To be honest im happier when I find it out because it makes me stop thinking I will have a shot when more often than not I won't even ever meet them. Having a crush on a celebrity sucks to be honest because you will probably never meet them and get rejected/accepted meaning it can last forever unlike in real life where you would just ask a girl/boy you meet out.
I used to think I only attracted to beautiful people, but then there is this girl I am talking to daily that wasn't even attractive like what it is said in the textbook and she's attractive to me. I guess personality does win over looks.
Eh I'm too realistic to believe in stuff like that *shrug* I mean sure you can fall in love with an old friend but that's not the attraction this guy means
φ First-order logic What about elderly people? Older married couples love each other, but I think in most cases there isn't much physical attraction going on there.
***** Yeah, you can have feelings for another person while in a relationship with another, you don't choose that, just as long as it stays as feelings not actions. But then you should end the relatioship not cheat.
It's not an excuse for cheating, but it's the best reason for leaving someone and then going on to someone else. Otherwise what life to we live? If you have the option of being slaved off to a person for the rest of your life or doing what you want to do, you'd be dumb for not doing what you want to do. Unless you believe you're going to a heavenly eternity after life and that non of this sh*t really matters. But for those of us in reality, we realize we got on shot at this life, and we'd be damned spending one second of it wasting our time.
***** Who would've though that I would see you here :P frosted1030 As Angas said. There is nothing wrong with falling out of love or in love with another person. You just need to decide who is right for you and if you are right for them.
Marcel Rodriguez the heart does produce some amounts of Oxytocin actually. it also has its own electromagnetic field like your brain, as well as containing up to 40,000 neurons. interesting eh?
+typhoon394 and the answer most certainly isn't how much "dopamine runs in their veins", give me a picture of a hot bitch and I'll be attracted to that shit even if it's just a picture.
+Sally Lemon sounds easy but it isn't. My best grade school friend fell for the fattest, most stupid and worst of all: toothless sack of potatoes I have ever seen. In addition to that he is almost 10 years older than her. They married now. So... you are attracted to what you are looking for, I guess. *good looking* while a subjective perception, is only so subjective. Even she said that he does not look good...
That is called object-sexualality. Also called Objectophilia. Depending on what your attraction is depends on what sub category you are. People who are attracted to cars are called mechaphiliacs.
+Liz Um... I haven't seen any other asexuals "having a fit." As an asexual, I find this video informative and I fit easily into the "type 1/dopamine" category. Sexual and physical attraction aren't the same thing. .x.
Attractive people make the world a prettier place, so I'm glad I'm attracted to lots of people, even if I have no interest in a relationship with them. But I've also fallen in love, and that's most miserable experience ever. Stay single and never fall in love. You'll be so much happier.
Celebrities are a form of fictional characters, an image is presented to you that resonates the most, not the actual persons. If you meet some of the people you're supposedly attracted to, I guarantee you'll be mostly disgusted.
for a long time i felt attracted to assholes. that´s what men usually think about us women - that we always choose the bad guys. the truth behind that was a troubled childhood with parents being both violent and not comprehensive. bad guys feel attracted to women who suffer from the past and have small self esteem so one thing comes to another. and weak women feel attracted to them because these guys act very offensive and full of self esteem - character traits that girls in these situation do not posess. after some years of therapy, i do not feel attracted any more to them and i finally enjoy my life!
I have been saying this for years! Daddy issues is the cause of ass-hole attraction. To a degree. Women also like guys who are on the offensive (improving their lives constantly). Women don't like men who want to live in mediocrity. Just like men don't want to live in mediocrity themselves. C'est la vie.
+Mike Cassell when you're asexual you still crave love, affection and relationships, you just don't express or experience love from sexual contact. An asexual person can have trouble in their romantic relationships because they find little meaning or pleasure in sex, which may leave their partner either dissatisfied with their sex life, or insecure, wondering if it's their fault. I think what you're looking for is the term "aromantic" which is pretty much a made-up thing for people who have had their hearts broken too many times to throw around to explain why they don't want to be in a relationship anymore and only care about fucking. I think the only people who truly do not want or care about love are true psychopaths.
+Lisa Galarza Oh my god! I thought I was the only one who was attracted to blobfish! I want to marry one and then attend fancy parties and introduce it as my wife, Blobelina.
Just gotta get out there man, or save up enough money to travel some place abroad. That's what I wish to do. You may have more success with foreign women as it's possible they'll have more interest in you. If you're like young (below 18) then I suggest trying to approach girls yourself. It's rare a girl will approach a guy unless he's popular or something, you'd be surprised how many girls probably find you to be attractive but it's the norm for the male to approach first so they don't say anything.
Attraction is really powerful & confusing. One minute you're this smart individual who knows exactly what they want & don't want; and the other you see an attractive person and you completely lose yourself, your heart & face flushes with blood and then the primal urge to protect takes over. Differences don't matter after that. That is why, you need to avoid such attractions as they reveal your stupid animal nature.
i have my eye on someone at school bo one else likes her in the way i do so i dont have any competiton also a lot of people think she is ugly but i think she is beautiful she is also quite smart. for some reason it just feels right
+ExcavateTheBuilding No, that would be zoophiles. Furries are about fictional characters with both human and animal characteristics (and often, it's not even about sexual attraction; just a taste in art).
That's just infatuation/attraction. Not ~falling in love~. You have to know the person. Not just be like, "I like the way you look, I'm in love with you."
When you see someone you immediately find attractive and you then feel the need to look at them for a moment, that's because you're subconsciously trying to determine how good of a mate they might be. Our brains may work fast, but we need to take just a moment to take in everything we need to see of them and decide whether or not they seem like a good biological match. I find stuff like this interesting.
The hardest part about love is loving someone unconditionally, when they barely love you back. I wish I could just get over her..But how can I forget about someone that gave me so much to remember? She's a wreck; depressed, cutting, distant.. Yet, I have been there for her for ~4 years. wtf.
Get over it. Stop being a mangina. People think they want unconditional love from a partner but would you want someone to still love you even if you were a fat, pedophilic slob? You need a motivation for improving yourself, and getting a reward for nothing(i.e. unconditional love) encourages you to continue as you are and even get worse. And if you ever expect to find love again remember that women don't want a man that's still hopelessly in love with his ex. That's too much like a woman, and women want a man.
Michael Nyholt Just because I'd want unconditional love doesnt give me permission to become a slob and all.. So, what you're saying is that if I happen to go to war or get in a car wreck or something.. and lets say my arm gets chopped off. I should not expect my wife to be there for me in the hospital as I would for her? Thats a fucked up world I dont want to be in..
danielle ram i didnt leave her. she has issues and left me. but for some reason we keep getting in touch a lot. (mostly me getting in touch with her to see if hopefully shes matured enough for a real relationship.. shes a very distant and moody high maintenance kind of girl, that wears a lot of make up and tries to hide her life at home type).. in which ive always been there for her and accept her and all of her flaws.
xFersureMatt That is a circumstance beyond your own control to lose a body part. Whether or not someone loves you after that is up to your partner. I'm talking about things that are in your control, like improving yourself through education, exercise, getting a career, and like things. If you continue to feel loved despite letting yourself go uneducated, getting fat, not getting a career or other way to support yourself, then you start to feel like your way of life is ok despite the problems with it because you still get an endorphin high from the person you love.
+Madi Böhlin I'm jealous. I have always tried to be attracted to the nice guys and give them a chance but there have only been a few really nice guys that I was attracted to... and their physical appearance was definitely a factor in that. I've probably missed out on a lot of great guys because I let their physical appearance affect my judgement. Thankfully I do seem to be able to smell out the assholes well enough and stay away from them though...
+RainAngel111 truth is, most nice guys are nice because they can't get girls being themselves.... Which is counter productive. If you have nothing better to say about yourself other than you are nice , if ur ugly, u are screwed lol
Opethfullcovers Depends on the basis of the relationship. I find at least with me that I'm more attracted to the personality and mind of the other person rather than looks.
Omg I can relate to what he said so much. Its all so true. So all of my crazy emotions for my crush was because my brain became a hormone squirting lemon.
The first thing I thought of was the hogwarts houses for the different Dopamine- Slytherin Serotonin- Gryffindor Testosterone- Ravenclaw And Estrogen- Hufflepuff
I just hate having crushes because I would rather crush on myself, or no one tbh. How come I can’t live my life without attraction? How come I have to have feelings for people? It doesn’t make any sense.
I'm usually attracted to someone exactly like me, but my husband is quite different in most things, I will say I wanted to give him a chance, and now we have been together 6 years, married for 3. I think we have a great bond. So did I win against my brain? x)
***** Mind blown. :o x) Nah. we're good, we have our ups and downs like anyone else, but we always come out stronger, so I think I made a good choice. ^^'
This does not explain why men think of a girl's butt as being attractive versus other body parts. There are women with beautiful faces, nice butts, both, and neither.
rachelle5694 No, the brain chemistry of the neurotransmitters does not explain the attraction of certain body parts & preferences. I would have loved to know more about that in the video.
I think it's a cultural thing. But girls like butts too. Strong glutes can mean that the person is good at sprinting or that they don't lack too much muscle
I'd like to know if there's some explanation for why I (a girly girl) is only really attracted to other girly girls, because damn is it hard to find dates.
Lord Trevden It's not hormonal, or at least it's not _only_ hormones. Nobody knows all the factors of homosexuality. I'm aware that I'm a lesbian, but I'm wondering why so many lesbians fit into the "butch/femme couple" dynamic while I don't. I suspect that has more to do with social programming. In our hegemonic masculinity driven society, even in a relationship with two women, _someone_ still has to be the "man." Sure makes it difficult for me. I'm not what one would call extremely feminine, but I'm definitely _not_ butch, and I'm also explicitly not attracted to butch women.
***** Wow you're an idiot. also I'm an unrepentant atheist and methodological naturalist. "spiritual" isn't even in my thought process. "saying no one knows what causes something is feminine way of thinking" hahahahaha oh my god what is wrong with you do you even science bro
***** "pure stupidity and neglect for the truth" you do realize that _all of science_ operates on the precept that we don't know and can't explain everything, right? that's sort of why science, well, sciences. _because we don't know stuff_. obviously you're just a really awful troll because I doubt seriously that anyone can possibly be this measurably dumb and still remember to breathe
***** dude you're seriously making me laugh so hard my face hurts. thank you for being so incomprehensibly stupid, it's fucking hilarious el oh fucking el.
Madison Profeta same! all of my friends are into compete douchbag fuckbois "hot" guys and I don't give 2 shits if others don't think they're cute. I like dudes off personality not looks.
I get easily attracted to a woman's look most of the time.. But as soon as I've seen a glimpse of undesirable attitude (something that is intolerable for me), that attraction wears off in an instant..
There are certainly many factors, but we aren't slaves to the process. We have the authority to begin to change how our brains work. If you want to change this process you can train your brain to change.
What if this is how the sorting hat works?? Gryffindor = Dopamine, impulsive and reward driven Ravenclaw = Serotonin, less anxious but more risk averse Slytherin = Testosterone, analytical and comptetive Hufflepuff = Estrogen/oxytocin, empathetic and social
Same, but I don't think it'll come any time soon. It probably has something to do with the parts of the brain that dictate sexual orientation, but as it stands there's hardly any research done even in THAT area. People are too afraid of getting called homophobic for having simple curiosity, as if it somehow means you're rejecting the rights people have to be who they are.
I am a woman with lots if testosterone. This came up in my tests causing me to be a highly athletic driven woman. This has given me challenges of strong attraction to men. However I am a follower of Jesus Christ so I have made the decision to save myself for marriage. It is a challenge but will take a lot of self control and goal setting as I am in a relationship now. It helps that he is better thab I am at setting boundaries. He is a wonderful, amazing Christian man. I am excited to get to know him better.
So, at the start it's addictive love (dopamine) in the ventral tegmental area, but after a while it's more bonding love (opiate) in the posterior globus pallidus. Interesting. Also, cool to hear the explanation for how long marriages can still have the spark of newfound love.
There's this one guy I like at my school... He doesn't have a chiseled jawline, or broad shoulders, or large arm muscles. But he's got beautiful round eyes, a sweet smile, a voice I could listen to all day, and a laugh that he keeps to himself way too often. I guess it sounds cheesey, now that I think about it, but I needed to see it typed out.
Albert T Preiss Males like myself like big butts and wide hips because those features are better for bearing a baby. Males like he said look for things such as that. We subconsciously look for things like that and that's why we are attracted to them. You could say the same with girl liking a man because he is muscular a feature that shows he can protect and care for the family.
Well, I wish nature wouldn't work that way when you love someone who doesn't love you back. It really feels like an addiction when you have all these hormones in you and all of a sudden you just feel depressed and empty.
I'm extremely analytical but I am also highly empathetic. Perhaps I have lots of testosterone AND oxytocin? I'm also very social and competitive though I hide my competitive nature behind a facade of dumb blissfulness.
Me and my crush we are very attracted to one another we have various things in common with each other. We've gotten to known each other more and we've became physically attracted to each other it increased tons, but with that increase we've increased the mental/ emotional attraction which is what attracted us in the first place
emotion means literally - to disturb... emotions are caused by thoughts... so yea man, love, can lead to sex addiction, love addiction, romance addiction, etc etc. some are addicted to cheating on their partner... now that I understand a lil chemistry and neurology and psychology, I will be single the rest of my life thank you! :)
I figuratively died when my crush looked at me in lunch, his smile was like a magic spell... I'm still under the spell, someone help me, how do I get out of it? (been like 2 years now, don't even go to the same school anymore lol)
chakeson Well some people, like me, aren't too well on the socializing with other human beings, and it's been two years, thanks to my stalking abilities, I found out he is most likely in a relationship/hooking up with someone. *sigh* why is moving on so hard? Dnews should answer that lol.
cruuushhh life is hard and fucking sucks but on the other hand i can be amazing and extremely beautiful. So just try your best I got rejected from my crush last summer and I tried my best and moved on and now have a relationship. Try your best!
Well perhaps since it's been almost 2 years, you may want to try and meet some other people? I wouldn't recommend wasting time on a crush for that long, unless you're planning to act on it. Believe me, there is always someone better but you do need to go out and just find one. Cheers!
We're all a slave to our corporeal shell in a world that threatens our soul to hell. To choose, to believe, they're not the same when perception subconsciously affects our brain. Who are you? Who am I? Just a product of our environment. Everlasting, it seems to last beyond retirement. Through life we evolve, we change, the stigma of all. 'Til the end of our days we'll continue to fall.
Well How could a stupid boy who takes art classes and has no sexual experience with a real girl and spells "Organism" instead of "Orgasm" know that?!... hmmm... :-/
Watch out of the toxic comment above. But that kind of attraction it is actually a real thing, called Sapiophile. I'm just thinking that their relationships don't last if they only feel attraction by only considering intellectual prowess and sophistication.
Because you meet the person multiple times and evaluate them in appearance, funniness, kindness, confidence etc And your attraction can also spike if the other person starts flirting with you.
People are so stupid that they actually believe all this crap. This is why people cheat on each other they just blame the heart and shit. Always making excuses. You always have a choice. stop making excuses.
softrockification You're not suppose to do stuff when you are asleep. lol are you trying to make a point here or something? Your logic is ridiculously stupid.
This one time my crush sat down right next to me in class and I nearly had a gone into shock /pass out do to all of the adrenaline rushing through my system. I was getting dizzy and experiencing tunnel vision.
I''m not a slave to my brain, knowledge is power.I do not run on feelings like 99% of the rest of the world. Feelings are a good thing in some situations, but some times it can cloud your judgment. This also includes your environment, just because everyone else is doing something doesn't mean you have to just because you want to fit in, even though the social part of your brain is telling you to.
I dont know why people are disappointed when they find out a celebrity crush is married. As if that was their only obstacle to being together
True XD
Amen brotha, me and katy perry coulda been somethin u know
To be honest im happier when I find it out because it makes me stop thinking I will have a shot when more often than not I won't even ever meet them. Having a crush on a celebrity sucks to be honest because you will probably never meet them and get rejected/accepted meaning it can last forever unlike in real life where you would just ask a girl/boy you meet out.
Reno Black You think celebrity crushes are hard? Try falling for a fictional character!
***** xD been there, done that. It's pretty weird but sometimes you can't help it.
I am attracted to people that dont love me
same oof
or get "friendzoned".
people want what they cant have...
Oof
Theramchepser me too. I got jealous once but at least he is happy then I am happy
I'm going to skip the relationship and go for the morphine
good choice
skip the morphine and go for hydromorphone or fentynal :p
Straight into the OxyContin!
Scoll
i like oxy but hydromorphone is so much better
lol, I'll just take the dopamine.
I used to think I only attracted to beautiful people, but then there is this girl I am talking to daily that wasn't even attractive like what it is said in the textbook and she's attractive to me. I guess personality does win over looks.
Bright one!!..... It does!!
You fell in love with a girl from a textbook?
We need answers
xXYourhunterXx Ha! I get it... cause a textbook has questions
Lort Cipe
Ay well, it was actually meant towards Yuijnlongname
If i eat magnets, will that make me attractive?
+Maldoes Haaaaa, good one!
+Maldoes Or repulsive
Pul5ar repelive you mean?
+Maldoes
"repelive"
LOL
Hello Hi First step is for you not to be telling others what to do.
Attraction and love are not the same thing.
exactly
You could stand to watch the whole video
φ First-order logic I did watch the whole video. I just think that love can form without any physical attraction whatsoever.
Eh I'm too realistic to believe in stuff like that
*shrug*
I mean sure you can fall in love with an old friend but that's not the attraction this guy means
φ First-order logic What about elderly people? Older married couples love each other, but I think in most cases there isn't much physical attraction going on there.
so this video is basically about my chemical romance
aaayyyy
OH MY GOD.
ayyyy
mamacatxx I'm fucking floored!
hahaha I got it
You and me baby ain't nothin' but mammals
So let's do it like they do on the Discovery Channel
No.
love that song xD
Well, some of us are cannibals.
Who cut other people open like cantaloupes
your profile picture says it all
I don't like the idea of my own brain messing with me.
u r messing with yourself lol
omg I get what u mean, I hate the thought of my own brain messing with me too
Same, I hate it.. It's like my brain takes away from me being me..
you are your brain
anna gibbs
OMG, that's philosophical.
"Every kiss begins with 'k'"
"wanna kiss?"
"k"
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Is there a way not to be attracted to people? I don't want to waste time on relationships.
masturbate every time you feel love and try to develop a fetish to nonhuman objects
watch porn every time your horny after a while youll lose sex drive ,i should know.
+SilentMover95 Focus on your true passion and make that your love, one no human companionship can compare to.
there are chemicals which can supress the chemicals which cause attraction, i don't remember their names though...
Shanze Madhani
Lol, seems those chemicals are completely lacking in my body.
I hate feeling attracted to every single hot chick I meet.
Every kill begins with K...
volimNestea No, "Every kill" begins with "E"
True, though it's not "Every kill" but every "kill" which begins with a K.
volimNestea A "double kill" does too?
volimNestea jel volis nestea?
Aced it
I cant count how many times have I heard "The heart does what the heart does." as an excuse for cheating.
***** Yeah, you can have feelings for another person while in a relationship with another, you don't choose that, just as long as it stays as feelings not actions. But then you should end the relatioship not cheat.
It's not an excuse for cheating, but it's the best reason for leaving someone and then going on to someone else. Otherwise what life to we live? If you have the option of being slaved off to a person for the rest of your life or doing what you want to do, you'd be dumb for not doing what you want to do. Unless you believe you're going to a heavenly eternity after life and that non of this sh*t really matters. But for those of us in reality, we realize we got on shot at this life, and we'd be damned spending one second of it wasting our time.
***** Who would've though that I would see you here :P
frosted1030 As Angas said. There is nothing wrong with falling out of love or in love with another person. You just need to decide who is right for you and if you are right for them.
Marcel Rodriguez the heart does produce some amounts of Oxytocin actually. it also has its own electromagnetic field like your brain, as well as containing up to 40,000 neurons. interesting eh?
The heart wants what it wants.. #SalenaGomez
i only have alcohol running through my body
I only have THC
I feel you a 100 % bro
All the goddamn time.
Dylan Harrison Thanks bro, gotta stay healthy:)
cascadehopsrule then how are you alive?
I am attracted to older men who are very kind and caring. Talk about daddy issues.
Just my type 😆😉
+Noah Tenik Hahaha
Geoff Dick i want it.
No don't do it
***** been there when I was 16 ;)
What if I am attracted to every woman that gets into my sight?
That's weird. Only about 10 percent of women are attractive at the most. I'm sure women would agree that only about 10 percent of men are attractive.
Chris Nilsson have u ever seen a girl theyre ALL attractive, i agree with op.
then you are soldier 76
gottster rhymes thank you for the overwatch meme
Gottster that made me laugh so hard
Not to be shallow, but it's because the person you're attracted to is good looking.
Yeah, I'm attracted to my crush because he is good looking.I never talked to him though.
The question they are trying to answer here is "why do you find him good looking?" and not others.
+typhoon394 and the answer most certainly isn't how much "dopamine runs in their veins", give me a picture of a hot bitch and I'll be attracted to that shit even if it's just a picture.
+Sally Lemon sounds easy but it isn't. My best grade school friend fell for the fattest, most stupid and worst of all: toothless sack of potatoes I have ever seen. In addition to that he is almost 10 years older than her. They married now. So... you are attracted to what you are looking for, I guess. *good looking* while a subjective perception, is only so subjective. Even she said that he does not look good...
RiesenWuschel interesting
Good work genius, but can you explain to me why I'm sexually attracted to my pc?
That is called object-sexualality. Also called Objectophilia. Depending on what your attraction is depends on what sub category you are. People who are attracted to cars are called mechaphiliacs.
+Janaki Shivadas Wasn't there a woman who was attracted to the Eiffel Tower?
+Poseidon Yes.
+ninad gautam Delete porn and block all porn sites. Problem solved.
It's called porn addition
I didn't even have to look in the comment section to hear the asexuals having a fit.
+Liz
Yeah but there's like 3 of them
***** edgy bro - Alex Jones would be proud
***** Cool story bro, research much? www.kinseyinstitute.org/publications/PDF/PrauseGraham.pdf
+Kevin Hernandez xD Nice job at being a dumbass.
+Liz Um... I haven't seen any other asexuals "having a fit."
As an asexual, I find this video informative and I fit easily into the "type 1/dopamine" category. Sexual and physical attraction aren't the same thing. .x.
I just want to know why i get a permenant one on-the-go everytime i see that 80 year old nun outside the church down my road
Im going to guess that might have to do with the Oedipus complex
@@tamarynmina8270 isn't that the guy who had sex with his mom and killed himself
im attracted to certain people because something about them intrigues me, and I want to get inside of their mind and understand them
After reading most of the comments, I am glad I am not attracted to anyone. I think I will stay single the rest of my life.
Me too, I want to live my life in peace...
That sounds sad. Well it that makes you happy, good luck! lol
A Dozier It does.
Attractive people make the world a prettier place, so I'm glad I'm attracted to lots of people, even if I have no interest in a relationship with them.
But I've also fallen in love, and that's most miserable experience ever. Stay single and never fall in love. You'll be so much happier.
daemon .. I understand. I have been in love and had my heart raked over the coals. Never again.
Its my birthday today - I'm exactly 3267 years old 👽
happy birthday
Happy Birthday Alien Earthling?
Bass Boosted Music Did your dad try to touch you again? :o
yoo rofl
You got both top comments. GG sir.
Then why am i only attracted to celebrities and fictional characters?
better start going out. you wont be attracted to someone if you dont expand your circle.
+samaEL X too late my standards are way to fucken high
liz liz
i get it but if you set your standards too high or way out of your league, chances are theyre taken.
Celebrities are a form of fictional characters, an image is presented to you that resonates the most, not the actual persons. If you meet some of the people you're supposedly attracted to, I guarantee you'll be mostly disgusted.
you just love the idea of those person, not the actual person
I always found intelligent women attractive.
And my problem:
What intelligent woman would put up with me!
Haha
opposite problem. im inteligent but no extrovert wants me
Intelligent women might find interest in you if you have an intellectual passion of your own. Just a thought. Get a hobby.
Likewise.
123fort andbree ''Im not like other girls''
r/iamverysmart
r/nicegirls
for a long time i felt attracted to assholes. that´s what men usually think about us women - that we always choose the bad guys.
the truth behind that was a troubled childhood with parents being both violent and not comprehensive. bad guys feel attracted to women who suffer from the past and have small self esteem so one thing comes to another.
and weak women feel attracted to them because these guys act very offensive and full of self esteem - character traits that girls in these situation do not posess.
after some years of therapy, i do not feel attracted any more to them and i finally enjoy my life!
I have been saying this for years! Daddy issues is the cause of ass-hole attraction.
To a degree. Women also like guys who are on the offensive (improving their lives constantly). Women don't like men who want to live in mediocrity. Just like men don't want to live in mediocrity themselves.
C'est la vie.
Deadlyaztec27
So we see how important it is for a parent to be a good role model. Otherwise you´re stigmatised for your entire life.
*****
are you sure? are u a bad guy?
+Debbi Mo
I am
Hit me up
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"are you a slave to your brain?"
you just told me i was..
Girls with square glasses are my weakness lol.
*****
You're looking pretty hot aswell. ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)
*****
Mmm let's hit up at your place bby. ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)
+Muhammad Ahsan ...
+Ashutosh did you..did you just
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Don't think I have any of these chemicals I just hate everyone equally.
3edgy5me
2kr0n3 this cracked me up
thank god. i thought i was the only one
same
Same
"You might as well face it; we're addicted to love" IM DONE IM SO DONE 😂
I'm into black chicks with asymmetrical shoulder blades and a love for the Austrian School of Economics.
Rather specific 😂
NoScope 360 I'm still searching... :(
rock3tcat (ⵙⴰⵔⵓⵅ) hahahaha
Alright you found me
LUL
I am sexually attracted to very large birds 🐦
Harun Ahmed ...
lmao
Are you serious
Of the feathered variety....?
I have one
I wish I was asexual. Things would be so much easier.
Lol not really
cynthia clark How not?
+Mike Cassell when you're asexual you still crave love, affection and relationships, you just don't express or experience love from sexual contact. An asexual person can have trouble in their romantic relationships because they find little meaning or pleasure in sex, which may leave their partner either dissatisfied with their sex life, or insecure, wondering if it's their fault.
I think what you're looking for is the term "aromantic" which is pretty much a made-up thing for people who have had their hearts broken too many times to throw around to explain why they don't want to be in a relationship anymore and only care about fucking.
I think the only people who truly do not want or care about love are true psychopaths.
RainAngel111 Right. I wish I was both aromantic and asexual. But in all honesty I'm already almost there.
same
This doesn't explain my attraction to blobfish...I don't think anything can be sexier than a blobfish.
+Lisa Galarza
Busty gothic clown chicks with bat wings. That's sexier...
+Lisa Galarza Oh my god! I thought I was the only one who was attracted to blobfish! I want to marry one and then attend fancy parties and introduce it as my wife, Blobelina.
Why are most youtube presenters acting the same with and have the same sense of humor?!
LagiNaLangAko23 or toxoplasmosis.
+Nikan RT Because all RUclips comments are posted by the same troll under different user names.
eatmylogic yea there is only one utube troll.
They've all got the same shtick
+bartsshorts Your profile picture is the "virgin killer" Elliot Rodger. Why?
No girl is ever attracted to me.. never.
Are you Asian?
same dude I feel y'all I two female friends that made me there fucking shopping buddy's I want to kill myself
Just gotta get out there man, or save up enough money to travel some place abroad. That's what I wish to do. You may have more success with foreign women as it's possible they'll have more interest in you. If you're like young (below 18) then I suggest trying to approach girls yourself. It's rare a girl will approach a guy unless he's popular or something, you'd be surprised how many girls probably find you to be attractive but it's the norm for the male to approach first so they don't say anything.
No guy is attracted to me.Single problems.
Have confidence and be ambitious. Pretty much everyone is attracted to that no matter the gender
I am not attracted to anyone 👽
Perhaps your species has evolved beyond that..hmm..
*****
Every 100 years we split into 2 👽
***** or they are all just really ugly...
Weedbird
Boyy are you gonna get probed tonight!!
Weedbird
If humans killing animals is not murder then this is not raping either.You are for me what animals are for you.
All of our emotions are chemicals. If this makes you feel weird or upset remember that that is a chemical as well.
Attraction is really powerful & confusing. One minute you're this smart individual who knows exactly what they want & don't want; and the other you see an attractive person and you completely lose yourself, your heart & face flushes with blood and then the primal urge to protect takes over. Differences don't matter after that.
That is why, you need to avoid such attractions as they reveal your stupid animal nature.
i have my eye on someone at school bo one else likes her in the way i do so i dont have any competiton also a lot of people think she is ugly but i think she is beautiful she is also quite smart. for some reason it just feels right
Go get her man👍
AKNXM i found out today that she is a goth
+ZrAckl Fr1 well that was a turn of events 😮 lol
AKNXM ik
Good for you.
Mark Ruffalo is that you?
LOL I thought I was the only one...
Rowan no sorry MR hS a WAY sexier and far less annoying nasal voice than this person.
Rowan social media?
Lol don't piss him off 😂
Thank you! I knew he reminded me of someone
I'm only attracted to males with brown parted hair, blue eyes, square mustache and a sexy german accent.
kiwikobi believe it or not I have two of those things. Brown parted hair and blue eyes.
guleböj Omg😂
Is'nt Citron french ?
I'm only attracted to girls with great body figures, thicc curvature, sleek hair when they tie it, and great sexy attitude
HOT HOT HOT !
*Starts singing Exo-Overdose*
exo-l truly is everwhere
gay
Dani C
!!!Exo-L!!!
lets go boy
Dani C OVERDOSE TOO MUCH YOUR LOVE *korean words idk how to spell* OVERDOSE
But why am I attracted to animals?
cause ur a ferret
TaiFerret go see a doctor dude
Humans are animals so...
+ExcavateTheBuilding No, that would be zoophiles. Furries are about fictional characters with both human and animal characteristics (and often, it's not even about sexual attraction; just a taste in art).
TaiFerret: That's creepy.
I have a huge crush on someone who is unattainable. *sighs*
+Raphanne I feel you.
***** Smooth.
+Kitsch Puffer Fish goddamn dude
Morgan freeman???
Matthew mcneal Yes?
Is it me or I fall in love every first day of school when I see the girl in a second
just you
I feel bad for your teachers.
That's just infatuation/attraction. Not ~falling in love~. You have to know the person. Not just be like, "I like the way you look, I'm in love with you."
I see wym like whenever I see that one girl I "fall in love" with how beautiful she is but that isn't love.
+Rudolph Rudolph
Typed someone who's *probably not married*.
you used the word squirting
( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)
No shit Sherlock. Why should someone care?
Emoji Freak
squirting sounnds dirty ;)
*****
the only thing grown is my dick
( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°) this comment thread though.
I am attracted to good looking girls that have pale skin idk why but I am super lured into girls with pale skin
RACIST!
how the heck is that racist? That is just my preferrence. It is like an addiction to me
+Stalkerx13 oh he was joking
I have it too.. and skinny ( not anorexic )
My skins pale af and I wear fake tan I wish everyone loved pale skin I wouldn't have to spray myself all the time and smell like biscuits
I'm only sexually attracted to toasters
Lol
+jake ballou I don't usually feel attracted to melons, but when you screw a lightbulb in that yellow bitch, like, goddamn.
Toxihex
Dayyyyyyyummmmmm. LoL
purple shep?
Can I have the link to your Tumblr blog?
I'm an estrogen enriched man, aged 31. Ladies?
...
So you're proud having a bitchy hormone inside you? 😂😂
Sebastian Mendoza
Wow. Rude much?
lpsgarrett30 It's not being rude. Im just saying it's not good for a male body! Jesus. 😒
Sebastian Mendoza Pride would be a silly thing to feel about something you were born with.
When you see someone you immediately find attractive and you then feel the need to look at them for a moment, that's because you're subconsciously trying to determine how good of a mate they might be.
Our brains may work fast, but we need to take just a moment to take in everything we need to see of them and decide whether or not they seem like a good biological match.
I find stuff like this interesting.
I'm attracted to girls that are kind of gothy and are nerds with comics and anime 😩. Like dam
And cute af
yay me!
are you talking about me?
omg I really like you
I think I just threw up
The hardest part about love is loving someone unconditionally, when they barely love you back. I wish I could just get over her..But how can I forget about someone that gave me so much to remember? She's a wreck; depressed, cutting, distant.. Yet, I have been there for her for ~4 years. wtf.
Get over it. Stop being a mangina. People think they want unconditional love from a partner but would you want someone to still love you even if you were a fat, pedophilic slob? You need a motivation for improving yourself, and getting a reward for nothing(i.e. unconditional love) encourages you to continue as you are and even get worse. And if you ever expect to find love again remember that women don't want a man that's still hopelessly in love with his ex. That's too much like a woman, and women want a man.
Michael Nyholt Just because I'd want unconditional love doesnt give me permission to become a slob and all.. So, what you're saying is that if I happen to go to war or get in a car wreck or something.. and lets say my arm gets chopped off. I should not expect my wife to be there for me in the hospital as I would for her? Thats a fucked up world I dont want to be in..
danielle ram i didnt leave her. she has issues and left me. but for some reason we keep getting in touch a lot. (mostly me getting in touch with her to see if hopefully shes matured enough for a real relationship.. shes a very distant and moody high maintenance kind of girl, that wears a lot of make up and tries to hide her life at home type).. in which ive always been there for her and accept her and all of her flaws.
xFersureMatt
That is a circumstance beyond your own control to lose a body part. Whether or not someone loves you after that is up to your partner. I'm talking about things that are in your control, like improving yourself through education, exercise, getting a career, and like things. If you continue to feel loved despite letting yourself go uneducated, getting fat, not getting a career or other way to support yourself, then you start to feel like your way of life is ok despite the problems with it because you still get an endorphin high from the person you love.
I'm in the same boat brother. It fucking sucks. It's been 5 months and I'm still feeling like shit.
Sometimes I feel like I'm the only person on Earth that thinks love is blind and I only have crushes on boys that are nice and overall a good person😔
what is a good person.
+Madi Böhlin I'm jealous.
I have always tried to be attracted to the nice guys and give them a chance but there have only been a few really nice guys that I was attracted to... and their physical appearance was definitely a factor in that. I've probably missed out on a lot of great guys because I let their physical appearance affect my judgement.
Thankfully I do seem to be able to smell out the assholes well enough and stay away from them though...
+RainAngel111 truth is, most nice guys are nice because they can't get girls being themselves.... Which is counter productive. If you have nothing better to say about yourself other than you are nice , if ur ugly, u are screwed lol
Curious question: when you do have crushes on these guys, do you end up eventually seeing them as good-looking?
Christopher Johnson yes
Love doesn't exist. Attraction is 90% looks. If you're ugly, then GG.
Opethfullcovers Romantic love = attraction + satisfaction. Physical and emotional, for both.
Opethfullcovers Depends on the basis of the relationship. I find at least with me that I'm more attracted to the personality and mind of the other person rather than looks.
Opethfullcovers False, you may be ugly but if you have money, you have love 4 life
How many people have enough money to buy love? 1% of the population on earth?
then how come the majority of ugly people (including women) get married, then?
Omg I can relate to what he said so much. Its all so true. So all of my crazy emotions for my crush was because my brain became a hormone squirting lemon.
The first thing I thought of was the hogwarts houses for the different
Dopamine- Slytherin
Serotonin- Gryffindor
Testosterone- Ravenclaw
And Estrogen- Hufflepuff
Guess it even matches my hogward house then, i'm serotonin griffindor
"Why fall in love, when you can fall asleep?"-don't rember who but he/she was damn right
So basically what you're telling me is that I could like someone similar to me or someone completely fucking opposite. Very informative...
I just hate having crushes because I would rather crush on myself, or no one tbh. How come I can’t live my life without attraction? How come I have to have feelings for people? It doesn’t make any sense.
00:36 No helmet and thus I will not watch the rest of your video
same
Literally unwatchable
Unless they got dat Dutch swag
We don't fuck with the helmets in Holland
I'm usually attracted to someone exactly like me, but my husband is quite different in most things, I will say I wanted to give him a chance, and now we have been together 6 years, married for 3. I think we have a great bond. So did I win against my brain? x)
Your brain is you so there is no winning against your brain...
2:10 That means you are a brain chemistry addict.
zchr I know that, but you know what I mean. >_
Or maybe you just picked the wrong guy =0 .....
***** Mind blown. :o x) Nah. we're good, we have our ups and downs like anyone else, but we always come out stronger, so I think I made a good choice. ^^'
I stopped listening and just scrolled through the comments after the first 45 seconds lol
This does not explain why men think of a girl's butt as being attractive versus other body parts. There are women with beautiful faces, nice butts, both, and neither.
This has been explained. Studies believe it to be a primal effect in men because larger breasts and butt could help women raise babies successfully.
rachelle5694 No, the brain chemistry of the neurotransmitters does not explain the attraction of certain body parts & preferences. I would have loved to know more about that in the video.
I think it's a cultural thing. But girls like butts too. Strong glutes can mean that the person is good at sprinting or that they don't lack too much muscle
Rudolph Rudolph Yes, but the video emphasizes BIOCHEMISTRY of the brain. That's what I want to know.
Me too.
Every Kiss beings with a K
Ugly begins with U
Ballora Wan lol
*I'm gonna say the second one to my mom rq* 😎🗿
•XxMystical MøønxX• 😂 good luck
I'd like to know if there's some explanation for why I (a girly girl) is only really attracted to other girly girls, because damn is it hard to find dates.
You were born with a hormonal imbalance, resulting in homosexuality. You are a lesbian.
Lord Trevden It's not hormonal, or at least it's not _only_ hormones. Nobody knows all the factors of homosexuality. I'm aware that I'm a lesbian, but I'm wondering why so many lesbians fit into the "butch/femme couple" dynamic while I don't. I suspect that has more to do with social programming. In our hegemonic masculinity driven society, even in a relationship with two women, _someone_ still has to be the "man."
Sure makes it difficult for me. I'm not what one would call extremely feminine, but I'm definitely _not_ butch, and I'm also explicitly not attracted to butch women.
***** Wow you're an idiot.
also I'm an unrepentant atheist and methodological naturalist. "spiritual" isn't even in my thought process.
"saying no one knows what causes something is feminine way of thinking" hahahahaha oh my god what is wrong with you
do you even science bro
***** "pure stupidity and neglect for the truth"
you do realize that _all of science_ operates on the precept that we don't know and can't explain everything, right? that's sort of why science, well, sciences. _because we don't know stuff_.
obviously you're just a really awful troll because I doubt seriously that anyone can possibly be this measurably dumb and still remember to breathe
***** dude you're seriously making me laugh so hard my face hurts. thank you for being so incomprehensibly stupid, it's fucking hilarious el oh fucking el.
Im into people with good personality
Madison Profeta same! all of my friends are into compete douchbag fuckbois "hot" guys and I don't give 2 shits if others don't think they're cute. I like dudes off personality not looks.
hey It's JJ
Lmao
Good, I hope you find a nice amazing guy to date some day
Madison Profeta thank you!
I get easily attracted to a woman's look most of the time.. But as soon as I've seen a glimpse of undesirable attitude (something that is intolerable for me), that attraction wears off in an instant..
Fucking meme
Skinny girls own my heart
ooook
Nobody cares.
nah man you gotta get em THICC
Anna Anna you cared enough to comment thooo LMAO
I'm here
There are certainly many factors, but we aren't slaves to the process. We have the authority to begin to change how our brains work. If you want to change this process you can train your brain to change.
neuroplasticity
Precisely
What if this is how the sorting hat works??
Gryffindor = Dopamine, impulsive and reward driven
Ravenclaw = Serotonin, less anxious but more risk averse
Slytherin = Testosterone, analytical and comptetive
Hufflepuff = Estrogen/oxytocin, empathetic and social
I would love to see studies on people who report being aromantic and not feeling any romantic attraction.
Same, but I don't think it'll come any time soon.
It probably has something to do with the parts of the brain that dictate sexual orientation, but as it stands there's hardly any research done even in THAT area. People are too afraid of getting called homophobic for having simple curiosity, as if it somehow means you're rejecting the rights people have to be who they are.
Ah, it's so fascinating. I'd love it to happen.
I would like to see it too, I have been aromantic my whole life
I am a woman with lots if testosterone. This came up in my tests causing me to be a highly athletic driven woman. This has given me challenges of strong attraction to men. However I am a follower of Jesus Christ so I have made the decision to save myself for marriage. It is a challenge but will take a lot of self control and goal setting as I am in a relationship now. It helps that he is better thab I am at setting boundaries. He is a wonderful, amazing Christian man. I am excited to get to know him better.
So, at the start it's addictive love (dopamine) in the ventral tegmental area, but after a while it's more bonding love (opiate) in the posterior globus pallidus. Interesting. Also, cool to hear the explanation for how long marriages can still have the spark of newfound love.
Every kiss begins with kay?
EVERY KISS BEGINS WITH CONSENT EXCUSE YOU
My type is a dark haired, dark eyed, sweetly smiling, glasses wearing professor. I don’t have high standards, I’m just a Virgo.
There's this one guy I like at my school...
He doesn't have a chiseled jawline, or broad shoulders, or large arm muscles. But he's got beautiful round eyes, a sweet smile, a voice I could listen to all day, and a laugh that he keeps to himself way too often. I guess it sounds cheesey, now that I think about it, but I needed to see it typed out.
i wanted to know why i like big bootys ant wide hips
why, because you're a slave to your mind.
Albert T Preiss That's a lie
Albert T Preiss Males like myself like big butts and wide hips because those features are better for bearing a baby. Males like he said look for things such as that. We subconsciously look for things like that and that's why we are attracted to them. You could say the same with girl liking a man because he is muscular a feature that shows he can protect and care for the family.
hips dont lie my friend hips dont lie
Shade Saron *fuckboy gene
what about anime Waifus and Husbandos?
lmao
thats called cancer
Otakus can fall in love with kpop fans.. DAMN
Aina Sof of course they can but I mean for those who get attached to anime characters since this video is about attraction irl
+Sylvester Fernandez no thanks i am vegan
Well, I wish nature wouldn't work that way when you love someone who doesn't love you back. It really feels like an addiction when you have all these hormones in you and all of a sudden you just feel depressed and empty.
I feel you
When I love someone and they don't love me back, I just kill them. I dry them out, and stuff them. That way they stay with me forever and ever!
Slightly larger girls with long hair and a little bit of a tummy make my knees weak.
Here :)
Already arranging our marriage love
Fortunately those are common.
Yup :)
I'm extremely analytical but I am also highly empathetic. Perhaps I have lots of testosterone AND oxytocin? I'm also very social and competitive though I hide my competitive nature behind a facade of dumb blissfulness.
Me and my crush we are very attracted to one another we have various things in common with each other. We've gotten to known each other more and we've became physically attracted to each other it increased tons, but with that increase we've increased the mental/ emotional attraction which is what attracted us in the first place
I definitely relate to the hormone based personality attraction thing. I've always been attracted to the estrogen/oxytocin type people.
emotion means literally - to disturb... emotions are caused by thoughts... so yea man, love, can lead to sex addiction, love addiction, romance addiction, etc etc. some are addicted to cheating on their partner...
now that I understand a lil chemistry and neurology and psychology, I will be single the rest of my life thank you! :)
Relationships are only annoying when I'm not in one lol
I figuratively died when my crush looked at me in lunch, his smile was like a magic spell... I'm still under the spell, someone help me, how do I get out of it? (been like 2 years now, don't even go to the same school anymore lol)
ask your crush out simple as that
chakeson Well some people, like me, aren't too well on the socializing with other human beings, and it's been two years, thanks to my stalking abilities, I found out he is most likely in a relationship/hooking up with someone. *sigh* why is moving on so hard? Dnews should answer that lol.
cruuushhh
life is hard and fucking sucks but on the other hand i can be amazing and extremely beautiful. So just try your best I got rejected from my crush last summer and I tried my best and moved on and now have a relationship.
Try your best!
Well perhaps since it's been almost 2 years, you may want to try and meet some other people? I wouldn't recommend wasting time on a crush for that long, unless you're planning to act on it. Believe me, there is always someone better but you do need to go out and just find one. Cheers!
cruuushhh i'm just like you! :D
We're all a slave to our corporeal shell in a world that threatens our soul to hell. To choose, to believe, they're not the same when perception subconsciously affects our brain. Who are you? Who am I? Just a product of our environment. Everlasting, it seems to last beyond retirement. Through life we evolve, we change, the stigma of all. 'Til the end of our days we'll continue to fall.
What the hell?
Tyler What's wrong?
I like this
Jay Leslie Thanks :)
I love this
It is a desire for intimacy because it is pleasurable and brings people closer together.
Tall, intelligent and funny. That's my type.
The luck is needed.
Ayeee
Deborah Dias yassss
Here I am
Deborah Dias i’m tall,maybe soon i’ll be intelligent
This study of love was done by Rutger's University yet that college has the highest STD rate of all US colleges.
Well How could a stupid boy who takes art classes and has no sexual experience with a real girl and spells "Organism" instead of "Orgasm" know that?!... hmmm... :-/
Hiroshi Kishida
When Im done girls just lay there and don't want to leave. I take that as Im very good at what I do.
That's because you tied them down and knocked them unconscious... and that's Rape!... perv... XD
Hiroshi Kishida
with my DIIIIICK!!!!
Hiroshi Kishida
gay!
im attractive by their intelligence
+Lyuis4115
I'm attracted to intelligent women, but sadly I'm too stupid for them to be attracted to me...
+Lyuis4115 fucking poser.
I don't think intelligent people will like you😂you don't seem very smart😂😂😂
Watch out of the toxic comment above.
But that kind of attraction it is actually a real thing, called Sapiophile.
I'm just thinking that their relationships don't last if they only feel attraction by only considering intellectual prowess and sophistication.
+Lyuis4115 www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=sapiosexual
For some reason I'm attracted to girls who have really girly hairstyles and are shy but when you know them they are supportive idek
I love myself so much ❤️🙂
Only myself
so much........
i c dat
Mandy Mills same here
So, what chemicals do I need to become asexual since women refuse to be with me?
DjKinetec I've heard of chemical castration. Chris did it on Family Guy.
there is no such chemical
wish there was cause I'm in the same ideal as Djkinetec.
.....um let’s not
Serotonin does the literal opposite.
Because you meet the person multiple times and evaluate them in appearance, funniness, kindness, confidence etc And your attraction can also spike if the other person starts flirting with you.
People are so stupid that they actually believe all this crap. This is why people cheat on each other they just blame the heart and shit. Always making excuses. You always have a choice. stop making excuses.
Did you go to sleep late night?
Why?
You have the choice not to.
softrockification Yeah because i chose to smart one.
ChipChocolatePR Why? bit stupid really as you can't do stuff while asleep.
softrockification You're not suppose to do stuff when you are asleep. lol are you trying to make a point here or something? Your logic is ridiculously stupid.
softrockification You release essential hormones while sleeping, hormones are released most while sleaping. Speaks for itself really lol.
I am an empath and I fall inlove with psychopaths.
I'm an empath and my moms a psychopath but I fail to connect with ppl bc I'm caught up in my own head too often
+ChiquitaSpeaks You may just be an introvert, or a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP). Look it up. It will probably explain a lot :) Peace.
Better Health Better Life i have. empaths, introverts, and highly sensitive people are in similar categories
+Spellcaster86 Psychopaths are people who doesn't feel empathy. Sociopaths are the same but they control people.
+Spellcaster86 I am talking about Psychopathy not psychosis the two are different.
This one time my crush sat down right next to me in class and I nearly had a gone into shock /pass out do to all of the adrenaline rushing through my system. I was getting dizzy and experiencing tunnel vision.
Stop using the word "crush" if you ever want them to take you seriously.
Once my crusH sat on my lap I my heart was racing and I froze like a fucking idiot. LOL I corrected it
xierxu Maybe your crust knew you were bread to sin.
Nilguiri That was very punny! I loaf your bread jokes!
***** hahaha
I''m not a slave to my brain, knowledge is power.I do not run on feelings like 99% of the rest of the world. Feelings are a good thing in some situations, but some times it can cloud your judgment. This also includes your environment, just because everyone else is doing something doesn't mean you have to just because you want to fit in, even though the social part of your brain is telling you to.