I know that this video is going to be my most contentious video I've ever done but honestly, I feel like it's time to just come out and be honest with this kinda thing, especially one in particular. I understand that this may cause some of you all to unsubscribe from me and all I can say is that I wish you well and no hard feelings. Also no, this channel is not going to be changing in theme and it will always be rooted in topics about the Goth Subculture and Music talk. I just felt that to be transparent, I wanted to be upfront now with these particular thoughts because I know it's very controversial. Anyway, thanks for watching if you did and if you do decide to stick around, I look forward to seeing you in the next video. Take care~ ⭐The video explanation for point number one is finally out ~ ruclips.net/video/OEbxA6F-WeE/видео.html
Even though I'm asexual I still respect your opinion. And teaching any kind of sexual things to children is crossing the line for me. But once again that's my opinion. It's okay that we sont agree on everything just as long as we are civil.
Also, you are so right about gender. It's not man and woman, those are sex IE adult human female or male. Masculinity and femminity are the true gender principles. I have nothing against trans people as an androgynous female myself, but the reality is, they're operating in a faulty paradigm, we all are to some degree. Esoteric teachings such as the Kybalion go into the true "gender".
#10. Sexuality is exclusionary. Everyone has the right to turn down a sexual partner or a whole section of society for whatever reason they see fit. No questions asked. Sexually excluding someone doesnt oppress them, it doesnt harm anyone, it isnt a hateful act. No one has the right to state otherwise. If anyone disagrees with this statement, then they are part of the problem of perpetuating rape culture. Believing one is entitled to sex is rape culture, because believing you can't exclude certain people, means you don't believe in sexual consent.
@@baphometbby What? That no one has claimed being sexually exclusive is harmful and oppressive? I beg to differ. When a group of male born transwomen hold seminars titled "To Overcome the Cotton Ceiling' where they discuss how fight against lesbians being lesbians and not wanting their dicks (if anyone doesnt believe this is a thing, just google cotton ceiling, and it's there for all to see)....claiming that this isn't a thing or issue, is false and/or you're lying
First of all Rape isn't a culture, well at least in America, maybe in the middle east. Rape is a Crime of sexual intercourse without the victim's consent, often involving the use or threat of force. Feeling you are entitled to sex isn't rape. Here In society we teach that rape is wrong and is against the law, heck rapist even become huge targets in prison. however if you keep changing the narrative on what is a rape is in your Twisted mentality off way of thinking than a high majority of men and women are rapist. It's alarming how many likes your comment got. Shame on you, you are apart of the problem.
I agree with you dude, I’m so sick of people on tiktok and whatnot saying shit like “every time you disagree with our genders we make 10 more!” Thats just proving that gender is just a concept to them :/ also your point about the Lgbtqia++ term shit is just perfect, thank you for this video
Shows you know nothing about gender then. Gender and sex are not the same thing. They exist but.... stop being transphobic. Gender is constructed by society.
I am not ot of the LGBT community but I agree with what you say. Being intrigued by certain features of a specific ethnic community does not make you racist, it's just like any other preference. I never understood why they like/use the term queer. Be blessed
'Queer' is far more indicative of political ideology than it is sexuality. I have never met a 'queer' person who wasn't utterly insufferable. When I think of 'queer', I think of someone like Milo Stewart. Someone who writes essays explaining how systemic, hegemonic, colonialist, white male cisheteronormativity made the entire world queerphobic. In my opinion, the fact that 'demisexual' is considered a legitimate sexuality speaks to the unfortunate reality that western society has moved away from courtship and romance towards meaningless, non-committal sex. It's very atomising. 'Demisexuality' used to be the default. My unpopular opinion: 'the LGBT Community' only exists for LGBTs who have progressive left politics and toe the line on every issue. If you are: conservative, religiously observant, sceptical of any aspects of trans ideology, anti-kink/porn/prostitution, or dissent in any other way, you are cast out. A true 'LGBT community' would support all homosexuals/bisexuals/transsexuals unconditionally.
Racial preferences depends from environment person grew up in. Also bad experiences with certain races or nationalities can deter from dating people who fall in those groups. I think where's even studies done on partner preferences and why we are attracted to certain people and others not.
Yeah unfortunately a lot of alternative people swallow trans dogma with no rhyme or reason and it makes me not really wanna even bother talking to any I come across for fear that they are a "gendie".
@@KaiDecadence OOOOOOOH my G*d I think I've found my community here, I'm a metalhead (sort of baby bat) and I'm so sick of everyone, inside and outside of the culture, just assuming I'm one of the "wokies".
@@KaiDecadence This video ages well, and I'm very glad you are still holding to the same opinions : you won a new follower. Elder goth here, sick of being shout at as "closed mind" by so many people these days for having these very same opinions. Thanks for this video Kai !
I was expecting to find some things to disagree with, but I actually agree 100%. I also gotta add I get pissed off in general when trans ideologues appropriate what is usually cultural roles for GNC or homosexual men in other cultures as being trans, which happens often. In my country, there is a similar thing that is called as "third gender", but I've seen trans activists use it as arguments for their legitimacy when it's a completely different thing.
The issue with it is that it conflates sex and gender. Trans which does the same does that but "non-binary" takes ti to an even extremer level that essentially says that if the person doesn't conform to masculinity or feminine 100%, they are not a man or woman, it's just... Stupid. "Nonbinary" could've been a nice new modern term to describe gender nonconforming but it's such a loaded term full of nonsense that it just can't be.
I agree with that. They try to say sex and gender are different. However I honestly think they are the same, and these non-binary people keep changing the dictionary definition of gender. I swear 20 years ago the dictionary definition of gender was a lot different from what it is today. You could be a male and break gender stereotypes, and females and break gender stereotypes as well without being non-binary or gender-fluid, or gender-queer, or whatever name they will make up next year. Demi-gender, Polygender, and so on. It never makes sense.
I know I probably sound like an asshole for saying all that stuff. It's just an opinion of mine. It's important to respect people's pronouns even if I don't agree with them.
On "sexual racism " i think it's actually the norm that people are primarily attracted to their own group or own culture. More people are comfortable with what is familiar. Then you have the percentage in any culture or group who are attracted to what's different -- ( which is where I fit in haha. I have never dated anyone in my same group. )
As someone who is asexual and aromantic, I 100% agree with you. I literally don't engage in sex or experience sexual attractions, so why am I included in an acronym of oppressed sexualities? When I tell people I'm asexual the "Worst" I get is, "Well, you just haven't met the right person yet". I actually face less bullshit, since I literally don't have to worry about the issues that come with being sexual at all.
Thank you for admitting this. Because time and again I would hear from some asexual people who would complain about being discriminated and I'm just left scratching my head in bewilderment. Some say they feel discriminated for realtiknships but usually when I try to remind them that asexual people are extremely rare, rarer than even homosexuals and usually that helps put things in perspective.
@calendarphotoscamera1 Canuck THIS. With this whole "Lesbians are vagina fetishists" and "Gays are Penis fetishists" that has come from these trans-identified people, it's absolutely becoming oppressive, especially towards Lesbians. So many Lesbian bars have been shut down and their apps have been dominated by trans-identified men who have absolutely no business being on there.
as someone who is also on the asexual spectrum, i appreciate being included in the LGBTQIA+ in that way. people who don't experience sexual attraction are definitely oppressed in places although if you never experienced that, that's wonderful. as someone who is "hot" and rarely experiences sexual attraction, that made me a target of sexual abuse and rape by people i thought were just wanting to be friends (because i didn't understand their sexual motivations). Again, it's great that you never experienced violence because of your orientation(s) but many people have. It's cruel to erase other peoples experiences just because it's different from your own. You don't want to consider yourself part of the LGBTQIA+? Cool, then don't. Don't you dare take that away from other people though. It's a different than "normal" orientation and deserves visibility, representation, and acceptance.
I have to say this.... I agree 100% with everything on this vid. I've always been uncomfortable with how convoluted the LGBT community has become. I personally believe the movement is going to become complex to the point of losing focus of what it was about in the first place.
I’m so relieved and happy that a gay man has made a video like this, it’s so refreshing to see. As a lesbian I’m so fed up with the “queer community” which now is essentially just straight people with micro identities and dyed hair. I agree with literally everything you said. Most LGB and even some T will secretly agree with you but won’t say anything because the “queer” people will get angry and you will be cancelled for an unpopular but completely valid opinion. I literally had some teenage boy telling me that “queer” isn’t a slur anymore. Asexuality is a lack of sexual orientation, it’s not another sexual orientation. Sexuality is based on biological sex (which exists btw). BDSM has nothing to do with being same sex attracted neither is being body positive.
hey I saw a tweet said in quote "the norm in human is bisexuality. it was only made rare due to religions and cultures. not bc same sex relationship are rare. most humans are bi and they do not realise it" what do you think of it? for me I disagree because sexuality and sexual orientation are very complex and hard to pin point. Plus people go by various defiention of 'bi' and others sexuality idenifty than just firmly through biology and science. also I want to ask I hardly see trans men issue with the biologoy men and women wheras trans women I do see more?
Eh... I can kind of see some truth to that. There's no denying that religion and culture has played a part in shaming homosexuality and this definitely plays a part in why some homosexuals and bisexuals can develop internalized homophobia but I feel like bisexuals are especially more vulnerable to this because unlike us homosexuals, bisexuals can be attracted to the opposite sex and thus be socialized into heteronormativity. That said, while I do think there are more bisexuals than we may realize, I don't think it's a substantial amount. And the answer to your second uquestion is easy. It's because men don't see trans-identified women "transmen") as a threat, in fact most don't even take them seriously but they just don't say it out loud. Men know that trans-identified women pull the same crap that trans-identified women pull on women, they would be promptly put in their place and these trans-identified women know this which is why they tend to stay in their lane. Compare that to trans-identified men pulling all kinds of BS women and it's because of male entitlement and taking advantage of female socialization where women are typically raised to put men before themselves which is why when a woman refuses to placate trans-identified men's delusions, they have a narcissistic rage response to them.
Just what I was looking for, I'm fed up of the LGBT saying "you can't identify as that" is kinda racist to say, plus there complete denial of scientific facts, queer I also see as a derogatory too, the trans children thing is just pushing an agender on to them more then educating them
Did you ever make a follow up video to this one? Would you ever consider doing a video about queer theory, and it’s impact on the gay community? Or a video directed at youth on how gender nonconformity and still identifying as your sex broadens the possibilities for that sex? When I saw the gender color skittles come out, it became so clear that LGBT youth are a market demographic.
I'm actually still working on a follow up video to this one, it's just taking me a lot longer than I thought because I'm trying to cover my basis and try to get this into an essay forum that is coherent. I have no plans on making a video on the ridiculousness pf "queer theory" because it doesn't interest me but in the follow up video, I will be touching up on how the whole gender ideology is negatively affecting gender nonconforming & gay/lesbian youths.
Kai Decadence So glad to hear it! I just wanted to make sure I didn’t miss it. I think you have an interesting perspective and unique lived experience. I think you are an important voice to speak about gender expression and how today’s gender ideology is influencing how the youth process and interpret gender expression. I just want teens to have the space to explore things without being marketed to or used in political ways. They don’t always have a community of “elders” to impart their wisdom as they did in times past. I think some of your content could help them see that there are lots of different ways to look at things and they have permission to think critically and find their own ways to define and express themselves. Including diversity includes diversity of ideas. Thanks for the update 🙂
Thank you! When I was little I refused to call myself a girl and only called myself a tomboy. When I was even littler I wanted to legally change my name to Mario. Gender activists would claim that’s a sign a kid is trans but I’ve barely even had regular dysphoria let alone gender dysphoria. I refused to call myself a girl because the girliest girls I knew would bully me and were petty and only interested(one of them didn’t even like legos) in things I thought were lame, while my brothers friends were nice to me. I’m also autistic and autistic people usually don’t conform to gender norms). And I wanted to change my name to Mario because I just really liked Super Mario(my second choice for a name was Ballerina). The amount of “non binary women” I’ve seen that look almost exactly like me is crazy. I get the impression a lot of them just don’t quite fit gender norms like me but can’t handle the fact that they’re “different”. I think I should probably thank the girls who bullied me when I was little because they helped me learn from a young age that gender norms and fitting in are stupid. Of course so many women don’t identify as women, have people not seen how women are portrayed in media? Who the heck relates to that? Reminds me of this whole thing lately where people are waking up and realizing that Snapchat, filters, kardashians, makeup and photoshop isn’t good for the mental health of young girls and I’m just wondering where people have been. I figured that out when I was like 8 or 9. Sorry, Igot a bit rambley there. I found your channel through your Reddit posts back when r/gendercritical(hated that sub though, it was so misandrist and toxic) was still a thing and I still had a Reddit.
"Gender activists" wouldn't claim shit, mate. We aren't trans bc of our interests, it's an internal situation that cannot change. We don't become trans, we always were trans. The only people who see a child and decide their gender based on their interests is an outdated fucker who thinks gender stereotypes mean anything - which most trans people don't. Plenty of us, like myself, are still interested in things considered stereotypical for our agab. And no afab trans person is just a confused woman btw, that's so insanely fucking transphobic
I'm literally the same. You pretty much described me. 7 year old, massive tomboy, hated anything girly, wanted to have a boy name, however never experienced any type of dysphoria and eventually grew out of it. It's because kids understand everything so literally. There's been an article studying the psychology of how kids think, and as far as I remember, it goes kinda like this: - Young girl finds out about something called "football" - young girl notices that most of the people who like football are male - because of that, young girl starts to think that every male she encounters likes football by default - then, young girl starts to think that no girl likes football - eventually, she starts to believe that if you're a person who likes football, you must be male. - and in some rarer cases (but not unusual), girl develops a passion for football and starts thinking she's a boy in a girls' body. Boom! Transgenderism. Unfortunately, you can see that there are still some adults who think like this. Like when a man wears a lot of makeup and people would say shit like "is that a man or a woman?", "Why are you trying to be a woman?" Basically equating makeup to womanhood. To them, woman is any person who wears makeup. And to me, that's just proof of how many adults suffer from some mild form of arrested development. Because this is literally a childrens' way of thinking. Speaking of those girly girls who bullied you for being gender non conforming, there's an explanation for that as well. Most girls and women are at least subconsciously aware of their expected gender roles, as well as unhappy about them. No one wants to be the submissive one, the ornamental one, the sexual object, the "emotional" one, the irrational one, and so many other negative gender stereotypes and expectations. But the thing is, women and girls who perform those things usually have "a longer leash" in patriarchy. Aka, they'll be treated more nicely by boys, by teachers, by society in general, for wearing makeup, for being girly, for not being a tomboy etc. So of course they'll hate any woman or girl who manages to escape femininity, or has enough confidence to be GNC in a world that bullies her for it. In short, those girls and women hate what they can't have. I also remember r/gendercritical and I agree, it was sometimes very toxic. I've noticed they liked to bully trans people a lot, and for no apparent reason. And I believe there's a difference between being gender critical and being a straight up bully.
@@technicolortvscreens Did you watch the video? Did you see the part where he provided the definitions of "man" and "woman"? Did you miss it, or are you just so deep in your ideology that you're in denial of that fact?
Oh no need to apologize for being "rambley", you're totally fine and I appreciate you sharing your experience because what you said is true and what I had observed when it came to "non-binary" and "Trans"identified women ("Transmen") as well. That a lot of them are just bothered by the fact that they don't fit the stereotype(s) that have been hoisted onto women i.e being all about femininity and having certain interests like being into makeup, men, fashion, etc. And when they get bullied for it, they think it means that something is wrong with them and they then start to feel horrible about themselves and start to believe that they aren't really women. Couple that with possible rejection from family and it's just a recipe for an identity crisis.
Totally on point. I always thought it was strange that the term queer was used in gay and GNC communities considering the history behind the word. Presently, the definition of queer is nebulous (and after researching queer theory, it seems its deliberately kept that way), tho most people seem to use it describe anyone who isnt “cis”-het, or as some sort of personality type. It implies heterosexuals can’t exhibit “queer” behavior, whatever that is. And as for “two-spirit”: trans affirmist like to say “trans people have existed throughout history!” and then you look into it these examples and find out these separate gender-identities are based in homophobia, or are GNC people who felt the only way to feel comfortable in society was to identify as something other than their sex.
I live in Montreal and you're seeing a big schism between the "old" generation and the young when it comes to LGB stuff. The latter seems to have a weird obsession with identity while having no individuality.
This is true. I have noticed this schism in general as well as someone who is now beginning 30 and I've seen what you're talking about with the younger generation and their weird, unhealthy obsession with being identity and it's just sad to see. Because they continue to make up more of these frankly ridiculous "identities" and not focus on things that actually make people interesting like developing hobbies or learning & developing a skill.
My unpopular opinion is that people are seeking excuses to stigmatize gay men as a whole. They treat every weirdo as if he was one of us. Transwomen, men attracted to transwomen, men attracted to teenage boys, men attracted to the idea of surgically modifying kids, groomers, furries, fetishistic crossdressers, etc., they cannot not call those men "gay" because "gay" is such an stigmatizing label for a guy. When will it occur to them that male bisexuality takes many forms (some paraphilic), and that not every bisexual/mostly-straight man will say they are non-straight because they may not have an advantage in doing so?
Trans women and men who are attracted to them are not 'weirdos' there's nothing wrong with crossdressing sexually or furries either. You don't want people to judge you but are overly judgemental of other groups. What makes you think you're deserving of the empathy you don't extend to others?
@@jackmmcallister it's their body? They can do what they want. Also transwomen and people who are attracted to them are normal people?. And can be gay. Find some insight buddy cause you seem like a huge prick
@@payt00n Yes, and other people should use their bodies to prevent anyone from pretending to be somebody of the opposite sex... How long do you think society is going to watch GUYS with moobs female-like body shapes? How long till people go STOP, you are a guy ffs
As a young gay man, I can firmly say I completely agree with you, especially regarding the trans issue. Although I've never experienced it myself, I have heard of gays and lesbians being called transphobes for refusing to date trans men and women. Given how I spent the better part of my teen years quite uncomfortable with my sexuality, it feels like a massive slap in the face that when I finally become happy and comfortable with who I am, I run the risk of being shamed and vilified for not wanting to date a biological woman. By the group that was meant to protect people like me no less. When it comes to the issue of race, to me at least it mainly depends on whether or not I find a particular member of a race attractive or not. I am white, and I've seen plenty of incredibly attractive white, black and asian guys who I would date in a heartbeat, and also ones who I'd rather not.
Watching this video of your unpopular opinions about LGB community help me realize how ridiculous the community is. I guess I can call myself bi curious since I'm stuck between lesbian or bisexual.
I'm a bisexual woman, and it was very confusing growing up and trying to figure it out. Like, I didn't even know being bi was a thing back then (I'm 37 lol).
Agreed on all your points...I especially agree that demisexuality and pansexuality don't exist. As an asexual/aromantic person myself (in my 20s so I can say with near certainty it wasn't a teenage phase like I first thought) it's pretty obvious to me that it's an extremely rare phenomenon, and most people who claim to be Ace really aren't. The few interactions I had with Ace people in groups online were always frustrating. It was obvious most of them were just using Asexual to be special and get a social "not straight" card, while most of them still admitted wanting romantic relationships and eventually having sex. They also insisted that Asexuality was an orientation just like Homosexuality, which makes no sense because Asexuals aren't oriented toward anyone. Most of them were teenage girls all trying to fit as many labels on themselves as possible, using "demisexuality" or meaningless microlabels like "akoiromantic" or "fraysexual" to seem special. But before casual sex and hooking up was widespread, being "demisexual" was just being a normal person who wanted exclusivity in their romantic/sexual relationship. I also heavily agree on Intersex people not belonging to the LGB community...I'm not Intersex myself but I've done a lot of research into the science of it, and it annoys me that so many Trans activists try to use the Intersex community as props in their ideology and an extension of "trans-ness", when being Intersex has nothing to do with that. Most of the time, Intersex people choose to live as the sex they exteriorly appear as, regardless of chromosomes, because they feel more comfortable with that, or they were raised that way (especially individuals with XY chromosomes who have AIS and were usually raised female because of their appearance). And some intersex people can't take hormones that correspond to their chromosomes because it's often detrimental to their physical health, depending on their condition. Also agreed that trans ideology makes no sense...the more I research, the more firmly I believe the ideology is not based in scientific literature, but in a mythological, almost religious belief that the body isn't the "real" you, but merely a conduit for the spirit or feelings within, and can be "changed" to male or female if one feels strongly enough about it. It's pseudo science, and very harmful to young teens who are confused about their bodies, feeling awkward and socially anxious. They are allowed to just get hold of hormones and surgeries that mess up their bodies permanently, when most of them are either just gay, and haven't found a way they feel comfortable with that, or they need therapy for other reasons, like trauma that causes them to dissociate from their bodies and hate themselves. Pardon the essay length answer lol... it's just rare to find people nowadays who think for themselves about these topics and don't just mindlessly repeat the PC talking points that make no logical sense.
yeah the way people use two spirit is really misinformed. some people actually believe the concept of 2 sexes was foreign to indigenous people, when the majority of indigenous North Americans recognised 2 sexes, and most of them had 2 gender roles. In a minority of cultures there was a role for men who were feminine and/or homosexual. This was a gender role with its own rules within the culture, just like the man/woman roles. They knew that these men were male, none of them believed someone male could be a woman. None of them had extra roles for women. The approach of viewing gender as an identity that the individual chooses rather than a role within their society is a very new, very western concept.
You’re brave for this. I see you everywhere on other peoples channels and I had to check you out. I can’t relate to the ‘queer community’. It feels like I’m the only actual same sex attracted person (lesbian) in my friend group. And I’m the only female who doesn’t id as ‘not cis’.
I'm sorry you're dealing with that, that absolutely sucks and it's things like that that made me want to come out vocally with these thoughts because I want other gays and lesbians to know that not all LGB people buy into the madness that the "T" brought with this "gender identity" nonsense when that has nothing to do with being a homosexual.
This is honestly the reason why I can’t relate to half of the LGBTQ community, one half acts like they’re oppressed by trans people and the other are wack snowflakes. Y’all have to calm the fuck down.
I actually found your channel through a RUclips video trying to “expose” you (and you just gained a subscriber thanks to them haha!). Some of what you said applies to communities I don’t belong to so I don’t really feel like I have much of an opinion on it, but most other things you brought up shouldn’t be controversial whatsoever. I’m sorry lots of people these days can’t agree to disagree and jump straight into clinging onto a victim mentality just because they feel entitled to force their worldview onto people when it’s often incompatible with reality (like trying to force others to redefine their sexual orientation). Sounds like they’re insecure, so they need to silence people to be taken seriously. Thanks for having the guts to say this out loud, some of these extremists need to be confronted with more pushback from rational, grounded people like you. 🖤
Same here! Kai is based af! I found his channel through someone who is afraid of being associated with him because they were "friends once." She lost my sub, and I gave Kai my sub in return!
I’m straight. I am totally supporting of the lgbt+community. But getting called a bigot for saying there are two SEXES seriously puts me off. I hate when LGB’s get called transphobic just because of their SEXUAL preference that they can’t help. It’s annoying af.
You're not supporting trans and non binary people when you deny their realities. There are clearly not two sexes by any measure, so we can add intersex people to the list of those you do not support. I am not saying this in an angry way or to be insulting, but when so many people disagree with tour opinion on sex, it may be time to look into it a bit more- to realise that you may have missed some things.
@@cloudthief8918 I'm sorry but no. They can believe in "their" reality all they want but that doesn't change the fact that there is only one true reality when it comes to this and that is just the cold hard truth. They don't have the right to control and make others believe in their frankly, spiritual belief. And oh joy the intersex argument for like the 1,000th time. You people need to stop with that because not only is it insulting to actual intersex people, it doesn't prove your point neither because I hate to break it you but Intersex people still fall within the male and female sex class. ► Klinefelter (XXY), XYY Syndrome, XXYY Syndrome, XXXY Syndrome, XXXXY Syndrome, XYYY Syndrome, and XYYYY Syndrome are all Male/Men intersex conditions ► Trisome (XXX), Tetrasomy X (XXXX), & Petrasomy X (XXXXX) are all Female/Women intersex conditions. The only true grey area are people born with Complete Androgen Insensitivity Disorder where the individual is born with defunct internally testes but this condition only affects 1 in 50,000 to 1 in 20,000 newborns making it .002% to .005% chance factor. in other words, it's a moot point for what you're trying to spin it as. I highly suggest you read up more on what intersex actually is and stop using these people as pawns to push a flawed ideology.
@@cloudthief8918 because there realities are base on self imagery ( psychology ). I can sympathize with trans since there suffering from a biological condition but non binary are made { socially made ) which isn't much....
Do you think that the notion of non-binary is sexist? Personally, I think so because I have yet to read a definition of the term without reinforcing sexist stereotypes of the two sexes. And what are brain-dead terms like non-binary woman/man? How can one be non-binary and at the same time identify with one of the binary "genders".
Yeah I do think they are kinda sexist terms because of it's insistence of believing the notion that socially constructed gender roles/stereotypes define sex when they don't. And like I said in the video, it's pretty much people saying that they're not interested in said socially constructed gender stereotypes or they like mixing both and the latter is just androgyny. And the former well, many people don't care to conform to gender roles and that doesn't make one "not a woman" or "not a man". It's just juvenile.
@@KaiDecadence I agree with you. I think the problem I have with non-binary is that it presents its concept in a way that breaks down pre-existing gender roles when in reality it doesn't. After watching videos from broadcasting channels, it really feels the people identifying as non-binary are just agreeing to our narrow view of how men and women should behave. The thought process goes like this: "Men should behave that way, women this way. I find this point of view limiting, but instead of actually challenging pre-existing gender roles, I simply identify as something completely different." I also hate the way they use intersex people to justify their thought process.
@@sailormoon3393 Yep you got it 100%. But I have to thank the non-binary fad because back then I was never on board with it and over time when I started thinking more about why I don't think a concept like "non-binary" is real, it played a part in me questioning the trans ideology and gave me the right push to see that even trans ideology was just as ridiculous and much more sexist towards women with the notion that women don't really exist and it's just all in your mind and that essentially, women can be worn as costumes based on socially constructed stereotypes hoisted onto them.
@@KaiDecadence You're right. We women and girls are oppressed because of our sex, not because of our "gender identity". We can't just identify the shit out of it. To suggest otherwise is an insult to women and girls who are exposed to sex-based oppression / violence / discrimination. What is your opinion of them trying to change the language? I live in Germany and our language is pretty gender specific. But non-binaries are now trying to force us to adopt neopronouns. I don't want to sound hateful, but I'm worried because LGB acceptance is decreasing and I won't stop thinking that gender ideology is to blame.
10- Agree 9- Half agree (I agree that it's usually bisexuals who use it, but I don't agree that "no self-respecting gay or lesbian" would reclaim it; I personally don't use it as a label due to the political implications but I have reclaimed it on a personal level due to the meaning of "strange" resonating with me, I understand many gay/lesbians and some bisexuals are offended by the idea of same sex attraction being strange but I personally don't think "strange" means unnatural or wrong. It took me a very long time to come to this conclusion since I grew up around it being a violent slur growing up, it used to be a big trigger for me, so I understand why others don't like it) 8- Agree 7- Agree (I don't think labels that describe "how" you feel attraction count as separate sexualities. And it's crazy to see people in their 25+-30s range on dating apps identifying as it, lol) 6- Agree (I see it as a subcategory of bisexual) 5- Not my lane but technically agree (a lot of cultural third genders are social roles for gay/GC/intersex people) 4- Somewhat agree 3- Mostly agree (I'm fine with the T staying since trans people can be same sex attracted, however I think trying to rebrand LGB as same "gender" attraction has done a lot of harm, so there should be sexuality-only (LGB) spaces too alongside LGB+T spaces. I also think Asexual should be a separate community from LGB/T due to the hostility a lot of sex-repulsed asexuals tend to have towards how LGB is associated with sexuality) 2- Agree with the opinion, but disagree with the explanation (I see gender as mostly a social/material reality, identity and presentation are separate and while I can respect people's identities, similar to how I can respect someone's religion, it's not always aligned with their reality so I don't think it's always useful politically) 1- Mostly agree I know this video is a year old but I'd like to know your 3rd channel. I've come to mostly (70-80%) similar conclusions after years of research and experience and interested to know the handful of differences in our views. I'm very happy to see someone with content like yours talk about these things even if I don't completely agree.
In a manner of speaking, YES lmao. Like I mentioned in the video, I am very convinced that this "demisexual" silliness was/is a response to hookup culture because hookups have become a lot more popular ever since the turn of 2010s what with app culture introduced through Tinder. Some gullible people started to assume that hookups are totally the norm which sure, al or of people tend to be into it but the desire to have meaningful relationships never went out of style neither and they weren't "demi" for it neither, it's perfectly normal to want a true connection with someone before having sexual relations. I mean heck, in recent times after I made this video, I've heard someone say that they are "demisexual" because they don't want to have sex with their friends. I mean come on now lmao. As if it's common for people to not want to have sex with their friends,
As a feminine gay black goth, and metalhead guy I was interested in your thoughts on this subject matter because.. I know a lot of people don't like me for the reason of being goth. How do you deal with life as a being gay and goth as well? I knew I was gay since I was 10. And I've been goth since I was 14, I'm 26.. She past away, Bauhaus, Sisters of mercy, Shadow Age etc.. some goth bands I enjoy.. I know I'm rambling on about many things, please don't hate me.. lol😅
Um... I'm not sure how to even address this. My being Goth has nothing really do with it, All Goth is is just liking Goth music and while I hardly ever meet other people into the music, I'm into other kinds of music so it's not a big deal to be honest. I mean yeah, I don't really know how this is relevant to what I mentioned in the video tbh.
@@KaiDecadence Sorry.. I kind of meant to say.. I'm saying as a goth who is also gay.. are there any challenges that you deal with it in social places? Sorry about that.. I'm also androgynous.. when I wrote the comment I was distracted so I wrote a lot of random things.. sorry about that.... didn't mean to be so difficult.
@@thelastdaybreathinginetern1385 Sorry, it's just the truth. My life is pretty boring and uneventful and I try to pay no mind to people around me when I'm out in public. Sure I may get the odd stare but no one has actually given me grief or anything, that stuff happened more in my early 20s lol.
I used to identify as pansexual but now I go by (haha) bisexual. I do not mind if others use that label but over time bisexual just fits with me. Plus I like the colors of the flag a lot more.
My unpopular opinion: people who clearly know what sex/gender they’re attracted to but still say „I don’t want to label myself. I am just myself“ are stupid. 1. are then people who use labels like gay or bi or ace not just themselves? 2. it comes off as internalised homophobia/biphobia/acephobia bc they, seems to me, can’t accept that they’re gay or bi or ace and they can’t speak it out loud. Like sorry but if you’re a man attracted to men then you’re gay, just accept it and say it out loud. And I mean I agree that we don’t need to label everything but these few labels (gay, bi, straight, ace) don’t harm anyone and are just practical. And I mean everywhere else you still label yourself (I am a student, I am a brunette, I am a human etc)
Great to hear from you again (and see your avatar) Kai. This was a great presentation - balanced, fair, respectful and full of common sense and frankly very illuminating. I've never even heard of some of the stuff you cover here. Cheers dude.
Lol it's the ultimate gotcha i But yeah no, it shouldn't be a surprise that someone like myself feels the way I do and I suspect other gender nonconforming gays and lesbians feel the same.
I think it's 50/50 with how the video was received. I have people who actually don't think what I said here was controversial while the other half are essentially ceiling me a "bigot" lol So it'st half and half.
I don't think your video is controversial and you are stating your honest opinions about the LGBT community. As a gay male goth Wiccan i appreciate your objective perspective. Please continue to post more videos!
Well the controversy stems from the fact that I don't buy into "Trans" period. I don't believe you can change your sex, I don't believe that "Transwomen" are women, they are men point blank period and vice versa with "Transmen", they are women and nothing they do will change that. So by extension, trans-identified men/males have no business being in women only spaces like women's changing rooms, spas, shelters, prisons, dating apps (for Lesbians), and sports. But yeah hopefully in the follow-up people will understand why I came to that view. Thank you nonetheless and stay tuned for more videos. :)
@@KaiDecadence There's nothing wrong with trans women or men being in their respective bathroom. Why exclude this? Because you want to know for sure what their genitals are?
Hi! I found your channel completely by accident, when you responded to one of my comments under a gender critical video and I really liked your take. I was wondering if you'd ever be interested in uploading more videos? I really like your take on LGBT culture, or LGB culture if you prefer that; and I also learned a lot about the Goth scene from your video and now get triggered every time I hear someone say "Goth" when they mean darkly inclined lol
I'm currently working on a follow up to this video regarding number 1 which has been taking me a good long time to get through and after that, I may do two more LGB themed videos where I talk about a few other topics that I don't see people addressing but aside from that, I don't plan on becoming a gender critical channel. And welcome to the curse of knowing Goth and never being able to look at people misusing the term ever again lol.
I hope you realise this man is still Gay... and your a christian who has a youtube channel saying homosexuality is a sin... Being gender critical doesn't mean supporting right wing christians who are almost always homophobic
Most of the transexuals are not even homosexual. And the gay transexuals, such as Buck Angel and Blaire White, are still part of the LGB. What do we need the T for?
@@leonardoshreiber while we're at it what do we even need the B for seeing how the L and G already cover that part. If we really want to go there let's just take the L out as well because you can still call Lesbians gay. Yeah I totally can get behind the G community.
@@whoisthis4948 I would be all for the HoBi community (homosexuals and bisexuals of any kind). As I said, the homosexual T is just one type of homosexual. Imagine if we included a letter for every type of homosexual? BBCDDLFFNQT Bears, butch lesbians, campy, drags, down low guys, femboys, femme lesbians, nerds, queers, transexuals... We don't need it, it's either LGB or HoBi.
“Gay pride was never about gender, it was about homosexual rights” - quick question, why do you think gay people were denied rights and discriminated against? Do you think it might have had something to do with gender norms? Specifically the gender norm that says “men should have sex with women, and vice versa”? It has absolutely everything to do with gender.
Kudos, Kai. This really earns my respect. I don't agree with every point on this list but it must have taken nerve to post it given how infested with certain ideologies the goth scene has become.
hii me again, but i love your confidence to speak about this because honestly... this feels *very* cathartic as someone who was bicurious for a while to know I'm not crazy haha. I learned the hard way that many women-only spaces include males who identify as women so much so, the dating scene for lesbians has gotten so complicated, basically disguised homophobia... I get called so many things and have gotten much hate for having the same opinions, and I know many people would never dare say these takes publicly, even if they strongly believe it, since it would be controversial. we can't even allow people to be honest with themselves without believing it's their own problem. I'm just very admirable of you how it isn't your concern to be politically correct, but to speak your truth and remind people what homosexuality means. it's gotten to the point where anything can be added to LGB and it's just insulting! anyway sorry for long lanky ramble. everything you do is with confidence and passion and i envy it!!
One thing that bothers me about the term 'queer' is that it doesn't really mean anything specific. If someone tells me in a conversation that they're gay or lesbian i know what that means, but queer could mean anything. I really hate when they call gay or lesbians who have achieved a lot it the past get called queer in the media alot. I find it really disrespectful.
Agreed! What you said is exactly how I feel about that word besides the fact that it was used as a slur to us gays and lesbians. The word "queer" really means nothing and when you hear it, it doesn't make really explain what you are. In my observation, it's usually bisexuals who have internalized homophobia and don't want to outright say they are bisexual or straight people (mostly straight women) who think that wearing quirky fashio or being polyamarous or swingers makes them "queer" The only gays and lesbians I see who willingly call themselves "queer" are the ones who are trying to appease the gender cult and no self-respecting gay and lesbian should be doing that at all with how insidious and awful gender ideology is. It's ironic though, it's funny when you hear straight people refer to the gay and lesbian community as "queer" where when you really think about it, they're calling us a slur but they think it's "progressive" lol.
You are greatly appreciated & as a heterosexual male who's always supported the LGB portion of the LGB, I appreciate your willingness to be open about this. Too bad common sense & biology is deemed "unpopular" or "controversial". Great video, breakdown, & analysis of your takes.
If u would actually know biology u would know that formation of sex is complicating and sex and gender form different. Your physical depends on chromosomes, hormone level, genes. And literally recently scientists found a transgender gene but u r all just lazy transphobic bigots who don’t check their facts and don’t even want to get involved with the history of trans people, how many religions portrayed more than two sexes and how many of them thought of people beyond cis binary as gods, how many indigenous tribes have third gender, HOW MARHSA P JOHNSON A BLACK TRANS WOMAN AND OTHER BLACK TRANS WOMEN HAVE STARTED THE PRIDE. Just shut your fucking mouth, trying to erase history and give out your transphobia as an “opinion”. Just fuck you.
@@posicide Please, stop it. Throwing around the word "transphobic" doesn't change reality, as much as you would like it. I'm a black male & "Marsha" Johnson never claimed "trans". That's a lie. He still understood that he was still a male, who liked to dress as a woman. Again, you will never get rid of biological sex & that sexual orientations are based on that. Any adult whose engaged in sexual intercourse knows this.
@@posicide Marsha P. Johnson aka Malcolm Michael Jr. was NOT a trans-identified man, he was a gay drag queen. He never claimed to be a "transgender" or a "woman" so if anything, yu're the one who needs to shut your mouth and stop spreading that lie. Source: ruclips.net/video/Bo0nYv9QIj4/видео.html
Can't say I agree with you're opinions but I that's just what they are. Opinions, not facts. So I respect you're individuality and the way you explained everything thank you ❤
Nah, believing that men can become women or vice versa is an (ridiculous) opinion, biological sex and material reality ate facts, not opinions. And I mean that in the most unironic way possible. Check out my follow up video for more context on that.
You are seriously spot on Kai! It’s a relief to see someone else feel the same. I know many people will take offense to this video but these things need to be said, props to you for being truthful when the community can be so harsh to anybody who doesn’t agree with them
Love this! You may not need a B (from LGB) white lady in her 50s as a subscriber, but you’ve got one. I also love your Goth lookbooks, they’re gorgeous! 🖤 from Australia 🇦🇺
@@femboyrules7594 Because there aren't a lot of straight femboys or straight femboy-lovers. I guess it depends on the femboy, but I don't see straight boys wearing makeup or wearing girly clothes.
Stonewall was literally started by a black transexual. I'm sorry but that's just a truth. And you're excluding LGBT. They've always been fighting for their rights, and that's why it's a community fighting together.
You're wrong. Marsha P. Johnson was not a trans-identified man, he was a drag queen. Source = ruclips.net/video/Bo0nYv9QIj4/видео.html (section 34:41 & 37:40) Stop spreading this lie.
@@KaiDecadence Miss Major Griffin-Gracy... and countless other transsexuals have been part of the fight for your rights since the beginning. You are folly to cast them away.
I dont usually comment on videos, but thank you for speaking out about this subject. Im tired of people bringing politics into things they dont belong in, especially the goth scene. I think its ruining the goth community, and our society. I definatley agree with this entire video. As a younger goth, its hard to meet any other goths online around my age that are not flaunting their pronouns or gender on their profile... so frusterating. Goth was never about politics, and while it is about freedom of expression, I think gender and pronouns need to stay separated from goth, they dont belong together.
It's not 'politics' to be a trans or non-binary goth. If you don't want to be around non-binary or trans people and notice there are a lot in the goth community, consider hanging out with more conservative people (unlikely to be goths.)
@@Nyx666x Yup, because I totally wanna give up 8 years of all my goth related interests to suddenly go hangout with conservatives cuz some random stranger on a comment didnt like my opinion on something.... totally makes sense to me. I'm here for music. Im not here for gender related social politics. I dont care to waste my time arguing with some random person on the internet either. Goodbye :)
Saw you on King Critical's channel and came over to check your stuff out. Definitely glad I did, I don't often see these perfectly reasonable opinions said out loud in gaming/fandom/art communities. I agree with every single one of them!
"Asexual people do not face discrimination" THANK YOU. I've met too many self-proclaimed "aces" in fandom communities that legitimately thought they were oppressed.
Hey! Yeah I remember you and it's nice to see you. Glad you enjoyed the video and I'm sure you will like the follow up video that I'm currently working on Part of the reason why I decided to make this video was to fight the narrative that only conservative right wing people are the ones who don't buy into trans ideology and I wanted to show that you don't have to be conservative to not believe in it
@@KaiDecadence that is awesome, I am very much looking forward to your next video! And I totally agree, there's definitely the narrative that only right-wing people don't buy into the trans lunacy, which is definitely not the case. Do you have any other social media accounts, like Twitter? Would totally love to follow you there!
Honestly, there are too many alphabets in LGBTQ haha. I don't understand why people are getting mad about trans children not existing. You stated facts, not opinions and no child has the capacity to understand gender. Keep doing what you're doing, Kai!
What would you say, Kai, about the claim that even HSTS are AGPs? As a gay man, I think those transsexuals are more sexually attracted to those chasers, than sexually aroused by looking like women. I would like to hear what you think.
When you look at the definition of what AGP is, t doesn't feel like a gay man pretending to be a woman would have that because gay men aren't sexually attracted to women so the likeliness of them getting off to an image of a woman in their head doesn't seem likely. However they are clearly fetishize the attention they get from closet-case men who are deluded enough to think that these men are women and the trans-identified gay men can say just as much misogynistic things about women as an AGP.
@@reigenlucilfer6154 I hadn't thought about it at first but after watching the liberal gays vs conservative gays, I think I would totally be open to it if the topic was something I'm interested in
I have never met a bi sexual used the word queer. But I'm introverted so I may only know know other bi sexuals that aren't stupid. From what I understand of pan sexuality, is someone attracted to anyone. Male, female and other. Bi sexual being attracted to both male and female. They can add the other if they want. It's confusing.
Yeah well that's the thing. There is no "other". You're either male or female, you're not born a nothing. And they try to use it to mean "trans" identified people but I don't believe in transgenderism so yeah, it's a pointless word as far as I'm concerned.
The terms bisexual and pansexual both have long histories. Pan isn't some 2020 neologism that we brought about for no reason. My take is that it's fine if you don't want to be called pan, but that shouldn't mean that you'll 'disagree' with someone else's personal label for themselves.
@@KaiDecadence the thing is, you aren't born a nothing. You are born.. a child. Children with certain characteristics are labelled "male" or "female" or "intersex." That last one you seem to be forgetting. How do intersex people fit into your perception of sex, sexuality and gender? Even now, when an intersex child is born, they are often flung into one of the two binary options. There is such a thing as an 'XY female,' for example- a female witha characteristic usually ascribed to males which shows that there is no one single defining trait of a man or woman. There is no formula either. You can't add up someone's male or female traits and if they get 7+ they are a female. Please go and do your research about these things. "transgenderism" an "trans identified" are not used by those inside the trans/non binary communities and instead come from the transphobic people instead. It makes me especially sad that a gay man would align himself with these transphobes (if that is what's happening of course) because those same people would probably come for homosexuals were they able.
@@cloudthief8918 of course, people have the right to have to called or labeled as they feel comfortable with. My take away was the bi and pan are sisters, not twins. Similar but not the same. Bi can be exclusive, being attracted to defined man or female and pan is not exclusive, the other, non- binary, Agender, gender fluid, etc.
As a trans woman , I been a sub for awhile amd I'm surprised because it seems unflattering to my indenity and personally I domy clearly disagree cause transtion was the better option for and my mental health as most people I do understand the disconnect between CIs personally would like to have a conversation
I honestly don't understand why people in the LGBT moment call themselves queer. It's the same as calling yourself a f@g. I wish they would stop using the word because of the homophobic history behind it.
@@jaemelancholy1684 as an umbrella term for a diverse group of people because 'gay people' is too narrow. I grew up in a community that used it that way, with a handful of older lgbt people who requested we not refer to them that way.
Each letter of the acronym can stand on its own. "The gays", "the lesbians", "the bisexuals", "the trans people" etc. You don't have to use a one-size-fits-all term that in the end is too narrow to give everyone enough room and then therefore switch to a repurposed slur. That's how I feel about queer. It's used to make everything the same, no one stands out. But sexuality and gender identity just have nothing in common except of their "enemy", the "cishet". And I fundamentally don't like this approach and way of thinking.
@@nittygritty7034 If "gay people" is too narrow, then accept the fact that you are not gay. If you are same-sex attracted, but not gay, you are bisexual. Bisexual is the word you are looking for.
Your definition of "Two Spirit" seems a little like quibbling. A category for "men who fulfill a feminine social role" sounds very much like a third gender to me. At the very least, this case is arguable. Fully agree with you that it's cringey when non-Native people identify as Two Spirit though.
Yes I think this is definitely I noticed back in 2016 and still now. I notice that it's a lot of Otaku (heavy fans of anime specifically) who claim this, and you listen to them talk and notice they don't really have a personality...
I am a HSTS and my activism was always based on truth. I transitioned because A I'm extremely feminine and could not top guys and B. I wanted to marry a man. It is not about gender, sex, desire for guys, nothing. It was about marrying this guy and staying with him till I die (I've been with him for decades... he probably has gynandromorphophilia, which is a paraphilia). God knows if he loves me or my feminine impersonation. I love him, it is all that matters. You can call me a man, a dude, an AGP, whatever you want. You have the right to. I don't seek validation from anybody. I don't even now if I had the right to use female-like secondary sex characteristics for my own personal gain. I just did. Perhaps my punishment is coming, people are revolting against trans people. I would do it all again. He's the love of my live. Could I have loved a gay man? Absolutely. But there weren't gay men who loved me. You are absolutely right in defending female-only spaces. You probably have nieces and female cousins. I would never use any female-only spaces. And I would never change the definition of womanhood to accomodate me. I am a feminine person.
As long as you are not invading women only spaces like women's restrooms and locker rooms and/or pushing this nonsensical ideology onto children, you do you but I'll be honest, it sounds like you just met a bisexual man who has internalized homophobia if the relationship has to rely on you believing that you're not a feminized man when you are exactly just that but I digress, you do you.
@@KaiDecadence Hello, Kai. No, he's probably not bisexual in the sense that he goes for male-looking males. I believe he's gynandromorphophile. And we don't talk about me being anything other than a extremely feminine person (think of Caroline Cossey if you want to picture me). This extreme femininity comes naturally for me. Also, HSTS at least, suffer from dissociative disorder, which means we really have disconnected from our original bodies. Yes, he probably wouldn't have sticked with me if I wasn't passing as a woman. But that is like saying he wouldn't have sticked with me if I hadn't been born. One day I may have to abandon estradiol and it will be like my death. HSTS are not predatory as AGPs are and It is because of kids, women and young LGB people that I'm speaking up about my condition.
@@amberjones4516 Then okay, he's just a gay man who actually prefers feminine men. And I mean, you can call yourself whatever you like but at the end of the day, you're still a feminine man, you were born with a Y chromosome and have a penis thus you are male, a man and I hope in time you can come to accept that instead of trying to "other" yourself out just because you don't conform to masculinity. And it doesn't matter that HSTS (gay men) are not as loudly disruptive as AGPs, you both still fall in the category of men who believe you're women for the most superficial and arbitrary of reasons. I'm just being brutally honest here.
@@KaiDecadence That's ok. At the end of the day I won't think of myself as anything you call me... At the end of the day my man has enjoyed all the privileges that a man can enjoy by being masculine and attracted to women while I have enjoyed all the privileges that a person enjoys by looking like a feminine woman. So I understand your anger because you have enjoyed neither. Sometimes not knowing what you missed is a bless. And I don't believe there is such a person as a gay man that is attracted to femininity. Would a gay man be attracted to a man with a slight femininity like Anderson Cooper? Yes. Would a gay man be attracted to somebody who basically crossdresses, wears wigs and copy women? You actually don't want them to. If you did, you would change your behavior and your gender markers to masculine symbols. So I think every young feminine homosexual male must think if they can be masculine before it's too late to look reasonably good as a transsexual. Most people see HSTS as woman-like, even if they are not attracted to us or don't believe we should be called "men". The gender system exists and only a small minority of people don't fit in it.
@@amberjones4516 And just like that, the crazy just jumps out. Look, all I'm gonna say is this. You can say whatever you want about me, how I'm "angry" at men like yourself and that sure, my life may not be easy because I don't conform to masculinity but at the end of the day, your narcissistic rage response towards me and people like me who refuse to play along with your fantasy, you'll still be a man, your displeasure towards us who refuse to placate your fantasy doesn't make you any more of a woman anything, and when the societal pendulum shifts back to normalcy with time, more people will stop feeling the need to pretend you and the others like you are nothing but men doing blackface of women and will be called out accordingly.
I agree with pretty much everything you've said here (new subscriber). My only addendum would be that while asexual people haven't been legislated against specifically in law, there _have_ been times when they were legally obligated to have sex (for example when a man married a woman in many countries, he was entitled to have sex with her - if she tried to refuse and he raped her, it would not have been rape in the eyes of the law). While it's not at all common, arranged marriages plus a legal right to sex will definitely have affected asexual people. Laws compelling them to be available for sex weren't written to deliberately target the very tiny number of asexuals, but a person can be affected without being specifically named. It's somewhat like how the laws in the UK at one point only recognised rape as something a man does to a woman. So without being specifically excluded by name, a man raped by a man could only legally claim sexual assault. Happily these laws have been updated somewhat and one hopes that they would never even be needed by anyone!
Kai, I dont agree w/you on some of these but denial of biology is getting ridiculous. Last week I saw a video of a transwoman trying to breastfeed a baby. Of course nothing came out. I mean....did these people not take Bio 101?. Quit feeding your ego and give that kid a bottle already FFS🙄🙄🙄
@Justin Hernandez Sure, if they wanted to take biochemical to induce breastfeeding it should have been planned out in advance (it's not like they didn't have nine months to prepare). Secondly, in terms of psychological and lifespan development, I'm guessing that it isnt healthy to "pretend feed" when the child is hungry. That's disordered eating waiting to happen later on in life if these parents dont accept reality and quit with the nonsense.
@Justin Hernandez In the end, it's also possible to transplant a milk carton + pump into your breast.. in theory. Where to draw the line? The question is: do people have a right to own a kid and do whatever they want with it? Is it unhealthy for the child? Or does it simply not matter? If the important questions have been answered then we can talk about things like artificial male breastfeeding. I think most people have a problem with this just because it seems like a selfish wish and the motive behind it isn't very clear.
At least you can admit that on the denial of biological reality. I saw that video and to say I was mortified would be an understatement. Absolutely disgusting and dangerous for the health of the child because any potential fluid that could've been passed that was induced by hormones would've had chemicals in it and would've hurt that poor infant. Just all around vile.
@Justin Hernandez Yes, but that chemical is not even approved for breastfeeding mothers, much less fathers :X because it's not safe for the baby to ingest.
After watching a few snippets of their episodes, yeah I think it would be cool to talk with them but i just don't think my name is big enough and I mostly fly under the radar but I mean if the opportunity ever arose? I'd gladly be open to it.
YES, to all of that. It is scary and also frustrating to witness a certain world view/believe trending and growing from the early 2010s to today in real time. And now everyone who isn't totally on board with every aspect of it is being gaslit and branded a 'non-believer'. Because it is what it is: Believing in a gendered personally/identity/"souls", is a believe system. Just like believing in a 'one true god', or into a flat earth is. I don't have the will to be ignorant enough to look past all the unfunded but dangerously far-reaching basic premises that come with these ideologies. If I believed in the concept of 'trans kids' as young as 4 y olds, I would have to believe in something like an inherent gender identity that isn't learned while growing up, but that resides "somewhere" inside everyone of us; and that some kids are born with the wrong identity/or the wrong body to fit their identity. Sounds awfully familiar to the concept of "soul", just with a modern touch that most definitely is a consequence of social media putting so much emphasize on uniqueness and identity. But gender is a social construct. Men and women (and when I say men and women I mean male and female people) are different because of biology, not because they have different souls. We look different and our bodies focus on different strengths and weaknesses. From that relationship between the sexes stem societal structures which then lead to lots of stereotypes and expected behaviours which persist to this day. But if you look at things objectively, from "outside of society", then 'gender' does not exist. A dress is not feminine, it's just clothes. Playing football isn't masculine, it's just kicking a ball. Long hair isn't feminine as demonstrated by ever-changing beauty standards throughout history. Action figures aren't masculine, they're just doll marketed at boys. And so one and so on... A few years ago, society understood that we need to de-genderize society. To not put too much expectations on people, and not put them into boxes. But now, gender identity theory has turned all that around. Now we again started labeling little boys that play with gender-inappropriate toys. So what IS a trans kid when souls don't exist and gender is a cultural invention? I tell you what a trans kid is: it's a boy or a girl who doesn't conform to societal expectations of boys or girls. Then ADULTS come into play and INTERFERE with those kids. They ask them things like "do you feel like a boy/girl? Would you rather be a girl/boy?". They interpret random childish behavior with their lens of gender and draw conclusions FOR the child. Some parents might even pass on their homophobia and rigid gender roles. Hell, the leader of Mermaids and mother of Jazz Jennings (poster trans child), has openly admitted that she was deeply homophobic when Jazz was a kid, and she prayed to god that her son wouldn't grow up to be gay. Do you really think this doesn't influence a child's decision to be a straight girl instead of a gay boy? 'Trans kids' are just gender nonconforming children, sometimes gay children, whose multifaceted behavioral patterns and expressed discomfort with their own bodies get diagnosed by ADULTS with gender dysphoria and trans identity.
I don't get why people say male and female thing are a social construct. They don't have the same kind of body female are often less strong than male, they don't have the same biology, they don't serve the same purpose. Something trully coming from social construct would be age and laws : a 18 years and 0 day old person can get in prison for having sex with a 17 years and 364 days old . You can't just deny biology and say men and women are the same. Get it ? Age doesn't really mean anything while gender is an undeniable fact just like the earth being round.
@@jeyna8243 Well "male" and "female" of course are no social constructs for a normal thinking person :D "masculinity" and "femininity" are social constructs, though. And different people use those terms very differently nowadays. "Conservatives" say sex and gender are the same, meaning that men are always masculine and women are feminine. And sometimes they also mean that men and women are always heterosexual, and that homosexuality in a man is "feminine", so lesbians are "masculine". And since they conflate sex and gender, homosexual men and women aren't "real" men and women in their eyes. And it goes even further: a man in a dress is not a real man to them. A woman who plays soccer isn't a real woman. A man who doesn't drink beer isn't a real man yada yada yada. You get the gist. Conflating sex and gender creates mental prisons for society, and that's where gender criticism, second wave feminism and the sexual revolution of the 60s/70s come in. Gender criticals, such as Kai or me, say that while sex is of course real and important when it comes to laws, fairness and protection, "gender" (femininity and masculinity) on the other hand is a social construct, a collection of stereotypes sometimes based on anecdotal evidence or statistics, but ultimately meaningless. In the worst case, it traps people in certain roles. Kai wears dresses and doesn't appear as a "stereotypical" man. He breaks down gender norms. But the important difference compared to trans activists is the fact that he doesn't believe in the idea that by breaking out of masculinity, he also consequentially stopped being a man and become something else. No. He's male. He's a man. He looks how he looks and if someone feels the need to label him differently because of that, they are wrong. He's actually helping to extend the meaning of "man", by playing around with gender stereotypes. That is progressive. And that's where the gender identitarians come in... the trans activists. The people who say that biological sex, male and female, is a construct instead of gender. They are basically like the conservatives, just the other way around and frankly even worse because of their influence and power in the name of "kindness". They whole-heartedly belief that gender roles and old-fashioned ideas of femininity and masculinity are what makes us women and men respectively. They are anti science by claiming that believing in chromosomes and the immutability of sex is "bio essentialist". They need to do that in order to achieve their goal of changing the way we're constructing our laws. They want to replace male/female with masculine/feminine. Therefore, it's enough to "behave like a woman", whatever that means, in order to participate in women sports, get into women prisons or shelters or crime statistics. Because since gender isn't real, everyone can change it at a whim if it's made into law. Ultimately, it's a homophobic men'r rights movement because only women and homosexuals lose when "sex" doesn't exists anymore. So long story short: claiming that male and female are social constructs is a regressive, anti-scientific political strategy. The real answer to that is to insist that gender is the meaningless construct. Always has been, always will be. I think I get what you mean with your age argument. On the one hand, sure, the way we measure age and restrict people based on that metric is a social construct. But on the other hand, people definitely change when they grow older. Our laws regarding that were made over hundreds of year by ethic councils, politicians and psychologists. Everything society produces, everything cultural, is a social construct in the end. But "age", in general, is also a real, biological thing just like sex. So there is a need to somehow fit that into society. We will just have to watch out not to create something like "gender identity". "Age identity" or something xD
13:43 I am sorry these are considered controversial They are spot on. I hope you and others in the gay community can end this pronoun thing, because the gay community, not toxic masculine legislators, will be the most effective in getting the whole trans thing straightened out I am straight but share your gender non conformity, to an extent Love being a straight guy. Definitely identify that way. Appreciate femininity but will never have any clue how hard life is for women fully understand how women feel and who women are as people just because I like make up and dresses
Yes but part of the fight is not confusing "identity" with sexuality, you don't "identify" as straight, you are straight. Just like how I don't "identify" as gay", I just am gay. Using proper language is key in fighting back against this mess.
@@mariawells1874 Of course it's brave! Many people are bullied for saying what they really feel. I'm not bothered, too old to care and nothing to lose, but it's important to have integrity and denounce things that we know, from life experience, are fake and dangerous e.g. the current "gender" nonsense.
The video is still in the works and I decided I'm just gonna upload it here when I finish it. Life has been busy for me so it's been difficult trying to get the video finished but I'm aiming to have it out before the year ends.
the whole "Demisexual isn't real because gay and straight people also develop strong ties to their partners" is just you not understanding the meaning of it properly. demisexual is when people ONLY become attracted AFTER they have developed intimacy. non-demisexuals can be initially attracted to someone before being close to them, which is why they typically initially go for looks and then learn more about the personality. its the order that differs.
Dear I understand it perfectly and sorry but it's nothing special, it's nothing new. And again, it's NOT a sexuality, the feeling of only being attracted to a person after you get to know someone is VERY normal and not as rare as these young girls who identify as "demisexual" make it out to be because I'll be honest, I find it very interesting how it's mainly majority young women who "identify" as "demisexual" and then I see the hookup culture that has been very prevalent since the social media/hookup apps that have been dominating the first world since the early 2010s. but even if I were to give credence to the concept, again it's not a sexuality but rather a preference within all sexualities because as I said in the video; hetero, homo, and bi people can have that same mentality of wanting to get to know a person before having sexual relations.
I NEVER thought I would agree with someone who is also gay about the gay community. The small bit I disagreed with was the T in LGBT but to be fair the "community" started going downhill and "accepting" (aka toxic) once the T was added. My whole life I knew the "community" as LGBT and anything after that was just some stupid online troll or loud teenagers/young adults (which I am myself lol) that want to feel special or unique. But I've seen many gay AND trans people themselves online (genuine trans men/women, not the other crazy identities) that agree that LGB and T should indeed be separate. I heard my whole life that the reason T is added into LGB was because they were different than the "straights" but because of that, it turned into this thing that if you aren't a 100% straight male you need to be added into this community, and so after this shift this is when the "community" started going crazy and, unfortunately, sexualized the community and even having CHILDREN participate in this. Short story, I went to my towns first pride about 6 months ago (right after I turned 18) expecting to be a simple gathering or some sorts since its a small town but was shocked that there was so many CHILDREN hearing about this sorts of stuff (hookups/drugs & alcohol stories, drag queen story hour, etc.) Shame how a group intended for simple homosexuals to have rights has turned into this anti-normality cult. I fear someday I might have to explain to people that I'm just a gay guy who has a slight androgynous style, not a complete label geek.
As someone who identifies as demisexual, I don’t wish to become a part of the LGBT community at all mostly because of the other issues I see within it. Mostly the gatekeeping. I would love to see you make a video about the BS bisexual people have to face. It’s good to know that some people are actually able to express themselves properly.
@@lonewolf8667 No it's not the norm. We live in a hook-up culture and people often just glorify promiscuity, one-night stands, and such. For people like me and others, we can't participate in that because we lack the sexual attraction or can only feel it under certain circumstances. This makes dating very hard for us because like I said, some people don't want emotions and bonding. They just want sex and instant gratification.
@@umamifan waiting till you know someone is not the same as not having sexual attraction till you build emotional bond with them, most people wouldn't doubt to sleep with their celebrity crush like...be for real
I think these are the opinions that majority of adult lgbt people share, but it seems that now, since many young people are brainwashed by social media, these opinions became not only unpopular, but also heretic, and people who are really homosexual o bisexual are being silenced and insulted for saying this. That's sad.
I think you're absolutely right because I notice a lot of the people who seem to have a problem with what I said or just Gender Critical views in general tend to be either teenagers and/or young adults and you can tell because a lot of the times they either don't offer actual counter arguments or when they try to throw "logic" at you, they give misconstrue intersex people (when they clearly have no idea what intersex actually is), throw the brain sex argument which has been debunked so many times, or try to use spirituality ("in some cultures") as a means to argue back and when you tackle these views, they have nothing to say except insult you by calling you a "transphobe" or a "terf" (to women). It's really sad indeed.
What? Dislikes? You said nothing and absolutely nothing wrong, or offensive! Come on people? Is honesty so unpopular anymore? I admit I disagree with some of what you said... But I believe you are entitled to your opinion and I respect and appreciate your upfront honesty.
Definitions of “man” and “woman” based on “biology” are themselves definitions based on stereotypes, specifically gender stereotypes about human bodies. What else could they possibly be?
I know that this video is going to be my most contentious video I've ever done but honestly, I feel like it's time to just come out and be honest with this kinda thing, especially one in particular. I understand that this may cause some of you all to unsubscribe from me and all I can say is that I wish you well and no hard feelings. Also no, this channel is not going to be changing in theme and it will always be rooted in topics about the Goth Subculture and Music talk. I just felt that to be transparent, I wanted to be upfront now with these particular thoughts because I know it's very controversial. Anyway, thanks for watching if you did and if you do decide to stick around, I look forward to seeing you in the next video. Take care~
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Oops I forgot to ask what ur other channels are? I didn't know you had 2 let alone 3! Oh and love your avatar and overall aesthetic by the way.🖤
Even though I'm asexual I still respect your opinion. And teaching any kind of sexual things to children is crossing the line for me. But once again that's my opinion. It's okay that we sont agree on everything just as long as we are civil.
@@jaemelancholy1684 now that's what I'm talking about. So refreshing to see.
I've been waiting for this video from you, and you did not disappoint. Thank you for being honest.
Also, you are so right about gender. It's not man and woman, those are sex IE adult human female or male. Masculinity and femminity are the true gender principles. I have nothing against trans people as an androgynous female myself, but the reality is, they're operating in a faulty paradigm, we all are to some degree. Esoteric teachings such as the Kybalion go into the true "gender".
Nothing you said here should be unpopular.
#10. Sexuality is exclusionary. Everyone has the right to turn down a sexual partner or a whole section of society for whatever reason they see fit. No questions asked. Sexually excluding someone doesnt oppress them, it doesnt harm anyone, it isnt a hateful act. No one has the right to state otherwise. If anyone disagrees with this statement, then they are part of the problem of perpetuating rape culture. Believing one is entitled to sex is rape culture, because believing you can't exclude certain people, means you don't believe in sexual consent.
#5...THANK YOU. Two Spirit is used as an appropriated term by white people to be worn like a ''gender identity' accessory
Great that no one had ever claimed so then
@@baphometbby What? That no one has claimed being sexually exclusive is harmful and oppressive? I beg to differ. When a group of male born transwomen hold seminars titled "To Overcome the Cotton Ceiling' where they discuss how fight against lesbians being lesbians and not wanting their dicks (if anyone doesnt believe this is a thing, just google cotton ceiling, and it's there for all to see)....claiming that this isn't a thing or issue, is false and/or you're lying
First of all Rape isn't a culture, well at least in America, maybe in the middle east. Rape is a Crime of sexual intercourse without the victim's consent, often involving the use or threat of force. Feeling you are entitled to sex isn't rape. Here In society we teach that rape is wrong and is against the law, heck rapist even become huge targets in prison. however if you keep changing the narrative on what is a rape is in your Twisted mentality off way of thinking than a high majority of men and women are rapist. It's alarming how many likes your comment got. Shame on you, you are apart of the problem.
@@kittykat896
Sexuality is exclusionary, but I don’t think that that means that some sexual choices aren’t for bigoted reasons
"Sexuality is about sex" louder for the people in the back!! ❤
The one time I didn't bring he megaphone lol All jokes aside, thanks!
I love that I always find a swiftie in gender critical related content.
What does that mean?
@@ntlpz swiftie?
I agree with you dude, I’m so sick of people on tiktok and whatnot saying shit like “every time you disagree with our genders we make 10 more!” Thats just proving that gender is just a concept to them :/ also your point about the Lgbtqia++ term shit is just perfect, thank you for this video
Shows you know nothing about gender then. Gender and sex are not the same thing. They exist but.... stop being transphobic. Gender is constructed by society.
@@baphometbby and sexual orientation isn't based on that
no it's just a concept to you.
@@baphometbby ecactly
I am not ot of the LGBT community but I agree with what you say.
Being intrigued by certain features of a specific ethnic community does not make you racist, it's just like any other preference.
I never understood why they like/use the term queer.
Be blessed
'Queer' is far more indicative of political ideology than it is sexuality. I have never met a 'queer' person who wasn't utterly insufferable. When I think of 'queer', I think of someone like Milo Stewart. Someone who writes essays explaining how systemic, hegemonic, colonialist, white male cisheteronormativity made the entire world queerphobic.
In my opinion, the fact that 'demisexual' is considered a legitimate sexuality speaks to the unfortunate reality that western society has moved away from courtship and romance towards meaningless, non-committal sex. It's very atomising. 'Demisexuality' used to be the default.
My unpopular opinion: 'the LGBT Community' only exists for LGBTs who have progressive left politics and toe the line on every issue. If you are: conservative, religiously observant, sceptical of any aspects of trans ideology, anti-kink/porn/prostitution, or dissent in any other way, you are cast out. A true 'LGBT community' would support all homosexuals/bisexuals/transsexuals unconditionally.
As a bisexual man, I never understood what the term "queer" meant in context to the gay community. Glad I never used it.
I was called "queer" by a stoner friend of mine as a "term of endearment". I hated it. Always found it cringey.
Racial preferences depends from environment person grew up in. Also bad experiences with certain races or nationalities can deter from dating people who fall in those groups. I think where's even studies done on partner preferences and why we are attracted to certain people and others not.
I hate that most gay and lesbian metalheads/goths i know are gendies
Yeah unfortunately a lot of alternative people swallow trans dogma with no rhyme or reason and it makes me not really wanna even bother talking to any I come across for fear that they are a "gendie".
@@shmittyfloors4870 delusional and obsessed
@@KaiDecadence OOOOOOOH my G*d I think I've found my community here, I'm a metalhead (sort of baby bat) and I'm so sick of everyone, inside and outside of the culture, just assuming I'm one of the "wokies".
@@TimaiosGottfried Preaching to the choir lol.
@@KaiDecadence This video ages well, and I'm very glad you are still holding to the same opinions : you won a new follower. Elder goth here, sick of being shout at as "closed mind" by so many people these days for having these very same opinions.
Thanks for this video Kai !
I was expecting to find some things to disagree with, but I actually agree 100%. I also gotta add I get pissed off in general when trans ideologues appropriate what is usually cultural roles for GNC or homosexual men in other cultures as being trans, which happens often. In my country, there is a similar thing that is called as "third gender", but I've seen trans activists use it as arguments for their legitimacy when it's a completely different thing.
Agreed
The whole non-binary and gender-fluid thing, I kind of never agreed with it.
The issue with it is that it conflates sex and gender. Trans which does the same does that but "non-binary" takes ti to an even extremer level that essentially says that if the person doesn't conform to masculinity or feminine 100%, they are not a man or woman, it's just... Stupid. "Nonbinary" could've been a nice new modern term to describe gender nonconforming but it's such a loaded term full of nonsense that it just can't be.
I agree with that. They try to say sex and gender are different. However I honestly think they are the same, and these non-binary people keep changing the dictionary definition of gender. I swear 20 years ago the dictionary definition of gender was a lot different from what it is today. You could be a male and break gender stereotypes, and females and break gender stereotypes as well without being non-binary or gender-fluid, or gender-queer, or whatever name they will make up next year. Demi-gender, Polygender, and so on. It never makes sense.
I know I probably sound like an asshole for saying all that stuff. It's just an opinion of mine. It's important to respect people's pronouns even if I don't agree with them.
On "sexual racism " i think it's actually the norm that people are primarily attracted to their own group or own culture. More people are comfortable with what is familiar. Then you have the percentage in any culture or group who are attracted to what's different -- ( which is where I fit in haha. I have never dated anyone in my same group. )
As someone who is asexual and aromantic, I 100% agree with you. I literally don't engage in sex or experience sexual attractions, so why am I included in an acronym of oppressed sexualities? When I tell people I'm asexual the "Worst" I get is, "Well, you just haven't met the right person yet". I actually face less bullshit, since I literally don't have to worry about the issues that come with being sexual at all.
Yup that’s exactly how I feel 🙄
Thank you for admitting this. Because time and again I would hear from some asexual people who would complain about being discriminated and I'm just left scratching my head in bewilderment. Some say they feel discriminated for realtiknships but usually when I try to remind them that asexual people are extremely rare, rarer than even homosexuals and usually that helps put things in perspective.
@calendarphotoscamera1 Canuck THIS. With this whole "Lesbians are vagina fetishists" and "Gays are Penis fetishists" that has come from these trans-identified people, it's absolutely becoming oppressive, especially towards Lesbians. So many Lesbian bars have been shut down and their apps have been dominated by trans-identified men who have absolutely no business being on there.
@calendarphotoscamera1 Canuck Amen, you pretty much spoke the truth.
as someone who is also on the asexual spectrum, i appreciate being included in the LGBTQIA+ in that way. people who don't experience sexual attraction are definitely oppressed in places although if you never experienced that, that's wonderful. as someone who is "hot" and rarely experiences sexual attraction, that made me a target of sexual abuse and rape by people i thought were just wanting to be friends (because i didn't understand their sexual motivations).
Again, it's great that you never experienced violence because of your orientation(s) but many people have. It's cruel to erase other peoples experiences just because it's different from your own. You don't want to consider yourself part of the LGBTQIA+? Cool, then don't. Don't you dare take that away from other people though. It's a different than "normal" orientation and deserves visibility, representation, and acceptance.
𝐔𝐏𝐃𝐀𝐓𝐄 𝟐𝟎𝟐𝟑, The "Trans" Video is now out ~ ruclips.net/video/OEbxA6F-WeE/видео.html
I saw your post on the forum and I just want to say my heart goes out to you. Stay strong.
Thank you
I have to say this.... I agree 100% with everything on this vid. I've always been uncomfortable with how convoluted the LGBT community has become. I personally believe the movement is going to become complex to the point of losing focus of what it was about in the first place.
Honestly I feel like that's the case now and it's only getting worse every year...
Convoluted that trans ppl exist?
@@mariawells1874 Oh I forgot you guys were still a thing.
As a bisexual male I actually agree with everything you just said.
Thanks!
I’m so relieved and happy that a gay man has made a video like this, it’s so refreshing to see. As a lesbian I’m so fed up with the “queer community” which now is essentially just straight people with micro identities and dyed hair. I agree with literally everything you said. Most LGB and even some T will secretly agree with you but won’t say anything because the “queer” people will get angry and you will be cancelled for an unpopular but completely valid opinion. I literally had some teenage boy telling me that “queer” isn’t a slur anymore. Asexuality is a lack of sexual orientation, it’s not another sexual orientation. Sexuality is based on biological sex (which exists btw). BDSM has nothing to do with being same sex attracted neither is being body positive.
Well said
The last things u said I agree with, not the rest
hey I saw a tweet said in quote "the norm in human is bisexuality. it was only made rare due to religions and cultures. not bc same sex relationship are rare. most humans are bi and they do not realise it" what do you think of it?
for me I disagree because sexuality and sexual orientation are very complex and hard to pin point. Plus people go by various defiention of 'bi' and others sexuality idenifty than just firmly through biology and science.
also I want to ask I hardly see trans men issue with the biologoy men and women wheras trans women I do see more?
Eh... I can kind of see some truth to that. There's no denying that religion and culture has played a part in shaming homosexuality and this definitely plays a part in why some homosexuals and bisexuals can develop internalized homophobia but I feel like bisexuals are especially more vulnerable to this because unlike us homosexuals, bisexuals can be attracted to the opposite sex and thus be socialized into heteronormativity.
That said, while I do think there are more bisexuals than we may realize, I don't think it's a substantial amount.
And the answer to your second uquestion is easy. It's because men don't see trans-identified women "transmen") as a threat, in fact most don't even take them seriously but they just don't say it out loud. Men know that trans-identified women pull the same crap that trans-identified women pull on women, they would be promptly put in their place and these trans-identified women know this which is why they tend to stay in their lane.
Compare that to trans-identified men pulling all kinds of BS women and it's because of male entitlement and taking advantage of female socialization where women are typically raised to put men before themselves which is why when a woman refuses to placate trans-identified men's delusions, they have a narcissistic rage response to them.
Just what I was looking for, I'm fed up of the LGBT saying "you can't identify as that" is kinda racist to say, plus there complete denial of scientific facts, queer I also see as a derogatory too, the trans children thing is just pushing an agender on to them more then educating them
Right exactly.
Did you ever make a follow up video to this one? Would you ever consider doing a video about queer theory, and it’s impact on the gay community? Or a video directed at youth on how gender nonconformity and still identifying as your sex broadens the possibilities for that sex? When I saw the gender color skittles come out, it became so clear that LGBT youth are a market demographic.
I'm actually still working on a follow up video to this one, it's just taking me a lot longer than I thought because I'm trying to cover my basis and try to get this into an essay forum that is coherent.
I have no plans on making a video on the ridiculousness pf "queer theory" because it doesn't interest me but in the follow up video, I will be touching up on how the whole gender ideology is negatively affecting gender nonconforming & gay/lesbian youths.
Kai Decadence So glad to hear it! I just wanted to make sure I didn’t miss it. I think you have an interesting perspective and unique lived experience. I think you are an important voice to speak about gender expression and how today’s gender ideology is influencing how the youth process and interpret gender expression. I just want teens to have the space to explore things without being marketed to or used in political ways. They don’t always have a community of “elders” to impart their wisdom as they did in times past. I think some of your content could help them see that there are lots of different ways to look at things and they have permission to think critically and find their own ways to define and express themselves. Including diversity includes diversity of ideas. Thanks for the update 🙂
@@apab9700 Thanks a lot! It just may take a hot minute to get all this in motion but it's in the works haha.
Thank you! When I was little I refused to call myself a girl and only called myself a tomboy. When I was even littler I wanted to legally change my name to Mario. Gender activists would claim that’s a sign a kid is trans but I’ve barely even had regular dysphoria let alone gender dysphoria. I refused to call myself a girl because the girliest girls I knew would bully me and were petty and only interested(one of them didn’t even like legos) in things I thought were lame, while my brothers friends were nice to me. I’m also autistic and autistic people usually don’t conform to gender norms). And I wanted to change my name to Mario because I just really liked Super Mario(my second choice for a name was Ballerina).
The amount of “non binary women” I’ve seen that look almost exactly like me is crazy. I get the impression a lot of them just don’t quite fit gender norms like me but can’t handle the fact that they’re “different”. I think I should probably thank the girls who bullied me when I was little because they helped me learn from a young age that gender norms and fitting in are stupid. Of course so many women don’t identify as women, have people not seen how women are portrayed in media? Who the heck relates to that?
Reminds me of this whole thing lately where people are waking up and realizing that Snapchat, filters, kardashians, makeup and photoshop isn’t good for the mental health of young girls and I’m just wondering where people have been. I figured that out when I was like 8 or 9.
Sorry, Igot a bit rambley there. I found your channel through your Reddit posts back when r/gendercritical(hated that sub though, it was so misandrist and toxic) was still a thing and I still had a Reddit.
"Gender activists" wouldn't claim shit, mate. We aren't trans bc of our interests, it's an internal situation that cannot change. We don't become trans, we always were trans. The only people who see a child and decide their gender based on their interests is an outdated fucker who thinks gender stereotypes mean anything - which most trans people don't. Plenty of us, like myself, are still interested in things considered stereotypical for our agab. And no afab trans person is just a confused woman btw, that's so insanely fucking transphobic
I'm literally the same. You pretty much described me. 7 year old, massive tomboy, hated anything girly, wanted to have a boy name, however never experienced any type of dysphoria and eventually grew out of it.
It's because kids understand everything so literally. There's been an article studying the psychology of how kids think, and as far as I remember, it goes kinda like this:
- Young girl finds out about something called "football"
- young girl notices that most of the people who like football are male
- because of that, young girl starts to think that every male she encounters likes football by default
- then, young girl starts to think that no girl likes football
- eventually, she starts to believe that if you're a person who likes football, you must be male.
- and in some rarer cases (but not unusual), girl develops a passion for football and starts thinking she's a boy in a girls' body. Boom! Transgenderism.
Unfortunately, you can see that there are still some adults who think like this. Like when a man wears a lot of makeup and people would say shit like "is that a man or a woman?", "Why are you trying to be a woman?" Basically equating makeup to womanhood. To them, woman is any person who wears makeup.
And to me, that's just proof of how many adults suffer from some mild form of arrested development. Because this is literally a childrens' way of thinking.
Speaking of those girly girls who bullied you for being gender non conforming, there's an explanation for that as well. Most girls and women are at least subconsciously aware of their expected gender roles, as well as unhappy about them. No one wants to be the submissive one, the ornamental one, the sexual object, the "emotional" one, the irrational one, and so many other negative gender stereotypes and expectations. But the thing is, women and girls who perform those things usually have "a longer leash" in patriarchy. Aka, they'll be treated more nicely by boys, by teachers, by society in general, for wearing makeup, for being girly, for not being a tomboy etc.
So of course they'll hate any woman or girl who manages to escape femininity, or has enough confidence to be GNC in a world that bullies her for it.
In short, those girls and women hate what they can't have.
I also remember r/gendercritical and I agree, it was sometimes very toxic. I've noticed they liked to bully trans people a lot, and for no apparent reason. And I believe there's a difference between being gender critical and being a straight up bully.
@@technicolortvscreens Did you watch the video? Did you see the part where he provided the definitions of "man" and "woman"? Did you miss it, or are you just so deep in your ideology that you're in denial of that fact?
Oh no need to apologize for being "rambley", you're totally fine and I appreciate you sharing your experience because what you said is true and what I had observed when it came to "non-binary" and "Trans"identified women ("Transmen") as well. That a lot of them are just bothered by the fact that they don't fit the stereotype(s) that have been hoisted onto women i.e being all about femininity and having certain interests like being into makeup, men, fashion, etc. And when they get bullied for it, they think it means that something is wrong with them and they then start to feel horrible about themselves and start to believe that they aren't really women. Couple that with possible rejection from family and it's just a recipe for an identity crisis.
@@technicolortvscreens No one is "assigned" anything at birth. Sex is observed, not assigned.
I love your perspective. It’s totally reasonable and grounded in a healthy mindset.
Thank you, right back at you ☺️
Totally on point. I always thought it was strange that the term queer was used in gay and GNC communities considering the history behind the word. Presently, the definition of queer is nebulous (and after researching queer theory, it seems its deliberately kept that way), tho most people seem to use it describe anyone who isnt “cis”-het, or as some sort of personality type. It implies heterosexuals can’t exhibit “queer” behavior, whatever that is. And as for “two-spirit”: trans affirmist like to say “trans people have existed throughout history!” and then you look into it these examples and find out these separate gender-identities are based in homophobia, or are GNC people who felt the only way to feel comfortable in society was to identify as something other than their sex.
100% on point my friend.
Hi Kai! I see you on ALL the GC videos I watch and I finally checked out your channel. Love it. So happy to finally see your work!
Aw thanks a lot!
I live in Montreal and you're seeing a big schism between the "old" generation and the young when it comes to LGB stuff. The latter seems to have a weird obsession with identity while having no individuality.
This is true. I have noticed this schism in general as well as someone who is now beginning 30 and I've seen what you're talking about with the younger generation and their weird, unhealthy obsession with being identity and it's just sad to see. Because they continue to make up more of these frankly ridiculous "identities" and not focus on things that actually make people interesting like developing hobbies or learning & developing a skill.
Exactly. We are human beings, both an identity.
My unpopular opinion is that people are seeking excuses to stigmatize gay men as a whole. They treat every weirdo as if he was one of us. Transwomen, men attracted to transwomen, men attracted to teenage boys, men attracted to the idea of surgically modifying kids, groomers, furries, fetishistic crossdressers, etc., they cannot not call those men "gay" because "gay" is such an stigmatizing label for a guy. When will it occur to them that male bisexuality takes many forms (some paraphilic), and that not every bisexual/mostly-straight man will say they are non-straight because they may not have an advantage in doing so?
Trans women and men who are attracted to them are not 'weirdos' there's nothing wrong with crossdressing sexually or furries either. You don't want people to judge you but are overly judgemental of other groups. What makes you think you're deserving of the empathy you don't extend to others?
@@Nyx666x Because I am not wearing fetish gear in public? And by "fetish gear" I mean even breast implants too.
@@payt00n Not talking about wearing clothes A or B. I'm talking about wearing breast implants under you skin so you can pretend to be a girl better.
@@jackmmcallister it's their body? They can do what they want. Also transwomen and people who are attracted to them are normal people?. And can be gay. Find some insight buddy cause you seem like a huge prick
@@payt00n Yes, and other people should use their bodies to prevent anyone from pretending to be somebody of the opposite sex...
How long do you think society is going to watch GUYS with moobs female-like body shapes?
How long till people go STOP, you are a guy ffs
As a young gay man, I can firmly say I completely agree with you, especially regarding the trans issue. Although I've never experienced it myself, I have heard of gays and lesbians being called transphobes for refusing to date trans men and women. Given how I spent the better part of my teen years quite uncomfortable with my sexuality, it feels like a massive slap in the face that when I finally become happy and comfortable with who I am, I run the risk of being shamed and vilified for not wanting to date a biological woman. By the group that was meant to protect people like me no less.
When it comes to the issue of race, to me at least it mainly depends on whether or not I find a particular member of a race attractive or not. I am white, and I've seen plenty of incredibly attractive white, black and asian guys who I would date in a heartbeat, and also ones who I'd rather not.
I'm a tranny and even I got called transphobic for just wanting to be with biological women
Watching this video of your unpopular opinions about LGB community help me realize how ridiculous the community is.
I guess I can call myself bi curious since I'm stuck between lesbian or bisexual.
Bi-curious is fine, some people may not know what they are at first when it comes to sexuality .
I'm a bisexual woman, and it was very confusing growing up and trying to figure it out. Like, I didn't even know being bi was a thing back then (I'm 37 lol).
Agreed on all your points...I especially agree that demisexuality and pansexuality don't exist. As an asexual/aromantic person myself (in my 20s so I can say with near certainty it wasn't a teenage phase like I first thought) it's pretty obvious to me that it's an extremely rare phenomenon, and most people who claim to be Ace really aren't. The few interactions I had with Ace people in groups online were always frustrating. It was obvious most of them were just using Asexual to be special and get a social "not straight" card, while most of them still admitted wanting romantic relationships and eventually having sex. They also insisted that Asexuality was an orientation just like Homosexuality, which makes no sense because Asexuals aren't oriented toward anyone.
Most of them were teenage girls all trying to fit as many labels on themselves as possible, using "demisexuality" or meaningless microlabels like "akoiromantic" or "fraysexual" to seem special. But before casual sex and hooking up was widespread, being "demisexual" was just being a normal person who wanted exclusivity in their romantic/sexual relationship.
I also heavily agree on Intersex people not belonging to the LGB community...I'm not Intersex myself but I've done a lot of research into the science of it, and it annoys me that so many Trans activists try to use the Intersex community as props in their ideology and an extension of "trans-ness", when being Intersex has nothing to do with that. Most of the time, Intersex people choose to live as the sex they exteriorly appear as, regardless of chromosomes, because they feel more comfortable with that, or they were raised that way (especially individuals with XY chromosomes who have AIS and were usually raised female because of their appearance). And some intersex people can't take hormones that correspond to their chromosomes because it's often detrimental to their physical health, depending on their condition.
Also agreed that trans ideology makes no sense...the more I research, the more firmly I believe the ideology is not based in scientific literature, but in a mythological, almost religious belief that the body isn't the "real" you, but merely a conduit for the spirit or feelings within, and can be "changed" to male or female if one feels strongly enough about it. It's pseudo science, and very harmful to young teens who are confused about their bodies, feeling awkward and socially anxious. They are allowed to just get hold of hormones and surgeries that mess up their bodies permanently, when most of them are either just gay, and haven't found a way they feel comfortable with that, or they need therapy for other reasons, like trauma that causes them to dissociate from their bodies and hate themselves.
Pardon the essay length answer lol... it's just rare to find people nowadays who think for themselves about these topics and don't just mindlessly repeat the PC talking points that make no logical sense.
No problem at all, it's vice versa for me too. Nice to find people who know reality vs fiction when it comes to this kinda thing.
It's all 100 percent bullsh!t
yeah the way people use two spirit is really misinformed. some people actually believe the concept of 2 sexes was foreign to indigenous people, when the majority of indigenous North Americans recognised 2 sexes, and most of them had 2 gender roles. In a minority of cultures there was a role for men who were feminine and/or homosexual. This was a gender role with its own rules within the culture, just like the man/woman roles. They knew that these men were male, none of them believed someone male could be a woman. None of them had extra roles for women. The approach of viewing gender as an identity that the individual chooses rather than a role within their society is a very new, very western concept.
Very well said. It's a shame that their beliefs were taken out of context and bastardized to what people think of it now when they hear the phrase.
Bravo!! So nice to hear there are some young people waking up from the harmful “woke” ideology nonsense.
Thank you 😊
You’re brave for this. I see you everywhere on other peoples channels and I had to check you out.
I can’t relate to the ‘queer community’. It feels like I’m the only actual same sex attracted person (lesbian) in my friend group. And I’m the only female who doesn’t id as ‘not cis’.
I'm sorry you're dealing with that, that absolutely sucks and it's things like that that made me want to come out vocally with these thoughts because I want other gays and lesbians to know that not all LGB people buy into the madness that the "T" brought with this "gender identity" nonsense when that has nothing to do with being a homosexual.
This is honestly the reason why I can’t relate to half of the LGBTQ community, one half acts like they’re oppressed by trans people and the other are wack snowflakes. Y’all have to calm the fuck down.
I actually found your channel through a RUclips video trying to “expose” you (and you just gained a subscriber thanks to them haha!). Some of what you said applies to communities I don’t belong to so I don’t really feel like I have much of an opinion on it, but most other things you brought up shouldn’t be controversial whatsoever. I’m sorry lots of people these days can’t agree to disagree and jump straight into clinging onto a victim mentality just because they feel entitled to force their worldview onto people when it’s often incompatible with reality (like trying to force others to redefine their sexual orientation). Sounds like they’re insecure, so they need to silence people to be taken seriously. Thanks for having the guts to say this out loud, some of these extremists need to be confronted with more pushback from rational, grounded people like you. 🖤
Thank you
Same here! Kai is based af! I found his channel through someone who is afraid of being associated with him because they were "friends once." She lost my sub, and I gave Kai my sub in return!
I’m straight. I am totally supporting of the lgbt+community. But getting called a bigot for saying there are two SEXES seriously puts me off. I hate when LGB’s get called transphobic just because of their SEXUAL preference that they can’t help. It’s annoying af.
In my case it's not merely about saying there are two sexes, my thing is that I don't believe in Trans period.
You're not supporting trans and non binary people when you deny their realities. There are clearly not two sexes by any measure, so we can add intersex people to the list of those you do not support. I am not saying this in an angry way or to be insulting, but when so many people disagree with tour opinion on sex, it may be time to look into it a bit more- to realise that you may have missed some things.
@@cloudthief8918 I'm sorry but no. They can believe in "their" reality all they want but that doesn't change the fact that there is only one true reality when it comes to this and that is just the cold hard truth. They don't have the right to control and make others believe in their frankly, spiritual belief. And oh joy the intersex argument for like the 1,000th time. You people need to stop with that because not only is it insulting to actual intersex people, it doesn't prove your point neither because I hate to break it you but Intersex people still fall within the male and female sex class.
► Klinefelter (XXY), XYY Syndrome, XXYY Syndrome, XXXY Syndrome, XXXXY Syndrome, XYYY Syndrome, and XYYYY Syndrome are all Male/Men intersex conditions
► Trisome (XXX), Tetrasomy X (XXXX), & Petrasomy X (XXXXX) are all Female/Women intersex conditions.
The only true grey area are people born with Complete Androgen Insensitivity Disorder where the individual is born with defunct internally testes but this condition only affects 1 in 50,000 to 1 in 20,000 newborns making it .002% to .005% chance factor. in other words, it's a moot point for what you're trying to spin it as.
I highly suggest you read up more on what intersex actually is and stop using these people as pawns to push a flawed ideology.
@@cloudthief8918 because there realities are base on self imagery ( psychology ). I can sympathize with trans since there suffering from a biological condition but non binary are made { socially made ) which isn't much....
@@MangaBear non binary gender is a response to binary gender, which is in fact socially made. All this has little to do with biology.
Do you think that the notion of non-binary is sexist? Personally, I think so because I have yet to read a definition of the term without reinforcing sexist stereotypes of the two sexes. And what are brain-dead terms like non-binary woman/man? How can one be non-binary and at the same time identify with one of the binary "genders".
Yeah I do think they are kinda sexist terms because of it's insistence of believing the notion that socially constructed gender roles/stereotypes define sex when they don't. And like I said in the video, it's pretty much people saying that they're not interested in said socially constructed gender stereotypes or they like mixing both and the latter is just androgyny. And the former well, many people don't care to conform to gender roles and that doesn't make one "not a woman" or "not a man". It's just juvenile.
@@KaiDecadence I agree with you. I think the problem I have with non-binary is that it presents its concept in a way that breaks down pre-existing gender roles when in reality it doesn't. After watching videos from broadcasting channels, it really feels the people identifying as non-binary are just agreeing to our narrow view of how men and women should behave. The thought process goes like this: "Men should behave that way, women this way. I find this point of view limiting, but instead of actually challenging pre-existing gender roles, I simply identify as something completely different." I also hate the way they use intersex people to justify their thought process.
@@sailormoon3393 Yep you got it 100%. But I have to thank the non-binary fad because back then I was never on board with it and over time when I started thinking more about why I don't think a concept like "non-binary" is real, it played a part in me questioning the trans ideology and gave me the right push to see that even trans ideology was just as ridiculous and much more sexist towards women with the notion that women don't really exist and it's just all in your mind and that essentially, women can be worn as costumes based on socially constructed stereotypes hoisted onto them.
@@KaiDecadence You're right. We women and girls are oppressed because of our sex, not because of our "gender identity". We can't just identify the shit out of it. To suggest otherwise is an insult to women and girls who are exposed to sex-based oppression / violence / discrimination.
What is your opinion of them trying to change the language? I live in Germany and our language is pretty gender specific. But non-binaries are now trying to force us to adopt neopronouns. I don't want to sound hateful, but I'm worried because LGB acceptance is decreasing and I won't stop thinking that gender ideology is to blame.
@@KaiDecadence As a black girl, I am also disgusted by the way trans rights activists make comparisons between black women and trans women.
10- Agree
9- Half agree (I agree that it's usually bisexuals who use it, but I don't agree that "no self-respecting gay or lesbian" would reclaim it; I personally don't use it as a label due to the political implications but I have reclaimed it on a personal level due to the meaning of "strange" resonating with me, I understand many gay/lesbians and some bisexuals are offended by the idea of same sex attraction being strange but I personally don't think "strange" means unnatural or wrong. It took me a very long time to come to this conclusion since I grew up around it being a violent slur growing up, it used to be a big trigger for me, so I understand why others don't like it)
8- Agree
7- Agree (I don't think labels that describe "how" you feel attraction count as separate sexualities. And it's crazy to see people in their 25+-30s range on dating apps identifying as it, lol)
6- Agree (I see it as a subcategory of bisexual)
5- Not my lane but technically agree (a lot of cultural third genders are social roles for gay/GC/intersex people)
4- Somewhat agree
3- Mostly agree (I'm fine with the T staying since trans people can be same sex attracted, however I think trying to rebrand LGB as same "gender" attraction has done a lot of harm, so there should be sexuality-only (LGB) spaces too alongside LGB+T spaces. I also think Asexual should be a separate community from LGB/T due to the hostility a lot of sex-repulsed asexuals tend to have towards how LGB is associated with sexuality)
2- Agree with the opinion, but disagree with the explanation (I see gender as mostly a social/material reality, identity and presentation are separate and while I can respect people's identities, similar to how I can respect someone's religion, it's not always aligned with their reality so I don't think it's always useful politically)
1- Mostly agree
I know this video is a year old but I'd like to know your 3rd channel. I've come to mostly (70-80%) similar conclusions after years of research and experience and interested to know the handful of differences in our views. I'm very happy to see someone with content like yours talk about these things even if I don't completely agree.
Aren't we all demisexual than?
In a manner of speaking, YES lmao. Like I mentioned in the video, I am very convinced that this "demisexual" silliness was/is a response to hookup culture because hookups have become a lot more popular ever since the turn of 2010s what with app culture introduced through Tinder. Some gullible people started to assume that hookups are totally the norm which sure, al or of people tend to be into it but the desire to have meaningful relationships never went out of style neither and they weren't "demi" for it neither, it's perfectly normal to want a true connection with someone before having sexual relations.
I mean heck, in recent times after I made this video, I've heard someone say that they are "demisexual" because they don't want to have sex with their friends. I mean come on now lmao. As if it's common for people to not want to have sex with their friends,
As a feminine gay black goth, and metalhead guy I was interested in your thoughts on this subject matter because.. I know a lot of people don't like me for the reason of being goth. How do you deal with life as a being gay and goth as well? I knew I was gay since I was 10. And I've been goth since I was 14, I'm 26.. She past away, Bauhaus, Sisters of mercy, Shadow Age etc.. some goth bands I enjoy.. I know I'm rambling on about many things, please don't hate me.. lol😅
Um... I'm not sure how to even address this. My being Goth has nothing really do with it, All Goth is is just liking Goth music and while I hardly ever meet other people into the music, I'm into other kinds of music so it's not a big deal to be honest. I mean yeah, I don't really know how this is relevant to what I mentioned in the video tbh.
@@KaiDecadence Sorry..
I kind of meant to say.. I'm saying as a goth who is also gay.. are there any challenges that you deal with it in social places?
Sorry about that.. I'm also androgynous.. when I wrote the comment I was distracted so I wrote a lot of random things.. sorry about that.... didn't mean to be so difficult.
@@thelastdaybreathinginetern1385 In social places? No not really. People leave me alone for the most part.
@@KaiDecadence Ok
@@thelastdaybreathinginetern1385 Sorry, it's just the truth. My life is pretty boring and uneventful and I try to pay no mind to people around me when I'm out in public. Sure I may get the odd stare but no one has actually given me grief or anything, that stuff happened more in my early 20s lol.
I used to identify as pansexual but now I go by (haha) bisexual. I do not mind if others use that label but over time bisexual just fits with me. Plus I like the colors of the flag a lot more.
I suppose that's fair lol.
My unpopular opinion: people who clearly know what sex/gender they’re attracted to but still say „I don’t want to label myself. I am just myself“ are stupid. 1. are then people who use labels like gay or bi or ace not just themselves? 2. it comes off as internalised homophobia/biphobia/acephobia bc they, seems to me, can’t accept that they’re gay or bi or ace and they can’t speak it out loud. Like sorry but if you’re a man attracted to men then you’re gay, just accept it and say it out loud. And I mean I agree that we don’t need to label everything but these few labels (gay, bi, straight, ace) don’t harm anyone and are just practical. And I mean everywhere else you still label yourself (I am a student, I am a brunette, I am a human etc)
Great to hear from you again (and see your avatar) Kai. This was a great presentation - balanced, fair, respectful and full of common sense and frankly very illuminating. I've never even heard of some of the stuff you cover here. Cheers dude.
I'm glad you enjoyed the video and thanks a lot! 😊
I agree with you 100%. Thanks for speaking up! :)
Thank you 😊
You don't exist how does that feel to be told you don't exist
[sees feminine avatar] Oh no...
"As a gay man"
OH THANK GOD. But seriously, the dislikes are salty people. Why are you booing him people?? He's right!
Lol it's the ultimate gotcha i
But yeah no, it shouldn't be a surprise that someone like myself feels the way I do and I suspect other gender nonconforming gays and lesbians feel the same.
He has an opinion* there's a difference
All of your opinions seem completely rational, I'm wondering if they really are unpopular
I think it's 50/50 with how the video was received. I have people who actually don't think what I said here was controversial while the other half are essentially ceiling me a "bigot" lol So it'st half and half.
I don't think your video is controversial and you are stating your honest opinions about the LGBT community. As a gay male goth Wiccan i appreciate your objective perspective. Please continue to post more videos!
Well the controversy stems from the fact that I don't buy into "Trans" period. I don't believe you can change your sex, I don't believe that "Transwomen" are women, they are men point blank period and vice versa with "Transmen", they are women and nothing they do will change that. So by extension, trans-identified men/males have no business being in women only spaces like women's changing rooms, spas, shelters, prisons, dating apps (for Lesbians), and sports. But yeah hopefully in the follow-up people will understand why I came to that view.
Thank you nonetheless and stay tuned for more videos. :)
@@KaiDecadence There's nothing wrong with trans women or men being in their respective bathroom. Why exclude this? Because you want to know for sure what their genitals are?
Hi! I found your channel completely by accident, when you responded to one of my comments under a gender critical video and I really liked your take. I was wondering if you'd ever be interested in uploading more videos? I really like your take on LGBT culture, or LGB culture if you prefer that; and I also learned a lot about the Goth scene from your video and now get triggered every time I hear someone say "Goth" when they mean darkly inclined lol
I'm currently working on a follow up to this video regarding number 1 which has been taking me a good long time to get through and after that, I may do two more LGB themed videos where I talk about a few other topics that I don't see people addressing but aside from that, I don't plan on becoming a gender critical channel.
And welcome to the curse of knowing Goth and never being able to look at people misusing the term ever again lol.
I hope you realise this man is still Gay... and your a christian who has a youtube channel saying homosexuality is a sin... Being gender critical doesn't mean supporting right wing christians who are almost always homophobic
Thanks for this Kai ... listening .....
I like the Silent Hill music in your video.
Wow leaving the T out of LGBT is a really hot take considering the points you made about being publicly scrutinized.
Most of the transexuals are not even homosexual. And the gay transexuals, such as Buck Angel and Blaire White, are still part of the LGB. What do we need the T for?
@@leonardoshreiber while we're at it what do we even need the B for seeing how the L and G already cover that part. If we really want to go there let's just take the L out as well because you can still call Lesbians gay. Yeah I totally can get behind the G community.
@@whoisthis4948 I would be all for the HoBi community (homosexuals and bisexuals of any kind). As I said, the homosexual T is just one type of homosexual. Imagine if we included a letter for every type of homosexual?
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Bears, butch lesbians, campy, drags, down low guys, femboys, femme lesbians, nerds, queers, transexuals...
We don't need it, it's either LGB or HoBi.
“Gay pride was never about gender, it was about homosexual rights” - quick question, why do you think gay people were denied rights and discriminated against? Do you think it might have had something to do with gender norms? Specifically the gender norm that says “men should have sex with women, and vice versa”? It has absolutely everything to do with gender.
Gender and sex are not the same thing.
@@KaiDecadence no, sex is gender. But this isn’t relevant to what I said, so idk.
No such thing as gender. It would be sexed norms.
Kudos, Kai. This really earns my respect.
I don't agree with every point on this list but it must have taken nerve to post it given how infested with certain ideologies the goth scene has become.
Well I mean at the end of the day, Goth is still a music-based scene, not an ideological scene.
hii me again, but i love your confidence to speak about this because honestly... this feels *very* cathartic as someone who was bicurious for a while to know I'm not crazy haha. I learned the hard way that many women-only spaces include males who identify as women so much so, the dating scene for lesbians has gotten so complicated, basically disguised homophobia... I get called so many things and have gotten much hate for having the same opinions, and I know many people would never dare say these takes publicly, even if they strongly believe it, since it would be controversial. we can't even allow people to be honest with themselves without believing it's their own problem. I'm just very admirable of you how it isn't your concern to be politically correct, but to speak your truth and remind people what homosexuality means. it's gotten to the point where anything can be added to LGB and it's just insulting!
anyway sorry for long lanky ramble. everything you do is with confidence and passion and i envy it!!
*Excellent* video -- very glad you made it.
Thanks
One thing that bothers me about the term 'queer' is that it doesn't really mean anything specific. If someone tells me in a conversation that they're gay or lesbian i know what that means, but queer could mean anything. I really hate when they call gay or lesbians who have achieved a lot it the past get called queer in the media alot. I find it really disrespectful.
Agreed! What you said is exactly how I feel about that word besides the fact that it was used as a slur to us gays and lesbians. The word "queer" really means nothing and when you hear it, it doesn't make really explain what you are. In my observation, it's usually bisexuals who have internalized homophobia and don't want to outright say they are bisexual or straight people (mostly straight women) who think that wearing quirky fashio or being polyamarous or swingers makes them "queer" The only gays and lesbians I see who willingly call themselves "queer" are the ones who are trying to appease the gender cult and no self-respecting gay and lesbian should be doing that at all with how insidious and awful gender ideology is.
It's ironic though, it's funny when you hear straight people refer to the gay and lesbian community as "queer" where when you really think about it, they're calling us a slur but they think it's "progressive" lol.
You are greatly appreciated & as a heterosexual male who's always supported the LGB portion of the LGB, I appreciate your willingness to be open about this. Too bad common sense & biology is deemed "unpopular" or "controversial". Great video, breakdown, & analysis of your takes.
Thanks a bunch!
If u would actually know biology u would know that formation of sex is complicating and sex and gender form different. Your physical depends on chromosomes, hormone level, genes. And literally recently scientists found a transgender gene but u r all just lazy transphobic bigots who don’t check their facts and don’t even want to get involved with the history of trans people, how many religions portrayed more than two sexes and how many of them thought of people beyond cis binary as gods, how many indigenous tribes have third gender, HOW MARHSA P JOHNSON A BLACK TRANS WOMAN AND OTHER BLACK TRANS WOMEN HAVE STARTED THE PRIDE. Just shut your fucking mouth, trying to erase history and give out your transphobia as an “opinion”. Just fuck you.
@@posicide Please, stop it. Throwing around the word "transphobic" doesn't change reality, as much as you would like it. I'm a black male & "Marsha" Johnson never claimed "trans". That's a lie. He still understood that he was still a male, who liked to dress as a woman. Again, you will never get rid of biological sex & that sexual orientations are based on that. Any adult whose engaged in sexual intercourse knows this.
@@posicide Marsha P. Johnson aka Malcolm Michael Jr. was NOT a trans-identified man, he was a gay drag queen. He never claimed to be a "transgender" or a "woman" so if anything, yu're the one who needs to shut your mouth and stop spreading that lie.
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Can't say I agree with you're opinions but I that's just what they are. Opinions, not facts. So I respect you're individuality and the way you explained everything thank you ❤
Nah, believing that men can become women or vice versa is an (ridiculous) opinion, biological sex and material reality ate facts, not opinions. And I mean that in the most unironic way possible. Check out my follow up video for more context on that.
You are seriously spot on Kai! It’s a relief to see someone else feel the same. I know many people will take offense to this video but these things need to be said, props to you for being truthful when the community can be so harsh to anybody who doesn’t agree with them
Thank you :D
Love this! You may not need a B (from LGB) white lady in her 50s as a subscriber, but you’ve got one. I also love your Goth lookbooks, they’re gorgeous! 🖤 from Australia 🇦🇺
Aw thanks a lot!
Nice job! Surprised by all the dislikes. We need more voices like yours!
Thank you :)
As a femine guy (straight) I agree with you and I have a lot of problem with non binary girls.... Weird.
Are you a femboy or you like femboys?
@@ericszilagyi8214 I am a femboy lol 😆❤️ why ?
@@femboyrules7594 Because there aren't a lot of straight femboys or straight femboy-lovers. I guess it depends on the femboy, but I don't see straight boys wearing makeup or wearing girly clothes.
what's your issue with non-binary people? I'm guessing it's rooted in some form of misogyny you're probably biphobic as well.
@@ericszilagyi8214 probably because feminie men have been categorized at the default "gay" cause they don't fit the straight sterytypes
Stonewall was literally started by a black transexual. I'm sorry but that's just a truth. And you're excluding LGBT. They've always been fighting for their rights, and that's why it's a community fighting together.
You're wrong. Marsha P. Johnson was not a trans-identified man, he was a drag queen.
Source = ruclips.net/video/Bo0nYv9QIj4/видео.html (section 34:41 & 37:40)
Stop spreading this lie.
@@KaiDecadence Miss Major Griffin-Gracy... and countless other transsexuals have been part of the fight for your rights since the beginning. You are folly to cast them away.
Is Kai decadence the Joe Rogan of goth? Lol. I'm just kidding kai. Keep up the good work and don't get discouraged by negative comments.👍
Haha thank you
Mmmmm that sweet sweet Silent hill music.
It's just so good lol
I dont usually comment on videos, but thank you for speaking out about this subject. Im tired of people bringing politics into things they dont belong in, especially the goth scene. I think its ruining the goth community, and our society. I definatley agree with this entire video. As a younger goth, its hard to meet any other goths online around my age that are not flaunting their pronouns or gender on their profile... so frusterating. Goth was never about politics, and while it is about freedom of expression, I think gender and pronouns need to stay separated from goth, they dont belong together.
Thank you and I agree with you. :)
It's not 'politics' to be a trans or non-binary goth. If you don't want to be around non-binary or trans people and notice there are a lot in the goth community, consider hanging out with more conservative people (unlikely to be goths.)
@@Nyx666x Yup, because I totally wanna give up 8 years of all my goth related interests to suddenly go hangout with conservatives cuz some random stranger on a comment didnt like my opinion on something.... totally makes sense to me.
I'm here for music. Im not here for gender related social politics. I dont care to waste my time arguing with some random person on the internet either. Goodbye :)
Saw you on King Critical's channel and came over to check your stuff out. Definitely glad I did, I don't often see these perfectly reasonable opinions said out loud in gaming/fandom/art communities. I agree with every single one of them!
"Asexual people do not face discrimination" THANK YOU. I've met too many self-proclaimed "aces" in fandom communities that legitimately thought they were oppressed.
Hey! Yeah I remember you and it's nice to see you. Glad you enjoyed the video and I'm sure you will like the follow up video that I'm currently working on
Part of the reason why I decided to make this video was to fight the narrative that only conservative right wing people are the ones who don't buy into trans ideology and I wanted to show that you don't have to be conservative to not believe in it
@@twocanplay7976 they really don't. At most they only have to deal with a small dating pool lol
@@KaiDecadence that is awesome, I am very much looking forward to your next video! And I totally agree, there's definitely the narrative that only right-wing people don't buy into the trans lunacy, which is definitely not the case. Do you have any other social media accounts, like Twitter? Would totally love to follow you there!
@@KaiDecadence 10000%
I love how silent hill theme is in the back haha
Silent Hill has awesome music, what can I say? lol
@@KaiDecadence I absolutely love the soundtracks. Theme of Laura and Lisa 😂 I actually sleep to the ambience.. weird but comforting 😂💫
@dylannicks1146 agrees, it's the same for me lol
None of what you said should be seen as controversial but sadly it is. Thank you for sharing.
My sentiments exactly but as they say... "We're in the current year" lol.
@@KaiDecadence I am looking forward to your follow-up video. :)
Honestly, there are too many alphabets in LGBTQ haha. I don't understand why people are getting mad about trans children not existing. You stated facts, not opinions and no child has the capacity to understand gender. Keep doing what you're doing, Kai!
I comPLETELY agree with #10. Everything you said made so much sense. Couldn't agree more.
Thanks
What would you say, Kai, about the claim that even HSTS are AGPs? As a gay man, I think those transsexuals are more sexually attracted to those chasers, than sexually aroused by looking like women. I would like to hear what you think.
When you look at the definition of what AGP is, t doesn't feel like a gay man pretending to be a woman would have that because gay men aren't sexually attracted to women so the likeliness of them getting off to an image of a woman in their head doesn't seem likely. However they are clearly fetishize the attention they get from closet-case men who are deluded enough to think that these men are women and the trans-identified gay men can say just as much misogynistic things about women as an AGP.
why are you not big is mindblowing. i really hope you get big or reach out more to expand your things
Thanks!
@@KaiDecadence would you ever try appearing in jubilee?
@@reigenlucilfer6154 I hadn't thought about it at first but after watching the liberal gays vs conservative gays, I think I would totally be open to it if the topic was something I'm interested in
I have never met a bi sexual used the word queer. But I'm introverted so I may only know know other bi sexuals that aren't stupid. From what I understand of pan sexuality, is someone attracted to anyone. Male, female and other. Bi sexual being attracted to both male and female. They can add the other if they want. It's confusing.
Yeah well that's the thing. There is no "other". You're either male or female, you're not born a nothing. And they try to use it to mean "trans" identified people but I don't believe in transgenderism so yeah, it's a pointless word as far as I'm concerned.
The terms bisexual and pansexual both have long histories. Pan isn't some 2020 neologism that we brought about for no reason. My take is that it's fine if you don't want to be called pan, but that shouldn't mean that you'll 'disagree' with someone else's personal label for themselves.
@@KaiDecadence the thing is, you aren't born a nothing. You are born.. a child. Children with certain characteristics are labelled "male" or "female" or "intersex." That last one you seem to be forgetting. How do intersex people fit into your perception of sex, sexuality and gender?
Even now, when an intersex child is born, they are often flung into one of the two binary options. There is such a thing as an 'XY female,' for example- a female witha characteristic usually ascribed to males which shows that there is no one single defining trait of a man or woman. There is no formula either. You can't add up someone's male or female traits and if they get 7+ they are a female.
Please go and do your research about these things. "transgenderism" an "trans identified" are not used by those inside the trans/non binary communities and instead come from the transphobic people instead. It makes me especially sad that a gay man would align himself with these transphobes (if that is what's happening of course) because those same people would probably come for homosexuals were they able.
@@cloudthief8918 of course, people have the right to have to called or labeled as they feel comfortable with. My take away was the bi and pan are sisters, not twins. Similar but not the same. Bi can be exclusive, being attracted to defined man or female and pan is not exclusive, the other, non- binary, Agender, gender fluid, etc.
@@KaiDecadence you don't believe in our existence sounds petty
as an asexual person i kinda agree with u on some points. pansexuality is just bisexuality with extra colors
As a trans woman , I been a sub for awhile amd I'm surprised because it seems unflattering to my indenity and personally I domy clearly disagree cause transtion was the better option for and my mental health as most people I do understand the disconnect between CIs personally would like to have a conversation
You're entitled to the way you feel but it is what it is.
We love you, Kai. The only based goth guy on RUclips!
Thank you haha
The only based goth on this platform is Jinks.
@@edgyintellect177 Jinks is far from based.
The hero finally uploaded it! So proud of you, Kai!
"Hero" is a bit much but yeah, it was time~
@@KaiDecadence way past time lol
To be honest, "unpopular opinions" are true, some are too afraid take in the truth.
I suppose that's one way to look at it.
Maybe learn the definition of "true" cause that's not what it means lol
@@payt00n you had all year to comment. xd
the queer one!! yes! im bisexual and i think it’s obviously just trying to distance themselves from being lgb
I honestly don't understand why people in the LGBT moment call themselves queer. It's the same as calling yourself a f@g. I wish they would stop using the word because of the homophobic history behind it.
@@jaemelancholy1684 it's reclaiming a slur and taking away its harm
@@jaemelancholy1684 as an umbrella term for a diverse group of people because 'gay people' is too narrow. I grew up in a community that used it that way, with a handful of older lgbt people who requested we not refer to them that way.
Each letter of the acronym can stand on its own. "The gays", "the lesbians", "the bisexuals", "the trans people" etc.
You don't have to use a one-size-fits-all term that in the end is too narrow to give everyone enough room and then therefore switch to a repurposed slur. That's how I feel about queer. It's used to make everything the same, no one stands out. But sexuality and gender identity just have nothing in common except of their "enemy", the "cishet". And I fundamentally don't like this approach and way of thinking.
@@nittygritty7034 If "gay people" is too narrow, then accept the fact that you are not gay. If you are same-sex attracted, but not gay, you are bisexual. Bisexual is the word you are looking for.
Your definition of "Two Spirit" seems a little like quibbling. A category for "men who fulfill a feminine social role" sounds very much like a third gender to me. At the very least, this case is arguable.
Fully agree with you that it's cringey when non-Native people identify as Two Spirit though.
So glad you're back! 😄
Thanks!
Ppl call themselves demisexual because they’re teens seeking a personality and a bit confused
Yes I think this is definitely I noticed back in 2016 and still now. I notice that it's a lot of Otaku (heavy fans of anime specifically) who claim this, and you listen to them talk and notice they don't really have a personality...
I am a HSTS and my activism was always based on truth. I transitioned because A I'm extremely feminine and could not top guys and B. I wanted to marry a man. It is not about gender, sex, desire for guys, nothing. It was about marrying this guy and staying with him till I die (I've been with him for decades... he probably has gynandromorphophilia, which is a paraphilia). God knows if he loves me or my feminine impersonation. I love him, it is all that matters.
You can call me a man, a dude, an AGP, whatever you want. You have the right to. I don't seek validation from anybody. I don't even now if I had the right to use female-like secondary sex characteristics for my own personal gain. I just did. Perhaps my punishment is coming, people are revolting against trans people. I would do it all again. He's the love of my live. Could I have loved a gay man? Absolutely. But there weren't gay men who loved me.
You are absolutely right in defending female-only spaces. You probably have nieces and female cousins. I would never use any female-only spaces. And I would never change the definition of womanhood to accomodate me. I am a feminine person.
As long as you are not invading women only spaces like women's restrooms and locker rooms and/or pushing this nonsensical ideology onto children, you do you but I'll be honest, it sounds like you just met a bisexual man who has internalized homophobia if the relationship has to rely on you believing that you're not a feminized man when you are exactly just that but I digress, you do you.
@@KaiDecadence Hello, Kai. No, he's probably not bisexual in the sense that he goes for male-looking males. I believe he's gynandromorphophile. And we don't talk about me being anything other than a extremely feminine person (think of Caroline Cossey if you want to picture me). This extreme femininity comes naturally for me. Also, HSTS at least, suffer from dissociative disorder, which means we really have disconnected from our original bodies.
Yes, he probably wouldn't have sticked with me if I wasn't passing as a woman. But that is like saying he wouldn't have sticked with me if I hadn't been born. One day I may have to abandon estradiol and it will be like my death. HSTS are not predatory as AGPs are and It is because of kids, women and young LGB people that I'm speaking up about my condition.
@@amberjones4516 Then okay, he's just a gay man who actually prefers feminine men. And I mean, you can call yourself whatever you like but at the end of the day, you're still a feminine man, you were born with a Y chromosome and have a penis thus you are male, a man and I hope in time you can come to accept that instead of trying to "other" yourself out just because you don't conform to masculinity.
And it doesn't matter that HSTS (gay men) are not as loudly disruptive as AGPs, you both still fall in the category of men who believe you're women for the most superficial and arbitrary of reasons. I'm just being brutally honest here.
@@KaiDecadence That's ok. At the end of the day I won't think of myself as anything you call me... At the end of the day my man has enjoyed all the privileges that a man can enjoy by being masculine and attracted to women while I have enjoyed all the privileges that a person enjoys by looking like a feminine woman. So I understand your anger because you have enjoyed neither. Sometimes not knowing what you missed is a bless.
And I don't believe there is such a person as a gay man that is attracted to femininity. Would a gay man be attracted to a man with a slight femininity like Anderson Cooper? Yes. Would a gay man be attracted to somebody who basically crossdresses, wears wigs and copy women? You actually don't want them to. If you did, you would change your behavior and your gender markers to masculine symbols.
So I think every young feminine homosexual male must think if they can be masculine before it's too late to look reasonably good as a transsexual. Most people see HSTS as woman-like, even if they are not attracted to us or don't believe we should be called "men". The gender system exists and only a small minority of people don't fit in it.
@@amberjones4516 And just like that, the crazy just jumps out. Look, all I'm gonna say is this. You can say whatever you want about me, how I'm "angry" at men like yourself and that sure, my life may not be easy because I don't conform to masculinity but at the end of the day, your narcissistic rage response towards me and people like me who refuse to play along with your fantasy, you'll still be a man, your displeasure towards us who refuse to placate your fantasy doesn't make you any more of a woman anything, and when the societal pendulum shifts back to normalcy with time, more people will stop feeling the need to pretend you and the others like you are nothing but men doing blackface of women and will be called out accordingly.
That was great! Very well said, and all TRUE. Thanks for speaking out.
Thank you!
I agree with pretty much everything you've said here (new subscriber). My only addendum would be that while asexual people haven't been legislated against specifically in law, there _have_ been times when they were legally obligated to have sex (for example when a man married a woman in many countries, he was entitled to have sex with her - if she tried to refuse and he raped her, it would not have been rape in the eyes of the law). While it's not at all common, arranged marriages plus a legal right to sex will definitely have affected asexual people. Laws compelling them to be available for sex weren't written to deliberately target the very tiny number of asexuals, but a person can be affected without being specifically named. It's somewhat like how the laws in the UK at one point only recognised rape as something a man does to a woman. So without being specifically excluded by name, a man raped by a man could only legally claim sexual assault.
Happily these laws have been updated somewhat and one hopes that they would never even be needed by anyone!
Kai, I dont agree w/you on some of these but denial of biology is getting ridiculous. Last week I saw a video of a transwoman trying to breastfeed a baby. Of course nothing came out. I mean....did these people not take Bio 101?. Quit feeding your ego and give that kid a bottle already FFS🙄🙄🙄
I watch the video of Ben Shapiro reacting to it. And I burst out laughing when Ben said CuZ YOU'RE a duDe!!!😆 you should watch it its funny.
@Justin Hernandez Sure, if they wanted to take biochemical to induce breastfeeding it should have been planned out in advance (it's not like they didn't have nine months to prepare). Secondly, in terms of psychological and lifespan development, I'm guessing that it isnt healthy to "pretend feed" when the child is hungry. That's disordered eating waiting to happen later on in life if these parents dont accept reality and quit with the nonsense.
@Justin Hernandez In the end, it's also possible to transplant a milk carton + pump into your breast.. in theory. Where to draw the line? The question is: do people have a right to own a kid and do whatever they want with it? Is it unhealthy for the child? Or does it simply not matter? If the important questions have been answered then we can talk about things like artificial male breastfeeding. I think most people have a problem with this just because it seems like a selfish wish and the motive behind it isn't very clear.
At least you can admit that on the denial of biological reality. I saw that video and to say I was mortified would be an understatement. Absolutely disgusting and dangerous for the health of the child because any potential fluid that could've been passed that was induced by hormones would've had chemicals in it and would've hurt that poor infant. Just all around vile.
@Justin Hernandez Yes, but that chemical is not even approved for breastfeeding mothers, much less fathers :X because it's not safe for the baby to ingest.
Have you thought of getting on Glinner's Mess show? [Graham Linehan & Co] - I would love to see you there Kai
After watching a few snippets of their episodes, yeah I think it would be cool to talk with them but i just don't think my name is big enough and I mostly fly under the radar but I mean if the opportunity ever arose? I'd gladly be open to it.
YES, to all of that. It is scary and also frustrating to witness a certain world view/believe trending and growing from the early 2010s to today in real time. And now everyone who isn't totally on board with every aspect of it is being gaslit and branded a 'non-believer'.
Because it is what it is: Believing in a gendered personally/identity/"souls", is a believe system. Just like believing in a 'one true god', or into a flat earth is. I don't have the will to be ignorant enough to look past all the unfunded but dangerously far-reaching basic premises that come with these ideologies.
If I believed in the concept of 'trans kids' as young as 4 y olds, I would have to believe in something like an inherent gender identity that isn't learned while growing up, but that resides "somewhere" inside everyone of us; and that some kids are born with the wrong identity/or the wrong body to fit their identity. Sounds awfully familiar to the concept of "soul", just with a modern touch that most definitely is a consequence of social media putting so much emphasize on uniqueness and identity.
But gender is a social construct. Men and women (and when I say men and women I mean male and female people) are different because of biology, not because they have different souls. We look different and our bodies focus on different strengths and weaknesses. From that relationship between the sexes stem societal structures which then lead to lots of stereotypes and expected behaviours which persist to this day.
But if you look at things objectively, from "outside of society", then 'gender' does not exist. A dress is not feminine, it's just clothes. Playing football isn't masculine, it's just kicking a ball. Long hair isn't feminine as demonstrated by ever-changing beauty standards throughout history. Action figures aren't masculine, they're just doll marketed at boys. And so one and so on...
A few years ago, society understood that we need to de-genderize society. To not put too much expectations on people, and not put them into boxes. But now, gender identity theory has turned all that around. Now we again started labeling little boys that play with gender-inappropriate toys.
So what IS a trans kid when souls don't exist and gender is a cultural invention? I tell you what a trans kid is: it's a boy or a girl who doesn't conform to societal expectations of boys or girls. Then ADULTS come into play and INTERFERE with those kids. They ask them things like "do you feel like a boy/girl? Would you rather be a girl/boy?". They interpret random childish behavior with their lens of gender and draw conclusions FOR the child. Some parents might even pass on their homophobia and rigid gender roles. Hell, the leader of Mermaids and mother of Jazz Jennings (poster trans child), has openly admitted that she was deeply homophobic when Jazz was a kid, and she prayed to god that her son wouldn't grow up to be gay. Do you really think this doesn't influence a child's decision to be a straight girl instead of a gay boy?
'Trans kids' are just gender nonconforming children, sometimes gay children, whose multifaceted behavioral patterns and expressed discomfort with their own bodies get diagnosed by ADULTS with gender dysphoria and trans identity.
I don't get why people say male and female thing are a social construct. They don't have the same kind of body female are often less strong than male, they don't have the same biology, they don't serve the same purpose. Something trully coming from social construct would be age and laws : a 18 years and 0 day old person can get in prison for having sex with a 17 years and 364 days old . You can't just deny biology and say men and women are the same. Get it ? Age doesn't really mean anything while gender is an undeniable fact just like the earth being round.
@@jeyna8243 Well "male" and "female" of course are no social constructs for a normal thinking person :D "masculinity" and "femininity" are social constructs, though.
And different people use those terms very differently nowadays.
"Conservatives" say sex and gender are the same, meaning that men are always masculine and women are feminine. And sometimes they also mean that men and women are always heterosexual, and that homosexuality in a man is "feminine", so lesbians are "masculine". And since they conflate sex and gender, homosexual men and women aren't "real" men and women in their eyes. And it goes even further: a man in a dress is not a real man to them. A woman who plays soccer isn't a real woman. A man who doesn't drink beer isn't a real man yada yada yada. You get the gist. Conflating sex and gender creates mental prisons for society, and that's where gender criticism, second wave feminism and the sexual revolution of the 60s/70s come in.
Gender criticals, such as Kai or me, say that while sex is of course real and important when it comes to laws, fairness and protection, "gender" (femininity and masculinity) on the other hand is a social construct, a collection of stereotypes sometimes based on anecdotal evidence or statistics, but ultimately meaningless. In the worst case, it traps people in certain roles. Kai wears dresses and doesn't appear as a "stereotypical" man. He breaks down gender norms. But the important difference compared to trans activists is the fact that he doesn't believe in the idea that by breaking out of masculinity, he also consequentially stopped being a man and become something else. No. He's male. He's a man. He looks how he looks and if someone feels the need to label him differently because of that, they are wrong. He's actually helping to extend the meaning of "man", by playing around with gender stereotypes. That is progressive.
And that's where the gender identitarians come in... the trans activists. The people who say that biological sex, male and female, is a construct instead of gender. They are basically like the conservatives, just the other way around and frankly even worse because of their influence and power in the name of "kindness".
They whole-heartedly belief that gender roles and old-fashioned ideas of femininity and masculinity are what makes us women and men respectively. They are anti science by claiming that believing in chromosomes and the immutability of sex is "bio essentialist". They need to do that in order to achieve their goal of changing the way we're constructing our laws. They want to replace male/female with masculine/feminine. Therefore, it's enough to "behave like a woman", whatever that means, in order to participate in women sports, get into women prisons or shelters or crime statistics. Because since gender isn't real, everyone can change it at a whim if it's made into law. Ultimately, it's a homophobic men'r rights movement because only women and homosexuals lose when "sex" doesn't exists anymore.
So long story short: claiming that male and female are social constructs is a regressive, anti-scientific political strategy. The real answer to that is to insist that gender is the meaningless construct. Always has been, always will be.
I think I get what you mean with your age argument. On the one hand, sure, the way we measure age and restrict people based on that metric is a social construct. But on the other hand, people definitely change when they grow older. Our laws regarding that were made over hundreds of year by ethic councils, politicians and psychologists. Everything society produces, everything cultural, is a social construct in the end. But "age", in general, is also a real, biological thing just like sex. So there is a need to somehow fit that into society. We will just have to watch out not to create something like "gender identity". "Age identity" or something xD
13:43 I am sorry these are considered controversial They are spot on. I hope you and others in the gay community can end this pronoun thing, because the gay community, not toxic masculine legislators, will be the most effective in getting the whole trans thing straightened out
I am straight but share your gender non conformity, to an extent Love being a straight guy. Definitely identify that way. Appreciate femininity but will never have any clue how hard life is for women fully understand how women feel and who women are as people just because I like make up and dresses
Yes but part of the fight is not confusing "identity" with sexuality, you don't "identify" as straight, you are straight. Just like how I don't "identify" as gay", I just am gay. Using proper language is key in fighting back against this mess.
This was actually stunning and brave! :D Well done
Okay so being transphobic is brave
@@mariawells1874 Of course it's brave! Many people are bullied for saying what they really feel. I'm not bothered, too old to care and nothing to lose, but it's important to have integrity and denounce things that we know, from life experience, are fake and dangerous e.g. the current "gender" nonsense.
Did you ever make the 3rd video you mentioned at the end? Idk where to find your third channel
The video is still in the works and I decided I'm just gonna upload it here when I finish it. Life has been busy for me so it's been difficult trying to get the video finished but I'm aiming to have it out before the year ends.
the whole "Demisexual isn't real because gay and straight people also develop strong ties to their partners" is just you not understanding the meaning of it properly.
demisexual is when people ONLY become attracted AFTER they have developed intimacy. non-demisexuals can be initially attracted to someone before being close to them, which is why they typically initially go for looks and then learn more about the personality. its the order that differs.
Dear I understand it perfectly and sorry but it's nothing special, it's nothing new. And again, it's NOT a sexuality, the feeling of only being attracted to a person after you get to know someone is VERY normal and not as rare as these young girls who identify as "demisexual" make it out to be because I'll be honest, I find it very interesting how it's mainly majority young women who "identify" as "demisexual" and then I see the hookup culture that has been very prevalent since the social media/hookup apps that have been dominating the first world since the early 2010s.
but even if I were to give credence to the concept, again it's not a sexuality but rather a preference within all sexualities because as I said in the video; hetero, homo, and bi people can have that same mentality of wanting to get to know a person before having sexual relations.
I NEVER thought I would agree with someone who is also gay about the gay community. The small bit I disagreed with was the T in LGBT but to be fair the "community" started going downhill and "accepting" (aka toxic) once the T was added. My whole life I knew the "community" as LGBT and anything after that was just some stupid online troll or loud teenagers/young adults (which I am myself lol) that want to feel special or unique. But I've seen many gay AND trans people themselves online (genuine trans men/women, not the other crazy identities) that agree that LGB and T should indeed be separate. I heard my whole life that the reason T is added into LGB was because they were different than the "straights" but because of that, it turned into this thing that if you aren't a 100% straight male you need to be added into this community, and so after this shift this is when the "community" started going crazy and, unfortunately, sexualized the community and even having CHILDREN participate in this. Short story, I went to my towns first pride about 6 months ago (right after I turned 18) expecting to be a simple gathering or some sorts since its a small town but was shocked that there was so many CHILDREN hearing about this sorts of stuff (hookups/drugs & alcohol stories, drag queen story hour, etc.) Shame how a group intended for simple homosexuals to have rights has turned into this anti-normality cult. I fear someday I might have to explain to people that I'm just a gay guy who has a slight androgynous style, not a complete label geek.
As someone who identifies as demisexual, I don’t wish to become a part of the LGBT community at all mostly because of the other issues I see within it. Mostly the gatekeeping. I would love to see you make a video about the BS bisexual people have to face. It’s good to know that some people are actually able to express themselves properly.
@@lonewolf8667 No it's not the norm. We live in a hook-up culture and people often just glorify promiscuity, one-night stands, and such. For people like me and others, we can't participate in that because we lack the sexual attraction or can only feel it under certain circumstances. This makes dating very hard for us because like I said, some people don't want emotions and bonding. They just want sex and instant gratification.
Right. It was always likes this but the difference between the 90s and the modern day now is that the 90s didn't have social media/hookup apps.
@@lonewolf8667 I'd say most do but some do try to use them to genuinely meet people.
@calendarphotoscamera1 Canuck @LoneWolf they just want to feel special by labeling themselves different when most people are like that
@@umamifan waiting till you know someone is not the same as not having sexual attraction till you build emotional bond with them, most people wouldn't doubt to sleep with their celebrity crush like...be for real
Awesome! You rock! So grateful for people who have commonsense AND are honest.
Thank you :)
I think these are the opinions that majority of adult lgbt people share, but it seems that now, since many young people are brainwashed by social media, these opinions became not only unpopular, but also heretic, and people who are really homosexual o bisexual are being silenced and insulted for saying this.
That's sad.
I think you're absolutely right because I notice a lot of the people who seem to have a problem with what I said or just Gender Critical views in general tend to be either teenagers and/or young adults and you can tell because a lot of the times they either don't offer actual counter arguments or when they try to throw "logic" at you, they give misconstrue intersex people (when they clearly have no idea what intersex actually is), throw the brain sex argument which has been debunked so many times, or try to use spirituality ("in some cultures") as a means to argue back and when you tackle these views, they have nothing to say except insult you by calling you a "transphobe" or a "terf" (to women). It's really sad indeed.
What? Dislikes? You said nothing and absolutely nothing wrong, or offensive! Come on people? Is honesty so unpopular anymore? I admit I disagree with some of what you said... But I believe you are entitled to your opinion and I respect and appreciate your upfront honesty.
My guy is a true goth. Having unpopular opinions of his own besides having a backlash from the community who always says "be yourself ".
"I'm not offended by things not directed at me therefore noone should be!"
Dude I agree with all this!
Thank you
Definitions of “man” and “woman” based on “biology” are themselves definitions based on stereotypes, specifically gender stereotypes about human bodies. What else could they possibly be?