It does put things into perspective. Compared to what my grandmother had to go through I can do it! My grandma had to get 5 kids through famine, being forcefully separated from my granddad, living under constant fear of air raids, being shot at and living off whatever food they could find in the jungle. Then came to a brand new country without knowing the language and only the clothes on their back. It really helps me appreciate everything I have in those hard times.
I teared up several times during this video just because some of the things you said made me feel very validated. My daughter is 11 months and I've had no help at all other than my husband who works full time. I'm isolated all day, across the country from all family. It's really hard. I'm in a whatsapp chat group with all the moms from my birthing class and that's been my life saver
Hope you are able to get out more soon now that the world is opening back up! I am going to try to force myself to get out more and socialize, but its hard after being closed in for so long! 😅
Hi Mai! I don't have kids but I have a kitty. I'm not a mom but I really enjoy your content and channel. Thanks for being chill, real, and being who you are!
my sister has 6 kids. When her kids are in the "going stir crazy or fighty" days, she has them run laps to expend excess energy whether that's running laps in the house because it's raining outside or running laps around the house on non-rainy days. Ofc she makes the difficulty level according to their age, but you kno whow much energy kids have. Now, that most of them are older, they can tell when they have too much excess energy and choose to go run laps.
Potty training: love the “oh crap” book! And yes to teaching kids to function as future adults! Everyone focuses on having a baby but really we are raising future adults. God willing, only a small portion of their lives will be babies/kids. Reminding myself of that keeps me sane and patient when I’m teaching them basic chores and manners.
Thanks for the suggestion! Going to Amazon! Lol And yes, I always tell myself that too! It’s so easy to baby them, but it only hurts them (and your sanity lol)
I've been watching for over a year, through pregnancy and baby stages. I'm so glad I found your channel. The first thing I liked about you is your honesty and kindness. It feels cozy on your channel. I hope you keep doing this full-time. I look forward to learning more from you
Agree 100% about mom loneliness. I just moved from Texas to Maine and all my family is in Texas. The signal is bad here so I can’t even call them without our conversation being like “what was that? You’re robotic”. There was this amazing motherhood retreat I went to with my sister in Brownwood, Tx and it was so fulfilling being around all these moms/women who were there to uplift each other and learn from one another
I always enjoy watching you clean and declutter. It's hard being a mom and having/finding friends....especially when you move to another state or hours away from everyone you know. Been there. It was tough....and that was before cell phone/internet days and when you didn't have a lot of money as long distance phone calls were limited. I enjoy watching your videos Mia!
I saw that TikTok recently too. It hurt a little bit, tbh. I get that we as new Moms can get completely wrapped up in our new roles and change pretty drastically due to the circumstances, but it's still hard to hear that certain friends just cut themselves off because of it. Friends for every season I guess though. Love your videos Mai! You are so good at keeping it real.
Is it bad that I SOO look forward to your videos, especially cleaning/organizing videos!?! Bc I just got WAY too excited when I was notified you posted a video.
These videos are so calming! I thought it was the cleaning aspect but I've tried to watch others and it ain't the same!! I am trying to get on top of the decluttering now because I am 33 weeks with my first and I have binged your baby prep videos!!! 💜
Going back to work was the absolute hardest thing for me to do. I went after just 8 weeks and it’s still my biggest regret because I still miss my baby so so so much. But he adapted to day care really well and I get updates on an app through my daycare so I know when he’s been fed or changed. He is now almost 8 months old and I still have days where I wish I was a SAHM but most of the time I am very happy that I work because I have my dream job. 🙏 Being thankful for our circumstances definitely helps with the sanity. That is so crazy to learn about your grandmother and her journey becoming a mom!! 😳
The hot dog story has me literally lmfao!! 😂😂😂 love your videos and cleaning motivation! I’m also a first time mommy of twins and whoooo I feel like I don’t have time for myself! Mine are about to be 2 and I feel like it has got somewhat easier.
My second child is the “chill one” so potty training was harder for her - we finally told her she didn’t get an M&M if she didn’t use the potty. Once she realized we were serious, she tried harder. Find what motivates your child and try that. Just know that this too shall pass 😁
I’ve never been to Austin but I’ve heard great things. I live 30 mins or less from Sarasota! It’s pretty and beaches are awesome. Why my hubby and I moved to Florida same as you… the weather! Growing up in Indiana I got sick of the depressing weather!
I loved this q&a cleaning combo. I usually skio through the cleaning videos at one point because for me the talking gets too much. Here, you really captured me visually as well as with the spoken content. Loved it. :)
This was fun! My boys are grown now but I remember bribery working great for potty training. There was a movie my son REALLY wanted. I made a big deal about buying it for him. Then I set it on top of the fridge. He cried and cried for it. I assured him he could absolutely have it, as soon as he pooped in the toilet. It took a couple of days but he got it figured out.
I have 20 year old triplets. It was hard sometimes especially when they fought or didn't listen to me. However, I encourage you to enjoy every single minute because once they're grown, you'll miss them being little! I know I do.
I can relate to losing friends after having kids. I thought I would gain some mom friends, but so far that has not worked out. mostly I rely on my husband and a couple of friends.
I think as an adult it's hard, to maintain friendships. We have such busy lives and even my friends from before seem distant at times. I don't have little humans, but I do have a dog for who I'm constantly making play dates. His friend's parents are our friends but it is still difficult. But I also don't have all the time in the world to hang out, as long as you're happy. It's all good.
Hello, I'm not a mom, by choice, but I really enjoyed this video. I found it oddly informative. I also saw things I can incorporate in my home, spinning mop, electric cleaning brush, etc.. So thank you young lady 👩. I've subscribed and will go back to view your other videos. God bless you and your family. Stay safe.
Yes Marco polo is the best!! Cause I'm pretty sure I am the worst at texting or calling back! Also my Filipino mom drains me out with her 4-5 video calls a day lol. Great video as always. Love getting to know you through your videos! Glad to know us moms aren't alone in adapting in this new life change. ❤️
Just found your channel today. Let's just say I'm glad I'm not the only one. I've mentioned to my husband the loneliness at being a stay at home mom. And some people just shame moms for being ungrateful for being able to stay home. I'm finally at the stage where my kids are getting more independent. 9yr old boy and 6yr old daughter. and this year school year is the first year they are both will be full time students. I'm not sure what I'm going to do with all my time😳😟 Anyways looking forward to more videos.
I laughed right out loud when you talked about winters in MN. I live outside of Buffalo and we are "blasted" every single winter. I am talking snowfall by the FEET not inches. 2 winters ago we got hit with close to 7 ' over a 2 day period and had no roads, no power etc for almost a week. I love it when folks complain about it...HELLO, you lived here all your life, you know we get snow....if you dont like it, leave...LOL No one is keeping you here
I hear ya. I grew up in the Midwest and the winters were consistently rough. Moving is difficult for many people though: family, financially, sentimentally.
Love the video and how real you are. I have been in a mom burnout mode lately. I find myself feeling down about not having any real strong friendships anymore. At the same time I am too tired. I am very lucky though to have a husband who is amazing at caring for the kids and helping me clean when my mental health is absolute shit. Sometimes he does it all just so I can clear my mind. Does it ever really clear? I don’t think so. I do also find myself somewhat feeling resentful towards my husband because he hasn’t lost much connection with his friends. He tries his hardest to step up in place of my friends. I struggle with female relationships anyway because you could say I have mommy issues. I grew up liking men more since all my women role models failed me growing up. So I blame that. That and my borderline personality disorder. Life if hard, but baby steps! 💕
So glad you have an amazing and supportive husband to help you 💕💕 It’s hard and can be isolating being a mom 😢 but at least you got a solid partner by your side 💕
You are so relatable! I also live in north Texas too! I would recommend seeing if you can get a sponsored video or a Pateron . 🤔 keep up the good work 👍😊
Mai your channel really got me through the mid/end of 2020. I gave birth to my 3rd July 2020 & your baby content helped me tremendously! Although it was my 3rd rodeo my son was 5 & my girl was 3, so I got rid of everything thinking I was done lol then my dad unexpectedly passed 3 days prior to giving birth due to COVID, so I felt really defeated and alone. So your decluttering videos really help me keep my mind off things. Anyway, I’m in the same boat as we moved away from everyone, so I’m pretty much on my own. Everything you answered in today’s video resonates. So hope you keep the content coming, b/c I truly look forward to it. Hope to one day feel comfortable enough and not be so awkward in order to do the same, b/c I sure could use the motivation lol Ok done rambling 😝 God continue to bless!
So sorry about your dad 😢 my dad passed away about 3 years ago when I was pregnant with my third and it was so hard. Glad my decluttering videos have been helpful, I’ll try to keep the content coming! I wish I could put out more than a video a week but life is so busy 🤪 don’t let feeling awkward stop you from doing anything also! Trust me, I’m pretty awkward lol. As I mentioned in the video I’m actually pretty introverted, but when you’re talking to a camera it feels 1-1 and chatting with people makes it feel that way too 😁
I feel the same way about friends. I feel like most of them are my party friends and none of them have kids so it's so hard to have things in common now :/
BORN AND RAISED IN MINNESOTA!!! I feel your pain on the cold!!! I hate it its like pin and needles!! Like right now yes it's was hot yesterday 84° but the night was like 45° so it's total opposites sadly ha
Oh I was dying yesterday!! But I also just got a brand new back tattoo so thats why I complained a little more trying to keep it in good condition while it heals. But definitely it's way way to cold up here I say it every year!!
I used to be like Monica from friends. I had a near death experience 2x within months from each other and now good enough works for me. It’s rarely cold in houston, Texas and austin us too crowded and small for me
Now I see why things are the way they are (came from the Air BnB). That's sad, but definitely glad MIL is better to y'all. The mommy loneliness is a whole 'nother level. It's a huge part of why I don't have kids yet :( I already know I have no one to help me. Was told that even if my bf's mom were still alive that she'd be useless. I'm like ok, so obviously the family genes don't need to be continued 💀 Lol! Idk. I'm still in a state of healing, but I do support cool chicks like you. Used to have awful mommy friends that looked down on me for not suffering with them (weird times, yo), but the ones I made/reconnected with are awesome ladies.
I appreciate how authentic you are. As a busy mom what moments do you manage to take advantage of the get little things done? Do you prefer doing a whopping clean up like these videos - getting it all done in one go - or do you find moments (minutes) here and there to accomplish individual tasks? Everyone has a different style/method that works for them. 2 video ideas for the moms: morning routine, bedtime routine (talk about, just show what you’re comfortable/feel safe with). Also, do you watch other youtubers for inspo and would you be willing to share one? Maybe you could collab with another and link to eachother’s video. Glad you’re able to make youtube a bit of an income source. I would like to start a chanel but I feel like I would not do great with other’s negativity/judgment.🤷🏻♀️ Are there things you do that help you relax when the kids are away/asleep? Do you take moments for yourself? Yoga, meditate...wine? Etc.
I feel like I am always doing little things to maintain my house from crumbling lol! but even doing that it still becomes a mess everywhere else! It piles on fast if you're not cleaning 24/7. So I do just enough daily and then once a week usually have a power day when my kids are out of the house. For other RUclipsrs that I watch there are a TON! I've tried to reach out to some, but never got a reply which is fine. I'm sure a ton of people reach out to them 😀 Some of my faves for RUclips and IG are Sonia Casteneda, Baiyinadotcom (decor inspo), The Take (commentary), Cody Ko (comedy), Jackie Aina & RawBeautyKristi (Makeup), MissLizHeart, Safiya Nygaard, Amber Ashleigh (she is way boujier than me, but her videos are calming), Susan Yara (Skincare) and so many more I am probably forgetting!
I was the first of my friends to have kids. Still friends with a few. To be completely honest 20 years later I still don't have mom friends. It used to bother me, but eventually, I accepted it and I am ok with that. Might have actually stressed me out had I had mom friends lol. I saw later my friends and acquaintances who had kids, completely parented and prioritized differently than I did. Thankfully... I didn't have to compare myself to them and how they did it because I had done it already. Over the years as an extroverted introvert parent with ADHD and Anxiety/Depression, I became very aware of my weaknesses and strengths and glad I got that all worked out. I think we shouldn't idealize what we see on social media and tv, that we HAVE to have MOM FRIENDS/Participate in the PTA or be heavily involved with other parents. If you are cool, but we shouldn't have to because not everyone is the same with the same support structure or homelife. Just know you are enough, your family appreciates your hard work and things will work out eventually.
My sister went through the same thing with her son. He never cared about being in a dirty diaper but if he got his hands dirty, the world stopped! Honestly it took him to almost age 5 to fully potty train! My sister tried everything too finally one day it like clicked in his brain that I gotta get out of diapers!
I've always said, "I won't raise helpless men." I started really young with my boys in picking up toys every night before bed. It was a game then. Toy Race! Then brush teeth, get jammies on, and tuck them in. Mine are nearly 17 & 16 now, and I have the only two teenaged boys who LIKE having clean rooms- that I know, at least. :D I haven't had to remind them in years to clean up/dust/sweep their rooms. I don't have to remind them to do their laundry, etc. The only thing they need to build confidence in now before I'll feel I did my job right, is cooking. My fault. I just love to cook, so I haven't put much more than helping me prep on them. We've recently sat down and made a cooking schedule so they'll be responsible for dinner instead of me. (Then I get to do the dishes. LOL)
Do you get more ad cents if I watch the whole of the ads? If you do I won’t skip them. Every penny counts right?! (I don’t really know how this stuff works) I recently subscribed after coming across your declutter videos they are my absolute faves! Really enjoyed your air B and B content too! Hope you get to continue on your RUclips path I love how open real and honest you are!
I do get more if you watch the ads! I appreciate it if you have the time, but if Google gives you a super long ad we’re all busy and I don’t expect anyone to watch a crazy amount haha Just watching supports my channel. I’m hoping to get more sponsors in the future and just supporting any sponsored content really helps 🙏🙏💕💕
@@MaiZimmy no i will happily watch them! Is there anything els we can do to support your channel? You make amazing content for us to watch so I’m happy to do what I can for you! As far as the sponsorships go I wish you all the best and will support where I can I mean I live in the uk and don’t have any kids but I’ll try! Thanks so much for your reply! Looking forward to the declutter you mentioned!! Have an amazing day 🥰
I don’t have any other ways to really support the channel other than following me on all my platforms :) let me know if you have any ideas 😁 for sponsored content no need to buy or anything if you’re not interested. (Please don’t buy if you’re not interested lol) Literally just watching it, liking the post and leaving a comment helps sponsored videos or IG posts more than you know!! And sharing my channel :) appreciate your support! You da best!!! 💕💕
So I am on the opposite end of the spectrum of segregation.... As I have chosen to not have kids but every friend I have now does. And that's great! I will love those kids, and I would never give up a friend just because they wanted a kiddo. But trying to schedule time to hang out with a mom of a newborn is so hard. I try and text as much as I can to keep in touch but it's hard on both ends. So just know it's not just you, and I guess that's just life as an adult Aparently.
Omggg come to Tampa its the absolute best. You would fit right in here. It costs a lot to live here though...well some areas more than others. But you would love it.
When u were cleaning the bathroom walls.....i knew b4 u pointed it out that it was poop. We live the same life lol. Idk why kids now feel they need to leave a streak on the walls but ur not alone lol
It makes me sad that women choose to be mean in this day and age, especially with all the mental health knowledge we have. What happened to women supporting women? And if you can’t, just not being mean! Love your videos!
Thank you for showing real life messes. I absolutely loathe cleaning my gas stove top it has the bumps like yours. What specifically did you use to clean it? Was that salt? I feel I have tried so many tricks and I Scrub and Scrub and it never gets 100% clean.
I love your table with the storage..trying to get my husband to buy it. He says its too farm house but its clearly not because it works so well in your house and our house is very similar. Anyway..have you ever put anything in the storage benches? I'm trying to think about wtf I would store there.
Mai, if you want to set up a virtual mom community(coMomnity?), check out Discord. You can set up an account super easy, and create a server super easy, setting it up is a little more difficult but doable. You can create topic rooms, chat rooms, moderators, editors(supermods), roles, etc. YOu can post links, gifs, allow embeds. It's a really good way to access other ppl with a similar interest.
I totally baby all my kids (I mean my twins are only 9 months ha!!) my husband is taking our almost 4 year old on a 4 day trip and I’m stressed about him being away from me 😂😭 like what if he needs me? 😅😅😭😭😭
I would say moms are definitely lonely these days. The saying "it takes a village to raise a child" is very rare in our modern times because we're mostly isolated and/or keep to ourselves. Also, many of us live far from family so it's hard to find help without having to hire someone instead. There were days where it got so hard, I broke down crying.
Did your husband follow you to TX? He was your HS sweetheart? I'm jealous of moms nowadays because you have these type of videos to know you're not alone, my kids are now adults. I enjoy your videos.
Ok, I too am a “can’t eat the end of the hotdogs” person for the same reason. I can’t get past it looking like a butt either. Glad I’m not the only one! I luckily have the best husband who cuts off the ends for me every time 😂
My daughter was hard to potty train. But one day it just snapped for her and she was potty trained. Just keep trying and dont pressure your children to potty train. It will come eventually . And dont punish them for potty training.
Hey mama. Wondering how old your twins are now? Mine are 14 1/2 and I have to say that with each passing year, that age becomes my favorite. Don’t get me wrong, they’re definitely full blown teens now with all the teen attitude but I still love it. I can have deeper conversations with them, I have so much more time to spend with each, one on one and I just love it. I don’t know if I’ll still feel the same in a year or two, but that’s my two cents. Lol
Thanks for sharing your story and your video move back to my home state regrettably but I move for a good reason am I good reason died but the place that I chose to live unknown to me was not a great place to live now I feel kind of Trapped in a little depressed about it no a lot depressed about it love the home but the neighbors are horrible and I had a rough year not only the coronavirus but I had two major surgeries and I have a family member I have to take care of that takes a lot of my time I have two jobs still not enough to get out of my current situation honestly I'd move on the land with 4 Acres with a house in the Center and a fence around the house with probably 20 dogs and a full Library I'm to that age where I just want peace in my life I don't know if I'll ever get it but I'm so thirsty for it.
It does put things into perspective. Compared to what my grandmother had to go through I can do it! My grandma had to get 5 kids through famine, being forcefully separated from my granddad, living under constant fear of air raids, being shot at and living off whatever food they could find in the jungle. Then came to a brand new country without knowing the language and only the clothes on their back. It really helps me appreciate everything I have in those hard times.
Your grandma sounds like a badass!!! 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻 we are so lucky because of what they endured
@@MaiZimmy she's always laughing and smiling but you wouldn't want to cross her for sure 🤣
I teared up several times during this video just because some of the things you said made me feel very validated. My daughter is 11 months and I've had no help at all other than my husband who works full time. I'm isolated all day, across the country from all family. It's really hard. I'm in a whatsapp chat group with all the moms from my birthing class and that's been my life saver
Hope you are able to get out more soon now that the world is opening back up! I am going to try to force myself to get out more and socialize, but its hard after being closed in for so long! 😅
I LOVE your cleaning videos and I’m pretty sure you described my personality too...totally get the extroverted introvert!
Hi Mai! I don't have kids but I have a kitty. I'm not a mom but I really enjoy your content and channel. Thanks for being chill, real, and being who you are!
Thank you!!! 🥰🥰
WOW! Your story about your grandma giving birth in a Japanese internment camp hit me... HARD! Thank you for giving this perspective!!
my sister has 6 kids. When her kids are in the "going stir crazy or fighty" days, she has them run laps to expend excess energy whether that's running laps in the house because it's raining outside or running laps around the house on non-rainy days. Ofc she makes the difficulty level according to their age, but you kno whow much energy kids have. Now, that most of them are older, they can tell when they have too much excess energy and choose to go run laps.
Potty training: love the “oh crap” book!
And yes to teaching kids to function as future adults! Everyone focuses on having a baby but really we are raising future adults. God willing, only a small portion of their lives will be babies/kids. Reminding myself of that keeps me sane and patient when I’m teaching them basic chores and manners.
Thanks for the suggestion! Going to Amazon! Lol
And yes, I always tell myself that too! It’s so easy to baby them, but it only hurts them (and your sanity lol)
I've been watching for over a year, through pregnancy and baby stages. I'm so glad I found your channel. The first thing I liked about you is your honesty and kindness. It feels cozy on your channel. I hope you keep doing this full-time. I look forward to learning more from you
Agree 100% about mom loneliness. I just moved from Texas to Maine and all my family is in Texas. The signal is bad here so I can’t even call them without our conversation being like “what was that? You’re robotic”. There was this amazing motherhood retreat I went to with my sister in Brownwood, Tx and it was so fulfilling being around all these moms/women who were there to uplift each other and learn from one another
This is one of the best videos I've watched on RUclips. I pray that God blesses your channel with growth. You are helping women by just being you.
I’m not a mom or anything, but I love your videos and it helps me with my anxiety. Your voice is calming. Thank you!
Love from Sweden
Omg you spoke to my soul when you touched on mom loneliness. That's been such a struggle and trying to explain it to others is maddening.
I love that you talked about loneliness as a new mom. This was such a struggle for me, and sometimes it still is. Thank you!
Ty 4 sharing one part of your life with us, I love watching your videos 💕💕💕💕 Please don’t stop cause I take so many tips from your family
Amen on the mother-in-law advice! Husbands are the key.....they must cleave to their wife!
What a great tool you have for cleaning the grout lines!
I always enjoy watching you clean and declutter. It's hard being a mom and having/finding friends....especially when you move to another state or hours away from everyone you know. Been there. It was tough....and that was before cell phone/internet days and when you didn't have a lot of money as long distance phone calls were limited. I enjoy watching your videos Mia!
wow I can not imaging living 1000 miles from my family and not having FaceTime, Marco Polo, Texting, and social media!!!! You were brave!
I saw that TikTok recently too. It hurt a little bit, tbh. I get that we as new Moms can get completely wrapped up in our new roles and change pretty drastically due to the circumstances, but it's still hard to hear that certain friends just cut themselves off because of it.
Friends for every season I guess though.
Love your videos Mai! You are so good at keeping it real.
Decluter and cleaning videos my fav!!!!! Thank you for motivating me to want to clean. Got the pink stuff to try.
Totally agree with you
Thank you for sharing your grandmas story. 🙌🏼
Is it bad that I SOO look forward to your videos, especially cleaning/organizing videos!?! Bc I just got WAY too excited when I was notified you posted a video.
Awwww! Thank you! I’d like to think it’s a good thing, but I’m biased 😆🥰
These videos are so calming! I thought it was the cleaning aspect but I've tried to watch others and it ain't the same!! I am trying to get on top of the decluttering now because I am 33 weeks with my first and I have binged your baby prep videos!!! 💜
Going back to work was the absolute hardest thing for me to do. I went after just 8 weeks and it’s still my biggest regret because I still miss my baby so so so much. But he adapted to day care really well and I get updates on an app through my daycare so I know when he’s been fed or changed. He is now almost 8 months old and I still have days where I wish I was a SAHM but most of the time I am very happy that I work because I have my dream job. 🙏 Being thankful for our circumstances definitely helps with the sanity. That is so crazy to learn about your grandmother and her journey becoming a mom!! 😳
Just found ur channel love ur honesty ,you are a ray of sunshine 🌞 thank you for sharing all ur positive warm and caring videos Rose from Ireland 🌹🤗😘
I recently found your channel and have been loving it! Your honesty in this Q&A is refreshing! 💛
Welcome and thank you!!
The hot dog story has me literally lmfao!! 😂😂😂 love your videos and cleaning motivation! I’m also a first time mommy of twins and whoooo I feel like I don’t have time for myself! Mine are about to be 2 and I feel like it has got somewhat easier.
I love this video. Very inspiring. I like that it's not in hyper-fast mode.
My second child is the “chill one” so potty training was harder for her - we finally told her she didn’t get an M&M if she didn’t use the potty. Once she realized we were serious, she tried harder. Find what motivates your child and try that. Just know that this too shall pass 😁
Loved this style of video! I feel like we’re mom friends ❤️
I have lived in North Texas my whole life. Love it here.
Love Austin too!
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I’ve never been to Austin but I’ve heard great things. I live 30 mins or less from Sarasota! It’s pretty and beaches are awesome. Why my hubby and I moved to Florida same as you… the weather! Growing up in Indiana I got sick of the depressing weather!
I love you even more after this video! You deserve so many more subscribers
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I loved this q&a cleaning combo. I usually skio through the cleaning videos at one point because for me the talking gets too much. Here, you really captured me visually as well as with the spoken content. Loved it. :)
This was fun! My boys are grown now but I remember bribery working great for potty training. There was a movie my son REALLY wanted. I made a big deal about buying it for him. Then I set it on top of the fridge. He cried and cried for it. I assured him he could absolutely have it, as soon as he pooped in the toilet. It took a couple of days but he got it figured out.
I have 20 year old triplets. It was hard sometimes especially when they fought or didn't listen to me. However, I encourage you to enjoy every single minute because once they're grown, you'll miss them being little! I know I do.
Love you girl keep doing amazing things everyday mom of 3 soon 4 losing it but we got this
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I can relate to losing friends after having kids. I thought I would gain some mom friends, but so far that has not worked out. mostly I rely on my husband and a couple of friends.
D-Mannose!
I think as an adult it's hard, to maintain friendships. We have such busy lives and even my friends from before seem distant at times. I don't have little humans, but I do have a dog for who I'm constantly making play dates. His friend's parents are our friends but it is still difficult. But I also don't have all the time in the world to hang out, as long as you're happy. It's all good.
Hello, I'm not a mom, by choice, but I really enjoyed this video. I found it oddly informative. I also saw things I can incorporate in my home, spinning mop, electric cleaning brush, etc.. So thank you young lady 👩. I've subscribed and will go back to view your other videos. God bless you and your family. Stay safe.
Awwww great video! Loved the question time while cleaning instead of annoying music 😅
Hi , I love watching your videos. I think you are so funny, and love you just real about everything. Can’t wait for next video.😃
Keep going !!!! Your my fave mommy RUclips page !! Totally know that feeling like ur baby is ur only friend lol
Awww!!! That means so much!! 🥲 and yes, my boys are my little homies now lol
Yes Marco polo is the best!! Cause I'm pretty sure I am the worst at texting or calling back! Also my Filipino mom drains me out with her 4-5 video calls a day lol. Great video as always. Love getting to know you through your videos! Glad to know us moms aren't alone in adapting in this new life change. ❤️
Your mom 😂😂😂 I feel like I may be like that someday!! And def not alone!!! 💕💕
You are awesome. Thanks for this video, definitely connected on so many levels.
Just found your channel today. Let's just say I'm glad I'm not the only one. I've mentioned to my husband the loneliness at being a stay at home mom. And some people just shame moms for being ungrateful for being able to stay home.
I'm finally at the stage where my kids are getting more independent. 9yr old boy and 6yr old daughter.
and this year school year is the first year they are both will be full time students. I'm not sure what I'm going to do with all my time😳😟
Anyways looking forward to more videos.
FYI. Zep makes a wall cleaner that you can purchase at Home Depot. It works really well.
Thank you!
I just started my channel n I love wacthing videos like this
Love your cleaning vids they actually make me want to clean my own 😂
You are seriously the sweetest love your channel and personality :)
Thank you so much!! 😊
Loved this video!!!! I also love your decluttering videos! Hugs mama!
Yay! Thank you!
I laughed right out loud when you talked about winters in MN. I live outside of Buffalo and we are "blasted" every single winter. I am talking snowfall by the FEET not inches. 2 winters ago we got hit with close to 7 ' over a 2 day period and had no roads, no power etc for almost a week.
I love it when folks complain about it...HELLO, you lived here all your life, you know we get snow....if you dont like it, leave...LOL No one is keeping you here
I hear ya. I grew up in the Midwest and the winters were consistently rough. Moving is difficult for many people though: family, financially, sentimentally.
Mom shaming is real. The isolation is real. I am an introvert and have problems with trusting/connecting with others.
Keep up the good work……. Your doing a brilliant job ☘️ Good Luck for the future
Love the video and how real you are. I have been in a mom burnout mode lately. I find myself feeling down about not having any real strong friendships anymore. At the same time I am too tired. I am very lucky though to have a husband who is amazing at caring for the kids and helping me clean when my mental health is absolute shit. Sometimes he does it all just so I can clear my mind. Does it ever really clear? I don’t think so. I do also find myself somewhat feeling resentful towards my husband because he hasn’t lost much connection with his friends. He tries his hardest to step up in place of my friends. I struggle with female relationships anyway because you could say I have mommy issues. I grew up liking men more since all my women role models failed me growing up. So I blame that. That and my borderline personality disorder. Life if hard, but baby steps! 💕
So glad you have an amazing and supportive husband to help you 💕💕 It’s hard and can be isolating being a mom 😢 but at least you got a solid partner by your side 💕
You are so relatable! I also live in north Texas too! I would recommend seeing if you can get a sponsored video or a Pateron . 🤔 keep up the good work 👍😊
I've pondered patreon, but I feel like I would need to have extra content on there and I barely have time for one RUclips video a week! lol 🙃
Love your cleaning videos!
Moms
"These are the best days of our lives, we just don't know it yet"
Mai your channel really got me through the mid/end of 2020. I gave birth to my 3rd July 2020 & your baby content helped me tremendously! Although it was my 3rd rodeo my son was 5 & my girl was 3, so I got rid of everything thinking I was done lol then my dad unexpectedly passed 3 days prior to giving birth due to COVID, so I felt really defeated and alone. So your decluttering videos really help me keep my mind off things. Anyway, I’m in the same boat as we moved away from everyone, so I’m pretty much on my own. Everything you answered in today’s video resonates. So hope you keep the content coming, b/c I truly look forward to it. Hope to one day feel comfortable enough and not be so awkward in order to do the same, b/c I sure could use the motivation lol Ok done rambling 😝 God continue to bless!
So sorry about your dad 😢 my dad passed away about 3 years ago when I was pregnant with my third and it was so hard. Glad my decluttering videos have been helpful, I’ll try to keep the content coming! I wish I could put out more than a video a week but life is so busy 🤪 don’t let feeling awkward stop you from doing anything also! Trust me, I’m pretty awkward lol. As I mentioned in the video I’m actually pretty introverted, but when you’re talking to a camera it feels 1-1 and chatting with people makes it feel that way too 😁
@@MaiZimmy Thank you Mai! Truly appreciate your words 🙏🏽❤️
Yesterday was my first day back after 12 weeks maternity leave. It was rough. But thanks for saying it’s harder on me than baby
It definitely is! hope day 2 was better 💕
I feel the same way about friends. I feel like most of them are my party friends and none of them have kids so it's so hard to have things in common now :/
BORN AND RAISED IN MINNESOTA!!! I feel your pain on the cold!!! I hate it its like pin and needles!! Like right now yes it's was hot yesterday 84° but the night was like 45° so it's total opposites sadly ha
Wish Texas was only 84 yesterday 😆😆
Oh I was dying yesterday!! But I also just got a brand new back tattoo so thats why I complained a little more trying to keep it in good condition while it heals. But definitely it's way way to cold up here I say it every year!!
I lived in Sarasota 7 years…. Paradise!
However; my family lived in Miami and I was lonely so I moved back…
Totally agree, mommin’ can be SO lonely!
I used to be like Monica from friends. I had a near death experience 2x within months from each other and now good enough works for me. It’s rarely cold in houston, Texas and austin us too crowded and small for me
You definitely have the benefit of warmth being close to the gulf in Houston! ☀️
Now I see why things are the way they are (came from the Air BnB). That's sad, but definitely glad MIL is better to y'all. The mommy loneliness is a whole 'nother level. It's a huge part of why I don't have kids yet :( I already know I have no one to help me. Was told that even if my bf's mom were still alive that she'd be useless. I'm like ok, so obviously the family genes don't need to be continued 💀 Lol! Idk. I'm still in a state of healing, but I do support cool chicks like you. Used to have awful mommy friends that looked down on me for not suffering with them (weird times, yo), but the ones I made/reconnected with are awesome ladies.
I appreciate how authentic you are.
As a busy mom what moments do you manage to take advantage of the get little things done? Do you prefer doing a whopping clean up like these videos - getting it all done in one go - or do you find moments (minutes) here and there to accomplish individual tasks? Everyone has a different style/method that works for them.
2 video ideas for the moms: morning routine, bedtime routine (talk about, just show what you’re comfortable/feel safe with).
Also, do you watch other youtubers for inspo and would you be willing to share one? Maybe you could collab with another and link to eachother’s video. Glad you’re able to make youtube a bit of an income source. I would like to start a chanel but I feel like I would not do great with other’s negativity/judgment.🤷🏻♀️
Are there things you do that help you relax when the kids are away/asleep? Do you take moments for yourself? Yoga, meditate...wine? Etc.
I feel like I am always doing little things to maintain my house from crumbling lol! but even doing that it still becomes a mess everywhere else! It piles on fast if you're not cleaning 24/7. So I do just enough daily and then once a week usually have a power day when my kids are out of the house.
For other RUclipsrs that I watch there are a TON! I've tried to reach out to some, but never got a reply which is fine. I'm sure a ton of people reach out to them 😀 Some of my faves for RUclips and IG are Sonia Casteneda, Baiyinadotcom (decor inspo), The Take (commentary), Cody Ko (comedy), Jackie Aina & RawBeautyKristi (Makeup), MissLizHeart, Safiya Nygaard, Amber Ashleigh (she is way boujier than me, but her videos are calming), Susan Yara (Skincare) and so many more I am probably forgetting!
Thank you Mai. I struggle with mom failure.
You’re doing great mama! If you’re doing you best that is what your kids will see 😁
I was the first of my friends to have kids. Still friends with a few. To be completely honest 20 years later I still don't have mom friends. It used to bother me, but eventually, I accepted it and I am ok with that. Might have actually stressed me out had I had mom friends lol. I saw later my friends and acquaintances who had kids, completely parented and prioritized differently than I did. Thankfully... I didn't have to compare myself to them and how they did it because I had done it already. Over the years as an extroverted introvert parent with ADHD and Anxiety/Depression, I became very aware of my weaknesses and strengths and glad I got that all worked out. I think we shouldn't idealize what we see on social media and tv, that we HAVE to have MOM FRIENDS/Participate in the PTA or be heavily involved with other parents. If you are cool, but we shouldn't have to because not everyone is the same with the same support structure or homelife. Just know you are enough, your family appreciates your hard work and things will work out eventually.
I agree, we don't have to force ourselves to be friends with other parents.
My sister went through the same thing with her son. He never cared about being in a dirty diaper but if he got his hands dirty, the world stopped! Honestly it took him to almost age 5 to fully potty train! My sister tried everything too finally one day it like clicked in his brain that I gotta get out of diapers!
The Q & A was fun
Girl I will be your friend! I live in midlothian (south DFW) and every time I watch your videos I’m like I could legit be this girls friend haha!
I've always said, "I won't raise helpless men." I started really young with my boys in picking up toys every night before bed. It was a game then. Toy Race! Then brush teeth, get jammies on, and tuck them in. Mine are nearly 17 & 16 now, and I have the only two teenaged boys who LIKE having clean rooms- that I know, at least. :D I haven't had to remind them in years to clean up/dust/sweep their rooms. I don't have to remind them to do their laundry, etc. The only thing they need to build confidence in now before I'll feel I did my job right, is cooking. My fault. I just love to cook, so I haven't put much more than helping me prep on them. We've recently sat down and made a cooking schedule so they'll be responsible for dinner instead of me. (Then I get to do the dishes. LOL)
That is awesome!!!! 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻 let’s hope their cooking is as good as yours!!!
Do you get more ad cents if I watch the whole of the ads? If you do I won’t skip them. Every penny counts right?! (I don’t really know how this stuff works) I recently subscribed after coming across your declutter videos they are my absolute faves! Really enjoyed your air B and B content too! Hope you get to continue on your RUclips path I love how open real and honest you are!
I do get more if you watch the ads! I appreciate it if you have the time, but if Google gives you a super long ad we’re all busy and I don’t expect anyone to watch a crazy amount haha
Just watching supports my channel. I’m hoping to get more sponsors in the future and just supporting any sponsored content really helps 🙏🙏💕💕
@@MaiZimmy no i will happily watch them! Is there anything els we can do to support your channel? You make amazing content for us to watch so I’m happy to do what I can for you! As far as the sponsorships go I wish you all the best and will support where I can I mean I live in the uk and don’t have any kids but I’ll try! Thanks so much for your reply! Looking forward to the declutter you mentioned!! Have an amazing day 🥰
I don’t have any other ways to really support the channel other than following me on all my platforms :) let me know if you have any ideas 😁 for sponsored content no need to buy or anything if you’re not interested. (Please don’t buy if you’re not interested lol) Literally just watching it, liking the post and leaving a comment helps sponsored videos or IG posts more than you know!! And sharing my channel :) appreciate your support! You da best!!! 💕💕
So I am on the opposite end of the spectrum of segregation.... As I have chosen to not have kids but every friend I have now does. And that's great! I will love those kids, and I would never give up a friend just because they wanted a kiddo. But trying to schedule time to hang out with a mom of a newborn is so hard. I try and text as much as I can to keep in touch but it's hard on both ends. So just know it's not just you, and I guess that's just life as an adult Aparently.
Omggg come to Tampa its the absolute best. You would fit right in here. It costs a lot to live here though...well some areas more than others. But you would love it.
I'm sure I would!! I would love to live near a white sand beach!!!! Texas is nice a cheap tho haha
If I win the lotto I am getting a beach front property in sarasota tho 😉
Loved this
When u were cleaning the bathroom walls.....i knew b4 u pointed it out that it was poop. We live the same life lol. Idk why kids now feel they need to leave a streak on the walls but ur not alone lol
Great work, i was wondering, what foaming spray did you use on your chocolate colored cabinets?
I switch it up all the time, but I think in this it was just pledge wood cleaner :) I don't really have a favorite at the moment
It makes me sad that women choose to be mean in this day and age, especially with all the mental health knowledge we have. What happened to women supporting women? And if you can’t, just not being mean! Love your videos!
Thank you for showing real life messes. I absolutely loathe cleaning my gas stove top it has the bumps like yours.
What specifically did you use to clean it? Was that salt?
I feel I have tried so many tricks and I Scrub and Scrub and it never gets 100% clean.
I love your table with the storage..trying to get my husband to buy it. He says its too farm house but its clearly not because it works so well in your house and our house is very similar. Anyway..have you ever put anything in the storage benches? I'm trying to think about wtf I would store there.
I remember she said in previous cleaning vids that she doesn’t because a lot of crumbs get in there
What spray were you using on your kitchen cabinets??
Come to Tampa, it's great!
Mai, if you want to set up a virtual mom community(coMomnity?), check out Discord. You can set up an account super easy, and create a server super easy, setting it up is a little more difficult but doable. You can create topic rooms, chat rooms, moderators, editors(supermods), roles, etc. YOu can post links, gifs, allow embeds. It's a really good way to access other ppl with a similar interest.
I've never heard of this?! I'll have to look into it!
My twin nieces don’t eat both ended of their hot dogs either. I’m not sure why lol 😂
I totally baby all my kids (I mean my twins are only 9 months ha!!) my husband is taking our almost 4 year old on a 4 day trip and I’m stressed about him being away from me 😂😭 like what if he needs me? 😅😅😭😭😭
I would say moms are definitely lonely these days. The saying "it takes a village to raise a child" is very rare in our modern times because we're mostly isolated and/or keep to ourselves. Also, many of us live far from family so it's hard to find help without having to hire someone instead. There were days where it got so hard, I broke down crying.
Your grandma sounds like a badass
what is all included in your handheld kitchen cady?
Did your husband follow you to TX? He was your HS sweetheart? I'm jealous of moms nowadays because you have these type of videos to know you're not alone, my kids are now adults. I enjoy your videos.
He did follow me to Texas and is my HS sweetheart :)
What’s that little scraper thing you used on your cabinets? It wasn’t linked.
Ok, I too am a “can’t eat the end of the hotdogs” person for the same reason. I can’t get past it looking like a butt either. Glad I’m not the only one! I luckily have the best husband who cuts off the ends for me every time 😂
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My daughter was hard to potty train. But one day it just snapped for her and she was potty trained. Just keep trying and dont pressure your children to potty train. It will come eventually . And dont punish them for potty training.
Hey mama. Wondering how old your twins are now? Mine are 14 1/2 and I have to say that with each passing year, that age becomes my favorite. Don’t get me wrong, they’re definitely full blown teens now with all the teen attitude but I still love it. I can have deeper conversations with them, I have so much more time to spend with each, one on one and I just love it. I don’t know if I’ll still feel the same in a year or two, but that’s my two cents. Lol
Love to hear that. My twins are 5 now and their little brother is 4 :)
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So lovely home cline girl 👍👍👍🌹
Thanks for sharing your story and your video move back to my home state regrettably but I move for a good reason am I good reason died but the place that I chose to live unknown to me was not a great place to live now I feel kind of Trapped in a little depressed about it no a lot depressed about it love the home but the neighbors are horrible and I had a rough year not only the coronavirus but I had two major surgeries and I have a family member I have to take care of that takes a lot of my time I have two jobs still not enough to get out of my current situation honestly I'd move on the land with 4 Acres with a house in the Center and a fence around the house with probably 20 dogs and a full Library I'm to that age where I just want peace in my life I don't know if I'll ever get it but I'm so thirsty for it.
What did you use on those bathroom tiles? I need that.
The thing that’s worked best for me is Lysol toilet bowl cleaner, but test to make sure it doesn’t strip your tiles first :)
And the scrubber brush thing is linked :)
@Mai Zimmy thanks girl! 🤗
Omg. My mil was born in Santo Thomas prison camp
In the Philippines!
Your poor but very strong grandma!! Such sad American history that need more publicity acknowledging it happened!