Mom, I'm Not A Girl: Raising a Transgender Child | Cosmopolitan
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- Опубликовано: 28 июн 2024
- In Cosmo's first documentary, "Mom, I'm Not A Girl", a mother speaks about raising her son Penelope, who is anatomically female.
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"that's Penelope, he's 7."
"I'm 8."
+cadel_solo so oppressive and triggering of you to say that. what if he's trans-aged, u insensitive, regressive pearl-clutcher?
+ReviewsToPlaythroughs Do you even know what autism is? Apparently not.
ReviewsToPlaythroughs That's not what it means. If you're not trolling, please look it up and stop spreading such damaging words.
Brittany Hammington I like it, denial.
I laughed
Can we get into how GORGEOUS mother is.....
+tghetto5 that's an extremely disrespectful thing to say.
Fluffymint Awwwwwwwwww me sowie...
+tghetto5 that's also an extremely disrespectful thing to say. Congratulations
+Fluffymint What? How do you figure?
YES anything not to discuss the fact that this girl's mother is supporting get mental illness
This just makes me annoyed with my mom even more. How hard is it to love your kid
Ikr
same
Her house tho😍😍
mikalyne chikomo yeah. and she says theyre a "struggling family"
mikalyne chikomo beautiful! Very artistic and not what we typically see with a pure black family (I am black btw) as opposed to an interracial couple and that makes me very proud of them!
Jj Pelham Right?! I wish my struggle looked like that!
mikalyne chikomo Is His! Not "Her" dumb ass Liberal
This lady is sick a s f
Sorry but I'm absolutely mesmerized by their living space. It is so beautiful. I want to live there.
Really? living spaces? That is what you got out of this video? There is a special place in hell for sick fucks like yourself. Prepare to rot.
+tghetto5 dude. I'm trans. Chill out.
Oh, Sorry, I'm Trans as well and I thought you were being insensitive.
+tghetto5 nah man I just thought their living space was cool as fuck
Chase Bullock First of all, I resent you calling me "man" I am a beautiful black woman and it takes a special kind of ignorance to not immediately recognize that.
"he doesn't have to change his body if he doesn't want to. He's a boy regardless".
that was stunning.
I teared up when she said that. How amazing it is for a mother to feel that way and not think of him as a girl
yajo891 yes...
He shouldn't be allowed to change his body until he's 18
+steveharringtonismymom bitch
This is disgusting that you would allow a child to make this decision
“This is cashew, I like to call him depression” 😭
Ikr .... I really though I was hearing sh..... I mean stuff .... Although I love how she handles her family seems like a great bond .... We all want to get parenting correct if their is a such thing but wow even tho this video was interesting that comment stayed in my head the whole video .... Im stuck n im mother of 5boys/well men now and one girl/young woman now lol but they still my babies ....many blessings to this and every family
"I want a doctor to make me a peanut" Lmfao
LOL
JJDJAG
"I want the doctor to make me a peanut." - Penel 2k15 😂 he is SOOOO adorable.
@Great Lakes But it is...
@Great Lakes Well I guess I worship the devil for thinking it's cute to see a young child safely expressing himself in a way that makes him happy.
"Winners are losers that got back up
charlie lou Or, which could also be the case:
Winners are losers that got back-up.
We all need someone in our corner.
I LOVE this mother's unconditional love towards her children! 💓
"Accept happiness in any form", love it!!!!!
This is a seriously awesome mom. No questions asked, just complete and absolute acceptance from the moment her son told her.
dwindle which means her mom had mental illness great
dwindle 💯💯💯💯 agreed ❤️✨
When he was bassicaly still a baby and just learned to talk and says stuff
This is what you call a good mom
+julia .sx Totally
Amen to that
no its what you call a WORTHLESS MOM
+Anglea Baez By making her kid happy about her self. That in no way is worthless.
+Anglea Baez All she's doing is making her child happy. How is that "worthless"?
The mom is absolutely stunning 😍💕👑
Ms Londonlove that's a damn girl... Where are the boundaries these days...i bet great grandma would have been like hell no put that lil girl n a dress!
shes a girl periodT
^^^ All three of you are mad and guess who doesn’t give a fuck? ............. Peace and love 🤟🏾
Speak Truth Good, you shouldn’t. Waste of your energy writing shit to someone you doesn’t give a fuck and who you don’t give a fuck about.
Speak Truth Nice, you’re liking your own comments and being bitter. Hope it works out for you
when i was young, i thought i am boy because my mom wanted son. i started to realize that i am girl after 13....
That mom is gorgeous
u must be tweaking.
naomi oelkers and u is gay
Literally
She looks like a model... killer bone structure
Yes, I saw her and immediately thought she was so stunning!
I love the mother.... she is super supportive and BEAUTIFUL inside and out... way to go mom... And Penelope is going to be an awesome person no matter gender he is.. I love stories like this..
She really is! Another parent would have beat him or disown him
Tippy Jay ur a absolutely right and it good to show who you really are
@King Kong60 No, it's very supportive parents.
@@chlonichelle1982 not at 2 years old tho right?
He looks like a very happy boy. Very blessed having a great family that love him 100%.
What is missing from this documentary is the "male" role model's perspective. Hmm? While the beginning of the video shows the father in the picture, I would truly like to know how he feels about this.
Are you black?
I agree, and I’m Black.
I think he rather have a happy child than an unhappy child. He rather have a living child than a dead child who kills themselves from depression. I think this is what he may think. And I'm black!!!
YahshuaisKing I agree
@Instagram Ts_jazzmine imagine asking a simple question an getting this type of response lmao. It does matter. Especially at that age letting your child believe they are something that they arent smh.
A world where everyone can be who they are on the inside as long as its not physically harming anyone is okay and beautiful to me.
Righttttt!! :-) we are all humans after all :-)
well said!
+User Name lol
If you are using this view on trans people of it being a mental illness then the 'cure' for this 'illness' is acceptance and, far into the future if this little boy wants to, transitioning. Therefore your comment doesn't make sense.
rockobaracko I am sorry but there is no such thing as a boy or girl brains human we all have the same brain ( don't say a type of illness or disability because they are obviously ill) and also In my opinion Transgender-ism is fine as long as u don't change your body. I get that they might be depressed after seeing their body parts and realizing they are not Teh sex they want to be but is destroying your immune system and other organs worth Teh pleasure of feeling like Teh opposite sex ? Since they already feel like they are the opposite they should be content. A man cannot and never will be able to be a woman. Firstly they cannot have their dick castrated or they will die. And as for a woman does getting a dick sewn on automatically mean your a man? For a trans person is is not their choice to become Teh opposite sex because even if they do get all the surgeries done to have a partially female or male body does that does not make them a man or a woman. In alla truth we men and woman are the same in mind we all need the same things it's just that we have different bodies for different causes. A trans person is just being manipulated by his or her own mind because while they think they are the opposite sex how would they know they have never been that sex before nor will they ever be. I Don't know how society will thrive if if thinks that a woman wanting blue or white is trans or vice versa. Also pedophiles are in Teh wrong as the kids don't want it BUT if it is with the kids consent it's their choice but if it happens and Teh kid doesn't know what is happening so they agree and they don't like it Teh man or woman should immediately stop. If u have disagreements with my comment I'll happily address u as an individual but please refrain from being childish.
The fact that she said that Penelope is a boy REGARDLESS of wether or not he gets reassignment surgery is so, SO important. Because it's a very important message concerning all the gender non-conforming individuals out there, from trans people that don't elect to have the operation to boys with girls's bodies and everything in between, that it really isn't your sex that defines your gender.
People still have a hard time accepting that if a transgender person doesn't look like Laverne Cox or Aydian Dowling, they still "deserve" to have their chosen pronouns be respected... But that's exactly what it is about; by now it should be clear that the gender binary is a faulty concept and that everybody deserves to be gendered the way THEY choose to, wether they fit into YOUR conception of that gender or not.
So, a ridiculous amount of props to the mother for being so open and well-balanced on the subject. Her sons can be proud of her :)
And thank you Cosmopolitan for featuring this lady on your channel! You're awesome.
+segamai her daughters are proud of her too.
cherubicnerd I only saw her sons..?
segamai 25 secs in,a pic of all of her children are shown.
cherubicnerd Gotcha
Thank you so much for this!!
I think what she is doing is cool for now. But any permanent changes to his body should not happen until he is old enough to make those on his own.
This.
This guy knows what's up.
*fistbump*
even I, a trans guy myself, sort of want to wait? mostly because of legal reasons - trans people get into tough spots with parents and my family has made their standpoint clear - but also just so i can grasp the full permanence of hormones and what have you.
and yeah, it is sad. but, to be honest, what's sadder is that those parents are the ones who are abusive, either by being too free-willed or by being too strict.
though since i do know how this works biologically, i have to point out that trans men can still get pregnant, though it is fairly difficult. for straight trans men, it will be necessary to visit a sperm bank or something of the sort.
however, the suicide rate for our demographic is terrifyingly high, and i can vouch for this also through experience. letting a kid go through dysphoria and possibly kill themselves compared to them just regretting a few choices (some reversible) is the real topic of importance.
Don't bother replying if you don't understand how being trans works.
This isn't drag.
Yeah, anyone can transition socially. But medical transition will destroy your body if you don’t want it.
GhostlyJasper I have to admit I don't understand...I want to to... But after asking another student in school how/when did they know they were gay and getting cussed out, I don't question anymore. I just keep listening to people and hope I can get it
2:48 “I want the doctor to make me a peanut”
A mother speaks about raising her son Penelope, who is anatomically female.
Because her new son wants to be called as a boy
+Joseline Sanabria hey may kid when he was little wanted to be called different names includying from the animal kingdom I didn't go turn him into one of them simple as that shame on those parents absolutely disgusting. because we are supposed to guide them not play to any confusing thoughts and hey yeah lets do it join in. no it is sickening to me what they do in the name of love.
+Dewey Loveday preach
+Dewey Loveday how about u get your transphobic self off of RUclips and into the toilet with the other pieces of shit like you belong
Dewey and Angela what was going in your mind when you clicked this video "I hate trans people, oh look a video about trans people MUST CLICK"
this is just sad kids shouldn't be able to make these kind of decisions that can affect their entire life..
tbh all girls do this kinda shit when they are raised in a house full of boys...i can tell in the future when this mentally ill child see the way girls are treated he or she or whatever the fuck it is gonna have some deep depression
people literally form the concept of gender around like three.... there is no such thing as too young.
What he is doing right now won't effect the rest of his life, he isn't taking hormones and he may change his mind and be a girl
+Why u do this Actually, I was raised with 2 sisters and one younger brother. I'm ftm trans boy and my siblings aren't really the reason I'm even trans. It's just there and to be honest I'm a lot happier sincr I've realized i was transgender.
Courtney Smith
So being comfortable with your gender is an adult desicion? I smell bullshit.
Yes hunny. A black women that loves herself and in return loves her children. I love this. This is so beautiful.
How is that uncommon?
she’s so supportive of him. i love it
After all the hate comments I thought you were referring to him with she/her pronouns I was gonna get mad😂 so thank you for being one of the comments that are actually positive.
@@khoury6791 Bro feelings don't matter when it comes to this stuff. That child has female chromosomes. U cannot say i don't wanna be a woman and then change. U have to deal with what u were born as. Penelope is a girl.
She
he's going to be an artist one day.
Penel is such a cool name!
Indy Gogo trans people have a 40% suicide rate if she is really trans or not just going through a phase she is gonna be in a coffin sooner than others
The Powerpoint Master No
StopDropAndDance i said there was a 40% chance
XxCanadian CottonXx I’m not saying that’s gonna happen to her I’m saying that COULD happen to her sorry to be a party pooper
what a beautiful and understanding mother. job well done.
travis Bronson she has allowed her little girl to destroy her own life at a young age
+Ben Hoang how so? By allowing her kid to....NOT be depressed and sad and uncomfortable and frustrated and probably eventually kill themself? By allowing her kid to be happy and NOT hate and loathe himself and his body? Grow up.
travis Bronson my mom hits me when I say I’m trans 😭
Jordans Life well, your mom's a bigot (that can be used for trans haters right? I don't care). she clearly doesn't have the metal capacity to comprehend this. she sees the world through a metaphorical keyhole, and she doesn't bother to open the door, when she should. #support4thedescriminated
Jordans Life I’m so sorry... I wouldn’t know what to do, but I hope your mom understands... I’m really sorry...
I love when parents don’t like pressure their kids about their decisions and actually support them and they just want their kid to be happy that just melts my heart 💙🤟🏾
calesia dupree how do u know she didnt pressure her into being transgender.?
Jj Pelham well it seems like she didn’t
calesia dupree theres not actual evidence saying she did or didnt
Jj Pelham I’m not about to argue with you it was my opinion if I think she didn’t pressure her let me think it
Decisions... Riiight... Did she sit down w the kid at 4 (or two) and explain what risks he's taking on? "You'll still be a girl, technically, but we'll cut off your breasts and pump you with male hormones so you'll at least seem like a dude... This is for later on life... For now you'll just be living like a boy, knowing very well you're really girl... Maybe later I'll give you very little-researched and possibly dangerous puberty blockers..."
That would be her making a decision... Not "you say you're boy! You must be trans! No way it's anything else! How dare I even suggest we go to a shrink and figure out what is really wrong, like a phase an only daughter goes through wanting to blend in better, wanting to be a boy..." SMH
at about 3:38 -ish, my heart simply melted & tears came to my eyes...How could you not love these sweet little kids...What an absolutely, positively extraordinary Mother they have...God Bless this loving family...
She does not love them. She loves attention and this is the latest way for bored, lonely moms to get lots of attention very quickly..... by transing their kids and putting it on the internet.
Wayne, It's simply unhealthy to be as smug & judgmental as you...
I'm really sick right now and this honestly made me so happy. Your family deserves the best and I wish the best in life for Penelope❤️
TropicalDOGS are you better now?
TropicalDOGS I hope you feel better now ❤
Their house is beautiful, this mother is gorgeous, and their little boy is just an incredible kid. Tbh this family is so amazing and I hope I'm half a good a parent as she is.
Surviner if you felt like you are wrong and you don't want to be what you are and that you want to change, you would literally commit suicide if your parents didn't let you, basically ruining your life.
Katie McGowan girl*
SHF // ShadowHunterFi feelings change, your gender does NOT.
Jan Wright If only you could "love thy neighbour" and not use your religion as a defence. X
Katie McGowan GAYS CAN'T REPRODUCE, THEY HAVE TO RECRUIT.
You can tell she’s an amazing mother. Providing your child with an accepting, loving environment where they feel safe enough to be themselves is one of the most important things you can do ❤️
I felt feminine in Kindergarten and saw myself growing up as a woman but when it didnt happen I kinda let go of the idea. When I turned about 21 I saw a transwoman on tv transition at the age of 23 and looks so beauitiful. She helped me wakeup and realize its never too late to be yourself. :D your genitals dont define me as a woman I am a woman because I am. I may still be male and can never change that but I live life as the woman I am. For those saying they need to wait a grow up I slightly agree but I we were all children once. I remember the feminine feelings and traits I had and toys I inclined to and hkw depressing Id feel going clothes shopping with mom or cutting my hair and it not being long as the other girls. So children know. Its nature at work.
Hahaha be urself ? You are a MAN !
You were a man and your still a man . You will never be a woman. Your only a woman in your twisted mind . Seek help .
I am a 14 years old girl from Germany and when I was at the age of Penelopes, I looked like a boy too, I wanna be like my big brother and not like a rosy glitter girl. I find it very good that Penelopes mother say that Penelope didnt has to be a boy forever, that she say that Penelope can change her look when she when ever she want to change , I find this very good and clever because my mother said the same to me then and now I am dont look like a boy anymore , and my mother say that I am now more girly than my mother ever was and is. When I was younger I have never seen some childs like me and til now is Penelope the first children, I know who is a bit like me when I was so young.
I am sorry for my bad english... Hope you get what I wrote...
And one thing to you, Penelope, be strong and live your life like you want to live! Never hide yourself, you are perfect like you be! Good luck for your future!
Hey +MaryAnne, seine eigene Identität findet man selten an einer breiten, geraden Straße. Da geht man schonmal durch Büsche und auf Holzwegen entlang.
Die Frage ist doch: Wie merkt man ob man sich verlaufen hat?
Oder noch wichtiger: Ist das der richtige Weg?
Für Trans*-Menschen gibt es da einige endgültige Entscheidungen die nicht mehr rückgängig zu machen sind. Da fühlen sich diese Fragen ganz schön bedrohlich an. Für Cis-Menschen sieht das vielleicht auf den ersten Blick nicht so aus, aber im Endeffekt treffen Cis-Menschen jeden Tag große und kleine Entscheidungen die sie nicht mehr oder nur schwer Rückgängig machen können.
Schau mal, du nennst Penelope "she", "her" und "girl", und das sie "wie ein Junge" aussieht. Er, Penelope, besteht aber darauf, das er sich nicht "nur so fühlt" und dem entsprechend auch nicht "nur so aussieht", sondern eben einer ist.
Kannst du akzeptieren, dass er sich vielleicht anders entwickelt als du? Wünscht du ihm dann immer noch Kraft?
Was? Du kannst nicht Englisch oder warum fragst solche Quatschen?
I've not been talking to you.
I like your post, because it shows that this things change. That it has lots of reasons. And if parents don't accep or try to promote to much can lead to issues. Just let her be.
+Jeneke R. Ich wollte mit dem Post bloß sagen, dass es sich eben auch noch anders entwickeln kann und für mich war es die richtige Entscheidung, mich nicht operieren zu lassen bzw als Mädchen weiter zu leben! Ich habe nicht gesagt, dass es bei Penelope genauso laufen muss, wie es bei mir gelaufen ist, ich meinte bloß, dass es passieren kann! Und natürlich werde ich ihr, ihm immer noch Kraft wünschen wenn er, sie sich für das Leben als junge entscheiden würde, ich bewundere die Leute, die sich das trauen und ich werde die Entscheidung für die sich Penelope eben entscheidet voll und ganz akzeptieren wie auch respektieren!
Black love matters. Period.
Amen
What does that even mean...jesus.
+Jaden3459 transgender means being assigned a gender at birth due to your anatomy but being born with the brain of the opposite sex
Josie Sicheri ....I'm talking about the term "black love" because as far as I know, love is love and nobody ever said it didn't matter.
So does white love, Asian love, Mexican love, etc. Stop being ignorant.
No lie, when I was little I thought I was a cat and I used to crawl around. I still feel a little that way, somehow like a Tiger. It’s funny how you can latch onto things as a child.
Yeah, but not being a cat didn't cause you distress and depression.
@@petersaysthings who says I’m not a little bit part cat 🐅
Bro what ☠️
Most black families won't let this happen, but I'm happy she's accepting.
Tracey Wimberly she s lost, it shows she is not spiritually attached to God, she had let the evil society contaminate her
Great Lakes I accept it to a certain extent. I don't agree with permanent changes though.
Tracey Wimberly “most black families”...bitch what the fuck
Thank you, Great Lakes........
I have heard and read enough of this BS... If I have a child who will talk like this, I guess I will hold them tight and say, "Over the years, I will help you figure out what you feel and why... But I"m sorry, this is who you are... You are born this way for a reason... You cannot be a gender you weren't born, it's just not possible... But I love you and I will help you deal with what you feel inside, 'cause as of now, it's not making sense, but one day I"m sure it will.
She is a great mom!
Her apartment is beautiful.
Amanda Love
Brownstone.
I am just gonna say word that came to mind watching this: Beautiful, Happy, Great mother, Black mother, Joy, I dont know, Scary, Love, Time, Unconditional Love, I wish i had this, Affirmation, Validation, Intelligence, freedom, home, where's dad, the sky is the limit
+Diamond Stylz They were in the session we were at in Philly sitting towards the back.
Aeon Farr I felt like i had seen them before but just thought i was trippin....small trans worrld....something about seeing the kids like this and arents like this that make me feel all our work or trying to make a change is for them and it gonna be alright for them
+Diamond Stylz Yes ma'am she had on the hat and we there with her husband. The little boy was playing his game in the back. I believe things will get better. This up and coming generation of Trans Kids are going to make the world GAG!
+Aeon Farr
To clarify, Aeon meant "GAG!" in a *good* way. :-)
+Diamond Stylz your work? You mean Lucifer's work. You are a tool , the Devil's tool. Sex sex sex sex sex sex sex
This is so beautiful, absolutely love how supportive she is and accepting, it’s truly a wonderful thing to allow a child to be who they are freely, agree with all she said. Not to mention she is ridiculously stunning 😻😻 I love how parents are becoming more open minded for a lot of things now and to allow their children to express themselves the way they want, it’s real warming 🖤🖤 xx
The Mothers face sorta looks like an older version on Nicki Minaj
+Jacqui Kealy Of*
omg yess!
And she sounds like an older nicki minaj too
YASSSSSS
At first I didn't get it but now I realized it doesn't matter how's your child is born but if they feel their that gender and if they feel that's them then just love them like that and the love that the mother shows the child is really important it is good that she supports her child no matter what gender they are.Wow that was deep
something that strikes me odd about little kids with gender disphoria is that they instantly feel uncomfortable with certain clothes, as a little kid i was dressed with clothes that weren't girly but I never felt uncomfortable, I didn't felt that I couldn't do things because I was a girl and I grew up being more of a tomboy than girly but I still felt like a girl.
I wish there was a deeper research about it, it could be something in their brains or the environment in which they are raised
Brenda Luna understandably if you aren't experiencing it then it's hard to understand. I grew up as a tomboy and I am a transman. When I wore girl clothes I felt like I was looked at like a little girl and the boys didn't play football with me so I always wore boy clothes. Some people don't see it but clothes can change the way people treat you. When you aren't trans and you aren't trying to achieve this sense of "boyhood" you don't give it too much thought. I hope this maybe helps. Brenda Luna
Brenda Luna that is because you knew you were a girl and everyone else knew and respected that. That is not the case for trans kids, its not just about clothes
Raquel Maksoud you missed my point, a baby wears whatever the mom wants it to wear how does a little kid can feel uncomfortable wearing something because is of a certain color?
Brenda Luna Babies have no notion of clothes whatsoever. Kids do, they see men and women dressed a specific way everywhere, at school, on the TV etc. They go to the store and see two clothing sections: boys and girls. So its obvious a trans kid that is a boy would be very uncomfortable wearing clothes that were made for girls.
every trans story is different im transgendwred mate to female and I like being a boy and I love being a transwomen just being myself was enough for me the end
I absolutely love his mom. That's how parents are supposed to react to their child being transgender. That way they will grow up knowing they are loved and accepted by their most beloved ones. I also appreciate how she says that even if he doesn't undergo surgery later on in order to physically appear male he is a boy regardless.
Vivien Mai What if she feels this way because she is around boys mostly and like playing the games they play? And as a result, what if someone been putting these thoughts in her head? Most children who are abused have been by family members/trusted persons. The parents most times never know until late. I hope that this is not the case with her.
@@anitaphillip8772 If that is the case, the mother is still doing the right thing. Encouraging her kid to figure themselves out in a supportive space, where they won't be judged for wanting to explore themselves, rather than immediately deny everything and make your child seriously depressed and confused. It's not abuse to let your child learn and evolve openly. If Penelope decides they're female then great, good for them for exploring themselves. It's better than being bottled up and eventually killing themselves like a lot of questioning youth do when they are denied their right to express their feelings
She’s telling herself the things she wants to hear. Not being fully truthful. That’s that double speak and reality warping.
Penelope is so blessed to have a mother that accepts him.
Curious about the father's experience? Is there another interview with the father?
Well done Mum, for loving your child enough to respect his right to live the way he identify himself.
so a pre puberty gorl can now decide to be. a boy
Ben Hoang No
Ben Hoang nope female parts so hes not even a guy just a fugly girl haha 😂
the child is too young to know what's right for him or her ...
but i agree mom is wonderful
The kid looks well-dressed, groomed and happy, so I don't see any problem with this. While I agree that parents should not allow their children to make any permanent changes to their bodies while they're still young, I'm all for letting your kids express themselves by choosing their own hairstyles, clothes, pronouns, etc.
This was a real feel good video. I think its amazing how as a family they are running with this, never will this child hav confidence issues ..not with parents like those x Im glad you posted this video. I hope you and your family will be forever happy and content x
hope i don't sound racist, but it's pretty nice seeing an African-American family in a trans documentary. Most Black people i met do not accept lt or even try to understand it. And its nice too see some who care and feel compassion. Again not being racist.
I gotchu fam
Dude your right dont feel bad
+Justin Jerkoff I know what you mean. When is comes to LGBT+ related issues, they often focus on the effeminate, white, gay male. I appreciate that people wish to bring attention to LGBT+ issues, but there's more than just white, gay males in the LGBT+ community, so this is really nice to see.
not racist at all it is true
I'm black and I'm surprised
All I wanna do is be an artist & my mom own't even support me in this passion.
Greatest Supporting Mother Role goes to Penelope's mom..
Miillie Mesh this is different but hope you do become an artist.
You’re a truly kind, supportive person.
Awe my heart is touched 💖😍 my mom isn't supportive of LGBT+ n I'm in it I'm panromantic ( asexual ) n I'm Nonbinary but I can't tell my mom.... He's lucky to have a supportive family.
@SUPER EXTRAsixty look dont care about what other people do i think its a bit random but 1st off i dont know what its like feelig like im that(nor do you) 2nd off i just dont give a fuck we have the same opinion but like dont give a fuck
Random words u spilli out🤦♂️
Even if some people here don't want to see it or don't understand...
YOU ARE VALID! 💕
@@anariel2191 ☺️🤗
@King Kong60 Asexuals don't experience sexual attraction just romantic attractions, gender fluid is when someone's gender can shift from musculine to feminine. Just because you haven't heard of a term doesn't mean it doesn't exist.
I love that shes teaching him that hes a boy regardless of body alterations. Body positivity is important. Such a supportive mother.
I'm an early childhood major and today in class we actually watched this video and discussed it afterwards. I had to re watch it. I was on the bus heading home watching this video over and guess who sits next to me? The mom in this video along with her sons. She saw what I was watching and we discussed how teachers how teachers can serve all children better she was so kind hearted. It was really ironic
Mary J. Metayer YOUR KIDDING😱FOR REAL!?
And then everyone stood up and clapped
That mom is stunning
Name Nachname
And that's about it.
No not at all
Both the Mom and the house are stunning!
She is a perfect mother. Accepting and protecting your children also letting them grow and develop the good way.
Thank you Mrs we need more people like you... honestly
This is beautiful. I love my babies UNCONDITIONALLY, and I suspect that I have two sons instead of a son and daughter. My daughter has been showing signs of kind of intense dislike of the fact that she was born a girl. So IDK. Time will tell. She's very outspoken about her thoughts and feelings. whether she's my daughter OR son, I'll ALWAYS love and support her. Especially as I myself am a transwoman. So I "get it".
XY chromosomes=MALE
XX chromosomes=FEMALE
If you have a PENIS you're a MALE
if you have a VAGINA you're a FEMALE
You're being willfully ignorant now. Goodbye...
+Angela Kappes And what about Klinefelter syndrom with XXY? Or XYY? The world sometimes is not as simple as you wish.
This is the sad part. Parents start to form their own dogmas about these things and then they start "suspecting" their children are transgender because it's what they want to see because it's the new cool thing to support. Another identity to latch on to and talk themselves up about. "I'm such a forward thinker, I imposed transgender identities on my children and now I'm here to fully support it like the loving liberal mom I am."
Later on subconsciously they are encouraging it, which is going to cause even more confusion in a young girl than encouraging femininity would.
No I'm not actually. And I'm certainly not "mentally ill" Sir. If I were, I wouldn't have full custody of both of them, AND my adopted son. I also wouldn't have been made a military sniper. So fail sweetums.
She, possibly he, figured this out all on her/his own.
Regardless of the choice, I'll always love and support all 3 of my kids.
Shit. i want a mom like her... Shes awesome.
This is how our community flourishes, acceptance, understanding and support. Love this! The journey won't be easy mama, but things will fall into place.
Love how supportive his mom is
What a beautiful regular family! Penel is a cool name!. This mum's doing an excellent job raising her kids!
Wow, the way she worded everything is amazing; insightful and eloquent. Truly I inspirational, I wish them all the best xx
Parents like her are so important! What an amazing video.❤️
I can’t imagine how confused the mom felt but I’m glad love conquered the situation no matter what the outcome is In her child’s life love is the most important.
She is an AWESOME mom!! Your mom is supposed to love you unconditionally,,:)
What u say? Love u all when ur falling in a ditch or over a precipice so long as "it's what u want"?
I agree, some mothers or parents would disown their child if they tried to come out as anything really.
If a mom loves her child she needs to correct them 😁
G-Ma X a mum should correct a child if it is doing something wrong
Unconditional love does not mean "do whatever you want".
I don't know why people confuse tom girls with transgender boys. It's a very different thing. I was a tom boy but never once did I feel uncomfortable in my body or with my gender. Transkids feel literally uncomfortable in their own skin.
Also I hope the mom changes her mind on the hormone bit. She's awesome and how I wish all parents were....but if he starts going through girl puberty that can lead to another whole host of horrible mental and physical issues for him to deal with.
Yeah, I know the difference too well...
I have always been kind of boyish and I have been lucky, that my family let me do whatever I want. I have been wearing boys clothes and hanging out with the boys all my life but only when I started puberty, I actually started to feel uncomfortable. I started to bind with all sorts of things, without even knowing what binding was. I thought, all this boyish acting was getting to me and "brainwashing" me but turns out, I'm actually trans so yeah...
Honestly I agree with this narrative for a lot of trans men but I didn't feel that skin crawling dysphoria until puberty. I think it was then I fully realized I was different, not just a Tom boy, but I didn't fully come to terms until a few years ago. Whenever I see things like this it makes me so happy for those kids, that they won't have to go through what I had to.
Not to mention that if he goes thru female puberty he'll be a boy with breasts and a period. If later in life he opts for surgery his breasts will have to be surgically removed.
mechellemybell1000 Growing up, I was raised around boys, never knew any girls, there was a point in my life where I was uncomfortable with my body, and didn't really class myself as a "girl" -- Didn't class myself as a boy either, but the thought of being female was very unsettling and uncomfortable to me. I grew up, and now I love being a woman and wouldn't have it any other way. I think it's wrong to let kids label themselves early on.
In my opinion, don't let kids make any rash decisions before they're a young adult. If my parents let me have it my way, I'd have undergone surgery to become a pony or something.
+CLR Buong - what you're describing is very different from being transgendered. You didn't KNOW you were a boy.
And this kid isn't making a rash decision. Fact is, he isn't making a decision at all. He's just living his life as a boy and his parents have accepted that.
Nothing "medical" has been done and won't be done until he approaches puberty. At that point, if the situation remains unchanged and he (and his parents and the team of doctors that evaluate someone like him) all agree he'll be put on hormone blockers. All these do is delay the onset of puberty - they're widely used in cases of precocious puberty and the effect is completely reversible - simply stop taking them and puberty restarts as if nothing had happened. That gives him additional time (years actually) to decide if he wants to proceed with cross sex hormones (which won't be administered until sometime in his teens) and surgery can't be performed before age 18 in any case.
such relevant stories are so important to be in the media, thank you cosmopolitan because this is a revelation.
what an incredible mother
God forbid kids can be kids and allowed to have imaginations and make-believe without being labeled, diagnosed, and dosed by attention seeking parents and assorted kooks.
it's a real medical condition tho, look it up its called gender dysphoria I believe
+Cassidy Wright if a kid gets distracted allot you take them to a doctor to see if they have ADD.
If they don't socialise at all and refuse to make eye contact, you get them checked by a professional for Autism.
You don't take a single interaction from a 2 year old and assume they have a mental condition.
Many girl's who are tomboy's say they are boy's, then when puberty kicks in at 12 their girly side takes over.
I can't help but feel that his mother is a bit of an attention seeker and wears this as a status symbol.
Also, he has a Mohawk... It seems his mother likes to give in to his childish whims for attention.
Adam Boyd OK...well that's your opinion.
john god is dead.
Johnny Boy Why are you so hateful toward God & religion? This is your second comment I've read, jeez.
Spread love & understanding.
The mom looks very educated
This video vlog is just BEAUTIFUL!. You are the epitome of what a mother should be. I think that it is FANTASTIC that you are allowing all your children to be happy children first and foremost. If/ or when your transgender son transitions (i.e if/or when he is older) I envisage that he will be forfilled and happy as he is now. I agree with you also, whether he is female on the outside, he is male on the inside; ultimately it's what he feels not anyone else that counts. Your family is just beautiful!
I just love how Penelope’s mother radiates kindness, strength and compassion. Penelope is lucky to have her and I’m glad he gets to be raised in a household that is accepting and understanding!!
this is sort of off but they have such a nice place lmao
Sydney Denise especially in Brooklyn! U know how much a place like that costs out there??
da biz 1 million dollars lol
Girl I was thinking the same thing! Bedstuy has some beautiful homes .. brown stones to be specific.
Coming4yourComments lol
I hope this family continues to thrive! Great parenting.
Just saw this now… is there any update on how Penel and family are doing in 2023?
What an amazing mother
Lama Shalabi yeah, I wish they would change her name from Penelope though...
This mom is amazing for immediately accepting and loving Penelope as a boy.
i so wish this was longer!
Best mom ever! Obviously love your kids first! What an amazing family you’ve created & continue to create!
Love Love Love!
I wish that my family was this supportive about trans people :(
oh my goodness can i just be adopted into their family??
i wish every mom was like this! She's so accepting! :) Glad we have some people like this in the world
This video was so beautiful. Me and my fiancé praise the mother and family for being so supportive.
His mother is going to have a rude awakening when he gets to puberty
First of all, I love all of your kids names! They're really cool! Second of all, why can't more families be this accepting? The world would be so much of a better place
Surviner For intolerant, narrow-minded douchebags like you? Sure.
travguy56 yes let me accept that my baby girl thinks she's a boy. Nah I'm good. You're a girl and will always be a girl.
XxPOLARBEARxX_17 No wonder so many trans people attempt suicide because of the lack of acceptance from their parents... Guess a dead ‘girl’ is better than a happy, living boy.
They are rich
This was very enlightening. I'm curious about her husband's thoughts? Thanks for sharing.
I’m watching this in 2019 .... where is the update ??
I was really scared to look in the comments afraid of seeing transphobia like in other videos but all I see is support and love :)
sleepysamm sorry ..but not everybody agrees with this. there is something wrong with this child and the solution is not to give her what she wants but to pray for her. God can heal her of this disease.
sleepysamm if you don't agree, just leave (: honestly, in saying it for the benefit of you, all that hate is not good. just try to be positive and do things you love (: have a great day x
Lucia Tat umm... what disease?
sleepysamm I see a sad situation she is a girl period.
flaminga mahinga Probably because this is a real video that clearly shows that things like transgender are real. It's not like feminist videos where they identify as "I am a boy but on wednesdays when I eat a Snickers bar I am a girl".
What a great mother. She will need to start thinking about puberty soon though.
I'm so so so proud of this lady for the way she is handling her family 🥰🥰🥰🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Wait so the child was born a girl wow I thought the child was a lil boy already 🤷🏾♂️🥰🥰
I think you missed the video. Please watch this one more time. I'll help you out- He IS a BOY.
Jensen yes, but not biologically
It depends on what you consider to be of prevalence when it comes to biology- the body or the mind.
Me too lol I was confuse I thought he wanted to be a girl and that’s why , they were calling him Penelope
@@IceyMinaj Bological sex doesn't determine gender identity.
No seriously this woman is mom goals 100%
I love how she treats all her kids and accepts them as they are and that she supports them what I think should be normal as a parent but there are still so many preconceptions about people with different sexuality but we're all human and I think in this modern world we live in this shouldn't be a problem anymore no matter who you like or who you wanna be.
I revist this video just for her home. It's everything!
I wish my mom was like this when I was a child, most kids now adays get to start hormone blockers just in case they might not be trans but when I was younger I had to deal with going through puberty and now having to deal with more surgery in the future. Hormone blockers are worth it, especially to save your child from a top surgery in the future which costs around 8k!
its what the mother wants not the child, the child is seeing her brothers in boys clothes that's what the influence is ,
stop talking from your ass and use your fucking brains
Jana Roos a little kid doesn't know any better , of course the kid is influenced by her brothers, this is terrible parenting, give the child time to grow . the mother is ruining the child's future, its just a phase and the mother is going to the extreme to change her daughter, this is fucked up and shouldn't be allowed, that's why this is on the rise, the child should decide when she's old enough to make decisions for herself, this is basically making the child make choices for themselves when they are not even mentally maturely developed to .
im not saying I don't agree with people who transition im saying this is way to early. you use your brain because this is the most logical sensible decision.
+Fay Angel she said of he wanted to be a girl again he can so no i think she's an amazing acceping mother yoh could learn from her
Jana Roos she's too young to make such a huge decision, its a phase she's going through and if the mother didn't do what she did the girl would have probably grew out of it eventually and if not then fine she can transition when she's older no problem, the mother isn't amazing , the mother is forcing this upon her child, if she had 2 sisters im sure she wouldn't want to change .
Amanda Johnson of course its a decision, everything we do in life is a decision, you decide you want to transition and take hormones ect.
Wonderful mother.