For the folks saying that someone ghost you bc they’re not into you. LIES. It’s like applying for a job and getting nervous or insecure and not showing up for the interview. Ghosting is like not going to a class anymore bc you’re failing or not doing well. Ghosting comes from a space of getting ahead of the fear or rejection. Men are opportunists so if they think they’ll do well and that you fill their ego, they will not ghost you but if you’re intimidating or if they feel they can not fulfill your standards they will ghost bc they fall short, it’s about insecurity.
That's what you telling yourself to feel better. Men don't think on those things. He ghosted bc he was just not that into you or someone else caught his attention. When a man into you, he can barely spend a day without seeing you or hearing your voice.
That is really helping me understand my children’s father. He hurts me all the time like that - things will be going great and then as soon as I bring up him needing to fully commit and be my PARTNER, he will ghost me.
Lady Karma ALWAYS makes her rounds if not to the person who did the ghosting, someone they love, like their sister, or their niece etc. Universal Law is real!
@@donnadonaldson254 RED FLAGS are called blatant LIES.. people do not always know when they are being LIED to... Trusting an unknown LIAR is a big issue , not a red flag to me...
Men who ghost and do it frequently have a dismissive avoidant attachment and usually have severe childhood trauma. No sane person would use this tactic if they are emotionally healthy. They would just say ..." Thanks, you seem wonderful, but I am no longer interested."
The purpose here is to punish her before she punishes me I will ghost if I have to don't hate the player hate THE GAME and THE GAME is ugly someone's feelings have to get hurt and won't be mine... I ain't going to chase or pursue someone whose not showing the same interest that I'm showing "cause I have to get to know her" fuck that I'll kick her ass to the curb without hesitation I really feel sorry for these closed minded beta male simps.
The disturbing part is how man men actually are dysfunctional in this way. The excuse is that they don’t want to hurt a woman . They could care less. They are generally keeping her emotionally on hold in case their urge tells them they need a quickie. In the meantime , they are. juggling other women.
I was ghosted for the first time a few weeks ago. I still don’t know what happened or why he ghosted me. Our connection for me was strong. But I’m moving on with a little bit of hurt feelings. Thank you gentlemen for your honesty and making this video.🙏🏼💞👍🏽
I think ghosting is a cowardly act! Be a man or a woman and let these folks know the real deal. Stop leaving them in the dust with no closure and express how you really feel! It is what it is 🤦🏾♀️
😂I think most men ghosts because they still want to have sex with you. And he is Married or in a relationship with someone else. It’s a punk ass way to keep her on the simmer.
All of a sudden after 6 months everyday he would call FaceTime the day we got together the next day after he received a phone call he ghost me this is the second time it happened so now I’m done
Seriously, men don’t move from feelings nor emotions. They move from their urges. If only most women would realize this. Men who ghost are cowards who really weren’t ever involved . Time wasters!
Yup!😂 Exactly.....this very thing happened to me last week and unbeknownst to him I'm already chatting with someone else by the time he decides to come back I've already BEEN gone 😂😂😂
It’s quite pitiful to pursue a woman only to ghost her in the end. I rather you tell me you’re not interested but hey God will never leave you ignorant He’s always a keeper of your soul and heart.
Ghosting is cowardly period!! And it says more about the person doing it. Even if you’ve been on one date. Let them know! Give people basic kindness and respect. We call to cancel things as simple as hair appointments. But we can’t show basic human kindness when it comes to dating and where feelings could be involved. Horrible, this is a selfish arrogant world , fkn SAD!!
Yes I can't believe what I am reading. You don't owe a person an explanation. And anything equivalent to that. I mean what happened to basic humanity? Maybe I am to sensitive. But like the one guy mentioned person showed interest only to disappear. Is wrong, I have been ghosted. Granted I didn't go into a meltdown. But it effed with my psyche a little. I don't think anyone needs the reason. But just hey we aren't a match. Thats it.
If a person gets ghosted without a valid reason the person doing the ghosting lacks maturity, they don’t want to take accountability and it is a cowardly act
GHosting is when you had a relationship with a person and suddenly cut off. Not dodging or rejecting a person's advances. Also not breaking up. Ghosting is way more malicious then an uncomfortable rejection. JS
Most women move from emotion. They need and desire some form of closure. Ghosting is primarily a male act of cowardice. A lurking man who finds a high standard woman will ghost as punishment because he cannot abuse her as he has done others.
@@chamboyette853 In real life situations men do tend to ghost if she doesn’t meet his agenda. Men move from their sexuality first. If he then finds a really good woman he’s attracted to beyond sex alone he may find a silly reason to ghost her because he is not looking to be a better man .He knows there are plenty of low -esteem women who will tolerate any conditions he dishes out just the way he is. .
I feel you on this @ Yolanda I was too but I thank God for being a keeper. Oftentimes the person that ghosts always say how real they are when realistically it’s cowardly
Ghosting is emotional abuse, plain and simple. It is never acceptable, but even more unacceptable if someone is leading the other on by actions and words and there has been some time in dating, and there was a discussion about monogamy. That makes it worse. It is a choice someone makes to mistreat someone. And there isn't anything funny about the subject. There are a few exceptions: If you went out with someone 1 to a few times. And secondly, if it is for safety reasons meaning someone acted inappropriately. Then they don't deserve a reason why you aren't replying
Often people ghost and it has nothing to do with you. We all have demons no one else can see and we sometimes move through the world, not showing up as out best selves. If people don't show up how you want, have compassion and move on, no words, no drama, just understanding that whatever happened was outside of their ability to communicate.
Ghosting shows Emotional Immaturity period!! Remember most Women connect emotionally sooner than men do, so even if you were not intimate, but were in a long term emotional relationship, direct communication is always better. A woman of value usually waits to build an emotional connection before giving a guy everything. So ghosting is ghosting - regardless if the connection was emotional and/or intimate! Just be Real Y'all and Communicate directly!! Don't take the cowardly way out...don't be that Dude, Man Up. This shows respect, maturity and emotional stability. In the long run there is less damage done. Leaving things unfinished hurts way more than to be told "This is just not working". Ghosting is disrespectful, leaves things unfinished and solves nothing. It simply reflects poorly on the Ghoster and his or hers inadequacies.
If a guy isn't a good communicator it's because he chooses not to be. Many of the reasons for ghosting presented were rooted in selfishness. Take the high road and be honest instead of making excuses leaving a trail of broken hearts. And if you don't want her long term don't lead her on to sleep with her and then ghost. That's utterly disrespectful and shows low integrity and poor character.
It's a sad state of affairs because social media has encouraged less intimacy and allows people to be disconnected. It has enabled people to be flaky, lazy and not put in the work to have a solid relationship on both sides. Not only intimate relationships just relationships in general. Some people will answer a text before they answer a phonecall. Hell people hardly make eye contact anymore We're void of connecting on a deeper level and this is why people are so disconnected today. There's no BOND. Ghosting doesn't let people down easy it's really a cop-out for people who don't wanna deal with difficulties. Sadly, we live in a microwave society and we so easily drop what doesn't feel good🥴
anyone who will "ghost" another is really a "ghost" themselves... they do not truly exist as a genuine person... They are Cowards who don't have the courage to be truthful ! if they had been real, they could be respectful enough to be honest... and these guys are laughing it up! their BAD... GROW UP...
He made me feel and open up when he know it was hard for me. He talked about marriage and our future. Then sudden Everything was good he ghosted, left me with trust issues and broken heart. He ignored didnt respond anything. I leaved in style. But i never let someone treat me like this. So 4 months later i catfished him, made him like me a lot. And i did Everything he did and sudden ghosted the same. Let him feel same stress and confusion. He was hurt and i hope he learned a big lesson!!! (Your welcome )
@anoniem4534 😂😂😂 This was funny what goes around comes around, sometimes I do believe in fight Fire with Fire 😂 because some things on earth you do have have to handle on your own 💯 these Beans are weird
If a man persues a woman and has conversations for months , he needs to just stop wasting her time if he is not interested beyond friendship. A high value woman wants a relationship, not a new time waster. He ought be man enough to have a conversation stating they are not going beyond friendship. Men who say they feel they don’t need to create closure are not worth the time .
17:55 is some high school mess. Grown men using women for their bodies and ghosting are the WORST. If you sleep with her EVEN ONCE, communicate that you are moving on.
Whatever the excuse is that boys in adult male bodies use for why they do or have ghosted someone, it just confirms how immature, irresponsible, and how unmanly they are. So called men who ghost women, are definitely NOT KINGS. Thank God that there are still some wholesome, loving, and confident men around, who really want to represent themselves as kings, and date with intention because they are looking for their queen, not just out to create more 'soul ties.' It is apparent that too many men have no real understanding of what their connection is supposed to be, in relation to THE MOST HIGH. Therefore, and unfortunately, there are too many incidences of grown boys, who are like lost sheep, looking for what they can't handle, because they don't have the tools, nor do they even know that who they truly are, and that they lack the tools. Real KINGS don't play immature games with the lives of someone that they're really interested in getting to know. By the way, it's a two way street. Women who practice to ghost are equally irresponsible and childish. When someone shows you this type of disrespectful behavior, take it as them showing you a bit of who they really are, and store it in your memory bank. Then, be graceful and grateful for the learning experience, and move on. Focus your energy on self improvement, a new hobby, someone or something worth your consideration. know and believe that you deserve better. Next please! :D
I believe it comes down to Maturity. There are certain things that Maturity birth forth, just as there are certain things that Immaturity births. Until we can learn how to communicate and be courageous enough to be honest with others, we do a dis-service to ourselves as well as to others.
I appreciate & and thank you brothers for being transparent and keeping it real! I truly hope that more women will take the time to listen to and learn from this. Women, stop giving your bodies to men who you’re telling yourself that sex will make him want you more. Keep your legs closed...
If you been dating someone for 6 months and if they decide to move on then I he needs to be man enough to say so. This way she have a clear understanding to not bother him and move on too. Best closure ever! Before they ghost
It appears the more options one has, the more ghosting could occur. One who does not like confrontation, it appears ghosting could occur. Ghosting is a form of escapist behavior. Voluntary removal should be welcomed, when one does not have interest. May be protected from something.
People ghost for many years,disappear, disconnect not connect,not vibing.It comes from alot of things hurt when people get hurt they don't want to be bothered.It's spiritually.Sometimes people just don't like you .Ghosting abandonment it has it's root's,cold shoulder, avoidance .They just don't want to be bothered etc.
Ghosting is when they rarely call you , contact you or communicate in any way but they have not removed themselves from the relationship. IE social media, WhatsApp- they are still in the background and they haven’t removed themselves from those communication.
Communication is key! Just tell her what’s going on! Ghosting is malicious and cruel. Deal with it. Tell her or him why you are stopping the communication. If you end the relationship after you get what you wanted, don’t call or text and initiate another date and then Vanish! That’s just the worst. Like opening up a healing wound!
Some men get aggressive and violent when a woman says- “I don’t want to give my phone number”. This needs to be discussed. It’s likely a small number overall- but it’s hard to tell who would become that way. This might also play some role in ghosting online.
Y’all spent 30 minutes talking around the issue but not addressing it. This panel was sad and shows the lack of accountability from so many men - good Lord. The times we are in are frightening!
Ghosting let’s me know you lied ur intentions were never pure and I’m my case he wanted a women who do listen and says he’s right.At his age I thought he was more mature and secure in his life.I’ve moved on in my heart but my mind constantly says why🤔It’s okay though bc you can’t do good women wrong and think ur life will be right
Ghosting don't bother me, and if I say it does..I'm lieing; Ghosting I have done it and likewise ..it has happened to me and (without any) sexual involvement of any kind. When I was ghost👻 my out look was simply that any further involvement or investment in the relationship it just wasn't meant to be period; so I kept it moving end of story.
Cowardly behavior for both sexes, it should be about considering the other person's feelings even if it was just one date.....after a date recently, I was honest and mature and I expressed to him the next day that there was no connection for me, and I wished him well in finding a wife, for me a clear conscience is a Beautiful thing, I have no desire to pretend, or waste a gentleman's time, it's rude and inconsiderate especially nowadays..... life is Beautiful and fleeting, Blessings to all.
this notion of circumstantial 🤷♀️ Ghosting: if there is a concern of a “Behavior Health” reaction or Safety here’s a great way to complete that lose tie: “hey listen, we not a match . however, i wish you well on getting the love you want.” respect the conversation or you have to the text… far more then abandoned, being ignored and the categories that pop up for people when they process being ghosted
You know what? No one at that table mentioned “Love”. I thought that was kinda weird. Seams like men just forgot how to how to really value each women they meet. Let’s really talk at the table. First of all. You should of had some women there to defend ourselves at the table!!!! .
@19:33 mins in! Also the general vibe here is decent as hell. Let’s talk about how we value each other. Also it’s integral, even if on tinder… we are humans and have dignity. You spend time… I agree Intimacy is arrange respect, enough to just have a talk.
he ghosted me. Im mad at him, but im especially mad at myself. I saw the red flags. The way he would breadcrumb me,t he way he would push and pull, The way towards the end he would laugh at me after he returned from ghosting me, the way he would get an energetic boost from rejecting me, and how jealous & insecure he would get when other men talk to me to the point he would give me the silent treatment. So one day i prayed to GOD "Please, GOD im not strong enough to walk away from this man i care too much for him. If hes not for me just let him stop coming around or remove him from my life." The next 3 days was great on the 4th day it was his own jealousy that he didnt want to deal with me anymore. I apologized even though it was no fault of mine. He diasppeared and i havent seen him in 3 months. And although im fustrated and mad; had I paid attention to the flags i wouldnt be in this perdictament. What i did learn from this is the next time i see even red flags im gone.
Hold up. You can’t compare them. Statistically, the “deliberate” action of disappearing is rampant today. Getting stood up was a term, but very rare in comparison to today. I think we can all agree to that. It’s awful today. You can’t be in communication and be a friend and then deliberately refuse to interact with the same ‘ease’ of giving a wrong number as we do now. What I mean by ease, is that if you got stood up, or the number was wrong, you really didn’t know the person anyway. With only phones and face to face, ppl weren’t able to be as invested. Now ppl are just downright broken in their disrespect. Please don’t gloss this over. Ok, back to listening.
I've definitely ghosted because some people can't take no for an answer just as you talk yourself out they try to talk u back in but now I let u know up front
Ghosting works. After you get tired of carrying dead weight, you no longer have nothing to say. Women will ghost you and laugh about it. Get ghost fellas. It works , it reclaims your power and respect. Cut off all ties , no conversation needed. She’s knows why you left. Trust me
If either stop calling it purposely hurting the other person badly. It hurts way worse than telling the dang truth. In grown I can take. THE PERSON WHO BOASTS IS NOT A GROWN WOMAN OR WORSE A GROWN MAN.
Not one man said it's because he does not have the ability to have a conversation. Granted it does not require some sit down. But if nothing else, I am moving on. And anyone man or woman is dead wrong if it was going "good" and you don't want to continue.
@6:33..thank you that's the definition!!!!!!y'all need to stop acting dumb..dude in the red said a ghost you cant see he started talking about a white ghost stop playing🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Ghosting is the best way to not get falsely accused. Step 1. Ghost her Step 2. Wait till she sends you messages about how she misses you and wants to see you again. Step 3. Breath a sigh of relief.
I’m sorry but it’s rude to not answer a few questions for her when you’re dating and you don’t owe it. Come on. Dude in the red hat is not deep. He’s playing the selfish card. Sorry but we’re giving you feedback. Yes, humans deserve a response. Be an adult.
How technology has changed our ways of doing everything... In my generation growing up,,,IT was the bomb... Everyone memorized people phone number,,, looking for some chump change to call your boyfriend on the nearest public phone... Playing handball,,, watching each other back with LOVE... No HATE... Ghosting has ALWAYS been around,,,just a new name... If a man ghost 👻 you,,,he's just NOT IN TO YOU... Leave it alone and keep it moving...! Time is PRECIOUS 💗...
Ok, so they are not interested and dont know how to say that. So this is one of the reasons and they dont know how to say that, then ghost. Then why do they watch all your stories???? Ur not interested in me, but watching all my stories... why is that??...
Can ya'll get to the damn point... we dont need a definition.... WHY DO YA'LL DO IT.... WHY SAY SHIT AND THEN DISSAPPEAR... that was the topic. Ya'll goin in circles omfg, i cant even watch no more.
You cant laugh out so loud cause it sound too high in my earphones, its like you hit me inside my head, otherwise i like your videos, its great that you can laugh about this subject that is not fun at all
Men can think and interpret relationships as if the woman wants more than friendship and then ghost her based on what he thought -poor , no communication especially when all she said was she wants to be friends. Women aren’t the only ones with active and overly emotional thought processes.
Oh my god what a beautiful guys you are gorgeous beautiful God bless you man God bless you I love you sure I love your channel keep give us educated you know we are women and we have to know what’s going on with the men because we have a brother kids you know thank you so much for the beautiful beautiful sure you have and say thank you for your gas💕❤️❤️❤️🌹🌹🌹
"The biggest coward is a man who awakens a woman's love without the intention of loving her." - Bob Marley
Oh my goodness yes love this
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🌟 I don't ghost & I never would' if someone ghosts or uses silent treatments then let them stay silent & let them stay ghost.
He was a genius
Bob never said this 😂😂
I think it's a punk ass move especially if you've been spending time with that person. Either way feelings will be hurt, just be upfront.....
Agreed
The men that ghost have no communication skills and are emotionally immature.
For the folks saying that someone ghost you bc they’re not into you. LIES. It’s like applying for a job and getting nervous or insecure and not showing up for the interview. Ghosting is like not going to a class anymore bc you’re failing or not doing well. Ghosting comes from a space of getting ahead of the fear or rejection. Men are opportunists so if they think they’ll do well and that you fill their ego, they will not ghost you but if you’re intimidating or if they feel they can not fulfill your standards they will ghost bc they fall short, it’s about insecurity.
Good word
That's what you telling yourself to feel better. Men don't think on those things. He ghosted bc he was just not that into you or someone else caught his attention. When a man into you, he can barely spend a day without seeing you or hearing your voice.
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Lots of men are getting ghosted too😮
This is very well said on some of the reasons why ghosting happens along with cheating and/or finding someone else that will fulfill that ego
That is really helping me understand my children’s father. He hurts me all the time like that - things will be going great and then as soon as I bring up him needing to fully commit and be my PARTNER, he will ghost me.
Men who ghost shall be ghosted one day! KARMA!!!!
Yes men definitely get ghosted as well
Lady Karma ALWAYS makes her rounds if not to the person who did the ghosting, someone they love, like their sister, or their niece etc. Universal Law is real!
Not into karma. We always get the red flags. We choose to disregard it.
@@donnadonaldson254 RED FLAGS are called blatant LIES.. people do not always know when they are being LIED to... Trusting an unknown LIAR is a big issue , not a red flag to me...
Men who ghost and do it frequently have a dismissive avoidant attachment and usually have severe childhood trauma. No sane person would use this tactic if they are emotionally healthy. They would just say ..." Thanks, you seem wonderful, but I am no longer interested."
Very clinical
The purpose here is to punish her before she punishes me I will ghost if I have to don't hate the player hate THE GAME and THE GAME is ugly someone's feelings have to get hurt and won't be mine... I ain't going to chase or pursue someone whose not showing the same interest that I'm showing "cause I have to get to know her" fuck that I'll kick her ass to the curb without hesitation I really feel sorry for these closed minded beta male simps.
The disturbing part is how man men actually are dysfunctional in this way. The excuse is that they don’t want to hurt a woman . They could care less. They are generally keeping her emotionally on hold in case their urge tells them they need a quickie. In the meantime , they are. juggling other women.
@@debsmith2789
It’s typical narcissistic behavior. Karma will get them eventually.
@@arrowheart76 No. Very amateur.
I was ghosted for the first time a few weeks ago. I still don’t know what happened or why he ghosted me. Our connection for me was strong. But I’m moving on with a little bit of hurt feelings.
Thank you gentlemen for your honesty and making this video.🙏🏼💞👍🏽
Ghosting leaves an individual feeling insecure about themselves. They may also do the same to others.
This has happened to me honestly.
I think ghosting is a cowardly act! Be a man or a woman and let these folks know the real deal. Stop leaving them in the dust with no closure and express how you really feel! It is what it is 🤦🏾♀️
Gtfo
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How do you tell someone she has bad breadth?
Ghosting is simply an action showing they JUST WASN'T INTO YOU!!!
Mic drop
😂I think most men ghosts because they still want to have sex with you. And he is Married or in a relationship with someone else.
It’s a punk ass way to keep her on the simmer.
And that they’re a coward who led you on and lied! You forgot that part.
All of a sudden after 6 months everyday he would call FaceTime the day we got together the next day after he received a phone call he ghost me
All of a sudden after 6 months everyday he would call FaceTime the day we got together the next day after he received a phone call he ghost me this is the second time it happened so now I’m done
Seriously, men don’t move from feelings nor emotions. They move from their urges. If only most women would realize this. Men who ghost are cowards who really weren’t ever involved . Time wasters!
What’s funny is sometimes men ghost and think they in power or control but the woman doesn’t even notice and already chatting to someone nice 😂😂😂
Yup!😂 Exactly.....this very thing happened to me last week and unbeknownst to him I'm already chatting with someone else by the time he decides to come back I've already BEEN gone 😂😂😂
@joangordon8225 but you still under the why men ghost video haha ookkk
It’s quite pitiful to pursue a woman only to ghost her in the end. I rather you tell me you’re not interested but hey God will never leave you ignorant He’s always a keeper of your soul and heart.
Ghosting is cowardly period!! And it says more about the person doing it. Even if you’ve been on one date. Let them know! Give people basic kindness and respect. We call to cancel things as simple as hair appointments. But we can’t show basic human kindness when it comes to dating and where feelings could be involved. Horrible, this is a selfish arrogant world , fkn SAD!!
Yes I can't believe what I am reading. You don't owe a person an explanation. And anything equivalent to that. I mean what happened to basic humanity?
Maybe I am to sensitive. But like the one guy mentioned person showed interest only to disappear. Is wrong, I have been ghosted. Granted I didn't go into a meltdown. But it effed with my psyche a little.
I don't think anyone needs the reason. But just hey we aren't a match. Thats it.
Lol 😂 that’s why my legs 🦵 are closed, I have no problem 😉 I hold the power.
@@yeahthatsme921 Its a completely wrong move if you ask me. Even if I wasn't talking to someone else, someone else can pop and it just flows
That part
I agree with you over a zillion percent. I have no energy nor time to waste with anyone who doesn't deserve my time, nor my energy.
@@whatdoiknow1292 yet, here you are baby
@@mohicanmowl Yes, here I am, lol. I find the study of human behavior, and cultural behavior fascinating. :)
If a person gets ghosted without a valid reason the person doing the ghosting lacks maturity, they don’t want to take accountability and it is a cowardly act
GHosting is when you had a relationship with a person and suddenly cut off. Not dodging or rejecting a person's advances. Also not breaking up. Ghosting is way more malicious then an uncomfortable rejection. JS
Most women move from emotion. They need and desire some form of closure. Ghosting is primarily a male act of cowardice.
A lurking man who finds a high standard woman will ghost as punishment because he cannot abuse her as he has done others.
That’s how I feel 😅
I Agree 💯
I agree that it is cowardly. But women do that more than men. Look online. It is more done by females than males.
@@chamboyette853 In real life situations men do tend to ghost if she doesn’t meet his agenda. Men move from their sexuality first. If he then finds a really good woman he’s attracted to beyond sex alone he may find a silly reason to ghost her because he is not looking to be a better man .He knows there are plenty of low -esteem women who will tolerate any conditions he dishes out just the way he is.
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@@debsmith2789 Look at the statistics instead of spouting your sexist bullshit.
I been ghosted before it sucked but it actually a blessing because it show that a person doesn’t know how to keep it 💯
I feel you on this @ Yolanda I was too but I thank God for being a keeper. Oftentimes the person that ghosts always say how real they are when realistically it’s cowardly
@@jamiethomas627 your right that is so true
You damn straight!
Ghosting is emotional abuse, plain and simple. It is never acceptable, but even more unacceptable if someone is leading the other on by actions and words and there has been some time in dating, and there was a discussion about monogamy. That makes it worse. It is a choice someone makes to mistreat someone. And there isn't anything funny about the subject. There are a few exceptions: If you went out with someone 1 to a few times. And secondly, if it is for safety reasons meaning someone acted inappropriately. Then they don't deserve a reason why you aren't replying
I agree with the man who said if you bedded that woman and financially invested in that woman, you need to provide closure.
I think people ghost to spare their own feelings lol... Not the other party.
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Often people ghost and it has nothing to do with you. We all have demons no one else can see and we sometimes move through the world, not showing up as out best selves. If people don't show up how you want, have compassion and move on, no words, no drama, just understanding that whatever happened was outside of their ability to communicate.
Ghosting shows Emotional Immaturity period!! Remember most Women connect emotionally sooner than men do, so even if you were not intimate, but were in a long term emotional relationship, direct communication is always better. A woman of value usually waits to build an emotional connection before giving a guy everything. So ghosting is ghosting - regardless if the connection was emotional and/or intimate! Just be Real Y'all and Communicate directly!! Don't take the cowardly way out...don't be that Dude, Man Up. This shows respect, maturity and emotional stability. In the long run there is less damage done. Leaving things unfinished hurts way more than to be told "This is just not working". Ghosting is disrespectful, leaves things unfinished and solves nothing. It simply reflects poorly on the Ghoster and his or hers inadequacies.
If a guy isn't a good communicator it's because he chooses not to be.
Many of the reasons for ghosting presented were rooted in selfishness.
Take the high road and be honest instead of making excuses leaving a trail of broken hearts.
And if you don't want her long term don't lead her on to sleep with her and then ghost. That's utterly disrespectful and shows low integrity and poor character.
This is pretty much what happened
It's a sad state of affairs because social media has encouraged less intimacy and allows people to be disconnected. It has enabled people to be flaky, lazy and not put in the work to have a solid relationship on both sides. Not only intimate relationships just relationships in general. Some people will answer a text before they answer a phonecall. Hell people hardly make eye contact anymore We're void of connecting on a deeper level and this is why people are so disconnected today. There's no BOND. Ghosting doesn't let people down easy it's really a cop-out for people who don't wanna deal with difficulties. Sadly, we live in a microwave society and we so easily drop what doesn't feel good🥴
A woman giving you the wrong number is her avoiding any harm because some men attack women when rejected
So true!!
I won’t attack you. I’ll just say ok then move on.
anyone who will "ghost" another is really a "ghost" themselves... they do not truly exist as a genuine person... They are Cowards who don't have the courage to be truthful ! if they had been real, they could be respectful enough to be honest... and these guys are laughing it up! their BAD... GROW UP...
He made me feel and open up when he know it was hard for me. He talked about marriage and our future. Then sudden Everything was good he ghosted, left me with trust issues and broken heart. He ignored didnt respond anything. I leaved in style.
But i never let someone treat me like this.
So 4 months later i catfished him, made him like me a lot. And i did Everything he did and sudden ghosted the same.
Let him feel same stress and confusion.
He was hurt and i hope he learned a big lesson!!!
(Your welcome )
Same story, he made he open up, love him and them left me without any explanation
@anoniem4534 😂😂😂 This was funny what goes around comes around, sometimes I do believe in fight Fire with Fire 😂 because some things on earth you do have have to handle on your own 💯 these Beans are weird
Yes but all the time he ghosted me. He is now being ghosted by women who he wants to talk too. What goes around comes around.
If a man persues a woman and has conversations for months , he needs to just stop wasting her time if he is not interested beyond friendship. A high value woman wants a relationship, not a new time waster. He ought be man enough to have a conversation stating they are not going beyond friendship. Men who say they feel they don’t need to create closure are not worth the time .
I had a man Persued me and was sweet and nice and when I wouldn't have relations with him I was Ghosted..
Hey man, Men are mostly always interested in relationship. It's other way round
17:55 is some high school mess. Grown men using women for their bodies and ghosting are the WORST. If you sleep with her EVEN ONCE, communicate that you are moving on.
Whatever the excuse is that boys in adult male bodies use for why they do or have ghosted someone, it just confirms how immature, irresponsible, and how unmanly they are. So called men who ghost women, are definitely NOT KINGS. Thank God that there are still some wholesome, loving, and confident men around, who really want to represent themselves as kings, and date with intention because they are looking for their queen, not just out to create more 'soul ties.' It is apparent that too many men have no real understanding of what their connection is supposed to be, in relation to THE MOST HIGH. Therefore, and unfortunately, there are too many incidences of grown boys, who are like lost sheep, looking for what they can't handle, because they don't have the tools, nor do they even know that who they truly are, and that they lack the tools. Real KINGS don't play immature games with the lives of someone that they're really interested in getting to know. By the way, it's a two way street. Women who practice to ghost are equally irresponsible and childish. When someone shows you this type of disrespectful behavior, take it as them showing you a bit of who they really are, and store it in your memory bank. Then, be graceful and grateful for the learning experience, and move on. Focus your energy on self improvement, a new hobby, someone or something worth your consideration. know and believe that you deserve better. Next please! :D
Truly appreciate your perspective..might have to get you on an episode
@@arrowheart76 That might be possible. Would you need to arrange that with my agent? Let me know. Blessings from Canada. :)
I agree. Ghosting is immature and irresponsible, regardless of the gender who does it.
I believe it comes down to Maturity. There are certain things that Maturity birth forth, just as there are certain things that Immaturity births. Until we can learn how to communicate and be courageous enough to be honest with others, we do a dis-service to ourselves as well as to others.
Agreed
Don’t want to commit. Don’t want to put in effort. Don’t want to change period. They want you to chase them because they are insecure with big egos.
I appreciate this conversation amongest men. I especially appreciate the fact no one used any profanity. Very mature respectful panel.
"Caller ID started ghosting"...lol so true!
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I appreciate & and thank you brothers for being transparent and keeping it real! I truly hope that more women will take the time to listen to and learn from this. Women, stop giving your bodies to men who you’re telling yourself that sex will make him want you more. Keep your legs closed...
Thank you for watching
YOU GOT THAT RIGHT SIS
If you been dating someone for 6 months and if they decide to move on then I he needs to be man enough to say so. This way she have a clear understanding to not bother him and move on too. Best closure ever! Before they ghost
It appears the more options one has, the more ghosting could occur.
One who does not like confrontation, it appears ghosting could occur. Ghosting is a form of escapist behavior.
Voluntary removal should be welcomed, when one does not have interest. May be protected from something.
These grown boys ghost me when they realize that I won’t allow them to pump and dump me.
I ghosted his ghost and ignored his ignore, I dont chase men. 💅🏾
That part feminine woman 😍😍😍...
People ghost for many years,disappear, disconnect not connect,not vibing.It comes from alot of things hurt when people get hurt they don't want to be bothered.It's spiritually.Sometimes people just don't like you .Ghosting abandonment it has it's root's,cold shoulder, avoidance .They just don't want to be bothered etc.
Ghosting is when they rarely call you , contact you or communicate in any way but they have not removed themselves from the relationship.
IE social media, WhatsApp- they are still in the background and they haven’t removed themselves from those communication.
Communication is key!
Just tell her what’s going on! Ghosting is malicious and cruel.
Deal with it. Tell her or him why you are stopping the communication.
If you end the relationship after you get what you wanted, don’t call or text and initiate another date and then Vanish! That’s just the worst. Like opening up a healing wound!
3 relationships. Not a single one without me being ghosted. Enough to turn me off men for good tbh.
Have any of them come back or reached out to you since?
Some men get aggressive and violent when a woman says- “I don’t want to give my phone number”. This needs to be discussed.
It’s likely a small number overall- but it’s hard to tell who would become that way.
This might also play some role in ghosting online.
Thank you for the suggestion, we will definitely take it into consideration..appreciate it
Y’all spent 30 minutes talking around the issue but not addressing it. This panel was sad and shows the lack of accountability from so many men - good Lord. The times we are in are frightening!
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As a man I ghost because my feelings are invalid. So I make myself invalid.
Ghosting let’s me know you lied ur intentions were never pure and I’m my case he wanted a women who do listen and says he’s right.At his age I thought he was more mature and secure in his life.I’ve moved on in my heart but my mind constantly says why🤔It’s okay though bc you can’t do good women wrong and think ur life will be right
Thanks FELLAS...Sad and disappointing men lack communication skills...
I must say, this was refreshing and enlightening...
Ghosting don't bother me, and if I say it does..I'm lieing;
Ghosting I have done it and likewise ..it has happened to me and (without any) sexual involvement of any kind.
When I was ghost👻 my out look was simply that any further involvement or investment in the relationship it just wasn't meant to be period; so I kept it moving end of story.
Even tho this is old why would a guy ghost you and still have you as friends on social media?
Pretty much the only thing I can hear on this video is laughter.🙄
I noticed that, too 🤮🤮🤮.
You guys showed your age with the caller ID comment. it's all good though, I can relate to that era too😂😂
Cowardly behavior for both sexes, it should be about considering the other person's feelings even if it was just one date.....after a date recently, I was honest and mature and I expressed to him the next day that there was no connection for me, and I wished him well in finding a wife, for me a clear conscience is a Beautiful thing, I have no desire to pretend, or waste a gentleman's time, it's rude and inconsiderate especially nowadays..... life is Beautiful and fleeting, Blessings to all.
this notion of circumstantial 🤷♀️ Ghosting:
if there is a concern of a “Behavior Health” reaction or Safety
here’s a great way to complete that lose tie:
“hey listen, we not a match . however, i wish you well on getting the love you want.”
respect the conversation or you have to the text… far more then abandoned, being ignored and the categories that pop up for people when they process being ghosted
You know what? No one at that table mentioned “Love”. I thought that was kinda weird. Seams like men just forgot how to how to really value each women they meet. Let’s really talk at the table. First of all. You should of had some women there to defend ourselves at the table!!!! .
Defend? Do you feel like women were being attacked?
@19:33 mins in! Also the general vibe here is decent as hell. Let’s talk about how we value each other. Also it’s integral, even if on tinder… we are humans and have dignity. You spend time… I agree Intimacy is arrange respect, enough to just have a talk.
Why there are no penalties for that?! 😂🤷♀️
he ghosted me. Im mad at him, but im especially mad at myself. I saw the red flags. The way he would breadcrumb me,t he way he would push and pull, The way towards the end he would laugh at me after he returned from ghosting me, the way he would get an energetic boost from rejecting me, and how jealous & insecure he would get when other men talk to me to the point he would give me the silent treatment. So one day i prayed to GOD "Please, GOD im not strong enough to walk away from this man i care too much for him. If hes not for me just let him stop coming around or remove him from my life." The next 3 days was great on the 4th day it was his own jealousy that he didnt want to deal with me anymore. I apologized even though it was no fault of mine. He diasppeared and i havent seen him in 3 months. And although im fustrated and mad; had I paid attention to the flags i wouldnt be in this perdictament. What i did learn from this is the next time i see even red flags im gone.
ghosting is a cowardly and hurtful act.
Hold up. You can’t compare them. Statistically, the “deliberate” action of disappearing is rampant today. Getting stood up was a term, but very rare in comparison to today. I think we can all agree to that. It’s awful today. You can’t be in communication and be a friend and then deliberately refuse to interact with the same ‘ease’ of giving a wrong number as we do now. What I mean by ease, is that if you got stood up, or the number was wrong, you really didn’t know the person anyway. With only phones and face to face, ppl weren’t able to be as invested. Now ppl are just downright broken in their disrespect. Please don’t gloss this over. Ok, back to listening.
Getting stood up is disrespectful also. Otherwise Would have given you a thumbs up.
Some men will ghost months later if it's not meant it's not meant
I've definitely ghosted because some people can't take no for an answer just as you talk yourself out they try to talk u back in but now I let u know up front
Also nice Phills hat!
Ghosting works. After you get tired of carrying dead weight, you no longer have nothing to say. Women will ghost you and laugh about it. Get ghost fellas. It works , it reclaims your power and respect. Cut off all ties , no conversation needed. She’s knows why you left. Trust me
Not all women act like that. It's 4bill women in the world you think all 4bill act like that.
If either stop calling it purposely hurting the other person badly.
It hurts way worse than telling the dang truth.
In grown I can take.
THE PERSON WHO BOASTS IS NOT A GROWN WOMAN OR WORSE A GROWN MAN.
I dont ghost ppl. I jus dont give out my number.
We’re looking at answers from a species that doesn’t talk.
i think ghosting is a man's best friend
Say more?
Yea say more I would really like to know
Not one man said it's because he does not have the ability to have a conversation.
Granted it does not require some sit down.
But if nothing else, I am moving on.
And anyone man or woman is dead wrong if it was going "good" and you don't want to continue.
I heard what it means Definition. Street version The old version...BUT WHY DOES IT HAPPENS..HELL THEY DON'T KNO.
It's not nice when your own husband ghosts you.
Hey there l had one appointment with someone he insisted so much to have it ,he was incredible gentleman but he didn't tolk whith me after
@6:33..thank you that's the definition!!!!!!y'all need to stop acting dumb..dude in the red said a ghost you cant see he started talking about a white ghost stop playing🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
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EXACTLY SIS
Ghosting is the best way to not get falsely accused.
Step 1. Ghost her
Step 2. Wait till she sends you messages about how she misses you and wants to see you again.
Step 3. Breath a sigh of relief.
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Smh all about the ego 😮
@divineempress1616 all about not going to jail on a false accusation.
@@autifmalik8742 yes you got on point on that particular topic for sure 🎯
I’m sorry but it’s rude to not answer a few questions for her when you’re dating and you don’t owe it. Come on. Dude in the red hat is not deep. He’s playing the selfish card. Sorry but we’re giving you feedback. Yes, humans deserve a response. Be an adult.
How technology has changed our ways of doing everything...
In my generation growing up,,,IT was the bomb...
Everyone memorized people phone number,,, looking for some chump change to call your boyfriend on the nearest public phone...
Playing handball,,, watching each other back with LOVE... No HATE...
Ghosting has ALWAYS been around,,,just a new name...
If a man ghost 👻 you,,,he's just NOT IN TO YOU...
Leave it alone and keep it moving...!
Time is PRECIOUS 💗...
Ok, so they are not interested and dont know how to say that. So this is one of the reasons and they dont know how to say that, then ghost. Then why do they watch all your stories???? Ur not interested in me, but watching all my stories... why is that??...
Can ya'll get to the damn point... we dont need a definition.... WHY DO YA'LL DO IT.... WHY SAY SHIT AND THEN DISSAPPEAR... that was the topic.
Ya'll goin in circles omfg, i cant even watch no more.
Ive been spending my money on u we gonna talk.
You know nothing about ghosts I am ghost
Non standard people bye!
You cant laugh out so loud cause it sound too high in my earphones, its like you hit me inside my head, otherwise i like your videos, its great that you can laugh about this subject that is not fun at all
Men can think and interpret relationships as if the woman wants more than friendship and then ghost her based on what he thought -poor , no communication especially when all she said was she wants to be friends. Women aren’t the only ones with active and overly emotional thought processes.
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Oh my god what a beautiful guys you are gorgeous beautiful God bless you man God bless you I love you sure I love your channel keep give us educated you know we are women and we have to know what’s going on with the men because we have a brother kids you know thank you so much for the beautiful beautiful sure you have and say thank you for your gas💕❤️❤️❤️🌹🌹🌹
Thank you