SubhanAllah sister's biggest concern is Akhirah. She fears she will upset Allah if she leaves her husband. May Allah protect and preserve her dignity and provide for her the best of both worlds aamen
It's not allowed to marry more than one if someone can't treat his wives equally. And this sister was clearly not beings treated justly and equally by her husband.😢
My and my husband are both working. We both have shared accounts. We both help our families. We always ask each other before making a big financial decision like buying a vehicle but not for small purchases. We both are madly in love and fully trust each other. Is it wrong for me to trust him?? If it is then marriage doesn’t make sense to me. For me marriage and love is nothing without trust.
trust is important, but in a cases of men started to depend on there wife's money to carry the whole family and they have the ability to support but they chose not then here is where a women should be more aware of the situation and step back .
The worst part is him getting a second wife, if one can’t satisfy one wife why get 2, with the hurt she has she knows it’s the end of her marriage, with that treatment, it says action speaks louder. May Allah lead her in the right direction.😢
She sounds so heartbroken. May Allah heal her heart, make her khula free of drama and fitna and give her a righteous husband. Hurts me so much to hear the pain in her voice. U will be in my duas sister.
@@KadershaN-ou2sj No. No woman is even slightly obligated to tolerate her husband's polygyny. The husband has free will to marry 4 times, and the wife has free will to leave such a husband because she can't accept it.
@KadershaN-ou2sj this is what you got from the video? Just that he got married again? You didn't listen to the facts that he was a gold digger and how badly he treated her and abused her? SERIOUSLY?
He seems to be a good husband as he is taking care of in laws as well... But he needs to stop taking his wifes money.. that's the only thing wrong he did
@@Unzurnavlog no husband is required to take care of his in laws but he is doing it... So he must have some goodness.... But he may be told to not use the money of the wife..
@@mansooralt she told that he disrespects her and her parents Infront of his family and brags that he takes cares of his inlaws and secondly he isn't spending his money on his inlaws it's his wife's money and he has no right to question her or stop her from taking care of her parents.he is nowhere a good husband
Any man who "depends" on the earnings of his wife is not a "man", because Allah clearly said in the Qur'an, *'Men are the caretakers of women, as men have been provisioned by Allah over women and tasked with supporting them financially. (An-Nisa, 34)'* This verse here right here is a divine decree for all men from Allah. Any man failing to do so without valid or logical reason will undoubtably be held accountable by Allah on the judgement day. I prey may Allah grants this sister a life of peace and happiness.
...and strike them when they are disobedient you...U forgot the latter part which the core. 🤣🤣 read whole Sura An Nisa 3:34 to get better understand. Muslims woman suffer for sticking into bad men and need double of evidance rather man..wonder of Islam 🤣🤣
Sisters please be strong. I'm going through divorce with a similar type of man who never provided. But being single seems to me much better than living a half life abusive one.
@@umipsi5124 Thank you so much for your blessing. Means alot to me. You really have given me strength. This is the unity and and understanding we must have for eachother during this difficult time for us when every waking moment I realize a part of me is gone now and I have to rebuild myself for a new life.
He stole her money, how much more abusive does he need to be? Disgraceful that Islam encourages this by subjugating women and making it more difficult for them to divorce than for men @@fawazfowzi1478
@@fawazfowzi1478 Who knows who is right just judging with their words aren't right. She says being single is okay than being married that sentence gives me doubts about her words.
I am a Christian for now and soon Alhamdulillah be a Muslima by God's Grace 🙏 🤲 i am slowly learning about being an Islam❤ it broke my heart while I am listening to you my sister😢 May Allah Bless You and Bless your husband to change his heart and mind that what he's doing is not fair to you as you are his wife.. continue praying and be strong 💪 🙏
Asalamualikum, I would just like to say that don’t wait in accepting islam, since you got the message already, because we don’t know how much time do we have in this world . Just accept the true message of Islam and then keep learning it, just as your other 1.7 billion Muslims brothers/sisters are learning. JazakAllah. May Allah keep us all on his straight path and let us all enter into his paradise…. Without a single questions asked.
Masha'a Allah so proud of you, welcome to the beautiful world of Islam, may Allah eases your way into a blessed life, and joy in paradise in sha'a Allah ❤🤗
May Allah make easy for you, and guide you to the right path Ameen Ya Rabb . You Can sincerely believe in your only True God ( Allah), believe in His Messenger, and utter the following: " I testify that there is no God worthy of worship but the One True God ( Allah) and that Muhammad is the Messenger of God ( Allah). This testimony is the first step on the way to eternal life and the real key to the gate of Paradise. If you decide to take this way, you can contact your Muslim friend, the nearest Islamic centre, or Sheikh or me ( I will be very happy to help). Yes you can do it! Don't hold my friend, because tomorrow never promise.These LITTLE information might be help In Sha Allah. Jesus: The Prophet In Judaism, Jesus (peace be upon him) is denied as the Messiah. This is in stark contrast to Christianity where he is worshipped as a deity, or the son of God. Islam takes the middle ground and acknowledges Jesus as an honourable Prophet and Messenger of God, as well as the Messiah, but Muslims do not worship him - as worship is for God alone who created Jesus and everything that exists. "(Jesus) said, 'Indeed, I am the slave of Allah (God). He has given me the Scripture and made me a Prophet.'"Quran 19:30 Miraculous Birth According to the Quran, the Angel Gabriel was sent to Mary, the noble virgin, in the form of a man, informing her of a child who was to be born miraculously without a father. "He (Angel Gabriel) said, 'I am only a messenger of your Lord to announce to you the gift of a righteous son.' She said, 'How shall I have a son, seeing that no man has touched me, and I am not unchaste?' He said, 'Thus (it will be). Your Lord says, "It is easy for Me, and We will make him a sign to the people and a mercy from Us. And it is a matter already decreed." "Quran 19:19-21 Some claim that his miraculous birth is evidence of Jesus' divinity. However, Jesus was not the first to come into existence without a father, as Prophet Adam (peace be upon him) before him had neither a father nor mother. God says: "The likeness of Jesus before God is as that of Adam; He created him (Adam) from dust, then said to him: 'Be', and he was. This is the truth from your Lord, so be not of the disputers."Quran 3:59-60 If Jesus is worshipped due to having no father, then surely Adam is more deserving of worship since he was created without either parent. Miracles of Jesus Jesus was miraculously conceived with no father and also performed great miracles by the will and permission of God. He spoke as a baby in the cradle to defend his mother against the people who accused her of fornication. The Quran also states that Jesus gave life to the dead, cured the leper and the blind - all by the will of God. The fact that Jesus (peace be upon him) performed miracles does not mean that he was anything more than a humble servant of God. In fact, many Messengers performed miracles, including Noah, Moses and Muhammad (may peace be upon them all) and these miracles only took place by the permission of God, so as to demonstrate the authenticity of the Messenger. Message of Jesus The Prophets of the Old Testament such as Abraham, Noah and Jonah never preached that God is part of a Trinity, and did not believe in Jesus as their saviour. Their message was simple: there is one God and He alone deserves your worship. It is not logical for God to send Prophets for thousands of years with the same essential message, only to suddenly change it, claim that He is now a part of a trinity, and to stipulate the belief in the divinity of Jesus to be saved. The truth is, Jesus preached the same message as all the Prophets in the Old Testament. There is a passage in the Bible that really emphasises this core message. A man came to Jesus and asked, "Which is the first commandment of all?" Jesus answered, "The first of all the commandments is, 'Hear, O Israel, the Lord our God, the Lord is one.' "(Mark 12:28-29) So, the greatest commandment, the most important belief according to Jesus, is that God is one. If Jesus was God he would have said, 'I am God, worship me.' Instead, he merely repeated a verse from the Old Testament confirming that God is One. This aligns with the mission of Jesus, as taught in Islam, where Jesus was sent to the Children of Israel to confirm the message of the past Prophets - to believe in the One True God. "And when Jesus brought clear proofs, he said, '… Indeed, God - He is my Lord and your Lord. So worship Him alone. This is the only Straight Path.' "Quran 43:63-64 As an honourable obedient Messenger of God, Jesus submitted willingly to God's commands. As such, he was a "Muslim" - which refers to anyone that submits to the will and commandments of God. Jesus in Islam Jesus was as an honourable Prophet sent by God to call to the worship of God alone. This is evident in the Bible and confirmed by the Quran. The Islamic belief about Jesus explains who the real Jesus was, whilst maintaining the pure belief about God and His complete Greatness, Uniqueness and Perfection. We invite you and everyone to look further and investigate Islam. It is not just another religion. It is the same message preached by Noah, Abraham, Moses, Jesus and Muhammad - may peace be upon all of them. Islam means 'submission to God' and is a natural and complete way of life that encourages one to give due attention to their relationship with God and His creation. Islam teaches that God is the All-Just and All-Merciful and does not need to sacrifice himself to forgive sins nor is anyone "born into sin". God judges everyone based on their own deeds and everyone is accountable for their own actions. Islam teaches us to love and respect all the Prophets of God, but loving and respecting them does not mean worshipping them because worship is due only to God.
Don’t waste time bro. I also took my Shahada earlier this year. It’s the best decision I ever made in my entire life. Join me. And I hope to see you someday in Jannah 🙏🏾
As a man, our core responsibility is to provide. How can this guy consider himself a man, be involved in a marriage, when he hasn't figured his life out. May Allah increase us in our abilities and make our hearts kinder to those we love.
@IbnMohammadAlHaqq prophet could take more than 4 wives and didn't need to give mahr or any witnesses for wedding. Ain't no way you're comparing prophet's marriage with normal men. Lastly from the hadith of thabit's wife it has been proven that a woman can ask for divorce if she doesn't like the man and is afraid that she might fail to do her duties. That's why taking a wife without permission is a valid reason as it might cause her to dislike him and make her do sin.
@IbnMohammadAlHaqq not only that if a man takes another woman without telling the first wife then that wouldn't be fair for her. Cause what if the man doesn't fairly provide for them or spends equal time? The woman can't even know that and become a victim of unfair treatment. Lastly it's necessary to let her know cause there's a chance that the man can get STD while being with multiple partners and that might harm the wife. So she has all the right to know about that and she can decide whether she wants to take such risks or not. That's why in most of the Muslim countries it's a valid reason for the woman to take a divorce.
Keeping a secret wife is sinful. The whole point of nikah is that everyone knows who is married to whom locally and the dignity of the woman is preserved and inheritance is clear. If a husband goes to Africa and has no reception, then yeah he doesn’t need the wife’s *permission* to get married in the first place. But if he can’t bring himself to then make his marriage known and starts lying about his trips and wife finds out that he’s been violating her trust and drastically altered her financial present and future without even letting her know, then he isn’t an honest man and doesn’t deserve her respect. This woman was local and betrayed by her best friend and husband, completely valid grounds for divorce even if he wasn’t a thief to boot. Being a liar is enough.
I cried watching this. May Allah ease her pain and give her a righteous, kind, compassionate, affectionate, loving and loyal husband who will fulfill and satisfy all her needs and never break her heart and stand by her and make good duaa for her❤️❤️❤️
A husband is only needs to do what he obligated to do. He isn't became a bad husband due to not able to fulfilling " All her needs " a man is obligated to provide protect and their favour to them asper his capacity he isn't required to provide luxury even prophet Muhammad(pbuh)not did such things he provided what he can provide he doesn't tolerated him self their wives once he also decided to divorce his one of his wife zawda because he thought he can't do justice to her so it is better to divorce her and she afraid that situation and she said she will give opportunity to Aisha(ra). Just think.
@@KadershaN-ou2sj I think what she meant by needs is food, basic necessities, protection, not hurting and insulting her. Because her current husband is not fulfilling his duties as a man, not providing but instead uses her money and taking advantage of her, even insulted her infront of people and then goes on to say, "you have to accept my 2nd wife aka your best friend". Not all needs is materialistic.
My heart just broke when her voice started shivering.. ONLY ALLAH KNOW HOW HEART BROKEN SHE IS.. May ALLAH guide you sister and May you found a gud loving caring husband in the future 🌸❤
Prophet wanted to put a stop to all cruelties to women. He preached kindness towards them. He told the Muslims: "Fear Allah in respect of women." And: "The best of you are they who behave best to their wives." And: "A Muslim must not hate his wife, and if he be displeased with one bad quality in her, let him be pleased with one that is good." And:"The more civil and kind a Muslim is to his wife, the more perfect in faith he is." The Prophet (peace be upon him) was most emphatic in enjoining upon Muslims to be kind to their women when he delivered his famous khutba on the Mount of Mercy at Arafat in the presence of one hundred and twenty-four thousand of his Companions who had gathered there for the Hajj al-Wada (Farewell Pilgrimage). In it he ordered those present, and through them all those Muslims who were to come later, to be respectful and kind towards women. He said: "Fear Allah regarding women. Verily you have married them with the trust of Allah, and made their bodies lawful with the word of Allah. You have got (rights) over them, and they have got (rights) over you in respect of their food and clothing according to your means." In Islam a woman is a completely independent personality. She can make any contract or bequest in her own name. She is entitled to inherit in her position as mother, as wife, as sister and as daughter. She has perfect liberty to choose her husband. The pagan society of pre-Islamic Arabia had an irrational prejudice against their female children whom they used to bury alive. The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) was totally opposed to this practice. He showed them that supporting their female Islam raised the status of women, and made them equal with men in most rulings. So women, like men, are commanded to believe in Allah and to worship Him. And women are made equal to men in terms of reward in the Hereafter. Women have the right to express themselves, to give sincere advice, to enjoin what is good and forbid what is evil, and to call people to Allah. Women have the right to own property, to buy and sell, to inherit, to give charity and to give gifts. It is not permissible for anyone to take a woman’s wealth without her consent. For more about the rights of women in Islam, see the detailed answer.Islam showed full respect to the women and ensured rights, dignity and honour and equal status of men and women in case of marriage because for being a valid marriage acquiescence of the bride groom as well as bride is mandatory. In this regard no one is superior.The Quran explicitly states that men and women are equal in the eyes of God. Furthermore, the Quran: forbids female infanticide (practiced in pre-Islamic Arabia and other parts of the world) instructs Muslims to educate daughters as well as sons.
@adibmahmood8618 such a "man" as he is, he's not going to be any better. You can change habits, not someone's nature. The sister should seek khul' from this guy who is undeserving to be called a husband.
She has enslaved her with duties and the house work and working at the same time and being disrespected at the same time! This is modern day torture and cruelty and not a marriage of bliss. Allah protect her
Wooow never ever in million years I thought a Shaykh would respond straight forward. I have heard Desi Shyakh responding very differently. Thank you Shyakh!
The problem is desi environment and difficulties are different. Most of the time, a wife doesn't earn her own money and she is dependent on her husband. If she takes Khula from her abusive husband, she has no where to go because her parents are old and can't provide financial help to her and her children. Most people live in joint families so the aunts, uncles and their children would probably abuse the woman and her children and this affects everyone. The children of separated woman develop inferiority complex and self pity and it creates more bigger problems. That's why most scholars try hard to not suggest a divorce. However, her case is different. She is earning well ma sha Allah and can support herself so it is a must to leave such a person as practising and bearing Zulm is haram in Islam
@@SheikAbdulKaleem it's easy to say, but suffering for just an hour feels like an year. Nothing is permanent, but still time just don't pass with a blink of an eye especially if you're suffering. It's not easy to live a hard life no matter whether it's temporary because human beings can feel both physical and psychological pain. May Allah help those in need!!
men manipulate, society expects women to be submissive otherwise calls them undignified. men also can instill fear of revenge/ mental physical abuse or taking away support so it causes fear, helplessness n guilt in women to do as they want.
What a disgrace of a man. To take his wife’s earnings. I really don’t like to see divorce in Islam but in this case, I really hope she finds someone worthy of her.
@@No-chance8the prophet sallahu alyhi wa salam said Whenever one of you sees an evil let him change it with his hand and if he is not able to then let him change it with his mouth and if he is still not able to then let him accept in his heart that it is wrong and that is the weakest of the faith it most definitely is his business.
@@muhammadhaider6071 and he cant do any those since this is this internet, brother. As i said before, what this woman wants to do or what she doesn't want to do is none of your- or his business..
May Allah give this sister a righteous, kind, respectful, loving and caring and providing husband who fills her heart with peace and helps her earn jannah al firdaus by reminding her of Allah and encourages her to do more good you are not alone sister, we all make dua for you ❤🩹
Prophet wanted to put a stop to all cruelties to women. He preached kindness towards them. He told the Muslims: "Fear Allah in respect of women." And: "The best of you are they who behave best to their wives." And: "A Muslim must not hate his wife, and if he be displeased with one bad quality in her, let him be pleased with one that is good." And:"The more civil and kind a Muslim is to his wife, the more perfect in faith he is." The Prophet (peace be upon him) was most emphatic in enjoining upon Muslims to be kind to their women when he delivered his famous khutba on the Mount of Mercy at Arafat in the presence of one hundred and twenty-four thousand of his Companions who had gathered there for the Hajj al-Wada (Farewell Pilgrimage). In it he ordered those present, and through them all those Muslims who were to come later, to be respectful and kind towards women. He said: "Fear Allah regarding women. Verily you have married them with the trust of Allah, and made their bodies lawful with the word of Allah. You have got (rights) over them, and they have got (rights) over you in respect of their food and clothing according to your means." In Islam a woman is a completely independent personality. She can make any contract or bequest in her own name. She is entitled to inherit in her position as mother, as wife, as sister and as daughter. She has perfect liberty to choose her husband. The pagan society of pre-Islamic Arabia had an irrational prejudice against their female children whom they used to bury alive. The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) was totally opposed to this practice. He showed them that supporting their female Islam raised the status of women, and made them equal with men in most rulings. So women, like men, are commanded to believe in Allah and to worship Him. And women are made equal to men in terms of reward in the Hereafter. Women have the right to express themselves, to give sincere advice, to enjoin what is good and forbid what is evil, and to call people to Allah. Women have the right to own property, to buy and sell, to inherit, to give charity and to give gifts. It is not permissible for anyone to take a woman’s wealth without her consent. For more about the rights of women in Islam, see the detailed answer.Islam showed full respect to the women and ensured rights, dignity and honour and equal status of men and women in case of marriage because for being a valid marriage acquiescence of the bride groom as well as bride is mandatory. In this regard no one is superior.The Quran explicitly states that men and women are equal in the eyes of God. Furthermore, the Quran: forbids female infanticide (practiced in pre-Islamic Arabia and other parts of the world) instructs Muslims to educate daughters as well as sons.
How the….. did that other women even marry him if what the sister is saying is the whole truth…. The other women married a gold digger that lives of his first wife’s money 🤦🏻♂️
You being a man has nothing to do with you understanding why someone is reacting a certain way to their mistreatment, be a human being first ,and it will go a long way
@@purplelove3666 Allah created men and woman differently we don't process things the same we feel emotions different and thing different, we are Muslims first not humans first
@@mo_4eyez437 no no noo it doesnt work that way. I understand why u would think it that way but no no- for example: imagine someone u loved died, men or women, u will be sad! cuz ur human imagine u accomplished something amazing, man or woman, you will be happy becz ur human. u dont need to be a woman to understand that what her husband making her go through is horrible. you need to have basic human decency. yes there are emotions and process that happen differently in men and women but not in this case.
@@Abyss777 Okay I get what you mean but still, the differences are there we view life differently, and yes the situation she is going through is extremely horrible I'm not as sad as I was angry towards the guy
@adibmahmood8618 how do i explain it? There are many inceidents where you have let your male friend stay in your house and it ended your wife having affair with him or vice versa. By third person i meant that.
Exactly why I was surprised when I heard that males are no longer demanded to be personal drivers. They want FEMALE DRIVERS specifically to attend their wives and daughters
@@wasimabarijoya2293 Prophet Muhammad PBUH has said in a hadith to not even let relatives be here like this. He PBUH specifically called it a disaster
I'm a woman who never married, sometimes i feel lonely and want husband and family. Other times i feel grateful for not dealing with a sh**tty husband and annoying in-laws.😂😂
Sister, I don't know your age or circumstances. But I strongly urge you to use your time wisely and find a husband a suitable match for you. Do your due diligence, make sure you enquire about the prospective proposal, ask the right questions and find out where his priorities lie and whether you are compatible. Know your rights and your obligations. use your marriage contract to include any special clauses or requirements such as the right to further education, work etc. Assert your boundaries, standards and requirements. Inlaws will not be living with you so those are people you see from time to time. I wish you a happy life with marriage and an honorable spouse.
@@Sas-rf9syits a waste . As muslim woman i can atest that we don't have any desires for men especially xual ones. Most of us get only married due to societal pressure , finacial security and children. Otherwise no women longs for men .
@@Sas-rf9syI agreed with till the part about making special clauses. When a woman married she shouldn’t need to work or further education especially if the man doesn’t allow it or dislikes it.
Prophet wanted to put a stop to all cruelties to women. He preached kindness towards them. He told the Muslims: "Fear Allah in respect of women." And: "The best of you are they who behave best to their wives." And: "A Muslim must not hate his wife, and if he be displeased with one bad quality in her, let him be pleased with one that is good." And:"The more civil and kind a Muslim is to his wife, the more perfect in faith he is." The Prophet (peace be upon him) was most emphatic in enjoining upon Muslims to be kind to their women when he delivered his famous khutba on the Mount of Mercy at Arafat in the presence of one hundred and twenty-four thousand of his Companions who had gathered there for the Hajj al-Wada (Farewell Pilgrimage). In it he ordered those present, and through them all those Muslims who were to come later, to be respectful and kind towards women. He said: "Fear Allah regarding women. Verily you have married them with the trust of Allah, and made their bodies lawful with the word of Allah. You have got (rights) over them, and they have got (rights) over you in respect of their food and clothing according to your means." In Islam a woman is a completely independent personality. She can make any contract or bequest in her own name. She is entitled to inherit in her position as mother, as wife, as sister and as daughter. She has perfect liberty to choose her husband. The pagan society of pre-Islamic Arabia had an irrational prejudice against their female children whom they used to bury alive. The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) was totally opposed to this practice. He showed them that supporting their female Islam raised the status of women, and made them equal with men in most rulings. So women, like men, are commanded to believe in Allah and to worship Him. And women are made equal to men in terms of reward in the Hereafter. Women have the right to express themselves, to give sincere advice, to enjoin what is good and forbid what is evil, and to call people to Allah. Women have the right to own property, to buy and sell, to inherit, to give charity and to give gifts. It is not permissible for anyone to take a woman’s wealth without her consent. For more about the rights of women in Islam, see the detailed answer.Islam showed full respect to the women and ensured rights, dignity and honour and equal status of men and women in case of marriage because for being a valid marriage acquiescence of the bride groom as well as bride is mandatory. In this regard no one is superior.The Quran explicitly states that men and women are equal in the eyes of God. Furthermore, the Quran: forbids female infanticide (practiced in pre-Islamic Arabia and other parts of the world) instructs Muslims to educate daughters as well as sons.
Fr! Also, why are they demanding anything from their wife?! where is their dignity? How is it even manly...so gross! some men are walking around being way too confident. Women need to stop tolerating such filth tbh.
@@jessmindarus7816Because she's a codependent and a people pleaser.. Most women are like that specially in India and Pakistan.. Here they teach woman from a young age to be submissive and accept abuse, it's all in her programming
Literally abusing his wife and not doing his duty while taking her money and funding it on his second wife which he married without his wife's consent or talking with her about it(commits zina). What a scumbag. lol Of course this is one sided so we don't know the other side(hope the sister is being truthful) but if this is true that he isn't doing himself any favors in the hereafter...
@@fozzt it's not as a friend is not someone related to you in any sense except for some sort of emotional bonding, her husband's misdeeds are more concerning in my opinion
@@crimsonrain9570 not really. Men are more likely to cheat, so that's why polygamy is allowed. So when a woman has an affair it's much much worse. Especially with her best friends husband. As a woman I can tell how evil a woman has to be to do that.
Sir, though I agree with most of your advice to this lady, in my most humble opinion, I think blaming the victim may not be the best approach . Women of eastern cultures are taught from a very young age to never say no to our husbands. I feel mothers and, more importantly, fathers should teach both sons and daughters about their true ISLAMIC rights and responsibilities. NOT what their cultures say.
I agree. I understand about taking accountability of our actions, but I feel the sheikh is not being empathetic enough towards her. She sounds very much in pain.
I think, it's because Sheikh is father of 13 daughters and what he sees is woman, the age of his daughter who is heartbroken by what has happened. And took a father's approach, to advise this sister.😊😊. Though, that's just how I viewed it. 😅😅
I think it’s more of giving her a wake up call to make her realize where she went wrong and that she should’ve set boundaries to begin with in order to protect herself and prevent these types of abuses from happening.
Advise is not only for her but other women as well who are just get into marriage or soon to get married. So make it clear where she went wrong and what could be avoided is necessary to mention so young ones don't fall for that. And I think that's a good approach also sheikh is kind to her and her circumstances wallaho alam.
My husband will never have an access to my account,unless I die before him.I know even the best men will take advantage of us if we allow it,I’ve seen it. AND I say this while having a wonderful husband
I feel so bad for this lady. I hope she gets rid of this dead weight lying husband of hers asap. Her friend is the worst kind of person u can have the misfortune of meeting. She deserves better. May Allah give her a better life and find peace. Alhumdalilah. Ameen
Some men in the replies are so insensitive and fail to see the bigger picture. What if your wife got another husband, you wouldn’t want to share her would you? Especially if that second husband is your own best friend. It would break your heart. It seems some men only care about fulfilling their own sexual desires rather than seeking genuine love.
Difference here is that one is halal the other is haram so it's inconsequential. Your first wife has no say in who you can marry..... But it was WAS messed up of him to not even inform here beforehand of this.
@@Moody.Smiruai Then, that is oppression. Your Islam is the oppression of others. You can call it Islam if you want it to be Islam, but you cannot stop others from viewing it as oppression, because it is oppression.
@@Moody.Smiruai dude when you enter a relationship you owe loyality to your partner, to not hurt them or betray their trust and love like that, if you love and respect your wife you would never look for another women let alone force her to accept it, lets be real here, just like men wouldn't ever tolerate seeing their wife with another man women are also possessive and feel betrayed to see their husband whom she trusted fully and loved whole heartedly to see him get married to another women making her just an option, its not even about halal or haram, just because something is halal doesn't mean its farz, and hurting your spouse is the biggest sin.
Very sickening what the husband did. Imagine being cheated on and your hard earned money is being used to take care of the woman you got cheated on with, your best friend for that matter 💔💔💔
Ladies. Put in your nikkah that he cannot marry another woman. You cant forbid your husband from doing something that amndatory, but marrying multiple women is optional, not manadatory. Protect yourself and say he does not get to marry you if he doesnt swear fidelity to you.
Do you not want another sister to have a husband and get out of a life from being single or living a life as a divorce or Widow with children? Who will take care of them
@@Ahmed-ye5sd a man whos single can take care of her. My mom was a divorcee with children and plenty of men were at her doorstep, never married before and yet liked her enough to devote themselves to her and her children. My stepfather was a kind man.
Writing something like that in your marriage contract is naturally against what the Quran already permits, so either have tawakal in Allah and let nature take its cause or you need to seriously think about your akhirah.
Brother we should refrain from making remarks without hearing the other side. Just like mufti ismile ibn menk once said "every story has 3 sides this side,that side and the Truth.
QURAN 33-50 SLAVE GIRLS FROM GOD HAS GIVEN YOU AS BOOTY. Allah admitted that he's false god,he's a rapist. Read the Bible and see that Jesus Christ is eternal God. ALLAH APPEARED AFTER THE 7TH CENTURY AT MUHAMMAD 's command when everything was created by Jesus Christ .
@@sleeptherapy4811...to stay away from a false god Allah who appeared after the 7th century like a mushroom 🍄 at Muhammad 's command. ALLAH forced people to convert to his own demonic cult said he is Satan he makes people sin intentionally to punish them after that. QURAN 91 vs 8. Sahih Muslim book 3 6406.
@@purplelove3666 LOL He means a nice wife who is fearful of Allah(she seems to actually take into account what will happen to her if she disobeys Allah). Of course her husband allegedly is abusing her using the religion and to fearmonger her into obeying him.....
I always tell people not everything should be shared between spouses... like past sins, personal finances, emails and passwords, intrusive thoughts, personal problems... there r some things to only keep for urself its not about hiding anything but about having the peace of mind u r in full control of something YOU own. But people will say i am crazy for saying this 😂😂
Well regarding emails and passwords, in a healthy relationship both have access to everything since they have absolutely nothing to hide. Its common in marriages of the older generation. You dont see any of the spouses hiding their phones, the, share them for certain purposes and the men know they shoudlnt check private, sensitive chats. Sadly many women even show their chats which contain pictures of hijabis without hijab. This is absolutely wrong, but the point is they still have absolute trust. And I find the trust in general pretty healthy in a relationship. But they should fear Allah regarding showing non-mahrams awraj to their husbands. And the men should gear Allah when looking at them.
@@VanDerDeckken I have the same opinion of their is no hijab between the two . The relationship of Husband and wife is build upon trust so if you are not cheating or watching filth then why fear in sharing you password
@@bittertruth0000 one reason would be if one of the spouses or even both would check the other ones phone 24/7 spying on them. When one has trust issues, they should have seperate passwords. And if I knew I had secrets of people on my phone, I wouldnt give my wife permission to check them. But I would give her the passwords if I would trust her enough not to check certain private chats. And there may be other reasons, too. In the end the sheikh has much experience. We shouldnt be too quick to judge on a matter of which we have limited knowledge or experience
Her pain touched me. I often ask myself what is wrong with people, using others, taking advantage of them, abusing them, humiliating them. In life, many people have no rahma muslim or not. Some people are really awful. But there's light out there too.
I'm not Muslim, I'm agnostic but very impressed with good advice for women. Don't think any woman should accept a second wife if she feels jealous about it, I'd like to hear more re this type of case, subscribed.
Have you read the Qur'an? It's mentioned in Surah Nisa (verse named Women) that men are the providers and care takers of women. Meaning, husband should spend on his wife and children while women's finance can't be questioned/used by her husband if his wife disagree. In this video, the husband wasn't fulfilling his duty so Sheikh advised her for divorce, not because of polygamy. Polygamy is allowed so long as the husband is treating his wives equally in all respects, otherwise monogamy is the only option.
Bull ****. In India women puts false domestic violence and dowry case and extort money. Maybe thisniw applicable anywhere else but in India.....most unlikely
Sisters take every single one of your rights do you not forgo any one of your rights because when your husband is ready to take a second wife and you beg him not to he will slap it in your face and remind you that it’s his right he will not care if you sacrifice your rights your whole marriage he will tell you that was your choice. He will not care about the heartbreak the pain he’s inflicting on you he won’t care about you he will only care about himself and his future second wife. I have never heard of a man that said he wanted to take a second one and after speaking to his first wife and understanding how much it’s going to affect her he says okay I will deny myself of this right for you
May Allah punish these cruel men for oppressing our Muslim sisters this way. The sister seems very pure, and she made the mistake of trusting this vile creature and an excuse for a man who has no ghayrah when taking money from his devout wife and using it to keep a second wife. May Allah reward her for her patience and make this easy on her; she understandably seems heartbroken.
Women please you have rights. Allah said respect and honor your husband not to worship him. You are married to a bad man, pls divorce him and never give him your money. He has no right to your money.
Sounds like the lady fell heavily into the pressures of culture and society. Hope this lady is able to stand up for herself even if every single good for nothing greedy, selfish person is against her from protecting herself. Her husband and family is going against Islam by treating her and her parents so badly. I won't be surprised if the husband and in-laws starts raising their hands on her if she blocks access to her own money. As far as I'm aware Islamically that husband has no rights upon anything she earns and owns that is of monetary value.
in islam secret marriage is not valid, Abu Bakr Abdul Aziz said, “A secret marriage is invalid, as Ahmad said: If he is married with a guardian’s permission and two witnesses, it is not so valid until it is announced publicly.” The difference between adultery and marriage is making announcement. if islamic state exists your husband has to face death penalty as he did adultery while being already married.
Allhumdoilliah Sheikh may Allah SWT bless you with health and prosperity Ameen, I was married to my ex for 23 years, and I tried to be the stupid wife he wanted me to be. He used and abused me in every possible way. I went to many Imams but no one helped me they all said to stay with your husband. But you Sheikh are a light under the tunnel. The sister her pain is something I felt so long ago. I have 8 children and Allhumdoillah I have brought them up by working 2 to 3 jobs, but he never paid anything towards them. Today in one of my work places I met an Albian man who was talking to me about how he fought for his son. When he asked me about my marriage I told him, and his reply was sister a man who does not love his children will never love anyone, May Allah SWT bless this brother because although I have now been divorced 11yrs I really needed to hear this.
So the man needs to be taught correctly. And the religious leader should also preach according to the Quran and the Sunnah not thru incorrect translation or the books. Obviously the mothers who bring up the males are also in the wrong.She couldn't see the right from the wrong practices.
Dont think its common at all, i know people from different ethnicities punjabi pataan gujrati and this doesnt happen, Be careful not to generalise on a whole group of people.
@@jessmindarus7816I thought women couldn't raise men,so what the heck are you blaming their mothers for? Do you think they went to a sperm bank and got pregnant,why aren't you blaming the fathers for the outcome of their son's useless behavior?
Prophet wanted to put a stop to all cruelties to women. He preached kindness towards them. He told the Muslims: "Fear Allah in respect of women." And: "The best of you are they who behave best to their wives." And: "A Muslim must not hate his wife, and if he be displeased with one bad quality in her, let him be pleased with one that is good." And:"The more civil and kind a Muslim is to his wife, the more perfect in faith he is." The Prophet (peace be upon him) was most emphatic in enjoining upon Muslims to be kind to their women when he delivered his famous khutba on the Mount of Mercy at Arafat in the presence of one hundred and twenty-four thousand of his Companions who had gathered there for the Hajj al-Wada (Farewell Pilgrimage). In it he ordered those present, and through them all those Muslims who were to come later, to be respectful and kind towards women. He said: "Fear Allah regarding women. Verily you have married them with the trust of Allah, and made their bodies lawful with the word of Allah. You have got (rights) over them, and they have got (rights) over you in respect of their food and clothing according to your means." In Islam a woman is a completely independent personality. She can make any contract or bequest in her own name. She is entitled to inherit in her position as mother, as wife, as sister and as daughter. She has perfect liberty to choose her husband. The pagan society of pre-Islamic Arabia had an irrational prejudice against their female children whom they used to bury alive. The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) was totally opposed to this practice. He showed them that supporting their female Islam raised the status of women, and made them equal with men in most rulings. So women, like men, are commanded to believe in Allah and to worship Him. And women are made equal to men in terms of reward in the Hereafter. Women have the right to express themselves, to give sincere advice, to enjoin what is good and forbid what is evil, and to call people to Allah. Women have the right to own property, to buy and sell, to inherit, to give charity and to give gifts. It is not permissible for anyone to take a woman’s wealth without her consent. For more about the rights of women in Islam, see the detailed answer.Islam showed full respect to the women and ensured rights, dignity and honour and equal status of men and women in case of marriage because for being a valid marriage acquiescence of the bride groom as well as bride is mandatory. In this regard no one is superior.The Quran explicitly states that men and women are equal in the eyes of God. Furthermore, the Quran: forbids female infanticide (practiced in pre-Islamic Arabia and other parts of the world) instructs Muslims to educate daughters as well as sons.
“Being married to a gold digger” 😂😂😂😂😂 But sheikh is correct alhamdulillah. As a man i feel so sorry for her. He is taking so much advantage of her and her earnings and the fact that he went and marry behind her back to another woman, jeez how bad can men get sometimes. Coming from me as a man, this is very much not cool
Wallahi I was writing the exact same response before listening to the Sheikh 1) Visit the bank and cancel your card. Get another card and keep it to yourself 2) Divorce the guy so that your best friend will take care of him from this point on 😂😂😂
Some times a person needs tuff love. I only wish someone would have spoken to me this way when I was married. May Allah give her a way out of the abusive marriage. 🤲🏼
We have a joint account with my husband and we both contribute to the household. It has worked for us for the past 20 years. He mostly paid for my school and he has always worked hard and made more than I have. We talk about finances together and don’t try to hide things. It would be different if you have a husband who takes your money and goes behind your back to support another wife with your money. I would not contribute to joint account if it was used to support another wife.
Of course you are free to tell each other these things IF you want to, that is; But it's best to keep it separate. If it works for you than Alhamdulillah! But I agree with the sheikh here that it's best to have the husband provide for you and keep your finances separate.
"Marriage is based on dignity, on respect, on compassion, on trust, on knowing your rights and obligations." It's a very good lesson. Too many times I see a man abusing his wife, spouting Al Qur'an & Hadists to back his twisted lust but the man himself is never being fair with his wife. Such man always threaten that his wife wouldn't enter jannah if she disobey. Listen to Sheikh's advice, Sister. Divorce is better for you as your husband couldn't provide you and doing his obligation in marriage. May Allah ease the process.
Prophet wanted to put a stop to all cruelties to women. He preached kindness towards them. He told the Muslims: "Fear Allah in respect of women." And: "The best of you are they who behave best to their wives." And: "A Muslim must not hate his wife, and if he be displeased with one bad quality in her, let him be pleased with one that is good." And:"The more civil and kind a Muslim is to his wife, the more perfect in faith he is." The Prophet (peace be upon him) was most emphatic in enjoining upon Muslims to be kind to their women when he delivered his famous khutba on the Mount of Mercy at Arafat in the presence of one hundred and twenty-four thousand of his Companions who had gathered there for the Hajj al-Wada (Farewell Pilgrimage). In it he ordered those present, and through them all those Muslims who were to come later, to be respectful and kind towards women. He said: "Fear Allah regarding women. Verily you have married them with the trust of Allah, and made their bodies lawful with the word of Allah. You have got (rights) over them, and they have got (rights) over you in respect of their food and clothing according to your means." In Islam a woman is a completely independent personality. She can make any contract or bequest in her own name. She is entitled to inherit in her position as mother, as wife, as sister and as daughter. She has perfect liberty to choose her husband. The pagan society of pre-Islamic Arabia had an irrational prejudice against their female children whom they used to bury alive. The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) was totally opposed to this practice. He showed them that supporting their female Islam raised the status of women, and made them equal with men in most rulings. So women, like men, are commanded to believe in Allah and to worship Him. And women are made equal to men in terms of reward in the Hereafter. Women have the right to express themselves, to give sincere advice, to enjoin what is good and forbid what is evil, and to call people to Allah. Women have the right to own property, to buy and sell, to inherit, to give charity and to give gifts. It is not permissible for anyone to take a woman’s wealth without her consent. For more about the rights of women in Islam, see the detailed answer.Islam showed full respect to the women and ensured rights, dignity and honour and equal status of men and women in case of marriage because for being a valid marriage acquiescence of the bride groom as well as bride is mandatory. In this regard no one is superior.The Quran explicitly states that men and women are equal in the eyes of God. Furthermore, the Quran: forbids female infanticide (practiced in pre-Islamic Arabia and other parts of the world) instructs Muslims to educate daughters as well as sons.
Absolutely!!! I was wrong to trust my husband. He is abusive in every way. I can't even pray in peace in my home. I cannot eat or sleep at any decent hour. My health is getting bad from him controlling my every breath. I put my foot down since last night and hope to leave and make khula asap. Ya Rabb.
Trying to get khula but he tells my my reasons arnt good enough, I wish to end this marriage to start over a new life for me and my children but I'm stuck overseas with him and he won't allow me to take my children back.. Alhumdulilah.. Being married to a narcissist is very hard... May Allah give u patience
@@minariv8300 Lebanon, no embassy will help because the kids all born here and yes that's why he planned this all and never let me give birth overseas besides my parents 😑
Assalamualikum sheikh Most of the time the A.T.M card is given to husband is to avoid fights everyday and also to make this relation work... In worst case scenario to escape beating Not all women do it willingly or becoz they trust him... They just want to keep the relation going without any problems... In such situations , in most of the cases, in the end, no matter what u do, how much u sacrifice, how much u give, they don't appreciate it. Rather they abuse the women of not fulfilling there duties properly...
Marriage in islam is not built on force, greed, fear or violence. That is not a healthy relationship. Its abuse. So instead of fulfilling unreasonable demands and fearing violenceit is better to just divorce. Such women are enabling the bad behavior of their husbands by not saying NO and by being afraid of him or divorce.
My story is just the same as hers. I can totally relate to her. Only addition here in my case is even my parents has been doing the same with my income which I earned before marriage. They took all support financially till I was earning good. When I shifted my career to teaching for being near my kids as I was not of financial help to them they took one of my property and kicked me out of their house too as I was living with them as my husband abandoned me and my children. May Allah bless her with the best in this world and Aakhirah.
My dearest sister indeed after hardship comes ease, don't think no one sees your struggle, Allah sees everything, remain steadfast and keep making dua, Allah will grant you better than what you lost. Teust me, I have bee in the same situation, perhaps even worse as blackmajic was involved from the other woman...who was not actually his wife we found out by shariah, as the 'nikah' was performed without the permission of her father/wali, they had also been sleeping together befire this 'nikah' so it was basically zina. He was living in my house which I inherited from my father and told me he had married me he wanted me to work so he could get a house for her as she was still living with her mum. He never cared about our 3 children and was abusive towards them. After almost 8 years of this she suddenly died in a moterbike accident, they say she died screaming. I had made dua that night that Allah I am not strong enough to bear anymore, he even knew she was seeing other men and had no regatd for islam. Stay strong my sister, Allah does not Allah the wrongdoers to thrive.
I hope you have since divorced him as this is simply not a dignified, sustainable or healthy situation let alone for 8 years. However, I'm worried about something else. You spoke of your husband's and the other woman's sxexsual promiscuity. I think you should consult a competent gyneaecoIogist and have a full check up and tests done because your husband could've easily given you STls or ST.Ds
Yes I’ve become weak lol. I’m the sort who never cries . Even when close ones die I cry in private not in front of people. But this one really upset me, because I could hear her trying to keep herself from breaking down 😢
SubhanAllah sister's biggest concern is Akhirah. She fears she will upset Allah if she leaves her husband. May Allah protect and preserve her dignity and provide for her the best of both worlds aamen
Exactly! Was thinking that too, what a beautiful woman. I am looking for a wife like this inshallah.
Aameen
If the husband is not NYC live him
True.
Truly righteous women.
I would not have had this much patience or thought.
As Dr. PHIL always said "you teach people how to treat you "
What kind of a man takes his wife's income? "Men" like this should be ashamed of themselves.
It's not allowed to marry more than one if someone can't treat his wives equally. And this sister was clearly not beings treated justly and equally by her husband.😢
Exactly the point!
He could be treating them equally bad
The women's wealth is hers....she shouldn’t work husband should provide.....that's actually the way.....
Him keeping your money and atm card is against the Quran. He is to give you money of his. And your money is yours not his.
Because of these kind of things that i hear about married life , I'm so afraid to get married.
Make lot of dua
My and my husband are both working. We both have shared accounts. We both help our families. We always ask each other before making a big financial decision like buying a vehicle but not for small purchases. We both are madly in love and fully trust each other. Is it wrong for me to trust him?? If it is then marriage doesn’t make sense to me. For me marriage and love is nothing without trust.
trust is important, but in a cases of men started to depend on there wife's money to carry the whole family and they have the ability to support but they chose not then here is where a women should be more aware of the situation and step back .
The worst part is him getting a second wife, if one can’t satisfy one wife why get 2, with the hurt she has she knows it’s the end of her marriage, with that treatment, it says action speaks louder. May Allah lead her in the right direction.😢
She sounds so heartbroken. May Allah heal her heart, make her khula free of drama and fitna and give her a righteous husband. Hurts me so much to hear the pain in her voice. U will be in my duas sister.
Aameen
Ameen , really upset me this call. And the Sheikh seems very empathetic and fair in his answer 👏🏼
Ameen 🤍
Aminn Aminn Aminn Ya Rabbal Alaminn 🤲
Aameen
I loved it when he called him a Golddigger 😂
He was spitting facts though, he is a gold digger 😂😂
I burst out laughing when he said that. The guy has excellent timing for comedy.
I agree@@AliSidTex
Me too. It took me out 😂😂😂
SubhanaLlah!! It got me rolling on the floor 😆😆😆 satisfying
4:30 GOLDEN WORDS
"No matter how much you love your spouse, keep your financials separate"
@@goldenxyoon702 must provide but has no obligation to disclose everything.
@@생활엔지니어 Precisely.
This is not just about finances ,it's about cheating for 4 years ,being is secret marriages is nothing more than commiting zina
thats not the point, even if you orovide for them which is a must, u dont havr to et them know how much u earn@@goldenxyoon702
Similarly, husband should also not tell anything about his finances.
When her voice started shaking I got tears in my eyes. I hope she's healed and may Allah grant us all pious spouses that are the coolness of our eyes.
Why women get horribly anger over man taking second wife. Women need to be tolerant towards her husband.
@@KadershaN-ou2sj No. No woman is even slightly obligated to tolerate her husband's polygyny. The husband has free will to marry 4 times, and the wife has free will to leave such a husband because she can't accept it.
@@i10i60 that's western mentality, not the islamic one.
Same here. I feel so sorry for her and hangry at him.
@KadershaN-ou2sj this is what you got from the video? Just that he got married again? You didn't listen to the facts that he was a gold digger and how badly he treated her and abused her? SERIOUSLY?
I’m not a fan of divorce but ma’am, pls divorce your husband
He seems to be a good husband as he is taking care of in laws as well... But he needs to stop taking his wifes money.. that's the only thing wrong he did
@@mansooralt he Is Noway a good husband
@@Unzurnavlog no husband is required to take care of his in laws but he is doing it... So he must have some goodness.... But he may be told to not use the money of the wife..
@@mansooralt she told that he disrespects her and her parents Infront of his family and brags that he takes cares of his inlaws and secondly he isn't spending his money on his inlaws it's his wife's money and he has no right to question her or stop her from taking care of her parents.he is nowhere a good husband
@@rumanfurqan1097 ok may Allah guide us..
Any man who "depends" on the earnings of his wife is not a "man", because Allah clearly said in the Qur'an, *'Men are the caretakers of women, as men have been provisioned by Allah over women and tasked with supporting them financially. (An-Nisa, 34)'* This verse here right here is a divine decree for all men from Allah. Any man failing to do so without valid or logical reason will undoubtably be held accountable by Allah on the judgement day. I prey may Allah grants this sister a life of peace and happiness.
Ameen Ya ALLAH 🙏
Well he is a muslim.
❤
@@HaggisMuncher-69-420 and?
...and strike them when they are disobedient you...U forgot the latter part which the core. 🤣🤣 read whole Sura An Nisa 3:34 to get better understand. Muslims woman suffer for sticking into bad men and need double of evidance rather man..wonder of Islam 🤣🤣
Sisters please be strong. I'm going through divorce with a similar type of man who never provided. But being single seems to me much better than living a half life abusive one.
You stay strong too sister. I'm going through divorce too. May Allah reward us with His blessing and Jannah.
@@umipsi5124 Thank you so much for your blessing. Means alot to me. You really have given me strength. This is the unity and and understanding we must have for eachother during this difficult time for us when every waking moment I realize a part of me is gone now and I have to rebuild myself for a new life.
@@umipsi5124 is the husband abusive also?
He stole her money, how much more abusive does he need to be? Disgraceful that Islam encourages this by subjugating women and making it more difficult for them to divorce than for men @@fawazfowzi1478
@@fawazfowzi1478 Who knows who is right just judging with their words aren't right. She says being single is okay than being married that sentence gives me doubts about her words.
I am a Christian for now
and soon Alhamdulillah be a Muslima by God's Grace 🙏 🤲 i am slowly learning about being an Islam❤
it broke my heart while I am listening to you my sister😢 May Allah Bless You and Bless your husband to change his heart and mind that what he's doing is not fair to you as you are his wife..
continue praying and be strong 💪 🙏
Asalamualikum, I would just like to say that don’t wait in accepting islam, since you got the message already, because we don’t know how much time do we have in this world . Just accept the true message of Islam and then keep learning it, just as your other 1.7 billion Muslims brothers/sisters are learning. JazakAllah.
May Allah keep us all on his straight path and let us all enter into his paradise…. Without a single questions asked.
Masha'a Allah so proud of you, welcome to the beautiful world of Islam, may Allah eases your way into a blessed life, and joy in paradise in sha'a Allah ❤🤗
May Allah make easy for you, and guide you to the right path Ameen Ya Rabb .
You Can sincerely believe in your only True God ( Allah), believe in His Messenger, and utter the following: " I testify that there is no God worthy of worship but the One True God ( Allah) and that Muhammad is the Messenger of God ( Allah).
This testimony is the first step on the way to eternal life and the real key to the gate of Paradise. If you decide to take this way, you can contact your Muslim friend, the nearest Islamic centre, or Sheikh or me ( I will be very happy to help). Yes you can do it!
Don't hold my friend, because tomorrow never promise.These
LITTLE information might be help In Sha Allah.
Jesus: The Prophet
In Judaism, Jesus (peace be upon him) is denied as the Messiah. This is in stark contrast to Christianity where he is worshipped as a deity, or the son of God. Islam takes the middle ground and acknowledges Jesus as an honourable Prophet and Messenger of God, as well as the Messiah, but Muslims do not worship him - as worship is for God alone who created Jesus and everything that exists.
"(Jesus) said, 'Indeed, I am the slave of Allah (God). He has given me the Scripture and made me a Prophet.'"Quran 19:30
Miraculous Birth
According to the Quran, the Angel Gabriel was sent to Mary, the noble virgin, in the form of a man, informing her of a child who was to be born miraculously without a father.
"He (Angel Gabriel) said, 'I am only a messenger of your Lord to announce to you the gift of a righteous son.' She said, 'How shall I have a son, seeing that no man has touched me, and I am not unchaste?' He said, 'Thus (it will be). Your Lord says, "It is easy for Me, and We will make him a sign to the people and a mercy from Us. And it is a matter already decreed." "Quran 19:19-21
Some claim that his miraculous birth is evidence of Jesus' divinity. However, Jesus was not the first to come into existence without a father, as Prophet Adam (peace be upon him) before him had neither a father nor mother. God says:
"The likeness of Jesus before God is as that of Adam; He created him (Adam) from dust, then said to him: 'Be', and he was. This is the truth from your Lord, so be not of the disputers."Quran 3:59-60
If Jesus is worshipped due to having no father, then surely Adam is more deserving of worship since he was created without either parent.
Miracles of Jesus
Jesus was miraculously conceived with no father and also performed great miracles by the will and permission of God. He spoke as a baby in the cradle to defend his mother against the people who accused her of fornication. The Quran also states that Jesus gave life to the dead, cured the leper and the blind - all by the will of God.
The fact that Jesus (peace be upon him) performed miracles does not mean that he was anything more than a humble servant of God. In fact, many Messengers performed miracles, including Noah, Moses and Muhammad (may peace be upon them all) and these miracles only took place by the permission of God, so as to demonstrate the authenticity of the Messenger.
Message of Jesus
The Prophets of the Old Testament such as Abraham, Noah and Jonah never preached that God is part of a Trinity, and did not believe in Jesus as their saviour. Their message was simple: there is one God and He alone deserves your worship. It is not logical for God to send Prophets for thousands of years with the same essential message, only to suddenly change it, claim that He is now a part of a trinity, and to stipulate the belief in the divinity of Jesus to be saved.
The truth is, Jesus preached the same message as all the Prophets in the Old Testament. There is a passage in the Bible that really emphasises this core message. A man came to Jesus and asked, "Which is the first commandment of all?" Jesus answered, "The first of all the commandments is, 'Hear, O Israel, the Lord our God, the Lord is one.' "(Mark 12:28-29) So, the greatest commandment, the most important belief according to Jesus, is that God is one. If Jesus was God he would have said, 'I am God, worship me.' Instead, he merely repeated a verse from the Old Testament confirming that God is One.
This aligns with the mission of Jesus, as taught in Islam, where Jesus was sent to the Children of Israel to confirm the message of the past Prophets - to believe in the One True God.
"And when Jesus brought clear proofs, he said, '… Indeed, God - He is my Lord and your Lord. So worship Him alone. This is the only Straight Path.' "Quran 43:63-64
As an honourable obedient Messenger of God, Jesus submitted willingly to God's commands. As such, he was a "Muslim" - which refers to anyone that submits to the will and commandments of God.
Jesus in Islam
Jesus was as an honourable Prophet sent by God to call to the worship of God alone. This is evident in the Bible and confirmed by the Quran. The Islamic belief about Jesus explains who the real Jesus was, whilst maintaining the pure belief about God and His complete Greatness, Uniqueness and Perfection.
We invite you and everyone to look further and investigate Islam. It is not just another religion. It is the same message preached by Noah, Abraham, Moses, Jesus and Muhammad - may peace be upon all of them. Islam means 'submission to God' and is a natural and complete way of life that encourages one to give due attention to their relationship with God and His creation. Islam teaches that God is the All-Just and All-Merciful and does not need to sacrifice himself to forgive sins nor is anyone "born into sin". God judges everyone based on their own deeds and everyone is accountable for their own actions.
Islam teaches us to love and respect all the Prophets of God, but loving and respecting them does not mean worshipping them because worship is due only to God.
Don’t waste time bro. I also took my Shahada earlier this year.
It’s the best decision I ever made in my entire life.
Join me.
And I hope to see you someday in Jannah 🙏🏾
Allahuma baarik wazid. ....we are welcoming u in this beautiful deep alxmdulillah
He spoke well, like a protective father…. The best friend who betrayed her deserve that man, the husband and best friend sound like a good match.
As a man, our core responsibility is to provide. How can this guy consider himself a man, be involved in a marriage, when he hasn't figured his life out. May Allah increase us in our abilities and make our hearts kinder to those we love.
True brother
I think he was trying to push her to take action
And worse is they use religion as reason 😕 sad. Are they not afraid of God?
She has many reasons to divorce him - he takes her money and he has taken a second wife that she doesn’t accept
Husbands don't need permission from the 1 wife but not telling her anything about it is like zina
@IbnMohammadAlHaqqshe has a right to divorce him even when he has a second wife
@IbnMohammadAlHaqq prophet could take more than 4 wives and didn't need to give mahr or any witnesses for wedding. Ain't no way you're comparing prophet's marriage with normal men. Lastly from the hadith of thabit's wife it has been proven that a woman can ask for divorce if she doesn't like the man and is afraid that she might fail to do her duties. That's why taking a wife without permission is a valid reason as it might cause her to dislike him and make her do sin.
@IbnMohammadAlHaqq not only that if a man takes another woman without telling the first wife then that wouldn't be fair for her. Cause what if the man doesn't fairly provide for them or spends equal time? The woman can't even know that and become a victim of unfair treatment. Lastly it's necessary to let her know cause there's a chance that the man can get STD while being with multiple partners and that might harm the wife. So she has all the right to know about that and she can decide whether she wants to take such risks or not. That's why in most of the Muslim countries it's a valid reason for the woman to take a divorce.
Keeping a secret wife is sinful. The whole point of nikah is that everyone knows who is married to whom locally and the dignity of the woman is preserved and inheritance is clear. If a husband goes to Africa and has no reception, then yeah he doesn’t need the wife’s *permission* to get married in the first place. But if he can’t bring himself to then make his marriage known and starts lying about his trips and wife finds out that he’s been violating her trust and drastically altered her financial present and future without even letting her know, then he isn’t an honest man and doesn’t deserve her respect.
This woman was local and betrayed by her best friend and husband, completely valid grounds for divorce even if he wasn’t a thief to boot. Being a liar is enough.
I cried watching this. May Allah ease her pain and give her a righteous, kind, compassionate, affectionate, loving and loyal husband who will fulfill and satisfy all her needs and never break her heart and stand by her and make good duaa for her❤️❤️❤️
What do you talking about needs?
I cried too😞
A husband is only needs to do what he obligated to do. He isn't became a bad husband due to not able to fulfilling " All her needs " a man is obligated to provide protect and their favour to them asper his capacity he isn't required to provide luxury even prophet Muhammad(pbuh)not did such things he provided what he can provide he doesn't tolerated him self their wives once he also decided to divorce his one of his wife zawda because he thought he can't do justice to her so it is better to divorce her and she afraid that situation and she said she will give opportunity to Aisha(ra). Just think.
@@KadershaN-ou2sj I think what she meant by needs is food, basic necessities, protection, not hurting and insulting her. Because her current husband is not fulfilling his duties as a man, not providing but instead uses her money and taking advantage of her, even insulted her infront of people and then goes on to say, "you have to accept my 2nd wife aka your best friend". Not all needs is materialistic.
@TopazBlu that also includes fulfilling her sexual needs
My heart just broke when her voice started shivering.. ONLY ALLAH KNOW HOW HEART BROKEN SHE IS.. May ALLAH guide you sister and May you found a gud loving caring husband in the future 🌸❤
Prophet wanted to put a stop to all cruelties to women. He preached kindness towards them. He told the Muslims: "Fear Allah in respect of women." And: "The best of you are they who behave best to their wives." And: "A Muslim must not hate his wife, and if he be displeased with one bad quality in her, let him be pleased with one that is good." And:"The more civil and kind a Muslim is to his wife, the more perfect in faith he is."
The Prophet (peace be upon him) was most emphatic in enjoining upon Muslims to be kind to their women when he delivered his famous khutba on the Mount of Mercy at Arafat in the presence of one hundred and twenty-four thousand of his Companions who had gathered there for the Hajj al-Wada (Farewell Pilgrimage). In it he ordered those present, and through them all those Muslims who were to come later, to be respectful and kind towards women. He said:
"Fear Allah regarding women. Verily you have married them with the trust of Allah, and made their bodies lawful with the word of Allah. You have got (rights) over them, and they have got (rights) over you in respect of their food and clothing according to your means."
In Islam a woman is a completely independent personality. She can make any contract or bequest in her own name. She is entitled to inherit in her position as mother, as wife, as sister and as daughter. She has perfect liberty to choose her husband. The pagan society of pre-Islamic Arabia had an irrational prejudice against their female children whom they used to bury alive. The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) was totally opposed to this practice. He showed them that supporting their female
Islam raised the status of women, and made them equal with men in most rulings. So women, like men, are commanded to believe in Allah and to worship Him. And women are made equal to men in terms of reward in the Hereafter. Women have the right to express themselves, to give sincere advice, to enjoin what is good and forbid what is evil, and to call people to Allah. Women have the right to own property, to buy and sell, to inherit, to give charity and to give gifts. It is not permissible for anyone to take a woman’s wealth without her consent. For more about the rights of women in Islam, see the detailed answer.Islam showed full respect to the women and ensured rights, dignity and honour and equal status of men and women in case of marriage because for being a valid marriage acquiescence of the bride groom as well as bride is mandatory. In this regard no one is superior.The Quran explicitly states that men and women are equal in the eyes of God. Furthermore, the Quran: forbids female infanticide (practiced in pre-Islamic Arabia and other parts of the world) instructs Muslims to educate daughters as well as sons.
@adibmahmood8618 such a "man" as he is, he's not going to be any better. You can change habits, not someone's nature. The sister should seek khul' from this guy who is undeserving to be called a husband.
@adibmahmood8618 you know whats a worst mistake a woman can do?
Thinking she can change a man. REMEMBER THAT
💯💯💯 he is got to go 👋👋👋
She has enslaved her with duties and the house work and working at the same time and being disrespected at the same time! This is modern day torture and cruelty and not a marriage of bliss. Allah protect her
Wooow never ever in million years I thought a Shaykh would respond straight forward. I have heard Desi Shyakh responding very differently. Thank you Shyakh!
😂😂😂
The problem is desi environment and difficulties are different. Most of the time, a wife doesn't earn her own money and she is dependent on her husband. If she takes Khula from her abusive husband, she has no where to go because her parents are old and can't provide financial help to her and her children. Most people live in joint families so the aunts, uncles and their children would probably abuse the woman and her children and this affects everyone. The children of separated woman develop inferiority complex and self pity and it creates more bigger problems. That's why most scholars try hard to not suggest a divorce. However, her case is different. She is earning well ma sha Allah and can support herself so it is a must to leave such a person as practising and bearing Zulm is haram in Islam
@@Anonymous-he3pi but allah is aware of the tears of those women, he will not leave those men in aakhirah, this world will pass anyways
may be you went to barelvi or half knowledge shaykhs the genuine one still agree with what the shaikh here said.
@@SheikAbdulKaleem it's easy to say, but suffering for just an hour feels like an year. Nothing is permanent, but still time just don't pass with a blink of an eye especially if you're suffering. It's not easy to live a hard life no matter whether it's temporary because human beings can feel both physical and psychological pain.
May Allah help those in need!!
Hope the sister find courage to stand for herself. amiinn.
Amin
Amin
May ALLAH bless her with pious And religious partner
Yes, I think all she needed to know was that if Allah would support her or not.
I couldn't help cry when she talked 😫
Why are some women just letting this happen?
fear and being manipulated by men.
Because they are coerced and abused by their families. Her husband has access to her money she can’t even access it herself. He has full control
men manipulate, society expects women to be submissive otherwise calls them undignified. men also can instill fear of revenge/ mental physical abuse or taking away support so it causes fear, helplessness n guilt in women to do as they want.
@@hashh2019 fax 💯💯
@@bruhno1545 thank you! :)
What a disgrace of a man. To take his wife’s earnings. I really don’t like to see divorce in Islam but in this case, I really hope she finds someone worthy of her.
I would like to say something
Women in islam need to sera hijab
So please can you change your profile photo
@@adamvibritania5735 i understand your intentions but its none of your business
@@No-chance8the prophet sallahu alyhi wa salam said
Whenever one of you sees an evil let him change it with his hand and if he is not able to then let him change it with his mouth and if he is still not able to then let him accept in his heart that it is wrong and that is the weakest of the faith
it most definitely is his business.
@@muhammadhaider6071 and he cant do any those since this is this internet, brother.
As i said before, what this woman wants to do or what she doesn't want to do is none of your- or his business..
May Allah give this sister a righteous, kind, respectful, loving and caring and providing husband who fills her heart with peace and helps her earn jannah al firdaus by reminding her of Allah and encourages her to do more good
you are not alone sister, we all make dua for you
❤🩹
Ameen
How is she this ignorant of Islam? She actually thought women had NO rights in Islam, that she let that dogshit of a man abuse her all these years?!
Prophet wanted to put a stop to all cruelties to women. He preached kindness towards them. He told the Muslims: "Fear Allah in respect of women." And: "The best of you are they who behave best to their wives." And: "A Muslim must not hate his wife, and if he be displeased with one bad quality in her, let him be pleased with one that is good." And:"The more civil and kind a Muslim is to his wife, the more perfect in faith he is."
The Prophet (peace be upon him) was most emphatic in enjoining upon Muslims to be kind to their women when he delivered his famous khutba on the Mount of Mercy at Arafat in the presence of one hundred and twenty-four thousand of his Companions who had gathered there for the Hajj al-Wada (Farewell Pilgrimage). In it he ordered those present, and through them all those Muslims who were to come later, to be respectful and kind towards women. He said:
"Fear Allah regarding women. Verily you have married them with the trust of Allah, and made their bodies lawful with the word of Allah. You have got (rights) over them, and they have got (rights) over you in respect of their food and clothing according to your means."
In Islam a woman is a completely independent personality. She can make any contract or bequest in her own name. She is entitled to inherit in her position as mother, as wife, as sister and as daughter. She has perfect liberty to choose her husband. The pagan society of pre-Islamic Arabia had an irrational prejudice against their female children whom they used to bury alive. The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) was totally opposed to this practice. He showed them that supporting their female
Islam raised the status of women, and made them equal with men in most rulings. So women, like men, are commanded to believe in Allah and to worship Him. And women are made equal to men in terms of reward in the Hereafter. Women have the right to express themselves, to give sincere advice, to enjoin what is good and forbid what is evil, and to call people to Allah. Women have the right to own property, to buy and sell, to inherit, to give charity and to give gifts. It is not permissible for anyone to take a woman’s wealth without her consent. For more about the rights of women in Islam, see the detailed answer.Islam showed full respect to the women and ensured rights, dignity and honour and equal status of men and women in case of marriage because for being a valid marriage acquiescence of the bride groom as well as bride is mandatory. In this regard no one is superior.The Quran explicitly states that men and women are equal in the eyes of God. Furthermore, the Quran: forbids female infanticide (practiced in pre-Islamic Arabia and other parts of the world) instructs Muslims to educate daughters as well as sons.
Ameeen
امين
imagine your wife works and you take money from her 😂😂😂😂😂
And claim it as his own 😂
To support your second marriage
How the….. did that other women even marry him if what the sister is saying is the whole truth…. The other women married a gold digger that lives of his first wife’s money 🤦🏻♂️
@@ax3226 and the wife's money is wife's money only.
@@ax3226 the situation is insane. And I thought I've heard it all. May Allah have mercy
My sister, please don’t get upset! Even though I am a men, I can feel your emotions as a human being. May Allah guide your husband.
You being a man has nothing to do with you understanding why someone is reacting a certain way to their mistreatment, be a human being first ,and it will go a long way
@@purplelove3666 Allah created men and woman differently we don't process things the same we feel emotions different and thing different, we are Muslims first not humans first
@@mo_4eyez437 no no noo it doesnt work that way. I understand why u would think it that way but no no-
for example:
imagine someone u loved died, men or women, u will be sad! cuz ur human
imagine u accomplished something amazing, man or woman, you will be happy becz ur human.
u dont need to be a woman to understand that what her husband making her go through is horrible. you need to have basic human decency.
yes there are emotions and process that happen differently in men and women but not in this case.
@@Abyss777 Okay I get what you mean but still, the differences are there we view life differently, and yes the situation she is going through is extremely horrible I'm not as sad as I was angry towards the guy
God created "bank-Adam" and made them Muslims, so please have your thoughts in place!@@mo_4eyez437
My mom always told us 'Never let a third person enter your house be it girl or boy'.
Then you will have shaitan in your house.
@adibmahmood8618 how do i explain it? There are many inceidents where you have let your male friend stay in your house and it ended your wife having affair with him or vice versa.
By third person i meant that.
Exactly why I was surprised when I heard that males are no longer demanded to be personal drivers. They want FEMALE DRIVERS specifically to attend their wives and daughters
@@wasimabarijoya2293
Prophet Muhammad PBUH has said in a hadith to not even let relatives be here like this.
He PBUH specifically called it a disaster
It never ends well.
I'm a woman who never married, sometimes i feel lonely and want husband and family. Other times i feel grateful for not dealing with a sh**tty husband and annoying in-laws.😂😂
Sister, I don't know your age or circumstances. But I strongly urge you to use your time wisely and find a husband a suitable match for you. Do your due diligence, make sure you enquire about the prospective proposal, ask the right questions and find out where his priorities lie and whether you are compatible. Know your rights and your obligations. use your marriage contract to include any special clauses or requirements such as the right to further education, work etc. Assert your boundaries, standards and requirements. Inlaws will not be living with you so those are people you see from time to time. I wish you a happy life with marriage and an honorable spouse.
@@Sas-rf9syits a waste . As muslim woman i can atest that we don't have any desires for men especially xual ones. Most of us get only married due to societal pressure , finacial security and children. Otherwise no women longs for men .
Better not to marry.
@@Sas-rf9syI agreed with till the part about making special clauses. When a woman married she shouldn’t need to work or further education especially if the man doesn’t allow it or dislikes it.
This was so incredibly sad. If everything sister said was factual, the husband sounds like a coward. May she find something better, اللَّهم آمين.
Prophet wanted to put a stop to all cruelties to women. He preached kindness towards them. He told the Muslims: "Fear Allah in respect of women." And: "The best of you are they who behave best to their wives." And: "A Muslim must not hate his wife, and if he be displeased with one bad quality in her, let him be pleased with one that is good." And:"The more civil and kind a Muslim is to his wife, the more perfect in faith he is."
The Prophet (peace be upon him) was most emphatic in enjoining upon Muslims to be kind to their women when he delivered his famous khutba on the Mount of Mercy at Arafat in the presence of one hundred and twenty-four thousand of his Companions who had gathered there for the Hajj al-Wada (Farewell Pilgrimage). In it he ordered those present, and through them all those Muslims who were to come later, to be respectful and kind towards women. He said:
"Fear Allah regarding women. Verily you have married them with the trust of Allah, and made their bodies lawful with the word of Allah. You have got (rights) over them, and they have got (rights) over you in respect of their food and clothing according to your means."
In Islam a woman is a completely independent personality. She can make any contract or bequest in her own name. She is entitled to inherit in her position as mother, as wife, as sister and as daughter. She has perfect liberty to choose her husband. The pagan society of pre-Islamic Arabia had an irrational prejudice against their female children whom they used to bury alive. The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) was totally opposed to this practice. He showed them that supporting their female
Islam raised the status of women, and made them equal with men in most rulings. So women, like men, are commanded to believe in Allah and to worship Him. And women are made equal to men in terms of reward in the Hereafter. Women have the right to express themselves, to give sincere advice, to enjoin what is good and forbid what is evil, and to call people to Allah. Women have the right to own property, to buy and sell, to inherit, to give charity and to give gifts. It is not permissible for anyone to take a woman’s wealth without her consent. For more about the rights of women in Islam, see the detailed answer.Islam showed full respect to the women and ensured rights, dignity and honour and equal status of men and women in case of marriage because for being a valid marriage acquiescence of the bride groom as well as bride is mandatory. In this regard no one is superior.The Quran explicitly states that men and women are equal in the eyes of God. Furthermore, the Quran: forbids female infanticide (practiced in pre-Islamic Arabia and other parts of the world) instructs Muslims to educate daughters as well as sons.
I really got tears in my eyes.... sister may ALLAH ease this for you
Ameen
Allahumma Aameen 🤲☝️
How is she this ignorant of Islam? She actually thought women had NO rights in Islam, that she let that dogshit of a man abuse her all these years?!
really got tears in my eyes....listing that you have tears in you eyes
Me too
If a man only demanding for everything but give nothing in return, leave him a.s.a.p.
Agree 100%. I am not sure many women would put up with abusers.
Fr! Also, why are they demanding anything from their wife?! where is their dignity? How is it even manly...so gross! some men are walking around being way too confident. Women need to stop tolerating such filth tbh.
@@jessmindarus7816Because she's a codependent and a people pleaser.. Most women are like that specially in India and Pakistan.. Here they teach woman from a young age to be submissive and accept abuse, it's all in her programming
@@jessmindarus7816 sadly many do
3:05 😂 yes i was talking to myself and saying he is a Golddigger 😂may allah protect her and she get her rights back from this fake man .
Her husband sounds awful 😠
bro picking and choosing, doing things unislamically, then suddenly brings out religion and paradise when it suits him
Literally abusing his wife and not doing his duty while taking her money and funding it on his second wife which he married without his wife's consent or talking with her about it(commits zina). What a scumbag. lol
Of course this is one sided so we don't know the other side(hope the sister is being truthful) but if this is true that he isn't doing himself any favors in the hereafter...
The guy isn't eligible to a second marriage if he can't earn
@@CountChocula-on9ix It's more concerning that her friend would have an affair with her husband.
@@fozzt it's not as a friend is not someone related to you in any sense except for some sort of emotional bonding, her husband's misdeeds are more concerning in my opinion
@@crimsonrain9570 not really. Men are more likely to cheat, so that's why polygamy is allowed. So when a woman has an affair it's much much worse. Especially with her best friends husband. As a woman I can tell how evil a woman has to be to do that.
Sir, though I agree with most of your advice to this lady, in my most humble opinion, I think blaming the victim may not be the best approach . Women of eastern cultures are taught from a very young age to never say no to our husbands. I feel mothers and, more importantly, fathers should teach both sons and daughters about their true ISLAMIC rights and responsibilities. NOT what their cultures say.
I agree. I understand about taking accountability of our actions, but I feel the sheikh is not being empathetic enough towards her. She sounds very much in pain.
yeah, but the sheikh often takes a more stern and imperative approach. It does people good to heed their advice.
I think, it's because Sheikh is father of 13 daughters and what he sees is woman, the age of his daughter who is heartbroken by what has happened. And took a father's approach, to advise this sister.😊😊. Though, that's just how I viewed it. 😅😅
I think it’s more of giving her a wake up call to make her realize where she went wrong and that she should’ve set boundaries to begin with in order to protect herself and prevent these types of abuses from happening.
Advise is not only for her but other women as well who are just get into marriage or soon to get married.
So make it clear where she went wrong and what could be avoided is necessary to mention so young ones don't fall for that. And I think that's a good approach also sheikh is kind to her and her circumstances wallaho alam.
My husband will never have an access to my account,unless I die before him.I know even the best men will take advantage of us if we allow it,I’ve seen it. AND I say this while having a wonderful husband
Sheikh always gives such impartial and just advice mashaallah may Allah bless him and bless the person managing this channel
Aameen.
Hearing one side of story is not enough to give fatwa. Because women always lie.
@@topcommenter9235 no... shut up. Didn't you hear her voice?
@@UsamahMohdSabri playing victim card or what?
@@topcommenter9235 Oh shut up. 🤦🏼♀️Why would she lie on the verge of tears.
May Allah make it easy for the sister and for every Muslim including myself and forgive us our past present and future sins…. Aameen
Ameen
I feel so bad for this lady. I hope she gets rid of this dead weight lying husband of hers asap. Her friend is the worst kind of person u can have the misfortune of meeting. She deserves better.
May Allah give her a better life and find peace. Alhumdalilah. Ameen
Some men in the replies are so insensitive and fail to see the bigger picture. What if your wife got another husband, you wouldn’t want to share her would you? Especially if that second husband is your own best friend. It would break your heart. It seems some men only care about fulfilling their own sexual desires rather than seeking genuine love.
Genuine love from who women?
Difference here is that one is halal the other is haram so it's inconsequential.
Your first wife has no say in who you can marry.....
But it was WAS messed up of him to not even inform here beforehand of this.
@@Moody.Smiruai Then, that is oppression. Your Islam is the oppression of others. You can call it Islam if you want it to be Islam, but you cannot stop others from viewing it as oppression, because it is oppression.
@@Moody.Smiruai dude when you enter a relationship you owe loyality to your partner, to not hurt them or betray their trust and love like that, if you love and respect your wife you would never look for another women let alone force her to accept it, lets be real here, just like men wouldn't ever tolerate seeing their wife with another man women are also possessive and feel betrayed to see their husband whom she trusted fully and loved whole heartedly to see him get married to another women making her just an option, its not even about halal or haram, just because something is halal doesn't mean its farz, and hurting your spouse is the biggest sin.
@@bequietdontcry9504Are you a Muslim?
Very sickening what the husband did. Imagine being cheated on and your hard earned money is being used to take care of the woman you got cheated on with, your best friend for that matter 💔💔💔
Ladies. Put in your nikkah that he cannot marry another woman. You cant forbid your husband from doing something that amndatory, but marrying multiple women is optional, not manadatory. Protect yourself and say he does not get to marry you if he doesnt swear fidelity to you.
Uh... If the rights are given to the first wife and are fulfilled, then what's the issue for a man to marry another if he has the capability.
Do you not want another sister to have a husband and get out of a life from being single or living a life as a divorce or Widow with children?
Who will take care of them
@@Ahmed-ye5sd a man whos single can take care of her. My mom was a divorcee with children and plenty of men were at her doorstep, never married before and yet liked her enough to devote themselves to her and her children. My stepfather was a kind man.
@@Illzy same way women lie about their past.
Writing something like that in your marriage contract is naturally against what the Quran already permits, so either have tawakal in Allah and let nature take its cause or you need to seriously think about your akhirah.
Sheikh is always so understanding and impartial, at least he listens to women’s problems unlike others ❤️❤️ Allah give this sister sabar
I advise you to cover up or change your profile picture
Yeah hes a gold digger hahahaha 😂
Brother we should refrain from making remarks without hearing the other side. Just like mufti ismile ibn menk once said "every story has 3 sides this side,that side and the Truth.
As a man I can confirm he is not a man enough to have a wife
You're a simp to say that.
Best comment bro
This is a matter all woman need to hear and to learn from it. May Allah swt. Bless this woman and make it easy for her ameen.
QURAN 33-50 SLAVE GIRLS FROM GOD HAS GIVEN YOU AS BOOTY. Allah admitted that he's false god,he's a rapist.
Read the Bible and see that Jesus Christ is eternal God.
ALLAH APPEARED AFTER THE 7TH CENTURY AT MUHAMMAD 's command when everything was created by Jesus Christ .
All men need to hear as well to stay away form the evil women
@@sleeptherapy4811...to stay away from a false god Allah who appeared after the 7th century like a mushroom 🍄 at Muhammad 's command.
ALLAH forced people to convert to his own demonic cult said he is Satan he makes people sin intentionally to punish them after that.
QURAN 91 vs 8.
Sahih Muslim book 3 6406.
@@sleeptherapy4811What evil woman?
why are you mad?
Subhanallah!May Allah give her a better husband!Some of us would give our all to get such a wife!
A wife who would give you money? You need to check yourself
@@purplelove3666 LOL He means a nice wife who is fearful of Allah(she seems to actually take into account what will happen to her if she disobeys Allah). Of course her husband allegedly is abusing her using the religion and to fearmonger her into obeying him.....
I always tell people not everything should be shared between spouses... like past sins, personal finances, emails and passwords, intrusive thoughts, personal problems... there r some things to only keep for urself its not about hiding anything but about having the peace of mind u r in full control of something YOU own. But people will say i am crazy for saying this 😂😂
Well regarding emails and passwords, in a healthy relationship both have access to everything since they have absolutely nothing to hide. Its common in marriages of the older generation. You dont see any of the spouses hiding their phones, the, share them for certain purposes and the men know they shoudlnt check private, sensitive chats. Sadly many women even show their chats which contain pictures of hijabis without hijab. This is absolutely wrong, but the point is they still have absolute trust. And I find the trust in general pretty healthy in a relationship. But they should fear Allah regarding showing non-mahrams awraj to their husbands. And the men should gear Allah when looking at them.
@@VanDerDeckken I have the same opinion of their is no hijab between the two . The relationship of Husband and wife is build upon trust so if you are not cheating or watching filth then why fear in sharing you password
Hiding emails and passwords is a recipe for disaster and displays a lack of honesty.
Also, there shouldn't be any sensitive chat at all. If there is, then the partner has every right to know.
@@bittertruth0000 one reason would be if one of the spouses or even both would check the other ones phone 24/7 spying on them. When one has trust issues, they should have seperate passwords. And if I knew I had secrets of people on my phone, I wouldnt give my wife permission to check them. But I would give her the passwords if I would trust her enough not to check certain private chats. And there may be other reasons, too. In the end the sheikh has much experience. We shouldnt be too quick to judge on a matter of which we have limited knowledge or experience
Her pain touched me. I often ask myself what is wrong with people, using others, taking advantage of them, abusing them, humiliating them. In life, many people have no rahma muslim or not. Some people are really awful. But there's light out there too.
What kind of man is this?? Revolting how he’s treating his wife a’othobillah. May Allah make her way out easy without fitna.
I'm not Muslim, I'm agnostic but very impressed with good advice for women. Don't think any woman should accept a second wife if she feels jealous about it, I'd like to hear more re this type of case, subscribed.
Have you read the Qur'an? It's mentioned in Surah Nisa (verse named Women) that men are the providers and care takers of women. Meaning, husband should spend on his wife and children while women's finance can't be questioned/used by her husband if his wife disagree. In this video, the husband wasn't fulfilling his duty so Sheikh advised her for divorce, not because of polygamy. Polygamy is allowed so long as the husband is treating his wives equally in all respects, otherwise monogamy is the only option.
This isn't about feeling jealous
You should read Quran, inshaAllah you would be impressed even more
This is common in India 😢 Because Khula or divorce is considered taboo here
Bull ****. In India women puts false domestic violence and dowry case and extort money.
Maybe thisniw applicable anywhere else but in India.....most unlikely
He is not respecting her and her parents. Its enough reason to get Khula
Sisters take every single one of your rights do you not forgo any one of your rights because when your husband is ready to take a second wife and you beg him not to he will slap it in your face and remind you that it’s his right he will not care if you sacrifice your rights your whole marriage he will tell you that was your choice.
He will not care about the heartbreak the pain he’s inflicting on you he won’t care about you he will only care about himself and his future second wife.
I have never heard of a man that said he wanted to take a second one and after speaking to his first wife and understanding how much it’s going to affect her he says okay I will deny myself of this right for you
May Allah punish these cruel men for oppressing our Muslim sisters this way. The sister seems very pure, and she made the mistake of trusting this vile creature and an excuse for a man who has no ghayrah when taking money from his devout wife and using it to keep a second wife.
May Allah reward her for her patience and make this easy on her; she understandably seems heartbroken.
The explanation is so enlightening. Allah bless her and all other women who are suffering from abusive marriages.
Brought a tear to my eye listening to my sister's broken voice. May Allah heal her heart ameen
Her husband is not worthy of her. May Allah guide him. amen
These times men and women are weak. Decide and move on. Some people don't deserve you. Decide wisely my brother & sisters in islam.
Women please you have rights. Allah said respect and honor your husband not to worship him. You are married to a bad man, pls divorce him and never give him your money. He has no right to your money.
U need divorce darling divorce
Sometimes self respect is important over everything
If a person refuses to do their duty to Allah SWT, then you know they will not do their duty to you!
Sounds like the lady fell heavily into the pressures of culture and society. Hope this lady is able to stand up for herself even if every single good for nothing greedy, selfish person is against her from protecting herself. Her husband and family is going against Islam by treating her and her parents so badly. I won't be surprised if the husband and in-laws starts raising their hands on her if she blocks access to her own money. As far as I'm aware Islamically that husband has no rights upon anything she earns and owns that is of monetary value.
Now i'm waiting for "man won't smell jannah if HE..... "
Yeah exactly😂😂
never heard a single hadith with that in it. this is a warning to the women
you just exemplified why those ahadith exist in the first place....
...deyyus?
@@shadowstorm5261 deyyus?
in islam secret marriage is not valid,
Abu Bakr Abdul Aziz said, “A secret marriage is invalid, as Ahmad said: If he is married with a guardian’s permission and two witnesses, it is not so valid until it is announced publicly.”
The difference between adultery and marriage is making announcement.
if islamic state exists your husband has to face death penalty as he did adultery while being already married.
Allhumdoilliah Sheikh may Allah SWT bless you with health and prosperity Ameen, I was married to my ex for 23 years, and I tried to be the stupid wife he wanted me to be. He used and abused me in every possible way. I went to many Imams but no one helped me they all said to stay with your husband. But you Sheikh are a light under the tunnel. The sister her pain is something I felt so long ago. I have 8 children and Allhumdoillah I have brought them up by working 2 to 3 jobs, but he never paid anything towards them. Today in one of my work places I met an Albian man who was talking to me about how he fought for his son. When he asked me about my marriage I told him, and his reply was sister a man who does not love his children will never love anyone, May Allah SWT bless this brother because although I have now been divorced 11yrs I really needed to hear this.
Some men love to abuse this line -you have to obey your husband- that’s probably why she gave her card and pin. May Allah make it easy for her
But her money is not his. Women really need to learn their rights
Very common in sub-Indian continent. If she don’t give him her income, she would be in big trouble. Not easy being a woman in that society
So the man needs to be taught correctly. And the religious leader should also preach according to the Quran and the Sunnah not thru incorrect translation or the books. Obviously the mothers who bring up the males are also in the wrong.She couldn't see the right from the wrong practices.
Dont think its common at all, i know people from different ethnicities punjabi pataan gujrati and this doesnt happen,
Be careful not to generalise on a whole group of people.
@@jessmindarus7816I thought women couldn't raise men,so what the heck are you blaming their mothers for? Do you think they went to a sperm bank and got pregnant,why aren't you blaming the fathers for the outcome of their son's useless behavior?
Dear sister, he took advantage of your goodness and kindness. May Allah bless you with a beautiful life and the best ❤️ Allahumma ameen
Prophet wanted to put a stop to all cruelties to women. He preached kindness towards them. He told the Muslims: "Fear Allah in respect of women." And: "The best of you are they who behave best to their wives." And: "A Muslim must not hate his wife, and if he be displeased with one bad quality in her, let him be pleased with one that is good." And:"The more civil and kind a Muslim is to his wife, the more perfect in faith he is."
The Prophet (peace be upon him) was most emphatic in enjoining upon Muslims to be kind to their women when he delivered his famous khutba on the Mount of Mercy at Arafat in the presence of one hundred and twenty-four thousand of his Companions who had gathered there for the Hajj al-Wada (Farewell Pilgrimage). In it he ordered those present, and through them all those Muslims who were to come later, to be respectful and kind towards women. He said:
"Fear Allah regarding women. Verily you have married them with the trust of Allah, and made their bodies lawful with the word of Allah. You have got (rights) over them, and they have got (rights) over you in respect of their food and clothing according to your means."
In Islam a woman is a completely independent personality. She can make any contract or bequest in her own name. She is entitled to inherit in her position as mother, as wife, as sister and as daughter. She has perfect liberty to choose her husband. The pagan society of pre-Islamic Arabia had an irrational prejudice against their female children whom they used to bury alive. The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) was totally opposed to this practice. He showed them that supporting their female
Islam raised the status of women, and made them equal with men in most rulings. So women, like men, are commanded to believe in Allah and to worship Him. And women are made equal to men in terms of reward in the Hereafter. Women have the right to express themselves, to give sincere advice, to enjoin what is good and forbid what is evil, and to call people to Allah. Women have the right to own property, to buy and sell, to inherit, to give charity and to give gifts. It is not permissible for anyone to take a woman’s wealth without her consent. For more about the rights of women in Islam, see the detailed answer.Islam showed full respect to the women and ensured rights, dignity and honour and equal status of men and women in case of marriage because for being a valid marriage acquiescence of the bride groom as well as bride is mandatory. In this regard no one is superior.The Quran explicitly states that men and women are equal in the eyes of God. Furthermore, the Quran: forbids female infanticide (practiced in pre-Islamic Arabia and other parts of the world) instructs Muslims to educate daughters as well as sons.
“Being married to a gold digger” 😂😂😂😂😂
But sheikh is correct alhamdulillah. As a man i feel so sorry for her. He is taking so much advantage of her and her earnings and the fact that he went and marry behind her back to another woman, jeez how bad can men get sometimes. Coming from me as a man, this is very much not cool
Divorce him
Wow! The sheikh was on point! Mashallah! For the first time ever I have agreed with the sheikh 100% Real Talk right there
May Allah protect my dear sister and may Allah grant her happiness and peace in this life and in the life after
Note for married women, there's no best friends ... trust no woman with your husband and specially trust no one with your money.
Wallahi I was writing the exact same response before listening to the Sheikh 1) Visit the bank and cancel your card. Get another card and keep it to yourself 2) Divorce the guy so that your best friend will take care of him from this point on 😂😂😂
Yes the best WIN here for the sister who called is to let her friend support him with her own ATM card (see if she then can tolerate that)
Some times a person needs tuff love.
I only wish someone would have spoken to me this way when I was married. May Allah give her a way out of the abusive marriage. 🤲🏼
Sheikh's answer satisfied mee so much ❤ bcz such cheap men don't deserve happiness 🤢
Lmao he is already happy with his 2nd wife😂.
Report loss of card and take a new ATM card. This will make your Husband rethink.
I'm not Muslim but Ive been watching a few videos of channel and the Shyakh is very straightforward and impressive.
that poor sister ya rab gives her a better husband and a better friend ya rab
We have a joint account with my husband and we both contribute to the household. It has worked for us for the past 20 years. He mostly paid for my school and he has always worked hard and made more than I have.
We talk about finances together and don’t try to hide things.
It would be different if you have a husband who takes your money and goes behind your back to support another wife with your money.
I would not contribute to joint account if it was used to support another wife.
Of course you are free to tell each other these things IF you want to, that is; But it's best to keep it separate. If it works for you than Alhamdulillah! But I agree with the sheikh here that it's best to have the husband provide for you and keep your finances separate.
"Marriage is based on dignity, on respect, on compassion, on trust, on knowing your rights and obligations."
It's a very good lesson. Too many times I see a man abusing his wife, spouting Al Qur'an & Hadists to back his twisted lust but the man himself is never being fair with his wife. Such man always threaten that his wife wouldn't enter jannah if she disobey.
Listen to Sheikh's advice, Sister. Divorce is better for you as your husband couldn't provide you and doing his obligation in marriage. May Allah ease the process.
Sister.... Your husband will not smell jannah (may Allah forgive me)
Prophet wanted to put a stop to all cruelties to women. He preached kindness towards them. He told the Muslims: "Fear Allah in respect of women." And: "The best of you are they who behave best to their wives." And: "A Muslim must not hate his wife, and if he be displeased with one bad quality in her, let him be pleased with one that is good." And:"The more civil and kind a Muslim is to his wife, the more perfect in faith he is."
The Prophet (peace be upon him) was most emphatic in enjoining upon Muslims to be kind to their women when he delivered his famous khutba on the Mount of Mercy at Arafat in the presence of one hundred and twenty-four thousand of his Companions who had gathered there for the Hajj al-Wada (Farewell Pilgrimage). In it he ordered those present, and through them all those Muslims who were to come later, to be respectful and kind towards women. He said:
"Fear Allah regarding women. Verily you have married them with the trust of Allah, and made their bodies lawful with the word of Allah. You have got (rights) over them, and they have got (rights) over you in respect of their food and clothing according to your means."
In Islam a woman is a completely independent personality. She can make any contract or bequest in her own name. She is entitled to inherit in her position as mother, as wife, as sister and as daughter. She has perfect liberty to choose her husband. The pagan society of pre-Islamic Arabia had an irrational prejudice against their female children whom they used to bury alive. The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) was totally opposed to this practice. He showed them that supporting their female
Islam raised the status of women, and made them equal with men in most rulings. So women, like men, are commanded to believe in Allah and to worship Him. And women are made equal to men in terms of reward in the Hereafter. Women have the right to express themselves, to give sincere advice, to enjoin what is good and forbid what is evil, and to call people to Allah. Women have the right to own property, to buy and sell, to inherit, to give charity and to give gifts. It is not permissible for anyone to take a woman’s wealth without her consent. For more about the rights of women in Islam, see the detailed answer.Islam showed full respect to the women and ensured rights, dignity and honour and equal status of men and women in case of marriage because for being a valid marriage acquiescence of the bride groom as well as bride is mandatory. In this regard no one is superior.The Quran explicitly states that men and women are equal in the eyes of God. Furthermore, the Quran: forbids female infanticide (practiced in pre-Islamic Arabia and other parts of the world) instructs Muslims to educate daughters as well as sons.
😅😅 the word GOLD DIGGER thing got me😂😂😂
Absolutely!!!
I was wrong to trust my husband. He is abusive in every way. I can't even pray in peace in my home. I cannot eat or sleep at any decent hour. My health is getting bad from him controlling my every breath. I put my foot down since last night and hope to leave and make khula asap. Ya Rabb.
Trying to get khula but he tells my my reasons arnt good enough, I wish to end this marriage to start over a new life for me and my children but I'm stuck overseas with him and he won't allow me to take my children back.. Alhumdulilah.. Being married to a narcissist is very hard... May Allah give u patience
@@n.n9035where are you living?
@@minariv8300 Lebanon, no embassy will help because the kids all born here and yes that's why he planned this all and never let me give birth overseas besides my parents 😑
Assalamualikum sheikh
Most of the time the A.T.M card is given to husband is to avoid fights everyday and also to make this relation work...
In worst case scenario to escape beating
Not all women do it willingly or becoz they trust him...
They just want to keep the relation going without any problems...
In such situations , in most of the cases, in the end, no matter what u do, how much u sacrifice, how much u give, they don't appreciate it. Rather they abuse the women of not fulfilling there duties properly...
Marriage in islam is not built on force, greed, fear or violence. That is not a healthy relationship. Its abuse. So instead of fulfilling unreasonable demands and fearing violenceit is better to just divorce. Such women are enabling the bad behavior of their husbands by not saying NO and by being afraid of him or divorce.
I feel soo bad for her , you can hear in her voice , May Allah Bless her heart and make it easy for her
Fatima you are good women..take care you and your parents..
Your husband is bad man ..
Keep your money .don't give your husband...🤲🤲🤲🤲🤲🤲🤲
Misogyny is so miserable and it’s everywhere. Fear Allah. May Allah help this ummah.
Some men like to make everything in the religion in their benefit when in fact ITS NOT
You mean *woman?
@@Apnastories-e7x I clearly said Men
@@Amamoo. we all make mistakes
SubhanAllah sheikh responded mashallah so much respect
My story is just the same as hers. I can totally relate to her. Only addition here in my case is even my parents has been doing the same with my income which I earned before marriage. They took all support financially till I was earning good. When I shifted my career to teaching for being near my kids as I was not of financial help to them they took one of my property and kicked me out of their house too as I was living with them as my husband abandoned me and my children. May Allah bless her with the best in this world and Aakhirah.
The audacity of some men. Even using hadiths to shame rightful women. This is why a lot of us are afraid to get married.
This woman should divorce her husband. He's a horrible, selfish person.
My dearest sister indeed after hardship comes ease, don't think no one sees your struggle, Allah sees everything, remain steadfast and keep making dua, Allah will grant you better than what you lost. Teust me, I have bee in the same situation, perhaps even worse as blackmajic was involved from the other woman...who was not actually his wife we found out by shariah, as the 'nikah' was performed without the permission of her father/wali, they had also been sleeping together befire this 'nikah' so it was basically zina. He was living in my house which I inherited from my father and told me he had married me he wanted me to work so he could get a house for her as she was still living with her mum. He never cared about our 3 children and was abusive towards them. After almost 8 years of this she suddenly died in a moterbike accident, they say she died screaming. I had made dua that night that Allah I am not strong enough to bear anymore, he even knew she was seeing other men and had no regatd for islam. Stay strong my sister, Allah does not Allah the wrongdoers to thrive.
Jazakallah khairan may Allah grant you and your kids good in this Dunya and the Akhira
sorry to comment this
but its with hardship comes ease
not after hardship comes ease
sorry
So sister .. did u take khula? I hope u did. Such men cannot be trusted
I hope you have since divorced him as this is simply not a dignified, sustainable or healthy situation let alone for 8 years. However, I'm worried about something else. You spoke of your husband's and the other woman's sxexsual promiscuity. I think you should consult a competent gyneaecoIogist and have a full check up and tests done because your husband could've easily given you STls or ST.Ds
Subhanallah i cried..Allah bless you sis
Yes I’ve become weak lol. I’m the sort who never cries . Even when close ones die I cry in private not in front of people. But this one really upset me, because I could hear her trying to keep herself from breaking down 😢
Gosh.. she sounds so heartbroken !!! JazakAllah Sheikh for such a great advice ❤. You’re a good man. May Allah bless you🙏🏼