What’s amazing about keeping boundaries is that it’s not about perfection but consistency. Consistency leads to routine and satisfaction. That encourages me and it’s easier to see when I’m being unhealthy.
I am so grateful for the Complex Trauma series and would absolutely love to meet you. It is amazing how listening to each module touches my heart so deeply and makes me want to face my demons and truly heal. Thank you so much.
Hmm. Procrastination and boundaries. This is my step six and seven. Very cool talks. They are encouraging as I work my 12 steps. I have no idea how your program works. But AA does. And the price is right!!
I wish I’d heard this years ago. Definitely came from a family that had the wrong boundaries. I tried to work with my now ex on creating a healthier family than the one I came from but he came from an equally messed up family and refused. The idea of having set boundaries and punishments and follow through plan was not what he wanted. His view was the kids should do what he said the moment he said it no matter what. And while I tried to be better, i had no support or guidance and was not able. Our poor kids. Their parents could never agree and now are divorced. They have endured a lot and I want to change but I need to not say it but instead do it. I will need to find a good therapist to help me.
Not punishments, just actual logical consequences like first you ll do ur h.w. and then u can see ur friends. Explaining why it s important to not leave things for last min as we enjoy our time more when we have finished chore s and can relax. But if homework is too much we can be more lenient.children r under z lot of pressure these days. Apologise to them and read psychology. What matters is u have ghe intention
After a life being targeted by narcissists and toxic people, including my narc family, humans now disgust me from the deepest of my heart. I don't love anymore. But for the grace of God. If there was not this commandement I would vomit the rest of my life. But I am trying to pity people. Because toxic people are miserable. All the alcooholics, the poor ones, the suicidees, those who are despised or care of with dispise by good and charitable people are those who were, are victims of the good, normal, and sick people. Just hell on earth.
If you don't work on the inner wounds you can't not just proctastination because there are so many trauma's on doing chores,take responsibility,stand up for yourself,find energy to do al the things like standing up early,cleaning,cooking,going to the store,work,going to the gym,taking care of kids etc.... Where is the solution for the inner work for healing al the trauma inside...? It looks so simple like you just have to do it..just do it or you are lazy..no you are not lazy you are exhausted by surviving al of your life.. Just take litle steps and rest a lot and listen yo your energy...
EXCRUCIATING DEBILITATING TRAUMATIZING EMOTIONAL PAIN. Submerged in darkness. Paralyzed with panic. He raped my soul with the way he threw me away. Absolutely raped my soul. I MISS HIM AND OUR CONNECTION AND OUR CONVERSATIONS, WITH ALL MY SOUL. HE REPLACED ME. Abandoned and betrayed. Discarded like trash. Grief consumes me. I am traumatized and terrorized. I have nobody, I'm all alone, and the suffering is immense and intense. He - the man I called my best friend - gave me PTSD. Severe PTSD. He left me in February. Discarded me like garbage. The grief is unbearable. He left me. Replaced me. My "best friend". The only friend I had. The ultimate betrayal. How the actual fuck could he do this to me? We went from speaking every single day about every damn thing, and now we're strangers! I AM TORMENTED AND TORTURED AND HAUNTED. AND SO FUCKING DESPERATELY ALL ALONE. The pain and the panic and the terror are truly unbearable.
So I get sleep everyday sleep all night I work everyday no matter what unless I'm sick with a virus an devén then i try to go to work I do skin my laundry sometimes but hardly and I am now trying to fix my diet because I feel like I just drank alcohol when I eat something I'm not supposed and just date someone is the usual but not really I kind of get scared and don't feel comfortable with any man
Maybe it was different four years ago but I think the whole "boundaries" thing has gotten WAY out of hand! Young children are being allowed to create "boundaries" and if their parents don't "respect" those boundaries there are literally government agencies that will remove those children from the home 😲. Adult children threaten grandparents with "boundaries" instead of honoring and working with grandparents to make the family work. It's insane and is destroying the family unit instead of creating "health".
You been asked for a court fate and time . Not to threaten people to lie. Not to harrass everyone and give people who need physchiatric help anxiety attacks as is the case with my mom and son over all your lies. Or ask people to leave their car keys behind to plant false evidence ! You been asked for a court date and time !! And not use forced and abuse people mentally in order to make your stiry fit better. Now im here !! I been waiting for a decent court date instead of having every single right yaken away in order to be harrased and forced to make a story that never happen fut ! I seen you when i was coming . I served one of you and anotger one just left. Why im i not getting the court date and tine and being brain washed instead ??
There's no magic bullet fix, but it's VERY achievable so dont get overwhelmed of discouraged. Tim Fletcher's Channel is incredible. He talks in depth about every possible issue. Codependency, Anger, Re-parenting [ie all the tools our parents should have taught us but didnt]... seriously everything Once you have a firm understanding of how n why we do what we do you will feel so empowered to start implementing changes. The first steps raising your awareness of the issues. Just make a commitment to listen as often as you can, as consistently as you can. I've made more progress in 3 months than I have in 20 years of therapy, so you can absolutely do it. Good luck 💗❤️🩹💗
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I wonder if Tim knows how many lives he’s helping and saving. He’s doing that for me and I am so deeply grateful.
What’s amazing about keeping boundaries is that it’s not about perfection but consistency. Consistency leads to routine and satisfaction. That encourages me and it’s easier to see when I’m being unhealthy.
Yes, prioritize your own needs, then others. Recovering people pleaser 😁
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Very positive ❤
I could not be recovering as well as I am from Complex Trauma without these videos. Thank you so much.
These talks are incredible so glad I found this man.
The end of this one made me cry. What a good man.
I am so grateful for the Complex Trauma series and would absolutely love to meet you. It is amazing how listening to each module touches my heart so deeply and makes me want to face my demons and truly heal. Thank you so much.
Thank you Tim for sharing & helping our soul. God Bless you and yours
Hmm. Procrastination and boundaries. This is my step six and seven. Very cool talks. They are encouraging as I work my 12 steps. I have no idea how your program works. But AA does. And the price is right!!
You read my mail every time. Thank God for you. God bless you.
So grateful for your teachings Tim. I’ve learned so much from you 🙏 💜
Dr. Tim thank you so mucho for your work..!! Just one video is worth of many months of work and money… that we do no t have.. thank you so much..
Actively needing this right now
I wish I’d heard this years ago. Definitely came from a family that had the wrong boundaries. I tried to work with my now ex on creating a healthier family than the one I came from but he came from an equally messed up family and refused. The idea of having set boundaries and punishments and follow through plan was not what he wanted. His view was the kids should do what he said the moment he said it no matter what. And while I tried to be better, i had no support or guidance and was not able.
Our poor kids. Their parents could never agree and now are divorced. They have endured a lot and I want to change but I need to not say it but instead do it. I will need to find a good therapist to help me.
Not punishments, just actual logical consequences like first you ll do ur h.w. and then u can see ur friends. Explaining why it s important to not leave things for last min as we enjoy our time more when we have finished chore s and can relax. But if homework is too much we can be more lenient.children r under z lot of pressure these days. Apologise to them and read psychology. What matters is u have ghe intention
It’s like he is talking to me, boundary and self discipline.
He’s so so brilliant
happy new year to tim and everyone at the react centres :)
So wish I had heard these talks 20 years ago before I ruined my life.
@barbarachilds5268 I felt that way and still do at times! That's what Satan wants... it's never too late to do and be better!
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Setting better boundaries sum use to cross my boundaries
How can I trust my gut ? Help me understand its message ?
After a life being targeted by narcissists and toxic people, including my narc family, humans now disgust me from the deepest of my heart. I don't love anymore. But for the grace of God. If there was not this commandement I would vomit the rest of my life. But I am trying to pity people. Because toxic people are miserable. All the alcooholics, the poor ones, the suicidees, those who are despised or care of with dispise by good and charitable people are those who were, are victims of the good, normal, and sick people. Just hell on earth.
Stay there in that belief system until you are done. It is a protective mechanism. A cocoon. Eventually you grow out of it. No hurry.
Good job
If you don't work on the inner wounds you can't not just proctastination because there are so many trauma's on doing chores,take responsibility,stand up for yourself,find energy to do al the things like standing up early,cleaning,cooking,going to the store,work,going to the gym,taking care of kids etc....
Where is the solution for the inner work for healing al the trauma inside...?
It looks so simple like you just have to do it..just do it or you are lazy..no you are not lazy you are exhausted by surviving al of your life..
Just take litle steps and rest a lot and listen yo your energy...
I want this magic pill 💊
EXCRUCIATING DEBILITATING
TRAUMATIZING
EMOTIONAL PAIN.
Submerged in darkness.
Paralyzed with panic.
He raped my soul with the way he threw me away.
Absolutely raped my soul.
I MISS HIM
AND OUR CONNECTION
AND OUR CONVERSATIONS,
WITH ALL MY SOUL.
HE REPLACED ME.
Abandoned and betrayed.
Discarded like trash.
Grief consumes me.
I am traumatized and terrorized.
I have nobody, I'm all alone, and the suffering is immense and intense.
He - the man I called my best friend - gave me PTSD.
Severe PTSD. He left me in February. Discarded me like garbage.
The grief is unbearable.
He left me. Replaced me. My "best friend".
The only friend I had. The ultimate betrayal.
How the actual fuck could he do this to me?
We went from speaking every single day
about every damn thing,
and now we're strangers!
I AM TORMENTED AND TORTURED AND HAUNTED.
AND SO FUCKING DESPERATELY ALL ALONE.
The pain and the panic and the terror are truly unbearable.
Sending a big hug ♥️
It's hard to live alone sometimes l have been going crazy really really really crazy sometimes l feel like l need company
I have been lacking going to the gym
Nowadays almost NOBODY can work in their talents - people have to take the job they get!
I wonder will l ever stop saying no to my selfish side make room for the new
I feel like a butterfly cop web all over the place when l should try to relax if l can it's hard sometimes
So I get sleep everyday sleep all night I work everyday no matter what unless I'm sick with a virus an devén then i try to go to work I do skin my laundry sometimes but hardly and I am now trying to fix my diet because I feel like I just drank alcohol when I eat something I'm not supposed and just date someone is the usual but not really I kind of get scared and don't feel comfortable with any man
Maybe it was different four years ago but I think the whole "boundaries" thing has gotten WAY out of hand! Young children are being allowed to create "boundaries" and if their parents don't "respect" those boundaries there are literally government agencies that will remove those children from the home 😲. Adult children threaten grandparents with "boundaries" instead of honoring and working with grandparents to make the family work. It's insane and is destroying the family unit instead of creating "health".
I will like to go for a cup of coffee one day
I used to hang around my buddies at night
I wonder will l ever be my own friend
You'll say smudging
I am never going to use again l stop smoking weed and cigarettes now am having a hard time getting rid of my vape sometimes l get triggered
Start saying no to losers
I got a beautiful cat her name is tippy
I'm in the hood with the brothers
My sister takes care of me am disabled and l act retarded sometimes am so used to being someone else pond l really should be better than that
Raleigh NC Washington terrace Raleigh NC
Apartment complex building 521 lula place 203
Please pray for me Florence lunsford Christy lunsford my old me l used to call myself flo lunsford
I should have kept my legs closed a long time ago
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I have selfish motives with my clothes
You been asked for a court fate and time . Not to threaten people to lie. Not to harrass everyone and give people who need physchiatric help anxiety attacks as is the case with my mom and son over all your lies. Or ask people to leave their car keys behind to plant false evidence ! You been asked for a court date and time !! And not use forced and abuse people mentally in order to make your stiry fit better. Now im here !! I been waiting for a decent court date instead of having every single right yaken away in order to be harrased and forced to make a story that never happen fut ! I seen you when i was coming . I served one of you and anotger one just left. Why im i not getting the court date and tine and being brain washed instead ??
This is just too much work 😢
There's no magic bullet fix, but it's VERY achievable so dont get overwhelmed of discouraged.
Tim Fletcher's Channel is incredible. He talks in depth about every possible issue.
Codependency, Anger, Re-parenting [ie all the tools our parents should have taught us but didnt]... seriously everything
Once you have a firm understanding of how n why we do what we do you will feel so empowered to start implementing changes.
The first steps raising your awareness of the issues.
Just make a commitment to listen as often as you can, as consistently as you can.
I've made more progress in 3 months than I have in 20 years of therapy, so you can absolutely do it.
Good luck 💗❤️🩹💗
I need better homework
Its valid psychology but it has nothing to do with "The Bible".
Ugh...good until the Bible came into the picture. It's amazing how people can interpret the Bible to make it fit their filters.
,live and let live,aa
as you understand - aa .