Don’t let this story or maybe a past similar experience that you may have had dim your outlook on successful relationships. Relationships can work with the proper communication, transparency, authenticity, and just the sole fact of wanting to be committed to each other. I didn’t let this experience alter my opinion. As you can see this video is not to bash my ex wife. It’s just to share my story in hopes to shed light and inspire. This happened 4 years ago, I’ve learned from this experience and leveled up. With that being said I will not tolerate any bashing or negative comments towards my ex in the comment section. That’s not the purpose of this video. Those comments will be deleted 💯🙏🏾
I am so sorry this happened to you..😞 This is not your fault! SHE had a choice to do or not to do. She CHOSE to do!!! May you one day find someone that loves you like you love them and respects you like you respect them 🙏🏾 All ladies do not do that!!🌹
As a black man, who is a therapist and who is divorced, I must say I applaud your skill approach to healing. May God bless you as you move to your next chapter. We men need to talk to each other more.
@Keith D. Jones Everything That You & Corey Jones Talked About Deals With The "Red 💊 Pill".Because In Today's Society Women Want Traditional Old School 🏫 Men;But,They Do Not Want To Be Traditional Old School 🏫 Wives 🆗️✅💯💯
@@USArmyRetired I was talking about this with my aunt. I feel like generations change and then change back. It seems like moms generation were like "independent women'' mindset and the woman doesn't cook regularly, or nurturing her partner. Anyway, I think the new generation is getting tired of the feminist movement and are moving towards the more traditional man/woman connection. We want to love and take care of our man, our love, our air that we breathe... I am grateful to have found someone. But because the other women are more visible and vocal, the loving, nurturing and supportive ones get looked or lumped in with the rest. My advice, is educate yourself, choose a partner based on the RIGHT reasons. Look for substance instead of superficial things. This goes for men and women. Of course this isn't fool proof, losers fall in our laps sometimes. But keep the faith✌️
@Keith D. Jones. Agreed. The healing is a process but to see a black man be so transparent, vulnerable and strong at the same time is encouraging. I pray he continues to heal and let God lead.
It may sound weird but bro you are lucky you came out of this kind of relationship as early as possible. And the fact that kids are not involved is the best thing.
As a woman who will never cheat, i will say this; the moment that you realize that a woman has a tendency to cheat you should run. Not cheating is about respect for yourself and your body as a woman. Its never about the man or the relationship. A virtuous woman would never feel comfortable sharing her body , or having anything intimate with more than one man. A tendency to cheat means when problems come, she will cheat, and problems always come
I agree. I see some men trying to do things to prevent their woman from cheating. If you think that she would cheat in the right situation, oh she gonna cheat at some point. Just a matter of time.
As a divorced man myself. I felt how heavy this was on you Bro. I appreciate your transparency. Once you find that one woman you prayed for, you’ll see how much easier it is to love again. I’m a living witness. Been remarried almost 5 years now.
Doesn't matter I'm not trying figure out what Vows ppl are taking... Everyone seems to be like these fortune 500 companies taking any loopholes available
True, tripping and falling is a mistake, not deciding and acting. For me cheating is the highest form of betrayal. The intentions, the lies, the deceit, no it can't be a mistake, sorry.
The act AND hiding it, making a fool of him. I know a guy who was cheated on and the wife cheated on him. Made sure to cheat with a guy who looked similar to her husband so if she got pregnant, she could pass the kid off as her husband’s. She got caught, and got dumped. Other guy was in it for sex, so he bounced. Husband is with someone better. She’s alone now and says she regrets it. Nope, she regrets getting caught.
No woman wants a man that is weak and doesn't know how to control her. Woman love a man that leads. This person is lying. All the woman that I have do things for me not the other way round.
The women praying for a good black man are typically women from other races. Black women, or what I refer to as Kkkeishas, are praying to the Creator, to give them an unnatural situation where they get to be the man or the woman based on which gender is receiving benefits and or conveniences. Kkkeishas should focus on putting an end to their body count while leaving black men alone. Your mothers taught you to despise anything with wooly hair, especially your children and the men who still carry the phenotype of Christ. All that "sisters bring to a marriage at this point is misery and inappropriate compromise.
Man, the fact that there are men who really value relationship/marriage is awesome! Kinda gives me hope that one day I'll get married to a God fearing, monogamous faithful man!
@@lefty206 Why are YOU worried about someone (LIKE ME) being worried about her life?..And then you have the nerve to tell me what I should do with my time..? (b*tch please!🤨)…Maybe you should follow your own advice regarding “time management”😑. But hey if you’re going to allow me to occupy space in your mind (rent free) I’m not going to complain.😂
@@TheRTM what's funny is that you call God an "invisible sky daddy" showing your limited perspective and understanding but you're telling her to grow up. Where do you think you came from? What animates your soul? Where did it come from and where is it going? If you can't answer these questions then you have no standing when telling someone their beliefs are unfounded. You can say humans have probably misunderstood God or the universe throughout history because like babies, we can't conceive of something so much more complex than ourselves, but you cannot say with any certainty that God, an intelligent creator of any kind, doesn't exist. The fact that you think consciousness comes from nowhere or appears by some random chance says you haven't thought things through very deeply. I suggest doing some of that before trying to clown people online. To people who HAVE given it some thought you sound juvenile and ignorant. The funny thing is, the ones who are the meanest to others are the ones who don't believe in something bigger. Is that a coincidence? Probably not.
She wanted the relationship to end from the jump she didn’t disguise his name and left her iPad on YOUR night stand and then told you she had him over at the hotel! She wanted you to break it up she didn’t want to be the one to pull the plug
She never wanted to be married or the relationship . You are exactly right. Him putting her in a hotel was not the right move it gave her the green light for her to be with that adulterer. Smh.....smh.....smh.....smh
I'm not sure how the RUclips algorithm recommended this video 2 years later, but I'm glad it did. Thank you so much for sharing your story. This is so healing to many who have gone through this same journey. My story sounds so familiar to yours. 10 years after that divorce, I truly praise God for it. I was able to truly find myself and live in my truth. Blessings to you and hope 2 years later that you're more than well
It’s important who is in your circle as a single person and it’s even more important who is in your circle as a married couple! You are the company you keep!
@@xoangelicaf0523 thank you..I appreciate you & your comment. The side eyes single friends get esp during rough martial patches is real👀However some of us are rooting for all that you are in any capacity.. we know what the other spouse puts up with😉😁plus we’re usually wanting & hoping for our own forever future any time any day soon…
@@xoangelicaf0523 Single or married, you are in good company, that's the premise behind "birds of a feather". Positive people are both married and single.
I remember, nephew. This was a well made and well thought out presentation. You've released it and will help someone. Keep growing and moving upward. I love ya!
Healing now from a situation. Need to hear this . Thanks .. I was starting to Believe men was heart less . I left comment on this one cause I live the family support though times like this
@@daniellemadison7068 Thanks but I'm feeling so much better. The very think I tried to hold on to was the very thing God was showing me that I didn't need to be happy or complete.
@@jbmiami9010 WHY YOU SAY THAT BOOPIE? I THINK I'M RIGHT. I DON'T REALLY GET EMOTIONAL OVER THING'S TOO MUCH HOWEVER THE DEATH OF MY GRANDBOY THAT I SEEN WITH MY OWN EYE'S WAS HORRIBLE. THAT BRINGS ME TO TEARS FOR MY DAUGHTER.
@@thepr3tty116 I say that because I can tell my painful story without crying but it still hurts. And I think if it still hurts one has not healed, it’s only been a year but I’m ready for it to pass.
@@jbmiami9010 AWWW I UNDERSTAND AND HEAR YOU. GUESS WHAT?? I BELIEVE YOU TOO! MAYBE I SHOULD'VE SAID IT DIFFERENTLY? I'M GLAD YOUR NOT IN THAT SITUATION ANYMORE 😌 🙂
Your a real man Corey, I am a RUclips "auntie"...lol that has been following you for a few years. I am thankful God pulled you through that dark time in your life. I have been married for 23 years and we could definitely write a book. It's good that you did all you could do and I'm sure that gave you peace with the outcome that you really didn't want. I watched you as you went from your apartment to purchasing your home. I'm proud of you! God causes all things to work together and he gets the glory out of it all. Thank you for sharing, Peace and Blessings !
When this man learns to trust himself again, he can trust another one more time. When you have been betrayed its hard to forgive yourself for not knowing . You feel stupid , hurt and every emotion you don't want to feel . One day that person will feel these emotions when they get burned. Thank heaven no children were involved. It takes time . One day it will not hurt the same. God heals all wounds . Stay strong !
My husband had a child outside our marriage I found out when the child was 4 years old 😳 he have stolen 4 years of my life. To make matters worse as if it can "we have no children together I had 4 miscarriage throughout the miscarriages I was heart broken praying to God so I can give him his first child but all that time he already had a first child. I thought I married my best friend 🤦🏾♀️ after the pain the great destruction and damage was done I realized sometimes God must break your heart so he can save you.. for so many reasons now I can say that I'm the lucky one.
Oh no he shouldn't trust he need to focus on himself and his purpose he should be angry its not negative its only bad if he uses the wrong way its good to hate sometimes it gives concentration and purpose
I m trying to understand the logic of this comment he's not at fault what is it to learn of trusting in uerself if uer not the unfaithful one u can always trust uerself never trust another flesh an blood human being an u dont have to mistreat a person not to trust em
This is my first time on your channel, I don’t even know how this popped up on my feed but You are highly favored by God. In this life, God has a test for EVERYONE to go through so he can use you to tell others about Him. All praises to the most high. Your true queen isn’t far. God knew of this in advance ! Your time is in his hands.
@Elegance A L'Excellence, Wait? What? So he deliberately hurts people so they'll worship him? Why does he need to be worshipped? Why can't he speak for himself? What's wrong with him? Your definition of being favored is for someone to hurt you so you'll tell others how great he is? Sounds like he a sadistic, immoral monster.
I enjoy your story you will be fine as times goes buy it will get better we all have been there before GOD WILL SEE YOU THROUGH THERE ARE BETTER THINGS TO COME ..EVERY THING IS DONE FOR A REASIN JOY WILL COME IN THE MORNING THIS SHELL PASS OVER.
It really hurts, this is what i feel right now. Feeling betrayed, even with the red flags you were still trying to fix things. Your story is a motivation for me.
Lord heal this young man. Restore him so that he will be able to love again. Let him look to you, cry out to you, and love on you as you guide him in Jesus name Amen.
He did what most men don't understand. He took accountability for the relationship as the head. He attempted to bring them into a different space She wasn't mature enough to be ready for him.
It takes a strong man to be open about being cheated on. Most men in today’s society seek revenge, & take their hurt out on other women. Wisdom and maturity at its finest 👏🏽
I went through this for 16-years and as a black man it placed me in a mild depression. I went to therapy, prayed, and moved on. Thanks for sharing 🖤 fellow black men let’s heal.
Fellow humans, I love you but hate sin. There is no club for ya'll as there is none for us. Pffft, Yeah, your narcissism is showing pal, get one, a good one but DEFINITELY..... ......get a bloody grip.
Man your story touched my heart. Your story resonates with me because I’m going through this now. The pain is unbearable, the lies hurt, and your video is inspirational. Thanks for posting this -
It wasn’t failure, it was a blessing. Thank God you found out the truth before kids got involved because that would’ve made it 121% even more harder to break ties.
What a beautiful man.Strong,intelligent ,kindness and love. You deserve everything good happy that you’re moving forward. Positivity,positivity it works and helps me cope with life.🙏❤️
I know that feeling of being a failure when you put all you could into a marriage but there was nothing you could do. I agree thankfully there was no children involved because that complicates everything.
I KNOW THATS RIGHT! My God, as soon as he sent her to the hotel, I knew what would happen. So sad for him, and so sad for her. She will never be able to trust this new man, because a man who will happily pursue a married woman is not a good man.
I went through this in the relationship with the mother of my children. We weren't married but, I wanted to be more than anything. She broke the bond with countless emotional infractions against our trust which ultimately buried my self esteem.....and I stayed and prayed that the day would come where I had the strength to step and when I did, she's never been the same. I literally have had to be her lifeline for survival over the past 16 years and I have the children with me etc etc. Me and my woman of the past 16 years, pray for her and do our best to help her out eventhough she's angry at us alot for doing so. Her guilt of how she did me, makes her feel that we enjoy seeing her go through. It doesn't, it still hurts. Life just goes on ya know. Had it not been for God's mercy, I'd have never survived what I endured in that situation.
I have a son and while I disagree that this woman forcing you to provide for her while with another woman I’d never teach him to do this especially a woman he was not married to. It’s his choice but I do my best to teach him to avoid emotionally unstable women who prey on good men to be their life support. Take care of the child the woman is not your responsibility but you see these women are so selfish and evil they play the victim and manipulate you good men and you allow it. I commend your efforts but yeah she’d have to get cut off 16 years is to long but to each their own!
My story is similar… My ex husband and I were newlyweds and he went outside the marriage. I also felt like a failure. I just didn’t understand… We have been divorced now for about 9 years…Let me tell you without God in my life I couldn’t have made it. At one point it felt like I just wanted to die!! Now I’m 37 female; been doing quite well for myself.. Thank you for sharing!!
Praise The Lord.I got married it never worked. All I can say is everybody that got together, GOD didn't put them together. There are times we get ahead of God and things just are not going to work as we planned it. Stay in the plan of God, we have to WAIT ON GOD. Blessings to you trust God. 🙏🏽🕊🔥👑🩸💜🌹
@@furrsmith8131 she weird. A man and woman have different sexual anatomy its not even a comparison when another man conquers your girl glorious guts. Smh
Brother, I feel your pain. My first wife did the same thing to me years ago. I thought I could never trust another woman again until I met my current wife. That trauma followed me into my second marriage until I realized that my second wife wasn't the woman that hurt me. Now me and my second wife, Keshah, have been married for 26yrs. Not all women are cheaters just as not all men are cheaters either. Don't allow that experience to send you down an extreme red pill spiral. There are still some great women in the west bro.
Idk this man, I'm not talking about him, but men can be like this n still cheat on a good woman. Half way in the video, he didn't say he never cheated. Lol. Just saying.
I was about to say how do you know HIM? Many youtube personalities are playing a role like actors in amovie. This story has holes. They always say "I never hit her, I did everything for her" but leave out the cheating, hiding finances, destroying friendships, constant accusations.
I'm an American man and really appreciate you sharing your story. White black brown yellow... we are all men dealing with the same shit. I really appreciate you taking the time to share your story. To make men feel like they are not the only ones going threw the fire and that there is light on the other side. Thank you sir
I felt like a failure after my divorce and one day I saw this quote, “Failure is an event, not a person.” An event that occurred in my life that did not work out; the marriage failed not the people. I applaud you for giving it your all and being transparent. I hope other men are brave enough to share their truths. Great video!
Corey I just stumbled on this video. Am a grown man crying my eyes out. I can feel your pain brother, you're an amazing person. Some people aren't marriage material, and there comes a time when you have to move on. Much respect to you and one day that special someone will walk into your life and there'll be no guesswork. May God continue to bless you.
Young man I have been married for 28 yrs Nov 1 everyone is not marriage material things have happened n the marriage but no infidelity has been involved Im a God fearing woman of God I chose to live a clean life n God the next 1 come into your life 🙏 1st God will not let you down he will let you know I pray you trust again and the Lord heal ur ❤ there is love true love waiting for you dont you wonder about it be blessed my Son Im 63 yrs old it has not been easy but u will succeed there is still hope!!!!
What's sad is that man is going to have his fun with her then kick her to the curb. His action alone by wanting to mess with a married woman speaks volumes about his character. She ended her relationship thinking her and this trainer will be together but he will never be able to trust her. Also he's probably telling her and a few other women all the same thing. It sad.
Nah, she probably just wanted a quick and easy way out of the marriage. He wasn’t making much, they were clearly struggling financially. Women get tired of fulfilling their ‘wife duties’ just to come home to a man that can’t provide financially. Women know that men divorce when the woman cheats. Simple. She wanted out.
As a woman currently going through the divorce process, and holding onto an untold story, I felt every word of this vlog! You have definitely given me a greater prospective on what I have gone through, the healing process involved with divorce, and optimism towards what God has in store for me. Thank you so much for sharing!
I am a proud Mom of an amazing young black man. He IS going through the same thing (we all have been here before). Luckily he didn't marry the girl, however, that doesn't make it any easier. So, I am sending this video to my son too, because he needs to know it doesn't make a man or anyone weak, foolish, or a failure when someone hurts you after you have given all you can. Cheers 🥂 to strength, healing, growth, love, and everything else that challenges us to be better.
If ur son had a father and wasn't raised by a single mother, he would be desirable and women wouldn't use him and cheat on him. Single mothers r to blame for everything.
@@kellietaylor9913 Exactly! Men always cry “single mothers are the reason for the state of our community “, NO! It’s fatherless homes and fatherless children that suffer. Mother’s are abandoned with the children and have to make do while the men get off the hook and can place the blame on women for THEIR failures and shortcomings.
Who said anything about being a single parent? 🤣🤣. The "troll" is hilarious, 🤣🤣. It's obvious someone may have Mommy issues, 🤔. Don't even waste the keystrokes ladies. All Luv
@Tiffany Thomas, it never seems to line up where both people in a relationship gives 100%. Please don't ever waste your time waiting to see if/when things will change or get better. We pretty much know early on that it's not gonna work out but we still..................wait for it............
Going thru a divorce now. Met him at 20, we have 2 children. I'm 34 now and he put me thru the ringer. Gave him my 20s and took his excuses, I can't sacrifice my 30s. I felt like a failure too, but in the end I know I did everything I could to only be with someone who did nothing to better the situation. I wish him nothing but success, I will always have love for him but my spirit/ trust/ heart was dead within our marriage. I am not bitter I am better ♥
You’re story is literally my story from being married entire twenties to having two children. Made up my mind i couldn’t do it in my thirties. I was miserable my entire twenties. By time I divorced, I was numb and just desired peace. Wasn’t even hurt or angry anymore. God is great and I’m just being patient to be blessed to marry again and that it will be a TRUE man of God. Blessings to you.
What about the children? My big sister was impacted negatively by the split of my mother and father and it bothers her to this day, and I remember the awkwardness of being around my stepmother whom I never liked.
I always like to share this with people. My mom and stepfather have been married now going on 11 years. My mom came in with 3 kids in tow. Met my stepdad at 36. She was convinced that no one would want her. He didn't have children. My mom was willing to have her tubes untied and do it again but he didn't want to put her through it. One day we were together for Christmas and he said that he was happy that we allowed him into our life. I was floored. Like sir, allowed you ? We are happy you are here. We needed you more than we realized lol. I never expected my moms first marriage to go the way it did, and Ididn't expect him to be an unavailable dad but it happened. But we all got a lot more in return. And my mom and stepfather are still very much in love and going on trips every other weekend 😂. She was proof that even when you've given up God has other plans.
@@chattingwithjojo same here my Mom divorced my Dad ( he was toxic) she remarried my StepDad and he raised us. They are still going strong, my Stepdad has done more for me than my Dad ever has, he is my Dad.
This is my first time at your channel and I have to admit this was such a grand presentation regarding your past and you did it with grace and class! I'm so proud of you and your transparency. I felt every emotion when describing your experience. Thank you for sharing and I wish you nothing but the best! Being a divorcee myself sometimes going through these bad experiences prepare us for the love that's truly meant for us.
This is my first time on this channel as well. Wow, I had a very similar divorce story. I hadn't done anything wrong. The ex husband had no complaints. He just simply said this woman wouldn't take no for an answer. After counseling, he was still having an affair. God got me through those emotional stages of divorce. Now, completely healed, I have the most amazing joy and peace ❤
I understand your pain! I was a stay at home mom for over 20 years, I had 7 kids. My hubby left me and I pleaded with him to work it out. I never felt pain like that before. Well it been 5 years now and two degrees later. My God has truly been with me. Thank you for sharing and when it is time you will find that special one.
Wow, I don’t know how I ran across this channel. But we as women need to hear a male point of view of being betrayed. We feel this often In relationships as women. God bless you brother ❤️
the pain of realizing that the person you trusted and was sacrificing a lot for, the person you thought you made feel safe and you never mistreated, yet is entertaining other people, is the WORSE. you cannot compare it.
How about...you find out That Person put sewage debris into your food / watch you eat it and then also purposely inserted the same into your private parts doing sex. I don't Know...but much can Top that.
Been here except worse he got someone else pregnant and told me on New Years Eve!! Worst feeling ever in life is heartbreak with a side of baby that is with someone else that is not your wife
Ive been there my brotha! My story is very similar with the exception we owned a home, had 3 kids and were married for 18 years!!! My younger brother told me “do everything you can to get her back, if it doesn’t work, you’ll have no regrets” he was right, i tried alot of the things you did and one day it hit me, its over. I bounced and didn’t look back. Life has been amazing!!!
Bro I'm not gonna lie to you, I am definitely afraid, I've been alone and dying an old man by myselfI love the company of the opposite sex I love competition I love to be around someone that I care about, Someone that I can love unconditionally and they can love me the same way unconditionally. I believe it was Chris Rock that said this or made this comment that, Women children and dogs are loved unconditionally, When you start dating that woman and you explain it to your homies what's the 1st thing that we say to each other man has she looked as what we're at about. When a woman dates and starts explaining to her home girls, what's the 1st Thing that they say what kind of Job does he have. Because we think on such different levels and it is tru.
@@melsparks8885 Chris Rock is right and you will be fine trust me. Sometimes I sit there and I'm like "whoa, am I gonna be alone the rest of my life?" but I know better, I have my peace of mind and I can enjoy female company at my choice. I'm 62 and I can go anywhere I want, when I want and if I want female company I just keep it 100 with them about what I want, I know there are alot of "I's" in there but hey, Im love the freedom
As a man in this situation, it is the most loneliest position to be in because when your going through it, you cant really talk to anyone about it. Its embarrassing, belittling, and a huge blow to your self esteem. Woman have support groups and they automatically get the benefit of the doubt. But when this happens to men it makes us look weak, feel weak. Through that suppression builds anger and distrust. Sharing this had to been therapeutic I'm sure. More men need to share these experiences because it happens more often than we think.
You are so on point! It annoys me so much when I see the generalization of our men that they are always the one to be unfaithful! And yes, we always seem to get the benefit of the doubt & that is soo wrong! But, things are changing, small though it maybe.
Hope you're getting through it day by day. I know some men who are going through this and I never could stand the constant "man-bashing" that exists in this day and age towards all men because of a man or two who did them wrong. And even though, I myself have been through this with a common-law marriage and, so I always defend men that have been basically taken advantage of by women today who only think of, and aspire to get attention, have her wild a** friends and "the bag" at all costs instead of, realizing they have a "good" man who work hard for their marriages, their money, their children because good men DO exist!! You can always start your own channel, podcast or blog to help you get through this as well as other men. Good luck to you.🙏🏼🙏🏼
bagboy that is BS! Who wants to hear about another person's failure? I don't! It is saying experiences (of others) are the best teachers. tHAT EXPERIENCE IS WHAT IS CAUSING THE NORM WITH RELATIOBSIOPS THAT DO NOT WORK. DMML! What he describes is his contribution to the failure of the norm that he attests does not work. FYI the ONLY WAY women feel superior to men is in da bedroom if she cannot perform to her expectation. It should not be that way, nor will it work that way. And that is bc that is the only place he is permitted to rule over her. Who is their right mind wants to rule over a woman when it is the greatest gift you can give by letting her make her own decisions. Your desire shall be to your husband and he shall rule over you. He spoke similar words to the murder Cain about satan. If he doesn't (rule) then she will feel superior to him (sexually) bc she last longer. This is not the way my Heavenly Father designed sex to work. The problem is, without the knowledge of the woman's sexuality, which has to be taught to individuals actually learning how to satisfy her. This is when experience is the best teacher. Let me enlighten you about her sexual frustrations. It is all bc of what she is missing in the experience. The knowledge tells you how to make her cum. The teacher of all is our libidos. It can only teach you as you progress with it. that progression is always an increase in time spent erect inside her. (this is by both ages) She has no other gauge that is acceptable as reasoning. Again, she feels helpless! Its in my buk! But bc I feel sorry for you guys this is her orgasm system and how it works in terms of her total sexual satisfaction. The different (rite qik) is how men and women are stacked. I am only concerned now about females. She had three levels and the first one is the hardest to understand and deal with and that this why it is hidden even and primarily from her. If women knew how to satisfy themselves, why would they need you? But the truth is they would tell you! Women are the prize guys! And you are letting satan take then away for you. It only was made to work one way. Why should it work any other way when perverted? (rhetorical) The first level is the most profound and stimulating. She has 5 erogenous points that must be connected in the order they are arranged. Each point represents the intensity of that point. Up to the 4th point (1-2-3) she has three steps to each. The 1st point is the clit. (we'll call her doris since she is the door keeper - you heard of the cartoon doris the explorer? Well this is doris the clitoris!) She must get off twice within a minute of penetration and this is where most will miss it before they get There. It is called the violation of the unwritten protocol for penetration. (the secret is 1-3-5-5-3-1) Its in da buk! Anyway, the first level is for the first hour that is supposed to "feels like a roller coaster". The second level represents the time and space for her to be in female superior position. If she is she will never complain about equality. It makes her feel like she is "walking on a cloud". This counters her anxiety in the world called free-floating-anxiety. This causes her to wreck her relationship by displaced aggression. (completely subconscious) The third level is actually for shared sexual positions, whereas 1st is mainly male superior (ruling over in missionary not the whole hour, duh scartty cats) and 2nd female superior positions. (again not entirely the whole time) But third is for lateral and G-spot. (the latter must be rotated into to work the way they should) if you do it right she will say "it feels like she is dying"! That is the pain of orgasms she is seeking and minus what everyone is trying to offer her which is just plain pleasure. She needs extraordinary pleasure with the pain of orgasms which take time. IT IS ALL ABOUT SPENDING MORE AND MORE TIME ERECT INSIDE YOUR WIFE BAREBACK! What's the problem! You finish oo soon when she is just getting ready to get started to cum.
Not to mention, she has more than likely lied and badmouthed you to her family and friends. They will tell straight up lies to become the victim. Even if they are caught cheating, they will somehow blame you for it. For example, she will lie and say you were abusive so that everyone will “understand” why she cheated. It’s sick.
Wise words, I was more direct and mean because he needs it. But this is very true. Dudes gotta stop letting females make ACTIONS against them, become optimistic, then make no repercussion for their actions
The disrespect and coldness is what gets you. It’s crazy how good these women can mask who they really are. The sad part is the fact that most men will go through this at some point in their life, because of the culture we live in. Bro, you’re a better man than me for giving her so many chances trying to make it work. Even though things didn’t work out, I’m glad there was a light at the end of the tunnel for you and you’re thriving.
@@Michelle-pn9xt Since there are many more women out there like the one he was married to, I was correct to say these women meaning other women like her. You may not be and that's fine. But lets not act like the majority of divorces are not caused by women or their infidelity.
@@ridewithgw Divorces are caused by issues with the man or woman or perhaps both. It could be cheating. It could be faith in God. It could be an incompatibility issue. It could be financial. You never really know what is going on with another couple. We all have baggage. Some of us simply have more or less than other people. God will always send the right person to you. If you pray and ask God to send a wife, he will send someone who will love you and only you forever.
My brother, this is awesome that you shared, we as black men need to know that it’s ok to show emotions. We lose so much from not sharing what we are going through. Keep doing your thing. I will always share your content.
Why you black man want it too be okay to show emotion I have never seen my mom or no adult woman in my family cry throughout my whole childhood but now these days all you black men want to do is cry be treated like woman say the white men is out to get yall cheat be gay have fame yall wanna do everything but be real men and fathers crying don't make you a men crying and emotions are for children
Can we remove the race card please? Like seriously? Are you trying to promote separatism?? It's okay for men PERIOD to show emotion. Whether your black, white, green, brown, yellow, or red.
@@geelee5273 So we as men are not supposed to show emotions? God himself (or nature if you prefer) gave us humans the ability to show expression for what we feel due to 6 widely accepted basic emotions such as: Happiness, Fear, Anger, Surprise, Sadness. Myself am a 31 year old male that stands 185cm tall with a current weight of 93kg. I have been doing martial arts regularly for the past 10 years or so including a few competitions. Am also a commercial diver Who's away from home living and working on a boat 6 months a year doing all types of hazardous tasks. And although I'm "fairly" big and strong and working in a hostile environment (under water) in a profession that is overwhelmingly dominated by men. I still can cry in certain situations. Mentioned height/weight and work so tell that all type of men cry regardless of who they are and what they do. Soldiers cry and so does firefighters and police officers to. It is a natural biological feature us humans have and always will do 🤷 But then yeah there's also fully grown crybabies (men). And I agree that this group is a tad too much. They cry in all situations.. Scared = cry Happy = cry Hurt = cry Angry = cry Lonely = cry Nervous = cry Etc, etc
As a therapist and a person who is single after an 11years old relationship. I love your approach when talking about the past whilst remaining respectful.
what kind of therapists are you? I hope not a Sexual Therapists. That means you are Ph.D. Psychologist. Are you? I hope not relationship Therapist. (NDI)
Thank you for your honesty and living in your Truth. I was in a 23year marriage and we divorced. It is a event that I would not wish on my worst enemy. I will get better. Continue to love yourself and Love will find you. Praying for you and your future.
Many people love the idea of being married until they’re actually married. Fidelity and respect are rules numbers 1 & 2. Hope you find real love again like I did.
Dope video…I went through a similar situation in my first marriage……the breakup with my first wife left me devastated and really unable to function for a while..but it enabled me to focus and get my career together…so now life is great….wonderful marriage…2 beautiful kids…...great career…..paper is great…God looked out man…the pitfall i will warn you to look out for is trying to shield yourself too much in your next relationship….i did that and wound up causing someone pain who didn’t deserve it…great content…King
As a young man from South Carolina, who went through a similar situation, this blessed my heart so much. Thank you so much for your vulnerability and transparency. I hope you’re safe and blessed wherever you are brother! Keep going and growing!
Not sure why this came on my RUclips things, but very touching story. It’s surprising how some married people are ready to cheat. I am single, with no vows but you find yourself telling them (married men) you will not go behind their wives back. I don’t know what’s people goals for relationship these days, but I pray I meet a man with a faithful heart like you.
Have passed by this video a thousand times and today I decided to take a look. Even though it’s about a tribulation you had to endure, it’s very inspirational and encouraging to see you come out on top and thriving. So inspirational. Thanks for sharing! 🙏🏽 God bless you
I felt something after watching this. I got my divorce in 2018 was separated end of 2017. I feel I am on that path to feeling ok again, talking about the issues that occured in my marriage. It really takes time more than months and or years to be able to accept being divorced, knowing things will be ok and you both have to continue to live and be the best version of yourself👊
2 B exact! that is not true! Who told you that? You go through whatever you go through bc of ur sinful ways. If you were to make up your mind to do that which is right in God's eyes, then what things are you talking about going through, other than life? It shows you really don't know Him. The Lord said very few find the Heavenly Father. You do not and cannot find Him just bc you accepted Christ. You must forsake you wicked ways (unless you can say your ways are his ways) and fulfill righteousness. No one can fulfill righteousness on the internet. If you fulfill righteousness by walking with the Lord and taking his yoke(s - one s hidden) and enter his two rests, then he will reveal the Patyr; to you. Why would the Lord introduce you to the Patyr' when you refuse to honor your word to depart the sins you ask him to forgive you of? You are not a teacher. What are you?
This is absolutely BS: life and relationship has nothing to do with God. We are the God's. PERIOD. You have to protect yourself and never ever put a woman above your. Always put you first. Woman fall for men by doing things for her man . Woman love language is different than men. Men love for real. That's why men feel the hurt more. So guys learn and understand women role and men's role. Then you will start to see the bigger picture. Also don't ever ever take advice from women. Don't do it. That's how you get programmed for failure 😂😂😂😂
I been thru this before. I learned to love myself more after my divorce. I refuse to get in a relationship now. I realized I won't be happy and prosper with a new woman.
The blessing here is you found out early on before children or more time invested. This is just God's way of creating opportunity for you to meet a woman more deserving !!
Not so friend, thus saith the Lord: 18 Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery. Luke 16:18 MARK 10:9 KJV "What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder."
Under rated comment! I can't imagine the pain of having to see every now & then a person who cheated on you cause u have kids together. When a person cheats you wanna be done forever & move on man!
@@KristyJean Don't pick and choose, it's clear you don't know the word of God. Matthew 5:32 - But I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except on the ground of sexual immorality, makes her commit adultery, and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery.
This is real. Even when you're logically not to blame for the outcome, it's hard to shake that feeling of failure. Time heals that, but in the moment, it REALLY hurts! That said, when life gives you lemons, make lemonade!
The fact that you mentioned God says a lot! Always remember, God sees what we don’t. He sees the heart! He exposes people in situations for our good even when it hurts so bad. The Lord will never remove something or someone out of our lives if he didn’t have a even better plan. Just keep clinging to God and everything else will work out better than you expected. God bless!
God isn't always the one who's removing everything. Sometimes the enemy is at play. I don't think God had anything to do with her cheating or divorce or removing her from the picture. That was all the enemy, but I do believe his one last effort to try to make it work, God was there to give him understanding that the trust was broken and things weren't going to change. I'm glad he saw the truth in her and left. God will eventually bring the right person into the picture for him . Someone he can trust
@@GameChanger597 never said God was the reason for divorce. The word says let no man separate what He has joined. So knowing the word is very vital when discerning between the two. But God allowed it to happen so apparently if the Lord wanted a couple to still be together they would be. God Almighty always has the final say so… remember that. You’d be very surprised what the God Almighty allows if it’s in His delight! God bless!
@@HealThyLivingQueen It's the people that rejects God word and then when everyone, die they say heaven gain another angle everyone want to abuse God words for their on benefits. God word mean what it say and it say if the person that did the abandonment or cheating can't remarry and if they do they're committing Aldutress
@@HealThyLivingQueen It's the people that don't have a relationship with God they know the word but they reject it and think they're still going to make it in because God is so merciful some people go through so much they have heart attacks and other deadly stuff before they get a divorce. It say God chase the one's he love but do you think that stop! Them? No because they use that excuse God is a loving God he doesn't allow bad things to happen to his children but he sonJesus died for us. It is called rejected God
It’s an overwhelming feeling to experience this. I’ve recently had this issue. I’ve been to therapy and I’m currently allowing God to guide me through this. Sometimes I don’t want to leave the house.However, when I see videos like this.. it gives me some time of strength to move forward. When you go through things like this.. the world seems so big.. it’s like you’re alone or almost extinct. I thank God for everyone who shares their experiences with the intention of encouraging others. Blessings 😔🙏🏾
Man, this really hit me! “The Pain”for me of being together for 20 years and all the sudden Done! It’s awful and heartbreaking! Thanks for sharing your story!
I found out yesterday….I didn’t see it coming….17 years out the window. Messaging throughout the day, phone calls. All of a sudden the person I thought I knew, has turned into a complete stranger. So devastating….after giving so much of myself. Absolutely heartbroken 💔. I guess now it’s figuring out what next…..
@@candihernandez5757 My situation in 2016 after 20 years but I remember like it was yesterday. Best advice, begin to focus on you and your mental and physical health.
Dear Corey, one day you're going to find a woman who can love you like you deserve! Those of us who have been betrayed and abused, recognize the amazing man you are--a man you can build a life with! May the LORD continue to bless your journey!
@@ericthered1140 I’m with you. If you can’t afford marriage DO NOT do it. Even if you can I still wouldn’t want to lose half of anything I have. After, I built my life over the years to get there. Bro frfr it’s too many stories of men being divorce raped to kingdom come.
My husband and I went through infidelity in 2015 and as you implied it is a pain that it extremely hard to get over. We are extremely fortunate, we both chose our marriage. Trust was broken but we decided to get rid of anything or anyone that wasn't serving our union. Fast forward 6 years later we are celebrating our 17th wedding anniversary this weekend and love each other more as the years goes by. Marriage is hard and God knew it that's why the verbiage in the vows are written that way. Love conquers all.❤
I admire you being vulnerable and sharing. Because my current husband has cheated on me many times I forgave him but once the trust is broken it is very difficult to be how it was. Praise God you are doing better. It is one of the worst pains
It’s so awesome when people share their lows along with their highs. It provides so much hope and strength, not just to you but to the people listening. Thank you 🙏.
I thank u for sharing I only been married for 5 month's and starting to think my husband is cheating and talking to other women through face book and deleting conversation's but I can't prove it we always in confrontation about the phone like I say if it's true it's over but thank u for sharing and I hope with me it's not true I'm still watching and praying
This the very first Corey Jones video I have ever seen. You are a King! Thank you for sharing this part of your journey. You have blessed me today. Keep soaring!
As a young black man that’s just gone through something very similar, I thank you for posting this. It’s funny that the similarities in our stories are almost identical. My mom actually sent me this video, and it was right on the money. Here I am months removed from all of the chaos, unhappiness, and more, yet I feel better each day. Thank you for posting this. You’ve gained yourself a new follower.
Just seen this story and it really hit home. I was married for about 2 years. Ended in divorce when I found out my wife was still having sex with her sons father. How I found out? When I had to go out of town on a business trip, my step-son said his dad spent a night and slept with mommy. “He always sleeps in there when he comes”. I questioned her about it and a child at 5 is never going to lie. She finally confessed and I called it quits.
Before my husband and I got married, I told him you’re gonna have to be with, love, and have sex with the same person for the rest of your life, you better think about that. No need to get married and waste time if you can’t commit.
What about you? Did you make that same commitment to yourself? Because it's so easy for women to just mess things up for no reason these days. Stupid entitlement.
Sometimes the breakup is the blessing! The path has to be cleared for bigger and better things. Glad to see you've come out on the other side stronger and have risen up! Continue to accept the success..Stay blessed ❤️
Thank you for this !!!! I was married for 12 years.... I loved him.... lack of communication and his family was the cause of my pain..... fast forward I'm married again.... happily.... please don't give up.... 💜
I would never have clicked on this normally but as I started to watch it I started to realize God had a message for me listening to you. I'm so thankful I took the time to listen to your story. I want to tell you how sorry I am for all the pain you went through. You are right though sometimes God allows us to go through losses in order to teach us lessons. I'm going through a loss right now that is just devastating but I want to learn what he wants to show me in it. I don't want to pass it by or try to get around it because I know if I don't learn from it it I will miss out on what God wants to say at this time in my life. Thank you for sharing your story and being so vulnerable. I've never watched any video of you before I just kind of stumbled upon this video tonight.
I sympathize. I filed my divorce from my husband yesterday and how you handle this with grace is amazing. Once trust is broken, the marriage is done. Trust is the foundation of a relationship. I hope you find someone who is worthy of your time.
Bro I been through this and I had to walk away myself… I’ve recently gotten married and we’re expecting our first child together soon and I’ve never been happier with who I’m with . Like you said God will put you through some rough situations. but as long as you can say you gave it your all and nothing has changed then there’s nothing to look back for…. Keep moving forward brother and always remember to keep God 1st ✊🏾✊🏾✊🏾
God does not recognize second marriages if the covenant spouse ( 1st husband + 1st wife) is still alive. I have inserted a link that I pray will help in your understanding. Blessings. ruclips.net/p/PLi0i4ZYG7fW3cr3DTkEnDgb9i5zXQxN-m
That’s not true the Bible clearly says you can divorcee because of adultery and abuse. God allowed divorce because He told Moses “because men have hardened their hearts God allowed it”. It’s not the way God would have it but God takes adultery seriously.
@@emperorofeffectiveeducatio2105 - You are mixing truth with untruths, that unfortunately, have bern supported by false churches and watered down "Christianity". I have inserted a link that will provide you with more in-depth understanding of what God meant "for the cause of fornication". The original text, and KJV, says for "fornication", not "adultery". ruclips.net/video/CMz1wjX9NQQ/видео.html Also, Malachi 2:16: 'I hate divorce, says the LORD God of Israel.
@@emperorofeffectiveeducatio2105 - Here is another link. The videos go through a real biblical breakdown. I pray you are convicted as eternity in hell is nothing to take lightly. ruclips.net/p/PLi0i4ZYG7fW3cr3DTkEnDgb9i5zXQxN-m
I am currently going through this after a seven year relationship. I am shattered. My family is broken. My child will never be the same. I think people know your ways and move accordingly. I NEVER go through phones and computers. I got a gut check to do so after a spiritual fast and have been cheated on with a DOZEN people over the last five years. Sending healing energy to all who've experienced this kind of betrayal.
Man Corey I would like to thank you from the bottom of my heart for this video. Your situation is literally identical to what I went through with my ex wife. I'm just not as skilled as you in expressing exactly what happened. That period was the loneliest & most painful time of my entire life & the only person who kept me from going insane was my mother. I thank God everyday for her because even though we live in different cities, our frequent phone calls were so therapeutic. It's absolutely insane how women all seem to go through a phase in their lives where they feel like they deserve better than what they have at home & start looking outside. I understand every single thing that happened because I felt the exact same pain. I'm also at a place where I now feel confident enough to talk about it for the first time in 3 years. All of the best for your plans going forward.
Men make the fatal mistake of building their lives around their partner. Men should live for their purpose and a partner is to share that dream. It is okay if that partner leaves. Humans are fallible and unreliable. Your dream is still there because it is yours and it will never fail you. Follow your dream.
The fact that you were still willing to work it out speaks volumes and you gave her a few chances. Hats off to all of the efforts you put forth and look at you now!
As soon as you started talking about the text my stomach started turning, those feelings coming back for me because I know exactly how it feels. You ask them and they tell you it’s all in your head, it’s nothing. It’s now 20 years later divorced and I haven’t dated in more than 10yrs because I can’t trust. It’s hard to put yourself out there and I know you can’t think everyone is like your ex , it’s not fair to them but it’s so hard not to. I can only hope that if God puts someone in my life they will understand and be patient.
Let Jesus heal you so you can be fearless and love again ❤️🙏🏾 Trust that God will take care of you and give you something good. Don’t rely on the men, rely on God 🙏🏾🙌🏾
Appreciate you sharing this story bruh. Losing a woman you invested in financially, physically, and emotionally is one of the most painful things a man can experience.
As a black man myself, I can appreciate the honesty, pain, and transparency that you are willing to share at your lowest point. I can respect it that you let yourself be vulnerable to help others so they don’t go through the same pain and heartbreak. Much love to you bro
Thank you for sharing that story. Similar thing just happened to me. I'm still going through it because we are separated, but not officially divorced yet. The betrayal, gaslighting, lies and manipulation almost completely destroyed me. One day I hope to share my story.
This story is so epic. This Cory story pails in comparison to mine, however, pain is pain, just varying degrees. There is no pain like pain from someone you love, and entrusted your heart with then they kill you, by cheating with your best friend that was in your wedding, cut out the very heart that you gave to them, cook it and feed it to the dogs. Take everything you have, 1.5 million dollars loss later , remarried and still keeps your last name. Handle that. But I rebounded by assessing my faith in God , and I have recovered. There is hope.
@@devalharrison007 I pray the strengthening hand of God will continually uphold you. Yours is the opening page of many murder story, thank God yours has a happy ending.
It’s crazy that we can spend years with a person and not truly know them, or that things can be going on right under our noses and we are oblivious. Hone your instincts. Pay attention to your gut. Be observant of small cues and body language. And never dismiss your own thoughts, emotions, or suspicions. Love smart. 🧠 ♥️
I love your story…my husband took his life in 2022 and upon his death I discovered secrets and learned things I had to swallow. His family blamed me for his death and 13 years prior my husband father also took his life. I have had to work through the pain and embarrassment and judgement. I like to hear people stories with complete honesty salute to you.
The Lord Jesus can choose the right one. If we trust in him and allow him to choose. Thank you for being honest and speaking in a positive light about the entire situation. Thank you! Jesus Christ Loves you/everyone and wants an intimate relationship with us. He died on the cross and was risen on the 3rd day so that we could be set free for our sins. Turn to him and trust and in him. He will lead our foot steps down the path that he chosen for each and every one of us. He is the Way, the Truth and the Life. No one comes to the father except through him. Bible verse, John 3:16, John 14:6, and Jeremiah 29:11! He has great plans for us all. I'm a living testimony of that.
@UCOISRtcxL-eWf6Ur0Do0OhQ Yh trust me I’ve started to think that relationships are an arbitrary part of life and God leaves it up to us to free-willingly choose your husband or wife. So we all gotta be sensible and use wisdom to pick a suitable partner or else Gods gonna let you fall for that heartless bad bitch and your gonna cry when she cheat. Romantic Relationships are unfortunately the most shallow type of relationship as they involve so many shallow conditions (like physical looks or wealth) that keep it together. However I do believe that God can guide you to a suitable partner for you but it’s still up to you to decide.
This is my first time coming across your channel and I have to say, I was blown away by how graceful, mature, respectful and transparent you were regarding your feelings and handling of the whole situation! The extension message you put underneath was 100% true and I'm glad you haven't been put off! A woman would be lucky to have you with what I just heard and read! I can sense you were brought up with good morals and principles! Many of men need to take notes from you! Life lessons, no matter how hard they are they teach us alot! Big respect ☺🥰
Thank you for sharing your story. I truly empathize and can relate greatly. I can’t help but also think about your ex wife. I have a great sadness for her as well. I hope that she’s doing alright as she goes through her own hardships. She might be in a place of deep pain, great regret, sadness and even embarrassment now that the story is public. As you receive validation and support through this platform. I pray that she too has a community wrapped around her and guiding her in the right direction. There can be a better ending for both of you as healing and growth takes place. Take care and best wishes to you in your success.
Women love even harder. They will put up with physical abuse mental spiritual abuse. Even torture. I am not saying a man's pain isn't any less than a woman. I am acknowledging the woman that go through so much and still hang in there. Peace to you.
@@holistichealthbeautyllc3945 you just contradicted yourself in your statement. You said in the beginning of your statement women love harder; therefore, you did undermine the love men have for women
Sometimes it is good to hear from the otherside when the coin is flipped. People need to know that not only women go through betrayal, men do too. Whatever the case, it brings pain and hurt.
Years ago, a woman that I worked with made a PROFOUND statement I shall never forget... "It's not always the man's fault!" I thought long and hard about that; only to realize that she was right on so many levels... So sorry you had to go thru this-- Godspeed in all your endeavors; including finding the right person to share your life with♡
I really appreciate a males point of view of divorce. Being a divorce woman who was married for 20 years and had someone leave me without a hint of a real reason but to be with someone else, it gives me hope that there are men who want to work hard in a relationship.
This story is very relatable. You are blessed that it didn't take half of your life to discover her true character. My marriage ended after 29 years when I discovered my husband's infidelity. The pain is terrible, but thankfully there's life after divorce.
Malcom don't quit yo' day job. A woman chooses a man to give her total sexual satisfaction. (that total is an increase over the decades or she get bored) She does not know what that is but she will know when it is not it. One night stands became more prevalent due to females not wanting a second match. Most men (tell me) they don't do well the first time with a female they meet. You are not suppose to unless you are a great lover and she purposed marriage. (forget about it) When asked (a man) what word would you use to describe getting with a new female? And they all say 'work'. Then I say, then what is your job if she is work? And although a light dawns there it is still no voluntary explanation without the knowledge of it. But the frequent sight of a woman's gender makes it worth less and less. This is what women are facing with their sexuality and their men. She really does not know what to do since "doin' her" was what it was all supposed to be about. And it is!!!!!!! It takes a righteous man to properly stimulate a woman to her full capacity But every female over the age of 20 sexual need is dictated by her age. The problem is there is no real education of knowledge of relationships in the land. (on earth) so it has come to a point that it must prove everything everyone is doing for what it is. And it is out of total neglect of the total pleasure you are supposed to be experiencing with male and female that is missing as husband and wife. I will not work any other way bc it was not created to work any other way then how it works. She is all about sex with her man. Who is she supposed to be that way with, a trick! If she can't find it there then she will let anyone lickit. (that just means she don't like you)
My hat's off to this guy Corey J. For his transparency. His story touched DEEP within me. When you know, you know! It's very difficult to go public about such traumatic experience, especially for a man. To share life's most painful experience publicly is something most men will sway away from. I SALUTE my guy! I was encouraged and I'm sure many others are and will be by your testimony. Turn pain into passion. Divorce is something I hate with a passion because It goes against what God intended for marriage to be "till death". Hopefully this video shed some light and bring positivity for premarital relationships, marriages that's on the edge and healing to the ones that failed. You all stay strong!! #Salute
Your video was on my feed this morning. I am currently going through a divorce. Husband of 15 years/ 19 together asked for it two weeks after our anniversary. I am recently finding out things that he denied, but felt in my gut. I appreciate your transparency in sharing. I was meant to see it this morning .
Don’t let this story or maybe a past similar experience that you may have had dim your outlook on successful relationships. Relationships can work with the proper communication, transparency, authenticity, and just the sole fact of wanting to be committed to each other. I didn’t let this experience alter my opinion. As you can see this video is not to bash my ex wife. It’s just to share my story in hopes to shed light and inspire. This happened 4 years ago, I’ve learned from this experience and leveled up. With that being said I will not tolerate any bashing or negative comments towards my ex in the comment section. That’s not the purpose of this video. Those comments will be deleted 💯🙏🏾
I throughly enjoy this story time .
Well said, KING🙌
Thank you....
I hear and feel you in so many ways because I went through the same thing with my marriage and divorce. We’ve made it and we’ve grown. 🙏🏾
I am so sorry this happened to you..😞 This is not your fault! SHE had a choice to do or not to do. She CHOSE to do!!! May you one day find someone that loves you like you love them and respects you like you respect them 🙏🏾 All ladies do not do that!!🌹
As a black man, who is a therapist and who is divorced, I must say I applaud your skill approach to healing. May God bless you as you move to your next chapter. We men need to talk to each other more.
@Keith D. Jones Everything That You & Corey Jones Talked About Deals With The "Red 💊 Pill".Because In Today's Society Women Want Traditional Old School 🏫 Men;But,They Do Not
Want To Be Traditional Old School 🏫 Wives 🆗️✅💯💯
@@USArmyRetired I was talking about this with my aunt. I feel like generations change and then change back. It seems like moms generation were like "independent women'' mindset and the woman doesn't cook regularly, or nurturing her partner. Anyway, I think the new generation is getting tired of the feminist movement and are moving towards the more traditional man/woman connection. We want to love and take care of our man, our love, our air that we breathe... I am grateful to have found someone. But because the other women are more visible and vocal, the loving, nurturing and supportive ones get looked or lumped in with the rest. My advice, is educate yourself, choose a partner based on the RIGHT reasons. Look for substance instead of superficial things. This goes for men and women. Of course this isn't fool proof, losers fall in our laps sometimes. But keep the faith✌️
@Keith D. Jones. Agreed. The healing is a process but to see a black man be so transparent, vulnerable and strong at the same time is encouraging. I pray he continues to heal and let God lead.
How can we connect with you Black therapist?
Great❤❤❤
It may sound weird but bro you are lucky you came out of this kind of relationship as early as possible. And the fact that kids are not involved is the best thing.
Fuck ya.... hidden blessing. Too many women out there.
Yup
Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaamen!!!!!
Very much so bless
Definitely. Glory be to God. Now he can be blessed with the woman God has planned for him.
As a woman who will never cheat, i will say this; the moment that you realize that a woman has a tendency to cheat you should run. Not cheating is about respect for yourself and your body as a woman. Its never about the man or the relationship. A virtuous woman would never feel comfortable sharing her body , or having anything intimate with more than one man. A tendency to cheat means when problems come, she will cheat, and problems always come
I agree. I see some men trying to do things to prevent their woman from cheating. If you think that she would cheat in the right situation, oh she gonna cheat at some point. Just a matter of time.
Well said, dear lady.
Never say never.
@@JamMaster0011 NEVER!
why do people go looking for MONOGAMY when MOST can't even practice it !!!
As a divorced man myself. I felt how heavy this was on you Bro. I appreciate your transparency. Once you find that one woman you prayed for, you’ll see how much easier it is to love again. I’m a living witness. Been remarried almost 5 years now.
Congratulations on being remarried🙏🏾‼️
I'm glad u find happiness in your new marriage
I'm glad you found someone instead of becoming bitter.
@@Morgan24_7
plenty options other than remarry or bitter.
Heaps of options aswell
Anyway best to you all
I'm here for this story and congratulations brother!
Cheating is not a mistake, it is an informed decision. They know the consequences.
Doesn't matter I'm not trying figure out what Vows ppl are taking... Everyone seems to be like these fortune 500 companies taking any loopholes available
True, tripping and falling is a mistake, not deciding and acting. For me cheating is the highest form of betrayal. The intentions, the lies, the deceit, no it can't be a mistake, sorry.
The act AND hiding it, making a fool of him. I know a guy who was cheated on and the wife cheated on him. Made sure to cheat with a guy who looked similar to her husband so if she got pregnant, she could pass the kid off as her husband’s. She got caught, and got dumped.
Other guy was in it for sex, so he bounced. Husband is with someone better. She’s alone now and says she regrets it. Nope, she regrets getting caught.
When He learns to Stop "Conquering", and "Conquerment", His Lesson will be Learned. 😶.
I feel most people don't see, know, or feel the consequence until they get caught.
We don’t talk enough about the heaviness of grief. People who can pick up pieces after heartbreak and forever the hero.
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They're women out there who pray for a man like you. Don't let this discourage you from believing in love. Keep your head up King.
There are many good financially secure men out there praying for a good God fearing monogamous woman. I have for 20 yrs.
The same women that say those kinds of things sometimes end up cheating as well I think the juice isn't worth the squeeze.
@@atlargera I've been burned so many times it's hard to ever trust any woman again.
No woman wants a man that is weak and doesn't know how to control her. Woman love a man that leads. This person is lying. All the woman that I have do things for me not the other way round.
The women praying for a good black man are typically women from other races. Black women, or what I refer to as Kkkeishas, are praying to the Creator, to give them an unnatural situation where they get to be the man or the woman based on which gender is receiving benefits and or conveniences.
Kkkeishas should focus on putting an end to their body count while leaving black men alone. Your mothers taught you to despise anything with wooly hair, especially your children and the men who still carry the phenotype of Christ. All that "sisters bring to a marriage at this point is misery and inappropriate compromise.
Man, the fact that there are men who really value relationship/marriage is awesome! Kinda gives me hope that one day I'll get married to a God fearing, monogamous faithful man!
@@TheRTM why are you even worried about what she's doing with her own life? Seems like you need to spend more time worrying about your own
@@lefty206 Why are YOU worried about someone (LIKE ME) being worried about her life?..And then you have the nerve to tell me what I should do with my time..? (b*tch please!🤨)…Maybe you should follow your own advice regarding “time management”😑. But hey if you’re going to allow me to occupy space in your mind (rent free) I’m not going to complain.😂
That's my prayer too sis 😊🙌🏾
@@TheRTM what's funny is that you call God an "invisible sky daddy" showing your limited perspective and understanding but you're telling her to grow up. Where do you think you came from? What animates your soul? Where did it come from and where is it going? If you can't answer these questions then you have no standing when telling someone their beliefs are unfounded. You can say humans have probably misunderstood God or the universe throughout history because like babies, we can't conceive of something so much more complex than ourselves, but you cannot say with any certainty that God, an intelligent creator of any kind, doesn't exist. The fact that you think consciousness comes from nowhere or appears by some random chance says you haven't thought things through very deeply. I suggest doing some of that before trying to clown people online. To people who HAVE given it some thought you sound juvenile and ignorant. The funny thing is, the ones who are the meanest to others are the ones who don't believe in something bigger. Is that a coincidence? Probably not.
@@nicoleowens2318 Sis, you said it all lol. I was gonna respond to that loser but I have ANYTHING else better to do with my time!
A wise man once said, I quote. "In the midst of chaos there is also opportunity". Big up my brother!
I love that quote ♥️ never heard it thank you for sharing
Chaos is a ladder
She wanted the relationship to end from the jump she didn’t disguise his name and left her iPad on YOUR night stand and then told you she had him over at the hotel! She wanted you to break it up she didn’t want to be the one to pull the plug
That part
Facts..Thats exactly what she did
Yes
She never wanted to be married or the relationship . You are exactly right. Him putting her in a hotel was not the right move it gave her the green light for her to be with that adulterer.
Smh.....smh.....smh.....smh
Exactly
I'm not sure how the RUclips algorithm recommended this video 2 years later, but I'm glad it did. Thank you so much for sharing your story. This is so healing to many who have gone through this same journey. My story sounds so familiar to yours. 10 years after that divorce, I truly praise God for it. I was able to truly find myself and live in my truth. Blessings to you and hope 2 years later that you're more than well
I am extremely well 👏🏾. Thanks for commenting
Facts
It’s important who is in your circle as a single person and it’s even more important who is in your circle as a married couple! You are the company you keep!
What's that saying " birds of a feather flock together. "
Amen
@@lisamitchell2501 that’s not always true! My friends are single and they never try to stray me of single ppl things knowing I’m married
@@xoangelicaf0523 thank you..I appreciate you & your comment. The side eyes single friends get esp during rough martial patches is real👀However some of us are rooting for all that you are in any capacity.. we know what the other spouse puts up with😉😁plus we’re usually wanting & hoping for our own forever future any time any day soon…
@@xoangelicaf0523 Single or married, you are in good company, that's the premise behind "birds of a feather". Positive people are both married and single.
I remember, nephew. This was a well made and well thought out presentation. You've released it and will help someone. Keep growing and moving upward. I love ya!
YES it was, true heart felt, and release of all healing to take place,
Healing now from a situation. Need to hear this . Thanks .. I was starting to Believe men was heart less . I left comment on this one cause I live the family support though times like this
@@daniellemadison7068 I feel you , I am healing from a ugly divorce myself.
@@lamar78us Hang in there.
@@daniellemadison7068 Thanks but I'm feeling so much better. The very think I tried to hold on to was the very thing God was showing me that I didn't need to be happy or complete.
I HEARD SOMEONE SAY IF YOU CAN TELL YOUR PAINFULL STORY WITHOUT CRYING YOUR HEALED. #DETROIT #LOVE 🤗
I hope your correct baby.
@@jbmiami9010 WHY YOU SAY THAT BOOPIE? I THINK I'M RIGHT. I DON'T REALLY GET EMOTIONAL OVER THING'S TOO MUCH HOWEVER THE DEATH OF MY GRANDBOY THAT I SEEN WITH MY OWN EYE'S WAS HORRIBLE. THAT BRINGS ME TO TEARS FOR MY DAUGHTER.
Very true. When anger and/or tears are present, that is a clear indicator that you are not healed.
@@thepr3tty116 I say that because I can tell my painful story without crying but it still hurts. And I think if it still hurts one has not healed, it’s only been a year but I’m ready for it to pass.
@@jbmiami9010 AWWW I UNDERSTAND AND HEAR YOU. GUESS WHAT?? I BELIEVE YOU TOO! MAYBE I SHOULD'VE SAID IT DIFFERENTLY? I'M GLAD YOUR NOT IN THAT SITUATION ANYMORE 😌 🙂
Your a real man Corey, I am a RUclips "auntie"...lol that has been following you for a few years. I am thankful God pulled you through that dark time in your life. I have been married for 23 years and we could definitely write a book. It's good that you did all you could do and I'm sure that gave you peace with the outcome that you really didn't want. I watched you as you went from your apartment to purchasing your home. I'm proud of you! God causes all things to work together and he gets the glory out of it all. Thank you for sharing, Peace and Blessings !
Thank you 🙏🏾
When this man learns to trust himself again, he can trust another one more time. When you have been betrayed its hard to forgive yourself for not knowing . You feel stupid , hurt and every emotion you don't want to feel . One day that person will feel these emotions when they get burned. Thank heaven no children were involved. It takes time . One day it will not hurt the same. God heals all wounds . Stay strong !
My husband had a child outside our marriage I found out when the child was 4 years old 😳 he have stolen 4 years of my life. To make matters worse as if it can "we have no children together I had 4 miscarriage throughout the miscarriages I was heart broken praying to God so I can give him his first child but all that time he already had a first child. I thought I married my best friend 🤦🏾♀️ after the pain the great destruction and damage was done I realized sometimes God must break your heart so he can save you.. for so many reasons now I can say that I'm the lucky one.
Oh no he shouldn't trust he need to focus on himself and his purpose he should be angry its not negative its only bad if he uses the wrong way its good to hate sometimes it gives concentration and purpose
@@marjorieaugustin7893 I’m praying for you. I’m so sorry you had to experience that. New love will come and he will regret it…
Story of my life. Its hard to forgive yourself
I m trying to understand the logic of this comment he's not at fault what is it to learn of trusting in uerself if uer not the unfaithful one u can always trust uerself never trust another flesh an blood human being an u dont have to mistreat a person not to trust em
This is my first time on your channel, I don’t even know how this popped up on my feed but You are highly favored by God. In this life, God has a test for EVERYONE to go through so he can use you to tell others about Him. All praises to the most high. Your true queen isn’t far. God knew of this in advance ! Your time is in his hands.
Right, I've never been on his channel before either. For some reason it KEPT popping up as a suggestion. I'm glad I watched tho
Same.
@Elegance A L'Excellence, Wait? What? So he deliberately hurts people so they'll worship him? Why does he need to be worshipped? Why can't he speak for himself? What's wrong with him? Your definition of being favored is for someone to hurt you so you'll tell others how great he is? Sounds like he a sadistic, immoral monster.
never had much.. love my Daddy Jesus' It's Great ... no marriage.. no _Sex..
I enjoy your story you will be fine as times goes buy it will get better we all have been there before GOD WILL SEE YOU THROUGH THERE ARE BETTER THINGS TO COME ..EVERY THING IS DONE FOR A REASIN JOY WILL COME IN THE MORNING THIS SHELL PASS OVER.
He is so correct. Betrayal is the worst. My heart goes out to him.
Betrayal and not willing to take accountability for your hurtful actions, pisses me off!
I can't imagine my brother, but God knows the plan He has for you , that's to prosper you and you will prosper. Be bless🙏
It really hurts, this is what i feel right now. Feeling betrayed, even with the red flags you were still trying to fix things. Your story is a motivation for me.
Lord heal this young man. Restore him so that he will be able to love again. Let him look to you, cry out to you, and love on you as you guide him in Jesus name Amen.
Amen
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When I heard him speak on it. It hurt to know. Especially when you have someone attempting to be a good human/man.
He did what most men don't understand. He took accountability for the relationship as the head.
He attempted to bring them into a different space She wasn't mature enough to be ready for him.
In the name of Jesus
It takes a strong man to be open about being cheated on. Most men in today’s society seek revenge, & take their hurt out on other women. Wisdom and maturity at its finest 👏🏽
Yep..I call them Adult Boys..Not Men..
@@tonyacarpenter9033 I’m with you !
Sounds like you cheated
@@joeblack6921 get the hell out of here, you’re one of them lil boys we were just talking about
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I went through this for 16-years and as a black man it placed me in a mild depression. I went to therapy, prayed, and moved on. Thanks for sharing 🖤 fellow black men let’s heal.
How helpful was therapy?
Be strong ✊
Fellow humans, I love you but hate sin. There is no club for ya'll as there is none for us. Pffft, Yeah, your narcissism is showing pal, get one, a good one but DEFINITELY.....
......get a bloody grip.
I’m not black I’m brown but I want to heal too
@Tosin Adesoye it helps but really you have to heal yourself
Man your story touched my heart. Your story resonates with me because I’m going through this now. The pain is unbearable, the lies hurt, and your video is inspirational. Thanks for posting this -
Stay strong 💯
It wasn’t failure, it was a blessing. Thank God you found out the truth before kids got involved because that would’ve made it 121% even more harder to break ties.
Yes Indeed 👌🏿👌🏿
What a beautiful man.Strong,intelligent ,kindness and love.
You deserve everything good happy that you’re moving forward.
Positivity,positivity it works and helps me cope with life.🙏❤️
Tell me about it!!!!👍🏿👍🏿👍🏿
I know that feeling of being a failure when you put all you could into a marriage but there was nothing you could do. I agree thankfully there was no children involved because that complicates everything.
I KNOW THATS RIGHT! My God, as soon as he sent her to the hotel, I knew what would happen. So sad for him, and so sad for her. She will never be able to trust this new man, because a man who will happily pursue a married woman is not a good man.
I went through this in the relationship with the mother of my children. We weren't married but, I wanted to be more than anything. She broke the bond with countless emotional infractions against our trust which ultimately buried my self esteem.....and I stayed and prayed that the day would come where I had the strength to step and when I did, she's never been the same. I literally have had to be her lifeline for survival over the past 16 years and I have the children with me etc etc. Me and my woman of the past 16 years, pray for her and do our best to help her out eventhough she's angry at us alot for doing so. Her guilt of how she did me, makes her feel that we enjoy seeing her go through. It doesn't, it still hurts. Life just goes on ya know. Had it not been for God's mercy, I'd have never survived what I endured in that situation.
G~d is Great🙏
Nothing but respect for you and yours brother
@@deesmoove5852 Not many men would have done what you did. Men normally walk asap. Men do this to women regularly.. Glad you are ok.
I have a son and while I disagree that this woman forcing you to provide for her while with another woman I’d never teach him to do this especially a woman he was not married to. It’s his choice but I do my best to teach him to avoid emotionally unstable women who prey on good men to be their life support. Take care of the child the woman is not your responsibility but you see these women are so selfish and evil they play the victim and manipulate you good men and you allow it. I commend your efforts but yeah she’d have to get cut off 16 years is to long but to each their own!
May your blessings be bountiful and God protect you and your family! Your a good soul,with a kind heart.
My story is similar… My ex husband and I were newlyweds and he went outside the marriage. I also felt like a failure. I just didn’t understand… We have been divorced now for about 9 years…Let me tell you without God in my life I couldn’t have made it. At one point it felt like I just wanted to die!! Now I’m 37 female; been doing quite well for myself.. Thank you for sharing!!
No disrespect, I am just curious; you were 28 when you got a divorce, what made you feel like a failure? Why did you feel like dying? Was it the love?
Praise The Lord.I got married it never worked. All I can say is everybody that got together, GOD didn't put them together. There are times we get ahead of God and things just are not going to work as we planned it. Stay in the plan of God, we have to WAIT ON GOD. Blessings to you trust God.
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We have a very similar story. The Only difference is I have been divorced for 2 years now. I was embarrassed and heartbroken.
Blessings to you ❤️
@@furrsmith8131 she weird. A man and woman have different sexual anatomy its not even a comparison when another man conquers your girl glorious guts. Smh
Brother, I feel your pain. My first wife did the same thing to me years ago. I thought I could never trust another woman again until I met my current wife. That trauma followed me into my second marriage until I realized that my second wife wasn't the woman that hurt me. Now me and my second wife, Keshah, have been married for 26yrs. Not all women are cheaters just as not all men are cheaters either. Don't allow that experience to send you down an extreme red pill spiral. There are still some great women in the west bro.
This man is definitely marriage material. His Character is embodies a man.
First time to see you. I am touched.Hope you find the woman who deserves you.,.
Idk this man, I'm not talking about him, but men can be like this n still cheat on a good woman. Half way in the video, he didn't say he never cheated. Lol. Just saying.
I was about to say how do you know HIM? Many youtube personalities are playing a role like actors in amovie. This story has holes. They always say "I never hit her, I did everything for her" but leave out the cheating, hiding finances, destroying friendships, constant accusations.
@@LionessTribe So true lol
Yes he most definitely is
Damn, my dad went through this with my mother. He finally moved on and remarried a woman that loves and appreciates him♥️
You should condemn your mom
Tell me about it. My dad was hurt yet he still told me to love cherish and take care of my mother!
Don’t be like her.
Thank you. You have no idea what you just did for me ❤️
Hope your not like your mother, call me
This is a real man. He never even cheated on her. He’s definitely going to be blessed beyond measure. Very well spoken.
😂😂
I assume you mean he will be blessed after he dies, as in blessed in the afterlife. That much is true.
You don't know these people
awww. Im wishing Corey Jones well
Would anybody write 'this is a real woman, she never even cheated on him' 😢
I'm an American man and really appreciate you sharing your story. White black brown yellow... we are all men dealing with the same shit. I really appreciate you taking the time to share your story. To make men feel like they are not the only ones going threw the fire and that there is light on the other side. Thank you sir
That’s the goal bro! Thanks man!
I felt like a failure after my divorce and one day I saw this quote, “Failure is an event, not a person.” An event that occurred in my life that did not work out; the marriage failed not the people. I applaud you for giving it your all and being transparent. I hope other men are brave enough to share their truths. Great video!
Thanks for sharing!
“The marriage failed, not the people.” Whew…..thats a good 1.
Thanks for this 😊
I'm going through it right now...please pray for
@@ken123abc yeah rite! The ppl is the mariag e. h marriage isn't te ppl.
Corey I just stumbled on this video.
Am a grown man crying my eyes out.
I can feel your pain brother, you're an amazing person.
Some people aren't marriage material, and there comes a time when you have to move on.
Much respect to you and one day that special someone will walk into your life and there'll be no guesswork.
May God continue to bless you.
Young man I have been married for 28 yrs Nov 1 everyone is not marriage material things have happened n the marriage but no infidelity has been involved Im a God fearing woman of God I chose to live a clean life n God the next 1 come into your life 🙏 1st God will not let you down he will let you know I pray you trust again and the Lord heal ur ❤ there is love true love waiting for you dont you wonder about it be blessed my Son Im 63 yrs old it has not been easy but u will succeed there is still hope!!!!
God is with you.and will see you through.I am praying you're next choice will work.Don't give up on marriage it does work ❤🙏🏼
What's sad is that man is going to have his fun with her then kick her to the curb. His action alone by wanting to mess with a married woman speaks volumes about his character. She ended her relationship thinking her and this trainer will be together but he will never be able to trust her. Also he's probably telling her and a few other women all the same thing. It sad.
She wanted some excitement. "I'm married but I'm doing this type of excitement"
@@Teddymwenda that's not excitement.That's childish behavior and how a lot of people become unalive.
Facts
Right
Nah, she probably just wanted a quick and easy way out of the marriage. He wasn’t making much, they were clearly struggling financially. Women get tired of fulfilling their ‘wife duties’ just to come home to a man that can’t provide financially. Women know that men divorce when the woman cheats. Simple. She wanted out.
As a woman currently going through the divorce process, and holding onto an untold story, I felt every word of this vlog! You have definitely given me a greater prospective on what I have gone through, the healing process involved with divorce, and optimism towards what God has in store for me. Thank you so much for sharing!
I am a proud Mom of an amazing young black man. He IS going through the same thing (we all have been here before). Luckily he didn't marry the girl, however, that doesn't make it any easier. So, I am sending this video to my son too, because he needs to know it doesn't make a man or anyone weak, foolish, or a failure when someone hurts you after you have given all you can. Cheers 🥂 to strength, healing, growth, love, and everything else that challenges us to be better.
If ur son had a father and wasn't raised by a single mother, he would be desirable and women wouldn't use him and cheat on him. Single mothers r to blame for everything.
@@davidmarvy6788 how is it a woman's fault a man isn't there
@@kellietaylor9913 Exactly! Men always cry “single mothers are the reason for the state of our community “, NO! It’s fatherless homes and fatherless children that suffer. Mother’s are abandoned with the children and have to make do while the men get off the hook and can place the blame on women for THEIR failures and shortcomings.
Who said anything about being a single parent? 🤣🤣. The "troll" is hilarious, 🤣🤣. It's obvious someone may have Mommy issues, 🤔. Don't even waste the keystrokes ladies. All Luv
@Tiffany Thomas, it never seems to line up where both people in a relationship gives 100%. Please don't ever waste your time waiting to see if/when things will change or get better. We pretty much know early on that it's not gonna work out but we still..................wait for it............
Going thru a divorce now. Met him at 20, we have 2 children. I'm 34 now and he put me thru the ringer. Gave him my 20s and took his excuses, I can't sacrifice my 30s. I felt like a failure too, but in the end I know I did everything I could to only be with someone who did nothing to better the situation. I wish him nothing but success, I will always have love for him but my spirit/ trust/ heart was dead within our marriage. I am not bitter I am better ♥
Can we all link up? ☹
You’re story is literally my story from being married entire twenties to having two children. Made up my mind i couldn’t do it in my thirties. I was miserable my entire twenties. By time I divorced, I was numb and just desired peace. Wasn’t even hurt or angry anymore. God is great and I’m just being patient to be blessed to marry again and that it will be a TRUE man of God.
Blessings to you.
What about the children? My big sister was impacted negatively by the split of my mother and father and it bothers her to this day, and I remember the awkwardness of being around my stepmother whom I never liked.
I always like to share this with people. My mom and stepfather have been married now going on 11 years. My mom came in with 3 kids in tow. Met my stepdad at 36. She was convinced that no one would want her. He didn't have children. My mom was willing to have her tubes untied and do it again but he didn't want to put her through it. One day we were together for Christmas and he said that he was happy that we allowed him into our life. I was floored. Like sir, allowed you ? We are happy you are here. We needed you more than we realized lol. I never expected my moms first marriage to go the way it did, and Ididn't expect him to be an unavailable dad but it happened. But we all got a lot more in return. And my mom and stepfather are still very much in love and going on trips every other weekend 😂. She was proof that even when you've given up God has other plans.
@@chattingwithjojo same here my Mom divorced my Dad ( he was toxic) she remarried my StepDad and he raised us. They are still going strong, my Stepdad has done more for me than my Dad ever has, he is my Dad.
This is my first time at your channel and I have to admit this was such a grand presentation regarding your past and you did it with grace and class! I'm so proud of you and your transparency. I felt every emotion when describing your experience. Thank you for sharing and I wish you nothing but the best! Being a divorcee myself sometimes going through these bad experiences prepare us for the love that's truly meant for us.
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Likewise, don’t even know what made me click on this but much respect for this man trying to make it work and being transparent.
This is my first time on this channel as well. Wow, I had a very similar divorce story. I hadn't done anything wrong. The ex husband had no complaints. He just simply said this woman wouldn't take no for an answer. After counseling, he was still having an affair. God got me through those emotional stages of divorce. Now, completely healed, I have the most amazing joy and peace ❤
Wow! This showed up on my feel in 2023! Good to see a man bounce back after a devastating situation! Keep striving my friend
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I understand your pain! I was a stay at home mom for over 20 years, I had 7 kids. My hubby left me and I pleaded with him to work it out. I never felt pain like that before. Well it been 5 years now and two degrees later. My God has truly been with me. Thank you for sharing and when it is time you will find that special one.
Wow, I don’t know how I ran across this channel. But we as women need to hear a male point of view of being betrayed. We feel this often In relationships as women. God bless you brother ❤️
I know right, i’m so glad i found this video too.
Me too
Most women don't care for stories were men are betrayed by women so we don't say anything about it because it comes off as weak to most people
the pain of realizing that the person you trusted and was sacrificing a lot for, the person you thought you made feel safe and you never mistreated, yet is entertaining other people, is the WORSE. you cannot compare it.
How about...you find out That Person put sewage debris into your food / watch you eat it and then also purposely inserted the same into your private parts doing sex. I don't Know...but much can Top that.
@@annaleebillings Jesus. That is evil. I am so sorry you went throught that. Wishing you healing and strength. I think betrayal of any sorts is evil.
@@annaleebillings
That is criminal they should be charged with attempted murder garbage can be poisonous
Been here except worse he got someone else pregnant and told me on New Years Eve!! Worst feeling ever in life is heartbreak with a side of baby that is with someone else that is not your wife
@@brandyyolidio4213 Facts
Ive been there my brotha! My story is very similar with the exception we owned a home, had 3 kids and were married for 18 years!!! My younger brother told me “do everything you can to get her back, if it doesn’t work, you’ll have no regrets” he was right, i tried alot of the things you did and one day it hit me, its over. I bounced and didn’t look back. Life has been amazing!!!
Facts! That’s our job as men. Exhaust all efforts and if it doesn’t work out at least you did what you had to do. Big ups bro! 💯
Bro I'm not gonna lie to you, I am definitely afraid, I've been alone and dying an old man by myselfI love the company of the opposite sex I love competition I love to be around someone that I care about, Someone that I can love unconditionally and they can love me the same way unconditionally. I believe it was Chris Rock that said this or made this comment that, Women children and dogs are loved unconditionally, When you start dating that woman and you explain it to your homies what's the 1st thing that we say to each other man has she looked as what we're at about. When a woman dates and starts explaining to her home girls, what's the 1st Thing that they say what kind of Job does he have. Because we think on such different levels and it is tru.
@@melsparks8885 Chris Rock is right and you will be fine trust me. Sometimes I sit there and I'm like "whoa, am I gonna be alone the rest of my life?" but I know better, I have my peace of mind and I can enjoy female company at my choice. I'm 62 and I can go anywhere I want, when I want and if I want female company I just keep it 100 with them about what I want, I know there are alot of "I's" in there but hey, Im love the freedom
As a man in this situation, it is the most loneliest position to be in because when your going through it, you cant really talk to anyone about it. Its embarrassing, belittling, and a huge blow to your self esteem. Woman have support groups and they automatically get the benefit of the doubt. But when this happens to men it makes us look weak, feel weak. Through that suppression builds anger and distrust. Sharing this had to been therapeutic I'm sure. More men need to share these experiences because it happens more often than we think.
You are so on point! It annoys me so much when I see the generalization of our men that they are always the one to be unfaithful! And yes, we always seem to get the benefit of the doubt & that is soo wrong! But, things are changing, small though it maybe.
Hope you're getting through it day by day. I know some men who are going through this and I never could stand the constant "man-bashing" that exists in this day and age towards all men because of a man or two who did them wrong. And even though, I myself have been through this with a common-law marriage and, so I always defend men that have been basically taken advantage of by women today who only think of, and aspire to get attention, have her wild a** friends and "the bag" at all costs instead of, realizing they have a "good" man who work hard for their marriages, their money, their children because good men DO exist!! You can always start your own channel, podcast or blog to help you get through this as well as other men. Good luck to you.🙏🏼🙏🏼
bagboy that is BS! Who wants to hear about another person's failure? I don't! It is saying experiences (of others) are the best teachers. tHAT EXPERIENCE IS WHAT IS CAUSING THE NORM WITH RELATIOBSIOPS THAT DO NOT WORK. DMML! What he describes is his contribution to the failure of the norm that he attests does not work.
FYI the ONLY WAY women feel superior to men is in da bedroom if she cannot perform to her expectation. It should not be that way, nor will it work that way. And that is bc that is the only place he is permitted to rule over her. Who is their right mind wants to rule over a woman when it is the greatest gift you can give by letting her make her own decisions. Your desire shall be to your husband and he shall rule over you.
He spoke similar words to the murder Cain about satan. If he doesn't (rule) then she will feel superior to him (sexually) bc she last longer. This is not the way my Heavenly Father designed sex to work.
The problem is, without the knowledge of the woman's sexuality, which has to be taught to individuals actually learning how to satisfy her. This is when experience is the best teacher. Let me enlighten you about her sexual frustrations. It is all bc of what she is missing in the experience.
The knowledge tells you how to make her cum. The teacher of all is our libidos. It can only teach you as you progress with it. that progression is always an increase in time spent erect inside her. (this is by both ages) She has no other gauge that is acceptable as reasoning. Again, she feels helpless!
Its in my buk! But bc I feel sorry for you guys this is her orgasm system and how it works in terms of her total sexual satisfaction. The different (rite qik) is how men and women are stacked. I am only concerned now about females.
She had three levels and the first one is the hardest to understand and deal with and that this why it is hidden even and primarily from her. If women knew how to satisfy themselves, why would they need you? But the truth is they would tell you! Women are the prize guys! And you are letting satan take then away for you. It only was made to work one way. Why should it work any other way when perverted? (rhetorical)
The first level is the most profound and stimulating. She has 5 erogenous points that must be connected in the order they are arranged. Each point represents the intensity of that point. Up to the 4th point (1-2-3) she has three steps to each.
The 1st point is the clit. (we'll call her doris since she is the door keeper - you heard of the cartoon doris the explorer? Well this is doris the clitoris!) She must get off twice within a minute of penetration and this is where most will miss it before they get There. It is called the violation of the unwritten protocol for penetration. (the secret is 1-3-5-5-3-1) Its in da buk!
Anyway, the first level is for the first hour that is supposed to "feels like a roller coaster". The second level represents the time and space for her to be in female superior position. If she is she will never complain about equality.
It makes her feel like she is "walking on a cloud". This counters her anxiety in the world called free-floating-anxiety. This causes her to wreck her relationship by displaced aggression. (completely subconscious)
The third level is actually for shared sexual positions, whereas 1st is mainly male superior (ruling over in missionary not the whole hour, duh scartty cats) and 2nd female superior positions. (again not entirely the whole time) But third is for lateral and G-spot. (the latter must be rotated into to work the way they should) if you do it right she will say "it feels like she is dying"!
That is the pain of orgasms she is seeking and minus what everyone is trying to offer her which is just plain pleasure. She needs extraordinary pleasure with the pain of orgasms which take time. IT IS ALL ABOUT SPENDING MORE AND MORE TIME ERECT INSIDE YOUR WIFE BAREBACK! What's the problem! You finish oo soon when she is just getting ready to get started to cum.
Not to mention, she has more than likely lied and badmouthed you to her family and friends. They will tell straight up lies to become the victim. Even if they are caught cheating, they will somehow blame you for it. For example, she will lie and say you were abusive so that everyone will “understand” why she cheated. It’s sick.
It seems like honest kings and queens don't always find each other at first......BUT God always has a MASTER PLAN!!!!!
So true
So true,we do
Sometimes think,that it's God plan and it's not.
Yes we very rarely find each other
Right
True
Baby Boy, word to the wise: No matter how hurt & lonely you are, NEVER pour your heart and soul into anyone who doesn't want you.
yeah but he didn't know she didn't want him until it was too late.
I don’t think he chose to pour into someone who did not want him or he would likely not have married her in the first place.
Yeah it’s like bleeding next to a shark.i did it and i regret it till this day
Wise words, I was more direct and mean because he needs it. But this is very true. Dudes gotta stop letting females make ACTIONS against them, become optimistic, then make no repercussion for their actions
The disrespect and coldness is what gets you. It’s crazy how good these women can mask who they really are. The sad part is the fact that most men will go through this at some point in their life, because of the culture we live in. Bro, you’re a better man than me for giving her so many chances trying to make it work. Even though things didn’t work out, I’m glad there was a light at the end of the tunnel for you and you’re thriving.
These women? He was married to one person, not these women.
@@Michelle-pn9xt Since there are many more women out there like the one he was married to, I was correct to say these women meaning other women like her. You may not be and that's fine. But lets not act like the majority of divorces are not caused by women or their infidelity.
@@ridewithgw Divorces are caused by issues with the man or woman or perhaps both. It could be cheating. It could be faith in God. It could be an incompatibility issue. It could be financial. You never really know what is going on with another couple. We all have baggage. Some of us simply have more or less than other people. God will always send the right person to you. If you pray and ask God to send a wife, he will send someone who will love you and only you forever.
I’ve been there so I can relate. The past is the past. With that said: Let’s get this young man up to 100k subscribers!!
My brother, this is awesome that you shared, we as black men need to know that it’s ok to show emotions. We lose so much from not sharing what we are going through. Keep doing your thing. I will always share your content.
So true we need more men like him to step up
Why you black man want it too be okay to show emotion I have never seen my mom or no adult woman in my family cry throughout my whole childhood but now these days all you black men want to do is cry be treated like woman say the white men is out to get yall cheat be gay have fame yall wanna do everything but be real men and fathers crying don't make you a men crying and emotions are for children
Wow this was soo powerful
Can we remove the race card please? Like seriously? Are you trying to promote separatism?? It's okay for men PERIOD to show emotion. Whether your black, white, green, brown, yellow, or red.
@@geelee5273 So we as men are not supposed to show emotions? God himself (or nature if you prefer) gave us humans the ability to show expression for what we feel due to 6 widely accepted basic emotions such as:
Happiness,
Fear,
Anger,
Surprise,
Sadness.
Myself am a 31 year old male that stands 185cm tall with a current weight of 93kg. I have been doing martial arts regularly for the past 10 years or so including a few competitions. Am also a commercial diver Who's away from home living and working on a boat 6 months a year doing all types of hazardous tasks. And although I'm "fairly" big and strong and working in a hostile environment (under water) in a profession that is overwhelmingly dominated by men. I still can cry in certain situations.
Mentioned height/weight and work so tell that all type of men cry regardless of who they are and what they do. Soldiers cry and so does firefighters and police officers to. It is a natural biological feature us humans have and always will do 🤷
But then yeah there's also fully grown crybabies (men). And I agree that this group is a tad too much. They cry in all situations..
Scared = cry
Happy = cry
Hurt = cry
Angry = cry
Lonely = cry
Nervous = cry
Etc, etc
As a therapist and a person who is single after an 11years old relationship. I love your approach when talking about the past whilst remaining respectful.
what kind of therapists are you? I hope not a Sexual Therapists. That means you are Ph.D. Psychologist. Are you? I hope not relationship Therapist. (NDI)
But whenever the roles are reverse, its always less likely that the same courtesy is given
@@ddmound what are you getting at.. Does it matter what kind of a therapist he is? His marriage in nooo way takes away from him professionally
Thank you for your honesty and living in your Truth. I was in a 23year marriage and we divorced. It is a event that I would not wish on my worst enemy. I will get better. Continue to love yourself and Love will find you. Praying for you and your future.
Many people love the idea of being married until they’re actually married. Fidelity and respect are rules numbers 1 & 2. Hope you find real love again like I did.
Dope video…I went through a similar situation in my first marriage……the breakup with my first wife left me devastated and really unable to function for a while..but it enabled me to focus and get my career together…so now life is great….wonderful marriage…2 beautiful kids…...great career…..paper is great…God looked out man…the pitfall i will warn you to look out for is trying to shield yourself too much in your next relationship….i did that and wound up causing someone pain who didn’t deserve it…great content…King
As a young man from South Carolina, who went through a similar situation, this blessed my heart so much. Thank you so much for your vulnerability and transparency. I hope you’re safe and blessed wherever you are brother! Keep going and growing!
Not sure why this came on my RUclips things, but very touching story. It’s surprising how some married people are ready to cheat. I am single, with no vows but you find yourself telling them (married men) you will not go behind their wives back. I don’t know what’s people goals for relationship these days, but I pray I meet a man with a faithful heart like you.
Have passed by this video a thousand times and today I decided to take a look. Even though it’s about a tribulation you had to endure, it’s very inspirational and encouraging to see you come out on top and thriving. So inspirational. Thanks for sharing! 🙏🏽 God bless you
Glad you stopped by 💯💯
I felt something after watching this. I got my divorce in 2018 was separated end of 2017. I feel I am on that path to feeling ok again, talking about the issues that occured in my marriage. It really takes time more than months and or years to be able to accept being divorced, knowing things will be ok and you both have to continue to live and be the best version of yourself👊
“Sometimes God makes you go through things so you can see the other side; so you can be a better you!” ~Corey Jones
2 B exact! that is not true! Who told you that? You go through whatever you go through bc of ur sinful ways. If you were to make up your mind to do that which is right in God's eyes, then what things are you talking about going through, other than life? It shows you really don't know Him.
The Lord said very few find the Heavenly Father. You do not and cannot find Him just bc you accepted Christ. You must forsake you wicked ways (unless you can say your ways are his ways) and fulfill righteousness. No one can fulfill righteousness on the internet.
If you fulfill righteousness by walking with the Lord and taking his yoke(s - one s hidden) and enter his two rests, then he will reveal the Patyr; to you. Why would the Lord introduce you to the Patyr' when you refuse to honor your word to depart the sins you ask him to forgive you of? You are not a teacher. What are you?
@meechie what did Job (in the Bible do)? What was Job’s sinful way? I would be glad to know.
@@ddmoundWhat you said made zero sense. Seriously, I GUARANTEE you've had things in YOUR life you 🤡.
This is absolutely BS: life and relationship has nothing to do with God. We are the God's. PERIOD. You have to protect yourself and never ever put a woman above your. Always put you first. Woman fall for men by doing things for her man . Woman love language is different than men. Men love for real. That's why men feel the hurt more. So guys learn and understand women role and men's role. Then you will start to see the bigger picture. Also don't ever ever take advice from women. Don't do it. That's how you get programmed for failure 😂😂😂😂
Facts
Strange how a person can see how they hurt you but continue to dig that knife in while twisting it. You've moved on, good for you! God Bless you. 🙏🏽
I been thru this before. I learned to love myself more after my divorce. I refuse to get in a relationship now. I realized I won't be happy and prosper with a new woman.
The blessing here is you found out early on before children or more time invested. This is just God's way of creating opportunity for you to meet a woman more deserving !!
Not so friend, thus saith the Lord:
18 Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery. Luke 16:18
MARK 10:9 KJV "What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder."
@@KristyJean amen
@@KristyJean if his case falls under adultery and unfaithfulness, he can remarry.
Under rated comment! I can't imagine the pain of having to see every now & then a person who cheated on you cause u have kids together. When a person cheats you wanna be done forever & move on man!
@@KristyJean Don't pick and choose, it's clear you don't know the word of God.
Matthew 5:32 - But I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except on the ground of sexual immorality, makes her commit adultery, and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery.
This is real. Even when you're logically not to blame for the outcome, it's hard to shake that feeling of failure. Time heals that, but in the moment, it REALLY hurts!
That said, when life gives you lemons, make lemonade!
The fact that you mentioned God says a lot! Always remember, God sees what we don’t. He sees the heart! He exposes people in situations for our good even when it hurts so bad. The Lord will never remove something or someone out of our lives if he didn’t have a even better plan. Just keep clinging to God and everything else will work out better than you expected. God bless!
God isn't always the one who's removing everything. Sometimes the enemy is at play. I don't think God had anything to do with her cheating or divorce or removing her from the picture. That was all the enemy, but I do believe his one last effort to try to make it work, God was there to give him understanding that the trust was broken and things weren't going to change. I'm glad he saw the truth in her and left. God will eventually bring the right person into the picture for him . Someone he can trust
@@GameChanger597 never said God was the reason for divorce. The word says let no man separate what He has joined. So knowing the word is very vital when discerning between the two. But God allowed it to happen so apparently if the Lord wanted a couple to still be together they would be. God Almighty always has the final say so… remember that. You’d be very surprised what the God Almighty allows if it’s in His delight! God bless!
Well said!
@@HealThyLivingQueen It's the people that rejects God word and then when everyone, die they say heaven gain another angle everyone want to abuse God words for their on benefits. God word mean what it say and it say if the person that did the abandonment or cheating can't remarry and if they do they're committing Aldutress
@@HealThyLivingQueen It's the people that don't have a relationship with God they know the word but they reject it and think they're still going to make it in because God is so merciful some people go through so much they have heart attacks and other deadly stuff before they get a divorce. It say God chase the one's he love but do you think that stop! Them? No because they use that excuse God is a loving God he doesn't allow bad things to happen to his children but he sonJesus died for us. It is called rejected God
It’s an overwhelming feeling to experience this. I’ve recently had this issue. I’ve been to therapy and I’m currently allowing God to guide me through this. Sometimes I don’t want to leave the house.However, when I see videos like this.. it gives me some time of strength to move forward. When you go through things like this.. the world seems so big.. it’s like you’re alone or almost extinct. I thank God for everyone who shares their experiences with the intention of encouraging others. Blessings 😔🙏🏾
Man, this really hit me! “The Pain”for me of being together for 20 years and all the sudden Done! It’s awful and heartbreaking! Thanks for sharing your story!
I found out yesterday….I didn’t see it coming….17 years out the window. Messaging throughout the day, phone calls. All of a sudden the person I thought I knew, has turned into a complete stranger. So devastating….after giving so much of myself. Absolutely heartbroken 💔. I guess now it’s figuring out what next…..
@@candihernandez5757 My situation in 2016 after 20 years but I remember like it was yesterday. Best advice, begin to focus on you and your mental and physical health.
Kym Sellers living strong podcast
@@candihernandez5757 exactly where I am. Broken.
I am so happy for you god bless you with your true love thank you god !god bless you !
Dear Corey, one day you're going to find a woman who can love you like you deserve! Those of us who have been betrayed and abused, recognize the amazing man you are--a man you can build a life with! May the LORD continue to bless your journey!
Amen, Amen, Amen 🙏
Hopefully he can pay for it and leave afterwards.....
@@ericthered1140 I’m with you. If you can’t afford marriage DO NOT do it. Even if you can I still wouldn’t want to lose half of anything I have. After, I built my life over the years to get there. Bro frfr it’s too many stories of men being divorce raped to kingdom come.
My husband and I went through infidelity in 2015 and as you implied it is a pain that it extremely hard to get over. We are extremely fortunate, we both chose our marriage. Trust was broken but we decided to get rid of anything or anyone that wasn't serving our union. Fast forward 6 years later we are celebrating our 17th wedding anniversary this weekend and love each other more as the years goes by. Marriage is hard and God knew it that's why the verbiage in the vows are written that way. Love conquers all.❤
Love conquers all my...my ass
@far from I suspect is the husband 🤔🤔
Hi Really need to know how on earth can you get over infidelity?
U don't
Amen ❤️
I admire you being vulnerable and sharing. Because my current husband has cheated on me many times I forgave him but once the trust is broken it is very difficult to be how it was. Praise God you are doing better. It is one of the worst pains
It’s so awesome when people share their lows along with their highs. It provides so much hope and strength, not just to you but to the people listening. Thank you 🙏.
I thank u for sharing I only been married for 5 month's and starting to think my husband is cheating and talking to other women through face book and deleting conversation's but I can't prove it we always in confrontation about the phone like I say if it's true it's over but thank u for sharing and I hope with me it's not true I'm still watching and praying
This the very first Corey Jones video I have ever seen. You are a King! Thank you for sharing this part of your journey. You have blessed me today. Keep soaring!
Hopefully it’s not your last ! 😎💯
So sorry to hear your story things happen to the best of us. I really love the way you put this together and you did a great job you are so respectful
My 1st too🥰
Ditto! Continuous peace and blessings Corey!
Same here.
As a young black man that’s just gone through something very similar, I thank you for posting this. It’s funny that the similarities in our stories are almost identical. My mom actually sent me this video, and it was right on the money. Here I am months removed from all of the chaos, unhappiness, and more, yet I feel better each day. Thank you for posting this. You’ve gained yourself a new follower.
Just seen this story and it really hit home. I was married for about 2 years. Ended in divorce when I found out my wife was still having sex with her sons father. How I found out? When I had to go out of town on a business trip, my step-son said his dad spent a night and slept with mommy. “He always sleeps in there when he comes”. I questioned her about it and a child at 5 is never going to lie. She finally confessed and I called it quits.
Never wife up women with children whose baby daddies are still alive
oh dear that's horrible
@@brianfreckles8542 I've decided to never date women with children period!
@@DJGENOTYPEyou also cheat with her right ?
@@marisacillahi1537 now what the fuck would draw you to that conclusion?
Before my husband and I got married, I told him you’re gonna have to be with, love, and have sex with the same person for the rest of your life, you better think about that. No need to get married and waste time if you can’t commit.
Amen
What about you? Did you make that same commitment to yourself? Because it's so easy for women to just mess things up for no reason these days. Stupid entitlement.
@@m.x.refrigxolani8365 Go get healed. It’s necessary
That's easier said then done..trust me
@@Shayshayboston1 i guess for some people. I’m pretty cool with it. If I wasn’t, I wouldn’t have married him.
Sometimes the breakup is the blessing! The path has to be cleared for bigger and better things. Glad to see you've come out on the other side stronger and have risen up! Continue to accept the success..Stay blessed ❤️
You are a genuine guy.
God has refined you to pure gold. May he continue to raise you more and more in Jesus Name.
Thank you for this !!!! I was married for 12 years.... I loved him.... lack of communication and his family was the cause of my pain..... fast forward I'm married again.... happily.... please don't give up.... 💜
congratulations and excellent advice❤️
I would never have clicked on this normally but as I started to watch it I started to realize God had a message for me listening to you. I'm so thankful I took the time to listen to your story. I want to tell you how sorry I am for all the pain you went through. You are right though sometimes God allows us to go through losses in order to teach us lessons. I'm going through a loss right now that is just devastating but I want to learn what he wants to show me in it. I don't want to pass it by or try to get around it because I know if I don't learn from it it I will miss out on what God wants to say at this time in my life. Thank you for sharing your story and being so vulnerable. I've never watched any video of you before I just kind of stumbled upon this video tonight.
Thanks for watching 🙏🏾
I sympathize. I filed my divorce from my husband yesterday and how you handle this with grace is amazing. Once trust is broken, the marriage is done. Trust is the foundation of a relationship. I hope you find someone who is worthy of your time.
Bro I been through this and I had to walk away myself… I’ve recently gotten married and we’re expecting our first child together soon and I’ve never been happier with who I’m with . Like you said God will put you through some rough situations. but as long as you can say you gave it your all and nothing has changed then there’s nothing to look back for…. Keep moving forward brother and always remember to keep God 1st ✊🏾✊🏾✊🏾
God does not recognize second marriages if the covenant spouse ( 1st husband + 1st wife) is still alive.
I have inserted a link that I pray will help in your understanding. Blessings.
ruclips.net/p/PLi0i4ZYG7fW3cr3DTkEnDgb9i5zXQxN-m
That’s not true the Bible clearly says you can divorcee because of adultery and abuse. God allowed divorce because He told Moses “because men have hardened their hearts God allowed it”. It’s not the way God would have it but God takes adultery seriously.
@@emperorofeffectiveeducatio2105 - You are mixing truth with untruths, that unfortunately, have bern supported by false churches and watered down "Christianity".
I have inserted a link that will provide you with more in-depth understanding of what God meant "for the cause of fornication". The original text, and KJV, says for "fornication", not "adultery".
ruclips.net/video/CMz1wjX9NQQ/видео.html
Also, Malachi 2:16: 'I hate divorce, says the LORD God of Israel.
@@emperorofeffectiveeducatio2105 - Here is another link. The videos go through a real biblical breakdown. I pray you are convicted as eternity in hell is nothing to take lightly. ruclips.net/p/PLi0i4ZYG7fW3cr3DTkEnDgb9i5zXQxN-m
@@t.a.3191 so unless the adulterer actually had sex with someone else the 2nd marriage is not official in God's eyes?
I am currently going through this after a seven year relationship. I am shattered. My family is broken. My child will never be the same. I think people know your ways and move accordingly. I NEVER go through phones and computers. I got a gut check to do so after a spiritual fast and have been cheated on with a DOZEN people over the last five years. Sending healing energy to all who've experienced this kind of betrayal.
Man Corey I would like to thank you from the bottom of my heart for this video. Your situation is literally identical to what I went through with my ex wife. I'm just not as skilled as you in expressing exactly what happened. That period was the loneliest & most painful time of my entire life & the only person who kept me from going insane was my mother. I thank God everyday for her because even though we live in different cities, our frequent phone calls were so therapeutic. It's absolutely insane how women all seem to go through a phase in their lives where they feel like they deserve better than what they have at home & start looking outside. I understand every single thing that happened because I felt the exact same pain. I'm also at a place where I now feel confident enough to talk about it for the first time in 3 years. All of the best for your plans going forward.
💪🏾✊🏾
God give you the grace to totally heal n find peace n joy
Men make the fatal mistake of building their lives around their partner. Men should live for their purpose and a partner is to share that dream. It is okay if that partner leaves. Humans are fallible and unreliable. Your dream is still there because it is yours and it will never fail you. Follow your dream.
@@danielstevens4198 exactly! That’s facts fam
Likewise here.
The fact that you were still willing to work it out speaks volumes and you gave her a few chances. Hats off to all of the efforts you put forth and look at you now!
It shows weakness as a man. His weakness is what made her cheat. Women have to be led by a strong man.
As soon as you started talking about the text my stomach started turning, those feelings coming back for me because I know exactly how it feels. You ask them and they tell you it’s all in your head, it’s nothing. It’s now 20 years later divorced and I haven’t dated in more than 10yrs because I can’t trust. It’s hard to put yourself out there and I know you can’t think everyone is like your ex , it’s not fair to them but it’s so hard not to. I can only hope that if God puts someone in my life they will understand and be patient.
Let Jesus heal you so you can be fearless and love again ❤️🙏🏾 Trust that God will take care of you and give you something good. Don’t rely on the men, rely on God 🙏🏾🙌🏾
@Rachel Oshaks Music thank you ❤️🙏
Your crazy until it’s u doing it to them. 12 yrs n I still feel like crap
@KoldKastleProduction dating now is not what is nothing like it was in high school unconventional thank you!
@KoldKastleProduction I just watched your video “Closer” very nice!
She legit pushed you into your blessings; a gift that keeps on giving to you and those you come in contact with. God bless that lady!!!
I agree with you. It is hard to understand when you are in it and standing so close. But from a distance, it is clear, purposeful.
Appreciate you sharing this story bruh. Losing a woman you invested in financially, physically, and emotionally is one of the most painful things a man can experience.
As a black man myself, I can appreciate the honesty, pain, and transparency that you are willing to share at your lowest point. I can respect it that you let yourself be vulnerable to help others so they don’t go through the same pain and heartbreak. Much love to you bro
Thank you for sharing that story. Similar thing just happened to me. I'm still going through it because we are separated, but not officially divorced yet. The betrayal, gaslighting, lies and manipulation almost completely destroyed me. One day I hope to share my story.
This story is so epic. This Cory story pails in comparison to mine, however, pain is pain, just varying degrees. There is no pain like pain from someone you love, and entrusted your heart with then they kill you, by cheating with your best friend that was in your wedding, cut out the very heart that you gave to them, cook it and feed it to the dogs.
Take everything you have, 1.5 million dollars loss later , remarried and still keeps your last name.
Handle that. But I rebounded by assessing my faith in God , and I have recovered. There is hope.
@@devalharrison007 I pray the strengthening hand of God will continually uphold you. Yours is the opening page of many murder story, thank God yours has a happy ending.
Heal and share your story
$1.5 Mill? Nah bro u better than me, I'm from Africa I would've got the voodoo priest to get rid of her
It’s crazy that we can spend years with a person and not truly know them, or that things can be going on right under our noses and we are oblivious. Hone your instincts. Pay attention to your gut. Be observant of small cues and body language. And never dismiss your own thoughts, emotions, or suspicions. Love smart. 🧠 ♥️
Yep the spirit talks to us
Amen to this!!! Happened to me put off addressing the signs to long but glad I didn’t ignore it
I love your story…my husband took his life in 2022 and upon his death I discovered secrets and learned things I had to swallow. His family blamed me for his death and 13 years prior my husband father also took his life. I have had to work through the pain and embarrassment and judgement. I like to hear people stories with complete honesty salute to you.
🙏 So sorry for your loss
@@Alexandra-nv3pf Ty
Corey, you are not a failure, she is. Sorry she didn’t value you. Praying for your healing ❤️🩹. God will give you a true love ❤️.
God isn't out here building relationships smh. Relationships fail, he will be fine
The Lord Jesus can choose the right one. If we trust in him and allow him to choose. Thank you for being honest and speaking in a positive light about the entire situation. Thank you! Jesus Christ Loves you/everyone and wants an intimate relationship with us. He died on the cross and was risen on the 3rd day so that we could be set free for our sins. Turn to him and trust and in him. He will lead our foot steps down the path that he chosen for each and every one of us. He is the Way, the Truth and the Life. No one comes to the father except through him. Bible verse, John 3:16, John 14:6, and Jeremiah 29:11! He has great plans for us all. I'm a living testimony of that.
I wish i would of met u
@UCOISRtcxL-eWf6Ur0Do0OhQ Yh trust me I’ve started to think that relationships are an arbitrary part of life and God leaves it up to us to free-willingly choose your husband or wife. So we all gotta be sensible and use wisdom to pick a suitable partner or else Gods gonna let you fall for that heartless bad bitch and your gonna cry when she cheat. Romantic Relationships are unfortunately the most shallow type of relationship as they involve so many shallow conditions (like physical looks or wealth) that keep it together. However I do believe that God can guide you to a suitable partner for you but it’s still up to you to decide.
Amen
This is my first time coming across your channel and I have to say, I was blown away by how graceful, mature, respectful and transparent you were regarding your feelings and handling of the whole situation! The extension message you put underneath was 100% true and I'm glad you haven't been put off! A woman would be lucky to have you with what I just heard and read! I can sense you were brought up with good morals and principles! Many of men need to take notes from you! Life lessons, no matter how hard they are they teach us alot! Big respect ☺🥰
I experienced something similar and learned that when someone heart isn’t in it just let them go
the man is not in it. they are never in it.
Thank you for sharing your story. I truly empathize and can relate greatly. I can’t help but also think about your ex wife. I have a great sadness for her as well. I hope that she’s doing alright as she goes through her own hardships. She might be in a place of deep pain, great regret, sadness and even embarrassment now that the story is public. As you receive validation and support through this platform. I pray that she too has a community wrapped around her and guiding her in the right direction. There can be a better ending for both of you as healing and growth takes place. Take care and best wishes to you in your success.
Wow. Hearing a man’s perspective is amazing. When a man love they love hard, and u should never take that for granted.
Women love even harder. They will put up with physical abuse mental spiritual abuse. Even torture. I am not saying a man's pain isn't any less than a woman. I am acknowledging the woman that go through so much and still hang in there. Peace to you.
@@holistichealthbeautyllc3945 they only stay Cus the man plays mind games to keep her vulnerable emotional mind in check
@@holistichealthbeautyllc3945 you just contradicted yourself in your statement.
You said in the beginning of your statement women love harder; therefore, you did undermine the love men have for women
@@holistichealthbeautyllc3945 This not true a Man nor a Woman's love doesn't hold different levels of value all hearts can be broken...
Sometimes it is good to hear from the otherside when the coin is flipped. People need to know that not only women go through betrayal, men do too. Whatever the case, it brings pain and hurt.
Years ago, a woman that I worked with made a PROFOUND statement I shall never forget... "It's not always the man's fault!" I thought long and hard about that; only to realize that she was right on so many levels... So sorry you had to go thru this-- Godspeed in all your endeavors; including finding the right person to share your life with♡
Damn you narcissistic ass had to think long and hard about it not being the mand fault
I really appreciate a males point of view of divorce. Being a divorce woman who was married for 20 years and had someone leave me without a hint of a real reason but to be with someone else, it gives me hope that there are men who want to work hard in a relationship.
Amen to that 🙏
This story is very relatable. You are blessed that it didn't take half of your life to discover her true character. My marriage ended after 29 years when I discovered my husband's infidelity. The pain is terrible, but thankfully there's life after divorce.
Thanks for sharing as a black woman its eye opening to hear a man's honest feedback on relationship breaks.
I hope she watched this, cause maybe you’re the life lesson she needs.
You’re king 👑
Malcom don't quit yo' day job. A woman chooses a man to give her total sexual satisfaction. (that total is an increase over the decades or she get bored) She does not know what that is but she will know when it is not it.
One night stands became more prevalent due to females not wanting a second match. Most men (tell me) they don't do well the first time with a female they meet. You are not suppose to unless you are a great lover and she purposed marriage. (forget about it)
When asked (a man) what word would you use to describe getting with a new female? And they all say 'work'. Then I say, then what is your job if she is work? And although a light dawns there it is still no voluntary explanation without the knowledge of it. But the frequent sight of a woman's gender makes it worth less and less.
This is what women are facing with their sexuality and their men. She really does not know what to do since "doin' her" was what it was all supposed to be about. And it is!!!!!!! It takes a righteous man to properly stimulate a woman to her full capacity
But every female over the age of 20 sexual need is dictated by her age. The problem is there is no real education of knowledge of relationships in the land. (on earth) so it has come to a point that it must prove everything everyone is doing for what it is.
And it is out of total neglect of the total pleasure you are supposed to be experiencing with male and female that is missing as husband and wife. I will not work any other way bc it was not created to work any other way then how it works. She is all about sex with her man. Who is she supposed to be that way with, a trick! If she can't find it there then she will let anyone lickit. (that just means she don't like you)
You better preach!
My hat's off to this guy Corey J. For his transparency. His story touched DEEP within me. When you know, you know! It's very difficult to go public about such traumatic experience, especially for a man. To share life's most painful experience publicly is something most men will sway away from. I SALUTE my guy! I was encouraged and I'm sure many others are and will be by your testimony. Turn pain into passion. Divorce is something I hate with a passion because It goes against what God intended for marriage to be "till death". Hopefully this video shed some light and bring positivity for premarital relationships, marriages that's on the edge and healing to the ones that failed. You all stay strong!! #Salute
Your video was on my feed this morning. I am currently going through a divorce. Husband of 15 years/ 19 together asked for it two weeks after our anniversary. I am recently finding out things that he denied, but felt in my gut. I appreciate your transparency in sharing. I was meant to see it this morning .
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