@@goldenbard IM SAYING 😭😭 like why is the audacity so dumb that it makes sense ???? Like I know 8000% that it’s so wrong, but her “explanation” was so simple that it just removes any anger and leaves you stunned like, “Yea ok, you can go catch a break from me PERMANENTLY”
> "I was depressed and I regret it so much I'll do anything" > lied about it until side dick confessed the homewreckers had more respect for this man than his wife did
Kept using the "I was drunk" excuse after she purposely left her phone so she could go back to get her back blown. If op doesn't divorce her, he deserves what he gets going forward.
There's something incredibly wrong with the wife from the second story. Like, what kind of mother tells her children that she's just cheating on their father "for the thrill", to be able to "feel like a teenager" and to "sneak around"? Like.... what the actual F? And that she didn't realize the impact of CHEATING on her husband? Is this woman for real? It never crossed her mind that breaking one of the most basic agreements of a monogamous relationship, an agreement that she then turned into a vow, would have a devastating impact not only on her own life, but on the lives of the man she claims to love and her daughters? Yeah, right. Likely story, wifey.
Exactly. My heart seriously bleeds for OP's daughters, they'll end up being cheated on by their husbands/boyfriends, and if/when they have kids on the way, they'll need to ditch their cheating SOs, move to different states, and prepare themselves to raise their kids as single mothers.⚠️
They don't. They care about the stability they are about to lose, and the judgement of others when they learn what happened. They just pretend to care to hopefully avoid consequences.
Because the partner provides a baseline of affection. It's like a full course meal with all the standard ingredients now with the affair you get some sage or sumac as seasoning and it taste different. Now remove the full course meal and try to only eat sumac or sage and you will be distraught wishing for it back
Yeah,they care about their carefully cultivated image of being an upstanding and good person. Once their cheating comes to light people start judging them since that breaks this fake image they created.
Because cheaters "love" their partner, that's why they cheat instead of breaking up or divorcing because they don't want to lose the "love of their life" and most of the time cheaters always say this "It was just sex, it didn't mean anything! I don't love them, I love you! Our relationship is amazing, you didn't do anything wrong! I just needed something different! I'm so sorry! Please take me back. You are the love of my life." You know I been talking to someone and we both agree that it's somehow better when your partner cheats on you with someone they love rather than them cheating on you with someone they don't love. It still sucks but it makes more sense for them to cheat on you with someone they love while being in an unhappy relationship than them cheating on you with someone they don't like while being in a happy relationship.
@@feltyash6484 I feel like the mother would have manipulated them earlier to the point where they don't really know, sort of like a dystopian movie but just with them. Especially since the guy said she's really good at doing things like that
It feels like a fake story. Op is aware of so many things, of so many hints, he connected all the dots, but he is still somehow clueless, he even says ‘I wouldn’t think of infidelity’ at the start. It feels like the author wants us to know exactly what it is without saying what it is. If Op were to read back what he wrote, and still not think of infidelity, well, he is the dumbest person in the world.
Imagine calling cheating a "mistake". Getting the wrong answer is a mistake, adding too much salt is a mistake. Cheating on your spouse is a choice. You can't fix it.
Well, it's nitpicking, but if you made an informed choice, perfectly aware of what it entails and the risks, but in hindsight you regret that choice, what would you call it but a mistake ? Cheaters are scums but it annoys me when people try to redefine words, I mean, if making a choice mean it's never a mistake, what's the difference between a "mistake" and an "accident" ?
@@xegin1572 The issue lies not with the definition of the word 'mistake' but with why the cheaters choose to use that word. They use that word quite deliberately to minimize and downplay the significance of their nasty actions. That's why it's incredibly important to check them every time they use that word. Regardless of if the literal definition technically allows for it or not it's not a word that is functionally or morally applicable to describe the active choice of cheating.
15:52 If it's in character for someone to psychologically torture and wear you down until you are compliant, or if they attempt to track you down when you want to be left alone after they hurt you, that isn't a family that's a prison. No surprise that she's a cheater, she never treated him like a husband anyway.
This right here is why you don't give up (parts of) your life for another. They can just casually betray you right in front of your face, leaving you with nothing. Also who the hell cares about the other persons shame. Just tell everyone exactly what happened.
Yet if you never give up anything of yourself, no one else will ever mean anything substantially to you. Being a selfish loner and using other people to sate your needs is literally you just being these people you are acting this way for.
@@nathanbrown7906 Well, you can have depression and be a terrible person at the same time. I regularily work with people suffering from mental health issues, people trying to use a condition they do suffer from as an excuse for terrible behavior, while thankfully not being the majority, far from it, isn't something I'd call rare either.
@@xegin1572 like correct me if i am wrong but deppresion is basicly like "sad" on steroids. if it was multible personality disorder then it would be a diffrent story,(still bad and a valid reason for brake up and even some petty revenge but at least if the "switch "happend the gf cant really control that)
@@johnymovie3460 Yeah, no, depression isn't just sad on steroid, but that's beside the point. I believe you missed my point, what I was saying isn't that depression explain her behavior, but that just because people actually suffer from a condition like depression doesn't magically mean they won't try to use it as an excuse for their terrible behavior.
This is insane 💀 the pure audacity is hilarious, but I guess it’s genius. I feel like her explanation just removes any anger bc it’s so dumb it leaves you stunned. This is so funny Istg. Casually gets a train ran on her and is like “But it has nothing to do w/ our relationship 🥺”
In the second story, the wife had lost all respect for OP and cheated. OP should leave as his feelings are valid and the wife seems like a master manipulator. In the end she will never respect OP ever again if he goes back.
Cheaters love the life you help provide for them, they don't love you. To really love a person is to respect and honor them, neither of things you do when you step out on a marriage. The act of having an affair is the ultimate disrespect to your partner.
"its not a matter of she cheated, dump her immediately, each situation is different" broooooooooooooo what are you talking about. edit:// nvm, he was literally considering staying with her even. absolute doormat.
She doesn’t love you. That was a lie. Cheating is not a mistake, it’s a series of choices. Alcohol is not a good enough excuse. Go no contact. Divorce ASAP. Tell everyone what happened before she lies. You are a family even without kids and she destroyed it. Move on.
That mind set is of someone who is making excuses for the cheater. It's basic trust. Not to mention she was apparently going to do it as long as she could if she didn't get caught.
@@Olimar92 I only condone the married peeps that stay longer to grab ammo so they don't get divorce-r*ped but the people who entertain the idea of letting someone who violated their trust thoroughly back in their lives on a trial run are just unable to admit that it is broken and done.
It is super sad the first guy believes the wife loves him. She doesnt. She went back and had a 3some with 2 dudes. That isnt what you do if you love someone.
I really love how people brainwash themselves into trying to understand every point of view and think logically about everything. Can you accept that your wife/husband cheated? No? Then finish it. If you can accept it, then stay. But don't use 'every situation is different, things have nuance' as an excuse to torture yourself over being unable to make a decision. It's just cowardice at that point, and dependency
The first story sounds as though it was written by AI. Notice that the woman switches from wife to girlfriend at various points, and, even though they are from the US, he refers multiple times to "our home country", a phrase that Americans don't generally use, plus other signs as well.
>claims to be too drunk to stop herself from cheating >is still not drunk enough to execute an elaborate plan of leaving her phone on purpose so she could go back a few hours later to get fucked something doesn't add up here.
I'm beginning to notice a common theme in all these stories. Women destroy their relationships by sleeping with strangers. "I love you so much, I planned to get double teamed by strangers by leaving my phone at their place so I could go back..." Why do women do this?
Because this is Reddit and the mass majority of those on Reddit are men, specifically straight men. Ergo, their stories will be about women cheating. I have a diverse friend group and pinky swear everybody, despite gender or sexuality, is capable of cheating. This is a sample size issue, not just a thing women do :)
@@alyxs131 I disagree. I've seen it through out my life, women are always the ones who cheat and treat their partners poorly. One friend worked and put his girlfriend through school and University, the second he paid off her study loan as a gift she was cheating on him with another guy. The dude was depressed for a long time and now he's a gym rat. Another had a girlfriend who cheated on him and left him for a drug dealer. She cheat on that guy with another Tyrone and got kicked out and abandoned her daughter on my friend's door step. 7 years later she decided she wanted her daughter back and him and his family had to fight the crazy B in court to keep the poor girl safe from her mother. Every marriage I've seen fail has been due to the woman either becoming insufferable or cheating.
the stuff from weed that doesn't even get you high, there's very limited and shoddy evidence for its usage in some medical contexts, so obviously health nuts are all over it.
This is why you don’t put yourself in an environment to cheat . She’s a liar , she does not love him . All alcohol does is show who you really are by taking away your inhibitions. . So deep down she never loved you but felt too much guilt to cheat . But with alcohol, her real feelings showed . In order for a women to love a man , she must have two things . 1. Respect : in order to love you she has to respect you and have a desire to honor you . 2. Loyalty : it goes along with respect but is deeper . The main way a women shows love , is by only having herself for you . When a women sleeps with someone at a subconscious level part of her lives that sexual partner . So if she’s able to do that she no longer loves you because she would not be able to think of being with someone else .
There's no shame in getting cheated on. Her cheating was not his decision and is totally not on him Usually the most perfect people are the ones getting cheated on. So if I were him, I'd tell the world what a piece of garbage his ex is.
You're 100% correct. But if you look at it from the perspective of the spouses, it is humiliating and emasculating/defeminizing if their partner leaves the marriage simply because they feel like they were never enough for their SOs and were not able to satisfy them emotionally, financially and/or sexually. These issues do exist, but cheaters are not willing to do the grunt work and communicate; it's easier for them to step outside of the marriage to have their "needs met".
@@SneakNationCEO Reminds me of another story, where the OP gets cheated on, but doesn't tell his family why he broke up with her, because he found it too humiliating and emasculating. Because of that, his family kept pushing for him to meet his ex to "talk things out", because "she's such a nice girl", "you're such a good match" etc. To sums things up, his family trying to repair the relationship led to incidents where OP's actions, while making perfect sense when you know he's been cheated on and feel too humiliated to talk about it, admitably made him look like a jerk to his family who didn't, so once he broke down and told them the reason, they accused him a lying to get away with his terrible behavior.
@@xegin1572 I might have heard that story too. Here's the thing: not only do the good people refuse to cheat back, they also sometimes hide the truth to prevent having them dragged through dirt. This courtesy backfires because the cheater will spin the narrative and tarnish the good guy instead to save face. Happens so often.
I'm not considering shit but divorce if I get cheated on. I'm not fixing nothing idc about what we had, how many kids we got or what kind of life we built. Ima take my pain deal with it and divorce you. My peace and sanity are more important to me than mending a relationship with a mf who stepped out
I'm super grossed out by the woman but just as much with the two guys they KNEW she was married, i can't stand cheaters just as much as I can't stand people who purposely go after/willingly sleep with someone they know is in a relationship. It makes me so sick to my stomach knowing there's people like that in this world.
Nahhh. Think about it: "mmmh yeah i love my husband" gawk gawk gawk gawk. "Treat me like one of your rotisserie chicken, because of my undying devotion and love of my husband of course" 😂 make it make sense. The more i watch these videos the more I hear Rihanna's Take a Bow 😅
In my mind there is only two reasons that are good reasons to cheat one to save someone life(ie gun held to someone head kind of thing) or that you been neglectful in that relationship for years (like 8 or 9 years at least. where the cheater has tired to fix the relationship like straight up "i am not happy with this relationship I want to fix it" and try and it didn't work because the person that was cheated on didnt try to fix it )
Getting piped by two dudes and saying “I love you” is WILD to me (also you can’t blame alcohol really because your true thoughts come out when you’re drunk)
I always hate when ppl go it's okay to the people who kept the affair secret, it's not okay you're also a piece of shit because it's not some random person you don't know it's your mom and dad so clearly you don't respect one of them if you don't tell them
"It's not as simple as 'She cheated, dump her'" Yes it fucking is. I don't care what the situation is, wether it's been a long term affair, or just it's the very first time, if someone cheats on you, LEAVE THEM! No amount of money, no actions done and no words spoken or thought can ever get me to stay with or take back someone who cheated on me. I've been cheated on 3 times in the past and only one of them said she regretted it and wouldn't do it again. I told her I don't believe her and I'll never trust her again, because she may be saying she won't do it again, but she already done it once, who's to say she won't do it again? Never give them excuses and never listen to their excuses. They willing chose to break your trust, they chose to disregard you and your feelings, and there is no redeeming that. Anyone who willing stays in a relationship with a person who cheated on them is an idiot and it's their own fault when, not if, WHEN it happens again, because it will happen again.
You never make friends with stranger's on vacation especially drinking he made a huge mistakes once I heard tje ratio of men I knew it was over but he didn't see the red flags!
I wonder about those Americans in story 1. You invite a couple over for fun and games. Cool. You know they’re married. Ok. Why would you do anything sexual with the wife now that the husband knows where you live and it’s not yet your last night at that bnb? I know there’s alcohol flowing and all, but you’re just asking for trouble when she returns hours later and you don’t kick her out right away. It being late at night won’t cut it when you can’t tell when someone will suddenly wake up hungover. Wife must have lied to them about having an open marriage or something, or maybe they’re just stupid.
I wouldn't be too hard on the twins in the 2nd story, its clear the OP's ex-wife is a master manipulator, and kids (who happen to be dependent on the adult in question) are very susceptible to that.
I’ll also slightly defend the twins since the mom told them that if the dad found out he would be extremely hurt so I guess they tried to protect the dad in their own way
Why does depression in people make them make bad decisions as if that will rekindle The Flame or zest for life when just going on a trip like the husband wanted somehow didn't work
Actually it’s fairly simple. I’m not sure how long or how severe her depression is, but when you have a medical issue that is lasting, you essentially feel this void in you. Nothing that used to make you happy does that any more. That’s why some people will harm themselves: they actually feel something. From experience, I can tell you that traveling is not always great when you have depression. You are out of your comfort zone/home/bed and can’t recharge. Not only do you have to be social but that may come with the added stress of communicating in a foreign language. Obviously none of this makes infidelity right, but you kinda get the idea how after going so long without emotions, one can make poor decisions.
Mistake is a word for an accidental action which results in a negative impact for either yourself or another person. Cheating is not accidental so it isn't a mistake.
I absolutely do entirely blame the wife. But the shitty dudes deserve some hate too. Like they were hanging out with the husband, having a good night, and then they go and bang his wife later that night. Like seriously, you can't keep it in your pants? Like you knew full damn well he was against something like that, that she would suffer for it in the long run, and you still go for it...
Ngl I am not sure if I forgive the twins either...even if I could i would take a small revenge by looking at the twins in their eyes and ask them "contact me when you have proof that you liars are indeed my kids"
no update on the second one? i wanna know how the divorce went. i would never be able to "work though it", since she wanted to hide it the rerst of her life... i can forgive a 1 time thing, if u come clean within a day or two.. but not delibrately hiding shit like that and turning his children against him... get out.
Why is it so often when women screw up it is “we can work it out” but when a guy screws up it is either you fix it or damaged beyond repair, accountability seems to be a foreign concept
You're mistaking pride for perseverance. Yes, forgiveness can be earned and you can technically throw your self-respect away, but trust is forever lost and you cannot close the floodgates of adultery once opened.
@@georgidimitrov836 not just that, even if trust were a guarantee after forgiveness he shouldn’t have to forgive her for cheating- he’s the husband why wasn’t he put first
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telling ur husband u love them yet get spit roasted by two men is CRAZYYYYYY
Homegirl got a train ran on her and then said she loved her husband 😂😂😂
She for the streets
@@goldenbard IM SAYING 😭😭 like why is the audacity so dumb that it makes sense ???? Like I know 8000% that it’s so wrong, but her “explanation” was so simple that it just removes any anger and leaves you stunned like, “Yea ok, you can go catch a break from me PERMANENTLY”
@@goldenbard"oh he wont mind, its the alcohol" who tf would think that's a good enough excuse
> "I was depressed and I regret it so much I'll do anything"
> lied about it until side dick confessed
the homewreckers had more respect for this man than his wife did
Kept using the "I was drunk" excuse after she purposely left her phone so she could go back to get her back blown. If op doesn't divorce her, he deserves what he gets going forward.
There's something incredibly wrong with the wife from the second story. Like, what kind of mother tells her children that she's just cheating on their father "for the thrill", to be able to "feel like a teenager" and to "sneak around"? Like.... what the actual F? And that she didn't realize the impact of CHEATING on her husband? Is this woman for real? It never crossed her mind that breaking one of the most basic agreements of a monogamous relationship, an agreement that she then turned into a vow, would have a devastating impact not only on her own life, but on the lives of the man she claims to love and her daughters?
Yeah, right. Likely story, wifey.
Exactly. My heart seriously bleeds for OP's daughters, they'll end up being cheated on by their husbands/boyfriends, and if/when they have kids on the way, they'll need to ditch their cheating SOs, move to different states, and prepare themselves to raise their kids as single mothers.⚠️
listening to this storys Im seeing this is actualy one of the top reasons form women to cheat..... 🙁
Why do cheaters only care about other people AFTER they get caught? Where was all that concern when you were taking your pants off?
They don't. They care about the stability they are about to lose, and the judgement of others when they learn what happened. They just pretend to care to hopefully avoid consequences.
Because the partner provides a baseline of affection. It's like a full course meal with all the standard ingredients now with the affair you get some sage or sumac as seasoning and it taste different. Now remove the full course meal and try to only eat sumac or sage and you will be distraught wishing for it back
Yeah,they care about their carefully cultivated image of being an upstanding and good person.
Once their cheating comes to light people start judging them since that breaks this fake image they created.
Because cheaters "love" their partner, that's why they cheat instead of breaking up or divorcing because they don't want to lose the "love of their life" and most of the time cheaters always say this "It was just sex, it didn't mean anything! I don't love them, I love you! Our relationship is amazing, you didn't do anything wrong! I just needed something different! I'm so sorry! Please take me back. You are the love of my life." You know I been talking to someone and we both agree that it's somehow better when your partner cheats on you with someone they love rather than them cheating on you with someone they don't love. It still sucks but it makes more sense for them to cheat on you with someone they love while being in an unhappy relationship than them cheating on you with someone they don't like while being in a happy relationship.
@ceciliomendoza8228 first half made sense, second half sounds illogical and like gaslighting.
Story 2: "I'm going to fight for our marriage."
"I'm not going to fight the urge to cheat, obviously."
I feel bad for those twins. Catching your mother cheating and being emotionally blackmailed to secrecy just to spare your father's feelings.
Well they're also stupid for not having their own moral compass, how old were they 15? I think that's old enough
@@feltyash6484 I feel like the mother would have manipulated them earlier to the point where they don't really know, sort of like a dystopian movie but just with them. Especially since the guy said she's really good at doing things like that
It feels like a fake story. Op is aware of so many things, of so many hints, he connected all the dots, but he is still somehow clueless, he even says ‘I wouldn’t think of infidelity’ at the start. It feels like the author wants us to know exactly what it is without saying what it is. If Op were to read back what he wrote, and still not think of infidelity, well, he is the dumbest person in the world.
@@feltyash6484 I see your point, but honnestly if she's half a good a manipulator as OP makes her out to be I don't blame them.
@@ComicallyStupid-t9yare we sure she didn’t cheat a long time ago and just picked it back up
Imagine calling cheating a "mistake". Getting the wrong answer is a mistake, adding too much salt is a mistake. Cheating on your spouse is a choice. You can't fix it.
"He fell and his dick went right up there" lol
Well, it's nitpicking, but if you made an informed choice, perfectly aware of what it entails and the risks, but in hindsight you regret that choice, what would you call it but a mistake ? Cheaters are scums but it annoys me when people try to redefine words, I mean, if making a choice mean it's never a mistake, what's the difference between a "mistake" and an "accident" ?
@@xegin1572 The issue lies not with the definition of the word 'mistake' but with why the cheaters choose to use that word. They use that word quite deliberately to minimize and downplay the significance of their nasty actions. That's why it's incredibly important to check them every time they use that word.
Regardless of if the literal definition technically allows for it or not it's not a word that is functionally or morally applicable to describe the active choice of cheating.
The kiss I could buy as a mistake too...but having sex and not just that but getting spit roasted by 2 men is definitely not one
Cheating is not JUST a choice. It’s a series of choices. That’s what makes it so much worse
15:52 If it's in character for someone to psychologically torture and wear you down until you are compliant, or if they attempt to track you down when you want to be left alone after they hurt you, that isn't a family that's a prison. No surprise that she's a cheater, she never treated him like a husband anyway.
The only reason the word "abusive" wasn't uttered is female privilege.
“It’s not as simple as she cheated, dump her immediately.”
Yes it is.
Exactly, it really is
"she couldn't use that excuse twice." She can't use that excuse once, bro.
yeah. he let ther use it once, he has to blame himself for the second
This right here is why you don't give up (parts of) your life for another. They can just casually betray you right in front of your face, leaving you with nothing. Also who the hell cares about the other persons shame. Just tell everyone exactly what happened.
Cck behaviour
Yet if you never give up anything of yourself, no one else will ever mean anything substantially to you. Being a selfish loner and using other people to sate your needs is literally you just being these people you are acting this way for.
The first story did not want to tell because he felt shame from it.
@@joaop4585you are showing real cck behavior you're right
Depression: Excuse for Cheating
I hate people who use actually real problems people suffer with as an excuse for their terrible behavior
@@nathanbrown7906 Well, you can have depression and be a terrible person at the same time. I regularily work with people suffering from mental health issues, people trying to use a condition they do suffer from as an excuse for terrible behavior, while thankfully not being the majority, far from it, isn't something I'd call rare either.
@@xegin1572 I'm aware this just reminded me of my annoying aunt at every family gathering
@@xegin1572 like correct me if i am wrong but deppresion is basicly like "sad" on steroids.
if it was multible personality disorder then it would be a diffrent story,(still bad and a valid reason for brake up and even some petty revenge but at least if the "switch "happend the gf cant really control that)
@@johnymovie3460 Yeah, no, depression isn't just sad on steroid, but that's beside the point. I believe you missed my point, what I was saying isn't that depression explain her behavior, but that just because people actually suffer from a condition like depression doesn't magically mean they won't try to use it as an excuse for their terrible behavior.
Don't forget that she tried and tried to avoid telling the truth even when she was obviously caught.
This is insane 💀 the pure audacity is hilarious, but I guess it’s genius. I feel like her explanation just removes any anger bc it’s so dumb it leaves you stunned. This is so funny Istg. Casually gets a train ran on her and is like “But it has nothing to do w/ our relationship 🥺”
In the second story, the wife had lost all respect for OP and cheated. OP should leave as his feelings are valid and the wife seems like a master manipulator. In the end she will never respect OP ever again if he goes back.
Story 2 the oldest daughter is the MVP.
Nah. It IS as simple as "she cheated, dump her." The reason does not matter, nor does the length of the relationship. Once they cheat, that is that.
Yeah, I mean, how can people just crawl back when their significant other just CHOOSE to betray them like that???
Cheaters love the life you help provide for them, they don't love you. To really love a person is to respect and honor them, neither of things you do when you step out on a marriage. The act of having an affair is the ultimate disrespect to your partner.
I pray someday I have a daughter as mature, intelligent and thoughtful as the eldest daughter.
story 2: the wife is usong love bombing which is a form of manipulation
Once a cheater, always a cheater. She'll never take accountability for her actions. She belongs to the streets
"Its not as easy as she cheated, dump her". Yes, yes it is.
"its not a matter of she cheated, dump her immediately, each situation is different" broooooooooooooo what are you talking about. edit:// nvm, he was literally considering staying with her even. absolute doormat.
She doesn’t love you. That was a lie.
Cheating is not a mistake, it’s a series of choices.
Alcohol is not a good enough excuse.
Go no contact.
Divorce ASAP.
Tell everyone what happened before she lies.
You are a family even without kids and she destroyed it.
Move on.
Classic Alcohol blaming
if your wife is depressed because "of her life situation" it's time to get a divorce.
what 💀
"It's not so simple as she cheated dump her" Why yes, yes it is. Unless you're a masochist or a doormat, it's as simple as that.
I had the exact same thought. It is just that simple. You can forgive her as a person, but as a wife, she's done.
That mind set is of someone who is making excuses for the cheater. It's basic trust. Not to mention she was apparently going to do it as long as she could if she didn't get caught.
@@Olimar92 I only condone the married peeps that stay longer to grab ammo so they don't get divorce-r*ped but the people who entertain the idea of letting someone who violated their trust thoroughly back in their lives on a trial run are just unable to admit that it is broken and done.
It is super sad the first guy believes the wife loves him. She doesnt. She went back and had a 3some with 2 dudes. That isnt what you do if you love someone.
Cheating is a choice not a mistake
Yes, thank you. You took the words right out of my mouth.
I really love how people brainwash themselves into trying to understand every point of view and think logically about everything. Can you accept that your wife/husband cheated? No? Then finish it. If you can accept it, then stay. But don't use 'every situation is different, things have nuance' as an excuse to torture yourself over being unable to make a decision. It's just cowardice at that point, and dependency
The first story sounds as though it was written by AI. Notice that the woman switches from wife to girlfriend at various points, and, even though they are from the US, he refers multiple times to "our home country", a phrase that Americans don't generally use, plus other signs as well.
Depression = "i want to cheat but I don't know how"
>claims to be too drunk to stop herself from cheating
>is still not drunk enough to execute an elaborate plan of leaving her phone on purpose so she could go back a few hours later to get fucked
something doesn't add up here.
I'm beginning to notice a common theme in all these stories. Women destroy their relationships by sleeping with strangers.
"I love you so much, I planned to get double teamed by strangers by leaving my phone at their place so I could go back..."
Why do women do this?
Years of propaganda through mass media, feminism, the sexual revolution, lack of enforcement of good behavior, lack of slut shaming, etc
Because this is Reddit and the mass majority of those on Reddit are men, specifically straight men. Ergo, their stories will be about women cheating. I have a diverse friend group and pinky swear everybody, despite gender or sexuality, is capable of cheating. This is a sample size issue, not just a thing women do :)
@@alyxs131 I disagree. I've seen it through out my life, women are always the ones who cheat and treat their partners poorly.
One friend worked and put his girlfriend through school and University, the second he paid off her study loan as a gift she was cheating on him with another guy. The dude was depressed for a long time and now he's a gym rat.
Another had a girlfriend who cheated on him and left him for a drug dealer. She cheat on that guy with another Tyrone and got kicked out and abandoned her daughter on my friend's door step. 7 years later she decided she wanted her daughter back and him and his family had to fight the crazy B in court to keep the poor girl safe from her mother.
Every marriage I've seen fail has been due to the woman either becoming insufferable or cheating.
Yeesh the wife in the 2nd story is so cringe, she's like "the mom" from Dhar Mann's videos. And btw what on earth is CBD? C* ck and Ball Destruction?
Cannabidiol oil
the stuff from weed that doesn't even get you high, there's very limited and shoddy evidence for its usage in some medical contexts, so obviously health nuts are all over it.
Lol. I'm sorry, but your comment had me laughing.😂
I thought her excuse would be the devil in me made me do it
I scrolled through the comments and went "Why is no one talking about this more?" Then my dumbass realized it was posted 19 or so minutes ago.
This is why you don’t put yourself in an environment to cheat . She’s a liar , she does not love him . All alcohol does is show who you really are by taking away your inhibitions. . So deep down she never loved you but felt too much guilt to cheat . But with alcohol, her real feelings showed . In order for a women to love a man , she must have two things . 1. Respect : in order to love you she has to respect you and have a desire to honor you . 2. Loyalty : it goes along with respect but is deeper . The main way a women shows love , is by only having herself for you . When a women sleeps with someone at a subconscious level part of her lives that sexual partner . So if she’s able to do that she no longer loves you because she would not be able to think of being with someone else .
There's no shame in getting cheated on. Her cheating was not his decision and is totally not on him Usually the most perfect people are the ones getting cheated on. So if I were him, I'd tell the world what a piece of garbage his ex is.
You're 100% correct. But if you look at it from the perspective of the spouses, it is humiliating and emasculating/defeminizing if their partner leaves the marriage simply because they feel like they were never enough for their SOs and were not able to satisfy them emotionally, financially and/or sexually.
These issues do exist, but cheaters are not willing to do the grunt work and communicate; it's easier for them to step outside of the marriage to have their "needs met".
@@SneakNationCEO Reminds me of another story, where the OP gets cheated on, but doesn't tell his family why he broke up with her, because he found it too humiliating and emasculating. Because of that, his family kept pushing for him to meet his ex to "talk things out", because "she's such a nice girl", "you're such a good match" etc. To sums things up, his family trying to repair the relationship led to incidents where OP's actions, while making perfect sense when you know he's been cheated on and feel too humiliated to talk about it, admitably made him look like a jerk to his family who didn't, so once he broke down and told them the reason, they accused him a lying to get away with his terrible behavior.
@@xegin1572 I might have heard that story too. Here's the thing: not only do the good people refuse to cheat back, they also sometimes hide the truth to prevent having them dragged through dirt. This courtesy backfires because the cheater will spin the narrative and tarnish the good guy instead to save face. Happens so often.
She truly regrets it. Which is why she went BACK.
OP should have informed the other betrayed spouse also
Never drink alcohol or smoke
I'm not considering shit but divorce if I get cheated on. I'm not fixing nothing idc about what we had, how many kids we got or what kind of life we built. Ima take my pain deal with it and divorce you. My peace and sanity are more important to me than mending a relationship with a mf who stepped out
Glad he spared the twins, they were basically manipulated by their own parent, the mother.
Story 2: the only way according to me to apologize for infertility is to put a lock on your that part and give the key to your partner
I'm super grossed out by the woman but just as much with the two guys they KNEW she was married, i can't stand cheaters just as much as I can't stand people who purposely go after/willingly sleep with someone they know is in a relationship. It makes me so sick to my stomach knowing there's people like that in this world.
Nahhh. Think about it: "mmmh yeah i love my husband" gawk gawk gawk gawk. "Treat me like one of your rotisserie chicken, because of my undying devotion and love of my husband of course" 😂 make it make sense. The more i watch these videos the more I hear Rihanna's Take a Bow 😅
"I love my husband sooo much" MORE daddy MORE!!😂😂
she enough lucidity to "leave" her phone there so she could go back? she was getting passed around like meat
In my mind there is only two reasons that are good reasons to cheat one to save someone life(ie gun held to someone head kind of thing) or that you been neglectful in that relationship for years (like 8 or 9 years at least. where the cheater has tired to fix the relationship like straight up "i am not happy with this relationship I want to fix it" and try and it didn't work because the person that was cheated on didnt try to fix it )
She already abandoned your life
When does the daughter come into play?
Getting piped by two dudes and saying “I love you” is WILD to me (also you can’t blame alcohol really because your true thoughts come out when you’re drunk)
I always hate when ppl go it's okay to the people who kept the affair secret, it's not okay you're also a piece of shit because it's not some random person you don't know it's your mom and dad so clearly you don't respect one of them if you don't tell them
Emotional manipulation at its finest. She guilt tripted them into think that it was ok, can't blame them too much.
She planned to go back to sleep with them so I definitely should get a divorce.
1:35 girlfriend
1:45 wife
FAKE.
7:47 what a clutch
First story where hell is mention of daughter
"It's not as simple as 'She cheated, dump her'"
Yes it fucking is. I don't care what the situation is, wether it's been a long term affair, or just it's the very first time, if someone cheats on you, LEAVE THEM! No amount of money, no actions done and no words spoken or thought can ever get me to stay with or take back someone who cheated on me. I've been cheated on 3 times in the past and only one of them said she regretted it and wouldn't do it again. I told her I don't believe her and I'll never trust her again, because she may be saying she won't do it again, but she already done it once, who's to say she won't do it again?
Never give them excuses and never listen to their excuses. They willing chose to break your trust, they chose to disregard you and your feelings, and there is no redeeming that. Anyone who willing stays in a relationship with a person who cheated on them is an idiot and it's their own fault when, not if, WHEN it happens again, because it will happen again.
Women who do this absolutely disgust me from the bottom of my soul.
If you're going to repost old stories at least repost the WHOLE story!!
You never make friends with stranger's on vacation especially drinking he made a huge mistakes once I heard tje ratio of men I knew it was over but he didn't see the red flags!
My wife cheated i started the divorce sold my house and moved states in 2 months
Drunk actions are sober thoughts
Dawg got her back blown out and said it was a mistake💀💀💀💀💀
In the first story where was the daughter covering up the affair?
Bro, shame on the men too. They knew she was married.
Can any1 recommend a channel like this one but with less affair stories?
Did story 1 get the wrong title?
Not that I'm hoping for more bad things to happen but did the first OP ever come back with an update???
What a 304. The relationship is over
why the f did he forgive his daughters?
I wonder about those Americans in story 1. You invite a couple over for fun and games. Cool. You know they’re married. Ok. Why would you do anything sexual with the wife now that the husband knows where you live and it’s not yet your last night at that bnb? I know there’s alcohol flowing and all, but you’re just asking for trouble when she returns hours later and you don’t kick her out right away. It being late at night won’t cut it when you can’t tell when someone will suddenly wake up hungover. Wife must have lied to them about having an open marriage or something, or maybe they’re just stupid.
Super ego, my man dignity! Wow! That is such a big priority!
If my wife cheated on me and I found out our children were covering for her, I'd disown them on the spot.
I wouldn't be too hard on the twins in the 2nd story, its clear the OP's ex-wife is a master manipulator, and kids (who happen to be dependent on the adult in question) are very susceptible to that.
I’ll also slightly defend the twins since the mom told them that if the dad found out he would be extremely hurt so I guess they tried to protect the dad in their own way
@@awesomenesskid15 Yeah, mom used their concerns about their dad to guilt them into hiding it. Quite the character she is.
@@Significantpower At the very least he should have made it very clear that the twins were accomplice in his wife's affair.
Wait I’m sorry but in story one the title mentioned a daughter but near then end of story 1 he said they don’t have kids so that doesn’t make sense
1# its over and you know it
Notice your wife didn't offer women
Why does depression in people make them make bad decisions as if that will rekindle The Flame or zest for life when just going on a trip like the husband wanted somehow didn't work
Actually it’s fairly simple. I’m not sure how long or how severe her depression is, but when you have a medical issue that is lasting, you essentially feel this void in you. Nothing that used to make you happy does that any more. That’s why some people will harm themselves: they actually feel something.
From experience, I can tell you that traveling is not always great when you have depression. You are out of your comfort zone/home/bed and can’t recharge. Not only do you have to be social but that may come with the added stress of communicating in a foreign language. Obviously none of this makes infidelity right, but you kinda get the idea how after going so long without emotions, one can make poor decisions.
Mistake is a word for an accidental action which results in a negative impact for either yourself or another person. Cheating is not accidental so it isn't a mistake.
Story 1 don't lie for her
The moment he said he wasn't telling his family I stopped caring
I absolutely do entirely blame the wife. But the shitty dudes deserve some hate too. Like they were hanging out with the husband, having a good night, and then they go and bang his wife later that night. Like seriously, you can't keep it in your pants? Like you knew full damn well he was against something like that, that she would suffer for it in the long run, and you still go for it...
Ngl I am not sure if I forgive the twins either...even if I could i would take a small revenge by looking at the twins in their eyes and ask them "contact me when you have proof that you liars are indeed my kids"
no update on the second one? i wanna know how the divorce went. i would never be able to "work though it", since she wanted to hide it the rerst of her life... i can forgive a 1 time thing, if u come clean within a day or two.. but not delibrately hiding shit like that and turning his children against him... get out.
Where’s the daughter the title mentioned?
Why is it so often when women screw up it is “we can work it out” but when a guy screws up it is either you fix it or damaged beyond repair, accountability seems to be a foreign concept
She just a 304
Nope I am no ones sloppy thirds let alone seconds.
She's not responsible for your financial mistake (both the trip and getting therapy)
There is no way whatsoever I’m staying with someone who got double teamed by 2 guys she met 30 mins prior
If OP is reading this if your ever near couer d’ Alene Idaho hit me up and let’s grab a beer at the local watering hole.
if she cared one bit, she would have felt horribly guilty after the kiss. instead she snuck out to get a train run on her the same night.
If you want to keep your pride, I have to ask: What kind of pride? Like lions?
I have severe depression but that's no excuse for cheating. What bs from her.
If i were the 2nd story OP i would just swallowed my pride i would say pride is when you stand tall than whatever the problems you come across
Why just because he’s a man? Would you tell a woman to shut up and swallow her pride if she was cheated on
You're mistaking pride for perseverance. Yes, forgiveness can be earned and you can technically throw your self-respect away,
but trust is forever lost and you cannot close the floodgates of adultery once opened.
@@georgidimitrov836 not just that, even if trust were a guarantee after forgiveness he shouldn’t have to forgive her for cheating- he’s the husband why wasn’t he put first
I hate when people have life changing news but then refuse to say it until they’re there in person
You wanna be carefree and single again... then your prayers have been answered
Imagine being married since 19 only to find out it was just your turn
So, she is his gf then his wife. There is no apartment so he is crashing at his mother but they have a house together?
what's the title of the first story? i want to read it but i can't find it.