@@lisa-marieeichberg1541 we need the old bands back also... mcr, hawthorne heights, from first to last, escape the fate,etc... we need them back as well
I love how he's challenging the whole stigma with boys and mental health, this is an important topic that needs to be talked about. As it is has got my full support 100%
Struck a few cords with me. For years I never talked about it. Bottled it all up and only ever let it out when it was to late. Men need to talk alot more. As a society we need to break through this horrible stigma. Its ok to be sad, cry, upset. Doesn't make you weak.
@AOMechMarine AOMechMarine Sorry you are afraid of crying. It's a terrible thing when we can't express our emotions, especially the painful ones. Trust me though, keeping them bottled up will only make things worse. It will numb you. It will depress you. It will break you. And eventually all of those emotions will come boiling over anyways. Real strength is having the courage to face those emotions head on. No mater how painful they are. Accept them and let them go.
Me 2018: 19 Years old. Father. Hard working professional. As It Is 2018: Dye your hair black again. Buy more eyeliner. Wear dark clothes. So glad that emo is making a come back
Is anyone else already in love with the new As It Is era? The way they're focusing on mental illness and using their music and platform to break the stigma is inspiring. They've already helped so many people, they're only gonna help even more. Love this band. Thank you, As It Is. 🖤🖤🖤
@@exolp6949 This is definitely not pop punk, their original sound was incredibly pop punk, this definitely leads more towards the Emo genre especially with the addition of more screamed vocals
@@jesusavalos2399 yeah you can say this song is more emo but emo pop doesn't exist so it's pop punk with emo vocals because real emo music is in screamo or emocore but this instruments are to punky for it
@Cyanne Lok Emo isnt a real Genre if you be honest emo is a subculture and has nothing to do with music emocore is just emotional Core so every Music Genre can be emo
This song has a very strong message about what society says is acceptable for boys to do. Like they can't wear makeup, like cute things, be "soft", or cry. Even though forcing people to live by this is not only toxic but a type of emotional abuse because you are hurting them in ways that are not visible on the surface. I love this song for that reason
@@demonintellect9834 Yes society needs Real men who are not afraid to be in touch with their emotions. We need real men who arn't infected by toxic masculinity. We do not need pansy ass emotionally constipated dude bros like you. So yes strong emotionally healthy men that are not afraid to cry is what we need.
@@BLACKGEAR026 ''pansy ass emotionally constipated dude bros'' hahaha I don't know you, but I already like you. DemonLover666 and you are absolutely right. Toxic masculinity is a thing and we need to get rid of all that shit.
I hope you understand that this song isn't about you? It's about men forcefully having to "man up" by not crying, and putting away their emotions, or we're portrayed as weak.
This may look dated to alot of people now in 2018 but i bet in about 5 or 6 years, emo/scene and post-hardcore will be back in style because of 00s nostalgia thats already starting to replace the current 90s nostalgia trend.
It all reguritates every 20 to 30 years. Its all been done already.. From the beg. The beatles.stones on. For mainstrean .. Not the blues they stole from
Couldn't agree more... things like this reminded me to MCR and they ARE good. I'm just hoping the emo scene making more breakthrough cause there are still people out there who enjoy this scene..
This is the kinda music that matters. We don't need more het love songs. We need people like this. (If you like music like this yung blud is perfect (esp polygraph eyes)
Beautiful... I'm literally crying now. This is such an important topic to talk about, it's so toxic for boys and men to not be allowed to show emotions, that's why the suicide rates are so high for men. Beautiful lyrics and video, I feel like this is a perfect example of the macho culture. Thank you, this band is amazing and I love their new sound so much. I'm so excited for the album, it will be great!! ♥️
jishwasoreos powerful but completely right. Its okay to not be okay doesn't make you less of a man because you struggle this hopefully will hit a lot of people
Men were always alowed to show emotions, but to show emotions in a rather controled way means to have the strenght to control yourself, which is not a bat thing.
i cried when he got punched and cried more when he started crying...……. then they locked the knob head out and when he smiled and giggled to himself I don't think I have ever smiled so much... I love this song, I love this band and I love this album... I pre ordered it and honestly it is all I listen to most of the time... I fucking love this band
The Renaissance was back in the early to mid 00's..... This is a resurgence..... I was a sneak emo then because of the stigma at the time in the areas I grew up in..... Now I'm supposed to be a professional, but hey..... I have practice at this....
The ending to this video makes me think that there is going to be a similar song on the album on female social standards, and i think its going to be just as important as this beautiful song
In their Rocksound interview, Ben said that "The Haunting" would talk about sexual misconduct allegations within the scene, as well as his childhood friend's suicide, so yeah there'll be one, and it'll be important and beautiful, but definitely very heavy.
i completely agree, this song is about breaking the stigma of boys not crying but it also shows breaking the stigma of girls being weak by having a female drill Sargent yell silence at the end of the video.
I am surprised that I couldn't find a mention about the ending of the video in the comments. it is such a meaningful moment for the video depicting the fact that girls are also expected to act a certain way. It just leaves an untold section of a story about gender expectations that keeps you thinking after you watch the video. So good job whom ever came up with the music video.
Why cant I stop listening to this? ...I mean seriously, i've had it on repeat for days and cant stop. When I'm not listening to it, this song is playing in my head. Please make it stop.
Same, I've played this countless times and everyone keeps telling me I'm depressed but I promise I'm not. It's just a really great song with a powerful message
I only just heard about this band but I'm already hooked?? This song is not only great but it tackles an issue no one all's about (which is toxic masculinity) literally love this and the Great Depression album
Why is everyone saying how “emo is back”? Emo never left. I’ve been emo for years and I know tons of emos who are the same. And there’s been tons of underground emo bands. Emo music just hasn’t been popular for a few years that’s all. BTW IM STILL EMO AND IM NOT GONNA STOP FOR A FEW MORE YEARS!
@@pyophyo8901 I went from "listening to this music isn't a phase, mom" to "wanting to be a musician isn't a phase, mom!" Next it'll be "being in this band isn't a phase, mom" smh
This band reminds me so much of the early/mid 2000s emo. I miss that era but it’s pretty great to be able to watch a new wave of emo rise up and to be a part of it.
Full lyrics for everyone: I see a pain behind your eyes, I know you feel it everyday. It’s like a light that slowly dies, but it’s better not to say such things out loud. Just close your eyes and bite your tongue for now. Don’t let them see you fall. Stay strong, hold on, you’ve got to keep it together now. Just dry your eyes, ‘cause boys don’t cry. No, no, ‘cause boys don’t cry. No, no, ‘cause boys don’t cry. You feel an emptiness inside, how it sinks into your soul. But it’s nothing you can’t hide; just forget about the hole beneath your skin- That’s swallowing the best of you within. Don’t let them see you fall. Stay strong, hold on, you’ve got to keep it together now. Just dry your eyes, ‘cause boys don’t cry. No, no, ‘cause boys don’t cry. No, no, ‘cause boys don’t cry. Keep it all inside ‘Cause boys don't cry Are those tears behind your eyes? Nuh uh, no, boys don't cry Keep it all inside this time Nuh uh, no, boys don't cry Not until the faithful day you die ‘cause boys don't cry ‘cause boys don't cry Stay strong, hold on, you’ve got to keep it together now. Just dry your eyes, ‘cause boys don’t cry. No, no, ‘cause boys don’t cry. No, no, ‘cause boys don’t cry. ‘cause boys don’t cry. ‘cause boys don’t cry.
Corey Taylor Have you check us out? Check us out now if you're into My Chemical Romance Revenge Era and you might find it surprising that you could enjoy our stuff! 🌹🖤
1. Toxic Masculinity isn't really a thing it's a myth largely portrayed by activist, and academics. 2. It is very clearly about mental health. Men struggle with achieving help with mental health, mainly, because men in their biological social dynamic hold cards close to them, they don't like opening up. It is always said women are very open inherently, but men take awhile they are like a cat, you gotta earn it. 3. However that is largely exaggerated men do cry and can be emotional what research needs to be done better is how men express emotion, it may not be with tears(biologically we have larger tear ducts than women do). I personally suffer from depression, and I don't cry with it I get frustrated, because I don't want to be that way. Men express sadness through anger a lot more than tears.
I've been listening on repeat since I found it. I'm a very emotional guy, but I was raised to suck it up and be there for others. I've always been the one everyone goes to for help, so strength was my nature
Do you ever just hear your favorite song and feel safe but at the same time you want to cry because it’s so beautiful? That’s what this song does to me.
This song was in my recommended so I listened to it. The lead singer reminded me of something but I wasn't able to tell what it was until I checked other songs of them and I realised that 3 years ago I used to listen to them. I was in the middle of my pop punk phase and I was subscribed to Patty's channel. I used to love his covers and when he stopped uploading videos because As It Is signed Fearless I checked them out. I liked them but then my pop punk phase went to end and I started listening other types of music...anyway I can't believe that i've totally forgot about them in these 3 years😅 (also they look so different how the hell could I recognize Patty😂). Now that I listen literally everything (including pop punk) I found them again and after I've listened to this album I want to say that their new sound is amazing. I don't like so much their old songs, but I really appreciate their changing: bands usually goes more pop but this went more "emo"... I love it
I enjoy music from bands that give their bass guitar more sound over the drums and other guitars. Deep bass chords and higher vocals in my opinion give more feeling in a song.
This is the first song I've ever heard from As It Is and holy.. I LOVE IT. The message is accurately portrayed and I like that they spread such an important message, it really needs to be done. And the song in generally is so catchy and ugh, it's just perfect. Not screamo or something, like the old songs of 2000-sth, the songs I really like. Glad I found you :) (Sorry for any grammar mistakes, English isn't my first language)
@@dominikmichalek9391 I think the message is more about the stigma of society about boys/men crying and doing stuff only girls would do in their opinion. Society tells boys to "man up", to hold their feelings in etc which can lead to depression, breakdowns, anxiety and mental illness in general. And seriously, even if it was about gays, what would be bad about it? Gays are normal people
@@dominikmichalek9391 Well, to me it definitely sounds like that. Maybe I'm wrong though, English is only my second language. Is Patty gay? Uhm.. I don't know, I know this band since yesterday :D Didn't he mention in a video that he had/has a girlfriend? But actually I don't care about that at all. It's his private life
Wow this is the first time I've listened to As It Is (though I've heard of them before) and I must say if all of their songs are of this one's quality then I may have just found my new favorite band
one of the most creative ways to put a real life problem into art. The video. The song. Everything was put together so well this is honestly one of my favourite music videos out of the latest ones.
I used to watch all of Pattys covers back several years ago, I went back onto his youtube page today and this band showed up, I am extremly pleased with this find
To the idiots saying "this song isnt about you" to people saying they relate-stfu. Music is subjective and about artistic expression. Anyone who relates is allowed to do so.
Confession: im a transgender boy and whenever I cry I hate myself so much because I grew up with BOYS DON'T CRY and my little brother reminds me of it all too often and it really hurts when my mind is my enemy
This album is gonna be sick as hell! I have to say though, I am a little worried that the visual aesthetic As It Is chose is going to only breed incredibly shallow discussions and interpretations of The Great Depression. The connections people are making to My Chemical Romance’s Three Cheers and Black Parade are incredibly unfair and seem to imply that all As It Is are saying is “hey, remember the MTV emo days?” Not to mention a clear lack of understanding of those two album’s concepts (Three Cheers being a mix of gothic literature, comic references, all wrapped up in a Faustian Bargain story with echoes of an inverted monomyth, or Black Parade being a grimdark Everyman and A Christmas Carol hybrid with some Divine Comedy for good measure). There’s a lot more going on in this album, than just trying to emulate and cash in on successful artists from the past. There’s a narrative, there’s a story, much like MCR’s concept records but very different at the same time because you are NOT listening to MCR. You’re listening to As It Is. They don’t want to tread the same territory, and I for one, would like to give them credit for harkoning back to an older era of music BUT from an approach of retrospect, of introspection and review and reapplying it to this decade’s continued problem with men’s self-expression & mental health stigma. Comparisons are of course alright but don’t let something as simple as a hairstyle and eyeliner form your absolute write off and scorn or even your undying support. Use your minds, not just your eyes. Already I’ve noticed a lot of people being so overly obsessed with Patty’s hair, both for and against. For one thing, a musician’s hairstyle and choice of cosmetics doesn’t make something “emo,” the sound of the music does (See Saves The Day, Jimmy Eat World, Mineral, or Thursday as examples of bands who don’t have to look like they work at Hot Topic but still made some hella emo music in their day). That being said, the influences of UK post-hardcore and pop punk music (which in case you weren’t sure, have very close ties to emo’s lengthy and confusing history), especially Funeral For A Friend, having Aaron Gillespie from Underoath and The Almost on a track, not to mention the inclusion of screamed/unclean vocals gives it the post-hardcore/emo lean towards it, which is spectacular to see even years after that sort of sound’s heyday. That association is considerably fair, but acting like As It Is’s only purpose is to “bring emo back” or be an “emo band” is simply short sighted pigeonholing. If you want to interpret it that way, that’s fine, but they deserve credit for a lot more than just being the band that might make scene hair “cool again.” People need to chill about the hair and makeup. It’s hair an makeup. That’s it. On the opposite side of the obsession-fence, people who are going on about how “cringey” they think it is or make “hilarious and original” comments about how As It Is missed the “emo/screamo trend” by a decade. If you’re one of those people, you are obviously not aware that this album and it’s music videos have been lampooning this sort of “cringe culture” and obsession with the status quo. You are LITERALLY the subject of the album. Not only are your douche opinions on “emos” not wanted, they are directly being challenged by this album. Make fun of it all you want, you’re only driving the point home. From what we know so far, there’s a clear emphasis on the stigma surrounding mental health, especially for men and the presence of both toxic masculinity as well as damaging romanticizing of depression as something trendy. This song and The Wounded World have an interesting duality to it and I’m really looking forward to listening to the full album. Yes, there is a clear homage happening here, but there is a deeper commentary and narrative on how we treat boys who act differently, dress differently, or are suffering from serious problems and chose to turn them into objects of scorn or ridicule instead of actually respecting and helping them. I truly hope that when the album is finally released, people actually see that and don’t distract themselves with Patty’s hair in either adoration or scorn, completely missing the point of this entire album’s nuanced concept.
xscreamoprincessx. Beautifully written. As a sufferer of toxic masculinity and depression with a period of medically documented suicidal thoughts in my past, this message is resonating with me. Too many people are quick to judge, and it isn’t right. The music sounds profound and is full of substance since it comes from a real place. I’m looking forward to the album.
You guys are reading too much into it. All this is is a way move records because THEY ARE just trying to be MCR, and they're using morons like you that need to overthink and over analyze/justify corporate strategy as something more. But go on thinking this is anything more than shallow. It's pretty sad.
silentcatalyst Again, like the music if you want. But your over analyzing it. Why are sad pathetic people always so quick to connect to things designed to take money from kids with depression and mentally issues. They're targeting people like you, not trying to relate. It's called business. Open your eyes.
zac I can over analyze it even more. You don’t have my past, so don’t act like you know me when you don’t even have the slightest clue of who I am outside of RUclips. For the record, I was there when MCR blew up and The Black Parade has more classic rock roots similar to Queen despite the makeup, so that was a whole other thing. I totally see the marketing, as it is a part of surviving in the music industry, yet I think they could do without the makeup. Also, if you haven’t noticed from my guitar pic, I like guitar tap melodies hahaha, so that’s another reason I dig the song. Personally, I think it’s sad and pathetic that you have to target people that you don’t even know and succumb to judging them for opinions, while trying to judge the band and its intentions. I relate to it lyrically and am against the toxic masculinity stigma that comes with being a man, but totally see your point of view minus the harsh name calling. Let’s analyze this more, shall we? I’m game!
zac We could also look at how Tom Morello made his career out of pretending to change the world while using catastrophes to promote his music in Rage Against the Machine and Prophets of Rage. 🐸 🍵
This band addresses such important problems in the world today. It's rare to find an artist like this modern times. I have the highest respect for these guys and I hope they keep doing the musical and social world justice.
I couldn't cry in public... This song changed that. Thank you. I wear my heart on my sleeve and can't hide my emotional state. I'm a bad liar and all my friends know it.
Me: *doesnt know this band* Me: *sees thumbnail and panics (at the disco)* Me: WOW! it looks emo *clicks* I just found a masterpiece that’ll help me to bring the emo era back! Yay! Ily guys!
Friend: your emo Me in all black: i am not Friend: you listen to Get Scared, At It Is, Three Days Grace and Set It Off so your emo Me in my head: wait am i emo? i guess so
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the fact that this exists in 2018 feels like a warm hug from smudged eyeliner. we need more of this
More Eyeliner?
@@DeathNote-ch1so more of this music
@@DeathNote-ch1so both
@@lisa-marieeichberg1541 we need the old bands back also... mcr, hawthorne heights, from first to last, escape the fate,etc... we need them back as well
30 seconds to mars need to be emo again also
I love how he's challenging the whole stigma with boys and mental health, this is an important topic that needs to be talked about. As it is has got my full support 100%
sharelle patterson Yes!!
Struck a few cords with me. For years I never talked about it. Bottled it all up and only ever let it out when it was to late. Men need to talk alot more. As a society we need to break through this horrible stigma. Its ok to be sad, cry, upset. Doesn't make you weak.
You're all so right !
Dudes really shouldnt cry. I mean for the loss of a loved one sure, but if you stub your toe and break down and cry then you are a pussy.
@AOMechMarine AOMechMarine Sorry you are afraid of crying. It's a terrible thing when we can't express our emotions, especially the painful ones.
Trust me though, keeping them bottled up will only make things worse. It will numb you. It will depress you. It will break you. And eventually all of those emotions will come boiling over anyways.
Real strength is having the courage to face those emotions head on. No mater how painful they are. Accept them and let them go.
Me 2018: 19 Years old. Father. Hard working professional.
As It Is 2018: Dye your hair black again. Buy more eyeliner. Wear dark clothes.
So glad that emo is making a come back
NICE!❤️
when did it leave
@@angelp2092 there were a freaky couple of years where scene almost completely took over XD
Is anyone else already in love with the new As It Is era? The way they're focusing on mental illness and using their music and platform to break the stigma is inspiring. They've already helped so many people, they're only gonna help even more. Love this band. Thank you, As It Is. 🖤🖤🖤
light and rebellion this band is the reason I don't commit suicide tbh
Austina Quigley "Stay strong, hold on" 🖤 Take care of yourself! X
the stigma has alwas been there idk where you been but it won't ever go away
Wasn't a fan before, but I like the new them.
Someone hasnt heard You, the Room & the Devil on Your Shoulders from their first album.
Music industry: Emo is dead, move on.
As It Is: 'Scuse me? Hold my beer
Pop punk its Pop punk understand it you crazy scene bastards
@@exolp6949 This is definitely not pop punk, their original sound was incredibly pop punk, this definitely leads more towards the Emo genre especially with the addition of more screamed vocals
@@jesusavalos2399 yeah you can say this song is more emo but emo pop doesn't exist so it's pop punk with emo vocals because real emo music is in screamo or emocore but this instruments are to punky for it
haha true XP
@Cyanne Lok Emo isnt a real Genre if you be honest emo is a subculture and has nothing to do with music emocore is just emotional Core so every Music Genre can be emo
EMO NEVER LEFT IT JUST WAS HIDING IN OUR SOULS DONT HIDE IT SHOW FALLEN ANGELS
fallen angels? you know what a fallen angel right? since when was the emo genre considered satanic lol
Black veil brides
@@shylynntalbert6707 is metalcore not emo this song too its not emo cause emo is more emotional than this
Hmmm fallen angels....OMFG ARE YOU REFERRING TO BVB AHHHhHhHhH YES!!!!!
WE ARE THE FALLEN ANGELS
It feels like we're back in 2005, and it feels... sooooooo good!!
I know right! Well, I was 4 in 2005, but I feel like emo is forever.
I was 4 or 5 in 2005 lol
I was 1 🤣🤣
2005 - 2010! we had 5 good years! then soon to be 9 years of shit! stay strong and hold on! and boys don't cry but men do!
Hell yes! 🤘🏽
This song has a very strong message about what society says is acceptable for boys to do. Like they can't wear makeup, like cute things, be "soft", or cry. Even though forcing people to live by this is not only toxic but a type of emotional abuse because you are hurting them in ways that are not visible on the surface. I love this song for that reason
Society needs men, not pansys.
@@demonintellect9834 Yes society needs Real men who are not afraid to be in touch with their emotions. We need real men who arn't infected by toxic masculinity. We do not need pansy ass emotionally constipated dude bros like you. So yes strong emotionally healthy men that are not afraid to cry is what we need.
@@BLACKGEAR026 ''pansy ass emotionally constipated dude bros'' hahaha I don't know you, but I already like you.
DemonLover666 and you are absolutely right. Toxic masculinity is a thing and we need to get rid of all that shit.
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If someone doesent allow for guys to cry and be NORMAL FKING EMTIONAL HUMAN BEINGS- give me their godam adress, theres about to be a bloody mess pal,
Even though I'm a girl, this song's message speaks volumes to me.
Can relate
erey body cries
Same
these were my thoughts while listening it 👐🏼💭
I hope you understand that this song isn't about you? It's about men forcefully having to "man up" by not crying, and putting away their emotions, or we're portrayed as weak.
This may look dated to alot of people now in 2018 but i bet in about 5 or 6 years, emo/scene and post-hardcore will be back in style because of 00s nostalgia thats already starting to replace the current 90s nostalgia trend.
stonedgamer 420 Invader Zim is coming back the world is already primed for an emo renaissance
Hell yeah I'm so up for it!
It all reguritates every 20 to 30 years. Its all been done already.. From the beg. The beatles.stones on. For mainstrean .. Not the blues they stole from
Oh man I hope so
Couldn't agree more... things like this reminded me to MCR and they ARE good. I'm just hoping the emo scene making more breakthrough cause there are still people out there who enjoy this scene..
Finally a video that focuses on male depression!!! Thank you so much!!! My only problem is that it didn’t come out sooner!!!!!
So true. Have to hide the pain everyday
This is the kinda music that matters. We don't need more het love songs. We need people like this. (If you like music like this yung blud is perfect (esp polygraph eyes)
I prefer this a million times than the current trend in music.
Make that million and one!!
@@tokkunkim1672 A million and two!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Word!
make that a million and five!!
Million and six.
Its realy good, Emo alive!
Beautiful... I'm literally crying now. This is such an important topic to talk about, it's so toxic for boys and men to not be allowed to show emotions, that's why the suicide rates are so high for men. Beautiful lyrics and video, I feel like this is a perfect example of the macho culture. Thank you, this band is amazing and I love their new sound so much. I'm so excited for the album, it will be great!! ♥️
jishwasoreos powerful but completely right. Its okay to not be okay doesn't make you less of a man because you struggle this hopefully will hit a lot of people
Men were always alowed to show emotions, but to show emotions in a rather controled way means to have the strenght to control yourself, which is not a bat thing.
Serban Dumitrescu ehh no wtf boys were literally beaten up for crying
jishwasoreos Its true, i was one of those boys
In romania, where i live ive never heard of anything like this
i cried when he got punched and cried more when he started crying...……. then they locked the knob head out and when he smiled and giggled to himself I don't think I have ever smiled so much... I love this song, I love this band and I love this album... I pre ordered it and honestly it is all I listen to most of the time... I fucking love this band
It's happening.
The emo Renaissance is happening.
The Renaissance was back in the early to mid 00's..... This is a resurgence..... I was a sneak emo then because of the stigma at the time in the areas I grew up in..... Now I'm supposed to be a professional, but hey..... I have practice at this....
FRINGEs WILL GROW MOTHER LOCK UR DOORS AND HIDE UR DAUGHTERS...from the emo haha emo song referenced
Love
Emo revolution 2018-2019
We will rise
The ending to this video makes me think that there is going to be a similar song on the album on female social standards, and i think its going to be just as important as this beautiful song
Holy shit there are other sadowski's on youtube?
Nah fuck women's rights
Woosh!
UndergroundPuppy why though? It's just as important as men's rights
In their Rocksound interview, Ben said that "The Haunting" would talk about sexual misconduct allegations within the scene, as well as his childhood friend's suicide, so yeah there'll be one, and it'll be important and beautiful, but definitely very heavy.
I’m a boy and this song made me cry because of how true it all is and how meaningful and relatable this is and ya know what I ain’t ashamed
I feel ya bro
Gay
Forcing yourself to hide an emotion will do that to ya…
This actually hits a hard message if you think about it
I agree
I agree too. Im a man and I cry just like anyone else. Fuck all the stereotype bs of we arent allowed to cry. I teach my children its ok to cry.
You really don't have to think hard to see the message, it's a fairly obvious point that the song is making.
i completely agree, this song is about breaking the stigma of boys not crying but it also shows breaking the stigma of girls being weak by having a female drill Sargent yell silence at the end of the video.
"If you think about it"
Actually, it's pretty spelled out, lol
This band might be trying to singlehandedly bring back emo music. Best of luck, you guys are great!
facts
I am surprised that I couldn't find a mention about the ending of the video in the comments. it is such a meaningful moment for the video depicting the fact that girls are also expected to act a certain way. It just leaves an untold section of a story about gender expectations that keeps you thinking after you watch the video. So good job whom ever came up with the music video.
truee i was like why is no one noticed that
Same I was looking for this comment!
I love how Patty's shiney blue eyes pierce through the black hair... it does something to me xD
Thats fucking patty????????????? Wtf O REMEMBER WHEN HE DITCHED HIS CHANNEL FOR THIS BAND I DIDNT EVEN THINK IT WAS STILL HIM WTF?
*runs to bathroom and puts on more eyeliner*
Lauren Babic goes to closet and pullsout all band merch from sophmore year and let's hair grow out then gets snake bites again
MOOD
Lauren Babic lol this comment made my day
Why are we all so emo?!
Lauren Babic LAURENNNNNNN
Why cant I stop listening to this? ...I mean seriously, i've had it on repeat for days and cant stop. When I'm not listening to it, this song is playing in my head. Please make it stop.
No. Once you hear Patty's voice you can never go back. Welcome to the cult of As It Is. Enjoy your stay.
@@mildlysinful i just started liking as it is two days ago and i've listened to almost all their songs..
@@willow5635 W E L C O M E
Make it stop.
Let this end,
Eighteen years pushed to the ledge.
It's come to this,
A weightless step.
On the way down singing
Whoa, whoa.
Same, I've played this countless times and everyone keeps telling me I'm depressed but I promise I'm not. It's just a really great song with a powerful message
first song I've heard from them.
Now it's time to follow all their social media.
Download pictures of them.
Yeah...
Same + love ur profile pic
Thenk
Damn. When you put it like that.
GOD ME
May I join you with your journey? Because I'm doing the same thing as well. xD
I only just heard about this band but I'm already hooked?? This song is not only great but it tackles an issue no one all's about (which is toxic masculinity) literally love this and the Great Depression album
Check out there earlier works like Okay and Never Happy Ever after
Why is everyone saying how “emo is back”? Emo never left. I’ve been emo for years and I know tons of emos who are the same. And there’s been tons of underground emo bands. Emo music just hasn’t been popular for a few years that’s all. BTW IM STILL EMO AND IM NOT GONNA STOP FOR A FEW MORE YEARS!
And when I’m done with emo I’m just gonna be goth!
(back then)
It's not a phase mom, this is who I am!
(Present)
See mom, I told you so.
@@pyophyo8901 it do be like that
@@pyophyo8901 I went from "listening to this music isn't a phase, mom" to "wanting to be a musician isn't a phase, mom!" Next it'll be "being in this band isn't a phase, mom" smh
duncanistrash someone who actually knows the difference between emo and goth, scene, Victorian, exc.
First time hearing these guys got a new fan with this song
LISTEN the wounded world !! They got me with that one
That was the song I watched after this one
This is my first time too and this seems like a band I'm going to listen to
Me too!! And I'm a 48 year old bloke!
Me too😊
I love how they're making everyone feel emo again. I also feel like this album is going to make their following blow up. Proud of these emo boys
This song sends such a strong message and I love it. I’m a pretty soft guy and this made me cry. Well shit guess I’m not a boy now.
Simp
salaah khayr don’t bring that here.
@@salaahkhayr2398 Someone should make a twitter account chronicalling the worst examples of people saying "simp"
@@salaahkhayr2398 yes
@@thevarietychannelofyoutube4769 it's a joke smart one
This band reminds me so much of the early/mid 2000s emo. I miss that era but it’s pretty great to be able to watch a new wave of emo rise up and to be a part of it.
Full lyrics for everyone:
I see a pain behind your eyes,
I know you feel it everyday.
It’s like a light that slowly dies,
but it’s better not to say such things out loud.
Just close your eyes and bite your tongue for now.
Don’t let them see you fall.
Stay strong,
hold on,
you’ve got to keep it together now.
Just dry your eyes,
‘cause boys don’t cry.
No, no, ‘cause boys don’t cry.
No, no, ‘cause boys don’t cry.
You feel an emptiness inside,
how it sinks into your soul.
But it’s nothing you can’t hide;
just forget about the hole beneath your skin-
That’s swallowing the best of you within.
Don’t let them see you fall.
Stay strong,
hold on,
you’ve got to keep it together now.
Just dry your eyes,
‘cause boys don’t cry.
No, no, ‘cause boys don’t cry.
No, no, ‘cause boys don’t cry.
Keep it all inside
‘Cause boys don't cry
Are those tears behind your eyes?
Nuh uh, no, boys don't cry
Keep it all inside this time
Nuh uh, no, boys don't cry
Not until the faithful day you die
‘cause boys don't cry
‘cause boys don't cry
Stay strong,
hold on,
you’ve got to keep it together now.
Just dry your eyes,
‘cause boys don’t cry.
No, no, ‘cause boys don’t cry.
No, no, ‘cause boys don’t cry.
‘cause boys don’t cry.
‘cause boys don’t cry.
Kasey Vincent it amazes me how they dont put the full lyrics in the description
You are literally the best person in the universe 🤣
They put it in the description
@@SockTheUnicorn they did, but it isnt the full thing
The fact that this was made now in 2018 when there’s been so much awful music lately makes me so happy.
I’m so impressed with this song! I’m gonna have to look into As It Is. this day and age we have only hope for music with meaning!
Bramble Chaser YOU MIGHT LIKE OUR MUSIC IF YOU'RE INTO THIS AND REVENGE ERA MY CHEMICAL ROMANCE, CHECK US OUT! 🌹
Me yesterday: emo is dead move on.
Me, 3:35 ago: I need to bring back guyliner.
Go for it guyliner is hot on the right guys
Seriously. It is.
guy liner till I die
eyeliner tis my soul take
MOOD!!!!
jared leto and gerard way had a child
Yes
Yes
Can they please have more
@@jadecobra5530 my thoughts exactly
This album is gonna blow up, Invader Zim is coming back, 2000s nostalgia is coming in, the world is primed for an emo renaissance
Daniel Atkinson IKR. OMG. 😭❤❤
Invader zim never left
emo to the extremo
Blake McConnell liked the cover
Blake McConnell in a gerard way
ariana long in a eyeliner
Corey Taylor Have you check us out? Check us out now if you're into My Chemical Romance Revenge Era and you might find it surprising that you could enjoy our stuff! 🌹🖤
Corey Taylor we love Slipknot by the way!
5 years later this song is still so important to me and has such a powerful message
seems like it was never just a phase
I love when bands write songs about mental health. It's a serious condition that targets people of all ages.
GoshDarnBarnOwls your comment and username both give me life tbh
GoshDarnBarnOwls its not about mental health its about toxic masculinity
Kapt Mao the album is called the Great Depression. Its about mental heath
1. Toxic Masculinity isn't really a thing it's a myth largely portrayed by activist, and academics.
2. It is very clearly about mental health. Men struggle with achieving help with mental health, mainly, because men in their biological social dynamic hold cards close to them, they don't like opening up. It is always said women are very open inherently, but men take awhile they are like a cat, you gotta earn it.
3. However that is largely exaggerated men do cry and can be emotional what research needs to be done better is how men express emotion, it may not be with tears(biologically we have larger tear ducts than women do). I personally suffer from depression, and I don't cry with it I get frustrated, because I don't want to be that way. Men express sadness through anger a lot more than tears.
I've been listening on repeat since I found it. I'm a very emotional guy, but I was raised to suck it up and be there for others. I've always been the one everyone goes to for help, so strength was my nature
New As It Is? New The Amity Affliction? It’s a good day!
Ghost Killer Entertainment Literally was just about comment that!!! 😂😂
New hail the sun as well
New ice nine kills 😄
New Our Hollow Our Home too
Don't say they are the new The Amity Affliction, that's shit. There's one and only TAA, and this isn't that good
I just saw the video,klicked it,and found my new obsession.
Thank you.
Do you ever just hear your favorite song and feel safe but at the same time you want to cry because it’s so beautiful? That’s what this song does to me.
If boys don't cry how come my eyes are streaming
Craig Simmonds Turns out, Boys always cried, the band The Cure were compulsive liars of the first order.
Its referring to a stereotype
Koryn Stryfe I know, I was joking
I actually cant stop listening to this
Sameer Saeed too
MEEEEE
Indian. Stop listening to our music.
His voice is beautiful😍💓
I like the meaning of this song, it says that guys are also humans too, they have feelings.
This song was in my recommended so I listened to it. The lead singer reminded me of something but I wasn't able to tell what it was until I checked other songs of them and I realised that 3 years ago I used to listen to them. I was in the middle of my pop punk phase and I was subscribed to Patty's channel. I used to love his covers and when he stopped uploading videos because As It Is signed Fearless I checked them out. I liked them but then my pop punk phase went to end and I started listening other types of music...anyway I can't believe that i've totally forgot about them in these 3 years😅 (also they look so different how the hell could I recognize Patty😂).
Now that I listen literally everything (including pop punk) I found them again and after I've listened to this album I want to say that their new sound is amazing. I don't like so much their old songs, but I really appreciate their changing: bands usually goes more pop but this went more "emo"... I love it
I enjoy music from bands that give their bass guitar more sound over the drums and other guitars. Deep bass chords and higher vocals in my opinion give more feeling in a song.
This, still to this day, is the most heartbreaking music video I’ve ever seen in my life. It doesn’t make me cry, it makes realize why I shouldn’t.
I CAN'T WAIT FOR THIS ALBUM TO COME OUT
This is giving me Helena Vibes MCR💕
HOW?!?!? (Sorry, I just don't hear ANY of that in here.) Explain? I'm actually curious. :)
@AOMechMarine AOMechMarine Shut the fuck up😂you do not understand
Victoria Princess ikr
Uh, how??? This song isn't bad, but it's nothing compared to the masterpiece that is "Helena (So Long and Goodnight)".
They r back :)
EMO NEVER DIE
MAKE EMO GREAT AGAIN
Dustin vc por aqui bb
me nota senpai
Dustin faz um react ou um vídeo sobre essa música
It never stopped being great
yeahhhx33
Dustin Bittencourt PREACH
Now this is the emo I remember ✊
LOOTd not even emo
Nowhere close to emo. It's scene. *cringe
Nowhere close to emo. It's scene. *cringe
the emo I remember sounded less like this, but it's not that bad of a song.
LOOTd YOU MIGHT LIKE OUR MUSIC IF YOU'RE INTO THIS AND REVENGE ERA MY CHEMICAL ROMANCE, CHECK US OUT! 🌹
As It Is, beating the Emo Revival to the punch by 3 years, a full 2 years before the Rawring Twenties
This is the first song I've ever heard from As It Is and holy.. I LOVE IT. The message is accurately portrayed and I like that they spread such an important message, it really needs to be done.
And the song in generally is so catchy and ugh, it's just perfect. Not screamo or something, like the old songs of 2000-sth, the songs I really like.
Glad I found you :)
(Sorry for any grammar mistakes, English isn't my first language)
Idk how you understand the text, but isn't it kinda gay? I just asking. For me it sounds like gay anthem, but good song xdd
@@dominikmichalek9391 I think the message is more about the stigma of society about boys/men crying and doing stuff only girls would do in their opinion. Society tells boys to "man up", to hold their feelings in etc which can lead to depression, breakdowns, anxiety and mental illness in general.
And seriously, even if it was about gays, what would be bad about it? Gays are normal people
@Jasmin I don't mean it that bad, I only wonder if its against stereotypes like that. And second question is: Is Patty gay?
@@dominikmichalek9391 Well, to me it definitely sounds like that. Maybe I'm wrong though, English is only my second language.
Is Patty gay? Uhm.. I don't know, I know this band since yesterday :D Didn't he mention in a video that he had/has a girlfriend?
But actually I don't care about that at all. It's his private life
@@dominikmichalek9391 it's about gender stereotypes, how men are "supposed" to not show emotions, it's not about being gay
Coming back to this in 2024. It's not just a phase
the fact that this is almost two years old.... this song means a lot to me and i’m so glad i found this band in 2018.
Wow this is the first time I've listened to As It Is (though I've heard of them before) and I must say if all of their songs are of this one's quality then I may have just found my new favorite band
You boys keep getting better and better. SO excited for this record.
the way that i blasted this for a month straight when it came out...
♥♥THIS BAND RIGHT HERE IS FREAKING AMAZING THEY ARE LIFE! AS IT IS MY FAVIORTE BAND♥♥
I’m more straight up metal, but I gotta admit this stuff ain’t bad
Thank you Father!!
Satan has spoken 😂😂
Hail Satan
same i usually prefer heavier stuff but this is an exception i love his voice
Ayeeee hi Dad
OMG Emo is making a comeback!! I'm literally so happy, *runs to the bathroom, put on more black eyeliner*
Hopefully this marks the comeback of emo even though this isnt a new band
I can't believe this song is two years old, I feel like it only came out yesterday 🙄🖤
Saved my life more than once. Thank you As It Is.
one of the most creative ways to put a real life problem into art. The video. The song. Everything was put together so well this is honestly one of my favourite music videos out of the latest ones.
I used to watch all of Pattys covers back several years ago, I went back onto his youtube page today and this band showed up, I am extremly pleased with this find
Leone Green where can you find his covers
@@darcy__bxx pattyxwalters or pattywalters i dont remember which one
Leone Green cheers I found it
@@darcy__bxx my favorite is the this is halloween screamo cover
Leone Green it's really good
this song legit made me cry
I love this so much i can't even describe it. I like this band. One new fan added.
I'm a born again emo thanks as it is
This song is an emotional rollercoaster
Thanks to As it is for bringing emo back
The military dude's facial expressions are hilarious
R W T he looks like an angry ricky gervais
To the idiots saying "this song isnt about you" to people saying they relate-stfu.
Music is subjective and about artistic expression. Anyone who relates is allowed to do so.
THIS IS SO MUCH BETTER THAN THE FIRST SONG! This track has way more soul and identity. Good job!
Tom Isonfire YOU MIGHT LIKE OUR MUSIC IF YOU'RE INTO THIS AND REVENGE ERA MY CHEMICAL ROMANCE, CHECK US OUT! 🌹
Wrong but this is a good song too
goldenkris10 hey check us out while you're at it! You might like our music if you enjoy this 🖤
RADLADS go away
zac lol
This song always makes me cry for some reason
Patty is the first person I’ve seen go backwards in time to the emo years, and I’m not even mad about it.
I like the 2000's emo asthetic.
CheezWhiz Slut same it’s coming back finally
Theres less than a handfull of things that can make me truly smile. music is one of them. amazing band. #bringbackemo
i listen to this daily. i love everything about it. thank you guys for keeping the conversation going♥️
please stop emoing me I thought I escaped that
Haha
NEVER!!
*You cant escape your fate*
Aye
Once enough, always emo
andy Cole YOU MIGHT LIKE OUR MUSIC IF YOU'RE INTO THIS AND REVENGE ERA MY CHEMICAL ROMANCE, CHECK US OUT! 🌹
Your inner emo voices are calling! Your hair is becoming darker as we speak haha.
This is actually breaking my heart I’m crying
Katie Sugrue Good job you're not a boy ✌
Ry Hartley thanks, this video is destroying the stigma and the gender stereotypes put on guys and it makes me so proud tbh. 🙏🏻
This is the song you listen to after a bad day , or anything haveing to make you feel like you f**ked up doing something.
This is truly a masterpiece.
Confession: im a transgender boy and whenever I cry I hate myself so much because I grew up with BOYS DON'T CRY and my little brother reminds me of it all too often and it really hurts when my mind is my enemy
Erik Stevens you live my life, boy!!
Nøødle Bøy just you replying made me cry 😄😄😄 it means so much when people care
Crying helps and its natural to race k?
Boys absolutely should cry and if you need to cry then you do so when you feel safe. Holding it in will not help your mind
Sameee
Emo is back? :OOOO
Syahaz It was never gone, just hiding
Syahaz When did it leave??
It Never Died :)
Emo... Never left. Most of us just died to pop and mainstream stuff.
Inarai Ruairc I listen to this and pop
How does this not have more views???
This album is gonna be sick as hell! I have to say though, I am a little worried that the visual aesthetic As It Is chose is going to only breed incredibly shallow discussions and interpretations of The Great Depression. The connections people are making to My Chemical Romance’s Three Cheers and Black Parade are incredibly unfair and seem to imply that all As It Is are saying is “hey, remember the MTV emo days?” Not to mention a clear lack of understanding of those two album’s concepts (Three Cheers being a mix of gothic literature, comic references, all wrapped up in a Faustian Bargain story with echoes of an inverted monomyth, or Black Parade being a grimdark Everyman and A Christmas Carol hybrid with some Divine Comedy for good measure).
There’s a lot more going on in this album, than just trying to emulate and cash in on successful artists from the past.
There’s a narrative, there’s a story, much like MCR’s concept records but very different at the same time because you are NOT listening to MCR. You’re listening to As It Is. They don’t want to tread the same territory, and I for one, would like to give them credit for harkoning back to an older era of music BUT from an approach of retrospect, of introspection and review and reapplying it to this decade’s continued problem with men’s self-expression & mental health stigma. Comparisons are of course alright but don’t let something as simple as a hairstyle and eyeliner form your absolute write off and scorn or even your undying support. Use your minds, not just your eyes.
Already I’ve noticed a lot of people being so overly obsessed with Patty’s hair, both for and against. For one thing, a musician’s hairstyle and choice of cosmetics doesn’t make something “emo,” the sound of the music does (See Saves The Day, Jimmy Eat World, Mineral, or Thursday as examples of bands who don’t have to look like they work at Hot Topic but still made some hella emo music in their day). That being said, the influences of UK post-hardcore and pop punk music (which in case you weren’t sure, have very close ties to emo’s lengthy and confusing history), especially Funeral For A Friend, having Aaron Gillespie from Underoath and The Almost on a track, not to mention the inclusion of screamed/unclean vocals gives it the post-hardcore/emo lean towards it, which is spectacular to see even years after that sort of sound’s heyday. That association is considerably fair, but acting like As It Is’s only purpose is to “bring emo back” or be an “emo band” is simply short sighted pigeonholing. If you want to interpret it that way, that’s fine, but they deserve credit for a lot more than just being the band that might make scene hair “cool again.” People need to chill about the hair and makeup. It’s hair an makeup. That’s it.
On the opposite side of the obsession-fence, people who are going on about how “cringey” they think it is or make “hilarious and original” comments about how As It Is missed the “emo/screamo trend” by a decade. If you’re one of those people, you are obviously not aware that this album and it’s music videos have been lampooning this sort of “cringe culture” and obsession with the status quo. You are LITERALLY the subject of the album. Not only are your douche opinions on “emos” not wanted, they are directly being challenged by this album. Make fun of it all you want, you’re only driving the point home. From what we know so far, there’s a clear emphasis on the stigma surrounding mental health, especially for men and the presence of both toxic masculinity as well as damaging romanticizing of depression as something trendy.
This song and The Wounded World have an interesting duality to it and I’m really looking forward to listening to the full album. Yes, there is a clear homage happening here, but there is a deeper commentary and narrative on how we treat boys who act differently, dress differently, or are suffering from serious problems and chose to turn them into objects of scorn or ridicule instead of actually respecting and helping them. I truly hope that when the album is finally released, people actually see that and don’t distract themselves with Patty’s hair in either adoration or scorn, completely missing the point of this entire album’s nuanced concept.
xscreamoprincessx. Beautifully written. As a sufferer of toxic masculinity and depression with a period of medically documented suicidal thoughts in my past, this message is resonating with me. Too many people are quick to judge, and it isn’t right. The music sounds profound and is full of substance since it comes from a real place. I’m looking forward to the album.
You guys are reading too much into it. All this is is a way move records because THEY ARE just trying to be MCR, and they're using morons like you that need to overthink and over analyze/justify corporate strategy as something more. But go on thinking this is anything more than shallow. It's pretty sad.
silentcatalyst Again, like the music if you want. But your over analyzing it. Why are sad pathetic people always so quick to connect to things designed to take money from kids with depression and mentally issues. They're targeting people like you, not trying to relate. It's called business. Open your eyes.
zac I can over analyze it even more. You don’t have my past, so don’t act like you know me when you don’t even have the slightest clue of who I am outside of RUclips. For the record, I was there when MCR blew up and The Black Parade has more classic rock roots similar to Queen despite the makeup, so that was a whole other thing. I totally see the marketing, as it is a part of surviving in the music industry, yet I think they could do without the makeup. Also, if you haven’t noticed from my guitar pic, I like guitar tap melodies hahaha, so that’s another reason I dig the song. Personally, I think it’s sad and pathetic that you have to target people that you don’t even know and succumb to judging them for opinions, while trying to judge the band and its intentions. I relate to it lyrically and am against the toxic masculinity stigma that comes with being a man, but totally see your point of view minus the harsh name calling. Let’s analyze this more, shall we? I’m game!
zac We could also look at how Tom Morello made his career out of pretending to change the world while using catastrophes to promote his music in Rage Against the Machine and Prophets of Rage. 🐸 🍵
holy wow i'm early to something. . .AND IT'S AWESOME!!!
This band addresses such important problems in the world today. It's rare to find an artist like this modern times. I have the highest respect for these guys and I hope they keep doing the musical and social world justice.
I couldn't cry in public... This song changed that. Thank you. I wear my heart on my sleeve and can't hide my emotional state. I'm a bad liar and all my friends know it.
Me: *doesnt know this band*
Me: *sees thumbnail and panics (at the disco)*
Me: WOW! it looks emo *clicks* I just found a masterpiece that’ll help me to bring the emo era back!
Yay! Ily guys!
Friend: your emo
Me in all black: i am not
Friend: you listen to Get Scared, At It Is, Three Days Grace and Set It Off so your emo
Me in my head: wait am i emo? i guess so
I guess I'm emo too then lmao I listen to all of those🤷
Nohing wrong wih being emo
None of these band are emo lmfao
@@whitereap7196 true.
@My Day The bit before the music, right? I did too lol. It's just engrained in my brain.
I need a minute to recover... this was so good!
This gave me goosebumps. I love this so much. I can’t wait to hear this whole album and to hear these songs live.
2021 and i still love this.