Absolutely right like in marriages where one or two spouses bring children from their previous marriages, raising an affair child is mostly not a choice but a deception and manipulation of the situation, basically a paternity fraud
Idk if I believe this. I can't imagine that someone's sister would side with the person who cheated on her brother. That makes zero sense. I have 2 sisters and 2 brothers. I would never ever do that to them.
@@Goldie789 Not everyone is blessed with a strong bond with siblings, and often, they side with those to hurt us for whatever reason. Gladly, not everyone has such experience, but it is something that can happen
They r women, they will do whatever they feel like and put their "fun" 1st than thinking about the child or her husband feelings and emotions. Yes, men will and should face consequences and hold accountable, but womon will recieve support from families, friends and society regardless of what u feel.
Why is it the victims' responsibility to take care of an affair baby. Sadie knows who the actual father is and had a 5+ year affair with Tom and let him skip town. This is not OP's responsibility. Now OP's BIL is going through the same thing with Bianca (OP's sister). The 2 victims are supporting each other. As their families turn against them. Now we know why Bianca was so supportive of Sadie. OP's definitely not the AH.
The thing I don’t understand is how people think an affair baby is meant to be something to stay together over, literally every time you look at the kid you’re reminded that the child is the result of your or your partner’s cheating. I get the baby is innocent in it all but doesn’t mean the partner gets off Scott free. Especially as marriage is about trust, when vows are made they are made with the intention of being held til death do us part (or at least that’s what they are meant to anyway). Lose that trust and there’s no marriage.
Y being such a m1s0gynist by holding women accountable for their actions? They r women, do u think they have any remorse for there actions or will actually avoid ch3ating?? People, society and friends will still support them and blame the men at the of the day.
Holding woman accountable / Calling out their wrong = misogyny. Woman can do whatever she wants without even facing the fraction of consequences, so it won't really do anything other than large feminist protest, which ofcourse they WILL DO.@@HurricaneFox
@@HurricaneFox this. There was a Reddit story where a wife was accused of cheating even though she did not when a husband did a DNA test on the child. When they redid the test using both the husband's and wife's DNA, the child belonged to neither of them, turns out the hospital mixed up someone else's baby with theirs.
This is why I hate to say it in these stories people need to be the ones to spread the word first especially if they find out that their spouse is cheating on them and not let other people get the upper hand just because they want to be fucking nice which is the most stupidest thing you could be to the person that's cheating on you
Birds of the same feather flock together. Seems like the reason Bianca not was soo hell bent on op sticking around as she was doing the same thing to her own husband. And if she forced op to stay, that way she would have forced her husband to stay as well. And didn’t see threaten to testify against op in court. Hey time for payback.
This guy made the mistake by confronting immediately. If you ever get in a situation like this then get a lawyer move your money to your account, be well prepared for everything. Then when you are absolutely certain of everything you confront the offender and start proceedings of the divorce. You can always still choose to stay anyway of course but at least you are well prepared. You also want to notify everybody you know (around the time of confrontation) of what is happening so the offender cannot portray you as the bad guy, like what happened in this story. Stay safe and take care of yours people!
First off the word "support" how would it make you an ass if your supporting instead of sabotaging your brother in law. Your the bigger man by not standing with a crappy family that's into manipulation people for there own gain.
Suing for emotional distress in situations like these should be considered! Even better is requiring a paternity test before signing birth certificates 🤷♀️
Absolutely, can't wait for when DNA tests and the infrastructure around them gets more widespread and they can be done immediately, doing tests on both parents immediately after the medical procedures/cleaning would make cheaters accountable and also prevent hospitals from giving people the wrong babies.
If the story is true, the only winning move for OP here is to send his family a cease & desist letter refuting all further contact, citing emotional and mental abuse and threatening a restraining order pursuit if they continue to contact him. It's just, toxic and there's clearly no coming back from this at this point, so better to sever contact and build a life for himself without them in it.
NTA because of the fact that the op was betrayed by his ex wife and had a boy with her ex boyfriend, that reality can't be ignored ever plus the OP's brother in-law was cheated on by his ex wife, the OP's sister when she was with her male coworker and had a baby with him, plus in reference to other people judging the op for not doing the right thing, ask themselves these questions: 1:as men, would you do the same thing you expect the op to do even though you already know that you aren't the father of the child and actually support the child regardless of the fact that you will resent him/her down the line? 2: can you as a man actually be honest with yourself and actually do the right thing and take care of the child without any regrets about it or resentment later on in life to a period extent? When people have the ability to answer those questions especially men,then pass judgment to both the op and his brother in law otherwise leave them alone in the long run.
Bro wife hanging out with "work friends" and coming late or coming back after a day or whatever then you know something is bad(an affair of you think about it)
I have a son and daughter. If they got married and had a kid with someone not the husband id support the poor dad being baby trapped. Id never try to force someone to stay with a cheater and especially raise someone else's kid that resulted from an affair.
Never underestimate the power of the sisterhood. They will ALWAYS defend each other no matter how badly they've behaved. Plenty of sisters, mothers, daughters etc...etc... have lied and betrayed their own male relatives. Guys...don't EVER take whamen's opinions seriously on this matter...they will NEVER hold a fellow sister accountable. Don't ever take a cheater back and don't ever raise another man's child.
The affair was over, not because of his wife, but because his wife's ex left and move out of state to avoid her and the baby. if the EX-BF didn't leave the affair would keep going.
It should be your choice to parent and support a child conceived within your marriage that was not yours. You chose not to, so that’s that. Your sister is way out of line to try and force you to do what she wants you to do. Never encourage someone to do what you would not do yourself. Let Jack make his own choices and support him if that is your choice.
She said she still loves him ONLY after she got busted. Hmm... One doesn't intentionally hurt a loved one. In fact, one does the best for the other. She was in love with herself.
If the parents wanted him to step up and want him to coerce Bianca's husband to stay, I think this guy needs to do pa DNA test with his father. He might just be product of an affair
O.P. did the right thing. I’m a woman and I’m appalled. That’s just like having your husband bring home his affair baby and ask you to make believe it’s your own. What kind of dream world are they living in?
i heard the same story before, but there op had to pay 18 years of child support, and then it made more sense that he helped his sisters future ex still he does the right thing
Of course bianca would stick up for Sadie. She was projecting her own situation onto sadie and overcompensating by backing her unconditionally. One cheating loser deserves the other. not wanting to raise someone else’s baby is not your fault or your problem.
Definitely done the right thing - both with your own situation aswell as Jack’s! Keep your head held high - truth and conscience will always prevail! I am sure that anyone who finds themselves in that position will, ultimately, be better off if they follow your lead!!
Don’t feel bad she made her choices Bianca should back off. Your mother is a Luny Bin Bianca must bear the burden. No Way. You help him. Your family doesn’t seem to be supportive. Good on you for helping Jack
Dude, your ex is nothing more than a 304! The worst of the worst, and your sister is no different. Birds of a feather flock together. EDIT: Wow, I really did call it! What a couple of 304’s! How hard is it to keep your legs shut, use protection, and remain faithful!
Tell your family to go pound sand, help your brother in-law. And if you can find a way, get a DNA comparison with sister and father. If your mother is that supportive of sister's and ex's cons (that's what it is) maybe she is the source of the behavior (which goes a long way to explaining your family's behavior). And don't be shy about it let the extended family know that you're doing it. F THE MATRIACHY.😂
seriously, what is cheaters confessing love for their victims? what really is the true worth of their love? the proof of their love? because its clear their love was never enough.
You definitely did the right thing these type of people made there bed now they have to lay in it and ur family is 100%wrong for going against you like that smh they should be a shamed of themselves
I get the be a dad that stepped up angle but thats is literally mainly for gettin wit a woman that already has a kid not someone that cheated more then that an affair and then tried to pass it off as they kid we werre together you lied and then pushed that shit onto me nah girl sorry
Luckily you found out early in the child's life. Once DNA proved you were not the father, she really had nothing yo hold you on, but that doesn't stop many courts unfortunately. Either way, you made the right choice both times
People got to keep this in mind the cheater is always the person that doesn't want to be in a relationship! She rather have a child from another man then her husband? What will people reaction be if the husband got another woman pregnant what everyone tell him to leave his wife to be with the pregnant woman?😂
why were they coming for him? shouldn’t they ask for money from the ex boyfriend??? they’re acting as if he adopted the kid and decided to randomly neglecting them for dead.
People like the Women in this story never change they will always think its ok to do whatever they want and the man will put up with it it just sad what is happening what the Women are doing to marriage Being married use to be a good thing now 😢
You actually did a You should not have to raise a baby that was built on live and you should also help someone who is going through the same situation because like you said karma is a bitch and your sister Bianca she can go kick rocks because she did this to herself. No one raised a baby made of lies because of someone else you should learn to care for yourself and not care for other people all the time.
Wow just wow what is wrong with op family why do they think that these to men support a kids that’s not their I think theses to men did the right thing hope everyone has a great day or night
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I hate when people think someone should raise the affair baby. Raising a child that’s not yours is a choice.
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Absolutely right like in marriages where one or two spouses bring children from their previous marriages, raising an affair child is mostly not a choice but a deception and manipulation of the situation, basically a paternity fraud
Idk if I believe this. I can't imagine that someone's sister would side with the person who cheated on her brother. That makes zero sense. I have 2 sisters and 2 brothers. I would never ever do that to them.
@@Goldie789 Not everyone is blessed with a strong bond with siblings, and often, they side with those to hurt us for whatever reason. Gladly, not everyone has such experience, but it is something that can happen
@@Goldie789 I don’t know if it is real but, I do know people are always dragging others for not wanting to raise someone else’s child.
Anyone saying that dna doesn't matter is free to take up the financial responsibility for the baby
Yeah anyone says that. They have to pay for cheaters and their children of cheaters
Thank god someone sees logic
Bro you are a true man staying with the truth not on lies
Cheaters always defend another cheater.
CHEATER ALWAYS DEFENDS A CHEATHER. PLAY STUPID GAMES, WIN STUPID PRIZES 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
So like I don't defend women cheating, but whatelse can u do about it?
They r women, they will do whatever they feel like and put their "fun" 1st than thinking about the child or her husband feelings and emotions. Yes, men will and should face consequences and hold accountable, but womon will recieve support from families, friends and society regardless of what u feel.
Why is it the victims' responsibility to take care of an affair baby. Sadie knows who the actual father is and had a 5+ year affair with Tom and let him skip town. This is not OP's responsibility. Now OP's BIL is going through the same thing with Bianca (OP's sister). The 2 victims are supporting each other. As their families turn against them. Now we know why Bianca was so supportive of Sadie. OP's definitely not the AH.
The thing I don’t understand is how people think an affair baby is meant to be something to stay together over, literally every time you look at the kid you’re reminded that the child is the result of your or your partner’s cheating. I get the baby is innocent in it all but doesn’t mean the partner gets off Scott free. Especially as marriage is about trust, when vows are made they are made with the intention of being held til death do us part (or at least that’s what they are meant to anyway). Lose that trust and there’s no marriage.
There's sisterhood in this story for cheating and lies, and there's brotherhood to prevent a problem before it becomes a disaster.
That's why paternity tests should be mandatory at birth. Make women accountable.
Plus if they’re mandatory it takes away the feeling of “oh he doesn’t trust me” cause then it’s just another medical test.
Y being such a m1s0gynist by holding women accountable for their actions? They r women, do u think they have any remorse for there actions or will actually avoid ch3ating?? People, society and friends will still support them and blame the men at the of the day.
@@lifeisamess8100 Sometimes the hospital accidentally switches children. So at least mandatory tests would make sure that didn't happen
Holding woman accountable / Calling out their wrong = misogyny. Woman can do whatever she wants without even facing the fraction of consequences, so it won't really do anything other than large feminist protest, which ofcourse they WILL DO.@@HurricaneFox
@@HurricaneFox this. There was a Reddit story where a wife was accused of cheating even though she did not when a husband did a DNA test on the child. When they redid the test using both the husband's and wife's DNA, the child belonged to neither of them, turns out the hospital mixed up someone else's baby with theirs.
Let Bianca step in then if she feels that strongly .
Let anyone who's on Sadie's side step up then. That's the same thing they're demanding OP do.
couldn’t have said it any better 💀
Birds of a feather flock together as they say 😕
The sister would fall victim to an unfortunate mugging. In which nothing is taken but with two freshly shattered knees
When are the women going to start getting called out to "woman up"? I keep hearing this crap about manning up. Why should they? Good on you, dude.
This is why I hate to say it in these stories people need to be the ones to spread the word first especially if they find out that their spouse is cheating on them and not let other people get the upper hand just because they want to be fucking nice which is the most stupidest thing you could be to the person that's cheating on you
How is it "manning up" to knowingly raise the product of adultery?
More like "pussing up".
Birds of the same feather flock together. Seems like the reason Bianca not was soo hell bent on op sticking around as she was doing the same thing to her own husband. And if she forced op to stay, that way she would have forced her husband to stay as well. And didn’t see threaten to testify against op in court. Hey time for payback.
This guy made the mistake by confronting immediately.
If you ever get in a situation like this then get a lawyer move your money to your account, be well prepared for everything.
Then when you are absolutely certain of everything you confront the offender and start proceedings of the divorce.
You can always still choose to stay anyway of course but at least you are well prepared.
You also want to notify everybody you know (around the time of confrontation) of what is happening so the offender cannot portray you as the bad guy, like what happened in this story.
Stay safe and take care of yours people!
First off the word "support" how would it make you an ass if your supporting instead of sabotaging your brother in law. Your the bigger man by not standing with a crappy family that's into manipulation people for there own gain.
Entirely the mother's fault, not the op's, and the sister is insane and should have been disciplined more as a child
This whole situation makes me thing what OP's mom did in the past. There may be a reason why OP's sister is the golden child.
Suing for emotional distress in situations like these should be considered! Even better is requiring a paternity test before signing birth certificates 🤷♀️
Absolutely, can't wait for when DNA tests and the infrastructure around them gets more widespread and they can be done immediately, doing tests on both parents immediately after the medical procedures/cleaning would make cheaters accountable and also prevent hospitals from giving people the wrong babies.
Her body , her choice!! Your wallet .your choice..
Should have told the BIL as soon as the sister picked her side.
that's what i was thinking
Only reason a person supports a cheater knowingly is because they’re a cheater to or just as bad.
If the story is true, the only winning move for OP here is to send his family a cease & desist letter refuting all further contact, citing emotional and mental abuse and threatening a restraining order pursuit if they continue to contact him. It's just, toxic and there's clearly no coming back from this at this point, so better to sever contact and build a life for himself without them in it.
NTA because of the fact that the op was betrayed by his ex wife and had a boy with her ex boyfriend, that reality can't be ignored ever plus the OP's brother in-law was cheated on by his ex wife, the OP's sister when she was with her male coworker and had a baby with him, plus in reference to other people judging the op for not doing the right thing, ask themselves these questions:
1:as men, would you do the same thing you expect the op to do even though you already know that you aren't the father of the child and actually support the child regardless of the fact that you will resent him/her down the line?
2: can you as a man actually be honest with yourself and actually do the right thing and take care of the child without any regrets about it or resentment later on in life to a period extent?
When people have the ability to answer those questions especially men,then pass judgment to both the op and his brother in law otherwise leave them alone in the long run.
Their needs to be serious jail time for paternity fraud
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Bro wife hanging out with "work friends" and coming late or coming back after a day or whatever then you know something is bad(an affair of you think about it)
I have a son and daughter. If they got married and had a kid with someone not the husband id support the poor dad being baby trapped. Id never try to force someone to stay with a cheater and especially raise someone else's kid that resulted from an affair.
Thank god you found out when the child was still less than 1 year old
Never underestimate the power of the sisterhood. They will ALWAYS defend each other no matter how badly they've behaved.
Plenty of sisters, mothers, daughters etc...etc... have lied and betrayed their own male relatives.
Guys...don't EVER take whamen's opinions seriously on this matter...they will NEVER hold a fellow sister accountable.
Don't ever take a cheater back and don't ever raise another man's child.
Generalization! I don’t know a single woman who would condone this. His sister and ex just have no morals!
Tough luck sis! You reap what you sow
The affair was over, not because of his wife, but because his wife's ex left and move out of state to avoid her and the baby. if the EX-BF didn't leave the affair would keep going.
It should be your choice to parent and support a child conceived within your marriage that was not yours. You chose not to, so that’s that. Your sister is way out of line to try and force you to do what she wants you to do.
Never encourage someone to do what you would not do yourself. Let Jack make his own choices and support him if that is your choice.
She said she still loves him ONLY after she got busted. Hmm... One doesn't intentionally hurt a loved one. In fact, one does the best for the other. She was in love with herself.
Where does the family get the AUDACITY
If the parents wanted him to step up and want him to coerce Bianca's husband to stay, I think this guy needs to do pa DNA test with his father. He might just be product of an affair
O.P. did the right thing. I’m a woman and I’m appalled. That’s just like having your husband bring home his affair baby and ask you to make believe it’s your own. What kind of dream world are they living in?
i heard the same story before, but there op had to pay 18 years of child support, and then it made more sense that he helped his sisters future ex
still he does the right thing
Of course bianca would stick up for Sadie. She was projecting her own situation onto sadie and overcompensating by backing her unconditionally. One cheating loser deserves the other. not wanting to raise someone else’s baby is not your fault or your problem.
Definitely done the right thing - both with your own situation aswell as Jack’s!
Keep your head held high - truth and conscience will always prevail! I am sure that anyone who finds themselves in that position will, ultimately, be better off if they follow your lead!!
Yet they not once tried blame the actual father ?💀
Maybe sis should pay CS if she cares so much
Bro is a real homie for helping Jack out
NTA
My wallet, my choice. 🤟
True Paternity is good for the soul. ❤. DAD, MOM & CHILD OR CHILDREN. ❤
Those women doesn’t represent us smh it’s truly disappointing
unfaithful wife bruh
Don’t feel bad she made her choices Bianca should back off. Your mother is a Luny Bin Bianca must bear the burden. No Way.
You help him. Your family doesn’t seem to be supportive. Good on you for helping Jack
Dude, your ex is nothing more than a 304! The worst of the worst, and your sister is no different. Birds of a feather flock together. EDIT: Wow, I really did call it! What a couple of 304’s! How hard is it to keep your legs shut, use protection, and remain faithful!
Made the right choice
Tell your family to go pound sand, help your brother in-law. And if you can find a way, get a DNA comparison with sister and father. If your mother is that supportive of sister's and ex's cons (that's what it is) maybe she is the source of the behavior (which goes a long way to explaining your family's behavior). And don't be shy about it let the extended family know that you're doing it. F THE MATRIACHY.😂
seriously, what is cheaters confessing love for their victims? what really is the true worth of their love? the proof of their love? because its clear their love was never enough.
You are doing the right thing. Ps I'm a woman. I've never cheated but been cheated on. I understand the hurt and betrayal. Stand tall.
You did the absolute right thing don't let no one make you feel otherwise 👏 💯 👌 🙌 ✨️ 💪
Birds of the same feather flock together! 😂😂😂
Who ever you cheat on with is the father
Wtf is wrong with OP's family
Favoritism
You definitely did the right thing these type of people made there bed now they have to lay in it and ur family is 100%wrong for going against you like that smh they should be a shamed of themselves
You didn't lost anything.
I get the be a dad that stepped up angle but thats is literally mainly for gettin wit a woman that already has a kid not someone that cheated more then that an affair and then tried to pass it off as they kid we werre together you lied and then pushed that shit onto me nah girl sorry
Luckily you found out early in the child's life. Once DNA proved you were not the father, she really had nothing yo hold you on, but that doesn't stop many courts unfortunately. Either way, you made the right choice both times
You do the right thing my friend 👍👍👍👍
The uno reverse though 😂😂
I would have loved to see what if "Bianca's" husband, if she had one, was the father and that "Sadie" had been seeing each ever since they met.
This is not a step father situation
People got to keep this in mind the cheater is always the person that doesn't want to be in a relationship! She rather have a child from another man then her husband? What will people reaction be if the husband got another woman pregnant what everyone tell him to leave his wife to be with the pregnant woman?😂
Your family has never been there to support you, why should you be there to support them?
why were they coming for him? shouldn’t they ask for money from the ex boyfriend??? they’re acting as if he adopted the kid and decided to randomly neglecting them for dead.
You do not have a sister. You do not have a loving wife.
Why did both women not to try to make the biological father "Man Up"?
People like the Women in this story never change they will always think its ok to do whatever they want and the man will put up with it it just sad what is happening what the Women are doing to marriage
Being married use to be a good thing now 😢
he should do a dna test w his dad
You actually did a You should not have to raise a baby that was built on live and you should also help someone who is going through the same situation because like you said karma is a bitch and your sister Bianca she can go kick rocks because she did this to herself. No one raised a baby made of lies because of someone else you should learn to care for yourself and not care for other people all the time.
Your sister is so very wrong
Wow just wow what is wrong with op family why do they think that these to men support a kids that’s not their I think theses to men did the right thing hope everyone has a great day or night
Reverse Sexes and we know exactly how she would react!
no
You families wrong
NTA
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Wowwwwww well done 🙄
What a life achievement. Congratulations. Enjoy your solo party in your moms basement
What a awesome and amazing thing that happened bro
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