How to love yourself again: body dysmorphia & healing your insecurities with Sophia Esperanza
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- Опубликовано: 14 фев 2022
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The insecurities of our own physical uniqueness holds us back to our full potential as human beings. Some spend hours a day trying to fix what they consider to be flaws, or frequently examine their appearance in a mirror and constantly compare their appearance with that of others. But your beauty is already within you. Our mind’s perception is a building block to our outlook in life. Body dysmorphia is often exacerbated through today’s societal norms of cosmetic and plastic surgery and even face filters that we now see all over social media. Sophia Esperanza and I unpack this topic while she shares her own body dysmorphia story and her decision to remove her implants, and leaving the modeling industry to pursue a different direction in life - using her large social media platform to inspire an ethical vegan lifestyle, slow fashion, and loving your body.
Sophia is an inspiration to so many online, who lives true to her convictions and speaks to a deeper level of consciousness, pondering and reflecting how the human species can evolve and grow, even in the age of social media pressures, illusions, and body dysmorphia.
In this episode we cover:
- Sophia’s body dysmorphia story
- What lead Sophia to leave the modeling industry and decide to remove her implants
- How body dysmorphia is exasperated with the rise in cosmetic/plastic surgery and face filters
- The importance of being yourself and not conforming to society’s unattainable and often singular ideal version of beauty that is all the same
- The argument to both sides of aisle with cosmetic/plastic surgery
- When someone has a prominent or strong feature
- How face filters online can be affecting our society today
- Sophia’s ethical vegan story
- How being a steward of the earth ties in to being a steward of your own body
- Using your dollars to support more ethical choices from organic plant foods and vegan clothing to ethical slow fashion
- Sophia’s new ventures with Elbows on the Table, a vegan recipe website
- how veganism has changed her life in the most positive way.
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This is so great!!
I was in a relationship where the guy had only been w chicks that had implants. I’ve nursed all 3 of my kids. My breasts tell a story.....
I was insecure
He insisted it wasn’t an issue
Got ghosted
For a chick w brand new non-mom boobs
I’m glad
I know my worth
Thank you for sharing your story
This is inspiring & liberating
May your journey of healing be ecstatic 💃🏼✨💘
I follow Sophia on Instagram for a few years now and it's been a beautiful thing to witness Sophia's growth and transformation, and so much wisdom and authenticity behind it. Beautiful human being inside out, wish her all the best. Greeting from Latvia ♥
This makes me so sad, she is gorgeous inside and out and her smile is so beautiful
I don’t think I have ever related to a video/podcast more than this one!
Thank you so much to both of you beautiful souls 🤎
Thank you 🙏🏻 for having a podcast about this and with the wonderful Sophia ❤️. My whole life I have suffered with hating myself for not being as pretty as the girls in the magazines. In my day boys had nooo problem telling me and my friends to shave our legs or don’t smile because of your crooked teeth, you should lose 10lbs… I did all the things to fix my “flaws” just to be liked by a boy. While the whole time I was falling apart on the inside 💔.
And I’m one of those people that uses those skin smoothing filters 😔. These past few days I’ve been going without them, and it’s liberating.
Thank you 🙏🏻 both for all you do for this world 💚
Wow the impact that you guys are putting in the world just by doing this video is crazy, I feel so incredibly motivated to change my life around to think differently I love you guys and thank you Ellen for making these life changing podcasts
Body dysmorphia! I am so excited to hear you speak on something that I have struggled with! Thank you! Excited to listen
she’s so beautiful, thank you for sharing your story. It truly resonates with the way I feel about myself and gives me hope to heal my insecurities ❤🙏
Wow, so refreshing to see someone so beautiful in so many ways... Changing the world in so many ways. This is what we need
Thank you so so so much for this video. Right now I'm really struggling with my insecurities and im insanly comparing myself to others. It affect my love life that I have with my partner. This is what I needed. A huge thank you! You guys helped a lot! Sending hearts from Czech Republic❤️
This has been really helpful to me. Im so happy to have finally watched this poscast. Thank you beautiful souls so much ❤️🙏✨
This message is so important! Thank you for being so inspiring for women
Can you bring up conversations like sexual trauma? And childhood sexual trauma and what you’re doing to teach your kids the safety or pedo’s and the signs to look for. My mother never took us seriously and her ex husband abused me for 13 years and now I have no family speaking out.
It’s still so taboo and it’s not fair for it to be any longer for us survivors. It needs to talked about openly in families and with children. That’s how we start to fix these issues, talking about them.
Thanks Ellen again for all things you bring to all of us. Thank you, I don't know a stronger word. XOXO from France
I loved this talk! & I love that you are studying to become a naturopath. It makes me so sad to see people call naturopathic doctors “not real doctors”. Every doctor has their place! MDs are not taught the holistic perspective and the entire perspective of the body’s health. I love how naturopaths get to the root of the problem vs covering it up. I think you’ve been led on a great path.
Such a powerful conversation. Have been so grateful to have been following you both for very long and when I think of my strong influences for my reasons behind going vegan, you both come to mind. Thank you for these conversations and the content you put out there 🙏 (this is what influencing looks like 🥰)
I love her message of being a good steward of the earth, by working on yourself first and foremost, a real role model, embodying and embracing change, and spreading the love it fills to every aspect of life. That is something many of us who are on a similar path can relate to.
yes truly. she is so authentic and inspiring, I'm thankful I got to speak to her!
Really needed this, thank you for sharing!!! ✨🧡
I hope you love this conversation!❤️
Same here! 🥰
I never watch videos over 20 minutes long But I really like & follow your guest Sofia. Great info thank you 🙏🏻
Yes two of my favs 🤍 thank you Ellen for this
yay thanks for tuning in and I hope you love the episode
Love this ❤️
Loved this Ellen, great topic, I have a granddaughter and I worry about her growing up with instagram and tictok. Also love every thing Sophia stands for with veganism and animal welfare.
There’s actually been studies showing that humans have evolved to prefer certain features. An asymmetrical face is a good indicator of a person having good genes to pass on their offspring.
There’s nothing wrong with people preferring a certain look. It’s how we’ve progressed over the millennia.
Although I do agree that these face filters are getting out of hand. Even the most naturally beautiful person in the world could never look like that because it isn’t real.
There is definitely nothing wrong with preferring a certain look but this goes so much deeper than that and is missing the bigger picture. When we shrug off the obsession our culture has with looking symmetrically perfect by saying: it's how we've evolved to prefer certain features - we justify judging people by their appearance rather than their heart and character, and we accept body dysmorphia and extreme insecurities about the way we look as fine and "part of nature." It's essentially saying, "Sorry, not my problem you weren't born with genes that give you a big butt and boobs, small waste and a perfectly symmetrical face.." We are so much more than our appearance. And the way our species has such a huge emphasis on the way we look, especially in today's standards with social media, airbrushing, and the normalization of cosmetic and plastic surgery and face filters, we exacerbate the obsession and the problem. The beautiful thing about our species is that *we can evolve FURTHER* to appreciate was matters much more than appearance, which is our character.
@@theellenfisherpodcast Yes and I totally agree with that. I wasn’t trying to excuse the unhealthy side of things, so sorry if it came off that way. And while I do believe certain features have always been preferred over the centuries (we can see this through art)
I do think the obsession and pressure has gotten way out of hand. There shouldn’t even be any pressure on anyone to look a certain way.
Love your make up Ellen. You are so Beautiful ❤️
Thanks for speaking about avatars! I see them as an extension of face filters and should be avoided. Let’s be real with each other!
Another great podcast! Question.. what was the documentary she mentioned towards the end? Sea?
it's called Seed! and thank you!
i think her last name is spelled esperanza :) can’t wait to listen to the whole episode ! love you both
oh thank you! I just fixed it xo
What Movie/documentary did Sophia recommend @ about 1:20:00???
I liked when you talked about "strong features", what is your opinion on birth defects? I was born with a cleft lip and had it surgically corrected.
Nevermind, I listened further :) Lol
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My god Sophia is so super beautifull cant bealive what ahe Was going thrue
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Ellen, I absolutely adore your podcast and I really do not mean to be a grammar nazi i’m so sorry, perhaps your wonderful sister Hannah can back me up here, you keep using “exasperate” which means to get excited instead of “exacerbate” which is escalating or dramatizing a situation which I believe is the word you mean to use! I love the podcast and these amazing conversations you’re having, I just want your articulation to reflect your incredible interview skills :))))
thank you yes!! hehe :)
The English language is annoying sometimes 😆
I love hearing from other vegans and their vegan story. Somehow I feel or would like to think that one day ALL humans will have their own vegan story to tell.
This is awesome!! This channel needs Promo'SM!
Not one podcast guest have I not loved! Eat move rest on the podcast. They had the rona and I think someone going against the n a rr i tve about that would be a cool guest!