sheikh Assim's RUclips, maybe he's already answered these questions.
Most men that plan on marrying multiple wives don't tell their wives about it. And to be honest they shouldn't cuz we all know no woman will ever give permission. Hence just marry her, then when you want marry another wife. It's very simple.
Coming from a man who wouldn’t like to see his wife talking to a man Bcus of jealousy , but can marry as much as he likes Pple like you don’t believe in women’s right in Islam Bcus of your selfishness
And they say Islam does not give women their due rights! 😅😅😅
I stipulated this in my marriage agreement, and after 22 years of marriage, I found that my husband was cheating on me. I forgave him then and he ended that relationship. 5 years later, I found out that again, he is cheating on me, and now he says he wants to take this woman as a second wife. I think my only option now is to divorce him, as he has showed me he can’t fulfill the marriage agreement, nor his commitment to me and our family.
Cheating? As in zina??? Sis that should have been your ticket out of there.
Um u are too late u should've left when he betrayed u first time.
"you don't know pillar of Iman you schmuck" 😂😂😂
Alhumdullilah, at least as a woman in Islam, now I know that I can put this demand before I get married. Jazakallah Ustad for giving me this knowledge. May Allah bless you. I'm so relieved now.
I asked the sheikh that I wanted to put in my contract for my husband not to take a second wife but the sheikh refused and my husband swore to ALLAH he wouldn’t do that but 2 years later he has a second wife and he banned me from having children but the second one is pregnant
Women can stipulate such a condition. If her husband wants two wives he can simply divorce the first wife and take another who wont stipulate such condition or not marry the first wife with such condition in the first place. I've realised that people- the less knowledgeable they are the more irrational, emotional and unreasonable they are.
No woman would agree that their husband marry another wife unless it would be sinful for them not to. If we say she wouldnt be then the verse about marrying four wives would be pointless. Allah says marry 2 3 4 1. He doesnt say whether we should with their permission.
There is a difference of opinion of opinion among scholars about this matter. Whether she can stipulate such condition or not.
You shouldnt call people who dont share ur opinions irrational emotional and unreasonable when you havent even read or studied their reasons and arguments.
Spot on!
@@yusufazizi9326 facts
2:58 🤣 I love this brother so much wallah! You can tell how annoyed he is with some people that speak or comment without knowledge
Eventhough many times I don't agree with Sheikh on certain things, but he really is someone very knowledgeable and aware of what he's doing. I like him for the sake of Allah Swt. May Allah grant him to stay happy and healthy and get a long time to spread his knowledge.
I wanna know something that you disagree😀
U don't agree sometimes if there is difference of opinion.
If there is no difference of opinion than you should agree to it if proved.
What you disagree upon?
Always he gives references from Sahih Hadith and Qur'an.
@@Kramer_. 😂😂😂
Are you a layman or sheikh?
"You shmuck"😭😭
Its really weird how people react wothout knowing fikah.
Brothers and sisters. Scholers like sheikh spend their whole life studying and researching. Plz be respectful to them. If woman practices her right it is no sin. If the woman talks or asks her husband for her right it is no sin. And this is coming from a man who wants to lead his life by islamic principles .
Don't criticize sheikhs if u dont know about a matter
Thank you for posting the whole video regarding this, it makes it so much clear as to why Sheikh spoke about hateful comments. Jazak Allah khair
Much respect to this man.
JazakAllah for speaking on this topic, this just goes to show that islam cares so much about a woman's feelings and her security . There are some things that don't sit well with us but that's the point of islam, to submit and trust Allah with the rules.
Now this is an important question 😄
Subhanallah, thank you for speaking up
SubhanAllah, alhamdulillah....my husband kept telling me I am sinful for saying it is allowed in the marriage contract and I am allowed to take divorce from him if he takes another wife. He makes me feel like I am going to hell for this.
Love you Sheihk for the sake of Allah swt. May Allah swt bless you and your family ameen
Assalamu alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa barakatahu
Cover . First of all there is no need for u to put your pic. U r not covering properly .
Fear Allah. Don't cause fitnah.
@@_Hashim_ You’re doing too much.
@@_Hashim_ Brother that is not the way to advise a sister. She is literally wearing a niqab so you should be lowering your gaze in the first place if such a thing is causing you fitnah.
It's so easy these days to make a claim without knowledge because of these comments. May Allah protect us ameen
may Allah preserve you sheikh we love you for the sake of Allah keep up good work.
Masha Allah, may Allah grant me a chance to meet you here and here after, I have learnt a lot from you sheikh. One day you were answering a question about beef and you mentioned Uganda . I was so amused and surprised I couldn't imagine that you could be knowing it.
Asalam Aleikum brother. We are in neighbouring countries. Kenya
Subhanallah. Its good to know your religion. This men are something else!
Thanks for your message May Allah reward you inshallah. I watch this video when I feel down sometimes
schmuck 😂😂😂
I love you sheikh for the sake of Allah
🤣🤣🤣 bro "you schmuck"got me
I love your videos sheikh. And I hope to see you in Jannah Inn shaa Allah, ameen.
From my own studies on this topic, it's my opinion that a man should seek his wife's permission BEFORE doing nikkah with another woman. And she has the right to say no. However, the man has the right to divorce his wife if she doesn't allow you to marry another woman. I think that's fair, but please correct me if I'm wrong. Allah swt knows best.
He shouldnt need to ask for something he is already given the right for, if the women asks, of course he should reply with what he is thinking, but if she does not, he shouldnt need to say.
No woman would allow his marry another wife.
Obviously goes without saying if the man still wanted to marry another woman if first wife didn’t agree then he is allowed to divorce first wife and vice verca, but point is he wouldn’t be allowed to do 2nd nikkah and still remain married with first wife as well.
The man must let his wife know he wants to take another wife not ask her permission. But he must not destabilise his family rather he should try to make her understand and comfort her and if she doesn't want that, can seek divorce.
no it's not a womans right to stop her husband from getting married to a 2nd wife if that wasnt stipulated in the marriage contract. rather you should follow a scholar or a madhab and follow the opinion from them. only when you are well grounded and have studied a lot, under qualified scholars, that's when you can take your own studies and have your opinion. even sheikh assim does not give his own opinion, he gives the opinion of the scholars he follows
He can take his second but am out of his life for man it so easy am out of his life not every woman
Sheik Assim May Allah bless you and reward you and preserve you and your family. Don't kisten to ignorant people, many people who are intelligent and sincere know that you give factual answers from Quran and sunnah, and we appreciate you. These people are thoughtless and ignorant. Allah knows your heart and intentions
‘Ignorant imbeciles’😂😂😂😭
This shaykh😂
So let me get it straight. Opting out of marriage, because of something that the wife cannot live with, is being considered as making halal as haram? What happened to the rights of spouses?
"U shmuck" 😂😂
Are the conditions limited?
If yes then how many are allowed? Please answer
Jazakallah Khair
I'm guessing whoever wants a second wife will have to divorce the first wife because of a stipulation in the nikkah. Is there a Hadith where the prophet himself said a woman can have a conditional marriage? Because our prophet not wanting his cousin to marry the daughter of his enemy doesn't answer this question.
I have tead this Hadith sahi al bukhari 5230 about second marrige of fatima' husband. Can research it google or can find in hadith sahi al bukhari.
Is Sheikh answering the questions recently. I have questions too but I thought he stopped answering them long ago and these videos were archives
He is still answering,go on his site
Go to his channel and check the website. Link of website is given description box
JazakAllahKhair
That was the daughter of abu jahl and it Salaam
It is absolutely understandable that the daughter of Prophet a.s. can't accept her. For such a condition I think it would be better if we have some more example from sunnah. Bcoz this example itself became invalid as the issue was not the second wife but the relation with abu jahl. A polite request for reconsideration.
Well said
Jazaq Allah
Can someone educate me please? Where is this mentioned in Quran
Correct me if I am wrong, I think marrying a second women require consent of wife
No he doesn't need the permission of his wife but he should tell her is he wants to marry a second wife
No its not obligatory in general
@@kojo2773 not something u can exactly hide
Subhan Allah THANK YOU
With all due respect, its just an excuse to end the sunnah of polygamy
If thats the case then why can't a WOMAN set the condition they her Husband wont go for Jihad after the marriage?
Isnt jihad more dangerous than polygamy?
repost?
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A one more question, that what are permissible condition we as a husband and wife could put in the contract. Because I find such condition as a tool of feminism and at the end of the day we men have to suffer at all. Women have enough right and most of the cases they are fulfilled as well. So can we make condition like you have to stay with our parents, normally in subcontinent this is understood by proxy. And that time no one ask for a seperate house but just afer marriage the bride family start thai is her daughter right to have separate house. Is this fare?
Yes
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Where are the muslim feminists now? 😂😂😂😂😂
In a hidden plc 😂
A lot of times Muslim feminists are a byproduct from deceptive men not being overly honest about Islam rights for them. In essence these women don't really have a problem with Islam, rather the incel community that has unfortunately infiltrated Muslims males
Can you clarify how a women can make a divorce by returning khawala? Is there a need for a Muslim judge to orchestrate it? If the man does not want to take the khawala, can a divorce still happen? If the women received many gifts like jewelry, does she need to return the gifts as well?
If the women is a housewife, the mahr, usually money, can be gone if marriage lasted for over a year, so the women will not be able to pay anything back, in this situation, can she divorce without giving any mahr?
Are there other cases of divorce using khawala? We only know of one, from other videos I watched, but I was wondering if there was other cases. Was the marriage for a short time? If it was short, then the reasoning for divorce can make sense to me, but if the marriage was for a while, then I think the use of khawala is different?
Question is, how was women side divorce done in Prophet Muhammad(SAW) time, and the sahaba's time?
Um I don't know about the rest but anything that is gifted is the woman's (she doesn't need to give it back). Search Sheikh Assim's RUclips, maybe he's already answered these questions.
this is not the sheikhs channel, so he wont reply to the questions here. better ask him on his website, Twitter, Facebook etc.
Most men that plan on marrying multiple wives don't tell their wives about it. And to be honest they shouldn't cuz we all know no woman will ever give permission. Hence just marry her, then when you want marry another wife. It's very simple.
This is against islamic law.
Learn about islam ig then
Really!
no it's not, clearly.
Coming from a man who wouldn’t like to see his wife talking to a man Bcus of jealousy , but can marry as much as he likes
Pple like you don’t believe in women’s right in Islam Bcus of your selfishness